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This week on High Noon with Inez Stepman, Danielle Crittenden of Femsplainers fame, and author of What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us joins the pod to discus her wonderful essay, “When the Sexes Blur There's No Sex.” Crittenden and Stepman talked about why young women find femininity and womanhood so unappealing to the point where ”transitioning” to the opposite sex […]

This week on High Noon with Inez Stepman, Danielle Crittenden of Femsplainers fame, and author of What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us joins the pod to discus her wonderful essay, "When the Sexes Blur There's No Sex." Crittenden and Stepman talked about why young women find femininity and womanhood so unappealing to the point where ”transitioning” to the opposite sex is an attractive option, and how dating norms have accelerated to a point nearly everyone agrees is broken. They also chat about some of the original flaws of the feminist movement going back to the 1950s, and how feminist priorities have differed sharply from the average woman's over the years.--High Noon is an intellectual download featuring conversations that make possible a free society. The podcast features interesting thinkers from all parts of the political spectrum to discuss the most controversial subjects of the day in a way that hopes to advance our common American future.Hosted by Inez Stepman of Independent Women's Forum.You can listen to the latest High Noon episode(s) here or wherever you get your podcasts. Then subscribe, rate, and share with your friends. If you are already caught up and want more, join our online community at iwf.org/connect. Be sure to subscribe to our emails to ensure you're equipped with the facts on the issues you care about most. Independent Women's Forum (IWF) believes all issues are women's issues. IWF promotes policies that aren't just well-intended, but actually enhance people's freedoms, opportunities, and choices. IWF doesn't just talk about problems. We identify solutions and take them straight to the playmakers and policy creators. And, as a 501(c)3, IWF educates the public about the most important topics of the day. Check out the Independent Women's Forum website for more information on how policies impact you, your loved ones, and your community: www.iwf.org. Subscribe to IWF's YouTube channel. Follow IWF on social media: - on Twitter- on Facebook- on Instagram #IWF #HighNoonPodcast #AllIssuesAreWomensIssues Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle Crittenden is an author, a mother of three, and the host of "The Femsplainers Podcast." During our conversation, Danielle talks about her book "What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman," feminism in the modern world, women and happiness, the role of mothers in our society, her 30+ year marriage to author and essayist David Frum, and advice she would give to young men and young women about the role of relationships and work in a happy, wise life.------------Support this podcast via VenmoSupport this podcast via PayPalSupport this podcast on Patreon------------Show notesLeave a rating on SpotifyLeave a rating on Apple PodcastsFollow "Keep Talking" on social media and access all episodesEmail subscribeEmail the show------------(00:00) Intro(00:51) Get to know Danielle Crittenden(01:39) What led Danielle to write "What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us"(10:42) The modern messages received by women in academia and culture(18:43) The modern relevance of "What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us"(26:01) How not taking partnering seriously changes how women prioritize their lives(32:52) Creating "The Femsplainers Podcast" with Christina Hoff Sommers(39:49) How "The Femsplainers Podcast" has influenced Danielle's thinking(54:06) Danielle's marriage to David Frum, and advice for a successful relationship(01:00:21) The thinkers, writers, podcasters, and resources Danielle recommends(01:07:14) How to address some of modernity's common issues(01:12:31) Advice for young women to chase their dreams and lead a fulfilled, meaningful life

I’ve been meaning to invite Christina Sommers and Danielle Crittenden on the pod since they first had me on theirs, Femsplainers, a few years ago. This week we talked about men and women, trans and cis, gay and straight, and they drank rosé and I smoked half a joint, as we did on their pod. At the last minute, we re-invited to the pod Danielle’s husband, David Frum, because we both wanted to hash out our differences over the Trump-Russia media coverage. (We first debated the issue ten months ago, and my column last week was in response to his latest in the Atlantic.) I think we may have made some progress in finessing where we differ, and why. But you be the judge.  Get full access to The Weekly Dish at andrewsullivan.substack.com/subscribe

Danielle Crittenden Frum is an author, journalist, and host of the Femsplainers podcast. She published, "What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman" in 1999, which argues that modern feminism pushes women towards careers at the expense of their happiness. Danielle's work has appeared in the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Daily Telegraph, among other publications. In this episode, Meghan Murphy speaks with Danielle about marriage, motherhood, feminism, masculinity, and femininity. Watch this episode on YouTube. To gain early access to select content and Patreon-only content please sign up as a patron. The Same Drugs is on Twitter @the_samedrugs. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-same-drugs/support

Becoming Jewish Conversation w/ Danielle Crittenden Frum On Conversion, Judaism, Marriage, And Life by Rabbi Aaron Flanzraich

00:00 Dooovid on why Reform Jews in banking, Orthodox Jews as landlords 05:00 The Things They Say behind Your Back: Stereotypes and the Myths Behind Them, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=132337 15:00 Massive explosion in Lebanon 33:10 The IQ Taboo | Glenn Loury & Amy Wax, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLE67Z_YmSA 37:00 Doov takes a spiritual perspective on group differences 1:16:00 Islam and Religious Studies Post-9/11, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133478 1:21:00 Oxford scholar Tariq Ramadan accused of rape by multiple women, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tariq_Ramadan 1:29:00 Sexual Consent In Talmud, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4z9yeSyzbhU 1:31:20 Tucker Carlson 1:46:10 Michael Tracey talks to Tucker about his journey around small town America to discuss BLM and policing 2:07:00 Richard says demography is not destiny, https://www.spreaker.com/user/altright/is-immigration-reform-pointless 2:32:50 RWW News: Michelle Malkin Says Proud Boys 'Deserve Medals' https://nypost.com/2020/08/03/youtube-censored-my-talk-on-policing/ Aaron W Hughes podcast: https://www.religiousstudiesproject.com/podcast/religious-studies-as-a-discipline/ https://newbooksnetwork.com/aaron-hughes-theorizing-islam-disciplinary-deconstruction-and-reconstruction-equinox-2012/ What's illegal in the boardroom is often fuel in the bedroom Daphne Merkin & Meghan Daum: Sex in the Age of Woke, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2eefIR2CQw Publicly, We Say #MeToo. Privately, We Have Misgivings., https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/05/opinion/golden-globes-metoo.html What can be done to stop trolls abusing female journalists? The Man With Two Faces;In an Orthodox Jewish World of Honor, a Fraud Case Shocks, https://www.nytimes.com/1996/06/16/nyregion/the-man-with-two-faces-in-an-orthodox-jewish-world-of-honor-a-fraud-case-shocks.html Channeling Jewish History Interview with Dr. Marc Shapiro, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsRBlTIdPxA Martin Luther King Day at the Hebrew Institute of Riverdale (OO's flagship synagogue), https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5qNyV-Se4jg Daphne Merkin on Woody Allen, Mia Farrow, Ronan Farrow David Frum liked Weimer Tucker Carlson Sexual Obsession, Bad Boys, & Female Lust in the Age of Woke, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kcZ2IFJ8vE4 Has #MeToo Become Just Another Puritanical Moral Panic?, JoAnn Wypijewski joins Danielle Crittenden, Emily Yoffe, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICwq78N0A3s The Growth, Scope, and Spatial Distribution of People With Felony Records in the United States, 1948–2010 R. Moshe Weisblum, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzqb2_QVhJ4Nw-T0rqRnIRw Daphne Merkin: https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/how-literature-can-mirror-our-complicated-desires/2020/07/31/624c4798-d14a-11ea-9038-af089b63ac21_story.html Lovemaps: Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition In Childhood, Adolescence and Maturity by John Money, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130433 Perversion: The Erotic Form Of Hatred, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130652 Sexual Excitement: Dynamics of Erotic Life, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130650 The Growth, Scope, and Spatial Distribution of People With Felony Records in the United States, 1948–2010, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133488 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Storytelling_(film) https://forward.com/news/451636/mizrachi-reuven-death-threats/ https://askthebigot.com/2015/07/23/the-story-of-moira-greyland-guest-post/ http://www.rationalistjudaism.com/2020/07/determinedly-enabling-our-enemies.html https://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2016/07/why_children_of_samesex_couples_need_fada.html https://soundcloud.com/militant-de-lenfant/cogwatch-50-her-mom-was-a-lesbian-celebrity-and-now-shes-telling-all Polls, questions, super chats: https://entropystream.live/app/lukeford Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/

00:00 What's illegal in the boardroom is often fuel in the bedroom 04:00 Daphne Merkin & Meghan Daum: Sex in the Age of Woke, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2eefIR2CQw 09:00 Publicly, We Say #MeToo. Privately, We Have Misgivings., https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/05/opinion/golden-globes-metoo.html 46:30 What can be done to stop trolls abusing female journalists? 1:25:00 The Man With Two Faces;In an Orthodox Jewish World of Honor, a Fraud Case Shocks, https://www.nytimes.com/1996/06/16/nyregion/the-man-with-two-faces-in-an-orthodox-jewish-world-of-honor-a-fraud-case-shocks.html 1:35:00 Channeling Jewish History Interview with Dr. Marc Shapiro, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsRBlTIdPxA 1:58:00 Martin Luther King Day at the Hebrew Institute of Riverdale (OO's flagship synagogue), https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5qNyV-Se4jg 2:34:00 Daphne Merkin on Woody Allen, Mia Farrow, Ronan Farrow 2:51:00 David Frum liked Weimer Tucker Carlson 2:54:00 Sexual Obsession, Bad Boys, & Female Lust in the Age of Woke, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kcZ2IFJ8vE4 2:56:00 Has #MeToo Become Just Another Puritanical Moral Panic?, JoAnn Wypijewski joins Danielle Crittenden, Emily Yoffe, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICwq78N0A3s 3:01:00 The Growth, Scope, and Spatial Distribution of People With Felony Records in the United States, 1948–2010 3:12:00 R. Moshe Weisblum, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzqb2_QVhJ4Nw-T0rqRnIRw Daphne Merkin: https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/how-literature-can-mirror-our-complicated-desires/2020/07/31/624c4798-d14a-11ea-9038-af089b63ac21_story.html Lovemaps: Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition In Childhood, Adolescence and Maturity by John Money, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130433 Perversion: The Erotic Form Of Hatred, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130652 Sexual Excitement: Dynamics of Erotic Life, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=130650 The Growth, Scope, and Spatial Distribution of People With Felony Records in the United States, 1948–2010, https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=133488 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Storytelling_(film) https://forward.com/news/451636/mizrachi-reuven-death-threats/ https://askthebigot.com/2015/07/23/the-story-of-moira-greyland-guest-post/ http://www.rationalistjudaism.com/2020/07/determinedly-enabling-our-enemies.html https://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2016/07/why_children_of_samesex_couples_need_fada.html https://soundcloud.com/militant-de-lenfant/cogwatch-50-her-mom-was-a-lesbian-celebrity-and-now-shes-telling-all Polls, questions, super chats: https://entropystream.live/app/lukeford Bitchute: https://www.bitchute.com/channel/lukeford/ Periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/lukeford/1nAJEAnVRDaJL Soundcloud MP3s: https://soundcloud.com/luke-ford-666431593 Code of Conduct: https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=125692 https://www.patreon.com/lukeford http://lukeford.net Email me: lukeisback@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter.com/lukeford Support the show | https://www.streamlabs.com/lukeford, https://patreon.com/lukeford, https://PayPal.Me/lukeisback Facebook: http://facebook.com/lukecford Book an online Alexander Technique lesson with Luke: https://alexander90210.com Feel free to clip my videos. It's nice when you link back to the original.

In her book, What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us, Canadian-American author and journalist Danielle Crittenden examines the foremost issues in women's lives—sex, marriage, motherhood, work, aging, and politics—and argues that a generation of women has been misled: taught to blame men and pursue independence at all costs. Happiness is obtainable, Crittenden says, but only if women will free their minds from outdated feminist attitudes. A longtime contributor to the Huffington Post, Danielle's articles and essays have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the Washington Post, and the Ladies Home Journal, among others. A former columnist for the New York Post, she has appeared, also among others, on NBC's Today show, The O'Reilly Factor, 20/20 and Nightline. Danielle is married to David Frum, senior editor at The Atlantic and former speechwriter for George W. Bush. He and Danielle live in DC and have three children. IN THIS EPISODE: 6:40 Suzanne and Danielle discuss how women's magazines sell “unhappiness” to women 9:15 Danielle talks about the message in her book, What Our Mother's Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman 11:15 Danielle discusses the messages she grew up with and absorbed via the women's movement and how she never thought about having kids and was focused on excelling in the workforce, etc. 15:35 Danielle discusses having her first child at 28 and what it was like for her because of her beliefs surrounding men & women and how she changed because of having a child 19:15 Until you have a child, you don't understand why men and women end up having such different trajectories and priorities. She talks about the support of her husband, too, and why that was integral 24:15 – Danielle & Suzanne discuss how many women are unhappy because wisdom was passed on from people that they trusted is wrong 26:00 Danielle talks about how feminism has been re-invented for the next generation (Gen. Z and millennials) and how they're struggling today 29:00 Even serious-minded young women are having trouble finding serious-minded, marriageable men, even when the men are a decade older than the women. How the younger generations, men and women, are not connecting and not even having sex 32:50 Danielle talks about how the “seize the day” culture for women and how it has been taught in the culture, that women and men are no different sexually—which is a lie. How it also freed men to not take responsibility 35:00 – Most women, if they can, want to stay home with their children. Most women do not have glamorous careers. 36:15 – Danielle and Suzanne talk about how young women sleep with men before they even date 38:15 - How porn has influenced sex between men and women and how the hook-up culture is pervasive, which has made young women “afraid” of sex 42:00 – Suzanne and Danielle discuss how men are losing their way as breadwinners and the effect of that 46:50 – People today don't know how to be married Sign up for marriage coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ Support Suzanne on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow Follow Suzanne on Social Media: https://twitter.com/SuzanneVenker https://www.facebook.com/SuzanneVenkerAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/suzannevenkerauthor/ Subscribe to the YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/SuzanneVenkerAuthor --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden respond to cancel culture, philosophy, equality feminism, the war on boys, and the perils of family law.

Christina Hoff Sommers is a resident scholar at the American Enterprise Institute, where she studies the politics of gender and feminism—as well as free expression, due process, and the preservation of liberty in the academy. Christina is perhaps best known for her 1994 book Who Stole Feminism? How Women Have Betrayed Women, which was instrumental in giving a voice to those who dared to question rigid doctrines about women and men and the arguments feminists make that cause a rift between them. Christina's popular podcast, Femsplainers, which she co-hosts with author Danielle Crittenden, is described as a “weekly girl's night out, where Christina and Danielle "dish on everything from #metoo and sex to, well, doing the dishes.” Christina is like a friend who studies and does her homework before the party. She counters politically correctness with wit and charm. Her popular video blog, The Factual Feminist, has garnered more than 4 million views. Sign up for marriage coaching with Suzanne: https://www.suzannevenker.com/relationship-coaching/ Support Suzanne on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/thesuzannevenkershow Subscribe to The Suzanne Venker Show: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-suzanne-venker-show/id1471433977 Follow Suzanne on Social Media: https://twitter.com/SuzanneVenker https://www.facebook.com/SuzanneVenkerAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/suzannevenkerauthor/ Join the private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/suzannesgroup/ Buy Women Who Win at Love or The Alpha Female's Guide to Men & Marriage NOW: https://www.amazon.com/Suzanne-Venker/e/B001K7VY7K%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share Subscribe to the YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/SuzanneVenkerAuthor --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

thinkspot host and contributor, Amanda Cassatt, sits down with Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden of “The Femsplainers” for an enjoyable, inspiring and hilarious conversation about life, love and the pursuit of happiness (amongst other things).

"Danielle Crittenden is the co-host of the Femsplainers podcast where together with Christina Hoff Summers they hold the gossipy, smart, witty conversation you’d have if all of your girlfriends were experts on the hot topics of the moment. High spirited and high minded, Danielle & Christina don’t argue or whine but seek to get to the heart of the matter, over cocktails (or wine). A longtime contributor to the Huffington Post, her numerous articles and essays have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Daily Telegraph, and the Ladies Home Journal, among other publications. A former columnist for the New York Post, she has appeared on NBC’s Today show, The O’Reilly Factor, ABC’s 20/20 and Nightline, and network news shows, as well as numerous programs for CSPAN, MSNBC, PBS, CNN, Fox, NPR, CTV, and CBC. She is co-author of the cookbook, From a Polish Country House Kitchen with Pulitzer-prize winning historian Anne Applebaum, and the author of three previous books: Her non-fiction book What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman, resulted in Vanity Fair describing Crittenden as 'one of the most important new thinkers about women and family'. She also has written two works of fiction: The President’s Secret IMs, originally published on the Huffington Post; and Amanda Bright @ Home, the first novel ever to be serialized by the Wall Street Journal. Crittenden was born in Toronto, Canada. She is married to journalist and author David Frum, a former special assistant and speechwriter to President George W. Bush, and senior editor at The Atlantic. They have three children and live in Washington, D.C. and Wellington, Ontario." Join us for a conversation about why your dating life is as important as your career and why choosing your spouse is the most important decision of your life despite what the modern feminism movement will tell you. Here are the details of our conversation: The ramifications of the Second-wave 70's feminism The evolution of marriage and how it has made its comeback Why having children earlier in life is most beneficial for a woman How women are creatures of their biology and why it's a beautiful thing How to preserve your identity as a mother Waves of toxic masculinity, female victimization, and oppression How sexual liberation has been detrimental to male's commitment How mistrust between the sexes breeds distrust, division & exaggerated stereotypes How modeling marriage and family life counts the most for our children How having children makes women - women and men - men Why you have to be serious about your dating life just like you are serious about your career Why choosing your spouse is the most important decision of your life The backstory of Femsplainers And much more Join us at girlskill.com/123 P. S. Sign up for the free, exclusive training from me on “The Lie of Female Success: How to Get Unstuck, Release Pressure & Stop Trying to Do It All” to find out: How to overcome the "Superwoman Syndrome" so you can start living in freedom, with ease, and owning your truth True feminine power and what you can do right now to begin feeling supported, stop pushing & controlling your life and men How to rediscover, embrace and cultivate feminine flow and become embodied so you can stop overthinking and start making decisions from the heart The essence of masculine/feminine polarity and how to attract and magnify the relationship you want And much more… Sign up at girlskill.com/webinar    

Christina Hoff Sommers, resident scholar at the American Enterprise Institute, and author Danielle Crittenden talk with Matt about the end of female sports, the #MeToo moment, the war on boys, and how to have a well-lived life.

On December 13, 2018, I was a guest on Femsplainers with Christina Hoff Sommers and Danielle Crittenden. We discussed, among other topics, the secrets of a long marriage, the problems with dating apps, how to handle a belligerent toddler, and the motivation of my radical feminist critics. Femsplainers (http://femsplainers.com/) is “the gossipy, smart, witty conversation you’d have if all of your girlfriends (and some of your guy friends too!) were experts on the hot topics of the moment. High spirited and high minded, we don’t argue or whine but seek to get to the heart of the matter, over cocktails (or wine).” We taped in front of a live audience at AEI, the American Enterprise Institute (http://www.aei.org/) Ms. Hoff Sommers is the author of Who Stole Feminism? (https://amzn.to/2GJnkR4) and The War Against Boys (https://amzn.to/2SeuYo5) (a NY Times Notable Book of the Year) as well as Freedom Feminism (https://amzn.to/2Sfrd1B) , One Nation Under Therapy (https://amzn.to/2rNABOe) (with Dr. S. Satel), and The Science on Women in Science (https://amzn.to/2RaZyS1). She is resident scholar at AEI, studying the politics of gender and feminism, as well as free expression, due process, and the preservation of liberty in the academy. She has written for The Journal of Philosophy, The New England Journal of Medicine, The Wall Street Journal, The NY Times, The Washington Post, The New Republic, Slate, The Daily Beast, and The Atlantic, and is host of the popular video blog, The Factual Feminist. Ms. Crittenden is the author of What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us (https://amzn.to/2BBtzAC), a novel, AmandaBright@Home (https://amzn.to/2Lwr33c) (the first modern work of fiction serialized in the Wall Street Journal) and a cookbook, From a Polish Country House Kitchen (https://amzn.to/2Ra1H0n)(with Pulitzer-prize winner Anne Applebaum). She is a contributing editor to the Huffington Post, and has published in the Wall Street Journal, the NY Times, the Washington Post, and the Daily Telegraph. A former columnist for the New York Post, Ms. Crittendon has appeared on NBC’s Today show as well as CSPAN, MSNBC, PBS, CNN, and NPR. For more videos from Christina Hoff Sommers and the rest of AEI’s scholars, subscribe to their YouTube channel: https://goo.gl/WW5Zdm NOTE: AEI operates independently of any political party and does not take institutional positions on any issues. AEI scholars, fellows, and their guests frequently take positions on policy and other issues. When they do, they speak for themselves and not for AEI or its trustees or other scholars or employees. More information on AEI research integrity can be found here: https://goo.gl/Hm8zqu Additional relevant links: My new book: 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos: jordanbpeterson.com/12-rules-for-life12 Rules for Life Tour: Dates, Cities, and Venues: jordanbpeterson.com/events/My first book: Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief: jordanbpeterson.com/maps-of-meaningDr. Jordan B Peterson Website: jordanbpeterson.com/Self Authoring Suite: selfauthoring.com/Understand Myself personality test: understandmyself.com/Blog: jordanbpeterson.com/blog/Podcast: jordanbpeterson.com/jordan-b-peterson-podcastReading List: jordanbpeterson.com/great-books/Twitter: twitter.com/jordanbpeterson Support this podcast: https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/donate

Vicki Larson, co-author of "The New I Do," thinks so. She suggests an array of modern alternatives to romantic sticklers Christina Hoff-Sommers and Danielle Crittenden.

Vicki Larson, co-author of "The New I Do," thinks so. She suggests an array of modern alternatives to romantic sticklers Christina Hoff-Sommers and Danielle Crittenden.

TESTO DELL'ARTICOLO ➜ https://www.bastabugie.it/3668OTTO MARZO, FESTA CONTRO LE DONNE di Costanza Miriano Avevo promesso a me stessa che mi sarei completamente disinteressata delle celebrazioni per l'otto marzo, perché secondo me, oggi, qui, in Occidente, per come sono concepite hanno la stessa pregnanza di una danza della pioggia in Irlanda. Sono vecchie, obsolete, ma soprattutto strabiche.Avete visto la schermata di Google, verosimilmente il sito più cliccato al mondo, per il giorno x? Donne in tutte le salse - astronauti (ma che fantasia, guarda, non lo avrei mai detto), chimici, cuochi, magistrati, atleti, insegnanti e via dicendo, in quattordici versioni diverse - ma neanche una, dico, neanche una su quattordici in versione mamma. Ditemi voi se non c'è qualcosa di perverso, di intenzionale, di mirato.LA DIFFERENZA PRINCIPALELo stesso dicasi per tutte le celebrazioni analoghe in varie sedi istituzionali. Donne imprenditori, donne in politica, tutte a riempirsi la bocca di parole come diritti e differenza, ma qual è la differenza principale se non la maternità, la capacità di generare vita? Hanno presente, gli organizzatori di tutte le manifestazioni, che siamo il paese che fa meno figli al mondo? Perché continuano a parlare solo, e sottolineo solo, di tutto ciò che può allontanare le donne dalla maternità, esaltandolo come una conquista, e non parlano mai di quello che può incoraggiare le donne a buttarsi nell'avventura di fare figli, se possibile presto, se possibile non uno solo? Perché tra la donna soldato, quella astronauta, quella imprenditore, perché cavolo non è stata invitata una che fa molto la mamma? Ho un sacco di amiche mamme multiple molto più audaci e toste e coraggiose e apripista di quelle che ci propongono come modello. Invece il tasso di natalità tra le donne che in molte sedi – purtroppo anche in quelle dove non ti aspetteresti – ci vengono presentate come esemplari è da estinzione nel giro di qualche decennio.Ora, non vorrei essere fraintesa. Non dico che non sia un bello che le donne abbiano la possibilità di fare tutte quelle belle cose, se veramente lo desiderano. Credo che tutte noi siamo molto grate alle donne che hanno combattuto per conquistarci la libertà di scegliere, perché la libertà è la condizione minima necessaria, è il presupposto di qualsiasi altro discorso sulla donna, e sull'uomo come anthropos in generale. Grazie. Però adesso basta.Ho chiesto alle mie figlie "ma secondo voi una donna può fare tutto? L'astronauta? L'ingegnere?" mi hanno guardata con condiscendenza, forse con compassione pure. Direi come se avessi chiesto "ma secondo voi una mucca può fare il latte?" Io credo che per le future donne, e anche per le attuali giovani donne certi discorsi puzzino di muffa. Le conquiste sono incamerate, andiamo avanti.AFFERMAZIONE FEMMINILE?Ciò nondimeno, si continuano a fare quei discorsi spingendo sempre sull'acceleratore dell'affermazione femminile, come se questa passasse necessariamente per la negazione della maternità, e io sono certa che sia per un preciso disegno culturale: allontanare le donne dal ruolo materno e, nel caso abbiano figli (succede), invitarle a delegarne l'educazione ad agenzie esterne, non alla famiglia, che non è abbastanza controllabile. Quali lobby economiche, quali disegni politici ci siano è sinceramente un'analisi superiore alle mie forze, soprattutto alla fine di una giornata come questa, ma più che altro non mi interessa.Mi sembra invece molto più interessante, in negativo, il fatto che le donne contemporanee siano parecchio inquiete e infelici, e non lo dice qualche Pontificio Consiglio, ma studi e ricerche laicissimi tipo l'American Economic Journal e molti altri citati per esempio da Danielle Crittenden, in Why Happiness Eludes Modern Woman. A me lo dice la semplice osservazione della realtà. Va bene, siamo libere di fare tutto, siamo anche bravissime a farlo. Possiamo avere una vita sessuale soddisfacente senza essere vittime di condanna sociale, e anche senza il rischio di avere bambini indesiderati, grazie alla rivoluzione sessuale e alla contraccezione. Se i bambini arrivano per sbaglio possiamo liberarcene, e anche se non ne siamo sicure, che un bambino sia arrivato, ma lo sospettiamo solamente, basta una bombetta di ormoni uno o cinque giorni dopo. Possiamo studiare e superare i maschi in tutti i campi. Ci hanno detto di realizzarci, e poi di pensare ai figli. Se non arrivano c'è sempre il piano B, la PMA, e pazienza se costa tantissimo e ha pochissime possibilità di riuscita, e gravi rischi per la salute a breve e a lungo termine.PIÙ FELICI?Ma questo ci ha rese più felici? Non mi sembra, anzi. Io sono circondata di donne sole e alquanto disperate. Donne che non riescono a tenere tutto insieme, e anche se hanno figli e lavori splendidi e gratificanti e ben pagati a un certo punto della loro vita cominciano a chiedersi se vale la pena di correre come matte, e lasciar morire le nonne da sole, o sbattersi come trottole nei tre mesi estivi mendicando ospitalità per i bambini, o ancora perdersi primi passi, prime parole, primi amori dei figli.Ogni tanto leggo i giornali femminili (un po' noiosetti per me, tranne le pagine beauty, sono drogata di creme) e mi intenerisco a leggere le storie di donne che si raccontano balle per non ammettere che le loro vite sono terremotate, alluvionate, desertificate, perché non hanno investito abbastanza sulla famiglia, sui figli, e si raccontano che troveranno in se stesse e nel loro progetto – un negozio bio, una galleria di arte, una piccola attività di artigianato – la forza per andare avanti. Mi si stringe il cuore, perché io sono certa che solo aprirsi alla possibilità di dare la vita o di accoglierla in altri modi se non arriva, solo fare spazio veramente, lasciarsi mangiare da qualcun altro i sogni e i progetti, solo questo rende una donna veramente felice. Di certo non sono le quote rosa a riempire il cuore.

Learn about authentic, traditional Polish cuisine with author Danielle Crittenden on this week’s episode of Let’s Eat In! Cathy Erway calls up Danielle, who recently co-authored From a Polish Country House Kitchen: 90 Recipes for the Ultimate Comfort Food. Hear how North American perceptions of Polish cuisine are influenced by the traditions of Jewish and Polish immigrants. Find out how seasonality affects the types of food that are eaten in Poland. Hear about the history of foraging, farming, and hunting in Poland. Danielle shares some of her favorite recipes from the book- fermented, creamy, and wholesome! Want to make a Polish meal for a date? Tune in to this episode of Let’s Eat In to hear Danielle’s suggestion! This episode has been sponsored by The International Culinary Center. “There’s always been a farm-to-table movement in Poland! If you wanted fresh food or meat, you cooked it or hunted it yourself.” [4:50] “These are people who, besides whatever economic circumstances, live through these harsh winters- so they really rely on preserved foods.” [11:45] — Danielle Crittenden on Let’s Eat In

Danielle Crittenden is the author of "What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us". She believes that the present generation of young women may be the victims of their mothers' generation of feminism. Although these women have great freedom, they still feel trapped and unhappy. The message they inherited was that career is all and marriage and family should be postponed. She explains why this advice has backfired. (Originally aired March 1999)