Beauty After Betrayal™

Ariel Sommers is our amazing guest who I've personally worked with myself. She's an rRest Practitioner, Coach of Coaches, Motivational speaker, Mom, and wife to a household of boys.She spent 15 years as a health and fitness guru, but found everyone wanted her to do the work for them, instead of with them.As an rRest coach, she is now here to help people as they do the work to free themselves from intergenerational trauma, societal pressures, and their own limiting self beliefs.“Trying to describe rRest is like trying to describe an orgasm to someone who's never experienced it. How do you tell somebody the magic that is gonna be released from their body if they've never had one”~ Ariel SommersAriel tells us about rRest, which allows us to get into your mind and silence that inner critic. As women we all have that inner critic who tells us we're not good enough, we're not worthy … rRest finds the root cause of that story and pulls it out by the roots. This allows us to get rid of the story and heal it through forgiveness and allowing new positive growth to happen. “Fail stands for Finding Answers In Learning”~ Ariel SommersThis is a deep conversation touching upon childhood moments that become traumas that need to be healed and ways to heal trauma and betrayal.  TUNE IN HERE.Connect with Jenni:Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. Connect with Ariel:Learn more about Ariel and rRest HereSchedule a session HereFollow her: InstagramFacebookTikTok

Carol Juergensen Sheets, widely known as Carol the Coach, is our fabulously audacious guest today.She is a legend in the community of recovery from sex addiction and working with partners of sex addicts. She's one of my personal sheroes and I'm honored and thrilled to have her on the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast.Carol is a mental health therapist who has been treating individuals and couples for over 41 years. She is a certified sexual addictions counselor and certified partners of sexual addiction trauma specialist.She trains clinicians and coaches nationally and internationally, and believes that her partner-sensitive treatment approach enhances treating sexual addiction and partner trauma in the relationship.Her style assists couples in healing the shame and pain of sexual addiction and she uses post-traumatic growth to emphasize a client's strengths.Carol hosts podcasts and YouTube channels, and has just released her third book called Help. Them. Heal. Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal.Her latest book informs couples on the methodology behind ERCEM – Carol's revolutionary Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model – to help the couple heal together. Carol the Coach has decades of wisdom to share with us.We discuss what led each of us to APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), which Carol is now both Treasurer of their board and Supervisor to clinicians and coaches.  Carol joined APSATS after making a profound observation of her clients:"... My sex addicts were getting better and my partners weren't, and I just said, 'you know what - we have got to change up this field and we've got to get them more resources'...And what do you do when you want to change the world? You change yourself."~ Carol the CoachWe talk about the different healing phases from partner betrayal, and how Carol works with couples to heal from sexual betrayal.You won't want to miss this fascinating conversation from one of the leaders in the betrayal trauma space.  xoxo, Jenni-----------------------------Connect with Carol:Purchase Carol's new book Help. Them. Heal. Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal  here. Learn more about the work that she does here.Podcast: Sex Help with Carol the CoachYouTube: Sex Help with Carol the CoachConnect with Jenni:Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook.  

Sara Chizek is a grief and sensuality coach. After losing her father at the young age of four led her through many years of numbness, she finally learned how to turn her grief into her superpower.  Now she helps other women move through their own grief in order to find joy and freedom on the other side.Sara leads grief workshops and group and individual coaching programs to empower others to harness the energy of their grief and turn it into pleasure, passion, and power.So, you immediately know why I had to have her on the podcast to talk to us! Moving through grief is a huge part of finding Beauty After Betrayal.Sarah and I talk about the constraints around grief that society puts on women as well as our general reluctance to explore the deeper places within ourselves where we store our grief.  Grief can be exhausting and overwhelming, and we may think that by not acknowledging it we can avoid the pain – but the truth is, that until we work through it, grief is going to completely run the show."Grief is such a sneaky bitch."  ~ Sara ChizekSara and I explore the journey of how we can use the powerful energy of grief to transform our lives and the world around us.Her work focuses on the importance of creating a safe container for women to move through grief so they can learn how to access the next thing - joy.  She gives women permission to be powerful, wild, sensual, and fully empowered to own their entire range of emotions.Join us as Sara shares her tips and tools for moving through grief, and how one of the most profound ways we can move and release grief is through our bodies.TUNE IN HERE."I like to think of (grief) as like an iceberg, and we just slowly thaw it out, because there isn't that quick fix...I hope your listeners take comfort in the fact that this journey does get to be your own... you get to move at the pace that feels right to you..." ~Sara Chizekxoxo, Jenni-------------------------Connect with Jenni:Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. Connect with Sara:Join the Glowing Goddess Membership for a monthly grief release party and more!Come hang out with her on Instagram.Current programs can be found at www.sarachizek.comFacebook Community to Vent/Release and Be Witnessed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/swampingcircle

Sara Fernandez shows up in this week's episode, fully in her truth, and courageously sharing her powerful story with all of us.I met Sara while we were both fundraising for Truth Be Told – a nonprofit organization that provides transformational trauma-response programs for women who are or have been incarcerated.(Check out Episode 27 where I interview Angie Hejl, who is on the board of directors of Truth Be Told and has her own powerful story to tell.)Sara is a mom, a career woman, an entrepreneur, and a social influencer. And sister, does she have a story to tell.Like many of the women I work with, she experienced betrayal trauma from romantic relationships but realizes that her journey with trauma actually started much earlier in her precious life.  "We talk about people being spoon-fed... well, those who had received healthy love on a spoon, there were others who were licking it off of knives. The bar gets set as children. We will continue to accept what we only know. We were not shown more."Her unresolved trauma carried her through a series of toxic and abusive relationships, which sadly extended to the abuse of her children.  When her youngest daughter tragically passed under suspicious circumstances, she found herself not only utterly devastated and heartbroken but also sentenced to prison.Even though her trauma and discoveries of abuse continued after her release, she carried on and found the strength to show up in a healthy and loving way for her children and for herself.Sara has done the work. She has been through therapy.  She has been a strong and loving mama to her children. She has moved beyond toxic and abusive relationships.  She has taken her life back and found purpose and presence. Literally days away from what would have been her daughter's 18th birthday, she graced us with her presence, with her truth, and with her beautiful and open heart.Her transparency and her truth-telling will undoubtedly open your heart as well. Tune in beauties.  You don't want to miss this one. xoxo, Jenni

Sweet listeners, you are in for one hell of a great story today on the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast.I have the incredible, charismatic, energetic, inspirational, and drop-dead gorgeous, Bella, who is joining us to share her comeback story.Coming out of a childhood rife with neglect and abuse, she thought she had found her Prince Charming when she met her then-husband. Bonding over their similar childhood traumas, and wooed by his charm and good looks, she thought a marriage with him was her ticket to breaking the abusive cycle of her past.Sadly, it turned out to be just another version of the trauma she knew all too well.Bella shares with us the 3 "big bombs" that broke apart the facade of her fairytale. From discovering porn videos, to finding a Craigslist sex solicitation ad, to a tragic act of violence, she weaves a story of the lies, delayed disclosures, half truths, and gaslighting that unraveled her relationship."There were so many red flags, could have made a scarf with them." ~ BellaJoin us as we talk about the societal and cultural pressures to "keep your man", the painful tears in your own familial and social circles when you dare to break the code of conduct of staying and staying silent, and the strength and happiness you find when you finally set yourself free and claim the life you deserve.Bella shares some incredible wisdom with us as she talks about the many gifts that have come on the other side of betrayal. One of the most precious to her has been blazing a trail for her children and showing them, through her own actions, what being brave and a healthy life really looks like.And she found love again.As it turns out - there is love after betrayal. There are good men out there. There are a lot of "green flags," too. And you know what? Happiness looks great on her."I didn't get to choose my trauma. I didn't get to choose the circumstances around my birth. But I got to choose my healing."~ Bellaxoxo, Jenni----------------------------------------------Connect with Jenni:Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook.  

Okay, beautiful.  I need to let you know that I'm just fully owning that not only am I the Queen of Intimacy... I'm also the Genius of Love (cue Tom Tom Club), and my passion in this life is to help other women heal and find the love that they so deeply deserve.On this week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast, I'm going to break down the reasons why you deserve more from dating and how you can do it differently this time (yes, you really can!).I am offering an exciting new workshop next week called...Dating For More: Do Dating Differently. Get the Love That You Deserve.This workshop will teach you everything about how to date for more, how to do it differently than you've been doing it, and how to finally get the love you deserve.Yes, for real.The top 10 reasons you need to sign up for the Dating For More Workshop on May 11-12 are listed below.  Don't cheap out though! You'll definitely want to tune in to the podcast episode to hear me break down each one and explain how it's holding you back in love.1. You need to understand your relational pattern.2. You've got to uncover your limiting beliefs.3. Identifying your core values will help guide your dating decisions.4. Know your limits in terms of sex.5. You've got to deal with your shit around sex.6. Your nervous system is going to freak out.  Learn what to do when it does.7. Nice is not an upgrade – why settling is not an option.8. How to trust yourself to make good decisions.9. We've got to bust the myth of codependency.10. You think you've got to be totally healed before you move on.(Spoiler alert: it's not true. You're more ready than you think.)Want to know more?  Tune in!More importantly, want to learn how to finally get the love you deserve? Sign up for the workshop!  Trust me, this is one you do not want to miss.You can date differently this time.You can do this work.You can have hope again.You can heal.You can rise.You can have the love you want.There is always more love for you. This workshop will teach you how to get it.Dating for More Workshop:Do Dating Differently.  Get the Love You Want.Wednesday, May 11 & Thursday, May 12, 20221:00 - 2:30 PM CST$27!!SIGN UP NOW!Other Ways to Connect with Jenni:Do You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?  Take the quiz that meets you where you are so you can get the support you need right now.Are you ready to embrace your right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life? Join the private community of sisterhood with Jenni's Facebook group  A Pleasure Full Life.Looking for sisterhood and support to help you heal from betrayal trauma?  Join the private Facebook group Beauty After Betrayal.Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook.  

This week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast is all about introducing you to a labor of love that my team and I have been working on for almost a year now.We have created a quiz!I mean, who doesn't love quizzes?  It started with the ones we used to take in Cosmo, and now we get to take them online about anything and everything.I love quizzes!Mine is called "Do You Have Betrayal Trauma from a Romantic Relationship?"I'm so excited because I have been wanting to give this resource to my community and clients for years.  There are so many women out there who are struggling with, or healing from, betrayal trauma. As you've heard me say so many times, we heal from betrayal in stages. Stage 1 is Safety & Security – these women are in the rawest, most painful time of their lives.  They have discovered their partner's sexual betrayal and are still reeling from it.  They need boundaries and to learn how to care for their nervous system.  They need a lot of sisterhood and a lot of support.Stage 2 is Remembrance and Mourning – this stage is a time of reflection and going inward.  This is where women take a deep look at their relationship patterns and remember what happened to them and what they didn't get that they needed as little girls.Stage 3 is Reconnection – with themselves and with other people.  This is all about how to rebuild their life, and how to reclaim and rediscover themselves. This is where you might start to think about dipping your toe in the dating pool again but know you still have some work to do on yourself.After Stage 3, women are ready to really lean into reconnecting with their sexuality, creating everyday intimacy in their relationships, and learning how to really LIVE again.  After traveling along this entire pathway over many years, this is the stage where I am now.You can get there too.  But first you need to meet yourself where you are so you can get the resources and support that you need.Well, guess what?? You can do that RIGHT NOW with the quiz!  It will ask you a series of questions and sort you into one of four archetypes.Tune in to the podcast episode to hear more about the four different archetypes in detail.And go take the quiz!  I would love to hear what you think about it.  Were you surprised by the archetype you were sorted into?  Hit reply and let me know!Xoxo, JenniDo You Have Betrayal Trauma From a Romantic Relationship?TAKE THE QUIZ!

I started the Beauty After Betrayal podcast because I wanted to share women's stories of hope and healing.  My desire was that it would reach other women out in the world so they would know that they are not alone in their experiences, and to give them hope.Sometimes our life experiences can make us feel like we don't deserve, or that we've been cut off from, all the juicy stuff in life – pleasure, desire, sex, intimacy, and more.Well, I'm here to say, as is my guest today, that there is hope, healing, and goodness that is still available to you regardless of your story.One of my clients, Ellyn, is with us this week and I am so honored that she is going to share her story with all of us. It's a story of betrayal and the journey into healing that helped her claim her big comeback.Ellyn starts her story with her D-Day.  She was on a weekend retreat with her ex where they were working on their marriage and their sex life.  Before this point, she had always thought the issues in her marriage were her fault... because that's what her ex continually told her.A disclosure during that retreat blew the lid off of their marriage, and as she put it – "the veil dropped."  She was finally able to put the pieces together of what the real problems in their partnership were.  The porn, the affairs, the emotional abuse, the gaslighting... she broke through all of it with intense clarity and the disclosure actually provided her a moment of relief - she was not crazy.From this life-changing moment of realization, truth and clarity, Ellyn began her journey back to herself.  She says that the first thing she had to be willing to do was look at herself and go within to start her healing process."I spent so much time over there trying to fix him, and putting my life on hold, that I forgot there was a 'me'." ~ EllynI invite you to listen to Ellyn's story as she outlines her painful but rewarding path to healing. It's a story you might recognize yourself in. Maybe it will even inspire your own comeback story.Xoxo, JenniConnect with Jenni:Join her Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle to participate in a private community of women who are ready to embrace their right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life!Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

I had the joy of speaking to April Codd on this episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast.  April is the creator of this amazing coaching business called Love Yourself Sexy.  How great is that??She's all about empowering women to love yourself just the way you are.  She is your biggest cheerleader, your shoulder to cry on, and your mirror to reflect your beauty back to you.April is a momma and a wife who is balancing her life with her entrepreneurship (can I get an Amen??) while bringing women wisdom, embodiment, and real life experiences to help them grasp beautiful and sexy in their own bodies.She is passionate about helping woman love themselves exactly where they are at right now.April and I met at a goddess retreat in Miami where we had an instant connection and she is one of the most gorgeous and sexy women I've ever met because of the way she owns her sexiness.April shares with us how she was in a state of depression, anxiety and self-hatred for much of her life.  From the time she was a kid, and way into adulthood, she had lots of people voicing their opinions about her weight.Her constant attempts of trying to be what everybody else wanted her to be consumed every aspect of her life. She tried to be the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect employee, the perfect woman.... and then the pandemic happened.Tune in to hear how losing her job during the pandemic shifted her entire perspective on how she wanted to embody her self and her life, and how it was when she really started choosing herself for the first time."I feel the sexiest thing a woman can do is just be confident in herself, and love herself the most." ~April CoddApril shares with us the tools that she uses to keep her focus on self-love and self-acceptance, how these tools have made her a better parent, and how she now elevates other women and helps them embody their own revolutions to love themselves sexy.Xoxo, JenniJoin my FREE masterclass: How To Create "Everyday Intimacy" on April 7th at 6 PM CST in the Pleasure Full Life Facebook Group - Save Your Spot!----------------------------------Connect with April:Learn more about April and Love Yourself Sexy here.Follow April on Instagram.Join her online community Women's Self Love & Body Love Sisterhood on Facebook.Connect with Jenni:Join her Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle to participate in a private community of women who are ready to embrace their right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life!Want to feel like a queen for a day?  Sign up for a VIP Day - a day designed just for you in a luscious locale of your choice. Reply to this email to learn more!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook.  

You are invited to Our Universal (Re)Initiation Into Intimacy with this episode of the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast.  This is one of those where I start with an idea or an experience of what I want to share but no idea what might actually come out of my mouth.My hope was to share with you how I have personally been experiencing the return of some of the most important, magical and mystical parts of my life.  Namely, yoga retreats and live music.Both of those beloved experiences came fully back into my life on the same weekend this month and, as they did, I was deeply moved by how much I had missed them both!Tears came to my eyes when I walked into Stubb's and saw that it was packed with people who were all there to take part in this shared, powerful, kinesthetic experience…for the first time in two years.We were all there to see one of my favorite bands - Manchester Orchestra - whose album “A Black Mile to the Surface” I leaned on heavy for survival through running and scream singing throughout 2020 and 2021.  To have this band be my reinitiation into live music…was perfection.Then the next morning…Jeff and I flew to Costa Rica for the first yoga retreat I'd been on since 2019.  Yoga retreats have been an annual cosmic adventure for me that started in 2012 and served as markers throughout the darkest years of my life. Yoga retreats were how I learned to create community, to open up and share with others like me…they were safe ways where I was finally able to experience intimacy.  Again, to find myself on retreat with my dear friend and yoga teacher AND with Jeff…was perfection.Yet, I struggled at first to allow myself to enjoy it. You'll have to check out this episode to find out WHY as well as hear how I believe that we are all being called by the Universe right now to this shared, reinitiation into intimacy.  Meaning, I feel like we are all standing at the edge of a portal.  We have an opportunity to transition into the next phase of our lives. We have the chance to recover and discover pathways to more conscious and intimate lives…if only we can be brave enough to risk it.Xoxo, JenniConnect with Jenni:Ready to take the first step towards more pleasure and intimacy in your life?  Then you have to get out of your head and into your body with the free Remembering Your Body Masterclass.  Get instance access here - https://jennirochelle.com/body/Curious about Jenni's new Everyday Intimacy Mastermind? You can read about it as well as other ways to work with Jenni here - https://jennirochelle.com/work-with-me/Join her Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle to participate in a private community of women who are ready to embrace their right to big love, great sex, and a pleasure full life!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

I have met so many amazing women through online communities, including my guest this week on the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast.  Allison Vernon-Thompson is the creator of Feminine Fire Method, which is a delicious combination of yoga, pilates, strength training and dance, and it's designed to fit how a woman's body works.I feel like I've tried all forms of exercise over my lifetime, and I can say that Allison's method is one of the coolest ways I've ever experienced moving my body.  I love her classes!As a personal trainer, Allison always felt out of place in the gym environment mentality of driving, pushing and giving 110% all the time, no matter how you feel or what's going on in your body that day.Releasing the pressure of the bro culture's approach to fitness has helped her be more consistent, fit, strong, and more connected to her body and feelings than ever before. Now she helps other women achieve this through her Feminine Fire Method."The work that I do is really about tuning into our bodies, using our bodies as the guide for our workout, and really allowing ourselves to be seduced into a workout." ~ Allison Vernon-ThompsonWe talk about embodied feelings and how they influence and inspire how we show up in the world.We discuss how learning to trust ourselves about our bodies and how we feel in our bodies, is the antidote to the toxic shaming messages that women receive from the fitness industry, diet culture, and general media every day.And we share in the excitement that we are both presenters in The Women's Day Event next week!Tune in to this delightful conversation about the importance of giving women permission to be who they are.xoxo, JenniJoin Jenni, Allison and many other amazing presenters for The Women's Day Event on March 8!Register for FREE for this uplifting and inspiring virtual eventREGISTER NOWConnect with Jenni:Join her Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle to participate in the next free masterclass: Debunking The Myths of Feminine Sexuality this Thursday, March 3rd at 6 pm CST, LIVE in the Facebook group!Don't miss out on The Women's Day Event next Tuesday, March 8 to hear Jenni present at 1:30 pm CST!-----------------Connect with JenniFollow Jenni on Instagram and FacebookJoin her Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle to participate in the next free masterclass: Debunking The Myths of Feminine Sexuality this Thursday, March 3rd at 6 pm CST, LIVE in the Facebook group!Don't miss out on The Women's Day Event next Tuesday, March 8 to hear Jenni present at 1:30 pm CST!Connect with AllisonLearn more about Allison and Feminine Fire Method here.Take a free class with her during The Women's Day Event on March 8!Follow Allison on Instagram.Join her online community Feminine Fire Method on Facebook.

This week on the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast we are talking about intimacy.I was recently given the title The Queen of Intimacy because I am here to help women create what I call everyday intimacy.And I believe it is available to us no matter what we've been through... no matter what's going on in our life in the moment, in terms of our relationships... that we can learn to cultivate intimacy.And I believe that's what life is really all about.In this podcast episode, I start with a story about me and Jeff. It's a story that illustrates how we don't always get it right.In all of our relationships – with our beloveds, with our children, with our friends, with our coworkers – where there's attachment, we are always moving through a cycle.The cycle consists of three parts: 1) being securely attached; 2) a rupture occurs; 3) repair happens.  Rinse and repeat forever.And the most important part of this cycle is actually the repair: how we come back and reconnect in an intimate way after a rupture.I also honor that of course there are some circumstances where you're in a situation when you don't feel safe – those of addiction, abuse, betrayal, etc... and I'm not asking you to necessarily repair with those people in your life.In those instances what I want you to do is to intimately connect with yourself.  This is a huge part of what I teach."All intimacy begins with ourselves." ~ Jenni RochelleAnd this is where the work really begins.Tune in to learn...how receiving pleasure and love is paramount to creating intimacywhy we, as women, put up walls between us and intimacyhow we cannot have intimacy with anyone else until we have intimacy with ourselvesIntimacy is a comeback everyday.Intimacy is messy.And it's why we're here.xoxo, Jenni---------------------------------Connect with JenniCreate Everyday Intimacy In Your Life with Your Big Sexy ComebackThis is you last chance to join this Intimate 12-week Group Mentorship because we start February 23rd!!Week 1: Creating the Safe ContainerWeek 2: Shedding Your Negative Beliefs About SexWeek 3: Grieving What You Lost In The PastWeek 4: Integration Week Week 5: Remembering Your BodyWeek 6: Rediscovering Your DesiresWeek 7: Healing Through PleasureWeek 8: Integration WeekWeek 9: Learning to Use Your Voice to Ask for What You WantWeek 10: Uncovering Your Relational PatternWeek 11: Cultivating Intimacy In RelationshipsWeek 12: Committing to Your Heart & Soul DesiresLEARN MORE

On this week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal podcast, I have invited one of my beautifully brave clients to share her own journey of betrayal with us.Julie Mahr first discovered me through this podcast, became a client of mine, and is now an alumni of Your Big Sexy Comeback, my signature group coaching program. This interview is a full circle moment for her to now be able to tell her story and reach and help other women who have gone through similar experiences in their own lives.Julie's story begins with the heartbreak of discovering her husband's porn addiction that was suffocating their marriage and her happiness and explained why she felt shut down sexually.She guides us through the ups and downs of her own healing process with a vulnerability and raw honesty that so many of you will resonate with, regardless of your own experiences."Wait a second - there is nothing wrong with me. This is not about me. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it." ~ Julie MahrAs Julie begins to come through the darkness and is finally able to find peace (and herself!) again, you will feel the hope that she now embodies.And when she shares how she has reclaimed her joy and gotten back in touch with her own sexual desires... even as a women of deep modesty and religious faith... you will cheer her on with every word."I'm connected to my whole self again."  ~ Julie MahrI cannot wait for you to tune in to this episode, and I hope it inspires you as much as Julie's journey has inspired me.  xoxo,JenniBring Your Own Sexy Back!Your Big Sexy Comeback is my 12-Week Group Mentorship for the Smart Woman Ready For Big Love, Great Sex, and a Pleasure Full Life.  Enrollment is open now!LEARN MORE!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Connect with Jenni:Join Jenni's new Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle, where she will be holding FREE monthly masterclasses on how to rediscover intimacy and radically embrace pleasure.Learn more about Jenni's signature program Your Big Sexy Comeback, starting again on February 23!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. 

I know I always talk about how excited I am to have each guest on the podcast, and it's always true!But this week on the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast, I am especially excited to welcome my coach and dear friend, Carin Rockind.Carin is a leading happiness guru and expert, and the creator of PurposeGirl, a movement to empower purpose-driven living.  She also hosts the PurposeGirl Podcast, which has almost 200 episodes and 380,000 downloads and counting!As if that wasn't impressive enough, she's also the host of the world's largest virtual Women's Day Event, which will be happening again this year on March 8, and you can register and participate for FREE!  (Oh, and P.S. - I'll be one of the event speakers that day!!)Carin has taught tens of thousands of women to reclaim their happiness and live to their fullest potential.  She is a survivor of domestic abuse, divorce, and armed robbery, and she teaches all of us how to be resilient and turn our trauma and pain into purpose.So you can see why we love each other so much.Join us as we talk about her incredible story, why she's here to empower and inspire women, and the importance of sisterhood and sensuality."...I really believe that we can have it all.  That it begins with really knowing who you are, and allowing your whole self." ~ Carin xoxo, Jenni Connect with Jenni:Join Jenni's new Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle, where she will be holding FREE monthly masterclasses on how to rediscover intimacy and radically embrace pleasure.Learn more about Jenni's signature program Your Big Sexy Comeback, starting again on February 16!Follow Jenni on Instagram and Facebook. Connect with Carin:Learn more about Carin & her programs here.Check out her PurposeGirl Podcast.Register for her FREE virtual Women's Day Event on March 8!Follow Carin on Instagram.Join her community PurposeGirls: The Women's Happiness Network on Facebook.

On this week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast, I am talking about intimacy and pleasure.Oh yes, sister, welcome to the pleasure party!We are going to talk about juicy ways to feel good and alive in your body.But first, we'll unpack the fact that most of us probably think about sex when I say the word "pleasure".  Maybe you think of making love, masturbation, sexual acts, and thoughts or feelings that turn you on sexually.And yes, pleasure is all of those things.  But it's not JUST those things.What we're really talking about is this experience that happens in our bodies when we feel good.Pleasure is in your body, not in your head.And I know all you smart, successful, high-achieving women out there (like me!) are living in your heads.  I was that way for years and years.  Sex wasn't fun for me.When we live in our heads, we miss out on all of the experiences, feelings, sensations, and pleasures that exist below our necks (and waists!).We have to learn how to become embodied. So in this episode, we're going to talk about how we can do just that. You will learn WHY pleasure is important and how it can heal us... how it is a part of our divine design. I promise to keep it real.  I promise to keep you safe.  And I promise to keep it juicy.xoxo, JenniParty With JenniEmbrace Pleasure & Revolutionize Your Life!  The Worthy of More Pleasure Challenge is happening February 7-9 in A Pleasure Full Life Facebook group.  Join me live each day from 6-7pm central and learn how to...> Identify any judgments or resistance you have when it comes to pleasure> Understand the science of how pleasure impacts vitality and health> Take simple steps to incorporate more pleasure into your daily lifeThere will also be super sexy giveaways everyday of challenge for those who attend live and participate in the group! This is going to be on raging party, ladies. Don't miss out - JOIN TODAY! 

Have you ever had a "Waking Up" moment?  Where you shift out of your ordinary consciousness and connect deeply with something larger than yourself?Paige Britt is in the studio for this week's episode of Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast, and we talk about these moments and so. much. more.She is a dear friend of mine, as well as a mentor, guidepost, spiritual director, and mystical being who I've had the pleasure of knowing for more than 20 years.Paige is a meditation teacher, spiritual director, and author of the best-selling middle-grade fantasy book The Lost Track of Time (which, although geared towards readers age 8-12, was secretly written for adults).She works with people who are "waking up" to their old ways of knowing, doing, and being that no longer serve them.  She helps them wake up to the toxic relationships we all have with our minds, so they can discover what lays beyond when we can get out of our own heads.  "Waking Up" is profound and empowering work once we move past the discomfort of discovering that we are so much more than just our thoughts.In my own work with Paige, I'm continuing to learn how to find that ongoing stability of living in awareness. Stabilization is when you are able to return to that open expansive place on a continual basis, knowing that's where your truest self lives.Paige says that "it's the work of a lifetime".This year, one of my big shifts will be helping women get out of their heads and into their bodies, so Paige is the perfect guest to help us kick off the podcast in the new year."Our bodies are one of the most profound doorways into the Divine."   ~ Paige BrittJoin us, as Paige helps us remember to trust ourselves and to listen to the small voice deep inside us all; and the importance of finding friends and guides along our path, so we have true and loving mirrors around us to reflect back to us our own perfect nature.xoxo, Jenni_______________Connect with Paige:Learn more about Paige Britt & her work here. Read her books: The Lost Track of Time and Why Am I Me?Connect with Jenni:Join Jenni's new Facebook group A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle, where she will be holding FREE monthly masterclasses on how to rediscover intimacy and radically embrace pleasure. 

Welcome to the first 2022 episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast! This year I'm leaning in to some exciting, scintillating, and thought-provoking discussions, teachings, and inspirations around... wait for it... SEX.Yes - sex!  And Your Big Sexy Comeback!And you finally getting out of your head, and into your body!Thank you for listening over these past nine months to this incredible passion project of mine that has continued to grow thanks to all of you, and will continue to evolve as I do.Betrayal will always be a big part of what I do because so many women have experienced it.And the more I look at my own story, do my own work, and help women who are healing from betrayal... the more I see that the betrayal itself is merely a symptom of the bigger narrative... of each of our bigger story arcs.So as we move into 2022, you are going to see that more of what I do, speak to, and teach on, will be centered around how we get out of our heads and into our bodies. Because I truly believe that our pleasures and our desires directly correlate to our power: in our lives, our relationships, at work, at home... everywhere!  As long as we are disconnected from our bodies, our pleasure and our power, we cannot fully thrive.In this episode, I talk more about these big shifts, along with my own five pivotal stories of what happened to me throughout my life that led me to where I am today.Tune in, buckle up, and let me tell you all about it. Welcome to the Desire, Pleasure and Power Hour, aka Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast.This is where the real revolution begins, Beauties.xoxo, Jenni______________________New for 2022!A Pleasure Full Life w/Jenni Rochelle:Free, Monthly Masterclasses for Women to Rediscover Intimacy & Radically Embrace PleasureJoin me on the 3rd Thursday of every month where we'll be exploring all kinds of juicy topics - you will not want to miss out!The first class is January 20, 2022 (Year of the Tiger, baby!)It's all happening via my new Facebook group: A Pleasure Full Life with Jenni Rochelle.JOIN THE GROUP!

I am fangirling so hard this week because I had the honor of interviewing one of my personal heroes for this one.Dr. Barbara Steffens literally wrote the book on how to work with partners of sex addicts.Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal, has dramatically changed the lives of survivors of betrayal trauma, not to mention the professionals who are trained to serve them (like myself)!She has specialized in sex addiction and helping partners of sex addicts for more than two decades.She was one of the founders of APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), a non-profit organization dedicated to the training, certification, education, research and advocacy for treatment of relational and betrayal trauma.Dr. Steffens is a hero for anyone healing from betrayal trauma.In this episode, we talk about what led her to the front lines of inspiring such massive change in this field.  Like many of us, her journey started with her own betrayal trauma.When seeking guidance, she kept finding professionals and material that emphasized victim blaming and used terminology such as "co-addict" and "co-dependent". Dr. Steffens quickly recognized that there was an enormous opportunity for growth in both the understanding of, and the treatment of, betrayal trauma.She went back to school and earned her PhD so she could lean into this work on a much deeper level, and she ended up helping revolutionize the way that we talk about betrayal trauma, and how we help those going through it.Join us for this thought-provoking and inspirational conversation with the one and only Dr. Barbara Steffens, as she offers us professional support, guidance and understanding of how we look at betrayal trauma today.xoxo, Jenni--------Connect with Dr. SteffensLearn more about Dr. Barbara Steffens and the work she does. Purchase Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal.Learn more about APSATS. Connect with JenniJenni's Facebook community is a private group for women reclaiming their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.

Have you ever been cracked open?  Do you know what your core wound is?Molly Carroll is with us on this week's episode of to help us better understand these concepts and how they affect us throughout our lives.Molly has been a therapist for twenty-five years, listening to thousands of people's stories and holding space for them along the way. She has taught workshops at companies such as Apple and LinkedIn, published two books, given two TED talks, and has even had a private audience with the Dalai Lama!On top of these amazing achievements, she has also just launched her new podcast Cracking Open (I was lucky enough to be interviewed by her for episode 5!).Molly's own cracking open occurred when she lost her father, along with six other important people in her life - all in the span of just a year-and-a-half.  Her journey through her own trauma and grief helped her realize her life's true purpose - holding space for other people while they are cracking open.We also talk about core wounds, and how everybody came into this world with one. Years of being a therapist has taught her that there is always something underneath the issue at hand.  There was always a root issue - a core wound.Molly identifies three different types of core wounds - abandonment, betrayal, and worthiness We talk about how they continue to grow and affect our behavior and patterns into adulthood.She has developed a program to help people identify their core wound, learn to look at it with love and compassion (and realize that it's actually their superpower), and then help them figure out how to face it in everyday life in order to move past it.Molly and I dive into my own core wound (spoiler alert: it's abandonment!) and how it continues to show up in my life to this day.Bringing more attention and awareness to our core wounds teaches us to have great compassion for ourselves and others.I hope you join us for this compassionate and heart-opening conversation. xoxo, Jenni--------Connect with MollyLearn more about Molly Carroll and the work she does. Read about her two books here.Check out her new podcast Cracking Open!Follow Molly on Instagram. Connect with JenniJenni's Facebook community is a private group for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.Find your own Beauty After Betrayal™ with my 6-month private coaching program.  Learn more here!  

Have you ever wondered if your life would have turned out completely different if you'd made just one different choice, or just one of your circumstances had been different than it was?On this week's episode, I am joined by an incredibly inspirational woman by the name of Angie Hejl.   Angie is on the board of directors for a nonprofit called Truth Be Told.  This organization, based in Austin, provides transformational trauma-responsive programs for women who are or have been incarcerated to promote healing and empowerment, and break the cycle of incarceration for themselves, their families and their communities. Did you know that:70% of incarcerated women have struggled with addiction 74% of addicted women have reported sexual abuse76-80% of incarcerated women are mothersAngie shares with us all the wonderful things that Truth Be Told is doing with incarcerated women, including their focus on using story-telling as a way for these women to reconcile and heal their past traumas by telling their stories. It's a powerful process that invokes healing and empowerment.  86% of graduates from Truth Be Told programs do not go back to prison. Truth Be Told helps break the patterns of past abuses and addictions, provides the hope of not going back into the system, and gives these women a fighting chance to lead a healthy and happy life after prison.Angie also shares with us her own personal story of trauma, incarceration, and healing. These women are not their crime.They are women who have experienced trauma.They are any of us.They are all of us. xoxo, Jenni Connect with Angie:Learn more about Truth Be Told and the work they do.  Follow Truth Be Told on Instagram.Make a donation to help Truth Be Told expand their programs and help more women in 2022! Connect with Jenni:Jenni's Facebook community is a private group for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.Interested in working with Jenni? Check out her programs at www.jennirochelle.com.

In this week's episode, we dive into the topic of (dun, dun, duuunn) dating again after betrayal!Wherever you are in your journey with betrayal, you too (yes, you!) can have a big, beautiful life after everything you've gone through. You don't have to settle - not on a partner, not on yourself, and not on your dreams.There's always more love for you.In this episode, I specifically talk about what I did to prepare myself to date again, and how it ultimately led to me meeting my amazing husband Jeff.Once I was finally ready to put myself out there again, I wrote the following description on my Bumble dating profile:"Warm-hearted, emotionally intelligent, free-spirited mom of 3 who loves yoga, hiking, Wilco, and rollercoasters. Looking for a fellow foodie to share adventures, belly laughs and soulful conversations."I met Jeff on this dating app less than two weeks later.  I like to think of it as my true love spell where I chose each and every word intentionally.  They reflected what was important to me, in calling in the person I wanted to share my life with.  And every one of my core values were contained within that description.So how did I get myself to this place where I was ready to date again and be in partnership again?? With time, intention, self-compassion, clarity, boundaries, values, standards, and leaning into the work I needed to do to break my relationship patterns, nurture my childhood wounds, and move past my fears, doubts and myths about falling in love again. In other words:I focused fully on ME. I became the love of my own life.Then (and only then)  I called in my personTune in as I talk through my own personal journey of love and healing, and how it was the inspiration for my 6-month private coaching program - Beauty After Betrayal™ - A Six-Month Journey of Reclaiming & Rediscovering YouBefore you can really start creating amazing relationships, you have to do this work on yourself.  Embarking on this journey back to YOU will make you happier, whether you're single or in a relationship.  It will create such vastly positive change in your life.  So let's set you up for success.  You're so worth it!xoxo, Jenni

In case you haven't heard, I am on a mission to educate, activate, and liberate as many women as possible...especially those who are suffering from Betrayal Trauma.  In light of that mission, I have invited Sarah Morales to join me for this special episode. Sarah has been my coach, mentor, colleague and is one of my dearest friends. She's here with us this week because she's on a mission too - to help people increase and expand their understanding of what gaslighting is.  Sarah is a relationship coach, educator, facilitator, host of the soon to be released Deconstructing Gaslighting™ podcast, public speaker and gaslighting expert.  Join us as we break down real-life examples of gaslighting. We address not only the narcissistic gaslighting that happens with sex addicts, but also the small sneaky everyday examples of gaslighting that can happen anywhere in our lives.What a lot of people focus on when they think about gaslighting is what the other person does.But it's actually what happens inside of us and how we respond to it...when we give away our power...when we give away a part of ourselves.The good news is that we can learn how to not only recognize when we're being gaslighted, but we can also learn how to keep our grounding and hold onto our power and our belief systems when we find ourselves in those situations.Sarah has so much to share with us on this topic. Join us for this interesting and eye-opening conversation. I bet you'll learn something new along the way.  I know I did.xoxo, JenniConnect with Sarah -Learn more about Sarah and her coaching on her website.Get on the waitlist for her FREE Deconstructing Gaslighting workshop here.Find out more about all of Sarah's offerings here.Connect with Jenni -Jenni's Facebook community is a private group for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Jenni hosts a weekly live Sundays on both Instagram.Not sure where to start?  Schedule a free 30-minute consultation and figure it out together!

This week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal podcast is dedicated to this amazing woman I know named Molly Carroll.  Molly is a licensed therapist, coach, author, warrior, intuitive, and all-around magical creature. She has the ability to look deep inside you, identify how your core wound is blocking you, and help you shift it so that you can heal.  I was inspired to record this podcast after a conversation we had during a recent weekend retreat.  Molly told me that she truly resonated with the work that I do with women around reclaiming their healthy sexuality.  However, she did not identify as having experienced sexual betrayal trauma or abuse.  After mulling this over,  my response to Molly is I have come to believe that we ALL have betrayal trauma. Even if you don't identify with ever having been cheated on, having a partner who is a sex addict, or having been sexually abused, you have undoubtedly had experience with betrayal.  “Betrayal trauma, at the most basic level, is when a person or institution that we rely on for safety and security betrays our trust.” ~ Jenni RochelleOf course, you can take that term and apply it to sexual betrayal.  You can also apply it to the betrayal people feel from their government, schools, families and, especially, the religious institutions that we are raised in.More importantly, however, is the fact that almost all of us have committed the greatest betrayal of all, which is that of self-betrayal.Join me as I break down what betrayal trauma really is, the different ways we might experience it, how it's a symptom of an even bigger issue (hint: it has to do with our sexuality!!), and how we can break free from the chains of betrayal that hold us back from becoming our most authentic, free, audacious, sexy version of ourselves.xoxo, Jenni Connect with Jenni -Jenni's Facebook community is a private group for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.Not sure where to start?  Schedule a free 30-minute consultation and let's figure it out together!

For this week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal podcast, we have something a little bit different for you!Our special guest is Rebecca Ray, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist-Associate, and the owner of Ray Family Therapy, based in the cities of San Marcos and Houston in Texas.She has specialized training in EMDR, which is so helpful when you're healing from betrayal trauma (I've had lots of EMDR myself!), because it helps us resolve anger, anxiety, depression and PTSD.  Rebecca is also a C-SAT (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist) Candidate, so she treats sex addiction and loves working with couples using the Gottman Method Couples Therapy.  She is serious about helping couples reignite passion, sexual intimacy and equality in their relationship, and I've invited Rebecca here today to share her wisdom with us.In this informative episode, Rebecca helps us answer important questions like:“What does early couples therapy look like?” “How do I know my partner is getting better?” “How can I learn to trust them again?” “What does the betrayed partner need to be watching out for?” “How can the person who has betrayed their partner help reassure them and find safety and stability in the marriage again?” “Couples therapy in early recovery can actually help couples navigate the addiction recovery process and transparency, which is a pretty complicated process particularly in the beginning.”  ~ Rebecca Ray I hope you enjoy this week's episode! xoxo, JenniConnect with Rebecca Ray:Visit Ray Family Therapy's website and book a free consultation here.Learn more about Gottman Method Couples Therapy here.Connect with Ray Family Therapy on Facebook or Instagram. Connect with Jenni: Jenni's Facebook community is a private group for women reclaiming their lives after betrayal.Catch Jenni's weekly Beauty After Betrayal live show on Instagram.Not sure where to start?  Schedule a free 30-minute consultation and figure it out together! 

Hold onto your seats for this week's episode of the Beauty After Betrayal Podcast because it is an incredible arc of triumph and comeback! A dear client of mine, Sandy (last name omitted for anonymity), is here to share her incredible story.Sandy had two different D-Days (Discovery Days).  The first time was when her twin daughters were 3 years old and a Google search autofilled to “Ashley Madison”, a hook-up networking site for married men.Years later, in 2019, when she discovered pictures on his phone that weren't intended for her, she realized that she was finally ready to face the truth.“I stayed for the exact amount of time I had to stay until I could go.”Since her decision to divorce her husband, Sandy has been in an incredible process of rediscovery with her life and her sexuality that she has found both fun and freeing.Jenni and Sandy discuss the iron cage that women live in with sexuality, and the expectations of passive receptivity that restrains women sexually.Sandy shares her own journey in letting go of “what I think they might want to hear that I like” and embracing being upfront and honest about what she does like.  “It's really helped me work a lot on boundaries, honesty, speaking my truth, standing up for myself, showing up for myself...”Join our conversation and listen to how Sandy went from feeling broken and betrayed to reclaiming her whole, beautiful, sexy, fabulous, wonderful self.   All because she showed up, invested in herself, and did the work. She learned to say YES to herself.  xoxo, JenniP.S.  Ready for Your Own Big Sexy Comeback Story?Jenni's 8-week, private group mentorship - Your Big Sexy Comeback - is starting soon.  Say "yes"  to your own journey towards big love, great sex and a healthy, beautiful life.  Space is limited - Sign Up at www.yourbigsexycomeback.com Today! 

This week's episode could be subtitled “Why I'm So Obsessed with Sex.”Besides the obvious reasons that it's fun and feels good (!), sex is an important aspect to the work that I do with women who are healing from betrayal trauma.The deeper I dive into my own healing, it becomes more and more clear that there is a strong link between my own sexual betrayal trauma and my limiting beliefs and judgments that I hold about sex, sexuality, and what it means to be a woman.We can go through our lives and do so much healing and self-growth, but the deepest shit we really have to dive into is how we think about sex.  Rooting out your own unconscious beliefs about it is so fucking (wink wink) critical to your healing and personal growth.I don't believe you can be your most fully actualized self that you were born to be until you reconnect with your body, your pussy (yeah, I said it!), and your sexuality.That's why sexy matters.  And it's why I am so excited to be offering my wildly successful program Your Big Sexy Comeback again this Fall!  I'm making the big announcement this week, but you, dear podcast listener. are getting the inside scoop!Click here  to learn more about this 8-week private group mentorship to Embrace Your Right to Great Sex, Big Love and a Beautiful, Healthy Life After Betrayal.I believe that part of what I'm here to do is to liberate women from the shame and judgment we carry about our bodies and our sexuality. When women come to me their worlds have been shattered.  But the beauty in that is they get to rebuild.  When you allow the process to transform you...that's the golden moment.  And part of that transformation is discovering what sexuality means to you and you alone.I hope you'll join me for today's podcast episode.If you're ready to rebuild your life and your sexuality after betrayal, then I look forward to helping you make YOUR Big Sexy Comeback.xoxo, JenniConnect with Jenni:The Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal.Jenni's Facebook community is for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.

In light of the heartbreaking recent legislation governing women's bodies in Texas, I dedicate this episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast to women everywhere.When I admitted on social media that I had been scream singing & sobbing all day after the hateful and aggressive anti-abortion/anti-woman laws that went into effect in Texas last week, one of my most favorite human beings, Kristy, answered the call and agreed to join me for the conversation in this week's podcast episode.  Kristy is a powerhouse of a mother. I have watched her fiercely mother two kids as they have come out on their own identity and sexual journeys and she is one of the most amazing humans I have ever known.In this episode, we talk about our heartbreak and our outrage over the new laws, and share our own intimate and vulnerable stories of our reproductive and sexual journeys.  It's time to put the shame behind us.  Join us as we break down Texas' abortion “heartbeat bill” and what it means for women in Texas and beyond. Let's humanize our stories.  Let's embolden women to share their stories.   Let's do our part to give ALL women a voice.xoxo, JenniConnect with Jenni's other free resources - The Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal.Jenni's Facebook community is for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.

In this episode, I'm talking with the amazing inspirational yoga teacher, wellness expert, and author Adell Bridges.   I know that it may seem like yoga is outside of the topics I usually talk about.  I can tell you for certain, however, that I would not have survived my experience with betrayal trauma without the support of my yoga teachers and yoga community.Many people who are dealing with trauma come to yoga to be in spaces and communities that are safe and healing.Adell and I talk about how yoga can be used for trauma recovery, and the importance of mindfulness, resilience and breathing through discomfort.We also agree that, in life, sometimes you just need to eat the cupcake.Enjoy the sweetness of this episode, dear Beauties.xoxo,JenniConnect with Adell:Learn more about her Move with Adell program and begin your free 7-day trial.Follow Adell on Instagram.Check out Adell's yoga videos & tips on her YouTube channel. Connect with Jenni:Get Free Resources!Access Jenni's FREE Guided Meditations designed to alleviate trauma symptoms!The Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal.Jenni's Facebook community is for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.

In this episode, I take on the classic question posed by The Clash, "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" And I'm also naming why it's so f**king hard to make that decision.Because I know.  I sat there in that agonizing place for so many months… for years!  And even after I thought I had decided, I would second-guess myself (i.e. “Maybe he's better now.”)I have come to realize that this is all part of the grief/bargaining process. It's completely normal.Very rarely have my clients had a simple and straightforward process of going through discovery, then jumping straight to washing their hands of the partnership.  Most of us go through a much more nuanced and complicated process, and that's what we talk about in this episode:Why we might choose to stay.Why we might choose to leave.Why it's so hard to decide.Why we change our mind multiple times throughout the process.And we can tell ourselves that we know how we would respond in such a moment, and be a little bit self-righteous about it, and even be a little judgmental about people who choose to stay in relationships after infidelity.  But you don't know how you're going to respond until it happens to you. Until you are faced with the full weight of what it means to disrupt your family and friendship circles.  To blow up your entire life.  I invite you to listen to this episode with curiosity and compassion.  For yourself.  For a loved one who might be struggling with this.  Let's dive into these murky waters together… see you there.xoxo, Jenni Connect with Jenni:Get Free Resources!Access Jenni's FREE Guided Meditations designed to alleviate trauma symptoms!The Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal.Jenni's Facebook community is for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.Connect with Jenni on Instagram.Not sure where to start?  Send me an email and let's figure it out together! 

This episode is a juicy one!  Gaelyn Rae Emerson is a relational trauma recovery coach with advanced training in couples relationships, divorce recovery, problematic sexual behavior and sex addiction induced trauma.  Gaelynn and I both trained under the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) and she came on the podcast to talk about her own previous betrayals and all the incredible nuggets of wisdom she's learned along the way.Her journey with sexual betrayal began when she returned from a three-week business trip and her first husband of five years told her that he'd fallen in love with a woman on the internet and wanted a divorce.  After her second marriage ended due to her husband's sex addiction and subsequent betrayals, she reflected a lot on her healing journey in between her two marriages.Now Gaelyn works with hundreds of women who are on their own healing journeys.  She divides her time between Minnesota where she coaches clients online through her private practice Women Ever After, and Florida where she's on staff at the CORE Relationship Recovery Center.  "The woman I am today would have made different choices but I did not become the woman I am today without making the choices I had made.”And what woman can't relate to that??  Join us and listen in.xoxo, JenniP.S. Gaelyn has three incredible opportunities coming up to work with her this month!  On August 12th, she will be starting three new cohorts for her signature divorce support group, Avenue D: Road to Debridement , which is Gaelyn's 12-week online coaching program for women whose relationships DON'T survive the traumatic impact of sexual betrayal.   Connect with Gaelyn:Website: www.womaneverafter.comContact: gaelynrae@womeneverafter.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/WomenEverAfter Connect with Jenni:Website: www.jennirochelle.comJenni's Facebook community is for women who are reclaiming their lives after betrayal trauma.Jenni hosts a weekly Beauty After Betrayal™ live show on Instagram. 

This is the one you have been waiting for!My sweet, sexy husband Jeff makes his debut appearance on the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast!This was the first time that I've had someone LIVE in the studio with me and I have to admit that it was weirdly intimate for me! Which, of course, I have to talk about during the show.You're going to want to make yourself a cup of tea and sit down in a comfy chair so that you can really allow yourself to absorb the sweetness of this episode.Jeff and I share openly about how we first met and my fears around opening up to him about my story...and how he was able to lovingly see me and accept me for who I was. We also talk about how I struggled to manage my nervous system as I learned to trust myself (and someone else) again.  All while he was learning how to care for me when I got triggered and how he manages to (mostly) not take it personally.We also make a plug for the bonus session on “What Men Really Want” that Jeff will be joining me for as part Your Big Sexy Comeback - my 8-week program for women who are ready to embrace their right (and reclaim their hope) for big love, great sex and a healthy, beautiful life!To read and register for Your Big Sexy Comeback, go to www.yourbigsexycomeback.comUntil next time, stay sexy! Xoxo, Jenni

Okay, sisters.  This is the episode where I ask you to name your fears, look them straight in the eyes and do the thing anyway ~ whatever the thing is that you are afraid to do!Join me as I go down the list of the most commonly occuring fears that I hear from my clients and that I experience myself as a survivor of sexual betrayal trauma.  These are the fears that keep us stuck, keep us from dating and from all the other big and wonderful things that we want for ourselves.  They are also what keeps us from choosing to make the investments that we need in ourselves.  I cover all the greatest hits including:How do I possibly ever trust someone else again? What if know one wants me because I'm too damaged or broken?Are there really any good men (or women) left out there?Spoiler Alert: All these fears are really rooted in whether we trust ourselves and something bigger than us.  Betrayal trauma shatters our belief system and often robs us of our faith.   It can also make us feel like we can't trust ourselves, our intuition or our bodies.  And learning to trust yourself again is the KEY to everything you want for yourself (and deserve).  I'm talking about all the good stuff like big love, great sex and a healthy, beautiful life! I know that you just want to have hope that you can find love again.  You want to trust yourself and know that you can trust others.  You want to reclaim your body and your sexuality.  You want to feel prepared for dating again  - even at your age!I got you.  I've been where you are.  I can help you get to the other side.  That's why I am hosting a free workshop called Worthy of MORE: Reclaim Your Authentic, Feminine Power & Stop Settling for Less in Love. It's happening on July 8th and you can read all about and sign up for it right here.  Over 220 women have already said, “YES!” to being Worthy of MORE.  Here's hoping that you do, too!Xoxo, Jenni

When I say to you that it is okay - even necessary - to give yourself permission to want more, how does that make you feel in your body? Do you soften and open to receive? Or do you immediately go into self-doubt and self-judgment and contract?  I make up that it's the latter.You are not alone.I believe that women are taught at a very early age that our needs are not as important as others and when I say others I really mean men.  We are trained to judge our worthiness on how well we are able to care for others and make other people happy. Right?This sets us up to deny our needs and our desires and to question and judge the idea of wanting MORE.  And for sure it sets us up to lose ourselves in our relationships and to base our worth on us being in relationship with someone else.  Is it any wonder that you've had such a hard time deciding whether to leave?Join me for this episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ podcast for a deep dive into why it is important for you to want MORE for yourself.   I'm just going to name it right here: Your being in a relationship with someone who has repeatedly lied to and manipulated you has resulted in you lowering the bar for how you deserve to be loved.  I am here to tell you that you are worthy of MORE.  WARNING: In this podcast, you will be asked to make a vow to never settle for less than you heart and soul desires.  I'm serious.  :) Because I believe this issue is so important, I am going to be hosting a free workshop called Worthy of MORE: Reclaim Your Authentic, Feminine Power & Stop Settling for Less in Love. It's happening on July 8th and you can read all about and sign up for it right here.  I sure hope to see you there!xoxo, Jenni

One of my goals for this podcast was to share with listeners the wisdom of what I refer to as “my choir of angels.”  Meaning, the amazing team of healers that I have relied on during my own healing and personal growth journey.Dr. Alex is most certainly one of my angels.I was so blessed to have found her at a pivotal time in my life.  She helped me get sober.  She helped care for me and my shattered nervous system as I was rocked by the discovery of my ex's sex addiction and our subsequent divorce.  I don't know what I would have done without her!Alejandra Carrasco, M.D. is a board certified physician, bestselling author, wife and mom of 3.  She has dedicated the last fifteen years to studying nutrition, integrative, preventative, and functional medicine.Dr. Alex founded Nourish Medicine in 2012, and is the bestselling author of Bloom: 7 Steps to Reclaim Your Health, Cultivate Your Desires, and Reignite Your Spark.Join Dr. Alex and me for an eye-opening conversation about  what happens to our bodies when we live with prolonged trauma.  The kind of trauma that one experiences as a result of being in a relationship with a sex addict or where there is sexual betrayal trauma. The impacts on our physical and mental health can be devastating.  Thank heavens Dr. Alex also has lots of good advice on how we can learn to care for ourselves.Thanks so much for listening! xoxo, JenniCONNECT WITH DR. ALEXWebsite: https://nourishmedicine.com/Contact or Make Appointment: https://nourishmedicine.com/contact/Purchase her best-selling book:  Bloom: 7 Steps to Reclaim Your Health, Cultivate Your Desires, and Reignite Your SparkCONNECT WITH JENNIAccess my free guided meditations designed to alleviate trauma symptoms! Download my free Betrayal Trauma GuidebookJoin my Facebook community for women reclaiming their lives after betrayalConnect with me @msjennirochelle  on Instagram

Oh, my goddess, I am so excited for my guest Christine Arylo, I don't know where to begin!!! Christine has been and continues to be one of the most profound coaches and mentors on my personal and professional journey. She taught me how to truly discover and embody my own superpowers and the art of slowing down. She is the first person I heard use the term “self-love.”Christine Arlo is the best selling author of many books that have personally touched me, such as Choosing ME Before WE: Every Woman's Guide To Life and Love  and her latest book, Overwhelmed and Over It: Embrace Your Power to Stay Centered and Sustained in a Chaotic World.Christine is a transformational leadership advisor, teacher, speaker, recognized worldwide for her work with women to make shifts happen – in the lives they lead, the work they do, and the world they wish to create. She believes that most people have not been given the tools, practices, and wisdom they need to thrive at this intense time, which is why she facilitates personal sustainability & wellness, mindfulness & meditation, and intuitive thinking & strategizing workshops, trainings, and programs. Christine is the founder of the Wisdom School “The Feminine Wisdom Way” and hosts her weekly podcast “Feminine Power Time” as a way to unplug from the craziness of the world, slow down the mind, and drop into their heart, where their true power, wisdom, and presence live.Christine is passionate about affecting multi-generational change and making the tools of personal development, self-awareness, and self-empowerment accessible to all people – across gender, race, and socio-economic backgrounds.I hope that you are inspired by our incredible conversation and Christine's feminine wisdom as I have been.  xoxo, Jenni CONNECT WITH CHRISTINEWebsite: https://christinearylo.com/Podcast: https://christinearylo.com/podcast/You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/user/SelfLoveStationInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/christinearylo/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinearylospeaks/ CONNECT WITH JENNIAccess my free guided meditations designed to alleviate trauma symptoms!Download my free Betrayal Trauma GuidebookJoin my Facebook community for women reclaiming their lives after betrayalConnect with me @msjennirochelle on Instagram

Shann Davis is a sex addiction and trauma specialist who lived through trauma and betrayal and now runs a ministry for other women. Shann's path is a path of faith-where there is no shame, only grace, and only redemption. She met her ex-husband at 14, started dating at 15, and was married at 20. At that age, she didn't recognize the signs of her husband. Shann shares her d-day (discovery day) story and the shock of her husband's betrayal. How did she find out? An accidental butt dial gave her a 5-minute bizarre glimpse into his conversation with "the other woman." You may identify with her 15-year struggle to save her marriage and "make it work"--no matter what the cost. On the other side of the fight of her life, Shann has lived through life-altering illnesses, including breast cancer, rheumatoid arthritis, a uterine tumor, blot clots in her brain, and multiple surgeries.  I related to her story of losing herself, focusing solely on him and saving the marriage, while constantly asking herself. "What did I do wrong?" and "Why am I not enough?" As you listen to today's episode, remember-Betrayal is not about you. Betrayal is not your fault. Betrayal is not about needing to lose 10 pounds, or needing to change.Is someone in your life in a relationship where there is betrayal?Love them enough to listen. Show empathy. Point them to truth. Trust the process. Referenced in this episode:The Body Keeps the Score: Bessel Van der Kolk Connect with Shann Email her directly at soajofhope@gmail.comLearn about her small group at Lake Pointe Church, Rockwall Campus.  Connect with Jenni Access my free guided meditations designed to alleviate trauma symptoms! Download my free Betrayal Trauma GuidebookJoin my Facebook community for women who are reclaiming their lives after betrayalConnect with me @msjennirochelle on Instagram Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com

I'm curious how many of you identified with Daphne in Bridgerton when she realized she'd been duped by her husband about sex? Nobody (i.e. her mom) had ever talked to her about sex. So, Simon was able to manipulate her into believing that their sex life was “normal.”Even though it may seem so ridiculous that ANYONE could be so uninformed or that naive...but really?!  We have a problem in our culture of not wanting to talk about HEALTHY sex.  Sure - we love to talk about unhealthy sex and are constantly being bombarded with images of overly sexualized and objectified women. But try asking  your average married couple what their sex life is like and they will likely run for the hills.Also...I'm guessing that if you've been in a relationship with a sex addict that you may have resonated with Daphne.  You, too, have come to realize that you have no idea what a healthy sex life looks like. I sure didn't!  Even after I got remarried at 48 - I still didn't know.  SO, (trigger warning) in this episode we are going to talk about sexual healing!  We will laugh.  We will cry.  We will sweat uncomfortably together as we sort through the lingering effects of sexual betrayal trauma, societal expectations and religious indoctrination. Because dammit - we deserve to have a healthy (and hot!) sex life after betrayal.Xoxo, Jenni Connect with me and get my free resources - Download my free Betrayal Trauma GuidebookJoin my Facebook community for women who are reclaiming their lives after betrayalConnect with me @msjennirochelle on InstagramNot sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com

Every time I talk with a woman on the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast, it feels like a jewelry box I get to open and see what's inside! In this episode, I speak with Roxanne Kennedy Granata, a specialist in navigating through betrayal trauma. We talk through her "d-day" or discovery day of her partner's betrayal, as a newly married 22-year-old, and after only six months of marriage. We discuss her journey after discovery, including her partner's skyrocketing addiction and the lying, deception, gaslighting he used to maintain his double life. Roxanne discusses what it took for her to ultimately leave the relationship--setting boundaries, the grief, and, finally, the lifesaving relief. After the trials of her first marriage, her gift is remarriage to a good man who chooses to heal every day."People think you should avoid divorce at all costs, but it is just not the truth. Divorce can save you, and it can save your children. It can show them a better way. It shows them that we are important. We don't sacrifice everything that we are for the possibility that somebody might save themselves later." --Roxanne Kennedy GranataRoxanne is the author of Cutting Ties: Healing Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict. Roxanne hosts the "Choose In" Podcast and is a motivational speaker with over 15 years of experience. She mentors those ready to uncover what is holding them back.  Connect with RoxanneCheckout Roxanne's Podcast: https://www.roxannekennedygranata.com/podcastRead Roxanne's Book: Cutting Ties: Healing From Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict https://www.roxannekennedygranata.com/book******Get the first chapter of her book free! https://products.roxannekennedygranata.com/first-chapter-of-cutting-ties Connect with Roxanne on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roxannekennedygranata/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RKennedygranata/ Connect with JenniGet My Free Resources!Download my free Betrayal Trauma Guidebook  - https://jennirochelle.com/betrayal-trauma-guidebook/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma -www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/Connect with me on Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/msjennirochelle/: Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com

TRIGGER WARNING: In this episode, I explore the conflicting, confusing messages in the media around sex addiction which have been exacerbated over the last few weeks with the March spa shootings in Atlanta.  We explore the interrelated issues of shame, sex, addiction, race, trauma, and religion. In Atlanta, these issues intertwine in a messy, convoluted way that manifested in a horrific hate crime and eight deaths. After the shootings, law enforcement tried to explain that the shootings were not racially motivated but due to the suspect's sex addiction.When we don't heal our trauma, we continue to express it. Blame, shame, scapegoating and gaslighting comes from all sides--pastors, priests, therapists, and in this case-- law enforcement.RESOURCES Resmaa Menakem: https://www.resmaa.com/Robin DiAngelo: https://www.robindiangelo.com/Dr. Omar Minwalla & The Institute for Sexual Health: https://theinstituteforsexualhealth.com/BOOKS & ARTICLESMy Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem: https://www.resmaa.com/merch-2White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo: https://www.robindiangelo.com/publications/The Secret Sexual Basement by Dr. Omar Minwalla: https://theinstituteforsexualhealth.com/ish-articles/Other questions about research or reading in this field? Email me here:  jenni@jennirochelle.com LET'S CONNECTGet my free resources:** The Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal - www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.com ** My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal traumawww.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/ ** Connect with me on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/msjennirochelle/

In this episode, I talked with one of my personal "choir of Angels." My friend, colleague, and former coach, Sarah Morales. Sarah is a Certified Professional Coach, Certified Professional Relationship Coach, and an APSATS-Certified Partners Coach. Sarah has years of experience working with partners of sex addicts in both private and group programs. Sarah's number one passion is teaching about gaslighting as a form of emotional abuse. In our wide-ranging conversation, we discuss values, embracing discomfort, learning to listen to and love your voice, and demanding that others love you well.We begin with her journey-the day she discovered her husband's sex addiction and betrayal after 14 years of marriage. Her d-day (discovery day) started with the FBI in her front yard...and doesn't get much better from there!. Sarah talked about her recovery from spiritual abuse and breaking free from the constructs that kept her from valuing and fully loving herself. We take a deep dive into "gaslighting 101," her role as a gaslighting specialist, and her unique definition of gaslighting. "Gaslighting is when a person or a group of people, through covert behaviors, convince another person that what they perceive, believe, think, or feel is inaccurate or invalid."I know you will value our conversation just as much as I did. Sarah and I love to work with clients together. You can learn more about the work we do together in Two-Hearts Coaching: https://www.jennirochelle.com/twoheartscoachingxoxo, Jenni CONNECT WITH SARAHEmail: sarah.morales.life.coach@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.sarahmoralescoaching.net/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahlmg/ CONNECT WITH JENNIGet my free resources: ** The Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal - www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.com** My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma -www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/** Connect with me on Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/msjennirochelle/ 

In this episode, I talk about the third phase of recovering from Betrayal Trauma. Learning to trust yourself. Becoming the love of your life. Prioritizing your healing, and reclaiming and rediscovering yourself, your values and what brings you joy. In this episode, we discuss the elements of my signature coaching program, exclusively for women who have suffered betrayal trauma and partners of sex addicts, Beauty After Betrayal.Nurturing Somatic resilienceUncovering the Essensual YouUnpacking Your Relational PatternReconnecting with Play & PleasureClaiming Your Comeback StoryVisioning the New, Beautiful YouBefore diving into this episode, go back and listen to Episode #4  How We Heal From Betrayal Trauma - Part 1.If you or someone you love needs some detailed resources for setting boundaries and rebuilding your life after betrayal, check out my resources below.  I love you all,JenniADDITIONAL RESOURCESHave you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don't know where to start?Get my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect:www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com

Jeni's story exemplifies God's ability to redeem any situation. Her healing journey has included God, therapy, yoga, art, books, mindfulness, meditation, 12 steps, friendships, support groups, and more. During our conversation, she details her 17-year healing journey, including cultivating the willingness to do anything to heal and awakening to self-trust, intuition, and self-compassion. For those of you suffering from feelings of loneliness, shame, guilt, and isolation, Jeni's message of healing through community, sisterhood, and vulnerability will feel like a deep breath of courage.I can't wait to share our conversation with you!I love you all,Jenni CONNECT WITH JENI BROCKBANKEmail: betrayaltraumasos@gmail.comWebsite: www.betrayaltraumasos.comInstagram:   @betrayal_trauma_sosFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/BetrayalTraumaSOSPodcast: The Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast is on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify and more.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Have you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don't know where to start?Get my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect: www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com 

According to Judith Herman's book, Trauma & Recovery, recovery from trauma occurs in three stages: Stage 1 - SafetyStage 2 - Remembrance & MourningStage 3 - ReconnectionIn this episode, we take a deep dive into creating safety and boundaries-an absolute essential first step in recovery after betrayal. When you experience trauma, your world has been robbed of protection. The ground has been ripped out from beneath you, and you might struggle to find stability, security, and safety in your life. Boundaries create safety. Refusing to tolerate destructive behaviors and gaslighting is vital for creating safety. In the early stages after betrayal, you're triggered all the time. You're hypervigilant, continually thinking about what you learned during discovery. Over some time, boundaries can start to lessen these triggers.If you or someone you love needs some detailed resources for setting boundaries and rebuilding your life after betrayal, check out my resources below.  I love you all,JenniADDITIONAL RESOURCES Have you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don't know where to start?Get my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect: www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com 

Today, I am so excited to introduce you to someone near and dear to my heart. Natalie Turner is a relational living coach and breathwork facilitator. I call her one of my "Dreamgirls." She a member of my recovery group and with me every step of my recovery journey, and is the ex-partner of a sex addict. Today we learn her story. She discovered her husband was unfaithful and acting outside of the marriage on election night 2016--her personal trauma fused with our collective trauma. Our conversation goes deep into her journey--including anger, verbal abuse, infidelity, betrayal, and injustice. And we emerge on the other side. We focus on who she became because of her healing journey. She credits herself as being among the most important things she has ever done for herself and the best thing that ever happened to her. We discuss the healing that occurs through intimate friendships with women in the community of women. Natalie facilitates group containers for women+ wanting to explore remembering intimacy and connection with all the parts of themselves and cultivating friendship beyond the superficial with other women+, as we shed "good girl" conditioning together. She offers facilitation/coaching, breathwork, hypnosis….all the things."Enjoy this healing, transformational conversation.I love you all,JenniCONNECT WITH NATALIEEmail: natalie@nataliecturner.comWebsite: nataliecturner.comInstagram: @nataliecturnerThe Spotify playlist that got Natalie through that phase of her life: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4NWSQTKFkK8VYJ5wD9Qi56?si=ca8f673bd7254d51ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Have you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don't know where to start?Get my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect: www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com 

During the years after I discovered my partner was a sex addict, I was desperate to find someone-anyone-who understood what I was going through, and the trauma I experienced.Betrayal trauma refers to anytime a person or institution that we rely on for safety and security betrays our trust. The term was originally used to describe the experience of children who were abused by their caregivers.  These days, however, the term has been adopted by those whose lives have been traumatized by the discovery of a spouse's betrayal.  In and around 2009, there was a number of clinicians who started to see that the behaviors exhibited by partners of sex addicts that had previously resulted in partners being stuck with the labels of co-addict, codependent, love addict, enabling, etc… those behaviors were actually symptoms of PTSD.We now know that as high as ¾ of partners of sex addicts report symptoms of PTSD similar to someone who has experienced a violent assault. Remember, You are not alone. In our next episode, I share another survivor sister's story.  She is one of my “go-to” people and a member of my own recovery group, Natalie Turner.I can't wait to see you there,JenniADDITIONAL RESOURCES If you, or someone you love has experienced Betrayal Trauma, or is the partner of a sex-addict, there are resources to help:https://www.apsats.org/APSATS: The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialistshttps://www.apsats.org/resourcesPeer-reviewed research articles that are relevant to the experience or clinical treatment of partners of sex addicts.https://www.apsats.org/trainingMPTM: Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model TrainingGet my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect: www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com

The day I discovered my husband was a sex addict, I bailed him out of jail. From there, it gets worse. It was the beginning of a 3-year journey of recovery from emotional abuse, gaslighting, and the PTSD that partners of sex addicts frequently suffer from. From personal pain, I found my purpose as a transformational coach for women recovering from betrayal trauma.   I am here to support you on your journey. I love you all,Jenni ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Have you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don't know where to start?Get my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect: www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Have you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don't know where to start?Get my free resources:www.betrayaltraumaguidebook.comThe Betrayal Trauma Guidebook is packed with great information on how to reclaim and recover your life after discovering his sex addiction or betrayal. https://www.jennirochelle.com/thelovelettersEvery week I share what's on my mind and in my heart, focusing on messages of hope and healing.  Work with me:www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayalBeauty After Betrayal is my signature, private coaching program.  Join me on this six-month journey of reclaiming and rediscovering YOU.https://www.jennirochelle.com/work-with-meI offer both private and group coaching programs for women recovering from betrayal trauma.  Let's connect: www.facebook.com/groups/beautyafterbetrayal/My Facebook community for women who are reclaiming and rediscovering their lives after experiencing betrayal trauma.@msjennirochelleconnect with me on Instagram!Not sure where to start? Not to worry. Let's figure it out together. Email me at jenni@jennirochelle.com