The BPD Bunch

Can someone with BPD feel other people's emotions so intensely that it actually starts getting in the way of empathy?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja continue their conversation about BPD and empathy by exploring the difference between emotionally feeling with someone and actually understanding what they need. They share their top tips, lessons and skills they use to navigate empathy more effectively.In case you're new here, this season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we'll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and empathy* Cognitive vs affective empathy* Emotional mirroring* Rejection sensitivity* Social paranoia* Problem solving vs listening* Emotion regulation and empathy* “Feeling everything” with BPD* The empathy trap* Learning to ask what people needIf you've ever absorbed other people's emotions, assumed you knew what someone needed, taken neutrality personally, or felt emotionally overwhelmed in relationships, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻

Can someone with BPD care about other people and still behave in profoundly unempathetic ways?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja explore the uncomfortable reality that Borderline Personality Disorder can sometimes make people so emotionally reactive, hypervigilant, and consumed by fear that they stop accurately understanding or trusting other people's emotions, intentions, and experiences.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we'll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and empathy* Social paranoia in BPD* Misreading neutrality as rejection* Reassurance seeking* Fear of abandonment* Mind-reading and projection* Why emotional overwhelm can reduce empathyIf you've ever convinced yourself someone secretly hated you, struggled to trust reassurance, replayed social interactions for hours, or felt overwhelmed by other people's emotions, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them check them out:Part 1Part 2⸻

Do you struggle to know what you want, stick with a path, or trust your own choices?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys and Solène continue their discussion of BPD and self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), exploring how goals, values, identity, relationships, and recovery can all affect the way we build a life.This episode is for anyone with BPD who has ever wondered why it can feel so hard to know who you are, what you want, or where you're going.We talk about:* BPD and self-direction* changing goals, values, and interests* favorite people and life decisions* identity, emptiness, and sense of self* perfectionism, recovery, and self-acceptance* learning how to follow through without getting trapped* finding direction while still allowing yourself to changeThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.Follow Xannie and Solene's music journey  ⁨@Nxi-Sol⁩  In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. ⸻

What does BPD actually feel like from the inside?In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, meet our new cast member, Justin, a musician navigating life with borderline personality disorder.In this episode, we talk about: • What it was like getting diagnosed with BPD, and why it felt both relieving and complicated • The reality that understanding yourself does not automatically make things easier • What BPD felt like for him internally, including how he describes “living off his amygdala” • His experience with therapy, and why finding the right therapist matters • The role of creativity and music, including why it is not always healing • How music can bring you back into past emotional states • Navigating rejection, identity, and self-worth in the music industry • Learning boundaries, self-compassion, and the power of saying noIf you've ever felt like finally having an answer didn't change how hard things still feel, this conversation will probably resonate.

What happens when BPD affects your goals, career choices, and sense of direction in life?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys, and Solène talk about self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders.We explore:• why people with BPD may struggle to stick with one job or career• constantly changing direction and starting over• tying your identity to work and what happens when that falls apart• being influenced by other people's goals or expectations• the belief that if it's “right,” it should feel easy• how self-direction connects to identity and recoveryIf you've ever asked yourself “what am I doing with my life?” and felt like the answer keeps changing, this episode is for you.This is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A⸻

How do you actually build a sense of self with BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja continue the conversation on identity, this time focusing on what's helped us move toward a more stable sense of self. Still through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), we're looking at identity as something you can actively shape over time.If you've ever felt empty, disconnected, or like you're constantly reinventing yourself… this is the part where we talk about what starts to change that.We talk about:• how chronic emptiness and dissociation connect to identity• relying on relationships or external validation to define who you are• the difference between emptiness and boredom (and why that matters)• finding purpose, values, and small anchors that make you feel more “real”• learning who you are without labeling yourself as “broken”• building identity through creativity, feedback, and lived experience• integrating different parts of yourself instead of rejecting them• why identity takes time and doesn't form all at onceThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.(In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. )⸻

What does identity instability's actually feel like in BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja, start looking at identity through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD). It's a way of understanding BPD that focuses more on patterns and functioning, not just labels.If you've ever had that “who even am I?” moment… yeah. This is that episode.We talk about: • what it's like to feel like you don't have a solid sense of self • why you might feel like you don't know who you are • masking and becoming whoever you need to be to avoid rejection • losing yourself in relationships, jobs, or even your diagnosis • when BPD starts to feel like your whole identity • how identity struggles show up in everyday lifeThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A⸻

What does BPD actually look like in real life, and what does recovery really take? In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Megan shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, including identity struggles, painful relationships, self-deception, emotional chaos, and the communication skills that helped her heal. This is an honest conversation about BPD recovery, relationships, truth, and learning how to feel seen and heard.In this episode, we talk about: • What BPD actually felt like in everyday life • Why relationships can feel impossible with BPD • The role of self-deception in BPD • What it means to “stop lying to yourself” • A communication skill that helped improve relationships • Why healing from BPD takes longer than people expect • How pain can become something you use, not just survive

Hey…This isn't the video we planned for today.This past week, I lost my dog. And I needed a little more time than I expected to get back on my feet.I thought about just skipping this upload entirely, but there was something in this experience that felt important to share. Especially when it comes to what recovery from BPD actually looks like in real life.There's this idea that recovery means things won't hurt as much anymore. And I've found that it's not exactly that simple. A lot of emotional contexts can and do change drastically in recovery, and it's possible to get to a point that feels emotionally stable most of the time.But one of the universal human truths is that if you care a lot about someone or some creature, losing them will be painful. No amount of recovery will erase the grief process. And there's nothing abnormal or disordered about you if you feel the pain of loss.So this video is a bit different from the usual, it's just where I'm at right now and something I didn't think we talk about enough.Thank you for being here, seriously. I'll be back to our regular episodes next week.If you do want the more in-depth version of what's been going on, I shared that over on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/i-had-to-put-my-155040984(this one is available to free members as well!)❤️ Xannie_____

So… what even counts as “BPD” anymore?Last week, we explored how the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD) moves away from strict categories. This week, we're taking it further:What does BPD actually look like in this model, and do you even need the label at all?We break down the core of BPD through self and interpersonal functioning, how traits shape the “borderline” pattern, and why diagnoses like BPD and NPD might not be as separate as people think. If you've ever felt like the DSM didn't fully capture your experience, this might hit differently.This is Part 2 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe to see what these traits actually look like from a lived experience perspective!

What if Borderline Personality Disorder isn't just a checklist of symptoms?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, we explore the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), a framework that shifts how we understand BPD from a set of categories to patterns of functioning, severity, and relationships.Joined by leading clinicians in the field, we break down what's changing, why it matters, and how this model could reshape diagnosis, treatment, and stigma.This is Part 1 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe for Part 2 where we break down what BPD actually looks like under this model.

What happens when grief, trauma, and misdiagnosis collide, and it turns out to be BPD?Shaharin shares her story of being sexually assaulted, losing her marriage, struggling with rejection sensitivity, and finally receiving a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) diagnosis after years of confusion.We talk about:• Being misdiagnosed with grief instead of BPD• Emotional abuse after a mental health diagnosis• Rejection sensitivity and losing long-term friendships• Dating again after divorce with BPD• DBT therapy and real recovery• Turning intense emotions into creativity and purposeIf you've ever felt “too much,” misunderstood, or ashamed of how deeply you feel, this episode is for you.BPD recovery is possible. And this conversation proves it.

In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie and Carys chat with Katja about publishing her first book “Sorry, My Mental Illness Isn't Sexy Enough for You”, going straight for the parts of BPD people never say out loud: shame, “unsexy” symptoms, misdiagnosis, self-sabotage, and why BPD can look totally different from person to person (quiet vs loud presentations, comorbidities, and stigma).If you've ever felt like “I don't look like the BPD stereotype”… this one might feel like a hug.Here's a quote from co-cauthor Kay on why she wrote the book:"Sorry my mental illness isn't sexy enough for you, started out as the title of a blog I wanted to write after witnessing first-hand the difficulties of having mental illness, lack of support and the prevalence of poor treatment. Naturally, I wanted to make a difference but being unwell, combined with my human nature of not being a starter finisher, it lived as an idea in my head for a while. Then came along came Katja with this amazing idea of launching our own mental health project using the name, which is the website we know and love today. If you had told me our little project would be as successful as it has been and that we would be publishing our first book because of it, I would have laughed, but here we are. I'm so incredibly lucky to have been given this opportunity to achieve my wildest dream, and to achieve it with my best friend. Asking why I wrote the book is multifaceted, since the age of 14 I have been involved in Mental Health Activism with the purpose of reducing suffering in people who experience mental health difficulties. I raised awareness in a variety of projects and focused on bringing together people with lived experience and services to work together to improve mental health services. I wanted the book to share my story so that others do not feel alone, and so that I could provide understanding and hope, and to talk about ways people can have agency over their own recovery. Mental illness can sometimes be seen as a moral failing, especially the ‘unsexy ones' that we spend our days challenging. I absolutely feel called to break down this dangerous concept that divides people and communities. I didn't write the book to be cathartic, but I think the process has provided relief in some ways – taking painful and difficult experiences and turning them into something that can help others."Buy the Book

What actually happens when a relationship involving Borderline Personality Disorder ends...from the exes' perspective?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie sits down with Katja, Raf, and their former partners, John and Danni - who are still in each other's lives - to talk honestly about breakups, impulsivity, communication breakdowns, fear of abandonment, and what recovery actually looks like after the relationship ends. This conversation explores:– What ex-partners noticed (and didn't notice) about BPD symptoms– When “normal” behavior crosses into something harmful– Why some breakups stay amicable, and others don't– The difference between blame and responsibility– How insight, accountability, and communication change outcomesIf you live with BPD, or have loved someone who does, this episode offers nuance, compassion, and reality, not stereotypes.UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month!

The holidays can hit different when you're living with Borderline Personality Disorder.In this impromptu holiday episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette and Jack talk honestly about the parts of the season that are rarely acknowledged; financial stress, loneliness, family dynamics, oversharing, feeling “off” at gatherings, and the quiet grief of holidays not looking the way you wish they did.We also share what's actually helped us get through it: neutral responses when people ask how you're doing, finding small moments of joy, community rituals, opposite action, and learning how to stay present without forcing “holiday cheer.”If you've ever thought, “Why is this so hard for me when everyone else seems fine?” this conversation is for you.

It's BINGO TIME!! Xannie, André, Solène, and Katja use a bingo game as a vehicle to share personal recovery wins, experiences, and practical skills that have helped them navigate the complexities of BPD. Don't miss this opportunity to learn, heal, and celebrate small victories in the recovery journey! Hit that subscribe button and turn on notifications for more insightful content!

Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday. Xannie, Carys, Céline, Jack, Darren, and Solène share personal experiences, revealing the challenges that come with maintaining self-care routines amidst the emotional turmoil of BPD. Whether you're a person with BPD or a loved one seeking to understand, this episode is packed with relatable insights and powerful discussions. Discover what self-care truly means, the obstacles we face, and how to foster compassion over judgment in our journeys. Don't forget to hit like, subscribe, and turn on notifications for more transformative content

In our last episode of season 6, Xannie, Carys, Céline, Jack, Darren, and Solène discuss the complexities of self-care for those living with Borderline Personality Disorder. The Bunch share personal stories, challenges, and strategies that reveal the often misunderstood relationship between self-care and BPD. Whether you're struggling with symptoms or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and a community of understanding. Don't miss out on the wisdom shared as we explore how to prioritize yourself without guilt. Like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our journey together!Friday we'll be back to share some of the aspects of self-care that we still struggle with. Hit that subscribe button to stay connected!

Xannie and Katja hear from special guest, Nasiba, who shares her harrowing journey of trauma, self-discovery, and healing as someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). From childhood abuse to the struggles of adulthood, her candid storytelling reveals how cultural perceptions of mental health can complicate recovery. Join us as we explore the emotional rollercoaster of BPD, discuss self-destructive behaviors, and celebrate the journey toward self-acceptance and forgiveness. This episode is not just for those living with BPD but also for friends and family seeking to understand. Don't miss the insights that could change lives!

Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday, Xannie, Jay, André, Georgette and Katja sdiscuss practical tips for creating effective routines, the importance of external accountability, and how to balance chaos with calm. Thanks again to our BPD Besties on Patreon for voting on this topic and joining us behind the scenes during filming! We always have a blast with you.Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with insights that can make a real difference. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our journey together!More on what Katja said about habits in 66 days: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-does-it-take-to-form-a-habit#:~:text=Depending%20on%20what%20it%20is,help%20to%20develop%20new%20onesMay 21st we'll be back to talk about BPD & Structure. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

THANK YOU to our BPD Besties on Patreon for voting on this topic and joining us behind the scenes during filming! We always have a blast with you.In this episode, Xannie, Jay, André, Georgette and Katja share personal stories, struggles, and insights about the impact of BPD on their ability to maintain a structured life. The Bunch cover both extremes; the difficulties that come from being overly rigid with structure, as well as the struggles to maintain any structure at all.Whether you're battling BPD yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with relatable experiences and valuable advice that may just change your perspective. Don't miss out on this emotional journey filled with laughter, hard truths, and important takeaways. Check out the shortcut to Lena's intro video to see what Xannie was referencing!Friday we'll be back to share our top tips for maintaining structure. Hit that subscribe button to stay connected!May 21st we'll be back to talk about BPD & Structure. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

In this minisode, Xannie, Carys, André, and Katja share personal stories and insights that reveal how a lack of boundaries can lead to emotional turmoil and self-destructive behavior. Are you struggling with relationships or feeling overwhelmed by your emotions? This episode is packed with wisdom and real-life experiences that can help you understand the critical role boundaries play in your mental health. Don't miss out – subscribe now and turn on notifications for more enlightening discussionsMay 14th we'll be back with our PATRON'S VOTE Episode, on BPD & Structure! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday Xannie, Carys, André, and Katja share their personal revelations and experiences, exploring the hidden triggers that lead to self-destructive behaviors. The Bunch discuss how moments of clarity can spark meaningful change and the importance of recognizing when we are our own worst enemies. Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement. Don't miss out on the chance to better understand yourself or your loved ones in this journey of healing and self-acceptance. Hit that subscribe button and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode!May 14th we'll be back with our PATRON'S VOTE Episode, on BPD & Structure! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

In this candid episode, Xannie, Carys, André and Katja discuss the struggle of self-sabotage faced by many living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The Bunch share their personal stories and experiences, exploring the emotional turmoil that leads to self-destructive behaviors. Discover how these patterns impact relationships, careers, and self-worth. If you or someone you care about is navigating the complexities of BPD, this episode is a must-watch. Hit that subscribe button for more insights and support in your journey toward healing!Friday we'll be back to talk about how we've learned to recognize self-sabotaging behavior. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you can join us as we unravel these captivating stories!May 14th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Structure. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Join Xannie, Georgette, and Katja as they tackle common clichés like "people with BPD can't maintain relationships" and "BPD means you're selfish." Through candid conversation, they explore the nuances of living with BPD, the impact of trauma, and the importance of treatment. Whether you're struggling with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode aims to shed light on the complexities of the disorder and debunk harmful myths. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on all things BPD!

Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday Mo, Hak Ja, Xannie and André discuss the borderline personality disorder (BPD) traits they observe in TV characters Lila West from Dexter and Jessica from Jessica Jones. The Bunch share how they relate to these characters, revealing how their struggles reflect real-life experiences of those living with BPD. Whether you're navigating your own journey with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with relatable moments, emotional insights, and a candid discussion about the impact of media representations on our understanding of mental illness. Don't miss out on a chance to connect and share your thoughts! Hit that subscribe button for more enlightening conversations!May 7th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Self Sabotage. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Join Xannie, André, Hak Ja and Mo as we explore the complex characters of Anakin Skywalker from Star Wars and Jinx from Arcane through the lens of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). We dive into their emotional struggles, impulsive behaviors, and the devastating impact of their relationships. This two-part series not only highlights the traits of BPD as depicted in popular culture but also offers relatable insights for those affected by similar challenges. Whether you're struggling with BPD yourself or supporting someone who is, this discussion is packed with empathy, understanding, and a deep connection to the characters we love. Friday we'll be back to talk about Lila West from Dexter and Jessica from Jessica Jones. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you can join us as we unravel these captivating stories!May 7th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Self Sabotage. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

In this heartfelt episode of BPD Brunch, we dive into the unique challenges faced by stay-at-home moms living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Xannie chats with Georgette and Mo about their personal experiences, discuss the intense emotions that accompany motherhood, and explore the importance of community, support, and self-care. If you've ever felt lonely, overwhelmed, or misunderstood as a parent, this episode is for you. Discover practical advice on managing your emotions, strengthening relationships, and understanding the impact of BPD on parenting. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell for more insights and support on your journey!

Join Xannie, and educators Katja and Georgette as they share their unique experiences navigating the challenges of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in the classroom. From the rollercoaster of emotions to the surprising strengths that emerge from their struggles, this discussion uncovers the realities of teaching while managing BPD symptoms. Whether you're living with BPD or a friend or family member of someone who is, tune in for insights, inspiration, and a sense of community. Discover how these educators turn their challenges into teaching moments and find out what it truly means to teach with empathy and resilience. Don't miss out on their powerful stories!

What happens when the pain of trauma from sexual assault collides with the struggles of borderline personality disorder (BPD)?Join Xannie, Katja, Madhurima and André in this vulnerable episode as we discuss the harrowing experiences of individuals living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) who have faced the trauma of sexual assault. With raw honesty, the Bunch share their stories, revealing the complexities of their emotions, the challenges of healing, and the importance of community support. This episode is a safe space for those who feel isolated in their struggles, offering insights and encouragement. If you or someone you know is navigating these difficult waters, tune in to discover that you are not alone. Note: While we will discuss the emotional impact and experiences related to these issues, we will not go into graphic detail about the assaults themselves. April 30th we'll be back to talk about BPD in TV and Movies. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Join Xannie and Katja for the fun and absurdity of 'Would You Rather' questions that not only entertain but also reflect our unique perspectives on life's challenges. Whether you're navigating the ups and downs of BPD or supporting a loved one, this episode is packed with relatable moments and emotional insights. Grab your favorite brunch beverage and join the conversation—because sometimes, a little silliness is the best distraction! Don't forget to leave your thoughts in the comments!

Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday, Xannie, André, Solène, Raf, Georgette and Melanie share personal stories and insights on how online and in-person support groups can serve as an alternative pathway to recovery. From connecting with like-minded individuals to gaining invaluable perspectives, discover how these communities can provide the understanding and encouragement you need on your journey. April 23 we'll be back to talk about BPD & Sexual Assault! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Are you searching for effective ways to manage symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) outside of traditional therapy?Join Xannie, André, Solène, Raf, Georgette and Melanie as they share their personal journeys and practical tips. Discover how everyday activities—like yoga, creative pursuits, and learning from life experiences—can play a vital role in your healing journey. Whether you're struggling with BPD or supporting a loved one, this episode is packed with relatable stories and invaluable insights. Friday we'll wrap up this conversation, sharing how peer and community supports have helped us on our recovery journeys. April 22nd we'll be back to talk about BPD & Sexual Assault. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Carys and her bestie, Lindsay, discuss the complexities of friendships among those living with Borderline Personality Disorder. They share the raw and honest journey of their connection, how they navigate their struggles together, offering insights into healing, unconditional love, and the importance of having someone walk beside you. Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable perspectives and emotional connections that resonate deeply.

Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday, Xannie, Carys, and special guests Toni and John share their personal experiences and insights on what it's like to attend parties, weddings, and social gatherings while managing the unique challenges of neurodiversity.April 16th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Non-Therapy Recovery Tools! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

What if the emotional struggles you face with BPD are connected to undiagnosed autism?Join Xannie, Carys, and special guests Toni and John, as they share what it's like to live with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Autism, or both! This discussion unravels the nuances of living with both diagnoses, exploring how they manifest in daily life, emotions, and relationships. Whether you're struggling with BPD, Autism, or know someone who is, this episode aims to shed light on common experiences and provide valuable insights. Friday we'll wrap up this conversation, sharing how we manage our various diagnoses in social settings, like parties.April 9th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Non-Therapy Tools for Recovery! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

At a loss for how to help a sibling wit Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday, Jack and his siblings, Derrick, Grant, and Alicia; Mo and her brother Shawn; and Madhurima and her sister Madhuja share their top coping strategies for effectively managing BPD in the context of their sibling relationship. Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a unique perspective on navigating intense emotions and conflicts within families. April 2nd we'll be back to talk about BPD & Autism! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Do you have a sibling living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Join us in this heartfelt episode where siblings share their raw and emotional journeys navigating the complexities of living with BPD. Jack and his siblings, Derrick, Grant, and Alicia; Mo and her brother Shawn; and Madhurima and her sister Madhuja share how BPD has impacted their relationships, the struggles they've faced, and the powerful moments that brought them closer together. Whether you're living with BPD or have a loved one who is, this discussion is packed with insights, support, and inspiration. Friday we'll wrap up this conversation, sharing our best coping skills for managing sibling relationships with BPDApril 2nd we'll be back to talk about BPD & Autism! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

Xannie chats with Jay about his experiences with body image, societal expectations, and the complexities of mental health as a gay man with borderline personality disorder. Discover how internal dialogues and external pressures can drastically affect self-perception and emotional well-being. Whether you're navigating your own journey with BPD or supporting someone who is, this conversation sheds light on the often-overlooked struggles men face with body image.

Struggling with the urge to “get even” because of intense BPD emotions? Join Xannie, Céline and Georgette as they wrap up their conversation from Wednesday, sharing their personal experiences and effective strategies for managing these intense emotions and vindictive urges. Whether you're living with BPD or are a supportive friend or family member, this conversation offers valuable insights and practical tips to help regain control and promote healing. The DBT STOP skill: is a distress tolerance technique designed to help individuals manage intense emotions and impulsive behaviors. It stands for:- S: Stop what you are doing.- T: Take a step back from the situation.- O: Observe your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings.- P: Proceed mindfully with a chosen response rather than reacting impulsively.This skill encourages pausing to gain perspective before taking action, promoting healthier emotional regulation.March 26th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Sibling Relationships! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW!  https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 

Do you ever feel the overwhelming urge to “get even” when you've been hurt? Join Xannie, Céline and Georgette as they explore the often unspoken feelings of revenge and vindictiveness that can accompany BPD. With raw honesty, they share personal stories and insights on how past experiences shaped their responses to hurt and rejection. If you've ever felt the urge to retaliate or hold a grudge, this video is for you. Tune in to understand the driving forces behind these emotions and find healthier ways to cope.  Friday we'll wrap up this conversation, sharing our best tips for managing the urge for revenge effectively. .March 26th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Sibling Relationships! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW!  https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 

In this episode, Xannie, Hak Ja, Mo, Carys and Katja confront some of the mean comments we've received from viewers. Join us as we react to these challenging remarks about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and share our thoughts on the stigma that often surrounds our experiences.While these comments can be hurtful, we believe in turning negativity into strength. Together, we'll unpack these misconceptions, highlight the realities of living with BPD, and show that we can stand strong in the face of judgment. This episode is all about resilience, empowerment, and finding humor even in tough situations. Whether you're in recovery or looking to understand more about BPD, we invite you to join the conversation and stand with us against stigma.

Ever wondered what it's really like in the psych ward when you're dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder? Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday Xannie, Hak Ja, Jay and Mo share what helped them navigate the chaos and find clarity during their psych ward stays.Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with relatable insights and a little bit of hope.March 19 we'll be back to talk about BPD & Revenge! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch

The BPD Bunch is BACK! Xannie, Hak Ja, Jay and Mo discuss their personal experiences with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and the psych ward. They share stories of their admissions, the emotions leading up to seeking help, and the relief and anxiety that come with entering inpatient care. Our conversation will cover topics such as:Can you go to the psych ward for BPD?Is inpatient bad for BPD?What to expect when admitted to a psych ward?When does someone with BPD need to be hospitalized?How long do you stay in a mental hospital for BPD?Does BPD need inpatient treatment?Friday we'll wrap up this conversation, talking about how the psych ward has been helpful for managing crises.March 19 we'll be back to talk about BPD & Revenge! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW!  https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch 

Xannie, Madhurima, Georgette, Céline, Jack and Hak Ja discuss the struggles teens face with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and explore how friends and family can offer vital support. The Bunch share personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of open communication, understanding, and creating safe spaces for those in need. Join us as we break the stigma surrounding mental health, provide actionable advice, and remind viewers that they are not alone in their battle. Check out our other videos on BPD and Teen Years from Season 5: Surviving BPD as a Teen: The Struggles You Don't See - The BPD Bunch S5E6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UGXimql25gPK7DNDgKrMv?si=nrNZ28qFSnevhNBFnbWWRA The Pain of Growing Up With BPD: How Teenage Struggles Shape Us: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yRNu1yjz7e6MrsmARBTBd?si=1rhbJzsUQYm7BbR3UtHQRQ

Join Xannie, Madhurima, Hak Ja and Jack as they explore the complex feelings of loneliness versus the experience of being physically alone, particularly for those struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The Bunch share their personal stories and insights into how loneliness can feel even more isolating than being by yourself. If you've ever felt like no one gets you or that you're carrying a burden alone, this episode is for you. Check out our other videos on BPD and Loneliness from Season 5: The Hidden Pain of Loneliness in BPD - The BPD Bunch S5E9: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ubfqfOyJTb7OiD4Ohi5Xh?si=qOtS_G4nQYqcAInMfxnv1Q How to Cope with BPD When Your Mind Says You're Not Enough: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1VAesWsJgp8STCCPPwgCsg?si=BmcrMvtmQSCaiGmcn60RPQ

Join us on this emotional journey as Xannie, Madhurima, Georgette, Céline, Jack and Hak Ja discuss the often-overlooked experiences of those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) during their teenage years. The Bunch share their raw and candid stories, revealing the struggles, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities for help they faced. From feeling lost and isolated to the impact of family dynamics and the stigma surrounding mental health, this conversation sheds light on the realities of living with BPD as a teen. Whether you're struggling with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is here to offer insight, understanding, and hope. Check out our other videos on BPD and Teen Years from Season 5: Surviving BPD as a Teen: The Struggles You Don't See - The BPD Bunch S5E6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UGXimql25gPK7DNDgKrMv?si=nrNZ28qFSnevhNBFnbWWRA The Pain of Growing Up With BPD: How Teenage Struggles Shape Us: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yRNu1yjz7e6MrsmARBTBd?si=1rhbJzsUQYm7BbR3UtHQRQ

Xannie, Jack, André and Jay play this season's game of BPD Bingo! Thank you to our followers on instagram these tile suggestions!!

Recovery from BPD is rarely a linear journey, and even when progress has been made it can be easy to doubt how far you've come. Join Xannie, Mo, Céline, Carys and Solène as they share stories of moments when they've wondered "do I still have BPD after all???" Building on our conversation from Wednesday's episode, the bunch address the real struggles faced by those living with BPD and offer insights that could resonate with both individuals and their loved ones. If you've ever felt lost or uncertain in your recovery journey, this episode is for you! Thank you for watching season 5 of The BPD Bunch! We will be back with season 6 in the spring. In the meantime, enjoy our short form content and mini-episodes, and consider supporting us on Patreon for even more content!

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can feel like an impossible challenge, but recovery is possible! Join Xannie, Mo, Madhurima, Céline, Carys and Solène as they candidly share their personal journeys of navigating BPD symptoms, redefining their identities, and finding hope. Discover how they've learned to manage intense emotions, build healthier relationships, and reclaim their lives. Whether you're struggling with BPD yourself or supporting a loved one, this video offers invaluable insights and inspiration. Friday we'll wrap up this conversation with a discussion about the moments we doubt our recovery. Thank you for watching season 5 of The BPD Bunch! We will be back with season 6 in the spring. In the meantime, enjoy our short form content and mini-episodes, and consider supporting us on Patreon for even more content!

Xannie, Jack, Jay, Georgette and Katja explore the transformative power of art in understanding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Together, they discuss 6 pieces from the Emotions Matter BPD Art Show called, "Riding the Waves: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder”.  The Bunch share raw emotions, personal experiences, and insights that resonate deeply with those living with BPD. Whether you live with BPD or love someone who does, this episode will help you to understand it better. Grab your favorite brunch beverage and join the conversation about emotions, creativity, and finding hope amidst chaos. More information on the show: Emotions Matter held its fourth BPD Art Show called, "Riding the Waves: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder” on Tuesday, October 22nd in New York City. 39 pieces of art by 31 artists with lived experience were on display!The Emotions Matter Art Shows have been incredibly dynamic and empowering for all who experience them. The purpose of the art show is to: To raise the public's awareness about borderline personality disorder (BPD), empower artists to tell their stories through art, and to inspire hope and support for BPD recovery.View the full show on Emotions Matter's website to learn more our artists and mission to support, educate and advocate for people impacted by BPD: https://emotionsmatterbpd.org/art-showTo purchase prints of the art or other Emotions Matter branded items: https://emotions-matter-shop.printify.me/productsAbout Emotions Matter:Emotions Matter, Inc. is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization that advocates for, educates, and supports people impacted by borderline personality disorder (BPD). Our vision is to create a world in which every person with BPD has access to treatment, resources or support to achieve recovery. We work toward this vision by offering BPD peer support groups, educational programs, stigma-free resources, and advocacy. www.emotionsmatterbpd.org. The Maturation of Jimmy Lee Part 1: https://doncee.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/The-Maturation-of-Jimmy-Lee-Part-1-1.jpgThe Maturation of Jimmy Lee Part 2: https://doncee.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/The-Maturation-of-Jimmy-Lee-Part-2-1.jpg