The Essential Coaching Skills Podcast

Our latest installment of the series of What I learned from Dave (Dr Dave Dobson) features my conversation with "repeat offenders" Mark Thomas and Drew Pearson. Drew Pearson is a retired fire test engineer. He studied with Dave for 7 years and went to his FUN SHOP ten times, 1994 to 2007. He describes how Dave's training deeply influenced the way he communicates with business associates, family and friends. Mark Thomas is also strongly influenced by the work of Dr. David Dobson's Other Than Conscious Communication (OTCC). In the 1980s, Mark provided his expertise to the national training team of best-selling author and motivational speaker Anthony Robbins. Mark and his wife, Reverend Elaine Thomas, began applying the accelerated learning tools of NLP to the teaching of spiritual development practices through their modeling course known as Spiritual Insight Training.  In 1988, Elaine and Mark founded Fellowships of the Spirit and its School of Spiritual Healing and Prophecy, which has continuously provided high quality educational programs for 35 years.

Founder and CEO of "Syntax For Change," Lucy D. Freedman is a leading expert in communication, leadership. and change. With a life-long passion for enabling people to communicate and connect with honor, respect, and understanding, Lucy has decades of study and practice in interpersonal behavior as a speaker, teacher, corporate trainer, therapist, author, consultant, and coach. Drawing from methods including transactional analysis, neurolinguistics, and the work of masters such as Dr. Milton Erickson and Fernando Flores, Lucy specializes in the practical techniques, perceptions, and behavior essential to human effectiveness in an environment of rapid change. She has also helped raise consciousness on issues of gender bias and other isms that limit opportunity. The second edition of her book, Smart Work: The Syntax Guide to Influence, came out in 2012. Learn more at: https://syntaxforchange.com/

WHAT I LEARNED FROM DAVE - a series within the podcast that features different folks who studied with Dr. Dave Dobson, PhD and one or more of his "Funshops" In this episode I'm joined by Halimah Holiday and John Morgan. John and Halimah worked together for years via John's company, "John Morgan Seminars," where I also worked for about seven years doing Hypnosis seminars for Smoking Cessation and Weight Loss. Halimah Holliday certified in Ericksonian hypnotherapy with Doug O'Brien in 1997 (I think?) and attended one of Dave Dobson's last Funshops in 2006. She is a massage therapist who has a guided visualization called "Virtual Massage." She retired as coordinator of John Morgan Seminars and now lives a quiet life in the Virginia countryside. She designs and creates custom journals and notebooks for Ledger And Lace and is currently writing The Fern World. Link to Virtual Massage recording Ledger & Lace YT channel:    • Virtual Massage   John Morgan has been billed as America's Best Known Hypnotherapist. John's "Grasshopper Notes" podcasts are a collection of guided meditations and bite-sized, mini podcasts which open you to new ways of thinking, communicating, and responding.You get a finer appreciation of how your mind works and how to use your internal resources to your best advantage. See a video of John's background at the following link:    • Who Is John Morga...   In short, John Morgan is a people helper. Explore his channel and see what he can help you discover. Link to YouTube:    / @grasshoppernotes   Link to Podcasting: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1628038

Bill O'Hanlon is a world-renowned leader in the fields of brief psychotherapy and clinical hypnosis. Bill is the author of nearly 40 books and has delivered over 3,700 talks around the world. He was featured on the Oprah Winfrey show with his book, Do One Thing Different. Though now mostly retired from the mental health field, Bill still offers a few online courses a year, sometimes with occasional group consulting. Along with teaching clinical skills around psychotherapy and hypnosis, Bill also teaches others how to write and publish their own books and how to become paid public speakers. Bill is the co-founder of the Solution-Oriented Approach, a therapeutic method that focuses on identifying unrealized possibilities while acknowledging emotional and contextual issues. During graduate school, Bill studied with the eccentric and creative psychiatrist Milton Erickson (he was Dr. Erickson's only work/study student), he later became a major teacher/translator of Dr. Erickson's approaches to clinical hypnosis and change. These days Bill splits his time between his long-term home in Santa Fe, New Mexico, and his community of fellow songwriters in Nashville, Tennessee, where he has written or co-written over 1,000 songs and has had more than 30 of these recorded by other artists, with some of these songs being feature in television and other media. Connect with Bill at www.BillOHanlon.org

In this first of, hopefully, many conversations about Dr. Dave Dobson and his work, I'm joined by "repeat offenders" Dr. Harlan Kilstein and Dr. Clifford Saunders. Dr. Dave Dobson was the developer of O.T.C.C., or 'Other-Than-Conscious Communication." He was a great hypnotherapist some compared to Milton Erickson. However he has not left a huge footprint in the field due to his reticence to have his work be misrepresented. Today I am joined by two gentlemen who, like me, were "repeat offenders" in Dobson's joking term, meaning we went to more than one of Dave's "Funshops" over the years. Clifford is also known as the Brain Reprogramming Doctor and you can find out more about him here: www.thebrainreprogrammingdoctor.com. Harlan is an author, entrepreneur, and lifestyle coach and you can find out more about him here: www.harlankilstein.com.

In today's very special episode, I sit down with the legendary Robert McKee, author of "STORY - Substance, Structure, Style, and the Principles of Screenwriting." Robert McKee is regarded by many as one of the greatest experts on the subject of Story and in particular, screenwriting, in the world. He has presented his STORY Seminar hundreds of time all around the globe over the last 30 years to screenwriters, novelists, playwrights, poets, you name it. Those who have learned from McKee have called him “the Aristotle of our time” because of his insight into the substance, structure of the art of story. McKee's former students include over 60 Academy Award Winners, 200 Academy Award Nominees, 200 Emmy Award Winners, 1000 Emmy Award Nominees, and much more. Find out more about him and what he offers at https://mckeestory.com/

This episode originally aired as part of a Fundraiser in December of 2022. In this episode -- part conversation, part PERFORMANCE -- Sarah shows and tells how NLP isn't just her day job, it's a practical TOOL for helping her to step into the limelight of New York City's cabaret scene. Contact Sarah at www.theintelligenthypnotist.com

After a skydiving accident nearly robbed Rex Steven Sikes of his life and caused him to spiral down in negativity for a couple years, Rex locked himself in his apartment for over 6 weeks to sort things through and develop the confidence to face the world again living happily and successfully. During those weeks of deep introspection and meditation Sikes discovered the keys for transformation which he's shared around the world ever since. He discusses this in his book, Life On Your Terms: Live The Life You Want. Sikes is founder of IDEA Seminars and Rex Sikes Entertainment. His innovations include Mind Design™ and Directed Questions™. The Attitude Activator™ and The Mastery Loop™ Learn more at www.rexsikes.com

In this conversation with Rachel Hott and Steve Leeds of the NLP Center of New York we explore origin stories and much more. This conversation originally aired as part of the Fundraiser for Jerry Seavey in December of 2022.

Join us for an informal chat about NLP and Robert's behind the scenes musing about NLP, Sleight of Mouth and other topics. This is a rebroadcast of our talk from the Help Jerry Heal Fundraiser in December of last year.

Today's guest is Sima Newell of Executive Reflections, who's mission is supporting people through burnout so that they can thrive again, professionally AND personally. www.executivereflections.com info@executivereflections.com

Shauna Cummins is a professional hypnotist and multidisciplinary artist. She is the founder of the Divine Feminine School of Hypnosis and author of The Wishcraft, A guide to manifesting a positive future (hardie grant). The Wishcraft is a method of self-hypnosis that teaches the art of well-wishing as a practice for changing thought patterns and beliefs, turning wishes into action. She has a private hypnosis practice, teaches workshops, creates hypnotic sound art and installations. Her work has been featured internationally at The National Gallery of Denmark, The Center for Contemporary Art Glasgow and in publications such as the Harper's Bazaar, The Independent, Business Insider, YAHOO news and Refinery29 among others. She lives in New York City. www.shaunacummins.com @thewishcraft info@shaunacummins.com

Sarah Harper may best be described as a "Transition" coach because she  most often works with people going through or seeking a transition. Sarah has also partnered with Rich Kuepper to develop LEADing Human, a company that partners with organizations to create better-performing teams.  sarah@leading-human.com http://leading-human.com/

This is the perfect podcast for the new year. In this interview, recorded for the fundraiser last month, Tim and Kris Hallbom reveal the four essential questions every coach must ask their clients, and it is the perfect way to make New Year's resolutions that actually get accomplished. Find more about Kris and Tim at Kris's website, www.krishallbom.com and Tim's website, www.timhallbom.com

New Zealand's foremost NLP Master Trainer, Dr. Richard Bolstad, reveals his path to NLP and why he's soon to complete a PhD in Anthropology in his mid 60s. This is the interview from the "Help Jerry Seavey Heal" Fundathon in its complete, unedited, version. To see/hear the entire fundathon, you still can watch it all - until the end of the year. Click here: https://streamyard.com/watch/2ZAhKXyDMPwa To go directly to the GO FUND ME site to donate to Help Jerry Seavey Heal fund, please click here: https://gofund.me/61fd158ahttps://gofund.me/61fd158a

This is the interview from the "Help Jerry Seavey Heal" Fundathon in its entirety. The response was so great to the request to people to help out we had to edit a few of the  interviews. This is the complete, unedited, version. To see/hear the entire fundathon, you still can watch it all - until the end of the year. Click here: https://streamyard.com/watch/2ZAhKXyDMPwa To go directly to the GO FUND ME site to donate to Help Jerry Seavey Heal fund, please click here: https://gofund.me/61fd158ahttps://gofund.me/61fd158a THANKS!

We're doing a NLP Masters summit to raise funds for the "Help Jerry Seavey Heal" Go Fund Me campaign. Join us next Tuesday, Dec 20th! Starring the follow cast of Dozen: Connirae Andreas! Robert Dilts! Shelle Rose Charvet! David Gordon! Sid Jacobson! Richard Bolstad! Kris and Tim Halbom!! Rachel Hott and Steven Leeds!! Sarah Carson! and me on piano!

What is the best kind of motivation - intrinsic or extrinsic motivation? How do we achieve this? Is there one size fits all motivation or is it individualized? One thing's for sure. We need it. With sufficient motivation, we can move mountains. Without it, barely step over a puddle.

Tolerations. We all tolerate many things. Some small, some large, and many we need to stop tolerating so we can make our life vastly more of what we want it to be. It is amazing what progress can be made when we minimize our tolerations.

Changing peoples lives for the better has all been in a days work for Marilou Seavey, and her husband, Jerry. But when Jerry's sudden fall down, a flight of stairs, changed their lives in an instant, Marilou discovered how truly indispensable her NLP skills would be. You can contact Marilou at marilouseavey@gmail.com If you would like to contribute to the "Help Jerry Seavey Heal" campaign, the link is  https://gofund.me/630876bd

Tara O'Grady is a singer-songwriter, author, and intuitive educator who calls herself a Bliss Ambassador. In addition to producing and recording five albums of original jazz, blues and folk music, she published her first memoir, Migrating toward Happiness: The Soundtrack to My Spiritual Awakening, in 2019. Her second memoir, The Gods of Clown Alley, will be available in early 2023. As a member of the International Association for the Study of Dreams, she teaches dream work through creative workshops that help dreamers engage with the visual and symbolic language of their dreamscapes. Her Transatlantic Butterfly retreats to Ireland, Italy, and beyond teach people how to spread their wings, awaken their spirits, and find bliss in awareness. For more information on her music, books, workshops and retreats: www.taraogradymusic.com www.butterflycoach.org

Aldo Civico, is an Anthropologist, Executive Coach, Conflict Negotiator and now, a Havening Techniques® Trainer. Aldo was nominated by Global Gurus in the world's top experts on leadership.  In today's episode I'll ask him how he has been using the Havening Techniques and why someone like him would even be drawn to this remarkable healing modality. To contact Aldo   Email:: aldo@aldocivico.com www.aldocivico.com WhatsApp: 1-646-492-0372

Debra Russell is a dynamo. She has been described as a woman with a B.S. Detector that's unmatched and has definitely lived life on her own terms. You'll love her as much as I do and get inspired at the same time. www.debrarussell.com/go-beyond (for info on upcoming workshop) debra@debrarussell if you want to contact her directly

NLP developed two language model super valuable in Coaching. One is the Meta Model, that we've talked about in previous episodes. The other is the Milton Model. Today we'll explore them both and give you some guidelines as to when, where, why, and how to use one versus the other.

In today's episode we examine NLP's "Meta Model" (the art of asking good questions). We learn a few choice "Meta Model" questions and how important it is to utilize this questioning technique from NLP to get a more complete understanding of where our clients are coming from and what they want.

Aron Copland one said there is nothing as inspirational as a deadline. That's true in life as well, and it's curious that when we make peace with death we can more fully appreciate and cherish life and live it to the fullest.

The Impactful Coaching Summit goes live tomorrow, Sept 28th. Join us here: https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com Hear all about who you'll see at the summit and what you're going to learn!

In this episode we explore how to use self hypnosis to maximize our self-care and improve our rapport with our own unconscious minds. Doug teaches the "Betty Erickson Special" method of self hypnosis. You can also download Doug's paper, “Be your Best with Self Hypnosis” AND a self-hypnosis audio meditation at www.Ericksonian.com

In this episode of the essential coaching skills podcast Doug describes the "Betty Erickson Special" method of doing self hypnosis and why it is so important for our continued self-care as coaches. Of course, it is also something we can teach to our coach clients.

Lana Popovich is a Shadow Integration Coach: helping individuals realize goals and aspirations through working with their unconscious. Combining Jungian psychology with disciplines of Eastern and Western alchemy traditions. Methods include coaching strategies, NLP, hypnosis, active imagination, meditation and dream work. Website: psalchemy.com YouTube: youtube.com/c/PsychosomaticAlchemy Instagram: @psychosomatic_alchemy Facebook: facebook.com/PsychSomaticAlchemy Twitter: twitter.com/PS_Alchemy LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lana-mina-popovic/

Lucas Derks cofounded the International Laboratory for Mental Space Research and in 2013 the Society for Mental Space Psychology. 2016 he did a PhD on Clinical Experiments in Mental Space and completed a research project on the treatment of depression in a mental space based manner. We'll find out all about it and its connection with NLP in this episode of the podcast. Lucas lives in Nijmegen Netherlands and can be contacted over: sociaalpanorama@hetnet.nl lucas@somsp.com www.socialpanorama.com www.somsp.com youtube channel: MrMonteCinto

In this episode we look at the wonderful qualities of gratitude and being grateful for even more than we would expect (when you stop to think about it). And, at the same time, how do we balance being grateful for what we have with the natural human desire for wanting more? Is this even possible?

Doug's special method of instilling Lasting Change in his coaching clients. And you can use it too! It's easy!

The journey of a Canadian wheatfield prairie girl who unraveled her childhood trauma(s) to not only heal but to reshape her life to fit her and now assists others in order to do the same. The magic really came from being like a detective and decoding language to get to the hidden loyalties. https://www.facebook.com/colli.christante https://www.collikchristante.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/collichristante/ https://www.instagram.com/in_and_through_worlds_of_colli/ https://twitter.com/inerexpression

Peter Blum is a Certified Hypnotist, living in Woodstock, NY. He has had a full-time practice in medical and clinical hypnosis since 1987, has worked with over 20,000 clients, and has been honored with many awards, most recently (2021) being inducted into the Hypnosis Hall of Frame. As a certified instructor, he has trained hundreds of healers, health professionals, and counselors, in the spiritual art of hypnosis. During the 90's he served as Director of Stress Management for the Rhinebeck Health Center, under the supervision of Dr. Kenneth Bock and Dr. Steven Bock. He has also had a parallel career in the field of shamanic sound healing. Traveling through the U.S., Mexico, Canada, and the Caribbean, he has shared sound baths, personal sound healing sessions, and sonic therapy trainings in many settings including hypnosis conferences, yoga studios, Menla Retreat Center, the Omega Institute, and the U.N. Between 1999 and 2018, he released seven recordings primarily featuring healing meditative sounds, and in 2019, wrote and published “TranceSonics - The Vital Link Between Sound Healing and Hypnosis”   Contact Peter via: http://soundsforhealing.com/

In this episode we discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation and how do we take what's there and utilize it in the most effective way to create constructive behaviors and lasting positive habits.

We all learn from our mistakes, but what are we learning? Here is how to make sure we are learning positive things and that our mistakes end up being super valuable experiences. Find more at https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com/

In the realm of self-care, sometimes we need the radical intervention of STOPPING. Take more than just a little time for yourself to recharge your batteries and decompress your brain.

Greg Dwyer has been speaking before audiences most of his life. He started as a magician in the 1970's and took a new path when he went to seminary to become a minister. When he is not speaking at the church, he travels giving his lecture, "The Importance of Focus" which helps people in business stay focused on what really matters to them. In addition to speaking, Greg leads retreats all over the world and coaches people on how to stay focused in business. If you would like to improve your focus in life and business, read Greg's E-book at www.gregdwyer.org   Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Happiness and Addiction Coach, Connie Rose, helps people have empowered relationships with themselves, people, food, and substances, and become free without necessarily having to go sober forever.   COACHING https://linktr.ee/connierosecoaching Love Give Trust Listen   ART:  www.connieroseart.com    https://www.instagram.com/connie.rose.art/     Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

One of the leading experts in human behavioral selling is an interesting guy that goes by the name of Leon Sheed.  Leon helps his clients to become more conscious of behavioral buying strategies and how to articulate the right dialogue in a natural way so prospects happily perform self-made closes. Website: https://leonsheed.com Mian social platform: https://www.facebook.com/LeonSheedOfficial/     Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

A vital (if not essential) coaching skill you must know. In this episode, we explore NLP's "well-formedness conditions" for an achievable outcome. There are four steps or six steps or seven steps depending on who you learn them from... We will make sure you have them all covered.       Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Make the most out of your time on the planet and the best use of your day with effective time management tools. Here's how...   Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check Out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

In this episode, we explore which essential skill, after rapport and trust, I consider to be the number one coaching skill of all. Yes, listening and asking good questions are vital and you can't do anything without them, but after rapport, listening, and asking good questions, this is undoubtedly the most essential skill. See if you agree.     Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com  

There are 10 types of people in the world, those who understand digital and those who don't. The distinction between "analog" and "digital" can actually be a vital distinction in your coaching practice. And the "both/and" awareness that is a characteristic of the "other-than-conscious mind" can be equally transformative. Hear all about it on today's episode.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Jeff Tharp is transitioning from Tharpo the Clown to Tharpo the Happiness Coach. We'll hear about how he's doing that and the lessons we can take from his journey to apply to our own coaching practice on today's episode. He's an amazing guy with an amazing story and a LOT to offer.   You can find out more about Jeff and contact him at www.TharpoHypnosis.net     Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com  

Charlie Badenhop is hard to describe in a brief summary. To call him eclectic is an understatement. You know he's a New York native as soon as he opens his mouth and he's lived in Japan for 30 years. He is the son of a captain in the New York City Fire Department and one of the few foreigners in Japan to be certified as an Aikido sensei as a fourth-degree black belt. He calls his work Seishindo and describes it as a mix of the best of Western problem-solving and positive thinking skills with Eastern contemplative awareness. He's also a certified NLP Trainer and used to teach Aikido for John Grinder at some of John's early NLP trainings. This is a fun conversation.   You can find out more about his work and contact Charlie at www.seishindo.org     Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Harlan Kilstein knows a lot about Hypnosis but he knows an amazing amount about marketing. He has also put his knowledge into action and made fortunes for himself and for his clients. Today he'll share some of his insights and ideas about how YOU can apply his knowledge to YOUR coaching practice. AND, if you are interested in what he talks about in the last 5 minutes of our conversation, click this link and let us know what you think: https://forms.gle/WjrwPemGM6cHHGsLA   You can contact Harlan directly at www.harlankilstein.com     Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com  

Today we look at the Both/And Principle from Ericksonian Hypnosis and how it applies to coaching and also think about lessons learned from running and training for Marathons.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Linda Bonnar is a certified Master NLP Coach & Master NLP Practitioner, ICF and ANLP member, and author of a Press Play, a popular book and accompanying workbook for youth coaching. Linda focuses on helping people to make, meet and exceed goals in their personal and professional lives. Personally,  she constantly seeks new challenges, both mental and physical. To date, she has completed two ultra-marathons of 50km and 72km, along with numerous marathons.   Find out more and contact Linda at  www.lindabonnarlifecoach.com     Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Using poetry in your coaching can have a powerful, almost magical effect. Today I offer you some poems that are some of my favorites - both personally and for coaching purposes. Sigmund Freud once said, "Words were originally magic and to this day words have retained much of their ancient magical power." That is certainly true in Hypnotic Induction and especially true with poetry.     Want more Essential coaching skills?  Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com