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Welcome to the Arete Coach Podcast, hosted by Severin Sorensen. In this episode titled "Mastery in Motion — Journey to Coaching Excellence and Leadership Impact," Severin speaks with Dr. Wai K Leong, an accomplished ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC), ICF Global Board Director, and Founder of JMC Coach Mastery Academy. Recorded on December 20, 2024, this conversation explores Wai K's journey from corporate leadership to coaching mastery, and his influential role in building coaching cultures across Asia and beyond. Recognized as the first Malaysian to receive the MCC credential and a member of the ICF Circle of Distinction (2019), Wai K shares powerful lessons for leaders and executive coaches seeking excellence. Wai K Leong's career began in education and corporate leadership, including significant roles at Intel and the Hong Leong Group, before he transitioned fully into coaching. His early leadership challenges sparked a deep interest in coaching methodologies, greatly influenced by the teachings of Thomas Leonard. In 1999, Wai K founded the JMC Coach Mastery Academy, establishing one of ASEAN's first ICF-accredited institutions with all four accredited coaching programs. His authored works — including Empowering Asian Mindsets Through Coaching — blend coaching mastery with cultural intelligence, empowering leaders to drive transformational change. Key Insights 1. Mastery Beyond Tools: Transforming the Self Wai K emphasizes that true coaching excellence requires a personal transformation — not just mastering techniques, but deep inner work, developing self-awareness, and practicing courageous presence. 2. The Power of Staying Curious He illustrates the importance of "remaining in a state of not knowing," allowing deeper client truths to emerge without rushing to conclusions, a hallmark of masterful coaching. 3. Narratives Shape Leadership Wai K teaches that problems are symptoms of deeper assumptions and beliefs, and coaches must guide clients to reframe unhelpful narratives for true progress. 4. Cultural Bridges in Coaching Addressing the differences between Eastern and Western mindsets, Wai K shares strategies for adapting coaching approaches across cultures, fostering reflection even where expressiveness may not be culturally natural. 5. Lifelong Development and Reflection From mastering presence to reinforcing healthy boundaries, Wai K champions continuous personal development as the foundation of lasting coaching impact. Closing & Copyright Information This episode of the Arete Coach Podcast featuring Wai K Leong, MCC was recorded on December 20, 2024, via Zoom video. The Arete Coach Podcast explores the art and science of executive coaching. You can find more about this podcast at aretecoach.io. Copyright © 2024 by Arete Coach™ LLC. All rights reserved. © 2024 Arete Coach. All rights reserved. To learn more about Wai K's work, visit JMC Coach Mastery Academy or connect with him via LinkedIn.

In this episode of Leadership is Feminine, Kris Plachy shares a powerful reminder: your body is the vessel for your leadership, your dreams, and your impact—and it deserves your full attention. Kris explores what it means to be physically well-resourced as a woman in leadership, especially as we navigate the transitions of our 40s and 50s. Health and energy aren't luxuries—they're the foundation. “Your body is the thing to take care of so that all of these visions that you have… all of the things that you want to achieve… you need your body to be able to do that.” A key practice Kris shares—originally introduced in the book Co-Active Coaching by Thomas Leonard—is what she calls the “clean sweep.” This exercise invites you to take an intentional walk-through of your home, using a detailed punch list to identify and remove sources of energetic drain. By consciously clearing your physical space, you also create more room for clarity, ease, and inspiration. It's a simple practice that reveals just how much we've been tolerating—and how good it feels to finally let go. This episode is an invitation to listen more closely to your body, to curate an environment that supports your vitality, and to reclaim the kind of energy that fuels sustainable success. This episode is also a check-in: are you taking care of your body maintenance? Do you have a physician and a team to help you stay on top of your physical health? Leadership starts within—and tending to your physical health and energetic hygiene is one of the most profound ways to lead with strength and authenticity. Key Takeaways From This Episode Health and Energy as Integrated Components: Health and Energy are separate areas of focus, but they are closely related. The Body is a Vessel: Importance of taking care of physical health to achieve personal goals. Physical Health Maintenance: Questions about personal health care routines and reminders on the importance of check-ups. Energy Management: Explanation of empaths and their sensitivity to others' energy. Impact of Environment and People on Personal Energy: Encouragement to eliminate energetic drains to create space for positive energy. Contact Information and Recommended Resources Dealing with a Difficult Person in your business or need to have a Difficult Conversation? Join Kris' class HERE! (https://www.thevisionary.ceo/offers/4XYGiuSv) Linkedin Instagram Facebook Pinterest

Find the transcript and more resources for coaches at prosperouscoach.com/287.I didn't fit in to corporate.I was pretending to fit in, which was exhausting. I pushed my introverted self and was literally getting sick from that. Anxiety was mounting and I was just going through the motions.Before I launched my coaching business, I'd had a good job with perks and a great salary. Friends couldn't believe I left it to be a coach. But I longed for work that allowed me to bring my full self to the table and leverage my strengths — to work in a sane way doing good. You too?Having a coaching business may be the only income-producing role in your life where you get to bring your full personality, values and life experience together to serve others.Are you making the most of that? Does your coaching business fit you? And, how can you bring your full self to the table and be known for it? Let's talk about that. Rhonda Hess helps new coaches leverage their zone of genius into a profitable coaching niche and launch with confidence. For VIP step-by-step support apply for Rhonda's VIP Coaching Business Breakthrough Program here and she'll be in touch to invite you a discovery call. Or if you're stuck on your coaching niche, grab a Nail Your Niche Strategy Session with Rhonda here.

Welcome back to the Arete Coach Podcast, hosted by Severin Sorensen where we explore the art and science of executive coaching. In this episode 1179, we revisit a captivating episode recorded via Zoom on October 17th, 2022, featuring Dr. Vikki Brock, a Master Certified Coach (MCC), consultant, author of the seminal work "The Sourcebook of Coaching History," and mentor. Dr. Brock's extensive research and practical experience have made her a leading authority on the roots and evolution of coaching. Throughout the episode, Dr. Brock shares her remarkable journey from a successful 21-year career at Boeing to becoming a pioneering figure in the coaching world. Her passion for helping others led her to establish VB Coaching and Consulting in 1995, where she has since dedicated herself to advancing the field through her research, writing, and mentorship. Dr. Brock's groundbreaking work, "The Sourcebook of Coaching History," provides an in-depth exploration of the historical roots of coaching and the influence of pioneers from related fields. Her commitment to understanding the art and science of coaching, as well as her efforts to reawaken humanity through this powerful tool, perfectly align with the Arete Coach Podcast's mission to explore excellence in executive coaching. Her quote, "Coaching has an opportunity to reawaken our humanity," resonated with me and is the title for this episode. Vikki was closely involved with the early founders of modern coaching: Thomas Leonard and Laura Whitworth. Vikki was an early member of ICF (member #60) and since its creation in 1996 , she was one of the first coaches to receive an MCC from the ICF in 1998. She also was on faculty for the University of Texas at Dallas Coaching Certificate program, and taught for several coach training schools internationally. In this episode, we explore Vikki's journey into the coach field, her experiences in the growth of the coaching industry, and her passion for interviewing 170 coaching practitioners and scholars as the basis for her Sourcebook on Coaching History. More on the topic is available at AreteCoach.io. The Arete Coach Podcast seeks to explore the art and science of executive coaching. You can find out more about this podcast at aretecoach.io. This original episode was produced on 17 October 2022. It was released with a forward on 2 June 2024. Copyright © 2024 by Arete Coach™ LLC. All rights reserved.

------------------------------- 強化英語課程資訊 ------------------------------- 「社會人核心英語」有聲書課程連結：https://15minsengcafe.pse.is/554esm ------------------------------- 15Mins.Today 相關連結 ------------------------------- 歡迎針對這一集留言你的想法： 留言連結 官方網站：www.15mins.today 加入Clubhouse直播室：https://15minsengcafe.pse.is/46hm8k 訂閱YouTube頻道：https://15minsengcafe.pse.is/3rhuuy 主題投稿/意見回覆 : ask15mins@gmail.com 商業合作/贊助來信：15minstoday@gmail.com ------------------------------- 以下有參考文字稿～ 各播放器有不同字數限制，完整文稿可到官網搜尋 ------------------------------- 每日英語跟讀 Ep.K629: Tragic Wildfires Ravage Maui, Leaving Destruction and Questions In a devastating turn of events, the Hawaiian island of Maui has been struck by deadly wildfires, claiming the lives of at least 55 people and obliterating a historic town. The tragedy has raised concerns over the efficiency of the state's warning systems, as many residents received inadequate alerts, leaving them little time to react to the raging fires. 夏威夷毛伊島遭受了一場毀滅性野火襲擊，造成至少55人喪生，並摧毀了一座歷史悠久的小鎮。這場悲劇引發了人們對該州警戒系統效率的擔憂，因為許多居民收到的警報不足，使他們在面對熊熊大火時沒有足夠的時間做出反應。 Hawaii's emergency management system, which boasts a network of around 400 sirens, was unable to prevent the catastrophe. The records show that warning sirens remained silent, and instead, alerts were dispatched to mobile devices, televisions, and radio stations. However, these alerts were hampered by widespread power and cellular outages, limiting their reach and effectiveness. 夏威夷的緊急管理系統擁有約400個警報器，然而這場災難並未被阻止。記錄顯示，警報器保持沉默，取而代之的是將警報發送到移動設備、電視和廣播電台。然而，這些警報受到大規模停電和手機信號中斷的影響，限制了它們的傳播範圍和效果。 Survivors recount their experiences, revealing a lack of prior warning, with many realizing the danger only when flames engulfed their surroundings or explosions echoed nearby. This tragedy marks Hawaii's deadliest natural disaster since a devastating tsunami struck the region in 1960, leaving Governor Josh Green to fear that the death toll could rise further as search and rescue operations continue. 倖存者們回憶了他們的經歷，揭示了缺乏事前警告，許多人只有在火焰吞噬周圍或附近傳來爆炸聲時才意識到危險。這場悲劇是夏威夷自1960年一場毀滅性的海嘯襲擊該地區以來最致命的自然災害，州長喬許·格林擔心隨著搜救行動的繼續，死亡人數可能會進一步上升。 The situation is exemplified by the story of Thomas Leonard, a 70-year-old retired mailman from the historic town of Lahaina. The absence of real-time information due to power and cell phone outages left him unaware of the fire until he smelled the smoke. As he attempted to escape, he had to abandon his vehicle and flee on foot amidst exploding cars. Hours of harrowing sheltering behind a seawall followed, with ash and cinders swirling around him. Eventually, firefighters arrived to lead him and other survivors to safety. 這種情況以湯馬士·萊昂納德的故事為例，他是來自歷史悠久的拉海納小鎮的70歲退休郵差。由於斷電和手機信號中斷，無法獲得實時信息，他直到聞到煙味才察覺到火災。在試圖逃脫時，他不得不放棄車輛，徒步逃離，周圍的汽車不斷爆炸。他躲在海堤後面度過了數小時，被熱風中的灰燼和火山灰環繞。最終，消防員趕到，將他和其他倖存者帶到安全地帶。 The fires were fueled by a dry summer and strong winds from a passing hurricane, resulting in multiple wildfires igniting across Maui. One of the most severe blazes transformed Lahaina into a scene of devastation, reducing it to rubble and ashes. The aftermath saw charred remains of buildings and torched palm trees, leaving an eerie landscape between the ocean and lush greenery. 乾燥的夏季加上過境的颶風強風助長了火勢，導致毛伊島各地燃起野火。其中最嚴重的一場大火將拉海納燒成了一片廢墟，只剩下瓦礫和灰燼。事後，建築物的殘骸燒焦，棕櫚樹被燒毀，在海洋和郁郁蔥蔥的綠地之間的留下了一片陰森恐怖的景象。 Despite boasting an extensive emergency warning infrastructure, the quick and unpredictable nature of the fires overwhelmed the response efforts. Maui County's hazard mitigation plan, recognizing the area's wildfire risk, cited the high number of households without vehicles and non-English speakers, which hindered timely alerts and swift actions during crises. 儘管擁有龐大的緊急警報基礎設施，野火的迅速和不可預測性仍然使救災工作不堪重負。毛伊縣的災害緩解計劃清楚的理解該地區的火災風險，指出了沒有交通工具的家庭和非英語使用者的數量較多，這點妨礙了在危機時期的及時警報和迅速行動。 Compounding the issue, the Maui Fire Department's limited staff and resources presented challenges in controlling the fires. With just 65 firefighters managing three islands and without off-road vehicles, containing the fires before they reached populated areas proved difficult. Hurricane Dora's fierce winds further complicated firefighting efforts, resembling a battle against a relentless blowtorch. 除此之外，毛伊島消防局有限的人力和資源也在火災控制方面受到挑戰。僅有65名消防員管理三個島嶼，並且沒有越野車，因此很難在火災蔓延到人口密集區之前將其控制住。颶風多拉帶來的狂風使滅火工作變得更加複雜，彷彿與無情的火焰噴射器在進行一場作戰。 In response to this tragedy, President Joe Biden declared a major disaster in Maui, promising swift assistance to those affected. As the island grapples with the aftermath of these wildfires, questions arise about the adequacy of warning systems, the importance of community preparedness, and the need for bolstered firefighting resources to prevent such devastating incidents in the future. 面對這場悲劇，喬·拜登總統宣布毛伊島發生重大災難，承諾向受災民眾提供迅速的援助。毛伊島在處理野火後的餘波時，人們開始質疑警戒系統是否充分，社區準備的重要性以及增強滅火資源的需求，以防止未來發生類似的災難性事件。 Reference article: https://www.cnbc.com/2023/08/10/fires-burn-through-hawaii-at-least-36-people-have-died-on-maui.html

In today's episode: BUSINESS & NICHE Let's redefine your understanding of coaching niches. Today, we'll strip away common misconceptions and help you view niche focus not as a limiting constraint, but as an exciting opportunity to cater to a specific group with specialized solutions. Seize this great chance to discover how narrowing down your niche, much like a heart surgeon specializes, can amplify your results and offers. Learn about the critical role clarity about your calling plays in identifying your ideal clients. The benefits of focusing your offers and aligning with clients who want what you carry are immeasurable. I'm also helping you know how to part ways with people who don't need what you offer, and overcome the fear of rejection. ***VIParts of this episode to refer to: Essentialism by Greg McKeown Exodus 16:3 “If only the LORD had killed us back in Egypt,” they moaned. “There we sat around pots filled with meat and ate all the bread we wanted. But now you have brought us into this wilderness to starve us all to death.” Thomas Leonard said, "If you want to have a full coaching practice, your best strategy is to go out and coach 100 people as quickly as you can.”   Want to learn more about your purpose and calling? Grab the Digging for Gold workbook right HERE Welcome to the Christian Life Coach Collective!

In today's episode of Welcome to Cloundlandia, we explore the concept of existing in multiple zones simultaneously, moving beyond the binary and discovering a third space - the Free Zone.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Discover the power of existing in multiple zones simultaneously, such as the Free Zone, where you can mine your thoughts and experiences for the most fulfilling outcomes. Embrace your inner world and learn how dedicating time to your internal realms, like "Deanlandia," can shape and enhance your external experiences. Pursue the perfect life by focusing on your unique abilities and playing life like a game, constantly adapting and exploring new opportunities. Consider the changing ideas of success over the last 28 years and how the most successful individuals have achieved their goals. Explore the fascinating connections between technology and dog ownership, as well as the potential for collaboration between humans and animals. Apply the principles of playing life like a game to create even more collaborations between humans and animals. Claim your internal realms to open up new territories of collaboration, using tools like the 'who finder' and vision capability to reach assets. Reclaim your internal world and use it as a new territory to be explored and mined for the best resources and outcomes, without others having to know. Take inspiration from Shakespeare in creating your own projects and claiming your 'andia' to open up new opportunities and experiences. Remember the importance of taking action to achieve success, rather than just believing in it, and use that mindset to pursue your perfect life. Links: WelcomeToCloudlandia.com StrategicCoach.com DeanJackson.com ListingAgentLifestyle.com TRANSCRIPT Dean Jackson Mr Sullivan. Dan Sullivan Ah, mr Jackson, Welcome to the Cloudlandia. Yes yes, But actually we're movable folks, you and I. Dean Jackson We really are. Dan Sullivan And sometimes we operate focused on the mainland, that's true, and then other times we are involved in and focused on called landia, that's true. But I've discovered a third zone, me too. Yes, it's not binary, it's try bin, try, try bear. Dean Jackson Try banger. Dan Sullivan It's try, try, nery. You know, try, nery, and what's? yeah, because my feeling, feeling is that the that most folks are operating simultaneously, trying to integrate their mainland activities And, at the same time, taking advantage of Cloudlandia capabilities, that's true, and they don't have any space in between, which I call the, which, using coach language, i call the free zone. Dean Jackson Okay, i like this. I like where this is going, because it's very familiar with the stock life and having. Dan Sullivan Isn't that strange. Isn't that strange that we should be thinking along the same lines. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan But not really. No, my, you know. Dean Jackson I've been and I mentioned to the couple of times ago this idea of discovering Deanlandia Thinking about my thinking and that I realized I spend a disproportionate amount of time in Cloudlandia. If you think about the, if you include, like consuming content and watching, you know, netflix, or watching all those things as Cloudlandia activity, right, like taking in digital form, consuming something else, seeking dopamine from external sources, that that I'm lumping under the whole you know Cloudlandia thing, screen sucking, as our friend Ned Hololow would call it, and what I've realized. I've made a conscious effort and shifted the balance over the last couple of weeks here on my. my mantra has been less screen time, more Dean time. And I've been taking time to really think about my thinking And you know I've mentioned it to you Last time we spoke that you, you know, i was all stuck in my mind that when you mentioned, when you turned off, you know, tv and Netflix and all that stuff you, you made, you came to the realization that what's going on in your mind is better than what's coming out of the screen, right, basically? That there's a more fulfilling, enriching game going on inside your head than coming out of the screen right, and that was something that's always stuck with me. But I really get it now kind of on a different level, having really dedicated the last couple of weeks to shifting that balance. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan Well, dean, i'll use your term, dean Landia has some advantages. One is that it's a complete prezone, because no one else knows what's going on? Nobody else knows what's going on, And Dean said until he tells you. Dean Jackson Likewise for Dan Landia. I mean, that's really the great thing, right, Everybody has their own. You've got Dan Landia And that's the inner world that we. I mean it's the dominant thing. When you really think about how much time and how much of our external experience is dependent on what we're you know, what we're doing in in Deanlandia or Danlandia, that's shaping everything. Dan Sullivan Yeah, and one of the things that's really interesting about that, because you're you're the only one who has a unique ability of being Dean in Deanlandia. You know it's pretty. Yeah, it's a complete. We just auditioned and accepted another associate coach, and just last last, this past week in Chicago, and and and Ben Laws, who's a member of the Free Zone. He came up about six, seven months ago and, and you know, usually more because they have to go through an audition. And the way it works is, you know, there's a conversation that develops with someone who indicates that they might be interested in being one of our associate coaches, so he makes number 16 that we have and and we don't. You know, we don't add them at a fast pace, you know, i think the last right maybe three or four years, because we really want to check out first of all. You know we do some due diligence and we talk to referrals that the person gets to us and I said you know and and you know, is this person someone who actually enjoys coaching? you know, seems to be coach, like in their way of operating and you know so we check that out and then we check out you know how the family situation is, the home situation, because it's gonna require, you know, more travel and it's commitment. You know we we're not looking for a one-year associate coach, where I mean, are you know the, the average length of the? if we add the previous the, you know the existing 16 coaches, on average they've got 16 years, 16, 17 years coaching you know and you know some of them are year 28 27 and so you know we wanted to. You know we want it to be timeless, we wanted you know, and and because the program is always developing so there's always new things and they can. You know, with skill and with achievement they can jump from one level you know we just brought up five to the ten times level and, and it's our biggest place yours yeah, yeah, and it's our biggest multiplier in the coach. When you think about it, you know, you know. I mean I coach right now. I coach maybe you know 15% of the clients. The other 85% are coached by the other coaches you know, and they're, they're all coaching. People have written checks to strategic coach right yeah and and the other thing is, i've never seen one of them coach you've never sat in on. Dean Jackson I remember you saying that you don't sit in on the session or you're not and you know I've actually never been. Dan Sullivan I've never been you know I've never been in the room or on a zoom call when they're, when they're coaching, and so what happens? they get to the ultimate moment before you know, before it's yes or no, and and that we have an audition panel of coach, coach clients, who have all trained in the role of being a difficult client, workshop client ah after observation many expert oh no, we're. We're completely familiar with the subject of difficult yeah that's what. I mean after observation yeah, workshop, and each of them sort of masters the role, and they have a series. Usually there are a series of questions or there are series of challenges, and the best way to get them difficult is to turn everybody into an extreme fact finder. I don't, i don't understand what you're saying there. You know? could you, you know? could you give you know? can you, you know? can you explain that a little bit more? I'm not quite getting that chip now and so anyway, and launch ratio, he passed with playing colors, you know, and he's, he's in, but he had auditioned three years ago and we've been turning down we just said, we don't think you're ready yet, okay, we just oh wow yeah, he was only three years, and he was only three years in the program, so right, you know he, you know, i mean he, he just had basic toilet training down, but he didn't have it advanced right now we're now. We're looking for volume and velocity yeah, right, exactly and accuracy well, that's exciting. Dean Jackson I mean, that's a good insight into you know how that that process works. Dan Sullivan But the thing and I want to bring it back to your comment of Dean Landia and because usually you know my role is to go in and say good luck, you know, and everything like- that but. I said that that's stupid. We're not looking for luck, right, right right. We're looking for confidence and capability, you know. And so I went in and I said, ben, be yourself. And I had a huge impact on me afterwards, you know, when the verdict was in and there was a pizza and champagne celebration in the cafe. I went up to him and he said that had a huge impact on me and I said, yeah, but being yourself is is the first free zone, hmm. I like that thought that it's true. There's no competition, no one who can possibly compete at being you yeah, yeah you know, and so, anyway, he and then we, he brought it up, i brought it up and we were in the free zone workshop the next day. This is Wednesday, the free zone was on Thursday. Live, you know, we had actual, live human beings in a physical room and it came up as a topic and it went on for about 45 minutes and you know, and people said, yeah, yeah, be yourself. You know, be yourself. You know Oscar Wilde, you know the sort of the outrageous English British, you know, writer, you know he was a novelist and wrote plays and commentator. Yeah, he had a line which I thought was halfway there. He said be yourself, everyone's taken that's the make of yeah, but that seems like a kind of negative approach to it. My, you know my, my approach, and I'm coming back to the Dean Landia idea and the Dan Landia idea. I'm coming back and I'm saying be yourself, because the territory is entirely you. Dean Jackson You just have to take ownership yes, it's pretty exciting when you start thinking like that, like when I love and then embracing, you know your I'm just thinking this morning in my journal about the, you know the uniqueness of our, both the internal things and the external advantages that we have. Like I was thinking about the element of a perfect life. That was a concept that I've been. You know, 25 years ago we did this exercise of. I know I'm being successful when, when I created this program with Thomas Leonard and you know the, i've been really thinking about these, the elements here of a perfect life, and you know it comes down to, i love, like bedrock things, things that are, you know, universal, contextual rocks that, if you look at, we're all, all the elements that go into creating a perfect life. Our time, where it's, you know that's we're all born into, that it's here, whether we before we were here, it's gonna be here after, but it's one element that we're all working within the construct of the speed of reality 60 minutes we're born and the game is already going you think about it as a? video game. Is we're joining the game in process, right, it's already been yeah going on. Then the next level is what I encompass as me or you. You know you've got everything that is distinctly weird. It's strip you naked, put you on a deserted island. That's the everything that you have right now. Is you so that's? and some of those things are factory settings that you can't really change like your. You're a male. Your IQ, your, your genetic health, your situation, you know all of those you're, you know your brain power, you know, yeah, your brain power, and I think that there is an advantage you can't deny. You say yourself life's not fair. It's not fair that some people are born with super high IQs, super physical strength, super genetic, you know health, makeup, and others are born with, you know, other with challenges, in that sometimes people are born with mental disabilities or physical disabilities or all of the things. But when you do an assessment, if you're kind of pushing the reset button on the game and I love your idea of 25 year framework, so I 25 year terms yeah, that you end up with a you know every thing, if we're joining the game in progress, if you're kind of pushing the reset button now you just turned 79 years old, you had a reset in, you know 75 and you kind of make the, the rules up as you go, because that's the great thing about it everything is made up, like you say, and the. But if you do an assessment at any point, if we just kind of do an inventory of what are my you know me advantages that I have right now, if I were just to say, and I think that's all of your, all of the knowledge, all of your physical situation right now, all of those things are what you're left with. And then the next is the environment, which is all of the settings, all of the external things. Like an environment is where you are in the game. If you're born into rural China, that's a different environment than being born in North America or being born in Canada. You've got a moving sidewalk advantage that you're in the mix. You've got geography on your side, you've got the economy. So all of that stuff is an environmental thing that you can change. This is part of the thing is that anytime we could up and move to rural China if you wanted to or change your environment that's where you are thinking comes in with the immigrant thinking. You're thinking where you're leaving everything behind, and that's kind of this thought is where would be the best environment for what you want for this next 25 years? if you're going to set up the plan there, then the next is people. that there's all the people that are involved and that's distinct from your environment, and who you choose to collaborate with. cooperate with, you know, co-habitate with. Some of them are your family, that you're assigned when you come into the game. Dan Sullivan But then there are other Already pre-assigned. Dean Jackson Actually, that's exactly right, pre-assigned, that's exactly right. And then money is the final element, and I think that the thing becomes taking your imagine. My visual metaphor for it is this continuous runway game like Guitar Hero or something, where it's just constantly coming at you at the speed of 60 minutes per hour and you get to move the joystick into whatever environment where you're going to allocate that time and in what environment, with what people, and those environments are either contributing to money or taking away from you or using money to participate in that part of the environment, or you're in an environment that's making money, and so those five elements of the game are a really fun thing. Dan Sullivan And what you just said is true for everyone. Dean Jackson Yes, that's exact, and that's why the framework. Dan Sullivan The truth. the whole thing is how you play the game. And let's take poker, for example. The best poker players aren't the ones who get an unusual run of good cards. Right, I mean, over the course of, let's say, 50 games, they didn't get any better cards than anybody else did. Dean Jackson No, you're absolutely right. It's so funny. That's really the And those are situations. That's a perfect example that this really is. You're playing it like a game and I wanted to, and that was made the distinction of A perfect life, not D perfect life, because A perfect life acknowledges that there are 8 billion versions of it. Everybody is in possession of one life, that they get to play the game and pursue a perfect for them life. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dean Jackson That's a fun game. Dan Sullivan Yeah, someone one of the FreeZone participants on Thursday just casually was talking, then dropped the line. perfect, i said whoa, whoa whoa, whoa, whoa, perfect, perfect, So right, okay, so I'm going to give you an easy approach to perfection, okay, and this is what I've done. Just declare yourself perfect. Yeah, just say I'm perfect. Now, how am I going to expand that over the next 90 days? Right, yeah. And it takes them right back to unique ability, because that's the only dynamic capability that we have is that we have a unique ability that nobody has, which is a more. Which is a more coach, which is a more coachified way of talking about. You have a unique ability. That's where the perfection is, but you haven't fully explored all the different ways that you can be more conscious of that, and you haven't explored all the ways in which it can move into greater capabilities and impact in the world. Dean Jackson Yeah, and I guess, that's a guess. Dan Sullivan So that's what Dean Landy is. Dean has a unique ability, unique to him, and I think I passed on to you a comment that says a psychologist is doing a study on the ultimate paper on outliers And he was very, very keenly interested in talking to me, because the words gone around about strategic coach and the whole philosophy of strategic coach is based, and the practice of strategic coach is based on a concept called unique ability. And the question to me was what do unique people have in common? And I said, well, nothing, yeah. Dean Jackson What do unique people have in common? Dan Sullivan Nothing. Dean Jackson That's the absolute truth, isn't it? Yeah? Dan Sullivan I mean I said I've looked the term up in the dictionary and it's a thing unto itself and there's no similarity to it with anything else. I mean unique either means what it means or it doesn't mean anything. But you can't have a unique ability cult. Dean Jackson I think you're right. The interesting thing is, there's always this room for improvement. There's always room for progress And I think that if I think about perfection as something being perfect, as an asymptotic curve that continues to prove I never levels out, is I like some of these definitions, like I'm a big entomologist too similar to you in looking at? I look at the definitions of things right, and I think that what's perfect is, as an adjective, having all the required or desirable elements, qualities or characteristics, as good as it is possible to be. My favorite one is highly suitable for someone or something Exactly right. There's always this thing that we always have just like a horizon, we always have an opportunity to move forward, and I think that that, but it's nice to be able to think that. Dan Sullivan Yeah, well, i think, the wildcard. There's a couple of wildcard factors here. One wildcard factor is that we live in the realm of time. Okay, Yeah. And time's always moving on? Yeah, and as it moves on, things change You know, Yeah, at least they change in terms of our awareness. you know that we're aware of. Gee, that's something new, you know and everything. And the thing is that there's a high premium here on adaptability, of saying, well, this is the perfect approach here, but you know, next week it might not be. Dean Jackson And being. This is where being alert, curious, all of those things are. Yeah, i was looking back at the last 25 years and I was actually thinking like I'd like round things. I'm moving to where, you know, i'm three years away from being 60, and that will be a 25-year. You know, from 2000 was when I kind of started that 25-year vision, you know, and I would tell it now that I've got three years to get to 60, and then 25 years from there will take me to 85, right, and But I look at what's happened. You know that's 28 years right now, kind of looking forward there, and I think of them as academic years. So you know, 28 seasons kind of thing or whatever. I think about them starting in September. But the I think I was really thinking this morning, think about all the things that have changed in that 28 years from 1996 to, you know, to now, and the richest people in the world right now none of them were even doing what they're doing to get to that point 28 years ago. Dan Sullivan Yeah, and that wouldn't, there was no. Dean Jackson There was no Google, there was no Facebook there was no YouTube. Dan Sullivan But even if you take Berkshire Hathaway, which is outside of its technological realm, i mean Warren Buffett will tell you that all of his money, you know he's in his, approaching his mid-90s now and all of his money's really been made, you know, recently. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dean Jackson Yeah, and isn't that? I mean you think about that Warren Buffett was? He was the richest guy in the world or among them. Then, you know, 28 years ago, that's just So, it was Bill Gates, and you know, you think about some of those, the OG ones, but you think about how much, like the internet was just a baby in the United States And brand new. Yeah, You know, you see that My favorite is seeing that. You know Brian Gumbel and Katie Couric clip of them discussing what is the internet. Dan Sullivan You know, yeah well, and what's this thing dot com? you know? right, exactly. Yeah, what's a, what's hello, What Yeah well, i mean, do you have a clue? and these are, you know, these are people in the middle of the news media, you know. I mean yeah and yeah I mean and, and you know they're at and they're in New York City. You know they're right in the Center of one of the world's great plugged in cities. You know, and they're wondering there was. So, you know, i mean, it's really interesting. Just a little point about that. I had just been, you know, you know, doing podcasts with Mike Kenix and Peter Diamadas and Both of them said they made a statement similar to Everybody now is paying attention to AI. Okay, yeah, that's the first part. The second part was I was in London for a whole week and I had a whole event all day with, you know, 100 strategic coach clients, and The only reason anybody was talking about the AI was that Evan Ryan happened to be in UK at that time and I invited to come for the day and I had him come in and And everybody wanted to know what this was. You know, and, and I was reading the. You know London is very rich with newspapers and, yeah, i, you know I was reading the tele every day, the telegraph and. Nobody, nobody was talking about AI. And I, you know, and I said, and I said this is London, another globally plugged in city. You know, you know. I mean you know on a par with New York. And I said, you know, i bet, if I, if, if I go to Africa and visit all the capital cities of Africa, i bet they're not talking about AI, you know right and yeah, yeah. So you know, I mean we're very, very biased towards what, what we're involved in. We're very, very biased towards what we're excited about you know, and everything like that, but that's Not being in your own India, you know. Dean Jackson I mean, i find your own private India Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, have you taken ownership of your India yet? Dan Sullivan Yeah, you know you gotta, you gotta register it. There's like the land rush, you know you got. Dean Jackson Your grandfather, did you? nobody's Just got a claim. Dan Sullivan I think I think you're hitting on something very, very fundamental Which I'm suspecting is very Recent in human history. Okay, and by recent I don't mean, you know, the last 10 years, i mean the last 400 years, and the reason I say 400 Is because I was watching a YouTube video. There's a author who's dead now I think he died last year, in his 90s by the name of Harold Bloom, a professor at Yale, and His specialty was Shakespeare. I mean, he was considered the Foremost expert and commentator on Shakespeare in history. No one, no one, has written about, spoken about Shakespeare more. And Shakespeare, for Harold boom, shakespeare is the. He has a book, is a huge book. You know, it's a big, thick book and It's called Shakespeare, the invention, the invention of human. And He, you know he makes his case. He's, you know he's got all sorts of convincing arguments and everything like that. But he said Shakespeare was the first writer of any kind, the first dramatist of any kind Who, on stage and of course in the writing, but on stage has characters talking to themselves. And He said it's the first one. Yeah, we've never seen. He said I've. You know, i've explored all the stories and all the you know The religions and everything, and he's the first. He's the first character, but it's not just one character. He created about 25 different characters who do this and And they talk to themselves, they have conversations with themselves, and he said there's a crossover and That the modern world really exists when people started talking to themselves in the ancient world before they did. Because now you're thinking about your thinking and You're now reflecting on it and sharing it with the audience. Who the character doesn't know is there. You know he thinks he's alone, but there's, yeah you know, there's a thousand people watching this take place, but he says it's also the birth of personality and he says you Prior, prior to Shakespeare. You don't get these really incredible personalities, you know, like Macbeth, hamlet and Yeah yeah, you know, shia I like, and Iago and all these amazing, and they're complete universes in themselves. I mean, there, there, they're not. They're not even in service of the pot. They just have this complete, almost endless depth to them. And And I Was pod raid that. And Freud, the you know, the famous psychiatrist rain around the 1900 was asked Who he thought was the greatest expert on human psychology, thinking that he would talk about someone in his field or someone he you know, and that he was going to be humble and Give credit to some other person. and he said well, you know, every time I think I'm on a completely new insight And it's like walking down a new road. About halfway down the road I see somebody walking back the other way and and And it's Shakespeare, and Shakespeare. Shakespeare says I thought it was promising, but not really. You know, i mean, take it for me. And I found that a very striking comment on Freud's perch. You know, i mean he was, he was, i mean he was totally into himself, i mean he was a character himself and he was a personality. But if you put bloom and Freud together, what he's saying is that this is very, very recent And it actually has to beginning with one thinker, and you know it has that has to begin in. So I think we're living in that That world and what you and I are doing today, we're saying, yeah, we didn't come up with the notion that there's a mainland and a cloud land via. You know, we, we simply put names to something that people were already dealing with. Yeah, but it's like it's binary, you know, it's like when you, when you, you know, reach the border for this border of the mainland, then you're in cloudlandia. Dean Jackson But what you're. Dan Sullivan What you're suggesting is Well. That may be true for most people, But in fact it's possible to create a third zone that lies between Mainland the mainland and cloudlandia. Dean Jackson That's the truth. I look at them as the layers there. You're absolutely right. Yeah, it's the one that. Yeah, it's the thing that puts it all together. Dan Sullivan Yeah, It's interesting, this thing of technology and the book, the quarterly book I'm writing. This is quarter 35, so this is book 35. And it's called Training Technology Like a Good Dog. Dean Jackson Okay. Dan Sullivan And it's really getting interesting and I'm doing some reading on the topic of. has anyone else made this connection between technology and dogs? And a really nice piece, an academic piece, pretty recent, it just sort of came out And it makes the claim that dogs are in fact humanity's first technology. And this is the thinking this is the thinking that it's the first time humans have taken another species. You know, have taken wolves and done a deal with them, you know. Basically, but there was no such thing as a dog until there was a collaboration between some canny wolf and some you know response of human being And together they created a new creature on the planet called dog you know, And so so when you look at, you know all the various shapes and sizes of, you know of dogs. I live in the beaches area of Toronto and there's a boardwalk about a two minutes away from our front door. And I go down and walk and boy, they sure come in a lot of different varieties but it's all a creative, but it's all a created species and did not pre exist before humans and another species did a collaboration And I says therefore how have we done with the technology called dogs? And we've done, we've been very creative. You know, we've been very creative. You know I mean it's, it's hard to you. Don't see them often, but sometimes you see a chihuahua down there. You know which are, you can hold in your hand. And I ran into one I had never seen two weeks ago, called a Leon burger. Okay, never heard of it And it's a German dog. Dean Jackson It's a St. Dan Sullivan Bernardish As a matter of fact, I think it's a it's bred from. it's a combination of putting the St Bernard and several other mountain work dogs together called. Leon burger, and it's arguably the biggest, the biggest of the breeds, and they weigh in at about a hundred and forty, five hundred and fifty pounds. They're a big, big dog and very, very tranquil, you know very tranquil, very, you know, very easy to get along with. And I said well, somebody you know, some back there, series of people says let's get a really, really little dog. You know one you can hold in your hand And you know. And and somebody else said you know what we do, we need a bigger dog. We need a bigger dog. But you have to realize, is you're, you're dealing with a technology that was actually created by human beings in the first place. That's amazing. Dean Jackson It was made. Dan Sullivan they're made up, Dogs are made up. Dean Jackson Yeah, i think you say. then what would be the next collaboration? that paved the way for us to collaborate with donkey and oxen. Dan Sullivan Yeah, Pigs cows, you know yeah yeah, but my feeling is the knowledge of developing dogs then led to you know, led to you know all sorts of you know domestication of animals, just spread very quickly after they cracked the code, after they cracked the code on dogs. Dean Jackson Think about that All the yeah, the golden age of carrier pigeons and falconry, and yeah, parrot, we opened up a whole new yeah. Dean Jackson Yeah, a whole new world. Yeah, yeah, i think you're on the front. Dan Sullivan There's a, there's a, there's a parallel weapon. Well, this is the only topic that Peter Diamandis has ever asked me to share at A360. Dean Jackson And. Dan Sullivan I wasn't asked to come on stage, i just did a little 10 minute riff. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan But I said, you know, i had 10 minute riff there And that was, you know, six, seven years ago And but it's, it's been one of those. It's been like a piece of food that gets caught in your teeth. You know, my tongue's been working away for the last five or six years And I've been saying, you know, i think there was something in that little riff I did there. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan That will be useful now when we talk about the technologies that we have right now, and what I've established in the book is that you don't get a good dog unless you establish completely and take responsibility that you're the owner. Okay, and my sense is the same thing with any technology, but especially the ones that were are you know are the hot numbers in Cloudlandia. Dean Jackson I love it. Dean Jackson I mean this is such great. I can't wait for that one to come out. Dan Sullivan Yeah, and you know the book. The book surprises you, i mean, as you go along. And. but the central thing is, i mean it's it's a bit of a diversion, because I'm talking about dogs and I'm really talking about you know, and I'm talking about technology, but it's actually a diversion. What I'm trying to emphasis is what does ownership mean? Are you a human being who's actually taken ownership of yourself, because it makes a lot easier than to be the owner of a dog and the owner of technology? if you've actually taken ownership of yourself And I think that Dean Lambea is a statement I've taken ownership of this territory. Dean Jackson I think that's right And all that that entails And that's the part of the best thing. If you did inherit a land or took ownership of it, part of the great joy is exploring the territory. That's really what Well, i'm putting yeah. Dan Sullivan And the other thing is putting your mark on it you know, Yeah. I think, that's amazing, Yeah, And the land rush. You know they had the homesteading act. It's an act of Congress. And then the various states would have land rushes, They would be territories and they had goal to be a state. Oklahoma is the very famous, you know the very famous example. And so it didn't have Oklahoma, the Oklahoma territory, which was borrowed from the Native Indians who were there. But they were Yeah, but they were very deficient on property lines, they were. They were very deficient on surveys, you know, and they said it was their land, but there was. They didn't register it, you know they didn't you know they didn't go to the, you know to the Native Territory Registry Office and register it And so got a certain date. You know the financial interests and the political interests in Oklahoma set that up And you have to get in agreement with the federal government that you're doing this. You know it's a teamwork thing but on a particular day you could line up at one border of Oklahoma. You couldn't do it from all four borders. You could do it And there was a gunshot or a cannon was off, and then you would go to claim a hundred, a hundred, i think it was a hundred acres hundred acres And you know, and you had to survey it in, you had to put the survey lines in and you had to put stakes, stakes along the way, and you, they had surveyors who were helpers and they would, you know, give the, you know from their understanding, the, you know the specific latitude and longitude. And then they had a registry office and these were movable registry offices because it was dynamic action for like a six month period And by the end of six months all the land was registered, all the land in the state was registered, and then you know, and then they invited people to move in to the potential new state of Oklahoma and once they got a population that was equal to the state of Rhode Island, they could petition for statehood, and that's how the state got created. Dean Jackson Isn't that interesting? I there was a great movie. There was a great movie called Far and Away and it was Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman and it told the story of them coming from Ireland to Oklahoma, to America, where they're giving away land. They saw flyers in the, you know, in England or in Ireland and decided that they would make the track over and start a new life in America. Yeah, it was a very fascinating thing And it's interesting how the Oklahoma Sooners the Sooners got their name because some of them, as you said, before the gun went off, they went in. Dean Jackson Sooner and already, already. Dan Sullivan Yeah, they yeah, that's why. Yeah, that's why the The name has stuck, you know and I'll go home, Yeah and because they were Too soon. they were too soon, Yeah that's right, Yeah that's they had already. They were already there and then they hit, but and then, if anybody else came, they Suddenly emerged and said no, no, we've staked up this territory, we've already done it, you know, and and Everything else you know, like Italy, i was on a bus in Italy and it was on the Amalfi coast, which is a spectacular, you know, spectacularly beautiful part. But we weren't on the coast, we were in a town and I was sitting the closest a passenger could be to the bus driver, so he was on Left, because they, they, they, they drive on the same way we do in the states, you know, on the same side of the road. And we came in a village where we came down, and then there was a perpendicular road, road we around didn't go through. You had to turn, and, and these client and the sign at the end clearly said Turn right the arrow was pointing right and the bus driver turned left and I said I think that's one way. The other way isn't? he says, mere suggestion. Dean Jackson I'm mere suggestion. That's funny. I love it. Dan Sullivan I love it and that that explains that. That explains Italians approach to all laws merely Yeah. Dean Jackson I thought, by the way, your Go ahead, you're about to talk about you're. Dan Sullivan You're about to talk about me, so I want to hear it fully, of course. Dean Jackson I saw your working genius. Dean Jackson Oh yeah through before. Dean Jackson That'd be a good No surprise, but no is identical. Dean Jackson Yes, we have identical working geniuses. Dean Jackson It's funny, yeah, but Useful. I mean, i've got a. 0:54:16 - Dan Sullivan I found it very useful and we're going to give it to all the free zoners You know we're going to give it you know like we do. We did that with the print, which I find useful in its own way and you know. So you know Strength finder. I find that useful. Cold be very useful. Dean Jackson And you know so. I mean they're like interesting. It would be, or be fascinating For, if everybody in free zone did the working genius and they got a way to combine, to show Like we could show the free zone environment with everybody's strength lit up. As You know, if you need Some particular working genius, these are all the free zone people that are. Dan Sullivan Well, it's really interesting because we just created a tool. Our tech team did the Website on the coach website that's called the who finder, and I like you and you go in and just list who you are. In terms of the kind of kinds of projects you like to work on and where your best abilities are And what your best solutions are and you just listed and anybody else can look at that and contact you. Dean Jackson I like that. I'm just good thinking. Something similar among Looking at the, the VCR assets as well vision capability and reach Assets to be able to be where people have Access, capacity or have need. Yeah, as a framework for collaboration, oh yeah. Dan Sullivan So I mean you could, you could just take the who finder and just expand it to include those categories with credit, with credit given to the originator. Dean Jackson But I think those that would really open up a lot of collaboration. Dean Jackson Yeah. Dan Sullivan Yeah, there's one. I don't know if you've met him because he's a Year into free zone. His name is Chad Jenkins. Have you met Chad Jenkins? I have met Chad. Dean Jackson Yeah, i met Chad and he was in Palm Beach, right. Dan Sullivan Yeah, yeah, and he's a multi-company man and in North Carolina. But he in one year has stripped out all of his Activities except collaborating with other people, mainly in free zone, mainly in free zone And then adding their capabilities to the companies that he owns. I like that. Dean Jackson Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, let's come up. Dan Sullivan Let's just sum up a little bit, three things that emerged and you're thinking, since we started at the Top of the previous hour, what let's come through? that Takes what you were already working on further Well. Dean Jackson I like this idea of You know, claiming your and via. I think It's a really interesting concept, but if you take it like a, a new territory to be explored and mined for all the best resources and outcomes, and I Think there's, i think there's really something to that of thinking of it as Property, you know well, I think the the interesting thing about it It isn't that other people have to know That have to know because they can't They can't right the whole point is do you claim it for yourself? Yeah, I Think that's amazing, like I think there's so much of our. That's really where we spend the most time, you know. I mean, it's there, the It's what shapes everything. You know so much of our life experience is our internal, whether we recognize it as that or not, but where our attention goes well, and I think the other thing that is very crucial about this, and And we didn't really get into that, but since That, i'll just use my own example. Dan Sullivan For a long time in my life I didn't claim my India. I didn't and, but I beat myself up For being there rather than being either in the mainland or in clockland. Dean Jackson Yeah right. Dan Sullivan The meantime I was in Dan Dan landia. I thought it was a waste of time that I you know why are you doing this? Dean Jackson I mean, this is wasted time, this is wasted effort you know why you, why What teachers and authorities kind of beat it out of you. He's always yeah, he's always got his head in the cloud. He's always down. Often, if he's often his own world. It's always beaten out of us as a negative thing. Dan Sullivan Well yeah, or or we tell other, we give other people permission to beat us up Yeah. Dean Jackson Well it's true, right, yeah, i mean. Dan Sullivan I mean it's interesting, I think that It's. It's a new world that we're in, but my, my sense is that it really starts, and I'm I feel good about description. You know that Professor Bloom gives that this really really started with Shakespeare. Shakespeare is the first human being to Open the door That this is available to you know, he's, he's available to you. What's really, really interesting, he comes across as a very tortured soul. So I think he only went halfway with this idea. And that is he says we, we need to worship Shakespeare by this. And I said, no, you got to use Shakespeare as a working example and then, in your own realm, do What he suggested you can do and I get the sense that that he didn't do that. He didn't do that. You know he, you know he turned it, you know he talks about it in almost like religious terms and I said, right, yeah, it's like. It's kind of like you have a retrieval dog and You shoot and you kill the duck. You know the duck fall and then you then you point to the pointer. You know you point to that, and instead of going and getting the duck, he looks your finger. Dean Jackson Oh, right Oh. Dan Sullivan Mighty one, Oh mighty one. I love it when you point you know yeah no, no, there's. There's a project here, You know. Go do what, go do what you're supposed to be doing. Dean Jackson Yeah, and I get it. Dan Sullivan Yeah, i got it feeling with I got a gold mine out of this and Yeah, claiming your andia that's the exactly right. Dean Jackson I got a gold mine out of this, and I got a gold mine out of this, and I did, yeah, claiming your andia. Dan Sullivan That's the exactly right. That's just the t-shirt that we're going to, that's right. I mean coffee cops bumper sticker soon. I mean there's the universe Emerging anyway, Same same time next week. Absolutely, i wouldn't miss it. Dean Jackson Alrighty, thanks, dan, okay. Okay, okay, dean.

David Goldsmith joins us once again, and we kick off the conversation by touching on the transformative properties of coaching, specifically through open-hearted connection and honesty. We share stories from our experiences as coaches, and David leaves a breadcrumb trail of wisdom throughout the conversation, and before we wrap up Act 2, shares some of the best advice for anyone considering coaching – bring it all to the table, seek challenge, and be ready to work. One of the founders of the coaching profession, David worked closely with Thomas Leonard, served as the first president of Coach U and later went on to lead CoachInc.com. He trained the first Japanese coaches, wrote the Dear Coach column for the Sunday London Times and co-founded the Foundation of Coaching which later became the Institute of Coaching at Harvard.LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-goldsmith-14856/Website: https://www.7pathsforward.com/

David Goldsmith shares his story of growing up in the suburbs of New York City, alongside a plethora of interesting, intelligent and important people who helped shape the fabric of his community. He talks about his inability to fit in during High School, not really ever identifying with one particular group - likely fueled by a desire to grow up quickly - and the impact of connecting with people throughout his career, ultimately leading him towards work that he was born to do. David closes Act 1 by dissecting the type of people who are built for coaching, and how this emerging industry has allowed people like him to give something back to the world.One of the founders of the coaching profession, David worked closely with Thomas Leonard, served as the first president of Coach U and later went on to lead CoachInc.com. He trained the first Japanese coaches, wrote the Dear Coach column for the Sunday London Times and co-founded the Foundation of Coaching which later became the Institute of Coaching at Harvard.LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-goldsmith-14856/Website: https://www.7pathsforward.com/

Today, we're heading back to Santa Fe, New Mexico in the United States to visit one of the early professional coaching pioneers, Mr. David Goldsmith. David's mission is to grow the quality of coaching and leadership worldwide. That's a big audacious goal. David's also a senior partner of the Goldsmith Group, he's the founder and executive director of 7 Paths Forward, which is a training organization for coaches, where he partners with Mr. David Peterson. In the early 1990s, David worked closely with Thomas Leonard on the Coach 100 concept and served as the first president of Coach University. Yes, that's more than 30 years back. And during that time, he and Thomas founded the International Coach Federation, commonly referred to today as ICF, which is the leading coaching certification body for the global coaching profession. As well, David was one of the first to attain from the ICF, his master-certified coach and board-certified coach credentials. He later went on to lead coach-inc.com through its expansion as well as co-founding with Ruth Ann Harnisch the Foundation of Coaching, which later became the Institute of Coaching at Harvard, furthering the profession's commitment to research. As coaching spread globally, David was invited to Japan to train the country's first coaches, and he worked closely with the Japanese groups, Coach 21 and COACH A to establish coaching in this part of Asia. His client list reads like a who's who of the business world, and today his focus is primarily on working with executives, professionals, and entrepreneurs. Often known as the coach's coach. He's also worked with many of the leaders in the industry. Visit our website to access the full transcript, show notes, and guest links - Coaching 4 Coaching

Claire Pedrick was speaking at the ICF Conference in 2019 when a publisher approached her and said: “Have you got a book in you?”That book is Simplifying Coaching, and in it Claire offers a rallying cry for filtering out the noise of the coaching industry and honing in on the very human essence of transformative conversations.In this episode of The Coach's Journey Podcast, Claire traces the steps that led her into a burgeoning coaching landscape around the turn of the century and reflects on the precious lessons learned from moments that sometimes felt like missteps.She shines a light on the “guru-ing” and “pedestal-ing” that can lead to problematic power dynamics in coaching, and shares the foundational values such as equity and fairness that underpin the success of 3D Coaching and saw her recognised with the 2022 Outstanding Contribution to Coaching Award from Henley Business School.Claire is a master of the art of communicating complicated things simply, but admits it took a long time to have the confidence to cut through complexity and offer straightforward truths when coaching or mentoring coaches.Listening to her speak, you cannot fail to appreciate the fundamental importance of her approach, which is explained with refreshing clarity. In this episode, we talk about:Whether we have to be the things we want to develop in people The impact of modelling the boundaries we setThe holy ground in the coaching space and how to interact with itBeing wise about how many coffees to have with someone and still call it workLearning how to be silent and how to wait while coaching clients are doing good workClaire also talks about how to value your time, how to balance delivery and business development, and the importance of – as coaches – telling the truth about ourselves.To learn more about Claire, visit https://www.linkedin.com/in/clairepedrick/For information about my wider work, my writing or to buy my books, visit www.robbieswale.com.Music by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/community. Things and people we mentioned (that you might be interested in):- Robbie's upcoming event, How to Be More Productive (and why time management won't help you): https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/how-to-be-more-productive-and-why-time-management-wont-help-you-tickets-470005598397 - Claire's podcast, The Coaching Inn https://thecoachinginn.podbean.com/- Sarah Cartwright https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-cartwright-28659815/ - Claire's book, Simplifying Coaching https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/56199938-simplifying-coaching - Alex Swallow http://alexswallow.com/about/ - Robbie's 100 podcast challenge https://www.robbieswale.com/writing/2022/2/4/the-12-minute-method-100-podcasts-challenge - Transforming Conversations https://www.3dcoaching.com/transforming-conversations/- Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3228917-outliers - Ed Watson https://www.linkedin.com/in/ed-watson-training - Good Housekeeping https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/- Thomas Leonard https://coachville.com/connect/founder-thomas-leonard/ - Coach U https://www.coachu.com/home/- 3D Coaching https://www.3dcoaching.com/- Moneypenny https://www.moneypenny.com/uk/- Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, by Oliver Burkeman https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/54785515-four-thousand-weeks - Phil Bolton and Inga Umblija on The Coach's Journey podcast https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-28-inga-umblija-phil-bolton-abundance-formula- Barry Ennis on The Coach's Journey podcast https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/episode-9-barry-ennis-follow-the-fire- Reid Hoffman https://www.reidhoffman.org/- Robbie appearing on The Coaching Inn https://thecoachinginn.podbean.com/e/in-conversation-with-robbie-swale-how-to-start-when-you-re-stuck/ - Vegard Olsen coachingpartner.net- Tony Robbins https://www.tonyrobbins.com/ - ILM https://www.i-l-m.com/ - John Blakey https://johnblakey.co.uk/

These affirmations are a synopsis of Thomas Leonard's 28 Principles of Attraction. Enjoy! Read the book here: https://amzn.to/3tQ5dPp --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lovethealchemistpodcast/support

This is episode 1099 of the Arete Coach Podcast with host Severin Sorensen and guest Dr. Vikki Brock, PhD, MCC. Vikki is an executive coach, an ICF Master Certified Coach, consultant, mentor, and author of The Sourcebook of Coaching History. In 1995 Vikki left her 21-year career at The Boeing Company to start VB Coaching and Consulting. Today she is an ICF Master Certified Coach, consultant, and mentor. She earned her Executive MBA and a Ph.D. in Coaching and Human Development. When she was coaching, she brought wisdom, experience, and research-based processes to move leaders and individuals to higher stages of personal awareness and effectiveness. Vikki encouraged her clients to take “their leadership and their life to the next level” in a challenging yet non-judgemental way. Vikki is the author of The Sourcebook of Coaching History, “a comprehensive review of the historical roots of coaching and the influence of pioneers from related fields.” Vikki was closely involved with the early founders of modern coaching: Thomas Leonard and Laura Whitworth. Vikki was an early member of ICF (member #60) and since its creation in 1996 , she was one of the first coaches to receive an MCC from the ICF in 1998. She also was on faculty for the University of Texas at Dallas Coaching Certificate program, and taught for several coach training schools internationally. In this episode, we explore Vikki's journey into the coach field, her experiences in the growth of the coaching industry, and her passion for interviewing 170 coaching practitioners and scholars as the basis for her Sourcebook on Coaching History. More on the topic is available at AreteCoach.io. The Arete Coach Podcast seeks to explore the art and science of executive coaching. You can find out more about this podcast at aretecoach.io. This episode was produced on 17 October 2022. Copyright © 2022 by Arete Coach™ LLC. All rights reserved.

Benjamin Easter is the Founder, CEO, and Head Coach at Lucid Shift Coaching, where he helps cultural renegades and early-stage entrepreneurs manage their minds, increase awareness, expand possibilities, and take strategic action. Benjamin has over a decade of experience in individual and group coaching, and his coaching style is a blend of strategic planning, practical exercises, and laser-focused playful curiosity.  Before Lucid Shift Coaching, Benjamin was the Owner of The Power of Purpose Coaching, LLC. Before beginning his career as a business coach, Benjamin was an Account Manager for Jama Software and Notion and the Owner of Eastern Medicine, LLC. He has a BA in religion, a BA in philosophy, and an MS in traditional Chinese medicine and herbology. Additionally, Benjamin is a Certified Coach licensed in acupuncture and oriental medicine. He has also taken coaching development courses from Tony Robbins, Thomas Leonard, and Rich Litvin.  In this episode… What is holding you back from achieving your vision and the reality you desire for your brand? Strategically thinking about your business model may seem like a daunting task, but does it need to be? With over a decade of business coaching experience, Benjamin Easter warns against becoming stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and weighing your sense of satisfaction on the types of results you create. When you hold your self-worth hostage, it can be difficult to see through a dissatisfied state of mind. That's why Benjamin says it is valuable to have a coach to guide and engage you through feelings of uncertainty to become an effective entrepreneur. Business coaches are great for exploring your actual situation, identifying any limiting factors that might be holding you back, and creating a unique strategy to tap into your authentic power. In this episode of the Quiet Light Podcast, Joe Valley sits down with Benjamin Easter, Founder, CEO, and Head Coach at Lucid Shift Coaching, to discuss how having a coach can help you break free from what's holding you back in your life and growing your business. Benjamin talks about aligning your values as an entrepreneur, transcending a balanced male-female dichotomy within your work, and producing desired results through the natural learning process. Stay tuned! 

Joseph O'Connor is the Co-founder of the International Coaching Community (ICC), and one of the best known and respected coaches and coach trainers in the world. He also founded the Neuroscience Coaching Centre.  Joseph is the author of nineteen books in thirty languages on coaching, training, and neuroscience that have sold half a million copies worldwide. He follows his two great interests, giving coaching training and courses on creative nonfiction writing. Highlights Joseph's background as a musician provided the impetus for him to figure out what he has been teaching about both performance and teaching. There is a gap between what you do and what you can do and Joseph helps people understand how to bridge that gap. His original interest was in helping people use psychological techniques such as NLP to do a better job of playing the guitar (in the 1980s). Joseph's latest book is Coaching the Brain, which helps coaches understand the brain science they need to use when working with clients. If coaches don't understand brain science, then their ability to lead clients is limited. It also helps coaching clients to know more about how their brain works. Emotions are a combination of body sensations and meaning. Joseph talks about emotional intelligence. Every thought contains an emotion, and every emotion has a thought, i.e. meaning. Our decisions are based on the emotions that are going on. In the end, our decisions are based on our emotions which are designed to keep us alive and moving forward. The idea is to use the energy of emotions constructively. We spent time talking about money and emotions. Thomas Leonard, who started the whole coaching profession, was originally a financial advisor. When we get afraid because the amygdala is activated, the rest of the brain shuts down and stops thinking. Our brains are very good at making up negative stories about the future. Taking action can ground us in the present. To reduce anxiety, first acknowledge and accept where you are emotionally. Trying to make the anxiety go away, you're actually makes it worse. Then ask, what can I do? When we do that, other parts of the brain are engaged and we can find solutions. Links Coaching the Brain – the book www.CoachingTheBrain.com has a lot of helpful information

 Danyetta Najoli is the author of Micro Shift and a Growth Mindset Coach.  In her chapter, she talked about her story and how she uses the tools that she provides to her clients herself. We discuss her chapter and how showing vulnerability helps with connecting with your readers and your clients.  Buy Micro ShiftConnect with Danyetta:https://www.danyetta.com/Bio:Danyetta Najoli is a Growth Mindset and Personal Foundations Coach. She works with creatives who want to create laser-like focus on the things that matter most, women who are in the middle of life transition, and people who want to become more productive and mindful by doing less.​Danyetta's work is based on the research of social role theory, multiple intelligence, mindfulness, happiness, and positive psychology. She is an Amazon #1 Best Selling author and editor of inspirational works. She earned her Certificate of Advanced Proficiency (CAP) through OADSP's DSPaths Program and her Coaching for Results Certificate from Harvard Business School. Danyetta served as Dean of an international Coach Training school working with students in Asia, Australia, Canada, and throughout the United States. She is a member of Thomas Leonard's Graduate School of Coaching/Coachville.com (Member ID: 231888). Danyetta authored two ebooks, What is Coaching? and Unstoppable Confidence: Sustaining a Posture for Success, which serves as a guidebook for support professionals and others seeking to develop confidence in key area of their lives.Danyetta is a collaborative author and editor of the book, It Takes Money Honey: Guaranteed Strategies to Wealth Creation, Proven Tips for Financial Faith and Developing Faith. This book is available in paperback and as an ebook.Danyetta earned a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration from Fisk University and a Masters of Arts in Organizational Leadership from Regent University. She is a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Danyetta serves on the board of Neighbours, Inc. and is a Parent Ambassador of Cincinnati Squash Academy. She served as a board member of Price Hill Will and vice president of Invest in Neighborhoods, chairing their Nominating Committee.For more about Danyetta and to hire her coaching and training services, visit www.Danyetta.comSupport the show

Thrilled to have coach, educator and author of the Heart of Laser-Focused Coaching on the podcast.  Marion is an MCC coach since 2008 and her book has been read by thousands of people looking to learn how to get to the heart of the matter and immediately elevate their coaching effectiveness while avoiding common pitfalls.  Thomas Leonard Heart of Laser-Focused Coaching Book Marion's Website Questions, comments, feedback or guest recommendations at wetalkedaboutthis99@gmail.com

The final installment of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. This time going through numbers 91 – 101. These are available to you in written form through the coaching platform Thomas created and run today by Coach Dave Buck, www.coachville.com.   Want more Essential coaching skills? Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

Contact Nicole at TrueSelfLove.club #vocalpower, #ownyourvoice, #fearofvisibility, #fearofpublicspeaking, #authenticallyunapologetic Contact us at WhatHasMyAttention.com   Welcome to What Has My Attention.This is John Biethan. Today's episode is titled “The Sovereign Voice of Influence” feat. Nicole Guberman. Nicole is yet another "Women in Strong Leadership" who I met on LinkedIn. She has a very unique set of credentials, with in-depth knowledge, that along with her life-long experiences enhance and empower the change and transformation that women seek today. Links and Mentions in this episode Ram Das Here and Now podcast on Apple Podcasts Tara Brach podcast on Apple Podcasts Sam Harris podcast on Apple Podcasts The 28 Laws of Attraction: Stop Chasing Success and Let It Chase You by Thomas Leonard on Amazon How Did We Forget Ourselves? Contact and Follow Nicole Website: https://trueselflove.club/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicole-guberman/ The Socials: @nicole.trueselflove  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicole.trueselflove/  WHAT has YOUR attention? Let us know To contact us and/or leave us an audio message visit WhatHasMyAttention.com  Produced by ImaginePodcasting.com dba Heard Not Seen Media, Inc. Podsafe Music Credits Shine All Night by AudioStock and Motion Array Royalty-Free Music. Dope Digging by Martijn de Boer (NiGiD) Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial (3.0) license

The penultimate installment of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. This time going through numbers 81 – 90. There are some real beauts in here. Quite literally "essential."   Want more Essential coaching skills? Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

Yes! Another scintillating installment of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. Today I share numbers 71–80 which includes one that maybe is a bit out of date. Or is it? Hmmm... Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

Today I share numbers 61–70 of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid, along with colorful commentary that has been called "worth the price of admission." Other people have been truly hard put to argue with that. You decide.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

"Integrity reveals beauty." -Thomas Leonard

Today we revisit Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. This time going through 51 - 60. Gosh, I'm enjoying these! They are so good - so smart - so sensible. Dare we use the word... essential?   Want more Essential coaching skills?  Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

YES! Today I share ten more, numbers 41–50, of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. Missing these would be a huge mistake you should definitely avoid. ENJOY.   Want more Essential coaching skills?  Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

In this episode of the #bemore with Ingomu podcast show we're having a conversation about the power of coaching with Ingomu coaches Gregory Brown, Arlene Cohen Miller and Anjanette Sullivan.We discuss why our guests became coaches, why coaching is so powerful, and how people can get the most out of coaching. In honor of National Coaches Day, we honor one the fathers of the coaching profession, Thomas Leonard.

Today I want to talk about how to manage your energy levels to get MORE done. If you can learn how to manage your energy levels effectively, then you can move FORWARD in life, instead of feeling like you're falling behind. Here are a few tips about how to manage your energy levels so that you can be ready for anything at any time. Determine the time of day when you're the most energetic. Identify the things that drain your energy. Be consistent in the way you handle your situations. Time is an illusion. There's no such thing as time management, there's only activity management in the time that we're given. ~ Thomas Leonard

Today I share numbers 31–40 of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid, along with colorful commentary that has been called "worth the price of admission." Other people have been truly hard put to argue with that. You decide.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check Out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

Welcome to Day 1748 of our Wisdom-Trek, and thank you for joining me.This is Guthrie Chamberlain, Your Guide to WisdomA Lifestyle vs A Life – Daily WisdomWelcome to Wisdom-Trek with Gramps. We are on Day 1749 of our Trek, and it's time to explore another nugget of wisdom, which includes an inspirational quote along with some wise words from Gramps for today's trek. Wisdom is the final frontier in gaining true knowledge. We are on a daily trek to create a legacy of wisdom, seek out discernment and insights, and boldly grow where few have chosen to grow before. Hello, my friend; this is Gramps. Thanks for coming along on today's trek as we increase Wisdom and Create a Living Legacy. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs%2016%3A16&version=NLT (Proverbs 16:16) How much better to get wisdom than gold, and sound judgment than silver!    If you apply the words you hear today, over time, it will help you become more healthy, wealthy, and wise as you continue your daily trek of life. So let's jump right in with today's nugget: Today's quote is from Thomas Leonard, and it is: A lifestyle is what you pay for; a life is what pays you. A Lifestyle vs A Life If you work hard and are prudent with what you earn, you can create the lifestyle you wish to live. However, it does take focus, endurance, and wisdom to take advantage of the opportunities you cross on your trek of life. Especially in most free countries, you can create just about any type of lifestyle desired. However, you must ask yourself and your family, are you willing to pay the price necessary to reach your desired lifestyle. I am certainly not referring only to a monetary cost. Every time to choose to say yes to one option, you are automatically saying no to other possibilities. Just make sure your choices are a good investment for you, and the impact on your life with family and friends is worth the cost. Living a rich and satisfying life is much more than obtaining material resources, it includes a rewarding life of relationships that no amount of money can buy. The satisfaction, peace, and relationships you can foster in your life are the payments you will receive from a well-lived life. One aspect of a well-lived life is sharing our resources with others to help improve their lifestyles. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20John%203%3A16%2D18&version=NLT (1 John 3:16-18) We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. If someone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need but shows no compassion—how can God's love be in that person? Dear children, let's not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.  As you ponder this nugget of wisdom for yourself, please encourage your friends and family to join us and then come along tomorrow for another day of ‘Wisdom-Trek, Creating a Legacy.' If you would like to listen to any of our past 1748 treks or read the Wisdom Journal, they are available at Wisdom-Trek.com. I encourage you to subscribe to Wisdom-Trek on your favorite podcast player so that each day's trek will be downloaded automatically. If you would also like to receive our weekly newsletter called ‘Wisdom Notes,' please email me at guthrie@wisdom-trek.com. Thank you so much for allowing me to be your guide, mentor, and, most of all, your friend as I serve you through this Wisdom-Trek podcast and journal. As we take this Trek together, let us always: Live Abundantly (Fully) Love Unconditionally Listen Intentionally Learn Continuously Lend to others Generously Lead with Integrity Leave a Living Legacy Each Day I am Guthrie Chamberlain….reminding you to 'Keep Moving Forward,' ‘Enjoy your Journey,' and ‘Create a Great Day…Everyday'! See you Tomorrow for more daily wisdom!

Today I share numbers 21–30 of Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid, along with colorful commentary that some would say is insightful and illuminating. Others might keep that to themselves.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Check out... EssentialCoachingSkills.com

The varying degrees of your energy level can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Sometimes you have to have the energy to complete a task or activity and other times you seem to have the most energy when you're trying to relax. If you can learn how to manage your energy levels effectively, you can move ahead rather than lag behind. Here are some tips about how to manage your energy levels so that you're ready for anything – any time. 1. Determine the times you're most energetic. Some people are more energetic in the mornings and others are night owls. You should be able to determine from past experience which time of day you get more done. Those are the times you should schedule the most harrowing or mind bending of tasks. 2. Identify what drains you of your energy. Be honest about this assessment. When you know which obstacles and situations keep you from being the best you can be, you can do what it takes to minimize them or eradicate them from your life. 3. When you do have energy is it negative or positive? If you have lots of energy, but your output is all about negativity, you are likely in a constant reactive mode rather than a positive, active mode. Negative, but energetic people never seem to have enough time to get things done. 4. Use your energy to make headway, not merely survive. We all have increasing demands on our time. The way that we meet it determines whether we go through life just barely getting by or having the energy to advance. Quit rushing through in survival mode simply to get things done. Choose performance over immediate solutions. 5. Be consistent in the way you handle situations. When you experience energy highs and lows, you may find yourself reacting to situations according to your energy level. If you're energetic, you can be positive, but if you're lethargic you could react in a totally negative manner. Try to be consistent in your reactions and it will help your energy levels to be consistent. Thomas Leonard, a highly successful financial planner and business entrepreneur says that time is an illusion – “There's no such thing as time management. There's only activity management in the time we're given.” How much activity you get done in that allotted time is directly responsible for how energetic you are. Make your activities into priorities according to your energy level. Performing low-energy tasks at times when you're least energetic and high-energy tasks at times when you energy level is highest can help you meet all the demands and expectations and still have time to relax and enjoy life. Need to talk? Contact me today at SarahSevenfoldLifeCoaching.com Thanks for listening! ~Sarah --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sarah-sevenfold/support

Today we revisit Thomas Leonard's 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. This time going through 9 - 20. I don't fully agree with every aspect of these 11 tips and explain why, but I also show where some of these are - dare I say - essential to be aware of.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... https://www.EssentialCoachingSkills.com

Thomas Leonard - the founder of Coaching - listed 101 Coaching Mistakes to Avoid. Here we go through the top 8 from his list. We also pay homage to the painter Chuck Close who died on August 19th and once again listen to the story about Chuck Close I use in Coaching.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

Sharing advice from Thomas Leonard, the father of coaching, Doug shares the secret of getting started as a coach and finding your own voice in the field.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills? Essentialcoachingskills.com

Questionnaires are great ways for you to get to know your client's strengths and weaknesses quickly and to give you something to focus on and discuss in your coaching sessions.  In this episode, Doug tells you about a couple of them you can use that he learned from Thomas Leonard.   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... Essentialcoachingskills.com

Stever Robbins is a serial entrepreneur, top-10 iTunes podcaster, and productivity expert. He co-founded the early internet success story FTP Software, served as COO of Building Blocks Interactive, CEO of JobTacToe.com, and has been an initial team member of ten start-ups, including four IPOs and three acquisitions. He currently runs Get-it-Done Groups™, which help people make extreme progress on important projects and habits. He also learned coaching from the same person I did - the originator, Thomas Leonard and is an NLP Master Trainer Elite.   Find out more about Sever Robbins here: Contact Stever via www.steverrobbins.com   Want more Essential Coaching Skills?  Check out... https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com/

En esta 14º revista entrevistaremos a la Mentorcoach de Alto Rendimiento y Ceo de Keycoaching International Cristina Arozamena. Cristina tras profundizar en la Filosofía y más tarde en la Dirección Comercial y Marketing Estratégico, viajó a Florida donde tuvo la oportunidad de tener su primer contacto con el Coaching y la filosofía de Thomas Leonard, uno de los padres del Coaching. Tras formarse en varias escuelas y adquirir la aptitud de coaching americana y europea con la International Association of Coaching, creó una metodología propia de Coaching de Alto Rendimiento y focalización a resultados además de haberse formado en Train The Trainers UP con Anthony Robbins, Mente Millonaria con Eker, entre otros. Sin duda uno de sus principales logros es haber aprendido junto a su madre y a través de sus múltiples cánceres, el valor real de la vida, del amor incondicional y del sacrificio. Ha conseguido diseñar una vida coherente, eligiendo muy bien a su entorno y ecológica. Pese a haber vivido una situación de maltrato encubierto, ha sabido salir adelante no como víctima sino como persona madura y fuerte. Cristina es Directora del Instituto de Coaching Empresarial de la Cámara de Comercio de Alicante Elegida una de los 100 Influencers del Desarrollo Humano. Ha formado a más de 5.000 personas y empresas en coaching, desarrollo personal y profesional, Mentoring y Alto Rendimiento, por toda España en el 2019. Ha formado a más de 150 Speakers de éxito ese año y más de 230 Trainers. Ha introducido el Coaching Personal, educativo y de equipos en la Generalitat Valenciana y sus diferentes Consellerías de Educación y Empleo Es conferenciante de primer nivel y dinamizadora de las acciones formativas de Alto Rendimiento en Organizaciones Empresariales. Y también es miembro de la Asociación Europea de Mentoring, de la Organización Mundial de Conferencistas y de la AIDCP Mi marca Internacional es KeyCoaching y Top Trainers & Speakers School Propulsora e ideóloga de los programas internacionales en los que el último año han participado más de 3.800 profesionales de más de 9 países ¡A emprender con éxito! #CRISTINAROZAMENA​​ #KEYCOACHING​​ #ENTREVISTA​​

We track down veteran coach Des Walsh on the Gold Coast of Australia to explore why "Coaching is a Higher Form of Communication". Des relates great stories and perspectives including his start in coaching with the famous "Coach U", how he met Thomas Leonard and became one of the founding members of the IAC and helped shape the Masteries. Tune in to hear this and more from this legendary Business Coach from Australia.

Bonus Episode: Interview with Thomas Leonard Ross QC.Before joining the Scottish bar in 2000, Thomas was a partner in a busy Glasgow solicitor’s practice, specializing in criminal defence.Since calling at the Scottish bar, Thomas has established himself as one of the country’s busiest criminal trial counsel – having conducted more than 250 trials in the highest trial court. Homicide in all its forms is a particular interest – but all types of serious crime have been defended by Thomas.In August 2017 Her Majesty the Queen appointed Thomas as one of her counsel in Scotland, ‘a mark of distinction in Advocacy’.Thomas was featured in the BBC documentary 'Murder Trial: The Disappearance of Margaret Fleming', in which the crew were given unprecedented access to the inner workings of Scotland's justice system to document a high-profile murder trial as it progressed.In this episode Thomas explains the origin of the 'Not Proven' verdict and clears up some of the misconceptions surrounding this unique aspect of Scot's Law. Thomas also talks about the ways the legal profession has changed during his career and provides some practical advice for students of Law. https://www.benchmarkadvocates.co.uk/

My client was telling me about lots of struggles, difficult times, and a few positive moments.  I noted, as I have many times with many clients, "It sounds like your present is perfect." She went silent.  I was silent.  But I could see her processing and struggling with my words.  I sat quietly. She finally erupted: "Perfect?!? How can you say that?  After all the stuff I told you... how can you tell me that things are perfect?" I told her, "I didn't say great.  I didn't say it was how you wanted them to be.  Only that the present is perfect." In that moment, I could see her gears turning... but she still couldn't make sense of what I was saying. How can things feel upside-down and inside-out, and be perfect? "Perfect" does not mean preferred.  It means something is complete.  A perfectly cooked steak is complete. It is cooked to a certain level.  But also consider a "perfect storm," the perfect combination of  circumstances that mean the storm is more powerful than when those circumstances don't combine. The idea of the Present Perfect, which sounds like grammar, comes from life coach, Thomas Leonard.  He noted that the Present Perfect is the fact that this moment perfectly reflects everthing that has come before, up until now. Why does that matter?  We explore it in this episode of the Thriveology Podcast.  Listen below RELATED RESOURCES Medium Article on the Present Perfect Importance of Acceptance What Can You Control? Accept or Act My Books

Having a coaching business may be the only income-producing role in your life where you get to bring your full personality, values and life experience together to serve others.You get to be authentic and vulnerable.Yes, put your best foot forward whenever you can. But you don’t have to pretend or puff yourself up.Instead draw from and OWN all that you are.Human beings tend to forget to OWN their intrinsic value and earned wisdom.Truly, if you’ve never had a paying client before you can be honest about that.In fact, I suggest to my clients to say with their first coaching prospects “I’d love it if you’d be one of my first clients!” It takes the pressure off. And your prospect will appreciate your honesty.But you say it with enthusiasm for the person you’re enrolling and what you offer, right?Build Your Coaching Business On Your ValuesI took my training at Coach U, one of the first coaching schools, which was created by Thomas Leonard, who is often called the father of modern coaching. He was known for an abundance of short pithy exercises. I received by mail 10 pounds of notebooks full of his exercises and curriculum!His concept was that anything you did with a client you should first do yourself. In other words be just one step ahead and make sure your come from is authentic.One exercise was meant to identify core and business values. Maybe you’ve even seen this exercise or a derivative of it out there somewhere in the coaching sphere.I’ll never forget that exercise because I learned principles about myself that have never sent me in the wrong direction — that is, whenever I let them guide me.For example … I realized that money is not in itself important to me. However EARNING is a core value. It’s important to me to deliver great value in exchange for my income. See I crave independence in thought and action and the ability to choose what’s right for me moment to moment.Those values made me a perfect candidate for entrepreneurship … for developing my own coaching business.Sometimes, I’ve gone astray from my values trying to implement something that I saw other coaches do. Sound familiar?Through trial and error and a desire to serve myself while serving others I’ve found what fits me better.Over the years I’ve made adjustments in my business to find my sweet spot – the way I love to work, when I want to work and who I want to work with. All of that is possible by making micro adjustments.It takes time to find your sweet spot. With my VIP clients we do much to uncover the clues to their sweet spot. But I also know that it’s a journey that’s worth the exploration.And this is part of what it means to bring your full self to your business.I think that being an entrepreneur and running a business is a spiritual journey.If you have a big message you can put that out in an honoring way that fits your target audience. It could be that you launch your own podcast or get on a stage with that message. Or it may be in a more quiet way where as it fits, you bring that message to a client in session.How else can you create freedom in your coaching business to fully be yourself?Look … you can dress the way you want. Let your freak flag fly. And you don’t need to worry about what people are going to think because the name of the game is attract YOUR people, your tribe.I’m not a good fit for every coach. And you don’t need to try to be a good fit for everyone in your audience. This is the secret of niching that a lot of people don’t know … you want to become known for serving a micro audience because it helps you thrive.

Leanne Woehlke  Well, I am thrilled to have Dave Buck here who is the head of Coachville, which is a fantastic coaching school with us. Today, Dave Buck  Oh, yeah, Leanne Woehlke  yeah. Well, you just talk to us a little bit about Dave Buck  Hi, everybody, first of all, great to have you here ready to play? Mm hmm. Leanne Woehlke  Do you tell us you've been in this coaching industry for so long? Dave Buck  Yes. True story! Leanne Woehlke  Can you talk a little bit about how you got into coaching? Dave Buck  Of course, that's a, I'll give you the short version because that's a very interesting and long story. That's super fun. But the basic, the basic gist of it is in my 20s I was this rock and roll entrepreneur, great business going and I really got into personal growth, okay. And I was like going all the seminars, reading all the books, I was big at lamb bark, alright, like landmark education, which probably a lot of your listeners know about. I was doing all the classes programs there. And then I had a life incident. Okay, which I which, which one of those incidents? We'll talk about that a little bit more later, but I had this big life incident happen more like, everything just went wrong. Business started floundering marriage fell apart, lost the house. Only thing I was left with after this major debacle was me and my car. Okay, so I basically lived in my car for a year. So when I was living in my car, I was really hanging out at the New Age bookstore all the time, because it was warm in there. And I was totally into this stuff. And I started doing all this visualization. But what happened was this is the clincher was when I was I was doing all these programs at Landmark and Landmark Education was really the first place that talked about coaching from a life perspective. Okay, that was a big innovation that was happening around the Landmark world. So they had this deal where if you had done a program and you wanted to do it again, you could do it for free if you were a coach. So I had no money because I was living in my car and I was homeless. So I was like, I can do all the programs again for free by coaching. I'm like, yeah, I'm totally in. So that's how it all started. I started coaching all these landmark programs. And then Thomas Leonard, who worked at Landmark for Warner Earhart, he left Landmark as an employee and got the bright idea, hey, this coaching thing can be a profession. Right? So he left Landmark started the life coaching profession. I heard about it from a friend at Landmark. I didn't know Thomas at the time yet, but a friend of mine through Landmark said hey, Dave, life coaching is a profession now you can totally get certified. I was like what? That is all me. This is like in the 90s. And so it was like from I'm living in my car to coaching because I could take the classes for free to becoming a professional life coach that happened in the 90s. And then I met Thomas Leonard and I became best friends. That was a whole long, crazy story. But that's basically how it is. It's like, life sometimes gets these takes these crazy curves. And then you find yourself in just the perfect place at the perfect time. Like not by you know, wasn't my own doing. It was like, other than my own doing of, you know, crashing my first business, but I could take responsibility for that. It's called not marketing, but that's a whole. That's a whole different story. But yeah, so that's how I got into life coaching. So in 1997, I was one of the first life coaches. And since I had been in business since I was like 12 years old, doing a whole different kinds of businesses, the business part actually came pretty easy to me. So what happened? There was, I was one of the very first life coaches to create a multiple six figure income just on the phone talking to people sitting by the lake talking on the phone to people, and you know, having a six figure business. So there were other life coaches that were starting to get into that six figure realm, but most of them were doing their big money in corporate. I was actually a personal life coach, making six figures and I was one of the first ones in the world. So that's kind of how it all that's the that's the shortish version of the story. Leanne Woehlke  It's I have to ask what was your first business when you were 12? Dave Buck  My first business when I was 12, was cutting grass. And then, then I moved on to delivering newspapers, babysitting for kids, cleaning houses, just like everything. I was like young entrepreneur around Downtown. That was pretty much me. Leanne Woehlke  I love it. I'm noticing that there's, like this entrepreneurial gene almost, is inbred in people. And it It helps them. Yeah. It helps them just figure things out. It's almost as I call it, like a scrappiness. Dave Buck  Yeah. It is a scrappiness. It's true. It's true. But you know, what, a big thing for me just in terms of the whole business thing that that we were talking about was I, I slammed headfirst into this wall of fear. And I didn't know it at the time, that you know, this is in my late 20s, when my computer software business, which was going really great just slammed in, you know, slammed into a wall. And the thing was, I had built all of my businesses on referrals. So it was all personal relationship marketing. And then my computer software company got to a point where like, the referrals weren't really coming anymore. I was going to have to start doing more marketing, like traditional marketing, like getting out and doing things in the world to get business. And I just couldn't do it. I just could not at that time, I just slammed into this wall of fear, which I've since, you know, figure it out, but, and then it got into once I got into the coaching, I started slamming into that same wall of fear, but this time I had a coach. So made a big difference. And then I figured out what this big wall of fear was all about. And then from there. My business really has flown since then, with lots of, you know, bumps along the road. I don't want to see you know, hasn't been smooth sailing all the way for sure, because life's not like that. But I was able to figure out what the big wall of fear was and then play with it and move and move on. Leanne Woehlke  Now that's so interesting, because what I know about you and even going through the CoachVille program, I think one of the The the methodologies that you have is your inner freedom method. Dave Buck  Yes. Leanne Woehlke  So was that born out of your own experience? Totally. Dave Buck  Let's just say yes. Yeah. Because I haven't been in the personal growth field for so long. And, and then coaching people the basic methodology of around fear, what I was, you know, when early in the field of coaching and and personal growth was what just get over it. Just get over it. Like just do it. Like just do it just get over it, pout, you know, don't you know, crush your fear. And what I found out was that's just a terrible method. Like it just doesn't work for most people, like a very few people can overcome fear with the just get over it. approach. And even then, those people who can when you're younger, when you get a little older, it doesn't work anymore. Like you just can't get over it, because it's deeper and it's more at a non conscious level. And it's, it's, it's tricky. So that's where the inner freedom method came from from it came from my own experience and then also coaching. So many, you know, hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people who are slamming headfirst into fear and then saying, well just get over it, I would cheerlead the crap out of them. And it just didn't work most of the time. So I started looking for answers. And that's how the inner freedom method was born. And it's a it's a it's really a deep, it's a deep coaching.  The inner freedom method is this deep way of exploring what's happening to you within you at a non conscious level and it's exploring the body and exploring your relationship also, with supermind, which is this human potential energy field that we're all connected to? And if you start if you learn how to read what's happening in your body and what's happening around you, you can start connecting the dots and figure out what is this fear about. And that was the big turning point was, instead of trying to fight fear, overcome fear. You look at your fear as your friend. And you realize that and what I realized in coaching so many people was almost any fear that a human being has is a social fear. There's not many physical fears, like there's no Tigers chasing us, you know, in the woods, so it's related to other humans is that so it's a social fear in some way. And all social fear is learned. And the thing we learn to fear the most is our own unique power. Because that's where we get we we get in trouble. early in life just by playing and being ourselves, and then trouble happens, and then you learn Oh crap, either consciously or mostly non consciously. Whenever I do this thing I do, people don't like it so I'm going to stop doing that. And gradually over time your unique power gets buried under fear now that's a good news bad news story. So then the good news is once you know that what you're really afraid of is your own unique power when you start to feel afraid. With the right coach you can use follow that fear like a treasure map and, and and rediscover your unique power. So that's what I do. Leanne Woehlke  And I've got to just say is I did an inner freedom session with somebody yesterday. Nice and it's it's turning out to be, I think, my favorite methodology. And it's so different than anything anyone else is doing. Can you describe Little bit of it seems like everywhere I see nowadays people are calling themselves coaches. Dave Buck  Sure. Leanne Woehlke  And so can you describe a little bit about the differences and types of coaches and how CoachVille and what you do is like you gave you a little sense, but how is it so different than? Dave Buck  Well, I mean, first of all, coaching is awesome, right? So, of course, a lot of people want to do it, right. That's one thing at the same time. You know, like, if you if you think of like basketball, for example, there's coaches at all levels of basketball. You know, the little league basketball team has one of the parents coaching who maybe did a weekend basketball coaching course. And now they're coaching their little league basketball team. Fine. That's okay. Right? That's okay. Hey, but they're not professionals. Right? That's the thing. This is where it gets clunky. You know, it's, you know, a little Basketball Coach doesn't expect to get paid. And then you have high school basketball coaches, they don't get paid too much, but they get paid a little bit. And then you have college coaches and then pro coaches and there's levels. And so life coaching is the same thing, right? So you just want to be respectful of the levels. And so the higher level of professionalism is going to be someone who's got more professional training and as gone through more experiences to prove and show that they can coach at a professional level. So I have no qualms with someone going to a weekend coach training program and then coaching their friends or coaching some colleagues at a you know, pro bono or low fee rate. But if you want to be a true professional and coach at a high level, then you need to go for professional training and even in in all the sports. You know the basketball coaches, soccer coaches, you can coach your little local team with a little bit of training, but even people who played at a high level, they have to go to the full multiple week, multiple month training programs to coach at a professional level. That's all it is. It's just, it's just a it's just about levels. So at CoachVille we, we teach people how to coach at the highest level, we know we're a full certified program with the international coach Federation, which just basically means we jumped through a crap ton of hoops to be able to say, we did that. And there's value in that. It's like, sometimes you think, oh, man, we're jumped through a lot of hoops. But that's part of what distinguishes professionalism in most fields is you just have to jump through the hoops and show you can do certain things at a certain level. And you know, I've taken lots of training programs, and over the course of my life, and a lot of training programs are pretty bad. Right And so, to be an ICF accredited program, you really Have to document that you know, what you're doing as a training program, and it's rigorous and it's hard. And you know, it just basically shows, hey, our training program is really professionally done. And we help people become truly professional coaches. And that's, that's what we do. Leanne Woehlke  That's a great distinction. I love your analogy about the different levels of coaching. Because it is I think, you know, people as they're thinking, well, gosh, maybe I should have a coach. And I've had someone say, like that they had worked with a coach and they didn't get the results they expected. Mm hmm. But I don't think they knew what they were buying. Dave Buck  Correct. That's right. That's right. And, and that's, that's, that is really the big thing. That's where it's like, okay, you could say I'm a basketball coach. Okay. Are you a little league basketball coach, or are you like coaching, you know, the San Antonio Spurs, like, what, you know, they're all basketball coaches. So, you know, it's just about what is the level of the coach and so really This what this is about, I think in terms of professional coaching is it's it's about when when you have when your dream is big enough, then you're going to look for a big enough coach. You know who's who's ready to walk with you because coaching is walking with or playing with. This is a big thing about coaching. You know, what makes coach Phil unique, I feel also is there's a lot of coach training programs that have come into being over the last 20 years that have sort of, they, they what they call coaching is like this hybrid model of like social worker, and project manager. It's like, let's talk about your problems. And then we'll come up with an action plan and I'll manage you in action. Right, so it's like this social worker project manager combo plan, but that's not cool. teaching that is not coaching, but that's what most people do, right? But real coaching in any way anything whether you're coaching basketball, or piano, or dance or any kind of coaching is simply play together to play better. Have a great coach is going to play with you. Practice with you so that you can play better. And that brings up the big question that everyone always asks, well, how do you play life? And that's really what we've what we specialize in it CoachVille is talking about you can play life. In fact, you can and you can practice life. You can practice life, and then go out and and play for real. And by practicing, you get better you get confident, and then when you do the things that you want to do for your dream. You do them with confidence with capability with energy because you've done before you've practiced that a bunch of times with your coach. So that's the big thing. You know, when you're talking about doing an inner freedom session, that's a way of playing with someone using their visualization using their body awareness. You're like, in them in there with them, you're walking with them. It's not Oh, tell me about your day and tell me about your problems. It's like, okay, we're going to dive into your mind through your imagination together. And we're going to explore this situation and figure out where the fear is coming from. That's some serious deep coaching stuff. Like that's the real thing. So, yeah, that's and so that's really the big thing. And CoachVille, what we're all about is played together to play better. Leanne Woehlke  I think it's there's also a transformational aspect in my experience of CoachVille, that it's helping people to then be able to go on, it's not just managing the tasks. Dave Buck  That's right. Leanne Woehlke  That's which I think was was such a great distinction when I experience that, can you talk about how you came up with the concept of play, which is part of CoachVille, Dave Buck  it really is. I had a big, you know, awakening, you know, life is a sequence of awakenings. And as you as you know, so this was about 12 years ago now, so I started CoachVille with Thomas Leonard in around 2000. And then in 2003, Thomas died of a heart attack, and I inherited CoachVille, and I was running it and it was hard, and all sorts of trouble. And I was in all these lawsuits, it was like just a crazy time I ended up with a wicked case of post traumatic stress disorder. So a lot of you knows a lot of really deep challenges and then coming out of that traumatic experience. I was blessed having Great therapist and then great coaches. And to have you know, the possibility is post traumatic growth, like you can't when you go into a deeply traumatic experience, if you have the right support, you can pop out of it in a big growth mindset. And so what happened to me was when I popped out of the post traumatic stress, I had this major awakening about coaching, which I had been doing for a long time and leading the field for a long time. But I really had this awakening that we've gone off track. And as similar to what I spoke about with you just a little bit before we got off track with the field of coaching and it had devolved into this social worker project manager thing. But that's not what coaching is. I come from a I was a college soccer coach for 14 years I've been a performing artist. I used to sing jazz and little clubs and I had athletic coaches and I had had performance our coaches. And I just suddenly woke up to the fact that the performance art coaching experience and the athletic coach experience was very different than what we were doing as life and business coaches. It was like a totally different thing. And like, what is it like a bass when I've had voice coaches? My voice coach didn't say, oh, what do you want to talk about today? My voice coach says, sing something for me. What are you singing? Let's sing like, and then we're singing back and forth and playing and practicing. My soccer coach didn't say let's talk about your soccer problems. My soccer coach says, Okay, let's play. Let's work on these moves. Let's try out this situation. So I'm thinking, what are we doing? How did we devolve into this problem centric view of life? That's not life. Life is for play. I just had this awakening. We're here to play live. And that's really what Put me on this new road of, we've got to talk about coaching as play, you play with someone you play together. So how do we play life? That turned out to be very interesting, you know, journey for me to talk, figure out how do you play life and to draw in my wisdom from performance art and athletics and business and leadership and personal growth. And that huge like Venn diagram became, you know, what we do a coach, build a play life method, and then talk about how to play life and coach life. And essentially, the simplified version of it, which took years to create, you know, it's like, you know, something is good when it's simple. Like, it started out really complicated. And now it's simple. So, to play life as a human being, we all do the same thing. So this is how we play we relate to other people and we play for influence. We create things and experiences and we share them with people. We explore new places to see new things and also to be seen. And then we experiment. We try to do things in new ways and playful ways without worrying about mistakes. And those four things, relate, create, explore, experiment, that's how we play. That's how human beings play. And so, as a play Life Coach, what you're doing is you're talking with your player and playing with them on Okay, what are the converse? What's the next conversation you need to have? And you and I have done this many times, like okay, let's roleplay the conversation. So you get some clarity on what you on the influence you want to create. What are you creating that you want to share with people and then we We use the inner freedom method to get into your non conscious experience of freedom. So you can see where your fears are. Because this is the thing that's really big. My big dream in life right now, this is a bit of a segue in or a pathway in, but my big dream is to unchained the spirit of play in human beings and to guide people all around this world to play for their dream by hiring a coach. Okay, this, these, all these pieces go together is you know, life. We're here on this earth to play for our dreams. And we are not here to do it alone. Right? We are here to have a guide and to guide each other. And so when you look at this notion of playing life, well relating to other people, with the idea of influencing them in a positive way, well, that has a big fear, fear of rejection. It's we all learn it. We're terrified of rejection. We talk about creating and sharing. So we all have something we want to create or experiences we want to create and share. But what's the fear, fear of disappointment. We all are totally chained with this fear of disappointment, then exploring. You think about our curiosity where we were humans we want to explore. But then we learn the fear of trouble, like getting in trouble, like there's going to be trouble. And then with the experimenting, and just trying new ways of doing things, we all learn this terrible fear of mistakes, and perfection needing to be perfect. So, all of these fears are learned. I live in New York City, and there's children in playgrounds, and I'm telling you little children and playgrounds are not fearful of mistakes. They are not fearful of rejection. They go and talk to whatever kids are there and they start creating games together and they're not Afraid of, oh my god, this thing we're creating right now is to four year olds, it might not be perfect, we better not do it. No, they just play. So my big inquiry has been where what happened to us? How do we go from these wildly exuberant, playful creatures to so fearful? And you know, that's been my big journey is, first of all to learn where all these fears are coming from, and then create a coaching method to unchained us from these fears and, and part of it is, as adult players of life, we actually have to take responsibility for the raw power of play because it's powerful. And it so we have to be able to play with responsibility. That's the big thing. So and but we can we're all totally capable of learning how to play with responsibility, and be responsive play and be responsible and that's, this is this is What this is what playing big in life is all about. Leanne Woehlke  So how do you approach someone who might be in a traditional, like corporate very structured or sure reality and get them to embrace the idea of play? Dave Buck  Yeah, it's it's not easy. It's not easy because the environment always wins like this is what is you know, this is one of our mantras that CoachVille. So we are all fear that we've learned, we learned in an environment, okay? We all learn our fears, in the environments we grow up in, whether it's at home, and then school, and then jobs, we just keep reinforcing these fears. Like As humans, we need to be fearful of our power and our play. Okay, we keep learning that fear over and over again. So, he first of all, you just have to help help the person see that their that their fears have been learned. Okay? It's not inherent to who they are, okay? Fear of play and fear of our power are learned. So then if you can just get that idea, then you can just start making small steps. I mean, like anything else, you just have to start making small steps. But the big piece of it is any human being any collection of human beings, they're human beings. So while you might think, Oh, I can't relate to that person, I'm afraid but the truth is, they desperately want you to relate to them. They desperately want we're all yearning to connect and to be seen and to play. So you just have to realize and have the courage and that's why the person with the coach, okay, so the person with the coach has their corporate life. So as a coach, you would say, all right, what some who, let's think of someone on your team that you would like to connect with in a in a deeper way, and really start to have better conversations than whatever you're talking about. So they think of that person, there's gotta be there's always someone, and then you roleplay that conversation, what do you want to ask them? What do you want to do with them? What's the little, you know, mission you want to create on your team to get everyone on board to do things in a new way. So you start role playing, you start exploring the fears that they have. And so they're the ones with the coach. So they're the ones on the adventure at their office, that are going to start this little mini revolution of getting people to connect and play and experiment and explore which they are all yearning to do. They're all yearning to do but they're just equally afraid. Okay. So the one who has the coach becomes the courageous one. says, hey, let's try something a little different. Let's relate to each other this way. Let's, let's not exclude people, just because They don't believe what we believe or whatever, right let's, let's be more open, let's be more inclusive. This is what all human beings are yearning for. So it's just, this is what I say when I say, play bid for your dream by hiring a coach. You're not going to do it alone. Yeah, we're not meant to and you're not going to if you want to play any bigger than you're playing now, you've got to have a coach and and but I've done this many times I've coached many people in seemingly impossible situations. And through coaching and playing with their fear. They were able to be the courageous won in there in that place, and and help help to break free. Leanne Woehlke  I think something you were talking about about   practicing those conversations with those role plays is so powerful. You helped me with one with my husband and what I was what I was thinking I was portraying and community King was so different than how it was landing. Mm hmm. And the listener. Yeah. And that's, you know, we think in my in our heads like, Oh, well, of course, this is what I'm saying and they should know it. Dave Buck  That's right. But they don't. Leanne Woehlke  They don't know. And that was that was a huge profound awakening. Dave Buck  Yeah, it is. And that's coaching, right coaching is, coaching is playing together, and observing. That's what great coaching begins with the power to observe someone at play. You play with them, you observe them, and then you can share. This is how this is coming across. This is how you're coming across. Let's experiment with some new ways. And let's visualize some new possibilities. And that's coaching. I like to use the metaphor of a tennis coach because people can kind of get this picture even if you've never played tennis, you've probably seen it. So a tennis coach is on the other side of the court hitting the ball back and forth. And so as the coach, you use your skill level to hit the ball at just the right level of challenge for the person you're coaching, right? So they have, they might have little skill and the balls flying all over the place, but you use your skill to always hit it to them in just the right place. So they have the challenge that they can rise up to. It's not too far just right. And that's what great coaching is great coaching is being the observer and the play partner, the practice partner to keep giving your player just the right level of challenge that they can rise up to and then they keep rising up to the next challenge and the next challenge in the next sounds by playing together. And over time. Amazing things happen. You get better and better. You get clear and clear your dream becomes more real. And then it's just starts happening. Yeah, yeah, that's what I say. That's, that's the It's a coach's practice partner. I think that's really an important distinction when you think about so for all the folks listening, if you have a coach that's kind of like, oh, tell me about your day, tell me about your problems. What do you want to talk about? Okay, I'll hold you accountable for some tasks, then you just say, No, this isn't gonna get me where I'm going. I need someone who can actually play with me and guide me and keep challenging me to play better in life. That's what I need. Leanne Woehlke  Right and, and that is, that's a huge distinction. They don't need somebody necessarily to follow up on their day planner. No. Dave Buck  No, one thing I want to talk about too, yeah, is this might appeal to to your your listeners. I'm a I'm a I don't even know how to say this. I use tarot cards a lot. Okay, I love tarot cards, because they give me a view into non conscious awareness. And so My favorite tarot card is the tower. Okay, so in the tower card, you've got this tower, and then this lightning bolt just comes flying out of the sky and smashes the tower. And then there's two people depending on the card deck, but there's usually two people that are just flying out of this tower. Right? And so, I have in my new coaching program that I'm creating the symbol is the lightning bolt. Okay, because that's, to me what coaching is, coaches are lightning bolts, okay? Because if you think about these people in the tower, they might be up there in the tower because they're trying to, you know, get safety away from life, like the tower is the comfort zone. And then the lightning bolt just goes Blam. And then they're flying out of air. It's like Alright, well, we're in the world now. Let's go I guess we're at our tower is shattered. So we got to get on adventure. But the thing that's interesting about the tower is that when you see these people flying out of there, they might have gone up there on their own to try to escape from life. Be safe from life, but they also might be imprisoned. Because in in, you know, in ancient medieval times, towers were used to imprison people. Right. So, as I was thinking about it, like these two people are up there. We don't know if they're up there on their own, or if somehow someone locked into imprison them up there. But it actually doesn't matter whether you were imprisoned by someone else, or you were imprisoned by your own fears of the world. You need that lightning bolt to get out of there. Like, bam. All right. We're out. We're out of the comfort zone. Now we're out of the tower now. All right now let the adventure begin. So I just really think that's so that's to me what coaching is about coaching is the lightning bolt because our human instinct for self preservation is always going to keep us really closely tied to, you know, this self preservation zone or comfort zone. And when you start to move out of that zone, the first thing you're going to experience is fear. Because that's how the human being as organized to keep us safe. So your fears trying to keep you safe is trying to keep you away from troubles you've experienced in the past, but almost always, your dream is on the other side of that fear. And so what you need as a human being is to understand first of all, there's always going to be a pole there. This natural pole inner pole between your dream pulling you out, and your self preservation pulling you in, like up into the tower for safety. And that pole is always going to be there. And I'm a big proponent of self love and just saying, We have to stop these things of saying, Oh, I have self sabotage. Or I have self limiting beliefs or I have a bully or a demon or a gremlin or a beast. It or my ego is trying to blah blah, blah, like no stop all this derogatory, blaming, blaming, never helps. Blaming any aspect of your humanity does not help. It doesn't make it better to say, Oh, I have a self saboteur lurking inside of me, that doesn't help you live your dream, right. So it's like we got to love up our own perceptions of our humanity. Say, all right, I have this dream, this vision It's calling me out. I my self preservation instinct is pulling me in. And that poll is what makes life interesting. And that's why there's the coach, the coach is that lightning bolt to keep smashing the tower and keeping you out in the world where your dream is going to be fulfilled, you're never going to fulfill your dream and the tower. Now, so that's the thing is the coach as this capable guy walking with you playing with you, continuing to challenge you through that zone of fear because like I said, Every fear you feel is a fear either of play or your own power. Leanne Woehlke  So sometimes people will say like, Oh, I read this book, and it helped me understand some aspect of myself And sure, how is that different than working with a coach? Dave Buck  Well, it it's it's different in a lot of ways. I mean, when you When you read something and have an insight that that is good, it can be great, right? But then Living it is the challenge. Right living it, applying it using it in life. And this is something I do all the time as a coach, someone will read something or get inspired by something that they read. And I'll say, Oh, that's so great. Let's practice it right now. Right? So take it from concept, what's the concept? Okay, well, how do you apply that in life and then either we're going to roleplay it, if it's a conversation, or we're going to do inner freedom, we're going to go into imagination, and imagine yourself actually doing it, whatever it is, and then that makes it real, then it's like, okay, now, you take it from a concept to I can now see myself doing this in the world. And then once you get that practice with a coach, then it's so much easier. And then you can do it, then you just then you can do it. So that's the thing. It's like coaching is the it's the catalyst to go from good idea to living in the world. Leanne Woehlke  So if someone were to go through the CoachVille program, what does that look like? Dave Buck  It looks like a big adventure. That's what it is. It's a big adventure. Well, it from a Leanne Woehlke  How long is it? Dave Buck  Yeah, I mean, it takes it takes about a year, sometimes a little over a year. And the classes are all done by phone. So you dial into a conference bridge and your classmates will be there and your instructor will be there. One thing that's really unique about CoachVille, as you know, is we're really big on practice. So on every call and every class, part of that call, you're going to be coaching. Your practice partner and your practice partner is going to coach you. We use the maestro bridge to technology. So we're in the big group. And then we break out into small groups. There's lots of conversation. It's very dynamic. Every call is a dynamic experience. And then in addition, there's there's a lot of audio that you listen to of coaching calls and other prior classes to get the concepts and to really listen to the code, listen to coaching, done at a high level. So it's a multifaceted experience. And then we also really encourage you to have practice players, you know, to apply every week what you do in class with your practice, partner, then do that with 234 or five people in your life friends, family, colleagues, whoever people you know, on Facebook, just get into practice, you've got to do it. Coaching is mean really coaching, if, as far as modalities go, coaching, when you're doing it is more of performance art and the only way you To get good in any performance art is practice, you've got to practice. So you have guidance, someone observing you, and then you go out and practice. And so that's the the coach program is, is a sequence of, of classes and concepts that take you for take you through this whole journey of learning how to coach another person first to recognize their own power to recognize and articulate their own dream. And then to, you know, through the play life method, you learn these ideas of how to play life and the fears that we experience in playing life and how to coach people through those fears. Then we go even deeper into the non conscious part of coaching, which is the inner freedom method. And then we also have a whole curriculum around coaching the person in their environment and you know, your your folks Well, we'll understand this. But playing life is in many ways is a game of alignment. Right? It's a, it's an energy alignment. So there's you, you want to create an energetic alignment between the you that you want to become, and your dream. And so when you start to shift, who I've always been this, but now I want to become this new version of myself, I've always done this, but now I have a dream of doing something new, something bigger. So then you've got this new version of you this new dream. And now the game is to get alignment. So you've got to line up your beliefs, your skills, you've got to recognize the fears you have, you have to align your conscious mind your non conscious mind, your environment, your connection to the super minds, you've got a real line all these things between the New Year And your new dream. And so the coaching curriculum basic the CoachVille coaching curriculum, walks through each of the steps that you need as a coach to create that alignment, conscious mind, non conscious mind, environment and super mind. And then you've got to create that energetic alignment. And that's really what life coaching is. It's the playing together, and then playing this alignment game. And that's what we teach you how to do. Leanne Woehlke  I think one of the things that was that struck me and was a little surprising when I went through coach felt is the amount of personal growth that I personally experienced throughout the program as well. So it wasn't just like skill set learning how to coach but it was also a personal trainer, you Dave Buck  share an example I would love to hear it. Leanne Woehlke  Yeah, I began to look at how my business was going to operate a little bit differently, as well as how I was going to interact with people within you know, my world. Yeah, so lots of differences. And I can look at even starting privately coaching clients, which wasn't something I was actively doing prior. And I wasn't sure that that was going to be something that I did, but through the classes, and then through the practice players that I had throughout the program, I really began to love it. Like that was my favorite part of the week. And then I had people who even people that I coached a year ago and coach them for, you know, I would do three months at a time and then six months, because they wanted to continue on. And there are people that still don't text me and say, Hey, can I have a session? I need to? Yeah, he threw some things. Sure. I love that. Yeah, that was surprising. Dave Buck  No, you you made a lot of amazing, amazing leaps in your own potential and possibility. And the thing that I say all the time when I talk to people about business, a lot of people and we've been taught this notion That you build a business in order to become free. But the truth is, you have to become free in order to build your business. And that's really what I saw you do as you became more and more free to express your own power, really owning it and expressing it and realizing that Yeah, I am this powerhouse. I can be kind of bossy. And and this is the thing I say. I said all the time. We learn to fear play and we learn to fear our power. And so your power, your bossiness power was wholly chained up. And as you unchained that power and started to express it, people then actually felt more at ease around you because they're like, oh, now she's finally just Being herself. And then that's when good things start to happen. So as you became free, then your business started to grow. And that's, that's that's actually how it works. So that's why, and you're not going to be free, this is the thing, you are never going to get free by yourself. And we're not supposed to the idea that we're supposed to be able to do things ourselves is a is a wrong notion from the industrial age of school, where everyone has to sit there by themselves. And the teacher says do your own work if you help your neighbor, you're a cheater. That's not human. That's dehumanizing. Humans are co creative, collaborative creatures. So the idea that I should be able to do this myself, that's just a totally wrong notion. You shouldn't be able to do it yourself. You're supposed to be co creating every Hero's Journey story from the beginning of humankind, the hero has a guide. Well, there's a reason why all these stories have written this way is because humans are supposed to guide each other on our adventures. So just we got to let go this Industrial Age school thing of sit that sitting there by yourself doing your own work. And it's so isolating. And that's really I find the biggest problem that people have in any endeavor in life is isolation. isolation. Barbara Sher always said it isolation is the dream killer. So you've got to get out of isolation and back into co creation, and that's why I'm so big on you know, unchained the spirit of play, and hire a coach. That's, that's that's the, that's the plan. Leanne Woehlke  So if if who comes to coach Phil, like, what kind of people are they people who were Dave Buck  business consultants? Are they Yeah, all kinds, you know, people ask me all these digital marketers, are you asking me to like make my avatar I'm like, a human who wants to be awesome. Like, that's our avatar. I don't know what else to do. tell you, I mean, we have so such a diverse population. We have students all around the world who speak English from very, you know, Jordan, Sweden, Czech Republic. I mean, US, Canada, obviously, but all around the world, different ages. It used to be there was a sweet spot of like 45 to 60. Now we have 20 year olds in class, right? We have 20 year olds, we have 70 year olds. So there's no age if you it's really people who have had some life experience that they want to share. And they want to learn how to do it in the best possible way. So what anyone who's You know, I think the the people who become a coach are the people that have faced some kind of a big challenge, had some awareness that has helped them get through that challenge, and now they want to be a guide for others and they also want to keep growing right? That's really those are the two components, you have this desire to be a guide for others, and you want to keep growing because like you said, this is something we tell people all the time before they come into our school. Life Coaching is the most rigorous personal growth program ever invented. If you want to keep growing a lot, become a coach, because every person you coach is going to actually challenge you to keep growing and raise your level. So those are the people who come to coach Phil. I mean, it's from a wide variety of things. This is funny story. I met this woman I was speaking at an event. This woman was there. She said, Oh, coach Dave, you know, I've been a social worker for 20 years. And, you know, I was thinking I want to start coaching, but I don't think I really need any training. I'm a social worker, I already know how to do it. And I said, I'm sorry to tell you this, but your social work training has almost no correlation to coaching and she was like, so mad at me like that, I would say such a thing. So anyway, I don't know how but she decided to do our program. And so I had her in class the other day. She's been in the program for like three months. She says she's during the during the q&a, she says, coach Dave, I just need to apologize for you. I was so mad at you. And you told me that my social worker skills were not going to apply to life coaching. But now I'm just going to tell you, you were right. This is totally different than what I was doing before. And I'm so glad I'm here learning how to do this. This is making me so happy. Leanne Woehlke  Well in it is different. I've had clinical psychology, PhD level courses, I've had group psychotherapy classes, social classes, clinical interviewing classes, and it's very different than what I learned at CoachVille. And I could have been a coach without those classes. Dave Buck  Right for sure. Leanne Woehlke  You know, so that's, that's the interesting thing is it is a different skill set. One of the things that I find so profound is this idea of judgment free awareness? Mm hmm. Can you talk a little bit about that? Because that was a huge pivot. Yeah, Dave Buck  this is a big, it is a huge pivot because it's essential to the coaching experience. And it's also essential to play. Okay? They, it's a part of both. So, to be to be able to play, you have to be able to just act without fear of mistakes. And this is very difficult, because in the industrial age, we really were harshly trained to fear mistakes, the fear of mistakes, fear messes, and all these other things. We talked about fear of rejection, fear of disappointment. Well, you can't play when you have those fears. So we talk about judgment, free awareness, which is this ability that all humans have to put yourself in into a mode of curiosity and to say, Oh, that's interesting. I was going to call this person but suddenly I felt this funny feeling in my chest so that I didn't call. I wonder what that's all about. That's judgment, free awareness. I wonder that's interesting. I wonder what that's about. I wonder why I started looking at Facebook when I was supposed to be creating my, my outline for my program. Wonder, right? So this is this is the judgment, free awareness and then as a coach, when when you're, when you're coaching someone, you know, they're facing fear. So what you don't want to do is bring your judgment to their fear. Coaching relies on profound belonging and what breaks are profound belonging is the feeling of being judged. What creates feeling of belonging is the feeling of being seen. We're all desperately yearning to be seen for who we really are without judgment. And so that's what the judgment free awareness is. Most people do not have judgment, free awareness. Because we come from the industrial world, we judge ourselves, we judge everything. So, first, the coach has to bring it. The coach has to bring, oh, that's okay. That's interesting. This is what you're going to do. But you talk, we talked about it, but then you didn't do it. All right. I wonder what happened. Let's explore this from a judgment free perspective. And gradually, the player will start to adapt and adopt a judgment free perspective. And that's when they start to become free. Judgment. Free awareness is freedom. It's the ability to play freely and experience life with wonder. And so that's it. that's what that's what it is. And then it's just all about having a little, just a little bit of responsibility to go with all that freedom is the right is the right blend. But it really requires that judgment free space that the coach creates the free space to practice. You got to have a space to practice. You don't just know how to do everything. You just don't know how to have every conversation you need to have, or how to create what you want to create, especially creative people. Like it's so easy to get caught in our in a trap of perfectionism. But that's just learned. If you were just if you were a human and you didn't go to industrial school, your creativity would be much more vibrant and online. So really a lot of coaching is to unravel all of these fears we picked up and and begin to be able to play freely again. But that's and that's what coaching is the ability to practice live, play live. unchained ourselves from these fears that we learned. We don't judge them. We just go, Oh, that's interesting. I have fear of rejection. Okay. Let's explore that. Where did that come from? What is another option that I have? What you know, how do I love up every aspect of me so that it's, it's equal to my dream because remember that alignment game like you just have to look at your non conscious ways that you learned from your environment and then love them up to be equal to what your dream requires. And that's that's where the judgment free awareness really comes in. Leanne Woehlke  So again, let me ask you this. Yes. What inspires you? Dave Buck  What inspires me? Yeah, good question. Um, I mean, I get super inspired by my players all the time by our students that CoachVille like you You inspire me. I think that's really it. It's, it's when I see a person start to play life. It doesn't mean everything goes sunny and beautiful. I mean, you can play and it can be a disaster, right? But, but you at least played if you really just play when I see someone who just starts to play, you know, it's going to come good, like, play always comes good eventually. So that's the idea is you know what really inspires me is when someone, you can just see them take the chain off and express their power, express their playfulness and start to have things happen like when you had this major shift in your relationship with your husband that we played with over a period of time. Wow, that was so inspiring. When you changed how you were relating to your staff. And being and starting to be take your own power and being your you have this amazing power of seeing how things need to be you have great vision but you expressing that power was hard because it feels bossy. And you were afraid of that but when you when you took that chain off and started expressing it and then people started responding to you very favorably that's so inspired me. And so this is this is this is my life is just being inspired by my players. Leanne Woehlke  That's awesome. I appreciate you taking this time so much Dave Buck  it was so fun. Leanne Woehlke  Fun. I we could talk for hours I think. Good no doubt. Yeah, I know. tell our listeners How can people catch up with you? What's the best way to find out what you're up to and what CoachVille is up to? Dave Buck  Yeah, the the best easiest way is just go to www.CoachVille.com it's been our website for almost 20 years and it's still there the www.coachville.com you know, you can find me you know, our phone numbers there if you want to talk with me personally, you know, I talk to people i'm not i'm not in some ivory tower. I actually Talk to people. So if you want to talk about your big dream, if you want to talk about your business possibilities in coaching, just go to CoachVille, get the number, give us a call, happy to talk to you. Leanne Woehlke  That's amazing because most people don't even have phone numbers on websites any longer. Dave Buck  I know we're crazy. We're old school. We have a phone number. I know it's true. Well, I, you know, I'm doing my age, I believe in talking to people on the phone. I know, it's weird, but I do. Leanne Woehlke  Yeah, it's that human connection, which is why I think CoachVille is so special and, you know, offer something so different than any of the other coaching schools out there? Dave Buck  Very, I mean, there's definitely some other really good schools, but I would say in the realm of coaching, from this perspective, that life is, we're here to play for our dreams. We're not here to work on them. We're here to play for our dreams. We're really as far as I know the only school that really emphasizes play and coaching. And playing together. So yeah, if you've been inspired by this notion of play, and especially playing with fear, yeah, come and talk to us, we can really help you do what you want to do. Leanne Woehlke  And one of the other things that I love about CoachVille, is even the access to the book clubs that are held periodically, that are a free service and allow people to dive into different concepts and discussions together. Dave Buck  Yeah, we love book club. I don't know when this is gonna go live. But if someone listens to this near the time we recorded it, we're next. Our next book is Seth Godin, his book, this is marketing. And, you know, I know Seth personally, and he was like, he loves the idea of us doing the book club. And so, yeah, we're pumped. I'm pumped for this as marketing. So if you listen to this soonish I'm Ben. Come and join us a book a book. We're always doing some awesome books. So just come and play with us. You can connect with Dave at CoachVille at 866-548-6516www.coachville.com 

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Figuring It Out Why Marie Forleo walked away from Wall Street to help people build lives they love. Marie Forleo was on the brink of the American dream. After graduating as valedictorian from Seton Hall University, making her the first in her family to graduate from college, she’d landed her first post-grad job on the floor of the New York Stock Exchange. Her peers were millionaires, and she was on track to become one, too. But that dream came crashing down after a panic attack halfway through a workday left her sobbing in the pews of the nearest church. Just six months into her job, the little voice in her head was telling her that she was on the wrong path, and she knew she had to make a change. Of course, she was petrified by the idea of leaving her job behind (especially with the mountain of debt that came with the pursuit of the American dream), and she didn’t know if she’d ever find something that would truly fulfill her. Determined to figure it out, Forleo eventually made her way to a new career path that would not only bring her happiness, but would also enrich the lives of many others experiencing their own difficulties. Today, Forleo inspires millions through her work as a life coach. She has over 578,000 YouTube subscribers on her award-winning channel, MarieTV, with over 49 million views spanning 195 countries. She’s also ushered 55,000 students through her eight-week marketing school for business owners called B-School. She’s even been interviewed by Oprah herself. And now, Forleo’s got a new book coming out, Everything Is Figureoutable, in which she unpacks the life lessons that she considers to be the secrets to her own success. While coaching wasn’t her next, or even her next-next career choice after leaving Wall Street in the dust, by trusting her gut, advice from her parents, and the tiny voice of truth in her head, she found her way there eventually and built a life she loved. Struggling to Start When she was younger, Forleo dreamed of becoming a Disney animator or a fashion designer. But amid her disillusion with the job on Wall Street, all she could think was, “What else am I going to do?” With her head spinning and stomach performing an intricate gymnastics routine, she called her dad. She was horrified by the idea of disappointing him, but didn’t know what else to do. “I was quite broken,” she says. She told her dad about how unfulfilled her coworkers seemed, her growing fear that she would end up like them, and her unmet desire to do something that brought joy to herself and others.  After baring her soul, Forleo nervously waited for her dad’s response. What he said would shape the course of her entire life. He reminded her that she would be working for the next 40 years or more of her life, and she needed to spend that valuable time doing something she loved. She quit her job two weeks later. But as little voices in our heads often do, Forleo’s told her just enough to get her out the door, but didn’t offer much insight on what she should do next. She loved design, but was also fascinated by business, so she decided to give the world of magazine publishing a go. Through a temp agency, she got an ad sales assistant position at Gourmet magazine. Forleo loved her boss and publisher, and, with a desk conveniently located right next to the test kitchen, she believed she had finally found her niche. But six months in, the voices of doubt took up their chorus once again. “I couldn’t deny the fact that I didn’t want to be there,” she says. Forleo wondered whether a more creative role in the magazine industry would quiet the voices, so she snagged a job on the editorial team of Mademoiselle. Sure enough, when she reached that six-month hurdle, the voices told her that, once again, it was time to move on. Discouraged, frustrated, and afraid for her future, Forleo wondered if there was just something wrong with her. Why couldn’t she find any work that made her truly happy? A Calling for Coaching The profession of life coaching wasn’t something most college graduates in the 1990s considered or even knew existed. In fact, Thomas Leonard, who is commonly called the father of the profession, only began his work in the 1980s. So when Forleo stumbled across an article about life coaching in the early 2000s, it was as if she was uncovering a buried treasure. “When I read this article, I swear to you, it was like the clouds parted and cherubs came out and they were shooting little sunbeams into my chest,” she says. At just 23, Forleo questioned whether she had anything to offer as a coach, but she says something about it just felt right. So she enrolled immediately in a three-year, part-time training program. When the six-month wall that had diverted her path so many times arrived, she pushed through it like tissue paper. And for the last two decades, Forleo’s “move along” voices have been silent. In 2001, she launched her first weekly newsletter, called Magical Moments, which attracted a modest following. Slowly, but steadily, her reach grew. Forleo attributes much of her success to her tremendous patience, calling herself “a worker bee.” Her skills and audience grew, and she launched new, ever-evolving platforms. As the 2000s rolled into the 2010s, Forleo launched B-School, her online course on marketing for business owners, as well as her wildly successful YouTube channel, MarieTV. But her journey wasn’t all unicorns and balloons. She encountered moments of failure (like the time she tried to build a custom coaching platform without a lick of relevant tech expertise), but each one taught her a valuable lesson. “I realized the power of positive quitting,” she says. “I think there’s a big distinction between giving up and moving on.” She also learned the principal of, as she puts it, “simplifying to amplify.” As Forleo began to draw international attention for the work she was doing, she felt the pressure to create more, attend more, and give more. Pulled in so many directions, the beginnings of burnout set in and she felt she wasn’t giving her best to her flourishing business. “Having a really successful, thriving business is not just about the money,” she says, emphasizing each word. “How does your team operate? How do they feel showing up to work every day? How do you, as the founder, feel? Are you so stressed out that you want to run away and hate that you even started this thing?” So in 2013, she decided to scale back and focus instead on the things that enabled her to make the most impact. She says she killed over a million dollars in revenue with a snap of her fingers. But the flood of creativity and renewed sense of direction that followed laid the groundwork for her to rapidly recuperate that amount and much more. So when others tell her that she should be investing more time in a particular platform or conference or trend that she feels will take her off track, she has no problem saying no. “I’m not out there to chase things,” she says. “I’m not going after vanity metrics. I give no shits about any of that. The metrics that matter to me are the lives I can impact, the profitability of the company, the difference I can make through our philanthropic endeavors, and am I actually enjoying my life.” She also knows who to listen to when considering what to add to her business—her customers. “The feedback, the iteration, the constantly making it better is how you get to something that’s legendary,” she says. “And I think folks don’t have the patience or the ability to focus over time and the desire to make something extraordinary, and that’s why we have so much mediocre.” Forleo says that the Customer Happiness department is the largest chunk of her 30-member team because they are committed to responding to every single email received. So, for example, when she noticed an influx of emails from MarieTV viewers lamenting that they most enjoyed listening to her show in the car as they drove but hated running up their data, she created a podcast to solve the problem. And if anything is clearly evident, it’s that Forleo is, to her core, a committed problem solver, a trait she attributes to her enterprising mother. Sharing Her Secret to Success Forleo’s mom, the child of two alcoholic parents from the projects of north New Jersey, “learned by necessity how to stretch a dollar bill around the block like five times.” She was always looking for ways to save money, so if something was broken and the price for a professional to fix it was too steep, she would fix it herself. From a leaky roof to cracked bathroom tiles, lack of experience or a college degree didn’t keep Forleo’s mother from tackling even the most complicated projects. One day, Forleo found her mom hard at work fixing her favorite radio, a Tropicana orange with a red and white straw for an antenna. Staring at the fully disassembled radio, amazed, Forleo asked her mom how she planned to put it back together again. Her mom told her that nothing is too complicated if you just jump in and get to work, because “everything is figureoutable.” That conviction lodged itself deep in Forleo’s heart, and it carried her through everything life threw at her, from difficult relationships to launching her own business. So when the time came to write her second book, she knew she had to share this principle with the world. In Everything Is Figureoutable, which comes out this month, Forleo builds on three simple rules:     All problems (or dreams) are figureoutable.     If a problem isn’t figureoutable, it’s not a problem. It’s a fact of life.     You may not care enough to solve this particular problem or reach this particular dream, and that’s OK. Find something you really do care about, and go back to Rule #1. While these principles can be used in every aspect of life, Forleo feels they are particularly applicable to entrepreneurship, a career path she feels is often “over-glammed.” She says that being an entrepreneur is a lot harder than it looks because it’s all about suffering in the short term to reach long-term goals, and sometimes that period of suffering can feel neverending. “I think we all really feel stuck in our lives from time to time, but if you do embed this belief that everything really is figureoutable, it gives you this energy to get up and go again,” she says. Forleo also insists that the ability to change direction is essential for a business owner. “To survive as an entrepreneur, you have to be incredibly nimble and flexible and to keep evolving yourself,” she says. “Otherwise, you’ll get left in the dust.” And she advises any founders who are living in fear or doubt about their business or career path to pull out a trusty journal and write it all down. “We, just as humans, underestimate the value of writing things out and writing things down,” she says. “When it comes to feeling stuck—when it comes to feeling fear, which can stop many of us—we allow it to stay amorphous and kind of shapeless like a boogeyman in our head, rather than being concrete and specific about it on the page.” Forleo’s particular brand of down-to-earth optimism has inspired millions, and, through her new book, she is excited by a new opportunity to share a piece of how she achieved her dreams. As Forleo’s business continues to grow, expand and evolve, one thing has remained ever constant: the belief that her audience can fashion a life they love, just like she did. Because, after all, everything is figureoutable. Interview by Nathan Chan, feature article reprinted from Foundr Magazine, by Erica Comitalo Key Takeaways Why Forleo was miserable living the American dream The advice Forleo received from her dad that empowered her to walk away from her job on Wall Street Her brief stint in magazine ad sales and editorial work How Forleo discovered the world of life coaching The journey of scaling a newsletter, online course, and YouTube channel to an international level Forleo’s thoughts on positive quitting and the motto “simplify to amplify” Why Forleo decided to scale back on her business and kill over a million dollars in revenue in the process Who Forleo turned to when deciding the new direction for her business The valuable lesson Forleo learned from her mom, which inspired the premise for her new book Everything is Figureoutable Forleo’s survival tips for entrepreneurs

You’ve probably had a sales conversation with someone that left you feeling a bit confused. You spent some time evaluating their needs, felt that surge of excitement realizing you could really help them, and you sense you are really hitting it off. Then, as you ask for the sale, you get the dreaded “I need to think about it.” You’ve hit buyer resistance. What you do in this moment can make a significant impact over the buyer’s decision process. Far too often the seller lets THEIR limiting beliefs and fears kick in and they back down and don’t hold space for the buyer to step into THEIR power. In episode 122 of Amplify Your Success podcast, I’d like to help you feel more shift out of confusion and into being a powerful resource to help your prospects decide (and hopefully that means a yes to working with you.) Inside this episode I’ll unpack five elements to overcome indecision or buying resistance for coaches, consultants, service professionals and online business owners. Be sure to join the conversation in the Amplify Your Success Community and share your input there too.   TWEET THIS PLUGIN [“When people are inspired, they don't need motivation.” – Thomas Leonard on Amplify Your Success #Podcast about Coaching Strategy for High Performance via @Melcoach ]   Key Takeaways The big difference between end user sales and selling to larger corporations What has to happen BEFORE you get on a sales conversation to increase your chances of getting to a YES Three key reasons that a buyer will NOT say yes when you meet with them. What to do when someone says, ‘let me think about it’ Where sales people mess up when trying to close the sale (ever had that hard sale leaving you feel icky?) The connection between where you are marketing and your ability to close the sale How you can use automation to help make sure the right prospects are making it on to your sales appointments   Mentioned In this Episode: Awaken Leadership Mastermind Own Your Bold Inner Circle How to Stop Wasting Time on the Wrong Prospects | Podcast Episode 20 Answering Your Questions on Sales and Motivation | Podcast Episode 72 Book: Growth Mindset by Carol Dweck Amplify Your Success Community

The environment always wins. If you’ve ever had an exhausting day full of too many decisions (and haven’t we all?), you know all too well that willpower is finite. World power, on the other hand, doesn’t run out. World power means designing an environment with just the right balance and harmony to support you and challenge you to grow and get results, so you can rely on your environment instead of your limited willpower. This is why designing your environment sets up a framework for success, whether in business, ethical influence, teambuilding, or even with family and friends. According to Thomas Leonard’s theory, there are nine environments. These surround you, where you’re the unchanging core at the center of a pie chart. The nine environments are: The memetic environment, composed of ideas, surrounds the inner core. The body environment, which is your appearance, clothing, and so on. The self environment, such as your strengths, talents, and character. Your spiritual environment. The relationship environment, including your close friends, family, and close colleagues. Your network environment. This is the professional connections and greater community in your network. The physical environment: places, things, and technology. The financial environment, including money, wealth, and budget. The nature environment includes the great outdoors, nature, and the seasons.   This framework offers a powerful way to see and design the world around you. In other words, it helps you to design the context of your world, not just the content. Either you control your environment, or it controls you. Without significant environmental design, no process of change is sustainable, because it relies on your (finite) willpower. To achieve sustainable success, always design these nine environments to be the picture of your next evolution. Tune into this episode to learn how you can use your knowledge of these environments to shape your world and life, what I believe the tenth environment is, how to decide which environment to focus on first, why momentum is the most powerful force in the business universe, and how to create a more adaptive, predictable, and successful outcome. In This Episode: [03:03] - Alex gives a quick overview of the key insights that he’ll be talking about throughout today’s episode. [04:05] - We learn about willpower, world power, and the incredible benefits of creating an environment instead of relying on your willpower alone. [06:57] - Alex offers a quick overview of the nine environments. [09:19] - Either you control your environment or it controls you, Alex points out. [12:38] - Alex’s goal for you in this episode is for you to understand that environment always wins, and that willpower is overrated. [13:32] - Willpower is always shackled by environmental design. [15:26] - Alex explains that environment equals context, and context is the determining factor in your life. If environment is context, willpower is content. [17:21] - We hear what Alex believes is the 10th environment, as well as how to prioritize your environments. [19:21] - Here’s today’s Alexism: “Focus on building momentum, not just growth.” [20:38] - Alex talks about how momentum applies to the idea of environmental design. [22:05] - We hear a quick review of the insights that Alex has covered today, including why environment is more powerful than willpower. [23:06] - Did you enjoy this episode? If so, please head to this link and leave your biggest takeaway from this episode as an iTunes review! [24:52] - Alex gives away a powerful free gift in honor of this 35th episode of the podcast: instant free access to his powerful new video e-course, available at this link!   Links and Resources: Alex Mandossian MarketingOnline.com Marketing Online 4-Part Video Training Series Alex Mandossian on YouTube Alexisms by Alex Mandossian All Selling Aside on iTunes Thomas Leonard CoachVille Werner Erhard

In this episode, Nadia talks about the “9-Environments of you”, which was created by Thomas Leonard and taught by Phil Black from The Accelerated Leadership Academy. For more info go to https://nadiafleury.com/the-9-environments-of-you/ She explains how “the 9- Environments of you” can help in assessing where you are now and where you want to go in life. Sometimes, we get so caught up in doing things that we don’t pay attention to where we are going. So every once in a while, it’s good to step back and see where you are heading. (#) According to Nadia, there are important matters to consider when you think about your environment. It’s not just about work and making money. It’s also important to take care of your other needs, like your self, your body, your memetic, your physical environment, your network, your relationship, and your spirituality. By exploring the nuances of each of the 9-Environments, you will become more aware of the world around you and more connected to it. Paying attention to what your body is telling you is so essential for life fulfillment, especially taking the time to listen to your heart’s needs.  After all, if you don’t do it for yourself, who will? This guide gives you the ability to design the world around you so that you can become whom you desire to be, AND evolve in unexpected and often, in delightful ways. Another pleasant voice from Nadia and her exploration on bringing us back to life through the use of our environments. We’ll surely hear constructive and intellectual counsels from her. This will surely be another way of giving ourselves a reason to live life to the fullest.

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Welcome to Season 2 of the #AskAnArchitect show! In this exciting opener, we are filming at Forum Texas in Austin, TX.Episode 51 starts with Michael Riscica, AIA, who is the owner of Michael Riscica Architecture (MRA) and YoungArchitect.com. He is joined by Thomas Leonard, AIAS, who is the chapter president at Penn State.

Welcome to Season 2 of the #AskAnArchitect show! In this exciting opener, we are filming at Forum Texas in Austin, TX.Episode 51 starts with Michael Riscica, AIA, who is the owner of Michael Riscica Architecture (MRA) and YoungArchitect.com. He is joined by Thomas Leonard, AIAS, who is the chapter president at Penn State.

Executive Coach Vikki Brock on Coaching in the Middle East Vikki Brock joined Boeing in Seattle right out of college. Vikki took advantage of the many opportunities to learn and grow her career at Boeing. She was the first woman the company sent to the executive MBA program. In 1994, Vikki left her 21-year career at Boeing to launch her consulting and coaching practice.  Vikki joined the nascent coaching industry and was introduced to Thomas Leonard, founder of CoachU and the International Coach Federation (ICF). She completed her coaching certification at CoachU and was among the first cohort to earn her Master Coach Certification (MCC) from the ICF in 1998. Curious about the origins of coaching, Vikki went on to earn her Ph.D. in Coaching and Human Development. She went on to publish the most comprehensive history of coaching to date in her book the Sourcebook of Coaching History. This program is for you if you are a coach and want to hear more about the origins of coaching from a pioneer of the coaching industry If you do business in the Middle East or you manage people from Asia, Vikki will share her experience of working in Kuwait if you would like to know more about coaching and how to select a coach for your business Please check Inspired Wisdom.us for speaker notes, links and handouts for this episode with executive coach, Vikki Brock.

Have you ever felt like everyone else’s needs come first? Have you wondered how you’re supposed to show up in your relationship, or for your family, if you’re exhausted and not feeling nourished and supported yourself? How do you make the shift so that you feel full enough to have something extra to offer those around you? In today’s episode, we’re going to cover the art of Extreme Self Care - so that you can learn how to make boundaries and take better care of yourself (and why that’s so important for the health of your relationship). Our guest is Cheryl Richardson, professional coach and New York Times Bestselling author of several books, including Take Time for Your Life, and her most recent book, Waking Up in Winter. Cheryl Richardson was literally one of the first professional coaches, and her decades of experience will help you reclaim your life, find your center, and bring your best self to your relationships. As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Sponsors: Along with our amazing listener supporters (you know who you are - thank you!), this week's episode is being sponsored by FabFitFun.com. FabFitFun offers a seasonal gift box with full-size, ahead-of-the-trend, fitness, beauty, lifestyle, and fashion products. Each box retails for $49.99, but contains more than $200 worth of goodies! You can customize your box, or just be completely surprised by what comes. As a special for Relationship Alive listeners, FabFitFun is offering $10 off your first box if you use the coupon code "ALIVE" with your order. It's a great gift for yourself - or for that special someone in your life. This week’s episode is also sponsored by SimpleContacts.com, which offers an easy, convenient way to order contact lenses, carrying all major brands. They also have an online vision test that’s you can take quickly in the comfort of your own home or office, AND they are offering you $30 off your order by visiting simplecontacts.com/alive and using the code “ALIVE” at checkout! Resources: Check out Cheryl Richardson's website Read Cheryl Richardson’s Books - Take Time for Your LIfe and Waking Up in Winter FREE Relationship Communication Secrets Guide Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner's Needs) in Relationship (ALSO FREE) www.neilsattin.com/selfcare Visit to download the transcript, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the transcript to this episode with Cheryl Richardson Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. On today's show, we're gonna dive deep into the question of how to take care of yourself and why it is so important to take care of yourself in the context of nurturing your relationship with others, whether that be your spouse, your partner, your children, other important people in your life. At the core of it all rests your ability to nurture who you are here in this journey of your life on the planet. We've covered some more maybe psychological ways to do that. Episodes with Dick Schwartz, with Peter Levine, et cetera, et cetera. We've covered the gamut, and yet, what I wanted you to have today is some very nuts and bolts practical approaches to the art of extreme self-care. Neil Sattin: I'm saying that intentionally because today's guest is I think the person who launched that term into the public eye, extreme self-care, and in fact she is one of maybe a dozen people who launched the profession of coaching in the world. So, if you are working with a coach or are thinking about working with a coach, then you have this esteemed guest to thank for coaching being what it is today. Her name is Cheryl Richardson and she is author of New York Times bestselling books. She's been on Oprah Winfrey's show. In particular, the first book of hers that I read, Take Time For Your Life, was huge for me in realizing all the ways in which I was not showing up for me and what that was costing me in other aspects of my life. Neil Sattin: Cheryl has a long running radio show and I'm gonna let her tell you a little bit more about what she's doing and what she's done. She leads retreats and still does coaching, I believe, and in the meantime she is here with us today to share with us her wisdom on how to take care of yourself extremely well. If you are interested in downloading a transcript from today's conversation, then you can visit NeilSattin.com/selfcare, all one word, or you can text the word "passion" to the number 33444 and follow the instructions. I think that's it, so Cheryl Richardson, thank you so much for being here with us today on Relationship Alive. Cheryl Richardson: Hi Neil, thank you for having me. I'm glad to be here. Neil Sattin: You are most welcome. I think when I first reached out to you is maybe two and a half years ago, so it's great to finally be able to connect with a fellow ... Cheryl Richardson: Sorry it took so long. Neil Sattin: ... A fellow New Englander. That's fine, I'm sure that you were saying no until it was a definite yes. Cheryl Richardson: Yes, exactly. Neil Sattin: We'll fill in everyone listening on what we're even talking just then. So, perhaps ... Like, why extreme self-care? Let's start there. Why extreme and not just take care of yourself? Cheryl Richardson: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Well, the phrase "extreme self-care" was first coined by my coach, Thomas Leonard, who really is the man who's sort of single handedly launched the profession of coaching back in the early '90s. He was my first coach and I worked with him, and, as you said in your introduction, a handful of other coaches who were sort of helping him to craft the curriculum for Coach University, which was his training organization at the time. He's since passed away. Cheryl Richardson: He coined that phrase and I remember early on after we had been working together for a few years, he was developing this extreme self-care program as part of the coaching curriculum and he called upon both myself and a colleague of mine, Stephen Clooney was his name, to work with him on developing the program. So, he coined the phrase and I decided to bring it to sort of the mainstream world after he had passed, through the book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care. That book was really written ... You know, I had been teaching self-care. As you mentioned, Take Time For Your Life. I had written that book and Stand Up For Your Life, which is ... So, Take Time was about sort of self-care. Getting a handle on the outer world. Stand Up For Your Life was about building confidence and character and self-esteem. Cheryl Richardson: Then The Unmistakable Touch of Grace was about going even more deeply inward and taking care of our self-care for the spirit. You know, taking care of our spiritual wellbeing. When I wrote The Art of Extreme Self-Care, I had been teaching about self-care for many years but my husband was really sick at the time, and at the time that I had the book contract, and I remember I was really struggling to support him through his illness. My best friend at the time said to me, "How can you possibly write a book on extreme self-care when your life is in a state of extreme disrepair?" I remember thinking, "My God, she's right." Cheryl Richardson: Early on Thomas had used the phrase "extreme ..." I remember one time he said to me, "You don't just need self-care, you need extreme self-care," because I was such a good girl back then and I was such a yes machine that he was really challenging me. He was brilliant at honoring his own needs and at setting boundaries. At one point he said to me, "Your good girl role is gonna rob you of your life." So, I think he used the word "extreme" certainly to get my attention but to also get the attention of those of us who were training to be coaches by first really getting a handle on our own lives and our own self-care so that we could be good models and so that we could, in working with people, really know what people were up against when it came to practicing better self-care so that we could support them with integrity and with real empathy, I would say. Neil Sattin: What is extreme about it? Cheryl Richardson: Well, it really depends on who you are, because, for example, I remember one time early in my coaching with Thomas, he said ... We both identified that I, like a lot of people, especially women, was always saying yes because I didn't want to hurt someone's feelings. I didn't want to disappoint them. I didn't want to piss off people. I wanted them to like me, and so he gave me an assignment. For 30 days I had to piss off one person a day, every day for 30 days, and I remember being ... Cheryl Richardson: Now, for me, that was extreme, right? For a lot of people, that would be extreme, but he was trying to help me find a balance, and a lot of times when we grow, we go from one way of being in the world to the complete opposite for some of us, until we find a balance in between, so he was challenging me, like a good coach will do, and I've done this for years with my clients ... You challenge your clients to do more than they think they can and they often fall somewhere in the middle, but it's far better than where they were, and that's really what he was doing, I think, at the time. Neil Sattin: Yeah, and what I appreciate about it among many things is that it isn't polarized in the way that ... There are a lot of popular books right now that are basically about kind of not caring what other people think. Cheryl Richardson: Yeah. Neil Sattin: What's so artful about what you teach is that these are ways that you can take care of yourself but in a way that actually still honors your connectedness, your relatedness to other people. Cheryl Richardson: Well, yeah, and as a matter of fact there's one point ... So, my most recent book, Waking Up in Winter, which isn't a how-to book but instead is a memoir that just shares with people exactly how I live an examined life and how I grapple with my own self-care. At one point when I was going back to sort of edit this little section that I had written about doing an interview around self-care, I just named something that I hadn't been able to really name, and I'm not gonna be able to do it as well as I did in the book here in this moment, but ultimately we're all really caring people. Cheryl Richardson: I mean, trying to teach people to not care what other people think ... I say good luck to that. I mean, that's just not gonna happen, because we are relational beings. We have a need for belonging. We have a need for connection. Most of us do. Very high percentage of people, and so it's not that we want to take care of ourselves at all costs. What we really want is more integrity in our relationships, right? We want to be able to be who we really are. We want others to be who they really are, and we want relationships and connectedness based on truth, so if I say to you, Neil, "Yeah, sure, I'll help you move on Saturday," when I haven't had a day off in 30 days and then suddenly I'm really pissed and resentful because I now have my only day off scheduled to help you move, I promise you I'm not gonna show up on the morning of your move ... It's unlikely I will show up being all excited and ready to be supportive of you. Cheryl Richardson: So, most of us when we're overwhelmed, and most of us are busy and overwhelmed, when we say yes out of guilt or obligation or just unconsciousness, we end up putting ... Sort of taking little bites out of our relationships, out of the integrity of our relationships, and eventually you wind up with a lot of stuff that's unsaid or a lot of sort of unnecessary energy between two people that prevents a clean, vital, alive connection with the other person. So, I find as I get older and I think I'm probably much older than you are, I want relationships with people based on authenticity, based on aliveness, based on truth, based on a give and take relationship. I don't want to be sitting having dinner with somebody who spends the whole time just talking about themselves and their problems. I have no interest in that. Cheryl Richardson: If you're somebody I really care about, then I'm gonna attempt to interject. I'm gonna attempt to create some balance in the give and take, but if that's not something you're sensitive to or aware of, then I'm probably not gonna have dinner with you again, and I wouldn't want somebody to do that with me either. If somebody felt drained or frustrated or irritable after spending time with me, I'd want to know that, number one, and number two, I'd want to rectify it, because at our best ... Cheryl Richardson: You know, when we've got really good, clean, honest, open communication with one another, we really get the value of relationship and our relationships become alive, much like your podcast name, right? They are alive and fulfilling and meaningful and satisfying, and in the end, that's what really matters. I promise you, that's what really matters. Neil Sattin: So maybe a great specific thing, because I really love the wording of this. You talk about how to say no gracefully to someone, and in a way, that is about honoring your relationship with someone and it being based on truth or being willing to be truthful with someone because you honor and respect your relationship with them. So, what's the key to delivering a truthful message? It could be delivering a no to someone, like refusing to help them out, let's say, or show up for something, or to change your mind about something you've committed to, or it could be a moment of wanting to provide feedback about what's going on in a relationship, to bring the truth to it in a way that isn't heavy handed. Cheryl Richardson: Well, the honest answer is that for each of those different situations, the language is gonna be different, right? Neil Sattin: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Cheryl Richardson: So, let's start by looking at what are some of the general truths for all of it. Number one, if you're having any kind of an emotional reaction to a conversation, you're scared of having it, you feel pressured, you're anxious, you're pissed off. If you're having some kind of an emotional reaction or response to somebody or to the need for conversation, then the very first thing you want to do is go handle that without having a conversation. Cheryl Richardson: I love it. There's a wonderful book called Growing Yourself Back Up by John Lee that I recommend all the time to people because it's about emotional regression, which is something that therapists understand. Coaches don't necessarily understand it because they're not therapists, but, you know, when somebody gets their buttons pushed, we often go into a regressed state. So, I'm suddenly not 58 years old, I'm 12, and I'm about to have an adult conversation with you as a 12 year old. Chances are it's not gonna go well, right? Neil Sattin: Right. Cheryl Richardson: So, the first thing I need to do is step back and grow myself back up. It might be that I have to turn to my husband or another friend to kind of process the experience. This happens a lot when you've got people in your life that are critical or mean spirited or the nasty boss who humiliates you in front of other employees. Whenever people are inappropriate, the normal human reaction is to be stunned into silence. You don't even know what to say, and then people usually beat themselves up afterwards for not having said something, but it's normal when somebody behaves inappropriately to not have a response because you're too busy processing the shock of it. So, you need to walk away and process that. Have conversations. Maybe write in your journal or write a letter to the person. Do some emotional ... Go to see a therapist depending on the intensity of it. Cheryl Richardson: You want to just get yourself into as neutral a state as possible. In coaching, we call it "charge neutral," so it's not an excited or a reactive state. That's true for any conversation, and then I would also say, again, a good general guideline is keep it short, sweet and to the point. I can't stress this enough. My dad used to say this to me. I grew up in a family business and my dad, like from the time I was 16 years old when he would be communicating with clients, he was a tax consultant, or he would do an annual letter to his clients, he would always say to me, "Keep things short, sweet and to the point, that way people remember, they get your message and they're not bogged down with too many words." Cheryl Richardson: I think it's the same thing in difficult conversations. So, what's your truth? You deliver that as succinctly as possible. Along with that, you don't want to defend your position. You don't want to over explain it, which would be giving too much, and you don't want to open the door for debate. So, that's part of the reason why I say "keep it short, sweet and to the point." Then I would say ... I think those are probably the most important general guidelines, and if you can enter into a conversation without being emotionally activated, you've got your best chance of being gracious, and when you keep it ... Oh, and prepare. That's the other thing. Cheryl Richardson: Sorry, the other thing I want to say is if you have to have a difficult conversation, and for some people, saying no to a friend who asks you to babysit their kids is a difficult conversation, so they need to step back and process the feelings. Let's use that as an example. You've got to step back and process the anxiety in your body of, "Oh God, I know she's gonna be really pissed at me. She watched my kids two times last month, but I'm just ... I'm not able to do it," or, "I really don't want to do it. Her kids are difficult and they're exhausting for me. I don't have kids and it's not easy for me to be with them." Whatever the reason is, process that truth first and then you can simply have a conversation and I think it's always best to have a phone conversation unless the person is toxic in any way. Then we can talk about that separately. Cheryl Richardson: It might be that you just simply get on the phone and you say to your friend, "I got your message about wanting to take care of the kids and I'm not gonna be able to do it, and I want you to know that I will absolutely look for a time in the future when I can, but this time, I'm not able to and I hope you understand. Period. Period." Then you keep your mouth shut, and regardless of what that friend says, you just repeat the truth of what you just said, and nothing more. "Oh, God, that's too bad. I really needed you to watch the ... I can't find anybody. There's no one." = "I'm so sorry. I really look forward to helping you out in the future. I just can't do it this time." Cheryl Richardson: "Yeah, but, you know, I'm always watching your kids. You should really-" - "You know, I recognize you're watching my kids and I appreciate that and I will absolutely return the favor. I just can't do it this time." You see? So, I'm not saying, "You know what? I'm so sorry but I promised Jim that we'd get together this weekend and we're supposed to have a date night or a date day." The minute you do that, now you're opening it up for interpretation. It's just completely unnecessary, so ... Neil Sattin: Right, and what's interesting too, I think, is that the more you say ... When you talk about opening it up for interpretation, that's totally true. The meaning that the other person is making, whether it's ... Cheryl Richardson: That's right. Neil Sattin: ... "Oh, they value this person more than me." Cheryl Richardson: That's right. Neil Sattin: Or, "Oh, they actually don't really like my children" or whatever it is. Cheryl Richardson: Yeah, exactly, exactly. So, the more you just keep it short, sweet and to the point, the truth is whatever story they make up is their story and that's their responsibility to manage that, so that's why I say it's so important to process ahead of time, then plan what you're going to say. Keep it short, sweet and to the point. Don't over explain. Don't debate it. Don't even open it for ... Just keep returning to the truth of what you've said and let that be enough. Then you'll need to do ... Cheryl Richardson: You know, if it's a hard conversation for you ... Like, I don't like disappointing people, Neil. I don't like being disappointed. I haven't liked it since I was a little girl, and I've done a lot of work on dealing with my own issues around disappointment, but I know I can get activated. Just ask my husband, you know? All of a sudden we're supposed to do something and he decides, "You know what? I've had a horrible day. I just can't do it. I'm just exhausted and I'm just not able to do it," and I'm like, you know ... I get all activated. The little girl in me, I go into a regressed state sometimes and it's my responsibility to step back and go, "Okay, sweetheart, 90 percent of your reaction has nothing to do with this present moment, so let's become an adult again. Get out of the room and go get your shit together." Excuse my French. Neil Sattin: No, that's fine. We have actually talked about that a lot on the show, recognizing those parts of us that are stuck in earlier places and earlier traumas, and trying to find the signs that that's where we're operating from instead of operating from our wise adult self, and to show up to care for those parts of us, whether it's ... We talked about it with Margaret Paul, with inner bonding work. Cheryl Richardson: Yes. So, she's brilliant. She understands. Yes, it's exactly ... You know, it's internal family systems work, it's inner child work, it's ... Yes, it's absolutely, and that's really important. That's why ... So, from a communication standpoint, self-care, the decision to take care of oneself, brings up a lot of stuff. If you grew up in a family where it wasn't okay to tend to your own needs, or you just didn't ... It was never demonstrated to you. You never learned how to do it, it can bring up a lot of anxiety. The simplest thing can bring up a lot of anxiety, and we do need to be really respectful and loving and honoring of those parts of us that get activated. We don't want to communicate with people when they get activated. Cheryl Richardson: Now, this especially comes into play when we're dealing with tough people, right? Critical people, authority figures, toxic- Neil Sattin: Ex-spouses. Cheryl Richardson: Ex-spouses. Yeah, okay, great, or situations fraught with excitability. Toxic people, all of that. It's become so important to ... The more toxic the relationship, the briefer the conversation needs to be, and I will say that in situations like a toxic ex-spouse, let's say, or a toxic parent or sibling, which, you know, I'll hear a lot about that sort of stuff, sometimes the best way to communicate is via email, once again using the guidelines, but not going ... You know, a lot of times people will say to me ... I just had a conversation with somebody recently who had to have a very difficult conversation with a really toxic friend, and she was really scared of her. Understandably so. The woman was a bully. Cheryl Richardson: I said to this person, "No, no, no, no, no. You don't need ..." She said to me, "Well, I feel like it's only right that I see her face to face." Well, that's really lovely and clearly you're a person of integrity, but it's not good self-care, because this person's gonna eat you for lunch. So, instead, you need to communicate what you have to communicate via email. That's when it's appropriate. It's not appropriate when you're just trying to get out of a tough conversation with somebody you love, but when somebody's really inappropriate, has a history of that or is toxic in some way, or where you get incredibly triggered like an ex-spouse, sometimes you're doing both of you a favor. Cheryl Richardson: Let me also say this. Sometimes you're doing both of you a favor by communicating via email. The other thing that's important is if you have to deliver really tough, bad news to somebody, you want to remember that sometimes you're doing them a favor by communicating via email, because you're giving them a chance to process their reaction instead of puking it all over you, and I use that gross word intentionally, because a lot of times that's what happens. People end up just puking their unfinished stuff, their unresolved stuff, their old stuff on you, and a lot of damage happens in relationships because of that. Neil Sattin: I know. I hope more and more to foster a society where people are recognizing their potential to do that and stopping themselves, but I think it's healthy to recognize that that ain't happening all the time by any means. More and more, I think you listening to the show, that's probably true for you, where you recognize, "Oh, I get triggered. I'm going into my fight mode and I'm gonna let someone ... I could let someone have it, but I'm not going to because I recognize that that's what's going on." Neil Sattin: There is a phrase that you mentioned in one of the recordings of yours I was listening to and I think in one of your books as well that I just love so much, so I want to make sure we say it specifically, and it's something like, "Because I honor and respect our friendship or our relationship or you, I need to tell you the truth." Cheryl Richardson: Yes, yes. So, it's, "In an effort to honor our relationship, I want to be honest with you," or, "In an effort to honor our relationship, I need to tell you the truth." I would say, "I want to be honest." Depending on who it is, keeping it more conversational makes it feel less threatening to the other person. So, let me give you an example. This is an example I talk about all the time because ... I keep using it because people keep coming to me afterwards going, "Oh my God, that was so helpful. I needed to hear that." Cheryl Richardson: So, let's say you have a friend that's constantly complaining about her job. Like every time you talk to her, she's just a chronic complainer, and you know you have a friend like this when you look at caller ID and you see that they're calling and you let it go to voicemail, right? Or you make dinner or lunch plans and you keep canceling at the last minute. These are the things we need to pay attention to. In our relationships, those are the clues that something's not working. Cheryl Richardson: So, if you have a friend that's chronically complaining, it's really important to know that ... Oh, and by the way, let me just say this friend will also say things like, "You know what, Neil? God, I just love you. You know, every time I call you and I just talk about what's going on in my life, I feel so much better afterwards. I just feel relieved and energized." Meanwhile, Neil, you're hanging up the phone filled with all of their junk, exhausted and overwhelmed and thinking, "Oh, why did I answer the phone," right? Neil Sattin: Right. Going through every spiritual clearing I know to release all that stuff. Cheryl Richardson: Exactly. You're smudging yourself and you're taking a shower and all of that. So, it's important to recognize that when somebody's like that in your life, you show up and you answer the phone, you're completely ... You know, you're energetically clear, you're in a good place. I often use the visual of the thermometers you see in front of churches when they're raising money and they show the red line moves up as they raise more and more money. Cheryl Richardson: If you imagine yourself as an empty vessel without a red line when the complaining friend calls and you pick up the phone and they start "wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah, wah ..." You know, like the Charlie Brown character, "wah, wah, wah," and before you know it, the red line of anxiety or just stuff is moving up, up, up and you, because they're puking their negativity onto you, and again, I use that gross word intentionally ... So, it's coming out of them. Their red line is going down, yours is going up and by the end of the conversation, you're filled with their anxiety and you're exhausted, and they're feeling light and happy and off to the next thing. Cheryl Richardson: The problem with that scenario is unfortunately ... I know you know this, Neil, because I think you were trained through Tony Robbins' work, right? Neil Sattin: Yep, that was part of my training. Cheryl Richardson: Yeah, most of us are ... Most human beings are motivated by pain or pleasure and most of it is pain, right? Neil Sattin: Right. Cheryl Richardson: So, when we get our anxiety relieved, we lose our motivation to take action to change things, so people who are chronic complainers who have vessels for their complaining keep getting to empty themselves of the anxiety of their situation so that they don't really ever get to a point where they have to do something about it. So, in that way, I'm not really doing you any favors by listening to you complain, right? Neil Sattin: Right. Cheryl Richardson: So, that's the basis for a conversation where ... Let's say you're the draining friend, Neil. Sorry, I'll only have you be that for a few minutes. So, my conversation- Neil Sattin: Cheryl, you're always making me the draining friend. Cheryl Richardson: I'm sorry - I'm so sorry. So, what I would say to you is, Neil, you know what? In an effort to honor our relationship, I really want to be honest with you. The last several times we've talked, you've been complaining about your job and it sounds like you're really unhappy, and you know what? Sometimes I hang up the phone and I feel kind of exhausted, or I notice myself every now and then kind of avoiding your phone calls, and I don't want that between us. So I just want to be honest with you. Cheryl Richardson: I am here to support you and doing something about changing this job you can't stand. I'll do research for you. I'll take a look at your resume. I'll help you find a career counselor. Like, whatever I can do to support you, but I can't listen to you complain about it anymore, and I just wanted you to know that so that in the future if you start to complain about it, I'm just gonna gently say, "Hey, Neil? Remember that conversation we had? I just want to remind you, tell me what I can do to support you in taking action." Cheryl Richardson: Then you keep your mouth shut. You don't say anything. Even if you're tempted, like, "I hope you understand. I hope you're not mad." Just keep your mouth shut. Be empowered. That's a way to really raise our level of self-esteem, by the way, by speaking our truth and then shutting up, and then whatever you say to me ... "Well, you complain about things too, Cheryl. I don't think I complain about it this much." - "Well, you know what, Neil? My experience is that you do, and I want to support you in doing something about it, so I promise you, I'm happy to help you take action. I just can't listen to the complaining." Cheryl Richardson: Whatever you say, I need to just keep saying that, and then the last thing I want to say is, "And, by the way, Neil, you'll probably forget that we had this conversation and I'll gently remind you when it happens again," because the truth is if you keep listening to friends that are chronically complaining, you've trained them to believe that that's okay. They have a neural network set up. You have a neural network set up. That's what regression is. It's neural programming, right? Neil Sattin: Right. Cheryl Richardson: We tap into an old program and it starts running, and you're saying ... You're breaking up that neural network, that neural program, and that you're gonna remind them that you're doing that. So, then, what's really important is that I back up that boundary with action so that if a week from now you call me and you start complaining about your boss, I better say to you, "Hey, Neil, remember that conversation we had? Tell me what I can do to support you," because if you don't, you're also ... you're doing even more damage to the relationship because you're essentially saying to your friend you don't keep your word. Your word isn't to be paid attention to or trusted, so ... Neil Sattin: Right, right, and I think that's helpful too, because so much of what creates alive relationships is having a container that feels safe. Now, within that safe container, that doesn't mean ... Cheryl Richardson: That's right. Neil Sattin: ... That there's not room to ask for adjustments like you were just talking about, but the container of safety, like you set it up by saying, "In an effort to honor our relationship, I need to be honest with you," so you're saying, "I honor you." Cheryl Richardson: That's right. Neil Sattin: On the flip side, you're also saying, "And you can trust me that I'm not gonna let this go." Cheryl Richardson: Yeah. Well, and you can trust me that I'll tell you the truth. I think about some of my closest friends and they're my closest friends because I know that they'll be honest with me and I know that they care about the maintenance of our friendship, right? Neil Sattin: Right. Cheryl Richardson: They don't want unspoken things between us, and the friendships that I've had that have ended, the very long, important friendships I've had that have ended have all ended because of what was unspoken and un-dealt with. I think it's also important when you talk about creating a safe container. I mean, all of my work, for years, has been about building healthy relationships, both in my own life, first and foremost, and then teaching it as a teacher. My husband Michael and I have been together almost 25 years and the year before we got married, we spent a year doing imago therapy. Harville Hendrix's Imago Therapy Together. Cheryl Richardson: I introduced Michael to it. I told him that I was not gonna get into a committed relationship, especially a marriage, with somebody who wasn't wiling to do the work, and it was the smartest thing we ever did and it was all about creating a safe container, right? Learning to create a dialogue process. I don't know if you've done any podcasts around that work, Neil ... Neil Sattin: Oh yeah, Harville and Helen have been on the show twice now. Cheryl Richardson: Great. Okay, great. So, a lot of your audience are familiar. Harville is a dear and one of his colleagues was and is our therapist on call for imago therapy and we've used him off and on over the years when we've been in tough places, all because that dialogue process creates a safe container. You can use it with friends. You can use it in business situations. I've used it in coaching relationships with people, in coaching people through difficult situations, and it is all about safety, because we all get triggered. We're going to emotionally regress for the rest of our lives. I mean, that's just ... Cheryl Richardson: Without a doubt, I can be the healthiest, most functioning adult ... You know, I saw this ... My dad died a year ago, November, and the night that he died, I'm one of seven children, and thank God for the work I do because ... I mean, I was having my own reaction to my father dying, but here I am in a hospital with my whole family and I'm just watching, bing, bing, bing, one emotional regression after another, knowing, "Breathe, do not pay attention to anything that's going on right now, because everybody is in a regressed state. Nobody is in a sane, wise, adult state. People are scared, they're grief stricken, they're traumatized. Just stay sane as best you can." Cheryl Richardson: Of course, I had my husband with me who knew exactly what was going on and was such an example, and I think this is important to say in terms of relationships. He was such an example that night of how powerful one's presence can be without saying a word. He was this calm, grounded, loving presence for everybody. He and my brother-in-law, both of them, they were like anchors for everybody. Just being in the room. I would watch him go from one room to another room where there was emotional upset. He would step into a room and just sit and everybody would calm down. That's the power of getting a handle on emotional regression on our own reactions and growing ourselves back up. Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah. I'm having this thought of, like, "Well, I wonder if when I'm 80 I'll regress to when I'm in my 40s and everything will be fine." Cheryl Richardson: It's an interesting thing to think about, isn't it? I mean, I certainly have had experiences at 58 of regressing into remembering my mid-30s or 40s, let's say, from a career perspective when things were just going gangbusters and I've had the experience of feeling overwhelmed like I did back then, but so much of regression goes all the way back to where it all started, right? Neil Sattin: Yeah. Cheryl Richardson: In the family of origin... Neil Sattin: Yeah, yeah, or maybe even for some of us what we brought in to this life. Cheryl Richardson: Without a doubt. I personally believe that. Yeah. Neil Sattin: Cheryl, I want to ensure, because this has been so powerful to talk about ways of creating healthy boundaries as a way of taking care of yourself, and I'm wondering, you don't have a lot of time left, but I want to ensure that we touch on some of the other things that are so important. At this moment I just want you listening to know that Cheryl's books are amazing. They lay everything out step by step so you're not gonna get overwhelmed with trying to figure out how to take care of yourself. There's a system there for you to follow, and I'm wondering, Cheryl, if you could give us just a taste of some of the things ... Neil Sattin: Like, let's pull it back inward and how to really show up for us so that we're nurturing ourselves. That's where so much of your work is so powerful. Cheryl Richardson: Well, in a lot of ways, my most recent book really demonstrates that. Waking Up In Winter. The subtitle is "In search of what really matters at mid-life," but it could've been subtitled, "In search of what really matters at a transition point in one's life." When it came time for me to write another book, I realized I really honestly felt like I had said all I needed to say about self-care and work-life balance and high quality living in all of my books, and what I really wanted was something I think a lot of us want, and that is to experience the healing power of story and example instead of teaching "how to" information and advice. Cheryl Richardson: We have so much of it now, right? So, Waking Up in Winter is a memoir in journal form and I think journaling is one of the most powerful things we can do as an act of self-care, as an act of building a strong relationship with oneself, and I sort of demonstrate that through the book by taking a journal that was already written. It's not one that I wrote to be published. It was already written, and showing people what it means to grapple with issues of self-care, what it means to be too busy, what it means to enter a period of life where you feel like you're lingering in limbo, where you don't know what's next. You know what you don't want but you don't know what you do want, or you're waiting for the next stage of your life but you're kind of clueless about what it is. Cheryl Richardson: How do you hold on during those times and how do you deal with the ending of friendships? I write about the ending of a very important friendship, and how do you deal with career transition and reevaluating? I mean, I think in a lot of ways I wanted people to know that they weren't alone in this process of trying to cultivate a deeper relationship with themselves. It sort of takes people on that journey by sharing what happened to me, and there's one part in the book that ... Cheryl Richardson: I mention Louise Hay, who I had the good fortune to write a book with before this one. You know, Louise said to me one time when we were traveling together, she said, "Cheryl, you will be with you longer than anyone else on the planet. Why not make it a good relationship?" That just really struck me. I mean, think about that. You will be with you longer than your wife, your husband, your kids. I mean, you will be with you longer than anyone, and in the most intimate way. So, cultivating a relationship with our inner life through journaling or ... Cheryl Richardson: When I say journaling, by the way, I'm not just talking about sitting down and writing. One whole year my journal consisted of every night I would make a list of 10 things that brought me pleasure that day. For the last two years on Instagram I make a list of five things I'm grateful for and invite my followers to do the same, and then I get to read about all these things people are grateful for. On Instagram I just want to say my username is Coach On Call. It's not Cheryl Richardson. Neil Sattin: Great. Cheryl Richardson: Also, I think photographs are a wonderful way, especially now with smartphones. Sometimes journaling is creating photo albums. Like every day I try to take at least one picture of something that's beautiful, and when I go back and I look in photo albums at the beautiful moments in my life, it teaches me something about myself and it reminds me of what really matters to me, so I think we have to expand our notion of what journaling is to be more about the activities we engage in every day that say to us, "You matter. I'm paying attention to you. I'm here for you. I'm present with you. You have my attention," because for most of us, the whole world has our attention on a regular basis. We don't have enough of our own attention. Cheryl Richardson: In a lot of ways I took a big risk when I put this book out. I was convinced I wasn't gonna publish it til the day I hit send because it's very honest and it's about what happens when we decide to stop and pay close attention, to examine our life. You know, that's what I do. I live an examined life and then I write about what I discover. I mean, that's really ... You could sum up my career as a writer and a teacher pretty much, and that's what I really want for others, is to live an examined life. Give yourself the attention you deserve. Neil Sattin: I think that's so important, whether it is figuring out how to achieve more of a work-life balance or getting rid of clutter and organizing your life and time so that it supports you and feels more spacious, or your health ... All the points that you talk about in more of your how-to books. I love that you're also there with us as an honest participant, just like I've talked on the show about things going on in my relationship with Chloe. We're not here to pretend like it's all perfect. Cheryl Richardson: Yeah ... Neil Sattin: We're here to remind you that it is about the process. Cheryl Richardson: That's right, that's right. That's what it's all about. I mean, really, the soul is here to experience life, period. We're not here to accomplish or acquire or conquer. We're really here to be fully present for the experience of life and for the beautiful experience of our connection to one another because we are all connected. Neil Sattin: I'm so pleased that we had this chance to share these moments together, Cheryl. If you're interested in finding out more about Cheryl's work, you can visit CherylRichardson.com. Her new book, Waking Up In Winter, is available, as well as all of her other books and audio programs through Audible, Sounds True. You can find it all on Amazon and through Cheryl's website, her Instagram, et cetera. We'll have links to all of that in the resources section of the show notes and transcript for this episode. Meanwhile, Cheryl, is there anything else that people should know about how they could work with you or get in touch with you? Cheryl Richardson: No, I don't maintain a coaching practice anymore, so the best thing to do to learn about the events that I'm doing or the retreats ... I do host two retreats a year. They're just intimate gatherings of 50 people and they're very organic, and coaching ... That's where you could get coaching from me. The best place is to subscribe to the newsletter at CherylRichardson.com because I put a blog out every Sunday night and I always include what I'm up to in there as well. Neil Sattin: Great. Well, thank you so much and it's such a pleasure to meet you and spend some time with you today. Cheryl Richardson: Thank you, Neil, and thank you for the good work that you're contributing to the world. You have such high quality people on your podcast, people who are really steeped in a lot of experience and knowledge, and I really appreciate that you're putting this out into the world. It's so important right now. Neil Sattin: Thank you so much for saying so. It's definitely work that's so important to me, so it's helpful to have that feedback from you. Cheryl Richardson: Great. Thanks, Neil. Neil Sattin: Sure thing. Cheryl Richardson: Bye.  

Síguenos en Twitter: @jinakidi Temporada: 3 Episodio: 12 Título: El ojo de la tormenta Año: 2017 Director: Brendan Maher Guion: Ronald D. Moore Reparto: Caitriona Balfe, Sam Heughan, Tobias Menzies, Duncan Lacroix, Laura Donnelly Sinopsis: Claire busca al joven Ian en las cabañas de los esclavos de Rose Hall cuando es capturada y llevada ante la Sra. Abernathy. Lord John Grey libera a Jamie puesto que el Capitán Thomas Leonard no puede presentar ninguna prueba de los supuestos crímenes de los que lo acusa. Mientras tanto, Claire habla con Geillis de su paso a través de las piedras. Finalmente Jamie y Claire consiguen rescatar al joven Ian y salen de Jamaica en el Artemis pero los sorprende una gran tormenta y naufragan. Jamie salva a Claire de morir ahogada y logran llegar a la costa de Georgia.

Temporada: 3 Episodio: 12 Título: La batalla continúa Año: 2017 Director: Brendan Maher Guion: Ronald D. Moore Reparto: Caitriona Balfe, Sam Heughan, Tobias Menzies, Duncan Lacroix, Laura Donnelly Sinopsis: La Sra. Abernathy tiene retenido al joven Ian al que interroga para saber del paradero del tesoro de las focas. Mientras tanto, Jamie y Claire llegan a Jamaica donde compran un esclavo. También son invitados a la fiesta que da el nuevo gobernador de la isla. Allí descubren asombrados que se trata de Lord John Grey. En el baile se encuentran con algunos conocidos como Margaret Campbell, su hermano Archibald Campbell y Geillis Duncan. El esclavo de los Fraser averigua que es Geillis quien tiene secuestrado al joven Ian. En su camino a Rose Hall, la residencia de Geillis, Jamie es arrestado por el Capitán Thomas Leonard.

The Bakra 312 Written for television by: Luke Schelhaas Directed by: Charlotte Brändström Starz Synopsis: The Artemis finally reaches Jamaica bringing Jamie and Claire that much closer to their goal. During a lavish ball on the island, the Frasers encounter old allies, as well as former adversaries who threaten to derail their mission. My Summary: Flashback to Young Ian's capture. Young Ian and the Artemis arrive at Jamaica. Young Ian is given to The Bakra. She's Geillis Duncan risen from the dead. Young Ian is drugged, questioned, and sexually assaulted. Claire and Jamie et al. just miss the Bruja. They meet an ally. Misadventure and horror in the slave market. They purchase a slave. The plan the release. Geillis needs a reading and a third sapphire. To the Governor's Ball Team Fraser go. They meet an old patient. They see a ghost, Lord John Grey. Lord John meets Claire. The third sapphire is found. Claire sees a ghost, Geillis Duncan. Claire and Geillis catch up. Geillis agrees to help find Young Ian. The prophecy reading is done. Yi Tien Cho might get the girl. Thomas Leonard arrives. Jamie and Claire escape. Freedom is given. Jamie is arrested. How it played: That's right Young Ian, draw first blood. That'll show ‘em. Many months later, Jamaica. (in a French accent) I'm looking for pirates. Eleanor Guthrie is the Bakra? LMAO. You're in Jamaica mon. Two boys left, that's some scary math. It is a long way to travel Young Ian, about 4500 miles as the crow flies. The Bakra eats them or something. There is a Rose Hall in Jamaica. Well hello there, creepy sexy lady. It's Geillis Duncan. Bath of goat's blood – there are beliefs that animal blood bathing can retain youth. Young Ian, “She's creepy, she's sexy, she's scary.” NEVER EVER take a beverage from Geillis. EVER. She's the ruffie queen. Loose lips. Why does she need the third sapphire? “I sex the virgins up, then kill them.” “You'll know what to do then.” Time Traveler. Sexy AF. Pedophile. Murderer. Poisoner. Slave Master. She's the whole package that Geillis. Geillis is looking for the third sapphire; Claire calls Jamaica the jewel of the Caribbean. Coincidence? I don't think so. Team Fraser break. MacIver is the happiest wig wearing dude ever. A Ball! Meh, no thanks. Who wants to meet the Governor? Right call Jamie, don't let Claire out of your sight. A hog's head of wine was 32 gallons. Ugh, the slave market. Claire is all sorts of uncomfortable. The horrors of the slave market are visually toned down for television. The spirit of how horrendous and dehumanizing it was is made clear. I cannot imagine anyone ever thinking slavery was justifiable. Here's a history of Jamaica and slavery. We're hunting Young Ian's. Another act of dehumanization, branding. Claire loses her shit as only Claire can and hits the auctioneer with her parasol. She starts a bloody row. Then asks Jamie to do something about it. She wants to help the enslaved man. This scene could be, “How Claire accidentally owns a slave.” Temeraire is his name. Jamie schools Claire on the politics and legality of slave ownership. They discuss how to free him in the future, so he stays free. “Hey, honey, we're going to a ball.” They ask for Temeraire's help and tell him he's free as soon as they can find a way to do it. A prophecy. A reading curtailed. I need the third stone. Oh, that whacky Margaret Campbell. Um Geillis, I think your intel is incorrect. We arrive at the ball. The King's House. Jamie's a dandy, Claire's in her 20-year-old gown. That hair! Eke. That wig. Yikes! Yi Tien Cho cleans up. Fancy meeting you here Archibald. Claire's discomfort grows at the sight of the wigged slaves. Jamie asks when the slave trade ends. Yi Tien Cho is a proper distraction. The ladies are interested. He notices Margaret giving a reading to a slave and is intrigued by her. From across the room, they have a moment. Giddy honeymooners. Jamie and Claire stop time with their eye lock. “I will have you later, oh yes I will.” Oh, you smart writers, ghosts it is. It's Lord John Grey. John is dumbstruck and goofy overseeing Jamie. He's stunned to meet Claire. Fergus is looking concerned behind them. Watch out Geillis that wig might spring to life and bark. Egad. Claire's hackles are up. Willie is well. He and Isobel will come in the Summer. These wigs are killing me. A malediction is a curse or imprecation. John was made Governor as an ill favor. Help us find Young Ian. Yadda yadda. Oh, THE SAPPHIRE. Why's he wearing it? What? Claire doesn't like how John looks at Jamie. Claire's hair is a travesty of non-wiggedness. Yi Tien Cho makes a move. He's digging on Margaret. Such a romantic. The Governor chats up Claire. “Come now we both know your virtue was not in jeopardy.” Claws are out. Another ghost revealed. I-spy Geillis. Claire and Jamie use the same phrase. How clever. “Of all the gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world.” Geillis Frenemies unite. Claire gets the 411. “Why are men such fools? Ye can lead them anywhere by the cock for a while. Given them a bairn and you have them by the balls again. But it's all ye are to them, whether they're coming in or going out—a cunt. Well here's to it I say. Most powerful thing in the world.” The Philosophy of Geillis. To watch your burning, what a rush. “Bob's your uncle.” “I hid out for a while,” code for I went to France. Yes, of course, Geillis, the tropics are very bad for Englishmen. No, no, of course, I haven't seen him. Of course, I will help. Frenemies gonna frenemy. Hey there, miss grabby hands, that's my sapphire. “She's a touch strange, isn't she?” As Claire said, “You have no idea.” Time for a magical mystery tour. Margaret is in the house! Let the readings begin. Clever roping job. Margaret doesn't want to do it. It feels like death comes to do this reading. With the third sapphire in hand…it's scary talk. 200 years upon the death of a child that is 200 years' old upon its birth. BRIANNA because she was conceived 200 years in the past and born 200 years in the future. Benjamin Button was released in 1922. Newlyweds acting like newlyweds. Oh no, it's a Thomas Leonard. On the way to escape they learn, Young Ian is at Rose Hall. The lying biotch. They agree to allow Temeraire his leave with other Maroons. The Leonard sees their escape. They hold up their bargain and release Temeraire near Rose Hall. Jamie gives Claire the pictures of the kids when Leonard arrives. And the Leonard arrests Jamie after Claire gives him a piece of her mind. Claire is left to find Young Ian. My final thoughts: Absolute episodic whiplash. How many things can be thrown into one episode? I can imagine the writers' room buzz, “We've only 2 episodes left. Jam it all in here or we're not going to make it.” It feels overwhelming at times having everything occur over the course of one day. The episode had no time to breathe and create a realistic pace. I also wonder why Jamie wasn't in full disguise? A wig is certainly not enough to make him less visible. The wigs and Claire's atrocious hair were their own characters. I half expected the wigs to animate and something alive coming out of Claire's coif. A sweet twist giving Yi Tien Cho and Margaret a connection. It may be love at first sight for them. I hope the finale is less jam-packed with the presumed release of Jamie and rescue of Young Ian. What's Coming up? Episode 313 Eye of the Storm: Claire is forced to play a game of cat and mouse with an old adversary as she searches for Young Ian. The Frasers race through the jungles of Jamaica to prevent the unthinkable. How can you participate? To have your questions/comments added, email or call the listener line after the show airs. Join the weekly Twitter chat Wednesday nights at 6pm PT/9pm ET to discuss the previous latest episode using the hashtag #ADoO. Comments or messages may be included in the podcast or a written post. The entire Outlander book series is written by Diana Gabaldon. You can find her on Twitter and Facebook. Visit Outlander Starz on social media, like or follow: Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and the official website. All photos are the property of Starz/Sony. Retrieved from Outlander-Online screen captures. Follow A Dram of Outlander Thank you for sharing posts, joining the discussions, and following this website or pages listed below! Facebook,  Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, Google+, YouTube To financially support the podcast, go to my Patreon page. Call 719-425-9444 listener/reader line to leave your comments.  

President-elect Donald Trump is no fan of the tenth Principle of Attraction in Thomas Leonard's book The Portable Coach - “Promise Little, Deliver Everything”. Chris Justham from 7IM believes Trump may have over promised and could fall short of expectations after entering the White House. “This is the reason for the exhaustion in the Trump trade”, says Justham. Justham also talks about Trump influencing the US dollar and at the same time thinking of labelling China as a currency manipulator. #US, #Trump, #macro, #trading, #markets, #politics, #economy, #US, #USdollar, #Yuan, #forex, #currencies

Were the first professional economists racists? Thomas Leonard of Princeton University and author of Illiberal Reformers talks with EconTalk host Russ Roberts about his book--a portrait of the progressive movement and its early advocates at the end of the 19th century and the beginning of the 20th. The economists of that time were eager to champion the power of the state and its ability to regulate capitalism successfully. Leonard exposes the racist origins of these ideas and the role eugenics played in the early days of professional economics. Woodrow Wilson takes a beating as well.

Returning to the wisdom of Thomas Leonard’s The Portable Coach and specifically to number 12 of the 28 Surefire Strategies for Business and Personal Success. #12 is about how to eliminate delay. Show Notes: http://ownitthepodcast.com/090

Show Topic: Time for Renewal.  When is the last time you took a break...even a few moments to get still & exhale?  Our lives are so full and fast paced that we forget the value of taking a breather, to refresh ourselves.  Tune into the show as Coach Linda & her guest discuss some simple tips & why time for renewal is so beneficial!                Guest Bio: Janice LaVore-Fletcher has a passion for helping professional coaches become highly competent, confident, and courageous as they step out to do the work GOD is calling them to do. She believes through coaching we can make a positive impact on the world for the Kingdom of GOD and for HIS Glory.  Janice is the Founder & President of the Christian Coach Institute,  an ICF Professional Certified Coach, a Certified Christian Professional Coach, and a Gallup Certified Strengths Coach. She is also a Certified Mentor Coach, an Executive Mastermind Coach, Commissioned Stephen Minister, speaker, and seminar leader.  Janice uses her encouragement, passion, communication skills and “heart” to expand people’s thinking and inspire them to be all that God has called them to be. She brings years of corporate experience in leadership, human resources and, training and development in adult education. Her early life coach training was at CoachU under Thomas Leonard, the founder of coaching.  Janice is a Charter member of Coachville. Her formal education is in Behavioral Sciences and she is a Licensed Human Behavior Trainer, Tele-Class & Webinar Leader. She is blessed with a wonderful husband, Dale, who is Founder of Faith and Health Connection, and serves as Vice President of Christian Coach Institute. They have four fabulous adult children in their blended family. In their spare time, they enjoy gardening, nature, camping & traveling.

What’s the “MIT” approach to economics, and what’s wrong with it? Is economics a hard science? What is an economic model? What are some of the problems with thinking of the world this way?Arnold Kling claims that the economy isn’t like one big machine with a single purpose that can be fine tuned and regulated by experts. In this week’s episode, he presents an alternate way of thinking about economics, one you won’t find being taught in most college classrooms.Show Notes and Further ReadingKling’s new book, Specialization and Trade: A Re-introduction to Economics is available in paperback and as a free .pdf, Kindle, or .epub file.Kling and Burrus mention one of our recent Free Thoughts episodes with Thomas Leonard on his book, Illiberal Reformers: Race, Eugenics, and American Economics in the Progressive Era.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Following Nicola Cairncross’ suggestion that challenges/opportunities of the week could usefully be drawn from Thomas Leonard’s book, The Portable Coach, this week the podcast is about TJL’s first of 28 Strategies for Business and Personal Success – Become Incredibly Selfish. Show Notes: http://ownitthepodcast.com/081

Take Action Get Profits with Michele Scism with her guest Kathleen Gage & Kelly Chisholm Kathleen Gage deplores boring keynotes. Hates listening to them. Hates giving them. It's why when she spoke in front of the top brass at the United States Marine Corp, to showcase a program on spouse leadership she shined in a way they were willing to listen. Her attitude was then and is now, “I have something that's going to make a difference for you and your people and I'm willing to step into my power to deliver it in a very inspiring way.” It's this kind of “no nonsense common sense” talk that has led many people to consider her to be one of the most passionate speakers alive. Whether it's talking to executives for Fortune 500 companies, or a small group of emerging entrepreneurs and every type of group in between, Kathleen brings her passion and energy to all audiences. Want some new energy or life into your group? Kathleen's the one to call!  All subs Kelly Chisholm - is the owner and principle of Circle Coaching Group, a consultancy that specializes in helping couples and families in business together create prosperity through passionate partnerships. She combines her background as a Board Certified, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC),  Certified Relationship Specialist (CRS), her training in helping people to resolve their issues around money, her business acumen  and entrepreneurial skills, to the business coaching realm. Her advise and expertise has been featured in the Albuquerque Journal, Psychotherapy Finances, Yahoo, and numerous radio and television appearances.  Kelly received her coach training personally from Thomas Leonard, founder of Coachvile, co-founder of International Coaching Federation, and author of numerous publications on coaching. http://www.circlecoachinggroup.com

  It's Patti On Purpose! You can live your life by design or by default, either way life will unfold. Designing a relationship with your future will give you a solid target to move forward. Join Patti as she walks through Thomas Leonard's Top Ten list and helps you design you future in this though provoking episode.  Interview Links: Click Here to Subscribe in iTunes Follow us via Stitcher Listen in via RSS Ready to unleash YOUR Purpose? Sign up for our free weekly The Online Biz Workshop @ TheOnlineBizWebinar ________________________   The post ep #29 Life By Design appeared first on .

Bill Lee-Emery is a Certified Executive Coach and is the Founder of 'Evolve Education'. He is a Certified mBIT Coach and mBIT Coach Trainer, a Certified Practitioner of Meta States Coaching Genius and author of 4 books; 'Are You Dying To Get To Work?', 'Stop Procrastinating', 'How to get out of your own way and play better golf' and 'Unfair Sales Secrets'. Since the 1980's Bill has provided corporate facilitation in team building, time management, leadership, thinking skills, advanced training, effective communication and more.  He has worked across industries such as accounting, banking, finance, insurance, law, hospitality, tourism, real estate and much more. Bill's coaching training started in 2001 with the work of Thomas Leonard and 'Coachville', the pioneering Institute Thomas set up in the USA.  This continued with the Institute for Executive Coaching and some years later, Bill co-facilitated a Certificate IV in Life and Business Coaching program at the Gold Coast Institute of TAFE. Most importantly Bill completed his Coaching Certification in mBIT (multiple Brain Integration Techniques) with developers Grant Soosalu and Marvin Oka with whom he now works closely as an mBIT Coach Trainer and also of the 'Evolve Your World' Program.  This phenomenal coaching model combines Ancient Wisdom and the latest in neuroscience research from many scientific fields and has profound implications of liberating the human spirit and allowing innate, emergent wisdom to arise. For more information visit: http://evolveaustralia.com.au/

Sandy Hinderliter is a professional relationship builder. I believe that relationships are the key to business and life. I have a Master's Degree in counseling. Ii am a big believer in others capabilities and encourage others to be their best selves. SendOutCards, an online greeting card and gift business, we offer an opportunity for people to easily, inexpensively and regularly connect with personal and professional contacts. I'm also a former professor and have worked with men and women reentering society from prison. Also developed a grant winning program to help men and women leave the welfare roles. https://www.sendoutcards.com/156423 Kelly Chisholm - is the owner and principle of Circle Coaching Group, a consultancy that specializes in helping couples and families in business together create prosperity through passionate partnerships. She combines her background as a Board Certified, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC),  Certified Relationship Specialist (CRS), her training in helping people to resolve their issues around money, her business acumen  and entrepreneurial skills, to the business coaching realm. Her advise and expertise has been featured in the Albuquerque Journal, Psychotherapy Finances, Yahoo, and numerous radio and television appearances.  Kelly received her coach training personally from Thomas Leonard, founder of Coachvile, co-founder of International Coaching Federation, and author of numerous publications on coaching.  http://www.circlecoachinggroup.com

Take Action Get Profits with Michele Scism with her guest Kathleen Gage & Kelly Chicas Kathleen Gage deplores boring keynotes. Hates listening to them. Hates giving them. It's why when she spoke in front of the top brass at the United States Marine Corp, to showcase a program on spouse leadership she shined in a way they were willing to listen. Her attitude was then and is now, “I have something that's going to make a difference for you and your people and I'm willing to step into my power to deliver it in a very inspiring way.” It's this kind of “no nonsense common sense” talk that has led many people to consider her to be one of the most passionate speakers alive. Whether it's talking to executives for Fortune 500 companies, or a small group of emerging entrepreneurs and every type of group in between, Kathleen brings her passion and energy to all audiences. Want some new energy or life into your group? Kathleen's the one to call!  All substance, No Fluff!! http://www.powerupforprofits.com Kelly Chisholm - is the owner and principle of Circle Coaching Group, a consultancy that specializes in helping couples and families in business together create prosperity through passionate partnerships. She combines her background as a Board Certified, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC),  Certified Relationship Specialist (CRS), her training in helping people to resolve their issues around money, her business acumen  and entrepreneurial skills, to the business coaching realm. Her advise and expertise has been featured in the Albuquerque Journal, Psychotherapy Finances, Yahoo, and numerous radio and television appearances.  Kelly received her coach training personally from Thomas Leonard, founder of Coachvile, co-founder of International Coaching Federation, and author of numerous publications on coaching. http://www.circlecoachinggroup.com

Hosted by Robert Hass and University Librarian Thomas C. Leonard, this event features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. Series: "Lunch Poems Reading Series" [Humanities] [Show ID: 19347]

Hosted by Robert Hass and University Librarian Thomas C. Leonard, this event features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. Series: "Lunch Poems Reading Series" [Humanities] [Show ID: 19347]

Hosted by Robert Hass and University Librarian Thomas C. Leonard, this event features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. Series: "Lunch Poems Reading Series" [Humanities] [Show ID: 19347]

Hosted by Robert Hass and University Librarian Thomas C. Leonard, this event features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. Series: "Lunch Poems Reading Series" [Humanities] [Show ID: 19347]

Hosted by Robert Hass and University Librarian Thomas C. Leonard, this event features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. Series: "Lunch Poems Reading Series" [Humanities] [Show ID: 19347]

Hosted by Robert Hass and University Librarian Thomas C. Leonard, this event features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. Series: "Lunch Poems Reading Series" [Humanities] [Show ID: 19347]

Wow, its a priviledge to have Sandy Vilas on the show! Sandy is an author, master certified coach, and not to missed - co-founder of the ICF, and owner/CEO of Coach U - school for coaches. To your shining success!, Sandy is going to share his top techniques for creating a powerful and successful coaching practice. Discussing 5 points of Being and Doing a coaching business. Much of this conversation will translate to other service based businesses, so make sure to listen to someone who built a huge organisation from the bottom up alongside the great Thomas Leonard. Join us to listen to one of the masters in coaching. And feel free to ask any burning questions by calling in on 347-945 6963 or just listen on the line, or computer.

Hosted by Robert Hass and university librarian Thomas Leonard, the kickoff features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. This year's participants: Aftab Ahmad (South & Southeast Asian Studies), Ben Braun (Men's Basketball), Janet Broughton (Dean of Letters & Science, Philosophy), Jennifer Dorner (Library), E. Bond Francisco (Physical Plant), Cecil Giscombe (English), Lucia Jacobs (Psychology), Kathleen McCarthy (Classics and Comparative Literature), Paul Parish (Faculty Club), Kay Richards (East Asian Languages and Cultures, Center for Korean Studies). Support for this series is provided by Mrs. William Main, the Library, The Morrison Library Fund, the dean's office of the College of Letters and Sciences, and the Townsend Center for the Humanities. These events are also partially supported by Poets & Writers, Inc. through a grant it has received from The James Irvine Foundation. Additional information is available at lunchpoems.berkeley.edu.

Hosted by Robert Hass and university librarian Thomas Leonard, the kickoff features distinguished faculty and staff from a wide range of disciplines introducing and reading a favorite poem. This year's participants: Aftab Ahmad (South & Southeast Asian Studies), Ben Braun (Men's Basketball), Janet Broughton (Dean of Letters & Science, Philosophy), Jennifer Dorner (Library), E. Bond Francisco (Physical Plant), Cecil Giscombe (English), Lucia Jacobs (Psychology), Kathleen McCarthy (Classics and Comparative Literature), Paul Parish (Faculty Club), Kay Richards (East Asian Languages and Cultures, Center for Korean Studies). Support for this series is provided by Mrs. William Main, the Library, The Morrison Library Fund, the dean's office of the College of Letters and Sciences, and the Townsend Center for the Humanities. These events are also partially supported by Poets & Writers, Inc. through a grant it has received from The James Irvine Foundation. Additional information is available at lunchpoems.berkeley.edu.