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UNDETECTABLE = UNTRANSMITTABLE! Half the folks in the USA with HIV cannot pass on the virus. Wut? PrEPducator and sex-positive HIV counselor Raul Quintero (@rq_rude) shares mind-blowing updated research and enlightening new info about prevention and treatment of HIV today.  TOPICS: Dating someone with HIV, miracle pills, getting a prescription for PrEP / Truvada, PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis), body fluids, stigmas, myths, fears, outdated info about HIV transmission, hope and compassion, WHO (World Health Organization) and CDC, hilarious STI testing swab techniques and more.   For more resources, checkout aidsmap.com, benryan.net and poz.com for accurate HIV information. Join Sandra at Patreon.com/sexnerdsandra for bonus episodes and more!

THERAPY! MASCULINITY! GENDER! Dave Ross, comedian and former co-host of the show, shares what it was like being the co-host of this sex podcast for 100 episodes. It's an episode about closure and reflection on a working relationship. It gets deep. It gets honest. Team Fun gets real.    Join Sandra at Patreon.com/sexnerdsandra for bonus episodes and more!

SEXY GIFS! SEX TRAFFICKING! THIS PODCAST IS BACK! Online platforms are kicking off adult content. Tumblr just banned porn and erotic images. Looking at freedom of speech, public health concerns, sex-positive access to self-affirming imagery and sex worker rights, Lady Cheeky and Sandra explore the implications of the just implemented Tumblr Porn Ban. ~~~ Lady Cheeky is the Famous Alter Ego of sex educator, activist, speaker and author Elle Chase. Signup for her newsletter at ElleChase.com to find out more about  Pickup Elle's “NSFW Totally Naughty Coloring Book” and “The #NSFW Totally Curvy Coloring Book” at SheVibe.com. Pickup her popular book, “Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower your Sex Life,” available at your favorite bookseller. ~~ This episode is literally made possible by Patrons like you. Support the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast at Patreon.com/join/SexNerdSandra

FUN WITH BRAINWASHING! Meet Miss Holly, a kinky pioneer using clicker training for sexual happiness. Turns out methods used to train dogs, parrots and dolphins can help humans develop deeper, happier relationships. TOPICS: Consensual brainwashing, Chris Pratt in Jurassic World, people-pleasers, pleasure, brain chemicals, dog vs human training, Dom/sub relationship training, domestication fetish, "positive punishment" vs "positive reinforcement" vs "negative punishment" vs "negative reinforcement," sex magic, ASMR whisper tingles, triad polyamory, kinky marriage, oral sex communication, dangers, and achieving goals. PLUS training concepts like triggers, cold shaping, marks, rewards, the 3 fail rule and coming on command.

ARE YOU ON TEAM FUN? Author, podcaster and feminist troublemaker Jaclyn Friedman helps Sandra as they splash around the murky waters of consent. Going beyond no-means-no, they examine issues in heterosexual context, showing how to move from awkward to confident and from clunky to kind. TOPICS: The sex-positive movement vs the anti-sexual-violence movement, unscrewing masculinity/media/sex ed, sexual liberation, romance, body language, making it sexy, bad sex vs violence, affirmative/enthusiastic consent, sex scripts, consent apps, coerced experiences, thinking ethically vs legally, body sovereignty, gender, unpacking old trauma, playing Gotcha, the rules, drugs and alcohol impairment vs taking the edge off, which questions are rapey and how to violate our very own boundaries!

WHIPPING AMERICA BACK INTO SHAPE! Mistress Tara Indiana (Den of Iniquity) shares what 25 years of domination could do for America, with a hearty look at politics, sex and the middle-aged white men. TOPICS: Plural of "Dominatrix," female supremacy, Trump's micropenis, kink-positive politics and so much more!

BREAST ORGASMS! Tantra, sex and relationship expert Psalm Isadora is the star of "Cougar Club" on Playboy TV. She enlightens Sandra on confident seduction, growing up conservative, finding Tantra in India, shooting a reality TV show, owning her eroticism and dating young men.

CAN SCIENCE MAKE YOU SEXIER? Behind-the-scenes audio of a fantastic interview from the Sex Nerd Sandra Fusion TV special, "The Search for Sexy." Dr David Frederick of Chapman University shares immediately useful love life skills culled from attraction research. Let's make the world a better place to date! TOPICS: Muscles, value, idiosyncratic preferences, online dating, kindness, confidence, creating intrigue, danger, falling in love, limerence, increasing arousal, unexpected reward, playing hard to get, sparking connection, honest and dishonest signaling, direct or innocuous pickup lines, high status signaling, breasts vs bottoms, waist-to-hip ratio, ovulating stripper research, humor, paradox of choice, online photos, and more! Checkout the Fusion TV special "The Search for Sexy" hosted by Sex Nerd Sandra on YouTube! Online dating? Let Sex Nerd Sandra tune-up your dating profile! Click Here to checkout her new project, PROFILE PUNCH-UP! For serious. do your profile right and they come to you.

RACE PLAY! A great night continued as "The Perverted Negress" Mollena talks about what to do when "some of edge play is 'this is so f***ed up I've got to try it'" and her husband Herr Meister (Mr. Master) gets up to share how he moved to America to follow his dream. TOPICS: Racially-motivated scenes, feeling drawn vs repulsed, when to try the thing, choosing the right partner, role-play, Master and slave, Torah, collaring ceremony, dreaming to have a submissive, accepting yourself, "real slavery and suppression vs consensual love in this way," "Playing Well with Others," "Sound of Music." AUDIENCE Q&A: Asexuality in kink, edutainment, sharing fantasy with a partner, flogging catharsis and getting into the scene.

PLAYING WITH FEAR! Recorded live at NYC's Union Hall, "writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller & Award-Winning Executive Pervert" Mollena Lee Williams-Haas shares a fun kinky guessing game, taboos and empowering ways to explore your boundaries.

FEMALE EJACULATION! Amy Jo Goddard, sex coach and author of "Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence" is back on the show sharing how each of us can regain our voice, stand in our power and come home to ourselves! TOPICS: Feelings, approaching the Big Round Ball, sexual empowerment, regaining your voice, reframing stories, sexual epiphanies, coming home to yourself, agency, consciously single, people-pleasing tendencies, leaving yourself, core sexual creative energy, asexuality, archetypes, anatomy geek-out on female ejaculation, "New View of a Woman's Body," lousy g-spot research, fantasizing, truck stop train, orgasm, and what it means to be a Woman on Fire!

WHITE GUILT! Three all-star members of WOCSHN (Women of Color Sexual Health Network) break down what racial justice is and what the heck race has to do with sex. TOPICS: Diverse sex educators, community, black men in swinging, stereotypes, objectification, assumptions based on what people think you are, micro aggressions, sexualization and academia, defining racial justice, invalidating Grace Jones, all lives matter vs black lives matter, not seeing color, "embedded, systematic white supremacy," light skinned privilege, invisible lab coat, fetishization, home ownership, intersections of privilege, anti-racist storytelling, shame & guilt, the spicy Latina, lingerie and toy colors, interracial dating, Pokemon, learning your history, messed up medical studies, internalized self hate and how we step into the world.

ORGY DOME! Anal sex innovator, author and director Tristan Taormino shares hilarious stories and mishaps of over a decade of teaching butt stuff to America. BUT FIRST: Comedian Andy Wood talks their shared observations at the sexy ATTOL Burning Man camp. TOPICS: Acid, panic attack, sex machine doula, The Tristan, man bag of sex toys, how "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" came to be, research, prostates & g-spots, Halcyon pink camp, kayak sex, early anal adopter, 2nd edition, butt bondage, secret plugs, a fisting love story, one finger oracle, double-layer lubing, position show-and-tell and an audience Q & A!

ASMR WHISPER BONUS! Sexologist, founder of The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health and aspiring death doula Megan Andelloux's brain has a problem and now this sex & death nerd is turning her interests inward. TOPICS: Lipstick for blowjobs, brain damage, primary progressive aphasia vs early Alzheimers vs dementia vs mild cognitive impairment vs frontal temporal lobe disorder (FTD), telling someone bad news, orgasms, sex at end of life, anticipatory grief, anger, confusion, bitterness, floods of emotion, stepping away from work, changes in brain and behavior, overactive sex drive research, inhibition, spasms, masturbation, sex with a partner, support group sex talk, hyper sexual vs absent filters, sadness, Death Salon, Art of Dying, hope, boredom vs loneliness, invisible disability, cancer vs dementia, loved ones changing, loss of who you are, how to be supportive, mindfulness, sending short loving emails, staying connected, consent & dementia, PTSD, calming blanket, restraints.

SEX SCIENCE! CON DRAMA! Sandra checks in with Nerdist Sciene Editor Kyle Hill about some bizarre behavior she witnessed at Wonder Con. TOPICS: Sex research, coercion, speaking up for yourself, depression, anal sex, feminism, equality, sex parties and introvert tendencies! Kyle Hill is a science writer and communicator based in Los Angeles, California. He received his bachelors of science in civil and environmental engineering from Marquette University, and his masters of arts in communication from the same university in 2013. In 2013, he started writing for Scientific American, finding a niche in the intersection of science and pop culture. Since then, his nerdy work has been published in WIRED, Popular Science, Slate, The Boston Globe, Nautilus, io9, and BuzzFeed. He has appeared as an expert on Fox News, Al Jazeera America, and Huffington Post Live, held writing positions at Nature Education and Discover Magazine, and has worked as a TV science correspondent for Al Jazeera America. In 2013, he was named one of the 20 science communicators to follow by WIRED magazine. His goal as a science communicator is to use pop culture to teach science in a fun and digestible way. Kyle is currently the Science Editor of Nerdist Industries.

FUN WITH GUILT & SHAME! Dishing their discoveries from folks from Evangelical America, documentary producers Matt Barber and Brittany Machado share how a culture of purity might effect marriage, orientation, virginity and our concepts of self. Watch the film Give Me Sex Jesus! So good!

IS MY SEX NORMAL?! Sandra explores the mind of therapist and thought leader Dr. Chris Donaghue as they flip through his new book, Sex Outside the Lines where he challenges norms in psychology and the media. TOPICS: Wounded diversity, Non-conformity, health on the outside, asymmetrical hair, passing, expected cheating, ignoring your desires, denial, waiting till marriage, watching partner have sex, Jada Pinkett Smith, jealousy, sex as a tool for learning, sexual fascists, cis gender disorder, sexism, flirting, asking for kisses, honoring your turn-ons, expanding arousal, systemic and institutional racism, valuing sex, orientation and more!!!

Live in Sydney, Australia, Sandra enlists fascinating comic Rhys Nicholson and trans activist and educator Xavier Moustache to help her figure out her gender. BUT FIRST! Elle Chase and Sandra discuss the sexy of Magic Mike XXL, Scandal, Sense8,  TOPICS: body image, eating disorders, Australian slang, gay marriage, lisps, anxiety, masculinity, trans identity, defining "gender queer," pronouns, Sydney sex store shopping and so much more! 

Live in Sydney, Australia, Sandra enlists fascinating comic Rhys Nicholson and trans activist and educator Xavier Moustache to help her figure out her gender. TOPICS: body image, eating disorders, Australian slang, gay marriage, lisps, anxiety, masculinity, trans identity, defining "gender queer," pronouns, Sydney sex store shopping and so much more! 

DIRTY SANCHEZ! Live at Bridgetown Comedy Festival, hilarious comics Kyle Kinane, Elicia Sanchez and Nick Stargu explore the Venn diagram of sex and Urban Dictionary with Sex Nerd Sandra. 

DIRTY SANCHEZ! Live at Bridgetown Comedy Festival, hilarious comics Kyle Kinane, Elicia Sanchez and Nick Stargu explore the Venn diagram of sex and Urban Dictionary with Sex Nerd Sandra. 

MAGIC MIKE! Continuing last week's stripper theme, Sandra and webcomic artist Erika Moen interview male strippers from Portland's new male strip club, Stag. On stage at Portland's Dante's, hilarity ensues. 

LAP DANCES! Recorded live at Portland's Dante's, it's a packed show. FIRST, enjoy stand-up comedy by Matt Kirshen. THEN comedian Kira Soltanovich joins for a rousing debate about whether strippers are like comedians. THEN, artist, cartoonist and guest co-host Erika Moen (OJST) and Sandra share their very different fascinations with strip clubs. FINALLY, lady strippers Hazel and The Baroness teach Erika and Sandra how to work in a strip club, give a lap dance and as a customer, how to behave. Listen in to Part 2 -MALE STRIPPERS!  

PIMP GIMP! Disability advocate Robin Wilson-Beattie sets Sandra straight about loving and having autonomy over your own body, no matter what the circumstances. TOPICS: Types of disability, Cross-disability, Spinal cord injury, Sex with paralysis, Being special-special, Robin's rare birth defect, Physical therapy sex ed, BDSM, Sex and dating, Person-frist language, Vocabulary: "able-bodied," "crip," and "gimp," Confidence, Feeling broken, Disabled-not-desperate, Self-driving cars, independence, Tindr, Disclosing, Cane, Masturbation, Dr. Marylou Naccarato, Sex toys, Loving yourself and our brains as a sexual organ!

TRIPLE A! Sandra joins a group of asexuals (Aces) at Occidental College to find out about this invisible orientation, including being asexual, aromantic and/or agender. TOPICS: Allosexual, Sexually Repulsed, Amatonormativity, Romantic coding, Coming out to family, Dating, Being lonely, Friendship, Intimacy, Visibility, Ace pride float hopes, Robot assumptions, Cheek kissing, Trying to be sexual, Consent, Resources and so much more! Checkout the Asexual Visibility and Education Network and The Thinking Asexual for more info and meetup groups near you. Watch asexuality videos at Aces Wild on YouTube! Thank you to everyone who joined us for the recording!

DILDO INCEPTION! Sandra marvels at Ox & Jesus of Oxballs, a predominantly gay hardcore toy company. TOPICS: Anal play, Vaginal cul-de-sac, Fringe fetishes, Skyscraper dildo, Straight market dongs, Nipple grippers, Art, 3D printing, Pushing balls forward, Cockring functionality, Bulges, Slings, The Hung, Longterm cocking wear, Penetrators, Goal-oriented size kings, Hollow plugs, Matterhorn lube slide plugs, Foreskin enthusiasm, Toys popular in Japan, 50 Shades of Grey tampon, Pigs & Otters, Kink lingo, Kitty play, Penis sheaths and Ball stretchers!

NO RANCH DRESSING! Girl Sex 101 author Allison Moon and performance artist Marriah Moonkindred teach Sandra how to throw a party. TOPICS: Hot lesbian action, Activities, Bar area, Friendly door, Sex and social anxiety, Accidental sex parties, Welcome circle, Kinky Salon, Betty Dodson, Jack & Jill Offs, Other parties, In front of friends, Bonobos, Organic vs planned sex, Giving permission as a host, Beacon of Permission. THEN: Creating your container, BDSM, Swinging scene, Curating guests, Strap-ons, Intention setting, Pre-party orientation, Consent and boundaries, Party zones, Music, Sunday Fun-day, Jealousy, Men hosts, Cuddle Party, Deep throat, Invitations and the perfect snack table!  

KEEPING SECRETS! Sandra seeks therapist & author Dr. Tammy Nelson's wisdom for creating intentional monogamy, especially after infidelity. TOPICS: 2nd Marriages, Occupations that cheat, Fixing yourself, Transformative sex, Redefining relationships, Surviving affairs, Fixing marriage, Explicit vs impact agreements, Committing to forever, Unconditional love problems, Love as a choice, Desexualizing your relationship, Planning sex, Anticipatory eroticism, Arousal before desire, Types of affairs, Monogamy continuum, Betrayal, Integrity, Getting more of what we like and Opening your frontal cortex.

SACRED SEX! Storyteller, author and speaker Charles Eisenstein (Sacred Economics) explores the leverage point of sexuality as a path to a better world.  TOPICS: Artificial sex and money scarcity, Patriarchy, Jealousy, Changing the world, Believing it's possible, Heightened authenticity, Intimacy, Love as expansion of self to include another, The war on yourself, Nature, Revolutionary pleasure, Conquest of flesh, Reuniting with nature and body, Community, Joint creativity, Consuming fun, Primal gifts, Giving and receiving, Rumi, Profound intimacy, College sex, Soul's ego, Experts, Play, Sacred moments, Changing narrative, Demolishing your story, Relationships, Mistakes, Tamera eco-village and Separateness.

SHAG-ALOGUE! Fascinating writer and accidental sexpert Grant Stoddard shares how he went from having "the love-making skills of a demented muskrat" to becoming the "Hunter S Thompson of the vagina." Sandra learns so much, including the only time he wished for a smaller penis.  TOPICS: Hobbies, Experiential writing, Sploshing, Class clown, Ameriphile, "Working Stiff," Adventure, Anthropological jape, Large orgy penis, Promiscuity, Estimating penis size, Dildo Peddling, Editorial decisions, Flirting style, British accents in America, Accidentally poly, Crying & waking = Cheching, Detailed list of partners, Therapeutic sex, Pussy Cat Dolls of Dicks, DWI, Burning Man and Exhibitionism!

CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & GENITALS! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it, Forgetting Sex, Anger, Drowning, Treatment, Sex Drive, Insensitive Doctors, Staying Sex-Positive, Connecting with Pleasure, Advocating for Yourself, Medical Mystery Solved, Genital Numbness, Erectile Dysfunction, Conscious Sex Decisions, Control, Foggy Headed, Giving Up, Mental Illness Taboo, Robin Williams and Superhero Sex Stores. 

THE FINGER TEST! Sandra investigates multiple orgasms on all bodies with the help of sex expert Rebecca Alvarez of Body Feminine, filmmaker and drag performer Joshua Grannell (Peaches Christ) and even a little Allison Moon (Girl Sex 101). We explore questions about different kinds of multiple orgasms, who can have them and how!  TOPICS: Drag celebrity superhero, Undercover sex, Drag gender, Sissy, John Waters, Rocky Horror, Heels vs Tucking, Corporate, Popular sex questions, Masturbation stats, Mirror test, Combo vs Back-to-back, Refractory, Ramping up, Male orgasm separation, Advanced Keeling, Bucket list, Penis towel exercise, Vaginal peace sign test, Penis popping out, Wet-small-and-weak, Tight college bag, Sufficient foreplay, Vacation sex, Uterus lifting, Male multiples, Anal orgasms, Touching the C,G,N, A and U spots, Peeing at ejaculation mystery, Spots on men, Million dollar spot, Taoism, Inguinal Canal, Spermatic Cord, Muffing, Spelunking and Tucking! 

ANAL G-SPOTTING RETURNS! Sandra responds to listener voicemails on virginity at 27, orgasm issues with partners, fear of sleeping with someone you actually like for once, dating while visually-impaired, repeatedly being repulsed by dates until broken up, fair-trade free-range cage-free porn, anal g-spotting, opinions on what's important for the first time having sex, will you be alone?, sex party selection and how to prepare a nervous partner and a series of beeps. Keep the magic alive. Leave Sandra a message at (310) 928-3261.

WOLVERINE VS MYSTIQUE! Sandra takes on any question from the NYC Sex Nerd Meetup group, then she fires back a few. TOPICS: Internal Orgasm, Kegel Elevator Exercise, Squirting, Kegelcisor, Sex Books: "Blow Him Away," "Red Hot Touch," "SM 101," "Guide to Getting it On," "Urban Tantra," Asexuality (the absence of sexual attraction), Visibility, Morrissey, Wolverine vs Mystique, Flash vs Superman, Nerds on Sex, Sex-Negative Drama, Nervous Partner, Tantric Sex, Yoga, Podcast Drama, Sex Nerd vs Educator, Jon Stewart, Catholicism Journey, Number of Sex Partners, Double Standard, Poly Processing and Hump Day as our sacred day.  If you're in New York City, join the NYC Sex Nerds monthly hangout on Meetup.com!  

YELLOW FEVER! Comedian and storyteller Kevin Allison (Risk!, The State) stashes his favorite sex toy and poppers away and tells us how he got into and might get out of his kinky rut. TOPICS: Risk! Storytelling, Gay Before Kindergarten, Sex Clubs, Rimming, Njoy Pure Wand, Kink Aware Professionals, Mollena Williams, Poppers Addiction, Gay Male Culture, Skipper & Gilligan, Bears & Twinks, Giving Away Power, Wanting to Please, Service Dom, Daddy Coach, Sexy Guilt, Raised Catholic, Erotic Hypnosis, Jazz, Pandora's Box, Dark Odyssey Kink Camp, Asian Men, Telling Stories, Taking Care of Yourself, Switching, Sex Therapy, Daddy/boy, Matchmaking and Healing.

SLUT PROTOCOLS! Recorded live at SF Sketchfest, Sandra explores the good, the bad and the messy of benefitting it up in our friendships. Standup comedy from Eliza Skinner at the top of the show. TOPICS: Bad at it, Benefits, Ruining the Friendship, Friend's Future Partners, Unrequited Love, Brain Juices, Pretty in Pink's Duckie, Transactional Relationships, F*** Buddies, Facebook Input, Insular Lesbian Community. Tea Party Nightmare, Wanting Something More, Psychopaths, Changing Situations, Awkward Conversations, Breaking it off, Being Nice & Respectful, Inept & Insecure, Sluts, Mitigating Love, Limerence, Sex Once a Month, Dopamine, Facebook Stalking, Sleepovers, Weekend Getaways, Group Sex, Eye Contact, Learning from Porn Work and Avoiding the Weird.

Sandra responds to listener voicemails about birth control, getting a girlfriend, the problem with cowgirl, dating with too much armor on, and what to do about your erotic portrait displayed at your ex's place. TOPICS: Virgin STDs, Trusting Yourself, IUD, Withdrawal, Intimacy, Professional Driving, Dating Site Disappointment, Self Worth, Self-Esteem, Empty Dating Site Inbox, Activity Partners, Meetup.com, Seeking Medical Attention, Clit Lacerations, Embitterment Toward Women, Deal with Past Hurt, Ex-Casual Friend, Fear of Seeming Dishonest or Untrustworthy, Obligation and Tasteful Nudes.      If you'd like to ask Sandra a question, leave a message at (310) 928-3261. 

SCISSORING DEBATE CONTINUED! Sandra finds out how comedian Cameron Esposito's new album title, Same Sex Symbol intersects with pop culture, LGBTQIA visibility and the key to dating. TOPICS: Rhea Butcher, TV Specials, 10 Years a Comic, Lesbian, Dating Boys, Women Friendships, Obvious Child, Vaginal Birth, Biological Clock, Dogs vs Babies, #murphthederph, Lesbian Sex Symbol, Not Butch or Femme, Fashion Advice, Uniqlo, David Bowie, Varied Gender Expression, Confidence, Transparent, Jeffrey Tambor vs Jared Leto's Acceptance Speeches, Trans Visibility, Brokeback Mountain, Improv, How to Be a Lesbian, Secrets in the Improv Details, Becoming Dateable, Your Source of Power, Survival Tactics, Men's Gender Norms, Working on Yourself, Shy, BDSM, Becoming Funnier, Joke Secrets, Dreaming in Jokes, Talking About Feelings, The Comedy Bible, Feminine Comique and Double Dildos!

MILF, GILF and TILF! Japanese plus size porn star Kelly Shibari answers prying questions about porn lingo, vaginal stamina and retiring well from the industry she loves. TOPICS: James Deen, Asian Age Progression, Growing Up in Tokyo, Getting into Porn, Bucket List, Plus Size Sex Ed Video, Jessica Drake, Star Showcase, First Anal Scene Preparation, Cervix Punching, Cuddling, Tease Footage, Couples Porn, Defining Gonzo, Reverse Bukkake, Dress Sizes in Fashion vs Porn, Terms like: Thick vs Chubby vs BBW vs SSBBW, Beyonce, Niche vs Mainstream, Alexis Texas, Spinner Height, Women of Size, Face Sitting, Weight-based Restraint Play, "Stripping Across America," Men in Porn, Evan Stone, The Nineties, Xander Corvus, and Exit Strategies!

BECOMING YOURSELF! Sandra clarifies her New Year's announcement with ex-cohost Dave Ross (Terrified podcast), exploring their shifting identities, burnout and what it means for their careers. TOPICS: A Private Private Life, Feelings in Standup Comedy, Revealing Secrets, Losing Touch with Yourself, Sex Nerd vs Sex Educator, Public Scrutiny, Rape Jokes, Finding Your Voice, "Feelings Guy," Being All of Yourself, Self-Obsession, Dogs, Licking Your Own Genitals, Defining Burnout, Sketch, Memoir, Codependence, Brand, Co-Hosting Philosophy, Jackie Kashian and the Nerdist Holiday Party.    

POLY-SATURATED! A Zen master of his own emotions, Sandra's relationship mentor talks about the skills he uses to navigate his poly lifestyle. TOPICS: Catholic Wine, Maximum Bandwidth, Knowing Yourself, Dating Your Species, Choosing the Single Life, Ultimatums, Protecting Your Partner by Lying, American Idol, Long Distance Relationship, Getting Cheated On, First Poly Relationship, Veto Power, New Relationship Energy, Triggers, Refusing Comparisons, Patience, Commitment Phobia, High School, Postponing Passion, Hook-ups, Dirty & Wrong, Choosing Love, No as a Complete Sentence, Aging and Disability and Abundance vs Excess.

STEALTH-ER-BATE. Sandra gets real about her deal lately and sex educator Ashley Manta throws down naughty tips for hot phone sex. TOPICS: Sex Nerd vs Sex Ed, Feeling Feelings, Planning for Phone Sex, Why vs How & What, Connective Experience, Verbalizing Sexy, Reading Erotica, Practice Your Words, Narrating, Honesty, Bluetooth, Common Barriers, Breath, Auditory Feedback, Toys, Smiling Sounds,  Moaning Tips, No Limitations and Negotiating Phone Sex. 

HOW TO FLIRT IN COLOMBIA. Author and science communicator Pere Estupinya sheds brilliant light on sex science and sensuality in the Spanish speaking world. TOPICS: Catalan vs Spanish, Male Multiple Orgasm, Scientist at a Sex Party, Orgasm Physiology, Female Ejaculation, Men vs Women, The Clit-G Spot Connection, Sponge Innervation, Vagus Nerve Magic, Spinal Cord Injury Sex, Latin and South American Sensuality vs Gringo Sexuality, Hooking Up in NYC, Flirting in Colombia, Sex Ed vs Science, HPV, The Importance of Sexual Diversity and the Value of Sex Science.

  JAWLINES! Sandra asks actor Liam McIntyre (Spartacus) forward questions about what it's like to be attractive, learning about fame, true love and how she judged him too soon. TOPICS: Good Genetic Stock, Getting Objectified, Chubby Bullied Kid, San Diego Comic Con, Intense Weight Loss, Objectification, Samuel L. Jackson, Fame, Status, Attractive Assumptions, Narcissism, terrible with Women, True Love, The Game, Men's Health Cover, Skinny to Beefy, on Set Story, Passion, Pretty Bonuses, Revisionist History, Non-Conformist Flabbiness and Mystery. 

  GETTING LAID THROUGH LAUGHTER! Hilarious comedian, podcaster (Ding-Donger via Nerdist) and actor Matt Braunger shares his sharp insight into the world of sex in standup comedy on both sides of the mic. TOPICS: Last Names, Sex Cave, Rancor, Writing Sex Jokes, April Richardson, Filthy On-Stage, Pushing Buttons, Flirting, Hitting on the Help,  Getting Hit On, Bombing, Unsexy Nudity, Richard Pryer, PSAs, Trying Standup Comedy, Sex Specifics, Making People Laugh, Free Speech, Sex Negative Jokes, Alternative Comedy, Patton Oswalt, Riffing, Hitting on a Comic, Making Mistakes vs Taking Chances and Boners.

WORK YOUR ANGLES! Enjoy this special holiday romp with nurse and adult super star Nina Hartley!  Celebrating 30 years in porn, Nina shares the steps to giving pleasure in the driver's seat. TOPICS: Technique vs Attitude, Privilege, Sex Tricks, Intercourse, Coital Alignment Technique, Rhythm, Steps to Wielding a Penis, Empathy to Pleasure, Anterior vs Posterior Walls, Lateral Fornix vs Cervical Os, Fourchette, Lever and Fulcrum, Introitus vs Vestibule, Tolerating vs Craving Penetration, Real Life Arousal, Pre-cum, "Master of O," The Sopranos, Lady Astride, Narrow Chairs, Tapping Out, Threesomes and Sapiosexuality.  

COVERING UP THE NERD! Sandra asks porn star and edible maker, Justine Joli, inappropriate questions about the pros & cons of being beautiful. Find out what happens when "the world reflects something that [we] don’t see." TOPICS: OkCupid, Finally Seeing Yourself, Bullying, Mullet, Catcalling, Aria Giovanni, Body Dysmorphia, Lesbian Sex, Body Issues, Ideal Porn Star, Tattoos, Bonnie Rotten, Belladonna, "Transexual Fairy Godmother Poop Show," Plastic Surgery Addiction, Dr. Victoria Zdrok, Boob Jobs, Emily Marilyn, Adult Circumcision, Weight Loss, Makeup as War Paint, Armoring Up, Staying Perfect, Halo Effect, Having Superpowers, Feeling Inauthentic and Detached, Covering Up the Nerd Underneath, Korean Skin Brushing, Dangerous Attention, Aging, Beauty Secrets, Jealousy,  Getting Free Drinks, Sad Puppy Dog Face, How to Reject Someone, Hot Men, Fabio and Weed Jerky!

GETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents Effect Your Sex Life!

FOR THRILL SEEKERS AND COMFORT CREATURES! Sandra fangirls out over Ian Kerner Ph.D, MFT, sex therapist and author of the bestselling oral sex book, "She Comes First." They explore the myriad reasons why the book hits home, how to create a sex space that helps our minds deactivate and surrender, the link between female arousal and stress, and a refreshing perspective on porn. TOPICS: Unbearable Lightness of Being, Fruity Book Covers, Written for Men, Women Fans, Strunk & White, Philosophical Approach, Sexual Cripple, Satisfying Women, Intercourse Discourse, An Alternative Path to Pleasure, From Tormented to Joyful, Deconstruction, "Cunnilingus Class," Nina Hartley, A Modest Approach, Mental Deactivation, Fantasizing During Sex, Seduction, Theory of Courtship, Physiological vs Mental Aspects of Sex, Safe Space for Fantasy, Core Erotic Themes, Jack Morin, Esther Perel, The Paradox of Cozy & Thrilling, Analysis as Inhibiting Arousal, and finally the Pros and Cons of Porn Usage.  

NECROPHILIA EXPLAINED! Mortician, author and founder of The Order of the Good Death, Caitlin Doughty joins Sandra to explore the surprising ways death and sex intersect. TOPICS: Sex Party Etiquette, Ask a Mortician, Smoke Gets in Your Eyes, Death-Positivity, Goths, Morbid Titillation, Increasing Sex Drive, Life Begets Death, Relationship Options, Funeral Industry Inside Scoop, Instincts, Vagina-colored Glasses, Halloween, Zombies, the Taboo of Sadness & Jealousy, Death's Ankle, Carpe diem and Seize the butt stuff! Also, the best "Clueless" reference in the known universe.