Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

Send us a textJulius explores how different communities operate similarly despite their diverse interests and activities. He dives into his experiences navigating kink, board games, non-monogamy, geek culture, and improv communities, highlighting the universal patterns that emerge in each social group.• All communities have an approximately 90-day "probationary period" before truly accepting new members• People need to see you consistently show up before they open their inner circle • Bad actors and creepy people don't last long in any community regardless of focus• Finding your specific tribe within the larger community takes time but is worth the effort• Communities we choose often provide acceptance we didn't find in communities we were born into• Being quiet and not engaging socially makes integration much harder• Persistence is key - sometimes it takes years to find your specific people within a communityIf you want to join a new community, just go! Keep showing up, develop social capital by talking to people, and don't get discouraged if acceptance takes time. Email your questions to AroundTheKinkyKampfire@yahoo.com. Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textJulius explores the fundamental differences in how men and women communicate and the painful lack of education we receive about these differences before entering relationships.• Communication styles differ significantly between genders based on both biology and socialization• Men are typically raised to be solution-focused while women often communicate to process emotions• Active listening without trying to "fix" problems is a learned skill many men find physically uncomfortable• Social media and smartphones have worsened our ability to connect meaningfully face-to-face• Dating requires consistent effort and realistic self-presentation, not just swiping endlessly• The concept of "the one" is misleading—successful relationships require active work and communication• Learning new skills requires consistent practice for at least 66 days to form habits• Failure is necessary for growth and shouldn't be avoided—"fail gloriously"Want to share your thoughts or suggest topics for future discussions? You can email at aroundthekinkycampfire@yahoo.com. Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textWe explore relationship anarchy's core principle that each relationship exists independently, challenging traditional hierarchies while emphasizing the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself first.• Relationship anarchy means treating each connection as independent from others, including your relationship with yourself• Growth happens through interaction with others, not in isolation – bringing trusted people into your process provides valuable perspective• Growth requires failure – you can't evolve without making mistakes and learning from them• Physical attributes like penis size or height matter far less than emotional intelligence and confidence• Sexual shame and "slut-shaming" represent outdated, immature perspectives that have no place in modern relationships• Self-awareness is the first step toward meaningful change• You can only control yourself, not others – a fundamental truth many struggle to accept• Putting yourself in situations where you have more control can reduce feelings of burnoutEmail your questions to AroundTheKinkyCampfire@yahoo.com or find us on Twitter @KinkyCampfire, YouTube at Around the Kinky Campfire, and Instagram @CampfireKinksters. Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textStarting life on the back foot doesn't mean you're destined to stay there. This raw, vulnerable episode challenges the notion that our beginnings dictate our endings, offering a candid look at overcoming disadvantage and finding forward momentum when everything seems stacked against you.We dive deep into what it means to grow up with fewer advantages – whether economically, socially, or in terms of family stability – and how these early circumstances shape our relationship with possibility and progress. The psychological weight of constantly feeling "behind" others can be crushing, yet there are paths forward that many never explore.Your brain, while incredible, isn't automatically wired for success – it's wired for survival. This fundamental reality means change and growth will always feel uncomfortable initially. We explore how this biological programming creates resistance to the very changes that might improve our lives, and practical ways to work with (rather than against) these natural tendencies.The comparison trap merits special attention as we discuss how social media has amplified our tendency to measure ourselves against others' highlight reels. This habit steals joy and motivation, yet remains one of the hardest patterns to break. We share strategies for developing a more realistic perspective on others' journeys and focusing on your unique path.Perhaps most importantly, we examine the crucial difference between a failure and a setback. When we learn to extract value from our missteps and continue forward, we transform what could be dead-ends into stepping stones. Nearly every successful person has a trail of failures behind them – what sets them apart is their refusal to let those failures define them.Ready to stop treading water and start moving forward? Join us for this heartfelt conversation about finding your way despite a tough start, and discover how awareness, persistence, and self-compassion can change the trajectory of your story. Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textNavigating the dating world as someone on the asexual spectrum comes with unique challenges that many dating platforms simply weren't designed to address. Drawing from decades of personal experience across various dating platforms, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really means to date when sexual attraction isn't your primary motivation.The digital dating landscape often feels like it was built exclusively for those seeking immediate physical connections. For demi-attracted and asexual-spectrum folks who experience attraction primarily through emotional and intellectual connection, this creates a fundamental disconnect. How do you communicate your needs in a profile limited to a few hundred characters? When should you disclose your identity to potential matches? And perhaps most importantly—how do you find partners who value connection over immediate gratification?Through my journey across mainstream apps like Hinge, Bumble, and OkCupid to more alternative platforms like FetLife, I've developed strategies for authentic communication and boundary-setting. The reality is that even when you clearly label yourself as "asexual" or "demisexual" on your profile, most people won't understand what these terms mean—and fewer still will take the initiative to educate themselves.This episode isn't just for those on the ace spectrum. Anyone struggling with dating app frustration, communication issues, or the challenge of authentically representing themselves online will find practical insights here. I explore everything from profile creation to disclosure timing, safe sex negotiations, and finding communities where deeper connections are valued.Whether you identify as ace, are curious about different attraction styles, or simply want to understand a different perspective on dating, this raw and unfiltered conversation provides a window into dating differently in a hookup-oriented world. Ready to rethink how you approach connection? This is your invitation to join the discussion around the kinky campfire. Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textJoin us for a riveting conversation at the Kinky Kampfire as we explore the kaleidoscopic experiences of kink, alternative lifestyles, and the colorful journey of non-monogamy. In this episode, we chat with Melanie Carolyn, the dynamic host of Moms Unboxed podcast, whose personal insights into bisexuality, swinging, and group play spark genuine and thought-provoking dialogues. Melanie candidly shares her journey of self-discovery and the thrills of exploring desires, illuminating the importance of communication and consent in every encounter.Navigating relationships can be tricky, especially when blending intimacy with autonomy. This episode delves into the intricate realities of nesting partners—how they can serve as emotional anchors in one's journey, contrasting beautifully with the ethos of solo poly lifestyles. Additionally, we dive into the significance of outside interests and mutual hobbies in fostering healthy relationships, as well as the challenges of melding both casual and serious connections without losing oneself in the process.Every moment at the Kampfire invites laughter, reflection, and a deeper understanding of how we connect with others in this intricate dance of love and body. You're invited to join us by the flames—so grab your drink, settle in, and revel in the delightful discussions of love, consent, and everything in between. Get ready to elevate your thoughts about relationships and discover how exploring your desires can lead to a more fulfilling life. Don't forget to subscribe, and join our vibrant community for future episodes filled with love, education, and inspiration!_________________________________________________________________________________Mom's Unboxed: Reclaiming Your Identity Beyond MotherhoodMotherhood is a beautiful, life-changing journey—but it's not the only part of who you are. Somewhere along the way, between the sleepless nights, the endless to-do lists, and the weight of expectations, you may have lost touch with the vibrant, passionate, and multifaceted woman you once were. Mom's Unboxed is an unapologetic, raw, and empowering podcast designed for women who refuse to be defined solely by motherhood, society, and their relationships. You're not just a mom, you're a woman!Instagram @iammelaniecarolyn FB Melanie Carolyn Email:melaniecarolyn@melaniecarolyncoaching.com Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textHave you ever felt the sting of rejection? In this compelling episode of The Pillowfort Sessions, we dive into the complexities of rejection—the emotional turmoil it brings and why it affects us all. Our host shares relatable experiences and strategies for dealing with this very common, yet often painful, aspect of human interaction. Join us as we unravel physiological aspects behind why rejection hurts and explore its presence in various relationship forms. While most associate rejection primarily with romantic endeavors, we reveal its multifaceted nature and discuss how it permeates many areas of our lives—from friendships to professional spheres. Irrespective of context, facing rejection can set off a cascade of emotions, making it feel all-consuming. Listen in as we fearlessly tackle the societal pressures and expectations that exacerbate our fear of rejection. We underscore the importance of self-improvement and self-awareness in alleviating these feelings. Each rejection can be a learning opportunity that ultimately empowers us to grow and evolve. With techniques to combat the negative effects of rejection and inspiring insights that foster resilience, this episode provides a warm, inviting space for anyone grappling with feelings of inadequacy born from rejection. We encourage our listeners to detach their self-worth from the opinions of others.Be sure to subscribe, leave a review, or share with someone who might benefit from this episode. Let's continue the conversation and embrace our imperfections together! Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textEver found yourself tongue-tied when it comes to navigating the trickiest conversations in your relationship? We're tackling those moments head-on, from chatting about money woes to discussing whether or not kids are part of your future. Even while battling a stubborn flu, I'm diving into the art of open dialogue with partners, helping you to foster healthier, more fulfilling connections. Together, we'll explore why many relationships stumble over these communication hurdles and how you can learn to handle such challenges with grace and confidence.Have you ever thought about the difference between a good rant and a productive conversation? In a world where expressing frustrations can sometimes feel like shouting into the void, we're dissecting how to turn venting into valuable communication. We'll be unpacking the role traditional masculinity plays in shaping how we express ourselves and advocating for a shift towards more honest and supportive interactions. By addressing unspoken observations and embracing vulnerability, we can eliminate misunderstandings and strengthen our relationships.There's something to be said for the insights gained from platonic friendships with women. In our exploration of gender communication and stereotypes, we're challenging traditional gender roles and breaking free from the constraints of toxic masculinity. From cultural expectations about appearance to the evolving landscape of queer and heteronormative spaces, our conversation aims to foster a more inclusive and empathetic society. So, gather around the Kinky Kampfire with me, HH Julius, as we share stories, laughs, and a peaches and cream fruit tart sour beer. Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles? Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We're all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let's keep the fire going! Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textThis episode delves into the complexities of navigating the kink community, sharing personal reflections and observations regarding social dynamics, consent, and self-awareness. With a humorous yet candid approach, we explore the intricacies of adult gatherings, the importance of partners and community, and the challenge of addressing predatory behaviors while fostering a safe atmosphere for all.• Sharing personal experiences and insights from various kink events • Discussing the significance of partner dynamics in adult gatherings • Observing the community turnover and its impact on connection • Recognizing the efforts of community organizers and their challenges • Addressing predatory behavior and the necessity of consent • Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in kink interactions • Encouraging empathy and mindfulness within the communityCome let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textIs your podcasting journey crossing into the realm of taboo topics, and where do we draw the line between fantasy and reality? Join me as I recount my experiences at PodFest 2025 in Central Florida, where the buzz of conversations was as vibrant as ever, even in the absence of a dedicated track for taboo discussions. Reflecting on these engaging interactions, I question the evolving landscape of taboo podcasting and its intersection with sex work. Could my own podcasting endeavors fall under this controversial category? Get ready for a deep dive into these provocative themes in upcoming episodes.Navigating the bustling world of podcast conventions has unexpectedly honed my networking and self-promotion skills, particularly as an introvert. Volunteering at events like PodFest has been a game-changer, pushing me beyond my comfort zone and into meaningful connections with fellow creators. From mindfulness to BDSM, my solo podcasting journey explores a spectrum of complex topics, all while collaborating with others to enrich content and expand reach. The drive to entertain and spread my message is ever-present, proving that podcasting is as much about personal growth as it is about sharing our voices.The fusion of AI and podcasting is unleashing transformative potential, and I'm eager to harness these technologies in my creative endeavors. Networking consistently emerges as a vital tool for unlocking new opportunities, and I'm excited about blending improv into teaching and future creative projects. While solo podcasting poses challenges, it's also an opportunity to feature engaging guests and honest conversations. As I continue to integrate improv into my work, prepare for potential controversies and rich discussions on the horizon. A heartfelt thank you to Buzzsprout for their continued support, symbolized by a stylish new keychain that I'll be proudly flaunting on Instagram.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textWhat if stepping out of your comfort zone could lead to a whole new world of self-discovery and personal growth? Join me, Julius, as we kick off the new year with "Around the Kinky Kampfire, the Pillow Fort Sessions," a podcast episode that promises to take you on a journey through the intriguing realms of BDSM, queer culture, non-monogamy, and geeky interests. In this episode, I share my personal mission to challenge assumptions in relationships and provide honest opinions, all while blending humor with serious insights. Listen as I explore the importance of critical engagement and self-reflection, encouraging you to form your own informed opinions.I dive into the art of learning from mistakes and stepping beyond the boundaries of comfort. Reflecting on two and a half years of podcasting, I highlight the power of embracing failure as a stepping stone towards confidence and success. This episode serves as an invitation to embark on your own path of self-discovery, using the stories and experiences shared as a springboard for personal growth. From harnessing the potential of technology to overcoming "learned helplessness," I discuss how embracing mistakes can lead to profound growth and resilience.Our conversation takes a humorous turn as I navigate political stances, geeky enthusiasm for upcoming movies, and the quirks of high touch sensitivity. With personal anecdotes and a touch of introspection, I explore the complexities of relationships in a candid manner. Join us at the Kinky Kampfire as we laugh, reflect, and seek a like-minded community through engaging discussions.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textThis episode dives deep into the shifting landscape of kinks and porn searches in 2024, revealing surprising trends and insights about global traffic and viewer preferences. From the dominance of the U.S. in traffic rankings to the rising female viewership and generational differences in content preferences, we explore the fun and intriguing data surrounding pornography today.• Discussion of global porn traffic rankings and significant trends• Exploration of time spent per visit across different countries• Insights into female viewership and demographic shifts• Generational differences in porn preferences and kinks• Analysis of most searched movies, characters, and terms in adult content• Final thoughts on the evolving nature of sexual expression across culturesCome let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textWe dive into 2024's most surprising porn search trends, exploring themes from regional favorites to unique kinks. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own preferences while unpacking what these trends reveal about societal views on sexuality. • Analyzing top porn searches by state (and other countries)• Exploring the popularity of milking and furry content • Discussing the significance of racial and body-type preferences • Examining unique kinks like foot jobs and homegrown porn • Reflecting on societal norms and individual exploration in adult contentCome let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textEver wondered how a chilled drink might actually warm you up in the brisk Florida weather? Join me, Julius, as I kick off 2025 with a curious blend of tequila, mezcal, and energy drink in our latest Pillow Fort Session. I'm diving headfirst into the world of assumptions versus expectations, challenging the common trap of accepting unverified beliefs as truths. This year, I'm excited to expand our podcast's realms, keeping BDSM, queerness, and non-monogamy at heart while exploring intriguing topics inspired by the media and my personal reflections on communication.Are assumptions holding you back from understanding the world in a more informed way? Let's unpack the difference between assumptions and expectations, emphasizing how crucial it is to seek proof and conduct your own research before forming beliefs. As we tackle hot topics like aliens and conspiracy theories, the goal is to inspire a more fact-based approach to these subjects and encourage personal exploration. By documenting interactions and practicing co-regulation, partners can better navigate relationships, enhancing clarity and mutual understanding beyond outdated stereotypes.As we continue our journey with the "Around the Kinky Kampfire" podcast, I reflect on the growth and gratitude for your engagement. Fun nicknames like Taco Knuckle and Colonel McBee add a playful twist to our conversations, inviting you to find your passions just as I did last year. As we welcome what 2025 has in store, remember to rate our episodes and join me most Thursday for more lively discussions and personal growth.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textEver wondered what makes the BDSM community tick? Imagine stepping into a world where consent is king and every knot tells a story. This episode promises to unravel the complexities of BDSM and kink, offering listeners a candid look at challenges creators face in an ever-changing digital landscape. Through my personal reflections, you'll gain insight into the nuances of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and impact play, and learn why consent and negotiation aren't just important—they're everything.Journey alongside me as I recount my path of sexual discovery, beginning with a fascination for non-vanilla content that led me to the vibrant community of FetLife. You'll hear firsthand about my transformation into a lifestyle enthusiast, embracing roles like sadist and primal, and exploring the rich tapestry of polyamory and compersion. This session is not just about BDSM; it's a celebration of meaningful connections over fleeting encounters, offering a window into the complex yet rewarding world of non-monogamous relationships.Relationships can be a minefield, but what if you had a map? We'll explore key insights into navigating red flags, communication pitfalls, and the importance of boundaries within diverse relationship dynamics. With a focus on attachment theory and energy management, this episode offers tools to enhance your personal metrics and avoid burnout. As we wrap up the year, I extend heartfelt holiday greetings and tease exciting future plans, including a potential YouTube venture. Join me around the campfire for an intimate conversation that promises both reflection and anticipation.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textEver wondered what truly sets the successful apart from the rest? It might not be talent, but instead the powerhouse of consistent habits. Join us as we dissect the often subconscious world of habits, challenging the notion that talent is the golden ticket to mastery. With a blend of humor and heartfelt stories, we explore how anyone can break free from self-imposed barriers and utilize positive habits to conquer personal goals. Travel back to 1890 with us as we highlight William James's groundbreaking insights and trace the evolution of habits through various cultural lenses.  We dive into the mechanics of habit formation—context cues, repetition, and rewards—and spotlight keystone habits that can pivotally influence other behaviors. Expect practical takeaways like the power of sticky notes as reminders and how pivotal habits can either uplift or undermine your progress.Ready to tackle the uphill battle of breaking negative habits? Discover the science behind the 66-day habit formation cycle and the strategies to keep yourself motivated during the tough early days. With personal tales of sugary allure and emotional eating woes, we stress the importance of kindness and experimentation, reminding you that setbacks are just stepping stones. As we wrap up, the Cuddle Gigolo a.k.a. HH Julius, your guide to the Pillow Fort Sessions—a creative and kink-positive journey most Thursdays. Tune in for engaging discussions that promise to entertain and enlighten, as we gather Around the Kinky Kampfire.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textGather 'round the Kinky Kampfire as we explore the vibrant tapestry of alternative lifestyles with the fabulous, Shannon Elliott, by our side. Ever wondered how labels can both liberate and confine us? Shannon and I tackle this curious dynamic as we swap tales of personal discovery within the BDSM, kinky, and non-monogamous communities. We dive deep into the sense of belonging these spaces offer—where judgment is left at the door, and everyone is free to be their authentic self. It's a reflection on how stepping into these circles can be as exhilarating as finding love in a Hunger Games arena—no need to choose, just embrace it all!We also chat about how societal norms are flipped on their head when we start discussing the intricacies of swinging, polyamory, and the often misunderstood world of kink. Reality TV shows like "90 Day Fiancé" and "Sister Wives" might scratch the surface, but they're just the tip of the iceberg. Shannon and I explore the vibrant spectrum of attraction styles, the meaningfulness of labels, and the delightful range of human connection that exists beyond conventional definitions. Together, we remind ourselves of the importance of curiosity and open conversations in navigating identities—whether bisexual, pansexual, or anything in between.On a more personal note, Shannon shares her own journey from a feedback-giver to a published author of queer, kinky romances enriched by her experiences in non-profits and storytelling. Shannon and I mull over the joys and challenges of being a full-time writer and the hilarious notion of an improv group therapy session inspired by "The Body Keeps the Score." As we wrap up, we celebrate the richness of alternative lifestyles, the courage it takes to embrace one's true self, and the freedom that comes with it. Join us for some laughter, insight, and a few epiphanies around our metaphorical campfire.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textCan you imagine transforming awkward silences and misunderstandings into meaningful conversations that deepen your relationships? In this episode of the Pillow Fort Sessions on the Around the Kinky Kampfire podcast, we're pulling back the layers on effective communication across all kinds of relationships—whether they're romantic, familial, friendships, or professional connections. We'll unravel the process of exchanging information clearly and delve into the common pitfalls, like assumptions, that can put a wrench in your interactions. From verbal and written exchanges to the subtleties of visual and nonverbal cues, we're on a mission to help you understand and navigate these waters, particularly when the only tool you have is your voice.Join us as we enhance your communication toolbox with empathy, the power of knowing your audience, and utilizing multiple communication channels. We'll discuss how showing empathy, even in professional settings, can fortify connections and why it's crucial to engage your audience with topics that matter to them. Explore strategies for conflict resolution that respect both personal and professional boundaries, and learn how taking personal responsibility for effective communication can lead to both growth and harmony. With insights into nonverbal communication and listening techniques, we'll guide you to ensure that your body language and words align, fostering authentic and open interactions in every aspect of your life.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textWhat happens when you mix a vibrant author, a love for smutty romance, and a passion for alternative lifestyles? You get an electrifying conversation with Shannon Elliott, who's as multifaceted as they come. Shannon shares her journey into the world of polyamory, swinging, and kink, offering insights that are as educational as they are entertaining. My alter ego, Mr. Criss P Bacon, is thrilled to connect over our shared love for the unconventional and explore the dynamic energy at events like the Smut Lovers convention. Through personal stories and a few laughs, we set the stage for an engaging discussion on embracing one's unique path.Ever wondered how a repressive upbringing could lead to a late sexual awakening? Together, Shannon and I uncover the power of storytelling in understanding diverse lifestyles, highlighting the importance of authenticity in the podcasting world. We navigate the complexities and joys of alternative communities like BDSM, swinging, and polyamory, balancing academic insights with raw, real-life experiences. The conversation takes an introspective turn as we share personal tales and emphasize the role of education in dispelling myths and offering accurate representations in media.Personal growth and self-care are at the heart of our discussion on solo polyamory and independence. With an empowering look at embracing "selfishness" in a positive light, we explore the importance of understanding personal energy and rhythms. Wrapping up with an exciting announcement for "Around the Kinky Kampfire," listeners are guided on where to find more content and join our enthusiastic community. There's optimism and excitement for future episodes, with Shannon promising a return, and a hopeful nod to the Law of Attraction for continued success.__________________________________________________________________________________________________Shannon Elliot is a neurodivergent polyamorous bisexual Gemini who's never made a decision in her life. She's also an author of queer kinky romance--spank the rainbow, bitches!As an author, Shannon believes that representation should be the foundation of the romance genre. We all deserve our own kinky, queer and maybe unconventional HEAs.When she's not coming up with fantasies for us to devour, she can be found hanging out with her co-author, Elliot, or hanging out at a club or kink event with her lifestyle community.https://www.authorshannonelliot.com/linksCome let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textImagine navigating the challenging labyrinth of identity in a world that often expects conformity. That's what we explore as we journey through the Cass Model, a framework that psychologist Vivian Cass crafted to illuminate the path of identity acquisition. While originally designed to map out homosexual identity development, we uncover its broader relevance for all who are on their personal quests, especially within diverse communities like BDSM, non-monogamy, and the queer spectrum. Growing up in a conservative environment, I share my personal saga of discovering and aligning with the terms and identities that truly resonate with me, including embracing my gender fluidity. Our conversation hopes to spark personal reflection and encourage listeners to embark on their own paths of identity exploration.We traverse the emotional and often tumultuous terrain of identity confusion and comparison, pondering how societal norms and expectations can muddy one's self-perception. From navigating the hurdles of growing up in a religious household to finding solace in an accepting community, this episode is a testimony to the resilience required for authentic self-discovery. We also discuss the lifelong nature of identity development, acknowledging its ebbs and flows and the influence of cultural and societal pressures. While the Cass Model provides a foundational lens, we also critique its limitations, especially its lack of sociocultural nuance. Join us as we offer insights and support for anyone grappling with the complexities of personal identity.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textWhat if your way of expressing affection isn't hitting the mark with your loved ones? Join us here at Around the Kinky Kampfire: Pillow Fort Sessions as we navigate the intriguing world of love languages, a concept that has sparked curiosity since Gary Chapman introduced it in 1992. With a playful twist, we unravel the origins and applications of these five love languages—not just in romance but in friendships and family ties, too. Expect a blend of humor and insight as we challenge assumptions and explore how these Love Languages shape our interactions.In a world where miscommunication can often lead to misunderstandings, we shine a spotlight on the art of clear communication. Personal anecdotes bring to life the importance of knowing your partner's love language—be it Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, or giving/receiving Gifts. We compare these Love Languages to familiar territory like the Myers-Briggs test, reminding us of their non-scientific nature while highlighting their potential to enhance our connections. Quality Time takes center stage for those introverts among us who cherish intentional connection, proving that a text or a physical presence can indeed transform relationships.Wrapping up by touching on our Instagram corner, Kampfire Kinksters, we invite you to continue the conversation beyond the podcast. Delve into the nuances of giving and receiving affection through the Love Languages. Whether you're a Words of Affirmation aficionado or a Gift-giving guru, this episode offers a fresh perspective on understanding love languages and creating meaningful connections. Join us next week for more fun and insight from the warmth of our kampfire.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textHave you ever wondered how relationships can thrive beyond the bounds of sex and romance? Join me, El Comidin, also known as Taco Knuckle or the Cuddle Gigolo or HH Julius on a fascinating journey through the landscape of asexuality and diverse attractions. I begin with my personal story of realization, moving closer to identifying with the asexual spectrum rather than as a demisexual. As we navigate through sex-repulsed, sex-neutral, and sex-positive identities, you'll gain insight into how these differ from celibacy, a choice, rather than an orientation. Through sharing my experiences, you'll come to see how connections can flourish on the foundations of emotional and intellectual bonds.The world of attraction is vast and varied, and we explore its many facets beyond the typical physical or sexual allure. Experience the nuances of aesthetic attraction, where admiration doesn't equate to desire, and discover how sensual desires differ from sexual ones through tactile expressions like hugging. Emotional attraction shines a light on the appreciation of a person's essence, while intellectual attraction focuses on the way someone thinks, steering clear of potentially ableist terms like "sapiosexual." By challenging these conventional labels, we broaden the conversation, particularly from an asexual perspective, to affirm that meaningful connections are often rooted in empathy and understanding.We also delve into the split attraction model, offering a historical lens on terms like limerence, asexuality, and aromanticism. This framework helps untangle the web of different attractions, separating them from sexual orientation and shedding light on how identities can be multifaceted. As research and dialogue within the LGBTQIA+ community continue to grow, we highlight the importance of recognizing these distinctions while respecting the complexities they bring. With a touch on kink culture and the celebration of inspiring content creators, this episode encourages you to reflect on your own identity and the spectrum of attractions defining human connections.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textGet tickets for next year's Smut Lovers Convention - https://smutlovers.org/home/conference/tickets/Ever wondered how smut literature intersects with BDSM, queer communities, and non-monogamy? Join me, HH Julius—your favorite host, also known as Cuddle Gigolo aka El Comiden aka Taco Knuckle—as I unravel my experiences at the Smut Lovers Convention 2024 in Central Florida. Volunteering at this vibrant event opened my eyes to the community's inner workings and the educational value it offers. In this episode, I share my journey through panels, highlight the importance of accurate representation in smut literature, and reveal how these stories can provide readers with valuable insights into the lifestyles they depict.Excited to connect with like-minded individuals and create a welcoming space for newcomers? I recount the thrill of engaging with the BDSM and smut book communities, emphasizing the need for a safe environment where questions are encouraged. Hear about the positive vibes from tattoo artists who praised SmutCon attendees for their respectfulness and find out about my own tattoo anxieties. Plus, get a glimpse into the convenience of convention apps for staying informed and connected throughout the event.Curious about how to get started in BDSM or non-monogamy? Tune in as I stress the importance of doing preliminary research and actively participating in these communities. Reflecting on the enriching experience of attending conventions, I celebrate those who create content and contribute to the community's growth. Whether you're a seasoned participant or a curious newcomer, I urge you to join Around the Kinky Kampfire Instagram KampfireKinksters to engage, ask questions, and become part of this ever-evolving world.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textWhat truly distinguishes solitude from loneliness, and how can meditation help us navigate this emotional landscape? Join Julius on the latest episode of the Pillow Ford Sessions, as we explore these profound questions and delve into the world of self-awareness and personal growth. Julius shares his personal journey into polyamory, revealing the importance of managing expectations, understanding differences, and fostering genuine connections in relationships. This episode encourages listeners to embrace self-reflection and accept imperfections, offering valuable insights into nurturing meaningful relationships.Ever felt your social skills could use a boost? Julius offers practical advice on improving sociability by putting away those ever-distracting phones and headphones. Learn how stepping out of your comfort zone through activities like volunteering and initiating simple greetings can significantly enhance your social confidence. Additionally, discover Julius's exciting plans for expanding content creation with the Kampfire Kinksters community on Instagram, focusing on interviews about BDSM, kink, and polyamory. With personal anecdotes and practical tips, this episode is a treasure trove of strategies to build meaningful connections, both online and offline.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textReady to challenge the norms of traditional relationships? Join us around the kinky campfire as we embark on a revolutionary journey into relationship anarchy. We'll redefine what it means to connect with others by rejecting monogamy and hierarchical structures. Instead, we focus on autonomy, community interdependence, and anti-normativity. Whether you're monogamous or non-monogamous, this episode promises to expand your understanding of how relationships can thrive without the constraints of societal expectations.In this episode, we break down the core tenets of relationship anarchy, highlighting the importance of love, respect, and integrity in all connections. You'll discover how to foster abundant and unique love without falling into the trap of harmful comparisons. We delve into respect, compromise, and how to navigate logistical challenges like time and distance without letting societal norms dictate your relationship choices. Embrace flexibility and change as we share insights on maintaining core values while avoiding special rules that place one relationship above another.Communication is the cornerstone of relationship anarchy, and we'll show you how to practice it effectively. Learn the art of open, non-judgmental conversations to build trust and authenticity in your relationships. We share practical tools like journaling and shared documents to keep your commitments clear and personalized. Plus, we'll touch on how to be mindful of your mental state to create healthier connections. Don't miss our update on the podcast's sporadic schedule and our heartfelt appreciation for your ongoing support. Tune in and transform your approach to relationships!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a textEver wondered how a simple label can reshape your entire identity? Embark on an eye-opening journey with me, Mr Cuddle Gigolo, also known as El Comedin, Colonel McBee, and HH Julius, as we unravel the significance of roles and labels within the kink community. Discover how these identifiers are more than just tags—they're keys to personal identity and crucial in forming meaningful connections. We'll explore why labels, while sometimes confining, can serve as a vital starting point for understanding and navigating complex dynamics and relationships.Moving beyond the basics, we'll dissect the intricacies of identifying with various labels, both online and offline. Dominant personalities often get misunderstood—let's clarify those misconceptions and emphasize the importance of asking questions rather than making assumptions. Labels can be empowering, offering a sense of belonging and confidence, but don't let them box you in. From BDSM to board gaming, learn the value of thorough research and safe experimentation to discover what truly aligns with your identity and preferences.Push the boundaries of what you think you know about labels. Labels are fluid and can either be given, earned, or self-designated—each with its unique implications. We'll discuss the dangers of oversimplification and the cognitive ease people seek by categorizing others. Personal anecdotes reveal how finding the right label, like "demisexual," can provide profound self-understanding and community. Plus, stay tuned for updates on our "Around the Kinky Campfire" podcast schedule and the intermittent "Pillow Fort sessions" that keep our conversations alive. Thank you for your continued support and remember to leave a review if you enjoy our content!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a Text Message.What fuels our curiosity to try something new and adventurous? On this episode of Around the Kinky Campfire Pillow Fort Sessions, we explore the forces that drive us to step outside our comfort zones, from hobbies and personal interests to the more daring realms of kink. Join us as we delve into the importance of doing what brings us pleasure in our leisure time and the crucial role of consent in all aspects of life. Reflect on what ignites your passions and be ready to share your own experiences with us.Ever wondered why some people are drawn to certain kinks while others shy away? We break it all down through my personal journey, including my experiences with butt stuff, and examine the diverse reactions people have towards these adventures. Drawing on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we discuss how intrinsic and extrinsic motivations influence our actions and desires, whether in the office, the kitchen, or the bedroom. By understanding our motivations, we can lead more fulfilling lives.Step into the fascinating worlds of BDSM, non-monogamy, and geek culture with your host, Julius, also known as El Comidin and the Cuddle Gigolo. We encourage you to experiment and see if these unconventional lifestyles resonate with you. Julius shares his insights and experiences, adding depth and humor to our conversation. Don't miss out on the new season of the Pillow Fort Sessions, releasing every Thursday. Share your thoughts and rate us on Instagram at Kampfire Kinksters — we can't wait to hear what motivates you!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a Text Message.Can assumptions really derail your relationships? Join us in this eye-opening episode of Route to Keep Campfire Pillow Fort Sessions as we explore how unexamined beliefs and assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, especially in the realms of kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy. We spotlight the crucial role of clear communication and questioning to foster more functional and validating connections with your partners, friends, and family members. Through transparency about your needs, wants, values, hopes, and dreams, you'll uncover the keys to preserving and enriching your relationships.Regular check-ins and open-ended questions are your allies in preventing assumptions from molding your interactions. We'll delve into the importance of sharing your assumptions to seek reality checks and the negative impact of projecting past experiences onto current relationships. Additionally, we discuss how third-party perspectives like therapy and coaching can offer invaluable insights and help you navigate complex relationship dynamics. Don't miss out on this essential guide to enhancing your relationships through honest, clear conversations and thoughtful communication.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Send us a Text Message.What if understanding your personality could transform your relationships? Welcome back to the Pillowport Sessions with your host, HH Julius! In this episode, we're navigating the intricate world of ambivert personality traits. Kicking things off with a quirky ASMR segment, I dive into why personality awareness is crucial in any relationship—romantic, familial, or friendly. Learn how recognizing these unique traits can enrich your everyday interactions and help you appreciate the diverse spectrum of personalities you encounter.Ever wondered where you fall on the introversion-extroversion spectrum? This episode breaks down the concept of ambiversion and explores its impact on social interactions and personal motivations. We discuss how mental health, social standing, and even external circumstances can shift where you land on this spectrum. By focusing on the fluidity of these traits, I emphasize the importance of understanding others' behaviors and motivations, rather than making quick assumptions. You'll also discover key characteristics of ambiversion, such as the ability to communicate assertively without being overly sociable.Get ready to uncover the unique strengths of ambiverts, from their versatility in working solo or in teams to their adaptability in various social situations. I explain how ambiverts can process reactions more effectively than their introverted and extroverted counterparts and even recharge in crowded environments. We tackle common misconceptions about social anxiety and highlight how ambiverts process thoughts and emotions both internally and out loud. As we wrap up, I share our podcast release schedule and invite you to connect with us on Instagram at Campfire Kinksters for more engaging content. Don't miss this enlightening episode that promises to enhance your understanding of personality traits and their impact on everyday life!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Ever found yourself at a crossroads between cherishing your alone time and feeling the aching pangs of loneliness? It's a path I've walked many times, and I invite you on a journey through the latest Pillow Fort Sessions of Around the Kinky Campfire, where we untangle the fine threads that separate solitude from loneliness. As your guide, El Comidin, the Cuddle Gigolo, aka HH Julius I'll share how my own polyamorous journey has taught me the value of self-reflection and the necessity of social connections.This heart-to-heart is not just about telling tales around the campfire; it's about lighting the way to understanding the spectrum of social interactions and how it's possible to feel lonely in a room full of people or at peace in the quiet of your own company. From addressing the unjust stigma attached to being a loner to offering actionable advice on mitigating loneliness, we traverse the emotional landscape that often remains unspoken. You'll find solace in learning that solitude can be a source of strength and that loneliness, while challenging, can propel us towards meaningful improvement and community.Wrap up in your coziest blanket and get ready to find comfort in our shared experiences and strategies for fostering fulfilling relationships. Remember, it's not just about being in the company of others; it's about crafting a life where every interaction has purpose and every moment of solitude is a chance for growth. Share your journey with us on Instagram at KampfireKinksters and keep the conversation going via email. Let's redefine what it means to be alone together, in this thoughtful session that promises to elevate your understanding of the complex dance between solitude and loneliness.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Gather 'round the Kinky Campfire, where your hosts Bartholomew Hunt and Ms Ru serve up a piping hot blend of humor and insight on the fascinating intricacies of BDSM and non-monogamy lifestyles. Ever wondered how to subtly signal your kinky interests on the battlefield of dating profiles? We've got you covered with tales from the front lines, including what to look out for and how to spot the green flags of a genuine, respectful connection in the vast wilds of fetishization. Let's face it, discussing your alternative lifestyle passions can be stickier than s'mores at a campfire. We share our own experiences of navigating these conversations in public, from casual bars to corporate boardrooms, encouraging a world where kink can be as socially acceptable as chatting about the latest sports scores. And we dig into the moments of quiet contemplation too, discussing the profound difference between solitude and loneliness, and how they each have a place in the grand tapestry of our social lives.Wrapping up with a soothing meditation session that might just end up more giggle-inducing than calming, we delve into the art of introspection and setting intentions in exploring new interests. Whether you're a veteran of the kink scene or just curious about the path less traveled, there's a spot by our Kinky Campfire waiting for you. Join us for an episode that kindles the spirit, challenges preconceptions, and champions personal growth with every crackling sound bite.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Ever wondered what the difference between 'kinky' and 'vanilla' really is, or struggled to navigate the often misunderstood landscape of BDSM roles? Fear not, kindred spirits, for I, Falkor, alongside the ever-intriguing Ms. Ru, will guide you through these murky waters with humor and a wealth of knowledge. Our latest episode of Around the Kinky Campfire promises to demystify the complexities of kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy, making you laugh, ponder, and possibly squirm—all in the name of education and entertainment.Sex education is no joke, but that doesn't mean we can't crack a few as we address the shortcomings of what's being taught—or not taught—in schools. From the spectrum of sexual preferences to the clear-cut distinctions between kinks and fetishes, we delve into what makes our intimate tickings unique, all while challenging you to approach these discussions with a healthy dose of curiosity. And as if that's not enough, we'll also tackle the sensitive issue of porn as educator, and why it's so crucial to seek out information that paints a full picture of the sexual experience.But wait, there's more! Our campfire conversation isn't complete without a foray into the etiquette of play spaces. From understanding the rules of engagement to ensuring the furniture can withstand the... festivities, we've got your back with practical advice and firsthand insights. So, whether you're a seasoned veteran or a curious newcomer to the scene, join us for some hearty laughs and learn tips to stride confidently into any social space. Tune in to Around the Kinky Campfire, and remember to catch us on Instagram at Campfire Kinksters for a peek behind the scenes!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

As we pop open a bag of nerd clusters, the playful banter sets the stage for an episode that's as much about the crinkle of candy wrappers as it is about the crunch of complex relationship dynamics. We're two peas in a podcast, bringing you a scoop of nostalgia with a nod to "A Knight's Tale" and Heath Ledger, served alongside a helping of heartfelt frustration at his too-soon departure from our screens. It's a rollercoaster ride from the giggles of an ASMR experience to the serious talk of how couples navigate the developmental dance of their relationships without stepping on each other's toes.Have you ever wondered what makes a partnership thrive amidst the trials of individuality and cultural influences? We're peeling back the layers on that onion, discussing everything from the importance of maintaining self within a union to the unique challenges single-parent households face. No guest this time—just us, your trusty hosts, getting real about the intricacies of relationship phases and the expectations that come with them. We're not just musing over love; we're talking about the power of experiential learning versus formal education, especially when it comes to understanding the nuanced world of kink and BDSM.To top it all off, we're stepping into the minefield of politics and morality, having a candid chat about how societal changes and political decisions can influence our private lives. From the colorful consequences of green donuts to the quirky traits that can make or break a partner's rating, we're laying it all out there. Whether you're an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere happily in the middle, this episode will leave you laughing, pondering, and maybe even nodding in agreement. So, recharge your headphones—this is one conversation you won't want to miss.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Uncover the enigmatic roots of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator with me, Julius HH, as we traverse the intellectual legacy of a mother-daughter duo and the indelible mark they left on the psychological landscape. Whether you're an INTJ like myself, or another of the 16 personality types, this episode promises to gift you with a richer understanding of the MBTI's origin story. Sip on your pineapple seltzer and join our Pillowfort session as we delve into the historical intricacies behind a tool that's become a staple in our quests for self-discovery.Grappling with the complexities of human behavior, Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers crafted an assessment that's become a cultural icon. Tune in as we navigate Carl Jung's influence on their work, the balance between judging and perception, and the nuances that continue to shape the MBTI today. We'll confront the criticisms and limitations head-on, acknowledging the importance of a critical eye when engaging with this beloved yet scrutinized psychological instrument.Finally, I'll guide you beyond the confines of personality tests, encouraging a journey of introspection and genuine self-awareness. As your host and guide, I, Julius HH—also known as El Comidon, the Cuddle Gigolo—invite you to partake in future dialogues about relationships and communication. Connect with our vibrant community on Instagram at CampfireKinksters and anticipate lively discussions in the upcoming iterations of "Around the Kinky Campfire" and "The Pillow Fort Sessions.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Gather 'round the Kinky Campfire, where Miss Ru and I, Batty Coda aka Julius, ignite a lively dialogue that will leave you both informed and entertained. Ever wonder why your favorite fast-food soda tastes different at each restaurant? We'll quench your curiosity and then some, as we sip through our quirky drink choices and delve into the flavors of nostalgia with "Ferngully." But hold onto your leather hats, because we're going beyond mere reminiscence—we're opening the floor to discuss demisexuality, the nuances of kink versus BDSM, and the importance of leadership within our vibrant communities.Strap in for a journey from the Leather Leadership Conference's coast-to-coast transformation to the heart of community dynamics. Marvel at the sessions that dissect the Science of BDSM and uncover the genuine motivations behind organizing community events. Our conversation weaves through the threads of leadership development, where we highlight the value of fostering future leaders and consider the lasting impact of leaving a legacy. And because we're all about keeping things spicy, we couldn't resist teasing the prospects of food play and the tantalizing thought of penning our very own smut book.As we wrap up this episode and look forward to the next year's LLC in Los Angeles, we reflect on the roundtable discussions that give voice to generational perspectives on leather and kink culture. From Mara's seasoned insights to the lighter banter of regional desserts, we leave no stone unturned. Make sure to tune in every second and fourth Thursday for more illuminating chit-chats that keep the embers of conversation burning bright. Remember, it's KampfireKinksters with Ks all around—because where there's smoke, there's fire, and where there's kink, there's us, bidding you a warm goodbye until next time.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Ever felt like you're slogging through the swamp of small talk, only to find yourself stumped at the shore of silence? Fear not, my fellow conversational adventurers, as I, elacomy dome—known in some circles as the cuddle gigolo, and in others as HH Julius—usher you through the enigmatic maze of casual banter. Together, we'll discover that these seemingly simple exchanges are more than just idle chatter; they're the golden keys to unlocking new worlds of understanding and empathy.Our cozy pillow fort becomes a haven for demystifying the mechanics of mingling. As we peel back the layers of this unappreciated art, we realize it's not about convincing others, but rather expanding our own social horizons. I'll guide you through recognizing the 'why' behind people's thoughts, a critical step before diving into the depths of deeper dialogue. Whether you're testing the waters at a munch or trying to blend in at a family barbecue, this is your go-to guidebook for cultivating a sense of trust and compatibility—one light-hearted exchange at a time.As our heart-to-heart in the fort winds down, I give you a glimpse of the exciting path ahead. Bi-monthly pillow fort sessions interwoven with our larger kinky campfire conversations promise a rich tapestry of topics to explore. Gather round, kinky campsters, and prepare your most comfortable pillow; it's time to embark on this journey of conversation mastery, one small but strategic step at a time.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Have you ever wandered off into your thoughts at a party, or felt your energy sap in a crowd, leaving you to wonder if you're an introvert, or perhaps something more complex? That's where my journey began, leading me to the discovery of Carl Jung's fascinating concept of introversion and the spectrum it exists on. Our latest episode takes a deep dive into the world of introvertism, where I share my own experiences and challenges, and the surprising ways they've shaped my interactions and leadership style. We'll peel back the layers of personality traits, from the thinkers to the anxious, and discuss the misunderstood relationship between shyness and introversion. It's an exploration that invites you to reflect on where you draw your energy from and how it impacts your daily life.This episode isn't just about introspection; it's a call to action for introverts to navigate the world without compromising their nature, and for society to appreciate the nuanced contributions of introverted individuals. I tackle head-on the stereotype that introverts can't be leaders and offer up evidence to the contrary, highlighting the unique strengths they bring to the table. Whether you proudly identify as an introvert, suspect you might be an ambivert, or simply want to understand the introverts in your life better, this conversation is an affirming nod to the quiet power within us all. So, join us as we celebrate the introspective journey and debunk myths, offering a fresh perspective on what it means to be an introvert in a world that can't stop talking.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Gather 'round, fellow adventurers, as Ru and Gently McFluffin Stuff bring you tales from the wilds of kinky campfires and creative conventions. Embarking on a quest through the realms of non-monogamous kink and BDSM, our latest episode offers personal insights and candid conversations that aim to enlighten and destigmatize the often misunderstood. Whether you're a seasoned traveler of these communities or simply kink-curious, join us for an episode rich with the nuances of social dynamics, the thrills of identity expression, and the complexities of ethical non-monogamy.Strap on your geeky pins and dust off your pronouns – we're recounting our journey into the heart of a content convention where our alternative lifestyle choices sparked a mosaic of reactions. On our expedition, we encountered dismissive glances as well as moments of profound connection and validation, all while navigating the intricacies of visibility and representation in diverse environments. Our exchange is more than just a foray into the convention scene; it's a reflection on the power of open dialogue and the courage to be true to one's identity amidst a sea of conformity.As the embers of our kinky campfire glow with the promise of shared knowledge, we wrap up with a behind-the-scenes look at the tech and marketing wizardry of podcasting. Discover the surprising realities of podcast conventions, from the unexpected focus on production prowess to the untapped potential for genre-specific tracks that could revolutionize the way we connect with fellow podcasters and listeners alike. And remember, your support on platforms like iTunes and Spotify doesn't just boost our show – it fuels a movement for awareness and education on the topics that often shy away from the spotlight. So sit back, sip your tea, and let the conversations commence every second and fourth Thursday of the month with us, your guides through the fascinating world of kink.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Ever felt the urge to unearth the animal within you, to connect with your ancient, instinctual self? Well, buckle up, my fellow kink enthusiasts, because Julius H. H.—yours truly—is about to guide you through the primal jungles of the BDSM community. Join me as we explore primalism, where the raw intensity of our kink identities meld with the world of geeks and polyamory. Whether you're a seasoned primal player or simply curious, this session promises to reveal the depths of an often misunderstood realm, shedding light on the multifaceted nature of primal roles and their intrinsic link to our innate selves.Get comfortable in your pillow fort as we chase the concept of primal play through its paces, from the thrill of the hunt to the metaphorical 'devouring' of our partners. It's a consensual tussle, a delicious struggle for control that has less to do with typical power exchange and more with the visceral, the raw, the unadulterated human experience. Amidst wrestling, pinning, and animalistic growls, I'll share how these dynamics play out in my own polyamorous life, offering personal anecdotes and insights that resonate with the authentic ethos of PRICK—Personally Responsible Informed Consensual Kink.As we wrap up, we don't just scratch the surface—we claw our way into the complexities of mating and primal instincts. Forget the cliché alpha and beta roles; we're talking about a dance of nonverbal cues and consent that transcends size and gender stereotypes. And let's not overlook how our tech-obsessed lifestyles might be taming the wildness within us. So, if you're ready to connect with that side of yourself that's been howling at the moon for release, this is your invitation to a world where primal passion plays out in the modern age. Welcome to the tribe, my friends—let's get primal!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Have you ever found yourself curious about the world beyond vanilla relationships? Well, stoke the fires and join us as we illuminate the paths through the realms of Dominance and Submission (D/S) dynamics. This isn't your typical kink talk; we're breaking down barriers and challenging the myths head-on. From the diverse roles that transcend gender stereotypes to the surprising ways D/S relationships can extend beyond the bedroom into everyday life, we're revealing the truth behind the leather and lace. In our vibrant discussion, we delve into the importance of negotiation and consent in the continuum of power exchange relationships. Whether you're captivated by the notion of 24/7 D/S dynamics or the complexities of consensual non-consent, our introspection navigates these intricate connections with empathy and authenticity. We underscore the essential practice of establishing clear boundaries and the adaptability necessary within the fluid contracts of D/S relationships. Our conversation is a candid and careful guide for anyone, from the seasoned kinkster to the merely kink-curious, looking to understand the nuanced interplay of dominance and submission.Lastly, we puncture the inflated myths that have shadowed alternative lifestyles. We unmask the therapeutic potential of BDSM, differentiate between BDSM and non-monogamy, and celebrate the diversity in relationship structures that exist within the community. From personal anecdotes to practical insights, we dispel the stereotypes and embrace the fluidity of D/S dynamics for healthier and more fulfilling connections. So, whether you're tuning in with a partner or solo, this episode promises a thoughtful companion in your journey through the captivating landscape of D/S relationships.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Ever wondered about the ethical implications of AI recreating celebrities or how professional dominants might navigate the digital age? Rue and Sterling Golden are stoking the fires for an enlightening discussion on these topics in our inaugural 2024 episode of "Around the Kinky Campfire." As we reminisce about the balance between our work lives and the podcast, we also share the buzz of excitement for the upcoming podcast convention that promises to be a networking bonanza. You're promised Instagram-worthy moments and a lighthearted debate that might just change your tea-making process forever.Prepare to be riveted as we delve into the complexities of AI in the entertainment industry, discussing the recent case of Bruce Willis and the moral maze surrounding AI recreations of individuals. We don't just stop at Hollywood; our chat extends to the realm of BDSM, where issues of consent and digital personas for professional dominants are scrutinized. Can an AI truly capture one's essence? We dissect this tricky terrain and consider the implications for human interaction. By the campfire's glow, we also indulge in daydreams of luxury and what we'd do if "fuck you money" was no object – from shopping sprees to space travel, our fantasies know no bounds.Our journey shifts from the stars to the risqué as we chuckle over the top fetishes and porn searches by state from last year. It's a playful yet insightful exploration that dives into sexual kinks and the evolution of adult content consumption across the nation. We close the episode with some reflective wisdom, embracing the mantra 'let them' as our shield against the unpredictable currents of life. Whether you're here for the kinks, the quirks, or the quandaries, "Around the Kinky Campfire" promises to keep you toasty with bold tales and hearty conversations.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

We don't really know either.  Let's find out together!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

What are these myths?  Are they true?  Let's debunk them!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

What are these feelings?  Lashing out?  Rejection feeling like actually pain?  Let's find out why!Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

What is a unreasonable or reasonable expectation in a relationship?  How do we clear up a wrong expectation when we have them?  We're going to give you some examples of each in this episode.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Can you believe this??  Well we're going to debunk some pretty crazy assumptions about NM.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Catching up on this Fall season of Animes and Superhero and maybe a little sci fi...and what I think about think about them.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

Have you heard the myths going around?  Well we're here to provide the reality of the relationship situation.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

In this episode, we have a "quick" discussion on our lifestyle experiences in the real world versus what we "thought" it was going to be like from the fantasy realm.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

In this episode, we give you the highlights of our experiences at the Smut Lovers Con '23.Buy tickets for next years convention and also apply to volunteer!!!https://smutlovers.org/home/conference/Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/

In this episode, we give our thoughts on being controversial and what that means to each of us.  Then we definitely do not go in depth on the Jonah sitch and react to a clip from one of my favorite creator's podcast, Tim Chantarangsu.*Clip from Dudes Behind the Foods Ep. 94Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/