Rebels For Joy

“Success is not final. Failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill Today, we will be diving into this resilient mindset and what it means just to dust yourself off and get back up. This episode will inspire you, especially if your booty has been kicked too many times and you feel like sitting on the ground. I dive into this Winston Churchill quote and explain why it's the exact definition of what it means to be resilient. It's time to dust off these ideas that you're inadequate, that you're not enough, and that you're unworthy. Tune in as I talk about how to stand strong and how you can find an opportunity in every situation. In this Episode: [ 2:10 ] What is the world's saddest pizza? [ 3:00 ] What it means to be resilient [ 6:30 ] Why failure is not fatal [ 10:45 ] The best relationship advice I have ever received   [ 12:45 ] It is the courage to continue that counts     Joy Filling Quotes:  When we fail to celebrate the successes along the way, you undoubtedly will burn out.” “When we think about success, I want you to recognize it's not a destination. It is a stop on the map.” “A lasting relationship is finding ways back to love.” “If you're on your 9,999th relationship, the next one might be it.” “Open-mindedness of learning and growing is what will catapult you into the next point on the map of success.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

"You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness." -Brené Brown Today we are diving into the trenches of vulnerability and exploring in depth some of the powerful teachings of my girl Brené Brown. We will look at how you can break down those walls that keep you safe and keep you emotionally distant. I'll help you find a better path to honoring and protecting yourself while still being connected to others. When we open ourselves up, take risks, share our truth, and do things that scare us, that requires vulnerability. Tune in as I explain the ways to let yourself become more vulnerable. In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] Did you hear about the monkey who shared an Amazon account? [ 8:30 ] Emotional harm is your choice   [ 13:50 ] Where are you keeping your walls up?   [ 17:05 ] It's time to walk inside your story and own it [ 19:45 ] What steps you should take to become more vulnerable   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Vulnerability takes a tremendous amount of courage and bravery.” “It's my choice to be offended, hurt, or reactive to your beliefs.” “You can have the courage to connect with anyone, and you have the courage to not connect with anyone.” Vulnerability requires discernment.” “When you shut down vulnerability, you're going to shut down opportunities.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

Today we are talking about emotionally detoxing. It's all about getting rid of all of the shame, the blame, hurt, pain, and getting ourselves back into a resonance of joy. We often hear about sugar detoxes, but we don't talk enough about emotional detoxes. Emotional detoxing should happen on a regular basis. You shouldn't be at a breaking point before you decide to have an emotional detox. Tune in as I teach you my three-step process on how to do your emotional detox right now.  In this Episode: [ 2:00 ] Why did local police acquire 1,000 bees? [ 4:50 ] What if we allowed joy to be the status quo? [ 9:10 ] Surrender and clear the mind [ 10:50 ] Now, it's time for mindfulness training [ 12:25 ] Next, you can clean and clear   Joy Filling Quotes:  “How different would your life, your relationships, your reactions be if you let joy lead the way?” “You want to spend at least a week surrendering and clearing the mind.” “We are intentional about the direction and the ideas that we are having.” “I want to get very clear with my new identity of how I show up to the world.” “I hope you are thriving in this wonderful world we call life.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

“The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it.” Today's episode is a little more serious; it's all about grief. All of us either have had an experience with grief or inevitably will experience it in the future. Grief is not something that any of us can escape from. If you've ever loved a parent, a sibling, a friend, an animal, a job, an idea, you will undoubtedly come into contact with grief. This episode will end with the opportunity to reclaim your joy, to be able to move quickly through the stages of grief, and allow you to come back to this place of peace, happiness, and gratitude. In this Episode: [ 2:45 ] I'm going through a thick season of grief   [ 5:15 ] Recognize the different ways grief can show up [ 8:20 ] Acceptance is when joy can return [ 13:00 ] When we get stuck, life cannot breathe [ 15:30 ] How do we find joy again during grief?     Joy Filling Quotes:  “We have an expiration date; we know that it's coming, and it gives all of us time to wrestle with our emotions.” “It's through acceptance that our joy returns.” “When grief comes, regrets are going to follow.” “We have to move through these emotions; we have to keep that process moving.” “We cannot harbor and stay stuck. Otherwise, life does not breathe through us.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

“Your thoughts change your life.” Today we are talking about the power of the subconscious mind. The information here is not only going to change the dynamic of how you respond and react but can ultimately give you the joy, the lasting joy that you so desperately seek. We're going to cover some of the basics; then, we will expand on those basics to help you elevate your personal development. Tune in as I chat about the differences between the conscious and the subconscious mind and why we want to spend so much energy and attention on reprogramming the subconscious mind. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] I asked my dog, what's two minus two? He said nothing. [ 9:00 ] Start to pay attention to your thoughts + tune into your feelings   [ 12:30 ] Collect the data, so you know what to change [ 14:00 ] Get below the surface and track your conscious thoughts [ 16:15 ] Remind yourself that you're a rebel + commit to the inner work   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We have the power to reprogram our subconscious mind if we're willing to put our attention and resources there.” “The subconscious mind is keeping you stuck.” “We need to collect the data, so we know what to change. Once we know what to change, we can unroot from that.” “Your mind will work for you in an unstoppable way.” “The inner work starts with getting more information; you need to just educate yourself.” Resources: The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: HERE True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

What blocks you from being and feeling connected to others? Today is all about how you can connect deeper and start to reclaim those personal connections beginning today. I dive deep into how we can remove the mask and the blocks that keep us from being connected. We all desire connection; it is what allows us to feel loved and appreciated and valued. Plus, it's what allows us to feel seen and heard. Our connections will enable us to thrive as a culture and as a community. However, a connection can also lead to abuse and abandonment. Tune in as we talk about creating deep connections when they can also be threats. In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] What did the 0 say to the 8?   [ 4:30 ] Why you can't have a connection without vulnerability   [ 8:45 ] Start looking for better vulnerability connections   [ 10:20 ] Vulnerability isn't a sign of weakness; it is a sign of courage [ 16:05 ] Connection means there is no judgment   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Oftentimes, we try to connect with people who are incapable of connection.” “Be willing to forgive those who are ignorant and incapable of giving a connection to you.” “There are people and friends that await you when you open yourself up to receiving them.” “You ultimately get to tell your story.” “Your vibe attracts your tribe.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

“Every human has four endowments - self-awareness, conscience, independent will, and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom... The power to choose, to respond, to change.” I am excited today to be talking to you about how you can become more emotionally intelligent by harnessing the four endowments, as Stephen Covey often references. These four powerful components make the very foundation of being emotionally intelligent. These four endowments should be taught in every school to every child because it would simply make a world of difference. Plus, I explain that the endowments aren't complicated, but they take practice. Tune in as I reveal how you can practice the four endowments in your life every single day. In this Episode: [ 2:30 ] Have you heard about the chocolate record player? [ 4:50 ] Self-awareness of yourself, your thoughts, and your role in the world [ 8:00 ] Conscience is your ability to know what's right or wrong [ 10:20 ] Independent will is the reminder that you have a choice [ 12:30 ] Creative imagination is your ability to see things beyond what is right in front of you     Joy Filling Quotes:  “Understand how your feelings influence your decisions, actions, and reactions.” “Self-awareness is one of the most powerful tools that we have.” “When we can engage our self-awareness, it gives us the power to choose differently.” “We have the power to choose better; to choose things that are in alignment with our dreams, ambitions, goals, and desires.” “We can allow our intuitions to allow us to be the strongest and best versions of ourselves.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Today we are diving into the most overlooked personal development practice. If you've been a student of personal development work for any amount of time, there are some basic practices that you need to ground yourself in and build your foundation on. Without a foundation, it's easy for us to build a home on unstable ground. There is one key factor that will bring joy in your life no matter what. Tune in to hear all about the importance of gratitude on your personal development journey. In this Episode: [ 2:00 ] What do a tick and the Eifel Tower have in common? [ 4:15 ] The cornerstones of your personal development work [ 5:30 ] The most critical component of a joy-filled life [ 12:15 ] It's time to refocus your attention on gratitude     Joy Filling Quotes:  “Be extremely mindful about how you're engaging.” “Self-care is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.” “Watch your joy skyrocket when we can have pura vida.” “Have gratitude just come alive in our very essence.” “It's time for all of us to stop focusing on what's wrong in this world.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

I am very excited to talk to you today about the three most powerful words that are guaranteed to change your life. Now, these are three words that I have personally adopted into my vocabulary on the regular. These three words are something that takes a tremendous amount of practice, patience, and willingness to adapt and utilize to its maximum potential. You can take advantage of them this week, this day, and this month, as you are progressing forward, living the most joyful lives imaginable. Tune in as I reveal the three most powerful words for a joy-filled life.   In this Episode:   ·       [ 2:45 ] What do you call a fish wearing a bowtie? ·       [ 4:45 ] How you can make suffering optional ·       [ 6:00 ] It's my choice ·       [ 10:50 ] Ask yourself: where am I suffering?   Joy Filling Quotes: ·       “There are three words that can always help me, pull me back, and end my suffering.” ·       “It's my choice.” ·       “If you have thoughts that cause you suffering beyond the initial pain, then that's your choice.” ·       “It's my choice to show up or not.” ·       “Where are you withholding joy from your life?”     Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

"It's not the future that you're afraid of. It's repeating the past that makes you anxious." Today we're going to be talking about the fear of the unknown. We are chatting about ways to navigate and change the dynamic and relationship that you have with fear. Ultimately, fear does not have to be something you battle; it does not have to be something that controls you. Fear does not have to be something you are afraid of because it's so powerful and overwhelming. Instead, the fear of the unknown can be your ally. When we can learn to use our emotions as guides to help us navigate life and serve us to the highest potential. In this Episode: [ 5:50 ] The fear of the unknown is actually the fear of our past [ 8:30 ] We incorporated our past into our identities [ 11:40 ] It's time to challenge our chapters [ 13:10 ] How I chose to change my identity and core beliefs   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We are capable of navigating the future.” “You want to look at the future; close your eyes for a moment, feel into your gut.” “Ask yourself, is the story written fairly?” “Your mind is constantly making assumptions.” “Move confidently forward through life.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

"You need to calm down, you're being too loud." I'm not the only one that's noticed how loud life and people on the internet, news, and the media have gotten. It seems like everyone is yelling, and no one is listening. When this happens, there is no room for compromise, movement, or growth. Sadly, it is crippling our ability to advance forward. It's time to reclaim your joy by listening to your intuition. Remember, no one can hurt you without your permission. Tune in as I explain how we can turn down the noise and find ways back to love. In this Episode: It's time to talk about how loud the world is right now [ 2:40 ] The one thing you need to know about marriage [ 7:30 ] Remember, it's time to reclaim joy [ 9:40 ] The reality is no one can hurt you without your permission [ 12:00 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “It is easy and inevitable that you fall out of love, but it's essential that you find ways back to love.” “We're getting so riled up by everything that we are not even listening to ourselves.” “Mama, your intuition is on fire.” “The reality is no one can hurt you without your permission.” “We can find common ground and grow.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

Why is it important to pause? Today we're going to talk about something that I was reminded of by a sleep training coach. I'm a huge fan of sleep training to help your children understand the difference between day and night. Also, sleep training is an excellent way for children to get into a rhythm of sleep and allow moms into a rhythm of sleep. Tune in as I reveal the most powerful lesson that I learned from my sleep consultant and how you can apply it to your entire life.  In this Episode: My experience with sleep training [ 4:30 ] The importance of pausing in life [ 6:10 ] How pausing can be a powerful gift [ 8:15 ] Always remember to breathe during challenging moments [ 11:55 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We're very intentional about naps.” “We're very intentional about giving her space so she can learn to put herself to sleep.” “Create space in between our reactive selves and our conscious selves.” “A pause indicates to the brain that you're safe.” “Take a timeout and breathe.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

What is a mantra that suits you best? In this episode, we will talk about what you can say to yourself right now to feel better immediately. It doesn't matter what's going on, and it doesn't matter what kind of a day you've had. No matter what your bosses said, what your kids are doing, what your spouse is doing - this is the quick shift to feeling better right this second. I'm so excited to tell you about it because it is a mantra that I live by. It reminds me of just how powerful I am. Please tune in to this episode to hear what exactly it is!  In this Episode: [ 2:50 ] What does a house love to wear? [ 5:25 ] The three words you need to say to yourself right now [ 8:30 ] You are a conscious creator of your life [ 12:20 ] It's time to reclaim your power   Joy Filling Quotes:  “It's my choice.” “It's my choice to be present or to be numbing out.” “It's your choice to do the inner work or keep going down the path that you're on.” “It's your choice to do something or to do nothing.” “It's my choice to feel better.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

How can you let go of emotional baggage and move on? Today we will be talking about how to let go of emotional baggage that is weighing you down. First, let's acknowledge the fact that we all have it. There isn't anyone that has escaped their childhood, adolescence, teenage years, or college years without experiencing some hardship, trauma, controversy, betrayal, or pain that has hurt us in a certain way—having emotional baggage a part of being human. Your brain's primary job is to survive. It's going to hold on to memories and experiences of pain and anything that's perceived as a threat. Tune in as I reveal how you can start letting go of your emotional baggage. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] How do you make a waterbed bouncier?   [ 6:15 ] Why you should say thank you to your brain [ 9:40 ] How you can let go of your emotional baggage   [ 16:15 ] What is your objective of not letting go? [ 20:55 ] Your happiness should not be contingent on other people   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Our relationships are our greatest teachers.” “We can intentionally choose to start releasing the past.” “We need to start with the inner work.” “Decide on what it is that we want and how do we want to feel.” “My happiness and joy should not be contingent upon other people's behaviors, actions, thoughts, and reasonings.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Today we are going to talk about the fear of letting people down. There are a few different components to this: recognizing how powerful fear is and how influential fear can be on your decisions, actions, and reactions. I will share with you some powerful questions to ask yourself to understand better where this fear is coming from and how and why it's showing up. Tune in as I also reveal my three-step process and how to shift even the most irrational fears.  In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] How does a computer get drunk? [ 6:10 ] It's time to do the inner work [ 12:10 ] Shifting your fears can be done in three easy steps [ 18:10 ] Affirm what it is that you need to hear   Joy Filling Quotes:  “It's okay to have a different opinion.” “You deserve joy, and you deserve to live a life of your own.” “Your fear is doing its job; fear is designed to protect you.” “Better things are on their way by letting this go.” “Thank you fear for showing me the threat.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Why do people challenge their expectations? In this episode, we will talk about challenging your expectations to really determine if they're realistic or unrealistic. It has been said that expectations are the route to most heartache, and I know this to be absolutely true. Today is all about healing that heartache to bring and shed some light on your expectations, both spoken and unspoken, and set you on a path to success. In reality, expectations aren't a bad thing; however, it would help if you still challenged them. Tune in as I give tips on how you can do that. In this Episode: What is a scientist's favorite dog breed? [ 2:25 ] We can use the same words, but the meanings are different [ 4:50 ] Find ways to communicate your needs + desires [ 5:55 ] Discover what matters when it comes to expectations [ 9:00 ] Get to the heart of your expectations [ 11:10 ] The biggest repercussion of expectations [ 13:55 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Expectations are the route to most heartache.” “Most expectations are based on assumptions.” “Our expectations often become unrealistic.” “There's more than one way to be able to do something or to meet a goal.” “Have compromises around your standards.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

In this episode, we will talk about one powerful way you can 'Happy Hack' your day. This is such an easy and fun thing that you can do right now, and I can't wait to share it with you! I'm going to challenge you not only to do this every day, but I'm going to challenge you to do it five times a day and just watch how you feel. It is so simple and yet so powerful that it is life-changing. Please tune in to the episode to hear what it is! In this Episode: Where is the best place in America to shop for a football uniform? [ 2:40 ]   About the power of smiling [ 4:00 ] I am challenging you to do this exercise five times a day [ 5:30 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We can begin to share our joy with the rest of the world.” “Did you know that smiling for at least 20 seconds can have the same chemical reaction in your body as eating 2,000 Hershey Kisses?” “Put a smile on your face right now.” “Smiling is a zero-calorie activity.” “Make it your intent this week to smile.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Today we are talking about how you can't do it all and how we can have peace with that. In fact, maybe you can bring back a little bit of joy as a result of it. So I'm going to share three different mind shifts that you need so you can have peace with the fact that you can't do it all. First, you need to recognize that you have one fuel tank. Then, create a list of everything that needs to be done and look at how much energy it's taking. Tune in as I give tips on prioritizing your fuel consumption and what you need to consider when thinking about what you truly desire. In this Episode: [ 2:15 ] What do you call a participation trophy in astronomy? [ 8:15 ] Recognize that you have one fuel tank   [ 11:10 ] How to intentionally prioritize your fuel consumption   [ 14:30 ] Don’t forget about your marriage too   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Are you prioritizing your fuel consumption intentionally?” “Because you only have 100%, you may need to give something up to acquire something else.” “When's the last time you really took into consideration what you want?” “Start to prioritize your fuel consumption intentionally."  Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

This episode is one of those topics I think is hugely relevant for everyone. It's something that most of us struggle and suffer from; it weighs on us and constantly feeds into this idea that we're just not enough. We are talking about that pesky mom guilt that so many of us struggle with. I reveal the four ways we can begin to shift that guilt to bring us back to joy. I want to draw a line in the sand, and I want to begin to shift the tides on this guilt so that we can feel more peace. That way, we can realign back with our joy because guilt is one of the most destructive emotions we can harbor in our bodies. Luckily, every emotion we experience can actually be calibrated from the most damaging to the most constructive. So tune in for the four ways to shift your guilt into joy. In this Episode: [ 2:00 ] What do snails become when they die?   [ 5:00 ] Identify what you feel guilty about   [ 15:15 ] Don’t forget that you’re doing your best [ 17:20 ] Recognize your energetic fuel tanks [ 18:55 ] Challenge your expectations   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We want to raise that energy vibration.” “I'm human, and I make mistakes.” “Your guilt should not be leading your parental decisions.” “You're doing your best, and your best is good enough.” “Tomorrow I'm going to choose something different.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Today I am excited to talk about how you can stop hitting the easy button. Now the easy button is often the button you push when you are avoiding something or procrastinating. Sometimes you press the easy button when you are people-pleasing or when you are becoming a chameleon. Lastly, you can be pushing the easy button when you’re not using your voice and when you’re not advocating for your needs. These are easy things to do in the short term. When you make a hard choice, you speak up against something that everyone else believes. A hard choice is speaking your truth regardless of how that might affect the dynamic or other people's decisions and behaviors. You should be willing to advocate for your needs and ask for what you want versus allowing people to walk all over you. Tune in as I give you three powerful ways to shift and get your needs met. Eventually, you will have more joy because that's what this podcast is all about! In this Episode: [ 2:50 ] What do you call an elephant that doesn't matter? [ 7:10 ] Find clarity on where and how you are hitting the easy button [ 10:50 ] Challenge your fears   [ 12:45 ] Affirm that you are capable of doing hard things [ 14:05 ] Focus on the big picture   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Easy choices eventually lead to heartache.” “Affirm that you are capable of doing hard things.” “Challenge your excuse.” “Focus on the big picture versus the short-term gain.”   Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Why should you speak your truth? Today we are going to talk about how to speak up. For all of my soul sisters struggling to speak their truth and struggling to advocate for their needs - this episode is for you. We will talk about three things you can start doing right now to begin to speak and align better with your truth. For me, learning to speak up and to advocate for myself was indeed a challenging task. I always wanted others to feel welcomed, supported and uplifted. I started to realize that I don't do the same for myself. In fact, I often will put myself last. Just like I did, it's time for you to learn how to speak up, it's time for you to learn how to advocate for your needs, it's time for you to matter. In reality, you do matter - your truth matters, your needs, and your wants matter. When you can learn these skills of speaking up for yourself, you will be a better person. I'm going to teach you three powerful ways that you can begin to do that right now - it is going to be a game-changer in the dynamics of your relationships. In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] Why do trees seems suspicious on sunny days? [ 6:10 ] It’s important to take care of yourself   [ 9:25 ] Focus on the small ways that you can speak up [ 11:40 ] What is stopping you from speaking your truth?   [ 13:15 ] What do you want to accomplish from speaking up?   [ 14:50 ] Follow the boundary rules   Joy Filling Quotes:  “If we ignore it, the fear wins.” “Get a lot more clarity on what it is that you want to achieve.” “As a Rebel For Joy, we know we are committed to doing the inner work to live a joyful life.” “Be clear, kind, unemotional, and you make it a request.” “We want to learn to speak our truth in a calm, rational, loving demeanor.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Are you avoiding a difficult conversation? Today we are talking about how to have difficult conversations. I cannot tell you how many emails I get from people struggling with being present or handling difficult conversations. In fact, the number one go-to when it comes to addressing these things is avoidance. We avoid, we procrastinate, or we find ourselves people-pleasing to try to accommodate others. In this episode, I give you three different inner tips and outer tips on how to change and transform. That way, you can actually start having those conversations that you may have been avoiding. I know all too well how to avoid, procrastinate, or people please when it comes to difficult conversations. Sometimes the weight of my truth was slowing me down. However, I now know that having those difficult conversations will make you feel so much more joyful. Tune in for tips about making those difficult conversations easier! In this Episode: [ 2:50 ] How do you weigh a millennial?   [ 8:30 ] Why you need to get clarity   [ 9:15 ] Ask your fear for guidance   [ 10:20 ] Trace it back [ 12:45 ] It’s time to do the outer work   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We want to begin to dive into those inner reasons so that we can then have the outer work.” “You cannot have outward success without doing the inner work first.” “We want to start asking our fear for guidance.” “Fear is there to guide you; fear is there to help point out the flaws.”   Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Is your joy sleeping? Today we are going to talk about awakening joy. I love talking about happiness and all the ways that we can bring and cultivate more joy in our life. We are going to talk a little bit more about what robs us of our joy and thinking inwards to how we can awaken more joy in our life. My goal isn't to just bring you joy right now, but to help you cultivate lasting joy, and everlasting joy is something that you nurture. Your natural nature is to be happy. So, it's time to awaken your joy. The first step in awakening your joy is identifying what has caused your happiness to go into slumber. By doing that investigational piece first, you can start identifying when and why your joy has gone into slumber. When you wake the bear of joy, you want it to stay awake; you don't want it to go back to sleep for these extended periods. Tune in as I give more tips on awakening your lasting joy. In this Episode: [ 5:25 ] Did you hear about the restaurant on the moon? [ 8:40 ] Identify what has caused your happiness to go into slumber   [ 12:15 ] Move into clarity and ask yourself what you want   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Your natural nature is to be happy.” “We get clarity on what we want so we can decide on how we're going to behave moving forward.” “You can't take action unless you have an understanding behind it.” “We want to awaken joy.” “I deserve happiness because I'm alive.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Do you wake up with a smile on your face? I am excited about today's Do This Daily Conversation. These are my three D's, sister! Do these three things daily to allow yourself to be the happiest, most joyful version of YOU imaginable. I wake up with a smile on my face; I always look forward to starting the day. That is something I cultivated; I wasn't born that way. The three D's help me to maintain that level of happiness. The three D's are things that I am very intentional about daily because I know they create that foundation of everlasting joy. When I say everlasting, it's not like a fairy tale because fairy tales are not sustainable. If you were happy all the time without the complexity, dimension, and depth, would you appreciate your happiness? Of course not! So, tune in as reveal the three D's that will help you maintain happiness. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] Why did the man hate his job as an origami teacher?   [ 5:20 ] Choose to deepen in your inner work [ 8:40 ] Discover something new [ 10:45 ] Dancing is an important component of happiness   Joy Filling Quotes:  “I wake up with a smile on my face. I'm looking forward to starting the day.” “Discover something new, learn something new, and expand that consciousness.” “The more that you move your body, the better.” “Be very intentional every day to dance and to move your booty.” “You're living a life by design.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

How do you empower yourself to be happy? I am excited today to talk to you about resetting your happiness and the three essential elements that will always bring you back to joy. I feel after the year we've had, this conversation is needed more than ever before. All of us have experienced a lot of numbness and disconnection from the Coronavirus, riots, and fires. These three basic elements of joy will be a foundation for the rest of your life. If you're like me, you might feel it almost instantaneously. But for most people, it might take weeks of practice before you actually start to reap the rewards. I know that we live in a world of instant gratification. We don't like waiting for things. However, trust me, it's worth it! More than anything, I hope you start to practice all three of them but at least commit to one today. In this Episode: [ 2:55 ] Why does Humpty Dumpty love Autumn? [ 6:30 ] How we can be gardeners of our own mindset [ 7:55 ] Gratitude [ 11:10 ] Affirmations   [ 13:00 ] Intentionality   Joy Filling Quotes:  “I’ve spent a lot of time and energy doing the inner work to allow that to be my truth.” “I know that I am strong enough, I know that I am good enough, I know that I am worthy enough.” “When we can affirm every day, if we can be grateful every day, watch what happens to your happiness level.” “With cultivating joy and with creating happiness - I'm very intentional.”   Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

This episode is the fifth degree of self-sabotage, which means we're diving deep into procrastination today. Now I know this is a big topic that affects a lot of you. So I'm going to do my best to give you that overview and a deeper understanding of what it means to be a procrastinator and reinforce those three steps on how to end it for real. A procrastinator is a person who is habitually putting off doing things; they are consciously aware that they're not following through. A procrastinator has good intent; they plan on taking action later. Tune in as I go super deep into procrastination and how you can stop this self-sabotaging behavior. In this Episode: [ 3:40 ] What does a vegan zombie like to eat? [ 5:20 ] All about procrastinators [ 13:40 ] Get to the root of your procrastination [ 16:40 ] Remember, there is nothing wrong with you!   Joy Filling Quotes:  “A lot of my self-esteem was built on this perception of what others thought of me.” “If you do not do the deep dive, it will not be a lasting transformation.” “What are you most afraid of?” “There's a behavioral pattern and a thought pattern under the surface that is running the show.” “Information is going to empower you.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Do you struggle with consistency? We are continuing our conversation in-depth about ending the cycle of self-sabotage. This episode is explicitly talking about the behavioral pattern of inconsistency. Do you find yourself inconsistent with your work, your marketing, your health, your finances, or your fitness? We're going to dive a little deeper into this specific behavior. So, what does it mean to be inconsistent? It means you are not staying the same throughout. However, you can't be the same version of yourself throughout life; you learn too much, you acquire too much information, and you make changes. So, it’s essential to recognize that staying the same is an unrealistic standard that you're not going to meet. Inconsistency also means acting at variance with one's owns principles. For example, if one of your principles is drinking more water, yet you find yourself drinking soda – you are acting inconsistently on your principles. Well, inconsistency is just a behavior; it's a behavioral pattern that we want to shift. When we are inconsistent, it is just a habit. To shift away from being inconsistent, we need to understand why we have this behavior. Why do we allow ourselves to get so distracted so quickly? Once we know this, we can make the shift. Tune in as I chat about the importance of understanding your ‘why’ when it comes to inconsistency. In this Episode: [ 3:25 ] What time does a duck wake up? [ 4:55 ] How you are inconsistent with your principles [ 8:30 ] Recognize that inconsistency is a behavioral pattern that you want to shift [ 15:55 ] It’s time to understand why you are inconsistent   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Most people who are inconsistent really fear the unknown.” “You have different challenges at different seasons and different times.” “Inconsistency is just a behavior.” “It's so important for us to get back into our bodies.”   Resources: Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

What are you running away from? In this series, we have three more episodes to talk about the five different degrees of self-sabotage. So far, we've covered people-pleasing and perfectionism. In this episode, we're going to talk about avoiding and distracting. If you're just tuning in to this series, I highly recommend you go back and make sure to listen to ending self-sabotage for real parts one and two. Often, when we find ourselves playing the game of procrastination, we identify ourselves as weak or something is wrong with us. However, that's not the case. Self-sabotage is just behavioral patterns that are playing out. Remember, they don't serve us anymore. When we can think of them in that way, they become less emotionally charged and easier to transform. So, let's dive into avoiding. An avoider is a person who actively keeps away from not doing something. The keyword in this definition that I want to highlight is “actively.” An avoider is usually consciously aware that they're in avoidance. Now, that's important because there is a significant distinguishing difference between avoidance and procrastination. Procrastinators often aren't aware that they're procrastinating because they're stuck in a behavioral pattern. They're doing behaviors that will keep them away from something, whereas avoiders come from an emotional charge - it's more of a reaction. Tune as I reveal what you need to do to stop this self-sabotaging behavior and how you can embrace the pain and release the stress. In this Episode: [ 2:45 ] Why should you sit in the corner every time you get cold? [ 3:55 ] The reason we find ourselves avoiding + procrastinating.  [ 4:55 ] The difference between avoiding + procrastinating   [ 8:10 ] It’s time to become aware of how you are avoiding  [ 13:40 ] Why you need to embrace the pain [ 20:35 ] How to release the anxiety + stress    Joy Filling Quotes:  “Avoiders want to escape their thoughts and feelings.” “Ultimately, avoiders are trying to avoid feeling like a failure.” “When we avoid pain, we will get sucked into suffering.” “Your fear can no longer be the motive for why you are doing what you're doing.” “It is time to just give to yourself the same joy you wish upon your children.” Resources: Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

What’s your wildest dream? Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She has been featured by Forbes, Entrepreneur and Working Mother Magazine. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads. and the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH. In this episode, we jump right into purpose. Purpose is your reason for creating or doing something. Also, purpose can mean the reason you exist. Not having a purpose or denying yourself of your purpose can really rob you of joy. When you do not align with your purpose, when you're not on the right path, you feel frustrated and create destructive habits that result in a lack of fulfillment and joy. It's critical to know your truth and be intimately connected with yourself. That way, you can communicate and speak that truth however it manifests for you. Later, Amber reveals what to do when you are growing faster than your partner. Most women are focused on their personal development and growth. Plus, their level of consciousness is at a place where they understand the need to really commit to that work. Sometimes, this can be frustrating when you are growing faster than the one that you love. It will be critical to get to a place where you can recognize that you and your partner are different people. Luckily, Amber gives loads of tips on exactly how to do the inner work. Tune in as we chat about the importance of acknowledging your dreams in order to create deep changes.  In this Episode: [ 1:45 ] All about Amber   [ 5:20 ] The foundation of your purpose [ 8:20 ] Finding alignment into your meaning [ 14:20 ] What to do when you’re growing faster than your partner [ 21:20 ] Every situation is an opportunity to have a mirror moment [ 32:30 ] It’s time to acknowledge your dreams   Joy Filling Quotes:  “I believe that every single person on this planet has a purpose.” “We all have a collective purpose to feel joy.” “The meaning of life is to be in joy.” “If the dream is in you, it's for you.” “Give yourself permission to dream.” Resources: Amber’s Website: https://www.amberlilyestrom.com/ Amber on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amberlilyestrom/ Amber on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BrandLoveCoach Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Is perfectionism holding you back? We are talking about the five different dimensions of self-sabotage: people-pleasing, perfectionism, procrastination, avoidance, and inconsistency. Today we're going to chat about perfectionism. So, people who struggle with control and making everything perfect are self-sabotaging. I reveal how this can show up, hinder you, and what you can do about it. If this topic is exciting to you, I encourage you to go back and check out our ending self-sabotage part one and two episodes that lay the foundation of what self-sabotage is and how you can begin to shift and change it. First, I dive into what perfectionism means. When we have high standards of people, no matter how hard they try, it's never going to be enough. There's a purpose to why we play around with perfectionism. When we can identify the purpose, we can release it and get resolved profoundly in a different direction. So, tune in as I dig deep into perfectionism because it has the most significant impact on your inability to relax, unwind, or unplug. In this Episode: [ 3:05 ] How does a rancher keep track of all of his cattle? [ 3:30 ] The definition of perfectionism [ 8:45 ] Check the motives behind your standards [ 13:30 ] Sink into understanding what is at the root of perfectionism   Joy Filling Quotes:  “When we have such high standards for ourselves, our children, our spouses, or the people in our lives, it creates this level of anxiety.” “Check the motives of your standards and your expectations.” “I want you to begin to challenge your standards, and allow room for imperfection.” “Life is meant to be messy.” “Imperfection is perfection.” Resources: Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? I'm so feeling jazzy about this month's topic. We are talking self-sabotage. So, we're diving deep into the five degrees of self-sabotage. This week, mainly, is the number one thing that affects more women than anyone else: people-pleasing. We are talking about the who, what, when, where, and how of people-pleasing. It's time to nip that habit in the bud so you can live a joyful life. So, how does people-pleasing behavior affect and limit your life? Many of my people-pleasers will view themselves as weak, small, or unloved. We want to take that emotional charge out of it and recognize that those thoughts are just a program that serves a specific purpose. Now, it's time to realize that purpose is no longer is serving you. Finally, you can shift from being a people-pleaser and instead have the most significant impact on your self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence, personal productivity, health, happiness, and JOY! In this Episode: [ 2:40 ] Where does the electric cord go to shop? [ 3:15 ] All about people-pleasing [ 9:20 ] A few ways that you could be a people-pleaser [ 13:25 ] The importance of a strong foundation   Joy Filling Quotes:  “As a Rebel For Joy, it is essential that we stop making short-sighted, short-term decisions that have long-term repercussions.” “You are capable, and you are loved regardless of who loves you in the outside world.” “I will sit here right now as your friend and as your rebellion leader and say that you deserve joy and you deserve happiness.” “We get deeply resolved in a new decision.” “At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you have or who you're with; it matters about how you feel.” Resources: Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Are you ready to go down the human design rabbit hole? Today I am lucky to be joined by a pure light of sunshine, Kelsey Abbott. She is an intuitive Human Design Reader, a Certified Professional Coach, Instigator of Joy, and the Find Your Awesome podcast host. She helps spiritual adventurers remember who they are and why they're here to experience more ease, joy, flow, magic, and miracles. She believes that the universe wants us to be sparklyAF and that joy is our natural state. When Kelsey isn't playing in her business, she's bringing curiosity, play, and joy to triathlon--a sport she races as an elite amateur.  In this episode, we are chatting about human design with someone who knows a lot about J-O-Y! First, we dive right into how joy is our natural state of being. When we hear other people complaining, we think it's normal to be unhappy and dissatisfied. However, joy can happen with every other emotion. As soon as we know what joy looks like, feels like, and smells like for us, then we can experience it every single day.  Tune in as we dig deep into human design – our itty bitty soul came to earth to change the world. Our birthday (time, place, and date) solidified our human design blueprint. When we look at our blueprint, we can understand how to own and use our most magnificent gifts. Later, Kelsey explains her relationship with human design. Plus, we talk about the importance of living our most authentic life and why we should take up as much space as we need.  In this Episode: All about Kelsey Abbott [ 1:50 ] How joy is our natural state [ 5:10 ] Common beliefs that will rob us of joy [ 10:20 ] An introduction to human design [ 13:10 ] Why we need to trust our souls [ 19:05 ] The different components of human design [ 24:00 ] Kelsey explains the importance of knowing our human design [ 38:50 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Joy feels like champagne bubbles.” “Manifestors are born with huge energy.” “When we align with our designs, we experience joy.” “The world needs you to be who you are.” “We need to own and celebrate other people as they live their designs.” Resources: Kelsey’s Website: https://www.kelseyabbott.com Find Your Awesome: https://www.kelseyabbott.com/podcasts Kelsey’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelseyabbottcpc/ My Body Graph: https://www.mybodygraph.com Kelsey’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGk3p8T0mkZiZXyWBix6ILQ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

If you haven’t already, listen to Episode 54: Ending The Cycle Of Self-Sabotage Part 1. That episode will help you unmask the purpose + payoff for your self-sabotage. We are on a self-sabotage journey over the next few months. So, that’s why it will be critical for your journey to start with Part 1. Once you have finished that episode, you can jump into Part 2 with me! In this episode, we dive deep into how our self-sabotaging behaviors are showing up. The self-sabotaging behavior is the last stop, but three behaviors show up before that. I explain exactly what is going on before you get to the final stop: your self-sabotaging behavior. Plus, I reveal the 3-Step Revive Formula on how to end self-sabotage FOR REAL. By doing this work, you can imagine endless possibilities. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] What did the football coach say to the broken vending machine? [ 5:00 ] How our self-sabotaging behaviors are showing up [ 9:45 ] About the 3-Step Revive Formula     Joy Filling Quotes:  “When you catch yourself procrastinating, you are at the end of the road.” “Start with the behavior and move backward.” “To end self-sabotage for real, get to the root!” “Release the insecurity and the doubt.” “Choose how to write the next chapter.” Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  

Why do you get in your own way? It’s time to end self-sabotage for good! In this episode, we will cover the five dimensions of self-sabotage and the subtle sneaky ways it can be holding you back without your awareness. Self-sabotage can be holding you back from so many dynamics in your life. So, it’s time to do the inner work and figure out how to get your joy back. This episode is not about time-management. Instead, this episode is about why you procrastinate. That’s how you end self-sabotage for real. The behavior is just the final stop on the rails – it is the outward expression of the inward issue. Are you ready to figure out why you self-sabotage? Then tune in as I reveal the five dimensions of self-sabotage and what you can do about it. In this Episode: [ 3:30 ] How did the hairdresser win the race? [ 6:50 ] The definition of self-sabotage [ 10:10 ] About the five dimensions of self-sabotage  [ 14:10 ] Identify the key points that lead you to self-sabotage     Joy Filling Quotes:  “People pleasers often put themselves last.” “All behaviors serve a purpose.” “What is the purpose, and what is the payoff?” “No matter what game you’re playing, I’ve got your back.”   Resources:   Sabotage: https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Is your relationship legendary? My dear friend and someone I absolutely needed to talk to, Brandy Salazar, joins the show. Lance and Brandy Salazar are on a mission to help couples reconnect with each other and stay deeply in love while raising their daughters. They created Legendary Couples with Kids because they know firsthand how challenging it is to keep your marriage a priority while juggling careers and being parents. They now know that it is possible to be more in love than ever before. Brandy and her husband found themselves in couples counseling. Eventually, Lance and Brandy went on a personal healing journey while putting their marriage on the shelf. They lived in the same house and worked on themselves. While putting their marriage on hold, Brandy and Lance started to like each other again naturally. Then, they began to work on their marriage again. Now, they have completely different energy with each other. Listen as Brandy dives deep into their story. Later, we get real and talk about our most profound relationship fears, and anxieties. Brandy tells Bonnie how she can create a fantastic marriage and make their wildest dreams a reality. When your relationship can stay consistent with your vision, you can find a remarkable connection, intimacy, and fun in your relationship. Tune in as Brandy reveals the steps in her Fulfilment Circle. Plus, we talk about the importance of having a family meeting, how moms can find more time for peace + self-care, and ways to overcome the resistance to growth. In this Episode: About Brandy Salazar and the inspiration behind Legendary Couples [ 1:50 ] Bonnie gets real and speaks about her deepest relationship insecurities [ 13:35 ] The importance of having a family meeting [ 24:00 ] How moms can find more space and time for peace + self-care [ 29:30 ] Overcoming resistance to growth [ 41:00 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Live life by priority.” “It all comes down to efficient and effective time.” “Design a life around what you actually want and not what people want you to do.” “Saying yes to one thing means we have to say no to other things.” “Structure is the key for kids.” Resources:   Legendary Couples: https://legendarycouples.com Legendary Couples on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendary.couples/ Brandy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrsbrandysalazar/ The Miracle Morning for Couples: Create Legendary Connections One Morning at a Time Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

How are you planning on getting motivated in 2021? Once you shake off your 2020 blues, then it’s time to flex your motivation muscles. When we feel unmotivated, then we start shaming ourselves. It’s time that we stop the shame and start with the three powerful steps that will increase your motivation muscles: Grant yourself grace. Realize that your motivation is a muscle. Flex your motivation muscles with lighter weights at first. Tune in as I explain how you can begin to flex your motivation muscles. Remember that you matter, and it’s time that you showed up for YOU! In this Episode: [ 4:45 ] How motivation is like a muscle [ 7:55 ] Grant yourself grace [ 11:00 ] Realize that motivation is a muscle   [ 12:35 ] Flex your muscles with lighter weights     Joy Filling Quotes:  “Fill your heart with love so you can build motivation from a positive space.” “Motivation is something that we make happen.” “It is too easy to get sucked into the mindset of complacency.” “It’s time to show up for you.”   Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Are you ready to move forward in 2021? Last year was massively humbling, and now it’s time to overcome those 2020 blues. Finally, we can begin on focusing forward. The person who entered 2020 is not the person who is entering 2021. Globally, we have experienced something together, and out of destruction can be birthed beauty. Here are the three ways that you can shake off the 2020 blues: Do a serious check-in mentally and emotionally. Reframe all the thoughts and feelings that are limiting you. Choose to tell a better story about 2020. Once you do the inner work, you’ll be ready to shift and live a life fueled by joy. It’s time that you shake off the fears and step back into the beautiful version of yourself. In this Episode: [ 9:10 ] Do a serious check-in mentally and emotionally [ 12:05 ] Reframe all the thoughts and feelings that are limiting you [ 14:40 ] Choose to tell a better story about 2020   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Shake off 2020, so we can be fiercely present in the new year.” “What is a more powerful way you can think about this?” “2020 taught us to value quality time more than stuff.” “Don’t take the little things for granted.” “It’s okay to want more, but it’s better to want more when you’re happy with what you have.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Want to live a BRAVER life? Today we are lucky to be joined by Judi Holler. Judi Holler owns a creative company that is on a mission to help people live braver lives and EMPOWER leaders to lead braver teams. Her work takes the experimental principles of the improv theatre and helps you apply them to the unscripted stage of everyday life. These ideas will teach you that while you'll never be "fearless" ... you can get really good at ... FEARING FEAR LESS!  We all have things that will rob us of joy, and fear is a huge component. We have a toxic relationship with fear. Let me tell you, sister; it’s time to break up with that nasty relationship. Judi’s work in fear is inspired by what she has learned studying improv theater. Improv means there is no script, and the performers will make up the act as they go. Do you know who else doesn’t have a script? YOU. At the end of the day, we feel out of control; however, we are never in control. We can have plans, dreams, and investments. But there is no guarantee in our lives - improv actors have been training for this moment their entire career. The more you practice improv, the better you will get through obstacles and stay in forwarding momentum. Think about what you can do today that will impact your future. Tune in as Jodi speaks about why being fearless is unrealistic, how to put fear in its place, and why we often fear success. In this Episode: [ 1:40 ] About Judi Holler [ 8:45 ] What it means to be a student of fear [ 12:50 ] The ways fear can rob us of joy [ 18:00 ] Stop chasing fearless   [ 23:45 ] How to put fear in its place [ 31:30 ] Why we fear success [ 37:15 ] What will happen when you put in the work   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Tell fear who the boss is; it’s always you.” “The bet you’re going to want to make is on yourself.” “I have fallen in love with failure.” “You have to be willing to get uncomfortable.” “Conduct daily fear experiments.” Resources: Text BRAVE to 474747 The #FearBoss Fam: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fearboss/ Judi’s Website: http://judiholler.com Judi’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/judiholler/ Judi’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/judiholler Judi’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judiholler/ Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Do you struggle with showing your emotions? Today we talk all about daring to feel. There are three ways we can begin to practice connecting with our feelings in a very healthy way. When we can trust our emotional state, we can have more challenging conversations, stand up for ourselves, and make decisions that align with our highest good. So, how do you dare to feel? Being emotionally intelligent requires us to understand that our emotions are our guides. It helps us connect with what is going on around us. So we need to link back to our natural state of feeling and find the tools to help us learn and navigate our challenging emotions. Tune in as we talk about the four things that will get you back in alignment with daring to feel. In this Episode: [ 3:25 ] We constantly have emotional experiences  [ 6:15 ] How to navigate the challenging emotions   [ 7:10 ] You need to know your numb [ 8:05 ] Understand the purpose of why you are numbing [ 10:40 ] Don’t get lost in the shame [ 12:20 ] Dare to feel   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We have been raised in a very unemotional world.” “Begin to unpack your emotions in a way that allows you to trust your intuition.” “Use your emotions as guides.” “Be more proactive and become a rebel for joy.” “Acknowledge your current state of being.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Do you struggle from time to time with the disappointment of expectations? We expect our lives to be at a certain point, and we expect our businesses to be at a certain point. When we fall short of our expectations, a lot of negativity can happen. We will deal with disappointment, anxiety, and feelings of failure. Instead, we need to honor who we are and reclaim our joy truly. If this is ringing true to you, there are some things you need to do. First, acknowledge which season you are in. Once you know which season you are living in, then enjoy it. It will also be essential to find the proper support that you need to trust your season and allow yourself to breathe. Tune in as we give tips on exactly how to do this. In this Episode: [ 7:20 ] Acknowledge which season you are in [ 12:30 ] Enjoy and honor your various seasons   [ 16:10 ] Find ways to create the support that you need   Joy Filling Quotes:  “When we breathe, we reconnect with our bodies.” “Cultivate and design the direction that you want to go in.” “Expectation is a guarantee to feel disappointment.” “There’s a fine line between self-care and self-sabotage.”   Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

How are you living the most abundant life? As a single mom of three children, ages three years - eight weeks, Ashley's launch of Abundance Movement box subscriptions sold out in less than 82 hours! Messages were flooding her inbox with requests to make more available. There was only one thing left to do; make room for more abundance! "It's more than a subscription box, it's a movement!" Ashley speaks about her journey. We all start with zero followers. However, we learn along the way through mentorship and other people who align with our vision. It's essential to be consistent in order to find success. We can't take the weekend off from becoming our best selves. There is always room to show up one percent better than you were yesterday. Later, Ashley dives into abundance. Abundance means having it all, not feeling guilty, and owning who you are. With abundance, you know that you are worth more, and you get to have it all. If you want to be happy, healthy, and fit, then you can do it. Remember, take care of your needs before you serve others. Tune in as we talk about tapping into your future, the importance of sharing your truth, and how to own your past. In this Episode: [ 1:45 ] About Ashley Maas [ 14:00 ] How Ashley shifted to wide-awakeness [ 21:10 ] Navigating postpartum depression   [ 30:15 ] About abundance and how you can have more [ 34:00 ] Ashley’s habits for success [ 38:25 ] Why we need to put our dreams out there   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Do whatever it takes for as long as it takes.” “Abundance means living life on your terms.” “You are made for more.” “Every day, I write about what my future is going to look like.”   Resources: Ashley’s Website: https://www.abundancemovementboxes.com (use code: rebels20) Ashley’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abundancemovementboxes Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

What do you do when you feel lost? We have four ideas on how to make your seasons of purposelessness more purposeful: Allow yourself space to heal and explore. Too often, we try to fix it or dismiss it. In reality, that’s our defense. However, it’s not our truth. We need to pivot and change the way that we think and feel. Separate your worth from your work. Pain will emerge in the purposelessness season. We will think we are lazy or we are failures. It’s easy to feel worthy when you are working because you get a lot of satisfaction. Know the difference between business and distraction. Find joy in this space. We feel heaviness in the purposelessness season. It’s hard to find joy in this season. However, it’s exactly what we need to do to feel purposeful. Trust the process. When we face hardship, it feels all-encompassing; we forget that it’s a season. We don’t allow it to become a season because we attach it to our stories. We should allow it to be a fleeting experience. In this Episode: [ 3:05 ] What did the police officer say to his belly button? [ 8:10 ] Why you need to stop trying and start allowing [ 11:30 ] Separate your worth from your work [ 14:10 ] Find joy in this space [ 17:25 ] Trust the process   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Be purposeful in purposelessness seasons.” “Unbelievable things are transpiring in ways we cannot plan.” “Witness your worth.” “You are enough; you are doing exactly what you should be in this season.” “In the fun, the answer comes.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

How can you shift your family dynamic? So many of us are stuck dealing with abusive and dysfunctional family members. They can turn our holiday festivities into a nightmare before Christmas. We need to change the dynamic, not the people. To retain join, advocate for your needs, and have a wondrous holiday season, listen to this episode about family boundaries. How do you feel in a family situation? If you walk away feeling belittled or abused, then there is some work to be done. If you walk out of the situation and you don’t feel anything, then there is still work to be done. If you walk away and have peace and joy, you did what is right to honor yourself. Tune in as we talk about what you need to do differently to walk out of the room with your head held high. In this Episode: [ 3:20 ] You can’t change your family [ 6:45 ] How do you feel in family situations?   [ 9:25 ] Finding joy and happiness from the inside [ 13:00 ] Navigating people pleasing   [ 17:15 ] Asserting boundaries and advocating for your needs     Joy Filling Quotes:  “Change how your family affects you.” “No one can hurt you without your permission.” “Ultimately, it’s your decision to believe someone, to be hurt by someone, or to be offended by someone.” “Words are just words.” “Practice your boundary rules.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

How do you balance the masculine and feminine energies? Kris Britton is the founder of Team Goddess Boss, Spiritual Life and Business Coach, Blogger, Network Marketing Professional, and Goddess Boss herself shares the way you can live your dreams. In 2020, everyone is exhausted and overwhelmed. Kris wants to help more women to feel good to do good. Now is the time that we need to get in our natural rhythm and alignment. Businesses can soar if you get into alignment with joy. We are all being asked to look at our hearts; if we aren’t aligned, then why? If we don’t stand with our hearts open, people will keep scrolling by. Potential clients are looking for a coach who is an expert. In business, Kris sees too many coaches that aren’t doing the work. We can fool ourselves into thinking that we have done the work, then we move on. However, we haven’t done the deep dive. We are all in an instant gratification nation; we want fast food, fast internet, and TV on demand. However, we miss something when we aren’t present in the journey and fully embodying the voyage. Tune in as Kris gives tips on sharing our stories, all about the wounded feminine, and how to fill our feminine cups. In this Episode: [ 5:15 ] How Kris is shining during 2020 [ 8:40 ] Knowing when we need to go deeper [ 14:45 ] Navigating the fear of sharing our story [ 22:10 ] All about the wounded feminine   [ 30:10 ] What happens when we let joy lead   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We need to ban together and grow stronger roots.” “People feel us when we are in our truth.” “Be courageous enough to look at your story.” “The wounded feminine loves to create drama.” “The feminine needs to be filled.” Resources: Goddess Boss Podcast: https://krisbritton.net/category/podcast/ Kris Britton’s Website: https://krisbritton.net Kris on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kris_britton/ Kris on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krisbrittonfan Kris on Twitter: https://twitter.com/krisbrittonfan Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Do you ever feel like you're not enough? Well, you're not alone. Feeling like you're not enough is actually the number one most significant negative core belief. It doesn't have to be! So, why does it happen? It has been embedded and instilled in you since you were a child. The brain needs to conclude this story – it wants to know if you're good enough or not good enough.  Before we even graduate high school, we have gathered enough evidence to convict ourselves for the rest of our lives. It's the way that our brain processes information! We need to begin to think and feel differently. If you want to transform this, grab a copy of my book, True To Your Core: Uncovering the Subconscious Beliefs That Wreak Havoc on Your Life. It will give you step-by-step instructions on transforming our negative core beliefs and reprogramming the way our brain operates.  Tune in as I dive into the seven things to remember when you think you’re not good enough! In this Episode: [ 1:50 ] The number one most prominent negative core belief [ 5:00 ] The people you compare yourself to compare themselves to other people too [ 6:20 ] Your mind can be a very convincing liar [ 7:25 ] There is more right with you than wrong with you [ 8:55 ] You need love the most when you feel you deserve it the least [ 12:05 ] You have to fully accept and make peace with the “now” before you can reach and feel satisfied with the “later” [ 14:35 ] Focus on progress rather than perfection [ 16:25 ] You can’t hate your way into loving yourself   Joy Filling Quotes:  “All of us are susceptible to insecurities.” “Your mind is lying to you if you think you’re not good enough.” “Challenge the way that we think.” “We spend too much energy thinking what’s wrong with us.” “If you’re not the biggest champion of love for you, that’s where the journey starts.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy 7 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/7-things-to-remember-when-you-think-youre-not-good-enough/   My Book: True To Your Core: Uncovering the Subconscious Beliefs That Wreak Havoc on Your Life

What’s holding you back from joy? I am sharing with you the eight biggest myths that are holding you back from having a tremendous amount of joy. All of these myths have something to do with forgiveness. Why? Well, forgiveness is the gateway between where we are and how we want to feel. So, let’s get into the eight myths that we need to break through to truly have forgiveness freedom: Myth #1: I must forget. Myth #2: I can only forgive if they apologize. Myth #3: By forgiving, it makes what happened okay. Myth #4: We have to wait to feel forgiveness in order to actually forgive. Myth #5: Forgiving means I have to have a relationship with that person. Myth #6: With time, I’ll just get over this. Myth #7: Victims shouldn’t have to forgive. Myth #8: Forgiveness requires vulnerability, and vulnerability equals weakness. In this Episode: [ 4:50 ] Myth #1 [ 5:40 ] Myth #2 [ 7:20 ] Myth #3 [ 8:50 ] Myth #4 [ 10:15 ] Myth #5 [ 12:35 ] Myth #6 [ 14:25 ] Myth #7 [ 15:45 ] Myth #8   Joy Filling Quotes:  “You don’t need an apology for you to still forgive.” “Allow yourself to be fiercely present.” “Forgiveness is a choice.” “Waiting for time to pass is not processing the emotion.” “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Forgiveness: https://rebelsforjoy.com/forgiveness-letter/ Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Madelyn Moon is a walking permission slip committed to radical truth-telling in her top 50 ranked podcast, coaching practice and her various teaching platforms. Her soul, being both really old and quite young at the same time, allows her to access wisdom beyond the present society and catalyze it into digestible, earthy knowledge for modern women and men. In this episode, Madelyn dives into the differences between masculine and feminine energy. Feminine is the water moving inside a riverbed. Whereas the riverbed itself is the masculine, it contains our energy. Our bodies will hold in the physical parts and our emotions. However, if you want to work on your feminine, then think about how your nervous system is working. Then, Madelyn reveals how to create pleasure through movement – we need to create our own sacred safe space, even if it’s ten minutes a day. Be the master of your time and space. It’s time that we take control of the room. Stay tuned as Madelyn reveals how to find balance, the importance of freeing yourself from your burden, and the ways to dive into our feminine energy deeply. In this Episode: [ 3:55 ] Why do candles always go on top of the cake? [ 5:10 ] About the masculine and feminine energy [ 12:20 ] How to obtain safety through chakras [ 17:05 ] The importance of stepping into our worth [ 22:35 ] Finding a balance between masculine and feminine energy   [ 28:40 ] Discovering freedom from your burden [ 30:40 ] Tips for stepping into the feminine more deeply   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Train your body to feel good again.” “Speak your truth.” “The moment is calling you to listen.” “Go into the feeling.” “Listen to inner wisdom.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy Madelyn’s Resources: Website: https://maddymoon.com Podcast: https://maddymoon.com/podcasts/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/madelynmoon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mindbodymusings Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/moonfitness

Have you been hurt or manipulated? The idea of acceptance can seem like a fantasy. Today we are talking about three different mindset shifts that are going to allow you to get through acceptance and back to joy. When we go through something traumatizing, we find ourselves harboring feelings of resentment, hurt, and anger. When we get trapped in that space, we suffer. I want to you to realize that accepting means you can move forward and return to joy. It’s time to give yourself permission to return to your happy place. I’m sharing three mindset shifts around acceptance to help you find peace: Acceptance does not equal acceptable Acceptance requires you to let go of any idea that your past can be different Acceptance requires forgiveness In this Episode: [ 2:35 ] Why do fish live in saltwater?   [ 3:10 ] The reasons we withhold acceptance   [ 8:50 ] Acceptance does not equal acceptable   [ 12:10 ] Let go of the idea that your past can be different [ 15:45 ] Finding forgiveness   Joy Filling Quotes:  “When we harbor resentment, we are not in joy.” “We deserve peace.” “We can learn and grow.” “Move into acceptance.” “Recognize that hurt people, hurt people.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com Self-Affirming Hip Hop: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop/ 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Have you wondered how some people have radiating confidence? We talk about three ways that you can start to develop lasting self-confidence that will withstand any storm that is thrown at you. It’s time to shift your energy around confidence and be the radiant figure that is fully embodied of self. Having self-confidence means you have a deep connection with yourself and trust your abilities, qualities, and judgments. If we lack self-confidence, then we put too much trust in our fear and our doubt. Let’s flip the script! Here are the three tips for lasting self-confidence: Accept your strengths Begin to accept and know your weaknesses and imperfections Repetition and recognition In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] How do we know the ocean is friendly? [ 4:40 ] What it means to have self-confidence   [ 6:05 ] Accept your strengths [ 11:25 ] Accept and know your weaknesses and imperfections [ 15:15 ] Repetition and recognition   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Trust that you have the answers.” “Begin to build the trust bridge between yourself and your confidence.” “Confident people aren’t afraid to ask for help.” “You can weather any storm that is brewing out there in the ocean.” “Celebrate and recognize the skills you had today.” Resources: Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com Self-Affirming Hip Hop: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop/ 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy

Ella is a podcast creator and the host of the On Air with Ella show since 2015. She has owned and operated multiple businesses since 2003 as a consultant and executive in large multi-national companies. Her true passion, though, lies in helping people build their best lives, especially over 40, when we have a depth of experience, inward curiosity, and a desire for MORE. #fireover40 ​We are busy! One challenge with being a woman today is being in the mom zone, spouse zone, or career zone. When you excel at one, then you’re probably sacrificing the other. For instance, our physical fitness can often get put on the back burner. Ella says that people can get to where they want to be without being entirely motivated. Waking up 100% motivated is not a natural state! It took Ella way too long to realize that it’s more about momentum rather than motivation. One tiny action will start another action; thus, creating momentum!  Stay tuned as Ella gives two practical tools to untangle yourself from comparison, the best ways to interrupt your patterns, and how to overcome imposture syndrome. In this Episode: [ 3:15 ] What did the Dalmatian say after lunch? [ 4:10 ] About Ella [ 10:20 ] Start taking action [ 17:15 ] How to untangle yourself from comparison   [ 23:40 ] The best way to interrupt your patterns   [ 32:30 ] Overcoming imposture syndrome     Joy Filling Quotes:  “What is the tiniest thing I can do today that walks me in the direction I need to go?” “It’s not the doing; it’s the identity.” “See it so you can be it.” “I compare myself to ideal me all the time.” “Choose curiosity over judgment.” Resources:   On Air With Ella: https://www.onairella.com Ella’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OnAirwithElla/ Ella’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onairwithella/ Ella’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/onairella Awaken: www.rebelsforjoy.com/awaken Website: www.rebelsforjoy.com 5 Day Triple Your Joy Challenge: www.rebelsforjoy.com/free IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personals: @Bonniekelly.me & @JillianBolanz Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy