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Leading Saints is a nonprofit organization with a mission to help Latter-day Saints (LDS, Mormon) be better prepared to lead. Here are 4 ways Leading Saints accomplishes the above mission statement: 1. Connect Latter-day Saint Leaders 2. Enhance Leadership Ability 3. Present Leadership Scholarship & Research 4. Celebrate Divine Guidance Podcast Host: Kurt Francom is the founder and executive director of Leading Saints, a nonprofit organization helping Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. He manages the day-to-day efforts of Leading Saints and is the host of the podcast by the same name. Leading Saints has reached individuals internationally and has received over 2 million downloads. Kurt currently lives in Utah with his lovely wife Alanna. They are blessed to have three children. He enjoys drawing caricatures, playing basketball, reading, and watching college football. Kurt has served as a full-time missionary (California Sacramento), as a bishop, 1st counselor in a stake presidency, and elders quorum president.

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    Simplifying Ministering | A How I Lead Interview with Sarah Randall

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2022 47:42

    Sarah Randall grew up in Salt Lake City, Utah, served in the Portugal Lisbon South mission, and graduated from Utah State University in Elementary Education. She has served in many ward Primary, Young Women, and Relief Society presidencies in Iowa, Pennsylvania, Oklahoma and Alaska. Sarah and her husband have six children and together they love to backpack, hike, bike and kayak all over Alaska. Sarah recently served as a facilitator for the Church's new “Emotional Resilience-Strength in the Lord” course and was thrilled to find that it covers the stages of the grief cycle. She has found that understanding the grief cycle has been pivotal in processing the losses in her own life, in therapy, and as a leader in the church seeking to minister as Christ would. Understanding that the grief cycle applies to any loss in life including trauma and betrayal (not just death), has enabled her to be a better instrument for Christ to honor people's pain—to learn how to support them through that grief process—to mourn with those who mourn. She also has loved sharing some of her family's favorite kids books for grieving, gaining empathy, and connecting with joy in their Anchorage Stake Women's Conference, which can be found on her Instagram @strength.through.stories. Highlights 02:15 Sarah Randall's background. 06:45 Sarah talks about her experience in the Relief Society Presidency and their approach to ministering. 14:45 Connecting with sisters from all different backgrounds and experiences. Honor their experiences and validate them. 20:50 How to get to the point where people actually do open up to you. Removing the reporting dynamic when it comes to ministering interviews. Asking questions like, “what do you want?” or “how can I help you?” 25:25 Sarah shares a personal experience of how she was able to help a sister in her ward who had had a lot of neglect and trauma in her life. 28:10 Codependency is enabling unhealthy behavior. When we are reaching out to help someone they need to be engaged in the process. As a leader you can invite them to take action instead of doing it for them. 33:00 Other questions to ask someone in need: Who have you already asked for help? Do you have an extended family that can help? 35:40 When people came to Jesus he would always ask, “what do you want?” He didn't want to take away people's agency. 37:45 One thing that leaders should really understand and get familiar with is the grief cycle. Honor other people's feelings. 39:00 There are lots of unhelpful phrases like, “everything happens for a reason.” Links My Approach to Ministering Interviews | A How I Lead Interview with Sharon Kaye Fisher Instagram: @strength.through.stories TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library The Leading Saints Podcast gets over 300,000 listens each month and has nearly 10 million total downloads as part of nonprofit Leading Saints' mission to help latter-day saints be better prepared to lead. Learn more and listen to any of the past episodes for free at LeadingSaints.org. Past guests include Emily Belle Freeman, David Butler, Hank Smith, John Bytheway, Liz Wiseman, Stephen M. R. Covey, Julie Beck, Brad Wilcox, Jody Moore, Tony Overbay, John H. Groberg, Elaine Dalton, Tad R. Callister, J. Devn Cornish, Dennis B. Neuenschwander, Anthony Sweat, John Hilton III, Barbara Morgan Gardner, Blair Hodges, Ryan Gottfredson, Greg McKeown, DeAnna Murphy, Michael Goodman, Richard Ostler and many more in over 500 episodes. Discover podcasts, articles, virtual conferences, and live events related to callings such as the bishopric, Relief Society, elders quorum, Primary, youth leadership, stake leadership, ward mission, ward council, young adults, ministering, and teaching.

    The Next Phase of Leading Saints

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2022 10:47

    We are excited to launch Gathering Saints where we will provide remarkable in-person experiences in order to help individuals transform as leaders in their church, community, and home. To see the details of all upcoming retreat experiences, visit LeadingSaints.org/Gathering

    Intentionally Designing a Church Experience | An Interview with Mat Duerdon

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2022 59:42

    Mat Duerden received a Ph.D. from Texas A&M University and an M.S. from Brigham Young University. His experience design research focuses on memorable, meaningful, and transformative experiences. Mat is an Associate Professor of Experience Design and Management and Alumni Research Fellow in BYU's Marriott School of Business, and also teaches an honors program course, The Art of Transformative Storytelling. He works with organizations across a variety of sectors to provide training and consulting around experience design, and is also the co-author of the book Designing Experiences. Mat currently serves on his stake high council and in the stake Young Men presidency. Previous callings include bishopric counselor, Young Men president, elders quorum president, and executive secretary. He and his wife Chenae have four children and their favorite experiences occur outdoors on bikes, rafts, and skis. Highlights 01:45 Introduction to Mat Duerdon. He explains experience design. 11:15 How can leaders create an experience? What do you want people to say at the end of the experience? 23:30 When you are designing experiences in the church that doesn't mean you have to create something new. Take what you have and tweak it. 26:30 There is a pressure on the bishopric to make everyone's experiences great. 28:00 How to help the person that isn't enjoying the experience of church or activities. What are their needs? 29:45 Mat shares an example of creating an experience for a ward or community. 59-minute service projects. 31:30 All experiences have three phases An anticipation phase A participation phase A reflection phase 33:10 Good experiences ask for people's attention at the right points and respectfully minimize the attention needed at different points. 33:30 The anticipation phase. Make sure the information for an activity is very clear and given in advance. 34:45 Are there ways that we can create an anticipation phase for a sacrament meeting? 40:00 Good experience design is 90% creating really smooth-running, ordinary experiences. Leaders shouldn't be stressing out on doing huge things. 42:30 Start with just one thing that your ward or organization really needs to work on. It's better to do one or two things great than a bunch of things poorly. 44:00 The participation phase. We should be thinking about what needs we are trying to meet. Does your activity meet a need? 46:00 The reflection phase. The phase where we are actually harvesting what we've been growing. This is the phase that is most often overlooked but vitally important. 50:30 How do we help others in the reflection phase? Help them be a good storyteller. Retell their experience to someone. Journal about the experience. Make sure you follow up with them.

    Replacing Worry with Pondering | An Interview with Dan Duckworth

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2022 61:43

    This is a rebroadcast. The episode originally ran in May 2020.  Dan Duckworth is a disciple, family man, and changemaker. As a teacher and coach, he guides elite leaders to the top of their game. He's the author of Stop Asking Why: Your Purpose is Self-Evident, and president of the Leading Saints Board of Directors. Highlights 05:39: Dan discusses the life cycle of a crisis and creating a “new normal” for Home Church 11:51: Statistics of geographic areas and types of leaders that responded to survey 15:20: Bishops in a transactional mindset 18:13: All about hypothetical worries 21:14: Feeling like you need to be doing something 23:32: The Youth Program and God's plans for 2020 27:33: Taking a break from worrying to ponder 30:40: Comparing yourself and your ward to others' 35:18: D&C 1, Hyrum Smith, and disciplined reflection 42:28: Creating connections in ministering and knowing what God wants us to do as leaders 51:02: Knowing the why behind actions you take and transactional mindset vs transformation mindset 55:45: Reintegrating into regular church life 58:32: The number one leadership tool Links DanDuckworth.net Subscribe to the Leading Saints Newsletter The One Thing Bishops Worry Most About During Church-at-Home, and Why They Should Stop Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Hidden Leadership Principles in the Lives of Nephi & Jacob | An Interview with Joseph Spencer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2022 61:33

    Joseph M. Spencer is a philosopher and an assistant professor of ancient scripture at Brigham Young University. He has a BA in philosophy from BYU, an MLIS in library science from San Jose State University, and an MA and PhD in philosophy from the University of New Mexico. Joseph is the author of six books, including the recently-published Book of Mormon Studies: An Introduction and Guide. He serves as the editor of the Journal of Book of Mormon Studies, as the associate director of the Latter-day Saint Theology Seminar, and a vice president of the Book of Mormon Studies Association. In the church, Joseph has served as an early morning seminary teacher, Gospel Doctrine teacher, a counselor in a variety of presidencies, and currently serves as a bishop. He and his wife Karen have been married 20 years and have five kids. Highlights 01:00 Introduction to Joseph Spencer 03:40 Advice Joseph would give to his younger self about teaching. 04:30 How Joseph got into philosophy and how he ended up at BYU teaching religion. 08:00 Advice to make scripture study better. Slow it down. 09:50 Joseph talks about his experience as a Bishop and things that have worked. 13:50 Joseph's perspective on repentance and how he compares it to the sabbath. 19:50 What are we missing when we read the Book of Mormon? We are good at connecting with the divine but we aren't actually paying attention to what is said. We are really bad at getting the big picture. 26:00 Leadership in the Book of Mormon. Nephi's leadership and struggle to be a leader. 37:30 The dynamic between Nephi, Laman and Lemuel. 44:00 Asking questions and figuring out what your role is as a leader. We tend to want to follow a formula or rely solely on the handbook. 46:20 Going deeper into Nephi. Joseph shares his perspective on Nephi's leadership. 56:40 Nephi and Jacob were able to tell their own stories in the Book of Mormon. They didn't portray themselves as perfect. They showed us their imperfection. 59:20 The passage of scripture that Joseph shares with people most often is Ether 12. Links Book of Mormon Studies: An Introduction and Guide Y Religion: Hugh Nibley's Contribution to Book of Mormon Studies Art: Go and Do, by Jorge Cocco Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    The Power of Connection | How I Lead with Kurt Francom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2022 55:01

    This episode is a conversation on the One Heart One Light podcast with Matt Allred, where Kurt talks about the power of story and how we can connect and find healing through our stories. Highlights 03:25 Introduction to Kurt Francom 04:40 Kurt talks about his path to starting Leading Saints. 10:30 The most important thing that Kurt has learned as a leader 14:20 Master the skill of connecting. Connecting person to person. 15:00 How do you get people to open up and connect with you? 18:00 Most people want to share more but they don't feel safe. As a leader you can help create a safe space for people to share and open up. 23:45 Worried about oversharing? Share the past transgression because that also shares the past redemption. 24:50 After Christ's resurrection He shared his scars. Just as it was important for Christ to share His scars, it's important for us to share our own scars. 30:45 What does it mean to bear each other's burdens? 32:30 Kurt shares his own personal experience of reaching out to a friend going through a hard time. He has learned to just be present with them. 34:15 Oftentimes we feel shame just as Adam did in the Garden of Eden and hide from God and others. God is calling out, “where are you?” 38:00 While service is also a part of bearing other's burdens, it means so much more when you also have a great connection with that person. You have sat with them and listened to their story. 38:40 What's the value of brotherhood? There is a hole in our hearts that can only be filled with brotherhood. 47:10 Kurt talks about where he plans to go with Leading Saints and his vision for it. 50:30 Kurt speaks to what he thinks building Zion looks like and what we need to do to get there. Links One Heart One Light TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    The Leadership of C.S. Lewis | An Interview with Crystal Hurd

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2022 68:38

    Crystal Hurd is an educator, poet, and researcher from Virginia. She holds a master of arts in Literature from East Tennessee State University, a master of fine arts in Creative Writing from the University of Texas at El Paso, and a doctorate in Educational Leadership and Policy Analysis from East Tennessee State University. Her doctoral research focused on C. S. Lewis as a Transformational Leader. Crystal currently serves as reviews editor for Sehnsucht: The C. S. Lewis Journal. Her articles have appeared in SEVEN, Christian History Magazine, Inklings Forever, Perichoresis, and The Faithful Imagination. She serves as a visiting professor for Northwind Seminary's Doctorate in Theology and Ministry for Inkling Studies and Romantic Theology as well as the Master's in Spirituality, Creativity, and Writing. Crystal has been happily married for over twenty years to a technology director. They have two boisterous rescue dogs. Highlights 3:30 Introduction to Kurt's Cohost, Tyler Snow 4:40 Crystal talks about why she wrote her book about C.S. Lewis 6:45 C.S. Lewis was a servant and that's what made him a leader. He was a mentor to many. 8:40 Summary and life scope of C.S. Lewis 17:40 Crystal wrote her dissertation on transformational leadership and she explains what it is. She explains how C.S. Lewis embodies this type of leadership and how he transformed the lives of so many. 21:40 Lewis got a lot of criticism when he wrote The Screwtape Letters. Many people thought he was giving voice and sympathy for the devil. 24:00 Lewis brought people to Christianity. He went through his own faith crisis and was an atheist for a time. Because of these experiences, he was able to understand the doubts and faith journeys that people go on. He was able to speak to so many through his own experiences. 28:30 Is C.S. Lewis relevant to modern-day Christians? 32:30 Crystal gives her advice to leaders on how they can use Lewis' writing with their congregations 35:30 Crystal explains different leadership models 43:00 Being a leader without having a title and what we can learn from that. C.S. Lewis is a perfect example of this. 47:10 How can we find balance in serving and being there for people while still setting boundaries for ourselves? Delegation Find other people's talents and build them up 52:30 Was C.S. Lewis radical in his beliefs? 55:00 Although C.S. Lewis was considered a saint, he had his personal struggles and he sinned just like us. 1:01:00 C.S. Lewis was a wounded healer. He was able to help people because he had experienced the same things. Links The Leadership of C. S. Lewis: Ten Traits to Encourage Change and Growth CrystalHurd.com Twitter: @doctorhurd Instagram: @doctorhurd Image: Aronsyne, CC BY-SA 4.0, via Wikimedia Commons

    Love, Share, Invite Isn’t Just a Missionary Effort | An Interview with Jason Noel

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2022 41:36

    Jason Noel currently serves on his stake high council with a stewardship over missionary work. He has served previously as a bishopric counselor, elders quorum president, and as a teacher in Primary, Sunday School, and Young Men. He is passionate about entrepreneurship and developing businesses that reflect and engage his interests. He owns a hot rod shop in Arizona called Fat Fender Garage, that specializes in building custom-classic-trucks and Broncos. They have recently been awarded “Builder of the Year” for the second year in a row in addition to features and awards from numerous shows and publications. Jason and his wife, Jen, share a combined family of eight children in Gilbert, Arizona. Highlights 01:15 Introduction to Jason Noel. His work and church callings. 05:00 Jason's approach to love, share, and Invite. He explains what it is and how he uses it in ward counsel. Ward counsel is more focused on people rather than spiritual thoughts, training, or activities. 13:10 We do not decouple love, share, invite. It is one thing. 16:30 We need to change how we do ward councils. A great question is, “Who has been on your mind this week?” “What invitation can we extend and who can extend it to?” The ward council doesn't do all the work but they come up with the ideas and take those to the different organizations. 19:30 We need to free up some time in ward council. What can we eliminate? What traditions do we need to let go? We need more time to discuss people. 22:40 Invitations don't have to be big. They should be small and feel natural. Think of some invitations that you can make. 24:40 Everything that Jason does in his stake comes back to love, share, and invite. It's teaching, loving, and sharing just the way that Christ did it. It's not a missionary tool, it's a way of life. 27:40 What does it mean to love? Love is compassion and understanding. 30:50 What is the share component? It's what either you can contribute or what they can contribute. This is where activities come into play. Don't have ward activities, have community activities. 34:30 Making invitations. It doesn't have to be a spiritual invitation. Jason gives ideas on what invitations to give. 38:50 People don't change unless an invitation is extended. 41:10 Create accountability in ward counsel. Write down what the invitations were and then follow up to see how they went. Maybe they need to be changed. 42:00 Jason shares thoughts on how being a leader has taught him how to be more like Christ. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    How to Use BYU–Pathway in Your Ministry | An Interview with J. D. Griffith

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2022 60:34

    J.D. Griffith is the Vice President of Administration for BYU-Pathway Worldwide, an online higher education organization serving nearly 60,000 students from over 180 countries, and was its first employee in 2009 when he assisted with the creation of the original Pathway program. He previously worked at BYU-Idaho as a faculty member in the College of Business and as an administrator in the Division of Continuing Education. J.D. holds a bachelor's degree in business management, and an MBA and a PhD in business administration. His previous church callings include bishop, counselor in the bishopric, high councilor, elders quorum president, Young Men president, ward clerk, Gospel Doctrine teacher, and missionary in the Ireland Dublin Mission. He currently serves as a primary activity leader. He and his wife Tasha have five children and one grandchild. Highlights 03:45 Introduction to J.D. Griffith and how Pathway began back in 2008. 05:50 How is the Pathway program different from an online university? J.D. explains why this program was formed. 12:00 While the majority of the Pathway program is online, they meet weekly in person. 14:00 How does it work? Can you get any degree? 15:40 J.D. talks about who the Pathway Program is for. 21:00 The Pathway program is so unique and possible through the church that would not be possible through other universities. The church has been able to subsidize tuition, use senior missionaries as volunteers, and access to the church buildings to hold classes. 24:30 What to expect in the Pathway Program. Step 1 - Pathway Connect (first year) Step 2 - Certification Step 3 - Associate's Degree Step 4 - Bachelor's Degree 29:30 The first year is a transition into college. It's about coming together and helping each other on a weekly basis. The first year has life skills, university skills, and other basic classes. 32:15 Pathway is for the unemployed or underemployed. It can help them get job ready certificates. 33:40 How can leaders use BYU Pathway in their ministry? 34:50 Leaders can help the young single adults that get left behind when everyone else is off to college by inviting them to do Pathway. It also helps these individuals get involved in institute. 37:50 Mission Presidents and Bishops should offer the Pathway Program for recently returned missionaries. 41:15 Pathway is a great way for a leader to connect with Individuals that are less active in the church. It's less intimidating than inviting them to go to church. 42:20 Leaders can connect with part member families with Pathway. 44:00 The Pathway Program can help recent converts and help continue to nurture them. 45:20 Pathway is for non native English speakers. They will have the opportunity to learn English along with the curriculum. 47:30 How can leaders better promote the Pathway program? Find the local BYU Pathway missionaries Invite Pathway missionaries to your ward counsel Have a Stake Education Specialist Identity individuals in your ward and talk with them 51:10 J.D. elaborates more on how special the Pathway Program is and how it can serve so many different kinds of people. 53:15 Even though the costs are low there are scholarships available to those that need it. 54:20 J.D. shares more about himself and his own education. Links BYU–Pathway Worldwide byupathway.org/churchleaders Contact service missionaries near you TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    How I Lead a Spanish-Speaking Ward in an English-Speaking Stake | An Interview with Walter Franco

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2022 53:51

    Walter Franco most recently served as a bishop and has previously served as an elders quorum president, Young Men president, Sunday School teacher, ward mission leader, and as a missionary in Jacksonville, Florida. He is a principal for a boutique sports business consulting firm based out of Park City, serves on a few University of Utah boards and the KSL Community Board, and is president of a non-profit that raises college scholarship funds for DACA students in Utah. Walter and his wife have been married for 14 years, have three daughters, and currently live in Herriman, Utah. Highlights 02:30 Getting called as a Bishop in a Spanish speaking ward and ward dynamics 10:00 There is actually a lot of diversity in a Spanish speaking ward. They are united by language but there are a lot of different cultures. It can cause drama and clics and Walter talks about how they created more unity. 12:40 Principle #1: See them as the Lord sees them. 16:00 Walter gives examples of how he goes about helping people in the Bishop's office. He strives to give the individual ownership of their repentance rather than just giving them a prescription like a doctor. 19:30 Walter elaborates more on how he works with other leaders in the ward and the struggle in the Spanish ward to have strong leadership. He gives examples of how he gives feedback. It's important to understand that it's a process not an event. 24:45 Principle #2: Listen first and listen a lot before you speak This is the way to gain confidence and create great relationships Ask lots of questions and really understand where they are coming from and going through 30:00 Helping individuals with doctrinal questions. They might not get answers to certain questions in this lifetime but you can bring them back to core principles and doctrines. 31:15 Principle #3: My role is to lead by serving. Be the first one to extend your hand or respond 36:50 Leading a Spanish unit in an English Stake. Walter shares his view on how to address common misconceptions that English speakers have. Remember that we are united by faith and struggle with a lot of the same things. 49:00 Apps they use in the ward. Whatsapp has helped them create different groups and communicate easier. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Why Religious Answers Alone Won’t Help Overcome Pornography | An Interview with Clay Olsen

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2022 70:37

    Clay Olsen serves as the CEO and Founder of Impact Suite, which owns and operates a suite of award-winning self-care apps that have helped hundreds of thousands of individuals find deeper healing and recovery in over 150 countries. Early in his career, he co-founded and lead the creation of Fight the New Drug—a youth movement dedicated to raising awareness on the harmful effects of pornography and other forms of sexual exploitation through science, facts, and personal accounts. He now sits on the board of directors and helps guide the larger vision. Highlights 01:15 Introduction to Clay Olsen. 05:00 What are bishops/leaders missing what it comes to pornography? Most are wildly naïve to the scope of pornography. Bishops focus on boosting their spirituality but don't help the individual get professional help. Both are needed. 10:15 Therapy is just one way to get help with addiction but for some other methods might be more helpful. 13:00 Addiction can be a huge Mount Everest. Instead of focusing on the summit, focus on the next right step. 14:00 Addiction or mental health issues boil down to a deficiency in 1 of 3 relationships. Relationship with self Relationships with others Relationship and connection to a higher power 16:00 Clay highly recommends approaching recovery through community. Having a support system is a powerful tool for recovery. 20:45 Are Sunday School lessons on pornography helpful? Clay gives his tips on how to teach it. 29:00 How can do reduce shame around pornography addiction? Guilt vs shame What drives the shame? 42:20 Fight the New Drug and other organizations have a lot of free resources that leaders can use in lessons. 46:50 Fortify is an app designed to help individuals heal and recover. Missionaries will also have access to this app. 49:15 Clay and Kurt discuss accountability. Fortify is not an accountability app. 53:40 Is pornography an addiction? It's a spectrum of struggle. Be careful of what you call an addiction, especially when talking about young people. 1:01:40 Often times a person struggling with pornography is also struggling with their mental health. 1:06:00 We often discount the role that our lifestyles and environments have played in our collective mental health. While depression can be genetic, it is most commonly a disease of our civilization and lifestyle. Links FightTheNewDrug.org ImpactSuite.com, workplace mental health support Brain, Heart, World docuseries Let's Talk About Porn, conversation blueprint Fortify, app for quitting porn TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    When the Youth Planned Stake Conference | A How I Lead Interview

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2022 31:01

    In this podcast, Kurt sits down with four members of the Little Valley Stake in St. George, Utah, to talk about what happened when the stake president asked the youth (and their leaders) to plan stake conference. Guests include stake high councilor and Young Men leader Steve Chase, stake youth council member and high school sophomore Lucy Hansen, stake Young Women president Ashlie Bundy, and Brad Simister, second counselor in the stake presidency. Highlights 01:45 Introductions to the speakers. 03:20 Planning for stake conference. They felt that the stake youth committee should plan and prepare stake conference. 05:15 Lucy, from the youth council, describes how they went about planning everything. 05:45 Ashlie talks about the difficulties they encountered at first and her role as a leader to help the youth open up. 08:45 President Simister goes into how they structured the meetings. Overall, the stake president would just ask for updates but let everyone do their thing. 10:30 Lucy gives advice to other youth councils that might want to do the same thing. 11:15 The stake presidency planned the leadership meeting and youth were in charge of the adult session and general meeting. The youth committee was asked, “What do you want your parents to know?” That was the focus of the planning sessions and conference. 12:30 The benefit of having the youth help plan the conference was that they felt a part of it. It wasn't just another adult meeting. 13:50 The youth chose the topics. They chose and wanted to hear about anxiety, mental health, how adults can connect with youth, and the second coming. 16:20 How they got the youth to open up, get engaged, and share ideas. 17:30 The leaders really stepped back and let the youth lead. 20:00 The stake president and other leaders were able to teach the youth how to create and get the agenda approved and speakers approved. 22:15 Lucy gives her perspective on how the stake conference went and how planning it changed her experience. 24:15 The youth felt special and valued by being included in the planning process. 26:10 Overall, the experience was positive for the youth and adult leaders. 26:50 There was more effort to include and work with the youth but there is power in it. It will help the youth with their future callings. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    How Power & Authority Impact Well-Intentioned Church Leaders | An Interview with Brian Klaas

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2022 59:15

    Brian Klaas is an expert on democracy, authoritarianism, US Politics, Western foreign policy, political violence, and elections. He has advised governments, US political campaigns, international politicians, the European Union, NATO, and more. Brian holds a doctorate in politics from the University of Oxford and is an associate professor in Global Politics at University College London. He is a regular commentator and political consultant to an extensive lineup of international media outlets, a Washington Post columnist, and the author of several books, including Corruptible: Who Gets Power and How It Changes Us, a look at what power is, who gets it, and what happens when they do. Highlights 01:45 Brian tells about his background, work, and new book. 05:45 Corruption in power 10:15 A lot of the time the wrong people get into power because of their superficial charm. 12:45 The importance of having the right people in power and the consequential outcomes 14:25 Studies show that we choose leaders by how they look. 16:00 Do we have biases, based on looks, in the church when selecting leaders? 20:00 How can we pick the best leaders without letting our natural human biases get in the way? 27:00 Brian's overall message from his book is that there are better and worse ways to select leaders. It takes a lot of self reflection. 28:00 Systems matter a lot for how humans behave. Brian explains why that matters. 29:40 As latter-day saints we are afraid to challenge the system. 30:50 We don't always have to destroy the whole system but maybe tweak something small that could make a big difference or be more effective. 34:50 Different types of power hungry people; it isn't always bad. There is a stigma in church that people shouldn't want high leadership roles and power. It's all about being humble. 40:30 Hungry to serve rather than power hungry 43:45 Does having a position of power corrupt us? 48:15 Kurt describes his experience as bishop in an inner city area that had high need. He had to balance his empathy for these people but still stay in control of the finances. 49:30 The goldilocks solution: just the right amount of emotional distance. As leaders we have to have a balance of empathy and pragmatism. 54:30 How do we deal with corrupt leaders? Links Corruptible: Who Gets Power and How It Changes Us BrianPKlass.com TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    Is Elders Quorum Working?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2022 74:41

    We are instructed in the General Handbook (8.1.1) that “Members of the elders quorum work together to help accomplish the work of salvation and exaltation. They serve others, fulfill priesthood duties, build unity, and learn and live doctrine.” How effective is your quorum at succeeding in this purpose? Is there more that can be done to leverage the inspired quorum structure that has been restored in these latter days? The reality is, men live lives of quiet desperation even while attending elders quorum once a week. They attend elders quorum with the hope of brotherhood, unity, and a restoration of their heart. Every man is striving to answer one question, “Do I have what it takes?” They wonder if they have what it takes to support a family, keep their job, overcome addiction, maintain their worthiness. They know the restored gospel can help them answer that question but they don't know where to find the answer. In this episode, Kurt Francom discusses some points to consider related to the heart of men and how the adversary is winning the heart of many men in ways we may not expect. There is great opportunity to build brotherhood in our quorum in order to give more purpose in the lives of those who attend. Kurt also discusses the powerful experience he and others have had by attending a Wild at Heart Boot Camp and how it can help establish an effective model for increasing elders quorum brotherhood and unity. Next Boot Camp Details & Registration Highlights 02:45 Is Elder's quorum a revelatory experience? 04:20 The number one thing that men would change about Elder's Quorum, that isn't a policy, is to have more informal meetings and get togethers. They are seeking more connection and comradery. 06:25 What is the purpose of Elders Quorum? 08:20 Never let an Elders Quorum meeting turn into another Sunday School class. 9:45 As an Elders Quorum Presidency, are you fulfilling your purpose to: Serve others Build unity and brotherhood Instruct members on doctrines, principles, and duties 11:45 Kurt quotes a blog by Sheldon Lawrence, “A Quorum of Strangers.” Mormon men live isolated and lonely lives. 14:00 Kurt quotes proverbs 12:27 “The substance of a diligent man is precious.” 14:30 What is the biggest threat to men today? The heart of men is under attack. Everyday men ask themselves, “Do I have what it takes?” 16:25 How does the adversary work? 19:25 Kurt talks about how to help the men that are struggling and the things that are probably not going to help. 23:45 Kurt describes the book Wild at Heart by John Eldridge. The main three concepts of the book are: A battle to fight An adventure to live A beauty to rescue 28:00 Kurt relates his experience of going to the Wild at Heart boot camp, which Kurt describes as a leadership conference in the woods. 33:00 Chris shares his story of healing, doubting God, and going to the Wild at Heart men's retreat. 44:00 The thing that impressed Chris most about the retreat was how the men interacted with each other. They came together and “prayed on” each other. 46:40 One thing that Chris was introduced to at the retreat is worship music and it's something that he has been able to take home to keep changing. 48:00 Steve shares his experience at the Wild at Heart retreat and recovery from addiction. 50:30 The biggest thing that impacted Steve was experiencing God's love through brotherhood. 54:00 James White from Southern California shares his journey getting to boot camp and his experience there. 59:20 James from Utah shares his struggle with pornography, going through the shame cycle, and his anger with God. Boot camp changed the spiritual trajectory of his life. 1:06:35 Orin shares how going to boot camp helped him and how it strengthened his relationship with God. 1:11:40 Kurt concludes by sharing more about the retreat and how to sign up. Links See Boot Camp Schedule & Register (Promo Code: Lea...

    When Ward Members Struggle with Adult Children | An Interview with Bonnie Lyman

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2022 45:40

    Bonnie Lyman has a BA in Elementary Education, is the parent of five "grown up kids", and a certified life coach. She has served as a ward Relief Society, Primary, and Young Women president, as a stake Young Women president and Primary counselor, a youth Sunday School, Primary, and Relief Society teacher, and as a mission medical coordinator and a music coordinator. Bonnie and her husband served in the Kenya Nairobi Mission as service missionaries before she launched her coaching business in 2019, and she now works with women struggling in their relationships with their adult children. Highlights 02:15 Introduction to Bonnie and her mission with her husband. 04:30 Bonnie talks about what she does and navigating life with adult children. 08:15 Bonnie talks about the biggest concerns that parents have with adult children. Most parents are concerned about their children leaving the Church and how to deal with it. 11:45 As parents to adult children remember that your only job is to love them. 12:15 One of the biggest things that parents of adult children struggle with is their children's choices. They think that their children's choices are a reflection of their parenting. 19:00 Remember that your kids have agency. As parents we get stuck knowing what our responsibility is as a parent and when to let our kids exercise their agency. 21:30 Sometimes we have to surrender to God and remember that He is the all knowing parent. We have to stay out of God's business. 25:30 Bonnie gives her advice on how parents can deal with different behaviors from not moving out to drugs and alcohol. 31:50 We depend too much on our adult children to meet our needs. We are responsible for fulfilling our own needs. For example: Wanting equal time for holidays Wanting your children to call you everyday 34:35 How Bonnie would coach a parent wanting their children to fulfill their needs. Identify what they were feeling and the thought that was creating that feeling 40:45 What can parents do who have children who have completely severed the relationship? 46:50 What kind of a relationship do you have with yourself? The more you accept yourself, the more you can accept others for who they are. Links BonnieLyman.com Podcast: Loving on Purpose Instagram: @bonnielymancoaching TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    A Leader’s Vision is Only the Beginning | A How I Lead Interview with Greg and Deborah Stapley

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2022 41:49

    Gregory K. Stapley is the executive chairman and recently-retired chief executive officer of CareTrust REIT, a real estate investment trust investing in healthcare real estate. He received his J.D. from the University of Arizona and his B.A. in Humanities from Brigham Young University. He is a stake president and former high councilor, bishop, bishopric counselor, Gospel Doctrine teacher and missionary in the Spain Seville Mission. Deborah E. Stapley got her start in television in the late 80's after winning a nationwide how-to video competition on ABC's The Home Show. She spent the next 15 years appearing on The Home Show, Good Morning America, The Leeza Show, and The Better Homes and Gardens Network. She eventually hosted several craft shows on the DIY network and The Learning Channel and served as a spokesperson for Department 56 and Charles Craft. She is a Relief Society teacher and former stake Relief Society president, stake Relief Society presidency counselor, stake music chair, stake temple youth celebration director, ward Young Women president, ward Young Women adviser, ward Missionary, and Primary chorister. With Deborah, Greg has accepted the calling to serve as mission president over the Mexico Querétaro Mission beginning July 2022. Greg and Deborah have six children and fifteen grandchildren, and live in San Juan Capistrano, California. Highlights Summary coming soon Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Defeating Fear, Doubt & Discouragement | An Interview with Dennis Deaton

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2022 56:30

    Dennis R. Deaton is co-founder of Quma Learning Systems and a nationally known corporate educator and popular convention speaker on Mind Management, Human Productivity, Visioneering and The Ownership Spirit. He has taught numerous adult education classes for the Church Education System and was a regular speaker at BYU Campus Education Week for 22 years. Dennis received his BA degree from the University of Utah and his doctorate from Washington University in St. Louis, and has authored several books including his capstone work, Looking Unto Christ in Every Thought: Defeating Fear, Doubt and Discouragement, which was released this year. Dennis served a full-time mission to Italy and has held numerous leadership positions in the Church: elders quorum president, branch president, bishop, high councilor, stake Young Men president, and counselor in a stake presidency. He and his wife, Susan, reside in Queen Creek, Arizona, and are the parents of nine children and thirty grandchildren. He currently serves as stake patriarch and as a temple worker in the Gilbert Arizona temple. Highlights 01:15 Introduction to Dennis Deaton 03:00 Dennis' journey started in dentistry but ended up in teaching. 06:30 Dennis talks about his leadership experience and his training company. 11:40 What is mind management? How can leaders apply it? 22:15 We are responsible for our state of mind. Remember that attitude is a choice. You are in charge of the states of mind that you dwell in. 25:25 We all receive temptations but we get to choose the intensity and duration of those temptations. We need to intercept those thoughts. 28:15 How can leaders help those they lead with mind management and dealing with negative thoughts and temptations? A great leader is a great teacher Validate their feelings first and then teach them about their feelings and where those thoughts are coming from 31:00 Are the negative thoughts coming from ourselves or our enemy? Start questioning your thoughts and where they are coming from. 35:00 Righteousness is being enticed to do evil and not going there. 36:20 There is an aggressive force that is against our eternal progression. Satan interjects thoughts into our heads so subtly that we think they are our own. We have to push back against these thoughts and turn to God. 39:00 How do we look unto Christ in every thought? 44:00 Satan uses fear to paralyze us and prevent us from acting on possibilities. He wants to prevent us from even starting. 48:00 Satan uses discouragement to get us to quit. There is no magic solution except to keep going and keep praying. 49:45 Always have a pad and pencil close by when you pray. Be ready to listen. 51:40 Dennis speaks about his experience as a Patriarch and what he does to prepare for giving blessings. Links Looking Unto Christ in Every Thought: Defeating Fear, Doubt and Discouragement TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Sanctifying Gathered Israel While We Gather Scattered Israel | A How I Lead Interview with Tim Welch

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2022 53:18

    Tim Welch currently serves as second counselor in the Provo Missionary Training Center presidency. He previously presided over the Ohio Cincinnati Mission and has served as a stake president, bishop, high councilor, MTC branch presidency counselor, ward Young Men president, elders quorum president and missionary in the Michigan Lansing Mission. Professionally, he was vice president of sales for Won-Door Corporation. He and his wife Michele have five children and live in Highland, Utah. Highlights 01:30 President Welch's background and callings 03:15 President Welch talks about his experience so far in the MTC 06:40 Current plan for missionaries entering the MTC 09:45 How should missionaries prepare for the mission? President Welch gives his advice from his experience as a Mission President and MTC Counselor 14:20 When everything is important then nothing is important. Simplify and find a place to focus. The central message is to be holy and clean and everything that is taught should stay close to that central message. 17:00 President Welch gives an example of how he taught his missionaries 20:30 Sometimes leaders overcomplicate the Lord's work and try to be strategic. However, the most important thing to do as a leader is to model how to be clean and holy. 23:30 A mission president's focus shouldn't be numbers. When we focus more on faith, obedience, and sanctification then the numbers will get better too. 27:15 When we focus too much on convert baptisms we miss the true message. Missionaries need to be having deep and powerful experiences that are going to change their lives and make them better people. 27:40 How can local leaders work better with missionaries and vice versa? Let's trust that God will do the work and he will lead us. It's not about making people uncomfortable and getting them to do things that they don't want to do. 37:00 God's work is like no other work and we cannot treat it like any other work 40:00 Understanding passion and the doctrine behind it Links The Father's Day Classic Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Girls Camp, Grace, and the Bishop’s Office | An Interview with Emily Belle Freeman

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2022 54:32

    Emily Belle Freeman is a best-selling author and popular inspirational speaker. She has a deep love of the scriptures, which comes from a desire to find their application in everyday life. She is the author of numerous books, a favorite speaker at Time Out for Women, and cohosts with David Butler Don't Miss This, a "Come, Follow Me" study channel on YouTube. Emily has served in numerous callings in the Church, including in Young Women, Sunday School, Relief Society, and fourteen times as girls camp director. Her greatest joy comes from spending time with her family. Highlights 1:15 Introduction to Emily Belle Freeman 3:15 Emily's calling experience 4:00 What Emily learned as a girls camp director. She has been Girls Camp Director about 14 times. She explains how she let the girls lead girls camp. 10:15 Emily gives tips to structure girls camp. She involves the girls and they brainstorm all the activities, food, and ect all together. 12:00 One thing Emily learned as a Relief Society President 14:40 What should a leader do or say going to visit someone in the hospital? Just be there. 20:30 Emily and Kurt discuss grace and how we can give grace as leaders The difference between grace and the atonement Jesus will meet you where you are as you are with grace You don't have to qualify for grace. It's not after all you can do. 24:45 The different types of grace Saving grace helps us overcome sin and death Exalting grace helps you become like Him. It transforms us and lifts us up. 26:30 As leaders we need to begin by meeting people where they are as they are (acceptance stage). It's then that we invite Jesus in and lift. 28:25 Grace in the context of the bishop's office. Meet them where they are first and then see how they need to be lifted Love needs boundaries 31:45 Kurt and Emily discuss giving people grace but also having expectations for them. Emily shares a personal story of grace. 37:15 Bishops should acknowledge that people dealing with addictions and other problems are going to mess up and that's ok. They shouldn't set high expectations right off the bat. Expect them to mess up for a while as they go through the healing and changing process. 40:20 What is grace? Making space for growth and mistakes 41:50 Repentance: to turn again or turn back to. Repentance and grace work together as we turn to God for enabling strength. 44:45 What should bishops do to help people repent or turn back to God? 47:50 How does grace work when dealing with someone that has been excommunicated? Links Grace Where You Are Grace to Become EmilyBelleFreeman.com Don't Miss This Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    From Leading Marines to Leading Saints | A How I Lead Interview with Bart Sloat

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2022 54:42

    Barton Stuart Sloat was born in Dover-Foxcroft, Maine, the youngest of four children. He attended BYU before serving a mission in the Nevada Las Vegas Mission, and later attended the University of Utah, graduating in Political Science and receiving a commission as a 2d Lieutenant in the Marine Corps. He served as an Infantry Officer and commanded at the platoon, company, battalion and regimental level. He also served in numerous staff positions, including the faculty at the Marine Corps University in Quantico, Virginia, and on several combat tours of duty in Iraq and Afghanistan. He retired as a Colonel with 32 years of active duty in 2012. Bart's church service has included serving as a counselor in four bishoprics, a member of the high council, and in numerous teaching callings. He served as bishop and then stake president, and he and his wife, Anne, have been called to serve as mission leaders in the Hawaii Honolulu Mission beginning in July of 2022. The Sloats have five children and 19+ grandchildren. Highlights 01:15 Introduction to Bart Sloat and his leadership background 10:15 Bart describes the process of becoming a better leader in the military 14:00 Bart talks about what he learned from his leaders and mentors 15:00 The people that you are leading only care about four things. If you do those four things they will follow you anywhere. They have to know that you REALLY care about them Really care about their family That you are fair That you are consistent 16:00 God very rarely tells us why when he gives us a commandment. When people trust you as a leader they won't need to ask you why. 17:00 Bart's leadership experience in the church 18:15 Impactful moments from Bart's Marine Corp experience 23:40 Stimulus vs. response 25:30 Transitioning from a military leader to a new Bishop 30:30 The Bishop's focus should be on the youth. Help the ward understand this and consistently talk about it. 32:30 What Bart learned as a Bishop. People confuse God's love and God's approval. Help people understand that the commandments were given for our benefit. 35:30 Transitioning from being a Bishop to a Stake President and what he learned in the process 37:30 We should first be converted to the Lord and then the Church. Baptism is for the remission of sins not membership in the church and same with the sacrament. 46:30 Thoughts on becoming a Mission President. His main goal is to help each missionary feel the love of God, find success, and keep them there. 47:25 Bart's learning experience being a Stake President and dealing with missionaries 50:40 Truly caring about people is the most important thing to do as a leader Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    Navigating Autism as a Church Leader | An Interview with Michele Portlock

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2022 54:08

    Michele Portlock is a mother of four children living in Parker, Colorado. She earned a bachelor's degree in elementary education from Brigham Young University and worked as an elementary school teacher for two years before taking an extended sabbatical to raise her family. Michele recently completed a master's degree in behavior therapy from Arizona State University where she developed skills which enable her to help others navigate the autism experience. Michele has three neurodivergent children, and has spent countless hours researching and studying how to best provide necessary and adequate resources for her children. This learning sparked a desire in Michele to reach out and help other parents navigate the autism spectrum in a meaningful way. At church, Michele has served as a stake public affairs assistant director, in a Primary presidency and a Relief Society presidency, and as a teacher. She currently serves as the Relief Society President in her ward. Highlights 3:45 What does spectrum mean in the world of autism? 8:20 How can leaders help people that are autistic? Take autism on an individual basis Each autistic person has different needs 11:15 Autistic individuals don't always pick up on social cues. They can be very direct and honest, which could make others feel uncomfortable. 13:00 Many but not all autistic individuals have alexithymia, which is the lack of awareness of emotions. It's difficult to understand others' emotions. 16:00 Autism can be an invisible disability 17:30 Michele gives advice to the parents of autistic children and explains how she involves the leaders or teachers of her children 22:15 Is autism genetic? 25:00 Leadership and autism 30:00 Would it be possible for an autistic individual to handle a big calling? 35:30 Autistic individuals take a more logical approach rather than an emotional or empathetic one. Sometimes they can come off cold or harsh but that's just how they think. It's not them trying to offend. Learning to communicate with these individuals is important. 42:15 Michele shares her experience as a Relief Society president. Her number one takeaway is that we won't always connect with people but ministering is an opportunity to learn, love and listen. 47:10 When we accommodate one, we unknowingly accommodate many. We need to focus on inclusion because it's a way to show love. Links Podcast: Navigating the Spectrum with Michele Portlock MichelePortlock.com

    Creating Safety for LGBTQ Latter-day Saints in the Bishop’s Office | An Interview with Blake Fisher

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2022 66:39

    This is a rebroadcast. The episode originally ran in August 2020.  Blake Fisher works in the Brigham Young University Office of Success and Inclusion, offering confidential support to people who, for various reasons, feel marginalized. The goal is to help student body members feel unity. Previously he worked in the BYU University Relations office. One of his main areas of focus is helping LGBT students. He is a returned missionary. Highlights 3:24 Blake's personal experience helps him relate. How he has navigated that journey before, during and since his mission. Positive things Church leaders, family and friends have done to support him and help him feel valued and loved. Dealing with feelings of denial/shame/perfectionism. 10:50 Learning to value certain life challenges and feeling unconditional love from God and others. 12:00 The Success and Inclusion office provides support for individuals on campus facing challenges re: race, religion, gender, sexuality. Their support group may be otherwise small. How students are referred to this office. Why go there and not to a therapist? Guiding those who perceive discrimination. 17:00 The vast majority of stories he hears about interactions with Church leaders are positive, but occasionally the perception is that the interaction did not go well. 18:20 How Church leaders can manage expectations when inviting someone to the office and during the meeting in the office. Reducing anticipatory tension. Responsibilities of both parties, i.e. Church leader and the ward member. Increasing the comfort level. Active listening is vital. Don't offer canned responses. People want to feel understood. Drawing on the principles of listening espoused in Preach My Gospel. Good listening techniques. 33:13 Leaders and counselors can show vulnerability and develop skill as to how to “prime the pump” to help someone who feels exhausted emotionally by just showing up. Don't make them feel rushed. 39:49 Post-meeting anxieties. The individual may need reassurance in the days following a crucial conversation meeting. Helping those counseled to feel valued for who they are and not just based on certain decisions/behaviors they may have thus far exhibited. 44:00 Vulnerability hangover—the person feeling exhausted after they have shared deep things. Ensuring they see that what they told you hasn't changed for the worse your feelings about them as a person. Body language can make them feel awkward. They may feel uncertainty regarding the next step after sharing. Manage expectations. Don't exhibit passive-aggressive avoidance. Good intentions usually show. If they withdraw seek them out. 48:40 Having faith in God, not in a specific outcome is helpful when the future feels otherwise uncertain or hopeless. Avoiding comparisons with others. Journeys are individual. Focus on Christ now. 53:38 Sitting in the tension between faith and sexuality. Don't feel your only way out is to get rid of one of your sources of tension. If we overly focus on not having any tension, we may give up something important. Feel the joy of Christ. A leader can sit with someone in the tension even if he/she can't fix it. 58:40 Leaders can discern and focus on the light in someone's life. Light leads to more light. They need to know that if their choices lead to hard things, you are still there. Don't give the feeling you are ending the relationship just because they didn't go the way you had hoped. Maintain a sustained interest. 1:03:50 Spend time with LGBT people to get comfortable with them and other things will fall into place. Information and Links Find the BYU Office of Student Success and Inclusion at C-374 Abraham O. Smoot Building (ASB) or 2010 Wilkinson Student Center Hope Works: Mourn With Those That Mourn Read the TRANSCRIPT of this interview Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Are You a Command and Control Leader? | An Interview with David Kasperson

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2022 74:42

    David P. Kasperson has been building high-trust partnerships and innovative solutions for clients of FranklinCovey's Global Trust Practice for more than 15 years. Most of that time has been spent in collaboration with Stephen M. R. Covey, managing his speaking business, and custom client solutions as the Director of Business Development. An expert on trust, he has served clients via consulting, coaching, program design, and keynote speaking in more than twenty countries. He is co-author of the bestseller, Trust & Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash Greatness in Others. Kurt and David served together in the Sacramento, California mission. David has twice served as an elders quorum president and as a counselor, in a Young Men presidency, and as a teacher in Sunday School and Primary. Highlights 01:45 Introduction to David Kasperson and the book he co-authored with Steven M. R. Covey 04:30 Two styles of leadership Command and control Trust and inspire 05:00 David breaks down the command and control style of leadership Home teaching is enlightened command and control 16:00 The trust and inspire style of leadership Trust and inspire are action words not nouns Great leaders see and feel the greatness in everyone 24:00 Trust is a verb not a noun. When extending trust make sure you have clear expectations and a process of accountability 27:00 Real life examples and phrases to use and not to use to show that you trust an individual 31:30 The difference between trust and delegation 33:00 Management is for things, not people. We aren't trying to manage people. We are trying to help them grow. 42:30 Leadership is walking hand in hand with someone not stepping in and doing their job 54:15 We are afraid to let go of the control. We default to the command and control style of leadership. As a leader, you can have control without being controlling. Do we want compliance or conversion? 56:30 Leadership is really stewardship. God is trusting us to help others grow and learn. 57:40 Even those that we lead might prefer the command and control style of leading. They just want their leader to tell them exactly what to do. However, that is not what's best for growth. 1:01:00 Success vs. significance 1:03:45 Inspiration is a skill. It's a muscle that has to be worked. 1:07:50 David's new book gives you the day-to-day steps to take as a leader to inspire and extend trust. It's a great place for a new leader to begin. Links Trust and Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash the Greatness in Others FranklinCovey.com SpeedofTrust.com TrustandInspire.com TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Leaders Helping LGBTQ Latter-day Saints

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2022 19:17

    In this short interview, Kurt talks with Brent & Courtney Ebmeyer about the upcoming North Star Conference. The 2022 conference is June 9-11 both in-person and streaming online. Learn more about NorthStarLDS.org Listen to the podcast with Brent & Bruce Ebmeyer, Learning to Lead SSA Saints TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    Politics at Church | An Interview with Greg Matsen

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2022 63:16

    Greg Matsen is the founder of Cwic Media and the host of its primary show called Cwic Show, which focuses on cultural issues affecting the restored church. He ran a large web development and marketing firm representing the vast majority of the sporting goods industry and some of the auto industry in Newport Beach, California in the 1990s, then built a wealth management firm in Scottsdale, Arizona, which he sold in early 2020. Greg has studied the scriptures and history almost daily since his mission, seeks and develops interfaith relationships, and diligently seeks to help others learn what he has learned through lenses he developed called Cwic Interpreters. He also does a weekly Come Follow Me podcast. Greg has served as an elders quorum president, Gospel Doctrine teacher, Young Men president, in a stake Young Men presidency, and currently serves in a bishopric. Highlights 01:00 Introduction to Greg 06:45 The church and politics. Why are most members so conservative? 08:40 Greg's message to conservative members that are maybe going too far right. 13:00 What Greg says to more liberal members 15:15 How do we deal with politics at church? 17:40 What can leaders do to stay ahead of the issues? 26:00 How to get a well rounded perspective of the issues. Greg suggests to: Stay away from TV news Don't rely on social media for your news Read through articles that are well thought out 29:30 Focus on issues and not on demonizing the political parties 33:15 Politics and social media Not great for dialog The algorithm only shows what's most popular It's full of memes and doesn't show the full story Go to the actual source and form your own opinions 42:00 Greg explains his approach to Come Follow Me and why he got started teaching online about it 47:00 It's not easy to teach doctrine 52:00 Advice to parents or young adult leaders 56:45 One of the most important things that Greg has learned in leadership is service. It's not so much about what you say but the relationships that you form. Links cwicmedia.com Cwic Media on YouTube Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast

    The LGBTQ Journey Through the Bishop’s Office | An Interview with Tyler Lefevor and Samuel Skidmore

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2022 69:52

    Tyler Lefevor, PhD, is an assistant professor of psychology at Utah State University where his research focuses on understanding how LGBTQ+ latter-day saints can flourish. He was raised LDS, served a mission in the New Jersey, Cherry Hills mission, and served as an Elders quorum president for 4 years. Tyler has since left the church to marry his husband, Brock. He also operates a small therapy practice. Sam Skidmore, MS, is a third-year doctoral student of clinical/counseling psychology at Utah State University. He was raised in the church and served a mission in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Sam's research and clinical focuses include understanding the experiences of LGBTQ+ members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and ways in which LGBTQ+ mental health can be improved. Sam and Tyler are researching the experiences of LGBTQ+ latter-day saints with their church leaders. Their goal is to help leaders improve how they minister and interact with LGBTQ+ individuals. Tyler Lefevor Sam Skidmore Highlights 04:00 Introduction to Tyler and Sam and their research on LGBTQ Latter-day Saints 09:00 The study was focused on LGBTQ experiences with their church leaders. Their goal is to help leaders with their interactions with LGBTQ individuals. 10:20 Tyler and Sam share their own experiences coming out to their leaders and why they decided to come out 13:15 Sam tells his story. Sam goes into details of interactions with leaders, church members, and his family. 22:30 Tyler's story and experience of coming out. He also shares stories of experiences with family and leaders. 33:00 Sam's negative experience with his bishop and his feelings for the church and leaders now 35:45 Tyler shares his feelings on where he stands with the church and leaders. 38:15 Tyler shares findings from their research and gives suggestions to bishops and other leaders. Leaders need to understand why individuals are coming out to them so they can respond appropriately with what that individual needs. 40:50 Sam talks about what LGBTQ members found helpful in interviews with their bishop when coming out. Their research revealed that it wasn't what the bishop said but how he acted that was the most impactful. 42:00 Skills that leaders should learn are empathic listening skills. It's so much more about listening than saying the perfect thing. 43:45 When you know more you can do more. The more leaders know about LGTBQ individuals the better they can help them. Bishops should be open to talking about it and asking questions. 47:45 LGBTQ individuals' message to leaders 49:50 Stepping into the bishop's office can be an intimidating or even shameful experience but by changing the environment or moving out from behind the desk can make people feel more comfortable. 52:50 An important question that leaders to ask is, “tell me what it means to you to be queer?” 53:10 Meetings with the bishop can be very impactful to an individual that is opening up about their sexuality. One meeting can help them feel more included or lead them out of the church. 53:50 Tyler and Sam have a mission to get in front of ward and stake counsels to talk about their experience to help leaders improve how they lead and interact with LGBTQ members. 56:40 Tyler and Sam need leader's perspectives on how to counsel LGBTQ members and their feelings on it 57:40 Advice specifically for youth leaders. Youth leaders need to stop avoiding the topic of LGBTQ but begin to have open conversations about it on a yearly basis. 1:00:00 Kurt shares his own personal experience as a bishop and they discuss how a bishop should help LGBTQ members 1:07:30 What Sam and Tyler want to say to their previous church leaders and where they are at right now with their lives and happiness Links lgbtqmormonresearch.com Council presentation request Leadership experience survey Infographic: Counseling LGBTQ+ Latter-day Saints

    My Approach to Ministering Interviews | A How I Lead Interview with Sharon Kaye Fisher

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2022 35:57

    Sharon Kaye Fisher has been a president of ward Primary, Young Women, and Relief Society organizations. She served as stake Primary president with one branch 800 miles away and one branch covering remote villages throughout Alaska. Sharon Kaye was raised in southern California and met her husband, Brent, at Brigham Young University where she received her bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Education. She taught elementary school for a short time at the beginning of their marriage and then devoted her time as a stay-at-home mother to their four daughters and one son. Although she has mostly served in leadership callings, her love is teaching in the classroom with any age group. Sharon Kaye and Brent currently live in Anchorage, Alaska where she serves as the stake JustServe specialist. Highlights 01:30 Sharon's background 03:00 Getting called as a Relief Society President and her experience calling counselors 06:30 Sharon shares her approach to ministering as a Relief Society president 09:00 Sharon breaks down her principles of ministering Be a safe place. Keep confidentiality and don't judge. Be a good listening ear. Validate and acknowledge their feelings and experiences. Ask permission to share a thought or message. Ask specific questions. What do you need? What do you want? How can I support you? Leaders are connectors. You don't have to meet everyone's needs but you can connect them to people that can help. Encourage them to connect with God. Express love. Let them feel your love and be the bridge to help them feel the love of Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. 20:00 Principle one: Ask God what is most needed now 22:40 Principle two: Let God take you on detours. Make your plans but be willing to change course 27:00 Principle three: Give how you are able, God makes up the difference 29:30 Principle four: Strengthening those that you have stewardship over 31:45 Sharon shares her final thoughts on things that have worked for her to create unity and sisterhood Links Relief Society President Resources Listen on YouTube Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast

    Being an Essentialism Bishop | An Interview with Greg McKeown

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2022 61:31

    This is a rebroadcast. The episode originally ran in August 2016. Greg McKeown has dedicated his career to discovering why some people and teams break through to the next level—and others don't. The definitive treatment of this issue is addressed in his New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. Greg hosts The Essentialism Podcast and is the CEO of McKeown Inc., with clients including Adobe, Apple, Google, Facebook, Pixar, Salesforce.com, Symantec, Twitter, VMware, and Yahoo!. Originally from London, England, Greg now lives near Phoenix, Arizona, with his wife Anna and their family. In this interview Greg and Kurt talk about how the principle of Essentialism applies to his calling as bishop and the culture at-large in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. At the time of this recording, Greg was serving as bishop of his ward in California. Highlights 1:30 Introduction and Greg's background and how he ended up in America 9:00 Greg's testimony development 14:00 How Greg met his wife 16:30 Greg was a coauthor with Liz Wiseman on the book, Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter. 19:00 Getting called as bishop 21:50 What is Essentialism? The disciplined pursuit of less. 22:40 Greg talks about his book Essentialism and why he wrote it. 30:30 The closet analogy of essentialism and how it relates to leadership Our obligation as leaders is not to our traditions, to the past, or to what other people are doing. Strip away all the things that are non-essentials. 36:30 The power of saying no. Can I say no to “inspired” requests? Remember to pause and think. Remember that the Lord's voice wins over any other voice. Divine tradeoffs are a requirement of our lives. There are always hard tradeoffs. There are good and great things but we need to do the essential things. 43:20 Think of all the things that Jesus DIDN'T do. He didn't feel the obligation to do everything. He did His Father's will. 45:30 How do you create a culture of essentialism in your ward? Focus on the people instead of the programs and activities. When it comes to meetings in the church, have a tight purpose and a loose agenda. 55:45 Thomas S. Monson's experience struggling with the social obligations of his calling versus following the spirit. His life was a beautiful example of putting people first and the social obligations second. 58:30 Think about what sacrifice really is. For thousands of years it meant to kill and to cut a baby lamb. In our day it means to eliminate, or to make a tradeoff. You can't do it all. Links Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most GregMcKeown.com 7 Unbreakable Rules of a Meeting Liz Wiseman Interviews & Articles on LeadingSaints.org Creating Essential Change In Your Organization | An Interview with Greg McKeown Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast

    Keeping Jesus as the Center of Leadership | An Interview with John Hilton III

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2022 35:38

    John Hilton III was born in San Francisco and grew up in Seattle. He served a mission in Denver, and got a bachelor's degree from Brigham Young University. While there he met his wife Lani and they have six children. They have lived in Boise, Boston, Miami, Mexico, Jerusalem and China. John has a master's degree from Harvard and a Ph.D from BYU, both in Education. John is a professor of Religious Education at BYU. John has published several books with Deseret Book, including Considering the Cross: How Calvary Connects Us with Christ. He is also the author of the video course and podcast “Seeking Jesus.” John loves teaching, reading and spending time with his family. Highlights 3:30 Kurt and John talk about John's new course, Seeking Jesus. 5:30 Jesus should be at the center of our lives. Sometimes we focus on other parts of the gospel and forget that He comes first. 9:40 How do we make sure that Christ is at the center? 16:00 What if we didn't just focus on scripture study but Christ study? What if we didn't just go to the temple to focus on the ordinance but focus on how it connects us to Christ? 17:50 The sacrament can be an ordinance that becomes very commonplace that we forget to focus. There needs to be a mindset shift to make it a worshiping moment. 19:00 If you are looking for a way to grow and worship Christ then take President Nelson's challenge. Read all the verses in the topical guide about Jesus Christ. The promise is that you will be changed. 21:45 How can we make Come Follow Me more meaningful? In every story we need to figure out how it connects to Christ. 25:55 Where is your hope centered? There are so many things that we hope for but our real hope should be centered on Jesus Christ. 27:00 John breaks down what people will learn in his new course. 30:00 John gives his book recommendations on Jesus Christ from authors from other religions. 31:15 Our time at church is limited so everything that we speak about needs to be connected to the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Links Seeking Jesus course Considering the Cross: How Calvary Connects Us With Christ Bearded Bishops, Rated-R Movies, & the Honor Code | An Interview with John Hilton III Connecting Others to Jesus Through the Cross at Calvary | An Interview with John Hilton III Instagram: @johnhiltoniii

    Connecting People to Overcome Pornography | An Interview with Chandler Rogers

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 23, 2022 30:52

    After years of struggling in isolation to overcome pornography, Chandler founded Relay—an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. It makes it easy to find and maintain tight-knit support in a team-based environment. Chandler served a Spanish-speaking mission in New York City and is graduating this spring from Brigham Young University in Strategy and Computer Science. Highlights 2:00 Chandler's background and why he started his app 6:00 Chandler talks about his teenage years and dealing with pornography. He was able to open up to his bishop and his parents. 8:10 Finding connection and community 9:15 Chandler explains why he started the app. 10:45 How the app works and what you can do on it Track your personal journey Daily check-ins Give and get support through conversation 16:45 How are people using the app and who is it for? It's not an app just for pornography or just for guys You can get matched into a group with people with similar problems Great for addiction recovery groups Find connections beyond in person 12 step meetings Anyone can join the app 23:20 What is the future of the Relay app? 27:20 Final thoughts and why the app is such a powerful tool to connect, find support, and overcome challenges Links VIDEO version of this podcast A leader's intro to the Relay App Visit https://joinrelay.app to download the app or share it with a loved one Instagram @joinrelay TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    Teaching Temple Covenants | An Interview with Anthony Sweat

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2022 50:27

    Anthony Sweat is an Associate Professor of Church History and Doctrine at Brigham Young University, and previously taught Seminary and Institute for 13 years. With an early interest in art he obtained a Bachelor of Fine Arts before pursuing religious education, earning a Ph.D in curriculum and instruction from Utah State University. He is the author of several articles and books dealing with the teachings and history of the Church, and a regular speaker at Latter-day Saint events and conferences. As a practicing artist his paintings center on religious themes, including underrepresented events in Church history. Anthony and his wife Cindy are the parents of seven children. He is currently serving as bishop of his ward. Highlights 1:45 Kurt and Anthony discuss his books about the temple and covenants 4:15 What can we talk about outside the temple? Most members are scared to talk about what goes on inside the temple because they don't know what's appropriate. 8:30 Anthony talks about what he does as a Bishop to help people get ready to go to the temple and receive their endowment. 14:20 What to focus on when teaching about the covenants made in the temple. Make sure people have a great foundation. 18:30 Most religions aren't talking about covenants. 20:15 The order of the son of God is a covenant group of people that are given power and capacity in their lives to overcome evil, to discern between right and wrong, to call down the ministering of angels, to know how to ask and receive revelation, part the veil, etc. 23:30 Covenants guarantee the future behavior of the participants. We are not making covenants for that moment but for future moments. 24:45 Listen to your covenants more than the state of your emotions. Your covenants will tell you what to do. 28:30 How to answer people's questions after they go through the temple. What is ok to talk about? 31:00 The five laws or major covenants of the temple 33:00 Seeing the big picture of the five laws. You are entering into an order which means that you are patterning your life after the son of God. 35:00 The first law is obedience to the law of the Lord. The law is a little different depending on the time that you are living. 36:00 The law of the gospel. Faith in Christ, repentance, baptism, and receiving the holy ghost. This law sanctifies us and purifies us. 37:25 The law of sacrifice. The release of the unholy. Letting go of the things that are keeping us back from the kingdom. It's not about dying for the church but letting go of the natural man. 38:25 The law of chastity. It's not just about sex. It's about trust. Can I be trusted with power and the power to create? God is in perfect control of his power. He knows how to control his power and passion. If we want to be like him we must do the same. 42:00 The law of consecration. There is confusion between the law of consecration and the applications of the law. We are covenating to dedicate our time, talents, and means to the kingdom of God. 46:00 Part of the law of consecration is not to have to be told to do everything. We should be anxiously engaged in a good cause and do things of our own free will. 47:45 Garments are a very personal thing. As a leader you should teach the doctrine and not focus so much on the behavior. “True doctrine understood changes attitudes and behavior.” Boyd K Packer. 53:00 The temple is a house of progression. It's a house for revelation. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library The Holy Covenants: Living Our Sacred Temple Promises The Holy Invitation: Understanding Your Sacred Temple Endowment

    Teaching Temple Covenants | An Interview with Anthony Sweat

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2022 50:27

    Anthony Sweat is an Associate Professor of Church History and Doctrine at Brigham Young University, and previously taught Seminary and Institute for 13 years. With an early interest in art he obtained a Bachelor of Fine Arts before pursuing religious education, earning a Ph.D in curriculum and instruction from Utah State University. He is the author of several articles and books dealing with the teachings and history of the Church, and a regular speaker at Latter-day Saint events and conferences. As a practicing artist his paintings center on religious themes, including underrepresented events in Church history. Anthony and his wife Cindy are the parents of seven children. He is currently serving as bishop of his ward. Highlights 1:45 Kurt and Anthony discuss his books about the temple and covenants 4:15 What can we talk about outside the temple? Most members are scared to talk about what goes on inside the temple because they don't know what's appropriate. 8:30 Anthony talks about what he does as a Bishop to help people get ready to go to the temple and receive their endowment. 14:20 What to focus on when teaching about the covenants made in the temple. Make sure people have a great foundation. 18:30 Most religions aren't talking about covenants. 20:15 The order of the son of God is a covenant group of people that are given power and capacity in their lives to overcome evil, to discern between right and wrong, to call down the ministering of angels, to know how to ask and receive revelation, part the veil, etc. 23:30 Covenants guarantee the future behavior of the participants. We are not making covenants for that moment but for future moments. 24:45 Listen to your covenants more than the state of your emotions. Your covenants will tell you what to do. 28:30 How to answer people's questions after they go through the temple. What is ok to talk about? 31:00 The five laws or major covenants of the temple 33:00 Seeing the big picture of the five laws. You are entering into an order which means that you are patterning your life after the son of God. 35:00 The first law is obedience to the law of the Lord. The law is a little different depending on the time that you are living. 36:00 The law of the gospel. Faith in Christ, repentance, baptism, and receiving the holy ghost. This law sanctifies us and purifies us. 37:25 The law of sacrifice. The release of the unholy. Letting go of the things that are keeping us back from the kingdom. It's not about dying for the church but letting go of the natural man. 38:25 The law of chastity. It's not just about sex. It's about trust. Can I be trusted with power and the power to create? God is in perfect control of his power. He knows how to control his power and passion. If we want to be like him we must do the same. 42:00 The law of consecration. There is confusion between the law of consecration and the applications of the law. We are covenating to dedicate our time, talents, and means to the kingdom of God. 46:00 Part of the law of consecration is not to have to be told to do everything. We should be anxiously engaged in a good cause and do things of our own free will. 47:45 Garments are a very personal thing. As a leader you should teach the doctrine and not focus so much on the behavior. “True doctrine understood changes attitudes and behavior.” Boyd K Packer. 53:00 The temple is a house of progression. It's a house for revelation. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library The Holy Covenants: Living Our Sacred Temple Promises The Holy Invitation: Understanding Your Sacred Temple Endowment

    How I Lead as Bishop | An Interview with Neil Henderson

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2022 44:21

    Neil Henderson serves as bishop in his ward in Gorleston, England. He has previously served as a Young Men president and 1st counselor, counselor in numerous bishoprics, high councilor, and in the stake Young Men presidency. As a student he studied carpentry and joinery and also served in the British Army infantry RSV for around 10 years before joining the Fire and Rescue service in 1997, where he currently serves as a Watch Manager. Neil is a convert and the only member of the Church on his side of the family. His wife Carolyn (née Bone) served in the Canada Toronto mission, and they have two sons who served missions in Ghana and South Africa. Highlights 02:15 Neil's story of conversion and how he got connected to the missionaries 18:15 Demographics of Neil's area 20:20 Getting called as Bishop 23:00 Neil's 1st principle of leadership: You aren't going to fix everything 27:00 Principle 2: Don't try to do everything yourself 29:00 Tips for one-on-one meetings with leaders; they create improvement plans 33:20 Principle 3: Keep meetings to time and use technology when appropriate When appropriate they meet over Zoom for meetings because it's a rural area that is very spread apart They use Whatsapp, Facebook, Instagram, and Zoom to connect 42:30 To be a leader is to walk in the footsteps of Christ. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    The Principle of Love | An Interview with Elder Don R. Clarke

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2022 75:49

    Elder Don R. Clarke served as a General Authority from 2006 to 2015, first in the Second Quorum of the Seventy and as president and a counselor in the Central America Area, later in the First Quorum of the Seventy. He was assistant Executive Director in the Missionary Department and Area Assistant for the Utah North, Utah Salt Lake City, and Utah South Areas. He also served as Director of Church Hosting and currently serves as an emeritus General Authority and President of the Great Salt Lake Utah District (Correctional Facility). Elder Clarke earned an associate's degree from Ricks College and a bachelor's degree in business from Brigham Young University. He completed a master's degree in business administration from Washington State University. His career included senior executive positions in several retailing companies. He also served as a volunteer professor of business at Southern Virginia University and was involved with Ascend Humanitarian Alliance in beginning microcredit operations in Bolivia. He has served the Church in various other capacities, including full-time missionary in the Argentina Mission, president of the Bolivia Santa Cruz Mission, stake president, high councilor, bishop, stake Young Men president, and elders quorum president. Born in Rexburg, Idaho, Elder Clarke married Mary Anne Jackson and they are the parents of six children. Highlights 01:20 Elder Clarke's background 11:00 Elder Clarke's leadership journey 13:00 The people you associate with are very important. They will impact your life and change your eternity. 20:45 As a leader, how do you help others improve? Give them a vision. After they have a vision you help them set goals. Each person should measure themself according to those goals. 27:15 How do you help people have a vision? Learn how people think. Know who you are leading. You have to want to know what people think. You have to create an environment where people can tell you what they think. 32:45 Five parts of life. If you are good in all these areas then you have a good life. Relationship with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ Family Work or schooling Friends Yourself 35:55 You love people by wanting them to be better. Happy always but content never “Those that I love, I chasten.” 43:15 Story of getting called as a General Authority 48:45 Principle of there is always a better way and Elder Clarke's experience at Southern Virginia University 51:10 In leadership, you need to know the power of the Holy Ghost. 54:40 Elder Clarke talks about his time in the second and first quorum of the seventy. There are two parts to a calling. Minister first and administer second. No matter what your calling is in the church, you are always a minister first. 59:45 You minister to those that God puts in your path. Elder Clarke speaks of his own experience. 1:02:20 Elder Clarke's story of his grandfather, a blind farmer, who was about to lose his farm. 1:05:00 Ministering is a journey not an event. Everybody needs somebody. 1:09:00 Who you marry and your relationship is so important. 1:10:30 Adopt people into your family. Invite people to your home on the holidays. Help them feel loved. 1:12:50 The way you get close to heaven is to help His children. 1:14:00 Husband and wife dynamic when the man is in leadership and gone a lot and the woman is at home with the children. 1:18:15 Elder Clarke shares his testimony. Links Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Modeling Consistent Communication and Purpose | A How I Lead Interview with Daniel Bingham

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2022 64:11

    Daniel Bingham is the previous CEO of Helena College–University of Montana and a graduate of the University of Texas at Austin where he earned a doctorate in community college leadership. His church service has included mission president, stake president, high councilor, bishopric counselor, ward Young Men president, seminary teacher, scoutmaster, ward mission leader, and missionary. During his service as mission president in the Australia Sydney South mission, he was in a bicycle accident resulting in incomplete quadriplegia with limited use of his limbs. Originally a native of Northern California, Brother Bingham and his wife Donna are the parents of four children and nine grandchildren. Highlights 01:50 Background 03:45 Getting called to be a mission president in the Sydney South mission 05:45 A cycling accident that left Daniel partially paralyzed while still on the mission. 12:00 What Daniel learned in his eight months as a mission president. 15:00 Traditional leadership principles, when applied in the church, are simpler to use and more readily accepted because of our foundational doctrine. 21:00 Know and allow for more than one way to accomplish a task or achieve a goal. Leaders aren't there to bark out orders but to guide and observe. Give people space for growth and to receive their own revelation. All should be empowered to participate and have a say. 32:50 All communication should be honest, two-way, frequent, and clearly consistent. 39:30 Your mission/purpose should be well defined, widely understood, and consistently modeled by leadership 43:45 Real life example of how to focus on your purpose and actively model to your council to do the same 47:40 Everything in the gospel is individually centered not collectively centered. As leaders we make a difference one person at a time. 48:30 Service Leadership can help you know and understand who you are leading. Being a leader is so much more than sitting in your office and giving the orders. You have to get out and serve. 55:00 Daniel talks about what's next for him as he deals with his paralysis. 57:15 What is my home town initiative? Links Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    Teaching in the Church | An Interview with Russell Osguthorpe

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2022 75:36

    Russell T. Osguthorpe has served as Sunday School General President, Area Seventy, and with his wife Lolly as mission leaders and temple president and matron. They are currently serving as virtual BYU-Pathway missionaries for students in the Caribbean. He holds a Ph.D. in instructional psychology and has served as a professor and administrator at Brigham Young University. He speaks several languages and enjoys swimming, hiking, and biking. He and his wife are the parents of five children and live in Provo, Utah. Highlights 01:30 Brother Osguthorpe relates his experience of how he got called to be Sunday School General President. 07:00 His calling is equal parts revelation and using his professional background of education and teaching. The Lord prepares us with gifts to help us in our callings. 10:30 Brother Osguthorpe's professional background 12:30 Brother Osguthorpe explains how he balanced using his professional background and using revelation from God when making decisions about Come Follow Me. 15:30 Gospel learning is distinct from educational learning. 18:00 Discussion on the struggle leaders face when it comes to trying to motivate the ward or fix problems in the ward 19:30 The lesson doesn't come from the manual or from a group of people. It comes from inside the learner. Leaders are to motivate, invite, and inspire the learner to look inside themselves. 21:45 Elder Bednar says that we don't want teachers to act upon the students. As students we need to act and the desire needs to come from within them. 23:45 As leaders we think that we are there to just help fix problems and try to meet needs. However, what really needs to happen is we need to think of how we can magnify their gifts. 25:00 How do you teach doctrine rather than application? 29:00 How do we approach balancing lecturing and discussion? 36:00 Brother Osguthorpe talks about how he prepared General Conference talks and what he has learned from it. 41:45 Brother Osguthorpe discusses his new book, Filled with His love: Strengthening Our Attachment to God and to Others, and why he wrote it. 46:00 Attachment theory and fixing relationships 50:50 Kurt talks about how leaders can best help individuals that are struggling with their relationship with God. Oftentimes we focus on behaviors rather than the deeper cause of their struggles. It's so important to listen to their story. 52:52 We need to analyze the relationships we had growing up to understand why we are struggling with relationships as adults. 53:15 Relationships are at the core of our doctrine. Covenants with God can be likened to creating a deeper relationship with God. 55:40 Brother Osguthorpe explains more about attachment theory and how it affects our relationships. 1:01:30 How to help negative self-talk in the individuals that we are trying to help. 1:10:25 Leaders should remember that every trial, sin, problem, etc., begins with an attachment problem and a detachment from God. 1:10:55 Brother Osguthorpe simplifies attachment theory and gives an example of how to use it to help individuals dealing with relationship problems. 1:11:45 A person's desire can change their attachment style. 1:15:30 Our attachment to God has the most powerful influence on our attachment to others. Links Filled With His Love Podcast Filled with His Love: Strengthening Our Attachment to God and to Others TRANSCRIPT coming soon Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library

    How I Lead as Young Women President | An Interview with Lisa Valentine Clark

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2022 52:35

    Lisa Valentine Clark is a writer, actress, and the host of The Lisa Show on BYUradio. She is a founding member of the theater-as-improv comedy troupe, The Thrillionaries; a writer, producer, and actress on the film Once I Was a Beehive; a host for 3 seasons on the TV show Random Acts; and a star in the BYUtv production Show Offs. She is the mother of five and author of Real Moms: Making It Up As We Go. Lisa is currently serving as the Young Women's President in her ward. Highlights 01:30 Introduction to Lisa and her background 06:00 The difference between the old and new young women's program. The new program is more young women led. 09:15 Principle one: Belief in the purpose Know your why Talk about your purpose with your presidency Be open with the young women and ask them why they are there 16:40 Principle two: Focus on the individual Take care of each girl one by one Everyone has different needs and needs you to show up in different ways for them. It's not a one size fits all. 21:00 Principle three: Lead by example The young women probably won't remember all the lessons you taught or activities but they will remember how you lived your life, your kindness, and the time you took to build a relationship with them. 24:30 Lisa shared a story of her late husband and how he created connections with a group of young boys in their ward that created forever friendships 27:30 Lisa explains the dynamic between her (the young women's president) and the bishop. 29:00 Girls camp tips 30:00 Using technology to communicate with the young women. 34:30 Lisa talks about the passing of her husband and how ward members can help in these types of situations 39:30 Kurt and Lisa discuss the help that we can get from our families versus our ministering brothers and sisters. How can ministers help best? 45:40 Getting called as Young Women's President in what seemed like the worst timing. There is never a perfect time so you just have to jump in. Links The Lisa Show TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    Helping Latter-day Youth Transition to Adulthood | An Interview with Mark McConville

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2022 64:08

    Dr. Mark McConville is a Clinical Psychologist licensed by the State of Ohio with over 30 years of professional experience in adult, adolescent, emerging adult, and family psychology. Mark serves as a senior faculty member of the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland (GIC), a world renowned post-graduate training source for consulting and counseling professionals, and currently chairs GIC's Advanced Training Program for Working With Children and Adolescents. Mark is the author of Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething Hasn't Grown Up...and What to Do About It, a guide for parents of the 2.2 million young adults in America who are struggling to find their way in the world. Highlights Summary coming soon Links Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething Hasn't Grown Up...and What to Do About It TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    Leading Empowered and Confident Young Women | An Interview with Diljeet Taylor

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2022 52:17

    This is a rebroadcast. The episode originally ran in February 2020. Diljeet Taylor is the Brigham Young University Head Women's Cross Country Coach and Associate Director of Track & Field, and has been with BYU since 2016. She ran for Cal State Stanislaus and for the Nike Farm Olympic Development Team, then coached at Menlo College and later replaced her own coach at Cal State Stanislaus. A three-time All-American herself, she has coached 43 All-Americans and led the BYU Women's Cross Country team to first and second place NCAA titles the past three years. In 2021 she coached Whittni Orton (XC individual), the DMR team, Courtney Wayment (3000m), and Anna Camp-Bennett (1500m) to national titles. Diljeet and her husband Ira have two children, Taj and Avi. Highlights 04:35 Running and coaching history and how she ended up at BYU 06:30 Embraced the standards because it is similar to how she was raised, even though she is not a member of the Church 07:40 Coaching cross country involves both the physical and especially the mental components 08:45 Her first goal was to bring the team back to national relevance 10:10 The team gets the recognition they need from the school and feel valued and supported; it consists of 35 women who are part of “the sisterhood” 13:10 Leading young women is about empowering them, advocating for them, and teaching them to build each other up instead of comparing and competing 15:15 Get reminders daily so they can compare themselves to where they have been, and work toward their own goals; each has their own challenges 17:30 Talking about their dreams; the five most important words are “How can I help you?” The way you can teach them to achieve their dreams and goals is to help them achieve the goals they are working toward right now, which for the team members right now is personal growth in running 20:30 Bringing their individual goals together as a team happens through focusing on the journey and not the outcome 22:15 Establishing a culture of support by writing note cards to team members before every race, and an empowering culture of relationships Emphasizing how important it is to genuinely care about the person next to you The locker room: the teammates who are left home from meets aren't left out because they are the supporters in the culture of sisterhood and recognize this is something bigger than one person 30:45 “Athletes don't care how much you know until they know how much you care” 32:40 Transparency is the key to making the tough calls and dealing with the disappointment of staying home in the locker room 35:45 Being honest even when you have to be tough: the athletes also know that when she says positive things, she means it 36:45 Knowing which athletes can handle or even need tough love Giving feedback through two things they're doing well and one thing to improve on If an athlete seems unable to handle the tough love, it means the relationship isn't strong enough 39:20 Drama and conflict with young adult women: They learn to handle it because they learn to be confident women and to step away from the comparison mindset; acknowledging that drama and conflict is part of being human, and validating and normalizing their feelings 42:00 How to diminish the comparison component: Comparison is the thief of joy You can't go through life without experiencing the success of others, but someone else's success doesn't take away from yours Being happy for others while still being very competitive 45:20 Time and vulnerability are most important in creating connection so you have to be vulnerable as a leader, get out of your comfort zone, and put in the time to build a relationship 47:20 Admitting when you've made a mistake 48:30 No overall approach: each athlete has individual goals and training plans 50:30 Athletics activities for young women: sign up for a 5k together so they can train together and work toward a goal together...

    Why Testimony is Not the Only Goal for Latter-day Youth—Part 2 | A Presentation by Dan Duckworth

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2022 82:54

    Register for FREE to watch the Young Saints Virtual Conference Dan Duckworth is a disciple, family man, and changemaker. As a teacher and coach, he guides elite leaders to the top of their game. He's the author of Stop Asking Why: Your Purpose is Self-Evident, and president of the Leading Saints Board of Directors. This podcast is the second of a 2-part presentation for the Young Saints Virtual Conference. Listen to PART 1: Why Testimony is Not the Only Goal for Latter-day Youth—Part 1 Highlights 00:40 In general, our goal for the youth is to develop disciples of Jesus Christ. We want people who show up for Christ and contribute to the kingdom. We are looking for leaders and contributors that can be productive and effective leaders, missionaries, parents, and spouses. 04:20 Kurt and Dan talk about character building and why it's important to leadership. Youth development could also be considered character development. 06:25 Youth development isn't about knowledge or skills. Character is the most important thing. 07:20 Dan explains what character is and how it affects youth development and leadership. 09:20 Contrary to popular belief, character isn't good or bad. It's either effective or ineffective relative to your goals. 10:55 It's not just about staying on the covenant path. Christ is looking for builders of the kingdom. He wants people to work alongside him. That is why character is so important. Character is about how consistently you show up. 11:40 Becoming a disciple of Christ is equally about developing character and testimony. Character is how you show up. Testimony is why you show up for Christ. 13:40 It's easy to get hyper focused on testimony development and completely overlook character development. Both are equally important. 15:40 Examples in the scriptures of testimony and character. Great examples are Jonah and Peter. They had great testimonies but weak characters. Jonah tried to run away. Peter denied Christ three times. 16:40 How do you gain a testimony? Testimony is built through direct experiences with God. You are a witness of something. You could be a first hand witness or you have an experience with the holy spirit. 19:40 We need to understand character and testimony to be effective youth leaders. 20:30 Between 20 to 30 percent of missionaries go home early. Most have the testimony but lack the character. The emotional and mental maturity isn't there to help them deal with the demands of a mission. 23:40 More scriptural examples of testimony and character. 25:55 How does character develop in the real world? 30:35 Leadership development with adults vs. youth development. Adults are much more stuck in their ways and harder to change their thinking. They aren't malleable like the youth. 33:05 The single most impactful factor on youth development is if mentors are involved and if that mentor was not just assigned but if they emerged. They became that youth's mentor because they were a teacher or coach and they also wanted to mentor them. 33:55 Dan shares a real life example of how a teacher became a mentor to a young man who was struggling on his sports team and also Dan's son, who was training to run a half marathon. This man wasn't assigned. He wanted to mentor these kids. 36:00 Most of us block people off who try to mentor or influence us. It's only occasionally that there is a special connection made and we then open ourselves up to be mentored. 38:25 Our behavior and the narrative that we have for ourselves is based on the experiences that we have. We have to be open up to rewriting that narrative and accepting mentorship or therapy. 40:00 A huge part of mentorship is just helping that person understand the experiences that they have had or are currently having and what those experiences mean to them or about them. 41:00 How to get in a state of mentorship #1 Deeply care about the growth of that youth or person.

    How to Develop Youth into Leaders | Peter Vidmar | Young Saints Conf. Clip

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2022 3:29

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    Why Testimony is Not the Only Goal for Latter-day Youth—Part 1 | A Presentation by Dan Duckworth

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2022 26:20

    Register for FREE to watch the Young Saints Virtual Conference Dan Duckworth is a disciple, family man, and changemaker. As a teacher and coach, he guides elite leaders to the top of their game. He's the author of Stop Asking Why: Your Purpose is Self-Evident, and president of the Leading Saints Board of Directors. This podcast is the first of a 2-part presentation for the Young Saints Virtual Conference. Highlights 6:10 What's the difference between being a youth worker vs a youth mentor? Mentorship is a state. You are only a leader if someone is following. Leadership and mentorship are synonymous. 9:45 Too often in youth programs there is a lot of teen check out and adult burnout. The overall goals are not being accomplished despite all the hard work that is getting put into it. Dan's goal in this session is to help leaders be effective mentors and not just youth workers. 13:30 One thing that is fundamental to youth development is letting go of control and letting the natural processes take place. A leader should learn to nurture these processes instead of trying to control them. 16:30 Dan explains positive youth development or positive leadership. 24:30 Many difficulties come to youth leaders in the church because they didn't sign up for it. They weren't trained in youth development. It's a calling and they were asked to be there. Links Register for FREE to watch the Young Saints Virtual Conference

    Latter-Day Saint Youth, Perfectionism, and Shame

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2022 3:06

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    How Does Sabbath Day Worship Impact Youth? | Prof. Mark Ogletree | Young Saints Conference Clip

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2022 2:51

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    Where do Youth Struggle with the Gospel the Most? | Al Carraway | Young Saints Conference Clip

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2022 3:29

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    The Struggles of Youth | A Presentation by Smith Alley

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2022 43:46

    Register for FREE to watch the Young Saints Virtual Conference Smith Alley is an 18-year-old high school senior who struggled with the harmful effects of pornography and social media for five years. Deciding to change the course of his life at 14, he went through an addiction recovery program and fell in love with helping other people. He now speaks to groups on how to establish internal filters and use technology in a balanced and intentional way to avoid negative mental health effects and achieve their goals. Smith has started a nonprofit organization called Live Life Bigger Foundation. His mission is to help kids live life bigger and rise up to their true potential. At age 16, he also started a company for parents called ProtechtStrong that helps families set up parental restrictions on devices and create healthy social media habits. Highlights 3:30 Story about papercuts to the heart. 5:25 Smith's story being exposed to pornography at a very young age, dealing with social media, and with depression. 8:00 Smith shares his recovery story. 15:00 There is no such thing as a normal life or being a normal human being. We put such high expectations on what is ok or what is normal behavior. Part of human behavior is making mistakes and we aren't normalizing that. 18:15 Let your heart break. Be vulnerable. We are taught to suck it up and not cry. We can't grow or heal without being vulnerable and talking about our feelings. 19:00 A huge part of Smith's healing was service. He replaced his bad habit with a good habit. 20:15 Smith tells stories of other youth that are struggling and how he has been able to help them by being open about his own struggle. His vulnerability has lead him to help so many other youth and help them open up too. 24:45 Smith leads through acceptance, vulnerability, and love. 25:20 Be a church leader not a church controller. 32:00 Teaching youth about their true identity is what is going to save them not trying to control their behavior. Do they know who they are? Do they identify themselves as sons and daughters of God? 34:00 How can youth leaders communicate better acceptance? God and Christ see us for who we are and not for what you are doing. Show them who they can be by using the atonement of Jesus Christ. 38:15 How can we help youth feel loved? 44:45 As leaders we want to talk about commandments and righteousness but maybe what we should really be talking about is brokenness and wounds. Sharing our brokenness leads us to Christ, the healer of brokenness. 47:30 Smith's advice to youth leaders. Links livelifebigger.org protechtstrong.com Instagram: @live.life.bigger LinkedIn: Smith Alley Read the TRANSCRIPT of this presentation

    Connecting with Individuals in Relief Society | How I Lead as a YSA Relief Society President | An Interview with Kessa Merrill

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2022 34:26

    Kessa Merrill is a young single adult member originally from Gilbert, Arizona, and is currently serving as stake Relief Society first counselor. Professionally she is an esthetician, studied public relations at Arizona State University, and is currently pursuing both of those passions as she works as the Operations Manager for the SkinBoss SkinSpa in Provo, Utah. During her time in Arizona she served as both the Latter-day Saint Student Association president and Interfaith Student Council president, and prior to that she served as her YSA ward Relief Society president. She has also served in several presidencies as secretary and held many music callings. In her free time she likes to cook dinners with friends, sing karaoke, and redecorate her home. Highlights 5:30 Kessa shares her experience working on the institute council and interfaith council at Arizona State University. 8:30 Getting called as a Relief Society president at 21 years old in her YSA ward 10:00 The most difficult thing about being Relief Society President 11:00 Visits with her counselors was one of the most important and consistent things that she did as a Relief Society president. 14:45 Those simple visits that Kessa took time to make every week impacted her life and helped her gain connections that have stayed in her life years later. 17:00 Kessa shares her experience getting called to be the first counselor in the YSA Stake Relief Society Presidency. 19:30 Kessa was one of the first YSA members that was part of the Stake Counsel. She has been able to speak up for YSA members in these councils. 21:30 Be organized and share responsibility Applying this principle has allowed her to reach out to more people They take advantage of technology. It's harder to reach YSA members with their schedules so they use text and zoom calls to communicate a lot. 26:20 Loneliness is one of the biggest hardships that YSA members struggle with. 27:45 What a leader can do to help with the loneliness that YSA members are experiencing It's not about more activities Make connections in small groups and through ministering 29:00 Serve with your eyes wide open and love. Links Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast

    When the Stake President Struggles with Pornography | An Interview with Chris Raleigh

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2022 74:26

    Chris Raleigh grew up in Cottonwood Heights, Utah, and served in the Pennsylvania, Philadelphia Mission. He has a bachelor's degree in business, a master's degree in education, and has taught for 28 years in both public and private school settings—including 23 years as a seminary and institute instructor. His Church assignments have included callings in the elders quorum, Sunday School, high council, bishopric, and as a bishop and stake president. In his current assignment he serves with his wife, Peggy, on the Church's Corrections Committee ministering to both Church leaders and inmates in six county jails and the Central Utah Correctional Facility in Gunnison, Utah. Chris and Peggy have nine children and 14 grandchildren. In this podcast, Chris candidly shares a decades-long struggle. His desire is to lend hope through the Atonement of Jesus Christ to the many men and women who feel trapped within the grasp of the illness called addiction. Trying to reverse four generations of addiction within his family has not been easy but he knows it is possible. Highlights 1:30 Chris talks about his background and faith development 7:00 Family history of addiction 17:00 Chris' personal story and struggle with pornography addiction 27:00 Chris was always looking for a “cure” for his problem. He thought teaching seminary or becoming a bishop would help him but the struggle was always there. 30:30 Good people struggle with very hard things. It's not about being flawless but worthy. 33:00 We normally see vulnerability as a strength in others but a weakness in ourselves. 34:00 Kurt and Chris discuss his time as a Bishop and his continual struggle to stay away from pornography. No matter how hard he tried it just kept coming back. 43:20 Becoming a Stake President and dealing with his addiction 52:00 Getting to a place of healing and getting help from a general authority 55:15 Telling his wife and her struggle with betrayal trauma. Chris shares their marriage struggles. 59:45 Getting divorced, getting released as a stake president, and getting terminated as a seminary teacher. He continued to seek healing, recovery, and find blessings when life was falling apart. 1:04:45 Chris shares how God has blessed him for telling his story. He has rebuilt his life and remarried. 1:09:00 Chris had to walk a hard path to get where he is. He prayed for years and years to be rid of his addiction but he needed to go through treatment first. He had to be ready. 1:10:00 By healing and recovering, Chris is also helping his ancestors who struggled with addiction. 1:13:00 There is hope for everyone. However, addiction is an illness and it needs treatment. 1:16:45 The power of telling your story 1:17:45 To the lonely leader that is struggling with sin. The bravery to speak up. Links TRANSCRIPT coming soon

    How I Lead as Stake President | An Interview with Randy Lonsdale

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2022 35:26

    Randy Lonsdale and his wife Linda (Mendenhall) are Canadians living near Calgary, Alberta. They are thrilled to have six wonderful children and nine practically-perfect grandchildren. Randy is an in-house attorney handling engineering and construction contracts for a supermajor energy company. Randy's law career has taken his family to Vancouver (Canada), twice to South Korea, and to the island of Saipan (CNMI), and he still speaks Korean first learned during his mission to Seoul, Korea. He has served as bishop as well as a counselor in a stake presidency and a military district presidency. For the past 5 years he has served as a stake president. Highlights 3:00 Introduction and Randy's background 5:00 Story of how Randy was called to be a Stake President and Stake demographics 11:45 The most important things that Randy has learned in his leadership Showing people love is always number one Teach people how to build a stronger relationship with Jesus Christ through teaching and by example 13:30 In Randy's stake they have a vision statement and also a set of goals. They try to keep it simple. 14:30 Traditions and their approach to High Council meetings 16:30 Helping youth prepare for their missions: They have a "missionary bootcamp" checklist 21:40 Randy explains how their stake runs and things that he has found that really work 23:00 Tools they use for administration 25:40 Randy's personal stories and family tragedy 30:45 How losing his daughter has helped him be a better leader Links Church Missionary Preparation pages Pre-Mission Boot Camp Checklist (DOCX) Pre-Mission Boot Camp Checklist (PDF)

    “Teach Them Their Identity” | An Interview with Elaine Dalton

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2022 61:29

    Elaine Dalton was born and raised in Ogden, Utah, and received her bachelor's degree in English from Brigham Young University. She served alongside her husband, Stephen, in a singles ward bishopric and in stake callings, then at the general level of the church for ten years on the Young Women General Board and as the first and second counselor of the general Young Women presidency. She was called as general Young Women president from 2008 to 2013. Elaine and Stephen are the parents of five sons and one daughter and the grandparents of 16 grandchildren. Highlights 4:00 Elaine introduces herself and tells about her background. 10:00 Getting called into the general Young Women presidency 14:00 Elaine's experience calling counselors. 17:00 Advice for Young Women's Presidents and how they can help the young women the most. Help them know their worth and true identity The power of prayer 22:00 Elaine shares special experiences that she has had serving. 28:40 From all her travels Elaine has learned that the only hope for the world is the gospel of Jesus Christ. 29:45 Thoughts on girls camp and getting away from the messages of the world. 34:00 Stories of speaking in General Conference. 36:20 Preparing a talk for General Conference 44:30 Dealing with friction between leaders and how to manage it. Remember that every "no" is one step closer to "yes". 48:00 Kurt takes questions from the audience. Elaine talks about how she met her husband. 49:50 Elaine tells the story of when she got called to be the General Young Women's President. 53:00 What do you do when you get released? Many find it more difficult to serve and find purpose after they are released from a calling. Links Photo by Michelle Lehnardt for RubyGirl.org Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast

    Being an Advocate for Those You Lead | An Interview with Rob Ferrell

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2022 85:08

    This is a rebroadcast. The episode originally ran in June 2019. Dr. Robert Ferrell has served as an elders quorum president, high councilor, YSA bishop, and YSA stake president, and has presented at firesides and conferences—including BYU Education Week—about connecting with young single adults. He grew up in the Bay Area of California but lives in Mountain Green, Utah, and worked as a periodontist in the Ogden area prior to leaving to serve as a mission president in the Peru Lima Central Mission. He has a bachelor's degree in family sciences and a doctoral degree in dental surgery, and he and his wife Lori are the parents of eight children. Highlights 7:30 His call as a YSA stake president came while serving as a bishop, forming a new YSA stake 11:00 He saw a need for a greater understanding of young adults today, and decided to present at BYU Education Week as an advocate for young adults 13:10 Stigmas of the Millennial generation in and outside of the Church 14:20 The Gospel of Jesus Christ does not lose people; the culture, tradition, false doctrine, and application loses people 15:20 Creating a young adult program needs to start with a strong organizational structure 16:00 Most wards are not aware of the problem with the activity rate among YSAs 17:10 Priesthood keys and leadership have to be behind the leaders in a YSA program 21:10 It can be easy to lose track of YSAs, and family wards need to work with YSA programs to focus on rescuing—most effective when the stake presidents work together with YSA leaders 25:00 Worked with his area seventy and coordinating councils and were able to see great success with the program Multiple ward mission leaders were assigned to the stakes that funneled YSAs to their YSA ward, and senior adult couples assigned to be the bridge between the YSA ward and the home stake Returned missionaries are prepared to help rescue other YSAs 27:25 Wanted as many of the less-active records as they could, so they could organize and reach out to rescue them Focused on organizational structure with leaders working together Ministering happened among the active members, YSA ward mission leaders handled the rest 31:10 The organizational process has to be there to help young adults come unto Christ 31:50 #1 cultural concept that must change: YSA wards are not about marriage, they don't need to be reminded, and that message turns them away 34:00 The purpose of the young single adult program is helping them connect with Jesus Christ 36:40 YSA programs are not glorified YMYW programs, and activities need to be planned by the YSAs and be focused on things that help connect them to Christ 40:15 Leadership by collaboration instead of control: turn it over to them The Lord used young adults to restore the Church; they can be trusted with the YSA program 45:10 Example of giving autonomy: Stake YSA Relief Society presidency recognized a pornography problem with the sisters and taught about it at ward conferences 47:10 Encouraged the sisters to turn to their Relief Society president when they have a problem, and take it to the bishop when they are ready to repent 49:30 Counsel given to him as the stake president was that you cannot rescue YSAs and then throw the book at them Is that approach too soft? Story of missionary who returned after less than a week in the MTC, due to sexual transgression 1:00:30 The sins are a symptom of a more serious doctrinal problem and the purpose of discipline is to save the soul of the transgressor, not to punish 1:04:00 Bishops and counselors need to be working on the same level so they can develop relationships with the YSA ward members 1:05:00 Behavior vs. doctrine: sin is the consequence of Satan's real purpose 1:08:00 Leaders need to help them resolve contention in their lives 1:10:45 Not knowing the meaning of worthiness is the greatest cause of contention

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