Fraudulationship to Freedom

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom Podcast. I'm your host, Meg South, and this is episode 54, Rebuilding Your Life From the Ground Up After Narcissistic and Sociopathic Abuse. Your life is in shambles thanks to the fact that you were targeted by a narcissist or sociopath. It feels pretty bleak. Everything you've worked for, the life you planned for feels like it's imploded. Maybe you're displaced and have to find a new place to live. Maybe you are stuck in a low-paying job. Maybe you need childcare or pet care, a car, or some other essential. This is not what you had planned, and you are angry. Rightly so. Believe me, I get it. I'm not going to try to convince you things aren't as bad as they are. It's very likely that they are as bad as all that. Statistically, it's women who suffer the most financially after a divorce, not the men. I don't have any hard research to point to, but I'm guessing that women coming out of a narcissistic or sociopathically abusive situation suffer all around to a greater degree than if abuse wasn't part of the picture. There's a lot to contend with. A lot. It may be hard to even know where to begin. That's what I'd like to talk about in this episode. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

I've been thinking about the idea of self-abandonment. How do we recognize it? And more, how do we keep from abandoning ourselves ever again. Because if we can't count on ourselves to stay present, to have our own backs, to act in our own best interests, then we are in big trouble. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast. I'm your host, Meg South. This is Episode 52: What's Logotherapy and How Can It Help Me Heal? When I was in high school, I read the book, Man's Search for Meaning, by Victor Frankl. This book had a huge impact on my life. Victor Frankl was a psychiatrist who developed logotherapy after four years in the concentration camps during WWII. He believed that humans are motivated to find meaning in life and that meaning can be found in even the most dire of circumstances.He thought that a lot of us have “existential angst” and live in a kind of “exetential vacuum.” New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom Podcast. I'm your host, Meg South. This is episode 51. Today's topic is Mindfulness of Current Thoughts. Mindfulness of Current thoughts is the last DBT distress tolerance skill and the last episode in the DBT skills series I've been working through with you over the last couple of months of episodes. I'll be taking the next two weeks off and be back again the week of February 20th. In the meantime, if you have any questions about any of the DBT skills I've covered in the last several episodes, please feel free to DM me on Instagram or Facebook. In today's episode, I'll be talking about what mindfulness of current thoughts is, why it's important to observe your thoughts, and how to be mindful of current thoughts. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast. I'm your host, Meg South. This is episode #50. Today I'm going to talk about the DBT distress tolerance skills of Half-Smile and Willing Hands. Specifically, I'll cover why practice the half-smile and willing hands skills, how to practice them and I'll offer a few times when you can incorporate this into your life. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast. I'm your host, Meg South. This is episode #49. Today I'm going to talk about the DBT distress tolerance skills of Turning the Mind and Willingness. Specifically, I'll talk about the concept of turning the mind and how to shift your thinking, the difference between willfulness and willingness and why it's important to healing from narcissistic and sociopathic abuse, and finally how to go from a state of willfulness to willingness. In episode 48, I talked about reality acceptance and why accepting reality is essential to healing. But what happens if we just don't want to accept reality? What do we do then? We have a couple of choices. Learning these skills can take your healing to another level. Are you ready? Let's go! New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast. I'm your host, Meg South. This is episode #48. Today's episode is about reality acceptance skills. Reality acceptance skills are another set of DBT distress tolerance skills. When we've been conned by a sociopath, it's extremely difficult to believe that someone could be so evil. And I use the word evil deliberately and in a literal sense. If sociopaths are not evil, I don't know who would qualify to be called evil. These predators deliberately sought us out as prey to accomplish their own ends without a thought or even a care as to how their lies and manipulations would impact us. This is because, as I have said in past episodes, sociopaths have no conscience. Accepting the reality that we've been duped so thoroughly is rough. But the sooner we accept reality, the sooner we can move toward healing. Today I'm going to specifically talk about · What reality acceptance skills are · Goals of reality acceptance · The difference between reality acceptance and giving up · The difference between acceptance and reality acceptance · What has to be accepted · Factors that get in the way of radical acceptance · Radical acceptance step-by-step Let's jump in. Radical acceptance is the complete and total openness to the facts of reality as they are, without throwing a tantrum or responding with willful ineffectiveness. I'll expand on this definition throughout this episode, but I want to just mention briefly what reality acceptance is not. Radical acceptance is not approval. It is not compassion or love. It is not being passive, giving up, or giving in, and it is not against change. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

In this episode, I'm going to talk about the DBT skill of Improving the Moment. IMPROVE is used as an acronym to help you remember how you can practice the skill. Improving the moment is replacing immediate negative events with more positive ones by making the moment more positive and easier to tolerate. Some strategies involve encouraging yourself or by creating meaning in the situation, imagining changes in the situation. Some involve changing your body's responses to events (relaxing). Prayer and focusing on one thing in the moment have to do with acceptance and letting go. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

A lot of trauma survivors struggle with feeling emotionally overwhelmed -- at least sometimes. And, unfortunately, we don't always know how to help ourselves feel better. We might even feel guilty for taking time for ourselves. In this episode, I talk about the skill of self-soothing. And it is a skill that we can learn. Like all skills, it takes practice and commitment. What is Self-Soothing? Self-soothing is being comforting, nurturing, gentle and responsive to our own needs. When to Self-Soothe Self-soothing activities reduce vulnerability to Emotion Mind and to acting impulsively and they reduce the sense of deprivation that is often a precursor to feelings of vulnerability. They help people tolerate pain and distress without making things worse. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Wise Mind ACCEPTS is a distress tolerance skill that uses distraction in a variety of ways when you can't immediately address distressing feelings. ACCEPTS is an acronym that stands for Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing Away, Thoughts, Sensations. In this episode, I discuss each of these in detail. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Rumination, anxiety or other kinds of emotional overwhelm is pretty common following narcissistic and sociopathic abuse. In this episode, I talk about the TIPP skills which reduce emotional arousal almost instantly. TIPP stands for Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing and Paired muscle relaxation. Using TIPP will shift your body chemistry and give you the space you need to use other emotion regulation or interpersonal skills. Please note that you should consult with your doctor before trying any of these skills, especially if you have a heart condition or cold allergy. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

This episode explains the STOP skill, a distress tolerance skill that is designed to help you resist the urge to act impulsively, possibly making the situation worse, and then giving you some space to employ emotion regulation or interpersonal skills. This skill can come in handy in many situations, from dealing with anger towards the narcissist to helping you achieve your fitness goals. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Today I'm introducing the topic of distress tolerance skills, specifically what they are, when to use them and how to know if you're in a crisis. Believe it or not, a crisis has some very specific criteria. A crisis, by definition, is short-term, has a feeling of urgency to get it resolved, a tendency to act on your emotions, and a high possibility of making the situation worse if you do act on your emotions. Distress tolerance skills are useful when your emotions feel overwhelming and when you need to keep yourself from making the situation worse. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Narcissists and sociopaths often go out of their way to undermine our self-confidence and self-worth. That's why it's so important to take back our power and actively work on rebuilding this. We can regain a sense of competence by practicing the DBT Building Mastery Skill. We can also use the Cope Ahead skill to regulate our emotions in situations where we're afraid or if we still have to deal with the toxic person in our life. In today's episode, I discuss both of these skills. I hope you find it helpful. Study Explores How to Master a Skill You've Only Practiced in Your Mind - Link to article summarizing the study. Neural Population Dynamics Underlying Motor Learning Transfer - Link to the research. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

As we start the new year and are thinking about changes we want to make, I thought it would be helpful to talk about the PLEASE skill. The PLEASE skill is an acronym to help us remember how to take care of our physical bodies to reduce our vulnerability to Emotion Mind and to increase our emotional resilience. New Podcast: How to Spot a Military Phony Online and Avoid Being Targeted. This new podcast is a limited episode series designed to expose the epidemic of military phony predators trolling online dating and social media platforms. Learn how to identify these cons and keep yourself safe. Please spread the word to anyone you know who uses dating or social media platforms. You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts. https://anchor.fm/s/730b1bfc/podcast/rss Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Today's episode is on problem-solving when your emotional response is justified, understandable, and fits the facts of the situation. Knowing the exact steps to solving a problem is key to greater emotion regulation and feeling better. 7 Steps to Problem-Solving Observe and describe the problem situation. Check the facts. Identify your goal in solving the problem. Brainstorm lots of solutions. Choose a solution that fits the goal and is likely to work. Put the solutions into action. Evaluate the results of implementing the solution. Remember: Practice your skills on low-level situations when you're just learning them. Don't start trying to solve a high-level problem. Download the Pros and Cons worksheet Also, check out How to Spot a Military Phony Online & Avoid Being Targeted Podcast Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible, or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also, be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Today I want to talk about the emotion regulation skill of Opposite Action. This skill comes in handy when our emotions do not fit the facts of a situation, or do not lead to effective behavior. For example, if we are constantly thinking about making contact with the narcissist or sociopathic abuser because we're attached to them, even though we know in our heads that going back wouldn't be in our best interest, we can use the skill of opposite action to change our emotional impulse to return to them. Episode 38 Opposite Action Worksheet Downloadable PDF Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Checking the Facts is a skill we can use to make sure that our interpretation of events isn't skewing our emotional response and, in turn, creating more emotional suffering. Inner Talk Subliminal Recordings - Overcome Narcissistic Control - https://bit.ly/fraudulationship1 If you've been mistreated in some narcissistic relationship, this program is for you. End the need to please the narcissist and take control of your own life. Accept your own worth and assert your prerogative for self-love. You do deserve a life that fulfills your dreams and delivers peace, balance, and harmony to you every day. Why wait—begin now. Overcome Narcissistic Control - https://bit.ly/fraudulationship1 Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Continuing on with the topic of emotion regulation, today I want to talk about a particular way to think about emotions, a framework if you will and how you can reduce your vulnerability to emotions, change how you feel and ultimately feel better. Let's begin with some facts about emotions. 1. Emotions are complex. In other words, they generally consist of several parts or different reactions happening at the same time. 2. Emotions are automatic. Emotions are involuntary, automatic responses to internal and external events. 3. Emotions cannot be changed directly. We can't tell ourselves to feel a different emotion and then actually feel it. We cannot use willpower to stop an emotional experience even when we desperately want to. 4. Emotions are sudden and they rise and fall. Most emotions only last for a few minutes unless we do something to make them stick around. 5. Emotions are self-perpetuating. Once an emotion starts, it keeps restarting itself. 6. Some emotions are universal. There are 10-12 universal emotions that we are born with. These include anger, disgust, fear, guilt, joy, jealousy, envy, sadness, shame, surprise, interest, love. 7. Emotions have components. These components are inter-related, and each component influences the others. Changing just one component can often change the entire emotional response. Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Today I want to continue with the topic of emotion regulation. Emotions can be challenging to manage without the added layers of abuse from a narcissist or sociopath, but emotions do serve a purpose. In this episode, I'll talk about the purpose of different emotions and what gets in the way of us being able to manage our emotions sometimes. (And it's more than what it might look like at first glance, i.e. that niggling voice in your head telling you you're just "weak" or "broken.") Download the Emotion Myths Quiz. Check out more information on being highly sensitive at SensitivityResearch.com . I don't have any connection to this website. I'm just providing it for your information. Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Healing after trauma isn't a straight line. One moment you'll feel ok, the next minute find yourself angry or in tears. It can be an emotional rollercoaster and just being on the emotional rollercoaster can be exhausting. Stay on the rollercoaster long enough and there's a good chance you'll get sick in one way or the other. Some of us settle into low-grade, chronic resentment. In this state, you're just going through the motions without any real joy or interest in life like you used to have. Some people get stuck in a perpetual state of anxiety, always on guard, irritable, have trouble with relationships. Some of us get stuck in avoidance of pretty much everything we used to love, including the people in our lives. We isolate. Hang out at home. Oversleep. Distract with YouTube videos. All of these things are normal behaviors after we experience a trauma. And as normal as they are, they are meant to be a temporary state. In order to move forward, we need to get a handle on our emotions. We need to learn to emotion regulation skills. That's what I'm going to be talking about starting with this episode and over the next few episodes. Specifically today, I'm going to discuss · What Emotion Regulation means · Why It's Important to Understand Your Own Emotions & What They Do For You · How to Decrease the Frequency of Unwanted Emotions · How to Decrease Vulnerability to Emotion Mind · How to Decrease Emotional Suffering Please give a listen to my limited episode podcast How to Spot a Military Phony Online & Avoid Being Targeted! Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

In the last 3 episodes I've been talking about how you can be more strategic when you have to communicate with a narcissist, sociopath or other toxic person. Today's episode is all about how you can make sure you keep your self-respect in-tact while still attempting to achieve the point of the conversation. As always, I recommend communicating with that toxic person in writing...either text or email...if you're able to. Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Knowing what you want before you interact with the narcissist or sociopath is key. You have to be strategic in your communication and you can do that by remember the acronym DEARMAN. In this episode, I explain exactly what this means so you can reduce your stress level when you have to communicate with that toxic person and increase the chances of getting what you want out of the interaction. Download the free printable DEARMAN Script outline. Check out my new limited episode podcast How to Spot a Military Phony Online & Avoid Being Targeted available on Spotify or your favorite podcast app. Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

In this episode I talk about the 3 possible goals of an interpersonal interaction, why it's important to know what you want out of an interaction and how you can figure out what's most important to you --- all this so you can act in a way that is most effective and increase the likelihood of getting what you want. There's a couple of printables you can download that go with this episode https://bit.ly/episode31download. Connect on Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Review, Subscribe & Share Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts (Anchor doesn't support reviews.) If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Do your emotions override your logical, rational mind or does your logic override your emotions? Either extreme will hinder your healing and make your life more difficult. In this episode I explain States of Mind from a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) perspective, offer an alternative to operating in extremes and provide tips to help you be more mindful of your own state of mind (and why you might want to do this in the first place.) I apologize for the lack of live links. The Anchor podcast platform is acting buggy and support is working on it. Download the free States of Mind pdf https://bit.ly/episode30download Social Media You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! Leave a Review, Subscribe and Share If you find this episode helpful, please leave a review (but not on Anchor as they don't support this...maybe I should rethink Anchor?). You can subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

I apologize for the unclickable links. The Anchor editor is acting buggy this morning. Coping ahead is a DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) skill that will help you manage anxiety and worry around a future event. You can download the free pdf at https://bit.ly/copeaheadworksheet Research study summary https://www.forbes.com/sites/andreamorris/2018/02/15/study-explores-how-to-master-a-skill-youve-only-practiced-in-your-mind/?sh=2ae15eed4a5f Actual research study https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0896627318300655 You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

How long will it take to heal after narcissistic abuse? This is the most commonly searched question that survivors have after exiting a fraudulationship with a narcissist or sociopath. Here's the answer. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Avital Miller joins me today to talk about her experiences and using movement to get unstuck after abuse. Avital's website is Healing Happens and you can connect with her on Facebook or Instagram @avital.love. Check out her free workshop at UnlockUnlimitedEnergy.com You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss. Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Adding positive events to your life can make you feel better. Download the list of Positive Events Checklist and the Positive Events Diary zip file. Be sure to listen to my How to Spot a Military Phony & Avoid Being Targeted podcast. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss. Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Dionne Sanchez joins me today to talk about her experience growing up from a young child who couldn't talk or hear to a pivotal experience in junior high school that changed her life. While not directly related to narcissistic or sociopathic abuse, the lessons she learned and how she grew from her experience is a great example for all of us no matter what kind of trauma we've experienced. Beating the odds through the support of her family, friends and years of therapy, Dionne has gone on to go to college and is now host of the podcast Words of Heart in which she has inspiring conversations about mental health. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationshipor on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss. Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

This mindfulness exercise is designed to help you overcome feelings of helplessness and hopelessness following a traumatic experience by increasing your sense of agency. Agency is just another word for your ability to make things happen. Developing a sense of agency will help you move from fear to empowerment. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. #gratitude #positivity #mindset #awareness #happiness #spirituality #health #positivevibes #namaste #coaching #mindful #wellbeing #peace #quotes #consciousness #spiritual #healing #life #meditationspace #meditationpractice #holistichealing #mindful #mindfulnesscoach #meditate #mindbodyandsoul #personalgrowth #mindfulnesspractice #yogalife #youdecideyourthoughts #meditations #livelearnlove #selfawarenessjourney #consciousness #meditationtime #mindfulnessmatters #fraudulationship #megsouth #fraudulationshiptofreedom --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Use your breath to calm your mind in this guided meditation. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. #gratitude #positivity #mindset #awareness #happiness #spirituality #health #positivevibes #namaste #coaching #mindful #wellbeing #peace #quotes #consciousness #spiritual #healing #life #meditationspace #meditationpractice #holistichealing #mindful #mindfulnesscoach #meditate #mindbodyandsoul #personalgrowth #mindfulnesspractice #yogalife #youdecideyourthoughts #meditations #livelearnlove #selfawarenessjourney #consciousness #meditationtime #mindfulnessmatters #fraudulationship #megsouth #fraudulationshiptofreedom --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Mindfulness can help you feel less stressed and improve your sleep, which will help you heal after abuse. You can download the Mindfulness Scale here. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Take Aways: 1. Your feelings are normal. 2. It is normal to want to blame and/or retaliate against the abuser. 3. He broke the relationship. He did not irreversibly damage you. 4. You can learn to channel the urge to blame/retaliate into thoughts and behavior that benefit you. 5. Tracking your impulses to retaliate, criticize, blame, etc. is a good way to show yourself your progress over time. 6. You can download the log at https://subscribepage.com/episode23download. You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

The Take Aways: It's common for the narcissist, sociopath or psychopath to say that YOU are the narcissist. It's common for the abused person to pick up narcissistic "fleas" or behave reactively. It's likely that you AREN'T the toxic person. Download the free behavior log pdf at https://www.subscribepage.com/episode22download You can connect with me on Instagram @fraudulationship or on Facebook @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship. I'd love to hear from you! If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. Here's the RSS link https://anchor.fm/s/670536f8/podcast/rss . Also be sure to share with anyone you know who may find it helpful. I appreciate your efforts in spreading the word! This podcast is not meant as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

TakeAways Victim identity mindset focuses on the pain and unfairness of the abuse. It keeps us powerless. Healing identity mindset focuses on growth. It is empowering. An identity is made up of what we think of ourselves, our behaviors and our social roles. An identity organizes our experiences and acts as a filter for our brains. Sometimes we build a monument to pain via a victim identity mindset because we want the abuser to acknowledge what he's done and the depth of the impact he's had on us; however, he is highly unlikely to ever do this and the only person who remains in pain is us. The abuser broke your relationship. He did not damage you beyond repair. Download the pdf with the Create a Healing Identity Exercise at the link in the show notes or at https://bit.ly/episode21download Download the PDF https://bit.ly/episode21download If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe at Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast platform. And please share with anyone you think may find this podcast helpful or interesting. I'm growing my audience organically and rely on the kindness of listeners to spread the word :) Your help is very much appreciated! If you would like more information on the Fraudulationship to Freedom Journey to Healing: 12 Weeks to Transforming Your Life After Abuse inaugural beta launch, please DM me! Connect with me on social media...Send me a DM and let me know you've heard the podcast! Instagram: @fraudulationship Fraudulationship Facebook Page: @fraudulationship Meg's Facebook Page This podcast is not intended as a substitute for therapy or medical advice. copyright 2021 Meg South Fraudulationship LLC. All rights reserved. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

TakeAways: 1. If the average person bumps into your boundaries, they are likely to apologize, back up and try not to do it again. 2. If a predator, emotionally unstable or narcissist bumps into your boundaries, they are likely to create drama, blameshift, gaslight or create chaos. They won't apologize and they will be sure to do it again in the future. It's part of their bag of manipulative tricks. 3. Boundary pushes are designed to keep you off-kilter, confused and distracted. 4. Being self-aware is the first step in creating and maintaining boundaries with a problematic person. 5. When setting and maintaining a boundary do not defend, debate or over-explain your feelings. 6. You have the right to set and maintain your own boundaries and the right to end the conversation if someone refuses to abide by your boundaries. 7. Holding a boundary can be scary, but it gets easier with practice. 8. You were not put on Earth to be mistreated. 9. Download and complete the pdfs to help you set and maintain your boundaries. Download the Self-Awareness Tool & Log pdf zip file If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Audible or your favorite podcast app. And please share with anyone who might find it helpful. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: @fraudulationship Facebook Page: @fraudulationship Facebook: MegSouth.Fraudulationship Website: Fraudulationship to Freedom This podcast is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

I've been thinking about the topic of “feeling better” lately. In other words, what does ‘healing' look like and feel like? A lot of women report that even years after the fraudulationship ended, they realize that they are still stuck. Sometimes this realization hits like the proverbial “ton of bricks.” Women report that they thought they were doing ok, but when they look in the mirror, they don't recognize themselves. They think back to a time before the fraudulationship and wonder what happened to the vibrant, intelligent, strong, spunky, curious, witty woman they used to be. They wonder if they will ever feel like that again. Maybe you can relate. Your feelings after betrayal and abuse are normal. In this episode I talk about the purpose of anger after betrayal and how we can get stuck in chronic resentment...and how to move out of resentment to create version 2.0 of yourself. The Takeaways: 1. You can't go back to who you were prior to the betrayal trauma. You can create version 2.0. 2. You are not broken or irreparably damaged. Your feelings are normal. 3. The highs and lows of the anger/crash cycle can turn into chronic resentment. 4. You don't need a memorial of resentment to honor or validate your pain. 5. After betrayal your brain temporarily goes into a “better safe than sorry” mode. 6. Moving from victim identity mindset to healing identity mindset is the key to moving forward in your own life and creating version 2.0. 7. You can decrease your emotional reactivity by acting on your values rather than your feelings of the moment. 8. Doing the work will build new neural connections in your brain. Download the Values Sort Cards and Values Behavior Log zip file. Connect with me on social media IG: @fraudulationship FB: @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

In this episode I discuss Dr. Martha Stout's 13 Rules for Dealing with the Sociopath in Everyday Life. If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music or your favorite podcast app, and please share with a friend. Connect with me on social media IG @fraudulationship FB @fraudulationship or MegSouth.Fraudulationship This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

So how do we recognize sociopaths, the people without a conscience? What does research show is the thread running through all of them? The answer to that is in this episode. I hope you found this episode helpful. If you did, please subscribe on your favorite podcast app, listen at Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with someone who might also find it helpful. It's super important to get the message out about these predators and how to walk through your life feeling safe. Thanks for listening. You can connect with me on social media @fraudulationship on Instagram or Facebook. This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Hi Everybody. The Tuesday and Thursday release days for new episodes was getting to be a bit challenging to meet. So, I'm changing the release of new episodes from Tuesday and Thursdays to Tuesdays and Fridays. There will be a new episode coming out tomorrow. Thanks for listening. Meg Follow me on social media IG: @fraudulationship FB: @fraudulationship and MegSouth.Fraudulationship --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

I've been thinking about this for a while now. Are there societal factors that set us up and make us vulnerable to narcissists and sociopaths? In this episode, I read another short excerpt from The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout Ph.D., that helps peel back the layers on this topic and what we can do about it. If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe at Spotify, Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app. I'd also appreciate it immensely if you'd share the podcast with a friend on social media. Follow me on social media: Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook MegSouth.Fraudulationship This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not meant to replace professional therapy or medical advise. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Excerpts from The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, PhD, answers the question about how common sociopathy is (VERY!), and helps us understand why those of us with consciences (most of us) can't wrap our heads around being without a conscience, as well as how the sociopath uses the very things that make us human against us (to gain advantage over us). If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app, and please share with a friend. Connect with me on social media Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook MegSouth.Fraudulationship Fraudulationship Website This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Today we welcome Leticia Francis of Blaque Rose Coaching. Leticia is a certified mindset coach and business foundation specialist. She overcame a traumatic childhood, several abusive relationships and moved from being a survivor to thriver. She provides "support to professional women who feel they need to leave their soul-sucking careers RIGHT NOW by helping them gain the clarity and confidence needed to build their dream business embracing a success mindset along the way!" You can find Leticia at Blaque Rose Coaching, on Facebook, or on Instagram. If this episode was helpful, please subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app & share with 2 friends. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: @fraudulationship Facebook: MegSouth.Fraudulationship Fraudulationship website This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. copyright 2021. Meg South. All Rights Reserved. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Sometimes going no contact just isn't possible. Maybe you have kids together with your toxic ex or have to tie up loose ends after you've split up. In this episode, I give some tips on how to go low contact without losing your mind. If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe and pass it on.  If you or someone you know is interested in being on the show, or if you have a question, please DM me.  Connect with me on social media Instagram @fraudulationship  Facebook at MegSouth.Fraudulationship The Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

No contact is foundational for breaking that trauma bond with the narcissist or sociopath. In this episode I give you 10 tips for going no contact like a boss. If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe and share. Connect with me on social media: Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook Meg South Stay tuned for my upcoming workshop on recognizing the military phony and how to use free Internet resources to check out any claims of military service. Also coming up in October is my Emotional Self-Defense workshop. More details to follow soon. This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. #fraudulationship #MegSouth #narcissism #traumabond #nocontact #sociopath --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Relax in this guided meditation up a mountain, discover what your subconscious mind wants to tell you, then strengthen your boundaries, resolve and self-love in this guided meditation hypnosis. Please do not listen while driving or operating machinery. This is not a substitute for mental health counseling or medical treatment. If you find this podcast helpful, please leave a review and pass it on to a friend. If you've healed from narcissistic or sociopathic abuse and would like to be a guest on the show, please DM me on Instagram @fraudulationship. Connect with me on social media: Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook Meg South Fraudulationship website This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. #fraudulationship #traumarecovery #guidedmeditation #hypnosis #MegSouth #relationships #self-improvement --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Welcome to the Fraudulationship to Freedom Podcast. I found myself in a fraudulationship, a relationship I thought was based on love and trust but was really based on lies and manipulation. I didn't intend to marry a sociopath, but I did. When I found out my husband was a con man masquerading as a veteran and Navy SEAL, I was stunned and heartbroken! How could someone who professed his love for me every day lie to my face for years and years? Hi! I'm Meg South and this podcast is for women survivors of narcissistic or sociopathic abuse who may feel gutted, overwhelmed, angry, confused, alone, frozen, or all of the above depending on the day. Our wings were clipped by the narcissist or sociopath, but it's not a permanent state of being! We'll talk about practical ways to break the trauma bond, clear up cognitive dissonance and create the life we all deserve. In addition, we'll work on sharpening our spidey senses so we can recognize these predatory personality types from a mile away and avoid being their next target. I hope you listen each week to discussions with fierce women survivors, activists and thought leaders, sharing real world holistic strategies for healing and building our emotional self-defense muscles. This is Meg South for the Fraudulationship to Freedom podcast. Remembering we all have wings to fly. Connect on social media Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook MegSouth.Fraudulationship Fraudulationship to Freedom Website This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

You aren't responsible in any way for the abuse that was done to you. You are responsible for cleaning up the mess it made in your life, however unfair that (justifiably) feels. In this episode I talk about how to harness your resistance and anger to fuel your healing rather than let it bog you down in suffering. If you find this episode helpful, please subscribe and share. Connect with me on social media Fraudulationship website Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook Meg South This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

In this episode I talk about the criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder, what "antisocial" really means and what this personality disorder looks like in real life. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and share. I'm always looking for people who have survived and are now thriving after experiencing narcissistic or sociopathic abuse who would like to share their story on the podcast. Please DM me at @fraudulationship on Instagram if you or someone you know are interested in coming on the show. Connect on Social Media https://linktr.ee/megsouth Fraudulationship.com Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook: Meg South This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message

Do not listen to this while driving or while doing anything that needs your full attention. In this episode I take you on a journey to fully relax your body and mind and through a guided meditation to where you can change anything about your past and/or your future and rewrite them, experience them, the way you want. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and share. Connect with me on social media: Instagram @fraudulationship Facebook - Meg South Fraudulationship to Freedom website This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fraudulationship/message