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So how do we break cycles? like truly.  When we have experienced trauma and we live in survival  mode it's often really hard to change. Because Change = Danger So the key to lasting change is slow steady creation of emotional safety that doesn't set off our alarm system.  In today's episode I nerded the eff out about how trauma affects the brain and nervous system and how understanding this can help us take the necessary steps to changing patterns that are no longer serving us.  If you love a scientific explaination for why we are the way we are, this episode is for you.  It will arm you with the knowlege and first steps to making lasting change for yourself, your children and extend to the greater community.  Enjoy.    This is the article a cited a bit in this episode. https://www.wholewellnesstherapy.com/post/trauma-and-the-brain   Here is the link to waitlist for the Repair Focused Approach to Parenting Workshop so you will be the first to know when I set a date.    And here is the link to the How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids Workbook.

Something you hear a lot in the parenting coach circles is "meet the need behind the behavior." This means that no behavior is bad, rather simply a communication that there is a need. I take this to the next level and require we "believe" the need behind the behavior is  valid and worthy of being met no matter the way it's communicated. When we question the needs and insert our thoughts and decide whether our children really need what they are asking for that's where it gets messy.  Understanding that we all have needs and our needs are valid and inherently worthy of being met is a crucial piece of healing our own wounds and teaching our kids to honor themselves and others.  In this episode I share the importants of understanding the different layers of human needs from basics like food, water & safety to love & belonging.  The understanding of these layers, not only helps us learn how to move from surviving to thriving but also leads to viewing the world in a more equitable way.  This conversation not only feels necessary, but timely in shifting the communal conciously.  The conversation of the inherent worthiness of needs being met that we have in our homes, helps instill a family value of equity as our children start to relate to the greater community.    Want to learn more about how I tie equity into my parenting framework? Join me May 29th for the "How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids" Workshop.  Join the Waitlist to snag your spot early. (limited space available)   Enjoying this series? Share Share Share! Take a screen shot an share to your stories on instagram and tag me @katerinakarrys (my handle has changed since I got divorced) so I can send you a personal thank you! 

The secret to emotional security is not having your emotional needs met all the time. It's creating predictability for the nervous system that even when your needs aren't met in the moment or you don't feel connected to another human in the moment, that eventually it will happen.    Kids don't need you to be a perfect parent they just need to know that no matter what that you will be there for them and love them and meet their emotional needs ENOUGH of the time. Not ALL of the time.  When I started to understand this, my parenting approach shifted because I was able to release shame of feeling like a failure.    Listen to hear more about this concept and personal stories and reflections about how I apply this to my own life.    And if you haven't yet downloaded the FREE “How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids” Workbook to get started releasing your parenting triggers and learning what are the big difference makers in raising amazing authentic kind kids. Get the workbook here.  

Have you ever been going about your day just minding your own business, then you get triggered and all of a sudden you become your mother? Or your father?    This episode of the Cycle Breaker series we are talking about Generational Trauma Patterns. How they are passed down and why and the first step to start breaking them. A deep dive into the science of cycle breaking will happen later in the series, but this week we are setting the foundation.   Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes.   And if you ever have questions my DMs on instagram are open!   Article about survival styles is right here. And if you haven't yet downloaded the FREE “How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids” Workbook snag that here to get started releasing your parenting triggers and learning what are the big difference makers in raising amazing, authentic, kind kids.  

You are not a bad parent.  You just need more resources and support.  Let's talk about the fucking overwhelm of parenting and where it actually comes from. Shall we?    Subscribe to the You AF podcast so you don't miss The 6 week Cycle Breaker Series.  We will be exploring How to Break Generational and Societal Trauma Cycles so our kids won't have to.  First Step: Naming that parenting under these circumstances is hard and it's not only ok, but necessary to say these things out loud.    Download the FREE "How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids." Workbook to get started releasing shame & parenting triggers.    If you want to see what it's like to work together 1-1 on becoming a more trauma-informed parent, book a FREE 30 Minute Clarity Call

I invited my friend Jessica to share her Evolution of Healing Journey.  Jessica is an astrologer, coach, hypnotherapist and the cutest human ever.  This conversation was so rich.  We talked about loss as the catalyst for change, giving yourself permission to have boundaries, leaning on nature as a resource for healing and how Jessica calls on the support of her ancestors. I also loved the way Jessica described caring for herself in hard moments as a wise adult caring for a child and meeting their specific needs.   Disclaimer: We talked about loss of a family member during the pandemic. We also talk displacement due to war. I also want to acknowledge the nuance and layers of this conversation and being a white bodied person experiencing trauma then ending up in a colonized space. That there is a privilege in finding safety after trauma. And this to me as a trauma informed coach and human is necessary to mention. And I also believe these conversations are necessary to have on our path to healing. Grappling with all the layers that exist within in. Including privilege when you hold it.  You can find Jessica @northernatlas & northernatlas.co If you are on a healing journey and are curious to know what it would look like to work with me on your own Evolution of Healing, take advantage of my free 30 minute clarity call.  Book here: https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/getclearaf

My Friend Kate Van Doren is an artist and art therapist. The Healing Words Project Began in the Spring of 2020 and has empowered over 100 women to share their voice through the project. Katie invites volunteer participants to choose an empowering phrase to write on their bodies and then she photographs them.    Messages of basic human rights, bodily autonomy, and survivor uprising are portrayed through this incredible body of work.    Listen to hear more about the project how it got started how it's changed and evolved, how Kate creates safety within her space working with people who often feel vulnerable and my own experience of participating in the project.    Happy Listening.  you can see The Healing Words Project on it's website https://www.healingwordsproject.com/  and also on instagram @healingwordsproject   You can also find Kates Fine Arts Work at her websit https://www.katevandoren.com/   and on instagram @catvandoren

There is so much parenting advice out there it can be overwhelming.  My intention in the trauma informed approach I provide is to give a framwork that allows our full humanity.  In this episode I talk about the piece I belive are necessary to be trauma informed in your parenting approach.  The most important in my opinion a focus on Repair. I share the shifts I have seen in my own family with this approach. A repair approach allows us to understand that mistakes are a part of life and that we can maintain connection even when we mess up.  If you grew up in a home where there wasn't alot repair you may have grown up leaning on perfectionism or have a lot of negative self talk because your nervous system never learned to feel safe and that repair was possible after you made a mistake or even perceived mistake.  Let's break this patter and help our kids feel safe making mistakes and make circling back for healing and connection a consistent part of life.    Download the Free "How to NOT Fuck Up Your Kids" Workbook to get started  or Book a Free 30 Minute Clarity Call to see if trauma informed parenting coaching is the next step in your healing and parenting journey.   

This episode holds a special place in my heart.  In her work Amanda is an antiracism educator and you should definitely follow her account @arborandwood. I learn from her every day in that space, but the biggest impact she had on me was how she shared herself on her personal account.  Amanda is someone who has been a part of my own healing. Technically she is a stranger on the internet but watching her so vulnerably share her grief and joy in the way she does in her online space showed me what was possible for me too.  Trigger warning: In this episode we talk about abuse. We talked about the empowering and also the really hard parts of healing from abuse and leaving an abusive relationship.  I think this episode is extremely powerful because when women stand in their truth and say the things out loud and start making decisions from that place, it can inspire other women and femmes to do the same.  Realizing you are living a life you don't actually want can be hard. Amanda shares so tenderly the struggles of marrying and having kids young and having to figure out who you are when you have never really been on your own while simultaneously healing from abuse. I know many with similar circumstances can relate to this.  I want you to take note how she set boundaries and put protections in place to provide herself with the support she needs as she is stepping into learning to exist for herself. Your life doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.  This episode is going to help you give yourself permission to finally release shame and start living a life that works for you.  I am still in awe of getting to experience this conversation.    Find Amanda Here: @arborandwood @__localhoney you can also find her @arborandwood on tiktok   If you are looking for trauma informed healing + parenting support book a Free 30 Minute Clarity Call   

Piggy Backing on my conversation with Joy last week because I'm basically obsessed with her. If you haven't listened yet please do.    This whole concept of asking ourselves who's voice is this really? when we aren't speaking to ourself with kindness has led me down a spiral of how to work on not only having more compassionate self talk for ourselves but how to make it so our children don't have to do this work in their future.  Or atleast less of this work.  Trauma happens when we internalize the failures of our environment as personal failures. This is why we form negative self talk. We think things are our fault.  So how do we prevent our kids from taking on the failures of their environment?  We do our own internal work to release our own shame by finally placing the blame where it belongs and healing our nervous system. We help our children understand their feelings and needs are valid and necessary and that sometimes life is really shitty but you are there for them to hole space for their whole humanity.  Easy peasy right? Yeah i know, which is why I designed the "How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids" Workbook.  Click the link above to dowload for free.  If you want to explore working together on release your own shame so you can be a more intentional parent, book a free Clarity Call to see if working together is the next right step.  https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/getclearaf  

HOLY SH*T what did we NOT talk about in this episode.    My beautiful kind friend Joy graceously shared her Evolution of Healing Journey with me.    From the moment she realized things were no longer working to changing everything from the way she talked to herself, her boundaries, and her relationship with receiving support there is a little something for everyone in this episode.    My absolute favorite part was when she shared in look into a very specific journal practice for when she is struggling. I wanted to share these tender questions with you here so you can impliment this practice if it feels nourishing.    To hear it in Joys voice tune in around the 60 min mark.    First she shuts out any noise that is sending her messages of not enoughness. What Are you making this struggle mean about you?  Who's voice is that, that is saying you aren't doing enough?  Can you still love yourself if it doesn't look like xyz? If self love feels inaccessible: Can you find a tiny part of yourself that feels ok with how things are right now?    Uff. These questions are such good reflective questions.    You can follow Joy @soulkitchen_lifestyle @thejoymukiri and listen to her new podcast Soul Kitchen Talks with Joy on Spotify Hear her also on AMP on the Don't Sugar Sh!T Show   If you are curious how trauma informed coaching could help you on your healing journey take advantage of my 30 Minutes Free Clarity Session. You Can book that here    

My least favorite parenting advice as a trauma informed coach is "Just be Present." The idea that all our kids need is our presents is yeah a nice idea, but this advice forgets about a very real trauma response that was necessary to survive. Disassociation.  So for those of us who's bodies chose to completely disconnect in order to survive(me), "Just be Present" can feel like climbing a mountain. And leave us feeling a lot of shame over something we have little control over.  So of course we want to take small steps to learning to be more connected and present every day. But shaming ourselves when presence feels hard is not the answer.  Tune in to hear me (and my little assistant today who is trying to crawl back inside my uterus) chat about why this happens so you can begin to release the shame and stay on the path to healing.  You are doing great. Parenting is hard. Trauma makes it harder. And that is NOT your fault.    Need some support around understanding and releasing survival strategies? Book a Free 30 minute clarity session to see if working with me could help.    https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/getclearaf

Pareting is hard. Trauma makes it harder. Especially when we have a generational legacy of trauma. That compounded affect often goes un acknowlegded and we end up feeling like we are drowing with the stress of parenting a we don't understand why.  In this episode I explain how trauma is passed down through generations and how you can start breaking the cycle today through healing.    Download the Free How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids Workbook Right Now!!  https://bit.ly/how-to-not-F-up-your-kids   If you are ready to jump into Coaching because you want to take the next steps in healing check out my 4 week Coaching container BIG PHOENIX ENERGY.  You can learn more here https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/big-phoenix-energy   Or if you are curious but hesitant about working with me and want to see how trauma coaching can help you on your individual journey, take advantage of my 30 minute free Clarity Call.  https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/getclearaf    

Do you remember your "awakening" moment of healing? Like you just knew things weren't working anymore and wanted something new? So I'm trying something new on the podcast... Today I published my first ever INTERVIEW with another human! Many of my episodes share practical advice and trauma knowledge but many of the stories I share are my own. Through my lens. And there are so many more people with different experiences on the planet. My story might hit in some ways but not in others. My intention for these interviews is to present more lived experience that isn't just mine. Of course I will offer my trauma insight along the way to offer shared trauma informed language to shine light on patterns there are in all healing journeys but there is so much value in stories.   On today's episode my friend Scottie Durrett who is a mom of 3, life coach and fellow podcaster allowed me to ask her some deep questions and even coach her a little to guide her in discovering the next steps in her healing journey. I of course started the interview with "When did you have your so called awakening?" I think you may be able to relate to Scotties story in many ways. Even if her circumstances are different, the way she describes how subtle the nudge to wake the fuck up from "sleeping at the wheel." to her search for community and support and eventually rebelling and stepping into being authentic, is all things we have in common on this path.   You can find Scottie on instagram  @scottiedurrett  and listen to the interview that Scottie and I did together on her podcast MomPlex here.   Those of you who have been awake for a while, doing the work but may be in a protective phase trying to figure out how to operate in the world in your new authentic form.... BIG PHOENIX ENERGY my 4 week coaching container is here to support you. You can find more info  here.     If you aren't quite sure what the fuck you need but know you need something... You can take advantage of my free 30 minute Clarity Calls by booking one  here. 

Big shifts happening this year. In this episode I share my vision for where we should go from here. After a few years of some intense healing how do we start to rise from the ashes of the all the ideas, conditioning, rules, and obstacles we have burnt to the ground. Join me as a share how we can all walk into 2023 with some BIG PHOENIX ENERGY. Want some support heading into the new year? Join me for a 4 week container to help cultivate your BIG PHOENIX ENERGY Learn more at he link here.   Or if you want to ask question about BPE container or what Trauma Informed Parenting Coaching could look like you can book a free Clarity Call by clicking here.   Be sure to follow me on instagram @katerinabarron and tag me if you share about the pod so I can send you some love in the dms.

Wrapping up Season 2. Both/And thinking, holding space for nuance and multiple truths has helped me expand my nervous system capacity. When we expand our nervous system capacity we not only are able to manage stress and emotions with more care but we are also able to experience joy in a deeper way. Coming in hot with my own real life examples of what this looks like and sharing a sneak peak into what's to come in season 3. We are pivoting a bit.   If you are on a healing journey and open to sharing your story to help others feel less alone please email me at katerinabarron@gmail.com. Come be my guest!   Not currently taking long term clients at this time but if you would like to be the first to know when slots open please fill out this application. Application: https://colossal-motivator-2977.ck.page/885744daa6   I am still offering a la cart 60 minute coaching sessions and 90 minute Boundaries Intensives. These are perfect to get clear on your boundaries to help maintain healthy family relationships heading into the holiday season. Book with links below. 60 minutes $150 https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/1-1-coaching-session   90 Minute Boundary Intensive $222 https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/boundary-intensive   Any question DM on Instagram @katerinabarron   If you are loving You AF the best way to support my work is to leave a review where ever you are listening. Or take a screen shot of your fave episode and share it to your stories. Don't forget to tag me so I can send you a big long awkward virtual Hug. Love you.  

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Sometimes our life falls apart and we are forced to heal and sometimes when we heal we get to a point where can no longer keep going the way we were. And that can feel like life is falling apart. In this episode I share the things I have done and am still doing to manage all the emotions of continuing to heal when shit is hitting the fan. Although these tips are simple they have made a huge impact in my life and in the lives of my clients when we intentionally foucs on them. I hope you find them valuable. Want to see if working with me a the next best step in your healing journey? Book a Free 30 Minute Clarity call. https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/getclearaf Or Fill Out an Application https://bit.ly/youafapplication Not quite ready to work together but want more boundaries and healing content? follow me on instagram: @katerinabarron OR Join my email list and get a Free Boundary Setting Workbook: https://bit.ly/Boundariesthatstick

Once upon a time a client asked me how you can tell if you are healing. I was able to answer in theory with some experience back then but now.. woah. I have embodied so much more healing that I have to share more because I want this for everyone. If you want support setting boundaries or remembering that you already know how to heal(facts) but want someone to help you feel less alone, Book a Free 30 Minute Clarity Call to see if working together would be a good fit. https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/getclearaf   Or if you are ready to jump in to getting clear on your boundaries to support your healing, a boundary setting intensive is a great place to start. https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/boundary-intensive  

In this episode I talk about the unique struggle around boundary setting for those of us who identify as people pleasers. On a downswing of emotion that falls outside of our window of tolerance (more on the window of tolerance in episode 31) we fall into freeze or fawn stress response. This tends to lead to little to now boundaries because our survival has depended on not rocking the boat or making other upset. Listen on to learn some simple strategies to help you over come people pleasing through learning to set more boundaries. Window of tolerance graphic: https://bit.ly/Windowoftolerancegraphic Limited Offer: Book a 45 minute session for $60: https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/45-min-session Not ready for coaching? Download your free boundaries workbook: https://bit.ly/Boundariesthatstick

In todays episode I shared my personal experience in noticing the difference between regualr old therapy and coaching(which aren't bad) and trauma informed therapy and coaching(which work better for me). I now incorperate the trauma informed lens in everything I do. Espeically when it comes to settng boundaries. Over the next few episodes I will be sharing different approaches to setting boundaries based on who we are and the different stories we tell ourselves about why we can't set boundaries or tend to set too many. Today's focus is on those of us who's protective trauma responses are fight or flight. This usually leads to us being called b*tches. Because we are fighters or apear to not care. In reality we have just been let down so much that we feel we can only depend on ourselves to protect our little baby tender hearts. Now don't get me wrong here there is nothing wrong with being a B. I am all about reclaiming that shit. But often what happens is when we do want to get close to someone it get's in the way of the connection we deeply want whether we like to admit or not. So before you punch me in the face, listen to episode and hear me out.   Limited Offer: Book a 45 minute session for $60: https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/45-min-session Not ready for coaching? Download your free boundaries workbook: https://bit.ly/Boundariesthatstick

I have a love hate relationship with the word resilience. It used to mean pushing through no matter what. But when I did that it did more harm than good and I felt less capable. Building true resilience comes from learning how to identify where the edge of our comfort zone is or in the trauma informed world we call it the window of tolerance. Understanding what the window of tolerance is, and how to use this information to heal and build true resilience has led to massive transformation in my own life. So naturally I want to share it with you. In this episode I share some real life examples of climbing out of a hole I was in and how different it felt compared to how I dealt in the past. Understanding true resilience was crucial. Hope you Enjoy.   Window of tolerance graphic: https://bit.ly/Windowoftolerancegraphic Limited Offer: Book a 45 minute session for $60: https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/45-min-session Not ready for coaching? Download your free boundaries workbook: https://bit.ly/Boundariesthatstick

As an over sharer I know the struggle. This episode is all about why we overshare, the do's and don'ts of oversharing, emotional dumping, and trauma dumping and how to set self boundaries and boundaries with others to help improve your relationships and protect your energy. Follow me on IG @katerinabarron Download your FREE boundary Setting Workbook https://bit.ly/Boundariesthatstick Book your boundary setting intensive. https://bit.ly/BoundariesIntensive

This episode is for anyone who struggles with living up to impossible standards because they struggle with chronic illness, neaurodiversity, mental health issues and past traumas. That's it thats the description. Want some support from yours truly? reach out to me on instagram and let's see if it's a good fit. https://www.instagram.com/katerinabarron/ Love you. That is all.

When we grow up in an environment where our emotional needs aren't met by our caregivers, we often learn that their emotions and needs are more important than ours. This programs us to people please and live in a way that serves them. So how do we start to relive ourselves of this burden? It's fucking hard man. Especially if your emotions have also been gaslit. I have found that learning to check in with ourselves and check our reality is key to letting go of guilt and feeling overly responsible for others. Listen on to hear a real life story of how I recently had to check myself in order to stand my ground on setting a boundary and how you can learn to do this too. If you need more support around boundary setting The Boundary Setting intensive is where it's at. On this 90 minute call we will map our your personal boundary setting plan then follow up with 5 days of additional support through voxer or whatsapp so you can do the thing with me in your corner. Book Today https://bit.ly/BoundariesIntensive

What is toxic spirituality? I say it's the misinterpretation of spirit and purpose in a way that makes people think they have the authority to  others what they should or shouldn't do in order to be spiritual or aligned.  If you have ever heard that the way you think or act is the cause of something bad happening or if you have ever felt like if you just could be more positive life would be better, that is internalized toxic spirituality. And this shit is everywhere. From the book The Secret to people believing the reason your not making more money is because you are manifesting wrong. (FYI There is no wrong way to manifest. It's about learning to love yourself in order to receive. Which happens when you heal your trauma BTW. Trauma healing is manifestation.)  In this episode I share my own experience with toxic spirituality and what I now believe to be true about the human experience and true spirituality. If you find the episode triggering I hear you. I want to tell you there is no wrong way to believe in spirit or whatever you call it. And my DMs are open if you want to chat more. If you have been curious about working with me 1 on 1, fill out an application here and I'll be in touch: https://bit.ly/youafapplication This is not to see if you qualify but to see which coaching options is the best fit for you. 3 Spots open in April.

Do you do that thing where you judge how you responded or handled things in the past? Self reflection and awareness can be powerful tools for healing and change and often times we use them as weapons against ourselves. I'm here to tell you that you can't know what you don't know and why applying that perspective can help free yourself of guilt and shame around the past. In this episode I will break down why we are mean to ourselves and how to make the shift to being gentle in order to move forward toward healing. Even if you walk away from this episode thinking this doesn't apply to you because of xyz reason and continue to beat yourself up because of mistakes you've made, I will still be holding the belief for you that not everything was your fault and hope in time you will free yourself of that heaviness. Also I'm trying something new. As I lean into boundaries a huge part of healing I will now share 1-2 boundary setting suggetions to create protection and support specific to the topic of the episode. If you are wondering about working with me 1-1 Fill out an application here. https://bit.ly/youafapplication This is not to see if you qualify but for which coaching option would be the best fit. I have 3 slots open for April. Stages of Learning reference. https://leadershipmanagement.com.au/understanding-4-stages-learning/

In this episode I share journal exercise for revisiting a big emotional moment and working through it. This exercise can take as little as 10 minutes and be extremely impactful. I want to start incorperating shorter episode with actional tools like this more often. Would love to hear how you like them. Let me know if you use these prompts and how it went! You can also share what you need more support around by sending me a message on instagram @katerinabarron Emotions List as mentioned in episode. http://www.visualisingmentalhealth.com/projects-in-development/a-list-of-feelings-or-is-it-a-list-of-emotions/ If you are still needing some guidance around boudary setting check out the below support options. Free Boundaries Support: Episodes 6, 10, 20, 21, 22, 23 on the You AF podcast.  You can find You AF on iTunes & Spotify. Limited Funds Support Boundary Setting Queen Work Shop $22 Link in Bio. Mid level Boundaries Support: Private Boundaries Intensive $222 90 Minute Call + 5 extra days of support through Voxer or WhatsApp. DM Me to Learn More General Boundaries Questions I will answer for free in my DMs. Anything more I will suggest an appropriate support option form above.  

So I always hesitate talking about mind set work because I think often times it's presented as the thing to do end of story. In my personal experience it's just the first step. And Also I can't deny that there have been some pretty huge shift in the way I think that blew my mind, and led to living a much more expansive authentic life when I embodied them. To me embodiment is the piece that many main stream coaches often miss talking about that is the real hard part of mindset work. Now don't get me wrong these coaches are probably helping their clients get there but not knowing that you can't force it which can often lead to a shame spiral when you aren't getting there fast enough or you arent believing what you want about yourself fast enough. I don't think you can force embodiment. It's not up to you. It's up to your body. Listen on to hear more about what I mean by this and the steps you do have control over to reach embodiment. Then hear the 5 mindset embodiments that hit me like a ton of bricks that I can no longer unknow as I try to live my best fucking, abundant (eye roll emojoi) life. If you are looking for more support on your healing journey around how to set healthy boundaries and stick to them, You can get access the replay of The Boundary Setting Queen Workshop for $22 here. https://youaf.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1126512 If you want more individualized hands on support you can shedule a Boundary Setting Intensive Here. https://calendly.com/katerinabarron/boundary-intensive More info on both of these offers at the end of the episode. and Feel Free to always slide into my DMs on instagram if you have any questions. https://www.instagram.com/katerinabarron/

Are you sick of talking about boundaries yet? The reason I'm on such a roll is because I truly belive that boundaries not only create more time, energy, and closer relationships but they are necessary on the healing journey. I grew up in an environment where boundaries weren't safe. Trying to set boundaries went against the norm of people pleasing and doing what you are told. As I tried to set boundaries as a way to protect myself, they would put me in a position where I would be reprimanded, shamed, or even shunned. It wasn't until I was no longer in that environment that I slowly but surely started to set boundaries in a healthier way. It was not an easy road but the more I learned boundardy setting skills and became more emotionally intelligent the more positive changes I was able to make in my life. Boundaries helped me create the physical, emotional and mental space I needed to truly process wtf had happened in my upbringing and fully step into learning to heal. Todays episode is my personal ode to boundaries as the key piece that lead me to where I am today. Of course of circumstances may look different but my experience from a trauma stand point was very human. I hope you can see yourself in my story as you walk your own healing path.   If you are interested in learning the exact process I have developed through my own trial and error that build boundary setting skills as a path to healing, Join me March 15th @1PM CST for the Boundary Setting Queen Workshop: https://youaf.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1126512

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Important Note!! The workshop has been changed to March 15th. New link to register here: https://youaf.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1126512 We are continuing the conversation about boundaries this week. We can arm ourselves with all the tools in the world and start setting boundaries right away and I have a secret to helping set boundaries just a little easier. Ok I don't know if it ever gets easier per say, but you can get better at processing your emotions in relation to boundaries. Let's dive in and chat more about how becomeing more emotionally intelligent and changing your relationship with your emotions can lead to setting healthier boundaries and communication in your relationships.   If you are all about this boundaries conversation and want a hands on approch to boundary setting that leaves you feeling empowered, JOIN ME March 8th at 1 pm CST for The Boundary Setting Queen Workshop. Link to snag your spot here: https://bit.ly/BoundarySettingWorkshop

Important Note!! The workshop has been changed to March 15th. New link to register here: https://youaf.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1126512 I've talked about boundaries before but this episode is a deep dive into the power but also all the good, the bad and the ugly. Boundaries are such a hot topic and we hear lots of messaging around protecting ourselves and our energy. While yes, that is part of it, boundaries can also be an incredible tool to help cultive deep meaningful realationships. It's not just about protection it's about being grounded in your motha fuggin values and communicating them with clear consistent confidence. It's also about knowing where your responsibility lies in relationships and where you draw the line and let the person on the other end manage their own emotions. So let's dive in to all things boundaries and I hope you walk away with a clear idea of where to either get started or adjust your boundary setting methods. If you found this episode valuable but find yourself wanted some more direction and hands on guidance Join me March 8th for the Boundary Setting Queen Workshop. Learn more about the work shop here: https://bit.ly/BoundarySettingWorkshop

Welcome Back to Season 2 of the You AF Poddy Pod. I'm so pumped to be back. I'm flying solo this season in the editing department. Yay for learning new skills. So Life is hard. Can I get an Amen? We often look for ways to make it easier. This is human nature and sometimes we over look the one thing we may need the most. A place to simply be seen, heard and validated in our lived experience. Join me in my per usual ramble on the the power of Slowng down and  feeling the feelings in the safety of a space someone holds for you.   Have you been vibing with me for a while and wondering where you can find more or maybe work together?    Check out what I have to offer.    Free Legit 45 Minute Coaching Session:    These are limited to 3 per month once they are full don't hesitate to join the waitlist and you will be the first to hear when they open for next month.  https://bit.ly/legitfreesession Follow me on Instagram For Becoming besties on the gram  @katerinabarron Free Guide: Emotional Brain Training  For calming your stress in minutes and training your brain and body to respond in a healthier way in the future https://bit.ly/FreeGuideEBT   Free Workbook: How to Trust the F@$% Out of Your Intuition  For helping you use your primal gift of intuition to the fullest without second guessing https://bit.ly/FreeIntuitionWorkbook   Courses: SAFE SPACE https://bit.ly/SAFESPACECourse The First steps back to who you are through learning to create a SAFE SPACE from within.    Coaching: 90 Minute You AF Intensive For creating a personalized path back to yourself + 7 days of voxer support coaching https://bit.ly/YouAFIntensive  

Excited to learn more about the You AF group coaching program coming soon? Join the waitlist here: https://bit.ly/youafgroupwaitlist Have you been vibing with me for a while and wondering where you can find more or maybe work together?  Check out what I have to offer:  Follow me on InstagramFor Becoming besties on the gram @katerinabarron Free Guide: Emotional Brain Training For calming your stress in minutes and training your brain and body to respond in a healthier way in the futurehttps://bit.ly/FreeGuideEBT Free Workbook: How to Trust the F@$% Out of Your Intuition For helping you use your primal gift of intuition to the fullest without second guessinghttps://bit.ly/FreeIntuitionWorkbook Courses: SAFE SPACEhttps://bit.ly/SAFESPACECourse The First steps back to who you are through learning to create a SAFE SPACE from within.  Coaching: 90 Minute You AF IntensiveFor creating a personalized path back to yourself + 7 days of voxer support coachinghttps://bit.ly/YouAFIntensive

Excited to learn more about the You AF group coaching program coming soon? Join the waitlist here: https://bit.ly/youafgroupwaitlist Have you been vibing with me for a while and wondering where you can find more or maybe work together?  Check out what I have to offer:  Follow me on InstagramFor Becoming besties on the gram @katerinabarron Free Guide: Emotional Brain Training For calming your stress in minutes and training your brain and body to respond in a healthier way in the futurehttps://bit.ly/FreeGuideEBT Free Workbook: How to Trust the F@$% Out of Your Intuition For helping you use your primal gift of intuition to the fullest without second guessinghttps://bit.ly/FreeIntuitionWorkbook Courses: SAFE SPACEhttps://bit.ly/SAFESPACECourse The First steps back to who you are through learning to create a SAFE SPACE from within.  Coaching: 90 Minute You AF IntensiveFor creating a personalized path back to yourself + 7 days of voxer support coachinghttps://bit.ly/YouAFIntensive

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I'm just an anxious person. I'm a hot head. I'm a push over/people pleaser. I'm a bitch. I'm the good girl. The cool girl. The rebellious girl. We label ourselves constantly as we try to explain who we are, and why we act the way we do. We are always trying to make sense of our own behavior either to make our selves feel better or to figure out what is wrong so we can change it. We have been told people see our true colors. The truth is most of these labels aren't actually personality traits. They are stress responses. they are our body and brain trying to protect us. When we over identify with our stress response as part of who we are it robs us of truly showing up as who we are. Sometimes it's necessary to figure out who you are not to remember who you are. And you my friend are not your stress response. If you are ready to stop over identifying with your stress response and take back control of your body's protection system by understanding how it works and how to update it to better align with your authentic self. Enroll in SAFE SPACE now. Early bird pricing only $97 through October 14th. https://youaf.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1109297

Coming at you with some real time life lessons this week. Last week in therapy my therapist asked me If was modeling the expectations I have of others. Oh gut punch right? It's always hard to look at ourselves especially when it triggers shame. There is a way to stay aligned with who tf you are even when you misstep and don't practice what you preach. In this episode I share how knowing your core values and understanding your stress response can help keep you aligned and open to pivots and change at the same time. Sometimes we get stuck on a particular path and can't see what could possibly be a short cut because our navigation system is insisting on this way. But what if your navigation system Garmin version 2002 and needs an update? Or what if your navigation system is only taking you a way that has felt safe in the past and won't steer you into the unknown because you are too scared. In this episode I share how we stay aligned with our vision who tf we are and how to not panic when the path takes a detour you weren't expecting. Those detours are where the magic happens. Book mentioned: Dare to Lead by Brene Brown Core Values List: https://daretolead.brenebrown.com/workbook-art-pics-glossary/ Safe Space Wait List: https://bit.ly/safespacewaitlist   

Whether you call it self sabotage, imposter syndrome or blame yourself for not doing it right, we all hit obstacles on our growth journeys. The truth is all of these things come from the same place. They come from past experiences that are now affecting your present life and trauma. But I've done the mindset work and I'm going to therapy and I've been doing all the things why do I still feel like this? I asked myself these questions for years. I was missing this one piece. This one thing that most coaches are forgetting about. They are forgetting that our body remembers everything. That although we have changed our self talk that doesn't necessarily mean that our nervous system feels safe as we enter into doing big, scary, new things. Knowing how to reset your nervous system and reconnect your brain and body, is the one skill that will get you farther than any mindset hack ever will. We need mind set work of course but the beauty of this skill is that the mindset shift is a natural by product of calming the nervous system where as changing your mindset does not have the same affect. Both must work hand in hand to truly break all your cycles and remove obstacle when they get in the way. In order to have lasting change and trust in your self, your intuition and your growth you have to feel safe. There is only room for trust in safe spaces. Listen to hear classic me ranting about why I think this is so important and of course tools to help you get started. love you boo. Books mentioned: The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van de Kolk The Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson. >>> Register for The Science of Intuition masterclass:https://bit.ly/scienceofintuition

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Everything happens for a reason. I say this a lot. I hate when other people say it to me but I can't deny when I later find the reason. I was supposed to record this episode about boundaries before I left Mexico but didn't have time. Then I learned a huge lesson during my trip and it became clear why I didn't. I hadn't yet had this important realization about boundaries. In this episode I share the basics of boundaries and also dig into the grief we feel when our expectations of certain relationships are shattered. Boundaries are necessary for deep meaningful relationships but what happens when setting a boundary doesn't go according to plan? That's a hard pill to swallow. Are you on your boundary setting journey? I would love to hear how it's going. I believe that connecting with your intuition is a crucial piece in boundary setting and I'm hosting a masterclass to help you truly live from that trusting your gut place. >>> Let's connect on instagram @katerinabarron  >>> Join the Waitlist for the upcoming masterclass You AF Presents: Tap Into Your Intuition Like a______(fill in a bad ass identifier here) https://bit.ly/youafintuitionwaitlist

I asked my audience again what they wanted to hear and this concept was super popular. I believe it only takes 1 person to change a relationship. Notice I didn't say fix or make better. I said change. When we focus on our own work it will cause 1 of 2 reactions in people. They will either be inspired and change and grow with you or get triggered af. I have learned time and time again that my hardest relationships run much smoother when I am focusing on myself and connecting fully with who I truly am. Because that person draws in the kind of relationships I want and repells the rest. I get vulnerable in this episode because I'm sharing details about my marriage and when I'm embodying this concept it goes much better. Disclaimer: If you realize you are in a toxic relationship that is not longer healthy for you this concept with make the toxic behaviors worse and no amount of personal responsibilty on your part will change a persons behavior unless they really want to change. Also you do not have to take personal responsibilty for someone elses abuse. I would love to hear what you think about this episode.   >>>Let's connect on instagram @katerinabarron   >>>Join the Waitlist for my upcoming masterclass You AF Presents: Tap Into Your Intuition Like a Boss https://bit.ly/youafintuitionwaitlist

If you think about emotions are just energy. Understanding how energy works, like the science of it, we can actually learn how to be more emotionally intelligent. In this episode we break down the science of emotions, what is emotional intelligence and how we can use this knowledge to manage our emotions to have a calmer existence. If this episode resonates with you I want to hear about it!! Let's connect on instagram. @katerinabarron

Once upon a time in college I sat under a tree and thought about how cool it would be to raise my kids abroad and for them to be bilingual. Then a rando man walked up with a guitar and played my favorite Beatles song across the universe. I woke up figuratively and literally 8 years later in a park in Mexico listening to my kids speak spanish. I can't make this shit up. The universe has your back whether you realize it or not. Listen on to hear the whole story of point A to Point B and the 3 big lessons I learned along the way. If your mind was blown by this story and want to chat more about it let's connect on instagram. @katerinabarron Article mentioned: https://interactive.pri.org/2017/in-trumps-america/barron.html 

Self care is a hot trendy topic these days and of course we need to eat healthy and move our bodies and do a 12 step skin care routine(I definitely do) and also there is a missing piece. Surprise surprise I'm talking about what I think is missing haha. The whole purpose of self care is to do things that fill our cup and replenish our energy Duh. We do that in order to be able to be of service and show up in the world. But then we just throw out all that is in our cup willy nilly and then we get depleted and go cray until we have time to fill our cup again. What if there was a way that your cup never completely empties? Imagine if the way you lived your life creates a cycle of give and replenish consistently so that everything you put your energy into also fills your cup? Sounds like a magical unicorn world but I swear it's not. Listen on to learn 4 ways to do this and the umbrella that encompasses these practices that I think is the secret to living a peacful life. Book mentioned Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawaab follow her on IG @nedratawaab and of course follow me and let's connect @katerinabarron. If this episode was helpful in any way or you have questions I want to hear about it. DM me boo.

What is your default emotion when things get hard? By paying attention to which emotion is your default, we can start to figure out why and whether or not it's helping us or hurting us. Listen to learn more about why we default to the same feelings and how to take back control of how you react to life.I share my favorite tool and I promise it's juicy AF. You might want to take notes cuz there are quite a few writer downers. After that...if this episode was helpful or you have questions I want to hear about it! Let's connect on IG @katerinabarron. Tag me in your stories along with a screen shot or video of what you think or shoot me a DM! Love you boo.

We all tell ourselves stories about who we are and how we should operate in the world. In this episode let's talk about where these stories come from and how they affect us. When we learn how to catch the stories in real time and unravel and re-write them is how we can make sure that they are helping us and not hurting us. Listen on to dive in and get some super juicy AF tips on how to take that thought awareness and use it to make life your B. Did this resonate with you?I want to hear about it! Let's connect on Instagram: @katerinabarron

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