Podcasts about somaticcoaching

Embark on a journey of transformation with me!

Join me in exploring how stress impacts us and the transformative potential of staying present. Learn practical strategies for cultivating resilience and responding with grace in challenging moments. Watch now to embark on a journey towards authenticity and inner peace! ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free introduction call with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 238] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #presence #resilience #mindfulnesscoach

Embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment with me!

Rachel Blackman joins our host, Felicity Dwyer in an enlightening conversation to discuss somatic coaching. They explore how this approach can lead to a deeper sense of presence and a new understanding of the body's intelligence. Rachel guides Felicity through three short somatic exercises to demonstrate the value of physical sensations and how to use the information provided in a coaching session. Discover the importance of agency, good contracting, and re-contracting in coaching – letting the client's resonant sense guide the process.   You will learn:   ·       The power of embodied intelligence and integration in coaching ·       How to use movement, body language and metaphor as a tool ·       How somatic coaching offers new perspectives, insights and ways of being for clients   “This idea of relating to the embodied experience as a sort of neck down experience and a kind of function rather than a territory of intelligence feels to me like a coming home and a deepening."   For the episode resources and guest bio, please visit:  https://www.associationforcoaching.com/page/dl-hub_podcast-channel_coaching-the-whole-person-podcast-series-somatic-coaching

Welcome to a transformative exploration of the unconscious patterns that shape our lives. In this reel, we embark on a quest to understand how we can regain control, break free from the auto-pilot mode, and savor every moment with intention. Join me as we uncover the keys to self-awareness, transparency, and the power of choice. Let's dive deep into the adventure of self-discovery and healing. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 224] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #AwakenYourAwareness #breakfreefromautopilot #patternsunveiled #embracingchoice

Why do some sail through decisions while others wrestle with fear and doubt? It often stems from developmental trauma, shaping our very core. In this space, we'll explore the fear that immobilizes us, the anxiety of judgment, and the healing power of compassion. Let's move beyond right and wrong, embracing a path that leads from the heart. You're not alone on this journey. Support and solace await those who seek a different path.

Welcome to a profound exploration of the emotions that shape our journey. Today, we delve into the intricate tapestry of fear and the transformative power it holds. Join me as we navigate the labyrinth of emotions, from the alarms of genuine danger to the isolating fear of insignificance. Together, we'll uncover the path to healing, connection, and a deeper understanding of ourselves. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 223] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #feartofreedom #EmotionalJourney #labyrinthofemotions #pathtohealing #tranformativepower

Are you ready to transform your life and unlock your true potential? Then you don't want to miss this powerful episode of The Healing You Method podcast featuring transformational facilitator Gloria Lybecker in her interview with Andy Anderson, co-owner of AVAYA University. https://bit.ly/3P02wpD Gloria shares her unique approach to helping people overcome PTSD, toxic shame, and limiting beliefs through equine-guided resonance coaching and constellation work. Tune in to learn evidence-based strategies for cultivating self-compassion and navigating challenges on your healing journey. You'll also discover how Gloria's 6-week course can support you in creating lasting change. Click play now to start empowering yourself for positive conscious change. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 221] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #healingjourney #selfcare #traumahealing #ptsdrecovery #equinetherapy #constellationwork #SelfCompassion

Have you ever wondered what "play" really means? Beyond the structured games and sports we know, Original Play offers a unique framework that aims to improve relationships and replace aggression with kindness and love. But what exactly is it, and how can it transform your life? In this post, we'll explore the power of Original Play and how it helped me discover a whole new way of being with my child. From learning the patterns of children's play to understanding the neurobiology of secure attachment, you'll discover how this ancient practice can unlock new possibilities in your relationships and parenting. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 215] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #play #parenting #originalplay

Do you find it challenging to engage your family in playtime that is both fun and emotionally connecting? In this post, we explore the power of Original Play, a unique approach to play that helps develop emotional intelligence, physical skills, and grace. We'll take a closer look at a Play After Play experience, where families engage in play with the guidance of trained facilitators. Discover how mirroring and mimicry can help bond family members, and how Original Play can help children on the autism spectrum develop social skills. Join us as we unlock the power of play and explore how Original Play can strengthen family bonds. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 216] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #play #parenting #mimicry #mirroring

Ever felt disconnected, like life's radio went silent?

Join me on a journey where a frosty morning, a wounded lead mare, and the power of compassion intertwine. Witness the resilience that blooms in the wake of trauma and isolation.

Embark on a transformative journey, exploring the patterns of your inner experience and the incredible influence of your attention. Witness the healing power of connecting with majestic, sensitive horses.  At Healing You Sanctuary, our horses are partners in co-creating a field of healing. Experience the magic of deep listening and the profound connection between facilitator, client, and these magnificent beings.  Step out of your comfort zone and embrace the transformative power within. Click the link below to join this magical adventure!  ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 211] #thehealingyoumethod #magicofhorses #healingjourney #connectwithyourpower #deeplistening #TransformativeExperience

Witness the transformative power of the horse-human bond in action! Join me on a captivating journey as we explore how a bond with a horse can heal the human spirit. Experience the magic of limbic resonance, where horses become sentient partners in our healing process. Prepare to be moved as we delve into the depths of emotion, neuroplasticity, and the creation of new neural pathways. Discover the extraordinary connection that can only be born from new experiences. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 210]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria #trauma #HealingTrauma #limbicrevision #limbicresonance #neuroplasticity #limbicbond

At Healing You Sanctuary, horses and clients are honored as sentient beings, whole and perfect as they are. Prepare for a profound journey where connections unfold, revealing hidden patterns in relationships. As time slows down, clients begin to see through the eyes of the horses, opening up new possibilities for change. Experience the power of the human-horse bond as one client beautifully shares their testimony. Step into this sacred space, where the wisdom of body, mind, and spirit converge. Discover inner peace through warm, resonant relationships and restore harmony within. Listen closely, for the Healing Herd is calling. Click the link below and embark on this transformative journey today! .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 212]  #TheHealingYouMethod #DanceOfConnection #HealingJourney #TransformativeExperience #HumanHorseBond #InnerPeace #SacredSpace

Trauma can wreak havoc on our bodies, minds, and systems, leaving us feeling isolated, alone, and overwhelmed. But what if the devastation of trauma could be lessened if we were accompanied through our experiences? Rather than measuring the magnitude of the traumatic event, we can measure the extent to which the person who experienced it was left alone with it. When we approach trauma from this perspective, we begin to understand the knots of memory that lie beneath our conscious awareness and show up as bubbles of life energy, pulling us into them and stopping us in our tracks. In this post, we will explore the healing power of accompaniment and how it can help us navigate the thick undergrowth of addictions and compulsions that often follow traumatic experiences. Join us as we unpack trauma and discover the importance of warm attention, protection, focus, and care for our younger selves. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 213] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria #trauma #timetravelempathy #unconsciouscontracts

Do you ever feel suspicious when someone offers you kindness or compassion? Do you struggle to trust yourself when you try to show yourself warmth and empathy? Many of us have been conditioned to doubt our own feelings and reactions, especially if we didn't receive adequate emotional support when we were younger. In this post, we explore the reasons why we may feel suspicious of kindness from others and offer practical tips on how to overcome this distrust. By learning to trust ourselves and the world around us, we can break through the barriers of self-doubt and cultivate a more loving and compassionate relationship with ourselves and others. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 208]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria #innercritic #resonantlanguage #selfesteem #selfcompassion

Have you ever wished you could go back in time and soothe your younger self? To offer the comfort and support you didn't receive when you needed it most? With time-travel empathy, that possibility becomes a reality. It's a transformative approach to healing trauma that involves slowing down, listening to your body's felt sense, and receiving warm, resonant accompaniment from others. In this post, we'll explore the magic of time-travel empathy and how it can help you lay down new neural pathways of support, transform your relationship with yourself and others, and ultimately find your way back to wholeness. Join us on this journey of healing and connection as we unlock the power of time-travel empathy. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 209]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria #timetravelempathy #warmcommunity #collaboration #Selfconnection #feltsense

Life can feel unbearable at times, and it can be challenging to find hope and meaning amidst our struggles. However, there are ways to heal and connect with our inner selves, and horses can play a significant role in this process. In this post, we'll explore how horses can offer unconditional friendship, teach us about our emotions, and provide honest feedback that helps us grow. Through a client's recent experience, we'll see how horses can help us name our struggles and find the courage to heal. Join us on a journey from despair to hope, where warm relationships and trust can transform our lives. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 207]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria #mattering #healing #trauma #shame #relationships #courage

Are you yearning for relationships free from judgment and filled with genuine understanding? Join us on a captivating podcast episode where we dive into the inspiring story behind Healing You Sanctuary. Here, founder, Gloria Lybecker, shares how this equine-guided education and learning program provides a safe haven for individuals to experience relationships in a radically different way. Be inspired by a participant's profound journey of empowerment and rediscovering their true self. Tune in now and explore the transformative benefits of equine-guided education and learning. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 202]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

Are you interested in learning about the healing power of horses? In this episode, you'll discover how the physical structure of a horse's brain allows them to connect easily with humans who struggle with hyper-vigilance and reactivity. You'll also learn about the enormous electromagnetic energy field created by a horse's heart, and how being in their presence can help humans balance their stress levels and increase their body's capacity for healing. Research has even found a possible link between the low-frequency heart rhythms of horses and improved immune response in humans. If you're curious about the potential for healing through equine-facilitated learning, stay tuned! .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 206]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

Have you ever felt like something was missing in your life? As if you're not all here, not completely whole? Many of us experience this feeling, and often it's the result of trauma that has caused a part of our essence to separate from us in order to survive. But it's possible to reclaim what we once enjoyed and recover our soul - the vital essence of our life. And at Healing You Sanctuary, that's our passion. In this post, we'll explore how horses can support us in this journey of reclaiming our birthright to live our lives whole. So let's dive in and discover the power of equine-led growth and healing. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can book your session with horses here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 205]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

Embark on a transformative journey, exploring the patterns of your inner experience and the incredible influence of your attention. Witness the healing power of connecting with majestic, sensitive horses.  At Healing You Sanctuary, our horses are partners in co-creating a field of healing. Experience the magic of deep listening and the profound connection between facilitator, client, and these magnificent beings.  Step out of your comfort zone and embrace the transformative power within. Click the link below to join this magical adventure!  ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can book your free consultation with Gloria here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 211] #thehealingyoumethod #magicofhorses #healingjourney #connectwithyourpower #deeplistening #TransformativeExperience

Are you ready for a journey of self-discovery and healing? Horses have a remarkable ability to take us to a land that is foreign to most people - a journey into ourselves. When we enter into a relationship with horses, we are invited to explore the mind, body, and spirit connection and rediscover who we truly are. In this post, we will delve deeper into the transformative power of horses and how they can guide us towards a path of self-awareness, healing, and mutual connection. So come, join your heart with a horse, and let's embark on this journey together. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/ … [The Healing You Method - Episode 204] #thehealingyoumethod #healingyouwithgloria 

Are you looking for a unique and powerful way to tap into your inner strength and explore your personal power? Look no further than the majestic and intuitive creatures that are horses. In this blog post, we will delve into the world of equine facilitation and how it can help you explore the three archetypes of power: the Militant, the Subservient, and the Warrior. Through active sessions with horses, you'll discover a new level of self-awareness and learn how to harness your inner strength. So, get your boots on, and let's explore the world of equine guided healing together! .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 197]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

This episode is a powerful and emotional story of a woman who was sexually assaulted when she was 14 and how horses helped her heal. The woman had begun experiencing memories triggered by the sexual assault and was spiraling into shame and wanted to hide. She turned to horses, who had nurtured her when she was younger, and trusted them to help her move forward. The episode takes viewers on a journey with the woman through a six-station Opportunity Course that represents aspects of her life journey. At each station, the woman experiences incredible revelations as the horse accompanies her. This story is inspiring and empowering, showing how healing can be achieved with the help of horses. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 198]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

In this emotional and powerful episode, Gloria shares a deeply personal experience of holding space for a participant who was triggered during a session. As she tries to debrief with their co-facilitators, she is suddenly struck by a sense of darkness and dread emanating from one of the participants. Despite her discomfort, Gloria compassionately reaches out to the person and tries to connect with them. Through this experience, she learns the importance of empathetic accompaniment and how it can help us navigate through challenging times. If you're looking for support and connection on your healing journey, this episode is a must-watch. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 200]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

This episode features Gloria Lybecker, the host of The Healing You Method, who explores the importance of developing body awareness. Gloria discusses how our bodily systems hold memories, including traumatic events, and how attuning to our bodies can help us reclaim those moments and open new doors of experiencing. By intentionally slowing down and mindfully checking in with our bodies, we can develop our Compassionate Self-Witness and tap into the wisdom stored within our bodily systems. Gloria concludes by emphasizing that developing body awareness is a transformative practice that can enhance our overall well-being and quality of life, whether we are seeking to heal from past trauma or deepen our connection to ourselves and the world around us. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 199]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

Are you tired of feeling trapped by your own frustration? Do you long for the freedom to break free from the cycle of stress and anxiety? Join me on a journey of education and empathy as I share the story of how my son and I discovered the key to unlocking our own freedom.  From navigating the challenges of the education system to cultivating a deeper understanding of ourselves and each other, my hope is that my talk will inspire you and leave you feeling empowered and ready to tackle any obstacle that comes your way. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 201]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

I found my way to Nonviolent Communication and Interpersonal Neurobiology out of desperation to experience something different, and gratefully have received a TON of empathy support over the years. Being held in a container of warmth, understanding, and acceptance, has allowed the embedded patterns of my conditioning to unravel and new neural pathways of resilience to lie down in my nervous system. As I consistently received resonant empathy support, over time I developed my own resonating self-witness. This inner-witness is not simply a compassionate voice; it is a deeply responsive, warmly curious, and generous voice. These new pathways empower us to live into a new way of being in our relationships, with ourself, and with others. I remember receiving a correspondence from someone who began their communication acknowledging the value they experience for the gifts I bring into the world, and I noticed how my heart felt soft and open in response. The next sentence, however, moved swiftly into an expression of pent up anger and frustration around how this person experienced being in relationship with me, followed by demands around how I should show up in the relationship. I felt stunned, I perceived a sense of patronizing superiority in the the language used. I noticed a sharp pang radiated in my chest, my gut clenched and I felt disconcerted by the incongruences as I read through the communication. In that moment I rocked back and breathed deeply into my belly. I slowed everything down and tuned into my inner experience. Coming forward in my minds eye, my resonating self-witness checked in with me, "Are you sensing a threat to your integrity and personal space?" I noticed my semi-collapsed form shifted ever so slightly as I soaked up the tender gaze, attuned resonance, and enduring care now available to me. "Remember," she acknowledged gently, "I am here with you; I know how much you value authenticity, especially in relationships with those holding positions of perceived power in leadership." My breathing deepened as I turned my attention further inward. "What is the learning here for me right here and now?" I wondered aloud, to my self-witness, "What pattern is emerging to empower me to be me anyway?" A little information here; neuroscience reveals how old patterns or neuro-nets, dissipate when they are no longer driving behaviors for survival. As we experience the felt sense of being safe and of mattering, we begin to live in our "social engagement system" the ventral channel of the vagus nerve. When the energy is flowing through the ventral channel, we are empowered to notice that other people, as well as our self, exist in the moment. We develop and enhance dual sensory awareness. Not only do we tune into our inner experience, we can see other people's faces, take in their subtle cues, and perceive the impact our interactions have had on them relationally. This means that we notice when the heart-connection has been negatively impacted, and we reach out to restore it. This is called repair. Now back to my experience. As I paused, I focused on tapping into my heart space, witnessing the energy running and flowing through my vagus nerve connecting me with Source Energy. As I took this time to listen deeply to my body's needs, I received the learning available to me in the moment. Rather than falling into an old default pattern of taking it personally, giving up, getting distracted, or making anyone "wrong" (including myself) by choosing self-connection it was possible to stay engaged and recognize my own reactive conditioning, no matter how subtle it may be. I experienced I can be vulnerable and honest with myself about my default network; and I can take the time I need for self-repair using self-compassion and gaining self-understanding. From this space within, my inner experience begins to make sense and I am empowered with all the grace and freedom I need to be me. I am willing to take responsibility for my

I have a special treat for our viewers today, I've met someone whom I think is pretty special, Jos Willard. Jos is a remarkable business coach who combines world-class coaching with proven business-building strategies to help people create the practice of their dreams. He uses the methods that work for them and their ideal clients! Join me as I invite Jos to answer a few questions, including; What inspires you to do what you do, and to keep doing what you are doing? What's the biggest challenge you're facing and how are you tackling it? What's your favorite childhood memory? Jos also hosts a Podcast — Profit For Coaches, which is a show for coaches or coaches-to-be who work hard to make a positive difference for their clients. www.profitforcoaches.com/podcast The best way to reach Jos directly is to email him at jos@ProfitForCoaches.com or message him on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/joswillard Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 187] #TheHealingYouMethod

What is at the root of ruptures in relationships? Is it possible to stay engaged? Have you ever experienced meeting another person and everything felt like it clicked? You finish each other's sentences and rift off the meaning underlying whatever concept you are exploring? Ahhh... the enjoyment of budding new relationships filled with infinite possibilities! It's likened to a "honeymoon" experience in relationships with powerful attractor fields at play. What was it like when the "honeymoon" was over? When things didn't unfold as you had predicted or hoped for? When the first unexpected wrinkle in the smooth interactions was noticed - what was your felt experience in that moment? Perhaps your body paused in contraction, your brow furrowed, and you noticed you were unable to speak. Did you hold your breath? Maybe your spine straightened, and you leaned forward aggressively, as a compulsion to take action was sparked within you "to communicate, take control, or set things right!" Or could it be you experienced checking out, a hazy fog in your mind, a felt sense of disappearing in the relationship. Was the exchange experienced as abrupt, or harsh, and directed at you in the moment? Did you lose your focus and become distracted with other things to occupy your attention? What might it be like to notice (whatever your first reaction may have been) and then choose to do something differently instead? What if you paused, for just a moment, with the intention to witness the experience? Is it possible to stay curious about your own inner experience? To slow down time and notice how you receive communication? Rather than making it "right or wrong" simply witness your experience of receiving this unique flavor of energy which has alerted your nervous system. What do you notice about your reaction to this particular frequency? Do you receive it through your body sensations, or do you receive it from outside or inside your mind? Could it be you receive information from energy through images that come suddenly, or is it that a message emerges as an "inner knowing" and you trust it is true? With gentle curiosity (and suspended judgement) can you notice a unique pattern emerge? Which frequency of energy in motion (emotion) has knocked you off balance consistently? What are your automatic reactions? My personal pattern was to disappear, especially in the face of energy I perceived as condescending and dominantly harsh. I would experience myself as "wrong" and "shamed" and if I couldn't actually disappear, I would have no words to stay engaged or name my truth. My way of reacting became learned helplessness and hopeless with a high sensitivity to my environment. I perfected my way of surviving victimhood (who I perceived I was from experience) rather than thriving (being who I am born to be). Once we begin to break unspoken cultural rules about what can be referenced and mentioned, we will need empathy support for shame and our sense of exclusion. To matter and feel acceptance in relationship with peers is a very important sign of satisfaction in interpersonal relationships. If you'd like to learn more about that, reach out to me at GloriaLybecker.com and let's begin a conversation and see how I can support you today. Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. .....  *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment?  You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:  https://glorialybecker.mykajabi.com/   …  [The Healing You Method - Episode 195]  #TheHealingYouMethod #HealingYouWithGloria

How do we lose our vital essence? And how can we reclaim vitality? Many of us today don't feel completely whole, as if we are not all here. When we begin to become aware of this, we can open to the possibility of reclaiming the intimacy we once enjoyed. With support, we can recover our soul, the vital essence of life. I share with you today, a clients' story, about welcoming back lost parts of herself who were willing to begin the journey home to wholeness. "What is trauma? Well for me it was total annihilation of my personal existence and I lost all feeling of any sensations. I didn't consciously know this because my body and mind were blank; trauma completely numbed my capacity to sense any emotional or physical pain. Even my brain went numb so that I didn't miss having fun, laughing, or really living. Trauma is timeless so when I got triggered, my body reacted as if the trauma was happening NOW, in the present moment. Whether the actual experience happened a year ago, a month ago, or even a week ago was not remembered. Because when these inner parts are triggered, my ability to perceive is filtered through the lens of the ever present past. I remember the first time I began to feel sensations again very vividly. I was lying in my hallway while on a conference call in one of Gloria's classes. Something had triggered me and Gloria invited me to slow time down and asked if I was willing for my inner experience to be met with warmth right where I was in the moment. What stands out to me now is how my body felt during this call; because something shifted in me and I began to feel again, my whole body awakened and I could feel pain. I remember even my toes hurt. I recall lying in the hallway, curled up in a fetal position with tears streaming out of my eyes, and trying not to make those crying sounds - because I didn't want anyone to hear me cry - I was telling myself if someone heard me crying I would die. In that moment past, present, and future blurred together and I have no memory whether I actually hid or if everyone on the call heard me. I don't even remember specifically what was coming up for me. Yet, I can still see myself very clearly, lying in that hallway in the fetal position, with the phone up to my ear and tears streaming out of my eyes. I did not die, I could feel my body and allow the warmth of a compassionate presence to wash over me and feel felt. It is an experience that is forever cemented into my memory, receiving the gift of being welcomed just as I was, to begin my journey home." What causes the seeming loss of our vital essence? For many it may be the result of trauma; a part of our vital essence separates from us in order to survive the experience and escape the full impact of pain. We forget who we truly are and what was once true is replaced by the projections placed upon us by others; family, authority figures, and peers. It is possible to receive the help we need to remember who we truly are and why we were born into this world. It is our birthright to live our lives whole and help others to do the same. Addressing our past hurts and trauma can be a daunting prospect. If this is true for you, you certainly make sense just as you are, and I welcome you with the energies of tenderness and care to reach out to me today at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 190] #TheHealingYouMethod

Who are your voices? And what are they saying to you? We all have these internalized voices. Do you recognize what they represent to you in your life? Horses can support us to acknowledge what is in the moment. One day as one of my clients stood with her back to the corral, her eyes were closed and her arms hung at her side, I guided her through a body-centered process; her horse stood at the gate, his mouth licked and chewed as she tapped into her body's wisdom. She first noticed fear in her belly, apprehension in her heart space, (her horse lifted a front foot and set it with a bang on the metal gate), she named fear in her belly once more, as tears sprang to her eyes and she crumpled forward, “I wasn't going to cry, I never let anyone see my fear.” “You never let anyone see your fear… and you weren't going to cry.” I paused a moment, “I'm guessing a little part of you might be needing acknowledgment what it's like to be you in this moment,” I gently made an empathy guess, “needing to know that it's safe to be vulnerable in this space? Needing trust and companionship right where you are?” “It wasn't ever okay to cry when I was a kid, my dad would say, ‘stop crying', and I couldn't get angry either, I had to go to my room to be angry or cry - nobody could see me.” “Nobody could see you, really needing gentle support and loving-kindness perhaps, to be seen and heard for what it was like to be little you?” I guessed. “Everyone turns to me for help - who am I?” she cried, “Why do they always turn to me? I need as much help as everyone else!” “Would you like it if everyone had as much support as they needed, whenever they needed it, including little you?” I asked softly. Nodding her head, she opened her arms out from her sides, eyes still closed, then her arms moved down to her sides and hugged around her torso, with knees bent she gently swayed her body. “Allow your body to move however feels true to you.” I coached. “I feel waves rushing through me.” her hands demonstrated moving up from her pelvic floor out the top of her head. “Feeling waves of energy rushing through you, moving upwards like a fountain?” I asked, making a metaphorical guess. “Yeah,” slowly she straightened her posture, her face softened and she opened her eyes, and smiled through her tears. “Turn and face your horse, with your eyes open, what do you notice in your body now?” Once more I coached her through the body-centered process to receive the wisdom of her body. “My belly is calm and cool.” She replied with surprise in her voice. “If your belly is giving you a message, what might that be? Notice the first thing that pops up.” I coached. “Soothing.” She said with a smile. “I'm hearing your body is telling you, you need soothing.” Twice more I guided her through the process while she gazed upon her horse; she noticed where in her body her mind first went, named any sensations, and named the emotions within the sensations to receive the messages from her body. Still standing outside the corral, I invited her to bring her awareness into her heart, and extend that energy out to her horse. “From this place of heart connection with your horse… if you could experience your heart's desire with your horse, what would that be?” “To feel safe.” She replied. “To feel safe,” I reflected back, “and what would that give you?” “Trust.” “And what would that look like?” “I could step in there with a horse larger than life and trust that I am safe!” “And what Authentic-Self Voice could you engage with to support your stepping into that trust and safety?” Slowing down the process she tried several “voices” checking in with her body each time to sense whether they felt “true”. “I trust myself.” That one felt too far away from where she was in the moment, so dialing it in a little closer she tried a slightly different version, “I am stepping into trust.” As if on cue, the horse stepped forward, stretched its neck over the fence an

Is it safe to be real in community? How do you grow your capacity to love yourself? Is it possible to allow yourself to truly be who you really are, rather than who you've been told you are supposed to be? The following experience was written by a client as she took time to reflect on these very questions. “As I reflect on my experiences being in Gloria's classes and receiving resonate empathy, many things come up for me. When I first joined her tele-calls several years ago, speaking up or even answering a question triggered my body and mind into complete overwhelm. Many times I would be curled up on the floor under a blanket praying that I would not be called on, not even having the resources to request that I just listen in. (I didn't even know that just listening in was even an option.) I joined the class because it was recommended by my coach. She felt that it would be a safe place for me to receive support in community with others. Well, that was most definitely not my perception. I did not trust any of the participants to hold me with care or to even slightly understand me. At first, I was not able to take in any information that was being shared. When I was asked to make a feelings or needs guess, I would frantically search through the list of feelings and needs and just pick one that might fit. I definitely had trust issues, but I did trust my coach that this class would somehow benefit me and help me on my healing journey. Over time, my anxiety about showing up on the call began to diminish, and I would open up and share what was true for me. However, there would still be times when I would go into overwhelm and check out again. Eventually, I understood that even though I signed up for the class, I did not have to call in, and if I did call in, I could request that I just listen in. I also could hang up if I chose to do so. Or if at any time during the call I began to feel uncomfortable, I could message Gloria and request that she not call on me. It took me quite a while, but I finally learned that I had choice. Another thing that I noticed was that others on the call would show up with all kinds of emotions and experiences. Sometimes they would even cry. I couldn't even imagine letting anyone hear me cry. And there were times when I would go into overwhelm on the call and tears would come, but I would not let anyone hear me cry, and sometimes if my emotions became too intense, I would just hang up. I wondered how everyone on the call seemed to share so easily while I struggled to share anything. I was pretty sure that everyone on the call would think I was just insanely crazy and wish that I would remain silent so they would not have to hear me. And I feared that if anyone found out who I really was, they would just annihilate me. So I was very selective on what I shared and how much I shared. One call will forever be remembered as it was during this one call when I began to feel my body again. What I shared needed to be seen and heard and held with the utmost care because that part felt completely vulnerable. I remember how my body responded when I started to feel again. What I now understand, is that during this call I began to feel safe in a radically different way. When I began to share and be completely authentic, the parts that had shut down finally felt safe to come out of hiding. And the pain that I felt was my body's way of releasing all of the stories and emotions that had been locked up and held deep within. This was the start of an emotional pendulum that guided me in knowing when it was safe to share. The significance of this call is that I believe it marks the first time I was able to feel safe enough to trust the community. I imagine that my experience was very similar to an antelope who gets caught by a lion and knows that death is imminent, until the lion stepped away for whatever reason, and the antelope realizes that his life is not over and he can get up and run away. And after he has

Moving a human from trauma to healing requires the restructuring of emotional response. Both primary and secondary process emotions (conscious and pre-conscious) must be engaged and soothed (regulation of the sensitive limbic region of the brain). This must come in the form of new experiences. The experience of limbic neuroplasticity (the laying down of new neural pathways and responses) was deeply and beautifully expressed by a client in the following testimonial by Rhoda Ingstad. “Wow! What an eventful journey I have been on since my healing session with horse! During my session I couldn't tell what was going on in my head or body. In the session you made the observation that the horse was making the greatest amount of expressions (licking, chewing, and yawning, etc.) during my session. I was not aware of that. Yet afterwards I felt that my whole chest area was cleared of tension and angst. It made no sense to me! While I was laying in my bed that night I kept trying to figure out what had happened, but finally I realized it was totally right brain and preverbal. It was then that I experienced a guttural sigh from the deepest part of my body. In your next group class, while I was trying to figure out what to share about my experience, I started having huge muscle spasms in my back that shook my whole body. (My back is where I have stored my entire trauma.) I had at least 6 of those huge spasms. I felt a huge shift and knew it was a continuation from my session with horse. I was still without words to explain it. Then, when later talking to my empathy buddy, I realized that the healing was all preverbal traumas and felt a great sense of relief. I felt forgiveness for my mother. I felt an openness all through the core of my body. Now when I breathe it feels like my breath goes all the way down to my toes!! The knots in my back have continued to release and go away. My words are coming back which is a huge healing and relief. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this experience - even though my left brain couldn't understand how being with a horse could facilitate healing!! I was doubtful anything could come from this, and yet it was the most powerful and deepest healing I have had!! The healing relied on the environment, YOUR SKILL, and AWARENESS, with the Black Horse's RESONANCE!” With gratitude and love, Rhoda Ingstad Phoenix, AZ Limbic resonance gives an equine facilitated experience much of its magic. In the Healing with Horses model of Equine Facilitated Psychotherapy and Learning, the horses are recognized as sentient partners who are able to be in choice and communicate their opinions - with a sophisticated limbic view point. Each session allows a rich exploration of the shared emotion between client and horse. Emotion involves all of the brain and via the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) the physical sensations of emotional states are felt, by horse and human alike. Horses have large and sensitive guts (and hearts) and are much larger resonant surfaces for receiving and responding to emotional information. There are three stages of limbic neuroplasticity between mammals: Create a limbic bond or connection; becoming curious about and engaged by each other (resonance) 
 Build mutual understanding and shared communication via challenges (regulation) 
 Experience a smooth partnership via an attached relationship (limbic revision) 
 By observing closely the relationship the client builds with the horse, we are able to "see" the subcortical or pre-conscious levels of process that are occurring in the relationship. We also glimpse the patterns that are below conscious awareness in human relationships for the client. Horses often mirror the suppressed emotion and "release" when a human recognizes a feeling they are experiencing in the moment. This brings the client back into congruence even if they are still feeling the emotion. The moment their authentic feelings are known, the horse will sigh, lick its lips, y

I've been thinking about grace a lot lately. It really got my attention one day when I was working hard outside with my husband, preparing a section of land to fence in as pasture for my horses. It was good, hard work, and I could see my dreams becoming reality before me. Dreaming out loud I told my husband, "So, I'm thinking we'll put the fence out this direction," motioning with my hands to show where the fencing would go across the field. He invited me to walk with him as he showed me how he envisioned it would all come together."The fence will come out this way and go around the raised beds..." As I followed and listened to him I began to feel bewildered. This was not how I had imagined it would be, or what I thought we had agreed on. I began to pepper him with questions, my cadence shortened, and I felt my throat tense up. Before my eyes I saw him shut down - and for the life of me I couldn't understand why! "Are you angry?" I asked him with surprise. "It's just the way you talk." He said with a flat voice. "Ouch!" I felt stung. I watched him walk away as I felt tears build up behind my eyes. I walked around the green house, sat in the warm sunshine, held my head in my hands, and let the tears fall, stunned how quickly it seemed things fell apart. "Do you feel so sad and lonely - and do you need to know that you are valued and matter - no matter how you talk?" My compassionate witness gently made an empathy guess. "Yes, and I like to be spoken to with kindness," As I let the words and tears flow I gently tapped on my meridians. "when the way I talk bothers someone, I would like to be told with kindness." Silently I tracked my sensations, linking them to the beauty of the underlying needs. "Even though I feel tight tension in my temples, constriction in my throat, needing warmth, needing grace, feeling so low and miserable, right here, right now, I love myself anyway." "Grace, you really value grace." My compassionate witness acknowledged. "How are you living and modeling grace in your life? What does that look like right now?" I looked up to the sky and felt the warmth of the sun and gentle breeze on my face. "I live and model grace when I..." 1. Choose to attend to self-care in the moment meeting needs for warmth and self-connection 2. When I receive empathy and nurturance from my compassionate witness - who so kindly translates for my inner critic 3. When I slow down my inner experience by noticing and tracking my body's sensations and emotions - linking them to divine needs 4. When I honestly express my truth, trusting I am heard and held by Spirit - something so much greater than myself 5. When I ask and trust Love to lead my way, acknowledging how very much Grace means to me and when I take the time to know what that looks like for me personally, and in my relationships. Grace sees with eyes of love even when others do not. Grace hears the heart of the hurting and the beauty of the needs beneath any words and actions that may have been taken. Grace compassionately understands the desperation, the overwhelm, the loneliness, the shame, even the anger, and Grace loves anyway. Grace is available and kind. I just need to be willing to receive Divine Grace - and then expand it by living it out in relationship with others. The tension in my temples released as a tingle radiated down my neck and shoulders, I took a deeper breath and let it out ever so slowly. Turning my thoughts back to the one who is my husband, I acknowledged to myself the complexity of life that he holds. My heart warmed with the depth of love I harbor for that man. Inspired by Grace, I went inside to make a repair with the man who so greatly contributes toward making my dreams become reality. What does Grace look like for you? Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You

Why do wealth and health so often intersect for wise people? And how can you become one of them? If you could be paid to do what you love – what would you be being paid to do? Notice the first image or thought that springs up. How does that feel in your body? Are you aware that in many ways your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, visualizations, and aspects of your spiritual life like prayer and meditation, can change the energy field of your body in a way that affects your gene regulation? And the genes most readily affected by them are your stress genes. The wealthiest and best-informed people have had access to this kind of information many years ahead of the general public. The connection between unresolved emotional trauma and disease is one of the most well-established links in medicine today. Yet new research reveals that when a subject vividly recalls a past trauma, and then applies an energy therapy, the emotional trauma attached to the memory often dissipates instantaneously, and doesn't return. When you change your energy field, you change at a cellular level too. Remember when you were a kid, and when you changed where you were holding a magnet, the iron filings would quickly follow straight-away? This is a great metaphor for our energy fields and body. When you change your energy field, your magnet, the cells in your body are directly affected. Our cells are the same as the iron filings! By being willing to allow any emotionally traumatic events to be held within a depth-empathy process can open the way for any stuck energy to move freely back into the flow, which is like changing the magnets. So, what is the link between healing our emotional wounds and living from our souls? When we're pulled this way and that way by our emotional reactions to triggering events, our attention is compulsively absorbed in them. The emotional sound track of the up and down waves can leave us little time to reflect, to envision, to discover, and to create. Our stress response, the “fight, flight, or freeze system”, is engaged any time we're adversely emotionally triggered. When we're stressed, a cascade of hormones floods our body, from adrenaline to cortisol, preparing us for emergencies that may never even occur. Just imagine what your life might look like if you could leave behind the stresses you experience today. Because when stress disappears, the stress hormone cortisol drops, you feel better, and you discover you're capable of a whole new level of functioning! You have increased openness to abundance; you see new ways of delivering value to other people, and making money doing what you love! The well of joy and creativity can well up within you, empowering you to create the life of your dreams. When our ears aren't filled with the prattle of reactivity and the harshness of lack mentality, our life becomes free of stress-generated automated actions and the need to repair multiple ruptures in relationships. Then the still, small voice of our soul can be heard. The music of the universal orchestra becomes clearer and louder in the silence created by the absence of the emotional anguish, and we are able to follow the whispering of our soul and live in divine harmony with others. Learning to go inside to hear our own answers, to connect with our body's wisdom and our own divinity, opens the door to Knowing. Listening inwardly is essential if we are going to shift. Compassion is the key. Compassion includes tolerance of our humanity, and acceptance of what is inside us—both the dark and the light. Learning to forgive ourselves, to be conscious, aware and gentle with ourselves is vital. When we learn how to do that internally, we are empowered to offer it externally to others as well. To have accompaniment on your journey, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to connecting with you. Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out

What are two challenges you face moving forward? I have always wanted to learn how to drive a horse; my heart's desire came true with Diva, at a Mindful Horsemanship Program several years ago. I remember stepping into the arena to stand behind Diva, I gathered the long reins in my hands, and prepared to move out. “What is your intention?” My coach asked. “I'll move out to the right and pause by the big barrel, then make a big circle moving from right to left coming back down through the center of the arena.” “Want to step it up a notch?” she asked with a grin as she stood the big barrel up and moved small barrels to stand parallel in the center of the arena. “Sure!” “What are two challenges you face as you move forward with your vision?” “Hmm…” I thought for a moment, “being available for my 15-year-old son, whom I home-school, and feeling confident as I step out locally to be seen and known in my community as a valuable resource.” “Okay, which station represents your son and which represents confidence stepping out?” “The big barrel represents my son and the two smaller barrels in the center represent confidence stepping out.” I paused, mindfully took a belly breath, and straightened my posture. “Up!” I cued Diva with my voice, clicked my mouth and jiggled the reins. Slowly she shifted her weight and moved out to the right. Just like learning to drive a car, I over-corrected, now she moved to the left, back and forth I consistently over-corrected. “E-gads!” I clamored inside as a fog began to cloud my mind and tension crept into my shoulders. Slowing myself down inside I took a few deep belly breaths, and consciously lowered my shoulders. I noticed my body position in relationship to Diva and brought my body back into alignment behind her and centered in the power of my 3rd chakra. Again, I called out “Up, Diva!” What a difference! As we moved out I felt a distinct shift in my energy and in relationship with Diva, we felt connected energetically. “W-h-o-a…” we paused by the big barrel and I mindfully connected to the one who is my son, I recognized the importance of acknowledgment. How much it means to take the time to pause and check-in with the ones I love and BE in relationship with them, especially when I am shifting and changing my schedule in life. That pause had a time-less quality to it, stretching out energetically to capture the freedom of space and time, no pressure, no hurry, resting in my heart, centered in my values. Acknowledgement of how much I love my boy AND acknowledgment of how much I love partnering with Horse! I felt ready to step out as a valuable resource in the world as I jiggled the reins, “Up, Diva!”(I heard more energy in my own voice and Diva responded with a softer feel!) Half-way around the circle our synchronized movement was fueled and empowered with a rejuvenating confidence. My steps felt stronger and the sensation flowed up my legs and back, down my arms, into my belly, up my chest, and out my eyes. Wow - everything looked brighter, fresher, and more colorful as we stepped through the second station of barrels. We had found our flow together! Inspired by confidence we didn't slow down, we looped out and circled back and stopped in the center claiming “Confidence.” My skin tingled from head to toe. That experience is imprinted into my being-ness, and continues to unfold in miraculous ways. When I returned home to my son, I noticed more opportunities to slow down and check-in with him, and to rest in the space that represented our relationship with confidence. Thank you, Diva. Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 188] #TheHealingYouMethod

Did you know that Horses can read your thoughts and emotions? They have an innate ability to give honest feedback and naturally use their bodies to "know" the world. As sensitive, sentient beings, they are in a unique position in the animal kingdom to teach us in ways never before possible - accelerating learning exponentially in ways we can apply to our lives immediately that creates lasting change. I remember working with a group of youth one day, during an activity each participant wrote down on a tag something they treasured and wanted to protect about themselves. Then they each shared what they treasured with the group, and tied their tag onto the chosen horse's mane. One girl, we'll call her Anna, shared, "I'd like to protect who I am, meaning everything about myself, cause I'm accepting who I am!" Next, as a group they built a boundary they thought fitting for that horse and attempted to keep the horse, which now represented what each one individually treasured about his/her self, safe in the boundary. As the horse repeatedly stepped out of the boundary, the group's ability to communicate verbally decreased. In the silence a boy, John, looked around, he saw several ropes at the edge of the round pen and walked over to begin tying them together. Anna acknowledged, "I have no idea what to do, I'm just going to follow him." The other youth followed suit and only using body language John got each one to hold the rope a few feet around the horse, forming a circle to keep it safe. We took a little break while we discussed the next activity, which was to name what could tempt each of them to give up the power to protect their individual boundaries. "Peer pressure!" Anna exclaimed. Looking at the course set up in the corral, I asked her, "Which obstacle best represents peer pressure to you?" "The logs in a row," she said solemnly, "they could trip you up." Working as a group they created boundaries at each obstacle to protect the horse from the temptations (buckets with a little grain in them). When they were finished I acknowledged, "Sometimes we need time to think ahead and build strong boundaries against temptations." Feeling ready, they led the horse all together through the course, making boundaries as needed to protect what they treasured about themselves from temptations. As they drew near to the logs and the temptation marked "peer pressure" the horse rushed past them, stuck her nose into the bucket of grain, and got a tasty bite! Surprised and struggling to protect who she represented (themselves) from further temptation, the group found themselves with everyone on the same side of the horse! Finally one boy hollered out, "Go!" and like a catalyst they gained momentum once more and moved through the rest of the course. In the debriefing circle I asked the group, "What happened?" "Peer pressure got the best of us!" John said with wide eyes. "We were communicating with body language, using words might have helped." Another boy responded, "It was kind of tricky, tricky and hard." "Society, rules and peer pressure can trip you up," Anna observed, "you need good relationship skills to keep your boundaries safe." Horses are large and powerful animals. Accomplishing a task involving a horse, in spite of fears or perceived limitations, creates self-confidence and provides metaphors for dealing with challenging situations in real life. Horses mirror exactly what our body, emotions, thoughts and energy is communicating to them, and their honesty makes them especially effective messengers. In addition, their natural responsiveness to clear intention can empower us to discover and accomplish our goals. What question are you sitting with in your life that you could bring to the work with the horses? I invite you to begin your exploration today. Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the reso

I worked with a young man one time, and it was tough. I remember hearing him cry out in despair, "I just want to kill myself!" When you hear those words, spoken in pain by someone you care for, how do you feel inside? Does your stomach clench and spasm? Or does a semi-paralysis claim your whole body and your breathing nearly stop? How do you hold space with love and support for someone when they are experiencing a primal response from the ever-present-past of trauma? We may not be aware of a past trauma holding us back in the moment when we are triggered, yet in attempting to protect us, our hypothalamus and triple warmer can lock us into outdated defensive strategies that rigidify our habit field. It is not possible for a person to think clearly when the blood has left the forebrain and moved into the limbs for fight or flight. Even though many people know the kinds of changes they want to make, they find themselves unable to make change happen. Trapped in habits from the past, they may put tremendous effort into willing themselves to change patterns that are emotionally locked into their body. This can increase their experiences of inner discouragement, cynicism, and self-loathing. Self-talk is not enough to change a primal response; however, there are energy techniques that can open your habit field for reprogramming. When your energies are freed for healing and creativity, your mind will follow. Three approaches for reprogramming the habit field are: (1) Defusing traumatic residue that is already in your habit field; (2) Programming higher frequencies into your habit field; and (3) Evoking your habit field to embrace a new physiological or psychological pattern. Each time that you are able to keep the blood from leaving your brain as you process stress and/or trauma, you are showing your brain a new strategy, and your habit pattern begins to transform. As your body learns to tolerate increasing amounts of stress before invoking the fight-or-flight response, your sense of health and well-being will also increase. After I worked with a child to reprogram his stress response, I asked, "What is the most important thing you can remember to tell yourself when you notice stress coming up?" "I love myself," he responded with warmth, "and I am going to take good care of myself and my energy forever." When we make time in our lives to drop out of our busy world and regularly receive support to focus our compassionate awareness on our body (rather than distancing ourselves and treating our body as our enemy) we can learn to begin to cherish our body. When we tune in to our body's subtle cues with curiosity and care, we can understand the energies of our body and attend to its needs. And as we learn how to turn on our body's energies, we can begin to unravel deeply embedded patterns of stress and trauma, forming resilient patterns of well-being. To receive accompaniment on your journey, reach out to me at HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 178] #TheHealingYouMethod #TheHealingYouMethod

When people experience trauma, their symptoms may last months or years, with triggers that can bring back memories of the trauma accompanied by intense emotional and physical reactions. Today I want to share with you how one of my clients experienced stepping into the constellation field with a horse. Terrified of not mattering, being abandoned, and cast aside in her relationships, she came to Healing You Sanctuary to begin to heal her traumatic history. We went outside to the round pen and I asked her to build a magic room, a place she could go and feel safe. There were a variety of materials available in the round pen, and I had turned out Saphira, my mare, to provide female companionship. Let me share her experience in her words. "Being asked to build a place to feel safe felt confusing. I put a chair and a stick and string in the round pen. I thought, "I really don't need anything to feel safe with Saphira." So I just stood, looking at all the other things and decided I needed some support in knowing what was expected. I told myself "I won't be given any expectations as to what to choose, because there are no expectations being placed upon me." I struggled with my inner thoughts and then grabbed three noodles and one hula hoop to make two safe zones; one being the hula hoop and the other being a triangle made from the noodles. Then I went back and got all of the noodles and hula hoops and made a passage that represented the way out. I placed the hula hoops opposite of the passage way interconnected by the noodles. Each of the circles represented a different safe place that I could retreat to if fear arose, and each of these safe places were inter-connected. I asked Saphira if I could connect with her, but inside I was afraid she would just walk away and leave me, and she did walk away! I was so fearful that she would run away and she actually mirrored my inner world, she lifted her head and began running around the round pen, whinnying loudly, stopping and looking around her and then running and whinnying again. It was really big energy. I could see the other horse had walked into the barn so she could no longer see him, and wondered why he was not responding to her whinny. Then I saw myself in her actions, how she was responding in fear, because she could not see the other horse, is exactly how I have acted or reacted in my relationships. As I named this truth, she slowed down, and then went back to grazing in peace. Debriefing afterwards, as I was talking about needing safety, Saphira stepped into my hula hoop representing safety. And when I spoke about needing safety in the world, she walked through my path, the passage representing the way out. And, when I named my truth about my fear of my friend leaving, Saphria walked over and nosed me. She "knows" when I speak my truth. I notice now the story of abandonment has lightened, and I am able to speak my truth without being made wrong or shamed. I am seen, and greeted, and resonated with right where I am at. What I am taking away from this experience is that I have a new awareness; I can notice projections and choose to let them go and not take them in. I can even notice when I project onto others, and, when this happens, I can name my inner experience so I can be free, living in congruence with my truth.” That was a powerful session. Constellation work offers a particular way of looking at questions and the blocks we have in our lives. It is a spatial exploration of a relational question, using different positions, representatives, objects, people or horses to look at how things are connected with one another and where systems might be frozen by entanglements or traumas. I always marvel how incredible it is that horses support us to remember who we are on our journey home. They can take us to a land that is foreign to most people, a journey into ourselves; an exploration of our mind, body, and spirit connection. Many people may never make this journey

I'd like to share a story with you about an adolescent and a horse. It was about seven years ago at my sons doctor appointment. “Do you work with the horses too?” the doctor asked. “I had my own horse once, when I was 10. I got up early to go out and ride him all by myself. I was so excited! But when I got to the pasture, he was down, and didn't move. He was already gone. Lucky wasn't very lucky.” Rylan solemnly replied. “That must have been very hard for you,” His doctor responded with care, “did you ever ride again?” “Oh yeah, I rode Saphira, but it wasn't the same.” Hearing their conversation I felt stunned in the moment, and a tingling buzzed momentarily in my head. That was the first time I had heard of my son's experience with his horse. He had never told me that he'd gone out earlier than I had, that fall morning 12 years ago, and I had believed all that time that I was the one to have discovered Lucky had passed away. “You really had a special bond with Lucky, Rylan,” I acknowledged gently, “he was so fortunate you rescued him when you did. I wonder if you might need to find the right horse again, when you are ready.” “Maybe.” He responded slowly and thoughtfully. (Intention, or energetic will, is the process by which we focus our energy by visualizing an end result before we begin. We can see the desired objective as being accomplished before beginning to take action.) The next day I noticed a flow of synchronicity began to unfold. Rylan initiated applying his essential oils with a smile and willingness I had not observed before. When engaging in his lessons he shifted from slight resistance into warmth and humor. I felt my shoulders relax and soften and acknowledged how much I enjoyed the ease between us. Later that afternoon, I heard Rylan come in the back door and found him in the kitchen, washing his hands. “Hey, what's up?” I asked. “Well,” he began, as he turned to dry his hands, a pleased smile spread across his face; “I folded the towels, put away the dishes, and brought in wood to stoke the fire!” “Wow!” I exclaimed, “You've been busy this afternoon.” “Yes,” he leaned forward slightly, capturing my full attention, “and then… I fed the chickens, AND the horses, and then the cats.” My eyebrows shot up in surprise as he continued, “I remembered telling dad I was nervous about feeding the horses, and he told me he just uses a stern voice to get them to back up, and, I remembered you saying that horses listen and understand when you talk to them - so – after I fed the chickens, when I opened the horses door, I just started talking to them!” “You did?” I asked with keen interest, “What was that like?” “Well, Saphira didn't pay any attention to me,” he said with a shrug, “but Aragon, he was interested in what I had to say.” “Really!” I said with surprise, “How did you know he was interested?” “Well, he looked right at me, nodded his head, and listened to what I said!” He replied with a wide grin. “He did,” I responded with astonishment, “I've seen him nod like that to only one other client before, are you willing to tell me what you said to him?” I asked. “Sure,” he responded with a warm smile, “I explained to him that I've been avoiding him because I used to have a horse of my own, and how I was really excited to ride my own horse all by myself too. It was a huge deal. But, when I went out to ride Lucky early one morning, I found him down. I told Aragon it was really sad and I didn't want to spend time with horses any more. But now I wanted him to know it's not his fault, and I won't avoid him anymore.” Before he continued he paused just a moment, “He would eat, look at me, and then nod his head, the whole time I was talking to him. Then I told him that I was nervous to put the hay in his feeder while he was standing there, and how dad told me he uses a stern voice to get the horses to back up, and I'd rather not do that. So I asked him if he would be willing to back up,