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Daniel Lereya, the Chief Product and Technology Officer at monday.com, shares how he and his team realized they were being outpaced by competitors and how that realization completely transformed how they operate and allowed them to build a global powerhouse, doing over $1 billion in ARR, with 245,000 customers worldwide.What you'll learn:1. How they used seemingly impossible goals, like building 25 new features in one month, to unlock bigger thinking on their team2. How sharing real-time metrics with the entire company—even during interviews—created a culture of accountability and alignment3. How focusing on impact, rather than just shipping features, has transformed the company's culture4. The story behind monday.com's decision to launch five new products simultaneously and how it redefined their market positioning5. How they use “traps” (timeboxed deadlines) to drive focus, avoid scope creep, and deliver faster6. Daniel's personal journey of navigating impostor syndrome and scaling challenges, and the mental models he uses to stay grounded and effective—Brought to you by:• Enterpret—Transform customer feedback into product growth• Airtable ProductCentral—Launch to new heights with a unified system for product development• Vanta—Automate compliance. Simplify security—Where to find Daniel Lereya:• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-lereya-aa487646/—Where to find Lenny:• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/—In this episode, we cover:(00:00) Introduction to Daniel and monday.com(04:20) The pivotal moment: competitors shipping faster(08:50) Setting ambitious goals(17:44) Focusing on impact rather than features(27:07) Transforming your product quarterly(32:07) Scaling monday.com: challenges and strategies(39:14) How monday.com maintains transparency as a public company(45:40) The importance of taking risks(51:02) Counterintuitive lessons in product development(54:33) The value of timeboxing and deadlines(57:28) Embracing user feedback(59:54) Adapting leadership styles(01:04:43) Personal reflections on leadership(01:10:41) Handling crises and strategic planning(01:17:28) The role of AI in work and personal life(01:22:13) Final thoughts and lightning round—Referenced:• Monday.com: https://monday.com/• The basics of a monday.com board: https://support.monday.com/hc/en-us/articles/115005317249-The-basics-of-a-board• Eran Zinman on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eranzinman/• Roy Mann on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/manroy/• Tal Harari on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tal-harari-a2515215/• Four-minute mile: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four-minute_mile• A better way to plan, build, and ship products | Ryan Singer (creator of “Shape Up,” early employee at 37signals): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/shape-up-ryan-singer• Brian Chesky's new playbook: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/brian-cheskys-contrarian-approach• AI blocks: https://support.monday.com/hc/en-us/articles/18433811274386-AI-Automation-blocks• Unpacking Amazon's unique ways of working | Bill Carr (author of Working Backwards): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/unpacking-amazons-unique-ways-of• Behind the founder: Drew Houston (Dropbox): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/behind-the-founder-drew-houston-dropbox• SpaceX: https://www.spacex.com/• Why and how to lead with transparency: https://monday.com/blog/monday-insights/may-30th/• How to win in the AI era: Ship a feature every week, embrace technical debt, ruthlessly cut scope, and create magic your competitors can't copy | Gaurav Misra (CEO and co-founder of Captions): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-win-in-the-ai-era-gaurav-misra• This Week #5: Overcoming impostor syndrome, introducing growth to an org, and how to partner with your data scientist: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/this-week-overcoming-impostor-syndrome• Sheryl Sandberg on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheryl-sandberg-5126652/• Bryan Johnson on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanrjohnson/• ChatGPT: https://chatgpt.com/• Cursor: https://www.cursor.com/• How to build deeper, more robust relationships | Carole Robin (Stanford GSB professor, “Touchy Feely”): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/build-robust-relationships-carole-robin• FIFA 22: https://store.playstation.com/en-us/concept/10002538/• Formula 1: Drive to Survive on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/80204890• Google Photos: https://photos.google.com/—Recommended books:• Shape Up: Stop Running in Circles and Ship Work that Matters: https://basecamp.com/shapeup• Working Backwards: Insights, Stories, and Secrets from Inside Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Working-Backwards-Insights-Stories-Secrets/dp/1250267595• No Rules Rules: Netflix and the Culture of Reinvention: https://www.amazon.com/No-Rules-Netflix-Culture-Reinvention/dp/1984877860• Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/—Production and marketing by https://penname.co/. For inquiries about sponsoring the podcast, email podcast@lennyrachitsky.com.—Lenny may be an investor in the companies discussed. Get full access to Lenny's Newsletter at www.lennysnewsletter.com/subscribe

In this powerful episode of The Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey Lockett continues her Nourish Your Nervous System series with Part 9: Relational Nourishment. Humans are deeply relational creatures, just like pack animals, and the health of our relationships directly impacts our nervous system regulation, emotional well-being, and overall resilience. Lindsey explores how emotional abandonment, modern disconnection, and trauma patterns shape our relationships and why nourishing, reciprocal connections are essential for healing. She shares insights from Pete Walker's Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, her personal experiences, and practical tools to build conscious, supportive relationships. If you've ever struggled with finding your people, setting boundaries, or communicating vulnerably in relationships, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Send us a textIn today's episode, I interview Hannah Beach, Phoebe Campbell-Harris, and Sophie Stacey, the director, writer, and producer of the short film "A Matter of Minutes," a story of a young woman facing a life threatening situation at a house party.Listen to hear about Phoebe's personal experience that inspired the story, how the film used aspect ratio to drive the story, and a partnership the film has developed with the Natasha Allergy Research Foundation.Books mentioned in this episode include:Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. RosenbergA Prayer for Owen Meany by John IrvingThe Cider House Rules by John Irving Apt Pupil by Stephen KingFilms mentioned in this episode include:"A Matter of Minutes" directed by Hannah BeachMommy directed by Xavier DolanBoiling Point directed by Philip BarantiniRosemary's Baby directed by Roman PolanskiWaking Life directed by Richard LinklaterArrival directed by Denis VillenueveLife is Beautiful directed by Roberto BenigniIt's a Wonderful Life directed by Frank CapraPast Lives directed by Celine Song The Manchurian Candidate directed by John FrankenheimerRear Window directed by Alfred HitchcockSilence of the Lambs directed by Jonathan DemmeErin Brockovich directed by Steven SoderberghThe Incredibles directed by Brad BirdThe Big Lebowski directed by Joel CoenE.T. The Extraterrestrial directed by Steven SpielbergThe Empire Strikes Back directed by Irvin KershnerMy Dinner With Andre directed by Louis MalleThe Lord of the Rings directed by Peter JacksonBorat directed by Larry Charles"A Matter of Minutes" will be continuing its festival run throughout 2025.On Instagram Hannah is @hannah__beach__, Phoebe is @phoebecampbellharris, and Sophie is @sophielst. You can also follow the film @amatterofminutesfilm for all the latest updates. Check out Hannah's film "Pockets: New York" at the London Short Film Festival this month.

بیایید خودمان تغییری شویم که که در دنیا جستجویش می‌کنیمخلاصه کتاب ارتباط بدون خشونت, زبان زندگی | Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassionنویسنده: مارشال روزنبرگ | Marshall Rosenbergناشر: اختران | مترجم: کامران رحیمیانگوینده و متن: مهدی بهمنیتدوین: رضا بهمنیطراح پوستر: کورش عنبریاسپانسر: رویال جینمشاوره تلفنی و حضوری با مهدی بهمنی: KetabJibiPodcast.ir/Moshavereحمایت مالی: KetabJibiPodcast.ir/Donateاسپانسر کتاب جیبی شوید: KetabJibiPodcast.ir/Sponsorshipاینستاگرام: Instagram.com/KetabJibiPodcastتلگرام: T.me/KetabJibiPodcastکانال یوتیوب: YouTube.com/@KetabJibi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode 133 - Books for Dads - Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life, Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships Marshall B. Rosenberg PhDNonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg presents a framework for communicating with empathy, honesty, and clarity to foster mutual understanding and peaceful conflict resolution.The book introduces the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process, which consists of four key components:Observations: Clearly stating facts without judgment or evaluationFeelings: Identifying and expressing emotionsNeeds: Recognizing the universal human needs behind our feelingsRequests: Making clear, positive requests to meet those needsRosenberg argues that much of our habitual communication is "violent" in that it uses judgmental language, criticism, demands, and other forms of expression that create defensiveness and conflict. In contrast, NVC aims to create compassionate connections by focusing on shared human needs and values.The book provides numerous examples and dialogues to illustrate how to apply NVC principles in various personal and professional situations. Key concepts include:Distinguishing observations from evaluationsDeveloping emotional literacy and needs awarenessMaking requests rather than demandsReceiving empathicallyExpressing anger fullyResolving conflicts peacefullyWhile some readers find the NVC approach transformative for improving relationships and communication, others critique it as potentially rigid or manipulative if applied inflexibly. Overall, the book offers valuable tools for more compassionate, needs-based communication, though its effectiveness may depend on how it is implemented in real-world contexts.https://a.co/d/amPmnKn___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Lindsay recently finished reading "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion." Join us as she discusses her thoughts and impressions and shares her excitement about this new paradigm shift. Feelings Versus Evaluations Masquerading as Feelings

In dieser Podcast-Episode tauchen wir tief in das Thema Deeskalation ein – ein wesentlicher Bestandteil der Selbstverteidigung. Wir erkunden, warum das Konzept der Deeskalation oft missverstanden wird und wie man es effektiver angehen kann. Dabei betrachten wir, welche typischen Fehler man vermeiden sollte und wie man durch präzise Kommunikation und taktisches Vorgehen die Kontrolle in kritischen Situationen behält. Zudem erfährst du, welche Anzeichen darauf hindeuten, dass Deeskalation nicht mehr möglich ist und wie du dann sicher reagierst. Zu den wissenschaftlichen Hintergründen im Podcast, empfehle ich dir diese Quellen: Gewaltprävention und Eskalationsdynamik: Galtung, J. (1969). Violence, Peace, and Peace Research. Journal of Peace Research, 6(3), 167-191. Schauer, T. H., & Ellickson, P. L. (1987). Sociodemographic characteristics, attitudes, and violence-prone behavior. Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 16(4), 295-308. Kommunikation und Konfliktbewältigung: Hall, J. A., Roter, D. L., & Katz, N. R. (1988). Meta-analysis of correlates of provider behavior in medical encounters. Medical Care, 657-675. Mehrabian, A. (1972). Nonverbal Communication. Aldine-Atherton. Rimal, R. N., & Lapinski, M. K. (2009). Why health communication is important in public health. Bulletin of the World Health Organization, 87(4), 247-247a. Rogers, C. R. (1951). Client-centered therapy: Its current practice, implications, and theory. Houghton Mifflin. Rosenberg, M. B. (2003). Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. PuddleDancer Press. Psychologie der Emotionen und Reaktanz: Brehm, J. W., & Brehm, S. S. (1981). Psychological reactance: A theory of freedom and control. Academic Press. Davis, M. H. (1983). Measuring Individual Differences in Empathy: Evidence for a Multidimensional Approach. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 44(1), 113-126. Festinger, L. (1957). A theory of cognitive dissonance. Stanford University Press. Gross, J. J. (2002). Emotion Regulation: Affective, Cognitive, and Social Consequences. Psychophysiology, 39(3), 281–291. __________ Musik im Intro: Home Base Groove von Kevin MacLeod unterliegt der Creative-Commons-Lizenz "Namensnennung 4.0". Https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Quelle: http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1100563, Künstler: http://incompetech.com/⁠ Musik im Outro: Eyes Gone Wrong von Kevin MacLeod unterliegt der Creative-Commons-Lizenz "Namensnennung 4.0". Https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/, Quelle:http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1100362, Künstler: http://incompetech.com/

Have you ever wondered how the way we communicate can transform our relationships and communities? Morris H. Ervin Jr., an expert in Non-Violent Communication (NVC), joins Kaity & Adriane to explore the profound impact of empathy and honest expression in building meaningful connections.What to listen for:What is Non-Violent Communication (NVC), and why is it crucial for creating empathetic relationships?How can self-connection and self-awareness enhance our ability to communicate effectively?Practical examples of applying NVC in personal relationships to express needs and make clear requests.The transformative power of NVC in the classroom: using curiosity and empathy to address student behavior and needs.So, what are you waiting for? Tune in to gain insights into the art of nonviolent communication and how it can help you build authentic and empathetic connections.About the guest:Morris H. Ervin Jr. is the founder of Mansa Consulting and author of Reflections of a Troubled Black Man: A Teacher's Quest Turning Fear into Strength and Pain into Passion. With over 20 years of experience, Morris has pioneered social and emotional mentoring programs, leadership seminars, mindfulness retreats, and community engagement initiatives. As a Social Studies Teacher in South Central Los Angeles, he developed a unique African American History curriculum and implemented Nonviolent Communication in the classroom, dedicated to keeping young boys off the streets, out of gangs, and away from prisons.Connect with Morris: Website — https://morriservin.com/ Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/therealmansa/LinkedIn — linkedin.com/in/morris-ervinMentioned in this episode:The Message by Grand Master Flash — https://open.spotify.com/track/4XIehBxoYzgGjfIiZuWOTW?autoplay=trueThe Center for Nonviolent Communication — https://www.cnvc.org/Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg — https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/71730Giraffe Language and Jackal Language | Nonviolent Communication explained by Marshall Rosenberg — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xov5z_GJ9ZsAbout the podcast:The KindlED Podcast explores the science of nurturing children's potential and creating empowering learning environments.Powered by Prenda, each episode offers actionable insights to help you ignite your child's love of learning today. We'll dive into evidence-based tools and techniques that kindle young learners' curiosity, motivation, and well-being. Got a burning question?We're all ears! If you have a question or topic you'd love our hosts to tackle, please send it to podcast@prenda.com. Let's dive into the conversation together!Important links:• Want more KindlED content?• Connect with us• Subscribe to The Sunday SparkInterested in starting a microschool?Prenda provides all the tools and support you need to start and run an amazing microschool. Create a free Prenda World account to start designing your future microschool today ➡️ Start My Microschool

Join us on this episode of Conversations Unveiled as we explore the transformative power of communication through a curated list of 10 must-read books. From navigating crucial conversations to understanding the psychology of persuasion, each book offers invaluable insights and practical strategies to enhance your communication skills. Dive into the world of effective communication with us as we uncover the secrets to building meaningful connections and fostering open dialogue in both personal and professional settings. Whether you're a seasoned communicator or just starting on your journey, this episode is sure to inspire and empower you to communicate with confidence and authenticity. Tune in and embark on a journey to master the art of communication! Here are the 10 must-read books on communication.1. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler2. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie3. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg4. Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets by Carmine Gallo5. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen6. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle7. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini8. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain9. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves10. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary ChapmanThese books cover a wide range of topics related to communication, from handling difficult conversations to public speaking, emotional intelligence, and building meaningful relationships.Enjoy :)Support the show

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin answer four Pump Head questions drawn from last Sunday's Quah post on the @mindpumpmedia Instagram page.  Mind Pump Fit Tip: Don't use shame to get results. (2:00) When your kids have bigger calves than you. (17:22) Organifi has products for kids! (18:31) Interesting times we live in. (23:32) Speculating on the fallout from Oprah's weight-loss drug special. (29:27) Did the CDC release a redacted study on myocarditis after COVID-19 vaccination? (33:30) Dan Bilzerian admits monogamy is the answer. (35:11) If people skip meals, typically there are unhealthy habits around that. (40:48) Adam has started taking Tirzepatide, updates to come! (45:27) Influencer farms vs. the power of word of mouth. (49:27) Brain.fm works like a charm. (56:31) Shout out to Matteo Mancuso. (58:20) #Quah question #1 - What can I do to get bigger, if I'm only noticing strength gains? (1:00:56) #Quah question #2 - Can you please provide some tips for a “skinny fat” body? I'm already lifting 4-5x a week, eat my bodyweight in protein daily (min), and get 10-15K steps a day. I don't know why I cannot get more toned and muscular. (1:03:30) #Quah question #3 - Is it possible to lose muscle due to overtraining even if you always hit your protein targets? (1:06:09) #Quah question #4 - What are the best exercises to do to strengthen your wrists? (1:11:42) Related Links/Products Mentioned Visit Organifi for the exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Promo code MINDPUMP at checkout for 20% off** Visit Brain.fm for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners. ** Promo code MINDPUMP to get 30 days of free access to science-backed music. ** March Promotion: MAPS Anabolic | MAPS Anabolic Advanced 50% off! ** Code MARCH50 at checkout ** Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships Planet Fitness stock plummets after woman's membership canceled for taking picture of ‘man in women's locker room shaving' Oprah Winfrey thinks ‘obesity' a disease, rather than a ‘choice' Fact Check: CDC Supposedly Released Redacted Study on Myocarditis After COVID-19 Vaccination. Here's What We Know Dan Bilzerian Says Monogamy is Better Than Sleeping with Thousands of Women Mind Pump #2205: Why Dating Sucks & How To Fix It With Adam Lane Smith 8-hour time-restricted eating linked to a 91% higher risk of cardiovascular death TRANSCEND your goals! Telehealth Provider • Physician Directed GET YOUR PERSONALIZED TREATMENT PLAN!  Hormone Replacement Therapy, Cognitive Function, Sleep & Fatigue, Athletic Performance and MORE. Their online process and medical experts make it simple to find out what's right for you. Tirzepatide: Uses, Dosage, Side Effects & Warnings - Drugs.com The Dystopian World of Chinese Influencer Farms - YouTube Visit Butcher Box for this month's exclusive Mind Pump offer! ** New users will receive their choice of 2 lbs. of Ground Beef, 3 lbs. of Chicken Thighs, or 1 lb. of premium Steak Tips for a Year! + Use the code MINDPUMP and get $20 off your first box! ** Mind Pump #1057: How To Get Stronger For Fat Loss & Muscle Building Mind Pump #1142: Nine Signs You Are Overtraining The ONLY Forearm Workout That Matters (TRY THIS!!) | MIND PUMP How to do a Wrist CAR (controlled articular rotation) MAPS Fitness Prime Pro Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) Instagram Matteo Mancuso (@matteomancuso.guitar) Instagram  

Mind Pump Fit Tip: If your goal is to be fat, sick, and unhealthy follow the government's nutrition guidelines. (2:21) Will extending life save humanity? (11:42) The philosophical problems with cloning. (22:33) The undiscussed damage that pornography is causing. (28:32) Sal's vasectomy consult experience. (36:28) Government experiments gone wrong. (40:59) Fun Facts with Justin: Tsavo Lions. (48:03) The scariest thing to get eaten by. (51:01) What spawns some ideas by scientists? (54:50) Some of the guy's favorite Butcher Box items. (55:55) Shout out to Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships book. (1:01:22) #Quah question #1 - I would love to hear how each member of Mind Pump is currently training right now. What program does their training most closely resemble? (1:02:56) #Quah question #2 - Are full body or body part splits optimal for hypertrophy? Hoping sets and frequency equal. (1:09:37) #Quah question #3 - Are peptides and TRT still allowed to claim natural? (1:14:15) #Quah question #4 - I'm trying to train for a competition at my local gym where you have to rep your body weight on the bench and squat as many times as you can. Whoever has the most combined reps wins. I'm not sure what is the best way to approach this? (1:18:28) Related Links/Products Mentioned Entera: Unlock Longevity event – February 24, 2024 in Austin, TX ** Promo Code MINDPUMP20 – Anyone who uses this promo code will get 20% off their ticket price. ** Visit Butcher Box for this month's exclusive Mind Pump offer! February Promotion: MAPS Performance | Extreme Fitness Bundle 50% off! ** Code FEB50 at checkout ** You're probably eating way too much protein - Vox Mind Pump #1922: Fatphobia & Other Lies That Are Keeping You Fat, Unhealthy & Sick Mind Pump #2260: Look Younger & Live Longer With Dr. Adeel Khan We Can Clone Pet Dogs - But is that a Good Idea? Upload TV Series – Prime Video Mind Pump #2132: Six Reasons Men Today Are Weak The CIA's Appalling Human Experiments With Mind Control Tuskegee Experiment: The Infamous Syphilis Study | HISTORY Tsavo Man-Eaters - Wikipedia The Ghost and the Darkness (1996) - IMDb MEATER Plus: Long Range Wireless Smart Meat Thermometer with Bluetooth Booster | For BBQ, Oven, Grill, Kitchen, Smoker, Rotisserie | iOS & Android App Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships For a limited time only, Mind Pump listeners get a free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/MindPump 'Natty or not' steroid discussions have become their own internet content genre Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Adeel Khan, MD (@dr.akhan) Instagram   Dave Asprey (@dave.asprey) Instagram Greg Doucette (@gregdoucetteifbbpro) Instagram  

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin coach four Pump Heads via Zoom. Email live@mindpumpmedia.com if you want to be considered to ask your question on the show. Mind Pump Fit Tip: Consider this when programming exercises for muscle building: Middle, stretch, and squeeze. (2:49) When Mind Pump gets surprised by a guest. (13:46) Do supplements really make a difference? (20:43) Mind Pump is going to Arnold! (29:39) Scary News with Sal: Double brooding cicadas. (30:47) Mind Pump proposals. (32:07) Mind Pump Recommends, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships book. (41:10) Parent hacks with Adam. (42:46) How Ned has replaced cannabis use for Sal. (51:44) Organifi photoshoots on brand. (55:57) Shout out to The Leapfrog book series. (1:00:04) #ListenerLive question #1 - I stopped dieting, and now I can't lose any body fat. I need advice. (1:00:51) #ListenerLive question #2 - Can you share some tips and tricks so I can have a more balanced lifestyle around food? (1:22:58) #ListenerLive question #3 - Should I cut, build, or reverse? What should my next few steps for this year look like? I have ‘yo-yo' dieted my whole life due to an eating disorder, body image issues, and an all-or-nothing mindset. (1:34:11) #ListenerLive question #4 - When meeting with female clients for the first time who have had children and discussing their goals, their response is usually “I'd just love to have the body back that I had before having kids.” How do you set realistic expectations? (1:49:54) Related Links/Products Mentioned Ask a question to Mind Pump, live! Email: live@mindpumpmedia.com Visit NED for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! ** Code MINDPUMP at checkout for 15% off ** Visit Organifi for the exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! ** Code MINDPUMP for 20% off ** February Promotion: MAPS Performance | Extreme Fitness Bundle 50% off! ** Code FEB50 at checkout ** Mind Pump #1897: Why Phasing Your Workouts Is So Important & How To Properly Switch It Up TRANSCEND your goals! Telehealth Provider • Physician Directed GET YOUR PERSONALIZED TREATMENT PLAN!  Hormone Replacement Therapy, Cognitive Function, Sleep & Fatigue, Athletic Performance and MORE. Their online process and medical experts make it simple to find out what's right for you. A trillion cicadas will descend on the US this spring in rare event that could leave unforgettable stench Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships LeapFrog LeapReader Learn to Read 10-Book Mega Pack hand2mind Numberblocks Friends One to Five Figures, Toy Figures Collectibles, Small Cartoon Figurines for Kids, Mini Action Figures, Character Figures, Play Figure Playsets, Imaginative Play Toys STEVE AND MAGGIE - YouTube Visit Seed for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Promo code 25MINDPUMP at checkout for 25% off your first month's supply of Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic** Mind Pump #2250: How Eating More Can Make You Leaner (& How Eating Less Can Make You Fatter) Mind Pump Fitness Coaching Course MAPS Starter   Mind Pump #1375: How To Train Before, During & After Pregnancy Luna Physical Therapy Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Dave Asprey (@dave.asprey) Instagram Coyote Peterson (@coyotepeterson) Instagram Dr. William Seeds (@williamseedsmd) Instagram  

Atgriezeniskās saite ir par rīcību, nevis par personību, tas ir novērojums, tā ir prasme redzēt un dzirdēt cilvēku. Cieņpilni pastāstīt otram cilvēkam iespēju robežās ko tur redzi, ko dzirdi, ko novēro. Cieņpilni to pastāsti. Šajā epizodē kopā ar Elīnu Bulāni cepāmies par sen aktuālu tēmu - atgriezeniskās saites sniegšana, kopā ar mums Sandra Lāce, supervizore, kognitīvi biheiviorālās terapijas speciāliste, vadīšanas prasmju trenere. Pētījumi rāda, ka cilvēki gaida vidēji trīs mēnešus, lai saņemtu konstruktīvu atgriezenisko saiti, lai gan skaidri zinām, ka tas ir pārāk ilgi. Mācāmies kā sniegt šo novērojumu, taču beigās to nestāstām, jo baidāmies otru aizvainot, nevēlamies pateikt kaut ko nepatīkamu. Paldies Iveta Bikse, Organizāciju psihologs, organizācijas attīstības vadītāja Putnu fabrikā Ķekava, par pētījumu un viedokli.Klausies epizodi un uzzini:Kāpēc Hamburgera metode nestrādā?Kādas metodes palīdz veidot atklātu sarunu?Kā veidot veselīgu dialogu darba situācijās?Vai atgriezeniskā saite nozīmē kritizēt?Vērts izlasīt grāmatas, ko pieminējām sarunā:Ben Falk's "Honest Talks": While not a book, Ben Falk's approach in his talks and workshops focuses on honesty and transparency in communication. His methods are valuable for developing a culture where feedback is given in a straightforward, constructive manner."Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" by Marshall B. Rosenberg: This book is a foundational text in understanding empathetic communication. Rosenberg's framework for nonviolent communication is highly effective in creating an environment where feedback is given and received in a constructive, compassionate way, leading to better understanding and collaboration."Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity" by Kim Scott - Scott's book focuses on how to be both direct and empathetic in giving feedback, fostering a culture of open and honest communication.

In this week's episode Raquel and Jennifer discuss Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools For Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. How does the way that you communicate effect your relationships?  How can it improve them? Can communication styles effect relationships between groups of people or even countries? Let Raquel and Jennifer know what you think about this and other episodes of Madness Cafe on IG @madnesscafepodcast or by email at madnesscafepodcast@gmail.com.And don't forget to rate and review the show wherever you listen!Thanks for listening and responding!

Deven Sisler has been teaching yoga and meditation to children and families internationally since 2005 as well as offering kids yoga teacher trainings since 2016. She loves sharing the tools of yoga with people of all ages and believes that everyone can benefit from investigating kindness, honesty, generosity, wisdom, and self-liberation. Deven joins Kristi and Kelly on this week's episode of Mindful Conversations with KAY to discuss her new book, The Yamas In Pajamas: A Guide to Yoga for Kids and Their Adults, which dives deeper into the first limb of yoga for kids in a fun and accessible way. Each chapter includes reflections, guided meditations, breathing exercises, journal prompts, some activities, and mindful movements or body shapes for each Yama, so kids and their adults can experientially explore these concepts. Listen in as Deven shares more about: Her personal journey with yoga and meditation Her background in theater, circus, and clowning Shifting her approach to teaching yoga to kids Her inspiration for her book and plans for her next one Her experience bringing the practice of yoga into schools and adjustments to make it suitable for all environments Deven reminds us that the practice of yoga is available anytime, anywhere...even in our pajamas! The Yamas in Pajamas is available at Target and Amazon, or purchase a signed copy directly from her website. Connect with Deven: www.devensisleryoga.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/DevenSislerYoga FB: https://www.facebook.com/DevenSislerYoga For further reading and learning: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships, by Marshall Rosenberg The Secret Power of Yoga, by Nischala Joy Devi

Chapter 1 What is Nonviolent Communication"Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" is a book written by Marshall B. Rosenberg. It is a guidebook that explores a communication process aimed at fostering understanding, compassion, and empathy between individuals. The book introduces the concept of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a way to resolve conflicts peacefully and improve relationships. Rosenberg presents NVC as a practical framework for effective communication, emphasizing the importance of empathetic listening, honest expression of feelings and needs, and finding mutually beneficial solutions. He discusses how our language and communication patterns often contribute to misunderstandings, conflicts, and disconnection, and offers strategies for transforming these patterns into more compassionate and authentic interactions. Throughout the book, Rosenberg provides numerous examples and real-life scenarios to illustrate the principles and practices of Nonviolent Communication. He also highlights the power dynamics and structures in society that can perpetuate violence and offers insights on how to address these issues through compassionate communication. "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" has been widely regarded as a valuable resource for those seeking to improve their communication skills, deepen their connections with others, and contribute to peaceful resolution of conflicts in various contexts.Chapter 2 Is Nonviolent Communication Worth ReadAccording to reddit comments on Nonviolent Communication, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is definitely worth reading. Developed by psychologist Marshall B. Rosenberg, NVC provides a practical framework for compassionate communication and conflict resolution. It offers valuable insights and techniques that can improve relationships, enhance empathy, and foster understanding between individuals. Here are a few reasons why NVC is worth reading: 1. Effective Communication: NVC helps individuals express themselves honestly and empathically, fostering deeper connections and understanding with others. It focuses on clear observations, feelings, needs, and requests, allowing for more effective conversations and conflict resolution. 2. Empathy and Understanding: NVC emphasizes the importance of empathy, both for oneself and others. By learning to listen and understand the needs and feelings behind people's words and actions, you can cultivate greater empathy and build stronger relationships. 3. Conflict Resolution: NVC provides strategies for resolving conflicts peacefully and collaboratively. It encourages finding mutually satisfying solutions rather than resorting to aggression or manipulation. This approach can lead to more harmonious outcomes in personal and professional settings. 4. Self-awareness and Emotional Intelligence: NVC encourages self-reflection and awareness of one's own feelings and needs. By better understanding ourselves, we become more skilled at identifying and expressing our emotions in a non-threatening way, leading to healthier interactions with others. 5. Cultural Transformation: NVC promotes a shift towards a more compassionate and understanding society. By applying its principles, individuals can contribute to creating environments where empathy, respect,...

Andy and Mon-Chaio talk about the dreaded request for team performance metrics. Rather than simply agreeing to start measuring, we explore a different approach. Opening quote from "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion" References Explore, Expand, Extract - https://medium.com/@kentbeck_7670/fast-slow-in-3x-explore-expand-extract-6d4c94a7539 Commandos, Infantry, Police - https://blog.codinghorror.com/commandos-infantry-and-police/ SPACE Metrics - https://queue.acm.org/detail.cfm?id=3454124 DevEx metrics - https://www.infoq.com/articles/devex-metrics-framework/ NVC - https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/book-chapter-1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tactics-tech-leadership/message

Dennis and Lisa examine the powerful concept that relationships can't fulfill every need. Instead, you must identify what truly contributes to a healthy and satisfying life. Then, determine how to get those needs met. It starts with three simple questions: What happens if I don't get this? Can I live without this? Do I need this in order to be satisfied?  The Leadership Development Group is a consulting firm led by Dennis and Lisa McIntee that exists to help you create a better work culture through drama free strategies, leadership coaching, and training. Since 2005, they have helped over 2,000 companies become drama free and significantly increase their productivity as a result. Discover the freedom of a better work culture today at leadershipdevgroup.com. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:  Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships When Dealing With Me™

Do you know what it means to be a steward? What about the word content? What comes to mind when you think of the word? What about wait? What does it mean to wait and how does it make you feel? All this and more in today's episode! Here is the name of the book I mentioned in the Episode today: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. I don't subscribe to ALL the view points in this book, I just took what was valuable to me and him discussing how to communicate our needs and the difference between communicating a need and a thought was insightful! Want to buy a copy of my new book. Nuggets of Truth Volume 1? Book link: https://www.amazon.com/Nuggets-Truth-1-Ashley-Campbell/dp/1685568432/ref=sr_1_1?crid=JNUNCYD9RMHZ&keywords=nuggets+of+truth+volume+1+ashley+campbell&qid=1681744106&sprefix=%2Caps%2C91&sr=8-1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-campbell29/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ashley-campbell29/support

Hôm nay mình xin chia sẻ tới các bạn cuốn sách vô cùng nổi tiếng về giao tiếp mang tên: "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" (Bản dịch tiếng Việt là: Giao Tiếp Bất Bạo Động - Ngôn Ngữ Của Lòng Trắc Ẩn) của tiến sĩ ngành tâm lý lâm sàng Marshall B. Rosenberg Cuốn sách này đặc biệt hay và hữu ích ở chỗ nó sẽ tiết lộ cho bạn nguyên nhân, nguồn gốc gây ra "bạo lực" lời nói trong cuộc sống của chúng ta, và cho bạn biết phương pháp cụ thể để giao tiếp một cách tốt nhất. Từ đó tránh khỏi xung đột, mâu thuẫn, cải thiện mối quan hệ, mang lại hạnh phúc cho bản thân. Mời các bạn cùng lắng nghe! ------------------------- ❤️ ỦNG HỘ KÊNH TẠI: https://beacons.ai/betterversion.donate

In this episode of the Punx Unite Podcast, we'll explore how nonviolent communication can help you develop self-awareness, communicate assertively and compassionately in relationships, and help you to develop and respect boundaries, plus we'll also take a look at some other communication styles we should consider. Download the Setting Healthy Boundaries worksheet Work with me – Positive Neuroplasticity Training: https://pnt.jodelacourt.com Subscribe to the Timely Thought Newsletter: https://timelythought.jodelacourt.com Sign up to the PNKRCKRs Podcast Membership: https://membership.jodelacourt.com Music by Jake from Sunliner https://instagram.com/sunlinerbandDisclaimer: The host of this podcast is not a medical physician or doctor, nor do they claim to be. The information, knowledge, and content shared in this podcast are not a substitute for medical attention, examination, diagnosis, or treatment. We advise you to consult your doctor or qualified healthcare provider if you have any health concerns. Some links in these show notes may be affiliate links where the host will earn a commission for every purchase made.

Valentine's Day is potently colored by contrasting aspects: Mars sesquare Pluto and Venus conjunct Neptune. The first half of February also features a Uranian Leo Full Moon, Venus square Mars, and a powerfully peaking T-Square. And I announce our free session winner for February! Resources Click here for 9 days of free gifts from top healers ($850 value) … plus a chance to win a $325 relationship astrology reading! I astrologize a world-famous man and a podcast host Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships, by Marshall B. Rosenberg My Amazon #1 bestseller: Instant Divine Assistance: Your Complete Guide to Fast and Easy Spiritual Awakening, Healing, and More Ebook — only $3.99, and included with Kindle Unlimited. Paperback — only $12.99 My Awaken, Heal, and Thrive! Podcast My Healing Invocation My Embodied Awakening Invocation Instant Divine Assistance: Your Free Guide to Fast and Easy Awakening and Healing Awakening Plus February events Awakening Plus online spiritual support membership “This Week in Astrology” Free Session Entry (2 chances each month to win a free session with me!) Solar Fire astrology software My forecasts in writing My services: Astrology+, Shamanic Healing/IFS, life coaching and more Watch the February 1-15 forecast video As of February 1 … The Moon is waxing (there was an Aquarian New Moon on 1/21). There are no retrograde planets. There's a Mars-Chiron-South Node Yod thru 2/5. There's a Sun-Mars-Ceres-Jupiter Kite thru 2/3 Theres a Sun-Uranus-Lunar Nodes T-Square thru 2/6 Whatever your Sun Sign, my forecasts can help you make the best use of the current astrological energies. All dates and times are in the U.S. eastern time zone. Events are most powerful on the dates listed, but their influence will be active for at least a week before and after. Everyone is affected by these global transits. However, you'll be most powerfully impacted when moving planets activate sensitive points in your natal chart. Discover how these transits will personally affect you by booking a session with me. May the stars light your way, Benjamin Bernstein Contact me

Thanks for a slight error in uploading the correct file on Tony's "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast; he shares the correct episode as a "crossover" on The Virtual Couch. Tony adds "The Mailbox Metaphor," a powerful Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) metaphor about how we decide to look at the "clutter" of our virtual, physical, or mental inboxes. Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg, it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgment, something narcissists or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Thanks for a slight error in uploading the correct file on Tony's "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast; he shares the correct episode as a "crossover" on The Virtual Couch. Tony adds "The Mailbox Metaphor," a powerful Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) metaphor about how we decide to look at the "clutter" of our virtual, physical, or mental inboxes. Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg, it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgment, something narcissists or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgement, something that narcissists, or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do in an attempt to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgement, something that narcissists, or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do in an attempt to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

An upbeat solo episode for you where I do a dive into what it means to "trust the niggle", how that leads to knowing your truth and living in INTEGRITY.  If you are someone who has lost trust with yourself, feels lost and isn't sure how to resolve the space between WHO you ARE and WHO you WANT TO BE - this is an episode for you.  If you have never powerfully or successfully established your boundaries this is a show of HOW TO, WHEN TO and will leave you with the tools to set them, make them stick and share them.    Fail Often. Fail Forward.  Fail Fast. Resources:   Integrity Seminars: https://integrityseminars.com/   Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown https://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-Disciplined-Pursuit-Greg-McKeown/dp/0804137404/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1666406573&sr=8-1   Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2LBSN7L2Q8GNG&keywords=Non+violent+communication&qid=1666406749&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIyLjEwIiwicXNhIjoiMS40MyIsInFzcCI6IjEuNTEifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=non+violent+communication%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1   You Are a Goddess: Working with the Sacred Feminine to Awaken, Heal and Transform by Sophie Bashford https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Goddess-Feminine-Transform/dp/1788171772/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1667702560&sr=8-1   A Course In Miracles https://www.amazon.com/course-Miracles-Foundation-Inner-Peace/dp/1883360269/ref=sr_1_1?crid=302H7I89LV0KS&keywords=a+course+in+miracles&qid=1667847924&sprefix=a+course+in+miracles%2Caps%2C136&sr=8-1 Like what you hear? It would mean so much to me if you would take a minute to rate and review the show! It truly gives me that extra motivation to keep dishing out my best content.   RateThisPodcast.com/createtheripple   “20 years ago I survived years of sexual assault from my boyfriend. 14 years ago I decided not to kill myself. 11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt and ruined credit. 9 years ago I went into Consumer Proposal and began to clean up the mess. 7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world. 5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself. 3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine; 2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love. Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side." Candice is a mom, podcaster and essentialist who loves to engage in courageous conversations, especially about truth, trust and boundaries. (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast) She has learned the power of saying no and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally. Knowing that peace, freedom and integrity start inside, Candice is an advocate for knowing your own truth and speaking it clearly and powerfully - at home, at work and to yourself. After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) with over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and, most importantly, her trust in herself. The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, shame and learning to let go. Now, as a self proclaimed Essentialist, she's leading a big life while living in a tiny home (324 sq ft), with her Love, 2 kids, 2 dogs and 1 cat. When grief rocked her world in 2020, Candice knew it was time to finally do the deeper healing work she had been putting off and change her negative patterns for good. Emerging from this place, Candice now embraces her wild, fierce and receptive feminine nature. The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features guests who are living in their truth and integrity. For Website and Social Links: https://candicesmiley.carrd.co/   DISCLOSURE: I USE MY WEBSITE  AND SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS TO CREATE THE INCOME THAT SUPPORTS MY LIFESTYLE. WHEN YOU FOLLOW ME POSTS/ARTICLES/PAGES/ESSAYS  MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS, MEANING I GET A COMMISSION IF YOU DECIDE TO MAKE A PURCHASE THROUGH MY LINKS, AT NO COST TO YOU. PLEASE READ MY DISCLOSURE FOR MORE INFO  

When met with an unexpected situation, do you react or respond? And what is the difference? According to Dr. Matt James, while some people use the words interchangeably, there is a world of difference in their meanings. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/focus-forgiveness/201609/react-vs-respond Tony shares a story of showing up late to a recent speaking opportunity where he learned whether or not he was more prone to reaction or response. Tony shares the results of taking the Implicit Association Test (IAT) https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/ and discusses how understanding how we give meaning to certain people and situations contributes to how we react or how we respond. And Tony also references Marshal Rosenberg's book “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)” https://amzn.to/3EjVZkx If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

How do you know what you don't know? Tony shares an example of what it feels like to speak to a group of people when you seek validation versus speaking because you care deeply about the topic you are presenting. Often we hear people talk about being authentic, but what does that look like in real life, and what additional benefits come when you live and operate from a place of authenticity? Tony also discusses what it means to stand in your “healthy ego” vs. “pathological defensive narcissism,” and finally, he discusses Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life from a summary by Pamela Hobart https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Welcome back to SEASON 3 of Create the Ripple Podcast! I am your host, Candice Smiley and this season we are diving deeper into conversations that matter, conversations that take courage to engage in. We will be having conversations with powerful, amazing guests on how they listen to their own deep inner knowing (the niggle), and how they tell the truth of that, and live that out.     Make sure you follow along and subscribe!   Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown https://www.amazon.com/Essentialism-Disciplined-Pursuit-Greg-McKeown/dp/0804137404/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1666406573&sr=8-1   The Power of Your Subconscious Mind  by Joseph Murphy https://www.amazon.com/Power-Your-Subconscious-Mind/dp/160459201X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IBOJ9O5T1FY3&keywords=the+power+of+your+subconscious+mind&qid=1666406673&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIzLjEyIiwicXNhIjoiMi42MiIsInFzcCI6IjIuNjkifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=the+power+of+your+%2Caps%2C182&sr=8-1   Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg   https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2LBSN7L2Q8GNG&keywords=Non+violent+communication&qid=1666406749&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIyLjEwIiwicXNhIjoiMS40MyIsInFzcCI6IjEuNTEifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=non+violent+communication%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1 “20 years ago I survived years of sexual assault from my boyfriend. 14 years ago I decided not to kill myself. 11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt and ruined credit. 9 years ago I went into Consumer Proposal and began to clean up the mess. 7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world. 5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself. 3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine; 2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love. Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side." Candice is a mom, podcaster and essentialist who loves to engage in courageous conversations, especially about truth, trust and boundaries. (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast) She has learned the power of saying no and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally. Knowing that peace, freedom and integrity start inside, Candice is an advocate for knowing your own truth and speaking it clearly and powerfully - at home, at work and to yourself. After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) with over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and, most importantly, her trust in herself. The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, shame and learning to let go. Now, as a self proclaimed Essentialist, she's leading a big life while living in a tiny home (324 sq ft), with her Love, 2 kids, 2 dogs and 1 cat. When grief rocked her world in 2020, Candice knew it was time to finally do the deeper healing work she had been putting off and change her negative patterns for good. Emerging from this place, Candice now embraces her wild, fierce and receptive feminine nature. The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features guests who are living in their truth and integrity. For Website and Social Links: https://candicesmiley.carrd.co/   DISCLOSURE: I USE MY WEBSITE  AND SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS TO CREATE THE INCOME THAT SUPPORTS MY LIFESTYLE. WHEN YOU FOLLOW ME POSTS/ARTICLES/PAGES/ESSAYS  MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS, MEANING I GET A COMMISSION IF YOU DECIDE TO MAKE A PURCHASE THROUGH MY LINKS, AT NO COST TO YOU. PLEASE READ MY DISCLOSURE FOR MORE INFO   Like what you hear? It would mean so much to me if you would take a minute to rate and review the show! It truly gives me that extra motivation to keep dishing out my best content.   RateThisPodcast.com/createtheripple

In this episode, I talk about letting go of the past. To do that, we need to: Choose that we're ready to let go. Actively work to heal. Accept accountability for ourselves. Tip: When angry, use the skills you can learn from the Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life book by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Focus on what your needs are and how you can achieve them rather than blaming the past for your current situation. Want to learn more? Check out the Let Go and Be Free book series. I'm not a medical expert. If you need help, please reach out to a medical professional.

This poem is an excerpt from the book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg. I never feel more given to than when you take from me – when you understand the joy I feel giving to you. And you know my giving isn't done to put you in my debt, but because I want to live the love I feel for you. To receive with grace may be the greatest giving. There's no way I can separate the two. When you give to me, I give you my receiving. When you take from me, I feel so given to.

How are you doing with communicating what you need with other people? This has definitely not been my strong point BUT I realize how it's vital to peace and growth in a relationship. Today I share with you guys a fantastic book that is helping me grow in this area and I hope it helps you too. The book is called, "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion by Marshall B. Rosenberg Here is a link for Thrift books if you are ready to purchase your own! https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/nonviolent-communication_marshall-b-rosenberg/249692/?resultid=964a1e69-fe9d-4991-b56b-8cf0403263a9#edition=9197346&idiq=11686596 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29/support

Our guest today is Jeffery Dean, actor, speaker and transformational life coach. Before I could even hit “record,” Jeffery got right to the heart of the matter when it comes to breaking through and connecting with people who may be angry, worried and suspicious of what you have to say. So, we jump right into our conversation without the usual pleasantries. During the interview Jeffery mentions the book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tool for Healthy Relationships.One quick show note: This will be our last new episode before I take my summer break. I may post some re-runs and perhaps some brief, new content over the next couple of months, but looks for new episodes when we get back to normal business operations after Labor Day. Thank you as always to Jim Cirillo for our original podcast music and Rachel Greenberger for our original podcast art.Send questions to wtswtgt@gmail.com and follow us on Twitter @wtswtgt.And enjoy the summer!

Our guest today is Jeffery Davis, actor, speaker and transformational life coach. Before I could even hit “record,” Jeffery got right to the heart of the matter when it comes to breaking through and connecting with people who may be angry, worried and suspicious of what you have to say. So, we jump right into our conversation without the usual pleasantries.During the interview Jeffery mentions the book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tool for Healthy Relationships.One quick show note: This will be our last new episode before I take my summer break. I may post some re-runs and perhaps some brief, new content over the next couple of months, but looks for new episodes when we get back to normal business operations after Labor Day.Thank you as always to Jim Cirillo for our original podcast music and Rachel Greenberger for our original podcast art.Send questions to wtswtgt@gmail.com and follow us on Twitter @wtswtgt.And enjoy the summer!

Dr. Anissa Reilly has been in education for over 30 years. For just under the last 15, she has been the principal of an elementary school in a large urban school district. Dr. Reilly received her undergraduate degree from Morgan State University in Baltimore, her Master's Degree from Bank Street College of Education, and her doctorate from The Sage Colleges of Albany. She is the President and Owner of Giant Step 6 LLC, where her primary goal and passion is to develop both national and global leaders so they can effectively lead their perspective organizations. She is the loving wife of Gordon Reilly Jr. and the mother of four amazing young people. Dr Reilly recently received proclamations from New York State Senator Jose Serrano and New York City Council Woman Vanessa Gibson for her assistance with improving the lives of the people in her community. The first book in her leadership series, “5 Buckets of Leadership: Speaking in the Moment'' was released in May 2021. Additionally, she is the host of The Ask Dr. Reilly Show, which can be found on FOX SOUL weekly.  About The Ask Dr. Reilly Show: The Ask Dr. Reilly Show is a 20-30 minute, one-one-one session with young and mature women (and sometimes men) where we discuss the traumatic issues that are faced in the inner cities. This living room like discussion focuses on abuse, sexual issues like rape, domestic violence, and sexuality, that impact our community. The host, Dr. Anissa Reilly is a success story. She received her doctorate in spite of suffering from Post- Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from issues like those she discusses on the show. She has embraced the “Wounded Healer” archetype as described by psychologist Carl Jung. The Ask Dr. Reilly Show is the first individual programming for the OSG Network scheduled to stream on Dame Dash Studios and on FOX SOUL. For more information sign up at AskDrReilly.com or visit the YouTube channel at Youtube.com/AskDrReilly.  Connect with Dr. Anissa Reilly: https://www.askdrreilly.com/ https://www.instagram.com/askdr.reilly/ https://www.facebook.com/askdr.reilly/ https://linktr.ee/AskDrReilly https://www.youtube.com/AskDrReilly https://twitter.com/askdrreilly Five Buckets of Leadership: Speaking in the Moment by Dr. Anissa Reilly  https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1949934543/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1_nodl?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1   What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Understanding-Resilience/dp/1250223180   Leadership by Rudolph W. Giuliani  https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Rudolph-W-Giuliani/dp/0786868414/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1RNQRSPL64JP0&keywords=rudy+giuliani&qid=1653357276&sprefix=rudi+gi%2Caps%2C408&sr=8-2   Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg & Deepak Chopra https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X **   Like what you hear? It would mean so much to me if you would take a minute to rate and review the show! It truly gives me that extra motivation to keep dishing out my best content.   RateThisPodcast.com/createtheripple   ** “21 years ago I survived a sexual assault from my boyfriend.  14 years ago I decided not to kill myself.  11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt.  9 years ago I walked away rather than endure sexual coercion and harassment from my boss. 7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world.  5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself. 3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine;  2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love.  Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side." Candice is a mom, podcaster, social marketer and essentialist who loves to engage in interesting conversations with other influencers and entrepreneurs.  Her favourite conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in.  (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast)   She has learned the power of saying no, listening to your own heart and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally.   She's become a voice for listening to your own truth and speaking it clearly, powerfully - at home, at work and in your life.  She spends her time living - in a tiny home (250 sq ft), traveling, speaking and sharing candidly with others how to live life after betrayal, to trust themselves, to speak up for themselves and set powerful boundaries.    After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) With over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and her trust in herself. Coming out of this, she encountered her own “Me Too” moment dealing with sexual coercion and harassment in her professional life; saying no resulted in her being the target of gossip that tarnished her reputation.    Deeply affected by the gaslighting and the experiences, she adopted a minimalist lifestyle, leaned on her personal network and practiced radical personal forgiveness, acceptance and responsibility.  The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, depression, shame and learning to let go.   When grief rocked her world a little less than 2 years ago, Candice knew it was time to stop her life, hit the pause button and finally do the deep work to heal her heart, self and mindset.  Emerging from this place, Candice has begun to embrace her fierce and receptive feminine nature.  The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features other amazing guests who are not afraid to do the hard work of personal development, listen to their own minds/heart and then speak up and out for those things that matter; to themselves and to make a difference in the world.   Candice loves her essentialist lifestyle for the beauty and freedom it offers her.  She can never resist the urge to take off her boots to walk barefoot into a clear mountain lake or stream. When she is not connecting or writing, she can be found disappearing into the backcountry trails of Canada with her life-love Mark and losing herself exploring waterfalls and mountain trails. She is a quiet introvert who adores eating clean foods and reading a great book.     For Website and Social Links: https://candicesmiley.carrd.co/   DISCLOSURE: I USE MY WEBSITE  AND SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS TO CREATE THE INCOME THAT SUPPORTS MY LIFESTYLE. WHEN YOU FOLLOW ME POSTS/ARTICLES/PAGES/ESSAYS  MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS, MEANING I GET A COMMISSION IF YOU DECIDE TO MAKE A PURCHASE THROUGH MY LINKS, AT NO COST TO YOU. PLEASE READ MY DISCLOSURE FOR MORE INFO

Having problems communicating your needs constructively and effectively with family, friends and coworkers, especially when conflicting opinions are involved?Meet Wayland Myers, Paul's go-to expert and the author of Nonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them, who shows you how to maintain strong connections with people you disagree with deeply yet still respect and love them in this very chatty Living 4D conversation.Learn more about Wayland's work at his website.Show NotesWhat is nonviolent communication? (5:14)Seven cooperative behaviors shared among many cultures. (10:40)A master class on how to talk to someone who doesn't agree with you politically. (14:48)Two powerful levels that help you create connections with others. (20:46)Is safety a real foundational need in the realm of conversation and exploring new ideas? (33:22)Achieving balance within our hierarchies. (42:40)“I'm a living empathy bus.” (56:18)Practicing nonviolent communication 24/7 can be really annoying to others. (1:04:00)The jackal and the giraffe. (1:11:11)Mastering empathy. (1:35:38)Understanding the differences between empathy and sympathy. (1:51:27)How to handle globalized opinions, generalized assumptions and fuzzy talk. (2:17:52)Revealing your vulnerability. (2:26:21)What couples really need to solve their problems: Better repair skills. (2:37:31)ResourcesAmy Fornier's conversation with Wayland Myers on her Awakening Aphrodite podcast.Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall RosenbergThe work of David Bohm and Tony RobbinsThe Real Anthony Fauci by Robert F. Kennedy Jr.The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der KolkThe Deming of America on DVDThanks to our awesome sponsors: CHEK Institute/IMS 1 Online, BiOptimizers (save an extra 10 percent on your purchase by using the code PAUL10 at checkout), Cymbiotika (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK15 at checkout), Organifi (save 20 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK20 at checkout), Paleovalley (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code chek15 at checkout) and Airestech (save 15 percent on any purchase you make by using the code CHEK15 at checkout).We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Guests Rich Bowen | Paul Berschick Panelist Richard Littauer Show Notes Hello and welcome to Sustain! On this episode, Richard is at the FOSS Backstage 2022 that is held in Berlin every year. This conference focuses on open source sustainability. He had the opportunity to interview people who were there in-person and talk about software sustainability, what they hope to find in FOSS Backstage, talks they did, and a bunch of other good stuff. Our first guest is Richard Bowen, who's been doing open source stuff for over twenty years, most recently at Red Hat, and just started working at AWS in the open source group. We also have another guest, Paul Berschick, who is one of the organizers of FOSS Backstage, and does Open Source Events at Plain Schwarz. Go ahead and download this episode now to find out more! [00:00:58] Rich tells us what he's doing now since leaving Red Hat. [00:02:13] We hear about Rich's talk he did on, “Delivering Bad News: Helping your community through a rough patch.” [00:04:45] Rich shares his thoughts on what happens when incentives don't align. [00:07:40] If you want a great read, Rich tells us a fantastic book to look into called, The Art of Community: Seven Principles of Belonging by Charles Vogl, as well as sharing advice to hang out with other Community Managers and to listen to his talk if you want to learn something. [00:10:25] How does Rich sees the role of Community Managers going and how does he think of community? [00:14:25] Find out where you can follow Rich online. [00:15:47] We now have Paul Berschick joining us and he tells us about Plain Schwarz. [00:17:02] Paul explains how much FOSS Backstage has grown since 2018, including the pandemic and how that changed. [00:21:35] How is Paul working to recreate and enable the amazing connections that he makes with people through FOSS Backstage for people who are remote? [00:25:28] Richard wonders how Paul has noticed, given his place of an event organizer, that his particular clientele influences how he builds these spaces, and if it changes how he views things because he does open source stuff. [00:27:52] Paul shares how he feels he's helping the ecosystem as a whole besides just having a one-off conference. [00:30:47] Does Paul feel FOSS Backstage could do better at accessing the rest of the long tail open source developers? [00:33:31] Paul shares ideas with having satellite events in other places where there's a more diverse listenership and how would that work. [00:35:24] Find out where you can follow Paul online. Links SustainOSS (https://sustainoss.org/) SustainOSS Twitter (https://twitter.com/SustainOSS?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor) SustainOSS Discourse (https://discourse.sustainoss.org/) podcast@sustainoss.org (mailto:podcast@sustainoss.org) FOSS Backstage 2022 (https://foss-backstage.de/) Rich Bowen Twitter (https://twitter.com/rbowen?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor) Rich Bowen Blog (https://drbacchus.com/) AWSOpen (Amazon Web Services) (https://aws.amazon.com/opensource/?blog-posts-content-open-source.sort-by=item.additionalFields.createdDate&blog-posts-content-open-source.sort-order=desc) Paul Berschick Twitter (https://twitter.com/thepb) Paul Berschick LinkedIn (https://de.linkedin.com/in/paul-berschick-97a18aa8) [The Art of Community: Seven Principles for Belonging by Charles Vogl](https://www.amazon.com/Art-Community-Seven-Principles-Belonging/dp/1626568413/ref=sr11?crid=XBXLH1BG3UTB&keywords=the+art+of+community&qid=1650740766&sprefix=the+art+of+community%2Caps%2C85&sr=8-1) [Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD](https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=sr11?crid=1YXJA0NG2J775&keywords=nonviolent+communication&qid=1650741239&s=books&sprefix=nonviolent+co%2Cstripbooks%2C98&sr=1-1) [The Art of Community: Building the New Age of Participation by Jono Bacon](https://www.amazon.com/Art-Community-Building-New-Participation/dp/1449312063/ref=sr12?crid=2U4XTDFW1MRO1&keywords=jono+bacon&qid=1650749628&s=books&sprefix=jono+bacon%2Cstripbooks%2C72&sr=1-2) Sustain Podcast-Episode 84: Jono Bacon on Building Sustainable Communities (https://podcast.sustainoss.org/84) Plain Schwarz (https://plainschwarz.com/) Open Source Collective (https://www.oscollective.org/) Credits Produced by Richard Littauer (https://www.burntfen.com/) and Charlotte Tienes (https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlotte-tienes-88038a18b/) Edited by Paul M. Bahr at Peachtree Sound (https://www.peachtreesound.com/) Show notes by DeAnn Bahr Peachtree Sound (https://www.peachtreesound.com/) Special Guests: Paul Berschick and Rich Bowen.

#005 - As designers, we are skilled at managing uncertainty within design processes but how well do we manage uncertainty within our own lives and careers? Atomic physicist, Kung Fu teacher and the co-founder of the Happy Startup School, Dr. Carlos Saba shares his journey of uncertainties and his biggest lessons trying to find his way around his life and career and how it's ok to not know what you're doing or where you're going. He also talks about why knowing how to conduct transactional research with users doesn't automatically make us good as empathising with people we are emotionally invested with. We also talk about the importance of clarifying your definition of success before setting out to achieve it and how prioritising fun could be a happier alternative when making your career choices.In this episode:Viewing success as a feeling rather than an output or outcomeThe language of needs and being aware of your and others' needsEmbracing uncertainty with a beginner's mindPrioritising fun when picking the people you want to work withShownotes:Happy Startup Schoolhttps://www.thehappystartupschool.com/Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberghttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/71730.Nonviolent_CommunicationSam Harrishttps://www.samharris.org/Waking Up Apphttps://wakingup.com/Universe with Prof. Brian Coxhttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p09ybnpdThe Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tollehttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6708.The_Power_of_NowThe Map of Meaning by Marjolein Lips-Wiersmahttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15000685-the-map-of-meaningWork with Source by Tom Nixonhttps://workwithsource.com/

Jason Nemer is an acrobat, author, and the co-founder of acroyoga.    His book Move, Connect, Play: The Art and Science of AcroYoga details the core principles of AcroYoga, a practice that melds circus arts with the healing power of massage and the breathwork of yoga. Jason's passion for partner acrobatics began at just 12 years old, and he went on to win silver and bronze medals at the World Championships and performed at the Olympic Games. After discovering yoga, Eastern philosophy, and Thai massage, he began fusing the key elements that would soon become the global practice of AcroYoga. Jason has dedicated his life to AcroYoga and travels the world to study, teach, and unite communities. His motivation is rooted in the belief that AcroYoga can empower all people through fun and connection. To pre-order a copy of Move, Connect, Play: The Art and Science of AcroYoga, click here. If You Enjoy The Thought Room Please Subscribe and Give Us a 5-Star Rating ★★★★★ and Review on Apple Podcasts or give us a shoutout on Instagram with your favorite moment from this episode for a chance to be re-shared. Find me on Instagram @hallie_rosebud and @thoughtroompodcast.  If the Thought Room means something to you, I want to know.  Your voice means the world, and YOU matter to me.  Please consider writing me a line or two, or share your excitement by tapping the link below.    ↓Quick link to leave some ♥ LOVE ♥  for The Thought Room: ↓    → https://kite.link/Review ←  As a thank you, download my free gift to you: 5 Minutes to Freedom Meditation  https://www.hallierose.com/meditation This episode is sponsored by:   BetterHelp Online Counseling: Click here → https://betterhelp.com/thoughtroom  Code: THOUGHTROOM for 10% off your first month     Ayahuasca Retreats at Soltara Healing Center:  Click here → http://soltara.co/thoughtroom $200 off Ayahuasca retreats at Soltara Healing Center with code THOUGHTROOM.  3rd Eye Cacao:  Click here —> https://thirdeyecacao.com/thoughtroom Use the coupon code “THOUGHTROOM” for 15% off!   Why cacao? As an excellent alternative to coffee, cacao is rich in theobromine, a native relative to caffeine. Theobromine's heart-opening effects energize the body and elevate the mood.  Third Eye Cacao is organically grown, hand picked and sun-dried. Just boil water— Third Eye Cacao is easy enough for your morning ritual, and pure enough to be used for cacao ceremonies! (Check out Ep. 40 with Third Eye Founder, Neil Ryan Dumra).    Move, Connect, Play Foundation Course Click here —> http://acroyoga.org/MCP-OFFER  Use the coupon code “THOUGHTROOM” for 15% off!  Topics Explored:    24:33 - What is AcroYoga? How AcroYoga helps us live a more vibrant life in connection with ourselves and other humans  The differences between AcroYoga and aerial yoga Hallie's introduction to AcroYoga and how she found her community in New York City 44:20 - Partner acrobatics, yoga, and the birth of AcroYoga as a practice The coding of our DNA to encourage trust and playfulness  How having his home stolen taught Jason to trust the universe  70:19 - The AcroYoga culture of acceptance and embracing people as human 1:18:46 - Jason's experiences teaching AcroYoga in a refugee camp Learning to embrace joy How can we maintain an openness to being wrong about everything?  The angels we meet on our path who change our lives 1:28:08 - Jason's book Move, Connect, Play and his dream of building a fixed community  How Jason tried to create a book that would hold something of value for everyone 1:40:28 - Hallie and her partner Judd's experiences being coached by Jason as a couple How partner work can help us go beyond the physical to deepen trust, communication, and self-talk in our relationships AcroYoga as a portal for healing in relationships Learning to be more present with each other 1:53:54 - Communication and boundaries  2:02:35 - Jason's experience doing AcroYoga with a paraplegic man with extra abilities  Resources:   Move, Connect, Play: The Art and Science of AcroYoga by Jason Nemer Website | AcroYoga.org Move, Connect, Play Foundation Course Website | jasonnemer.com Youtube | AcroYoga International  Jason on IG | @jasonnemer Jason on FacebookJason on Twitter | @jasonnemer Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. 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This episode is based on one of the most important books I have ever read: NonViolent Communication - A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg Nonviolent Communication is one of the most powerful ways of speaking with people that I have ever come across. It eliminates useless strategies like judgment and proving yourself right and instead gives you absolutely tactical techniques to get the things you need for happiness for yourself and your interlocutor. NVC is not a new, gimmicky set of dictum. It boils down the philosophies of Stoicism, the psychological approaches of CBT and cognitive psychology. Marshall Rosenberg was a psychologist trained in the classical analytic, but found it unsatisfying and for the most part, unhelpful. Speaking Giraffe vs. Speaking Jackal NVC is not really a theory or a guide to behavior--it is a language!!! Giraffes only hear feelings & needs, never thoughts Jackal language is about judging, criticizing, analyzing, moralizing and accusing. When we feel unfairly treated, accused or when we want to impose our wishes, we tend to use the language of the jackal. Jackal language is separating. Giraffe language is unifying.   The System There are essentially two major parts--The four component speech creation and emergency empathy The Four Components 1. Observation without Evaluation There's nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so. Shakespeare in Hamlet Avoid generalization, only specifics (generally good to avoid the past as well) Separate the observation from the evaluation or better yet, eliminate the evaluation You are the most inconsiderate person--you are always late J Krishnamurti: "observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence" See page 30 for more on pitfalls in observing 2. Feeling Internal emotional states vs. thoughts/judgment If you can replace I feel with I think--then it is not a feeling If I feel is followed by: that, like, or as if then it is not a feeling If I feel is followed by a name or pronoun (whether he, you, or I), then it is not a feeling Eliminate the feel--and see if it still works I feel sad to I'm sad works. I feel Could you feel it alone on a desert island--Ignored is not a feeling, unimportant is not a feeling, resentment is not a feeling b/c they require another to judge/act. It is a thought about how someone else is judging us p.45 has a list of positive and negative feelings Stoicism/CBT--We are the only ones responsible for our feelings We are responsible for everything we do (Replace I have to with I choose to) Do not connect the feelings to the observations through cause and effect. They relate--they are not caused by. When I observe X, I feel Y Even break it down to good/bad People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them --Epictetus "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" from "Hamlet" by William Shakespeare 3. Needs Rosenberg identifies human needs as safety, understanding, respect, warmth, autonomy, etc. When needs are expressed indirectly through assessments and behavioural diagnoses, people are likely to hear criticism and behave defensively or start talking back. Needs https://github.com/cognitivetech/Marshall-Rosenberg-NVC/blob/master/NVC-Training-3_The-4-Part-Model_Marshall-Rosenberg_transcript.md#universal-human-needs   To be Heard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   4. Requests Make the request--would you mind repeating back what you heard me say--I want to make sure I am not causing any misunderstandings Specific, Doable, Optional, Positive Language not vague, sweeping, negative, or demands If they refuse, then they must make a counter-request Can you repeat back what I heard--I wasn't as clear as I needed to be You can never make anyone do anything!!!! All conversation is transactional--when you think it is not, then it is usually b/c you are passively not acceding to the request

Many people ask me for book recommendations or want to know my opinion about popular books on communication. In this episode, I review the book “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” written by one of my dear teachers, Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. In Marshall's approach there are four sequential steps, which I describe in detail and give you examples about each of them. I also share 10 teachings from the book that have influenced Language Alchemy. Takeaways from this episode:  “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall Rosenburg, PhD has influenced me in many ways. His method has 4 steps. There can be benefits and drawbacks in following the exact system. There are 10 concepts from the book that transform the way you think about communication  ---  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:  Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X  Download the FREE 5 steps to redirect your reactivity, which includes a BONUS section about how to communicate on social media: https://www.languagealchemy.com/5steps To ask your communication questions, click here: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To join the mailing list, visit: www.languagealchemy.com For more resources about communication, go to: https://www.languagealchemy.com/blogandvideo Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI Produced by The Podcast Space, LLC.

Scott Weingart and I will be hosting a book club. When: Nov 14th 20:00 EST Where: Via Zoom Who: Anyone who will actually read the book and wants to participate. We are limiting this first one, so please don't sign up unless you are genuinely interested. We will be releasing a recording for those folks that want a passive experience. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships How: Sign-Up Here. If we are full, put your name on the waiting list

Scott Weingart and I will be hosting a book club. When: Nov 14th 20:00 EST Where: Via Zoom Who: Anyone who will actually read the book and wants to participate. We are limiting this first one, so please don't sign up unless you are genuinely interested. We will be releasing a recording for those folks that want a passive experience. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships How: Sign-Up Here. If we are full, put your name on the waiting list

Real change rarely comes in the absence of crisis. When we're comfortable, there's no real deep, emerging drive that is compelling us to really analyze the bedrock upon which we rest. The awakening and change that come out of crisis; a lot of the time it happens during a moment of panic so it's reactive rather than responsive. For me, the crisis that we're in now is the perfect set and setting to begin moving in the right direction as a community. We have to start reaching out to like-minded people, allowing them to speak authentically, and not feel ashamed for feeling or believing in certain things. - Ben Stewart   Get 15% off your CURED Nutrition order with the code WELLNESSFORCE at wellnessforce.com/CURED   ---> Get The Morning 21 System: A simple and powerful 21 minute system designed to give you more energy to let go of old weight and live life well.   JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP | *REVIEW THE PODCAST*   Wellness Force Radio Episode 416 World-class filmmaker, writer, musician, and Creator of the Psychedelica Series on Gaia, Ben Stewart, shares why there is a silver lining in every crisis, explores the lost art of dialogue and how to communicate from a place of alignment, unpacks how to obtain critical thinking skills, and explains the downside of following the herd. How do you close the gap between the head and heart to use chaos as an opportunity to awaken the power and the love that you truly are?  Discover what tools can help you whenever you find yourself in a moment of crisis. CURED Nutrition Save 15% off your CURED Nutrition order with the code WELLNESSFORCE at wellnessforce.com/cured It's taken me over a year to find the right hemp and CBD company to introduce to the Wellness Force Community and I could not be more thrilled that it's CURED Nutrition! CURED Nutrition is a movement inspired by nature and grounded in a shared desire to leave a lasting impression on you, our community, and this world. Together, they're a collective of heart-centered human beings who are inviting you – the conscious creatives, dreamers, and healers – to join their family. Learn how CURED hemp and CBD products can enhance your daily wellness routine. Try Cured's Full Spectrum Raw Hemp Oil Today They're Colorado-based organically grown hemp products that have been engineered to transform your approach toward an elevated life. Tap into your inherent potential – your greatest mind-body alignment – and nourish it with the supplements you were designed to thrive on. A greater existence is waiting. Listen To Episode 416 As Ben Stewart Uncovers: [1:30] Crisis Creates Real Change Ben Stewart Gaia | Ben Stewart Psychedelica Series on Gaia Ben Stewart Podcast DMT Quest Documentary Waking Infinity News Podcast Solocast | A Victim of Intellectualization & The Wisdom of The Heart How Ben sees this awakening in the chaos that we're all experiencing and how it's personally unfolding for him. What you can do to build an environment that helps you heal and thrive. 323 Charles Eisenstein Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac: An Overview Why change can truly only happen in the face of crisis compared to when we are comfortable. The power of pausing and taking a breath before reacting to something someone has said or an event that has happened. How we can make our communities stronger but letting others voice their opinions and not feel shame or guilt for feeling differently. What steps we can take to step away from fear in order to listen to our intuition and use our natural gifts. [12:30] The Lost Art of Dialogue How Josh has navigated the world, relationships, and his beliefs since the beginning of COVID-19. What you can do to respectfully ask permission to share your opinion with someone who has different thoughts on something like face masks. Why Ben believers we've come to the point in our society where we have lost the art of dialogue and good communication. What you can do if you feel bored and you do not have enough to do each day. Why he believes we communicate according to the current state of our nervous system. How to navigate thoughts and feelings that focus on the need to white knuckle and get things done so that we can let go, be present, and be grateful. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD Why it's good that we don't see eye to eye with people and what we can learn from each other instead of getting irritated and distancing ourselves away from them. 196 Aubrey Marcus Hierosonic How building good, healthy habits will allow your mind and body to function well every day at a sustainable pace. Why being around people with diverse backgrounds, ways of living, and beliefs will help you grow. Exploring the difference between violent communication and sharing why you are upset or triggered. [28:00] Community Wake Up: See the World from Someone Else's Eyes Discussing when it's appropriate for our inner Mama Bear or Papa Bear to come out and protect the people and things that we love. How we can obtain critical thinking skills while experiencing crisis and chaos. Why his wife and family are his biggest teachers and the other mentors that have inspired his journey. Paul Chek | All Is God What powerful lessons he has learned from the people who have trolled his films or disagreed with him on different levels. Different reasons for why we attack one another from seeking connection, wanting to get a rise out of sending that email, or bring someone down who is succeeding. 345 Zach Bush MD 362 Zach Bush MD 096 Daniel Schmachtenberger The moment Ben decided to shift and refine the content he was creating and sharing after an awakening. Loose Change Zeitgeist  His mission to help people realize just how powerful they are to make real change happen in the world. [43:00] The Downside to Following the Herd Why irrational and rational fear can sometimes feel like the same thing for our minds. How we can use fear and adrenaline to positively help us and use tools like breathwork to process them. Why Ben finds news and talking about topics like politics nauseating because news stations are not mature enough. The power of encircling a problem and rejuvenating it back to the community. How gossip and talking about others behind their backs have caused people to naturally agree and go along with it in order to not be ex-communicated from the group. The moment we start to abandon ourselves is when want to keep having safety in the herd even if we don't agree with what others are saying or doing. How we can have compassion for people who go with the herd because it's "the right thing to do" when we've made a different decision for ourselves. [52:00] Intellect vs Intuition vs Instinct How we can navigate the world so that we do not become a victim of our own mind and intellect. Why we don't acknowledge this enough: We are a lot more than just one thing. Breaking down instinct vs. intuition and why instinct is more biologically rooted and intuition projects more out into the future. How to uncover what you believe in, what you commit to, and how you express it. Why science is in all of us and how we can awaken our own inner scientist. The difference between science and the data that is coming in for us to frame and philosophize after observation. 206 Dan Pardi How we've become such a lazy society and we're always looking for the quickest shortcut including what to do with our lives and what to believe in. Why having life be so easy for us has led us to lose communion with the earth and with God. [59:00] The Power and Process of  Awakening Consciousness in Chaos Why awakening consciousness affects people in ways other than just the Hollywood allure of it all. How cultivating consciousness becomes a daily habit that we breathe into each day. The Doors of Perception and Heaven and Hell by Aldous Huxley Why the awakening process is something that is always shifting as we continue to be students of life. What will happen when you experience a new awakening phase. Why some thoughts or experiences are meant to fade and maybe come back to you rather than stay in your present consciousness. Exploring the unique journeys we all go on and why we will be awakened to new ideas at different times than other people. [1:09:00] The Toxic Nature of "I'm Gonna Share My Truth" Why we will see people be a completely different person off-camera or once the podcast stops recording. The subtle seeds that Ben will plant in other people's consciousness to see what comes from it without forcibly teaching them something. Why it can be toxic communication to say "this is my truth" or "I'm gonna say whatever I want" and just leave it at that instead of opening up a dialogue. 276 Eric Godsey Why "my truth" is just what is coming to you bluntly and one doesn't have to take it so seriously. Whether or not you should actually speak your truth especially if you have been triggered. How to explore your thoughts and emotions if you have been strongly impacted by what someone has said to you. Why we often believe we know exactly what the world needs when we really don't and we have to be honest with ourselves about that. The Great Tao by Stephen Thomas Chang [1:18:00] Why We Are More Than Just One Thing Darkness Retreat A Week In Darkness: The Purest Medicine | Aubrey Marcus Podcast Path to Balance with Aubrey Marcus Exploring the questions: "What is God?" and "What is the answer?" plus the many different ways we could answer them. Why humbling yourself does not diminish you and how to tune into yourself. How you will awaken infinity when you ask yourself, "Who am I" and you realize that you are not just one thing. What you can do to be more humble in your role and how it impacts other people such as being a teacher. How to cultivate a person's imagination by acting like a friend, not a teacher, and help them think for themselves and build critical thinking skills especially in children. The power of being silent or curious and how to use it in our conversations with different people to help one another grow and learn. 312 Kevin Kelly [1:27:00] What Darkness Can Teach Us In Crisis Why Josh believes there are beautiful things coming for the world and how we can build from that positive energy rather than a negative one. 410 Mark Divine The benefits of experiencing different truths at the same time even if they seem contradictory. Exploring the concept of darkness and using it as a technology. How to augment and shift your breathwork practice for different wellness practices. The fact that darkness predates all concepts, psychedelics, and the breath. What it is specifically about the dark that allows people to have a greater connection to knowing themselves. How Ben sets up his films as an initiation or the experience of a process. What Awaken The Darkness will teach you about the Hero's Journey through the avatar of Aubrey Marcus. Daniel Kish: Man who is blind but can see like a bat Why we shouldn't be so scared of technology and embrace what it can do for us. [1:43:30] The Two Choices We Have In Life The difference between bad and good technology in our daily lives. Breaking down how often we are on our phones and why the average amount is every 4 minutes. How we've evolved from scanning nature for threats to our family during the caveman era to now with phones to make sure that everything is okay. The magic of filmmaking and choosing the right soundtrack for the video. What Aubrey explores in Awaken The Darkness including the two choices that we have in life. How to take advantage of the free, powerful medicine that is within your reach including breathwork and darkness. The beauty and gifts of engaging with life and any difficulties that may come your way. Vipassana Meditation – A Spartan Race For The Mind The power of community to help us survive in difficult times. How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan 326 John Chavez Power Quotes From The Show Building a Relationship with the Nervous System "We have access to our nervous system; you can speak to your nervous system like it's your best friend - in fact, we should because when we come into a better relationship with our nervous system and acknowledge that some things seem really urgent but in what state do you want to start creating the next step? Do you want to do it in the sympathetic nervous system or parasympathetic?" - Ben Stewart Society Awaking: Opening Our Ears To New Ideas "You shouldn't feel bad for having different thoughts or believes than other people. Let's come together as a community and really listen to one another because we're all in this together. I have no clue what superpower these people gleam from believing things different from me so let's all come together, let's pow-wow, let's talk about what's good about this rather than gossiping and putting each other down. It's great when other people have different thoughts than me; I want to learn what that has done to their mindset and how they move forward in the world accordingly because of it. All of us have a gift to share with the world." - Ben Stewart Learning to Trust Your Discernment "Instead of being corned into fear by the media and relying on something outside of yourself to feel safe, trust your discernment. Start trusting your intuition because when you learn to do that then you know when something doesn't feel right. You don't have to have all of the answers or details; just move slower and be more discerning. Even if you slip up - what did you learn from it?" - Ben Stewart Links From Today's Show  Gaia | Ben Stewart Ben Stewart Podcast DMT Quest Documentary Waking Infinity News Podcast Gaia | Waking Infinity 323 Charles Eisenstein Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac: An Overview Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD 196 Aubrey Marcus Hierosonic Paul Chek | All Is God 345 Zach Bush MD 362 Zach Bush MD 096 Daniel Schmachtenberger Loose Change Zeitgeist Solocast | A Victim of Intellectualization & The Wisdom of The Heart 206 Dan Pardi The Doors of Perception and Heaven and Hell by Aldous Huxley 276 Eric Godsey The Great Tao by Stephen Thomas Chang Darkness Retreat A Week In Darkness: The Purest Medicine | Aubrey Marcus Podcast Path to Balance with Aubrey Marcus 312 Kevin Kelly 410 Mark Divine Daniel Kish: Man who is blind but can see like a bat Vipassana Meditation – A Spartan Race For The Mind How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan 326 John Chavez 5 Aspects of Awakening: Psychedelics and Natural Methods on Waking Infinity News Josh Trent: The Making of a Buddha Ben Joseph Stewart: Cycles In Time: Will Tomorrow Be Yesterday's Child? Leave Wellness Force a review on iTunes Cured Nutrition – Get 15% off of your order when you visit wellnessforce.com/cured + use the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' Organifi – Special 20% off to our listeners with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' Paleovalley – Save 15% on your ACV Complex with the code ‘JOSH' Drink LMNT – Zero Sugar Hydration: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack, you only cover the cost of shipping Belcampo Meat Co – Save 15% on your first order with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE'! Botanic Tonics – Save 20% when you use the code ‘WELLNESS20' Seeking Health - Save 10% with the code 'JOSH' breathwork.io M21 Wellness Guide Wellness Force Community Ben Stewart YouTube Instagram Facebook Twitter Minds Rumble BitChute Patreon About Ben Stewart Ben Stewart is a US-based filmmaker and musician. He is the creator of Esoteric Agenda, Kymatica, Ungrip and Waking Infinity - all available on Gaia.    

Nonviolent Communication is an awesome approach to learning how to say what you mean and mean what you say. NVC teaches you to think and talk in a way that tries to serve life, rather than disconnect us from our feelings and needs (the way we're normally taught to communicate). Here's how you can learn NVC: 1. Search “nvc marshall rosenberg” on YouTube and watch the 3-hour video with him in the red shirt. 2. Read his book “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” 3. Practice a lot. 4. Be prepared for all your friends to get angry. 5. Keep practicing. Good luck! More about Nonviolent Communication.

A conversation with friend April Showman inspired by the book: "NonViolent Communication A Language of Life" By Marshall B Rosenberg!  April and I talk about learning better words, and a MUCH better way of communicating that allows for personal soverenity and a more clear communication of needs without alienating us from our natural state of compassion.   Listen in and check out the links below to learn more about Non Violent Communication. NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=pd_lpo_1?pd_rd_i=189200528X&psc=1NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DgaeHeIL39Y&t=354sDON'T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PODCAST!!!! Please share with your friends or anyone who you think would find value in this content! LIKE our FB Page for Something Worth Saying!https://www.facebook.com/SomethingWorthSayingPodcastSTAY TUNED FOR JORDAN LEIGH WELLNESS'S VIRTUAL ONLINE YOGA, MOVEMENT & MEDITATION CHANNEL, CURRENTLY BEING CREATED!! OUR LAUNCH DATE IS TBA!Wellness Inquiries to work with Jordan Leigh directly: hello@jordanleigh.com DoTerra Essential Oils can be purchased at: https://www.doterra.com/US/en/site/nbwLink to our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/JordanLeighWellness/

There's so many subtle details that go into communication. If you think about it, communication is more than just talking. During a normal conversation, we have the ability to process the undertones and layers of communication that go on. We intuitively know how to ‘read between the lines'.    Communication is so powerful. It can uplift others, and it can discredit and disempower them. Whether you realize it or not, you are walking a fine balance when it comes to communicating with another person as they are not just listening to what you say, but how you are saying it.    It's coming up more and more with Kamini's clients. They're having trouble effectively communicating in the workforce or with their partner. It just feels like each person is on their separate planet. We all know that healthy communication is a big part of having healthy relationships, a healthy home, a healthy workspace, and so much more.    There is no perfect way to communicate, though. What is true is that you will learn and improve as you get more conscious on how to better express yourself and your needs. You'll find that by expressing yourself better, you won't be punished for it, but rewarded for it instead.    Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg  

From holidays and gifts to kids and grandkids, dealing with religious in-laws and extended family members can be a minefield of hurt feelings and hard conversations. Mixed-faith marriage expert Rebecca Williams, LMFT will give you some tips for navigating the minefield while preserving your important relationships without sacrificing your values. Rebecca Williams is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. She is the owner of Inland Empire Couples Counseling and specializes in helping mixed faith and religious/secular couples have connected, intimate, satisfying relationships. She's offering a free mini-course for mixed-faith couples. One of Rebecca's therapy superpowers is helping people connect across the religious-secular divide. Hosted by Amaia Perez, the RfR Online Programming Director, and Medelin Nolasco, RfR Helpline Volunteer and Social Host.  Recorded on February 22nd, 2021 Resource List  - Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life book by Marshall Rosenberg  - In Faith and In Doubt book by Dale McGowan  - the.holistic.psychologist on Instagram  - boundariesarebeautiful on Instagram  - RfRx - Boundaries: How to respond to praying, preaching, & proselytizing with Rebecca Williams, LMFT - https://youtu.be/QimzLsILGzE  Learn more about Rebecca Williams, LMFT  - Instagram: @RebeccaRelationshipExpert  - Twitter: @RebeccaWLMFT  - Facebook: Inland Empire Couples Counseling https://www.iecouplescounseling.com/the-united-couple --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/recovering-from-religion/message

The six women discuss feedback they received from Book Interrupted Series 5 on “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg, as well as previous series. Amongst chats about the importance of stories, trying to use nonviolent communication in real life, and the stigma of being a stay-at-home parent, they set a new BI challenge: eat something decadent in public and report back. Discussion Points: Fan feedback and comments Is eating a big bag of chips in public brazen? Enjoying the journey of life Book Interrupted challenge: eat something decadent in public Societal pre-conditioning - the stigma of stay-at-home parents and the unemployed The importance of stories Trying to use nonviolent communication in real life Mentioned on this episode of Book Interrupted: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel Book Interrupted Facebook Book Club Group Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism by Robin DiAngelo Nice Racism: How Progressive White People Perpetuate Racial Harm by Robin DiAngelo Desmond Cole Ice Cream At Work | Baroness von Sketch Show Untamed by Glennon Doyle

The Book Interrupted women discuss “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg; how they express anger; gratitude; and dancing it out. They finish the episode by sharing their final book reports. Would they recommend this book? Discussion Points: Anger and how we express it/why we scream Emotions as a wakeup call, giving you feedback The importance of stopping and breathing Dancing it out! “Never walk when you can dance.” How to be thankful in a specific manner Final book reports - what do we think of the book? Changing mindset from “I have to” to “I choose to” Change comes through doing The difficulties of using NVC with children Mentioned on this episode of Book Interrupted: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel Book Interrupted Facebook Book Club Group Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg

The Book Interrupted women discuss “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg; tools to communicate and empathize; and the limitations of NVC, including potential ways it can be used in bad faith. After a debate about whether they should empathize with people they think are doing hateful or abusive things, they finish with each naming their primary need/s. Discussion Points: The many ways to communicate, understanding the person, and sharing our needs Using NVC to communicate between parents and children How to not feel responsible for other people’s feelings, but still help people fulfill their needs How people who show love by doing can create a codependency The limitations of NVC: the importance of choosing who you use NVC with, do both people need to know these skills for this to work, and how NVC can be used in bad faith to manipulate others Should you empathize with people you think are doing hateful or abusive things? What are your primary needs? Mentioned on this episode of Book Interrupted: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel Book Interrupted Facebook Book Club Group Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity By Kim Scott

The Book Interrupted women share their personal journals while reading: “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg. Then, continuing the group discussion, they reflect on how they respond to conflict, empathy during the pandemic, how they communicate their different needs, and learning to listen. Discussion Points: What are our needs? How do we respond to anger, conflict and negative feedback? Dealing with changes in our lives and how we share that knowledge with others Learning to listen, empathy and the tools of how to connect How nonviolent communication is effective for use in conflicts and big emotions, but does not work for emergencies and everyday conversations The different ways people deal with problems - trying to figure out individual needs Mentioned on this episode of Book Interrupted: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel Book Interrupted Facebook Book Club Group Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg

The Book Interrupted women continue their conversation on “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg. By debating their different communication styles, ranging from keeping it all inside to having no secrets at all, they share what they need to connect. Can they learn how best to speak to each other, despite their differences? Discussion Points: Reevaluating our communication styles Naming our feelings Telling people you appreciate them Name calling and why we lash out in rage Marshall B. Rosenberg and his puppets How to communicate your needs and understand other people’s needs The differences between people who share all and those who don’t Communicating with our body language How to be more blunt Emotional Intelligence and taking time to figure out our feelings Mentioned on this episode of Book Interrupted: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel Book Interrupted Facebook Book Club Group Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg Armchair Expert Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman

Emotions at work can be tricky. We're often told to suppress our feelings when we're at work which doesn't seem natural and at times is impossible. In this episode we're joined by Katie Zink, Founder and Principal Consultant of Social Construct Consulting, who walks us through what leaders and organizations can do to help people show up as themselves to work. We also share an important announcement at the end that you won't want to miss! Learn more about Katie and Social Construct Consulting at https://katiezink.co/ Connect with Katie on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/katieszink/ Individuals and resources mentioned during the episode: Amy Jeffers, Founder of Flourish Training, https://flourish-training.com/ Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion

The Book Interrupted women begin their first conversation on their Series 5 book choice: “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall B. Rosenberg. Each member expresses individually how they feel either before reading or beginning to read “Nonviolent Communication”, then they continue the discussion into a group chat. Through the topics of feelings, needs, conflict and personal narrative, they talk about their lives, inspired by the words of Marshall B. Rosenberg. Discussion Points: Figuring out your feelings and needs How to listen How can people-pleasers balance their own needs with the want for peace? The role personal narrative can play in our reactions to situations The four components of NVC: observations, feelings, needs and requests How can conflict hinder communication? Mentioned on this episode of Book Interrupted: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel Book Interrupted Facebook Book Club Group Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg Your Parenting Mojo The Enneagram Institute

Episode 66 - What is Nonviolent Communication? Hey all! Welcome to June! Despite the unseasonable cold of the Memorial Day weekend here in the mid-Atlantic, it still marks the unofficial beginning of Summer. During this time, many folks plan for a little time away, where they can finally relax and get some rest and some much-needed relaxation. If you’ve ever tried to take a few days off, you might have discovered that sometimes they don’t always go as planned, and the days we set aside as being “off” don’t always meet our expectations. So often, all of our days, including the empty ones, end up getting filled with items from a “to-do” list. What is it that we really expect from our days off, and why do we sometimes feel like we need a recovery day from a vacation? In this podcast, we talk through what might be going on here and suggest that the anxiety and discontent that some folks experience when attempting to have an empty day might be yet another phenomenon that we can chalk up to a communication problem. Wouldn’t it be great if we had a framework or a set of principles we could draw from to have these murky, uncomfortable conversations with ourselves and others? To that end, we present to you the principles of Nonviolent Communication, or NVC, as we understand them from our humble study thus far. NVC operates from the principle that all actions represent strategies to satisfy our needs, and this absolutely includes how we communicate what it is that we’re feeling, and what our needs with respect to those feelings really are. What would happen if we led from that place??? Check it out, and we hope you enjoy! For more information about Nonviolent Communication, check out the following resources. The Center for Nonviolent Communication Rosenberg, Marshall B. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. 3rd Edition. Encinitas, CA: PuddleDancer Press, 2003. Sofer, Oren J. Say What You Mean. S.I.: Shambhala, 2018.  Social Media Links Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Email Support the Podcast! We'd love your support! If you would like to help out, here is the link to our Patreon site: https://www.patreon.com/thismostunbelievablelife

In this week's episode of Courageous Conversations, we talk about the three different stages of how we relate to each other as Marshall Rosenberg identified them in his book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. We talk about some of our experiences and celebrations as we progress from emotional slavery to the obnoxious stage to emotional liberation. For those of you trained in NVC, please note that we use natural language and street giraffe when we are in conversation together. So, listen on with an open mind, a furry heart, and curious ears, or not. If after listening to this episode, you find yourself curious about NVC or longing for some connection, you can connect with us via the message button at the top and Karen has opportunities for you to explore NVC at your own pace on her site, www.karenstarz.com. Want to contribute to the sustainability and growth of this show? We now have a Patreon! Through Patreon, you can support the growth of the show and get some additional support in your courageous conversations. Check it out here: https://www.patreon.com/karenstarz We're grateful to our Patreon Podcast Producers Helen & Brent for their support! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/courageous-conversation/support

The world is moving, and the locals aren’t happy about it. When Larry moved to rural California, he was met with hostility. Trip experienced the same thing when he was a volunteer on an Indian reserve. Connected communities don’t like outsiders and Anna has seen how easy it is to fall into a silo with your other “outsider buddies” and never even pick up the local language in a foreign country. Each community you enter into has its own cultural language and it’s important to do a little bit of groundwork and research to properly acclimate beforehand. Key Takeaways Looking beyond Zoom towns, how will the politics and culture change as more people go home or move to a cheaper state? Trip grew up in Washington, DC, and doesn’t remember differing opinions being so divided. People just seemed to respect each other a lot more back then. Larry grew up in a town of 1,200 people. Currently, Larry lives in a rural part of California that leans red on the political spectrum. However, he’s been warned not to drive into certain states with California plates because they’re hated. Every election cycle, someone wants to move to Canada. It’s actually pretty hard to do. Anna has seen people move to new countries without doing any research on the culture or the long-term residency requirements. Buying a new iPhone in Costa Rica is double the price than what you can get in the United States. Shipping things from Amazon into the country is expensive! Trip shares a story about Trader Joe’s vs. Pirate Joe’s in Canada. When Larry first moved to this part of California, there was not one friendly person to greet him because they knew he was an outsider. Trip encountered something similar when he worked on an Indian reservation. A lot of people are moving; the key is to understand the culture you’re about to enter into and understand the locals may be hostile. Some city folk end up calling 911 when they see a bear. That’s not how things are done outside of the city. Anna went to the United States, and because it’s so diverse, she had no idea who was a friend or foe if they were walking towards her after dark. She needed a culture buddy. Larry experienced the same thing in China. He had no clue what was a safe neighborhood or not. Anna believes we’ll still be seeing silos of the “outsider folk” in a community and they won’t make an effort to get to know the heart of the community they’re moving into. You need to make an active effort to integrate with the local scene because the locals aren’t always going to welcome you with open arms. Larry believes the distribution of people will still be good for us as a whole. However, there will be some growing pains. We’ve heard about “fly-over states,” but it’s going to be “fly-into states.” It’s so easy to compare how your old life was so much better than this new or smaller community you’re now a part of, but the locals will get tired of hearing it. Believe it or not, you can find common ground with people who perceive you to be a murderer. Anna explains. Resources Thebraveworkforce.com (http://thebraveworkforce.com/) Bravenewcompanies.com (http://bravenewcompanies.com/) Email Anna: Anna@Thebraveworkforce.com (mailto:Anna@Thebraveworkforce.com) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships, by Marshall Rosenberg (https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X)

"You shouldn't dream your film, you should make it!" —Steven Spielberg To live actively requires we take action. Seems simple enough, but if teaching my students as well as myself to refrain from using passive verbs versus active verbs in writing indicates anything, defaulting to the passive is happens to be a hard habit to break. What if we are defaulting in the same way in our everyday life and, even more largely, in our vision of how our journey will unfold? A new-to-me podcast, Solo: The Single Person's Guide to a Remarkable Life, shared an insightful approach to living life which caught my attention immediately. What if we, instead of being the hero of our own lives, choose to be the director? Think about it for a moment. When we look at a film from the point-of-view from the real world, the hero in the film/movie/novel/play merely follows the directions of the person behind the camera - the Greta Gerwigs (Oscar nominated director for Little Women), the Kathryn Bigelow (Oscar winning director for The Hurt Locker), the Steven Spielbergs (Oscar winning director for Lincoln), the Amma Asantes (Mrs. America), the Jennifer Getzingers (Orange is the New Black and Mad Men), the Julie Delpys (2 Days in Paris), and the Patty Jenkins (Wonder Woman). “Humble perseverance and the ability to observe and grow, in pursuit of making what you love and believe in. Really. THAT is the secret”. —Patty Jenkins, director of Wonder Woman To be the director of our lives assumes the responsibility of having a larger vision for the purpose of each scene, each chapter; however, within each moment, each interaction and revelation, the director knows fully how to craft a scene so as to bring forth a dedication to being present, fully engaged and intentionally clear and knowing about living fully. Being a hero, in theory, is not a bad directive, but it neglects the reality of being a hero - whether saving themselves or another or an entire vast swath of others - the climatic drama of adversity is assumed. And then there is the tragic hero. No thank you. This is not to say that we can direct ourselves to avoid all conflict and adversity. No. From such unwanted and unplanned pains, we grow, we learn, and we gain wisdom, clarity, and strength; however, if we only relegate ourselves to being the hero, we follow a script written by another and directed by someone else as well. While there have been directors who directed themselves, there is a reason why only one has done so and been able to capture an Oscar for both roles - Roberto Benigini in Life is Beautiful (1999), which also one for best Foreign Film as well. It's hard to see yourself clearly - your actions, facial expressions, energy on screen with another, etc.. But wait, if you direct your life, aren't you also the hero? Valid point, and an important one to make. Yes. You are in all actuality both the director and the hero, but again, the director decides who leaves a scene when, how the interactions with others will play out, which details must be included in a shot to further understanding for the audience, what remains out of the shot, the colors of the attire, where the scene is set, the background, the music, all of the details as well as the over-arching storyline (and while often the director is also the playwright or at the very least has some say in how the screenplay is depicted and can mold and tweak it to what would be best for the film, the director has the full reins of the production). What I am saying is we must not forget our primary job - to be the director of our one and only life. Let's take a look at everyday and large over-arching choices and actions imperative for directing our lives well. 1.Who are you? Taking the time to know yourself, unearth your talents, becoming honest about your weaknesses but refusing to let them halt the direction you wish to travel sits at the foundation of a well-lived life. ~Read this three-part series on How to Get To Know Yourself ~Read/Listen to this post/episode to discover how knowing ourselves is the most important ingredient for a healthy relationship with another (episode #179) 2. Learn how to love well Loving well is a skill. We do not know innately how to love another human being as doing so involves emotional intelligence and self-awareness. Models of love or what is purported as love surround us, but many are faulty and derive from a genesis rooted in control, insecurity and many other unhealthy constructs. To follow leads to pain. Knowing leads to peace. Know how to love, and life will blossom. ~In episode #287, discover 5 Things to Do to Build a Healthy Relationship (inspired by the book - How to Be An Adult in a Relationship) ~Listen to episode #166 to discover how to be One Half of a Healthy Relationship ~One of my favorite books on love and being loving in a relationship inspired episode #128 - The Quest for a Soulmate: The Myth Hindering an Amazing Love Life 3. Understand the value of boundaries and understand they will evolve Boundaries define us, as Henry Cloud reminds. Literally, the lines we put in our lives define what we will step forward and try and what we will not. Boundaries can limit us. Boundaries can protect us. Boundaries paradoxically can set us free. Knowing how to set boundaries after we have discovered what our boundaries need to be for the chapter in our life we find ourselves gifts us with a powerful foundation. Without boundaries, the wind can take us where it will because we don't know what where we want to go and we certainly don't know how to head in the right direction. On the flipside, rigidity when it comes to boundaries can be harmful if it prevents us from exploring what we are capable of sharing with the world. Ah, a tenuous dance which requires of each of us to do our own homework, not follow, because it is our heart, our life that will be set free when we find the sweet spot between the right boundaries and vulnerability. (Listen to episode #126 to discover the Powerful Couple that is Boundaries & Vulnerability.) 4. Learn the skill of effective nonviolent communication For every director who wins praise from their cast and crew, there is a director who bullies, rants and whines. Effective communication, nonviolent communication, is a skill we must choose to learn if we want to have a fulfilling life and strong and healthy relationships with others. To model said communication, observe someone who understands the components of nonviolent communication certainly helps us to acquire the skill, but we must take it one step further to understand why they are communicating as they are. We must again be the student for our lives to reach their fullest potential. As I shared in episode #293, I highly recommend reading Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. I have read and will reread this book for understanding how to understand anger, understanding the four basic steps of clear, effective, empathetic communication, and how to honor my own journey, letting go of guilt, shame, anything the outside world wishes me to feel in order to stop me from traveling a path that brings joy. Effective communication with ourselves and others is the way toward directing an award-winning life to continue with the analogy. To clearly convey and know what you wish to materialize, you need to be able to work with others being empathetic and aware along the way, not only of those who will walk with you or cross your path, but with yourself. 5. Understand and practice the fundamental physical components of you To delve a bit deeper into the physical aspect of #1, knowing how your body, your mind, your temperament function and how they can function well will give you a roadmap of how to design the set of your life. It will also help you clearly understand what your boundaries need to be. 6. Be Brave Living an active life, being the director of your own life demands of you to take action. You cannot wait to see what someone else thinks, whether someone else approves, whether the prices will be this or that or another, at some point, you simply need to act. Wait a second, you may be saying, didn't I say each of us is the director not the actor? Okay, perhaps a poor choice of words, but not really. Remember, you are the director of those actions. You decide when to take the first steps, when to set out and try something for the first time, when to let go, when to say yes, when to determine a certain chapter of your life has now concluded and you will be stepping into the next. Being brave. A choice made by the director, and it is no act. Being brave takes raw courage after months, perhaps years of deliberating about when or if you should indeed do just that - be brave. Let me reassure you, being brave will set you free. In the meantime, you will quake, but you will not crumble if what you seek aligns with what you know to be true about yourself (remember #1). “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.” —Helen Keller The analogy of the director does not perfectly align with living our one and only life. After all, we are talking about a fictitious story capable of being enjoyed for generations. Our lives are anything but fictitious. No, we know our lives are all too real, but do we? I ask this question because what if poet David Whyte correctly nailed it when he wrote "What if the world is holding its breath - waiting for you to take the place only you can fill?" Why aren't we filling it? Perhaps because we have chosen to follow someone else's script, and not direct our own. Perhaps because we have forgotten to write our own script and direct it as well. We can have chapters in our own lives, the one prior being necessary for the next, not less relevant or bad, simply vital to live the journey we are on, trusting the steps we need to take in a new direction. Today, tap yourself, hire yourself, assign yourself purposely and intentionally as the director of your life, and I am confident, you will begin to see the positive and desired change which may have only been a dream previously. SIMILAR POSTS/EPISODES YOU MIGHT ENJOY: ~8 Ways to Become the CEO of Your Own Life, episode #40 Petit Plaisir —Un Soir à L'Opera candles ~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #294 ~Subscribe to The Simple Sophisticate:  iTunes | Stitcher | iHeartRadio | YouTube | Spotify

"When we speak a language that denies us choice, we forget the life in ourselves for a robotlike mentality that disconnects us from our own core." —Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life Two lives may look like one another, but one may indeed be fulfilling, while the other a life of disdain and pain. Choosing to live as we do versus living a life out of an expectation, obligation, avoidance of guilt, approval, to avoid shame, or to gain money is to choose a life of integrity according to Marshall Rosenberg. When we choose a life of integrity, we discover the ability to tap into our essential and most sincere self, and enable ourselves to share with the world the gift and talent only we can give. While sharing a list of actions to refrain from taking as to avoid the latter of the two options mentioned above would certainly simplify how to choose to live, there is no such universal list. Rather, the list of what we choose to do versus what we do out of a feeling of "have-to" will be unique to each of us. How can we discern the difference? Rosenberg's determinating factor is if the sole motivating force for our actions comes from a place to "simply make life wonderful for others and ourselves" then we are choosing the life we are living. And the latter - making life wonderful for ourselves - is perhaps the most important. We must pay attention to our needs. Rosenberg writes "we cultivate self-compassion by consciously choosing in daily life to act only in service to our own needs and values rather than out of duty, for extrinsic rewards or to avoid guilt, shame and punishment". Understanding fully and completely what our needs are is the homework we each must tend to in order to live a life everyday that we enjoy living. I highly recommend reading Rosenberg's book as he delineates clearly and in great detail the common societal pushback to his assertion about choosing how you live versus adhering to a life out of anything but choosing it. The result of any action made void of choice is a deprivation of joy at the very least and resentment, detestation, misery, anger, and a loss of self and a denial to the world of the uniquenesss only we can share at the very worst. We have been taught falsely and ironically selfishly by outside institutions of many sorts to believe choosing and valuing our needs is hedonistic, wrong and, self-absorbed. Primarily we have accepted such a purported claim because their "marketing department" is skilled in the ways of psychology as they tap into our perceived need to be accepted - approved. However, the needs Rosenberg writes about are fundamental to valuing ourselves, and thus living a life of integrity. "In fact, when we do things solely in the spirit of enhancing life [for others AND ourselves], we will find others appreciating us. Their appreciation, however, is only a feedback mechanism confirming that our efforts had the intended effect. The recognition that we have chosen to use our power to serve life and have done so successfully brings us the genuine joy of celebrating ourselves in a way that approval from others can never offer." When we seek to live a life of choice, we contribute positively to the world, and that means contributing positively to others' lives, and the cycle continues forward as others choose to tap into their unique gifts and talents that contribute positively without expectations, simply out of joy of living the life we have the opportunity to live each day. At the core, we are seeking joy, thus contentment, and both can only be found within. To live a life out of obligation, guilt, to avoid pain, to avoid shame, may be seen as a survival mechanism, but don't we want to thrive? When we permit ourselves the freedom to fully seek joy in living - to fulfill our unique needs, it becomes far easier to stop the judgment, comparison, blame, criticism, insults, put-down, and labels. Why? Because we recognize each of these negative and unhelpful behaviors are reactions to living a life void of choice. When we take responsibility for our lives, we take on a weighty task of exploration of our feelings and needs. For so long and in so many cultures, current and past, American and endless others, feelings have been equated to weakness. But human beings have feelings and when we acknowledge them in ourselves, it is far easier to observe them and communicate healthily and helpfully with others to deepen understanding and to discover empathy. Rosenberg shares it is empathy that is often the missing ingredient in frayed relationships - not only an empathy to acknowledge fully and entirely what others are feeling, but to refrain from being empathetic to ourselves. What do we each need? Why do we feel pained after a conversation with a loved one we are "supposed" to have a relationship with? Why do we feel hurt and disconnected when we go about tasks we thought we chose of our own free-will? Everyone around us applauded when we made said decision, but why doesn't it feel right within ourselves? Each of these and many more feelings are what each of us needs to explore to determine how to live a life we love living. Choice is at the heart of living with true contentment, not obligation, not duty, not to avoid guilt, not to avoid punishment. Choose you and let others choose for themselves as well. The journey forward of both individuals will be unknown, but when lived by choosing the path will be fulfilling and full of respect and true love for ourselves and for those we have set free to be who they truly have always been. ~Read Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life Petit Plaisir: —New episode of The Hookup Plan (Plan Coeur), Season 2 - The Lockdown Plan, episode #7 ~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #293 ~Subscribe to The Simple Sophisticate:  iTunes | Stitcher | iHeartRadio | YouTube | Spotify ~Note: Some links shared today are affiliates in which upon purchase TSLL receives a small commission. Everything shared on TSLL blog is shared because I recommend it wholeheartedly.

Books about happiness ubiquitously fill the publishing world, but the fundamentals of happiness quite simply are just that, simple. We become overwhelmed, and then it becomes easier to fixate, and often superficially so, which expends our finite energy rather than focusing our attention on the core fundamentals and choices of what happiness requires to be deeply and sincerely felt. When the directions are wrong you will never see materialize what you desire. Stop the pursuit. This is something I’ve discussed on the blog before, but I think it is worth exploring again. This time, I am going to explore more concretely the fundamental components of experiences real happiness, and much more of it in our everydays. Let's get to the seven truths below. 1.Discover a tune that is melodic for you If you enjoy living your life, your everyday life, happiness is the result. Continually, here on TSLL, I have shared that contentment is the feeling we can have at all times. Happiness cannot be infinite 24-hours a day. Happiness is an outcome. Contentment is a state or way of traveling. I had it entirely wrong when I was younger, doodling “Be Happy” on my high school peechee folder while daydreaming in class. You cannot be happy constantly, but you can be content along the way to happy. 2. Spend time doing tasks that enable you to lose track of time Getting lost in a project, exploring a new [enter a place/area of curiosity], resting your mind and being in a healthy way, these will divert your attention naturally away from checking the clock. And when you are thinking about what’s next, you are present. And when you are engaged fully in the present moment, you have more chances of being happy. 3. Sharing time with loved ones to simply be in each others’ company. Giving your life space to be together, even if in silence, can be incredibly peaceful, supportive and loving. A contentment shared is happiness reached. 4. Not having existential worries because consciously you know your health, finances and basic needs are tended to Through the choices we make, we can build the sound and stable foundation that will enable us to feel content in our everydays. Everyone will make choices which align uniquely with their journey which is why outsiders may define the choices we make to usher in more happiness for ourselves as sacrifices. However, a choice is not a sacrifice if it brings you closer and eventually to a way of living that brings you peace and contentment. It is when we achieve contentment that more happy moments can be experienced and savored. 5. Refraining from thinking at any time “when I achieve [enter goal]” or when [enter aupposed life milestone], then I can be happy. Focusing only on the outcome and forgetting about how we travel to arrive at the destination is a recipe for unhappiness. However, if the travel does not involve contentment, the outcome you seek is not as likely. Why? It is when you enjoy the journey, when you can be yourself along the way, that the outcome is relinquished, thereby not putting so much pressure on the outcome to hold all the goodness. It is when we expect or assume that we step out of being present along the way, hurting ourselves and others along the way, and thus tainting the outcome so it can never be a source of real happiness if ever it is reached. 6. Find peace in how you travel through life How you speak and think of yourself, how you engage with others - communication with words, body language, etc. - contentment is felt in our mode of travel, and no matter life’s circumstances, it can be constant. Sleeping well and deep and long is a mode of travel as it allows you to wake up with a clear mind, acting from a place of calm, clarity and full awareness. Taking breaks when our mind needs it, ending the ‘work’ part of our day when we can no longer be productive, eating well and slowing down to savor it, slowing down and refraining from default patterns of speech, being fully aware and listening, then thinking well about what we have heard before responding - each of these ideas and practices of day-to-day living are modes/ways of traveling that cultivate contentment as we move through our days. ~Book to explore: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg 7. Letting go of others’ maps for our lives Certainly a courageous decision. A decision which is exceedingly difficult during the first and second chapter of our journey, but with time and support, the journey becomes easier and far more rewarding than any other direction would or could have offered. All of this is to say that the key to happiness is to discover and cultivate contentment in our everydays so that the happiness deepens and more frequently can be fully observed, savored and appreciated. ~Please do tune to the audio version as each point above is discussed in much more depth. Check out TSLL's first two books which discover the idea of cultivating a life of contentment that is uniquely your own. ~Book #1 (2014): Choosing The Simply Luxurious Life: A Modern Woman's Guide ~Book #2 (2018): Living The Simply Luxurious Life: Making Your Everyday Extraordinary and Discovering Your Best Self Petit Plaisir ~Sunset in the Blue by Melody Gardot (October 2020) Visit Melody Gardot's website Learn more about the worldwide collaboration for the song "From Paris with Love" https://youtu.be/RCckn1H5DIE Sponsors for Today's Episode: Wine.com/simple Sanebox.com/sophisticate Issuu.com/podcast use promo code Sophisticate Betterhelp.com/simple ~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #292 ~Subscribe to The Simple Sophisticate:  iTunes | Stitcher | iHeartRadio | YouTube | Spotify

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In this episode, Chris Hadnagy, Shelby Dacko and Jonathan Miller discuss many ways to improve your skills as a communicator. Learn the importance of observing the information your own body gives you. Hear their experiences with being amygdala hijacked, and how you can have your own superhero moment.   00:07 – Introduction to Shelby Dacko, Human Risk Analyst for Social-Engineer.  00:44 – Introduction to Jonathan Miller and his experience resolving conflict without violence.   02:06 – How to focus on nonviolent communication in violent circumstances.   04:18 – How to engage in productive conversation by respecting other’s opinions.   06:24 – Become a better communicator by paying attention to introspective sensations.  10:33 – How a 1984 GMC Vandura and a potato helped Jonathan become a communications expert.  14:48 – Why most people pay no attention to the way they communicate.  18:58 – Announcements:  Human Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People, and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You  Virtual Advanced Practical Social Engineering - 17-20 November, 2020  The Human Hacking Conference - Orlando, FL March 11-13, 2021  HHC SE Pentest Track – Day 2 – Vishing (Curt)  Advanced Practical Social Engineering – Orlando 13-16 April, 2021  Masters Level Social Engineering – Orlando, Fl 10-14 May, 2021  Advanced Practical Social Engineering – Bristol, UK 15-18 June, 2021  Social-Engineer.com  23:35 – How to become self-aware of the way you communicate.   25:08 – How to Deal with Defensiveness and Defensive People in Conversations  26:09 – How an amygdala hijack can trigger a defensive response and how you can work to fight it.  42:56 – Defensiveness creates more defensiveness.  44:29 – Jonathan's contact info, podcast and social media links.  Press Kit: http://bit.ly/JMPressKit Website: https://www.mindfulcommunication.me Mindful Communication Podcast: https://anchor.fm/podcast-863ccb8 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/millerdjonathan/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfulcommunication/ Tough Talks Made Easy: https://bit.ly/ToughTalksMadeEasy Code: social50  Article: How to Deal with Defensiveness and Defensive People in Conversations  46:39: Jonathan’s book recommendations.  Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most  Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life  Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind  48:01 – Outro  Chris on Twitter    Social-Engineer on Twitter   Social-Engineer on Instagram    Social-Engineer.org    Social-Engineer.com    The Human Hacking Conference   The Human Hacking Conference on Twitter   The Innocent Lives Foundation    The Innocent Lives Foundation on Twitter 

In this episode I talk about how to apply a compassionate mindset within hierarchical institutions. ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Topics discussed:||| Respect and fear of authority||| Losing connection with our humaneness in positions of authority||| Power as a human need||| Not giving our power away to authorities ||| It's time for change ||| If you like the show, you can support me via https://www.patreon.com/needy |||Links mentioned in this episode:||| ||| Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg:*https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships-ebook/dp/B014OISVU4||| |||http://www.reinventingorganizations.com/uploads/2/1/9/8/21988088/140305_laloux_reinventing_organizations.pdf||| This podcast is hosted by ZenCast.fm

"It is so important, I think, to name the inner voice. Mine is named Lennie, he's kind of a jerk, but also, Lennie needs support" - Elise B Amanda brings on her friend and Vocal Warrior, Elise Besler. Elise is a Voice Teacher and Voice Empowerment Coach based in Halifax NS Canada. She has an extensive performing career as a singer songwriter, and is the creator and founder of her Voice and Voice Empowerment training facility, Nusong Studio. Elise believes in the power of the human voice to heal and create change. She works with Singers and Public Speakers to help them gain skill and confidence and overturn limiting beliefs to own their voices and rock the mic! In today's episode, they discuss: How to identify, name and manage that every present "inner critic". They discuss what is the purpose of the inner critic and how to handle it when it invades your thoughts or actions. Elise shares about how she treats her "inner voice" in a way that you might not expect! They talk about how to use our voice to say yes or no to the things we want to ACTUALLY say yes or no to...in an honest and authentic way. Elise discusses the importance of making sure the boundaries you set around yourself are yours and not those of your inner voice. You get to control of what you let in and out. Are you afraid of conflict? Then listen as they both dive a bit into how to have non-violent communication during disagreements in a way that benefits both people, even if you're insanely angry. This is very timely when wanting to use our voices to call out racial injustice. To practice this skill, she recommends a book called "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshal Rosenberg. And again, in what seems to be tradition, the topic of vaginas comes up yet again through ow they can help us project emotion though sounds! For all the show notes: HERE Find Elise Here: facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elisethevocalwarrior instagram: @thevocalwarrior web: www.thevocalwarrior.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/amanda-hanson5/message

In this episode I compare the two most common communication models in business trainings. ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| Topics discussed:||| The Four-sides model||| Common roots, different key questions||| NVC & Communication Square ||| Synthesis of NVC & communication square ||| If you like the show, you can support me via https://www.patreon.com/needy |||Links mentioned in this episode:||| ||| Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg:https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships-ebook/dp/B014OISVU4||| ||| Miteinander Reden: Störungen und Klärungen by Friedemann Schulz von Thunhttps://open.spotify.com/album/145bZIo25aP5dXsNj5V9Zx?si=5tTcB5KxSD-T0Qm5WluWeg||| This podcast is hosted by ZenCast.fm

Astrologer Colin Bedell and I discuss the Relational Houses (Houses 4-8) in Astrology. How to have healthy relationships based on what the signs of these houses need! Who rules your relational house and what are they looking for? BOOKS FROM THE SESSION LITERATURE "Attached" The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love. (2010) by Amir Levine, Rachel S.F. Heller "The Intentional Family: How To Build Family Ties In Our Modern World" (1999) by William H. Doherty The Gottman Institute "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" (2010). Brene Brown. "Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence: (2006). Esther Perel 1."Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love." (2019). John and Julie Gottman. 2. "Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You've Always Wanted" (2014) Marcia Naomi Berger 1."Getting the Love You Want: A Guide questions like who, what, for Couples." (2007). Dr. Harville when, where, why and how. Hendrix. 2. "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships. (2015) Marshall Rosenberg CHECK OUT COLIN: https://www.queercosmos.com/ Bio: Colin Bedell is a queer Gemini Twin from Long Island, New York. He's a passionate student of secular personal-growth systems, and the universal spiritual themes explored in A Course in Miracles. Well & Good Magazine listed Colin as one of the most influential people in the wellness industry and as a 2020 Innovator. Complementing his work with QueerCosmos, Colin's the weekly horoscope writer for Cosmopolitan.com. His bestselling first book A Little Bit of Astrology from Sterling Publishers debuted November ‘18, his second book Queer Cosmos: The Astrology of Queer Identities & Relationships which launched last November was ranked the #1 Astrology book for beginners by the DailyDot magazine, and his third book Gemini by Sterling debuted January 2020. HOW TO FIND PLANETS IN YOUR CHART: https://youtu.be/EUgvbq-17sQ SOLSTICE GIFTS:https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11465551&appointmentType=15038734 CHECK OUT THE EAT & GREET COLLABORATIONS: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwL0zDMT3qCA8eEDFVfXZCBDik4OZ0jT7 FULL NATAL CHART-https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=167635 READY FOR A READING: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11465551&appointmentType=category:READINGS+%28LOOKING+AT+ONLY+1+PERSON%27S+CHART%29 BIRTHDAY (SOLAR RETURN) REPORT: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=58786 FULL CHART ANALYSIS BY VIDEO: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=248187 EMAIL READING- https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=144274 MONTH BY MONTH PERSONAL BREAKDOWN VIDEO-https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=11465551&action=addCart&id=169746 FACEBOOK-https://www.facebook.com/pages/Stormie-Grace/138693799515065?ref=hl FIND YOUR TRIBE GROUP ON FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/232632710465654/ https://twitter.com/StormieGrace08 All my love everyone --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/stormie-grace/support

This episode is helping new listeners of Nonviolent Communication to get a better understanding of this style of communicating. We also will be introducing ourselves and how we came across Nonviolent Communication. Enjoy!Marshall Rosenberg is the founder of NVC and has a Ph.D in Clinical Psychology. His book we refer to is called "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships.Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

In this episode, we review the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD. We discuss the NVC process of observations, feelings, needs, and requests by providing examples for each and discussing our make takeaway from the book.

Our combined Spotlight/Toolbox topic this week is on Non-Violent Communication (NVC), what it is and how to use it!Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy RelationshipsBy: Marshall B. Rosenberghttps://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528XInterested in any of the books we have mentioned in the podcast?Go to audibletrial.com/headoverfeels to get One Free Audio Book and One Free Month Trial of Audible!Submit your burning questions at www.headoverfeelspod.com/contactNeeding some one-on-one coaching with one of us to work through your relationship woes? Go to www.headoverfeelspod.com/coaching for more info!Facebook: /headoverfeelspodInstagram: /headoverfeelspodSupport the show (http://paypal.me/headoverfeels)Support the show (http://paypal.me/headoverfeels)

In this week’s episode, Rachel has her husband Isaac on the show. Together they share the story about how they met and became the married couple they are today. They also discuss their different approaches to health and wellness, and how those different approaches help balance each other.Along with that, Isaac shares what RAW life means to him, and how it has and is affecting his life’s journey in his career and otherwise. A true demonstration of how the Universe presents opportunities for growth that helps guide you to your true life’s purpose in this lifetime.Since COVID-19 has disrupted the world’s normal procedures they talk about the opportunity this change is offering them. That is camper life. They share the process that brought Willie, their new (to them) camper into their lives, and what camper life looks like so far, its impact on their two boys, and why they are living this lifestyle. You can follow along on the journey through various social media handles:IG: @liveyourrawlifeF: Live Your RAW LifeE: liveyourrawlife@gmail.comWeb: www.liveyourrawlife.comAs well as Isaac’s Instagram account:@isaacoutsideAs promised here is the link to the powerful book spoken about in this episode:“Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by Marshall Rosenberghttps://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/about-marshall-rosenberg/books-and-products/ If something resonated with you in this or past episodes subscribe to the podcast through the platform where you get your podcasts and leave a review while you are there.

Wow, this was an epic talk with Gary Lane, psychotherapist and mental health expert. We talked about shame. That paralysing feeling that we all live through but some of us can't escape from. Listen to find out the difference between guilt and shame, what exactly shame is and where it comes from steps to take in order to move through this painful emotion. Visit Gary and his website: www.therealmetherapy.com and on Instagram: @gazzamentalhealth. The book he referenced was: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenburg. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victoria-kleinsman/message

Imagine your daily grind--your house, your car, your commute, your job....Now imagine what it would be like to spend days camping in the woods, drinking spring water, breathing clean mountain air, eating freshly picked foods, and spending all day in Nature...learning about growing and gathering cultivated and wild food, making tools, tracking, tanning hides, natural building, and living in a community. What would happen to your energy? Your spirit? Natalie Bogwalker is a fan of watching the transformation that takes place when a guest spends days on her property, exploring their relationship with the land. Natalie is the founder and director of Wild Abundance, a permaculture and homestead school. She’s passionate about teaching and sharing skills that are essential for living harmoniously within the natural systems of the earth.   She and her family live at the Wild Abundance homestead campus in the Southern Appalachian Mountains. Natalie spends her time harvesting in the wild, building, gardening, planting, putting up food, growing, teaching, connecting with the community, and playing with her daughter. Amidst all of this she’s constantly scheming about how to introduce more people to Earth-based living, while worshipping the beauty around her.   In the midst of all the turmoil of our modern society, Natalie reminds us to breathe deeply, be outside, put one foot in front of the other, and find like-minded people for support and inspiration.   In this episode... Origin story of Wild Abundance The joy of helping people find sovereignty and connection Soil building techniques used on the Wild Abundance homestead Breaking pest and disease cycles What happens to people when they begin to participate in the cycles of the seasons and get involved with their own food and shelter production Eat something wild every day! Natalie's journey to her wild abundant life How reshaping education and redesigning curriculum could help us transform our disconnected society The Earth Skills and Permaculture Immersion Program curriculum How the Barnardsville community developed How to have a successful daily practice   Resources Firefly Gathering wildabundance.net Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg The Empowerment Manual: A Guide for Collaborative Groups by Starhawk The Earth Skills and Permaculture Immersion Program at Wild Abundance

There are all kinds of emergencies, but did you know that many people experience what is called a spiritual emergency? A spiritual emergency or spiritual crisis can be scary and sudden with symptoms such as hearing voices and seeing visions, but it can also be an opportunity for healing and for many, it's a powerful catalyst for spiritual growth. Join us in our conversation with Lisa Wheeler, a Licensed Professional Counselor, as she explains how she helps people through these kinds of emergencies. During this conversation Lisa shares her own experiences that led her to eventually do the kind of work she does now. Topics that are covered in this episode include: What is Spiritual Emergence and the Spiritual Emergence Network? Lisa's spiritual crisis and paranormal experiences. The power of emotions, the energy behind them, and the information they provide us with. The importance of speaking your truth and being assertive. Is a spiritual crisis planned by the soul? Coping with a spiritual crisis. Lisa's work with teens and families through a spiritual crisis Do the people in your life reflect your inner spiritual growth? Effective paths to healing. Recommended reading: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg Lisa Wheeler is a Licensed Professional Counselor whose area of special interest is helping individuals whose experiences fall outside of the cultural norm, i.e. hearing voices, seeing visions/entities, lucid dreaming, and unexplained knowing, among others. Lisa believes that these creative mechanisms are organic, relevant, and serve to balance out the individual. When these expressions are collaboratively examined in a gentle and non-judgemental manner, the possibilities for the individual are endless. Whether you sense events before they happen, see the walking dead, or have continual experiences that you find difficult to accept and talk about due to shame, you have come to the right place. To learn more about Lisa or to schedule a session, visit www.lisawheelertherapy.com.

Listen and explore: The big change happening in our life How we enter into difficult and uncomfortable conversations with each other Some of the tools we use for communicating mindfully The different ways Alasdair and Julie-Roxane approach vision The value of giving time, space and energy to communicate clearly and gain clarity The different ways we develop self-awareness and the importance of doing so Mentioned on this episode: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg Vipassana meditation Zen meditation (link is to a detailed description of the zen practice Alasdair practiced under Ezra Bayda and Elizabeth Hamilton) Internal Family Systems (link is to a description of the model and recommendations from our friend, Howard's site). Connect with us: Email us at host@thefaroutpodcast.com Follow FAR OUT on Instagram Follow JR on Instagram Support this podcast: Leave a review on iTunes! Donate to the FAR OUT podcast Subscribe to FAR OUT and share this episode with friends! :D Credits: Intro music: "Complicate ya" by Otis McDonald Outro music: "Running with wise fools" written & performed by Krackatoa (www.krackatoa.com)

MPH students at the IU Fairbanks School of Public Health engage in an enlightening discussion of the book “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life” by the late Marshall B. Rosenburg, who was an expert in the field of nonviolent communication. Emily and Kelsey talk about key points from the book and give real life examples of how nonviolent communication can be utilized in the field of public health. Give it a listen and learn how nonviolent communication can be useful in your own life or career!

Today’s episode pulls together a lot of threads from previous shows, and will also give you some really concrete new tools using what’s called Nonviolent Communication to support you in your parenting.  It’s not like these are concepts that we’ve never discussed before, but sometimes hearing them in a different framework can be the key to making them ‘click’ for you. Our guest Christine King has been teaching these techniques to college students, teachers, and parents for over 17 years. And I’m releasing this particular interview today because these tools are ones we’re learning how to use in the free online workshop that I’m kicking off on Monday July 8th.  In the workshop we’re going to spend a couple of weeks learning why our children trigger us so much and how to stop being triggered, and how we can move beyond the power struggles we get caught up in with our children so we can have the kind of relationship with them where their true needs as people are respected and met – and so are ours. Click here to sign up for the free online workshop – it starts tomorrow! (https://yourparentingmojo.com/tameyourtriggers/)   Things we discussed in the show: Christine’s game for kids can be found here (http://www.groktheworld.com/products) Videos of Christine’s giraffe and jackal puppet shows are here (https://www.cnvc.org/profile/2046) List of feelings (https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory) List of needs (https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory) (note that neither of these lists claims to be comprehensive) Inbal Kashtan’s book Parenting From Your Heart (https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Your-Heart-Compassion-Communication/dp/1892005085) The No-Fault Zone game (http://thenofaultzone.com/the_no-fault_zone.html) Marshall Rosenberg’s book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=20R0CBH2NQKCV9CY4XJ7)   (#) Jen: 00:01:43 Hello and welcome to the Your Parenting Mojo podcast. I'm so excited for today's episode because I think it really pulls together a lot of threads from previous shows and it will also give you some really concrete new tools to support you in your parenting. It’s not like these are concepts that we've never discussed before, but sometimes hearing them in a different framework can be the key to making them click for you. I'm releasing this particular interview today because these tools are ones we are learning how to use and the challenge that I'm kicking off on Monday, July 8th. In the challenge, we're going to spend a couple of weeks learning why our children trigger us so much and how to stop being triggered and how we can move beyond the power struggles we get caught up in with our children so we can have the kind of relationship with them where their true needs as people are respected and met and so our ours. Jen: 00:02:30 To help us with part of this, I'd like to introduce my guest, Christine King. Christine is a credential K12 teacher, mother of three and describes herself as a teacher and perpetual student. She says on her website that when she discovered the tool we're going to discuss today, which is called Nonviolent Communication or NVC “it seemed like my entire worldview fell into place my lifelong interest in politics and justice, self-transformation and mindfulness.” Christine is a center for nonviolent communication certified trainer and has been teaching NVC principles and strategies to children, college students, teachers and parents for over 17 years. Currently, she teaches NVC at San Quentin State Prison and at the University of California. Today, we're going to talk about how to bring NVC, which helps us to truly understand ourselves and our children to bring a new depth of relationship...

GUEST: MARTIN UCIK Martin Ucik is a German born entrepreneur who trained with Eckhart Tolle as a Power Of Now group facilitator and founded www.singles2couples.org, an Association for Healthy Relationships. His studies of Ken Wilber’s Integral Model allowed him to integrate his personal experiences as a divorced father and the wisdom from over 200 relationship books into Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men which Ken Wilber calls “a terrific book!” and his new book Sex Purpose Love. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) LISTENERS’ QUESTIONS: First listener’s question: “I stumbled upon your podcast on Spotify and since then have found great value in it with my current relationship of 1.5 years. If possible I have some questions/topic that I would love to hear you cover. … One relationship question/topic that is a big stressor in my relationship is: My boyfriend is a police officer and in the National Guard. His jobs have really changed him like how he judges people really quickly and so on. Have you ever covered a topic similar to this?” Second listener’s question: “My worry is that I’ve grown and matured in my thinking over the past couple months and that my boyfriend and I won’t be on the same page. I tend to overthink and my boyfriend tries to simplify things, so oftentimes we balance each other out. However there are times when I think I’m maturing a lot faster than him and it sort of creates a mental gap between us. I’m not sure if that’s because we’re not compatible or if there’s a better way to communicate.” INTEGRAL THEORY Lines of development 5 stages of spiritual development 8 stages of consciousness 4 quadrants Personality matrix Developmental Lines for Relationship, based on Martin Ucik’s approach: Emotional availability Consciousness development Sexual development Spiritual development Anima/animus 8 STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT, BY MARTIN UCIK How we see the world and how we communicate. Survival Magical thinking Ego centric Mythic Rational Pluralistic Integral Transpersonal “Experience without theory is blind but theory without experience is mere intellectual play.” by Immanuel Kant How partners meet each other matters. In the past, partners would meet each other in places where they were likely to have similar perspectives, beliefs, and world views, like college, church, and interest based groups. It was more likely that partners would be at similar stages of consciousness. Whereas today, partners are meeting each other online and are more likely to be at different stages of consciousness, which poses great difficulty for couples. How do you determine what stage of development as person is in? Listen to what really matters to them. What do you recommend for a couple that is dealing with being at different stages of development?  Talk about your experience. Look at the stages of consciousness together. Be gentle in your approach with one another. Invite an openness and a willingness to explore. Sometimes, people will not be ready or willing to grow and develop. MENTIONED: Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men (book) Sex Purpose Love: Couples in Integral Relationships Creating a Better World (book) Relationship Map (opt-in) Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love (book) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life — Second 2nd Edition (book) Integral Theory: Ken Wilber (Wikipedia) Ken Wilber (website) Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (book) Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition (book) Passionate Marriage (book) Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love (book) The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition) (book) Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart (book) Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After (book) Alex Gray (website) ERP 006: Making And Keeping Agreements To Strengthen Your Relationship (podcast) ERP 140: How Pain and Suffering Increase & What to Do about It (podcast) ERP 141: How To Decrease Relationship Pain and Suffering (podcast) ERP 015: Do You Have A “Unity” Or “Journey” Mindset In Relationship? (podcast) TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please reach out to me. Here is my contact information. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Dealing with resentment in relationships help couples move forward positively with their lives and allow couples to have deeper connection. I would really appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.

  In this very first episode of Women Who Went for It!, Sara outlines her own story of career transformation and shares her intentions, hopes and dreams for the podcast: to help give you the clarity, courage and motivation you need to step into a deeper vocation and a life of meaning and fulfillment. Sara coaches women to find work that delights and energizes them, and aligns with their purpose.   Sara discusses: The focus of her work as a career change agent The distinction between her role and those of career counselors Why she was inspired to do create a podcast The kinds of women she'll be interviewing The kinds of insights and inspiration these women will share Sara's story Her opinions of work/life balance growing up How she picked her future career in design Her experience at university Working in Yellowstone National Park Stories and limiting beliefs from people around her "Falling into" her first real job Her brief departure from design Personal challenges she faced during this "detour" Landing a nonprofit design job and still feeling like something was missing Trying to talk herself into feeling satisfied Looking for fulfillment through hobbies Going inward to find meaning through meditation, dreams, spirituality, etc. Tackling the things that scared her Learning and practicing Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication Learning to say "yes" to what's right and "no" to what's not Volunteering and personal growth Community recognition Joining a leadership group Seeking external advice about what she was good at Hearing the term "coaching" for the first time Following her curiosity, intuition and "coincidences" Checking out coaching schools Securing the finances to make it happen Getting certified Figuring out her niche What it's like to have a bigger sense of purpose behind your work Her biggest surprise Finding the right combination of work for her How she hopes to help others find their most meaningful and fulfilling work Resources that Sara recommends Seattle Insight Meditation Society (learn how to meditate) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (book) - Marshall Rosenberg Northwest Compassionate Communication (Nonviolent / Compassionate Communication trainings) Coach Training World in Portland (coaching certification program) ...and more.   Connect with Sara: Coaching website: http://www.saramcardle.com  Coaching Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/saramcardlecoaching Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sara.mcardle.coaching Podcast website: http://www.womenwhowentforit.com  Podcast Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/womenwhowentforit    Sara's full bio: Sara McArdle coaches women to find work that delights and energizes them, and aligns with their purpose. Sara wasn't born with an obvious "calling.” In fact, while she knew when she started working as a professional graphic designer that something was missing, she waited 20 years to make a change. In 2013, she began practicing NVC—a discipline that helps people transform negative self-talk, identify what matters most to them and take steps toward a more wonderful life. Her experience of empowering herself and others was so transformative and inspiring that she pursued a Whole Person Coach® certification and launched a business to help women recognize and make the most of their unique gifts, and—like her—spend the rest of their lives doing work they’re madly in love with.

  In this episode, Sara talks with Kristen Jawad about her journey from education to massage, wellness and self-care. They touch on the topics of recognizing the work that's right for you, the importance of exploring and playing and even the concept of "career." Kristen specializes in wellness massage for women in her Kirkland, Washington studio and offers experiential workshops in the Seattle area.   Sara and Kristen discuss: Kristen's bio How Kristen and Sara know each other Kristen's career story Moving from early education to massage Kristen's turning point Getting back into an industry from her past What she learned working for an employer How she trusted the timing on starting her own business Kristen's process of finding the right work for her The importance of values How it feels when you're doing the work that's right for you Seeing when something's not working and course correcting Quality of life Testing the waters and volunteering The power of collaboration and group work Kristen's personal limiting beliefs Kristen's support systems Resources that Kristen recommends Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation (book) - Parker Palmer Rachael Scott's Business Development for Massage Visionaries (helped Kristen develop her unique healing vision) Wellness Professionals Network (networking group) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (book) - Marshall Rosenberg The word "career" and Kristen's and Sara's reactions to it Working from home The importance of following one's intuition Seeing how your talents and passions translate into career Kristen's personal stumbling blocks The importance of "rest and digest" mode How to remind yourself that you're making progress, even when it's hard to see Knowing whom your ideal client is One piece of advice ...and more.   Connect with Kristen: Website: http://kristenjawad.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/massageforher Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmassage    Kristen's full bio: Kristen Jawad, M.Ed, LMT is owner and founder of Women's Wellness Studio. Kristen is both a student and teacher, seeking the fullest potential in human development. About 16 years ago, she began to study Compassionate Communication and has practiced it in a variety of settings. She has found that it's a powerful way of being that can transform relationships. She specializes in wellness massage for women in her Kirkland, Washington studio and offers experiential workshops in the Seattle area.

Nonviolent Communication With Nadia Odunayo Follow us on Twitter @techdoneright (https://twitter.com/tech_done_right), and please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tech-done-right/id1195695341?mt=2)! Guest Nadia Odunayo (https://twitter.com/nodunayo), nadiaodunayo.com (http://www.nadiaodunayo.com/), Co-host of Ruby Book Club (http://rubybookclub.com/), director at Ignition Works (http://ignition.works/). Summary Do you have interactions with co-workers where one or both of you get angry and defensive, and everybody ends up frustrated? Today we talk to Nadia Odunayo about "Nonviolent Communication", a way to communicate that honestly addresses issues, explaining how you feel without harming the other person, and getting everybody to the point where they feel better about the situation and have a clear path to move forward. Nadia gives examples of how she uses nonviolent communication in her day-to-day life, and she tries to coach me to improve my own skills. By focusing on communication your needs and not assuming anything about others, you can make difficult discussions less difficult. Notes 01:47 - Nonviolent Communication Nadia’s Talk: This Code Sucks: A Story About Nonviolent Communication (https://brightonruby.com/2017/this-code-sucks-a-story-about-non-violent-communication-nadia-odunayo/) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg (https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034) 03:16 - A Concrete Example of Violent and Nonviolent Communication: A Code Review 07:08 - How should a manager communicate nonviolently? 11:01 - Judging and Assuming People’s Character Subconsciously Fundamental Attribution Error (http://study.com/academy/lesson/fundamental-attribution-error-definition-lesson-quiz.html) 18:11 - How has nonviolent communication affected your day-to-day interactions? 24:14 - Self-Empathy: Being Non-Violent with Yourself 28:32 - Transparency and Vulnerability 32:15 - Nonviolent Communication and Being Nice/Kind 36:17 - Screaming Nonviolently Masters of Love (https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/) Special Guest: Nadia Odunayo.

Clayton Olson has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. A Certified Coach and Master NLP Practitioner, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients finding their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox News magazine, Huffington Post, The Goodmen Project and his work has been featured on The View. Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra The relationships we create outside of us are a deeper reflection of what we create inside of us. When You Tripped Up When Clayton was a teenager he had his first relationship and he was in love. But he had no back bone in the relationship. He became a chameleon and tried to be whatever she wanted him to be so she would love him the way that he loved her. As you might imagine, it ended horribly. And it was so painful that he created a contract with himself to never let this happen again. Never again be that open and vulnerable. Clayton spent the next 7 - 10 years moving through life being extremely protective. And him having needs from his partner was acceptable. This led to superficial relationships. Proudest moment in partnership Clayton and his recent partner went through a tough time recently. And they ended their relationship for about 6 weeks.  During this time apart it was so difficult, and they both grew tremendously. He sat with the pain and actually felt it and allowed the pain to carve him up. Through this separation and being in a place of uncertainty led to both of them getting powerful perspective on themselves. Because of this they were able to come back together and reunite. Now the relationship has a completely new flavor to it. They did not get back together out of a fear of being alone. They came in with their eyes wide open and reunited from a place of love and choice. What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? To be in love and to love someone is to continually risk. And to trust that no matter what happens, you’re strong enough to get through it. And if you do get hurt, it is better than not having loved. Best Partnership Book (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0831400447/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0831400447&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=b9582746be3d1688f2486bf6a2342fef) The Structure of Magic, Vol. 1: A Book About Language and Therapy (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0831400447/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0831400447&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=e52fa0bce1448f106a5bf5bf04b4a0d8) (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/189200528X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=189200528X&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=1289a3991560af085bc9f9dbab72c5d8) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/189200528X/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=189200528X&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=e664b02299c0617c91b6f94da80f13ce) Interview Links - Clayton's website (http://www.claytonolsoncoaching.com) (https://speakingofpartnership.com/127-clayton-olson/)

How can the Nonviolent Communication Method by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg improve your life? Want to sell your home? Get a FREE home value report.  Want to buy a home? Search all homes for sale.Conflict resolution is a major aspect of my job. I want to share some of the top communication strategies I use to get people working together.Most of the strategies I use are based on the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, a true pioneer who invented the Nonviolent Communication Method. This method has been used successfully for many years to do everything from negotiating peace in the Middle East to negotiating peace between warring couples or children and parents. His method is even used by top hostage negotiators all over the world.“Using this statement helps you start a really productive conversation. Of course, I can only go over a few tips with you today, so make sure you check out his book called “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life.”Dr. Rosenberg’s method is based on the fact that as human beings, we have the same needs and experience the same emotions. The point of nonviolent communication is to get to the heart of the matter, which isn’t easy. The problem is that most of us don’t have a comprehensive vocabulary for our feelings or our needs. You can visit www.cnvc.org/training/needs-inventory for a free Needs and Feelings Inventory list to get a handle on things. You can even message me and I will email you a copy of each.That is a good place to get started, but how can you use this method in your day-to-day life?Let’s say that you get home from work really late and that your significant other appears to be upset the minute that you walk in the door. You would use this statement: “Honey, are you feeling _____ because you need _____?” Of course, it is up to you to guess what your significant other is feeling and what they need.It can be challenging to use this statement, especially if your significant other greets you by saying, “You are the most insensitive person I’ve ever met.” Don’t get angry. Simply say, “Are you feeling angry because you need to feel important and loved?”This is a magic formula. People immediately drop their defenses before they respond. They will either say, “Yes, that is exactly it,” or “No, that’s not it at all.”Now, you did not agree or disagree with them or rise to the bait; asking them this question helps you strike right to the heart of the matter. What are they feeling and what are they needing? Even if you didn’t accurately guess what they need and feel, you opened up the opportunity to have a really productive conversation.That is just a tidbit of what nonviolent communication has to offer. Check out this video of a workshop by Dr. Rosenberg for more information. He really shows you how to start using nonviolent communication in your everyday life.I hope you found this information useful. If you have any other questions, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I look forward to speaking with you!

Biz and Theresa wonder if everyone deserves a trophy or if the cut-and-dry world of "1st, 2nd and 3rd Place" make us stronger. Maybe just the act of having to explain winning and losing to our kids makes us strong enough. Plus, Biz takes it offline, Theresa runs away to the woods, and we get some help from Theresa’s mom, Marriage Family Therapist Beth Hossfeld, on how to go on parenting when we're scared or dealing with crisis. One Circle Foundation New York Times Article: Breathe. Exhale. Repeat. The Benefits of Controlled Breathing. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, by Marshall Rosenberg Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are ThirdLove and Mimi Green. Visit www.thirdlove.com/BADMOTHER to start your free trial today. Visit shopmimigreen.com and use the promo code "badmother" to receive 20% off your purchase! Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485* *Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a genius moment, a fail, or a rant! Thanks!! Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes Join our mailing list!

Get your Ruby Remote Conf tickets!   02:42 - Nadia Odunayo Introduction Twitter GitHub Ignition Works Nadia Odunayo: Playing Games in the Clouds 05:00 - Ruby Book Club 11:20 - Nadia Odunayo: The Guest: A Guide To Code Hospitality @ RailsConf 2016 17:23 - Collaboration and Pairing: Guest and Host Roles; Driving and Navigating Coderetreat Ruby DCamp 24:42 - Perspectives and Mapping Sam Livingston-Gray: Cognitive Shortcuts: Models, Visualizations, Metaphors, and Other Lies @ Cascadia Ruby Conf 2014 Cortical Homunculus Peter Gardiner Motor and Sensory Homunculi 41:04 - Ruby Central's Opportunity Scholarship Program Space Babies   Picks   Case Studies in Apprenticeship (Coraline) Everything's an Argument by Andrea A. Lunsford and John J. Ruszkiewicz (Sam) RIF6 Cube 2-inch Mobile Projector (Chuck) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nadia) Robert Frank on Dinner Table Economics (Nadia)   See Also Ruby Rogues Episode #190: Apprenticeship with Joseph Mastey and Jill Lynch of Enova

Get your Ruby Remote Conf tickets!   02:42 - Nadia Odunayo Introduction Twitter GitHub Ignition Works Nadia Odunayo: Playing Games in the Clouds 05:00 - Ruby Book Club 11:20 - Nadia Odunayo: The Guest: A Guide To Code Hospitality @ RailsConf 2016 17:23 - Collaboration and Pairing: Guest and Host Roles; Driving and Navigating Coderetreat Ruby DCamp 24:42 - Perspectives and Mapping Sam Livingston-Gray: Cognitive Shortcuts: Models, Visualizations, Metaphors, and Other Lies @ Cascadia Ruby Conf 2014 Cortical Homunculus Peter Gardiner Motor and Sensory Homunculi 41:04 - Ruby Central's Opportunity Scholarship Program Space Babies   Picks   Case Studies in Apprenticeship (Coraline) Everything's an Argument by Andrea A. Lunsford and John J. Ruszkiewicz (Sam) RIF6 Cube 2-inch Mobile Projector (Chuck) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nadia) Robert Frank on Dinner Table Economics (Nadia)   See Also Ruby Rogues Episode #190: Apprenticeship with Joseph Mastey and Jill Lynch of Enova

Get your Ruby Remote Conf tickets!   02:42 - Nadia Odunayo Introduction Twitter GitHub Ignition Works Nadia Odunayo: Playing Games in the Clouds 05:00 - Ruby Book Club 11:20 - Nadia Odunayo: The Guest: A Guide To Code Hospitality @ RailsConf 2016 17:23 - Collaboration and Pairing: Guest and Host Roles; Driving and Navigating Coderetreat Ruby DCamp 24:42 - Perspectives and Mapping Sam Livingston-Gray: Cognitive Shortcuts: Models, Visualizations, Metaphors, and Other Lies @ Cascadia Ruby Conf 2014 Cortical Homunculus Peter Gardiner Motor and Sensory Homunculi 41:04 - Ruby Central's Opportunity Scholarship Program Space Babies   Picks   Case Studies in Apprenticeship (Coraline) Everything's an Argument by Andrea A. Lunsford and John J. Ruszkiewicz (Sam) RIF6 Cube 2-inch Mobile Projector (Chuck) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nadia) Robert Frank on Dinner Table Economics (Nadia)   See Also Ruby Rogues Episode #190: Apprenticeship with Joseph Mastey and Jill Lynch of Enova

ACT NOW – SPOTS ARE FILLING UP! A Gift:  For the first 40 people who contact me, I am offering a complimentary strategy session to help you learn effective strategies for how to improve your relationship! To book your session and discover the keys to keeping your relationship strong, just email me and let me know when is a good time for you and your significant other. LISTENER’S QUESTION: “If I see that every morning when I work from home my partner is rushing to get the kids out the door to daycare and is 5 or so minutes late, every time. She is able to stay in the home. I pay all the bills. I also know that this is happening on days when I am not there. It is very hard to rush 3-5 Yo’s, things just take time. I think she needs to get out of bed at 7:30 instead of 8 to give herself (and the kids) more time so she can start some of the process’s earlier. Usually I am gone to work as I leave the house at 6:30. I think this would alleviate the stress or being late every day. I’m worried that suggesting such a thing would cause a “conflict” where she would be mad at me. So therefore I won’t say anything. I guess I just don’t know how to be. I really like/want to talk discuss everything and she doesn’t. I realized that her and I have different definitions of peace. She feels peaceful when there is no “confrontation” even if that means we don’t talk. I want to talk about everything. I want to work through everything and have all our feelings out on the table. I’m very much and extrovert and she is an introvert, in terms of wanting to interact physically or emotionally. I feel like we are so different. Our conversations always go so poorly, I end up feeling like I’m so wrong and in order to have the closeness that I crave I just “can’t say anything”. I’m not even clear on what is reasonable or ok to say/suggest.” TIPS: 1. Recognize Differences in You and Your Partner’s Style and Pacing Extrovert’s are typically comfortable verbally and processing aloud. Introvert’s are usually more comfortable reflecting and processing internally. 2.Make Room for Your Partner. Slow down so that you can connect with your partner. Listen for the emotional tone of your partner and try to attune to them. Strive for collaboration. 3. Gain Awareness Notice opinions or judgements. What is it like for me when she is late? What would her being on time allow me to feel? What is it that I am wanting or needing? Is this something that I can accept? (This question may give you a better sense of your boundaries.) 4. Get Curious What is her experience in the morning? What does being late do for her (Is she needing more sleep? Is she needing a deadline to motivate her in the morning? Is she used to running on adrenaline and stress?) Get to know her experience more fully. 5. Work Towards Constructive Communication How can communicating feel comfortable for both of you? Practice relational communication Talk about you and your feelings rather than expressing judgments or opinions of your partner. Relational communication is very different from other types of communication that you might use at work or in other areas of your life. Get support to create a new communication patterns. MENTIONED: A Step-by-Step Guide To Turn Any Argument Into Effective Communication (article) Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (book) Meetup groups and meetings (website) TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: How To Bridge A Communication Gap With Your Partner. If you have a topic you would like me to discuss or a situation you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in learning about improving your communication patterns in your love relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!  If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.

COMMON MARRIAGE ISSUES These are my podcast show notes. Be sure to listen to the full episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips. Over the last few weeks, I have been addressing a listener’s question. She basically asked, “What do you do when you have gotten into a pattern of not avoiding the Nine Destructive Behaviors in relationship conflict? Also, how do you deal with past hurts in this regard.” To answer her question, I first addressed The Most Important Ingredient To Shifting Conflicts. In my next podcast, I talked about Being The Best You Can Be In Relationship. Third in the podcast series, I discussed How To Repair & Resolve Hurt In Relationship. Today, I am talking about How To Clear An Issue With Your Spouse/Partner. Basically, I am discussing the 7 important elements to successful communication when you are having an issue with your partner. The exercise I refer to in this episode is A Step-By-Step Guide To Turn Any Argument Into Effective Communication. HOW TO CLEAR COMMON MARRIAGE ISSUES: 1. LEARN TO TAKE PERSPECTIVE The purpose of this communication exercise is to take perspective. As you genuinely put yourself in your partner’s shoes, you can gain new understandings and awarenesses you would have not otherwise gained. You and your partner will feel emotionally closer and connected as you both share and authentically listen to one another. 2. DON’T INITIATE THE CONVERSATION WITH A ONE TRACK MIND You get stuck because you want your spouse/partner to validate and acknowledge your experience. You want them to take ownership for their impact on you and you want them to be understanding and sympathetic to your feelings. However, if you lead with trying to get them to take ownership, it is likely they will push back and be defensive. If both of you are wanting to be heard at the same time, then you can get stuck in a power struggle.  3. REPRIORITIZE THE GOAL If your goal is to have more understanding and resolution, then it is important to shift the priority (from trying to be heard exclusively) to engaging in a process together. Ideally, you will both be working towards the common goal. It is almost like the adult version of sharing when you do not want to. 4. LEARN THIS NEW LANGUAGE TOGETHER Communication is a two-way process. There is a sender and a receiver. It isn’t communication if the receiver can’t understand the message. It would be like speaking a foreign language to someone but they cannot understand you. 5. RECOGNIZE THE WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY There is a small window of opportunity to practice this exercise. If you are too upset, you may be too defensive and triggered to be open to learning. “Do I want to find resolution?” If “yes,” then proceed. If “no,” then take some space. Only you can decide if you will fully participate. 6. MOTIVATION What comes first: inspiration and motivation or taking action on a task that you don’t really want to do (i.e. cleaning chore or homework assignment)? People who think motivation comes first tend to procrastinate. If you wait for inspiration or motivation, it may never come. Motivation often comes after taking action. “Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have — and underestimate the value of what they may gain by giving that up.” ~ James Belasco and Ralph Stayer 7. THIS EXERCISE IS HARD! It takes a great deal of strength to tolerate your discomfort to be present to your partner’s pain, especially when your partner has an issue with you. This is part of the growing, developing, and maturing that relationship/marriage offers us. Knowing you will feel closer, more connected, intimate, and bonded will help inspire you to put forth the effort. MENTIONED: A Step-by-Step Guide To Turn Any Argument Into Effective Communication Video clip from “This Is 40”. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg. Be sure to check out next week’s episode where we will continue this conversation of How To Clear Common Marriage Issues. If you have a topic you would like me to discuss or a situation you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in resolving common marriage issues! I believe in your relationship success! Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review if you would be willing to click here. Thank you! 

What are the prospects of complete liberty--in your lifetime?Played clip of my hour-long call to Free Talk Live about non-votinghttp://traffic.libsyn.com/ftl/FTL2010-09-28.mp3This Free-Stater denounces Free Keenehttp://nhpr.org/free-state-vs-free-keeneIs the political free stater message different than the Tea Party-ers'?What will it take for individuals to stop complying, given the potent statist matrix of mass indoctrination coupled with mass fear?Essentially, we need to come to terms with two classes in society: the productive class and the parasitical class (http://www.agorism.info/AgoristClassTheory.pdf)http://freekeene.com/2010/08/11/city-council-drinking-game-video/Drinking Game Involves Keene City Councilhttp://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=129077277City council members are basically trying to find some semblance of identity through the political process, in spite of its rights-infringing natureReason Saves Cleveland With Drew Carey: How to Save the Mistake on the Lake and other Once Great U.S. Cities--The Complete Series http://reason.org/news/show/reason-saves-cleveland-complete-serNew at Reason: Drew Carey and Nick Gillespie Clash with the Cleveland City Councilhttp://reason.com/blog/2010/09/08/new-at-reason-drew-carey-and-nRunning for office doesn't foster the adoption of the principle of freedom for individualsChallenging so-called "authorities" need not entail getting arrested and imprisonedThe fear of challenging "authority" stems from bad parentingThe process of individuation is key...Honoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Transformationhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=43The voting process allows for a psychological comfort zone to exist within the turmoil of the reality of people's statist enslavement; it can be perversely comforting to be a member of the tribeClearly, it's important to come to terms with one's own emotional psychologyPrinciples enable you to stay true to yourself and true to realityA VERY IMPORTANT book I recently investigated, which I'll be exploring extensively in the future...Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberghttp://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034/No one can "represent" you in the political systemDEMOCRACY OF THE PEOPLE, BY THE POLITICIANS, FOR WHOM AGAIN? http://completeliberty.com/chapter2.phpbumper music "Freedom" by Rage Against The Machinehttp://www.ratm.com/ to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697  

How to be a cycle breaker - mother and son share about their concerted effort to not pass trauma & abuse to the next generation.Chad Warren (@chadwarrencreativeis) a musician and the host podcast of Empathy Jam. Susanna Warren is a Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international organization founded by international peacemaker, Marshall Rosenberg. Chad shares about impact of his parents divorce, overcoming addiction and the healing power of empathy. Susannah shares about growing up in a violent household, her intentional effort to do things differently as a mother, and the core principles of non-violent communications.Empathy Jam"Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships" by Marshall B. Rosenberg