Advice column aficionados Han and Matt re-answer the greatest questions from other advice columns and podcasts as well as fielding new questions (send your questions to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com or anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt) with a little help from their cats.
After 10,000 years, Han and Matt have finally wrapped the show. To watch the episode with our lovely mugs and our disruptive kitties (which was recorded live on Facebook!), check it out here if you're able: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hanandmattknowitall/permalink/585309755619000/ Here's loosely what we discussed: Reminiscing about the history of the show! 2019 personal/life updates for us and the cats Updates on questions and things from listeners like you! A summary of our various Facebook spin-off groups (join them!) 10 Tips for a Successful Marriage What's next From the Facebook Event: "Hello, lovely Hamkittens of the world! Han and I have decided that our long-awaited final episode of Han and Matt Know It All will be a LIVE Facebook event so that we can collectively and symbolically hand-off the spirit of the show to its new rightful owners: ALL OF YOU AMAZING PEOPLE! ♥ Seriously, y'all never cease to amaze me with your dedication to kindness and the work you've done fostering (so many!) safe communities. I'm a proud cat dad(dy) indeed. It's so immeasurably gratifying to see what y'all have done with the place since Han and I ghosted—err, since we've unexpectedly parted ways with you." From the bottom of our hearts: thank you so much for being a part of this with us. Given the chance, we would do it all again in heartbeat. Love, Han & Matt
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 9th, 2019, and beyond, including: NOTE: We're changing the $20 Patron Hangout Perk to be a 1-Time Hangout Effective Immediately Ask Ellie: "Wife's request for quiet time 'mindless' TV watching confounds husband" "Harry Potter Totally Sucks" Ask Ellie: "My true love might walk away because of my ex's meddling" Carolyn Hax: "My pregnant friend's husband needs to shut up already about her weight gain" Ask a Manager: "I ran into my new boss in the apartment of my one-night stand" Ask Dr. NerdLove: "What Do I Do About My Irresponsible Boyfriend?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AITA: "AITA for flirting with 19 year old girls and defending myself when being called a predator." Listener N: "My Wife's Crush and Mine" Shoutout to Zoya AKA Zoe Fenson on APW: "I'm A Feminist Killjoy—And My Husband Loves it" Shoutout to Ask Real Estate: "Can a Building Charge You for Bedbugs?" Shoutout to Miss Manners: "Let’s all shake hands instead" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "what tools help you focus on work when you’re in a loud or distracting environment?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt are joined by climate change journalist and senior editor of Yale Climate Connections Sara Peach, columnist of the one-of-a-kind and invaluable Ask Sara! We interview Sara and discuss listener questions and topical questions from around the web on the topic of climate change: Sara Peach: Columbia Journalism Review: "Reporter explains local effects of climate change through advice column" Ask Sara on Yale Climate Connections #88 Han and Matt Sweat It Out Discussion on Ask Sara: "Should I tell my Republican friend that her Florida mansion is doomed by sea-level rise?" Sara Peach on Twitter Peach Report Listener Zayime, Herald of Despair: "If Our Doom Is Indeed Imminent, How Do I Go On?" Listener Berylglow, Estival Sprite: "What are some practical ways to lower our carbon footprints in our daily lives?" Listener The Feral Lamprey: "How Do I Overcome My Fears of the Stigma of Climate Change Activism?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Ask Umbra: "Should climate change be my new career calling?" Captain Awkward: "My husband's extreme environmental beliefs are a problem. How can I get him to give up this obsession?" Ask a Manager: "I'm in trouble for re-sorting a coworker's trash — and I’m enraged" Ask a Manager: "our new manager is pressuring the women on our team to use menstrual cups" #111: Han and Matt Hail Brandy Jensen SPONSOR: care/of: A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! Care and Feeding: "Does Climate Change Mean I Shouldn’t Have Kids?" Shoutout to Slate's Old Climate Change Advice Column: The Green Lantern Shoutout to Raechel Anne Jolie's New Newsletter: "Radical Love Notes" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Greetings, Hamkittens! Long time no see. But soon, we will be on the West Coast for our two-week vacation and coming to a bar near you! Check out all the details below, RSVP on Facebook, and we might even wow you by knowing your name before you even introduce yourself. Whoooaaaa! HAMKIA Bay Area Meetup Sunday, May 19, 5-7 PM The Golden Squirrel in Oakland, California HAMKIA Portland Meetup! Monday, May 27, 6-8 PM Bye & Bye in Portland, Oregon HAMKIA Seattle Meetup! Thursday, May 30, 6-8 PM Optimism Brewing Company in Seattle, Washington And yes, things are still very hectic in Matt-land. We're taking a break while work chaos settles, but we do have at least one (guest!) episode planned for June. Stay tuned. Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 28th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd [CW: Self-Harm] Ask a Manager: "What to say if a coworker asks about my self harm scars" Ask a Manager: "Should I say something about my coworker’s old self-harm scars?" Dear Prudence: "I'm in a Happy Relationship With My Boyfriend but I Still Want to Date Women" SPONSOR: care/of: A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Do I Have To Agree to An Open Relationship?" How to Do It: "A Nice Guy Suddenly Said Awful Things to Me During Sex" SPONSOR: LOLA: The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products Carolyn Hax: "Bigfoot, the yeti, the Loch Ness Monster — and the soul mate" Listener The Dauntless Badger: "Should I Get Back in Touch With My Mother Who Abandoned Me When I Was Three?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo Update: "Should I Get a Cat?" "The Easiest Question We Could Find in the Inbox | Opinion Overflow #39" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "why can't I wear shorts to work?" Expanding Your Religious Holiday Knowledge 2019 Calendar PDF Google Calendar Settings We Now Know Who Patrick Is! Dear Prudence: "Who the Heck Is Patrick?" Advice Column Alert: "Poetry Rx" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 21st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Miss Conduct: "This children's birthday party has a cover charge" Ask Natalie: "Found out your engagement ring is a fake?" Care and Feeding: "Who the Heck Is Patrick?" Carolyn Hax: "Teacher frets that white Christian parents will whine about helping Muslim kids" Ask a Manager: "my office wants us to celebrate by wearing pink and blue by gender" Judge John Hodgman: "On Taco Bell Pilgrimages" "How to Eat Vegan at Taco Bell" Listener Lephra, Master Manipulator: "My Partner and I Are Exploring Ethical Nonmonogamy for the First Time and I Feel... Fine?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AmItheAsshole: "WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" r/AmItheAsshole: "UPDATE: WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" Shoutout to Dear Urban Diplomat: "Help! My neighbour's kid has some serious Fortnite rage" Shoutout to Dear Ally: "How do I improve compensation fairness at my company?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "how much money do you make?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "updates: the managers peeing dog" Shoutout to Interesting Engineering: "Bearded Men Harbour Significantly More Microbes Than Dogs" Shoutout to Ask a Queer Chick: "How Can I Get Excited About My Sex Life With My Girlfriend?" Advice Column Alert: "Is This Normal" on Thrive Global Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 7th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Ask The Salty Waitress: "I took home the unopened bottle of wine I brought to the dinner party" Ask a Manager: "I wet my pants at my new job" [CW: Weight Loss] Ask Amy: "Wife's extreme weight loss tilts marriage" [CW: Domestic Abuse] Dear Abby: "Mom Takes Action Against Daughter's Abusive Boyfriend" Carolyn Hax: "Boyfriend wants him to tell off grandma after a chat with her" Key & Peele: "Gay Wedding Advice" NPR: "The End of Empathy" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AmItheAsshole: "WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" r/AmItheAsshole: "UPDATE: WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic?" Shoutout to Autostraddle: "How to Overcome Being an Aries" Shoutout to Beast Mode: "My Hungry Cat Is Ruining My Mornings" Shoutout to Asking for a Friend: "These Parents Are Making Little League Miserable for Their Son and for Me" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Artist's Instagram request is insta-ignored" Advice Column Alert: "Dear Ally" Advice Column Alert: "Ask Croz" on Rolling Stones Advice Column Alert: "Fishing for Answers" on Harper's Bazaar Advice Column Alert: "Couldn't Be Me" on SB Nation Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt and their most special guest yet tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 31st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Ask a Manager: "my boss brings her dog to work and he pees by my desk" Dear Annie: "Already at a good weight" Captain Awkward Guest Post: "When Woke Becomes A Fetish" Ask Ann Cannon: "Pet influencers make me feel inferior as a doggy parent" Sense & Sensitivity: "College application scandal worries parent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Fiendish Salamander: "Employer Is Making Me Remove My Pronouns in Company Signature" Bustle: "Should You Put Your Pronouns In Your Email Signature? This Inclusive Workplace Trend Is Showing Up More And More" Shoutout to ¡Hola Papi!: "I’m in a Heterosexual Marriage. Do I Need to Come Out as Queer?" Shoutout to Dear Wendy: "In the News: Bride is Furious Over Guests Cheap Gift" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Personal Updates & Introducing This Week’s Guest Blogger" Shoutout to Dan Savage: "I Rise to Speak on Behalf of the Unhappily Single or Miserably Partnered..." Notes from White British People on People of Color in Britain Reni Eddo-Lodge: "Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race" Nikesh Shukla: "The Good Immigrant" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 24th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Captain Awkward: "Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List" Ask APW: "Why Didn't My MOH Invite Me To Her Wedding?" Dear Prudence: "Help! I Found Out My Boyfriend Cheated the Same Week He Found Out He Has Cancer." Vice: "Mussolini’s granddaughter would like everyone, including Jim Carrey, to be nice about her fascist grandpa" Miss Manners: "Family Dinners Call for a 'No Preaching at the Table' Rule" Ask a Manager: "My coworker keeps mocking another coworker's accent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Calliope: "Is This a Close Friend?" Shoutout to APW: "Do I Need A Good Reason To Skip A Wedding?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "working with anti-vaxxers" Shoutout to Dear Wendy: "Women Discuss: Deciding to Never Have Children" Washington Post: "It’s not just you: New data shows more than half of young people in America don’t have a romantic partner" CNBC: "World population to peak by 2055: report" Shoutout to Ask the Strategist: "Please Queer-Eye My Boyfriend" Shoutout to ¡Hola Papi!: "Why Wanting to Be an Alpha Male is Problematic" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Husband's deep research into web comic isn't funny" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 17th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Work Friend: "After Servicing a Home Can I Get Paid to Service My Clients Other Needs?" Ask a Manager: "my team got matching tattoos ... and other lack of boundaries at my start-up" [CW: Fat-Shaming] Sense and Sensibility: "It's OK to talk to friend about weight gain" [CW: Fat-Shaming] Dear Prudence: "Help! I Think My Co-Worker's Weight Is Impeding Her Career. Should I Say Something?" Dear Pepper: "Doggedly Pursuing Someone" Ask Amy: "Erotic fiction turns into catfishing reality" The Cut: "This Female Twitter Comic Was Actually a Man Pretending to Be His Own Wife" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Telreshi, Domesticator of Demons: "I Need Help With Micro-Transphobia!" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Parent worries about son's Michael Jackson fandom" Shoutout to Blair Braverman for Being the Second Jewish Woman Ever to Finish the Iditarod Shoutout to Judge John Hodgman on "Unsanctioned Cat Nicknames" Shoutout to Carolyn Hax: "It's a special therapists-behaving-badly edition" Shoutout to Ask A Native New Yorker: "Why Do New Yorkers Complain So Much?" Shoutout to Dear Abby: "He Dumped Me and Now Wants to Cheat with Me" Listener The Fiendish Salamander Has Some Kind Words For Us Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt were so excited to be joined by the one and only Brandy "Ask a Fuck-Up" Jensen! You may have seen her Tweets cited on every single topic on every single news outlet, and you'll be relieved to know that Brandy's brilliance is actually and rightfully rewarded monetarily on The Outline where she answers questions every week on one of the only good things to come out of 2018. Here's what we discussed: Ask a Fuck-Up Brand Jensen on Twitter The Outline: "I Can't Tweet for One Week and It's Killing Me" Brandy Tweeting About Advice Columns 9 Nov 2015: Someone publish a piece on how the advice column has become the home of some of our generation's best writers 2 Jan 2016: I feel like if I wrote an advice column every answer would be "we're all hurtling toward death, I'm sure it will work out" 6 Apr 2016: Wanna start an advice column called Go Fuck Yourself where I just tell you to masturbate and see if that helps 12 Apr 2017: someone give me an advice column, I love telling other people what they should do 9 Mar 2018: I want to write an advice column called "Ask a Fuck Up" the premise of which is since I adamantly refuse to learn from my own mistakes perhaps other people can AAFU: "With special guest Neko Case" AAFU: "I'm not as smart as everyone said I was" AAFU: "Can people change?" AAFU: "I'm still in therapy. Should I be dating?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Cyan Satyr: "How Do I Get Back into the Groove After a Traumatic Health Setback?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "our new manager is pressuring the women on our team to use menstrual cups" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Phone use at concert not music to their ears" Shoutout to Ask a Native New Yorker on Gothamist, Who Now Has a Book! Ask a Native New Yorker: "Should We Move In Together?" Shoutout to Sexual Healing: "I met my girlfriend’s parents – and realised I once slept with her father" Advice Column Alert: "Yours in Tenacity, Miri" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event [CW: Fat-Shaming] r/relationship_advice: "Boyfriend [25M] told me he used to ask out "fat girls" for fun. Am I [22F] right to be disgusted by him?" Dear Prudence: "Help! I Caught My Day Care Provider Breastfeeding My Baby." Carolyn Hax: "Should a single try to burst her friend's couple bubble?" Dear Wendy: "I Kissed My Friend And My Boyfriend Called It Cheating!" Ask a Manager: "my boss sent my client a flirty message from my email account" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! SPONSOR: care/of: A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! [CW: Self-Harm, Disordered Eating] Listener Kalvarin Ashmore, Renowned Euphomancer: "How Do I Teach Myself That a Relapse in My Mental Health Isn't an Indication of Failure?" Suicide Prevention Hotline FAQ: 1-800-273-8255 Shoutout to Hola Papi!: "I'm Straight-Acting and I Don’t Know Where I Fit In" Shoutout to Alison Green on Slate: "The Guy Who Hid Tacos in His Desk Drawer" or "Why do people go so nuts over free food at work?" Shoutout to Ask Polly: "Is My Absence From Social Media a Red Flag?" Shoutout to Ask Ann Cannon: "How can I dial back on digital life?" Shoutout to 'Cat Person' Author Kristen Roupenian Who "Discusses New Book at Harvard Book Store" Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress: "Our restaurant's repetitive music is ruining my workday" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt write a love letter to Reddit Relationships and have the honor of interviewing moderator Alex "ResidentBlackGuy" Spruiell! During the interview portion of the show, they discuss how Alex became a moderator, what makes r/relationships the best subreddit for advice, the worst partner so far of 2019, and much more! ResidentBlackGuy Alex Spruiell on Twitter Podcast: Black & Yellow SPONSOR: LOLA: The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products! [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] #100: The Best & Worst Advice Column Humans of 2018 (Ft. Ask a Manager and Captain Awkward): Partners Category Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision." Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks?" [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] r/relationships: "My [22F] boyfriend [24M] cut the tip of his finger OFF as a "joke" for my Valentine’s Day gift." Reddit Relationships in Three Nutshells Should I key her car? Is this a dealbreaker? Is it mean if I ask him to stop? Listener The Tireless Mind Flayer: "My [46F] girlfriend of 3 months won't invite me [49M] over to her house" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Advice Column Alert: "Who's the Asshole Here?" on Lifehacker Shoutout to John Paul Brammer on Columbia Journalism Review: "The Advice Column Renaissance" Shoutout to Yolanda, Cynosure of the Net (AKA The Golden One) for our first P.O. Box Gift at our New Address And an additional shoutout to Aephe, Stout Battlemage, for sending us AN ENTIRE BOXFUL OF LOVE HEARTS CANDIES Shoutout to Broadway World: "TINY BEAUTIFUL THINGS at Long Wharf" Shoutout to Dear Dabby: "How Do I Work in Weed?" In Cannabis Now Shoutout to Ask the Salty Waitress: "My food came out suspiciously early" for Sounding Like an Onion Headline Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "my coworker is setting toilet paper on fire in the bathroom" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 17th, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Miss Lonelyhearts: "Does new girlfriend have eyes for hers or hims?" Listener Wants to be Supportive, but Doesn't Want to Offend: "How to respect someone's gender if you're not sure they're transgender" Listener Mary, Veiled Reckoner: "How Do You Keep the Germs From Spreading Around Your Polycule?" Listener Sabrina: "Can I Wear an Unethically Produced Shirt That Advocates for Equality Without Being a Hypocrite?" "Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel" "How Do I Deal With a Sadistic Work Bully?" H&M: "Recycle Your Clothes" Listener The Raging Wendigo: "How Do I Get Past the Bitterness of My Abusive Ex Now That He's Suddenly Trying to Reconnect?" Humans of New York: "Cheating McCheaterface" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Dabrius the Decapitator: "My Depressed Dad Keeps Withdrawing From Everyone's Lives and I Don't Know What More I Can Do" Update Reference: "#103: Han and Matt Pursue Their Dreams" Shoutout to Dear Wendy: "Women Discuss: Polyamory and Open Relationships" Shoutout to Gigi Engle on Men's Health: "The Ultimate Guide to Making an Open Relationship Work" Shoutout to Baggage Check: "How do I tell my sister that her beloved MLM is a scam??" Shoutout to Ask Dr. NerdLove: "How Can I Tell If Someone's Flirting With Me?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "we have twice-daily mandatory group therapy at work" Update Spark: "'Digisexuality' emerges as a new sexual identity" Listener Sasha Rowyintide, Arsonist of the Rugosa Clan Suggests: Pop Culture Trope Dissection! Advice Column Alert: "How to Get Fired" on Lifehacker Advice Column Alert: "The Moneyist" on Market Watch Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 10th, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Ask a Manager: "we have twice-daily mandatory group therapy at work" "my office has a mandatory feelings chart" "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting" Ask Amy: "Offensive remarks too close for comfort" Carolyn Hax: "Angry comments on news sites and Facebook? Thats my husband." Dear Abby: "Second Wife-To-Be Wants Man's Name All To Herself" Dear Prudence: "Should I move in with my hoarder boyfriend?" Miss Manners: "Business class welcomes all who can pay for the seat" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist: "How Do I Support a Friend Going Through a Breakup?" + An Update! Reference: "#50: Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves" Shoutout to Entertainment Weekly: "Dumplin' author Julie Murphy previews delectable new novel Dear Sweet Pea" Shoutout to Beast Mode: "My Cats Won't Stop Jumping Onto the Counters" Shoutout to r/dndnext/: "A min-maxer is destroying my group." Advice Podcast Alert: Nick Viall's "The Viall Files" Ted Talks: "Sex Needs a New Metaphor. Here's One." (Pizza!) Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Ask Amy: "Boyfriend disappears into dark web" There are, thankfully, a handful of games where you play as a black female protagonist, though that list does not include "Far Cry: New Dawn" (Source) Ask a Manager: "my boyfriend thinks only bad candidates prepare for interviews" Ask The Salty Waitress: "I accidentally called my female customer sir" "Yinz" is actually short of "You Ones" Baggage Check: "My boyfriend is making me choose between him and my cats" Ask APW: "My Friend Bought Me A Used Wedding Gift That Cost $15" Dear Prudence: "Help! Our Millionaire Relatives Only Gave $30 as Wedding Gifts." SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Laura: "Should I Have Waited Longer For My Late Date to Show Up?" Shoutout to The Texanist: "Has PC Culture Tamed the Texanists Tongue?" Shoutout to Slate's Dear Mother Goose: "An Advice Column for Children's Books Characters" Shoutout to Vice ft. Lola Phoenix of the Advice Column Nonmonogamy Help: "The Truth About Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships" Shoutout to Dear Wendy (Who Just Turned EIGHT!): "I'm in a Polyamorous Marriage and I'm Anxious About My Boyfriends Abusive Ex" Shoutout to Savage Love: "Where Can a Bisexual Woman Find a Bisexual Woman? Bisexual Twitter Is Here to Help!" Shoutout to Getting in Bed With Kristin: "Religion & Queerness Slowly Transitioning and a New Kitten!" Shoutout to LA Magazine: "How Heather Havrilesky Became the Advice Guru Behind 'Ask Polly'" Shoutout to Dan Savage in the New York Times: "Jeff Bezos, Please Release Your Dirty Selfies" Advice Column Alert: "How to Do It" on Slate Advice Column Alert: "Dear Talia" on Alma Advice Column Alert: "Crazy Talk" on Healthline Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt make their return with a full batch of queer queeries and are joined by special guestpert, Nicole J. Georges AKA Queer Abby! We discuss queer impostor syndrome, being closeted for fear of bigoted parents, normalizing volunteering your pronouns, and more! Queer Abby Nicole J. Georges on Twitter & Instagram Graphic Memoir: Calling Dr. Laura Podcast: Sagittarian Matters [CW: Bi-Erasure, Queer Gatekeeping until 25 minute mark] Queer Abby: "I’m A Queer Snob" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Closet Conundrum: "One Foot in the Closet" Listener Confused Queer: "Does My Bisexuality Count If I'm Not Having Same-Sex Sex?" Listener The Pestilent Drake: "Why is it so easy to tell others they're valid but feel yourself like you're an impostor in the community?" Listener The Marauding Wendigo: "Should I, a Cis-Gendered Person, Display My Pronouns In Support of the Queer Community?" Listener Angry Latin Queer: "We Had a Secret Gay Wedding Because Our Parents Are Homophobic and Now What Do We Do?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 13th, 2019, and beyond, including: BONUS: New P.O. Box! Han Malyn & Matt Albrecht P.O. Box 75532 Washington, DC 20013 [The Other] Asking For a Friend: "I Only Have Two Friends. Is There Anything Wrong With That?" Ask a Manager: "my coworker is a blood drive bully" Ask a Manager: "my office is requiring us to disclose all medications we take" Ask APW: "My Family Told Me About My Boyfriend's Proposal Surprise" Ask APW: "Who Do I Invite From A Poly Squad?" Captain Awkward: "My mom kidnapped my kid for 30 minutes. How fired is she?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Shoutout to AAFU: "I'm still in therapy. Should I be dating?" [Content Warning: sexual assault] Listener Thunder Gryff: "Should I Just Go Ahead and Disclose My CPTSD?" Listener Not a Hugger: "Question! Letting a Friend Know Their Scene is not my Scene" Listener Zaphrus Sabresong, Stalwart Mystic Update: "Is It Okay to Lie to My Grandmother About Having Reported Her to the DMV?" Reference: #85: Han and Matt Report Your Grandmother Listener Ursial the Cyclone, Prizefighter of Faerûn Has Tips for Listener Winner Winner Chicken Dinner Reference: #103: Han and Matt Pursue Their Dreams Shoutout to Buzzfeed: "Here's What It's Really Like To Be An Internet Advice Columnist" Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress: "Why won't restaurants seat incomplete parties?" Shoutout to Savage Love: "Arts Patron Seeks to Donate Dildos for Trump Massive Likeness" Advice Column Alert: "Ask Annalisa" in The Guardian Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 6th, 2019, and beyond, including: r/amitheasshole: "AITA for very rarely/almost never wanting to go to restaurants because my girlfriend makes food that's just as good, if not better, than restaurant food?" [Content Warning: cancer] Ask a Manager: "my coworkers complained that the look of my breasts post-mastectomy is making them uncomfortable" Dear Abby: "Mom Confesses To Undermining Scholar's Dream Of Art School" [Content Warning: body shaming] Damage Control: "Can I tell my overweight friend I’m worried about his health?" Listener Winner Winner Chicken Dinner: "Am I Ruining Game Night by Winning Every Game?" [Content Warning: sexual assault] Listener The Mellow Medusa: "Should I Say Something About My Friend's Husband Having Groped Me at a Party?" Listener Dabrius the Decapitator: "My Depressed Dad Keeps Withdrawing From Everyone's Lives and I Don't Know What More I Can Do" Update from Listener Hillary: "How Do You Set Yourself Up for Success When Starting a New Job?" Reference: "Opinion Overflow #33 Tips for Adjusting to a New & Functional Workplace" Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress: "My favorite restaurant won’t allow kids after 5 p.m." Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "my office mate asks me 75 questions a day — literally" Shoutout to Carolyn Hax: "Hubby’s unilateral decisions should have unilateral consequences" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt are joined by Jessica Weisberg, author of "Asking for a Friend: Three Centuries of Advice on Life, Love, Money, and Other Burning Questions from a Nation Obsessed" to discuss this amazing gift to advice column lovers plus some bonus historical moments: Jessica Weisberg "Asking for a Friend" on Amazon 10 Superb Questions on the History of Advice Columns Much love to the many listeners of ours on Facebook who helped contribute to these questions! John Dunton: "But REALLY Though, Should Women Legally Be Allowed to Use Beauty Products?" (1704) "Pray give your judgement, whether 'tis lawful for Women to use any Beautifying Washes or things of that kind to meliorate Nature, which some Persons are so very much against, and think 'em utterly unlawful?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Benjamin Franklin: "Advice to a Young Man on the Choice of a Mistress" (1745) Ann Landers: "The Great Toilet Paper Orientation Debate" (1986) r/legaladviceofftopic: "I trained an AI to generate /r/legaladvice post titles, and it asks "Is it legal for me to get in legal trouble?"" (2019) Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 23rd, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Am I Just Being Jealous?" Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: "'Confirmed bachelor' should enjoy his freedom" Miss Manners: "Two Breakfast Items? How Dare You" Social Q's: "What's Wrong With Books for Christmas?" Dear Prudence: "Help! My Mom Made an Epic Reply-All Blunder, and Oh What a Mess." SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Sad Sister: "How Can I Support My Suffering Sister?" WSJ: "How Can You Help Someone Who Is Depressed?" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Ready to give? Here's annual charity roundup" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "My Favorite Posts of 2018" Shoutout to Dear Sugars: "The Art of Giving Advice (and Saying Goodbye)" Shoutout to Sense & Sensitivity: "Mom's nipple rings embarrass daughters" Shoutout to Dear Ebun: "How Reaction GIFs Perpetuate Racial Stereotypes" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Join hosts Han and Matt and advice guest hosts Alison Green (Ask a Manager) and Jennifer Peepas (Captain Awkward) rage / reminisce about the worst advice column humans of 2018 as voted on by the listeners. SPONSOR: A Head Canon Productions Ruins Christmas (Soundcloud) A Head Canon Productions on YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Patreon Worst Coworker: "The Boss" in Ask a Manager's "My Dad Is Dating My Boss, and They Want Me to Go to Couples Therapy with Them" Dishonorable Mention: "The Coworker" in Dear Prudence's "Help! A Senior Colleague Asked Me, the Intern, to Help Translate His animated Porn." Worst Family Member: "The Father" in Dear Prudence's "My Husband Won't Stop Exposing Himself to Our Teenage Daughter" Dishonorable Mention: "The Mother" in Dear Prudence's "Help! My Daughter Got Some Quack to Diagnose Her with ADHD, but I Think She's Just Lazy." Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision." Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Worst Friend or Roommate: "The Best Friend" in Dear Prudence's "My Best Friend's Son Is Stalking My Daughter—and My Friend Calls It Puppy Love" Dishonorable Mention: "The Friend" in Listener Ludatha, the Fancy Knifer's "How Do I Confront My Friend About Her Evil Stepmother Tendencies" (Starting at 43:49) Worst of the Rest: "The Moms" in Ask Amy's "Moms say teen girls are 'asking for it'" Dishonorable Mention: "The Letter Writer" in Savage Love's "Gay Trump Voter: No One Will Fuck Me!" BONUS Good Human: "The Friend" in r/relationships' "My (26f) friend (25f) just dropped out of being a bridesmaid." Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 9th, 2018, and beyond, including: SPONSOR: A Head Canon Productions Ruins Christmas (Soundcloud) A Head Canon Productions on YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Patreon Ask a Manager: "An employee’s spouse emailed about his holiday bonus" Miss Manners: "No need to tip for a tweet" Social Q's: "If You Can’t Stop Name-Dropping, You’re Not Coming Skiing This Year" Dear Abby: "Man Retiring From The Military Deploys New Rules In Marriage" Swipe This!: "My ex is thriving on Instagram—and its making me miserable" Dear Prudence: (CW: Sexual Assualt) "Sleeping Pills and Consent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Nicole: "When Is It Appropriate to Disclose Mental Health Diagnoses With Your Boss?" Update to Listener Uldrek the Resilient: "Should My Partner and I Open Our Relationship to Date Our Best Friends (Who Are Also Partners)?" Reference: #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!) Listener The Bronze Leviathan Has Thoughts on Extramarital Affairs Reference: #97 Han and Matt Revisit Extramarital Affairs Shoutout to Ask APW: "Can I Fire My Bridesmaid for Not Making Me Hers?" Shoutout to PR Newswire: "Acclaimed 'Ask Amy' advice-columnist and author Amy Dickinson to receive 2019 Horatio Alger Award" Shoutout to Savage Love: "His brother 'stumbled over' his Tumblr sex blog and shared it with their parents." Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 2nd, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask The Salty Waitress: "How do I tell a friend to keep their kids away from my party?" Dear Prudence: "Help! A Distant Friend Asked Me to Describe My Genitals Over Text" Tough Love: "Only You Can Prevent Single-People Problems" Asking for a Friend: "Your Ex Sucks but Capitalism Sucks More" Carolyn Hax: "An abusive ex is terminally ill. Should you help with his care?" Dear Mishu: "I want to cry but no tears will come. What do I do? Rose asks Mishu answers" Doctor Who Great British Baking Show Ralph Breaks the Internet Maggie Stiefvater's "The Raven Cycle" Jhene Aiko's "Trip" Reddit Round-Up r/relationship_advice: "What do I (25 F) do about my boyfriend (28M) misusing adult diapers, which causes me humiliation?" r/legaladvice: "Neighbors stole our rock." r/relationship_advice: "I (20m) am scared of telling me parents about my older gf (43)" r/relationship_advice: "Accidentally peed on my boss’s dick" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Update from Listener Mara the Raven Mistress "How Do We Open Up Our Marriage for Casual Sex and Remain Totally Discreet About It?" from Episode 93 Feedback from Listener Hannah on Episode 97's Talk of Sick Days Shoutout to Savage Love: "I'M SICK OF THIS QUESTION" Shoutout to Dear Fifi: "Climate Change Anxiety" Shoutout to Queer Abby: "How To Handle Closed-Minded Family During the Holidays" Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "My Daughter Can't Take the Clingy Little Boy Who Says Shes His Girlfriend" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 25th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Dana: "How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Want to Marry Her, Just Now Now?" Ask a Manager: "What do I say when I’m calling in sick for a mental health day?" Miss Conduct: "My sister has become a stranger" I Know Nothing Ask Me Anything: "How do I not get caught having an affair?" Savage Love: "His Wife of Thirty Years Now Identifies as Asexual and Won't Agree to an Open Relationship" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Stormclaw the Fierce: "All of My Friends Are Flaky" Shoutout to Dear Urban Diplomat: "How do I skip my office Christmas party without looking like a total Grinch?" Shoutout to Hello Giggles: "A doctor answered every single one of our questions about IUDs so you can make an informed decision" Shoutout to Kitty Corner: "'Dear Prudence' provides an amusing snapshot of the human condition" Shoutout to AskMen: "How To Be A Better Husband" Shoutout to Ask Jareesa on APW: "How Do You Throw An Afrofuturism Wedding?" Shoutout to Social Q's: "Why Do None of These Women Care About My Opinion?" The Globe and Mail Correction Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 18th, 2018, and beyond, including: Carolyn Hax: "By using fake online profiles to dig up dirt, mother shows her true face" Dear Abby: "Women's Opposing Viewpoints Could Doom Couple's Future" Miss Conduct: "How to say 'No presents please'" Savage Love: "New Next Door Neighbors Force Woman to Watch Them Fight, Fuck, Shit, Trim Pubes" Ask a Manager: "parents in my office are sticking non-parents with all the holiday coverage" Baggage Check: "My sister-in-law won't stop trying to rope me into her cosmetics-sales scheme" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Light: Listener Machete Alice: "I'm Back! And Looking for Advice On the Upcoming Major Steps In My Life" Reference: Opinion Overflow #9: "My Boyfriend and I Are About to Move In Together And I'm Looking for Advice to Head Off Co-Habitation Troubles" Shoutout to Mother Jones: "A Question About All Those Angry Uncles" Shoutout to GQ: "This Thanksgiving Just Do The Dishes" Shoutout to Dear Prudence: "Help! I'm in a Happy Hetero Marriage but I'm Also Bisexual. Can I Stay in the Closet?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "Can I Read Erotica On Work Breaks?" Shoutout to Damage Control: "My husband’s support for Trump is poisoning our marriage. Should I get a divorce?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
In a special Thanksgiving Holiday episode, Han and Matt discuss ways to survive the holiday and seasonally-relevant questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 11th, 2018, and beyond, including: Thank you and acknowledgement that we’re entering a Problematic Time of Year Holiday Advice Letter Categories I don’t celebrate; how do I shut down people who won’t leave it alone? Extremely extra relatives Food shame Office holiday parties Trump supporting relations Worst of 2018 Year In Review (Voting runs on Facebook Fan Group from Nov 23rd to Dec 14th) || http://bit.ly/2018WorstHumans Worst Coworker || http://bit.ly/2018coworker Worst Family Member || http://bit.ly/2018familymember Worst Partner || http://bit.ly/2018worstpartner Worst Friend or Roommate || http://bit.ly/2018friendroomie Worst OTHER || http://bit.ly/2018therest Dear Prudence: "The Men Never Help With Thanksgiving Cleanup" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Fatherly Advice: "Don't Invite Your Drunk Racist Relatives to Thanksgiving" Care and Feeding: "Go to Hell Elf on a Shelf" Suggested Reading and T-Day Discussion List Miss Lonelyhearts: "Wrong name in bed more than a boo-boo" Miss Manners: "Woman's small stature subject to strangers scrutiny" Dear Abby: "Men's Group Chat Draws Fire For Sharing Explicit Photos" [UPDATE] Ask The Salty Waitress: "How can I correct a server who mispronounces a dish?" Ask a Manager: "an overly cheerful executive keeps ordering me to feel great" Slate: "Too Bad to be True" (or "Why I waste time searching for the fake questions in advice columns.") Sense & Sensitivity: "Parents think son is involved with too many women" NBC News: "Crowdsourced: A new video advice column but you're giving the advice" Fatherly: "6 Great Sex Positions For Lazy People" Captain Awkward: "The Purple Dildo of Broken Friendship" Wear Your Voice: "Why Dating For Asexual People is Unnecessarily Difficult" (Bojack Horseman Spoilers) Mental Floss: "8 Tips for Overcoming 'Reader’s Block'" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 4th, 2018, and beyond, including: SPONSOR: Sudio: Maker of high quality, stylish earbuds and headphones (use promo code "HANANDMATT" at checkout for 15% off your order!) Carolyn Hax: "Family doesn't support a single woman’s desire to adopt" Ask a Manager: "I overshared with my office about a Tinder date and it didn't work out" Dear Prudence: "Help! My Cousin Is Taking Advantage of My Mom to Get Free Child Care." [SLATE PLUS] Work Friend: "How to Ask Someone Out at Work" Sense & Sensitivity: "Parent worries son wearing nail polish is gay" Jonathan Van Ness on Instagram Travis McElroy on Twitter Miss Manners: "Next time, treat contagious clerk with compassion" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Light: "How Do I Confront My Datefriend Who Started Ghosting Me and Secretly Seeing Someone Else?" Update from Awful Anaconda on Church Abuser Reference: #82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution Shoutout to Queer Abby: "How Do I Encourage My Partner To Start Therapy?" Shoutout to the Old Debunked Myth: "Does wedding rice really hurt birds?" Smithsonian Mag: "Where Did the Fear of Poisoned Halloween Candy Come From?" Shoutout to "Dear Abby's grandson, Dean Phillips, wins seat in Congress" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "How to get through USA election night? #BELATED" Shoutout to Beast Mode: "My Cat Has an Eating Disorder. What Should I Do?" Shoutout to Dear Abby: "Dad Threatens To Disown Son If He Digs Into Family History" Shoutout to Dear Crabby: "Cheesed off after waiting 20 minutes for cheese plate" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 28th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager: "my coworker signed me up for a racist organization as a joke" Dear Prudence: "Help! My Daughter Got Some Quack to Diagnose Her With ADHD, but I Think She’s Just Lazy." Queer Abby: "My Friend Keeps Saying #NotAllMen Type Crap" Miss Lonelyhearts: "No need to stick around for annual ghost visit" College Humor: "I Hate Scary Movies" Dear Wendy: "He Says He Wants to Break Up in A Year. Should I Do it Sooner?" Carolyn Hax: "She says it hurt when I broke up with her. How crazy is that?" Dear Abby: "Tattoo Lover Gets Birthday Criticism From Grandparents" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Mara the Raven Mistress: "How Do We Open Up Our Marriage for Casual Sex and Remain Totally Discreet About It?" The Daily Dot: "5 online hookup sites that actually work" Shoutout to Sarah Cooper's New Book "How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings" Preview on Ask a Manager Shoutout to Listener Zoya Answering a Question on Ask APW Shoutout to Ask a Teacher: "Should My Son's Teacher Support His Love of Unicorns?" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Intrusive cat causes fur to fly" Atlas Obscura: "A Parthenon of Banned Books, Built at a Former Book-Burning Site" Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "When Can I Confront a Stranger Over How They Treat a Child?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 21st, 2018, and beyond, including: Carolyn Hax: "Your husband may be cranking the hostility to 11" Ask a Manager: "my employee keeps adjusting himself while were talking" Ask Dr. NerdLove: "When Do I Disclose My Mental Illness?" Ask APW: "Is The Sexism Of The Wedding Industry Mirrored In My Relationship?" A Practical Wedding: "This Is How I've Learned To Deal With Emotional Labor" Queer Abby: "I Think I'm A Lesbian But I Don't Fit The Stereotypes" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Anxious Ace Asking After Amorous Advice: "What's An Asexual Panromantic To Do?" Opinion Overflow Live! on Facebook #3 Coming soon to a Facebook Fan Page near you! Spooky Patron Names: Aephe, Gout Batty-Rage Heldraga the Undead Akinma, Burial Hell-a-Mentalist Cynthea Moth-Man-Flurry E, Eerie Sin-Sturgeon Dhergo, Sordid Strangler The "She Who Shall Not Be Named" One Taphre, Renewed Cultist Riecka the Executioner The Phantom of Milkbay Aurora, Even Darker Huntress Xantar, Feared Aero-Not-Going-With-the-Obvious-Pun Alana, Mutant Entrailblazer Dr. Wrenwood, Rabid Feminist Kavura, Killustrious Murderer Lygeia, Conniving Basilisk Tamisril, Drop Bear of The Land Down Under Zelda Ambershine, Satan's Cerberus Kahlmera, Revenant of The Milkbay DMV Silnia Fearfangs Azuriel, Golem of the Devil's Shank-Tuary Musa the "Shirt That Needs Badly Ironed" Hearted Ethemera of the Shade Massacre Lady Margella III, Ghost Commander of Davy Jones' Pirate Ship Kroval Zidarose, Unpaid Intern of Davy Jones' Pirate Ship Orlahv, Wicked Witch Kalvarin Ashmor, Hellhound Dirty Dancer Nyori the Too Familiar Spirit Feldaius, Plaguesmith of Hysteria Frights Kaimura Coldplum, Whose Crimes Will Be Named, Finally, In Alphabetical Order: Blocking the exit of the elevator at the end of the work day because you were too busy looking at your phone to notice the door had opened and this is definitely why I missed my train, Kaimura. Helping yourself to the rest of MY oat milk in the work kitchen and acting like you thought it was communal oat milk and refusing to apologize, Kaimura. Racism (probably). Repeatedly misspelling our colleague's name in a work email that the entire department could see, when the name was RIGHT THERE and is the same name it has always been, Kaimura. Taking loud and angry personal phone calls at your desk even though literally no one cares about the later-than-expected status of your Zappos order, KAIMURA. Norgowyn, Gloomsayer of The Haunted Doll Chromak, Demon of Gore-Boding Holly Hellhunter, But, Like, a Hunter From Hell and Not a Hunter of Things From Hell, Y'Know? Ludathius, 'Avatar' by M. Night Shyamalan Zephyr Dawngazer, Helper of Doppelgängers Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 14th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Abby: "Make Life Easy" (AKA The One In Which Abby Advocates White-Washing Your Future Offspring's Names) The Twitter thread that kicked off this conversation Vogue: "Actually, 'Dear Abby,' I Like My 'Foreign Name' Just Fine, Thanks" NY Times: "No 'Foreign' Names for Children, Dear Abby Advised. Furious Parents Replied." Huffington Post: "Dear Abby, Here's What It's Really Like To Have A 'Foreign' Name In America" Ask Amy: "Moms say teen girls are 'asking for it'" Ask a Manager: "how do I tell an interviewer about my hobbies when my hobbies are kind of boring?" Carolyn Hax: "Hanging the No Boys Allowed sign at a public playground" Dear Wendy: "I Got Drunk and Made Vulgar Remarks About a Coworker and Now I'm Afraid to Go Back to Work" Dear Mariella: "My boyfriend lost his virginity to a sex worker then lied about it" BONUS KNOWLEDGE: Numerous studies and analyses, though lacking in reliable population-level data due to the necessary underground nature of the work in the US, actually do put the rates of STIs anywhere between "5 to 60 times higher among sex workers [in the US] than in general populations." Meanwhile, where sex work is legal and sex workers are required to be screened for STIs quarterly, the rate of STIs is overall lower for Australian sex workers than the general population. SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Arkyn the Enduring: "Practical polyamory tips for dealing with jealousy and dating despair" Listener Dina Explains ABC in Australia Shoutout to NPR's Fresh Air: "What Would Eleanor Do? 'If You Ask Me' Revisits Roosevelt's Advice Columns" Shoutout to Allison Green on Savage Love: "Just A Cock Kraving Safety" Shoutout to Climate Advice: "I worry that climate change could bring malaria to the US Should I?" Shoutout to Beast Mode: "My Boyfriend's Cat Won't Let Me Pee in Peace" Shoutout to a Classic Miss Manners: "The Matchmaker's Blind Spot" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Personal Update" and a Plea to Vote For the love of all that is good, USE YOUR VOTE Our Patron's Names (In Talk-to-Text translator form) Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 7th, 2018, and beyond, including: SPONSOR: Sudio: Maker of high quality, stylish earbuds and headphones (use promo code "HANANDMATT" at checkout for 15% off your order!) Dear Prudence: "I Told My Partner About My Sexual Assault. He Told Me to 'Get Over It.'" Ask a Manager: "my office does Fat Friday — and I have an eating disorder" Social Q's: "Dating After #MeToo" Ask APW: "Am I Overcomplicating The Hell Out Of My Bridal Shower?" Miss Lonelyhearts: "Hubby has a sex buddy — and it's a man" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Not Really Envious: "I don't get NRE and now it's a problem" Shoutout to Washington Post: "Self-proclaimed 'Old Coots' offer life advice at farmers market. Their slogan: 'It's Probably Bad Advice, But It's Free.'" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch?" Shoutout to Savage Love: "Everything Gives You Cancer" Shoutout to Consequence of Sound: "Speedy Ortiz share new track DTMFA: Stream" Adult Swim Singles Program: "DTMFA" Listener Update from Differently Gymtimidated Reference: From Ep 89: "My Girlfriend Wants to Work Out Together; I Would Rather Keep Working Out Separately" Shoutout to ABC.net Australia: "Polyamory, unicorns, demisexuality: Five takes on monogamy and its alternatives" The "WOMP It Up!" Podcast Now Has an Advice Section at the End Brian Huskey Episode (Advice starts at 45:05) The State of the World Sugar and Charm: "Apothic Dark Sangria Recipe" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 30th, 2018, and beyond, including: BONUS: Han's Tattoo on Their Tattoo Artist's Instagram (and Han's Instagram) Listener Skyler Elmridge, Ingenious Blacksmith: "Should We Put a Spot for Pronouns On Our Wedding Place Cards?" Listener Insert Name Here: "Am I a Bad Queer?" Listener Quarrius, Nimble Geomancer: "What More Can I Do to Help My Friend Who Keeps Facing Abusive Jobs Everywhere He Goes?" Listener Aephe, Stout Battlemage: "Should I Talk to My Dad Again?" Listener Yolanda, Cynosure of the Net: "Where Do I Find My Motivation Now That I'm No Longer Being Terrorized By a Cat?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Lady Lazor, Hufflepuff: "A Question of Bodies and Their Wonderful Variety!" Learning About Disabilities and Chronic Pain A Listener on teeth brushing and chronic pain on our Facebook Group Lithub: "My Disease Is not a Metaphor" Sonya Huber's "Pain Woman and Other Essays From a Nervous System" Shoutout to my girlfriend Emile
CW: Skip to the 6:15 mark of the podcast if you want to avoid conversation about sexual assault. Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 23rd, 2018, and beyond, including: Climate Advice: "Should I tell my Republican friend that her Florida mansion is doomed by sea-level rise?" Sense & Sensitivity: "Teenage daughter apathetic about going to polls" Slate: "Help! Is My Couchsurfing Sister Using Us to Make a Fortune on Airbnb?" The Ethicist: "Should I Go to a Gender-Reveal Party?" Ask a Manager: "my boss talks to me like I'm a baby" #82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution Ask the Salty Waitress: "Should I expect the food-delivery person to schlep up my stairs?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Differently Gymtimidated: "My Girlfriend Wants to Work Out Together; I Would Rather Keep Working Out Separately" BONUS: "Opinion Overflow Live! | 02" on our Facebook Group, took place this Saturday, 9/29, at 3 PM EST Content Warning: Advice Columnists Discussing Sexual Assault This Week Baggage Check Live: "A revolving sprinkler of lies" Dear Prudence: "My Husband Won't Stop Exposing Himself to Our Teenage Daughter" Dear Wendy: "Kavanaugh Vs. Women" Carolyn Hax Live: "Rage and anguish" Friendshipping!: "Friends Push Each Other on Swing Sets" Dear Fuck-Up: "Should I apologize to the women I hurt?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 16th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence: "My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Not Trying Hard Enough to Orgasm From Vaginal Penetration Alone" Ask a Manager: "my coworker gives everyone the silent treatment for weeks" Ask Polly: "Should I Quit My Day Job to Write a Book?" Tough Love: "Help! I Hate My Girlfriend's Armpit Hair" r/relationships: "I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer but am choosing no reconstruction and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision." Erika Lust Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Help, I Have Too Many Men In My Life" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Migraineur: "How Do I Convey to My Loved Ones that My Chronic Migraines Aren't Curable?" BONUS: "Opinion Overflow Live! | 02" on our Facebook Group, taking place this Saturday, 9/29, at 3 PM EST Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 9th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager: "my office has a mandatory feelings chart" Ask a Manager: "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting" The Ethicist: "What Should I Do With Old Racist Memorabilia?" Dear Prudence: "My Boyfriend Tricked Me Into Becoming Friends With His Other Girlfriend" r/relationships: "My [41/F] husband [41M] does not brush his teeth, and I'm at my wits end." GQ: "Men, Please Brush Your Teeth" Jezebel: "Men Going to Lose All Their Damn Teeth, Probably!" Daily Mail: "Men aren't brushing their teeth every day and their wives are grossed out" Ask The Salty Waitress: "I need an exemption from this restaurant's cell-phone ban" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Colenka the Saucy Rogue: "My Friend Keeps Bringing Her Boyfriend As a Plus One When He's Not Invited and How Do I Stop This?" Shoutout to Washington Post: "Brides are too afraid of being 'bridezilla' to ask for what they want" Shoutout to Slate: "I Gave Advice on a Hugely Popular Reddit Forum for a Week. If Only People Wanted My Answers." Shoutout to TV Guide: "Facebook Watch Tries to Go Legit with Sorry for Your Loss" Shoutout to The Guardian: "Think it feels like the end of the world? Try reading a self-help column" Shoutout to Well and Good: "Miss you already Dear Sugars: 5 life-changing lessons I learned from my favorite advice podcast" Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "I'm the white parent of a biracial child. How should I deal with his potential use of the N-word?" Shoutout to Savage Love: "She Didn't Actually Cheat—Almost Did, But Didn't—But Her Husband Is Sure She Will Cheat Sometime. So Why Not Punish Her Now?" Advice Column Alert: "The Q" on Project Q Advice Column Alert: "Dearly Beloved" on INTO Keep It: "Harriet Tubman Killed the Queen Radio Star" Advice Column Alert: "The Pickle" on Slate Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 2nd, 2018, and beyond, including: BONUS: Opinion Overflow LIVE! Ask a Manager: "HR wants our personal cell numbers in our out-of-office messages so we can always be contacted" Ask a Manager: my manager shows up while I’m having chemotherapy to talk about work Ask a Manager: my boss made me leave a work note at a grave, company won’t tell us when someone is fired, and more Dear Mariella: "My boyfriend called me a slut now I dread seeing him" Julia Clare: "Straight Women Need to Unionize" Tweet Asking For a Friend: "I Want to Explore Polyamory, My Partner Doesn't. What Should I Do?" Dear Abby: "Fiancee Wants Her Intended To Halt 'boys' Club' Culture" Baggage Check: "My girlfriend complains that I am 'no fun' after losing weight" Savage Love: "I'm Turned On When I Force My Boyfriend to Eat, but Am I Forcing Him to Eat Too Much?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Zaphrus Sabersong, Stalwart Mystic: "Is It Okay to Lie to My Grandmother About Having Reported Her to the DMV?" Update to the Nameless One's Question: "On Bodies, Weddings, and Chronic Illness (The POWER TRIO) Reference: "#71: Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps" Listener Rachel the Librarian Knows a Thing or Two About Attaining US Citizenship Reference: "#82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution"; Listener Sorrowfang: "Should I Get Married Quicker Than I'm Comfortable with so My Partner Can Get a Visa?" Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "Can I ask my newly out son to be less flamboyant at school so his little brother won’t get bullied?" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "The Other Woman Wants to Be the Only Woman" Shoutout to My Kid Is Gay: "How Do I Talk About Periods with My Non-Binary Kid?" Shoutout to Miss Manners: "Public confrontations: ineffective, counterproductive" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "update: my dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples therapy with them" Advice Column Alert: "The Activist Whisperer"on Lush Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 26th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager: "our CEO challenged someone to eat dead bugs" Ask a Manager: "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting" Ask a Queer Chick: "How Do I Stop Accidentally Misgendering My Co-Worker?" Ask APW: "My Sister Just Came Out As Trans And Wants To Be My Bridesmaid" Dear Abby: "Teen's Flannel Shirts Become Focus Of Fight With Stepmom" Savage Love: "Swinger doesn't want to inadvertently fuck any Trump supporters." Captain Awkward: "Mom, you've had two weddings, let me have one!" The Ethicist: "If Two People Claim a Lost Cat Who Should Get It?" Dear Prudence: "The "Schrödinger’s Stolen Cat" Edition" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! The Raging Mist Vine: "How Can I Avoid Guys on Dating Apps Who Seem to Only Be Looking For Sex?" Anonymous Listener on Boomer Stereotyping Reference: #83: Han and Matt Commune with Miri New York Times: "Five Essential 'Dear Sugars' Episodes" (The End of Dear Sugars) New York Times: "Introducing 'Dear Sugars,' Our Radically Empathic Advice Podcast" Advice Column Alert: Dear Mishu Advice Column Alert: Sex Gets Real With Dawn Serra Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
In part 2 of 2 this week's episodes, Han and Matt continue their conversation with Miri Mogilevsky! SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Miri Mogilevsky Brute Reason: Polyamory 201: "Monogamous for the Right Person" Miri on Twitter (as Sondosia) Miri's Homepage Miri on Patreon Listener C: "I'm Moving in with All Male Roommates and Acquaintances Keep Bringing up Rape" Listener Zovoq, Lamia Ravager: "Is everyone too overwhelmed for e-mail now? (Alternate clickbait-y title: are millennials ruining communication?)" [Content Warning: Racism / 22:40 to 25:00] Listener Holly Hellhunter on Laura Ingalls Wilder Listener Krista on Last Podcast on the Left Advice Column Alert: "Ask Pajiba" on Pajiba "Your Well-Being Is More Important Than Your Mom's" Shoutout to Savage Love: "Creepy Couple Creeps Out Budding New Unicorn" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Don't go on vacation with Nazis." Shoutout to Dear Sugars: "Talking About Privilege With Catrice M. Jackson" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt are joined by fellow Know-It-All-therapist-and-blogger-and-cancer-survivor-and-fiction-writer-and-gardener-and-total-cutie Miri Mogilevsky for a 2-parter and discussed recent advice column questions as well as listener questions! SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Miri Mogilevsky Brute Reason: Polyamory 201: "Monogamous for the Right Person" Miri on Twitter (as Sondosia) Miri's Homepage Miri on Patreon Non-Monogamy Help: "Ultimatums and Polyamory" Miss Conduct: "Advice: Is it OK to publicly mock my mansplaining colleagues?" [Content Warning: Rape / 34:03 to 45:20] Dear Abby: "Man Is Unconvinced That His Girlfriend Has No Sex Drive" #48: Hannah and Matt Scrutinize Sexual Imbalances "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. Baby Boomer Memes Ask a Manager: "My coworker likes to trash-talk Millennials" To be continued on the next episode, Opinion Overflow #40! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions entirely from listeners in this special episode, including: Listener The Blissful Nether Lich: "Where Do We Draw the Line for Throwing Out the Whole Historical Figure?" New York Times: "Prestigious Laura Ingalls Wilder Award Renamed Over Racial Insensitivity" Slate: "The Far Right’s Pedophilia Smear Campaign Is Working" Ravishly: "How To Love Something And Also Hold It Accountable, From My Favorite Murder's Biggest Fan" Wil Williams on Parasocial Relationships Listener The Awful Anaconda: "I Work With a Known Predator and No One Will Kick the Motherfucker Out" New York Times: "Catholic Priests Abused 1,000 Children in Pennsylvania, Report Says" Listener Sorrowfang: "Should I Get Married Quicker Than I'm Comfortable with so My Partner Can Get a Visa?" Listener The Electric Bone Scorpion: "My Sister Won't Tell Me Whether or Not She's Coming to my Wedding" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Bronze Leviathan: "How Do I Deflect Getting Asked How Old I Am All the Dang Time?" Wedding Pronoun Advice from Lephra, Master Manipulator Reference: #81: Han and Matt Double the Fury: "How Do We Make Our Non-Binary Guests Comfortable?" Killing Kittens Business Insider: "£5 million sex party company Killing Kittens is crowdfunding, raised over £500,000" Killing Kittens Your Safe Date Shoutout to AutoStraddle: "Getting In Bed With Kristin: AMA for Everyone!" Be An Autostraddle Plus Member Advice Column Alert: "Ask a Pot Doc" on Merry Jane "Using Cannabinoids to Treat Anxiety, Pain, and Multiple Sclerosis" NPR: "A 94-Year-Old 'Sexpert' Gives India Advice On You Know What" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
When Han and Matt are away, the kitties are at play! Seven INCREDIBLE listeners banded together and recorded a parody episode of the show from the perspective of our cats, Mad-Eye Moody and Shadowcat, and the results are spot-on and utterly delightful. Here it is for all to share in our delight! Credit to: Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut Quarrius, Nimble Geomancer Maewyn the Lacerator Princess Silentstrike Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker Ezavul, Angel of Mending They even put together a Playbill with credits and cat pics! 10/10, would be parodied again.
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 29th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask APW: "How Do We Make Our Non-Binary Guests Comfortable?" Queer Eye: "Sky's the Limit" Captain Awkward: "'When I told you my marriage is over, it wasn’t an invitation for advice on how to fix it.' + Summer Pledge Drive continues" Dear Prudence: "Is This Abuse or Just Lack of Sleep?" Ask a Manager: "my coworker brings her five kids to our work meetings" Baggage Check: "How do I get my sister to stop sharing my life story on her podcast?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Talvir, Woodland Acrobat: "So, Is Gender Just a Measure of How Closely One Aligns With Gendered Stereotypes or What Exactly?" Listener Update and Question from Sonnet: "My Friend's Fiance is a Bit of a Jeffrey and I Don't Know How to Politely Explain Why I Can't Hang Out With Them Anymore" Reference: #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102: "How Much Should I Tell My Partner About My Romantic Status With My Secondary Partner?" Listener Update from Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer Reference: #73: Han and Matt Slay the Demons: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?" Listener Kavura, Illustrious Mariner: "What Are the Ethical Considerations for Donating Blood?" Red Cross: "LGBTQ Donors" Future of Personal Health: "The Far-Reaching Benefits of Donating Platelets" Shoutout to Dear Fifi: "Is my generation doomed to be miserable?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 22nd, 2018, and beyond, including: Matt Notes (Skip 5 minutes ahead if the below is not interesting to you!) Fantastical names: Are a Patron-Only perk going forward Leader Board: Will be retired on August 31st Emails: Can no longer all be responded to due to volume Asking for a Friend: "My Houseguest Was a Brocialist Jerk. How Should I Respond?" Dear Wendy: "My New Boyfriend is Mad That My Male Roommates See Me Naked" Carolyn Hax: "When a friend talks down to you, should you speak up to her?" Baggage Check: "A friendship on the critical list?" Miss Manners: "In-laws can't seem to leave the camo at home" Dear Prudence: "My Best Friend’s Son Is Stalking My Daughter—and My Friend Calls It Puppy Love" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Norgowyn, Doomsayer of The Night's Fall: "How Do I Let My Friends and Family Know That My Moving Away Has Nothing to do With Them?" Shoutout to MBMBaM 416: "How Do I Respond to People Who Ask 'Is This a Sex Thing' About my Polyamorous Relationships?" Shoutout to Dear Harriette: "I'm Tired of People Telling Me How Much Better I Look Now That I've Lost Weight" Shoutout to Vice: "Labeling People Video Game 'Addicts' Could Be a Massive Mistake" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Guest Post by Leah Chibe: Talking To Your Kids About Scary Things In The News" Hollywood: "Natalie Portman in talks to play warring twin sisters in advice columnist biopic" Advice Column Alert: "Queer Abby" on INTO Queer Abby: "Am I Bi or Pansexual?" Advice Column Alert: "Dear Pepper" on The New Yorker Dear Pepper: "A Partner’s Ex, Feeling Smothered, and Bad Feminism" Advice Column Alert: "Ask the Astro Poets" on W Magazine Ask the Astro Poets: "Am I the Only Nerdy Leo Out There?" Advice Column Alert: "Dear Graham Norton" on The Telegraph Advice Column Alert: "Hola Papi!" on Them.us Hola Papi!: "Is My Cousin a Closet Homophobe?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 15th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Do I Need To Fire My Friend?" Susan Fowler: "Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber" Refinery29: "Feminist Apparel CEO Fires Entire Staff After They Learn He's An Admitted Sexual Abuser" Daily Beast: "Ousted Billboard CEO John Amato Being Probed for Sexual Misconduct" The Cut: "Thinx Ex-Employee Accuses Miki Agrawal of Sexual Harassment" NY Mag: "Vice Media Was Built on a Bluff" Savage Love: "Her Husband Demanded a Monogamous Commitment but Describes Their Marriage As Open" Jhumpa Lahiri: A Temporary Matter (from Interpreter of Maladies) Savage Love: "Learning To Trust Again After a Monogamish Relationship Blows Up" Ask a Manager: "my child-free coworkers constantly complain about people with children" Dear Fuck-Up: "My boyfriend can't manage his 'anxiety'" Dear Abby: "Hurt Turns To Anger As Video Games Consume Boyfriend" Ask Ellie: "Video games are taking over my son's life" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Update from "When to Throw Out the Whole Sister?" Reference: When to Throw out the Whole Sister | Opinion Overflow #37 Shoutout to Baggage Check: "I'm not happy with the way I look, so please stop asking me to be in your selfies" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet" Shoutout to Y'all Need Help: "How to be More Assertive (or When to Clap Back at Men)" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "Should I organize an all-men beach weekend for my coworkers?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 8th, 2018, and beyond, including: Listener Meetup in DC Saturday, July 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM Penn Social 801 E St NW, Washington, District of Columbia 20004 Han and Matt on the Ask a Manager Podcast Ask Amy: "Family friend is shocked by woman's film career" Ask APW: "What Do You Do When Your Husband Isn't Your Biggest Fan?" Dear Dharma: "Are We Sending Mixed Messages on Equality?" Dear Abby: "Crush On Married Boss Causes Heartache Every Day For Worker" Dear Wendy: "My Boyfriend Wants to Open Our Relationship But I Don't Want To" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "#1123: Blanket statement: DONT FUCK YOUR STUDENTS" Shoutout to Carolyn Hax: "Parents offer racist undermining advice about her dream to adopt" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "should I give my boss a heads-up about my half-sleeve tattoo" Karen Glass Instagram Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Woman's #MeToo moments lead to despair" Listener Victoria Recommends Door Guardian for Home Security Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor Listener Melanie's Thoughts About Pinning Toddler's Ears Back Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor Listener Meghan Relates Strongly to the Ethicist Letter Writer from Last Episode Reference: #77: Han and Matt Agree to Disagree Listener Alexis Has Thoughts On Friend Hugging#77: Han and Matt Reference #57: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 1st, 2018, and beyond, including: Sense & Sensitivity: "A Very Talkative Friend Now Rides the Same Morning Train As Me And I Just Want My Quiet Time Back" Judge John Hodgman: "Singing Along to 'Hamilton' — at 'Hamilton'" Ask E. Jean: "How Do I Keep My Wedding Off Social Media?" Ask APW: "I Want My Friends To Be More Excited About My Polyamorous Engagement" Ask Amy: "Expectant parents want to avoid gender stereotypes" Take Gender Forward The Ethicist: "Must I Honor My Dad's Gifts to Political Groups?" Ask a Queer Chick: "Should I Shave My Legs So My Husband Is Attracted to Me?" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Mortified: "My Very Conservative Roommates Caught Me Sexting and I Don't Know What To Do" Shoutout to Savage Love: "The World Is on Fire but He Has a Question About Porn" Shoutout to Carolyn Hax: "Want to make sexism obsolete? Start with the kids." Shoutout to RadioWest: "Asking For A Friend" Shoutout to Chicago Tribune's Write-Up of the New Play About Ann Landers, 'The Lady with All the Answers' Shoutout to Social Q's: "Let’s Not Talk About That" Advice Column Alert: "Transplaining" on Mic Advice Column Alert: "Ask an Addict" "I write this column because of my shame" Advice Column Alert: "Dear Fifi" on The Daily Edge Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 17th, 2018, and beyond, including: Carolyn Hax: "You have PTSD because you were abused. Don't beat yourself up." Ask a Manager: "my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs at every meeting" Dear Fuck-Up: "How do you live when everything sucks?" Savage Love: "His Wife Has Two Boyfriends and He's Got Squat" Politico: "Young Trumpies Hit D.C." Care and Feeding: "My Kid Doesn't Want to Volunteer. Is She Hopelessly Selfish?" #FellowKnowItAll Question: What do you think? Listener Lori: "Red Cross Is Guilt Tripping Me and I May Have Crossed a Line" Shoutout to You Need Help: "You’re Not Sure If You're a Boy and Gender Is Hard" The Nib: "Am I Queer Enough?" Shout-out to Ask Amy: "Jogger wonders how to respond to street harassment" Advice Column Alert: "Advice From A Nice Girl" on Refinery29 Happy Story About Polyamorous Relationship in the News Remira, Trouble Seeker's Thought on Friends' Mental Health Reference: #73: Han and Matt Slay the Demons Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2018, and beyond, including: On Bodily Autonomy: Dear Jennifer: "My perfect girlfriend insists on getting breast implants" Sense & Sensitivity: "I'm concerned about teenage daughters posting model shots on Instagram" Ask Amy: "Girl pressed for nude photo should wear T-shirt instead" Ask Ellie: "I don't feel bad enough to end the affair I'm having" Savage Love: "Guy Alarmed, Yeah, By Younger Boyfriend's Interest" Ask a Manager: "my coworker interrupts my work to ask why I look so serious" r/relationships: "I'm [24 F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks?" Listener Apin'eht, Thorny Duelist: Sadistic Work Bully Update and How to Leave a Job Review Without Burning Bridges Reference: Opinion Overflow #24: "How Do I Deal with a Sadistic Work Bully?" Kairluma, the Wonder of Haraka: Pink Bridesmaid Wedding Dress Update Reference: #71: Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps Advice Column Alert: "Baggage Check" on Washington Post Baggage Check: "Is My Therapist Slut-Shaming Me?" Shoutout to Carolyn Hax & Ask Amy: "How to show solidarity with a recovering alcoholic" Shoutout to Is It Normal?: "My son wants to wear dresses and I'm scared for him" Shoutout to Ask Dotty: "How do I make my partner shut up while I'm watching my shows?" Social Q's Turns 10: Philip Reflects (CW: Suicide) Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 3rd, 2018, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward: "Dudebro won't stop bugging me about another dudebro. I JUST WANNA DO MY JOB." Ask APW: "What Can I Do About A Partner Who Isn't Excited To Marry Me?" Carolyn Hax: "Mocking Yourself Isn't an Invitation for Others to Pile On" Dear Fuck-Up: "I Don't Think My Friend's Chronic Illness Is Real" Washington Post: "Dangerous unproven treatments for 'chronic Lyme disease' are on the rise" Shout-Out to Ask a Manager: "My Coworkers Keep Trying to Find out What My Chronic Illness Is" Ask a Manager: "Someone Spends an Hour a Day Putting on Makeup in Our Shared Bathroom" NOTE: Content Warning (Suicide and Domestic Abuse) from 37.01 through 54.04) Listener The Anonymous One: "My Online Friend Might Need Mental Health Intervention And I Don't Know What To Do" Listener Machete Alice Has Additional Advice About Group Therapy Confidentially Breach Reference: Han and Matt Know It All - Episode 73 Listener Ila Seledria, Adrenaline Seeker: "Should I Address My Friend Who Might Be Violating Therapy Confidentiality on Social Media?" Listener Desdemona & Another Reminder That Your Partner Threatening Suicide If You Leave Them Is Unconscionable and Not Your Fault Reference: Han and Matt Know It All - Episode 73 Listener Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?" Listener Clogger Has Words and Resources for LGBTQ Survivors in Abusive Relationships LGBTQ Abusive Relationship Infographics Listener Bianca Has a Book They Recommend for Those Of Us Who Know Women in Abusive Relationships "To be an Anchor in the Storm: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women" by Susan Brewster Advice Column Alert: "Find Your Fit" on Autostraddle Read the latest "Find Your Fit" Advice Column Alert: "Tough Love" on Outside Online "When Your Dog Cramps Your, Ahem, Bedroom Activities" Shoutout to Tough Love: "What to Do When Your Husband Is More Into Gaming Than Sex" Advice Column Alert: "Ask Real Estate" on NYT "How I Answer Readers' Peskiest Apartment Questions" Shoutout to Dear Abby's $5,000 College Columnist Scholarship contest Shoutout to Asking for a Friend: "I Think My Friend Is a Jordan Peterson Fan. What Should I Do?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager, Who Is Now On BBC Radio! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 27th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Abby: "Hard Work in Gym Pays Off With Arm-Wrestling Triumph" Ask a Manager: "My Coworker Has Started Faking a British Accent" "Bust a Nut" Clip from My Brother, My Brother and Me Dear Mariella: "My Boyfriend Wants Me to See Other People for Romance and Sex" Dear Prudence: "Help! a Senior Colleague Asked Me, the Intern, to Help Translate His Animated Porn." Friendshipping!: "Please Respect My Bedtime" Listener Ila Seledria, Adrenaline Seeker: "Should I Address My Friend Who Might Be Violating Therapy Confidentiality on Social Media?" Listener Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?" Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 Correction: Lice Not a Cleanliness Issue Reference: #72: Han and Matt Air Their Grievances Head Lice Facts New Advice Column Alert: CNBC's "Work It out" Jenna Goudreau Shoutout to Ask Dr. NerdLove: "Why Shouldn't I Take The Red Pill?" Shoutout to Nicole Cliffe on Reddit Open Relationships Inevitability Nicole's Tweet Shoutout to Ask a Fuck-Up: "With Special Guest Neko Case" Vice: "Queer Women and the Rise of Passive Online Flirting" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "Can I Wear a Backpack With a Suit?" Amazon: "CoolBELL Convertible Backpack Messenger Bag Shoulder bag Laptop Case Handbag Business Briefcase Multi-functional Travel Rucksack Fits 17.3 Inch Laptop For Men/Women (Grey)" Shoutout to Captain Awkward #ThatFuckingGuy on Twitter Captain Awkward's Tweet Captain Awkward's Patreon Ask Dr. NerdLove's Patreon Buffering the Vampire Slayer Patreon Shoutout to Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut's Adorable Cat Thread on Facebook Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
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