Podcast appearances and mentions of john paul brammer

John Paul Brammer is an author, artist, and writer of the popular advice column, ¡Hola Papi!. He joins us on the pod to discuss midwest debauchery, advice on giving advice, high-profile penguins, his top 5 birds, why Bluesky is “giving gas leak,” standing behind something you 100% do not believe in, house parties, and much more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you listen to Fixable, then maybe you've sometime wished someone would just help you figure out your life. John Paul Brammer's job is to do exactly that – he's the writer behind the hit advice column Hola Papi. Today, in an episode from another podcast in the TED Audio Collective, How to Be a Better Human, John talks about how he's helped all kinds of people on topics big and small. John reveals what constitutes good advice, why a lot of problems have similar solutions, and shares what we can do to get ourselves out of our trickiest situations.How to Be A Better Human isn't your average self improvement podcast. Each week join comedian Chris Duffy in conversation with guests and past TED speakers as they uncover sharp insights and give clear takeaways on new ways to improve ourselves -- and show up for one another.  Get more How to Be A Better Human wherever you get your podcasts.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts     Fixable will be back soon with more episodes!

Have you ever wished someone would just help you figure out your life? John Paul Brammer's job is to do exactly that – he's the writer behind the hit advice column Hola Papi. John has helped all kinds of people on topics as niche as figuring out what to do when your boyfriend pretends to be Latino to as common as answering the age-old question of how to make friends as an adult. John reveals what constitutes good advice, why a lot of problems have similar solutions, and shares what we can do to get ourselves out of our trickiest situations.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts     

John Paul Brammer writes the “¡Hola Papi!” advice column for The Cut at New York magazine, answering questions like, “Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I'm a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has given John Paul an intimate connection with his readers. However, as today's episode reveals, he doesn't think we necessarily need that level of openness with all of our loved ones.Ahead of Mother's Day, Brammer reads an essay about a recent college graduate who sets out to spend the summer exploring his sexuality, but whose plans are derailed by his duty to his grandmother. It's called “Young, Gay and Single Among the Nuns and Widows” by Kevin Hershey. Brammer says it's “bizarre” how much this essay resonates with his own life.

Brea and Mallory recommend beach reads, solve a book tech problem about sharing ebooks, and discuss the best way to read book translations from different translators. Email us at readingglassespodcast at gmail dot com!Reading Glasses MerchRecommendations StoreSponsors -GreenChefwww.greenchef.com/GLASSES50Code: GLASSES50Pair Eyewearwww.paireyewear.com/GLASSES Links -Reading Glasses Facebook GroupReading Glasses Goodreads GroupAmazon Wish ListNewsletterLibro.fmMallory's Book Event in NYCTo join our Slack channel, email us proof of your Reading-Glasses-supporting Maximum Fun membership!Books Mentioned - Better Living Through Birding by Christian CooperThe God of Endings by Jacqueline HollandStone Cold Fox by Rachel Koller CroftLocal Girls by Caroline ZancanMalibu Rising by Taylor Jenkins ReidHighly Suspicious and Unfairly Cute by Talia HibbertMaking a Scene by Constance WuLucky Us by Amy BloomThe House Across the Lake by Riley SagerThe Blue Girl by Laurie FoosBlack Cake by Charmaine WilkersonHola Papi by John Paul Brammer

This Lady Gaga episode is one for the Like A Virgin history books. RIP Lina Morgana. Plus, last week's AJLT, The Bear and the latest Indiana Jones. And a clip from this week's Patreon, the full recording from Fran & Rose's live show in New York featuring Honey Pluton, John Paul Brammer, Raquel Willis, Chani Nicholas and Joel Kim Booster. Subscribe to listen to the full show. Shop our summer merch line. Are you a Little Monster? Tag our finsta @likeavirgin42069See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this episode of the Dance Cry Dance Break, we open with “Hello, Handsome,” an original story by ¡Hola Papi! columnist and author John Paul Brammer followed by the exclusive premiere of please don't let me be, the deluxe edition of the album from eighteen-year-old producer and songwriter Sarabean.Eighteen-year-old singer/songwriter, producer Sarah Holland has been releasing music as Sarabean from her Florida bedroom since 2019 and recently relocated to Portland, Oregon. Her stunning, full-length debut album, “please don't let me be”, blends dreamy synths and warm acoustic guitars with blunt, confessional lyrics and breathtakingly intimate vocals.Bandcamp Spotify Instagram John Paul Brammer grew up in rural Oklahoma with aspirations of writing and making art. He started his path in journalism writing for The Guardian, NBC News, and Teen Vogue, then moved to Condé Nast as a writer while running his popular LGBTQ and Latino advice column, ¡Hola Papi!. From there, he worked with the Trevor Project to consult on their editorial content. He currently self-publishes his column at Substack and has a memoir of the same name published under Simon & Schuster's flagship imprint in June of 2021. He writes and illustrates for outlets like The Washington Post, Guernica, Catapult, and many more. He's also presently working with Netflix on The Most, a small team that creates content, consults on projects, and builds community based on the company's LGBTQ material.Book Twitter Instagram WebsiteHey, Handsomeby John Paul BrammerIt's been over a day since I've asked Peter if he was free on Thursday. This is nothing new for us. I didn't consider the text to be risky when I sent it. We do this at least once a month. One of us will ask what the other's week looks like, and we'll figure out a time to get together, always at my place. It takes some planning as he lives uptown and I live in Brooklyn. This feels farther than it is. I don't consider our meeting up a routine. Although there's a rhythm to it, it nonetheless always feels like a spontaneous and welcome thing. Each month one of us happily remembers the other. Dealing with men, loving men, being attracted to men—however you want to say it, it has its lessons. The lessons are often silly, sideways things. They are intuited over time rather than set in stone, and so they're difficult to articulate. Setting anything in stone with men is nigh impossible anyway. One of these lessons is how to divine meaning out of silence, how to measure quiet in emotional cubits. Thirty minutes, he's busy. A few hours, maybe something came up. A day, uh oh. I wake up, eat breakfast, start work, and at some undetermined point I pass the threshold into unreasonable territory where it's unlikely that Peter simply hasn't seen the text. Another lesson when it comes to men—it's never the convenient excuse, the one you're rooting for. It's always the unwanted, the banal, the thing you hope it's not. Work. Eat again. Sleep. Now comes either the long nothing, or the dreaded formality of a follow-up, the explanation as to why business as usual can no longer be conducted. The follow-ups have become more common in my experience. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older and people feel the need to be more mature about things, or because it's a trend on social media to practice a sort of bureaucratic honesty with your flings or lovers or whatever you want to call them. I can't decide if I like it more or less than being quietly disposed of. In my more cynical moments, I like it less. It smacks of self-satisfaction. I am emotionally mature for this. Yet another lesson in dealing with men, though. You don't usually get what you like. “Hey, handsome,” the text begins. I've noticed this, too. The measuring out of salt and sugar, the affirmation up top followed by the heart of the matter. “So, I've started seeing someone…” I lightly skim the rest. I already know my role in this exchange, and I'm fine with playing it. It's good that Pete found someone. We weren't going anywhere. If things had worked out, we would have ordered Italian to my place and poured two glasses of wine. We would have started watching a movie before leaving our clothes puddled on my bedroom floor. We would have enjoyed it, and maybe he would have spent the night, as he sometimes did. If he did, he would have kissed me in the blurry morning before heading to the train. We wouldn't have seen each other for a while after that. That's hardly a steady relationship. I have no right to be upset. So I'm not. Or at least I give no indication that I am, and I am resolute inside myself. You have no right. It's not that I harbor some secret love for Peter, some hope, however dim, that we would end up together. That's not what I want, in truth. But the truth that crests like a strange fish is hard to name, is mostly obscured underwater. Why be hurt? Peter with his shoulder-length hair and the tattoo on his thigh, with his odd jobs and his reluctant laugh like he's doing something wrong. I like these things. Maybe the hurt is because they're suddenly gone. It's change, and change is frightening. It's change of a sort that locks us out of self-pity. Entirely expected, and indeed, what you signed up for. The heart hooks onto little things like this. It hurts as they are tugged and pulled away. Or. There's something to be said about the people who don't owe you any great emotional responsibility, and yet show up regardless. Everyone wants their soulmate, but the idea is one of two people who prioritize each other, make each other the whole world. There's something to be said about the other types of affection. The people who show up at your door because they enjoy you, because they're attracted to you, because they find you altogether hard to resist on a lonely Thursday. The pleasure in these casual dynamics isn't just from another person wanting you. It's that it allows you to see yourself in a certain way; as desirable, as a person with a certain gravity. You're here because you want me. It's a flattering mirror. It makes sense that we would seek out reflections like these, and that it would sting when one is taken away. Or. Our appetites make strange beasts of us all. Wants are hard to name, hard to examine, almost impossible to trace to their source. Sex with Peter. Sleeping with Peter in my arms. Kissing goodbye. Getting the occasional text, How's it going? Feeling wanted by Peter, imagining how he must see me, and how it must be better than how I see me for him to have gone so far out of his way, all the way from uptown. It was a little joke that I'd bring him something back from Mexico. But I did, a small ceramic painted skull. It cost a few coins and was wrapped in a sheet of newspaper. I forgot to give it to him the last time he was here, despite it being right there on the table where we ate. It's still there. A tiny, laughing skull. A little joke. It's hard to be honest about intimacy. It's embarrassing the way it makes you a child again, the way it feels, every single time, like you ought to have known better, that you ought to have seen it coming. That's probably why we don't talk about it much, or why we pretend intimacies are easily arranged into good and bad, mistakes and successes, the important ones and the unimportant ones. It's harder to accept that, in their own way, they're all important. They all matter.The dull ache annoys me. I almost wish it would rise to the occasion of heartache. But it can't, so it doesn't. “Totally understand,” I say back.The Dance Cry Dance Break is written and produced by Natalie Bayne and recorded and edited by Moe Provencher. Our stories are edited by Timaree Marston.Theme music is Red Lines, by Tiny Tiny. Today's story was voiced by Kevin Murray.Dance Cry Dance is an arts collective in Seattle, WA. Paid subscriptions support our artists and writers. To hear the extended version of this episode featuring an interview conversation between John Paul and Sarah, subscribe to Dance Cry Dance + at Apple Podcasts. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit break.dancecrydance.com

Did you know that a votive candle is one of those short, squat candles that people use for prayer or, like, to put on their outside stairs when they're hosting a fancy party? I did not. But “votive” is the word I blurted out when Cheryl Strayed was trying to describe the type of tall candle she lit as a way to psychically summon Reese Witherspoon. A decade ago, Strayed was waiting to hear whether or not the actor was interested in taking the lead role in the movie adaptation of Wild, her best-selling 2012 memoir. So she lit the big candle (maybe it was a pillar or a taper, now that I google it) and every time she walked by it, she whispered “Reese… Reese.” It worked! Witherspoon indeed took the role, the movie was a hit, and the two became great friends. Strayed is super-famous because of Wild, which is the same reason Oprah loves her, but she's also beloved for her advice column, Dear Sugar, which she started writing at The Rumpus around the time that Wild was about to blow up. She wrote it anonymously at first, and for no pay. She just fell in love with the idea of turning an advice column into a forum for literary essays about life. She had ample material to draw on: an impoverished childhood in rural Minnesota; a much-loved mother who passed away when Strayed was 22; a downward spiral that ensued and involved a lot of sex and heroin; and a life-changing, soul-finding, shoe-destroying solo trek along the Pacific Crest Trail. A couple weeks ago, I met Strayed in Portland, Oregon, where it was raining for the first time in several months, and we talked about how she still feels abject terror when faced with a blank page, how if she goes to the Oscars again, she'll wear Dr. Martens, and about some mountain-themed advice George Saunders gave her about finding her own way forward as a writer. “I really believe story is essential to us,” Cheryl told me, lighting a candle for all who believe in the power of writing, “and we need it individually, collectively; we need those stories to tell us who we are, to show us who we can be.”https://cherylstrayed.substack.com/Cheryl's recommended read:Oldster by Sari Botton:[Sari] has this wonderful take on aging. And what I love about her focus is she always says, “Oldster is not for people who are getting older.” The whole idea of aging at whatever age you are—when you're 12, you're aging. We use that word to only mean old people, but really it's about what does this experience of aging teach us? What do we learn from being 22 and 42 and 72 and 102? And people write about that and they answer this questionnaire. And it's always very inspiring and interesting to read. I love that.Show notesCheryl Strayed's Dear SugarFind Cheryl on Twitter and her personal websiteWild by Cheryl Strayed (paperback)[01:46] Her mother being portrayed by Laura Dern in Wild[05:56] Losing someone close to you[10:58] Working with Reese Witherspoon[16:21] Finally finding financial freedom[20:08] Having “How did I get here?” moments[21:20] Falling in love with words[23:00] Murder on my feet[24:00] Dear Sugar in The Rumpus[26:47] Taking over the Dear Sugar column[30:09] Early writing on the internet[31:20] The power of story[35:25] Social media as a gift for writers[40:40] Restarting Dear Sugar as a Substack [45:00] Keep Walking, by Cheryl Strayed, a scene cut from Wild [48:20] Advice from George Saunders [52:25] Going into the cave, as a writer[53:35] Oldster by Sari Botton[54:33] Advice writers Cheryl recommends: Ask E. Jean by E. Jean Carroll, ¡Hola Papi! by John Paul Brammer, and Ask Polly by Heather Havrilesky.[55:04] Other Substacks Cheryl loves: Craft Talk by Jami Attenberg, Story Club by George Saunders, Your Local Epidemiologist by Katelyn Jetelina, Austin Kleon's newsletter, and The Audacity by Roxane Gay.The Active Voice is a podcast hosted by Hamish McKenzie, featuring weekly conversations with writers about how the internet is affecting the way they live and write. It is produced by Hanne Winarsky, with audio engineering by Seven Morris, content production by Hannah Ray, and production support from Bailey Richardson. All artwork is by Joro Chen, and music is by Phelps & Munro. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit read.substack.com

Cohosts Amber, Ashley, and Lisa discuss ¡Hola Papi!: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons by John Paul Brammer, a collection of essays based on his popular column. Topics discussed include the value of relationships, the confusing nature of early queer friendships, and using reflections on the past to heal. If you're interested in reading ¡Hola Papi! after listening to this episode, consider borrowing it from your local library or purchasing it from an independent bookstore! Public library locator (USA): https://bit.ly/3FudXPV Independent bookstores (USA and Canada): https://bit.ly/3FifJ6u

Julian is having the best day of his life – and he wants to share it with his abuelo. But he isn't quite sure if he can or where to even begin. This episode was written by John Paul Brammer and stars the following people in order of appearance: Sebastian Alexander Gonzales (Julian Navarette), Gilbert Aguirre (Chuy), Jillian Mercado (Irma), Eden Espinosa (Gloria Navarette), and Rafael Sigler (Ernesto Navarette). Love in Gravity is presented by ViiV Healthcare. The show is produced by Harley & Co. and directed by Zhailon Levingston. Casting by Victor Vazquez with consultation by Carla Hool. Music supervision by Javier Nuño and Joe Rodríguez. Theme music by (Me llamo) Sebastián.

Brea and Mallory talk about how to preserve your print books and eReaders, review some cute bookmarks, and recommend books with bisexual protagonists. Email us at readingglassespodcast at gmail dot com!Reading Glasses MerchRecommendations StoreSponsors -GreenChefwww.greenchef.com/GLASSES130Code: GLASSES130Dipseawww.dipseastories.com/GLASSES Links -Reading Glasses Facebook GroupReading Glasses Goodreads GroupAmazon Wish ListNewsletterLibro.fmMallory's UK Tour!Sprout BookmarksBooks Mentioned - You Made a Fool of Death With Your Beauty by Akwaeke EmeziHawk Mountain by Connor HabibHola Papi by John Paul Brammer

Debut novelist Kasim Ali goes head to head with author and teacher Okechukwu Nzelu in a war of the words... They discuss their publishing journeys, how they approach rejection, "messy" romcoms, queerness and the joy in "simple writing". They also recommend us some books they have read and loved recently - and give us some tips for getting books back from friends you've loaned them to!In the Book Off, they pit "The Incarnations" by Susan Barker against John Paul Brammer's "Hola Papi" - but which one will win? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Next week, Tuesday March 15, 2022—exclusively for subscribers of The Break—the world premiere of please don't let me be, the new album from 17-year-old producer/songwriter Sarabean. This special release includes a story by ¡Hola Papi!'s John Paul Brammer, an intimate conversation between artist and writer, and three bonus album tracks that will not be available to the public until March, 2023 . Hear the first single from the album below. And, subscribe to hear the full album next week!Dance Cry Dance is a collective record label in Seattle, WA. Paid subscriptions support our artists and writers. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit break.dancecrydance.com/subscribe

The prolonged stress, uncertainty and grief of the pandemic is making people angry — and some of them are taking it out in public. A poll conducted by Monmouth University found that 41 percent of adults said the upheaval caused by the pandemic has made them angry. And that has caused people to have outbursts in grocery stores, on airplanes and other public places.  Anger is a normal and natural emotion, according to mental health experts, and it's a response to the frustration, grief and fear that the pandemic has caused. But when anger is uncontrolled, it can lead to physical health problems, relationship issues and can be harmful to others.  MPR News host Angela Davis talks about the increase in pandemic bad behavior with a New York Times journalist. And she talks about the causes of our anger and how to better manage it with a psychologist and an advice columnist. Guests:  Sarah Lyall is a writer-at-large at the New York Times. She recently wrote an article about pandemic anger called “A Nation on Hold Wants to Speak With a Manager.”  Dave Decker is a psychologist in St. Paul who specializes in anger management. John Paul Brammer is the author of the advice column ¡Hola Papi! Subscribe to the MPR News with Angela Davis podcast on: Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or RSS.

For John Paul Brammer, there is no one right way to be yourself. Growing up in the South, he lived the complexities of being Mexican American in a society that wanted him to choose one culture over the other. In this episode of “In the Deep: Stories that Shape Us,” we hear how John Paul rejects this idea and proves that identity is less tethered to borders and stigmas, and instead focuses on the premise that people should be free to be themselves. As an author, editor and journalist, John Paul stresses the importance of building safe spaces that take the best parts of ourselves and multilayered experiences - creating an identity that leaves pain behind and instead, fosters health and healing.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSupport the show: https://www.steveharveyfm.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For John Paul Brammer, there is no one right way to be yourself. Growing up in the South, he lived the complexities of being Mexican American in a society that wanted him to choose one culture over the other. In this episode of “In the Deep: Stories that Shape Us,” we hear how John Paul rejects this idea and proves that identity is less tethered to borders and stigmas, and instead focuses on the premise that people should be free to be themselves. As an author, editor and journalist, John Paul stresses the importance of building safe spaces that take the best parts of ourselves and multilayered experiences - creating an identity that leaves pain behind and instead, fosters health and healing.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I'm chatting with writers Alexander Chee, John Paul Brammer, and Mitchell Kuga about queer culture and family dynamics, finding your voice, and advice–as a concept, for our younger selves, and for each other. YOU ARE HERE (FOR NOW) is a series of conversations with some of my favorite people about being alive: navigating change, personal transformation, love, fear, and figuring it all out on the way. My new book You Are Here (For Now): A Guide to Finding Your Way is available now. Follow this episode's guests at @AlexanderChee, @JPBrammer, @MitchellKuga, and @AdamJK.

The FDA and CDC are expected to soon green-light the use of Pfizer's coronavirus vaccine for kids ages 5 to 11. California says it'll be ready with more than 1 million doses when that happens. “The part that the parents really need to realize is that your child might be one of the lucky ones who are asymptomatic,” says Dr. Katherine Williamson from Children's Hospital of OC. “But as a pediatrician, I've seen so many kids who have had serious disease, and there are many children who have died from the COVID virus. It is time to protect them. And I tell parents — it's just not worth the risk.” Meanwhile, President Biden left for Europe today to attend the United Nations Climate Change Conference of the Parties (COP26) in Glasgow next week. But his climate agenda is on the line as Senate Democrats scramble to agree on a major social spending package. DC Comics recently revealed a plot twist for its new Superman comic books: He's bisexual. Many fans have said a leading queer character is a welcome and long-overdue addition. But columnist John Paul Brammer says it's strange that Superman was straight in the first place. 

Our guest is the Oklahoma-born, New York-based author and artist, John Paul Brammer. His new memoir, "¡Hola Papi!," is just being published. The book is an autobiograhical extension of his popular LGBTQIA advice column of the same title, which began in 2017. On Monday the 4th, Oklahomans for Equality will present "An Evening with John Paul Brammer" at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center in downtown Tulsa, beginning at 7pm. This free event is being offered as part of OKEQ's annual celebration of Hispanic/Latinx Heritage Month. (There is no charge for the event, but "reserved tickets" are required. For tickets and more information, please see this link.)

Our guest is the Oklahoma-born, New York-based author and artist, John Paul Brammer. His new memoir, "¡Hola Papi!," is just being published. The book is an autobiograhical extension of his popular LGBTQIA advice column of the same title, which began in 2017. On Monday the 4th, Oklahomans for Equality will present "An Evening with John Paul Brammer" at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center in downtown Tulsa, beginning at 7pm. This free event is being offered as part of OKEQ's annual celebration of Hispanic/Latinx Heritage Month. (There is no charge for the event, but "reserved tickets" are required. For tickets and more information, please see this link .)

Meredith talks to fellow advice columnist John Paul Brammer on the occasion of his new book, “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons.” Email us at loveletters@boston.com.

We recently asked you to tell us about the decisions you're struggling to make right now. There have been so many choices to make and risks to weigh lately, and after almost 18 months into this pandemic, many of us are feeling decision fatigue. So we decided to put your decisions to a panel of friends and experts: author and Emory University professor Tayari Jones, writer and ¡Hola Papi! columnist John Paul Brammer, and Tara Ilsley, a public health worker at Duke University Hospital in Durham, North Carolina. They shared their advice for listeners weighing big moves, going back to school, caretaking, and more.

The best advice must be utterly sincere, but it doesn't hurt to add some humor to the mix. John Paul Brammer is an author, illustrator and advice columnist of “¡Hola Papi!” on Substack. He joins host Krys Boyd to discuss being gay, bi-racial, finding his footing with family and relationships, and all the wisdom he's tried to impart to eager followers of his work. His new book is “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons.”

There are plenty of dating apps out there these days, but just because they exist, doesn't mean trying to find a connection with someone online is easy or without stress. In this episode, author and advice columnist John Paul Brammer and certified dating coach Damona Hoffman offer tips to make the experience less anxiety-inducing, whether you're looking for a long-term relationship or just looking to date casually.

Jeff & Will continue their look at books coming out this month, including titles by Becca Seymour, Avril Ashton, V.L. Locey, Skye R. Richmond, L.A. Witt, Genevive Chamblee, and EM Lindsey. They also review the Audible Original queer heist story "Hot White Heist" by Adam Goldman, the memoir "Hola Papi!" by John Paul Brammer, the friends-to-lovers romance "Learned Reactions" by Jayce Ellis, and the classic YA story "Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe" by Benjamin Alire Sáenz. Complete shownotes for episode 327 along with a transcript of the show are at BigGayFictionPodcast.com. Big Gay Fiction Podcast is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. Find many more outstanding podcasts at frolic.media/podcasts!

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Kathleen McLaughlin is a science and labor reporter based in Butte, Montana, whose work has been regularly featured in the Washington Post and The Guardian; she was also the Beijing correspondent for Science Magazine. Her work has spanned fashion, pharmaceuticals, electronics manufacturers, and medicine. She's also an alumni of the MIT Knight Science journalism fellowship. Her forthcoming book is Blood Money, a multinational investigation into the vast market for human blood plasma and its sociopolitical implications. Kathleen and Washington, D.C., NüVoices chapter member Rui Zhong examined the state of science reporting in China in reference to current lab theories of the origins of COVID-19. The current discussions can be couched in both the government's handling of HIV and AIDS and the recent CRISPR scientist controversy.Recommendations: Kathleen: How the Word Is Passed: A Reckoning with the History of Slavery Across America, by Clint Smith.Rui: Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons, by John Paul Brammer.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

El último episodio de la serie de Libros LGBTQ+ (pero no el último libro lgbtq+ que voy a leer!)... En esta ocasión, hago el review de 3 libros: Un tío gay se queda inesperadamente a cargo de sus dos sobrinos, debido a que su madre falleció y su papá entró a rehabilitación por alcoholismo en "The Guncle". Los ensayos de John Paul Brammer, quien es el responsable de la columna Hola Papi en Grindr, cuenta diversos aspectos relacionados a su identidad como homosexual y como latino en "Hola Papi: How to come out in a Wal-Mart parking lot and other life lessons". Y por último, Vincent, un chico de 16 años en Francia durante la Primera Guerra Mundial, tiene su despertad sexual y su "coming of age" impactado por su relación con dos personajes: un joven soldado de la guerra que se convierte en su relación afectivo-sexual, y un escritor de 40 años que disfruta de su compañía y amistad. Espero les guste!

John Paul Brammer, the self-described “Chicano Carrie Bradshaw,” writes the popular column, ¡Hola Papi!, which he started in 2017 when dating app Grindr launched LGBTQ site INTO and needed steady content. He soon realized he had tapped into a trove of unmet demand for gay dating advice. Brammer, who grew up in rural Oklahoma, has written for various publications including The Guardian, Teen Vogue, The Trevor Project, Condé Nast, and Netflix and now publishes ¡Hola Papi! on Substack. He joins us to talk about his new memoir, “¡Hola Papi!: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons,” which explores coming of age, coming out and finding love through essays based on his column.

This week Annie recaps her June reads. The books mentioned in this week's episode can be purchased from The Bookshelf: The Wreckage of My Presence by Casey Wilson (listed on Libro.fm) The Royals Next Door by Karina Halle Beautiful World, Where Are You? by Sally Rooney Friends Like These by Kimberly McCreight Sense & Sensibility by Jane Austen Cheat Day by Liv Stratman Finlay Donovan Is Killing It by Elle Cosimano The Layover by Lacie Waldon Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir Harlem Shuffle by Colson Whitehead From the Front Porch is a weekly podcast production of The Bookshelf, an independent bookstore in South Georgia. You can follow The Bookshelf's daily happenings on Instagram at @bookshelftville, and all the books from today's episode can be purchased online through our store website, www.bookshelfthomasville.com.  A full transcript of today's episode can be found here. Special thanks to Dylan and his team at Studio D Production for sound and editing and for our theme music, which sets the perfect warm and friendly tone for our Thursday conversations.  This week, Annie is reading Hola Papi by John Paul Brammer. Thank you again to this week's sponsor, Visit Thomasville. Whether you live close by or are passing through, I hope you'll visit beautiful Thomasville, Georgia: www.thomasvillega.com. If you liked what you heard on today's episode, tell us by leaving a review on iTunes. Or, if you're so inclined, support us on Patreon, where you can hear our staff's weekly New Release Tuesday conversations, read full book reviews in our monthly Shelf Life newsletter, follow along as Hunter and I conquer a classic, and receive free media mail shipping on all your online book orders. Just go to patreon.com/fromthefrontporch. We're so grateful for you, and we look forward to meeting back here next week.

This month Ryan (she/her), Hillary (she/her), and Jo (they/them) are recommending the latest and greatest in LGBTQIA+ reads! Click the link to purchase the book from our store, or click the (audiobook) link to get the audiobook on Libro.fm. Thank you for shopping local! Books Mentioned During This Episode RECENT READS Hillary, https://www.gibsonsbookstore.com/hillary The Storm is Upon Us by Mike Rothchild (audiobook)  Last Best Hope by George Packer (audiobook) The Unwinding (audiobook) LGBTQIA+ Recommendations Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing by Lauren Hough (audiobook) Hola Papi by John Paul Brammer (audiobook) Dear Senthuran by Akwaeke Emezi (audiobook) Ryan, https://www.gibsonsbookstore.com/ryan-elizabeth-clark Survive the Night by Riley Sager (audiobook) Final Girls (audiobook) Home Before Dark (audiobook) Beach Read by Emily Henry (audiobook) People We Meet on Vacation (audiobook) The Love that Split the World (out of print) The Betrayals by Bridget Collins (audiobook) The Binding (audiobook) LGBTQIA+ Recommendations One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston (audiobook) Welcome to Night Vale by Joseph Fink and Jeffrey Cranor (audiobook) Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Saenz (audiobook) Aristotle and Dante Dive into the Waters of the World (October 12, 2021)(audiobook) Magic For Liars by Sarah Gailey (audiobook) Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell (audiobook) The Chosen and the Beautiful by Nghi Vo (audiobook) Plain Bad Heroines by Emily M. Danforth (audiobook) Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir (audiobook) The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune (audiobook) The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V.E. Schwab (audiobook) Frankissstein by Jeanette Winterson (audiobook) Jo, https://www.gibsonsbookstore.com/jo The Queer Principles of Kit Webb by Cat Sebastian (audiobook) Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas (audiobook) The Box in the Woods by Maureen Johnson (audiobook) Truly Devious (audiobook) LGBTQIA+ Recommendations (Check this link often, Jo will keep updating it!) Filthy Animals by Brandon Taylor (audiobook) Real Life (audiobook) She Who Became the Sun by Shelley Parker-Chan (July 20, 2021) (audiobook) A Marvellous Light by Freya Marske (November 2, 2021) (audiobook) (Indie Bookstore Day Virtual Cocktail Hour Recording) How Much of these Hills is Gold by C Pam Zhang (audiobook) The Prophets by Robert Jones, Jr. (audiobook) OTHER LINKS Celebrate Pride with Libro.fm!  Shop The Laydown Gibson's Bookstore Website Purchase Gift Certificates!  Browse our Website by Category! Donate to the Bookstore! Check out our Events Calendar! Gibson's Instagram The Laydown Instagram Facebook Twitter TikTok Libro.fm (Our Audiobook Platform) Use the code LAYDOWN for 3 audiobooks for the price of 1!  Email us at thelaydownpodcast@gmail.com

Tuck chats with John Paul Brammer, author of ¡Hola Papi!, in the second half of this special two-part queer advice episode. Topics include: Combating identity imposter syndrome (“am I queer enough?”) Not being wholesome enough for Pet Twitter The tyranny of authenticity Why it's perfectly fine to experience joy right now Plus: Where does the wind come from? Dear Evan Hanson isn't gay? Why can't we escape Twitter? And why has no one ever been in love with me? If you want to avoid suicidality talk, skip 21:00-23:30. Buy ¡Hola Papi! wherever books are sold (lol) and subscribe to the ¡Hola Papi! Substack (I do!). Find JP's art and merch at holapapishop.com. John Paul is trapped on Twitter @jpbrammer. We're also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and our FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. Do you have gender-related questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Julia Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Bistitchual!   

We have a special show!  Lesbian country Singer Brooke Eden stops by to chat about her song Sunroof and experiencing her first Pride. Also, John Paul Brammer aka JP, gay advice columnist - Hola Papi! joins us to share details about his new book. Plus, we bring you the latest trending news stories of the day, and more!  Let' go there! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

John Paul Brammer isn't your typical advice columnist. As Hola Papi, he answers questions like "is space gay?" and "I saw my manager on Grindr, do I say something?" But what started out as a spoof became a source of joy, comfort, and commiseration for so many. The Cut's Jazmín Aguilera sits down with John Paul Brammer to discuss the powerful nature of advice and who, if anyone, is qualified to give it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's wrong with me??! The queer community's favorite advice columnist, John Paul Brammer joins us to talk about his new essay collection, Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and produced by The Advocate magazine, in partnership with GLAAD. To join our newsletter, go to lgbtqpodcast.com

John Paul Brammer, advice columnist and author "Hola Papi: How To Come Out In A Walmart Parking Lot And Other Life Lessons," discussed coming to terms with your past and how to make a match on dating apps - even if you HATE them.. Dating Dish Headlines: Is it healthy to have a celebrity crush and a new app that matches users with memes. John Paul joins in for Dear Damona: How to find love in your city when you feel like a fish out of water and what's the deal with one-sided conversations? Happy Pride Month Lovers! Here we're all about celebrating equality in love for everyone all day every day but especially today we're giving a shout-out to our queer family who live their truth on the quest for their most authentic love. Get JP's Book at damonahoffman.com/contentclub and make sure to follow him on all the socials @jpbrammer! textnow.com/goyn Dates & Mates is sponsored by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today: You can keep your main number private You can separate your personal and dating contacts Plus, It's easy to use and FREE. We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goyn   Sponsors: betterhelp.com/datesandmates Get Better Help: real therapy, convenient and affordable. Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. BetterHelp.com/datesandmates Download OkCupid today! OkCupid is FAMOUS for matching people on what MATTERS MOST to them, from food to the type of relationship they want...to politics. They ask you really thoughtful and provoking questions to get to the heart of who you are and what type of person you're looking for. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To answer the question of many a comedy-club promoter in Times Square: Yes, we do love to laugh. And one sure-fire way to get us howling is reading anything written by R. Eric Thomas—or chatting with the man himself, turns out. But up first: some toddler funny business.   A few toddler-relevant pieces of content: Bunheads by Misty Copeland, PBS’s Remarkable Rabbits, and No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson.   Please consume all the R. Eric Thomas you can! His memoir Here for It and the book he co-authored with Helena Andrews-Dyer about Maxine Waters, Reclaiming Her Time! His wonderful newsletter! All the past installments of his Elle.com column “Eric Reads the News!” (And stay tuned for much more, obviously.)   Some of Eric’s memorist icons: David Rakoff (Fraud specifically), David Sedaris (see also: this Hugh Hamrick profile), Samantha Irby, and John Paul Brammer and his forthcoming book Hola Papi.   What pop culture Eric’s consumed recently: Umbrella Academy, The Secret Lives of Church Ladies by Deesha Philyaw, Broadcast News, When Harry Met Sally (related: The Rewatchables podcast), Bridgerton, Veep, What We Do in the Shadows, The Office of Historical Corrections by Danielle Evans, and Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson. Claire and Erica would like to talk about Gremlins and Erin Brockovich also.   It’s no secret that you’d really like Secret Menu. And it’s no secret that we love your feedback: 833-632-5463, podcast@athingortwohq.com, and/or @athingortwohq.    Give the so-good Sweaty Betty Power Legging go and get 20% off with the code ATHINGORTWO. Try COOLA’s excellent new Organic Skincare line and get 10% off with the code ATHINGORTWO. Gobble up Sakara’s healthy ‘n delicious meals and feel great. 20% off your first order with the code ATHINGORTWO. Customize your hair, skin, and body products with Function of Beauty. Use our link for 20% off your order. YAY.   Produced by Dear Media

Chris baked challah bread. John Paul Brammer delivers a big speech to celebrate. Make a donation towards bail funds at smalltriumphbigspeech.com

From fights over early voting applications to ballot drop-off sites, voting in Texas has drawn national attention. Sam talks to Texas reporters Ashley Lopez of member station KUT and Jessica Huseman of ProPublica to unpack what's happening and what it means for voting access. Then, Sam gets advice from John Paul Brammer, creator of the advice column "Hola Papi."

In recent weeks, many of us have had to adjust to living and working remotely. It's a necessary precaution to keep yourself and your community safe during the coronavirus pandemic — but it's not always easy to do. John Paul Brammer, author of the popular advice column "Hola Papi," gets it. He's been getting lots of questions from readers about how to make it through life in self-quarantine, from navigating romantic relationships to creating your own space in a busy home. On this week's Latino USA, Brammer answers listener questions about these strange, uncertain times, and talks about how to give advice during a historic pandemic.

In this special bonus episode, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan are joined by John Paul Brammer of the Hola Papi column to offer some sex and relationship advice. They answer listener questions about asexuality and navigating intimacy, reconciling fantasies with reality, taking the first steps into queer dating, and reconsidering why you might not identify with a community you’re already a part of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special bonus episode, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan are joined by John Paul Brammer of the Hola Papi column to offer some sex and relationship advice. They answer listener questions about asexuality and navigating intimacy, reconciling fantasies with reality, taking the first steps into queer dating, and reconsidering why you might not identify with a community you’re already a part of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special bonus episode, Christina Cauterucci, Bryan Lowder, and Rumaan Alam are joined by John Paul Brammer of the Hola Papi column to offer some sex and relationship advice. They answer listener questions about asexuality and navigating intimacy, reconciling fantasies with reality, taking the first steps into queer dating, and reconsidering why you might not identify with a community you’re already a part of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bryan and Chris are joined by resident gay betch Dylan Hafer to break down the James Charles Youtube drama. Dylan explains how Charles became enemy number one after clashing with his former mentor Tati Westbrook. Who is really to blame here? At 18:50 they’re joined by John Paul ("JP") Brammer, managing editor at the Trevor Project. They talk about coming out later in life and what it’s like to grow up gay in rural America. JP tells us about his advice column and shares some of the most common questions he gets. Why is everyone worried they’re being “too” gay? At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if he needs to tell his friend that they’re both flirting with the same guy. Are you obligated to be honest about a mutual crush? They close out the show with a conversation about the new gender-swap Snapchat filter, and whether or not we should be concerned about its implications.

This week, we're inspired by John Paul Brammer's "¡Hola Papi!" column for Out.com. We dig into why we all gotta love the LGBTQIA+ acronym, and why our individual liberation is all about the liberation of the queer folks (and others!) around us. This one's all about what we owe each other. Article Link: https://www.out.com/lifestyle/2019/5/07/apparently-there-are-too-many-letters-lgbtq-acronym John Paul Brammer: http://www.johnpaulbrammer.com Twitter: @jpbrammer

In our random thought we talk about a Twitter thread by writer John Paul Brammer (@jpbrammer), which details how a cat and two dogs showed up at his apartment door and how they wanted inside. He couldn't figure out what the animals were doing there and what to do with them. His tiny story had everything - confusion, an objective (to keep the animals safe), a mystery (where did the animals belong) and a conclusion when the owners came back home. There was risk involved - a massive amount of risk to the animals and a smaller amount of risk to Mr. Brammer who obviously isn't a pro about dogs. But, he pushed back his confusion and put himself out there to help the animals and keep them safe. He took a risk by opening the door to the dogs and cat. Twitter heralded him for it. A good story involves risk - risk to the character - risk to the things she or he loves. In life, sometimes those risks work out well. And honestly, sometimes they don't. But if you want to grow, you sometimes have to take those risks, reach beyond the ordinary and go after your dreams. Writing Tip of the Pod The act of writing, of communicating your thoughts is a risk in itself. Take it one step more and be risky in your story, your dialogue, your ideas. I think all writers should have one t-shirt that says Take The Risk. I’ve heard people say writing has changed their lives forever. I believe that. It changed mine in ways I couldn’t possibly imagine. Because the moment I let risk in, the world became a very easy place to navigate. Susan Tupper, The Review Review. Dog Tip For Life Humans tend not to be risk takers, but dogs? Dogs come from wolves, but according to studies, wolves are totally into taking risks, while dogs are a bit more hesitant. That's because dogs depend on their friends to help them out. Friends help alleviate the need for risks. Call on your friends when you need support and help. And be a friend when others need you. SHOUT OUT! The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It’s “Night Owl” by Broke For Free. For more tips that go with this episode or others, check out www.carriejonesbooks.blog! And please like and subscribe! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/carriejonesbooks/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/carriejonesbooks/support

Han and Matt write a love letter to Reddit Relationships and have the honor of interviewing moderator Alex "ResidentBlackGuy" Spruiell! During the interview portion of the show, they discuss how Alex became a moderator, what makes r/relationships the best subreddit for advice, the worst partner so far of 2019, and much more! ResidentBlackGuy Alex Spruiell on Twitter Podcast: Black & Yellow SPONSOR: LOLA: The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products! [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] #100: The Best & Worst Advice Column Humans of 2018 (Ft. Ask a Manager and Captain Awkward): Partners Category Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision." Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' "I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks?" [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] r/relationships: "My [22F] boyfriend [24M] cut the tip of his finger OFF as a "joke" for my Valentine’s Day gift." Reddit Relationships in Three Nutshells Should I key her car? Is this a dealbreaker? Is it mean if I ask him to stop? Listener The Tireless Mind Flayer: "My [46F] girlfriend of 3 months won't invite me [49M] over to her house" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Advice Column Alert: "Who's the Asshole Here?" on Lifehacker Shoutout to John Paul Brammer on Columbia Journalism Review: "The Advice Column Renaissance" Shoutout to Yolanda, Cynosure of the Net (AKA The Golden One) for our first P.O. Box Gift at our New Address And an additional shoutout to Aephe, Stout Battlemage, for sending us AN ENTIRE BOXFUL OF LOVE HEARTS CANDIES Shoutout to Broadway World: "TINY BEAUTIFUL THINGS at Long Wharf" Shoutout to Dear Dabby: "How Do I Work in Weed?" In Cannabis Now Shoutout to Ask the Salty Waitress: "My food came out suspiciously early" for Sounding Like an Onion Headline Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "my coworker is setting toilet paper on fire in the bathroom" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Tobin and Kathy have sweated through a few live shows, and now it's time to share a few of them with the world. — Jes Tom is a weird nonbinary queer Asian-American radical cyborg stand up comic. They will be performing at Caroline's on February 12th. — John Paul Brammer wrote the column "Hola Papi" for Into; he's now a staff writer at Them. Music in this episode by Jeremy Bloom. Theme by Alexander Overington. Support our work! Become a Nancy member today at nancypodcast.org/donate.

We talk about the changes to Tumblr and Facebook and why many are not happy.  Also, Cohen goes to Jail and Trump is implicated.  What does that mean for LGBT people? We welcome special guest John Paul Brammer, the New York-based writer and advice columnist from Oklahoma whose work has appeared in The Guardian, Washington Post, Slate, NBC, and more. He is currently in the process of writing his first book. Co-host Brody Levesque.

We talk about the changes to Tumblr and Facebook and why many are not happy.  Also, Cohen goes to Jail and Trump is implicated.  What does that mean for LGBT people? We welcome special guest John Paul Brammer, the New York-based writer and advice columnist from Oklahoma whose work has appeared in The Guardian, Washington Post, Slate, NBC, and more. He is currently in the process of writing his first book. Co-host Brody Levesque.

Do you believe in magic? Celebrating crafty sea-witches and magic carpets, the Thots we're discuss the transformative nature of fantasy and sci-fi. What do we get to explore in fantasy and allegory that we turn away from in life? How were our childhood fantastical escapes informed by the stories we consumed? And as 2018 draws to a close, we wonder: must we, as queers and brown folk, *be* our very own Narnia?  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

John Paul Brammer wrote the column "Hola Papi" for Into; he's now a staff writer at Them. Want advice from Nancy? Email your question (ideally as a voice memo) to advice@nancypodcast.org. Episode scoring by Jeremy Bloom. Theme by Alexander Overington. Support our work! Become a Nancy member today at Nancypodcast.org/donate.

Writer John Paul Brammer joins merritt to talk demonyms, code-switching, and bandicoots.

Sarah spoke to John Paul Brammer, an American journalist, a gay man who has written for the Guardian newspaper about Grindr and he explained exactly what Grindr is.