Podcasts about hola papi

John Paul Brammer is an author, artist, and writer of the popular advice column, ¡Hola Papi!. He joins us on the pod to discuss midwest debauchery, advice on giving advice, high-profile penguins, his top 5 birds, why Bluesky is “giving gas leak,” standing behind something you 100% do not believe in, house parties, and much more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Conclave Me, Daddy! Katelyn and Christine's long-anticipated “cradle Catholic” episode arrives as the church's cardinals gather at the Vatican to elect a new pope following the death of Pope Francis in April. Come for the “cardinal stacking,” stay for the cosplaying on Cancel Me, Daddy's YouTube channel, where you can stream the full episode.This week, Katelyn and Christine put the “Spotlight” on the “Conclave” with an expansive conversation about the past, present, and future of the Catholic Church in their lives and as an influence on policy and politics around the world. Was Pope Francis really the “woke pope” that the media made him out to be? Reinforcing and reaffirming anti-trans bigotry and abortion stigma are as much a part of his legacy as his climate change, migrant, and Gaza ceasefire advocacy, according to Katelyn and Christine. Pope Francis didn't take substantive action to address the Church's rampant child sexual abuse, either. How much influence can the head of an institution have on the institution? But it is never all serious on the pod. Katelyn and Christine pick their favorite pope memes and least favorite adult converts, both of which include J.D. Vance. And Katelyn and Christine compare their New England Irish Catholic and New Jersey Italian Catholic childhoods (guess whose?). By the end of the episode, one will be elected the “woke people” (guess who?).Links:Cancel Me, Daddy's YouTube channelKatelyn Burns for MSNBC: I sometimes miss my Catholic faith. The Vatican's new decree reminds me why I'll never go back.Christine Grimaldi for GEN magazine (RIP): Meet the Conservative Power Couple Behind Trump's War on Your Civil RightsMatt Novak for Gizmodo: The Funniest Memes About JD Vance Killing the PopeJude Ellison S. Doyle for Medium: What We Talk About When We Talk About Elizabeth BruenigQueer “Conclave” reviews (spoiler alert): J.P. Brammer for ¡Hola Papi!: PopeCrave and Samantha Allen and James Factora for them: We Need to Talk About the [Redacted] Twist in Conclave Anas Baba and Jane Arraf for NPR: Gaza's Catholics mourn Pope Francis. 'He used to call us at 7 p.m. every night'See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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If you listen to Fixable, then maybe you've sometime wished someone would just help you figure out your life. John Paul Brammer's job is to do exactly that – he's the writer behind the hit advice column Hola Papi. Today, in an episode from another podcast in the TED Audio Collective, How to Be a Better Human, John talks about how he's helped all kinds of people on topics big and small. John reveals what constitutes good advice, why a lot of problems have similar solutions, and shares what we can do to get ourselves out of our trickiest situations.How to Be A Better Human isn't your average self improvement podcast. Each week join comedian Chris Duffy in conversation with guests and past TED speakers as they uncover sharp insights and give clear takeaways on new ways to improve ourselves -- and show up for one another.  Get more How to Be A Better Human wherever you get your podcasts.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts     Fixable will be back soon with more episodes!

Have you ever wished someone would just help you figure out your life? John Paul Brammer's job is to do exactly that – he's the writer behind the hit advice column Hola Papi. John has helped all kinds of people on topics as niche as figuring out what to do when your boyfriend pretends to be Latino to as common as answering the age-old question of how to make friends as an adult. John reveals what constitutes good advice, why a lot of problems have similar solutions, and shares what we can do to get ourselves out of our trickiest situations.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts     

John Paul Brammer writes the “¡Hola Papi!” advice column for The Cut at New York magazine, answering questions like, “Why am I dreaming about sex with a man when I'm a lesbian?” Or, “What if my partner judges me for writing smut?” This candor has given John Paul an intimate connection with his readers. However, as today's episode reveals, he doesn't think we necessarily need that level of openness with all of our loved ones.Ahead of Mother's Day, Brammer reads an essay about a recent college graduate who sets out to spend the summer exploring his sexuality, but whose plans are derailed by his duty to his grandmother. It's called “Young, Gay and Single Among the Nuns and Widows” by Kevin Hershey. Brammer says it's “bizarre” how much this essay resonates with his own life.

The evening was hot as the cars whizzed by quickly on the boulevard – the last of the sun worshippers could be seen bathing on the sand. In the distance the sky was a faint glowing pink, the light was thin. Headlights flickered and flashed as cars whizzed up and down the stretch by the seafront, tall buildings were like dark shadows overlooking it all from behind. Occasionally there was a shout or a scream from one of the neighbourhood bars or bodegas, people had gathered in the warmth of the evening to take in the dying embers of the summer. It was sticky and humid out though, so they sat beneath fans sipping cold drinks to keep cool. He sat waiting by the side of the road for his ride. It had been a bittersweet day – long and hot. Then, like a blazing hurricane whizzed past his ride, window down his girl shouted to him from the passenger side. He smiled with a wink. ‘Hola Papi…' she screamed. Hugo Mari is set to release a new single, a sun kissed house track with a deep groove and sexy sensibilities. This one is for the hot and humid dancefloors – wherever they might be found.

Jo narrowly skirts a marriage proposal by jetting - or carriage-ing - off to the Big Apple! There, she settles into boarding house life and gets to know her roommates: a couple of jerks who trash her fashion sense, a cultivated old spinster who takes her out to shows, and (sighs, groans, wailing and gnashing of teeth) Professor Bhaer. Here to walk us through it all is JP Brammer, a.k.a. Hola Papi! JP is a writer and artist from Oklahoma, now based in Brooklyn. Since he started his advice column Hola Papi! in 2017, he's answered thousands of letters and written a memoir-slash-guide-to-life called “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons.” Our cover art is by Mattie Lubchansky. It interpolates the cover art for Bethany C. Morrow's book "So Many Beginnings: A Little Women Remix," with permission from Macmillan Children's Publishing Group. It also interpolates the cover art for Hena Khan's book “More to the Story,” with permission from Simon & Schuster. Our theme music is Mozart's Piano Sonata No. 16 in C Major. This episode was edited by Antoinette Smith.

No matter your class background, you're bound to cross some lines and make mistakes. In this episode, Comedian Wyatt Cenac talks about where he went wrong and encourages us to be open about our financial fumbles. And advice columnist JP Brammer aka Hola Papi answers listener questions to find out who might be a Classhole. If you have a juicy question or story about class, leave us a message. The classy hotline is open: 844-992-5277. Read more of J.P. Brammer's advice on his Hola Papi Substack. You can find more information about what Wyatt's up to on his website.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On this episode of the Dance Cry Dance Break, we open with “Hello, Handsome,” an original story by ¡Hola Papi! columnist and author John Paul Brammer followed by the exclusive premiere of please don't let me be, the deluxe edition of the album from eighteen-year-old producer and songwriter Sarabean.Eighteen-year-old singer/songwriter, producer Sarah Holland has been releasing music as Sarabean from her Florida bedroom since 2019 and recently relocated to Portland, Oregon. Her stunning, full-length debut album, “please don't let me be”, blends dreamy synths and warm acoustic guitars with blunt, confessional lyrics and breathtakingly intimate vocals.Bandcamp Spotify Instagram John Paul Brammer grew up in rural Oklahoma with aspirations of writing and making art. He started his path in journalism writing for The Guardian, NBC News, and Teen Vogue, then moved to Condé Nast as a writer while running his popular LGBTQ and Latino advice column, ¡Hola Papi!. From there, he worked with the Trevor Project to consult on their editorial content. He currently self-publishes his column at Substack and has a memoir of the same name published under Simon & Schuster's flagship imprint in June of 2021. He writes and illustrates for outlets like The Washington Post, Guernica, Catapult, and many more. He's also presently working with Netflix on The Most, a small team that creates content, consults on projects, and builds community based on the company's LGBTQ material.Book Twitter Instagram WebsiteHey, Handsomeby John Paul BrammerIt's been over a day since I've asked Peter if he was free on Thursday. This is nothing new for us. I didn't consider the text to be risky when I sent it. We do this at least once a month. One of us will ask what the other's week looks like, and we'll figure out a time to get together, always at my place. It takes some planning as he lives uptown and I live in Brooklyn. This feels farther than it is. I don't consider our meeting up a routine. Although there's a rhythm to it, it nonetheless always feels like a spontaneous and welcome thing. Each month one of us happily remembers the other. Dealing with men, loving men, being attracted to men—however you want to say it, it has its lessons. The lessons are often silly, sideways things. They are intuited over time rather than set in stone, and so they're difficult to articulate. Setting anything in stone with men is nigh impossible anyway. One of these lessons is how to divine meaning out of silence, how to measure quiet in emotional cubits. Thirty minutes, he's busy. A few hours, maybe something came up. A day, uh oh. I wake up, eat breakfast, start work, and at some undetermined point I pass the threshold into unreasonable territory where it's unlikely that Peter simply hasn't seen the text. Another lesson when it comes to men—it's never the convenient excuse, the one you're rooting for. It's always the unwanted, the banal, the thing you hope it's not. Work. Eat again. Sleep. Now comes either the long nothing, or the dreaded formality of a follow-up, the explanation as to why business as usual can no longer be conducted. The follow-ups have become more common in my experience. I don't know if it's because I'm getting older and people feel the need to be more mature about things, or because it's a trend on social media to practice a sort of bureaucratic honesty with your flings or lovers or whatever you want to call them. I can't decide if I like it more or less than being quietly disposed of. In my more cynical moments, I like it less. It smacks of self-satisfaction. I am emotionally mature for this. Yet another lesson in dealing with men, though. You don't usually get what you like. “Hey, handsome,” the text begins. I've noticed this, too. The measuring out of salt and sugar, the affirmation up top followed by the heart of the matter. “So, I've started seeing someone…” I lightly skim the rest. I already know my role in this exchange, and I'm fine with playing it. It's good that Pete found someone. We weren't going anywhere. If things had worked out, we would have ordered Italian to my place and poured two glasses of wine. We would have started watching a movie before leaving our clothes puddled on my bedroom floor. We would have enjoyed it, and maybe he would have spent the night, as he sometimes did. If he did, he would have kissed me in the blurry morning before heading to the train. We wouldn't have seen each other for a while after that. That's hardly a steady relationship. I have no right to be upset. So I'm not. Or at least I give no indication that I am, and I am resolute inside myself. You have no right. It's not that I harbor some secret love for Peter, some hope, however dim, that we would end up together. That's not what I want, in truth. But the truth that crests like a strange fish is hard to name, is mostly obscured underwater. Why be hurt? Peter with his shoulder-length hair and the tattoo on his thigh, with his odd jobs and his reluctant laugh like he's doing something wrong. I like these things. Maybe the hurt is because they're suddenly gone. It's change, and change is frightening. It's change of a sort that locks us out of self-pity. Entirely expected, and indeed, what you signed up for. The heart hooks onto little things like this. It hurts as they are tugged and pulled away. Or. There's something to be said about the people who don't owe you any great emotional responsibility, and yet show up regardless. Everyone wants their soulmate, but the idea is one of two people who prioritize each other, make each other the whole world. There's something to be said about the other types of affection. The people who show up at your door because they enjoy you, because they're attracted to you, because they find you altogether hard to resist on a lonely Thursday. The pleasure in these casual dynamics isn't just from another person wanting you. It's that it allows you to see yourself in a certain way; as desirable, as a person with a certain gravity. You're here because you want me. It's a flattering mirror. It makes sense that we would seek out reflections like these, and that it would sting when one is taken away. Or. Our appetites make strange beasts of us all. Wants are hard to name, hard to examine, almost impossible to trace to their source. Sex with Peter. Sleeping with Peter in my arms. Kissing goodbye. Getting the occasional text, How's it going? Feeling wanted by Peter, imagining how he must see me, and how it must be better than how I see me for him to have gone so far out of his way, all the way from uptown. It was a little joke that I'd bring him something back from Mexico. But I did, a small ceramic painted skull. It cost a few coins and was wrapped in a sheet of newspaper. I forgot to give it to him the last time he was here, despite it being right there on the table where we ate. It's still there. A tiny, laughing skull. A little joke. It's hard to be honest about intimacy. It's embarrassing the way it makes you a child again, the way it feels, every single time, like you ought to have known better, that you ought to have seen it coming. That's probably why we don't talk about it much, or why we pretend intimacies are easily arranged into good and bad, mistakes and successes, the important ones and the unimportant ones. It's harder to accept that, in their own way, they're all important. They all matter.The dull ache annoys me. I almost wish it would rise to the occasion of heartache. But it can't, so it doesn't. “Totally understand,” I say back.The Dance Cry Dance Break is written and produced by Natalie Bayne and recorded and edited by Moe Provencher. Our stories are edited by Timaree Marston.Theme music is Red Lines, by Tiny Tiny. Today's story was voiced by Kevin Murray.Dance Cry Dance is an arts collective in Seattle, WA. Paid subscriptions support our artists and writers. To hear the extended version of this episode featuring an interview conversation between John Paul and Sarah, subscribe to Dance Cry Dance + at Apple Podcasts. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit break.dancecrydance.com

It's an Agony Uncle Special! Have you ever had a crush on a straight friend? How can you tell the difference between love and lust? Today we are taking all your love dilemmas to the world famous Agony Uncle John Paul Brammer, whose advice column ¡Hola Papi! has helped tens of thousands of queer people to navigate life, love, and all that good stuff inbetween.This episode of Homo Sapiens was recorded before the tragic death of Brianna Ghey. If you are able to, please donate to Brianna's funeral fund here. If you need support following this shocking news, or are concerned for your own safety please contact:AKT live chatMermaids Helpline: 0808 801 0400You can register here to watch our interview marathon with the likes of Jessie Ware, Joe Lycett and Daniel Foxx for FREE!

It's an Agony Uncle Special! Have you ever had a crush on a straight friend? How can you tell the difference between love and lust? Today we are taking all your love dilemmas to the world famous Agony Uncle John Paul Brammer, whose advice column ¡Hola Papi! has helped tens of thousands of queer people to navigate life, love, and all that good stuff inbetween.This episode of Homo Sapiens was recorded before the tragic death of Brianna Ghey. If you are able to, please donate to Brianna's funeral fund here. If you need support following this shocking news, or are concerned for your own safety please contact:AKT live chatMermaids Helpline: 0808 801 0400You can register here to watch our interview marathon with the likes of Jessie Ware, Joe Lycett and Daniel Foxx for FREE!

The two books mentioned in today's episode are Chef's Kiss by T.J. Alexander and Hola Papi by John Paul Brammer Instagram @litbaereadings - to see when new episode are out - Also follow the podcast on wherever you listen to it so that you'll get notified of new episodes because I do not have a regular schedule for dropping new episodes To read books for free you can use the libby app - Check out books on your phone or tablet from the library! Libro.fm is a great alternative to Audible. If you are trying to resist Amazon then I highly recommend Libro.FM because it supports your local bookstores. Hoopla - Borrow and enjoy audiobooks, eBooks, comics, movies, TV, magazines, or music everywhere you have a screen-your computer, your phone, your car, even your TV. All you need is a library card. hoopla syncs across all your devices, so you can stream titles immediately or whenever you're in the mood. Most titles can also be downloaded to your phone or tablet. hoopla offers more content, in more places, than any other digital library platform and it's all FREE thanks to your public library! Titles may vary based on library catalog. Pango Books is an app where you can buy and sell books from your own personal library! Bookshop.org is an online marketplace where you can purchase books in many different formats (e-book, physical book, physical book w/ large print, and audio) while supporting independent bookstores. Instead of using Goodreads (owned by Amazon) you can try The Storygraph app! It's black woman owned and helps track your reading for the year, allows you to do buddy reads with friends, and so much more. It's free but there is an option for $4.99 a month that allows you to help keep the app free, independent, and it that helps make the app and site more user friendly as well. Now on TikTok with the youngins! @litbaereadings Youtube: @litbaereadings You can tip the podcast on Cashapp at $litbaepod but the best way to support is just by listening Libro.FM Wishlist https://libro.fm/wishlist/1228430 Libro.fm Referral code https://libro.fm/referral?rf_code=lfm278588 Bookshop.org Wishlist https://bookshop.org/wishlists/89c2b233c4293884fbe0b77cb955c86378c22f28 My shop on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/shop/Litbaepod linktr.ee/litbaepod Links to Listen: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7bqYuHJ4fisk4LfMrzGqNV Anchor: https://anchor.fm/litbaepod Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lit-bae/id1531523974?uo=4 Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8zMWJlOWQ1NC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== Overcast: https://overcast.fm/itunes1531523974/lit-bae Pocket Casts: https://pca.st/hg4l9zcg RadioPublic: https://radiopublic.com/lit-bae-WRZKY2 Thanks for listening!

Did you know that a votive candle is one of those short, squat candles that people use for prayer or, like, to put on their outside stairs when they're hosting a fancy party? I did not. But “votive” is the word I blurted out when Cheryl Strayed was trying to describe the type of tall candle she lit as a way to psychically summon Reese Witherspoon. A decade ago, Strayed was waiting to hear whether or not the actor was interested in taking the lead role in the movie adaptation of Wild, her best-selling 2012 memoir. So she lit the big candle (maybe it was a pillar or a taper, now that I google it) and every time she walked by it, she whispered “Reese… Reese.” It worked! Witherspoon indeed took the role, the movie was a hit, and the two became great friends. Strayed is super-famous because of Wild, which is the same reason Oprah loves her, but she's also beloved for her advice column, Dear Sugar, which she started writing at The Rumpus around the time that Wild was about to blow up. She wrote it anonymously at first, and for no pay. She just fell in love with the idea of turning an advice column into a forum for literary essays about life. She had ample material to draw on: an impoverished childhood in rural Minnesota; a much-loved mother who passed away when Strayed was 22; a downward spiral that ensued and involved a lot of sex and heroin; and a life-changing, soul-finding, shoe-destroying solo trek along the Pacific Crest Trail. A couple weeks ago, I met Strayed in Portland, Oregon, where it was raining for the first time in several months, and we talked about how she still feels abject terror when faced with a blank page, how if she goes to the Oscars again, she'll wear Dr. Martens, and about some mountain-themed advice George Saunders gave her about finding her own way forward as a writer. “I really believe story is essential to us,” Cheryl told me, lighting a candle for all who believe in the power of writing, “and we need it individually, collectively; we need those stories to tell us who we are, to show us who we can be.”https://cherylstrayed.substack.com/Cheryl's recommended read:Oldster by Sari Botton:[Sari] has this wonderful take on aging. And what I love about her focus is she always says, “Oldster is not for people who are getting older.” The whole idea of aging at whatever age you are—when you're 12, you're aging. We use that word to only mean old people, but really it's about what does this experience of aging teach us? What do we learn from being 22 and 42 and 72 and 102? And people write about that and they answer this questionnaire. And it's always very inspiring and interesting to read. I love that.Show notesCheryl Strayed's Dear SugarFind Cheryl on Twitter and her personal websiteWild by Cheryl Strayed (paperback)[01:46] Her mother being portrayed by Laura Dern in Wild[05:56] Losing someone close to you[10:58] Working with Reese Witherspoon[16:21] Finally finding financial freedom[20:08] Having “How did I get here?” moments[21:20] Falling in love with words[23:00] Murder on my feet[24:00] Dear Sugar in The Rumpus[26:47] Taking over the Dear Sugar column[30:09] Early writing on the internet[31:20] The power of story[35:25] Social media as a gift for writers[40:40] Restarting Dear Sugar as a Substack [45:00] Keep Walking, by Cheryl Strayed, a scene cut from Wild [48:20] Advice from George Saunders [52:25] Going into the cave, as a writer[53:35] Oldster by Sari Botton[54:33] Advice writers Cheryl recommends: Ask E. Jean by E. Jean Carroll, ¡Hola Papi! by John Paul Brammer, and Ask Polly by Heather Havrilesky.[55:04] Other Substacks Cheryl loves: Craft Talk by Jami Attenberg, Story Club by George Saunders, Your Local Epidemiologist by Katelyn Jetelina, Austin Kleon's newsletter, and The Audacity by Roxane Gay.The Active Voice is a podcast hosted by Hamish McKenzie, featuring weekly conversations with writers about how the internet is affecting the way they live and write. It is produced by Hanne Winarsky, with audio engineering by Seven Morris, content production by Hannah Ray, and production support from Bailey Richardson. All artwork is by Joro Chen, and music is by Phelps & Munro. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit read.substack.com

Original release date: July 19, 2021. Writer JP Brammer sits down with Cameron to discuss his new book HOLA PAPI (the July pick for Cammy's Book Club!) based on his queer advice column, his love of meeting new people through the years via Grindr and other apps, and the freedom to be vulnerable in his writing.

Cohosts Amber, Ashley, and Lisa discuss ¡Hola Papi!: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons by John Paul Brammer, a collection of essays based on his popular column. Topics discussed include the value of relationships, the confusing nature of early queer friendships, and using reflections on the past to heal. If you're interested in reading ¡Hola Papi! after listening to this episode, consider borrowing it from your local library or purchasing it from an independent bookstore! Public library locator (USA): https://bit.ly/3FudXPV Independent bookstores (USA and Canada): https://bit.ly/3FifJ6u

On this week's episode of Currently Reading, Kaytee and Roxanna are discussing: Bookish Moments: reading as a gauge and a library cookbook Current Reads: books we've been guarding like precious gems Deep Dive: reading the world - why and how The Fountain: we visit our perfect fountain to make wishes over our reading lives As per usual, time-stamped show notes are below with references to every book and resource we mentioned in this episode. If you'd like to listen first and not spoil the surprise, don't scroll down!  New: we are now including transcripts of the episode (this link only works on the main site). These are generated by AI, so they may not be perfectly accurate, but we want to increase accessibility for our fans! *Please note that all book titles linked below are Bookshop affiliate links. Your cost is the same, but a small portion of your purchase will come back to us to help offset the costs of the show. If you'd prefer to shop on Amazon, you can still do so here through our main storefront. Anything you buy there (even your laundry detergent, if you recently got obsessed with switching up your laundry game) kicks a small amount back to us. Thanks for your support!*   . . . . 2:00 - Season 5: Episode 2 2:04 - Brilliant Books 3:07 - Bookish Moment of the Week 3:57 - The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood 7:28 - Modern Lunch by Allison Day 8:54 - Current Reads 9:14 - Orange for the Sunsets by Tina Athaide (Roxanna) 16:20 - Shine Bright: A Very Personal History of Black Women in Pop by Danyel Smith (Kaytee) 16:51 - Season 4: Episode 29 16:54 - The 1619 Project by Nikole Hannah Jones 17:21 - Cafe Con Libros 18:07 - Black Girl Songbook Podcast 20:25 - A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles 20:57 - Check Please! By Ngozi Ukazu (Roxanna) 26:41 - Jubilee by Margaret Walker (Kaytee)  27:17 - Gone with the Wind by Margaret Mitchell 28:58 - Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi 29:00 - The Love Songs of W.E.B. Du Bois by Honoree Fanonne Jeffers 29:38 - Kindred by Octavia Butler 31:34 - Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir 31:46 - An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth by Chris Hadfield (Roxanna) 36:48 - Packing for Mars by Mary Roach 37:55 - Hola Papi by John Paul Brammer (Kaytee) 38:05 - Tiny Beautiful Things (Dear Sugar) by Cheryl Strayed 40:41 - Deep Dive: Reading the World 40:56 - Currently Reading Patreon (access to the reading log and much more!) 50:41 - Canada Reads 52:14 - The Ministry of Utmost Happiness by Arundhati Roy 52:45 - Lallan Sweets by Srishti Chaudhary  55:00 - BookRiot 55:09 - Get Booked Podcast 55:42 - Strong Sense of Place Podcast 55:59 - The Next Chapter 56:33 - Meet Us At The Fountain I wish I had a book with maps that explains the history and events of each place. (Roxanna) 59:15 - The History of the World Map by Map by DK and The Smithsonian Institute  I wish I could keep better track of books coming to the screen. (Kaytee) 1:01:25 - The Sandman by Neil Gaiman (vol.1) 1:01:33 - Stardust by Neil Gaiman 1:01:35 - Coraline by Neil Gaiman 1:01:36 - American Gods by Neil Gaiman 1:01:38 - Norse Mythology by Neil Gaiman 1:01:41 - The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman Connect With Us: Meredith is @meredith.reads on Instagram Kaytee is @notesonbookmarks on Instagram Mindy is @gratefulforgrace on Instagram Mary is @maryreadsandsips on Instagram Roxanna is @roxannatheplanner on Instagram currentlyreadingpodcast.com @currentlyreadingpodcast on Instagram currentlyreadingpodcast@gmail.com Support us at patreon.com/currentlyreadingpodcast and www.zazzle.com/store/currentlyreading

Debut novelist Kasim Ali goes head to head with author and teacher Okechukwu Nzelu in a war of the words... They discuss their publishing journeys, how they approach rejection, "messy" romcoms, queerness and the joy in "simple writing". They also recommend us some books they have read and loved recently - and give us some tips for getting books back from friends you've loaned them to!In the Book Off, they pit "The Incarnations" by Susan Barker against John Paul Brammer's "Hola Papi" - but which one will win? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As we kick off the Substack category tour, we asked Kate Lindsay, co-author of Embedded, to share some writer-to-writer advice about creating trust with your readers. Co-founded with Nick Catucci, Embedded is a twice-weekly guide to new internet creators including trends and weekly interviews with “very online” people. Read on for her advice, or listen to her read it aloud above.​Dear writer,How do you approach reading, as a writer? How does the lens of your own audience impact how and what you read?Dear writer,I'll admit, there was a period of time when I was too jaded from working in the digital media industry to read any online content. At my first writing job, I wrote seven stories a day, sometimes waking up as early as 6 a.m. to fit it all in. By the time I'd worked at a few different publications, I could tell when an article was actually an SEO grab masquerading as a legitimate piece of writing, or a piece of clickbait meant to make people mad, and I wasn't interested in feeding the machine with my own reading habits.While I'd like to think this particular era of digital media is on its way out, you still see shades of it when the latest viral moment prompts every outlet to scramble for its own unique take. So many websites are writing the same thing. This can be helpful: When Yellowjackets was airing, I was so deep in the show and its fan theories that I read every perspective I could find in hopes of getting all the crumbs. But this strategy doesn't work universally. For instance, I similarly consumed Covid-19 content in the first year of the pandemic, but I realized that this wasn't actually reading—it was anxiety-spiraling.All this is to say, I'm somewhat precious with what I consume, and definitely read a lot less than perhaps you'd think for someone who calls themselves “chronically online.” I like pieces that work to clarify a moment with reason rather than drum up anxiety for clicks, and I have a natural aversion to reading whatever piece has my Twitter timeline in an uproar—because it was probably designed to do just that. “I like pieces that work to clarify a moment with reason rather than drum up anxiety for clicks.”This was one of the first things I noticed about writing Embedded: I no longer have to cater to SEO, or try to get someone's attention on a timeline. We're writing for readers who, by nature of signing up, already want to read us. So our coverage can be more thoughtfully catered to them in a way that feels helpful, not exploitative. Our best-performing pieces for Embedded are often the ones that seek to make the reader feel understood. Our newsletter is about the internet, but rather than highlight what's dystopian about this time, I always try to focus on the things about it that are uniquely human, or voice something we all experience that hasn't been formally put to paper. Similarly, the pieces I love and share with others aren't ones that are particularly spicy or that make me want to get up and go do something, but that reflect back to me a thought or experience that makes me feel seen.This isn't to say you need to try to broadly appeal to your readers. Curating our My Internet series has taught me that the internet may be getting bigger, but people still find and occupy their own particular corners of it. The 2020 National Book Award nominee Rumaan Alam follows Mary-Kate and Ashley fan accounts. Former New York Times columnist Ben Smith is on Geocaching reddit. Writer Taylor Lorenz loves bird TikTok. Investing in a niche may not reach the most readers, but the people you are writing for will be real and engaged and appreciative, which is, ostensibly, why we all started doing this. “Investing in a niche may not reach the most readers, but the people you are writing for will be real and engaged and appreciative, which is, ostensibly, why we all started doing this.” I've also learned that people will pay for writing, and we should continue to normalize that. For My Internet, we always ask people what they pay for online, and some have named publications from the New York Times to Insider to Study Hall to, of course, their favorite Substacks. But when you step back and look at social media as a whole, everyday people in the replies and comments are routinely astonished when something is paywalled. Sure, running into a paywall is annoying, but the fact that you're annoyed you can't read something is the reason to pay for it! If you want to read good stuff, then you have to free writers from the advertising model that forces quantity over quality, and that means people with the means to give their money, doing so. If all else fails, I'll leave you with these two pieces of advice: Trust recommendations from humans, not algorithms, and treat your clicks like currency—give them to the kind of content you want to see more of, not less. Sincerely,KateThis is the third in a recurring series of longform writer-to-writer advice, following Mason Currey's advice column on creative growth and Anna Codrea-Rado of Lance on learning to celebrate just how far you've come.Could you use some advice or inspiration from a fellow writer about creativity, motivation, and the writing life? Submit your question for consideration for a future advice column by leaving it in the comments below, or entering it (with the option to remain anonymous) using this form.Bonus: Reading RoomReading Room is a new mini series with writers like Anne Helen Petersen sharing their favorite publications to read on Substack. Kate is a thoughtful reader and researcher, both of her peers and of the online spaces that she covers. We asked Kate to share what she is reading.Kate Lindsay's recommended reads:Substack I'm most excited to open ASAP: Today in Tabs—it breaks down the exact discourse I recommend against reading, but now I can still know what people are talking about. Substack most likely to make me think: ¡Hola Papi!—I keep rereading this post about stepping back from social media. I'm like, did I black out and send this letter? First Substack I subscribed to: That's gotta be Garbage Day, and I still open every single one! I recently cited this one, about how social media is digesting the crisis in Ukraine, in my own writing. Substack I subscribed to most recently: After School—one of the only places to report on Gen Z that isn't patronizing. I think this Gen Z gift guide is a perfect example of how hard its author, Casey Lewis, works to be accurate and comprehensive. Substack I recommend to friends most often: Rachel Karten's Link in Bio is essential for understanding the professional social media space. I love this one about the personal social media accounts of people who run brand accounts. Visit Kate's profile page to see more from her current reading list. Subscribe to Kate and Nick's publication on Substack, Embedded, and you can also find them on Twitter here and here. Thank you for subscribing. Share this episode.

Next week, Tuesday March 15, 2022—exclusively for subscribers of The Break—the world premiere of please don't let me be, the new album from 17-year-old producer/songwriter Sarabean. This special release includes a story by ¡Hola Papi!'s John Paul Brammer, an intimate conversation between artist and writer, and three bonus album tracks that will not be available to the public until March, 2023 . Hear the first single from the album below. And, subscribe to hear the full album next week!Dance Cry Dance is a collective record label in Seattle, WA. Paid subscriptions support our artists and writers. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit break.dancecrydance.com/subscribe

The prolonged stress, uncertainty and grief of the pandemic is making people angry — and some of them are taking it out in public. A poll conducted by Monmouth University found that 41 percent of adults said the upheaval caused by the pandemic has made them angry. And that has caused people to have outbursts in grocery stores, on airplanes and other public places.  Anger is a normal and natural emotion, according to mental health experts, and it's a response to the frustration, grief and fear that the pandemic has caused. But when anger is uncontrolled, it can lead to physical health problems, relationship issues and can be harmful to others.  MPR News host Angela Davis talks about the increase in pandemic bad behavior with a New York Times journalist. And she talks about the causes of our anger and how to better manage it with a psychologist and an advice columnist. Guests:  Sarah Lyall is a writer-at-large at the New York Times. She recently wrote an article about pandemic anger called “A Nation on Hold Wants to Speak With a Manager.”  Dave Decker is a psychologist in St. Paul who specializes in anger management. John Paul Brammer is the author of the advice column ¡Hola Papi! Subscribe to the MPR News with Angela Davis podcast on: Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or RSS.

Our guest is the Oklahoma-born, New York-based author and artist, John Paul Brammer. His new memoir, "¡Hola Papi!," is just being published. The book is an autobiograhical extension of his popular LGBTQIA advice column of the same title, which began in 2017. On Monday the 4th, Oklahomans for Equality will present "An Evening with John Paul Brammer" at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center in downtown Tulsa, beginning at 7pm. This free event is being offered as part of OKEQ's annual celebration of Hispanic/Latinx Heritage Month. (There is no charge for the event, but "reserved tickets" are required. For tickets and more information, please see this link.)

Our guest is the Oklahoma-born, New York-based author and artist, John Paul Brammer. His new memoir, "¡Hola Papi!," is just being published. The book is an autobiograhical extension of his popular LGBTQIA advice column of the same title, which began in 2017. On Monday the 4th, Oklahomans for Equality will present "An Evening with John Paul Brammer" at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center in downtown Tulsa, beginning at 7pm. This free event is being offered as part of OKEQ's annual celebration of Hispanic/Latinx Heritage Month. (There is no charge for the event, but "reserved tickets" are required. For tickets and more information, please see this link .)

We recently asked you to tell us about the decisions you're struggling to make right now. There have been so many choices to make and risks to weigh lately, and after almost 18 months into this pandemic, many of us are feeling decision fatigue. So we decided to put your decisions to a panel of friends and experts: author and Emory University professor Tayari Jones, writer and ¡Hola Papi! columnist John Paul Brammer, and Tara Ilsley, a public health worker at Duke University Hospital in Durham, North Carolina. They shared their advice for listeners weighing big moves, going back to school, caretaking, and more.

The best advice must be utterly sincere, but it doesn't hurt to add some humor to the mix. John Paul Brammer is an author, illustrator and advice columnist of “¡Hola Papi!” on Substack. He joins host Krys Boyd to discuss being gay, bi-racial, finding his footing with family and relationships, and all the wisdom he's tried to impart to eager followers of his work. His new book is “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons.”

Jeff & Will continue their look at books coming out this month, including titles by Becca Seymour, Avril Ashton, V.L. Locey, Skye R. Richmond, L.A. Witt, Genevive Chamblee, and EM Lindsey. They also review the Audible Original queer heist story "Hot White Heist" by Adam Goldman, the memoir "Hola Papi!" by John Paul Brammer, the friends-to-lovers romance "Learned Reactions" by Jayce Ellis, and the classic YA story "Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe" by Benjamin Alire Sáenz. Complete shownotes for episode 327 along with a transcript of the show are at BigGayFictionPodcast.com. Big Gay Fiction Podcast is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. Find many more outstanding podcasts at frolic.media/podcasts!

Author, illustrator and advice columnist, JP Brammer joins us to talk his new memoir-in-essays ¡Hola Papi!: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. Based on his popular advice column of the same name, Brammer explores his life as a 'mixed-race queer kid' growing up in rural Oklahoma. This segment is guest-hosted by Rebeca Ibarra.

Writer JP Brammer sits down with Cameron to discuss his new book HOLA PAPI (the July pick for Cammy's Book Club!) based on his queer advice column, his love of meeting new people through the years via Grindr and other apps, and the freedom to be vulnerable in his writing.

El último episodio de la serie de Libros LGBTQ+ (pero no el último libro lgbtq+ que voy a leer!)... En esta ocasión, hago el review de 3 libros: Un tío gay se queda inesperadamente a cargo de sus dos sobrinos, debido a que su madre falleció y su papá entró a rehabilitación por alcoholismo en "The Guncle". Los ensayos de John Paul Brammer, quien es el responsable de la columna Hola Papi en Grindr, cuenta diversos aspectos relacionados a su identidad como homosexual y como latino en "Hola Papi: How to come out in a Wal-Mart parking lot and other life lessons". Y por último, Vincent, un chico de 16 años en Francia durante la Primera Guerra Mundial, tiene su despertad sexual y su "coming of age" impactado por su relación con dos personajes: un joven soldado de la guerra que se convierte en su relación afectivo-sexual, y un escritor de 40 años que disfruta de su compañía y amistad. Espero les guste!

John Paul Brammer, the self-described “Chicano Carrie Bradshaw,” writes the popular column, ¡Hola Papi!, which he started in 2017 when dating app Grindr launched LGBTQ site INTO and needed steady content. He soon realized he had tapped into a trove of unmet demand for gay dating advice. Brammer, who grew up in rural Oklahoma, has written for various publications including The Guardian, Teen Vogue, The Trevor Project, Condé Nast, and Netflix and now publishes ¡Hola Papi! on Substack. He joins us to talk about his new memoir, “¡Hola Papi!: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons,” which explores coming of age, coming out and finding love through essays based on his column.

This week Annie recaps her June reads. The books mentioned in this week's episode can be purchased from The Bookshelf: The Wreckage of My Presence by Casey Wilson (listed on Libro.fm) The Royals Next Door by Karina Halle Beautiful World, Where Are You? by Sally Rooney Friends Like These by Kimberly McCreight Sense & Sensibility by Jane Austen Cheat Day by Liv Stratman Finlay Donovan Is Killing It by Elle Cosimano The Layover by Lacie Waldon Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir Harlem Shuffle by Colson Whitehead From the Front Porch is a weekly podcast production of The Bookshelf, an independent bookstore in South Georgia. You can follow The Bookshelf's daily happenings on Instagram at @bookshelftville, and all the books from today's episode can be purchased online through our store website, www.bookshelfthomasville.com.  A full transcript of today's episode can be found here. Special thanks to Dylan and his team at Studio D Production for sound and editing and for our theme music, which sets the perfect warm and friendly tone for our Thursday conversations.  This week, Annie is reading Hola Papi by John Paul Brammer. Thank you again to this week's sponsor, Visit Thomasville. Whether you live close by or are passing through, I hope you'll visit beautiful Thomasville, Georgia: www.thomasvillega.com. If you liked what you heard on today's episode, tell us by leaving a review on iTunes. Or, if you're so inclined, support us on Patreon, where you can hear our staff's weekly New Release Tuesday conversations, read full book reviews in our monthly Shelf Life newsletter, follow along as Hunter and I conquer a classic, and receive free media mail shipping on all your online book orders. Just go to patreon.com/fromthefrontporch. We're so grateful for you, and we look forward to meeting back here next week.

This month Ryan (she/her), Hillary (she/her), and Jo (they/them) are recommending the latest and greatest in LGBTQIA+ reads! Click the link to purchase the book from our store, or click the (audiobook) link to get the audiobook on Libro.fm. Thank you for shopping local! Books Mentioned During This Episode RECENT READS Hillary, https://www.gibsonsbookstore.com/hillary The Storm is Upon Us by Mike Rothchild (audiobook)  Last Best Hope by George Packer (audiobook) The Unwinding (audiobook) LGBTQIA+ Recommendations Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing by Lauren Hough (audiobook) Hola Papi by John Paul Brammer (audiobook) Dear Senthuran by Akwaeke Emezi (audiobook) Ryan, https://www.gibsonsbookstore.com/ryan-elizabeth-clark Survive the Night by Riley Sager (audiobook) Final Girls (audiobook) Home Before Dark (audiobook) Beach Read by Emily Henry (audiobook) People We Meet on Vacation (audiobook) The Love that Split the World (out of print) The Betrayals by Bridget Collins (audiobook) The Binding (audiobook) LGBTQIA+ Recommendations One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston (audiobook) Welcome to Night Vale by Joseph Fink and Jeffrey Cranor (audiobook) Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Saenz (audiobook) Aristotle and Dante Dive into the Waters of the World (October 12, 2021)(audiobook) Magic For Liars by Sarah Gailey (audiobook) Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell (audiobook) The Chosen and the Beautiful by Nghi Vo (audiobook) Plain Bad Heroines by Emily M. Danforth (audiobook) Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir (audiobook) The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune (audiobook) The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V.E. Schwab (audiobook) Frankissstein by Jeanette Winterson (audiobook) Jo, https://www.gibsonsbookstore.com/jo The Queer Principles of Kit Webb by Cat Sebastian (audiobook) Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas (audiobook) The Box in the Woods by Maureen Johnson (audiobook) Truly Devious (audiobook) LGBTQIA+ Recommendations (Check this link often, Jo will keep updating it!) Filthy Animals by Brandon Taylor (audiobook) Real Life (audiobook) She Who Became the Sun by Shelley Parker-Chan (July 20, 2021) (audiobook) A Marvellous Light by Freya Marske (November 2, 2021) (audiobook) (Indie Bookstore Day Virtual Cocktail Hour Recording) How Much of these Hills is Gold by C Pam Zhang (audiobook) The Prophets by Robert Jones, Jr. (audiobook) OTHER LINKS Celebrate Pride with Libro.fm!  Shop The Laydown Gibson's Bookstore Website Purchase Gift Certificates!  Browse our Website by Category! Donate to the Bookstore! Check out our Events Calendar! Gibson's Instagram The Laydown Instagram Facebook Twitter TikTok Libro.fm (Our Audiobook Platform) Use the code LAYDOWN for 3 audiobooks for the price of 1!  Email us at thelaydownpodcast@gmail.com

Tuck chats with John Paul Brammer, author of ¡Hola Papi!, in the second half of this special two-part queer advice episode. Topics include: Combating identity imposter syndrome (“am I queer enough?”) Not being wholesome enough for Pet Twitter The tyranny of authenticity Why it's perfectly fine to experience joy right now Plus: Where does the wind come from? Dear Evan Hanson isn't gay? Why can't we escape Twitter? And why has no one ever been in love with me? If you want to avoid suicidality talk, skip 21:00-23:30. Buy ¡Hola Papi! wherever books are sold (lol) and subscribe to the ¡Hola Papi! Substack (I do!). Find JP's art and merch at holapapishop.com. John Paul is trapped on Twitter @jpbrammer. We're also on Twitter and Instagram @gendereveal. Browse our nonprofit merch shop at bit.ly/gendermerch. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to receive our weekly newsletter, plus stickers and other rewards. Find episode transcripts and our FAQ page at genderpodcast.com. Do you have gender-related questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Associate Producer: Julia Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: Bistitchual!   

John Paul Brammer isn't your typical advice columnist. As Hola Papi, he answers questions like "is space gay?" and "I saw my manager on Grindr, do I say something?" But what started out as a spoof became a source of joy, comfort, and commiseration for so many. The Cut's Jazmín Aguilera sits down with John Paul Brammer to discuss the powerful nature of advice and who, if anyone, is qualified to give it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

President Biden is traveling to Europe on the first overseas trip of his term; infrastructure talks between Biden and Republicans collapse; a 5-year-old Guatemalan girl was found wondering alone in the border.

We have a special show!  Lesbian country Singer Brooke Eden stops by to chat about her song Sunroof and experiencing her first Pride. Also, John Paul Brammer aka JP, gay advice columnist - Hola Papi! joins us to share details about his new book. Plus, we bring you the latest trending news stories of the day, and more!  Let' go there! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ira, Louis, and Aida discuss celebrities asking sexual partners to sign NDAs, Bo Burnham's new Netflix special, queer cultural recommendations for Pride, and more. Plus, JP Brammer joins to discuss his new book ¡Hola Papi!.   Queer Recs Movies Beach Rats (included with Hulu) Rafiki (included with Hulu and Amazon Prime) Naz & Maalik (included with Hulu and Amazon Prime)   Music Luther Vandross -- Never Too Much Young M.A. -- Herstory VINCINT -- There Will Be Tears (out Friday) Todrick Hall -- Femuline   Books Brontez Purnell -- 100 Boyfriends Jonathan Parks-Ramage -- Yes, Daddy   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's wrong with me??! The queer community's favorite advice columnist, John Paul Brammer joins us to talk about his new essay collection, Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and produced by The Advocate magazine, in partnership with GLAAD. To join our newsletter, go to lgbtqpodcast.com

John Paul Brammer, advice columnist and author "Hola Papi: How To Come Out In A Walmart Parking Lot And Other Life Lessons," discussed coming to terms with your past and how to make a match on dating apps - even if you HATE them.. Dating Dish Headlines: Is it healthy to have a celebrity crush and a new app that matches users with memes. John Paul joins in for Dear Damona: How to find love in your city when you feel like a fish out of water and what's the deal with one-sided conversations? Happy Pride Month Lovers! Here we're all about celebrating equality in love for everyone all day every day but especially today we're giving a shout-out to our queer family who live their truth on the quest for their most authentic love. Get JP's Book at damonahoffman.com/contentclub and make sure to follow him on all the socials @jpbrammer! textnow.com/goyn Dates & Mates is sponsored by TextNow. The app solves many major challenges D's clients face in dating today: You can keep your main number private You can separate your personal and dating contacts Plus, It's easy to use and FREE. We are proud to collaborate with an app that empowers modern daters to feel safe and secure. If you want more information, check out Damona's video on when & how to give out your number: textnow.com/goyn   Sponsors: betterhelp.com/datesandmates Get Better Help: real therapy, convenient and affordable. Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. BetterHelp.com/datesandmates Download OkCupid today! OkCupid is FAMOUS for matching people on what MATTERS MOST to them, from food to the type of relationship they want...to politics. They ask you really thoughtful and provoking questions to get to the heart of who you are and what type of person you're looking for. Are you missing out? Download OkCupid today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about the idea of the fear of not being loved. Inspired by a letter sent to ¡Hola Papi! advice column by JP Brammer, our hosts talk about: worthiness of love, asking will anyone ever love me, and your social circle's impact on your view of the world. Since last time, Luis has been enjoying nature and hiking, while Chatrice has been focused on house rennovation and trying to stay on schedule for it.Time Stamps0:00 - Intro0:19 - Hello and Welcome 0:31 - Host Check In5:31 - How do we make time for rest and still accomplish our goals?6:40 - “No one is going to prioritze me but me. Work is always going to be there” - Chatrice 10:00 - Shout Out for the Culture: Happy Pride!12:53 - Tales of Tinderoni14:11 - Tales of Tinderoni Reaction25:18 - Main Topic Intro: Will anyone ever love me? from the ¡Hola Papi! advice column by JP Brammer!27:09 - Letter written to the ¡Hola Papi! advice colum: https://holapapi.substack.com/p/will-anyone-ever-love-me from Unlucky Lesbian29:17 - Do the hosts relate to the letter?32:00 - Have hosts asked god/universe, will anyone ever love?34:05 - Environment being conducive to dating and/or being loved35:18 - The focus of The Nanny and Fran being married by 30 years old35:51 - “Gay death”: lives of gay people being “over” by the time you are 3037:10 - Social circle's impact on your view of the world40:32 - Do partnered people connect more with other partner people?41:08 - JP Brammer's Response to Unlucky Lesbian42:15 - Successful in other aspects of my life, why can't we be success in dating and relationship?43:01 - Smaller negatives within the bigger positives 46:05 - Asking Courting Cuties, how long have their relationships have been?46:52 - Is there an “it” as to why we are not in a relationship?48:12 - Who are you now is perfect to be in a relationship48:32 - Luis surprised as to work that continues when you are in a relationship49:09 - Who you are in this moment is perfect, there will always be continual improvement, there is not on perfect moment to wait to be in a relationship49:52 - People in a relationship saying to a single person, “Oh, you'll find someone! It will be okay!”52:03 - Self-fullfilling prophecy52:18 - “The adage of, it will be okay you will find someone, removes me as a person who wants to walk this path with you” - Luis55:40 - Hope and reassurance56:26 - Making lemonade out of lemons56:52 - You can manifest something but you have to put the work into it 57:06 - Conclusion: Takeaways1:03:17 - End of EpisodeWebsite: courtingincolor.com / Email: CourtNColor@gmail.com / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

To answer the question of many a comedy-club promoter in Times Square: Yes, we do love to laugh. And one sure-fire way to get us howling is reading anything written by R. Eric Thomas—or chatting with the man himself, turns out. But up first: some toddler funny business.   A few toddler-relevant pieces of content: Bunheads by Misty Copeland, PBS’s Remarkable Rabbits, and No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson.   Please consume all the R. Eric Thomas you can! His memoir Here for It and the book he co-authored with Helena Andrews-Dyer about Maxine Waters, Reclaiming Her Time! His wonderful newsletter! All the past installments of his Elle.com column “Eric Reads the News!” (And stay tuned for much more, obviously.)   Some of Eric’s memorist icons: David Rakoff (Fraud specifically), David Sedaris (see also: this Hugh Hamrick profile), Samantha Irby, and John Paul Brammer and his forthcoming book Hola Papi.   What pop culture Eric’s consumed recently: Umbrella Academy, The Secret Lives of Church Ladies by Deesha Philyaw, Broadcast News, When Harry Met Sally (related: The Rewatchables podcast), Bridgerton, Veep, What We Do in the Shadows, The Office of Historical Corrections by Danielle Evans, and Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson. Claire and Erica would like to talk about Gremlins and Erin Brockovich also.   It’s no secret that you’d really like Secret Menu. And it’s no secret that we love your feedback: 833-632-5463, podcast@athingortwohq.com, and/or @athingortwohq.    Give the so-good Sweaty Betty Power Legging go and get 20% off with the code ATHINGORTWO. Try COOLA’s excellent new Organic Skincare line and get 10% off with the code ATHINGORTWO. Gobble up Sakara’s healthy ‘n delicious meals and feel great. 20% off your first order with the code ATHINGORTWO. Customize your hair, skin, and body products with Function of Beauty. Use our link for 20% off your order. YAY.   Produced by Dear Media

From fights over early voting applications to ballot drop-off sites, voting in Texas has drawn national attention. Sam talks to Texas reporters Ashley Lopez of member station KUT and Jessica Huseman of ProPublica to unpack what's happening and what it means for voting access. Then, Sam gets advice from John Paul Brammer, creator of the advice column "Hola Papi."

Episode 2 coming at ya. Paul and Adrian discuss people who lie in the name of love, bangin’ flags, and acoustic covers of rap songs by white folks. This is one of our early test episodes so take those pesky standards you got and push em down a bit. Links to the articles: Article 1- Hola Papi https://www.out.com/commentary/2019/12/03/help-my-boyfriend-pretended-be-latino Article 2- Love Letters https://loveletters.boston.com/2009/08/i_am_not_a_rock_star.html#comments Topical Tip- Call Her Daddy Drama https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/19/style/call-her-daddy-podcast.html

In recent weeks, many of us have had to adjust to living and working remotely. It's a necessary precaution to keep yourself and your community safe during the coronavirus pandemic — but it's not always easy to do. John Paul Brammer, author of the popular advice column "Hola Papi," gets it. He's been getting lots of questions from readers about how to make it through life in self-quarantine, from navigating romantic relationships to creating your own space in a busy home. On this week's Latino USA, Brammer answers listener questions about these strange, uncertain times, and talks about how to give advice during a historic pandemic.

Hello everybody! If this is your first time listening to this podcast, check out my website www.somnirosae.com where you can find additional information about me and the quiet entertainment I like to produce. A special thank you JP Brammer for granting me permission to narrate his short story. You can check the video on The Dodo here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT5jdu43MHg To read the article: https://holapapi.substack.com/p/the-visitors JP BRAMMER'S TWITTER HANDLE: @jpbrammer LETTERS for this podcast can be sent at thepinkmoonpodcast@gmail.com CANDYGRAMS can be read on the show when you become a supporter via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/somnirosae ASMR CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/user/somniasmr SOUNDS AND MUSICLicenses were purchased so that it can be used on this episode"Crowd Talking" https://audiojungle.net/item/crowd-talking/25595676"Irish Fairytale Pack" https://audiojungle.net/item/irish-fairytale-pack/20110688"Cat Meow" https://audiojungle.net/item/cat-meow/25609673"Dog Sound Pack" https://audiojungle.net/item/dog-sound-pack/20161500"Dog Scratching Door" https://audiojungle.net/item/dog-scratching-the-door/14413329"Sneaky Moves" https://audiojungle.net/item/sneaky-moves/21073300 TWITTER & INSTAGRAM: @SomniRosae ASMR AUDIO ALBUMS are available under the name Somni Rosae and can be dowloaded and streamed on Spotify, Apple and wherever else you like to listen to music. EPISODE TIME STAMPS00:00:00 Welcome Remarks 00:01:30 Letters to Somni 00:03:16 Story Introduction 00:04:44 The Pink Moon Breath  00:05:03 "The Visitors" by JP Brammer  00:24:20 Become a  supporter via Patreon 00:24:34 Commentary 00:34:00 Closing remarksSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/somnirosae)

Michaela's friend and blogger Dan sits down to talk about issues with Uber, fitness, champagne parties, and life in Baltimore.

In this special bonus episode, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan are joined by John Paul Brammer of the Hola Papi column to offer some sex and relationship advice. They answer listener questions about asexuality and navigating intimacy, reconciling fantasies with reality, taking the first steps into queer dating, and reconsidering why you might not identify with a community you’re already a part of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special bonus episode, Christina Cauterucci, Bryan Lowder, and Rumaan Alam are joined by John Paul Brammer of the Hola Papi column to offer some sex and relationship advice. They answer listener questions about asexuality and navigating intimacy, reconciling fantasies with reality, taking the first steps into queer dating, and reconsidering why you might not identify with a community you’re already a part of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special bonus episode, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan are joined by John Paul Brammer of the Hola Papi column to offer some sex and relationship advice. They answer listener questions about asexuality and navigating intimacy, reconciling fantasies with reality, taking the first steps into queer dating, and reconsidering why you might not identify with a community you’re already a part of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan break down exclusively gay moments in film and television, exploring why they can feel so craven, and if there’s any way to get it right. Then they interview Richie Jackson about his new book Gay Like Me, a letter to his gay son about the importance of being gay. They discuss the significance of Harvey Fierstein, growing up gay, and why queer identities are so essential. Then we close it out with a usual update to the gay agenda, looking at good versions of exclusively gay moments. We’ve got a Valentine’s Day advice show coming up with JP Brammer of the Hola Papi advice column, so send your questions to outwardpodcast@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at (929) 266-4914. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan break down exclusively gay moments in film and television, exploring why they can feel so craven, and if there’s any way to get it right. Then they interview Richie Jackson about his new book Gay Like Me, a letter to his gay son about the importance of being gay. They discuss the significance of Harvey Fierstein, growing up gay, and why queer identities are so essential. Then we close it out with a usual update to the gay agenda, looking at good versions of exclusively gay moments. We’ve got a Valentine’s Day advice show coming up with JP Brammer of the Hola Papi advice column, so send your questions to outwardpodcast@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at (929) 266-4914. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This month, Christina, Bryan, and Rumaan break down exclusively gay moments in film and television, exploring why they can feel so craven, and if there’s any way to get it right. Then they interview Richie Jackson about his new book Gay Like Me, a letter to his gay son about the importance of being gay. They discuss the significance of Harvey Fierstein, growing up gay, and why queer identities are so essential. Then we close it out with a usual update to the gay agenda, looking at good versions of exclusively gay moments. We’ve got a Valentine’s Day advice show coming up with JP Brammer of the Hola Papi advice column, so send your questions to outwardpodcast@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at (929) 266-4914. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we're inspired by John Paul Brammer's "¡Hola Papi!" column for Out.com. We dig into why we all gotta love the LGBTQIA+ acronym, and why our individual liberation is all about the liberation of the queer folks (and others!) around us. This one's all about what we owe each other. Article Link: https://www.out.com/lifestyle/2019/5/07/apparently-there-are-too-many-letters-lgbtq-acronym John Paul Brammer: http://www.johnpaulbrammer.com Twitter: @jpbrammer

Han and Matt and their most special guest yet tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 31st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Ask a Manager: "my boss brings her dog to work and he pees by my desk" Dear Annie: "Already at a good weight" Captain Awkward Guest Post: "When Woke Becomes A Fetish" Ask Ann Cannon: "Pet influencers make me feel inferior as a doggy parent" Sense & Sensitivity: "College application scandal worries parent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Fiendish Salamander: "Employer Is Making Me Remove My Pronouns in Company Signature" Bustle: "Should You Put Your Pronouns In Your Email Signature? This Inclusive Workplace Trend Is Showing Up More And More" Shoutout to ¡Hola Papi!: "I’m in a Heterosexual Marriage. Do I Need to Come Out as Queer?" Shoutout to Dear Wendy: "In the News: Bride is Furious Over Guests Cheap Gift" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Personal Updates & Introducing This Week’s Guest Blogger" Shoutout to Dan Savage: "I Rise to Speak on Behalf of the Unhappily Single or Miserably Partnered..." Notes from White British People on People of Color in Britain Reni Eddo-Lodge: "Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race" Nikesh Shukla: "The Good Immigrant" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 24th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd Captain Awkward: "Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List" Ask APW: "Why Didn't My MOH Invite Me To Her Wedding?" Dear Prudence: "Help! I Found Out My Boyfriend Cheated the Same Week He Found Out He Has Cancer." Vice: "Mussolini’s granddaughter would like everyone, including Jim Carrey, to be nice about her fascist grandpa" Miss Manners: "Family Dinners Call for a 'No Preaching at the Table' Rule" Ask a Manager: "My coworker keeps mocking another coworker's accent" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Calliope: "Is This a Close Friend?" Shoutout to APW: "Do I Need A Good Reason To Skip A Wedding?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "working with anti-vaxxers" Shoutout to Dear Wendy: "Women Discuss: Deciding to Never Have Children" Washington Post: "It’s not just you: New data shows more than half of young people in America don’t have a romantic partner"  CNBC: "World population to peak by 2055: report" Shoutout to Ask the Strategist: "Please Queer-Eye My Boyfriend" Shoutout to ¡Hola Papi!: "Why Wanting to Be an Alpha Male is Problematic" Shoutout to Ask Amy: "Husband's deep research into web comic isn't funny" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event [CW: Fat-Shaming] r/relationship_advice: "Boyfriend [25M] told me he used to ask out "fat girls" for fun. Am I [22F] right to be disgusted by him?" Dear Prudence: "Help! I Caught My Day Care Provider Breastfeeding My Baby." Carolyn Hax: "Should a single try to burst her friend's couple bubble?" Dear Wendy: "I Kissed My Friend And My Boyfriend Called It Cheating!" Ask a Manager: "my boss sent my client a flirty message from my email account" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! SPONSOR: care/of: A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! [CW: Self-Harm, Disordered Eating] Listener Kalvarin Ashmore, Renowned Euphomancer: "How Do I Teach Myself That a Relapse in My Mental Health Isn't an Indication of Failure?" Suicide Prevention Hotline FAQ: 1-800-273-8255 Shoutout to Hola Papi!: "I'm Straight-Acting and I Don’t Know Where I Fit In" Shoutout to Alison Green on Slate: "The Guy Who Hid Tacos in His Desk Drawer" or "Why do people go so nuts over free food at work?" Shoutout to Ask Polly: "Is My Absence From Social Media a Red Flag?" Shoutout to Ask Ann Cannon: "How can I dial back on digital life?" Shoutout to 'Cat Person' Author Kristen Roupenian Who "Discusses New Book at Harvard Book Store" Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress: "Our restaurant's repetitive music is ruining my workday" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

What is it about queer people and villains? This isn't the first time I'd had a guest on the show who loves sympathetic monsters. Michael Lee Richardson is a writer and filmmaker in the UK who takes the world around him and makes it weird ... and queered.And BTW, I hope you'll join us for a brand new weekly queer Dungeons & Dragons stream, every Saturday at 11am Pacific. Join me and Connor Olmstead, Brian Moreno, Justin Saint, Jen Vaugn, and my partner James as DM. We just started last week, and now's a perfect time to join us at twitch.tv/prettyprettypixel.And of course, I'm also doing twice-monthly hangouts on YouTube, where I chat with you about the books and movies and music and shows that you're obsessed with right now. The next one is on Sunday March 10 at 2pm Pacific with JP Brammer of Hola Papi.As always, huge thanks to everyone who makes The Sewers of Paris possible with a pledge of support on Patreon! Head over to Patreon.com/mattbaume to check out the rewards available to backers.

Tobin and Kathy have sweated through a few live shows, and now it's time to share a few of them with the world. — Jes Tom is a weird nonbinary queer Asian-American radical cyborg stand up comic. They will be performing at Caroline's on February 12th. — John Paul Brammer wrote the column "Hola Papi" for Into; he's now a staff writer at Them. Music in this episode by Jeremy Bloom. Theme by Alexander Overington. Support our work! Become a Nancy member today at nancypodcast.org/donate.

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today's episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week's menu and get your first 3 meals for free with free shipping by going to .

A woman enjoys anonymous webcamming with older men. But do they cross a line when they both pretend that she's... very young? A poly father doesn't know how to explain his healthy, happy relationships to his 5 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan enlists JP Brammer, author of the "Hola Papi" advice column to talk about interracial dating and to take down a personal trainer/tease. And, a guy with a girlfriend is sick of everyone asking when they're going to have kids. They don't want kids. What is wrong with people? 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Boll and Branch: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to and enter Savage. Thanks to Aaptiv for supporting our podcast. Get 30% off annual membership plan featuring unlimited workouts at . Today's episode is brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week's menu and get your first 3 meals for free with free shipping by going to .

Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 22nd, 2018, and beyond, including: Matt Notes (Skip 5 minutes ahead if the below is not interesting to you!) Fantastical names: Are a Patron-Only perk going forward Leader Board: Will be retired on August 31st Emails: Can no longer all be responded to due to volume  Asking for a Friend: "My Houseguest Was a Brocialist Jerk. How Should I Respond?" Dear Wendy: "My New Boyfriend is Mad That My Male Roommates See Me Naked" Carolyn Hax: "When a friend talks down to you, should you speak up to her?" Baggage Check: "A friendship on the critical list?" Miss Manners: "In-laws can't seem to leave the camo at home" Dear Prudence: "My Best Friend’s Son Is Stalking My Daughter—and My Friend Calls It Puppy Love" SPONSOR: Podigy: The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Norgowyn, Doomsayer of The Night's Fall: "How Do I Let My Friends and Family Know That My Moving Away Has Nothing to do With Them?" Shoutout to MBMBaM 416: "How Do I Respond to People Who Ask 'Is This a Sex Thing' About my Polyamorous Relationships?" Shoutout to Dear Harriette: "I'm Tired of People Telling Me How Much Better I Look Now That I've Lost Weight" Shoutout to Vice: "Labeling People Video Game 'Addicts' Could Be a Massive Mistake" Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "Guest Post by Leah Chibe: Talking To Your Kids About Scary Things In The News" Hollywood: "Natalie Portman in talks to play warring twin sisters in advice columnist biopic" Advice Column Alert: "Queer Abby" on INTO Queer Abby: "Am I Bi or Pansexual?" Advice Column Alert: "Dear Pepper" on The New Yorker Dear Pepper: "A Partner’s Ex, Feeling Smothered, and Bad Feminism" Advice Column Alert: "Ask the Astro Poets" on W Magazine Ask the Astro Poets: "Am I the Only Nerdy Leo Out There?" Advice Column Alert: "Dear Graham Norton" on The Telegraph Advice Column Alert: "Hola Papi!" on Them.us Hola Papi!: "Is My Cousin a Closet Homophobe?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com, anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt, or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com. Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!

John Paul Brammer wrote the column "Hola Papi" for Into; he's now a staff writer at Them. Want advice from Nancy? Email your question (ideally as a voice memo) to advice@nancypodcast.org. Episode scoring by Jeremy Bloom. Theme by Alexander Overington. Support our work! Become a Nancy member today at Nancypodcast.org/donate.

How do you forgive someone who won't, or can't, apologize? My guest this week is JP Brammer, who dispenses advice in the column Hola Papi on Grindr's news site Into. JP's made a name for himself by providing thoughtful insights into living your best gay life, but his understanding of life and love didn't just spring into existence fully formed. It's the product of some pain, some forgiveness, and a college club that he really hoped would present more opportunities for making out.Thanks to everyone who makes The Sewers of Paris possible with a pledge of a dollar or more a month on Patreon. There are special rewards for patrons like early ad-free access to content, shoutouts in videos, and a copy of my book mailed to you with some cute Sewers of Paris buttons. If you're enjoying the show, click "Support the Show on Patreon." Or if you can't pledge, you can still help out by leaving a review on your podcast platform of choice.And! If you're in San Francisco, I'll be in town to host a live show featuring drag queens playing Dungeons and Dragons. It's on March 20th at Oasis and features Erika Klash from Dragula; Kitty Powers, of the games Matchmaker and Lovelife; San Francisco stars Pollo Del Mar and KaiKai Bee Michaels; and past Sewers guest Pup Amp, the scantily clad co-host of the YouTube series Watt's the Safeword. Tickets are now on sale -- head over to DungeonDrag.com for the link. And if you're not in San Francisco, please pass the word along to anyone who you think might enjoy the show.Also: I'm about to launch a brand new podcast featuring drag queens playing D&D! It's called Queens of Adventure, and we're crowdfunding throughout the month of March to pay for performers, music, art, and equipment. Visit QueensOfAdventure.com to join us in bringing this new podcast to life.

Ser papá es difícil, sobre todo cuando eres un malvado millonario y tu hijo es la versión torpe de Homero Simpson. El episodio del hijo perdido del Señor Burns nos ayuda a revalorar los reencuentros familiares mientras reímos con un personaje cuya voz se grabó en nuestra generación como la típica de un gordo fracasado.

Reflexión sobre nuestra relación íntima con nuestro Padre

Reflexión sobre nuestra relación íntima con nuestro Padre