Podcasts about Grandiosity

Today, we're digging DEEP into a topic that's as terrifying as it is necessary—how to spot the warning signs when someone isn't who they seem to be. Seriously, this episode had me clutching my pearls and simultaneously feeling more empowered than ever. I'm bringing you someone who has literally walked into the darkest places on earth—prisons, forensic hospitals, you name it—and come out without losing her compassion or her curiosity. Dr. Gwen Adshead is a forensic psychotherapist, author of "The Devil You Know," and all-around badass when it comes to deciphering what really lies beneath the “mask of normalcy.” We talk about manipulative personalities, red flags in relationships, attachment styles, and build out a legit tool belt for keeping our power and protecting ourselves from harm. Ladies, if you've ever felt like you missed the signs, if you've ever asked yourself, “What did I not see coming?” or just want to build the skills to stand tall no matter who's in front of you—THIS is the episode you need. Grab your notebook, because Dr. Gwen drops truth bombs, actionable red flags, and shows you how to keep your cool even in the most toxic situations. Let's get STRONGER and SAFER together. You ready? SHOWNOTES 00:00 How Evil Can Wear a Mask: Spotting Dangerous Traits 00:06:39 The "False Mask of Normalcy" and Why We Miss the Signs 00:07:00 11 Red Flags That Reveal Who's Behind the Mask 00:19:09 What is Attachment Theory? And Why It Matters for Women 00:22:02 Why Pregnancy Triggers Domestic Violence 00:29:23 Rule Breakers and Risk Factors 00:32:08 Grandiosity, Narcissism, and Dangerous Audacity 00:34:46 Why Absolute Thinking Becomes a Trap—For Us AND Them 00:37:05 False Victimhood as Manipulation 00:39:34 How to Talk to a Psychopath: Staying Emotionally Sober 00:43:44 Protecting Your Sense of Reality 00:45:10 Building Your Personal Tool Belt: Never Let Anyone Take Your Power! FOLLOW DR. GWEN ADSHEAD: Book: The Devil You Know (available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Devil-You-Know-Gwen-Adshead/dp/198213480X ) BBC Lectures: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001rm8y (also available via YouTube search) Academic Profile: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=Gwen+Adshead CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Netsuite: Download the new e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at ⁠http://NetSuite.com/women⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textJerry Colonna is an executive coach, author, and co-founder of Reboot, a coaching and leadership development firm focused on helping entrepreneurs and executives grow through radical self-inquiry. Formerly a venture capitalist with Flatiron Partners, Jerry transitioned into coaching to support leaders in navigating the emotional complexities of leadership. He is the author of the acclaimed book Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up, which blends personal reflection with professional development. Known for his compassionate yet unflinching coaching style, Jerry continues to influence a new generation of founders and CEOs who believe in leading with authenticity, courage, and heart.Connect with Jerry! https://www.instagram.com/jerry.colonna/?hl=en Connect with Ryan! https://twitter.com/RyanJAyalaConnect with Us! https://www.instagram.com/alchemists.library/Chapters:00:00 Introduction & Jerry's Journey to Coaching  01:00 Radical Self-Inquiry & Moral Courage  05:04 Iteration, Growth & Identity  10:17 Depression, Doubt & The Lying Mind  16:12 The Danger of Grandiosity vs. True Confidence  22:06 Masculinity, Role Models & Responsibility  30:02 Redefining Success & Being a Good Man  37:12 Empathy, Mentorship & Leaving a Legacy  43:36 Clean Your Room: Self-Discipline as Leadership  46:05 Redefining Leadership & Followership  50:05 Balancing Compassion & High Standards  56:04 The Buddha of Baseball & Building Extraordinary TeamsConnect with Us!https://www.instagram.com/alchemists.library/https://twitter.com/RyanJAyala

In this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn explores the nature of grandiosity in pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), emphasizing that grandiose self-states are distortions that mask underlying vulnerability. He examines how these states emerge, why they are so compelling, and how they become self-reinforcing through positive feedback loops. Dr. Ettensohn also discusses the hidden instability beneath grandiosity, the interpersonal consequences of maintaining a distorted self-image, and the trauma-based origins of grandiose narcissistic armor. Drawing on the work of Ernst Wolf and real-world examples, he offers a compassionate yet clear-eyed look at how grandiosity functions as both protection and prison—and how growth is possible even after years of wearing the armor.

I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship.  It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms:  Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.”   Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share!  On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! 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Send us a textIn this powerful episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, hosts Karen Potter and Sam Black sit down with Nate Larkin—founder of the Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks. Nate shares his raw, redemptive journey from secret struggles with porn and sex addiction to freedom, healing, and authentic brotherhood.Discover how early exposure, emotional pain, and ministry stress fueled Nate's addiction, and how community, honesty, and spiritual growth led him to lasting transformation. Learn how the Samson Society creates spaces for real connection and why it's never too late to seek help.Whether you're in the middle of your own battle or walking alongside someone who is, this conversation is full of truth, grace, and hope.

In this episode, I sit down with Gina, an older detransitioner with a compelling story that spans decades. We delve into her journey, beginning with her childhood experiences of gender dysphoria in the 1970s, her eventual transition in her 50s, and her decision to detransition in 2023. Gina shares her early crush on a girl and how that shaped her understanding of her identity, leading her to believe she needed to become a boy to express her feelings.We explore the complexities of her transition, including the overwhelming effects of testosterone on her sex drive and how it altered her sexual orientation, making her attracted to men for the first time. Gina reflects on the societal pressures surrounding gender and beauty, and how her past experiences of trauma influenced her decisions. We also discuss the impact of her identity on her relationship with her daughter, highlighting the importance of communication and understanding in parenting. Throughout our conversation, we aim to unpack the nuances of identity, the role of societal expectations, and the emotional turmoil that can accompany such profound life changes.In 1970, at the age of ten, Gina traversed a hill to the neighboring ranch to confess to her friend that she was supposed to be a boy. Forty years later, she “transitioned.” After thirteen years of living as a “trans-man,” she had an awakening that inspired her to begin detransitioning. Now in radical acceptance of her womanhood, she is recovering. Gina's goal is to create a healing space in the country for female detransitioners, crossing a different kind of hill this time, to a new ranch. Gina's art: @aluminum_couture on InstagramGina's Substack: @thisbodyofmine 00:00 Start[00:02:17] Childhood crush and gender identity.[00:05:13] Childhood crush and identity.[00:10:08] Secret crushes and shame.[00:16:50] Coming out as a lesbian.[00:19:11] Attraction and identity transformation.[00:23:46] Masculinity as a protective shield.[00:26:05] Grandiosity in young women's identities.[00:30:50] Identity and rejection in relationships.[00:34:50] Gender identity and self-perception.[00:39:34] Hormonal changes and sexual attraction.[00:44:03] The impact of testosterone on behavior.[00:49:19] Dreams and identity exploration.[00:54:56] Fragility of ego in identity.[00:58:21] Identity crisis and personal anchors.[01:01:05] Suicide prevention and parental responsibility.[01:05:07] Nurturing motherhood and identity.[01:10:06] Grandparenthood and identity transformation.[01:14:36] Identity and self-acceptance journey.[01:18:48] Effects of testosterone on motivation.[01:22:50] Identity and motherhood loss.[01:28:17] Identity acceptance and transformation.[01:30:13] Rediscovering identity through transition.[01:34:54] Emotional stability and external connections.ROGD REPAIR Course + Community gives concerned parents instant access to over 120 lessons providing the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2025 to take 50% off your first month.TALK TO ME: book a meeting.PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.SUPPORT THE SHOW: subscribe, like, comment, & share or donate.ORGANIFI: Take 20% off Organifi with code SOMETHERAPIST.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order.SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission. ALL OTHER LINKS HERE. To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!Learn more about Do No Harm.Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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Mr. Joe covers the topic of grandiosity, a component of several personal disorders. Mr. Joe discusses reactive attachment disorder, narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and bipolar disorder. Please support Mr. Joe, so I can continue on my lifelong podcast journey… https://donate.stripe.com/bIY7vS00WaFfdrydQR Mr. Joe has also started microdosing therapy and highly recommends SoulCybin. They have an incredible selection of products and blends!  Be sure to visit… https://soulcybin.org/mrjoebp  and enter coupon code MRJOEBP to save 15% off your order right now!  In addition, if you would like to browse some amazing chocolate bars, various strains of mushrooms, and dozens of other amazing microdosing products, visit PolkaDot by visiting Mr. Joe's personal link… https://eatpolkadot.su/ref/1008/

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Join us as Mark and Melissa address numerous questions on all things mental, emotional and relationship health. Our passion is to help believers experience healing and freedom by becoming rooted in the love of the Father and the grace of Jesus Christ and to experience the truth that sets us free! This is a jam-packed […]

In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn explores the profound insights of Alice Miller regarding the emotional abandonment and narcissistic use of the child, focusing on how these early dynamics shape pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Drawing from Miller's groundbreaking work, Dr. Ettensohn examines how a child growing up in a narcissogenic environment learns to adapt by creating a false self—a facade designed to secure love and avoid rejection in a world where their authentic self is not welcome. The episode explores the function of grandiosity as a defense mechanism—an unconscious strategy to deny the pain of unmet emotional needs—and its counterpart, depression (narcissistic vulnerability), which turns the pain inward. Both defenses serve to protect the individual from confronting a devastating loss: the realization that the love and support they needed was not available. The episode offers a compassionate exploration of how this tragic loss gives rise to the false self, a defense that becomes both a survival strategy and a prison. Through relatable metaphors and clinical insight, Dr. Ettensohn describes the psychological toll of living behind this mask and the challenges of reconnecting with the buried authentic self. Though the loss cannot be undone, healing is possible. By grieving the past and clearing away the defenses, it is possible to rediscover the vibrant, authentic self that has always been there, waiting to emerge. References: Miller, A. (1979) Depression and Grandiosity as Related Forms of Narcissistic Disturbances. International Review of Psychoanalysis 6:61-76 Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8   VISIT THE WEBSITE: https://www.healnpd.org

This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information.   Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.

Lou had a very existential therapy session this week. Why are humans the ones, ya know? Lou reflects on his phone and online shopping and the dopamine hit of a new match before getting into his swan song in therapy. Michael is starting a new exercise tracking points and he is already up ten thousand.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448

I'm grateful to share a portion of my most recent conversation with Josh Slocum from the Disaffected podcast, where we dive deep into the complexities surrounding Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) and my new program, ROGD Repair. Have you ever wondered how cluster B personality traits intertwine with gender identity ideology to create a perfect storm for vulnerable youth? What if the very beliefs that are meant to empower these young people are actually leading them down a path of confusion and harm?As we explore the trifecta of social contagion—gender identity ideology, woke beliefs about social justice, and cluster B personality traits—I reveal how these elements can distort the way adolescents perceive themselves and their relationships. What are the common pitfalls parents face when trying to connect with their children caught in this whirlwind? Can more information actually backfire when trying to reach a child who feels morally superior?Join us as we unpack the psychological vulnerabilities at play and discuss practical strategies for parents to navigate these turbulent waters. How can understanding the dynamics of splitting and projection help parents regain their footing? Tune in to discover the answers and learn how ROGD Repair can empower families to foster healthier communication and understanding.Josh Slocum is the host of the weekly show Disaffected, available on Youtube and all usual podcast platforms. Disaffected examines politics and culture through a psychological point of view. Josh's experience coming from an abusive childhood informs the show's working premise that the psychological narcissistic abuse found in families now structures our public life. Follow him on X @disaffectedpod. This episode was borrowed from episode 187 of Disaffected, Old Man Yells at Cloud. Find this podcast and more of Josh's work at disaffected.com. 00:00 Start[00:01:43] Trifecta of social contagion.[00:06:25] ROGD Repair and family support.[00:08:25] Gender identity ideology's impact.[00:12:01] Course and community for parents.[00:15:09] More information doesn't help.[00:22:00] Cluster B personality disorders.[00:24:21] Grandiosity in identity politics.[00:27:52] Projected doubt in parenting.[00:32:04] ROGD parent community dynamics.ROGD REPAIR Course + Community for Parents is available now! Join at ROGDrepair.com and start using the tools immediately. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month.TALK TO ME: book a discovery call.LOCALS: Ask questions of me & guests; get early access to new episodes + exclusive content. Join my community.SUPPORT THE SHOW: subscribe, like, comment, & share or donate.EIGHTSLEEP: Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST.ORGANIFI: Take 20% off Organifi with code SOMETHERAPIST.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration. SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services. To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!Learn more about Do No Harm.Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We may be interested in living an authentic, honest life.Unfortunately, that doesn't necessarily mean those we're closest to are interested in doing the same thing.The easiest way to encourage those around us to show up authentically is by ensuring we make that experience as easy and enjoyable as possible for them.In this episode, we discuss:2:31  My daughter rescinded her dinner invitation and my feelings were hurt, and I pretended it was fine when I was actually really hurt.13:34  How powerful requests can revolutionize relationships17:10  Behavior is coded communication23:46  My grandson won't greet me28:30  A script for gathering the data needed to move forward38:17  Getting Grounded in Our Goodness40:30  How to interrupt interpersonal violence46:12  A special offer just for you!Two upcoming programs are discussed in this episode.  Click on the links below for more info:Fall Deep Dive:  A Look at Grandiosity and ShameMarch 2025 Retreat in Santa Fe— Thank you for tuning in. Remember to subscribe so you get notified when I publish an episode weekly. Here are more ways to connect with me: Follow me on YouTube Join my membership program Come to my Winter 2025 Retreat: Getting Grounded in Your Goodness Join our calls live Set up a private session Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus

Hey, Sisters. Dangerous personalities like narcissists and sociopaths are all around us. Some estimates show that up to 5% of the population exhibits traits of these deviant disorders. That's 5 out of every 100 people, people! Luckily, we have FBI profiler Joe Navarro on the pod to shed more light on who these people are and how to identify them. Personally approached at the tender age of 23 to join the FBI, Joe Navarro became one of the youngest agents ever to join the renowned investigative agency. He went on to spend the next 25 years at the FBI, working both as an agent and supervisor in the areas of counterintelligence and counterterrorism. Through his work he was able to study, refine and apply the science of nonverbal communications. His acumen in this field and his success as a spy-catcher, led Joe to train FBI agents and the intelligence community. Retiring from the FBI in 2003, and meeting overwhelming demand for his notable insights into human behavior, Joe has dedicated himself to speaking and consulting with major corporations worldwide. Today Joe is recognized as one of the world's foremost authorities on the application and use of nonverbal communications in business. Through his experience working with CEOs and senior leaders of major global organizations, he is highly sought out for his expertise on leadership, influence, and the behavioral qualities that drive more effective leaders and in turn happier, more productive workforces. Joe has been writing articles and books for the past 30 years. Today, he has 14 published books available in 29 languages. He has also written regular monthly columns for a variety of publications. Abby and Julie open the episode discussing Abby's experiences with saving a stranger's puppy and finding and returning another stranger's cell phone -- and the surprising ways in which these people reacted to her efforts.  ​

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This week, on TGU Chris Eddy, Julie Reid and Nick Miller chat about the new Victorian Government conduct reforms made law, draft housing targets for all Victorian councils announced, Port Phillip, Yarra, Greater Geelong councils in the news, Community Satisfaction Survey results released and a 1 metre long ballot paper for a by-election in Canada.Rhys Thomas returns to reveal the “mystery of the missing municipality” on the anniversary of Council amalgamations in Victoria.Sponsored by Hunt & Hunt Lawyers.Support the Show.To learn more about the events, programs, and training offered by the Victorian Local Governance Association (VLGA), please click here. If you'd like to contact us about the podcast, please send us an email to vlga@vlga.org.au or call us on 03 9349 7999

I'm diving into a topic that's particularly challenging yet incredibly relevant—narcissistic behavior. Have you ever dealt with someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance, craves admiration, and shows little empathy? If so, this episode is for you. Join me as I unpack how to identify these behaviors and share practical strategies to navigate interactions with such individuals. Whether it's a difficult conversation with a colleague or managing employee relations, understanding these dynamics can make all the difference. Learn how to set firm boundaries without escalating conflicts and discover techniques to keep your cool when faced with manipulation or criticism. What does narcissistic behavior look like? How do you respond/react/interact? I'll reveal why arguing with a narcissist is a losing game. We'll discuss the importance of self-compassion and how to maintain your own peace in the face of challenging behavior. I'll talk about the in's and out's of how to hold your boundaries.  Narcissistic behavior is never about YOU. I'll discuss the importance of self-compassion and how to maintain your own peace in the face of challenging behavior. Plus, I'll give you actionable tips on documenting interactions to protect your work and ensuring your voice is heard without getting drawn into unnecessary drama. Curious about how to handle someone who takes no accountability and always tries to claim credit for your work? Or how to deal with a person who constantly criticizes and blames others? With love and light, I hope these insights help you navigate your interactions with more confidence and calm. Stacie More episodes at StacieBaird.com.

If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona Kay has available, please check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.com ________________________________________________ During this episode with Caron Starobin, LCSW, you will learn more about how Relational Life Therapy (RLT) can help neurodiverse couples understand how their challenges and lived experiences can be used to help them learn, grow and heal. In addition, you will hear about the fantastic workshop that Caron helped organize for the Relational Life Therapy Foundation called “No Ordinary Life”.  You can purchase access to the workshop at the link below: Neurodiversity No Ordinary Love - Relational Life Foundation The RLT Relationship Grid is a visual representation of self esteem and boundaries and includes information about where each person ends up on the grid when they are having their worst day. Click on the link below for a picture of the grid. During this episode, Caron explains the grid and this visual will be helpful as you listen to the episode. https://www.facebook.com/TerryRealRLI/photos/the-relationship-grid-relational-life-institute-coming-to-centerlike-many-people/1335146869845845/ Other topics discussed include: Shame is thinking that you are worthless. Desperation is being willing to do anything to make someone believe you, or hear you. Grandiosity is when you think others are not as smart and worthy as you are. Resignation and withdrawal focus on feeling like you are the one who is not tuning into your partner and that you may be broken. Controlling may include asking your partner ”What is wrong with you? I'm always taking care of everything”. Work on boundaries becoming less rigid or porous. Both partners need to look at how they can communicate and function in a more healthy way. Determine how you can each change your patterns and become more resilient. In RLT the client is "the patterns" that get each couple stuck. There are 8 lenses that are used to assess each client/couple: 1) Presenting problem  2) Preconditions 3) The blatant latent 4) The losing strategies (there are 5 of these) 5) The stance, stance, stance 6) The Relationship Grid 7) Family of origin 8) Socio-cultural  Understanding that the grieving process may be different for each partner and it's important to acknowledge their markers of resilience. It is important to accept limitations in each other and grieve what each partner had expected and accept the reality of "what is" moving forward. Let go without resentment. If the resentment continues then you haven't done the grief work. Focus on doing "relational mindfulness" and be more yielding and generous. Relational reckoning. For more information on Relational Life Therapy, Caron recommends the books “The New Rules of Marriage” and “Us” by Terry Real. If you would like to learn more about Caron's therapy practice and the groups she offers, please check out her website at: www.starobincounseling.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/neurodiverse-love/message

NEW FREE MASTERCLASS I'm going to be talking about something that a listener sent me, and I thought it was a really interesting idea for a podcast, which is about nepotism. I do think it is yet another one of those areas of the industry where we can get our heads in the clouds and not on our bodies, and really allows us to make excuses for not showing up and taking responsibility. As a NEPO baby, I am not one. I do not come from anyone in the industry. You have an advantage in that you have those connections. However, you also have to have the talent, consistency, and persistence to back that up. The other thing is that, oh, you're so and so's daughter or you're so and so's child. Oh. Then you must be fantastic, and then you have to live up to that, or you can never be your own person. Now, I have a friend of mine who is the child of an incredibly famous actor, but that child chooses to use a different name because they don't want to be known as so and so's child. Now, that is very admirable.  I may go about it differently. I would say use every advantage you have.  But this is the thing, and this is the real key point because most of you listening to this podcast are not; do not have nepotism in your family. What do you do?  And this is the best advice I can give you. You need to keep your focus.  So often, I have actors who look at point A and point B, and instead of just drawing a line between point A to point B, they go up, they go down, they go around, they twirl around. They walk outside, they come back inside, and then maybe eventually get to point B.  The question, the thing is that things like nepotism and a lot of things that I feel in the industry, try to get your focus from the three points where you need to be putting your focus, which is your acting training, your business skills and the core work, the work on you are the things that distract you from taking real responsibility for the job that you have been given to do on this Earth, because I believe the universe has given you given all of us a gift. The question is, are we going to nurture that gift and are we going to stay focused on pursuing that gift? Or are we going to allow our focus to go off into things that we cannot control again?  My favorite prayer or affirmation is the serenity prayer that reminds us of this. Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. I cannot change other people, places, times, things, or situations, and whether my competition has nepotism or not, courage to change the things I can. I can only change myself, my attitudes, my thoughts, and my actions, and keep the focus on myself, my strengths, my career, and wisdom…  Wisdom, my favorite word in the American language, to know the difference, which is the difference between what I cannot control or change, which is other people, places, things, or situations, or change. Nepotism and other actors I may be competing against and what I can change, which is myself, my attitudes, my thoughts, and my actions.  So, that's my response to the first part of that listener's question. I'm going to read the second part to you because I think this is very interesting. Getting past the “what chance do I have?” misconception, ever having the opportunity to compete with a nepotism child.  Again, what I would say about that is your job when you go into an audition is to focus on the work.  It is not to focus on who your competition is. I joke about how I used to go into an audition room, and I'd sit in the audition room and basically pick the actor who I thought was going to get the job. That is so working against ourselves instead of for ourselves.  What I think is so crucial here is that when you go into audition, that your focus is again on that courage to change the things you can, which is really, truly freeing.  Focusing in on your work as the actor and living the life of that character in that space and time, whether that be in a self tape or be in the room. The listener goes on to say, my own personal Cher story. I consider myself a Nepo baby to an extent. I was raised in a theatrical household with family members who made their living in the arts and entertainment. When I was a child, they would say things to me that made it almost impossible to understand. And trust me, we were nowhere near the Barrymore status. If anything, that caused far more damage. And then validation. It is something I have struggled with on and off. I could elaborate so much more, but I think you get the idea.  So grandiosity, let's just talk about that word.  I have also experienced grandiosity in my life, whether observing it in other people or, sadly, myself carrying it out. Oh, what dress are you wearing? Oh, it's a Valentino. When, actually, maybe it was bought at Target. Oh, we're a grand theater family. It's just a small theater town in Connecticut or somewhere, but we are the family known as the theatrical family. Where has grandiosity played a part in your life? Do you have family members who exaggerate? Do you have friends who tend to exaggerate? A partner who tends to exaggerate?  The question is, what is wrong with the truth? What is wrong with the truth?  We don't always have to sell ourselves. We can just be.  And especially as actors, I find that grandiosity is about us trying to prove to an agent, a manager, a casting director, a writer, a producer, or a director that we are “so much better than we actually are.” But here's the thing. How you actually are is enough.  I am enough. I always have been, and I always will be. And that is what I also want you to notice. Use your mind to govern your brain to notice. Am I trying to be more when just being me may be enough?  I will also give you one final lesson on this, which is about from the casting director's point of view.  You don't have to prove to me that you are good.  You just need to do your job and know that you are good at doing that job.  And that will make me want to bring you in for auditions, and that will make me want to hire you.

In today's society we come across a lot of grandiose characters. From politicians to social media gurus, in our careers and in our personal relationships, we're bound to encounter people who have the biggest voice in the room and want everyone to believe their ideas and opinions are best.  In this episode of The Therapy Room, Niall is joined by our expert psychologists Louize Carroll and Dr. Tony Bates to break down the complexity of grandiosity in all its forms. They discuss the difference between grandiosity and narcissism, the subtle ways it can show up in our daily interactions and the not-so-subtle presentations in some of our world leaders and the silencing effect it can have on a person in a relationship. They also look at why someone may act in a grandiose demeanour and how, really, it can be a counter-reaction to shame.  Check out Niall's Sleep course over on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/niallbreslin Follow Niall on IG @bressie, TikTok @niallbreslin, FB @whereismymindpodcast and Twitter @nbrez and visit his website: www.niallbreslin.com. Where is My Mind? is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try and get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/mymind  Click this link for a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this show and all Lemonada shows lemonadamedia.com/sponsors. Stay up to date with Lemonada Media on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia. If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally or feeling hopeless, it's important to talk to someone about it now. You can contact one of the resources below for free.  In Ireland/U.K.: https://www.samaritans.org/ In the U.S.: https://988lifeline.org/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are arrogant to reinforce our "littleness" with thoughts like "I am not good enough. Others are more deserving than me. Etc." We over compensate with self-inflating thoughts like "I am so much better than everyone else." "Littleness or Grandiosity" will never satisfy us. Yet, we are Exalted in the Grandeur of our Creator. We share this Grandeur, this Light, with Everyone. The Glory of God pulses through us, and we have to feel this Divine Power in our very blood. The Love we share with everyone attests to this Grandeur. Beauty is everywhere. Divine Appreciation is the doorway into heaven. We can step into this awareness so easily, if we so choose to give up the illusions of "littleness" and "grandiosity."

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This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information.   Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.

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Ape and Rad would like to welcome two brand new guests who are friends of the show. As we dive into the the lives of each artists, the gentlemen then transitions over into a discussion regarding which matters more in the music industry; Looks or Talent? In addition, Ape brings on the topic that speaks on Grandiosity and how in pertains to individuals everyone is around on a daily basis. Enjoy!

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Hey Angels!!!So, I have about 3 editors doing three different jobs and my editor for my podcast is learning the ropes with me so we are learning each other's style and everything in regards to the scheduling of the visual part of the podcast as well as the visuals and we will have a set soon I promise! I am also STILL under the weather, after I filmed this it got worse, and now I have developed a cough. I am feeling better, but the coughing is embarrassing lol. I hope you have enjoyed this! I also want you to know that I am in bridesmaid duty and I film on sundays and I was suppose to film 2 episodes but I was not feeling well at all and was going to do it next Sunday but, I can't because my best friend's Bridal shower is next Sunday....which means Idk HOW im going to film between trying to schedule with my editor, and coughing up a storm.... UGH... Anywho I just wanted to share.Here is the book I reference And this is video one and video two that I reference going more in depth about what the book says about NPD!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5482848/advertisement

"Resilience is the essence of being human, it's intimately and directly connected to our humanity.""We are all both a masterpiece and a work in progress."Welcome to Season 3 of The Flourish or Fold Podcast! As a podcast host, I've had the privilege of engaging in enlightening discussions about resilience, a concept that is often misunderstood. In this first episode, I explore the concept of resilience and introduce the five practices of highly resilient people, a topic that I believe is crucial for personal growth and development, to you, our podcast audience.Resilience: An Inherent Part of Our HumanityResilience is not an external attribute that we need to acquire; it's an inherent part of our humanity. It's about how we respond to the three C's: challenge, change, and complexity. These moments of difficulty and adversity are not setbacks but opportunities for us to uncover our hidden strengths and talents.The Reverse Bucket List: Appreciating Our ChallengesOne of the concepts I introduced in the podcast was the reverse bucket list. This is a way to appreciate how challenging moments have shaped us into who we are today. I encourage everyone to reflect on their own three key moments and consider how those experiences have formed them.The Five Practices of Highly Resilient People1. Vulnerability: The Power of AuthenticityThe first practice of highly resilient people is vulnerability. It involves being able to connect deeply with ourselves and others. Vulnerability is not about sharing everything with everyone, but rather about aligning our inner thoughts and feelings with our outward expression.2. Productive Perseverance: Knowing When to PivotThe second practice is productive perseverance. Resilient individuals know when to continue in the face of challenge and opposition, and when to pivot or change their goals. It's about assessing the situation and recognizing when something is no longer serving us or yielding diminishing returns.3. Connection: Trusting Our IntuitionThe third practice is the practice of connection, both with ourselves and with others. It involves knowing our worth, trusting our intuition, and navigating relationships. Aligning the connection with ourselves and others is crucial, and knowing what to do when they are at odds is equally important.4. Grandiosity: Finding Gratitude in ChallengesThe fourth practice is grandiosity, which involves finding gratitude in challenging situations and being generous in sharing our resilient stories with others. This not only strengthens our own resilience but also provides a map for others' survival.5. Possibility: Seeing Opportunities in ChallengesLastly, the fifth practice is the practice of possibility. Resilient individuals are able to see possibilities in moments of challenge and navigate the interplay between risk and opportunity.Running Two Human Operating SystemsI also discussed the concept of running two human operating systems. When we feel one way on the inside but present a different version of ourselves on the outside, we are essentially running two different operating systems. This leads to internal turmoil and the need to expend a lot of energy to maintain the facade. However, when we align our inner and outer selves and allow vulnerability, we can operate with one human operating system, conserving energy and being more congruent.Looking AheadIn the upcoming episodes, I will delve deeper into each of the five practices of highly resilient people. I will also feature interviews with well-known individuals who will share their own stories of resilience. Stay tuned for more enlightening discussions on resilience and personal growth.Here are some highlights of the episode to look forward to:The Essence of Resilience [00:02:42]: Resilience is the essence of being human, and it exists within us. Resilience allows us to uncover hidden strengths and talents.Challenge, Change, and Complexity [00:06:35]: Challenge, change, and complexity are the fabric of human life. These moments teach us more about ourselves and offer opportunities for growth.The Five Practices of Highly Resilient People [00:11:00]: The five practices are vulnerability, mindfulness, connection, self-compassion, and growth mindset. These practices help us effectively face challenges and create positive outcomes.The first practice of vulnerability [00:13:41]: Importance of aligning our inner and outer selves, running one human operating system, and seeking support in vulnerable moments.The second practice of productive perseverance [00:15:59]: Knowing when to continue or pivot in the face of challenge, assessing the situation, and appreciating when something no longer serves us.The third practice of connection [00:17:13]: Navigating the connection with ourselves and others, trusting our intuition, and understanding the alignment or conflict between the two connections.Quintin Aaron interview preview [00:25:51]: A preview of my upcoming interview with Quintin Aaron, discussing his journey to become an actor and his stories of resilience, wellbeing, and mental health.

Have you ever felt really anxious about "if you're any good in bed"? Well, navigating sexual intimacy with a narcissist in a relationship can be challenging. Many individuals struggle with trying to satisfy their partner who is never content and always demands more. This understandably creates anxiety and performance pressure - you fall into a spiral of questioning yourself and your ability from a sexual perspective, but then this expands to you questioning yourself as a whole.The issues faced in such relationships include:1.  Shaming, blaming, and constant criticism from the narcissistic partner. They may make you feel inadequate or pressurize you into performing acts you're uncomfortable with. 2. Grandiosity and over-inflated esteem. Narcissists often present themselves as sexually superior and expect constant praise while being hypersensitive to criticism.3. Imbalance of priorities. They prioritize their own needs, neglecting yours.4. Aggression or violence, crossing boundaries without consent, coercing you into things that you're not really ok with or even threatening to share intimate details with others in order to maintain control in the relationship.5. Entitlement is another problem, where they demand specific sexual frequencies or expect you to tolerate infidelity. These dynamics pose serious risks, such as the threat of blackmail or emotional vulnerability affecting self-worth. People on the receiving end of this may feel the need to change themselves or undergo cosmetic procedures to please their narcissistic partners, but they can never meet their unrealistic standards. It's important to reflect on your own needs, boundaries, and values, seeking respect, communication, love, and care in a relationship. Prioritize your safety, both physically and emotionally, and remember that the most important relationship is the one with yourself. If you found this episode helpful, connect with me on Instagram at @dr.sarahalsawy or visit www.healtoxicrelationships.com. Support the showSet yourself up for relationship success. Whether you're surviving infidelity, solving relationship problems, improving your relationship, growing your self-worth and confidence amidst a trauma bond, here's the place to be.Helping you to feel relationship empowered and set you up for relationship success.LinkedIn Dr Sarah Alsawy-Davies Instagram @dr.sarahalsawy Website www.healtraumabonding.com

5.10 Mood Disorders (Depression and Bipolar) Psychiatry Review for the USMLE Step 1 exam Mood disorders are persistent disruptions in emotion, categorized into bipolar disorders and depressive disorders. Bipolar disorders are characterized by manic or hypomanic episodes, while depressive disorders feature periods of depression. Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) is characterized by feelings of sadness, guilt, worthlessness, and anhedonia lasting for at least two weeks. SIG E CAPS is an acronym used to remember the symptoms of depression: Sleep changes, Interest loss, Guilt, Energy loss, Concentration difficulties, Appetite changes, Psychomotor retardation, and Suicidal ideation. In MDD, at least 5 of the SIG E CAPS symptoms must persist for more than 2 weeks. Persistent Depressive Disorder (dysthymia) is a chronic, low-grade form of MDD that lasts for at least two years. Mania is a symptom common to all bipolar disorders, characterized by elevated or irritable mood and increased activity or energy. Mania lasting for at least 1 week is called a manic episode, while hypomania is a less severe form lasting longer than 4 days. The symptoms of mania can be remembered using the mnemonic DIG FAST: Distractibility, Irritable mood/insomnia, Grandiosity, Flight of ideas, Agitation/increased activity, Speedy thoughts/speech, and Thoughtlessness. Bipolar I involves manic episodes, and bipolar II involves hypomanic episodes and major depressive episodes. Bipolar I requires at least one manic episode, while bipolar II requires depressive episodes. Mood stabilizers such as lithium, valproate, carbamazepine, and lamotrigine are used to treat bipolar disorders. Litium is the best (notable exeptions however). Antidepressants are contraindicated for bipolar patients due to the risk of flipping into mania. The risk of suicide is high in bipolar patients, with 25-50% attempting suicide and 10-15% dying by suicide. Cyclothymia is a less common form of bipolar disorder characterized by cycling between hypomania and mild depression over many years.

The influence of narcissism partners with a mindset of grandiosity, an extreme pattern of a self-importance or “specialness” that often leads to exaggerated boasting about accomplishments, status and image.  As we all learn to heal and grow, God will lead us to see His greatness at work within us. We have areas of low thinking […] The post Overcoming Grandiosity from a Narcissist Relationship first appeared on Mark DeJesus.

Maura Johnston joins us as we wrestle with the Eurovision 2023 set of auto-qualifiers. Will Ukraine pull the double? Will the UK and Spain continue their glowups? Will we be going back to Italy? Will Germany get out of the basement? Is France gonna France? Controlled Grandiosity Summary France — La Zarra — "Évidemment" (2:16) Germany — Lord of the Lost — "Blood and Glitter" (6:43) Italy — Marco Mengoni — "Due Vite" (12:29) Spain — Blanca Paloma — "EAEA" (17:08) Ukraine — TVORCHI — "Heart of Steel" (22:44) United Kingdom — Mae Muller — "I Wrote a Song" (28:08) Final Thoughts (34:28) Subscribe The EuroWhat? Podcast is available wherever you get your podcasts. Find your podcast app to subscribe here (https://www.eurowhat.com/subscribe). Keep tabs on everything happening with Eurovision 2023 on our website at eurowhat.com/2023 Comments, questions, and episode topic suggestions are always welcome. You can shoot us an email (mailto:eurowhatpodcast@gmail.com), reach out on Twitter @eurowhat (https://twitter.com/eurowhat), or give us a toot on Mastodon (https://douzepoints.social/invite/ZTd9ufAC). Over on Patreon, we have a slew of bonus episodes featuring the Eurowhat AV Club and deep dives on Eurovision-adjacent topics. Thank you for your support! Special Guest: Maura Johnston.

In this episode, you'll learn how grandiosity can lead to affairs. If we think we are better than others, we tend to excuse our behavior and make exceptions for ourselves. You'll learn what grandiosity is and how it can show up for the betrayed partner as well as the one who betrayed. You'll have a clear understanding of how the mindset of grandiosity gets in the way of real transparency, connection and healing and what to to about it. Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program at:   https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2023 Andrea Giles

Please give Talking to Teens 5 stars on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Reviews help other parents find us and helps us keep the lights on! Thanks for listening!For many of us, a perfectly harmonious home sounds like a dream. We'd love it if teens came home by curfew, our advice was always graciously accepted, and conflict was totally nonexistent. We'd never have to stress about what to make for dinner or worry about who our kids are hanging out with. Everything would be perfect and easy…right?As nice as harmony sounds, it's simply unrealistic–and not necessarily beneficial either. In fact, psychologists (like the one we're interviewing today) believe that conflict and disagreement are essential to building strong, nuanced, durable relationships with our kids. Without conflict, there's no repair. Without repair, relationships never grow and evolve.To explain how parents can embrace disrepair and negative emotions in relationships, we're sitting down with Terry Real, author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry is a world-renowned family therapist, speaker, and author of multiple other bestselling books about relationships. He's also the founder of the Relational Life Institute, where he offers workshops for parents, individuals and couples. He also holds professional training for clinicians to adopt his unique relational life therapy method.In this episode, we're talking about how conflict is essential to building strong bonds with kids. Plus, we discuss a concerning parenting phenomenon called false empowerment, and explain why parents need to encourage sensitivity in boys.

Nick and Robyn speak on a very complicated subject in secular psychology. They first speak of an intrusive personality feature known as delusions of grandeur and the difference between such feature and grandiosity. They then discuss the scripture and how very important biblical discipline at an early age can be an amazing preventive aspect to such personality features and what to do if you find yourself with these kinds of features.

Summary: Alasdair and Julie-Roxane reflect on the strange fact that for the first time in 8 years they both have jobs. Mentioned on this episode:The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay HendricksLinchpin: Are You Indispensable?  by Seth GodinSupport this podcast:Discount link to purchase organic, raw ceremonial-grade cacao ethically sourced in Guatemala (a portion of proceeds support this podcast)Become a patron at: https://www.patreon.com/thefaroutcoupleMake one-time donation with PayPal (our account is aplambeck22@gmail.com)Leave a review on iTunes!Share this episode with a friend! :DConnect with us:Website: www.thefarout.lifeEmail us at info@thefarout.lifeWild Within @ www.thewildwithin.orgCredits:Intro music: "Complicate ya" by Otis McDonaldOutro music: "Running with wise fools" written & performed by Krackatoa (www.krackatoa.com)

Sesión 1 del círculo de lectura del primer ciclo Alice Miller. Plataforma Justine time www.vinyasayogajustinetime.com. Con Mélanie Berthaud.”Grandiosity is the defense against depression and depression is the defense against the deep pain over the loss of the self that results from denial” Alice Miller (The drama of the gifted child) Historia del podcast Justine Time Un podcast creado por Mélanie Justine Marie Berthaud durante el encierro histórico de marzo 2020, como un walk and talk podcast sobre distintos temas y ahora una sola temporada, para abordar conversaciones íntimas o extimas sobre temas tales como: - sociedad, - psicoanálisis - literatura, - feminismo, - espiritualidad , con Thich Nhat Hanh, y el libro sobre Sanar el niño interior, que leemos en francés, así como el libro de Deepak Chopra: "Buda". El libro se publicó en 2007, con el título "Buddha: a story of enlightenment". - psicología y el trabajo de Bessel Van der Kolk, y el libro "The body keeps the score" - astrología y las entrevistas con el astróogo, chef e historiador Rodrigo Llanes. #besselvanderkolk#thebodykeepsthescore#traumasensitiveyoga#meljustinemarie#hypnotherapist#psychoanalysis#resilience#memory#yoga@justine.time.yoga.poetry.art#temporada5#chef#historiadorrodrigollanes#podcastjustinetime#justinetimeyogapoetryarts#astrology#moon#newmoons#newmoonrituals ¿Cómo interactuar ? Puedes sugerir temas y dejar mensajes vocales en la página de Anchor , y los incluimos en los episodios que siguen. ¡Animate! Aquí el link: https://anchor.fm/mel88888. ig: justine.time.yoga.poetry.art www.vinyasayogajustinetime.com Esperamos tus comentarios y preguntas. Gracias -------- Mel Berthaud es politóloga, profesora de yoga y meditación, psicoanalista e hipnoterapeuta. Ha integrado completamente la práctica de yoga como ciencia, filosofía y arte. Certificada por RYT500. Con más de 2000 horas de enseñanza registradas en Yoga Alliance. También ejerce el psicoanálisis desde hace 16 años. Es hipnoterapeuta y heutagoga. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mel88888/message

The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes daily from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information. Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.

OUR FOCUSReality and Truth cannot be fixed since they are unbreakable.  Thoughts are not real or true they are imagined. Illusions, like imagination, thought to be real are delusional.  To think delusion can be fixed is to be delusional.   What does not exist has nothing to fix. Obsessive thoughts try to fix, set, and cement thoughts in place to offer the appearance of truth and reality's permanence.  Obsessive thinking wears us out while we think we can hide the strain we maintain.  This management style is often wrongly called life.  It is delusional to think thoughts are real and true.  To treat delusions is to act as though there is something to treat.   We can think there is something to treat but this again puts wrong thinking at the center of the problem and when we do reveals thinking is the source of the problem - not reality, truth, life, or this, that, them, or then.  To think thoughts are real, true or both is to think all that should, will, or is all that is welcome to happen is only what we thought would happen.  Expectations based only on what we think should happen indicate we think our thoughts are true.  All that ever happens is what happens no matter what we think.  Fractured states of thought can be traced to primary mistaken notions. Mental disorders are thoughts acting on thoughts out of order. Truth and Reality are not optional, negotiable, or attainable.  Truth and Reality are the nature of existence regardless of how we think of them. To think a thought with no substance can be fixed is to think the thought has substance. Pain gives notice something is wrong. Inner conflict, mental anguish, and emotional turmoil reflect thoughts in conflict, anguish knowing something is wrong and emotions fired up thinking wrong is right.   Right need not be thought of any longer than it is utilized since it is immediately applicable.  What is applicable will apply to all, so is supportive of all, and barely need to be thought of as reapplied since we know it will work.  One form of thought is a drag, the other light speed as they reveal the dark absence of any substance or the illumination of life's light.  Wrong thoughts as right need constant maintenance to appear real.  The self we think we are is not who or what we are but what we think.  Grandiosity, arrogance, and pride try to bring balance to an idea that has no basis to balance.  Even thinking it can be balanced is offering undue credit leading to the bankruptcy of the idea. contact@mentalobsession.com

FTX collapsed. Just like we always knew it would. The crypto industry is the weakest it's ever been; the empty lies of their phony populist narrative laid bare, their debauchery and corruption exposed for the world to see. And with them fatally weakened, it's time to put the final nail in the metaphorical coffin and end this madness.

Episode Introduction:  Tune in to learn all about the five different types of narcissistic presentations and how to identify each.   Episode Summary:  In this second part of our four-week series, we're discussing the different types of narcissistic presentations identified by researchers. We also talk in-depth about the common traits among all narcissists as well as traits that are specific to particular narcissistic presentations.   Rise Tribe Takeaways:  Common traits of narcissists: Grandiosity. Extreme self-focus. Inflated sense of self-worth. Strong need for external praise and recognition.   Types of Narcissistic Presentations: Overt Narcissism Covert Narcissism Antagonistic Narcissism Communal Narcissism Malignant Narcissism   Help us grow and reach out to more amazing individuals such as yourself by leaving a positive rating + review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rise-station/id1565362467   Connect With Us:    Email: media@restorativefamilyservices.com Website: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/restorativefamily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RestorativeFS

We all have narcissistic traits. Having some sense of our own specialness isn't just normal, it's actually psychologically healthy. The problems start when people go beyond normal levels, and become addicted to feeling special. On this episode, Forrest is joined by Dr. Craig Malkin to explore narcissism and narcissistic traits. They talk about the different forms narcissism takes, the difference between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), red flags, dealing with narcissists, treatment options, and finding the “right amount” of feeling special.About our Guest: Dr. Malkin is a Lecturer in Psychology for Harvard Medical School, a licensed psychologist with several decades of clinical experience, and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists. He also has a great YouTube channel. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction1:35: Narcissism as a pervasive universal trait4:10: What differentiates healthy narcissism vs. disordered narcissism?5:45: “Triple E” - exploitation, entitlement, empathy impairments6:45: Incapable of empathy, or unmotivated?9:10: What distinguishes having narcissistic traits from having NPD?13:05: Extraverted, covert, and communal narcissism23:10: Healthy and unhealthy narcissistic traits often go together25:20: Insecure attachment28:30: Emotional hot potato32:10: Social and cultural power dynamics 36:25: What does healing narcissism look like?42:55: What modalities do you use in therapy?45:20: Difficult relationships, communal activation, empathy prompts50:35: Extinction bursts and using anxiety responses in therapy53:25: How do you repair with your partner? 57:05: RecapGrief and Loss Workshop: We all face losses in life, from separation and disappointment to shocking, even traumatic events. Join me August 13 and 14 for 7 hours of LIVE, online teaching focused on learning simple, powerful practices that help us come to terms with loss, heal, and find happiness again. Use coupon code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off the registration price.Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Bombas designed their socks, shirts, and underwear to be the clothes you can't wait to put on every day. Visit bombas.com/beingwell and use code beingwell for 20% off. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

In this reflection I successfully (but with difficulty) work through three struggles that all deal with the external world. Supporting themes: A traffic light metaphor; Being empathic; Narcissistic supply; Achieving and accomplishing; Freedom to fail; Grandiosity; Podcasting; and Abandonment, rejection and self-care. Typology: Ni-domness; Auxiliary and Inferior function challenges; and INTJ-ness.

One of the strongest compulsions of the ego is to try to make itself “bigger” and “better” in comparison to others. But why? If we inquire more deeply into this process, we find that our drive toward the grandiose is actually a distortion of a deeper, natural instinct toward expressing the grandeur of our Being. How do we tell the difference?…and more important, how do we decrease the operation of ego and increase the embodiment of grandeur? We discuss in this episode.

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If we want to improve ourselves and build strong relationships with others, we have to start at the root of everything: human nature. Best-selling author and expert in human nature, Robert Greene believes that by understanding the drives and motivations of ourselves and those around us, we can improve ourselves and thrive. In this episode, Hala and Robert talk about the Laws of Human Nature, including The Law of Rationality, The Law of Grandiosity, The Law of Narcissism, and more. They also yap about how humans are irrational beings, how to detach from the control of emotions, how to determine someone's character, how to harness the “shadow self” for good, and so much more.    Topics Include: - Why Robert wrote “The Laws of Human Nature”  - The Law of Rationality  - Is it possible to become fully rational?   - The Law of Narcissism  - Who is a narcissist?  - What is our “shadow self”  - How to harness our “shadow self” for good - How do we determine someone's character? - Strong vs weak character - The Law of Grandiosity   - How success can be dangerous - The Law of Death Denial  - Samurai warrior medication technique related to death - And other topics…  Robert Greene is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, and The Laws of Human Nature.  Robert has been featured in The New York Times, USA Today, CNN, The New Yorker, Newsweek, The Los Angeles Times, and Forbes, among others. He has also appeared on The Today Show, CNBC, ABC, and more. Robert attended U.C. Berkeley and the University of Wisconsin at Madison, where he received a degree in classical studies. He currently lives in Los Angeles. Sponsored By: HelloFresh - Go to HelloFresh.com/yap16 and use code yap16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts Grin.co - Find out how GRIN can help you grow your brand. Watch the demo at GRIN.co  WRKOUT - Visit wrkout.com/yap to book a FREE Session with a world-class trainer and get 30% off your first TWO MONTHS with code YAP 99designs by Vista - Head to 99designs.com/YAP to learn more and get $30 off your first design contest! Constant Contact - To start your free digital marketing trial today, visit constantcontact.com Riverside.fm - Visit riverside.fm and use my code YAP to get 60 minutes free recording and 15% off a membership plan. Resources Mentioned: YAP Episode #43: Decoding the Laws of Human Nature with Robert Greene [Part 1]: https://soundcloud.com/youngandprofiting/robert-greene-p1v1?in=king-robinson-470572546/sets/power  YAP Episode #44: Decoding the Laws of Human Nature with Robert Greene [Part 2]: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/44-decoding-the-laws-of-human-nature-with-robert-greene-part-2/  Robert's Books: https://powerseductionandwar.com/books/  Robert's Website: https://powerseductionandwar.com/  Robert's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/The-48-Laws-of-Power-by-Robert-Greene-139177212820049/  Robert's Twitter: https://twitter.com/RobertGreene  Robert's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertgreeneofficial/  Connect with Young and Profiting: YAP's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youngandprofiting/     Hala's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/htaha/     Hala's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yapwithhala/     Hala's Twitter: https://twitter.com/yapwithhala  Clubhouse: https://www.clubhouse.com/@halataha   Website: https://www.youngandprofiting.com/  Join Hala's SlickText Community: https://youngandprofiting.co/TextHala or text “YAP” to 28046

Let's talk about these narcissist traits. According to the DSM-5, a person with a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) will have 5 out of 9 traits. What is NPD? It is "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy."  In this episode, I am discussing the first trait of a narcissistic personality disorder according to the DSM-5.Check out our website for affirmation cards & coffee mugs at www.acclimatedtotherapy.comThank you for listening to the Mental Health Bible Study Podcast.Support the show (https://www.issuesoflife.me/donate)

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