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What happens when a culture loses its relationship with the Divine Mother? Meghan Farner and Jocelyn Pedersen explore the Heavenly Mother wound—and how spiritual motherlessness may be showing up in our relationships, religions, and cultural conflicts.Rather than reducing today's tensions between men and women to feminism versus patriarchy, Meghan and Jocelyn ask what might be underneath them. What happens when the feminine is feared, diminished, or disconnected from divinity? And how might reclaiming Heavenly Mother change the way we understand both feminine and masculine spiritual identity?Together they explore the loss of the Divine Feminine, the deeper meaning of spiritual motherhood, masculine surrender and vulnerability, and Christ as a pattern of integration rather than hierarchy. They also consider creation and gestation as sacred symbols, feminine spiritual authority, women as mirrors and initiators, and the role of both masculine and feminine in the journey toward wholeness.This conversation invites us beyond the battle between masculine and feminine and toward something deeper: the restoration and integration of both.00:00 - The Divine Feminine and Our Cultural Moment 04:22 - Why Are We Seeing a Backlash Against Women? 09:17 - When Feminism and Patriarchy Both Miss the Point 14:37 - The Heavenly Mother Wound: A Motherless Culture 21:01 - Why the Feminine Is Feared 23:22 - Who Is the Divine Mother? 30:20 - Discovering Heavenly Mother 32:33 - The Divine Feminine in Christ 38:10 - Creation, Gestation, and the Feminine Pattern 44:03 - Spiritual Rebirth and Returning to the Mother 48:32 - Feminine Authority, Anointing, and Christ 52:29 - Mary Magdalene and the Hidden Feminine 56:20 - Masculine Healing: Surrendering the False Self 62:12 - Shame, Vulnerability, and Becoming Whole 64:19 - Women as Mirrors and Spiritual Initiators 68:02 - Reclaiming the Feminine Without Creating DivisionReclaiming the Woman in the Wilderness Retreat - September 11-12 - Lehi, UT  Continue Your JourneyIf this episode resonated with you, there are several ways to go deeper:

What if the person you call the love of your life entered carrying the key to the place where you still believe you are incomplete? Human beings begin life dependent. That dependence is innocent. A child requires regulation, protection, recognition, touch, presence, and care. When those needs remain unfinished, adulthood can inherit more than pain. It can inherit an assignment. Find somebody who will finally make the old absence stop hurting. Then attraction can feel like destiny because conditioning recognizes a familiar role before consciousness recognizes the script. The divine mirrored intimate play places another free, changing human being close enough to activate what solitude can keep hidden. Their distance can uncover abandonment. Independence can expose control. A boundary can reveal entitlement. Desire can expose the hunger to be chosen. Change can uncover the fear beneath your demand for permanence. The mirror shows something devastating. You have been asking an impermanent person to provide permanent evidence that you are truly whole. Bodies age, feelings move, circumstances turn, identities evolve, and relationships change form. Impermanence keeps its promise. The false self fights that fact because psychological need requires continuity of supply. Here need becomes the original sin when innocent childhood dependence survives as the adult belief that completion exists somewhere outside the self. Perhaps the fine tuning serves one ruthless purpose. Whatever you keep demanding from another person returns as a question about what remains uncultivated, disowned, or unclaimed within you. Can you become internally what you keep hiring romantic love to provide externally? Psychological freedom begins when another person can matter enormously without carrying responsibility for your wholeness. Then love loses its job as rescue. The mirror has done its work for you. You finally meet the person across from you after you stop trying to find yourself inside them.

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Send us a Positive Review!Lately there has been a lot of talk about the LDS disaffiliation crisis in the 21st century. Here at Latter Day Struggles we support open dialogue about what happening in our LDS homes and congregations.  Please enjoy this special "audiobook" addition of a Latter Day Struggles series unpacking some groundbreaking research done by therapist Liz Macdonald exploring common LDS family dynamics shared by young adults whose disaffiliation experiences were the most challenging.  We care about people all across the spectrum of faith in and around the LDS church.  Taking research like this seriously could profoundly reshape our community in healthy ways. Timestamps:00:00 Welcome03:54 Meet Liz and The Study11:48 Method and Study Limits22:03 Four Key Findings Overview28:00 Disconnected From Self52:20 Fear-Based Theology and Parenting01:02:38 Conditional Love and Worthiness01:12:42 False Self and Hidden Struggles01:22:32 One-Way Communication and Fear01:31:17 Blaming Outside Influences01:40:20 New Episode Research Overview01:57:49 Purity Culture and Shame02:08:05 Adult Development and Compassion02:20:19 Fear of Selfhood02:30:25 High Demand Religion02:44:22 Research Recap02:52:12 Eight Stages Walkthrough03:04:59 Parents Threatened by Growth03:19:13 Fundamentalism and Safety03:27:20 From Identity to Intimacy03:34:37 Recommendations and Repair03:41:27 Closing and ResourcesSupport the showSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODESFriday Episodes Annual Access $89Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10Valerie's Support & Processing GroupsGift a ScholarshipDownload Free ResourcesVisit our Website

Narcissism is usually imagined as arrogance, dominance, and the loudest person in the room, but it is not always that obvious. In this episode, Vanessa explores narcissism as a problem of selfhood: what happens when a person does not have a stable enough inner sense of Self to stay emotionally coherent without constant reflection from the outside. Through Kohut, Kernberg, the myth of Narcissus, vulnerable and grandiose narcissism, the false self, parental overvaluation, and the difference between traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, we look at why these dynamics can feel so confusing inside real relationships. The question is not only whether someone can be charming, wounded, or empathic when things are easy, but whether they can stay curious about your reality when it no longer mirrors back the version of themselves they need to see.For educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.Join Vanessa for the free Inner Compass Academy Summit, August 5–7, where we'll explore depth psychology, shadow, embodiment, and what real transformation asks of us. Register here: https://www.vanessabennett.com/ica-summitReference Links:Heinz Kohut — Self PsychologyUse for: Kohut's self psychology, narcissism, mirroring, and development of a cohesive sense of self.Link: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/nursing-and-health-professions/self-psychologyNote: ScienceDirect overview identifies Kohut as the theorist most associated with self psychology and describes his focus on the development of a cohesive and positive sense of self.Kohut's Self Psychology Model / NarcissismUse for: Kohut's view of narcissism, unmet selfobject needs, and narcissism as part of development rather than simple arrogance.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2860525/Note: Useful accessible clinical article describing therapy through Kohut's self psychology model.SelfobjectUse for: Kohut's selfobject concept: another person experienced as part of the self's regulation and cohesion, rather than fully as a separate subject.Link: https://www.encyclopedia.com/psychology/dictionaries-thesauruses-pictures-and-press-releases/self-objectNote: Use for the episode's explanation of relationships organized around mirroring and self-regulation.Narcissus MythUse for: Narcissus as the mythic image of attachment to reflection/image rather than real mutual relationship.Link: https://www.britannica.com/topic/Narcissus-Greek-mythologyNote: Use as the basic myth reference. The episode's psychological interpretation is Vanessa's depth-oriented reading.Otto Kernberg — Pathological Narcissism / Grandiose SelfUse for: Kernberg's work on pathological narcissism, object relations, and the grandiose self.Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2678027/Note: PubMed abstract summarizes Kernberg's theory and mentions treatment focused on the pathologic grandiose self.Otto Kernberg — Borderline Conditions and Pathological NarcissismUse for: Primary book reference for Kernberg's work on pathological narcissism.Link: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/borderline-conditions-and-pathological-narcissism-9780876681770/Note: Book citation for producer if referencing Kernberg's broader theoretical framework.Grandiose and Vulnerable NarcissismUse for: Distinction between grandiose narcissism and vulnerable / hypersensitive narcissism.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5601176/Note: Research article describing grandiose narcissism as overt superiority/entitlement and vulnerable narcissism as hypersensitivity and introversive self-absorption.Pathological Narcissism and Psychosocial FunctioningUse for: Grandiosity and vulnerability as two core themes of pathological narcissism.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6710132/Note: Useful source for explaining that narcissism can have both grandiose and vulnerable expressions.Narcissistic Vulnerability / Pathological Narcissism InventoryUse for: Narcissistic vulnerability as fragile self-concept, limited self/affect regulation, shame/rage, and sensitivity to perceived threats to self-esteem.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3354008/Note: Supports the episode's discussion of narcissistic injury, collapse, shame, and fragility.Winnicott — True Self / False SelfUse for: Winnicott's false self concept, compliance, performance, and protection of the more vulnerable self.Link: https://academic.oup.com/book/1192/chapter-abstract/140028848Note: Oxford Academic page for Winnicott's “Ego Distortion in Terms of True and False Self.”Parental Overvaluation and Narcissism — Eddie Brummelman et al.Use for: Research showing parental overvaluation predicts child narcissism, while parental warmth predicts healthy self-esteem.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4378434/Note: PNAS article, “Origins of Narcissism in Children.”Parental Overvaluation and Narcissism — PubMedUse for: Quick PubMed reference for the Brummelman study.Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25775577/Note: PubMed abstract states narcissism was predicted by parental overvaluation, not lack of parental warmth, while self-esteem was predicted by parental warmth.Narcissistic Personality Disorder — APA DictionaryUse for: Clinical definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and diagnostic features.Link: https://dictionary.apa.org/narcissistic-personality-disorderNote: APA Dictionary includes grandiose self-importance, need for attention/admiration, rage/humiliation/emptiness in response to criticism, entitlement, exploitation, and inability to empathize.Narcissistic Personality Disorder — MSD Manual ProfessionalUse for: DSM-5-TR-oriented overview of NPD as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration/adulation, and lack of empathy.Link: https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/psychiatric-disorders/personality-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-npdNote: Useful accessible clinical reference for the distinction between narcissistic traits and a diagnosable personality disorder.Love Bombing — Empirical StudyUse for: Love bombing as a relationship formation pattern associated with narcissism, insecure attachment, low self-esteem, and excessive communication early in relationships.Link: https://scholarworks.uark.edu/hdfsrsuht/1/Note: Undergraduate honors thesis / empirical study. Use lightly. Love bombing is not a formal clinical diagnosis, but this source provides research support for the term.Love Bombing — Research SummaryUse for: Additional accessible reference for love bombing as connected to narcissistic tendencies and early relationship intensity.Link: https://www.kristenjozkowski.com/publications/18156-love-bombing-a-narcissistic-approach-to-relationship-formationNote: Use as a secondary support source if needed; avoid overstating love bombing as a formally established diagnostic concept.Narcissistic Personality Disorder — Recent Research OverviewUse for: Current overview of NPD, grandiose and vulnerable presentations, diagnosis, and treatment complexity.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10187400/Note: Helpful scholarly overview of recent progress in understanding and treating NPD.If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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“The great tragedy for many of us is that in growing up, we become self-made, independent successes who are weighed down with thoughts of the past and worries about the future. We lose touch with our true self, the person God created us to be. We live off-center and alienated from who we really are.” […]

This episode explores how the False Self develops, why it disconnects us from who we truly are, and how we can begin recovering the True Self through awareness, grief, embodiment, boundaries, self-compassion, and safe relationships. To listen to Part 2 and support our work, join our membership: https://veilofreality.com/membership/

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Send us Fan MailSoul Therapy with Joanne Zagonev: Healing the False Self Through Psychology & TanyaIn this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast, with Rivkah and Eda, we introduce clinical psychologist and author Joanne Zagenov, whose book "Soul Therapy" integrates psychodynamic/attachment theory with Tanya. Joanne shares how growing up in a culture that prized intelligence, feeling like an outsider, and early experiences of “not good enough” shaped her pursuit of psychology and later Chassidus through Rabbi YY Keselman, leading to deeper healing. The conversation explores the true self vs false self, healthy authenticity vs narcissistic “do what feels good,” secure attachment and defenses, and the Tanya's animal soul and godly soul, emphasizing a God-directed life alongside responsible therapy. Joanne discusses sensitivity, anxiety as a coping mechanism, splitting and transference, practical Chassidic tools for low self-esteem, shame, envy, anger, and anxiety, and offers guidance on estranged family relationships.EPISODE SPONSORSSwimplyThis episode is powered by Swimply — and with summer here, the timing couldn't be better. Swimply lets you rent a beautiful private pool by the hour, right in your own city. No crowds, no chaos — just your family or friends in your own space. With over 15,000 private pools across the US, Canada, and Australia, you can browse by size, style, and location and find exactly what you're looking for. For those of us who value privacy and modesty, this is truly a game-changer: a luxurious, secluded swim experience without having to travel far from home. Download the Swimply app or visit Swimply.com, and use code INSIDEOUT10 for 10% off your next booking!Colel Chabad Colel Chabad is one of Israel's oldest continuously operating charities, supporting families with food security, widows & orphans, and emergency relief.  Their Pushka (Charity Box) App makes it easy to turn inspiration into action with simple daily giving—small “micro-donations” that add up to real impact over time. To join thousands of daily givers, download the Pushka App on iOS or Android and start giving today: https://pushkapp.cc/Inside Discover and donate to Colel Chabad here: https://colelchabad.org/Shefa Living & Yeshiva of Glade Valley:Shefa Living is a warm, growing Jewish community nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina — offering families the rare combination of natural beauty, affordable living, and authentic Torah life, all in one place. At the heart of the community is Yeshiva of Glade Valley, a school built on the understanding that every child is created with a unique soul, unique strengths, and unique needs. With small classrooms, close rebbe and morah relationships, strong Torah values, and a deep focus on emotional balance, confidence, and creativity, it's a place where children can truly feel seen — and where families can breathe a little deeper. Learn more here: https://yeshivagv.com/ OkClarity.ComFinding the right therapist or coach can be one of the most challenging parts of seeking help — even with a great referral, the person isn't always the right fit. That's where OkClarity comes in. OkClarity is an online platform featuring hundreds of Jewish therapists, psychiatrists, coaches, nutritionists, and support groups, where you actually get to meet the person through videos and introductions before deciding whether to move forward with a first session. More than 10,000 people have already benefited from OkClarity, and it's not just a directory for those seeking help — if you're a mental health practitioner, therapist, or coach, you can list yourself on the platform too, so the people who need you can find you. Visit OKclarity.com: https://go.jcn.io/OtfUxl  to find the right fit for you.GUEST BIOJoanne ZagonevJoanne Zagnoev is a clinical psychologist based in South Africa with over 32 years of experience helping clients navigate emotional healing, attachment wounds, and the search for authentic selfhood. She specializes in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders and is known for her unique integration of psychodynamic and attachment theory with the teachings of Tanya and Chassidus. Joanne is the author of Soul Therapy: Achieving Total Transformation Through Psychology and Tanya, in which she explores the parallel journeys of psychological healing and spiritual growth — distinguishing the true self from the false self, and the animal soul from the godly soul, on the path to living a God-directed life. A South African native and mother of four, Joanne brings both clinical expertise and personal insight to her work, helping clients move from woundedness to wholeness. You can purchase Joanne's book, Soul Therapy, here: https://amzn.to/4eZCAGp COMMUNITYJoin the Community! Connect with us on socials to discuss Episode 130, share insights, and continue the conversations you want to have:

Thom's Nutshell: Look for the benefit in all situations - practice positive opportunism. In another passage from Joe C.'s Beyond Belief, Allen ties our daily reflection to Emotional Sobriety and the importance of dislodging our false self in pursuit of an emboldened authentic one. Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com  Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs   Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Alan Berger on Getting Back to the Future(00:04:06) - The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous(00:08:27) - Don't Say AA '(00:11:41) - Thomas Had Enough of the False Self(00:16:00) - Living With Your Value System(00:21:52) - In the Simpsons Episode 8,(00:24:57) - Happy Hour: Positive Opportunism and Emotional Sobriety(00:26:24) - How to Control Your Thoughts(00:30:34) - Positive Opportunism in Life(00:34:09) - Alan on Bad Mouth and AA

I'm always thrilled when my friend Mitch Horowitz arrives at the Virtual Alexandria. He'll discuss his fantastic new book, Esoterika: Formulas Against the False Self. We'll investigate the practical application of inner and hidden philosophies to dismantle the automaticity of existence and confront the artificiality of modern life. You'll discover astringent self-development formulas that prioritize tangible results over mere recitation, fostering a path toward greater personal agency and dignity. By exploring the intersections of ancient ethics and causative rituals, seekers are challenged to move past mechanical habits to achieve a more truthful and expressive state of being. Get the book: https://amzn.to/4eUrHpk More on Mitch: https://www.mitchhorowitz.com/ Get The Occult Elvis: https://amzn.to/4jnTjE4 Virtual Alexandria Academy: https://thegodabovegod.com/virtual-alexandria-academy/ Gnostic Tarot Readings: https://thegodabovegod.com/gnostic-tarot-reading/ The Gnostic Tarot: https://www.makeplayingcards.com/sell/synkrasis Homepage: https://thegodabovegod.com/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/aeonbyte AB Prime: https://thegodabovegod.com/members/subscription-levels/ Voice Over services: https://thegodabovegod.com/voice-talent/ Support with donation: https://buy.stripe.com/00g16Q8RK8D93mw288 Merch store: https://aeonbyte.creator-spring.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Friends, “The hour is late. It is time for unwanted guests to leave.” That's a line from this episode's guest, MITCH HOROWITZ, in his latest book, Esoterika: Formulas Against the False Self. The book as I see it, is a book of ethics. And its central question is: how do you navigate who you are and what your ethics are when you touch the continuously transformative fires of spiritual pursuits?In that sense, it is a book for anyone exploring their spirituality.In it, Mitch traces his own inner (and outer) conflicts with spiritual maxims. Particular to Mitch is the conundrum of: How do I get what I want, yet retain my integrity? What do I do when there's a conflict? And where does magic come in?This is a great discussion and one where we navigate our own tensions of belief and disbelief; will and surrender.Support the show via patreon.com/connerhabib

Philosopher Stefan Molyneux reveals the truth about the false self, which forms when kids learn that showing real feelings or doubts brings punishment, rejection, or contempt from parents and adults. He says facing that buried pain instead of hiding behind the mask is the only way to stop the denial and live honestly.GET FREEDOMAIN MERCH! https://shop.freedomain.com/SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/FREEDOMAIN2026

This episode weaves together three healing modalities: 12-step recovery, psychotherapy, and Centering Prayer, through the wisdom and lived experience of Howard B. Howard shares what it truly means to accept our basic core of goodness as our true self, and why that acceptance becomes the foundation from which we can look at our shadow and false self. Together, we explore how this radical acceptance, grounded in the belief that we are loved unconditionally, transforms not only how we see ourselves but how we show up in the world. To connect further with us:Visit our website: www.contemplativeoutreach.orgFind us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prayerofconsent/Like us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/prayerofconsent/Check out our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/coutreachStream and Download the Opening Minds, Opening Hearts Podcast NOW for FREE on Apple Podcast, Amazon and Spotify!

There's nothing to fight for. Train crime is "down." Pearl calls. Adolescent misbehavior.

Most of us want to be loved, but few of us want to risk being fully known. So we put on masks, even at church. In this sermon, Yesuto closes our True and False Self series by inviting us to take the courageous step of honest community. We explore why we need each other, how to share our struggles wisely, and how the church can become a place where vulnerable stories are safely held.

Remembering country music. Why do people fight so crazy nowadays? Anger at home and in schools. Drop anger: drop "you."

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.Synergy is what happens when something new is created through coming together.In groups, it has a recognizable structure:A common aim and shared intentionReal opportunities for contributionIndividual purpose remaining intact, and something new is bornJames Hillman called this new thing a daimon — a third being or soul that emerges from the wholeness of two or more parts uniting.It's a result of learning, growing, and being porous to those you unite with.That doesn't mean indiscriminately taking in everything like a democracy, but always aiming to grow and expand knowledge, understanding, and wisdom.There's a creative momentum to synergy. Something can come alive that no one person could generate alone.With Special Guest: Micah EllarsSynergize

This functions beautifully beneath the main title because it translates the abstraction into visible mechanisms people recognize immediately. The first topic destabilizes identity. The second exposes the camouflage system. Together they create a devastating architecture: first remove the illusion of a stable self, then expose the costumes protecting the instability.

Shame doesn't only live in the dark corners of a broken life. It lives just as quietly in the person everyone else envies — the one who has achieved everything and still wakes up feeling like it isn't enough.Ken Shigematsu grew up moving between Japan, England, and Canada, carrying the weight of a shame-and-honor culture that most Western theology never addresses. In this conversation, he and Michael explore why deep grace is different from knowing grace is true, what it means to grow our capacity to actually receive love rather than deflect it, and why beauty and joy aren't spiritual extras — they are among the most direct routes out of shame and into the self God made.Ken also shares the simple daily practice that, over 30 days, can literally rewire the neural networks that make it hard to feel loved by God — even when you believe it.Ken Shigematsu is a pastor in Vancouver, Canada, and author of Now I Become Myself: How Deep Grace Heals Our Shame and Restores Our True Self.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

The Biblical concept of love is always active. God calls us to a life of compassion, a love that moves outward in action. But we live in a culture that's replaced compassion with sentiment, a love that's never acted upon. How do we move beyond sentiment into compassionate love? This week, we see how embodying compassion is the best way to break out of the false self and enter into the true self.

What parts of your life are motivated by fear, rather than love? The false self is the identity we all carry that's born out of fear. But how do we return to our true identity, given by God in love? This week, we go back to the beginning in the Garden of Eden to discover God's divine plan for setting us free from the false self.

Who we believe God to be has a profound impact on our lives. Many of us go through life thinking we're worshipping the true God, when in reality, we're actually worshipping a false version of him. The false self is rooted in a distorted view of God. This week, we expose some of these false versions of God that we carry, and reveal who God truly is.

We know we want to live from our true selves – but what's really driving the false self underneath it all? This week, we dig into the deep-seated beliefs that fuel our need to perform, control, and self-protect. Through a powerful framework of God's greatness and goodness, a personal story of anxiety, and the raw honesty of a father's cry in Mark 9 – "I believe; help my unbelief" – we discover that the journey from false self to true self isn't about gathering more information. It's about moving from belief to conviction on the true character of God: finally sitting down and letting God take our full weight.

In this rich conversation, Lantz Howard sits down with Barrett Brooks — executive coach, former COO of ConvertKit (now Kit), host of The Good Work Podcast, and steward of Presence-Based Coaching.Barrett shares openly about:The power of curating experiences and “hosting the party” (everyone wants to attend, few want to host)Date nights at Nostrana and what they reveal about intentional leadershipThe shift from false self (superhero, achievement-driven) to true self (enough, presence, “that'll do, pig”)Lessons from burnout at Kit and acquiring Presence-Based CoachingHow to create meaningful entry and exit rituals in group coachingBuilding the organization he's always longed for — one rooted in autonomy, wholeness, and long-term stewardshipWhy the coaching industry needs both deep skill and entrepreneurial clarityA thoughtful, practical episode for leaders, coaches, and creators who want to lead from wholeness rather than hustle.--Learn more about coaching with Lantz Howard at www.lantzhoward.com

We continue our teaching from last week, as we explore the life of Peter through the framework of the six Stages of Faith. What we find is a fascinating case study of the journey of shedding the false self and uncovering the true self.

What if the things you use to protect yourself are actually the very things hurting you and the people you love? In a world that tells you to "be yourself," and a church that tells you to "die to yourself," which path is the right one?In the premiere of our new series, The Refining, guest speaker Zach (Saint Bear) dives into the messy intersection of spiritual formation and emotional health. Using a "Nerd-egesis" that bridges the gap between D&D logic and the core emotions of Inside Out 2, Zach explores the biblical concept of the "True Self" versus the "False Self".In this video, we discuss:The False Dichotomy: Why the Bible doesn't call you to die to the person God made you to be, but rather to the "false self" you built to protect yourself.Masterpiece vs. Junk: Unpacking the Greek word poema in Ephesians 2:10: you are God's intentional craftsmanship.The Inside Out Effect: How core beliefs like "I'm only loved if I perform" create protective mechanisms that eventually start "breathing fire" on your life.Being Before Doing: Why God is more concerned with who you are becoming than what you are doing.The invitation of the Gospel isn't just to work harder; it's to discover your true self by discovering God.TIMESTAMPS0:00 — Welcome back to the Fancy Couch: Intro to "The Refining" 2:03 — A Lux Milestone: Introducing Guest Preacher Zach (St Bear) 5:10 — The D20 Roll: Setting expectations for the message 6:35 — The Culture War: "Be Yourself" vs. "Die to Yourself" 8:00 — Key Statement: Be with God, become who you are meant to be 10:30 — The False Self: Unpacking Ephesians 4:22 11:40 — You are a Poema: God's intentional craftsmanship 13:50 — Nerd-egesis: Core beliefs and Inside Out 2 15:50 — When protective mechanisms start "breathing fire"**********

Within each of us, is what the ancients throughout history called the false self. It's the self rooted in who we think we should be, rather than who we actually are. The journey of faith calls us to shed off the false self and embrace the true self, the fullness of who God created each of us to be. But how do we get there? What does this look like? This week, we explore a helpful framework called the "Stages of Faith," to discover how we can step into the truest version of ourselves in God.

What did Jesus really teach about attachment, identity, and suffering? In this episode of Hidden Wisdom, we explore the deeper meaning behind Christ's teachings on non-attachment and how they align with ancient spiritual traditions.Discover how attachment to possessions, identity, relationships, and outcomes creates suffering—and how the “Yoga of Christ” offers a path to freedom, wholeness, and divine connection. This conversation unpacks powerful insights on ego, spiritual maturity, and what it truly means to live in union with God.If you're seeking a deeper, more transformative relationship with Christ beyond surface-level belief, this episode will challenge and expand your perspective.Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Hidden Wisdom & Part 2 Overview 01:49 The Two Paths: Communion with God & Non-Attachment 04:00 Why Attachment Causes Suffering 08:25 The Rich Young Ruler & Letting Go 11:30 Did Jesus Teach Non-Attachment? 13:00 Letting Go of Possessions & Material Identity 15:22 Non-Attachment to the Future & Outcomes 17:04 Living in Present Union with God 18:30 Releasing the Past & Emotional Burdens 20:39 Letting Go of Judgment & Comparison 23:18 Family Attachments & Identity Explained 26:15 What Defines Your Identity? 30:49 How Attachments Shift During Awakening 32:27 Relationships Without Dependency 38:50 Real-Life Example: Letting Go of Fear in Marriage 42:07 You Don't Have to Give Up Everything 46:59 Ego, the Fall, and Spiritual Rebirth 49:28 Losing the False Self to Find the True Self 53:43 Spiritual Experiences vs. Lasting Transformation 56:18 The “Natural Man” & True Divine Identity 59:48 Becoming Like a Child (Spiritual Meaning) 01:02:34 The Practice: Communion + Non-Attachment 01:03:23 Final Thoughts & Integration#YogaOfChrist #SpiritualAwakening #NonAttachment #TeachingsOfJesus #ChristianMysticism #FaithExpansion #SpiritualGrowth #EgoDeath #DivineIdentity #HiddenWisdom #LetGoAndGrow #InnerTransformation #ChristConsciousness Hidden Wisdom initiates truth-seekers into the Mysteries, guiding listeners toward a lived experience of the Divine that awakens and transforms faith—without dismantling family or community. Pursue your Journey: ✨ Hidden Wisdom App – Join for FREE and enjoy pathway programs, community, expansive library, and more!

Codependency isn't a personal flaw - it's a cultural adaptation shaped by shame, external validation, and the belief that your worth lives outside of you. In this workshop episode, Vanessa Bennett and Madeleine Downey break down how codependent scripts form a false self and a shadow self, then show how the patterns keep reinforcing themselves in relationship (over/under-functioning, rescuing, and people-pleasing). You'll get a practical framework for seeing the “unconscious agreement” in the dynamic - and three archetypal invitations to move toward conscious interdependence: the Divine Alchemist, the Mystic, and the Rebel. This is a map for doing the work in real life: staying whole while staying connected.For educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInConnect with Madeleine DowneyIG: https://www.instagram.com/MadeleineDowneySubstack: https://madeleinedowney.substack.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Most people assume this behavior is just about the bedroom, but for a narcissist, it's a calculated move to avoid the one thing we fear most: Vulnerability. Today, I'm taking the mask off to explain why transactional dynamics are the "perfect supply." When you pay for a service, there are no expectations, no "mirror" reflecting our flaws, and a guaranteed discard.In this video, we discuss:The Power Dynamic: Why being the "Customer" is a narcissist's safe space.Avoiding the Mirror: Why real intimacy feels like a threat to the False Self.The Built-In Discard: Why narcissists love a relationship with an expiration date.Validation on Demand: The dopamine hit of "purchased" admiration.Connect with Lee:My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠All My Link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beacons.page/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.

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Scripture as Mirror: The Freedom Behind ConfrontationIn 1964, Norman Rockwell painted "The Problem We All Live With" for Look magazine. It depicted 6-year-old Ruby Bridges walking to her first day of school during desegregation, escorted by headless US marshals, with a tomato splattered on the wall behind her meant to resemble blood.Rockwell received more hate mail from this image than any other in his career—not from Black Americans, but from average citizens angry that he showed something true, real, and ugly about America. It wasn't the content that made people uncomfortable. It was the confrontation.Here's what's profound about the painting: Where are you positioned as the viewer? Rockwell made you both an observer of the image and a participant in the story. It forced viewers to confront who they really were in light of the Black American story.Scripture works the same way. It's a mirror that confronts us, challenges us, and calls out our assumptions about God, the world, and ourselves. The question is: will we look intently at what we see, or will we walk away?The False Self and Fig LeavesGenesis tells us Adam and Eve were created naked and felt no shame. They lived in wholeness and vulnerability without fear of confrontation. But after eating the forbidden fruit, their eyes were opened. Genesis 3:7 says "they realized they were naked, so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves."The fig leaves are a physical symbol of a spiritual reality. When confronted, our inclination is to hide—from others, from ourselves, and from God.Our version of fig leaves today is what psychologists and theologians call the false self—the version of ourselves we project to others to hide our weakness, woundedness, and wickedness.Weakness: The parts we're insecure about—our fears, personality quirks, things we feel unconfident inWoundedness: Our embarrassing history, family of origin, traumaWickedness: Our sins, failures, willful disobedience—the anger we can't shake, the addiction we can't break free from, the pride in how we treat othersThe false self is a coping mechanism based on self-reliance rather than God's love and providence. What are you hiding behind? Your busyness? Your personality ("I'm just not wired that way")? Maybe even something good you're subtly putting before God—your family, career, health?The Four Levels of SinEarly church fathers and mothers understood how deep the false self goes. They identified four levels of sin:1. Gross Sins - Obvious wrongs most people would agree are bad: sexual immorality, deception, greed. These are easy to identify but also easy to use to make ourselves feel better. "I might have an anger problem, but at least I'm not an alcoholic."2. Conscious Sins - Things that are socially accepted but at odds with Jesus' way: How do you spend your money? What media do you consume? How do you talk about others? These confront not just our behaviors but our will and freedom.3. Unconscious Sins - Sins of motivation: doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. Dysfunctional relational patterns others experience in us. You might not yell at your spouse, but do you harbor years of bitterness?4. Attachments - Good things that become bad things because of our reliance on them. Success in ministry. Career. Family relationships. If we lose these, we question who we are. A false self built on career success crumbles after retirement.Looking Intently Into the MirrorJames 1:23-25 says: "Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and after looking at himself goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom and continues in it... will be blessed."Scripture has power to show us who we really are if we're willing to look intently. Most of us approach the Bible cognitively—asking about context, author, genre. These are good questions, but if that's where we stop, it's just a higher form of control.Try going deeper:How do I actually feel in response to what I'm reading?Where do I come alive? Where do I feel resistance?What aspects of my life are being touched?What do my reactions tell me about myself?If you don't feel resistance to anything when reading the Bible, you're probably not reading enough of it.When you feel challenged, discomforted, or exposed—that's an invitation to submit something in your soul to God. God forms us most deeply in the places where we are least like Jesus.The Gift of ConfrontationJames says whoever looks intently finds "the perfect law that gives freedom."Freedom from the false self you're killing yourself to construct. Freedom from wounds you'd rather hide than heal. Freedom from the weight of sin you'd rather manage than confess. Freedom from the fear of being found out.Remember how God responded to Adam and Eve's fig leaves? He went looking for them. He didn't wait for them to get their act together. He found them, confronted them, and even though He kicked them out of the garden, God went with them.What if that's how God is trying to call out to you today? What if the sign you're waiting for isn't behind a dream, vision, or miracle? What if it's behind confrontation?What are you hiding behind? What part of Scripture are you ignoring out of fear? What if that's exactly how God is trying to get your attention today?You don't have to cover yourself up to be seen by God. If you've given your life to Him, He's already forgiven you. The sins you're hiding, He's already paid for.Let the mirror do its work.

Scripture as Mirror: The Freedom Behind ConfrontationIn 1964, Norman Rockwell painted "The Problem We All Live With" for Look magazine. It depicted 6-year-old Ruby Bridges walking to her first day of school during desegregation, escorted by headless US marshals, with a tomato splattered on the wall behind her meant to resemble blood.Rockwell received more hate mail from this image than any other in his career—not from Black Americans, but from average citizens angry that he showed something true, real, and ugly about America. It wasn't the content that made people uncomfortable. It was the confrontation.Here's what's profound about the painting: Where are you positioned as the viewer? Rockwell made you both an observer of the image and a participant in the story. It forced viewers to confront who they really were in light of the Black American story.Scripture works the same way. It's a mirror that confronts us, challenges us, and calls out our assumptions about God, the world, and ourselves. The question is: will we look intently at what we see, or will we walk away?The False Self and Fig LeavesGenesis tells us Adam and Eve were created naked and felt no shame. They lived in wholeness and vulnerability without fear of confrontation. But after eating the forbidden fruit, their eyes were opened. Genesis 3:7 says "they realized they were naked, so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves."The fig leaves are a physical symbol of a spiritual reality. When confronted, our inclination is to hide—from others, from ourselves, and from God.Our version of fig leaves today is what psychologists and theologians call the false self—the version of ourselves we project to others to hide our weakness, woundedness, and wickedness.Weakness: The parts we're insecure about—our fears, personality quirks, things we feel unconfident inWoundedness: Our embarrassing history, family of origin, traumaWickedness: Our sins, failures, willful disobedience—the anger we can't shake, the addiction we can't break free from, the pride in how we treat othersThe false self is a coping mechanism based on self-reliance rather than God's love and providence. What are you hiding behind? Your busyness? Your personality ("I'm just not wired that way")? Maybe even something good you're subtly putting before God—your family, career, health?The Four Levels of SinEarly church fathers and mothers understood how deep the false self goes. They identified four levels of sin:1. Gross Sins - Obvious wrongs most people would agree are bad: sexual immorality, deception, greed. These are easy to identify but also easy to use to make ourselves feel better. "I might have an anger problem, but at least I'm not an alcoholic."2. Conscious Sins - Things that are socially accepted but at odds with Jesus' way: How do you spend your money? What media do you consume? How do you talk about others? These confront not just our behaviors but our will and freedom.3. Unconscious Sins - Sins of motivation: doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. Dysfunctional relational patterns others experience in us. You might not yell at your spouse, but do you harbor years of bitterness?4. Attachments - Good things that become bad things because of our reliance on them. Success in ministry. Career. Family relationships. If we lose these, we question who we are. A false self built on career success crumbles after retirement.Looking Intently Into the MirrorJames 1:23-25 says: "Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and after looking at himself goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom and continues in it... will be blessed."Scripture has power to show us who we really are if we're willing to look intently. Most of us approach the Bible cognitively—asking about context, author, genre. These are good questions, but if that's where we stop, it's just a higher form of control.Try going deeper:How do I actually feel in response to what I'm reading?Where do I come alive? Where do I feel resistance?What aspects of my life are being touched?What do my reactions tell me about myself?If you don't feel resistance to anything when reading the Bible, you're probably not reading enough of it.When you feel challenged, discomforted, or exposed—that's an invitation to submit something in your soul to God. God forms us most deeply in the places where we are least like Jesus.The Gift of ConfrontationJames says whoever looks intently finds "the perfect law that gives freedom."Freedom from the false self you're killing yourself to construct. Freedom from wounds you'd rather hide than heal. Freedom from the weight of sin you'd rather manage than confess. Freedom from the fear of being found out.Remember how God responded to Adam and Eve's fig leaves? He went looking for them. He didn't wait for them to get their act together. He found them, confronted them, and even though He kicked them out of the garden, God went with them.What if that's how God is trying to call out to you today? What if the sign you're waiting for isn't behind a dream, vision, or miracle? What if it's behind confrontation?What are you hiding behind? What part of Scripture are you ignoring out of fear? What if that's exactly how God is trying to get your attention today?You don't have to cover yourself up to be seen by God. If you've given your life to Him, He's already forgiven you. The sins you're hiding, He's already paid for.Let the mirror do its work.

We want a limp…In this message Pastor Michael El-Takrori talks about how we want the blessing…but we avoid the wrestling.Jacob fought all night and walked away with a limp—but he also walked away changed.“Get alone. Get desperate. Get a limp.”Because sometimes the mark you're trying to avoidis the evidence that you met with God.--------Sign up for Pillars: A 12 Week Discipleship JourneyBuilding Saints who are STRONG, SMART, and STABLE.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://weareoneyouth.com/pillars⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠--------Text the We Are One Hotline for prayer needs and all things We Are One: 844-641-8147For bibles, prayer requests, giving, and more, click the link below to get connected!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://weareoneyouth.com/fam⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you just accepted Jesus, if you have a prayer request, or you want to know more about us, CLICK THIS LINK! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://weareoneyouth.com/fam⁠⁠

This week Canopy Staff - Bryan, Shayla, and Michelle-- sit down to have a conversation on Bills teaching on Shame, Hiding and the False Self. They reflect on what it means to name emotions, embrace vulnerability, and return to remembering what God has done.

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The early church spoke about transformation as awakening.Modern contemplatives like Thomas Merton called it the difference between the false self and the true self.Today, we're going to unpack that — and discover how the Christ-Self within us gently dismantles the false one.Hester Ministries⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Present Truth Academy ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Rorschach God⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Why is it impossible for a narcissist to say "I'm sorry"? In this episode, Lee Hammock explains the internal mechanics of the narcissistic ego. Learn about the "Narcissistic Injury," why projection is a survival tool, and how the "False Self" acts as a shield against the truth. If you've ever felt like you were fighting a brick wall, this episode explains why that wall was built in the first place.Connect with Lee:My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠All My Link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beacons.page/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.

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Dr. Natalie Pickering, is a TEDx speaker, organizational psychologist and author of Leading Becomes You: A Real-World Framework for Leading from Inside Out.Enjoy this illuminating conversation. Learn how to resist fear and shame. It's time to revist your personal, self imposed rules. Reshape your habits. Consider that true leadership is how you may others feel and motivate them to optimize performance while unleashing their full potential! Buy Leading Becomes You: A Real-World Framework for Leading from Inside Out on Amazon, B&N, BAM and where ever you purchase your books.   And tell us your thoughts about Natalie's podcast by email rick@trulysignificant.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/success-made-to-last-legends--4302039/support.

S9 E4 — What if real freedom doesn't come from more self-esteem—but from self-forgetfulness? Amy Julia Becker and author and pastor Sharon Hodde Miller explore the difference between the false self and the true self—and how thinking about ourselves less without thinking less of ourselves leads to healing, humility, and purpose.00:00 Introduction01:58 Defining Self and Self-Forgetfulness07:33 Understanding the Self and Healing09:50 Noticing Ourselves14:12 False Self vs. True Self16:31 The Concept of Self-Denial19:18 The Role of the Body in Self-Understanding22:08 Embracing Insecurity, Humility, and Limitations29:33 The Role of Self in Parenting31:34 Beyond Self: Purpose and Community38:12 Practicing Humility in Daily LifeMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Free of Me and Gazing at God • Books by Sharon Hodde MillerThe Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness by Tim KellerTo Be Made Well and White Picket Fences by Amy Julia BeckerAmy Julia's new podcast: Take the Next Step amyjuliabecker.com/step/_WATCH this conversation on YouTube: Amy Julia Becker on YouTubeSUBSCRIBE to Amy Julia's Substack: amyjuliabecker.substack.comJOIN the conversation on Instagram: @amyjuliabeckerLISTEN to more episodes: amyjuliabecker.com/shows/_ABOUT OUR GUEST:Sharon Hodde Miller (PhD, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School) leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC with her husband, Ike. She writes, travels around the country speaking at churches and conferences each year, and holds a PhD on women and calling. Sharon is the author of three books: Gazing at God, Free of Me, and Nice. Sharon lives in North Carolina with her husband and 3 young children. To read more of her writing, you can visit her site, SheWorships.com, and you can connect with her on Instagram at @sharonhmiller. We want to hear your thoughts. Send us a text!Connect with me: Instagram Facebook YouTube Website Thanks for listening!

This week, Ruth and Jay are joined by producer Colleen to discuss the challenges and strategies of parenting in the digital age. They discuss what they see as the pressing issues right now, how Jay and Colleen are navigating these pressures in their own families, and what Ruth experiences as a grandparent to young people. They also delve into practical advice for setting boundaries and expectations around technology use within families, explore the roles of empathy and community among parents, and consider the church's potential in offering countercultural experiences. Over on Patreon the trio explores, practically, how to invite their families winsomely into a low-tech Sabbath practice. Questions to ponder this week:  What is a winsome way that I can create an extended time for delight in my home?   What are the most important things I want my kid to know about being a person in the world as it pertains to technology?  Is there a way that I can be an empathetic, kind voice of support and community for another parent who is going through the same or similar tensions that I'm going through?  We're back for Season 27, titled “Taming our Technologies: [Spiritual] Practices for a Digital Age.” This season we have a special co-host, pastor, author, and podcast host Jay Y. Kim! Jay will be joining Ruth all season long to explore the impact technology is having on our lives with God, our attention span, our parenting, our community, and our creativity. Jay and Ruth will wrestle with their own questions and wonderings about finding balance in using technology in good and helpful ways while also acknowledging its challenges. This season aims to be gracefully thought-provoking, practically helpful, and ultimately hopeful and encouraging.   Jay Kim serves as lead pastor at West Gate Church in the Silicon Valley of California. He's the author of several books including Analog Christian, Analog Church, and Listen, Listen, Speak. Jay also hosts the Digital Examen podcast and much of his work focuses on the intersection of the digital age and spiritual formation.  Mentioned in the episode: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt   Music Credit: Kingdom Come by Aaron Niequist Grace and Peace from Music in Solitude On October 8, we will be hosting another full Online Oasis entitled, A Path to Freedom: Moving from the False Self to our True Self in God. In this Online Oasis we will clarify what we mean when referring to the false self and true self, explore the movement from the false self to the true self with reflections on several characters from Scripture, identify key spiritual practices that open us to this grace, and slow down and enter into space for reflection. REGISTER HERE to join us on Wednesday, October 8, from 12:00–1:30 CST for this bit of respite in the middle of your day.   Support the podcast! This season patrons will receive special bonus episodes that incorporate a spiritual practice to help balance out the technological woes discussed in each episode. Become a patron today by visiting our Patreon page!     The Transforming Center exists to create space for God to strengthen leaders and transform communities. You are invited to join our next Transforming Community:® A Two-year Spiritual Formation Experience for Leaders.  Delivered in nine quarterly retreats, this practice-based learning opportunity is grounded in the conviction that the best thing you bring to leadership is your own transforming self! Learn more and apply HERE.   *this post contains affiliate links

In this episode, Ruth and Jay dive into the impact of digital technology on our attention spans and mental health. They reflect on personal experiences of technology's pervasive influence and discuss the importance of reclaiming attention through spiritual practices. The conversation explores the implications of multitasking and the mental disorders associated with technology use, as well as how to steward one's attention as a valuable gift from God.    Questions to ponder this week: What practices will help me claim and reclaim my own sense of agency over my attention? What technologies are destructive to me personally?  Where do I need to “fix my thoughts?” We're back for Season 27, titled “Taming our Technologies: [Spiritual] Practices for a Digital Age.” This season we have a special co-host, pastor, author, and podcast host Jay Y. Kim! Jay will be joining Ruth all season long to explore the impact technology is having on our lives with God, our attention span, our parenting, our community, and our creativity. Jay and Ruth will wrestle with their own questions and wonderings about finding balance in using technology in good and helpful ways while also acknowledging its challenges. This season aims to be gracefully thought-provoking, practically helpful, and ultimately hopeful and encouraging.   Jay Kim serves as lead pastor at West Gate Church in the Silicon Valley of California. He's the author of several books including Analog Christian, Analog Church, and Listen, Listen, Speak. Jay also hosts the Digital Examen podcast and much of his work focuses on the intersection of the digital age and spiritual formation.  Mentioned in the episode: The Center for Humane Technology The Social Dilemma (Netflix) The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck Invitation to Retreat by Ruth Haley Barton Deep Work  by Cal Newport iDisorder by Larry Rosen   Music Credit: Kingdom Come by Aaron Niequist Tender Moment from Music in Solitude On October 8, we will be hosting another full Online Oasis entitled, A Path to Freedom: Moving from the False Self to our True Self in God. In this Online Oasis we will clarify what we mean when referring to the false self and true self, explore the movement from the false self to the true self with reflections on several characters from Scripture, identify key spiritual practices that open us to this grace, and slow down and enter into space for reflection. REGISTER HERE to join us on Wednesday, October 8, from 12:00–1:30 CST for this bit of respite in the middle of your day.   Support the podcast! This season patrons will receive special bonus episodes that incorporate a spiritual practice to help balance out the technological woes discussed in each episode. Become a patron today by visiting our Patreon page!     The Transforming Center exists to create space for God to strengthen leaders and transform communities. You are invited to join our next Transforming Community:® A Two-year Spiritual Formation Experience for Leaders.  Delivered in nine quarterly retreats, this practice-based learning opportunity is grounded in the conviction that the best thing you bring to leadership is your own transforming self! Learn more and apply HERE.   *this post contains affiliate links

This week, Ruth and Jay delve into the challenges and opportunities presented by technology in our spiritual lives. They discuss the necessity of solitude, silence, and retreat for spiritual formation and explore how digital distractions can hinder these practices. Ruth shares her personal journey and insights into managing technology's role in her spiritual practices, while Jay offers practical strategies for minimizing digital interruptions. They emphasize the importance of intentionality in creating sacred spaces free from technological distractions and offer thought-provoking questions to help listeners assess their relationship with technology and its impact on their spiritual life.   Questions to ponder this week: Ask yourself, in the presence of God, where am I?  Am I addicted? Is there any way in which I am a slave or in which I am in bondage to my technologies? We're back for Season 27, titled “Taming our Technologies: [Spiritual] Practices for a Digital Age.” This season we have a special co-host, pastor, author, and podcast host Jay Y. Kim! Jay will be joining Ruth all season long to explore the impact technology is having on our lives with God, our attention span, our parenting, our community, and our creativity. Jay and Ruth will wrestle with their own questions and wonderings about finding balance in using technology in good and helpful ways while also acknowledging its challenges. This season aims to be gracefully thought-provoking, practically helpful, and ultimately hopeful and encouraging.   Jay Kim serves as lead pastor at West Gate Church in the Silicon Valley of California. He's the author of several books including Analog Christian, Analog Church, and Listen, Listen, Speak. Jay also hosts the Digital Examen podcast and much of his work focuses on the intersection of the digital age and spiritual formation.  Mentioned in the episode: Brick device Wilderness Time by Emilie Griffin   Music Credit: Kingdom Come by Aaron Niequist Chasing Butterflies from Music in Solitude On October 8, we will be hosting another full Online Oasis entitled, A Path to Freedom: Moving from the False Self to our True Self in God. In this Online Oasis we will clarify what we mean when referring to the false self and true self, explore the movement from the false self to the true self with reflections on several characters from Scripture, identify key spiritual practices that open us to this grace, and slow down and enter into space for reflection. REGISTER HERE to join us on Wednesday, October 8, from 12:00–1:30 CST for this bit of respite in the middle of your day.   Support the podcast! This season patrons will receive special bonus episodes that incorporate a spiritual practice to help balance out the technological woes discussed in each episode. Become a patron today by visiting our Patreon page!     The Transforming Center exists to create space for God to strengthen leaders and transform communities. You are invited to join our next Transforming Community:® A Two-year Spiritual Formation Experience for Leaders.  Delivered in nine quarterly retreats, this practice-based learning opportunity is grounded in the conviction that the best thing you bring to leadership is your own transforming self! Learn more and apply HERE.   *this post contains affiliate links

We're back for Season 27, titled “Taming our Technologies: [Spiritual] Practices for a Digital Age.” This season we have a special co-host, pastor, author, and podcast host Jay Y. Kim! Jay will be joining Ruth all season long to explore the impact technology is having on our lives with God, our attention span, our parenting, our community, and our creativity. Jay and Ruth will wrestle with their own questions and wonderings about finding balance in using technology in good and helpful ways while also acknowledging its challenges. This season aims to be gracefully thought-provoking, practically helpful, and ultimately hopeful and encouraging. In order to dive right in to those big topics, Ruth and Jay are setting up the season with an introductory conversation we are calling “episode 0.” In this episode, Ruth and Jay dive into the topic of taming technology and its intersection with spiritual practices in a digital age. They discuss the complexities and emotional layers of technology's role in spiritual formation, ministry, and personal well-being. Ruth shares her long-standing interest in the subject and how technology has transformed her ministry and personal life. Jay brings his experiences as a pastor in Silicon Valley and shares a touching story about technology's impact on his own family life. Then the two do some definitional work around what exactly we mean by technology this season.   Jay Kim serves as lead pastor at West Gate Church in the Silicon Valley of California. He's the author of several books including Analog Christian, Analog Church, and Listen, Listen, Speak. Jay also hosts the Digital Examen podcast and much of his work focuses on the intersection of the digital age and spiritual formation.    Mentioned in the episode: Deep Work  by Cal Newport Analog Christian by Jay Y. Kim Analog Church by Jay Y Kim   Music Credit: Kingdom Come by Aaron Niequist He is Able from The Lord is in Our Midst (Transforming Worship) On October 8, we will be hosting another full Online Oasis entitled, A Path to Freedom: Moving from the False Self to our True Self in God. In this Online Oasis we will clarify what we mean when referring to the false self and true self, explore the movement from the false self to the true self with reflections on several characters from Scripture, identify key spiritual practices that open us to this grace, and slow down and enter into space for reflection. REGISTER HERE to join us on Wednesday, October 8, from 12:00–1:30 CST for this bit of respite in the middle of your day. Support the podcast! This season patrons will receive special bonus episodes that incorporate a spiritual practice to help balance out the technological woes discussed in each episode. Become a patron today by visiting our Patreon page!     The Transforming Center exists to create space for God to strengthen leaders and transform communities. You are invited to join our next Transforming Community:® A Two-year Spiritual Formation Experience for Leaders.  Delivered in nine quarterly retreats, this practice-based learning opportunity is grounded in the conviction that the best thing you bring to leadership is your own transforming self! Learn more and apply HERE.   *this post contains affiliate links