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Have you ever had a conversation where it seemed like you and the other person kept misunderstanding one another? At some point, it may have even felt like you were speaking two different languages. This is a challenge that pops up in many marriages—after all, there's a reason why people say men and women could be from different planets!Teaching others how to have safe conversations is a passion of ours, as this skill has played a big role in taking our marriage to the next level. You may have heard us teach about this topic if you've done coaching with us or attended one of our No More Perfect Marriages Seminars. Today, we're honored to speak with two professionals whose work has significantly shaped the way couples everywhere approach healthy dialogue.Harville Hendrix, Ph.D, and Helen Hunt, Ph.D., are the creators of Safe Conversations®, a training institute focused on relational intervention. They are the co-authors of three New York Times bestsellers, including Getting the Love You Want, which has sold over four million copies. Married for over 40 years, they have six children and seven grandchildren, and they split their time between Dallas and New York City.In this episode, you'll hear:Why it's important to listen more than we speakThe elements of a safe conversationTwo things you can try during your next “negative” conversationAnd more!We are thrilled to have gotten the opportunity to sit down with the two people who laid the groundwork for our understanding of safe conversations!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/hendrix-hunt-241Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...
Effective communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, yet so many of us struggle to truly be heard and understood. Renowned relationship experts and authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to share their groundbreaking insights on how dialogue can transform the way we connect. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations, they break down the power of Imago Dialogue, the role of safety in communication, and why curiosity is the key to bridging differences. From deepening intimacy in romantic relationships to fostering understanding in a divided world, this conversation is packed with powerful tools to help you listen, connect, and create lasting change in the way you relate to others. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen's Previous Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love/ —Harville & Helen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen's Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen's Website | Safe Conversations: https://quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen's Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen's Book: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. https://createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, I sit down with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt—pioneering relationship experts and creators of Imago Therapy—to explore the profound ways our childhood experiences shape our adult relationships. Together, we dive into the dynamics of attraction, communication, and healing, offering practical tools to help you transform your relationship into a conscious and fulfilling partnership. What you'll learn: Why we are often drawn to partners who reflect both the positive and negative traits of our caregivers—and how this impacts relationship dynamics. The role of Imago Therapy in helping couples heal past wounds and strengthen their connection. Practical communication strategies, including the "Safe Conversations" framework, to foster empathy and reduce conflict. Insights into two-way healing and how relationships can become a pathway to personal and mutual growth. Whether you're single, in a new relationship, or years into a partnership, this episode offers transformative insights and actionable advice to help you create the loving connection you've always wanted. Join us as we unpack the keys to unlocking deeper intimacy, mutual healing, and lasting love. FOLLOW: IG: https://www.instagram.com/love.uncensored.podcast/IG: https://www.instagram.com/nicolecolantonicoaching/ Â W. www.nicolecolantoni.com Join the private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/231424128600095 GUEST LINKS:IG: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/W: https://harvilleandhelen.com/B: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode with world-famous relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Hele LaKelly Hunt, we get into the interpersonal nature of trauma and how to set the stage to heal it (or at least not retrigger it) in your most intimate relationships. We discuss: How to foster safety in your relationships The difference between how we usually talk to each other and true dialogue What nature can teach us about communication The biggest problem most couples have What our childhood trauma does to predict our future partner How to diffuse tension in your relationship Why we should make an appointment when we want to discuss our needs with our partner And so much more... Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and their newest book How to Talk with Anyone about Anything. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Harville and Helen co-created Imago Relationship Therapy to promote the transformation of couples and families by a creating relational culture that support universal equality. In addition, they've developed resources that help couples, families, and educators strengthen their relationship knowledge and skills. They are the co-founders of Imago Relationships International, a non-profit organization that has trained over 2,000 therapists and educators in 51 countries around the world. Harville and Helen are co-creators of Safe Conversations®, which helps people learn how to talk without criticism, listen without judgment, and connect beyond differences. Using a simple three-step process, they teach people how to become more present in all of their relationships. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Your support is deeply appreciated! Find me, Lara, on my Website / Instagram You can support this podcast with any level of donation here. Order The Essential Guide to Trauma Sensitive Yoga: How to Create Safer Spaces for All Opening and Closing music: Other People's Photographs courtesy of Daniel Zaitchik. Follow Daniel on Spotify.
Are you struggling to develop deep connections with others? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, on their new book How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations.Moments with Marianne airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio affiliate! Harville Hendrix, PhD, & Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, co-created Imago Relationship Theory and co-founded Safe Conversations LLC in 2015, a training institute focused on relational intervention. They are co-authors of three New York Times best sellers, including Getting the Love You Want, which has sold over four million copies. Married for 40 years, they have six children, seven grandchildren, and split their time between Dallas and New York City. Dr. Hendrix holds degrees from Mercer University, Union Theological Seminary, and the University of Chicago, and has received numerous honors, including the Distinguished Contribution Award. Dr. Hunt earned her doctorate in Women's History from Union Theological Seminary and was inducted into the National Women's Hall of Fame in 1994 for her role in the global women's movement. https://harvilleandhelen.com https://safeconversations.comFor more show information visit: www.MariannePestana.com#book #newbook #bookclub #mustread #wellbeing #mentalhealth #selfdiscover #selfhelp #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #relationships #connection #talk #conflictmanagement #psychology #communication #socialskills
Today, Jillian welcomes two very special guests—Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. As internationally renowned authors and relationship experts, Harville and Helen have spent decades helping people build healthier, more connected relationships, and today, we're discussing their newest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations. In a world that's become increasingly divided and disconnected, their revolutionary approach to dialogue offers us a way back to empathy, understanding, and true connection. Be sure to check out their new book How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations. Pre-order Jillian's book "It Begins with You" at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations Follow Jillian Turecki on Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever needed to have a conversation but felt terrified to carry it out? I'm sure that like all of us, you have. The sad thing is that few of us ever learned how to have difficult conversations. Fear not—help is here! Two people who are experts at dealing with difficult conversations are the guests on this very episode. They are no strangers to this topic, nor are they strangers to SuperPsyched! They are none other than the powerful duo of Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Many years ago, they wrote the classic book Getting the Love You Want. I give this book out frequently to people at my practice and it yields great results. And Harville has been on the Oprah Winfrey show several times, the first of which became the episode that led Oprah to her first Emmy Award! You will hear in this interview how these two masters of couple therapy have applied their tool called Safe Conversations to any type of potentially dangerous conversation: at the workplace, at home, or with friends talking about political differences that might get heated! I like thinking of Safe Conversations as being personal protective equipment to handle potentially combustible topics! Their new book is called How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations. I loved the book and was blown away by how applicable their technology for having Safe Conversations can be to any relationship. So, listen in and learn how Harville and Helen can help you talk to anyone about anything.
Holidays and elections mean tough conversations – it'd be great to have some tools to navigate them. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt are counselors who specialize in creating safe spaces for conversations, and they join host Krys Boyd to discuss why you should avoid negative comments at all costs, how to grow with your partner to better understand their point of view and how to hear people out without becoming enemies. Their book is “How to Talk with Anyone About Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations.” And later in the hour, we'll talk with a researcher who studies social interactions about how to navigate everything from small talk to customer service to a doctor's office visit.
Regular communication about money is critical to establishing a healthy financial foundation for today and for future generations. However, overcoming barriers ranging from money being a taboo subject in families to a reluctance to admit to a lack of financial literacy, often makes it difficult for families to get the conversation started and to keep it going. Husband-and-wife real estate investors Donovan and Dominique Boyd offer insights and tips to help you embrace the transparency, trust and courage needed to create opportunities and safe spaces to talk about money.
What happens when we listen and are listened to more fully, forging a deeper connection? Decades of research tell us that the brain undergoes physiological changes when we begin to “talk without criticizing, listen without judgment, and connect beyond difference.” This is the definition of dialogue coined by today's guests, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt and Dr. Harville Hendrix. Doctors Hunt and Hendrix are internationally recognized couples therapists, educators, speakers, and a married couple themselves. Through decades of research, they developed the Imago Relationship Therapy method, which is taught to therapists around the globe. In this episode, they speak with Dr. Alexandra about moving from monologue (turning the conversation to focus on oneself) to dialogue (keeping the conversation focused on the speaker), and how listening and ensuring true understanding of a speaker's meaning has enormous benefits to our relationships and our brains.Relevant Links:Harville and Helen's new book, How To Talk to Anyone About Anything - https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/Learn more about Imago Relationship Therapy - https://harvilleandhelen.com/initiatives/what-is-imago/Explore Safe Conversations, A Methodology for Connecting - https://safeconversations.com/Order Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.
In this episode, I have the absolute honor of welcoming legendary relationship experts Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt. I had to pinch myself when I met them – it was a full circle moment for me. I found Harville and Helen's work at a time in my life when I was deeply confused about relationships. I didn't know why I was so good at talking about everything but my feelings. I didn't know why I chose the people I chose or was the way I was. Harville and Helen's work and their book gave me context to my personal relational patterns and a framework for relating better. In this episode, Harville and Helen discuss the transformative power of dialogue in relationships and the importance of curiosity and open-mindedness. We explore the complexities of emotional healing and self-awareness in relationships, the concept of unconscious attraction in romantic partnerships, and how childhood needs and experiences shape adult behaviors and relationships. Tune in for a profound conversation that will surely impact the way you relate in your life moving forward. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen's Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen's Website | Safe Conversations: https:/quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen's Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen's Book: Getting the Love You Want: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/getting-the-love-you-want/ —Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick: https://youtu.be/vmE3NfB_HhE?si=QivHWP9_jREexK3s&t=34 If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Breakups, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Health, Codependency, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Parenting, Mental Health, Dialogue, Curiosity, Childhood Experiences, Unconscious Attraction, Relationship Development, Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Collaboration This episode is sponsored by BON CHARGE: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at http://boncharge.com/MARKGROVES Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Safe conversations are vital in our homes, schools and workplaces. In this episode, Bill Carson, Author, Speaker and Founder of Inspire Learning, explores the importance of psychologically safe spaces, specifically conversations and how we can create these in our lives. He also unpacks the difference between empathy and sympathy when listening to others and how we can understand our stress reactions more effectively. Bill shares his journey, some of the challenges he has faced, and how we can support others to meet theirs. You can follow his updates on LinkedIn and his website and gain a copy of his book SAFE Conversations for Work and Life from his website or Amazon. ******************************************************************************************************* Remember, you can stay updated with everything Arrive & Thrive by signing up for our newsletter here. You can also email the show at podcast@arrivethrive.com.au and request specific guests, topics, and industries you want to learn about! Thanks for tuning in! ***Episode Sponsorship*** Notion - https://affiliate.notion.so/arrivethrive
KeywordsResilience - Trauma - Mental Health - Fulfilment - Purpose - Self-awareness - Safe ConversationsIn this episode of Resilience Unravelled Bill Carson, a visionary leader in mental health, wellbeing, and resilience, shares his personal experience of childhood trauma and how he overcame it through therapy and understanding brain chemistry. Bill emphasises the importance of taking care of our mental health by focusing on both psychological and physical well-being and also discusses the significance of finding a sense of purpose in life and serving others as part of building resilience. The conversation highlights the need for a holistic approach to mental health that includes addressing biological, psychological, social, and existential factors.Bill also discusses his experience as a volunteer crisis supporter and the fulfilment he receives from helping others. He emphasises the importance of not letting external factors overshadow one's own identity, relationships, and sense of connectedness and concept of finding purpose through the three levels of happiness: pleasure, passion, and purpose. He also touches on psychological safety in conversations at work and how it contributes to overall well-being. Main topicsThe importance of managing automatic negative thoughts (ANTs).The process of negating harm from a childhood incident.Cognitive repair and the importance of positive thinking.The importance of purpose and learning to learn.The importance of self-awareness and identifying suitable resources.How safe conversations can still be robust and professional.The importance of creating a safe and healthy culture for conversations. Timestamps1: Introductions - 00:02 - 01:082: Impact of Childhood Trauma. Bill discusses the challenges of childhood trauma and how it can affect people's lives, often without their conscious memory of the original incident. He emphasises the importance of learning to manage and change perceptions of trauma - 01.08 - 04:233: Overcoming Childhood Trauma. Bill shares his personal experience of dealing with childhood trauma and how he discovered helpful approaches - 04:29 - 06:464: Finding Purpose. Bill explores the concept of finding purpose in life and how it relates to resilience. He highlights the importance of having a sense of belonging to a higher purpose and aligning personal actions with that purpose – 06:47 - 14:235: Discovering Personal Purpose. Bill discusses the process of uncovering one's purpose and offers an example of building a cathedral as a metaphor for finding purpose through meaningful work – 14:24 - 19:036: Psychological Safety and Safe Conversations. Russell raises the topic of psychological safety and safe conversations in the workplace and asks the guest, Bill, to share his insights. Bill explains the importance of creating a safe environment for open and honest conversations to support individual growth and performance - 19.04-25:037: Safe Conversations Skills for Managers. Bill introduces his book, "Safe Conversations for Work and Life," which focuses on developing safe conversation skills for managers to foster a culture of psychological safety in the workplace. He explains the process of helping team members become self-aware and identify suitable resources for support - 25.04 – 27.468: Emotional Fitness and Resilience. Russell briefly mentions a model of resilience and emotional fitness on Bill's website. They express interest in exploring this topic in more detail and provide information on how listeners can access the resources and contact Bill - 27:47 - 29:249: Conclusion: The host thanks Bill for the conversation and provides information on where listeners can find more about Bill's work and his book - 29:35 -...
Give you a fish and you eat for a day but teach you to fish and you eat for a lifetime! I'm Rev. Doc. Lisa, Integral Healer, and I'm driven to share the tools (we were never taught) that can utterly transform relationships - like they have my own. Integrated, these tools will make you a more loving person… and change your relationships forever. I'm an ex international corporate finance attorney turned licensed holistic healer/interfaith minister in Miami, Florida. I teach Safe Conversations in a 4-hour workshop that's sure to bring insight and positive change to all your relationships. I absolutely love it! I'm committed (eek!) to offering them the third weekend of every month. I also offer inexpensive follow-up practice sessions - all on Eventbrite. Website: https://IntegralHealer.com Email: revdoclisa@integralhealer.com FB/IG/YT@integralhealer Workshop URL: https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/safe-conversations-online-workshops-2086289
Learn more about Lisa Graham, Rev. Doc. Lisa below:revdoclisa@integralhealer.com http://www.IntegralHealer.comTransform Your Relationships with Safe ConversationsFollow Rev Doc Lisa on Eventbrite@IntegralHealer on InstagramAnd Build Better Boundaries with me, The Joyful Attorney, on May 26, 2023
On today's episode, Dave and Liz are joined by Clay and Sonja Arnold, relationalcoaches and communication experts, to discuss safe conversations - what they are and how couples can use them to decrease negativity and foster more connection in their relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction: Who are Sonja & Clay Arnold?2:23 – What exactly is a safe conversation & how did it get started?4:56 – Sentence Stems - phrases used to keep us from triggering negative responses6:09 – “Is there more about that?”8:28 – Make an appointment to talk with your partner first; ask “is now a good time to talkabout [blank]”11:03 – Why is effectively listening to our partner so difficult to do?14:04 – Couples should strive for zero negativity in their conversations16:25 – Owning your mistakes & making repairs quickly19:05 – Address the negativity in your relationship; don't ignore it because it'll just stack up22:33 – Imago Therapy - what it is & how it affects who we choose to marry24:56 – If our spouse grows, we grow26:48 – Conflict is growth waiting to happen29:01 – Don't ever stop having fun with your partner31:37 – Empathy is about trying to connect with your partner & find out what they're feeling33:26 – Always be willing to learn35:15 – Sonja's takeaway: Don't feel like you're lacking because of your struggles. Don't struggleby yourself. Reach out. Don't go it alone.35:39 – Clay's takeaway: Be willing to learn and grow individually and in your relationship36:10 – Liz's takeaway: Ask your partner if it's a good time to talk about something and thenstart with a compliment36:50 – Dave's takeaway: Own your bad - your behavior, your attitude, and your drama About Sonja & Clay Arnold:Relational coaches for 22 years, Sonja and Clay have worked with individuals, families and couples around the world. Theirs is an integrative, neuroscience-based approach for life planning and inter-personal growth for relationships of all kinds. They offer workshops and consultations with clients including business and religious leaders, coaches and therapists, medical professionals and more - the strategy being that by providing skills to one person, a ripple effect will occur as people practice the skills in their work lives, congregations, families and communities. Sonja and Clay have been married for 43 years and have 4 grown children and 5 grandkids. They live with their grand dogs in Arlington, Texas. Certifications include: Safe Conversations® Senior Trainers, Life Coaching Institute Senior Trainers, Tony Robbins Mastery University graduates, Amen Clinics Brain Health and the Well Life Coaching Certification. Sonja graduated with a degree in Education/Deaf Education and Clay in Communications/Pastoral Counseling. Insights: Sonja: Conflict is growth waiting to happen.Clay: We have to feel safe enough to connect in order to really communicate.Dave: You don't necessarily avoid conflict but you bring things up and handle them incompassionate ways. Watch your temper, your tongue, and your tone.Liz: Some things we experience in marriage are really painful and I wish we could X them out. But perhaps then, we'd missed the magic and the meaning and the growth. Invites: ● Before starting an important conversation with your partner, ask if it's a good time first. You could say, “is now a good time to talk about [blank]?”. If they say it's not a goodtime, schedule another time in the near future to have that conversation when he or sheis ready. ● Create a code word to use when things start to get negative in a conversation between you and your partner. Clay and Sonja Arnold use the word “marshmallow” to signal when either of them is feeling triggered and something needs to change. Talk with your partner about a phrase that could work for you. ● Don't forget to have fun with your partner. Keep dating them long after you're married. This nurtures the space between you and creates more enjoyment in your life together. Sonja & Clay Arnold Links: https://www.heartlifecoachingdfw.com/ https://safeconversations.com/ Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org podcast.strongermarriage.org Facebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelife Dr. Dave Schramm: https://drdaveschramm.com https://drdavespeaks.com Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642 Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/ See our website for privacy information.
In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane bring you part 2 of their conversation with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.Harville and Helen talk about the history of IMAGO dialogue (now called Safe Conversations) and share their social vision of moving from an individualistic civilization to a relational civilization as the next stage of human social evolution. They explain how they have devoted themselves to taking a therapeutic intervention (IMAGO dialogue) that was historically taught only in a therapeutic setting and bringing it into the culture to teach all human beings how to talk. We do a deep dive into the neuroscience behind the dialogue's efficacy, the 4 tenets of the dialogue and how the structure and safety create the necessary conditions for safe conversations. Want to learn more about our couples workshop?https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/
In part one of this special episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt about their relationship history, the struggles that almost led to divorce, and how these experiences gave birth to the co-creation of Imago Relationship Therapy and more specifically the Imago Dialogue that they now refer to as Safe Conversations. Driven by a fierce commitment to promoting the transformation of couples, Harville and Helen created a safe and structured way to help couples overcome challenges and learn to communicate and, ultimately, heal.
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As we continue our conversation around Healthy Romantic Relationships, I am beyond excited to introduce today's guests, Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt. They are authors of one of my favorite books, Getting the Love You Want. Their book is so powerful because it's like therapy and coaching in a book, explaining why we fall in love with the personalities we do, the way our childhood wounds play out in our relationship disputes and my favorite, the vital need for a safe space to be vulnerable and share so that we can heal and grow in and through our intimate relationships. Today's conversation will be like sipping from a firehose, so get out your pen and paper and be prepared to take notes! Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt are both Ph.D.s. They are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally-respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and seven grandchildren. Free Giveaway: https://harvilleandhelen.com/podcast-offer/ How can our listeners find you? Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/harvilleandhelen Instagram @harvilleandhelen Twitter @harvillehelen Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ Request a Free Jump Start Call at https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/jumpstart For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
Communication feels very different when we're working virtually. But even through we're screen-to-screen, we still need to be respectful and have expectations and guidelines around what's appropriate and what's not.We've learned from the last few years that it's easy to feel isolated when we're not in-person. So regular check-ins and conversations is essential. But what does that look like? And how do you communicate with others who don't have their cameras on?On this episode of the podcast, Lorie Reichel-Howe of Conversations in the Workplace is talking about just that. With so many different cultures in every workplace, we need to have these conversations so we can set norms that work for everyone. Lorie shares scripts you can use to start difficult conversations, what it means to host a true training around conversations, and some examples of boundaries that get crossed in both virtual and in-person conversations.What's so interesting about this interview and Lorie's presentation for SHRM is that this may not have been a conversation we had too often prior to the pandemic. It's a critical one now!About Lorie Reichel-Howe:Lorie Reichel-Howe is founder of Conversations in the Workplace. She equips managers, teams, and business professionals to have “Safe Conversations” – transformative dialogue that uncovers hidden workplace issues. Whether addressing challenging team dynamics, mismanaged expectations, cultural insensitivity, or good old-fashioned bad behavior, “Safe Conversations” foster greater innovation, inclusion, and collaboration within organizations.With over 20 years of experience in communications and relationship management, training and development, Lorie is passionate about supporting organizations in creating a culture where people love where they work and love the people they work with.Lorie is a professional mediator and conflict coach. She has supported organizations such as Pinterest, SHRM, PIHRA, HR.com, Pinterest, Women in Technology International, Los Angeles Women's Leadership Conference, Girl Scouts of Greater Los Angeles, Santa Clara Superior Court, San Jose State University, Santa Clara County Office of Education and many more. Connect with her on LinkedIn.Mentioned in this Episode of Mental Health for Leaders:Lorie's talk at the SHRM22 Conference - Creating a Culture of Respect While Working Remotely SHRM Annual Conference & ExpoMental Health Skills Training
Inner Voice – a Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan podcast. In this segment, Dr. Foojan chats with Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. Today we will be talking about their latest book: Doing Imago Relationship Therapy – In the space-Between. https://harvilleandhelen.com Check out my website: www.foojanzeine.com
Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy K. Herman Episode 010: Oprah and the Pioneers of Connection Beyond Conflict Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! The pair are also the co-creators of Imago Relationship Theory & Therapy, as well as Safe Conversations®, an organization that contributes to the creation of a relational culture through the distribution of new insights from the relational sciences. Listen to this insightful interview with Harville and Helen on Better Relationships, Better Life, : Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● You'll hear light-hearted conversations about Harville and Helen's influence on Judy as an Imago Relationship therapist and how this interview brings out the “hidden” Oprah in her. Their first appearance on the Oprah Winfrey show was the program that won Oprah her first Emmy award! ● The definition of Imago Relationship Therapy, and how it can benefit not only couples, but also individuals, business partners, corporations, congregations, and more. ● Helen shares how Harville was first in the history of the world to teach skills of dialogue. He was instrumental in the development of the relational sciences becoming teachable. ● Living with wonder is a sign of brain health. Dialogue activates all of the lobes of the brain by creating structure to regulate emotions. ● For those with mental illness, skills of dialogue can provide structure to slow down and calm the mental chaos. Everyone is seeking to be safe and connected. ● The concept of sacred space between two people coincides with philosopher Martin Buber's “I - thou” vs. “I – it.” ● Helen and Harville are currently working with Adrien Kennedy, former chair of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) https://nami.org/About-NAMI. She envisions the impact of dialogue on the world being powerful enough to end mental illness as we know it today. ● Created by Harville and Helen in 1980, Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is one of the most influential models of therapy in the world today, practiced in 63 countries by over 2,500 therapists! To find out more: 1. If you're a therapist who wants training, or a couple who wants Imago Relationship therapy, go to https://imagorelationships.org/ 2. Join the global social movement to bring Safe Conversations to the whole world by 2030. Go go to https://safeconversations.com/ 3. Connect with Harville and Helen: WEBSITE: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/harvilleandhelen TWITTER: https://twitter.com/HarvilleHelen INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf_6FDOjokkjsRkZJr-tcgA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Maren Mittal is a therapist and success coach and is most passionate about partnering with individuals to build a strong, authentic relationship with themselves, which is the foundation for building strong, authentic relationships with others. She is certified in Brainspotting, a progressive brain/body healing protocol, and The Daring WayTM, psychoeducation material based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown, two approaches that she can integrate with inner healing spiritual practices. Maren owns her private practice, Revealing Life Holistic Services, in Minnesota. In her free time, she enjoys being a mom to 2 young adults, golfing and traveling with her husband, being outdoors, and exploring new healthy recipes. A few highlights from the show: 1. Brainspotting locates points in the client's visual field that help to access unprocessed trauma in the subcortical brain. 2. Brainspotting is a great tool to help people get unstuck after a cancer diagnosis. Especially after treatment is complete and the next phase of survivorship starts. This is a time when many people are left feeling like, "what's next" and abandoned. 3. The practice of Safe Conversations® integrates the three brain lobes and balances the two brain hemispheres making it possible for people to talk without criticism, listen without judgment, and connect beyond differences. This creates a safer world where everyone thrives. - https://safeconversations.com/ Follow and learn more about Maren and the work that she does at: https://www.revealinglifehs.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marenmittal2018/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/revealinglifehs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marenmittal/ About Me: In 2011, I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma, out of the blue. I did not have any prior health concerns or issues. Fast forward, the dreaded cancer diagnosis opened my eyes, introduced me to my purpose, and lead me to where I am today. As a Cancer Doula, I use my 10-years of experience with cancer to support and guide others diagnosed with cancer. Many people are not familiar with what a cancer doula is. Think of me as a personal health care advocate. Schedule a free 30-minute meet and greet call to learn more. https://bit.ly/OTOSDiscovery Looking for a gift for yourself, a friend, or a loved one who has been diagnosed with cancer or they are a caregiver? Visit my shop. Thanks for joining us on today's episode of the Navigating Cancer TOGETHER podcast! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes and leave a rate and review to help me reach even more people that are facing cancer. Make sure you visit On the Other Side, follow me on Instagram, or sign up for my bi-weekly newsletter to get information and resources related to cancer. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/navigatingcancertogether/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/navigatingcancertogether/support
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
In this episode, we'll discuss an often overlooked skill that is so simple yet has a significant impact on how we negotiate relationships. We'll also talk about some tools and practices that can help us turn our disagreements into meaningful connections with our partners. Dr. Harville Hendricks and Dr. Helen Hunt are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapist, educators, speakers, activist, and New York Times bestselling authors. Their 10 books, including the timeless classic Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show 17 times! Helen has been installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. The list goes on and on. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 3:56 What safe conversation is and why it's important in building a healthy relationship. 12:58 How these safe conversations in the Imago Dialogue process help the relational culture. 28:19 Simple practices to remind us to value our partners, that they matter, and that we adore them. 39:13 The structure of the Imago Dialogue process: mirroring, validating, and empathizing. 42:54 What the on-duty, off-duty days are and how Helen and Harville use this method to make sure that they are connected when they go to bed. Mentioned Imago Relationship Therapy Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples Helen LaKelly Hunt - National Women's Hall of Fame Meet a Philanthropist - A Conversation With Helen LaKelly Hunt | National Museum of American History The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician's Guide Connect with Harville and Helen Websites: Harville and Helen and Safe Conversations Facebook: facebook.com/harvilleandhelen Twitter: twitter.com/HarvilleHelen YouTube: Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt Instagram: instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.
Have you ever had a conversation about race, religion, or politics - with someone who believes differently than you - go extremely well?I've had a gazillion enriching conversations with those whose understandings and feelings align with mine, but my track record with those that disagree with me on hard issues is pretty dismal.Here's the thing, I feel like God has called me into figuring out how to bring disagreeing people into a space to safely discuss hard but important things (oh dear Lord help me).Not just discuss things, but really listen to each other in order to learn, grow, and possibly even shift a perspective or two, because no one has the corner on understanding any topic, and because no one has the other's lived experience.The goal is not to force, badger, demean or guilt people to seeing things your way - no one benefits from that at all - no one wins in the end.In my opinion, the goal is to get closer to seeing things God's way - this is where the real win is.Not policy agreement.Not political alignment.Not shared race or ethnicity.Not "being woke."If we can figure out what God has to say about something, and agree that what he is saying is true, oh what an experience that would be.And we ALL need more of that, I don't care who you are.In this episode, Sam and I are exploring the topic of how to have safe conversations about hard things. I admittedly gleaned all types of golden nuggets from a new podcast love called Human Hope by Carlos Whittaker in Episode 9: How To Have Hard Yet Healthy Conversations With People You Disagree With.We invite you into our exploration - take a listen to our conversation and let us know what you think.*****************************************************************Follow Needle Movers:Instagram: needlemoverspodcastFacebook: facebook.com/needlemoversforsocialequityWebsite: needlemovers.org
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Put down your armor and open yourself to real intimacy. EPISODE NOTES Are you single—or in a relationship—and keep falling for people who almost love you right, but not quite? There's a reason why that happens, and Ken Page has figured out the formula behind these deeper physics of dating. Ken is a psychotherapist specialized in the search for intimacy, and author of the book Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy (https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/deeper-dating-en). In this episode, Ken explains why the parts of you that you're most embarrassed about—that you try to hide by being cool, low maintenance, or extra accommodating—are actually your most valuable gifts that will lead you to finding and keeping real intimacy. He also reveals what he considers to be the single biggest saboteur of healthy love, and talks about different ways in which we flee intimacy without being aware of it. Whether single or in a relationship, this episode is for everyone who wants to foster their skills of intimacy, and deepen their bonds with themselves and others. Books Ken recommends: Ken recommends Harville Hendrix's work, especially Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. He also mentions his work around Safe Conversations. Books Caitlin and Ben recommend: The 5 Love Languages: - The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Gary Chapman - Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller - Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, by Harville Hendrix Caitlin also mentions Imago Relationship Therapy, developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to https://www.blinkist.com/simplify [2], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code COREGIFTS. Let us know what you thought of this episode, what your core gifts are, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [3], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [4] Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler and Marta Medvešek. Big thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops and Odysseas Constantinou for music. [1]: https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/deeper-dating-en [2]: https://www.blinkist.com/simplify [3]: https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [4]: https://twitter.com/bsto
Are you single—or in a relationship—and keep falling for people who almost love you right, but not quite? There's a reason why that happens, and Ken Page has figured out the formula behind these deeper physics of dating.Ken is a psychotherapist specialized in the search for intimacy, and author of the book Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy (https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/deeper-dating-en).In this episode, Ken explains why the parts of you that you're most embarrassed about—that you try to hide by being cool, low maintenance, or extra accommodating—are actually your most valuable gifts that will lead you to finding and keeping real intimacy. He also reveals what he considers to be the single biggest saboteur of healthy love, and talks about different ways in which we flee intimacy without being aware of it.Whether single or in a relationship, this episode is for everyone who wants to foster their skills of intimacy, and deepen their bonds with themselves and others.Books Ken recommends:Ken recommends Harville Hendrix's work, especially Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. He also mentions his work around Safe Conversations.Books Caitlin and Ben recommend:The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, by Gary ChapmanAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love, by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. HellerGetting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, by Harville HendrixCaitlin also mentions Imago Relationship Therapy, developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt.Try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to https://www.blinkist.com/simplify [2], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code COREGIFTS.Let us know what you thought of this episode, what your core gifts are, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [3], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [4]Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler and Marta Medvešek. Big thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops and Odysseas Constantinou for music.[1]: https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/deeper-dating-en[2]: https://www.blinkist.com/simplify[3]: https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller[4]: https://twitter.com/bsto
This week Derek chats with Mandy Majors and Kim Elerick from the nextTalk podcast about how to have intentional conversations with your kids about difficult topics. They discuss how to keep your kids safe online by creating a culture of honest conversation in homes, churches, and schools. They leave no topic uncovered in today's video. Mandy Majors and Kim Elerick are co-hosts of the nextTalk podcast, which has grown to 100,000+ listeners in more than 60 countries. Headquartered in San Antonio, TX, nextTalk is a nonprofit organization helping organizations around the world. Mandy has two teens and Kim has three younger children so the podcasts cover topics and conversations at different ages. Mandy is a graduate of Indiana University and the award-winning author of TALK and Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World. Kim is a graduate of the University of Hawaii and brings over 15 years of experience in radio production and as a morning show host. She currently serves as the nextTalk director.
I am joined today by Kristen "KB" Newton from Heart Convos! You guys, this is a valuable listen. Kristen shares so much wisdom and practical applications that we can use to help us grow in being a safe person and having healthy/safe conversations with others. We get into what being a safe person looks like, why it is so important to be one, how to have safe conversations, and more! Get out a pad of paper and a pen because this is a really good episode to take notes on. I love love love this conversation, I hope that you love it just as much. Happy listening, friends! Connect with Kristen on Instagram @heart_convos Check out all that Kristen is doing at Heart Convos at her website https://www.heartconvos.com/new-membership-main1599244558089 Interested in being mentored by me? Book a Mentoring/Coaching Session! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/abby-king8/support
Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of https://imagorelationships.org/ (Imago Relationship Therapy) and a social movement called https://safeconversations.com/ (Safe Conversations). Internationally-respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Love-You-Want-Anniversary/dp/0805087001 (Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples), have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. Watch and read more at flipyourlidpodcast.com
Shawn Mandel’s passion for safety began as a hospital corpsman — aka an enlisted medical specialist — in the U.S. Navy, when the health and safety of the Marines he worked alongside was his responsibility.“It parlayed well into the environmental health and safety field,” he said on this episode of the No Accident podcast, presented by TRUCE. “I started out as a district environmental health and safety manager for BFI [Browning Ferris Industries] and progressively worked my way through that organization.”For the past nine years, Shawn has served as the Vice President of Safety and Risk at The Woodlands, Texas-based Waste Connections Inc. The company approaches safety based on the philosophy of servant leadership, in which leaders ensure their employees’ highest priority needs are being served. Shawn explains how this drives the business’s success, as well as how that success is supplemented by empowering workers, maintaining a value-based work culture, and using modern technology like the company’s event recording system.“It is our self-directed, empowered team members that have enabled us to see the success that we have from a risk and safety standpoint,” he says. “Obviously we're a for-profit company publicly traded, but at the same time, those values drive our business. And it's those values that drive our business that have enabled us to see the success that we have for the past 25 years.” Those values are so ingrained in the company culture, he added, that he doesn’t even have to use the word “safety” that often — his entire team knows that’s what he’s referring to when he says “first value.”“We've got this internal language that only we understand,” Shawn says. “When you ask anyone in the Waste Connections organization about the first value, they know that you're talking about safety. And you're talking about their safety. You're talking about their coworkers’ safety.”Featured Guest
Harville Hendrix, PhD and his wife Helen Hunt, PhD have been helping couples for years as therapists, authors and speakers. They are on a mission to share the concepts of safe conversations with the world. They join me to share how their method can help us have more effective in-depth conversations with our spouse and children. This works every time. It works with parents, with children and couples. It is something that we now know scientifically that if you mirror another person back accurately and with warmth and no judgment, something will happen inside of them. Something marvelous. They model a safe conversation for us and offer a lot of encouragement and hope for couples who are struggling and how “Conflict is future growth waiting to happen.” Harville and Helen have an amazing offer for DMA listeners. Use code DMA on their site at safeconversations.com to get 50% off your choice of SC Essentials or the Ultimate Couples Bundle, both courses will receive free tickets to a live workshop of your choice, a $196 value. Connect with Harville & Helen: Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com Facebook: facebook.com/harvilleandhelen Instagram: @harvilleandhelen Links Mentioned: Safe Conversations courses: https://safeconversations.com Featured Sponsors: BetterHelp-- visit betterhelp.com/DMA to get 10% off your first month of professional therapy. Warby Parker--Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free. Go to warbyparker.com/DMA.
Why Complaining Doesn't WorkWhat's really going on when a person is complaining? Hosts take the hour to discuss the hidden motives of complaining and look at the effective and ineffective ways of griping.At what point do complainers look for attention or seek connection on a deep level but haven't found a way to get there? We can listen to the complainers in our lives by asking, "What is this person really feeling, and what is it that they really want?" To move beyond complaining requires courage and vulnerability.______________________________________________________For more information or support contact Kevin or Niseema at info@thepositivemindcenter.com, or call 212-757-4488. These are challenging times and we hope this episode served to validate and ease your anxiety about what you may be experiencing. Please feel free to also suggest show ideas to the above email. Thank you for listening,Kevin and Niseemawww.tffpp.orgwww.kevinlmhc.comwww.niseema.comwww.thepositivemindcenter.comPRODUCTION CREDITSOpening Music : Another Country, Pure Shadowfax, ShadowfaxEnd Music : TFFPP Theme - Giullian Goiello for The Foundation for Positive PsychologyThe Positive Mind is produced with the help of:Engineering: Geoff BradyProducer/ Research: Connie Shannon Website Design and End Music: Giullian GioelloMarketing and PR: Jen Maguire, Maguire PR, jen@maguirepr.com
Ciara Simonson, M.Div., M.S. is an Imago Trained and Safe Conversations facilitator. She brings a heart of compassion, genuine care and empathic understanding in her counseling practice. Ciara's approach to working with clients includes a combination of cognitive-behavioral theory and person-centered therapy. Reach out to her for a consultation at https://imagocenterdc.com/ciara-simonson/ About Breaking Into Cybersecurity: This series was created by Renee Small & ☁️ Christophe Foulon ☁️ to share stories of how the most recent cybersecurity professionals are breaking into the industry. Our special editions are us talking to experts in their fields and cyber gurus who share their experiences of helping others break in. #cybersecurity #breakingintocybersecurity #securitypeeps #informationsecurity #MentalHealth #ImposterSyndrome _________________________________________ About the hosts: Renee Small is the CEO of Cyber Human Capital, one of the leading human resources business partners in the field of cybersecurity, and author of the Amazon #1 best-selling book, Magnetic Hiring: Your Company's Secret Weapon to Attracting Top Cyber Security Talent. She is committed to helping leaders close the cybersecurity talent gap by hiring from within and helping more people get into the lucrative cybersecurity profession. https://www.linkedin.com/in/reneebrownsmall/ Download a free copy of her book at: magnetichiring.com/book Christophe Foulon focuses on helping to secure people and process with a solid understanding of the technology involved. He has over 10 years as an experienced Information Security Manager and Cybersecurity Strategist with a passion for customer service, process improvement, and information security. He has significant experience in optimizing the use of technology while balancing the implications to people, process, and information security by using a consultative approach. https://www.linkedin.com/in/christophefoulon/ https://cpfcoaching.wordpress.com Podcast Links: https://anchor.fm/breakingintocybersecurity https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2Td9LH7jZlAW9R5xMdwRPZH28Zi7pq3R --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/breakingintocybersecurity/support
Roman Roberts is a former Army interrogator, business consultant, foster child, and podcaster. In this episode, we discuss safe and effective communication strategies, negotiation, body language, conversation planning, and myths of communication. ------------------ ABOUT THE BLUEPRINT PODCAST: Dr. Erik Korem's podcast “The BluePrint" focuses on High Performance - a science-based, holistic process of achieving excellence in every field. He explores the methods and mindsets that build and sustain High-Performing humans through his experience as a sports scientist working with the NFL, Olympians and other elite athletes. In The BluePrint, he invites athletic champions, entertainers, entrepreneurs, and other exceptional people to discuss their resilience through struggles and triumphs while educating and motivating listeners about their High-Performance Journey. Dr. Erik Korem is a High-Performance pioneer on a mission to help The BluePrint listeners learn how to use stress to perform at their best across a number of fields. He has implemented sports science and athlete tracking technologies with collegiate and professional football teams, working with the NFL, Power-5 NCAA programs, gold medal Olympians, Nike, and the United States Department of Defense. Dr. Erik Korem is also an expert in sleep and stress resilience and the Founder and CEO of AIM7. ------------------ If you find today's podcast to be valuable, go to www.erikkorem.com and sign up for my High Performance Newsletter. In this Newsletter, I provide you valuable resources and information to help you reverse engineer high performance, to identify limiting factors and develop strategies and tactics to eliminate them, and to be at your best without burning out. Follow Erik Korem on social media: Twitter Instagram Facebook Hot Pie Media is an on-demand digital audio/video entertainment network with interests primarily in the creation of original, relevant and entertaining podcasts. ------------------ QUOTES: John Danaher on high performance mindset and resilience: “Whenever you are sparring, your mind will have a given direction of focus. The most basic division is between self focus and focus on the opponent.” - John Danaher on high performance mindset and resilience Blue Print host Dr. Erik Korem on high performance mindset and resilience: “In sport, our goal is to develop the most adaptable athletes with the most resilience who can consistently obtain their high performance mindset and potential.” - Dr. Erik Korem on high performance mindset and resilience, host of The Blue Print John Danaher on high performance mindset and resilience: “Philosophy was crucial because it is among the best means of developing a problem solving mindset.” - John Danaher on high performance mindset and resilience Blue Print host Dr. Erik Korem on high performance, performance mindset, and resilience: “The key is using that stress and being able to adapt to it to improve. That's what high performance to me is: the ability to adapt rapidly so you can achieve your potential.” - Dr. Erik Korem on high performance, performance mindset, and resilience, host of The Blue Print John Danaher on high performance mindset and resilience: “The greatest determinant of the outcome of your matches over time by a landslide is your training and lifestyle mentality. This is the high performance mindset you carry every day as you train and progress.” - John Danaher on high performance mindset and resilience See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Relationships with our significant others are often hard and even scary. What if there was a technology that could change all of that? The good news is that my guests, Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt (https://harvilleandhelen.com/) have created that technology and it's called “Safe Conversations.” (https://safeconversations.com/) I use this technology to help couples in my practice and I do the same in my personal life. Their classic book, “Getting the Love You Want,” which has sold over 4 million copies is one of the finest tools I have ever seen, and their work has made them internationally famous. Harville has been on the Oprah Winfrey Show 17 times and is such a favorite of hers that, upon her retirement, one of his episodes made it to the top-10 list of her all-time favorite shows. These are the people I believe you will want to learn from. My wife, Aurianne, who is also a psychologist, joined me at a 3-day workshop with Harville and Helen and we think the world of them and their Safe Conversations technology. So, listen in as Helen, Harville, and I talk about Safe Conversations and ways to supercharge your relationship in ways that can help you get the love you want.
Paul interviews Fred Young, Pastor for the past 20 years of East Side Church, Independence Mo. He previously Pastored in Aurora & Marshall Mo and is a Graduate Of Baptist Bible College, Springfield Mo. Fred does a Podcast with Dr. Paul Carlise ( Licensed Christian Therapist) called Safe Conversations. He’s a sports enthusiast & loves the Super Bowl Champion KC Chiefs, the St Louis Cardinals & Mizzou Tigers. His messages are available at www.eschurch.com and he can be reached at pastorfred&eschurch.com
Paul interviews Fred Young, Pastor for the past 20 years of East Side Church, Independence Mo. He previously Pastored in Aurora & Marshall Mo and is a Graduate Of Baptist Bible College, Springfield Mo. Fred does a Podcast with Dr. Paul Carlise ( Licensed Christian Therapist) called Safe Conversations. He’s a sports enthusiast & loves the Super Bowl Champion KC Chiefs, the St Louis Cardinals & Mizzou Tigers. His messages are available at www.eschurch.com and he can be reached at pastorfred&eschurch.com
In their third episode, Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt explore how Safe Conversations can be helpful in overcoming traumatic or negative emotions. To showcase this process, special guests and multi-cultural couple Barry & Anne Contee (a Safe Conversations Leader) provide a demonstration of a 'Safe Conversations Dialogue'.
In their second episode, Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt discuss with Iranian Safe Conversations Leader Ali Ghasemian how Safe Conversations might be helpful at home during times of quarantine. A special guest couple then demonstrates 'Sharing a Frustration' and transforming it into a request.
In their first episode, Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt speak about stress in the home and the benefits of their teachable Safe Conversations process. This process is then demonstrated through 'Sharing an Appreciation', with Sarah Crilley-Hill of Real News PR and her son, Caleb.
Episode 8: Safe Conversations - Timeouts, Clarifying, Proactive Conflicts by Watershed Initiative
Continue this conversation and more in the Inner Circle Membership! Inner Circle Membership http://jjflizanes.com/innercircle *mentioned on episode March 21, people can go to safeconversations.com/SOR to view the free online event. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D believe that how we interact with each other, in all our contexts—family, workplace, schools, etc.—is the key to our emotional, physical and economic well-being and to the well-being of our children and society. They vision the possibility of shifting from the age of the individual to the age of relationship; when “relationship" rather than the “individual" will be the primary value system of culture. To make relational information and skills available to everyone, Harville and Helen co- initiated Imago Relationships International as a training institute for couples therapists, Relationships First® as a collaborative mission to change the cultural value system, and Safe Conversations® as an experiment to raise the joy index of a whole city, making the work available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Harville and Helen continue to co-create Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy and make it available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Over 1200 Imago therapists practice in 37 countries. Their professional partnership has produced 10 books including three NYT best sellers (Getting the Love You Want, Keeping the Love You Find, and Giving the Love that Heals). Their latest book is The Space Between (2017). They are working on a new professional text on Imago theory and therapy. In addition, a 30th anniversary edition of Getting the Love You Want will launch in 2018. Harville is a couple’s therapist with over 40 years’ experience as an educator, clinical trainer and lecturer whose work has been on Oprah 17 times. In addition to Helen’s partnership with her husband in the co-creation of Imago, she is sole author of Faith and Feminism and And the Spirit Moved Them. She was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame for her leadership in the global women’s movement. Helen and Harville have been married for over 30 years, have six children, and reside in Dallas, Texas. http://relationshipsfirst.org http://harvilleandhelen.com JJ’s Astrology Course starting March 10th http://jjflizanes.com/astrology-course/ Free 30 Day Manifestation Challenge: http://jjflizanes.com/30day JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and the host of several podcast including People’s Choice Awards nominee Spirit, Purpose & Energy. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, a best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine, JJ has been featured in many national magazines, including Shape, Fitness, and Women’s Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox, the CW and KTLA. Grab a free copy of the Invisible Fitness Formula at http://jjflizanes.com/book
Continue this conversation and more in the Inner Circle Membership! Inner Circle Membership http://jjflizanes.com/innercircle *mentioned on episode March 21, people can go to safeconversations.com/SOR to view the free online event. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D believe that how we interact with each other, in all our contexts—family, workplace, schools, etc.—is the key to our emotional, physical and economic well-being and to the well-being of our children and society. They vision the possibility of shifting from the age of the individual to the age of relationship; when “relationship" rather than the “individual" will be the primary value system of culture. To make relational information and skills available to everyone, Harville and Helen co- initiated Imago Relationships International as a training institute for couples therapists, Relationships First® as a collaborative mission to change the cultural value system, and Safe Conversations® as an experiment to raise the joy index of a whole city, making the work available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Harville and Helen continue to co-create Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy and make it available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Over 1200 Imago therapists practice in 37 countries. Their professional partnership has produced 10 books including three NYT best sellers (Getting the Love You Want, Keeping the Love You Find, and Giving the Love that Heals). Their latest book is The Space Between (2017). They are working on a new professional text on Imago theory and therapy. In addition, a 30th anniversary edition of Getting the Love You Want will launch in 2018. Harville is a couple’s therapist with over 40 years’ experience as an educator, clinical trainer and lecturer whose work has been on Oprah 17 times. In addition to Helen’s partnership with her husband in the co-creation of Imago, she is sole author of Faith and Feminism and And the Spirit Moved Them. She was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame for her leadership in the global women’s movement. Helen and Harville have been married for over 30 years, have six children, and reside in Dallas, Texas. http://relationshipsfirst.org http://harvilleandhelen.com JJ’s Astrology Course starting March 10th http://jjflizanes.com/astrology-course/ Free 30 Day Manifestation Challenge: http://jjflizanes.com/30day JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and the host of several podcast including People’s Choice Awards nominee Spirit, Purpose & Energy. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, a best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine, JJ has been featured in many national magazines, including Shape, Fitness, and Women’s Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox, the CW and KTLA. Grab a free copy of the Invisible Fitness Formula at http://jjflizanes.com/book
Continue this conversation and more in the Inner Circle Membership! Inner Circle Membership http://jjflizanes.com/innercircle *mentioned on episode March 21, people can go to safeconversations.com/SOR to view the free online event. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D believe that how we interact with each other, in all our contexts—family, workplace, schools, etc.—is the key to our emotional, physical and economic well-being and to the well-being of our children and society. They vision the possibility of shifting from the age of the individual to the age of relationship; when “relationship" rather than the “individual" will be the primary value system of culture. To make relational information and skills available to everyone, Harville and Helen co- initiated Imago Relationships International as a training institute for couples therapists, Relationships First® as a collaborative mission to change the cultural value system, and Safe Conversations® as an experiment to raise the joy index of a whole city, making the work available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Harville and Helen continue to co-create Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy and make it available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Over 1200 Imago therapists practice in 37 countries. Their professional partnership has produced 10 books including three NYT best sellers (Getting the Love You Want, Keeping the Love You Find, and Giving the Love that Heals). Their latest book is The Space Between (2017). They are working on a new professional text on Imago theory and therapy. In addition, a 30th anniversary edition of Getting the Love You Want will launch in 2018. Harville is a couple’s therapist with over 40 years’ experience as an educator, clinical trainer and lecturer whose work has been on Oprah 17 times. In addition to Helen’s partnership with her husband in the co-creation of Imago, she is sole author of Faith and Feminism and And the Spirit Moved Them. She was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame for her leadership in the global women’s movement. Helen and Harville have been married for over 30 years, have six children, and reside in Dallas, Texas. http://relationshipsfirst.org http://harvilleandhelen.com JJ’s Astrology Course starting March 10th http://jjflizanes.com/astrology-course/ Free 30 Day Manifestation Challenge: http://jjflizanes.com/30day JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and the host of several podcast including People’s Choice Awards nominee Spirit, Purpose & Energy. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, a best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine, JJ has been featured in many national magazines, including Shape, Fitness, and Women’s Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox, the CW and KTLA. Grab a free copy of the Invisible Fitness Formula at http://jjflizanes.com/book
Continue this conversation and more in the Inner Circle Membership! Inner Circle Membership http://jjflizanes.com/innercircle *mentioned on episode March 21, people can go to safeconversations.com/SOR to view the free online event. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D believe that how we interact with each other, in all our contexts—family, workplace, schools, etc.—is the key to our emotional, physical and economic well-being and to the well-being of our children and society. They vision the possibility of shifting from the age of the individual to the age of relationship; when “relationship" rather than the “individual" will be the primary value system of culture. To make relational information and skills available to everyone, Harville and Helen co- initiated Imago Relationships International as a training institute for couples therapists, Relationships First® as a collaborative mission to change the cultural value system, and Safe Conversations® as an experiment to raise the joy index of a whole city, making the work available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Harville and Helen continue to co-create Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy and make it available in workshops, training programs, lectures, seminars and books. Over 1200 Imago therapists practice in 37 countries. Their professional partnership has produced 10 books including three NYT best sellers (Getting the Love You Want, Keeping the Love You Find, and Giving the Love that Heals). Their latest book is The Space Between (2017). They are working on a new professional text on Imago theory and therapy. In addition, a 30th anniversary edition of Getting the Love You Want will launch in 2018. Harville is a couple’s therapist with over 40 years’ experience as an educator, clinical trainer and lecturer whose work has been on Oprah 17 times. In addition to Helen’s partnership with her husband in the co-creation of Imago, she is sole author of Faith and Feminism and And the Spirit Moved Them. She was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame for her leadership in the global women’s movement. Helen and Harville have been married for over 30 years, have six children, and reside in Dallas, Texas. http://relationshipsfirst.org http://harvilleandhelen.com JJ’s Astrology Course starting March 10th http://jjflizanes.com/astrology-course/ Free 30 Day Manifestation Challenge: http://jjflizanes.com/30day JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and the host of several podcast including People’s Choice Awards nominee Spirit, Purpose & Energy. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, a best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine, JJ has been featured in many national magazines, including Shape, Fitness, and Women’s Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox, the CW and KTLA. Grab a free copy of the Invisible Fitness Formula at http://jjflizanes.com/book
How do you keep JOY in your relationships, especially during this time of year?Join us for a LIVE conversation with our founders, Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, as they discuss how to keep or restore joy in your relationships!
The Revolution of Putting Relationships First with Drs. Harville Hendricks and Helen HuntStandout quotes from this episode:The outside creates the inside. -Dr. Harville Hendricks Connecting is more important than the individual and Sidewalk Talk is creating a relationship revoluion. -Dr. Harville Hendricks Mental health has taught us to look inside when something is wrong. No. We need to look outside. -Dr. Harville Hendricks What makes you tired when you are listening to someone is when you have to have opinions about someone. Connecting from curiosity and wonder puts us in the most peaceful part of our brain making listening beneficial to our wellness. -Dr. Helen Hunt Pioneers in Human Relating:Drs. Harville Hendricks and Helen Hunt are pioneers in the field of marriage counseling and now human relationship. They are therapists turning therapy upside down. Harville has been on Oprah over 17 times, his work is that revolutionary.For years we have been taught two things:Knowing, being judicious, and being certain about the world is rewarded but being “certain” about people leaves out the peace and wellness that comes from wondering and being curious about someone.We grow when we search inside ourselves but actually we grow when we put connection before individual introspection.Hear how Harville and Helen talk about why listening on the sidewalk is actually good for listeners and talkers' brains. It isn’t tiring because Sidewalk Talk Listeners are suspending the “need to know” or “the need to be right” and instead move to their upper brain, the part of the brain that creates peace and calm.There are revolutionary takeaways in this short conversation. And we are blown away that Harville said “You know Traci, what you all are doing at Sidewalk Talk is creating a relationship revolution.”They are convinced that we have this wellness and healing thing all wrong. It is the magic of the space between two people and making them safe and the quality of our interactions where our wellness and peace improve and thrive.If you want to learn more about Relationships First and the Safe Conversations training we discuss in this episode, visit www.relationshipsfirst.org and we can send you verification that you are a Sidewalk Talk listener to get a discount on the training if needed.
Brian McCourt, The Able Channel, describes his work helping to transform our shared human frailties into a common bond for caring, education, and inspiration; Niseema Diemer, The Foundation for Positive Psychology and The Positive Mind Center, shares tips from their Safe Conversations workshops.
In this episode, Pastor Fred and Dr. Paul talk about sexual abuse in our society.
This episode continues with the conversation about how understanding your emotions leads to being able to love yourself in a healthy way.
2019/08/15 ~ audio - Phil Thompson speaks with Clay Arnold about Safe Conversations, a unique and structured way to talk without criticism, intentionally listen without judgement and to connect beyond your differences.
2019/08/15 ~ audio - Phil Thompson speaks with Clay Arnold about Safe Conversations, a unique and structured way to talk without criticism, intentionally listen without judgement and to connect beyond your differences.
2019/08/15 ~ audio - Phil Thompson speaks with Clay Arnold about Safe Conversations, a unique and structured way to talk without criticism, intentionally listen without judgement and to connect beyond your differences.
Jaime Cohen is the founder of Jaimbalaya & Use The Right Words. Real communication is hard, it's not wonder that the world is a literal mess. We discuss why communication can be so difficult, ways to do it better, and how we can build towards a more sustainable world starting with dialogue. 5:00 How does sustainability tie into communication 11:00 Living in most connected time in human history 11:16 Why do we talk about the weather? 14:00 Our need for control vs being fully present 17:50 Creating boundaries 21:55 Safe Conversations method “we will use what you say against you vs we will use it to understand you” 26:00 RF Its not what you say, its how you say it 35:02 The foundation to build more resilient infrastructure
Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times. However, marriage—even for marriage experts—is never easy. They share insights from their own marriage as well as their best practice suggestions for other couples centered around imago, safe conversations, and zero negativity. This episode we go into the science behind how and why we choose the partners that we do. They share the Imago method and how we can have safe conversations which become healing rather than damaging. These two are world changers and movement makers. They are starting the movement of Safe Conversations through their Non-profit Relationship’s First in Dallas and have plans to expand to the rest of America and beyond. Any conversation with them is one worth listening to as their insight, expertise, and wisdom is not one to ignore. www.loveintently.com/blog/harville-and-helen/2019/1/30
I continue my discussion with Jessica Bollinger, LCSW on how we can incorporate the principles of Imago Therapy into our personal and community relationships. Check out how using the principles of Imago Therapy has led to a concept of “Safe Conversations” in the community of Dallas, TX.https://youtu.be/5b14sYHcGmUAlso hear how Jessie is celebrating the new year answering these 3 questions:What’s one of the biggest lessons you learned this past year? What are you most looking forward to leaving behind?What are you most looking forward to in the new year?
Relationships aren’t easy. That’s why Helen LaKelly Hunt and Harville Hendrix—partners in business and life—set out to discover the secrets to healthy relationships. Now several decades later, the co-creators of Imago Relationships Therapy host conferences across the country intended to bring couples closer in an authentic way. SUCCESS.com’s Shelby Skrhak say down with the pair to discuss the underlying causes of unsuccessful partnerships, what we can learn from 18th-century arranged marriages and the important of “safe conversations.”
Today’s guest is Dave Richo, a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and author of the well-known book “How To Be An Adult in Relationships- The 5 Keys to Mindful Loving”. In this conversation we explore topics found in his more recent book “How To Be an Adult In Love- Letting Love In Safely and Showing It Recklessly”, and his brand new book “You Are Not What You Think- The Egoless Path To Self-Esteem and Generous Love”. Richo’s approach, which combines Jungian, poetic, and mythical perspectives, delves deep into the Buddhist concept of loving-kindness. In today’s episode we explore the whys and the hows of egoless love in the context of romantic relationships. You will learn key questions to help you assess your own ego balance, and ways to surrender ego in order to build self-esteem, address old wounds and fears, be fully loving in all of your relationships, and to actually evolve your capacity for love. You will be reminded and awakened to the ways in which taking care of ourselves is in itself an act of love. Here are some highlights, insights, and suggestions from my conversation with Dave Richo: Widening the range of love- The Buddhist practice of loving-kindness is really about expanding our definition of what it means to love. It is about beaming out love to yourself, those closest to you, those you feel neutral about, those you don’t even really like, and all with EQUAL force. This force of grace and power is one that comes from beyond our ego, and extends through us to all beings. We can learn how to love, which is important, but we can also work on opening ourselves to call upon this sense of unconditional grace that is omnipresent and here to help us. How to connect with this sense of spirit is incredibly personal and you must find the right wording, symbolism, rituals, and practices that make it your own. However you relate to this concept, take a moment to consider that perhaps by incorporating awareness of this wider loving spirit you might find ways to better heal during difficult times, feel connected to your partner regardless of what you think or feel about them in a given moment, and even potentially, as Dave explains, feel more fully human. Agape love: The Greek’s referred to this form of selfless, unconditional and utterly limitless way of showing love as ‘Agape love’. They saw this form of boundless love to be our own highest calling. Although the love we hold for our romantic partner(s) exists within the definitions of the Greek’s Agape love and the Buddhist’s loving-kindness paradigm, it is the erotic dimension that distinguishes our intimate partnerships from the crowd. Interestingly enough, the Greek’s also believe that erotic love exists in our creative pursuits as well. Therefore there are many ways to experience erotic love, and infinite ways to experience Agape love. Tending to the relationship through Egoless Loving: So how can this wide definition of love inform our ability to engage the challenges that may arise in our partnerships? Love is about giving of oneself without being sure exactly what we will get in return. If instead, our egos are leading the way in our relationship we may find ourselves using the partnership to assert and solidify our own ego purposes, leading to patterns of selfishness (and not the good kind!). The evolution of a relationship from Ego-ideals to Egoless led love: There are three phases a romantic relationship must pass through in order to achieve an egoless led love: 1) Ego-Ideal to Ego-Ideal Romantic Phase: In the beginning… two individuals meet, and their two ego ideals fall in love. Meaning that person you always desired is finally found! Stars, rainbows, romantic dates, until… 2) Ego to Ego Phase: The inevitable conflicts, big or small, begin, and the ego-ideals erode and you begin to see the other person as she or he really is (warts and all). You may start to see your partner as self-centered, self-promoting, self-ish, or maybe you just start getting really irritated with the way they do or don’t do the dishes, you get the idea… In this conflict stage, the goal is to confront the ego dimension of ourselves and see if we can let go of it in favor of a more loving response. There are many psychological techniques, communication tips, outlined processes, prompts and activities you can choose to engage in here to help address, process, and make it through this phase. Regardless of how you and your partner work on your conflicts, it is critical to remember that this is an act of love! When we commit to working through the tough stuff and putting in the energy when struggles arise we are showing ourselves and our partners love in action. This increases connection, and of course, trust. And it leads to the final phase. 3) Egoless Love Phase: Through successfully showing up for Phase 2 and taking responsibility for our own egos, a new dimension of love is possible. Now that our partners can trust that we are dedicated to tending to the partnership versus tending solely to our egos, true commitment is possible. (Note to eager hearts: this is the appropriate time to choose marriage rather than during the Ego-ideal phase!). Hold up! Lets take a moment to look closer at what ego is, and what it means in love. Ego is the latin word for ‘I’. It lies on a continuum. One extreme is when the ego is inflated which can look like arrogance/swagger/narcism, and on the other extreme when the ego is deflated it can look like withdrawn/shutdown/doormat-like. In equilibrium the ego is strong yet not forceful, direct but not judging, respectful, humble, confident without arrogance, and loving. Only from a healthy ego is true love possible. You cannot be fully loved by those whose egos are stuck on either end of the spectrum. Someone with an inflated ego cannot truly love you, even if it seems she/he cares about you it is only because they are focusing on you to see what they can get from you. Someone with a deflated ego is guided by fear and appeasement, neither conducive to deep healthy love. Those with healthy egos however, have self-esteem, and so they are capable of looking into YOU. Helpful questions to uncover where you are on the ego spectrum, and consequently discover if the love you are giving and getting in your relationship is healthy: We are each born with a set of original needs, Dave categorizes them into the 5 As: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. -Attention- your caretakers focused on your needs in an engaged way -Acceptance- your family and community accepted you as you were -Appreciation- your family cherished and celebrated you -Affection- your family showed affection in physical and appropriate ways -Allowing- your family supported you without clinging or holding you back These five needs remain with us throughout our life and they create a solid definition of how love is shown. How do you know that you really love yourself? Ask! Using the same 5As you can ask yourself “Am I paying attention to my needs? Am I accepting myself as I really am? Am I holding myself as valuable? Am I taking care of my body? Am I allowing myself to make the choices that reflect who I am rather than what others insist? Notice your answers, and notice how assertive you are. Can you state your needs without aggression or demand? Are you afraid of asking for what you want or afraid of your needs themselves? Are you afraid of needing or wanting to be fully loved? Bring the 5 As into your relationship by talking through them with your partner and turning the questions around! How can I pay attention to your needs? Am I accepting you as you really are? Etc. This can be in incredibly informative and empowering process to pursue together. When you can give yourself the 5As it is called healthy self-love. When you can give your partner the 5As it is called intimacy. And don’t be fooled. Acts of self-love are in themselves a way of showing love to others. Turning attention inward helps you show up and be fully you! The 4A Process: In establishing intimacy, it is critical to address fears of intimacy- Although subconscious, hidden, or simply out of awareness, many relationship conflicts arise from two common fears originating from our childhoods: 1) fear of abandonment and 2) fear of engulfment. These fears develop into fears of intimacy and are the root causes of so many relationship struggles (both MAJOR and minor ones!). The 4A process can help you and your partner work through the fear(s). 1) Admit- admit you are afraid, share with your partner 2) Allow- allow yourself to feel the feeling 3) Act as If- feel the fear but do it anyway, don’t let the fear stop you 4) Affirmation- Tell yourself “I am letting go of this fear” An example: “When you hug me I feel scared you will smother me, but please keep hugging me so that I can work through this feeling because I know you are safe and will not overwhelm me. I don’t want the fear to stop this moment that is happening, so I am going to let go of this fear.” Work with original fears so that you can experience the other side of intimacy! There is a difference between fear management (making exceptions, working around, and placating ourselves, etc) versus taking responsibility for our fear (tracing source, acknowledging triggers, expressing awareness). It’s not you, It’s me! While our romantic relationships are indeed sources of deep happiness, they are also our best labs in which to grow into awakened, full, and healthy human beings. As so many of us have experienced, our intimate partnerships lead us to the most undeveloped parts of ourselves. Humbling! Intruiging! And experience shows that everyone, we mean everyone, has childhood scars that continue to dwell in the psyche and play out in subtle, and unsubtle ways! Taking responsibility and becoming aware of how our past carries over into the present is in itself an ACT OF LOVE. Healthy relationships give us the opportunity to heal old wounds, and therefore the ability to have healthier relationships, and so on. Welcome these opportunities to heal your past! For those of you growth-oriented partners, you can begin to ask yourself and your partner “how can I best sponsor growth and healing?” From this place of love, you can engage in what Dave calls Safe Conversations. Safe Conversations- If you want to love yourself and allow your relationship (current or future) to have more love in it, you must be willing to have conversations without judgement about how the past is informing the present. From here you can choose how you want to give and receive the 5As and how to have a relationship in which childhood wounds are no longer getting in the way. Safe Conversations help to air out and find patterns for deeper understanding. Here is short list of example questions to discuss with your partner (taking turns asking each other), but please refer to Dave’s book for more a more in depth discussion. “How were your early needs handled in childhood? How did your parents show you the 5 As?” “How can your needs be met now in this relationship?” “How were your feelings handled and expressed in your childhood? How was sadness shown? Anger? Fear? Joy?” “How were conflicts handled by your parents?” “How do you want to handle conflicts in our relationship?” “How was free speech seen ny your family?” “How can you feel safe to speak your needs in our relationship?” This is a lot! It is long, deep, unfolding, and takes an immense amount of ego-less led presence. Take breaks! And lastly, a suggestion for expanding your daily capacity for loving kindness: Daily rituals help call our awareness to attention, Dave shares his morning dedication with us: “I say yes to everything that happens to me today as an opportunity to give and receive love without reserve. I am thankful for the enduring capacity to love that has come to me from the sacred heart of the universe. May everything that happens to me today open my heart more and more. May all that I think, say, feel, and do, express loving kindness towards myself, those close to me, and all beings. May love be my life purpose, my bliss, my destiny, my calling, the richest grace I can receive or give and may I always be especially compassionate toward people who are considered least, or last, or who feel alone or lost” Resources Dave Richo's Website How to Be an Adult in Relationship on Amazon How to Be an Adult in Love on Amazon You Are Not What You Think on Amazon www.neilsattin.com/adult Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Dave Richo Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out!
Effective communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, yet so many of us struggle to truly be heard and understood. Renowned relationship experts and authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to share their groundbreaking insights on how dialogue can transform the way we connect. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations, they break down the power of Imago Dialogue, the role of safety in communication, and why curiosity is the key to bridging differences. From deepening intimacy in romantic relationships to fostering understanding in a divided world, this conversation is packed with powerful tools to help you listen, connect, and create lasting change in the way you relate to others. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen's Previous Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love/ —Harville & Helen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen's Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen's Website | Safe Conversations: https://quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen's Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen's Book: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. https://createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!
In this episode, I have the absolute honor of welcoming legendary relationship experts Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt. I had to pinch myself when I met them – it was a full circle moment for me. I found Harville and Helen's work at a time in my life when I was deeply confused about relationships. I didn't know why I was so good at talking about everything but my feelings. I didn't know why I chose the people I chose or was the way I was. Harville and Helen's work and their book gave me context to my personal relational patterns and a framework for relating better. In this episode, Harville and Helen discuss the transformative power of dialogue in relationships and the importance of curiosity and open-mindedness. We explore the complexities of emotional healing and self-awareness in relationships, the concept of unconscious attraction in romantic partnerships, and how childhood needs and experiences shape adult behaviors and relationships. Tune in for a profound conversation that will surely impact the way you relate in your life moving forward. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women's Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen's Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen's Website | Safe Conversations: https:/quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen's Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen's Book: Getting the Love You Want: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/getting-the-love-you-want/ —Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick: https://youtu.be/vmE3NfB_HhE?si=QivHWP9_jREexK3s&t=34 If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Breakups, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Health, Codependency, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Parenting, Mental Health, Dialogue, Curiosity, Childhood Experiences, Unconscious Attraction, Relationship Development, Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Collaboration This episode is sponsored by BON CHARGE: Use code MARKGROVES to save 15% at http://boncharge.com/MARKGROVES Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!
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