Podcasts about parents rising

Larry McCall has been married to his high school sweetheart for more than 50 years and pastored the same church for over 40. He knows firsthand what it takes to enjoy a marriage that lasts. He's also seen the bad things that happen to marriages in the middle and later years. In his book A Seasoned Marriage, he walks couples through the seasons that can quietly undo a marriage: empty nests, adult kids moving back home, aging parents, and the slow drift from spouse to roommate. He and Arlene talk about why putting Christ at the center of marriage matters more than ever as the years go on, and how couples can become closer friends instead of growing apart. If your kids are young, this episode is still for you — what you build now is what you'll have later. 1:28 — Why the gospel has to be at the center of marriage, not just the beginning of it 3:28 — The "happiness trap" — what couples reveal when they pursue divorce 6:39 — When your spouse's faith is weak and you're carrying the marriage alone 8:25 — The story of a woman whose non-Christian husband came to faith after decades of prayer 10:31 — The low point in Larry and Gladine's marriage, and what turned it around 16:02 — Navigating adult kids moving back home without it wedging the marriage 23:38 — The difference between a Christian grandparent and an intentional Christian grandparent Grab a copy of Larry McCall's book: A Seasoned Marriage Learn more about Walking with Jesus Ministries: https://www.walkingwithjesusministries.org/ More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Guest favorite Dr. Kathy Koch joins Arlene to explain the changes that happen when your kids grow up. Dr. Kathy's book Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children walks parents through the hard work of releasing control, grieving unmet expectations, and learning to communicate in ways that actually keep the door open. They cover topics like helicoptering through the teen years, using "I statements" instead of "you statements," staying connected with kids who've walked away from faith, and how to pray through the grief of it all. If your kids are still young, don't skip this episode. It's great to prepare you for the future by preventing common problems in the first place. In this episode, you'll learn: 3:06 Parent as a noun vs. parent as a verb — what changes when kids grow up 4:31 The long-term effects of helicoptering through the teen years 6:20 How to recognize when you're idolizing your kids 9:47 The "Isaac on the altar" release practice — surrendering your adult child to God 13:06 Staying connected with a child who has walked away from faith 15:37 "I statements" vs. "you statements" and why it matters 26:16 The monthly curiosity coffee — how to ask questions that open doors instead of closing them Find out more about Dr. Kathy Koch's ministry and get her book Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children at https://celebratekids.com/ Connect with Dr. Kathy on Instagram and Facebook. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

There's a lot being said and shown about sex in our culture. Algorithms aren't delivering messages of sexual purity, freedom and health to teenagers. Quite the opposite. Yet purity is not an outdated idea, but it has been misunderstood. Dannah Gresh, founder of True Girl, is back to help us communicate to our kids with truth and grace about sex. She shares her freedom story of how God redeemed her past and healed her heart. She's revised her bestselling book, And The Bride Wore White: Seven Truths to Live in Sexual Integrity No Matter What Your Past. She walks through how the cultural conversation around sex and purity has shifted, what's at stake when moms stay silent, and how parents can talk to their kids about dating, modesty, and sexual integrity without legalism or fear. You won't want to miss this practical and biblical wisdom about a sensitive but needed topic. In today's conversation, you'll learn: 1:43 — Why Dannah refreshed The Bride Wore White now 2:40 — The "silver letter" that changed everything 5:49 — Dannah's own story: falling short at 15 and finding healing 11:23 — "Sex is not a consumer good — it's a covenant good" 21:06 — The science of "sliding vs. deciding" in relationships 27:03 — What to do when your child is dating the wrong person 29:32 — How to teach girls dignity in a way that's actually attractive Connect and find out more about Dannah Gresh, her ministry True Girl, and new book, And The Bride Wore White at https://mytruegirl.com/. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Dallas Theological Seminary President, Dr. Mark Yarbrough, shares about keeping faith alive in the family. What does faith on fire look like? What if your faith is waning? Dr. Yarbrough talks about his new book The Rekindled Heart: 6 Essentials for Reviving Your Faith. He shares how humility shaped a major family decision, why intentional parenting requires a plan, and the campfire story that launched his book. Join us for a great episode that will help you rekindle your fire for Jesus. 1:47 Mark reveals he just became a grandparent two weeks ago 3:25 He gave every family member veto power over his seminary presidency decision 5:58 Why Jesus used a child as the picture of humility (not innocence — dependence) 10:49 His mentor Howard Hendricks leans over his desk: "The Bible was not written to satisfy your curiosity. It was written to change your life." 15:21 Parenting is one of God's greatest schools — and your kids expose everything 17:05 If you don't have an intentional plan to raise your child, you will not hit the goal 24:04 The campfire moment: what sparked Mark's book 35:30 The costs of staying quiet Connect with Dr. Mark Yarbrough, president of Dallas Theological Seminary: https://www.dts.edu/ Get Mark’s book, The Rekindled Heart: 6 Essentials for Reviving Your Faith: https://www.amazon.com/Rekindled-Heart-Essentials-Reviving-Faith/dp/0802437710 More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

How can you pursue change as a mom without being crushed by guilt or shame? Abbey Wedgeworth brings a needed message: We don't need more willpower. We need the power of the Gospel. Sharing from her book, Help, I'm Ruining My Kids, Abbey talks about her own experience with poor postpartum mental health, the pull between shame and blame, and why our weakness is not the enemy we think it is. If you've ever felt like you're failing your kids, this conversation will point you to the real hope in Jesus. On today's episode, we're talking honestly about: 4:06 The "pendulum from shame to blame" — and what the Gospel offers instead 9:03 "We hate our weakness and tolerate our sin" — the powerful flip we need 10:20 Equating competence with righteousness — and learning to choose kindness over capability 19:00 Abbey opens up about postpartum suicidal ideations and how the Gospel gave her courage to get help 23:08 Running for the joy set before us — how a fitness competition became a spiritual metaphor 29:33 What your kids actually need isn't a mom who stops yelling — it's a mom who hungers for righteousness 37:39 The "3 to 5 method" for getting into scripture even in your most exhausted seasons (you'll love this) Learn more about Abbey Wedgeworth and her book, Help I'm Ruining My Kids https://www.abbeywedgeworth.com/ Connect with Abbey on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abbeywedgeworth/ More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Moms carry a lot on their shoulders from meal planning to sports shuttling, boo-boo kissing to homework prodding. What would happen in the home if mom didn't do all the things? In this Mother's Day episode, Arlene brings a message to make moms laugh and hopefully make them feel wildly appreciated. But she'll also share the dangers of being a helicopter mom and doing too much for your kids. You'll hear personal stories of how she has seen her kids grow up - and what has worked to make them truly ready for life. No matter your parenting style, if you're married or single, this episode will remind you what's most important in your family. This message was originally recorded at Bonita Valley Community Church in San Diego. 1:30 What would actually happen if mom didn’t show up? 5:20 Why your son needs you to step back - kids learn to problem solve in your absence 7:40 Launching adults requires less rescuing 8:50 The link between helicopter parents and socially anxious kids 11:30 Stop asking social media for advice - ask the generation ahead of you instead 13:33 What does the Bible say about launching kids into adulthood? 18:30 What to do if your child says he doesn’t want to go to school 20:00 When Ethan broke his leg in kindergarten - and how it taught Arlene to let go 23:30 I don’t want to carpool with that kid! 25:30 What is your highest goal as a parent? 29:50 Raising kids in Digital Babylon - what that means and what's at stake 32:00 A special word for the single mom - you're not alone More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Kristen Jenson, founder of Defend Young Minds and author of the bestselling Good Pictures, Bad Pictures series, joins Arlene to talk about her newest book written specifically for girls. She unpacks why girls are more vulnerable to pornography than most parents realize and how early, calm conversations are the most powerful protection a parent can give. This episode will give you the tools needed to understand and approach this topic with your kids without fear or shame. 4:37 Pornography isn't just video — romance novels count too 7:43 Navigating wanting to protect your child's innocence 10:48 Keeping your daughter stay safe, smart, and confident 16:45 How to explain objectification to an 8-year-old 20:42 The thinking brain vs. the feeling brain explained 26:04 What to do if your daughter has already been exposed to pornography Learn more about Kristen A. Jenson of Defend Young Minds and the book, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Guide for Girls: www.defendyoungminds.com/books My kid saw porn - now what? https://www.defendyoungminds.com/help-heal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DefendYM/ Instagram: @defendyoungminds X: @defendYM LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/defend-young-minds/ More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Kristy Graham (Billy Graham's granddaughter-in-law) has a front row seat to what God is doing around the world. She's the podcast host of On the Ground with Samaritan's Purse. Maybe you've packed a shoebox with Operation Christmas Child to send the Gospel and gifts to children around the world. How can we raise kids who give generously at Christmas AND as a way of life? You'll hear about families who travel for the first time to get life-saving heart surgeries for their kids (for free!). And about women who have been rescued from poverty, abuse and war in Kenya at Amani ya Juu through the work of Samaritan's Purse. Kristy opens up about what it's like to grow up Graham for her kids, and the beautiful legacy of faithfulness she has experienced. But this doesn't mean her life is problem free. Like many of us, her kids have struggled with sickness. You'll find hope and encouragement from a fellow mom in the trenches. In this episode, Arlene and Kristy talk about: 2:30 Life saving surgeries for kids (Children’s Heart Project) 5:45 The power of generosity and how it reflects the gospel 9:10 I didn’t want my kids to become resentful about ministry 11:00 When we don’t have the answers about our children’s illnesses 13:44 More than healing, I want you to want the Healer 15:35 Amani ya Juu in Kenya (what it does for refugees) 20:15 What if we could be more like Ingrid (the Ingrid Effect)? 21:30 How a shoebox is changing families by giving gifts to kids 24:41 What is like having Billy Graham as a grandfather? Learn more about Samaritan’s Purse: https://samaritanspurse.org/ On the Ground with Samaritan’s Purse Podcast: https://ontheground.samaritanspurse.org/home Follow on Instagram @onthegroundSP More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

They're back! Beloved counselors and bestselling authors David Thomas and Sissy Goff join Arlene to talk about their new book, Capable: How to Teach Your Kids Strengths, Skills, and Strategies to Build Resilience. After 30+ years of counseling, they're sounding the alarm on a generation of kids who are increasingly averse to risk, effort, and discomfort. What if your child doesn't want to be capable, preferring convenience and entertainment instead? David and Sissy share practical tools from the book that will help you spark motivation and build resilient, capable kids (even when your kids are resistant). Whether your child is a toddler or a teenager, this episode will help you prepare your children for life and its challenges. This is such a needed conversation for today's family. 2:14 What counselors are seeing after 30+ years: a generation avoiding discomfort 4:06 What to do with kids who say: "I don't want to be capable" 10:03 "Don't do for your kids what they can do for themselves" 10:41 Support vs. challenge equation: which one are you? 15:08 Trusting God and your own intuition over the apps 19:28 Screens, social anxiety, and the word "awkward" 21:34 "My job is not to make you happy — it's to develop your character" 25:10 Role-play: what to say when your kid refuses school, camp, or a new friend 28:09 Capable starts in the Costco cart Connect with David & Sissy and get their book, Capable: How to Teach Your Kids Strengths, Skills, and Strategies to Build Resilience at raisingboysandgirls.com. Instagram: @raisingboysandgirls and @sissygoff More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Contrary to what many say, most marriages aren't destroyed by parental wounds, unresolved anger, or a sinful past. Jim Ramos, founder of Men in the Arena, talks candidly with Arlene about his new book Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage. They dive into practical wisdom for building a marriage that lasts, drawn from Jim's 34+ years of real-life experience. Jim has seen enough marriages crumble to know one thing: most of them didn't fail because of deep psychological wounds or unresolved trauma — they failed because of small, unwise decisions that compounded over time. Tune in for practical wisdom and ways to avoid these costly mistakes for marriages. 2:08 Why Jim & Shannon created guardrails after 34 years 4:51 Navigating opposite-sex coworkers and professional boundaries 8:00 How to receive compliments without opening emotional doors 10:50 Guardrail #9: Always send gifts from us, never just from you 14:00 The story loop problem (King Solomon & the Queen of Sheba) 21:14 Guardrail #3: Staying emotionally connected 24:07 Social media dangers: Jim's personal rules (150k followers, zero apps on his phone) Get a copy of Jim's book, Guardrails: 10 Boundaries for an Unbreakable Marriage and find out more about his ministry at meninthearena.org. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Author Addison Bevere joins Arlene to talk about what honest, un-performative prayer actually looks like — for you and your kids. He shares why humility is a parenting superpower, how to guide children toward "second innocence," and why your morning routine might be the most spiritually significant part of your day. Join us for a truly wisdom-filled conversation about prayer and Addison's new book, Words with God. 02:02 The difference between complaining about God vs. going to God in messy intimacy 03:07 Humility creates safety — modeling authentic faith for your kids 08:37 First innocence vs. second innocence — the real goal of protecting your kids 10:39 God won't always deliver you from a thing when that thing will ultimately deliver you to him 12:40 Prayer is about presence, not performance 15:21 Morning routines, brain science, and how God designed us as receptors 20:52 Addison's no-phone morning ritual — and the neuroscience behind it 25:02 "Smart mornings do not include smartphones" 31:49 Insomnia and surrender: how waking up differently changed everything Grab a copy Addison's books: Words With God (book and prayer journal) Connect with Addison at rediscoverprayer.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Blending families isn't easy and you can feel alone in the struggle. But did you know there are several prominent step-families found in the Bible? Smart stepmom, author Laura Petherbridge offers heartfelt insights and solutions for navigating big emotions in complex homes. Her new book is Stepfamilies of the Bible: Timeless Wisdom for Blended Families. God's people have always included families with complex configurations, strained dynamics, and serious problems. The fact that complex, imperfect families have always been part of God's family is good news! In today's conversation, you'll learn: 3:00 53 percent of kids come from complex families, going between two homes 9:00 When my dad got remarried and I got a step-mom... 14:15 When children feel they lost dad to the new stepmom/stepfamily 18:00 When you feel offended by your step-kids 22:15 If a child senses you look down on the other family, he will side with the other family as the underdog 25:00 You don't see two women who hate each other more (Sarah and Hagar) Connect with Laura and get her book, Stepfamilies of the Bible at thesmartstepmom.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Leading in Parenting: Special Patreon Release with Arlene Pellicane   Titus 3:1 (AMP) “Remind people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready and willing to do good,"   *Transcription Below*   Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books including Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Calm, Cool, and Connected: 5 Digital Habits for a More Balanced Life.   She is also the co-author of Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World (with Dr. Gary Chapman).     Arlene has been a featured guest on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, Focus on the Family, FamilyLife Today, The 700 Club, and Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah.  She writes regularly for Proverbs 31 Ministries  and Girlfriends in God.  Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her Masters in Journalism from Regent University.  Arlene lives in San Diego with her husband James and their three children Ethan, Noelle, and Lucy.  To learn more, visit www.ArlenePellicane.com    Arlene Pellicane's Website Arlene Pellicane's Podcast   Books by Arlene Pellicane: Parents Rising 31 Days to a Happy Husband 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom 31 Days to a Younger You Calm, Cool, and Connected: 5 Digital Habits for a More Balanced Life Growing up Social by Dr. Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane   Thank You to Our Sponsors: Chick-fil-A East Peoria and Cultivate What Matters   Just for Fun and Highly Recommended by Laura Lara Casey's Product: The Kid's Bundle (Write the Word for kids - have you seen this yet? It is awesome!!!) Lara Casey's 2020 6-months Powersheets...Not exaggerating: these are changing my life!!!    Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website    Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:08)   Laura Dugger: (0:09 - 1:53) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   I want to say a huge thank you to today's sponsors for this episode, Chick-fil-A East Peoria and Savvy Sauce Charities.   Are you interested in a free college education for you or someone you know? Stay tuned for details coming later in this episode from today's sponsor, Chick-fil-A East Peoria. You can also visit their website today at Chick-fil-A.com forward slash East Peoria.   If you've been with us long, you know this podcast is only one piece of our nonprofit, which is the Savvy Sauce Charities.  Don't miss out on our other resources. We have questions and content to inspire you to have your own practical chats for intentional living. And I also hope you don't miss out on the opportunity to financially support us through your tax-deductible donations. All this information can be found on our recently updated website, thesavvysauce.com.   I'm thrilled to welcome back author and speaker Arlene Pellicane. In her warm and welcoming way, she's going to share about parenting from a biblical perspective and give us practical steps to take to ensure as parents, we are leaders of the home and not followers of our children.    Here's our chat.   Welcome back to The Savvy Sauce, Arlene.   Arlene Pellicane: (1:54 - 1:55) It's great to be with you again. How fun.   Laura Dugger: (1:55 - 2:02) Well, in case our friends listening didn't hear your first episode, can you just catch us up on who you are and what you do?   Arlene Pellicane: (2:03 - 2:30) Sure. We talked about growing up social, raising relational kids in a screen-driven world. So, I just try to help families get a hold of that technology, so it doesn't take over your house.  And so, I speak and write books. My books include 31 Days to a Happy Husband, Growing Up Social, and 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom. I have three kids. My husband, James, and I have been married for 21 years.  And our kids are now in high school, junior high, and elementary school. And they go boy, girl, girl.   Laura Dugger: (2:31 - 2:39) And let's even go one step further and go back a little bit in your history. What type of home were you raised in?   Arlene Pellicane: (2:41 - 3:25) I am an only child. So, my husband would say he's the last of four that I was raised in a very spoiled home. That's what he would say.  So, I was the only child. I had cousins who lived in the same neighborhood. So that was really nice.  So I never felt lonely. And apparently I didn't ask my parents for a sibling. So, they were like, okay, we're happy with one.  We'll just keep it this way. And so, I had cousins that were very close in age to me in the neighborhood that I played with. And so, I had a very happy childhood and a good childhood.  I will say my sweet mom, she's so funny. She's super social. She just loves people. So, I was always the kid that was waiting on the curb like, please, mom, come pick me up. Because she was probably talking to someone and couldn't get me soon enough.   Laura Dugger: (3:26 - 3:34) That's amazing. Have you carried on that style now that you're raising your own family? Or have you chosen to do some things differently?   Arlene Pellicane: (3:34 - 4:50) I think a lot of the ways I parent are very much like how my mom and dad were.  My mom and dad were very open, very relational, talking, hugging, and involved in what I did. I was a cheerleader.  And if I came home, she'd be awake with hot chocolate at midnight after a game. Or something like that. So, I think that idea of being relational.  And there were rules and there were boundaries. But it was a very relational home. I think we definitely have that.  And my home was very joyful. And we try to make our home very joyful. So probably the most distinctive difference is the way we handle chores and just being tougher.  My mom and dad and I were caterers. Like, oh, if you need something, we'll do that for you. Where my husband is like, uh-uh.  You can do that yourself. And I think that's good. Because the first time I did laundry was in college.  I mean, that's pretty late. I remember being in college and thinking, what in the world do I do with this quarter and this laundry? I have no idea. And so, my husband has helped us to instill that the kids, you know, as soon as, like, my youngest is in fifth grade.  But even by second or third grade, she was doing her own laundry. So, I think that's good. My husband has helped us to see that learning how to do chores at a young age is a positive thing.   Laura Dugger: (4:50 - 5:14) I think it's just so interesting to hear because we all have a different approach.  So I love hearing both of those stories. And now you're also a working mom. And I know that some of our listeners have mentioned how grateful they are to hear from fellow Christians who have chosen to work while also raising their children. So, has this been natural for you or was it a struggle at times?   Arlene Pellicane: (5:15 - 6:18) Yeah. And I have to say, you know, I am a working mom with a lot of flexibility because I speak and I write. But my schedule is at home, and I am my own boss. So, I can say to myself, oh, let's go to the field trip. You know, I can do those kinds of things where I know many moms who are working these overnight shifts and they are crazy busy. And so, in that sense, I feel like if I say, oh, it's been easy, you know, it's been OK, that's kind of why. Because I haven't been forced to do these crazy hours. So, if you are listening right now and you're like, I am so sleepy because I've been working so hard, my heart goes goes to you. So, this has been a wonderful mix just for me personally, because I have the flexibility to be available for my kids. But it gives me a purpose that's outside of my children that I really enjoy. And it's kind of cool because since I write about marriage and the family and parenting, it keeps me in my space. So, I'm kind of constantly getting to have stories for my own work.  So it's it's been quite ideal. I love it.   Laura Dugger: (6:19 - 6:26) So is there any scripture or clarity from the Lord that helped affirm you in both of those roles?   Arlene Pellicane: (6:27 - 7:36) Yeah, you know, I think of Proverbs three of trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding. And so, as we're trusting in God, not leaning on our understanding and we're seeing like he will make your path straight. And so, I have seen that over and over and over again to simply trust. And it really is, you know, for me, it's being a speaker and an author. And I know some of you who are listening, that's something that you desire to do. But whether it's that or something else, you know, we live in a culture where you're supposed to be a celebrity, like you're supposed to amass numbers and have platforms and do all these things. And I think when you get to the point where it's like, you know, I want influence, I want impact, I want to help people. But I don't care if I help them with two followers or with 16, you know what I mean? Like not being into all those kinds of things. And I think when we turn our hearts to saying with our work, God, let your will be done in this. God be magnified in this Lord, just whatever I can do, multiply it. God will do that and be obedient that that's what's most important, not necessarily the Instagram followers, etc. So set your heart on God and the other things will fall into place.   Laura Dugger: (7:36 - 7:46) And like you said, in your work, you do write about family and parenting. So how can parents lead the home rather than children?   Arlene Pellicane: (7:47 - 10:36) This is so important, right? And it used to be that the home of yesterday might have been like, children are seen but not heard. But today it's backward.  It's like parents are seen but not heard. It's like people talking are the children. And so, watch your language.  You know, how do you talk to your children? Do you talk in a way that is like a leader or are you asking them questions all the time? So, I notice this about myself. So, for instance, that after you say something, you would say, okay, like, it's time to go come to dinner.  Okay. Like it's a question, right?  Not an instruction. Or why don't you wear this shirt? Okay. So, we, especially as moms, do this all the time. And if we don't tack the word, okay, on our voices still go up. Like we'll say, why don't you pick that one?  Isn't that a good idea? Like we're constantly like our voices go up in the question. So, part of leadership is even just listening to yourself.  How am I communicating? And I love what John Roseman, the psychologist says is communicate your instruction using the least amount of words possible. So, it's go to the car.   That's a leader, right? You're just telling your child, go to the car. But we say, okay, it's time to go to grandma's house.  And you know, we don't want to be late. So, let's start zipping up your jacket and let's go. Okay, it's time to go.  Are you not ready to go? Get your shoes on. Okay, you got your shoes.  That's so good. You got your shoes. Get in the car.  Right? So, it's like all we need to say was get in the car. So, I love that.  So just even assess how do you communicate to your children? Because your children are hearing all these things. And so, they just hear like this lovely paragraph.  They missed go to the car. So, assess how you talk. Use fewer words.  Don't make everything a question. And all of this, of course, stems from the idea, the realization that, wait a minute, I'm the leader in the home, not my child. So many people will say, well, my child won't let me do that.  Right? Like we ride bikes in our neighborhood. And my son, when he was in second grade, had a really bad accident involving him and a truck. And went to the hospital and was fine because of the grace of God and because he was wearing a helmet. And so, we'll see kids in the neighborhood without helmets. And my husband said to the dad, “You know, just last week, my son was hit by a car on this very street.  It's really important that your kids wear a helmet. And the father said, oh, I just can't get my kids to do it. So, this is the problem of, wait, who is the leader here? Is the child the leader or is the parent the leader? So, you've got to see, first of all, in scripture, it is children obey your parents and not the other way around. So, we've got to just embrace that with all of our heart.   Laura Dugger: (10:37 - 11:06) That's amazing to even hear you say that, because this morning this verse just jumped off the page at me. And it's in Titus 3, verse 1. And I'm reading out of the Amplified Version. And it says, remind people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready and willing to do good.  That just struck me for parenting. Like you're saying, it is biblical and it's important for us to lead.   Arlene Pellicane: (11:07 - 11:49) And wow, if your kids cannot learn from you, right, if in their own home they don't have that sense of, oh, there's this healthy authority over me and I do what they say. Like if they don't have that, then look at them as they grow up. They're going to have trouble with their relationship with God. It's like, oh, God commands us to do a lot of things.  And like Mary, we could say, let it be to me according to your word. I am your servant. Or like the modern person, we could be like, no way. Who are you to tell me what to do, right? So that authority, if they can get that from you as a parent, that's going to help them with their spouse, with their employer, with a police officer, with a teacher, with God. It just helps them in all those relationships.   Laura Dugger: (11:50 - 12:03) And I'm so grateful for people like you who are writing parenting books. And so, I want to know, how did you arrive at your eight strategies in one of your recent books titled Parents Rising?   Arlene Pellicane: (12:04 - 12:59) Yeah, a lot of it was what I was observing. Like what was I seeing with my children, with their friends in the elementary school, et cetera, our pediatrician and talking to other doctors, asking them like, what are you seeing? Because something my pediatrician said really struck me.  She's like, Arlene, a lot of times I'm not talking about physical things anymore. Like this is a pediatrician, right? It's not so much about shots and growth and all this.  It's how can I manage my child? They're so emotional. They're under distress.  They have anxiety. They're on video games all the time. So just listening to what she was saying of what are parents coming to her and saying, this is my problem, you know, and she's been a pediatrician for 25 years and has talked about, wow, in the last 10 years, all these problems because of technology, they're just enormous. So, listening to people's input led to these eight strategies.   Laura Dugger: (13:01 - 13:07) And you don't have to go through all of them, but could you at least touch on a few of these strategies and elaborate?   Arlene Pellicane: (13:07 - 16:59) Sure. You know, you can listen to our Growing Up Social one that we did to talk about this first strategy, which is amusement is not the highest priority. But what I'll say about that is as parents, you are not the cruise director. It is not your job to make everything fun from A to Z. Now you can do that on occasion. That's good.  You want to have fun. So don't get me wrong. Have fun.  But you're more like a trainer, a coach. And so, a lot of times we'll just give all the technology so our kids can be amused, but your kids don't need amusement. They need character. So, they need to be building character in your home.  So put amusement in its proper place so character can take shape. And that's going to be your first strategy. But I'll say a few things about strategy number four, which is the Bible and prayer are present daily. And it's just the idea that when kids see that you have a real faith, that it's not like, oh, I go to church on Sunday, but then every other day of the week I kind of look like any other home in this neighborhood. You know, like we watch the same things as our secular neighbor does.  We cuss sometimes. We spend our money on stuff we don't really tithe. And again, not a guilt trip, but I'm just saying when kids see that, oh, this doesn't make this huge difference in your life. Then when they're older, it's much easier for them to stray away from that faith because it's not strongly in them. But when they see like, oh, my mom and dad, they're not perfect, but they seek God. And when they make a mistake, they ask for forgiveness of me. And when I see them get money, they give it to the missionary. And when we have extra time, we try to serve other people or invite people to church. So those kinds of things. So not just like, oh, we attend church and we're good people.  But when kids see, oh, my mom's faith is real. My dad's faith is real.  That's going to make an impact on them. And that's going to help them to make that decision for themselves. So, make sure that that's something that's daily. And then for prayer, I will be the first to say, I want this amazing prayer life. But just like anyone else, I can go to bed and say, oh, my word, I didn't even pray today. So, one thing that's really helped me is Moms in Prayer.  And that is an international organization. And the total mission is two praying moms for every school. So that there would be two moms that would gather. And obviously there can be more to pray for their children by name and to pray for their school by name. And I started joining one of these when my son Ethan was in first grade. And now he is in 10th. And I can see such a huge difference in how God has moved in my children, in their friendships, in their school. Because every week while school's in session, I am praying with another woman for my kids by name. Like it is amazing. And I remember the very first week I did this, I joined a church group that had like one lady had college age kids.  And one lady had grandkids. So, it was a really diverse group.  I had the youngest kids. And we prayed. And we prayed that my son would make a Christian friend.  Because we're a public school. And the very next day my son Ethan said, Mom, I was in the playground, and I heard a boy singing. And Mom, he's a Christian.  And Mom, he's in my class. And I was like, Ethan, I just prayed with the moms just yesterday that you would find a Christian friend. And it's amazing.  That was first grade. And just about a month ago we had that same boy over for breakfast. And I told him that story.  And it was so funny. Like see how God works. So, he and my son are not close friends.  They have become acquaintances over the years. But we were able to have him over. And to be able to say that story, like you can see the boys lit up like, wow, this prayer thing really works. And so, if your kids can see that the Bible and prayer is part of your normal rhythm, that you care about it, that's going to make a huge difference in their spiritual lives.   Laura Dugger: (17:00 - 22:33) I would echo all of that. I think that life with Jesus is the most exciting type of life. 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It's that idea that yes, you can have quality time, but if you are not together all week and you have a half an hour of quality time only, that's not enough. You need to work on the quantity time as well. And again, one of the huge stealers is being on your phone, whether it's us, whether it's our kids. They did a survey of 6,000 kids all around the world and asked what's your parent's worst habit and 50% of them said my parent is on the phone and 34% of those people said and when we're talking in conversation, my parent will interrupt, like they will take a text while we're talking and that really bothers me. So, this idea of love is spelled T-I-M-E with time, just remember that when you're with your child, you need to have moments where there are no devices present. This doesn't mean that from the moment your child gets home from school to the moment they go to bed, you need to be staring at them and doing something.  No, that's not practical. Like you have to make dinner.  You have to pay your bills. We get that. But in the time in between those things, make sure there's time where maybe you're reading together. We just recently got a pool table, so we're playing pool together now. So have things in place, whether it's a frisbee or a ball, a chess game, a puzzle, where there is time that it's a regular rhythm to connect with your child, spend time together and it doesn't have to be this serious chat. You know, boys don't want to sit across the table with their mothers and have a serious chat, but a boy will play Nerf Gun Wars with you. So, like have activities so you're spending time together because in that shared activity, that's when there's an opportunity for that child to tell you something that maybe is on their heart, it's on their mind, because now there's a space to tell you. So, make sure that you are spending time with your kids.   Laura Dugger: (24:32 - 24:38) Wow. Is there anything else that we haven't covered yet in our time together that you want to make sure we hear?   Arlene Pellicane: (24:38 - 26:42) There are two thoughts I have. One is when you're spending that time together, research has shown that even having a phone present, so you're not touching it, it's just on the table. Like right now my phone is two feet away from me on my desk. So just having it there dilutes the conversation because they found that when people talk without it present, they feel more connected, like nothing is standing in the way between us. But when the phone is there, they know that at any moment that phone might ring, that phone might make a noise and my attention will be diverted and it dilutes the conversation. So, make sure your phones are completely not present when you are having that face-to-face time with your kids. And then the last thing I want to say is just have that mindset of strategy number eight, which is I am launching an adult, I am not babying a child.  And men tend to be pretty good at this. And again, this is a generality, but women, we're more like, oh, like let me do it for you.  So it's okay to let your kids grow up. And one thing my pastor says that I like very much is never do something for your child that your child can do on their own. So, something I love to do with my kids is I love to trim their nails, right? So, they're in elementary school, I'm trimming their nails, I'm trimming their nails. And my husband James would be like, honey, like they're in third, fourth grade, they can trim their own nails. And I'm like, the pinky, very tricky, the thumb, very difficult, you know? And so finally, I got to the point where it's like, okay, you know, Lucy, that's my youngest, you are responsible now for trimming your own nails and I won't do it anymore. But it's funny, like I would sneak around the house like when my husband wasn't watching and trim her nails because I just felt like I do a better job of this. And so, as moms, we need to realize someday our kids will go out of our house and they need to be able to trim their own nails.  So mama, you just got to back down. So, a lot of times it's we as moms that have to back away and say, you know what? I need to let them do this on their own because they are an adult and they're going to need this skill very soon.   Laura Dugger: (26:42 - 26:49) Okay, so it's don't ever do for your child what they can do for themselves. Is that the saying?   Arlene Pellicane: (26:49 - 26:50) Yes, that's the saying.   Laura Dugger: (26:51 - 26:56) Arlene, if people want to connect further, where can listeners find you online?   Arlene Pellicane: (26:57 - 27:22) They can find me on ArlenePellicane.com and I actually have a video series that goes with this book, Parents Rising, and I've designed it for a small group or for personal use so that each message is about 20 minutes long so you could watch the message and then you could have a discussion group with moms or with parents or by yourself. And so that's at ArlenePellicane.com and you can also find me on Instagram, Facebook and my podcast is called The Happy Home Podcast.   Laura Dugger: (27:23 - 27:41) Fantastic. We will link to all of these in our show notes and on our resources page of our website. We are called the Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge or insight. And so today, Arlene, we would love to know what is your savvy sauce?   Arlene Pellicane: (27:42 - 28:49) So my savvy sauce has to do with someone you have interviewed in the past, Clifford and Joyce Penner, and I interviewed them for my book 31 Days to a Happy Husband, and they talked about the 5 to 30 second kiss, the 5 to 30 second daily kiss to keep the pilot light lit between you and your spouse. So that is my savvy sauce is attempting the 5 to 30 second kiss every day. And I will tell you, you know, even I'm the author, ooh, I've been married 21 years. Wow, like we still have trouble with this so much so that my husband has literally printed out a page, put it on the refrigerator, and we put an X on every day that we do this. So, whenever we realize, well, we are not kissing regularly anymore, the chart goes up on the refrigerator and we start making Xs. And it was so funny because my daughter, my youngest, had asked like, what's that chart for? And she asked me in such a moment that I wasn't ready to make up a funny story about it. So, I just said, oh, it's a kissing chart for daddy and I. And she's just like, what? So that's our savvy sauce, the attempt of the 5 to 30 second kiss every day.   Laura Dugger: (28:49 - 28:58) I love your savvy sauce. And Arlene, it is always such a pleasure to get to spend time with you and learn from you. Thank you for being my guest.   Arlene Pellicane: (28:59 - 29:01) It's been my pleasure. It's been so fun. Thanks for having me.   Laura Dugger: (29:02 - 32:44) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by clutter, today's expert Katy Joy Wells is here to help with steps you can implement today! She's helped more than 250,000 families take control of their homes by solving the real clutter problem--what's underneath it all? What if your clutter isn't just a mess problem — it's a heart problem? Katy is the host of The Maximized Minimalist (5M downloads!) and author of Making Home Your Happy Place. She joins Arlene to unpack why traditional decluttering never sticks. Katy breaks down the 4 types of clutter, shares her CBT-rooted 4S Framework for letting go without the guilt, and draws a freeing distinction between clutter and everyday mess. You'll also get to hear some of Katy's story and how her challenges led her to start decluttering. Let's learn together how to declutter without being overwhelmed by taking small, practical steps. 2:07 The 4 types of clutter: the "clutter onion" framework 6:52 How to overcome scarcity and identity clutter 10:59 Too many toys? 11:31 Set physical boundaries as your decluttering goal 17:54 Katy's story and her shift to holistic decluttering 22:05 Pull the weed by the root — why clutter comes back and how to stop it 27:37 Navigating sentimental clutter & guilt clutter Listen to Katy's podcast, The Maximized Minimalist, grab a copy of her new book, Making Home Your Happy Place, and connect with Katy on Instagram @katyjoywells. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

If you've ever felt guilty for struggling with anxiety or have a child who wrestles with worry, this conversation is for you. Holley Gerth, Wall Street Journal bestselling author and counselor, is on the show to talk about her latest book, Prayers for Peace of Mind: Scripture and Encouragement for Days of Anxiety, Worry and Stress. Holley shares practical and compassionate tools for families navigating fear and worry, sharing on what God wants us to do with our anxieties, and what He really means when He says, "Do not fear." 3:27 How to turn your anxiety into excitement 5:58 Emotions: great messengers, terrible bosses 8:00 The real reason social media makes you anxious 13:22 You are beloved-- anchor yourself in this truth 16:30 Introverts, anxiety and the overstimulation connection 23:41 How to signal to your kids that they are safe 27:27 The prayer that carried Holley through her hardest season Connect with Holley Gerth and grab a free, 5-day excerpt of her book at holleygerth.com/peace. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

With his signature whimsy and curiosity, bestselling author Bob Goff takes us on a journey with the Savior in his new book, A Journey with Jesus: An Interactive Guide Through the Holy Land. Bob shares what being in Israel and walking where Jesus walked taught him about wonder. You'll hear about Bob's adventures in the cockpit of an airplane, the tenacity of faithful friends, and the beauty of experiencing life in person (not just watching a screen). 2:39 The Power of Second Touches and Authenticity 3:53 Making Bible Study Accessible for All 7:21 The Importance of Genuine Curiosity 13:00 The Value of Lame Friends and What They Can Teach Us 18:06 Keeping Eyes Fixed on Jesus Amidst Challenges 19:52 The Impact of Curiosity and Travel Connect with Bob Goff and grab his book at bobgoff.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Abbie Halberstadt, mother of 10 children and author of "You Bet Your Stretch Marks," joins Arlene Pellicane to dismantle the myth that moms should "love every minute" of parenting. Abbie shares practical wisdom on prioritizing heart work over housework, reclaiming parental authority in a culture that overemphasizes children's emotions. This is the perfect episode for any mom who feels overwhelmed, frustrated that her kids won't listen, or guilty that she's not enjoying motherhood "enough." 05:17 - The myth of "loving every minute" of motherhood 10:08 - Dealing with comparison and mom guilt 12:18 - The danger of making parenting your identity 14:45 - Prioritizing heart work over housework 18:39 - Teaching kids to serve vs. being served 25:09 - "My kids won't listen to me" - understanding parental authority 26:30 - The problem with emotion-centered parenting 29:21 - Why kids need to know that "mama means what she says" See Abbie's blog on https://misformama.net/ or on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/m.is.for.mama/?hl=en Check out Abbie's podcast, M is For Mama, and grab her book, You Get Your Stretch Marks, anywhere books are sold. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Did you know Dr. Gary Chapman has teamed up with Dr. Les and Leslie Parrott to write a follow up book to his bestselling 5 Love Languages book? Dr. Leslie Parrott joins Arlene today to talk about the new book, "The Love Language That Matters Most." While most of us know the five love languages, Leslie reveals that each language has specific "dialects" that can make or break how love is received. You will learn how to personalize love so your spouse, child, family member, or friend can really feel it. Leslie explains why the love language that matters most is the OTHER persons (not yours), how to stay curious, and the power of asking, "What is one thing I could do to fill your love tank this week?" 04:12 - The love language that matters most is THEIRS, not yours 05:28 - The role of curiosity in loving well 10:08 - How to understand and best utilize love language "dialects" 19:25 - Loving your children in their love language 22:04 - How to adjust when your child becomes a teenager 24:37 - The power of brief connections with adult children 25:47 - Sometimes space and time ARE love 26:10 - The heart behind the book: Helping people deeply feel loved Connect with Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott at lesandleslie.com and grab their new book with Dr. Gary Chapman The Love Language that Matters Most anywhere books are sold or at 5LoveLanguages.com Take the Premium Love Language Assessment here More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the FREE CHECKLIST to find out the 7 warning signs of screen overload. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Does your teen get angry? The answer is probably yes--leaving you with the question, "What do I do about it?" Dr. Gary Chapman joins us to talk about his new book, A Teen’s Guide to Conflict: How to Deal with Drama, Manage Anger, and Make Things Right. Tune in for practical ways parents can guide teenagers through anger, disrespect, and lack of motivation. It turns out you can show up in a loving way even if your teen doesn't. Dr. Chapman emphasizes using loving consequences, modeling honor and responsibility, distinguishing healthy vs. unhealthy anger, building connection through shared experiences, and using books/discussion to help teens mature emotionally and relationally. We'll talk about: 01:37 Why rules & consequences are loving 04:38 Handling disrespect and teaching honor 11:35 Anger management, good vs. bad anger, confronting wrong kindly 17:50 Escaping victim mentality & returning good for evil 28:04 How to motivate withdrawn teens & the importance of dialogue Pick up a copy of A Teen's Guide To Conflict and Dr. Chapman's other books including The Love Language That Matters Most at 5lovelanguages.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Struggling to break free from the same old conflicts in your relationship? When Ron and Nan Deal suffered the devastating loss of their child, their marriage could have collapsed. For decades, Ron and Nan were stuck in destructive cycles, experiencing ruptures without repair. They sought help from Dr. Terry and Sharon Hargrave whose transformational Restoration Therapy has helped millions. Now for the first time, Ron and Nan share their journey from a marriage on the brink of collapse to complete transformation. It happened for them and it can happen for you. Their new book is "The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself." On today's episode, they open up about how they kept repeating negative patterns—despite loving God and each other—until they learned to manage themselves rather than trying to fix each other. Let's listen in as Ron and Nan give practical tools to find peace through humility and Biblical truth. 02:42 The crisis point: when their marriage was coming apart 06:21 Ruptures vs. repair in relationships 09:12 Am I "dysregulated"? 13:09 The shift from fixing your spouse to fixing yourself 18:56 How seeking help and humility can change everything 21:23 These four steps transformed our marriage 30:14 Why saying the steps out loud is critical 33:36 What to do when past trauma gets triggered 37:12 Surviving amidst devastating loss: The story of losing their son Connor Stay connected with Ron and Nan Deal and their ministries at rondeal.org. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Learn more about Every Woman's Bible today by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q0427v7r0 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, bestselling author of Love and Respect (2.3+ million copies sold), shares fresh insights from his new book Lightbulb Moments in Marriage. Drawing from his work with over 4,000 couples and 52 years of marriage to his wife Sarah, Dr. Eggerichs reveals why couples often feel miles apart when they're really just inches away from breakthrough. In this episode, we'll discover the biblical foundation of the love and respect connection, uncover practical ways to get out of the "Crazy Cycle," and learn how to establish our marriages in Christ first and foremost. 02:15 How to begin transforming a marriage (miles vs. inches) 06:25 Doing marriage unto Jesus even when it's hard 09:40 Why marital satisfaction flows from spiritual satisfaction 17:58 The facts: men feel disrespected, women feel unloved in conflict 20:49 – How to believe your spouse has goodwill (1 Cor 7 insight) 23:54 – The 80/20 principle & not defining your spouse by snapshot moments 25:11 – Women tend to rehearse negatives → practical steps on shifting mindsets 28:40 – Speak his language: "I need your strength" vs. criticism Learn more from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs at loveandrespect.com and buy his new book Lightbulb Moments in Marriage anywhere books are sold. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Gary Thomas (bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Sacred Parenting) is back on the podcast to discuss his latest book, The Life You Were Reborn to Live: Dismantling 12 Lies About Remaining in God's Love. Gary challenges common parenting myths that Christians often fall into, and offers practical ways on how to live life God's way, not the world's. Let's learn together how to create Christ-centered homes, prioritize God's kingdom over family idols, and embrace spiritual adventure over control. 05:21 - Creating a Christ-centered home (Colossians 3: compassion over conflict) 08:12 - Renewing your mind against worldly lies (Romans 12) 09:06 - Finding pride in spiritual growth over worldly success 14:25 - Why prioritizing God, even above family, is most important 21:53 - Being spiritually adventurous: The adventure Jesus calls us to 25:13 - Parenting on offense: Expecting God to use your kids 26:04 - Powerful testimony: When obedience can save a life 27:51 - Turning your "chair out" toward community 30:00 - Practical tips for isolated teens: Remove comforts, invite fellowship Check out Gary's substack at connecttogary.com and buy his new book The Life You Were Reborn to Live anywhere books are sold. Find out more at garythomas.com. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE). Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Justin Whitmel Earley, bestselling author of The Body Teaches the Soul, is very familiar with the consequences of ignoring the body. As a young lawyer, he collapsed into anxiety and insomnia. He learned that the healthy and unhealthy habits shaping his life weren't physical or spiritual; they were spiritual AND physical. Justin reveals why the body isn't separate from the soul—it's an important part of loving God. Tune in for practical wisdom on topics like: Why we can't stop eating the whole box of cookies, why social media leaves us feeling rage and jealousy, and why exercise might be the most spiritual thing you do all week. 02:31 Justin's Mental Health Collapse & Discovery 08:36 Don't Ignore or Idolize the Body 12:51 Food: From Indulgence/Shame to Dependence/Delight 21:13 Technology & The Embodiment Ladder 28:29 How to Use Exercise as Spiritual Training Find out more about Justin Whitmel Earley and his book The Body Teaches the Soul at justinwhitmelearley.com and on Instagram @justinwhitmelearley. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Host Arlene Pellicane welcomes back bestselling author Amber Lia alongside her teenage son Ollie for an inspiring conversation about their new devotional, You Are Seen: 90 Devotions to Encourage Stressed Teens. Ollie opens up about his freshman-year battles with depression, anxiety, and perfectionism after a major life transition, offering a real-life view of what your kids may be going through. Together with Amber, they reveal faith-centered strategies—like the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, box breathing, scripture memorization, and surrendering to God's plan—that helped him find peace and purpose. From miraculous physical healing (Ollie's torn rotator cuff) to building family support systems involving dads and siblings, this duo offers hope and actionable advice for parents and teens navigating mental health struggles --all in this episode. 05:09 | Ollie's Story: Freshman-Year Struggles with Anxiety, Depression, and Transition 07:58 | Amber's View: Spotting Anxiety in Teens and Starting Empathetic Conversations 10:42 | The Turning Point: Counseling, Spilling It All, and Building Trust 12:10 | Practical Tool: The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique to Stop the Anxiety Spiral 15:08 | Solo Strategies for School: Box Breathing, Prayer, and Sensory Grounding 19:45 | Real-Life Wins: Texting Mom for Support and Mapping the Day 20:16 | Tackling Perfectionism: Why Teens Compare and How Faith Shifts the Mindset 24:37 | Testimony of Healing: Ollie's Miraculous Rotator Cuff Recovery 27:46 | Dad's Role: Building Bonds, Mentoring, and Asking "What's Going On?" 30:43 | Sibling Support and Navigating Quality Time for All Kids Connect with Ollie on Instagram @walkin.with.ollie. Connect with Amber on Instagram @therealamberlia and on amberlia.com. Pick up a copy of their new devotional, You Are Seen. More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE). Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Bestselling author and beloved pastor Max Lucado returns to the Happy Home to talk about his latest book, Tame Your Thoughts: Three Tools to Renew Your Mind and Transform Your Life. Drawing from Scripture and personal stories, Max shares how you can manage negative thought patterns (even if you've carried it around for years). Perfect for parents, you'll learn how to battle anxiety personally and how to help your kids, especially in this world of constant digital noise. On today's episode, you'll learn: 1:00 The importance of thought management 2:20 Tool #1: Practice picky thinking 10:00 The helmet of salvation does this 13:50 UFO: Untruth, False Narrative, Overreaction 17:10 Even Max's dog can apply the UFO 21:00 How Scripture meditation uproots untruths Max Lucado is a bestselling author with more than 150 million books in print. He's a teaching pastor at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, TX. He and his wife Denalyn have three grown daughters, three sons-in-law, and four grandchildren. Learn more about Max Lucado and his book Tame Your Thoughts More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email speaking@arlenepellicane.com Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE). Discover more Christian podcasts at LifeAudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, we welcome Congresswoman Mariannette Miller-Meeks from Iowa, who discusses the ongoing challenges of unaffordability in healthcare and the new Republican initiatives aimed at reducing premiums for all Americans. She emphasizes the importance of creating more competition in the insurance market and highlights the proposed association health plans for gig economy workers. Additionally, we explore the significance of the Speed Act in streamlining infrastructure projects and its potential impact on economic growth. Later, we welcome actress, author, and education freedom advocate Sam Sorbo, along with co-founder Kelly Walker, to discuss the pressing issues surrounding parental rights in education. They delve into the challenges parents face, including government overreach and the need for executive actions to protect parental rights. we sit down with Larson Jensen, founder of Harpoon Ventures, former Navy SEAL, and two-time Olympic medalist, to discuss the intersection of technology and national security. As we approach the end of the year, Larson shares insights on America's technological advancements in military and intelligence sectors, highlighting the critical role of drone technology in modern warfare. He delves into the implications of unmanned systems on the battlefield and the necessity for the U.S. to maintain its technological edge against adversaries.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Leon and Lindsey welcome author of the book Parents Rising, Arlene Pellicane, who shares practical advice for real-life family moments. Each episode helps parents take biblical ideas off the page and put them into practice at home.

About Making Marriage EasierA joyous summons to love (and like) your spouse for a lifetime.Many people today are pessimistic about marriage. It's hard. It will end in divorce. If you marry, you exchange romance for responsibility. Yet research tells us the happiest people on the planet are those in healthy marriages.Can marriage be great—not just for the rare few—but for you? After twenty-five years of marriage, Arlene Pellicane has stories and biblical wisdom to share. Full of real life that will make you laugh, Making Marriage Easier addresses common threats to our marriage—poor communication, tension over differences, lack of physical intimacy, parenting stress, and more.Four key decisions will help you clarify your values and create a clear path forward. Each short chapter ends with life lessons, questions to ponder with your spouse or in a group, and prayers to strengthen and encourage. Marriage is part of God's awesome, wonderful plan. It's meant to be a celebration, not a life sentence.Whether you're holding a baby for the first time or figuring out retirement, this book is fresh kindling for a better marriage that can go the distance.Purchase a copy of Making Marriage Easier here.Connect with Arlene PellicaneWebsite | Facebook | X | Instagram | YouTubeArlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books, including Parents Rising, Making Marriage Easier, and Screen Kids (coauthored with Dr. Gary Chapman). Arlene has been featured on popular media outlets, including The Today Show, Fox & Friends, Focus on the Family, FamilyLife Today, The 700 Club, and the Wall Street Journal. She is the spokesperson for National Marriage Week and has been happily married to her husband, James, for more than 25 years. Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her master's in journalism from Regent University. Arlene inspires parents to raise children who are ready for life (not just playing video games). As an advocate of delaying smartphones and social media, her three children are living a revolutionary digital life and thriving. Arlene lives with her family in San Diego.

In this episode, we're joined by author and speaker Arlene Pellicane to discuss her groundbreaking book Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World. As technology becomes increasingly woven into the fabric of our kids' lives, Arlene offers practical insights and wisdom for parents navigating the digital age. She unpacks five key relational skills every child needs to thrive, skills that help them build meaningful connections, maintain healthy boundaries, and develop emotional resilience despite the lure of screens. If you're a parent looking to equip your children with the tools they need to succeed in today's tech-saturated world, this conversation is for you. Arlene is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books, including Parents Rising, Making Marriage Easier, and Screen Kids. Arlene has been featured on popular media outlets and she is the spokesperson for National Marriage Week and has been happily married to her husband, James, for more than 25 years. Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her master's in journalism from Regent University. Arlene inspires parents to raise children who are ready for life. As an advocate of delaying smartphones and social media, her three children are living a revolutionary digital life and thriving. Arlene lives with her family in San Diego. To learn more, visit ArlenePellicane.com. To register for Summit Student Conferences, visit: Summit.org/students/ For additional free resources from Summit, go to: Summit.org/resources 

Send us a textWelcome to Permission to Pause--I am excited to share this episode with you about PAUSING to consider the health of a happy marriage! with my friend ARLENE PELLICANE .Arlene is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Parents Rising, Making Marriage Easier, and Screen Kids (coauthored with Dr. Gary Chapman). Arlene has been featured on popular media outlets including The Today Show, Fox & Friends, Focus on the Family, FamilyLife Today, The 700 Club, and the Wall Street Journal. She is the spokesperson for National Marriage Week and has been happily married to her husband, James, for more than 25 years. Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her master's in journalism from Regent University. Arlene inspires parents to raise children who are ready for life (not just playing video games). As an advocate of delaying smartphones and social media, her three children are living a revolutionary digital life and thriving. Arlene lives with her family in San Diego. To learn more, visit ArlenePellicane.com.Thank you for joining me on today's Permission to Pause. I would love to hear from you!For comments and episode suggestions contact pat@patlayton.netI'd love to have you vsist my BLOG to join the conversation at patlayton.net Join the conversation via my blog at www.patlayton.net PLUS my IG REELS https://www.instagram.com/patlayton/reels/Find DEEPER DIVE Pause notes and LOTS OF FREE RESOURCES here. Again! Thank you for Pausing with me!

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Do you spend a lot of time managing stuff? Finding things? Storing things? Buying things? Julia Ubbenga has found a way to cut through the clutter - it turns out having more isn't necessarily better. We're talking through Julia's book, Declutter Your Heart and Home: How a minimalist life yields maximum joy. On today's episode, you'll learn: 3:00 Shopping is fun! Right??? 7:30 Help! I'm attached to all of the things I need to declutter! 10:25 How decluttering affects your heart and your home 12:50 Short, practical ways to start decluttering your home 17:50 How do we prioritize people over possessions 22:45 Systems that can make decluttering easy for you and your kids 28:55 The key to decluttering Julia Ubbenga's projects at Rich in What Matters have attracted over 50 million views and helped people restructure their lives around what matters most. She lives in Kansas City with her husband and five children. Learn more about Julia Ubbenga at Rich in What Matters https://richinwhatmatters.com/Get Julia's book, Declutter Your Heart and Your Home https://www.amazon.com/Declutter-Your-Heart-Home-Minimalist/dp/0310368960 Follow Julia on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richinwhatmatters/ Check out Arlene Pellicane's books Parents Rising and Screen Kids https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/books You're invited to see David Thomas, Sissy Goff, and Arlene at the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025. Get your ticket today. https://parentsrisingconference.com/ Purchase the Storyteller's Bible HERE.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. When was the last time you were triggered by your kids? The struggle is real! How do you respond with patience instead of anger when your child pushes your buttons? Boy mom Amber Lia has godly advice to manage our anger (and our triggers). Her new book is, Untriggered: 60 Days of Transformation for Moms Who Struggle with Anger. On today's episode, we'll talk about: 3:21 Is parenting feeling rough right now? 4:45 How can we reframe our anger towards our kids? 9:23 What to do when your child talks back to you 14:45 Help–My kids fight all the time! 19:06 When you feel that no one appreciates you as a mom 23:00 How you can overcome past mistakes as a parent 27:05 How to release comparison as a parent Amber Lia is the bestselling author of many books including Food Triggers and Parenting Scripts. Today we talked about her new devotional, Untriggered: 60 days of transformation for moms who struggle with anger. Amber and her husband Guy have 4 boys and own a production company in Chattanooga. Amber is also a certified independent health coach. Find out more about Amber Lia on her website https://amberlia.com/ Get Amber's book Untriggered here https://amberlia.com/books-and-resources You're invited to see David Thomas, Sissy Goff, and Arlene at the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025. Get your ticket today. https://parentsrisingconference.com/ Stop taking orders from your kids. Get Arlene's book, Parents Rising. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802416608/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! Email speaking @ arlenepellicane.com Purchase the Storyteller's Bible HERE.

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books, including Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband, and Screen Kids. She has been featured on The Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal, and Focus on the Family. Arlene and her husband James have threechildren and live in San Diego.

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books, including Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband, and Screen Kids. She has been featured on The Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal, and Focus on the Family. Arlene and her husband James have three children and live in San Diego.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. See David Thomas, Sissy Goff, and Arlene Pellicane live at the Parents Rising Conference on September 6, 2025 in San Diego. Tickets on sale now http://parentsrisingconference.com/ Do you tend to think about what might go wrong instead of what might go right? Negativity is our default mode and can be disastrous for a family, but what if bad can sometimes be leveraged for good in your home? The power of bad can actually be leveraged for good. Learn when bad really is bad, and when it actually serves as a useful consequence for kids. This is a message Arlene shared on Mother's Day at Bonita Valley Community Church in San Diego. You'll hear about: 4:40 Would you drink juice that had a sterilized cockroach dipped in it? 7:50 The negativity effect and what it does to your thinking 9:50 How many positive comments are needed to cancel out a negative one? 12:20 One billion users on TikTok 15:15 How light acts as a disinfectant 19:00 When bad is actually helpful 23:00 Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them 25:15 Study of reward and punishment for kids 29:00 Arlene is rapping??? 33:00 Heart cracking goodness Arlene Pellicane is the host of the Happy Home podcast, a speaker and author of several books including Making Marriage Easier, Screen Kids, and Parents Rising. She has been featured on FamilyLife Today, Focus on the Family, the Wall Street Journal, and The Today Show. She and her husband James have three children (two in college and one in high school). Learn more at Happy Home University https://happyhomeuniversity.com/ Tickets on sale now! You're invited to see Arlene live with David Thomas and Sissy Goff at the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025 https://parentsrisingconference.com/ Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! Email speaking @ arlenepellicane.com Purchase the Storyteller's Bible HERE.

Have you heard some variation of this before? “Marriage is hard. It's unfair. One of you will always pull more weight. Marriage doesn't make you happy; it makes you miserable.” I'd like to push back against that pessimistic mindset. Yes, it's true that marriage can be challenging—but it can also be one of the greatest relationships you will experience!Marriage is certainly not easy, but it can be easier if we approach it the right way. Joining us to share her insights on doing just this is my friend, Arlene Pellicane. Arlene is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal, and Focus on the Family.In this episode, you'll hear:The four decisions that deeply impacted Arlene's marriageWhy you should silence your phone while spending time with your spouseThe benefits of trying something new togetherAnd more!I thoroughly enjoyed my time with Arlene, and she has so many great tips on how to make marriage easier.Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/arlene-pellicane-246You're invited to our Transform Weekend June 6-8, 2025 or October 17-19, 2025. Learn more and register here.Check out our other resources: Mark and Jill's Marriage Story Marriage Coaching Marriage 2.0 Intensives Speaking Schedule Book Mark and Jill to Speak Online Courses Books Marriage Resources: Infidelity Recovery For Happy Marriages For Hurting Marriages For Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources: New/Preschool Moms Moms with Gradeschoolers Moms with Teens and Tweens Moms with Kids Who Are Launching Empty Nest...

The Iron Sharpens Iron Conference for Women is coming to Moline this weekend, and on Thursday, Seth and Deb visit with one of the keynote speakers, Arlene Pellicane. Arlene has authored many books, including Parents Rising, Making Marriage Easier, and Screen Kids (coauthored with Dr. Gary Chapman). Arlene is the speaker and host of The Happy Home Podcast. Ladies, get a sneak peek into her message for the upcoming equipping conference, and be encouraged with practical wisdom for building a happy home!Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshow/wdlmSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marriage isn't always easy, but what if we could make it easier? In today's episode, I sit down with Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier, to talk about the ups and downs of marriage, navigating grief and loss together, and how small intentional actions can reignite connection. Arlene shares her own love story—from longing for marriage as a young woman to waiting on God's timing and eventually walking through infertility and loss. She also gives practical tips on keeping fun and affection alive in marriage, communicating well, and choosing commitment even when emotions wane. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of wisdom, encouragement, and hope for making your marriage stronger.What You'll Learn in This Episode: • How waiting on God's timing shaped Arlene's view of marriage • The importance of processing grief together and marking moments of loss • Why affection and fun are vital to a thriving marriage (and how to cultivate both!) • The power of small daily actions that strengthen connection • How to move from transactional to intentional in your relationshipBio:Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books, including Parents Rising, Making Marriage Easier, and Screen Kids (coauthored with Dr. Gary Chapman). She is the spokesperson for National Marriage Week and has been happily married to her husband, James, for more than 25 years. Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her master's in journalism from Regent University. Arlene lives with her family in San Diego.  Connect with Arlene:Website: www.arlenepellicane.com  IG: https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor***Call to Action:Loved this conversation? Share this episode with a friend and tag us on social media! Don't forget to leave a review—it helps more people find hope and encouragement for their marriages.

In this episode of the podcast, we sit down with Arlene Pellicane to discuss her thoughts on the growing role of artificial intelligence (AI) in our daily lives, especially its impact on children, families, and the church. Arlene is a speaker, host of the Happy Home Podcast, and author of several books including "Parents Rising," "31 Days to a Happy Husband," and "Screen Kids". Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox and Friends, "The Wall Street Journal," and Focus on the Family. She is definitely a “digital guru” for coaching future generations. From curated social media content influencing children's thoughts to AI-generated conversations replacing human connections, Arlene challenges us to stay informed and proactive when it comes to the use of AI in our lives. She emphasizes the importance of teaching children foundational skills and discernment, especially for the threatening possibility that AI can replace relationships and faith-centered guidance. Arlene shares a variety of resources and strategies for parents and ministry leaders to equip themselves with practical steps to navigate AI's influence on families and ministries for the future. To register for D6 Conference, visit To learn more from Arlene and find her resources, visit our website at Head over to to check out Elements Kids Worship Access AI in Khan Academy at Learn more about “AI Dilemma” here

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University.Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. What happens when you leave everything behind to sail around Africa with your three kids? Raeanne Newquist is here to talk about life on a Mercy Ship and seeing miracles firsthand. But you don't have to take a trip like this to support missions with your family. On today's show, you'll learn about: 3:41 Trusting God with the next move 6:20 How your kids can have a heart for the world 9:10 Going through challenges as a mom doing ministry 15:09 How we can involve our kids in reaching others for Christ 19:30 What is Mercy Ships all about? 27:40 How to trust God with hard decisions Raeanne Newquist along with her husband and 3 children joined Mercy Ships in 2019. After leaving everything behind in Southern California, they boarded the Africa Mercy in Las Palmas and made their first sail down to Dakar, Senegal for their first field service. On board, Raeanne volunteered in the communications department and later in chaplaincy. Currently, Raeanne works in the Mercy Ships U.S. Marketing department. Raeanne is the host of the New Mercies podcast, is the voice of the Mercy Minute daily radio broadcast and serves as a staff writer. Mercy Ships, founded in 1978, operates hospital ships that deliver free surgeries and other healthcare services to those with little access to safe medical care. Mercy Ships bases its work from its two hospital ships, the Africa Mercy®, which went into service in 2007, and the Global Mercy® — the world's first purpose-built civilian hospital ship—which began serving African nations in 2022. Find out more about Mercy Ships here https://www.mercyships.org/ To learn more about how you might serve on Mercy Ships, visit https://findyourplace.mercyships.org/immediate-needs/ Get your copy of Parents Rising here https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802416608/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Save the date: Arlene's next Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025 Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. In the whirlwind of modern parenting, it can be easy to lose sight of what's most important. It's time to get back on track to nurture authentic faith and relationship with God above all. Father of five, Barrett Johnson has a new book to help us, Disciple Them Like Jesus: Leading your kids the way Christ led the twelve. What can we learn from Jesus about connection, teaching, and modeling? You'll find out in today's conversation about: 2:45 Why is parenting so exhausting nowadays? 6:10 Your main priority as a parent is… 12:30 How do you disciple a child? 16:49 Noticing the little wins with your children 22:20 How dads can uniquely step in 28:00 How can we pass on a love of the Bible to our kids Barrett Johnson is the founder of I.N.F.O. for Families (Imperfect and Normal Families Only), a nonprofit that helps parents have critical conversations with their kids and much more. He and his wife Jenifer lead marriage and parenting events across the country. They have five children and seven grandchildren. Learn more about I.N.F.O. for Families here https://www.infoforfamilies.com/ Learn more about Barrett's new book, Disciple Them Like Jesus: Leading Your Kids the Way Christ Led the Twelve https://www.infoforfamilies.com/disciple-them-like-jesus Get your copy of Parents Rising here https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802416608/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Save the date: Arlene's next Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025 Get your free "Reset Your Tech" tip sheet and more free resources from Arlene https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. Are you facing a crisis or challenge in your family? Suffering isn't anything we volunteer for. Today's guest Rachel Wojo knows what it's like to suffer profound losses and cry out to God in desperation. She shares how you can embrace the power of prayer in life's darkest moments with lessons of hope from her new book, Desperate Prayers. In today's conversation, you'll learn about: 2:24 A mysterious envelope and an answered prayer 9:45 How suffering can bear fruit 12:25 Pain presents us with a choice, what will you choose? 17:52 If you want quick healing, start here 20:30 I didn't know how to move forward 23:38 God is a God of second chances 28:00 Our incredible adoption story Rachel Wojo is an inspirational author, speaker, and podcaster. Through her biblical approach and personal life experiences, Rachel empowers women to discover strength and hope in everyday situations. Despite enduring the loss of her mother, father, and adult special needs daughter, Rachel remains resilient. She is crazy in love with her husband Matt and cherishes her six children on earth and two in heaven. Learn more about Rachel Wojo and her book Desperate Prayers. https://rachelwojo.com/desperateprayers/ Get Rachel's free When You Can't Pray Guide https://rachelwojo.com/freebie-2/ Get your copy of Parents Rising here https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802416608/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Save the date: Arlene's next Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, September 6, 2025 Get your free "Reset Your Tech" tip sheet and more free resources from Arlene https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribeHave a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com

Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. 10:00 Why self-esteem didn't deliver 12:15 Kids find fulfillment when they discover this 14:00 How to guide children to be respectful 16:30 Which is most important: humility, respect or resiliency? 18:00 A working definition of humility 21:10 Train, don't entertain 23:30 When a teenager goes sideways 25:00 My twins entered high school and I had a panic attack 29:00 Instilling courage through trying 32:00 Using persuasive pressure on kids Jill Garner is the founder of Manners of the Heart, a non-profit to re-awake respect in our society. She has been featured by Focus on the Family and FamilyLife Today. She is an accomplished speaker, advocate, and author. Learn more about Jill Garner and her non-profit, Manners of the Heart https://mannersoftheheart.org/ Learn more about Jill Garner and her latest book, StrongHeart: Cultivating Humility, Respect, and Resiliency in Your Child. https://jillgarnercontent.org/books Did you miss Reset Your Tech month? Go back to last month's episodes, and you can still get your free "Reset Your Tech" tip sheet https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Coming September 6, 2025 - Arlene's next Parents Rising Conference in San Diego. Save the date! Get your copy of Parents Rising here https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802416608/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com

How can moms stay sane and focused in everyday life? Arlene shares a special Mother's Day message to remind you of what's most important in raising your kiddos. Hint: It's not getting into the right college or getting them more followers on social media. How can you equip your kids for adulthood and do it with joy and purpose? In this message, Arlene talks about: 2:00 What are some things that wouldn't happen without mom? 4:20 Should I bring my child's tablet to school when he forgets it? 7:50 The boy Samuel grew in these ways 11:30 Helping your child do things they don't feel like doing 14:00 The true measure of success 17:50 Launching an adult who loves God doesn't happen by accident 21:45 A word to single moms Arlene Pellicane is the host of the Happy Home podcast, speaker, and author of several books including Screen Kids and Parents Rising. She and her husband James have three kids and live in San Diego. Visit Arlene's website: https://arlenepellicane.com/ Check out Arlene's video courses: https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/ Get Arlene's book 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0736963502/?tag=arlenpelli-20 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! speaking@arlenepellicane.com More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

Looking for Christmas podcasts? We curated some of our favorite episodes just for you here! Get your free 25 Days of Christmas activity guide for your family here Wondering if you should wrap up that new phone for your child this Christmas? Before you do, listen to this episode as Arlene shares two big ideas for living in an intentional tech home. If you can use technology to help your kids and not hurt them, that will be a huge gift you can bring to your family this Christmas and beyond. Arlene talks about: 3:00 I had no intention of hurting her but I did 6:10 Don't wait for tech to clean up its act 9:10 Picture a snow globe. What would the ideal amount of tech in your home look like? 13:00 Tech as a last resort, not as a first resort 16:50 Wrap this instead of a phone up for Christmas 18:25 Delay, delay, delay - the longer, the better 23:00 Is your child's circadian rhythm working? 27:55 What do you want Christmas day to look like in your home with technology? 28:50 Does this help future me? 32:35 My suggested age(s) to get a smartphone Arlene Pellicane is the host of the Happy Home podcast, a speaker, and author of nine books including Parents Rising and Screen Kids. Learn more about Arlene on her website arlenepellicane.com and find out about her latest offerings at Happy Home University. You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference on March 2, 2024, in San Diego, CA. Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill and Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. Early bird pricing is available now! happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar here. Subscribe to Arlene's free email list to get tech news and more to help your home. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel @arlenehappyhome Special thanks to HireMyMom.com

Psychologist Dr. Ron Welch and his wife, Jan, outline several simple but highly effective decisions a husband and wife can make to nurture their marriage in a discussion based on his book 10 Choices Successful Couples Make: The Secret to Love That Lasts a Lifetime.   Then, parents, it's time to step up and be…a parent! Arlene Pellicane shares her fun stories and power-packed research to encourage you with nuts-and-bolts reminders of strong parenting—teaching respect, instilling character, and spending intentional time with their children.   Receive the book 10 Choices Successful Couples Make for your donation of any amount!   Have You Lost Hope in Your Marriage? For couples in crisis – you can still put the pieces of your marriage back together with Hope Restored.   Receive the book Parents Rising for your donation of any amount!   Five simple tips to help you thrive as a parent   If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Arlene Pellicane shares fun stories and power-packed research to encourage you with nuts-and-bolts reminders of strong parenting—teaching respect, instilling character, and spending intentional time with your children.   Receive Arlene Pellicane's book "Parents Rising" and an audio download of "Raising Godly Children in Today's Culture" for your donation of any amount!   Get More Episode Resources   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.   If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Summer is a few short weeks away! Planning ahead and being intentional about your time together will set you up for a successful summer with your family. My guest today is Arlene Pellicane. Arlene is the co-author of the popular book Screen Kids, along with Dr. Gary Chapman. She speaks and writes to impact and improve families, and she's here to share her expertise with us! You'll hear us talk about… Planning ahead for success Getting your kids involved Creating a technology plan Resetting your own screen time What to do when plans fail Arlene is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Screen Kids. Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal and Focus on the Family. She lives in San Diego with her husband, James, and their three children.   GET ALL THE SHOW NOTES   THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about your faith, business, and relationships? Look no further than the Simply Wholehearted Podcast! Join certified Marriage and Family Enneagram Coach Amy Wicks as she shares stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you thrive in business, relationships, and personal growth. With nearly 300 episodes and six years of experience, the Simply Wholehearted Podcast is the ultimate destination for anyone looking for tools and insights to overcome anxiety, self-doubt, and overwhelm. Plus, don't miss out on her special podcast playlist for each Enneagram type. Grab yours here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagrampodcastplaylist.  Find The Simply Wholehearted Podcast on your favorite listening app and start living your best-wholehearted life!   CONNECT WITH GIRLS TALKING LIFE Get the GTL Newsletter | Instagram | Facebook

On today's episode of Mother Daughter Connections®, I'm joined by author, speaker, and host of The Happy Home Podcast, Arlene Pellicane.   Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Parents Rising, Screen Kids., and Calm, Cool, and Connected: 5 Digital Habits for a More Balanced Life.   Arlene has been interviewed on numerous radio programs, written for several national magazines, and appeared in major media outlets including the Today Show, Fox & Friends, and The Wall Street Journal.   Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her MA from Regent University.   Arlene lives in San Diego with her husband James, their 3 kids, and goldendoodle, Winston.     Today, Arlene and I discuss  . . . How to establish a healthy HABIT with technology. The #1 Misconception that Moms have about technology. How to use technology to build a relationship with your daughter.   …and a WHOLE LOT MORE! __________________________________   To Connect With Arlene:   Podcast: The Happy Home Podcast   Website: www.arlenepellicane.com   YouTube Resource: Screen Kids In Their Own Words   ____________________________________________________________________________   Got Coffee? Then Let's Get To Know Each Other

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband and Screen Kids. Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal and Focus on the Family. Arlene lives in San Diego with her husband James and their three children.  To learn more, visit her website at ArlenePellicane.com and check out her masterclasses at HappyHomeUniversity.com Arlene's Instagram | Arlene's WebsiteThings mentioned in today's episode:Arlene's booksScreen Kids filmIs screen time a problem? Join our Retro Prayer Life Challenge!The concept is simple, trade one hour a day on your phone for one hour in prayer. We're joining together to unbury our best prayer life from all the distractions (especially screens!) in our way. Sign up HERE + get a free sample of the challenge that starts January 23rd!Want a journal designed to help you focus in prayer? Try our monthly format designed to be filled out once at the beginning of the month really intentionally. Then you can pick up daily to pray over several things on your list! Check out our brand new linen journals in the shop now!