Return to Wholeness

Today I'm sharing my interview from Anna Anderson's podcast, Nurture and Nourish. She is also a former guest on RTW, episode 36.   This is also the final interview I have planned for maternity leave. Stay tuned for what is next with Return to Wholeness.   Here's what we talk about in this episode: Self objectification and getting curious about WHY body shame is so pervasive in our society Learning to see other people and ourselves as whole humans beyond just their appearance The 5 manifestations of the compliant woman   Learn more about Anna and her work here: https://www.annaandersoninc.com/   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Today I'm sharing my 2nd interview from Kat Lee's podcast, Empowered Curiosity. She is also a 2 time guest on RTW (Episode 1 + 51).   Kat gives me space to talk about what it was like to share my "This Might Get Me Cancelled Episode" - which was my first public action of uncaging the good girl. You can listen to the episode here: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast-11.html   Here's what we talk about: Getting to the root cause of good girl programming Trading one fundamentalism for another Sourcing our goodness from within vs performative goodness Social media's role in our cultural fragmentation What being in integrity feels like in our bodies   Learn more about Kat and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/empoweredcuriosity/ https://www.empoweredcuriosity.com/blog   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Today I'm sharing my interview from the Break Free From Binge Eating Podcast with my friend, Victoria Kleinsman.   This episode is so dynamic, here's what we cover:   The dangers of us vs them mentality The intersection of good girl programming and body shame The practice of order/disorder/reorder in our healing processes Body image as a gateway into deeper healing Reclaiming our inherent goodness Learning to use our voices and speak our truth   Click the links below to check out more of Victoria's Podcast and her work: https://victoriakleinsman.com/   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4    

Today I'm sharing my 2nd interview on the Babesment Podcast with Julie Ohlemacher, Stef Streb and my co-guest Catherina Dimarzo. In this episode, we explore the experience of acne and other skin issues and how that impacts how we see ourselves. Listen to more Babesment Episodes here: https://thebabesment.com/episodes Click here to learn connect with Julie and Stef: https://www.instagram.com/julie.ohlemacher/ https://www.instagram.com/stefstreb/ Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Today I'm sharing my interview from Victoria Evan's Podcast, Weighing In On Happy. We talk about the parallels between religious purity culture and diet culture - mainly how both police women and their bodies. We also talk about the ego-shattering experience that often comes along with body image healing.   Learn more about Victoria and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaevansofficial/ https://www.victoriaevansofficial.com/blog/   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4      

Today I'm in conversation with Katie Pijanowski of Mind Body Strong Podcast talking about the intersection of spirituality and body image healing.   Click here to learn more about Katie + her work: https://www.instagram.com/katiepijanowski/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-and-body-strong/id1419114254   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4  

Today I'm sharing one of my interviews from Kat Lee's podcast, Empowered Curiosity. Kat is a 2 time previous guest on RTW, episode 1 + 51. In this episode, we go in depth into the 4 pillars of body image healing (the same pillars that Julie and I use to support our Homecoming Clients): Awareness Resilience Nourishment Sovereignty Learn more about Kat + her work here: https://www.instagram.com/empoweredcuriosity/ https://www.empoweredcuriosity.com/blog Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Today I'm sharing my interview from Katie Allen's Just Realized Podcast and it's FIRE. We got deep into the 5 manifestations of the compliant woman and explore the very primal reason why women are more prone to obedience. You can connect with Katie and listen to more of her podcast using the links below: IG: @katieallenstylist email: katie@katiejuststyled.com website: https://katiejuststyled.com/ style syncing guide: https://katiejuststyled.com/freebie Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-realized/id1486567316 Also check her out on Episode #33 of Return to Wholeness Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Today I'm sharing an interview I did on Lindsey Curtis's podcast, Her Return. Lindsey is also a former guest on Return to Wholeness (EP 22- go check her out!)   In this episode, we unpack good girl programming and becoming the granter of your own goodness.   Here is the link to the episode that Lindsey mentions during the interview: https://www.herreturn.com/single-post/episode-8-valuing-the-yin   Also, here is her website so you can learn more about her work: www.HerReturn.com   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

In today's episode, I'm sharing an interview that I did on the Babesment Podcast with Julie Ohlemacher and Stef Streb. This interview was the very first time I shared about my experience growing up in purity culture and the realization that my relationship with food and body had been dramatically influenced by this movement.   Listen to more Babesment Episodes here: https://thebabesment.com/episodes   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

**This will be our final interview before I go on Maternity Leave**   Be sure to tune in to hear about what you can expect from RTW while I'm bonding with my baby and not releasing any new episodes.   This week's interview with Mara Branscombe is so powerful as we delve deeply into what it means to live a ritualistic life.   Here's what we discuss:   Mara's experience of fragmentation that began with her "settling down" from her nomadic lifestyle to continue the family legacy of becoming a teacher and how she bravely went after her passions and dreams The origins of Mara's ritual practice Ritual as a daily practice vs something we engage in only during special occasions How ritual can be used in our own initiation and allow us to integrate and reflect, bringing us into deeper self awareness What might be possible if more and more human beings were engaging in regular ritual The power of interacting with the changing seasons and all 5 elements in ritual practice Soul care vs self care Mara's book that is coming out at the end of May which is now available to presale Ritual as Remedy Embodied Practices for Soul Care - such a generous offering and also lets us in on a bit of her process in writing a book   You can learn more about Mara and pre-order her book here: www.marabranscombe.com

Let's face it, we all feel a little bit weird from time to time. Usually the parts of ourselves that we feel are weird are the parts we desperately try to hide or entirely fragment.   Yet what if within your weirdness there was untapped potential, gifts and talents?   This is exactly what today's guest, Jessica Hans-Smolin, believes. She believes that our weirdness isn't something to hide but instead is something that can be used to guide us towards the fullest expression of who we are.   Join us for this weird and wild conversation where we talk about:   Jessica's 2 experiences with fragmentation, one when she was a child and also again when she became a mother Cultivating resilience to support us in bringing our gifts into the world so that we can stay connected to the joy our gifts and talents bring us when they come under scrutiny, jealousy or projection The etymology of the word 'weird' and how we can begin to reclaim our weirdness and use it in pursuit of becoming the fullest expression of who we are Weirdness as creative, even sexual energy and expression Why it feels dangerous for us to be "weird" or our full selves How owning our "weird" allows us to free ourselves along with previous and future generations   Learn more about Jessica, download her free gift and check out the resources she's provided below:   The gift meditation https://mailchi.mp/043ee495b29a/reclaim-your-weird-rebirth-your-gift   Follow me:  @freeyouressencejess on insta   Contact:  jess@freeyouressencecoaching.com   Other shares: Anita Kopacz book Shallow Waters    And folks can follow Daphne, the client who I shared about on insta @followingfootprintsinnature

I can't wait for you to meet Erin Claire Jones! She is someone who has taught me so much about the powerful, helpful tool of Human Design.   Whether you're a Human Design aficionado, novice or are completely clueless about what it is, I think you'll enjoy this conversation as Erin offers a unique and empowering take.   She is also offering 10% a Human Design Blueprint with code WHOLENESS.   Here's what we discuss:   Erin's journey to find balance between her need for rest and spaciousness and her desire to grow a business as a Human Design Projector Topline overview of Human Design- the strategies, types and authorities Experimenting with your type and how you can work best with it  Reckoning with how we've been operating out of alignment with our strategy (example a projector trying to be a generator) How to stay out of comparison mode with other types How Human Design can be used as a way to understand our differences as human beings In depth conversation around what Erin calls one of the most important aspects of HD, your authority   Learn more about Erin and her work here:   Here's the link to get your Blueprint, a personalized guide to your unique design: https://humandesignblueprint.com/buy-a-blueprint-book/   The code WHOLENESS will get them 10% off your Blueprint :)   Here's a link to look up your design: https://humandesignblueprint.com/   Here's a link to book an individual session: erinclairejones.com/individual   Here's my instagram: instagram.com/erinclairejones   Here's a link to join my next free intro webinar: https://howdoyouchoose1.splashthat.com

Happy 1 Year Anniversary of Return to Wholeness! I couldn't think of a better way to celebrate this year of co-creating this podcast than to bring our first guest and my friend, Kat Lee.   This conversation is reflective of the ways that both of us have evolved and grown, continuing to call back our own fragmented parts, over this past year.   Here's what we discuss: Kat's journey with creating inner safety and how that has improved her relationships and opened her about to new, playful experiences in her life The difference between nervous system regulated safety and comfort or complacency The role of self-trust in feeling safe and how we begin to build trust with ourselves How trauma can inform how you are or not showing up in your business and relationships (with an interesting exploration around "laziness") Kat flips my question on me and asks me to share about what I've been calling back over this year  Sitting the wisdom of our feminine before responding - whether that's to certain cultural narratives or internally/externally placed expectations How to shift from wanting to control other people's thoughts and opinions to having curiosity  The difference between understanding and agreement - sneak peek into our conversation on Kat's podcast which will be coming out at the end of April while   Learn more about Kat and her work here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empoweredcuriosity/ Website: https://www.empoweredcuriosity.com/ Podcast: https://www.empoweredcuriosity.com/blog   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4      

This episode with Bergen Hyde, The Dark Night Doula, is so powerful as we explore in-depth the journey of maiden to mother through the lens of our ever-changing bodies.   Here's what we discuss: Bergen's journey into motherhood that she felt was lacking in true initiation and how that impacted her experience through birth and actually becoming a mom How she's learned to naturally navigate "Dark Night of the Soul" experiences in her life  The spectrum of martyr to warrior that many women find themselves in as they try to please society How women begin to disassociate from their bodies as they age or go through other transformational phases like motherhood How when women are focused on their appearance and staying young they end of ignoring their own maturation process Our bodies as a portal into what really matters Our cultures inability to be with death and grief and how that shows up in our resistance to aging and changing Bergen's powerful ritual that allowed her recognize herself again and begin to redefine what it means to be a woman on her own terms   Learn more about Bergen and her work here: https://www.wombandcompany.com/ https://www.instagram.com/womb_circle/   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Meet Monica Rodgers. She is a tireless advocate for the full actualization of women, inspiring women everywhere that saying “YES to the MESS” is the missing link to self-love and personal awakening. This episode is so powerful as we explore what it means to move beyond external measures of value and worth into rooted sufficiency within ourselves. Here's what we cover: The root of fragmentation being a choice between being loved and abandoning ourselves What Monica refers to as the unbecoming process, where we unlearn who we were expected to be The conditioned shadow side of the feminine to be pretty, pleasing and polite The trance of unworthiness and beginning to access our own sufficiency as women Wanting what we want sometimes looking like wanting less How revelation does not happen inside of our comfort zone The guilt we might feel when we've been doing our own work and seeing the results in our thriving lives Not doing someone else's life project for them What's really underneath jealousy How to create conscious and healthy sisterhood Becoming the cherished mother in your own life Learn more about Monica and her work here: http://www.jointherevelation.com and podcast.jointherevelation.com Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Today I'm in conversation with Loren Cellentani, recovering perfectionist, host of the top rated podcast, Witchy Wellness Radio and a Holistic Health Coach.   Loren has a history of navigating and overcoming chronic anxiety and she generously offered her perspective and tools to the Return to Wholeness listeners.   Here's what we discuss:   Loren's history with chronic anxiety attacks that stemmed from living a life of "shoulds" How comfort might be a sign that we are fragmenting ourselves How making small changes to everyday routines can help build resilience as we take risks in our lives Anxiety as a super power that is showing us where we're stepping into the unknown and therefore our growth Loren's practice for flowing with anxiety  The role of surrender in supporting ourselves through anxious times Willingness being the first step in getting out of victimhood   Learn more about Loren and her work here: www.lorencellentani.com www.anxioustoaligned.com www.instagram.com/lorencellentani   Sign up for the RTW Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4      

It's almost a cliche at this point to talk about how polarized our society has become in the past decade. Many, it seems, would prefer that we remain bifurcated - especially those who profit and benefit from it.   Yet there is a growing number of individuals who've decided enough is enough with us vs them, unjust labeling and censorship of those who differ.   In this episode, I humbly offer my voice to this conversation because I truly believe that this level of polarization is leading us only towards our mutually assured destruction.   Here's what I discuss in this raw and vulnerable solo episode: Why it's important to me to add my voice and no longer buying into the false belief of hopelessness An exploration of my evangelical upbringing and how that contributed to my own us vs them mentality The human drive to default to "us vs them" and the role our nervous systems play in upholding this mindset The role of social media and how hyper-connected we are in furthering our disconnection and misunderstanding of the "other" Why it's imperative that we opt out of "us vs them" mentality and challenge ourselves to see people in their full humanity The spiritual implications of "us vs them" mentality How uniformity is not a prerequisite for making meaningful change Some specific practices I am implementing to support myself and others in opting out of "us vs them" mentality and returning to wholeness within ourselves, relationships and collectively   Link to the book I referenced: https://www.amazon.com/How-Have-Impossible-Conversations-Practical/dp/0738285323/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1642709486&sr=8-1

My girl, Julie Ohlemacher, is hopping on to share some big happenings in her life which I'm absolutely thrilled about for her. Though this does mean that her regular appearances on Return to Wholeness will less frequent, we trust that both of our paths are leading us directly where we're intended to go.   In this episode, Jules and I decided to let you get a sneak peek into some of our private conversations that we've been having over the past year as we navigate entrepreneurship, trusting our process and allowing the chips to fall as they may.   Here's what we discuss: The big and exciting evolution that is happening in Julie's life How holding tight to one path can cut us off from possibilities and perhaps our true desires Getting honest with ourselves about if our desires are being influenced by societal status symbols or other "gold standards" This or better mindset when it comes to manifestation - or what Holly prefers to call is - co-creation The role humility plays in manifestation and admitting that we might not always know what's best Abundance being a state of being vs a material reality How to get clear about our desires but also hold them loosely Allowing ourselves to be surprised and delighted by the what life brings us   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/ Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4   Connect with Jules here: https://www.instagram.com/julie.ohlemacher/      

I'm THRILLED to introduce you to Victoria Kleinsman, Food Freedom and Body Image Coach. This conversation is very timely as so many women are navigating the body image struggles and feelings of failure that come up this time of year as yet another diet fails.   Victoria has SUCH a powerful perspective on healing body image and a heroine's journey that will inspire you to step more fully into your worth and power.   Here's what we cover:   Victoria's journey navigating a vast spectrum of eating disorders from anorexia to binge eating to bulimia Her experience being in a 6 year abusive relationship and how she finally get the strength to leave Transforming blame into self responsibility Navigating the experience of "not wanting to get better" because staying sick = being loved and supported Victoria's absolute terror of gaining weight when she started to heal her relationship with food How she handles body image flare ups and the powerful question she asks herself when triggers come up How the life you desire is available to you in the body you're in today   Connect with Victoria here: Free access to the first modules of my paid Food & Body Freedom Queen Program: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-access-to-first-few-modules/   Website: https://www.victoriakleinsman.com/   Email: info@victoriakleinsman.com   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/victoriakleinsman   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriakleinsman/   Podcast: https://anchor.fm/victoria-kleinsman “Break Free From Binge Eating - With Victoria Kleinsman” on any podcast platform.   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/ Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4  

I'm so excited to share this news with you dear listeners! The week that I'm releasing this episode, I'll be 29 weeks. I chose to wait a long time to announce my pregnancy for many reasons, but the biggest one being that navigating pregnancy after loss is complicated.   This episode is my most vulnerable yet where I'll be sharing about: My journey overcoming my resistance and limiting beliefs about motherhood My first pregnancy in April of 2021 that ended with a loss (I won't be going too much into the details of this experience and please know that if you're navigating loss or have experienced loss in the past, you have full permission to skip this episode) How my view of motherhood has done a complete 180 How social media impacted my pregnancy loss Finding strength and solidarity with other women who had experienced loss Navigating my 2nd pregnancy after experiencing a loss The challenges I've had to overcome with this pregnancy How I've deepened into trust with my body and what I've learned about surrender   If you got something from this episode or want to share something with me about your own fertility journey, feel free to head over to IG and send me a DM: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/

Diet Culture is LOUD this time of year, calling all of us to embark on yet another diet or eating plan and we all know how this ends - with yet another failed attempt to lose weight.   My girl Julie is joining me today to help propose a new path that invites you to consider what it would mean for you to ditch aesthetic related body goals in 2022 in favor of coming home to your body.   The phrase "come home to your body" can seem elusive and that's because it's incredibly individualized, yet Jules and I wanted to share with you what it has meant to experience homecoming in our bodies and how you might be able to as well.   Here's what we cover: The difference between health based goals and aesthetic based goals The " backtracking" that often happens on the Intuitive Eating journey being a necessary detour because there's something to be gleaned Reclaiming actions we take for our health from diet culture How NOT being at home in our bodies causes us to delay life and our desires Our unique experiences and definitions of Homecoming What it feels like to be in friendship/relationship with other woman who are at home in their bodies Your body being YOUR business Our exciting announcement to offer our signature program, Homecoming, as a self-study program in 2022   Link to explore and sign up for Homecoming Self Study: https://julesandhollcoaching.com/homecoming-selfstudy   Link to explore and sign up for Anti Diet Health Coach Camp: https://julesandhollcoaching.com/antidiet-health-coach-camp-20

Today I'm connecting with Life + Business Strategy Coach, Stacey Brass-Russell, who is also a friend and mentor of mine. Our conversation is far-reaching as we discuss the necessity of allowing our evolution and the power of discomfort to guide us to the next chapter of our lives. Here's what we discuss: Stacey's unique journey growing up in show business and trying to be everything everyone else wanted her to be Yoga as the practice that brought her back to herself  How limiting thought patterns represent themselves in our bodies  The journey of reaching a goal or a milestone being about who you get to become on your journey vs just the goal itself Stacey's powerful perspective on change and discomfort as a sign from the universe that it's time to evolve Allowing ourselves to grow out of situations that no longer serve  Celebrating and owning what we're really good while being inspired by others' talent We also talk about Stacey's new podcast, Passionate and Prosperous, which I highly recommend: Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Gjroni6caizIgoHMEN5kS?si=c93a64ed26464af1 Spotify: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/passionate-prosperous-with-stacey-brass-russell/id1593254671 Learn more about Stacey and her work here: 3. https://staceybrassrussell.com/ 4. https://www.instagram.com/staceybrassrussell/ Sign up for the Return to Wholeness Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4 Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/

Today I'm chatting with Embodiment and Leadership Master Coach, Author and Podcaster, Sigrid Tasies. Through out conversation, we covered so much ground and I feel like I got to explore my unanswered questions around why so many of us still feel like little girls in women's bodies. Here's what we discuss: Sigrid's experience of being aware of her depths has a child but feeling like she needed to fake shallowness in order to fit in Her realization that the parts of herself that she had fragmented were actually her gifts Self reverence and truly mattering to ourselves The impact lack of initiation has on us as individuals and how she uses initiation to support her clients in deepening their transformation The phenomenon so many experience of "never feeling like an adult" Her 7 principles of Feminine Embodiment   Learn more about Sigrid and her work here: Instagram: www.instagram.com/sigridtasies   PRIVATE INITIATIONS / MENTORING WITH SIGRID: https://sigridtasies.com/1-on-1-coaching   SACRED LEADERS PODCAST: www.sigridtasies.com/podcast   FREE Inner-Alignment Starter Kit: https://sigridtasies.com/inneralignment   Sign up for the Return to Wholeness Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/

Happy New Year!   We're kicking off 2022 with a powerful conversation around MONEY with Kaitlynn Newton.   She shares a powerful perspective on money as masculine energy that wants to provide for us.   Here's what we cover:   Kaitlynn's experience of having different personalities depending on the social context The feeling of self betrayal we get when we agree with something we actually disagree with The evolutionary reason women tend to be more "agreeable"  Money as masculine energy that wants to take care of us How different attachment styles manifest in our relationship to money Kaitlynn's powerful money date practice and bringing gratitude to paying our bills Rebuilding trust with the masculine as a way to heal our relationship to money How we often make our spiritual practice about making more money or performing for the universe so that we can manifest more Wealth as being more than just money and the opportunity we have to define what a wealthy life looks like for ourselves   Learn more about Kaitlynn here: https://www.kaitlynnnewton.com/activationsession   Sign up for the Return to Wholeness Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year my loves!   We're doing something special for this episode. Join me for a trip down memory lane as I explore big takeaways and favorite moments from some episodes over this past year.   Here are the links to listen to the full episode:   Episode #1, Kat Lee: http://www.hollytoronto.com/po dcast-1.html Episode #6, Simi Botic: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast-6.html Episode #11, Yours Truly: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast-11.html Episode #12, Lindsey Lockett: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast-12.html Episode #20, Julie Ohlemacher: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast-20.html Episode #27, Madison Morrigan: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast-27.html Episode #31, Evelyn Hale: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-31-the-insatiable-feminine-with-evelyn-hale/id1557255948?i=1000539631126   Grab the Return to Wholeness Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4   As a reminder, we'll be taking a week break but I will see you all again in 2022! Love to you all!

Julie + I are actually on FIRE in this episode talking about a Taylor Swift documentary, Ms. Americana, and the way it so beautifully articulates how good girl programming manifests itself. It almost feels like Julie + I let you in on our fiery private conversations where we explore nuances and our different ways of viewing a topic. Here's what we discuss: The need to be thought of as "good" being fuel for the compliant woman and living for praise Challenging circumstances in our life happening for us not to us My personal encounter with a Kanye-like man in the beginning of my career and how I internalized his opinion as truth Good girls being conditioned to take feedback at face value without running it through the lens of our own critical thinking Grounding ourselves in what matters beyond achievement What it feels like to be in a constant state of trying to earn our goodness How we devalue our work when it doesn't receive the praise we think it should/need it to in order to feel validated How we treat celebrities as products and our responsibility to be conscious viewers - ensuring we humanize the artists we idolize while knowing that we can opt out of the beauty standards they uphold Everyone having their own definition of goodness which makes it impossible for everyone to like you (aka kryptonite for a good girl) The spectrum of not good enough to "goody two shoes" Navigating situations where people don't like us or misrepresent us Our fear of forcing our opinions and making others uncomfortable with our views Self censoring vs choosing to remain silent from a place of integrity and making sure your words are your own Check out the Ms. Americana Documentary on Netflix! Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

It's just us today, loves, and I'm excited to take our conversation about good girl programming deeper by looking at how it intersects with body image. Or what I call the first manifestation of good girl/compliant woman programming. Here's what we cover in this episode: I share about my experience with insomnia over this past year and how I'm navigating it with more grace for myself Body image as the gateway into deeper connection to our feminine freedom How we often act out our good girl programming through our body image before any other area of our lives The drive to have men approve of our bodies Compliant woman/good girl programming depending solely on external feedback and validation The impact of our society's lack of initiation into different stages of our feminine journey How when a women transitions from her maiden to mother body, it's often seen as a failure The grief we may feel as our bodies change over time Dieting and ignoring hunger as a way we self silence Denying and delaying pleasure because we feel we have not earned it Pleasure as life force energy Objectification as a way we limit our humanity Self trust being at the root of the wounding that causes good girl/compliant woman programming To learn more about private body image coaching with me click here: http://www.hollytoronto.com/body-image-coaching.html If you got something from this conversation, head over to my IG and send me a DM https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/ Better yet, share this episode on social media or with a friend!

I'm so excited to introduce you to today's guest, Anna Anderson. She is a such a powerful example of the resilience that's built through rock bottom moments and how we can move beyond victimhood into empowerment.   Here's what we discuss: Anna's journey of searching externally for worth throughout her entire life The life altering experience of becoming pregnant and subsequently single at 28 How alcohol became a way for her to cope with the pain of being a single mother who was unable to be with her son as much as she wanted and her experience healing her relationship to alcohol Her unconventional journey into becoming a yoga teacher Her conviction that even though so many parts of her journey were painful, she wouldn't change anything about it because who it allowed her to become How our worth lives in the present moment Moving away from unhealthy masculine and embodying the feminine How women often feel guilty for being in their feminine  Trusting the wisdom of our bodies How younger versions of us play out unhelpful coping strategies from a wounded place   Learn more about Anna and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/iam.annaanderson/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/NurtureandNourishwithAnna   Learn more about the Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

The holidays are upon us and diet culture is sure to rear its ugly head! Don't worry, love, Julie + I got your back with this episode where we share our key learnings on what NOT to do and what TO do this holiday season to ensure you stay peaceful and present.   Bare with us with our 10 minute random (yet important rant) about vulnerability porn and being mindful to not profit off of our pain on social media.   We also discuss: From eating to the point of sickness to under-eating to the point belly ache, our individual stressful experiences navigating the holidays before we had embodied Intuitive Eating Allowing holiday foods like stuffing and mashed potatoes to be special and sacred The Do's + Don'ts that will allow you to have a peaceful experience with food: Don't "save your calories" Don't punish yourself with exercise (Link below to check out Jules' new program Intuitive Exercise) Don't skip meals the next day Don't try to convert your family to Intuitive Eating at the dinner table Don't buy into guilt/shame over what you eat   Intuitive Exercise use coupon code HOLLY at checkout to get 50% off: www.julieohlemacher.com/intuitive-exercise-holly   Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/   Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Join me for my first solo episode since the summer where I'm trying something new and outside of my comfort zone - recording a whole episode without having my words carefully planned.   This episode is raw, vulnerable and one of my favorite solo episodes thus far.   Here's what we cover: How I'm letting go of the script and learning to trust myself An overview of the compliant woman archetype and why I'm using this term instead of "good girl program The 5 manifestations of the compliant woman: Self silencing: how we use this strategy to manipulate others into seeing us a certain way in order to feel safe and avoid intimacy with ourselves and others Self denial- exploring the vulnerability of our big feelings and ways in which we deny our bodies biological needs because we often see our needs as an inconvenience Self sacrifice- The badge of honor we believe we'll get on the other side of self-sacrifice, especially mothers and how this truly benefits no one Self limitation- The responsibility of being with and expressing our full self and how scary that can truly be Self questioning- The "who am I to's" that keep us from owning the fullness of who we are How awareness allows us to choose differently Taking small and slow action to create change and heal from the compliant woman My Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience   Explore and apply for Feminine Freedom here --> https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/   Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4   Send me a DM on Instagram letting me know your biggest takeaway from this episode: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/

Today I'm in conversation with Style Coach, Katie Allen talking about how to style yourself according to your core values. It's such a fresh perspective on fashion that allows us to value the whole of a human being first and allow style to communicate that. Here's what we discuss: How Katie fragmented her love of fashion by taking a safe job and focusing on checking all of the "right boxes" Her journey to reconnecting to her passion and becoming a style coach Fashion and personal style being about so much more than just the clothes but tapping into the your confidence and authenticity Dressing according to your core values and how that grounds these parts of ourselves Style as an external communication tool  How when we uplevel in our style or any other area of our lives, it will be confronting for the people around us Syncing our style to our menstrual cycles so that we can honor all of our seasons, especially our bleed (Katie's powerful advice to get rid of the period stained underwear and put on ones that make you feel like the goddess you are) Learn more about Katie + her work here: IG: @katieallenstylist email: katie@katiejuststyled.com website: https://katiejuststyled.com/ style syncing guide: https://katiejuststyled.com/freebie Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-realized/id1486567316

Join me for a powerful body-based conversation with Erica Ziel as we discuss all things women's core and pelvic health.   In this conversation we cover: Erica's health crisis dealing with mold toxicity and how that led to her doing her Human Potential Coach Training How forcing our bodies to do something they aren't ready for creates roadblocks for our healing and as Erica puts it "if you go hard, you will go home." Body/Mind connection vs Mind/Body connection How to stop fighting your body and be where you are Fascia as our human superpower How many bodily pains are linked back to the pelvic floor What exactly is the pelvic floor Proper breath being more important than the actual movement and the ways Erica teaches her clients to breath Why we need to stop doing kegels, tucking our tail bones, sucking in our bellies and rolling our shoulder's back and what to do instead   Learn more about Erica's work here: EricaZiel.com Instagram: @EricaZiel Facebook.com/EricaZielFitness/ Knocked-UpFitness.com Instagram.com/KnockedUpFitness Facebook.com/Knocked-UpFitness   Apply for the Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

Join me + Trauma & Relationship Coach, Evelyn Hale, for a deep dive into the complex and dynamic topic that is the masculine and feminine polarity.   Here's what we discuss: Evelyn's experience growing up in a domestic violence environment and how she fragmented herself in order to avoid feeling shame for what was happening at home The healing power of writing or sharing our stories An overview of masculine and feminine energies that live in all of us regardless of gender Evelyn's journey to restoring her faith in men and the masculine How children are born into victimhood, yet as adults it's our responsibility to heal and remove our "trauma colored glasses" The importance of bringing humor and laughter into our healing journeys Why do women feel unsafe or incapable of expressing their playful, funny, silly side Different flavors of the feminine coexisting and allowing ourselves to be energetically flexible so that we can fully express our feminine essence How women fragment their femininity in order to be successful by society's standards The yearning that many women have for more softness and relaxation The insatiable nature of the feminine   Learn more about Evelyn and her work here: go.evelynhale.com/home   Apply for the Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

On today's episode, I am introducing you to some of my favorite women in the entire world, a few of my clients. These are women who are constantly bucking expectations in favor of their own desires and my hope is that they can inspire you to do the same. You can explore if Feminine Freedom and if joining this amazing community is for you by clicking on this link: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/ Meet Katie Pijanowski. She is a fellow Anti-Diet & Body Image Coach and long time client of mine. She shares her powerful journey of healing her body image, learning to be more in touch with her emotions, letting go of external validation and feeling grounded while she goes through life transitions. Learn more about Katie and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/katiepijanowski/ Meet Katelyn Fox. She is a fellow Master-level coach specializing in body image, embodiment and anti-diet. She shares her journey of moving away from camouflaging herself to finding true sovereignty within her authentic self. Learn more about Katelyn and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/katfoxcoaching/ Meet Daphnie Yang. She is a Mind, Body, Soul Trainer, creator of the Body High Experience and new mother to her sweet son. She shares her powerful journey of healing her body image and releasing stories about motherhood that didn't actually belong to her. Learn more about Daphnie and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/definedbydaphnie/

In this week's episode, I am chatting with Life Coach Jeanine. She is the author of a new book, Team You. This book helps you befriend your inner world within, so all sides of you can work together on the same team. In this episode, Jeanine shares a powerful experience she had connecting to her inner child through a spontaneous song that she intuited while on retreat. She also shares about the modality that she uses with her clients to help them create inner harmony, Parts Work, which is what her book is based on.   Here are the 2 quotes that Jeanine mentioned in the episode: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”― Anais Nin “Joy is peace dancing. Peace is joy at rest.” - Frederick Brotherton Meyer   Learn more about Jeanine and her work here: www.jeaninecerundolo.com https://www.instagram.com/inspiration_motivation_18/   Also, be sure to check out her new book Team You: https://www.amazon.com/Team-You-Confidence-Honoring-Yourself/dp/1737026619/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=team+you&qid=1631201781&sr=8-3   Check Out My Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here: http://www.hollytoronto.com/work-with-me.html Return to Wholeness Journaling Guide: https://mailchi.mp/6adaf207fc0a/rtw-journaling-guide  

This conversation with Chelsea Horton is absolute magic! Chelsea is the founder and CEO of Healing Embodied and she helps people heal from relationship anxiety so that they can pursue loving, fulfilling relationships without all of the doubt and worry.   We covered so much ground in this conversation and Chelsea and I were so delighted to uncover the many parallels in our paths - including our mutual love of early 2000's hip hop and r&b.   Here's what we cover:   How Chelsea learned to fragment herself growing up in a religious, fundamentalist environment where she learned not to trust herself How learning to be in her body again allowed her to heal and come back to wholeness Her unconventional relationship advice: IT'S NOT YOUR PARTNERS JOB TO MAKE YOU FEEL ALIVE (or make you feel anything at all) That our relationships are a reflection of how we feel about ourselves The codependent messages we learn about what relationships "should" look like How relationship anxiety often manifests as doubts about our partner and how to discern when it's actually "your stuff" Triggers being an opportunity for self inquiry The power of being in relationships with people who are different than us because of what we might get to learn about ourselves How our bodies are always reflecting the state of our mind and using movement to navigate challenging emotions The 3 pillars of self trust How intuition is not infallible and how to listen to your intuition while still being open to uncertainty Learning through contrast   I loved this conversation with Chelsea so much! If you got something from this episode, please share it with a friend or on social media tagging both me (holly.toronto) and Chelsea (healing.embodied)   Learn more about Chelsea's work here: www.healingembodied.com

Since starting this podcast, Madison Morrigan has been at the top of my dream guest list and needless to say, I'm thrilled to be connecting with her today.   I was initially attracted to Madison's work because of the way she approaches "buzzy" ideas like sovereignty and self responsibility. She is a coach who leads with integrity and her desire is truly to help you come home to your power, worth and wholeness...not point out your brokenness.   As usual, our conversation was dynamic, covering so many different topics:   Madison's most recent experience of uncovering a fragmented part of herself, her queerness and her journey of leaving her marriage and starting a relationship with a woman Not needing other people's projections or opinions in order to affirm new iterations of ourselves Her commitment to shining a light on what is good in her life  Being able to address harm in the world around us from a stable and grounded place How a little extra presence, attention and beauty can contribute to a life of joy and celebration, whether that's garnishing your food or lighting a candle Increasing our capacity to experience joy more fully How constantly chasing the highs of life can cause us to experience more “crash and burn” or lows as our nervous system's try to find homeostasis Our mutual desire for a stable if not, boring life Unhooking from societal expectations of what life should look like and seeking a life of alignment Self responsibility as not another way to bypass, ignore or excuse the behavior/abuse of others but to reclaim our power and be the adult in our lives Divesting from belief systems that don't align with our values The politics of self responsibility and taking over responsibility to the point of self blame   Connect with Madison and learn more about her Awaken Her Soul Program here: https://www.madisonmorrigan.com/ https://www.instagram.com/madisonmorrigan/ https://www.madisonmorrigan.com/everything-belongs-podcast https://www.awakenhersoul.com/   Sign up for my Return to Wholeness Playlist here: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Our girl, Julie Ohlemacher, is back to help me break down a juicy and deeply personal topic - status seeking. When we live in a world that teaches us our starting place is "un-worth," it's only natural that we'll feel an impulse to fill ourselves through traditional status symbols like wealth, career, relationships and material possessions. Yet often those pursuits leave us feeling empty, unfulfilled and like we're just not enough. Join Julie and I for this vulnerable episode that almost feels like you're getting a peak into a journal entry as we discuss: Looking to themes in nature for guidance and support from Spirit The lessons we've both been learning on surrendering control How stress, chaos and uncertainty might cause someone to fall back on outdated patterns/strategies in order to feel like they have control The nonlinear nature of growth and allowing for cycles of expansion and contraction Our inability to control what other people think of us, while also being within our power to not invest our energy in their opinions or thoughts Status seeking as being all about other's perceptions of us Examining our choices to uncover if they are coming from status seeking/ego or our deepest desires How constantly seeking status creates a void of never enough Choosing to also see rest as success Shifting our focus from external status seeking to happiness, joy and fulfillment in our daily lives Check out my Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/ Sign up for The Return to Wholeness Journaling Guide: https://mailchi.mp/6adaf207fc0a/rtw-journaling-guide    

Meet Nicole Tsong, the best-selling author of 24 Ways to Move More and the founder of Nicole Tsong Coaching, a work/life balance coaching business.   In this episode we discuss:   Nicole's journey of leaving her award winning journalism career to become a yoga teacher, author and coach The all to familiar experience of trying to change an environment (a career, relationship etc) that simply is no working for us How to continue to follow your purpose even when "life keeps happening" and that it's not a perfect life we're looking for but a fulfilling life Purpose as being much more than just your career path but moment by moment choices we make to be our authentic selves The role of wholeness in living out purpose Making choices from worthiness Movement as a tool to uncover and stay connected to your purpose Redefining movement beyond just going to the gym and seeing it as play The role of self trust in accessing the elusive work/life balance   Learn more about Nicole here and download her free gift, 3 Ways Movement Helps You Discover Your Calling: go.nicoletsong.com/movement-events Website: www.nicoletsong.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/nicoletsong/ Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/@nicoletsong_ Facebook: www.facebook.com/papercraneyoga  

I am so excited to introduce your to Linda Kay Klein who, along with being a personal mentor of mine, has a list of accomplishments and credentials too long to list in these show notes! She is the founder and president of Break Free Together, a nonprofit storytelling organization dedicated to helping people release shame and claim their whole selves, and a deconstruction & purity culture recovery coach. While Linda's work has centered around helping people heal after purity culture, she has so many valuable insights around purpose and moving beyond the "good/bad" binary. Her courage to write her book, Pure, even though it threatened to disrupt her relationships and sense of belonging in her community is so inspiring and paramount to the theme of Return to Wholeness. We talk about: How everything from her confidence to her charisma to her desire to hang out with boys was sexualized when she was a child Leaving her religious community in order to have herself What led her to write her book, Pure The difference between purity culture and the purity movement and how federal money was used to fund abstinence based sex education The different drives behind our purpose (joy, thriving, "can't stopness" Moving beyond the binary of good/bad in order to see ourselves as complex, whole human beings Learn more about Linda here: https://lindakayklein.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lindakayklein/ Return to Wholeness Survey: https://s.surveyplanet.com/Cscwhn5yq  

I am thrilled to have Lindsey Lockett back on the show for her 3rd appearance! In this episode, we discuss Lindsey's new online program, Belief Beyond The Binary.   After spending much of her life moving from one binary belief system to another (evangelical Christianity to diet culture to social justice activism), Lindsey has worked to train her brain, her nervous system and her heart to be more comfortable in the grey.   As you'll learn in this episode, seeing the world from a binary set of beliefs is harmful not only to ourselves, but also to our relationships and communities.   In this episode, we discuss:   How anything can become a binary belief system and why someone might be more inclined to turn something into a bbs The self transformation that happened for her in creating Belief Beyond The Binary Separating people from ideologies and understanding that people who fall into bbs aren't nefarious, but often good people who are very scared How the 'hive mind' or group think is created The outsourcing of our goodness to external sources like activism, religion or diet culture Our propensity to always find an enemy to fight What role our sense of belonging plays in leading us to proselytize about our beliefs to others Allowing your beliefs to be something you choose vs something you're coerced into The difference between online activism and harassment The dangers of compelled speech and the expectation that everyone on the internet be a geopolitical expert Learning to coexist with people who think differently than us The importance of boundaries in moving beyond binary belief systems   Lindsey's passion for this work shines through in this episode and is one of the many reasons I trust her as a leader in this space. I have been going through Belief Beyond The Binary myself and it's been incredibly insightful and healing for me.   Click below to sign up for Belief Beyond The Binary and use coupon code holly at checkout to get 10% off your investment: https://lindseylockett.com/bbb/   Podcast Feedback Survey: https://s.surveyplanet.com/Cscwhn5yq    

This week I am joined by Lindsey Curtis, Dream Therapist and Female Embodiment Mentor. Lindsey has a wealth of knowledge on self-mothering, dreaming and sensuality so our conversation covered a range of topics including:   How self mothering allows us to access wholeness, create a new future and rewrite the past Inner mothering as an act of self responsibility A powerful visualization exercise about connecting to the inner child Seeing resistance as a green light to begin a journey of reclamation How disconnection from inner mother shows up in the world around us, as well as in our relationship with ourselves Her frame on becoming the "adult woman" in your life and what it means to be an adult who infuses play and joy into their lives Dreaming as our primordial language How to work with nightmares and reoccurring dreams Sensuality as the foundation of our human experience and the creative power that awakens when we tap into our sensuality   It's such a rich conversation that left me feeling more at home with myself and curious about connecting more deeply with my own sensuality.   Click the links below to learn more about Lindsey and her work: https://www.herreturn.com/ https://www.herreturn.com/podcast-blog https://www.facebook.com/groups/herreturn  

I'm back with another solo episode and it will be the last one for a while because as I declared in the title...I need a break!   In this episode, I share:   A reminder that Body Image Boost is still open for enrollment and getting started on Sunday August 1st (not Monday August 1st like I said in the episode - whoops!) Link below to sign up Why it's important for me to be honest and real with you about what how challenging 2021 has been for me How I've surrounded myself with support during this season That I, too, sometimes ignore my intuition and my body's requests for rest and nourishment Interrupting entrenched patterns of over-productivity, achievement and constant linear growth My desire for a spacious summer and truly giving myself the break I desire How I navigated the resistance that came up around making this choice Standing in my core values that a human beings worth is not defined by their output or any external factor Creating new generational patterns of nourishment and true self care   I hope this episode serves you well!   Links: Body Image Boost: https://julesandhollcoaching.com/14day-body-image-boost The Robcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/everyone-is-looking-for-you/id956742638?i=1000526328571  

OMG She's back again!   My girl, Jules, is joining me for another powerful body image episode and a special announcement about our new 14 day program that is getting started on August 1st, Body Image Boost: https://julesandhollcoaching.com/14day-body-image-boost   In this episode, we discuss the paradox of being more than your body AND a body at the same time and how that guides us on our journey from objectification to personification.   We get super meta which truly serves as deepening into a conversation you may feel like you have heard 100x already.   We discuss: Not allowing body image to come between you and your best life Honoring and respecting the passing down of generational bodily characteristics (your mom's arms, your grandmother's eyes, your dad's hair color) How miraculous and statistically improbable you being born was (1 in 400 trillion) How incredibly wise our bodies are and how that can be an opening for more trust and connection Shifting to gratitude for your body for getting you through lockdown vs worrying about weight gain How to elevate who you are as a person vs what you look like   It was such a rich conversation that took twists and turns we didn't expect.   If it stirred something in you, join us for Body Image Boost as this program will allow you to embody much of what you learned today:   https://julesandhollcoaching.com/14day-body-image-boost  

This week I'm joined by Science Based Intuitive Eating Coach, Victoria Evans and we had a KICK ASS conversation. Even though I've practiced and used Intuitive Eating for 5 years, I found myself learning from Victoria which is such a gift and a testament to just how complex the work of healing your relationship to your body and food can be.   In this episode we discuss: How body shame is the ultimate fragmentation from our wholeness Grieving your dieting identity How perfectionist fantasies keep us from taking responsibility for our lives in the present The evolutionary/primal reasons we diet and pursue weight loss Healing generational wounds of conforming for connection Hiding the most valuable aspects of ourselves because we are ashamed of how we look The role certain brain chemicals play in compulsive behaviors around food What's really happening in our brains when we restrict food How shame activates the same part of our brain that is activated when we experience physical pain which will lead to self soothing behaviors Self sabotage as a form of self protection The importance of human connection on our overall health and overindulging in introversion   And so much more! It was such a dynamic conversation and I can't wait for you to listen.   Follow Victoria and learn more about her work here: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaevansofficial/ https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/weighing-in-on-happy-with-victoria-evans-official/id1449935452 https://www.facebook.com/groups/intuitiveeatingforbadasswomen https://www.victoriaevansofficial.com/programs  

This week I am joined by Kimberlee of @sacredreturning. She is a writer who has been engaging with a community on Instagram for the last few years, focusing on rebuilding life and spirituality after leaving evangelicalism. She is currently writing a book about her process and experience of releasing purity culture through ritual and embodied practices.   In this episode we discuss:   The message she learned growing up in the church that taught her to deny herself, ignore her body and emotions and instead listen to outside authority for direction How purity culture primed her for disconnection from her body The experience of receiving a purity ring and how that made her think about her sexuality and purpose as a woman Using embodiment, ritual and ceremony to heal her experience in purity culture and release her purity ring How purity culture impacts more than just sexuality; it creates passivity, submission and codependency and how she reconnected to intuition   Learn more about Kimberlee here: https://www.instagram.com/sacredreturning/   Learn more about my Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

This week I am joined by Cherie Burton, mom of 6, author, holistic psychologist, speaker, biz owner, Women Seeking Wholeness podcast host, and hobbyist divine feminine scholar.   Immediately after recording an episode for her podcast, we knew that our conversation wasn't complete so we decided to have her come on Return to Wholeness to explore more.   In this episode, we discuss: Cherie's experience facing an unplanned pregnancy as a single woman in the Orthodox Mormon Church Her challenging decision to put her baby up for adoption after the guidance of the disciplinary committee at her temple Breaking patterns of questioning worthiness and religious shame Prayer as an internal dialogue and using sensory tools to open the connection to our emotional body Her experience of finding the Divine Feminine and how that has contributed to her healing.   You can learn more about Cherie and her work here: www.cherieburton.com https://www.instagram.com/cherie.burton/?hl=en https://www.facebook.com/CherieBurtonPage   Explore the Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/   After you listen to the episode, head over to my Instagram and leave me a comment or send me a DM letting me know what landed for you: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/  

My girl, Jules, is back again for another powerful discussion on body image.   With summer arriving here in the northern hemisphere, it's likely that you're on the receiving end of some pretty toxic messaging around getting your "beach body."   In this episode, we share a different perspective than what you might be used to when it comes to this narrative.   We discuss...   Why wearing a bikini (or any specific item of clothing) is NOT the pinnacle of body acceptance Why it's not your bathing suit's job to grant you freedom, joy and presence when you're hanging out at the beach or at the pool...it's your's The power of choice when it comes to buying into harmful narratives about your body and putting life on hold until your body changes Powerful reframes and exercises you can implement NOW to help you feel more empowered and present when you're in a bathing suit this summer Why other people's opinions about your body are about them and not about you (and how your opinions of other people's bodies are also about you, not about them)   If you get something from this episode, head over to my Instagram and share with me what your takeaway was https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/      

It's just us again, my loves!   I'm back for my first solo episode since the Episode #11: This Might Get Me Cancelled. I'm glad to say that the feedback on that episode has been so overwhelmingly positive and this makes me excited to continue to connect with you over dissident thoughts and unpopular opinions.   In today's episode, we're going to be talking about the "compliant woman" - the less infantilizing, more self responsibilizing (I love making up words) way that I am going to be referring to the "good girl" archetype going forward.   In this episode, I share: What exactly is the "compliant woman" and where I believe she originates from (sneak peek: I get a little controversial here, criticizing a manifestation of mainstream feminism) The 5 main patterns of the "compliant woman" that I have identified, while going deep into the most common pattern, self silencing Why self silencing is so common and how it stems from our discomfort with being disliked, disagreed with or labeled, while also being overly responsible for other people's feelings Why self-responsibility is KEY to feminine freedom and how no one else can speak your words but you Plus I share about a powerful workshop, Embody Your Feminine Freedom, that I am hosting on Wednesday June 16th at 7pm ET (link to sign up below)   Embody Your Feminine Freedom Workshop: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/embody-your-feminine-freedom-workshop/   After you finish this episode, head over to my IG and send me a message or write me a comment letting me know your thoughts on the episode: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/  

In this week's episode, I'm interviewing Lauren H. Scott. She is an Ecotherapist and Pleasure Coach specializing in complex trauma, religious trauma and supporting people to reclaim pleasure in every area of life according to their unique blueprint and inner guidance.   We had a rich conversation talking about: *Lauren's experience growing up in Evangelical Purity Culture and how that shaped her relationship to her body and sexuality *How she uses pleasure to support her clients in their healing experience *How we can begin to reclaim pleasure and our bodies *Reconnecting to innocence *Exploring the connection between the vaginal canal and the throat and how that supports reclaiming your voice   Connect With Lauren Here: www.instagram.com/laurenhscott https://community.havenwholeness.com www.havenwholeness.com   Sign Up For: Thriving Beyond The Good Girl