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Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Heidi Friedman to the show, author of the book Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love. After her divorce and stepping into life as a single parent, Heidi woke up one morning shortly after her fortieth birthday with a realization: she wasn't sure she'd ever experienced romantic love.  So, she set out on a journey — one that would take her on 104 dates, and we're going to hear about some of those experiences today. We'll talk about dating after divorce, dating as a single parent, and what it means to find love.  We explore the fears, the logistics, the judgment, and the hope — and how even after the loss of a previous life, love can still surprise you. Because dating in your 40s isn't about starting over — it's about beginning again. Which is kind of the same thing, but you get it! Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Heidi! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Heidi B. Friedman, formerly Goldstein and born Eisman, is a successful attorney and partner at a large law firm specializing in all areas of environmental law and environmental, social and governance (ESG) based counseling. Love Lessons is her first book, but Heidi has written regularly for Bloomberg, Law 360, and other publications related to her professional life and experience as a female lawyer. Heidi lives in Cleveland Heights, Ohio, with her husband Will, and their joint baby, Felix, a cur mix they rescued. Will is Heidi's do-over after being single for almost 10 years and surviving 104 dates. Heidi has four children. Two children she birthed, Morgan (25) and Zach (21) and two are her bonus children, Max (28) and Ben (26). Heidi and Will greatly enjoy traveling as well as spending time with friends. Heidi likes walks around Shaker Lakes, her time at yoga and Pilates, and date nights at a bar with Will. In her life, she has a strong network of amazing women who she treasures and who provide support, guidance and company for drinking wine. You can follow Heidi on Instagram and check out the I Love You More podcast on Apple. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

On this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by dating coach and entrepreneur Tisia Saffold who is going to spill the dating tea with us and share all the big sister dating advice you wish you knew, but maybe haven't heard before ... until now! Here's what you can expect from this episode: Why you can't date potential (and the mindset shift you need right now if you are) How to choose yourself vs. waiting to be “chosen” in dating How to date with detachment, manage your emotions and anxiety, and be less reactive What about asking "what are we," early on, is this a good idea? How can you know if you're being lead on? What is cheap communication currency? (and why watching your stories doesn't mean anything) What is the uno reverse card in dating? And how can you use it to gain your power back? You're dating someone and they say they need space, what to do you in this situation? Can a friends with benefits/casual physical connection become more?  A message from Tisia for anyone dealing with heartbreak and MORE! What are you waiting for, let's goooo!! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Meet Tisia X.V. Saffold! Pronounced "Ta-see-a" and named from her late Mother's birth story of wanting "to see her" after long hours in labor, Tisia was born and raised in Chicago and relocated to the DMV area 10 years ago. Tisia is Founder & CEO of a Tech Startup-Cleare: a compliance software for the childcare industry. In addition to her thriving Startup, Tisia is a beauty and fragrance influencer who has reached over 100M social media accounts, going viral for her unique perspective on dating and relationships. After auditioning as a single in the DMV, Tisia was casted on OWN Networks "Ready to Love" Season 5. Stream the Dear Tisia podcast and subscribe to Dear Tisia on YouTube! You can follow Tisia on Instagram and join the Secret Girls Chat + check out coaching and other offers here. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

“They're heeere…” Join Ian & Megs for our 301st episode as we grab the remote, face the static, and step into the spectral suburbia of Poltergeist (1982). Liam and Kev? They're not with us this week — the house they were recording in was built on an ancient podcast burial ground. We haven't heard from them since, but we're getting some weird interference through the TV… This week we discuss: 301 episodes in — how did we make it this far without getting dragged into the light? How Poltergeist terrified an entire generation while redefining the modern haunted house movie. The age-old debate: how much of this film was Tobe Hooper and how much was Steven Spielberg pulling the spectral strings? Why the film's suburban setting hits harder than gothic castles or spooky mansions — horror in the heart of normality. The infamous curse surrounding the film's production — what's real, what's coincidence, and what's just chilling. Is Poltergeist actually a family drama disguised as horror, and why does that emotional core make the scares land harder? Ian breaks down the film's special effects and practical wizardry — how they still hold up decades later. Ian also shares about some childhood traumas regarding losing beloved toys at school while Megs reminds him that's why you don't bring valuable stuff in Why Poltergeist manages to be scary without ever really being gory — and whether that balance is what makes it timeless. Why do they have a magic remote control and was the guy costuming Dana a creep? And finally, whether Poltergeist is the Best Film Ever — or just the reason we still side-eye our static screens. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Paul Komoroski Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking on of the most universal experiences we all share — loneliness. Joining us is Dr. James Ellis, a psychologist known online as @lonelinessdoctor, whose work explores how loneliness shapes our lives — and what it takes to find connection again. We talk about why meeting people can feel so hard in today, the visible and invisible barriers that keep us from reaching out, and how micro connections - those tiny, everyday exchanges - can actually rewire our sense of belonging. We also explore how external validation ties into our self-worth, and how the search for connection can sometimes become a search for ourselves — because who we are often reveals itself through what we do, how we show up, and how we let others see us. How we connect with our world. This episode is about more than just loneliness — it's about rediscovering the art of connection, one moment, one breath, one flirt at a time. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Dr. Ellis! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:   Dr. James Ellis is a psychologist, speaker, and founder of The Loneliness Doctor. His work explores loneliness as a social health crisis - highlighting the ways in which modern life erodes connection and identifying what it takes to restore it. Through his writing, clinical practice, and public education, he helps redefine how we understand and heal from disconnection in the modern world. You can connect with Dr. Ellis on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

What is connection? And why is connection so important? Not just for our hearts, but for our overall health and wellbeing? What about loneliness? In many ways the inverse of connection, how does loneliness impact our lives? Mentally? Emotionally? Physically? In this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Jemma Sbeg, a creator, author, and host of the "Psychology of Your 20's Podcast" to have a conversation with us all about connection and loneliness. What drives our need for connection? What are some challenges we face when connecting? Why might vulnerability and opening up cause us anxiety? What can we do to overcome this? How about loneliness? Where does loneliness come from and why can we feel it so deeply? What can we do to bring more connection into our lives and combat loneliness? Finally, yoga teacher Flirt Coach is back with a meditation for you on connection! For the final part of the episode, I invite you to get cozy and settle into a guided meditation all about bringing more connection into our lives! *originally aired October 27, 2024* Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest: Jemma Sbeg is the creator and voice behind the wildly popular "The Psychology of Your 20's Podcast" that has resonated with 20 somethings around the world - and those both younger and older! With over 200 episodes (and counting) streaming, you're guaranteed to find a topic that meets you exactly where you're at in life. Jemma's highly informative and entertaining podcast has captured the attention of the "podlings" all over the world, helping us understand ourselves, and each other, a little bit better! Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com  Get the book, "Person in Progress" About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

It's a brand new Flirtini! I'm turning 40 today and what I've got for you in a honest reflection on where I'm at in my life and what's coming next. Thank you for being here! 

“THIS… IS… EPISODE 300!” Join Ian, Liam, Megs & Kev as we hit a huge milestone with our 300th episode by reviewing Zack Snyder's visually explosive, slow-motion-soaked epic 300 (2006). Four hosts, six-packs optional, and absolutely no capes required — though Kev may or may not have shown up in one. This week we discuss: 300 episodes strong — how did we get here, and who yelled the loudest doing it? How 300 redefined the look of early-2000s cinema and became the blueprint for a decade of digital epics. Is 300 the natural endpoint of a cinematic obsession with masculinity that began with Braveheart and Gladiator? Just exactly how much does this movie borrow from these films and which elements does it outright steal How the film balances mythic masculinity with questionable historical accuracy — and does it matter? Megs is here to give us some historically accurate statements on the battle of Thermopylae We've got a classic BFE taste test of a product you won't believe Several people reach out to congratulate us and some familiar voices show up to toast with us  Which one of us would make the best Spartan, and which one would be sent to tell the story? The surprising cultural impact of “This is Sparta!” — and which line from the movie we've all been yelling at each other for days. Ian breaks down the film's visual language and pacing — why Snyder's comic-book literalism both elevates and limits the story. And finally, whether 300 is the Best Film Ever—or just the most gloriously sweaty milestone we could've picked. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Paul Komoroski Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Sam Ogborn,  a marketing strategist, creator, and pop culture commentator who has a unique lens on how the internet influences the ways we connect. Sam is here to help us break down the narratives we're constantly consuming — from viral videos to marketing campaigns — and what they reveal about our desires, expectations, and identities. How do algorithms and social media shape dating? What about the role of AI? How do we search for belonging and community online — through fandoms, message boards, and private spaces - and what does it mean for connection? Finally, where do we go from here? Are algorithm free spaces the new frontier online? This one's all about dating in the age of algorithms, and how we can still find something real in a digital world. Alright Flirties, it's time to log on, slow the scroll, and meet Sam! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Sam Ogborn is a marketing strategist, creator, and pop culture commentator who explores the intersection of culture, connection, and the digital world. With a background in brand storytelling and over a decade of experience in marketing, Sam unpacks how the internet shapes our identities, relationships, and the way we see ourselves. Through her content, she brings a sharp, relatable lens to everything from viral trends to dating culture, helping audiences think critically—and laugh a little—about the world we scroll through every day. You can connect with Sam on Instagram, TikTok, and Substack. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Are you ready to date deliciously?! On this episode, we welcome Torah Cents, who is going to give us all the details on how to infuse more fun, passion, pleasure, and desire into your dating life for an ultimately delicious experience! We'll hear how to date deliciously on the apps and in person, creating engaging conversations that are sure to keep things interesting - and lead to to dates! Of course we've got some tips on how to flirt deliciously, too! But that's not all. We'll be talking about how to savor confidence and feel more empowered and secure when meeting new people and going through the dating process. If you don't know what lover girl limits just yet  - and why you need them - you'll soon find out! Finally, we've got wrapped up in this episode several mindset shifts to date with more presence, more ease, and more calm so you can make truly inspired connections, get out of your head, and enjoy just how delicious dating can be! *originally aired September 22, 2024* Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Torah Cents is known for her practical and unorthodox approach to dating for Women of Faith. She believes that dating should be delicious…and if it's not…you're doing it wrong. She has helped thousands of women attract quality men, confidently date for the relationships they desire and has been fully launched on a mission to help women of faith create real options in men and  choose themselves first (instead of waiting for a man to choose them). 

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini! This one is all about how to date (aka choose) yourself! Why this matters, what this looks like, and how to do it! Inside the episode, 7️⃣ ways to date yourself!  

You're not anyone unless you're on a podcast - It's a full house this week as Ian, Liam, Megs & Kev are all actually in studio together for our 299th episode, sinking our teeth into Gus Van Sant's razor-sharp media satire To Die For (1995). That's right—no Zoom delays; no apologies, best wishes or excuses, just four podcasters, four microphones, and an unhealthy fascination with fame.  We're skating on thin ice in our 299th episode as we discuss: We learn the name under which Joaquin Phoenix's early films were classified—and why it might surprise you. There's a lot of talk about what day of the week the podcast actually comes out on (and whether any of us even know). We all want to enter the alternate casting universe to see who the producers wanted to play Suzanne—and whether that version of the film would've worked at all. Is Suzanne Stone one of Nicole Kidman's greatest performances—or is she just too good at being awful? How the film predicted the age of reality TV and social media fame years before they existed. What's the line between ambition and sociopathy—and where does Suzanne fall on that spectrum? How Van Sant uses tone to walk the line between dark comedy and true crime tragedy. Why To Die For feels both 1990s and frighteningly current in 2025. Which scene left us most uncomfortable—and which line still gets a nervous laugh. And finally, whether To Die For is the Best Film Ever—or just the most chillingly relevant film you've never revisited. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE   We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Paul Komoroski Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Claira Hermet to have a conversation with us about self-love, confidence, and how we can turn ordinary moments into something extraordinary. Claira is a coach, speaker, and creator who inspires women all over the world to fall in love with themselves and to romanticize everyday life.  In this episode, we're talking about the truth behind self love and confidence, what it means to practice confidence, the misconceptions that can keep us stuck, and how romanticizing your life can change not only how you see yourself, but how you show up in dating and relationships. We'll also hear about Claira's personal story of loss, how our experiences can shape how we understand ourselves, and how we can find our way through. Alright Flirties, let's talk confidence, self love, romanticizing our lives, and lean into the hopeful romantic inside all of us. Now let's meet Claira! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Claira Hermet is a dynamic media personality with a diverse background in presenting for BBC London, GRMDAILY.COM, SBTV, BT Sport, and BBC Radio 1Xtra. As a content creator, self-love coach, and fitness enthusiast, I'm on a mission to empower individuals through genuine conversations. Facing personal challenges, including the loss of my mother and sister to breast cancer, I underwent a preventive double mastectomy, sparking a transformative journey. I candidly share my experiences with humor and authenticity in vlogs and posts, covering topics like mental health, dating, and solo travel. Committed to fostering inclusivity, I blend relatability and entertainment in my content, creating a secure community. My unique approach inspires others to embrace authenticity, making me a beacon of empowerment on the path of self-improvement. Connect with Claira on Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

On the show today is none other than Star Monroe! We've got an incredible conversation about how to embrace - strut! - into main character energy (and what the truly means), as well as how to decenter men and center your fine self!  A few topics discussed include internal vs. external validation, seeing the world through the male gaze, what happens to the ego during times of self doubt, the importance of embodying healing (and how to do it), the truth about authenticity, and more. After the main interview, the mics stayed hot once more and the Flirt Coach ... got coached! You don't wanna miss this moment. Then for the second segment of this episode, I've got a meditation for you on cultivating inner confidence that pairs perfectly with Star's interview. You can listen to it driving, but at least pull over to do the practice! 

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini! This one is all about how to get over a situationship! Here's what you can expect: ➡️ What is a situationship? (and what else we can call it!) ➡️ Why does it often hurt when they end? ➡️ What happens in the brain and body? ➡️ What are some ways to “get over” aka move on from a situationship? ➡️ Is a situationship ever the right thing to do? ➡️  What are some characteristics of this type of connection? ➡️  How can I get closure and look forward? ➡️  What if they want to stay in my life?  

#Skinnytok ging insbesondere auf TikTok viral. Ein Hashtag, hinter dem so genannte Skinny-Influencerinnen das angepriesen haben, was langfristig gesundheitlich schadet: So wenig wie möglich essen, um immer dünner zu werden. Der Hashtag wurde von TikTok gesperrt, die Inhalte auf Social Media aber bleiben bis heute. Carina Parke von “team.recherche” erzählt in dieser Folge von einer jungen Frau, die auch durch Abnehmcontent auf Social Media in eine Essstörung gerutscht ist. Wer profitiert vom Online-Ideal, so dünn wie möglich zu sein? Hier geht's zum Film "Skinny um jeden Preis – wer profitiert vom Abnehm-Hype?" von Carina Parke, Sonja Peteranderl und Rabea Westarp: https://1.ard.de/teamrecherche_abnehm-business?11km Ihr braucht Hilfe oder wünscht euch mehr Informationen zum Thema Essstörungen? Schaut mal auf der Webseite des Bundesfachverbands Essstörungen (BFE) vorbei. Dort gibt es auch einen Überblick über freie Therapieplätze: https://www.bundesfachverbandessstoerungen.de/service/freie-therapieplaetze/ "Abnehmspritzen: Ein fettes Geschäft" heißt die 11KM-Folge, in der das intransparente Milliardengeschäft mit dem angedachten "Gamechanger" für Adipositas-Erkrankte deutlich wird. Diese frühere 11KM-Folge findet ihr hier: https://1.ard.de/11KM_Abnehmspritzen_Geschaeft Hier geht's zu "Baborie & Rakers – Was war los gewesen?", unserem Podcast-Tipp: https://1.ard.de/_bx8k Diese und viele weitere Folgen von 11KM findet ihr überall da, wo es Podcasts gibt, auch hier in der ARD Audiothek: https://www.ardaudiothek.de/sendung/11km-der-tagesschau-podcast/12200383/ An dieser Folge waren beteiligt: Folgenautorin: Jasmin Brock Mitarbeit: Lisa Hentschel Host: David Krause Produktion: Adele Meßmer, Jacqueline Brzeczek, Konrad Winkler, Marie-Noelle Svihla und Lisa Krumme Planung: Hardy Funk Distribution: Kerstin Ammermann Redaktionsleitung: Fumiko Lipp und Nicole Dienemann 11KM: der tagesschau-Podcast wird produziert von BR24 und NDR Info. Die redaktionelle Verantwortung für diese Episode liegt beim BR.

“You don't get to nearly 300 episodes without making a few enemies.” Join Ian, Liam & Kev for our 298th episode as we log on, code furiously, and sue each other over The Social Network (2010). Megs? She's not with us this week—she's in “Facebook jail” for excessive poking (it was bound to happen). We're carrying around a chicken for a week in our 298th episode as we discuss: Our best day for downloads ever—and it's not even close. Our trip to an award show (well… kind of). A new Patreon joins the fold—proof we're building our very own social network. Just how much credit should the money man get vs the idea man? What is it that makes Aaron Sorkin's writing so great—and why does this film feel like it moves at the speed of thought? What's the one part we think the film gets wrong? Does the absence of errors make a film a masterpiece—or does it need a few rough edges to feel human? Jesse Eisenberg as Zuckerberg: sympathetic genius or socially awkward supervillain? Fincher's precision—how much of the film's impact comes from direction versus dialogue? And finally, whether The Social Network is the Best Film Ever—or just the sharpest film of the 2010s. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Paul Komoroski Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking anxiety, overthinking, and perfectionism in dating! You know that feeling when you replay every text, second-guess what you said on a date, or try so hard to show up as your “best self” that you forget to just be yourself?  Joining us for this conversation is Dr. Jennifer Wolkin. Dr. Jen is a neuropsychologist, writer, and ADHD advocate, here to help us make peace with our brains, understand ourselves a little bit more, and why we do think the things we do! Inside the episode, we'll hear about what happens in the brain when we're overthinking, how perfectionism can sabotage connection, and where dating anxiety really comes from.  Dr. Jen shares simple practices for grounding yourself before a date, how we can reframe perfectionism and worry, and building self-compassion along the way. This one is all about the neuroscience behind our emotions in dating and how we can not all anxiety and overthinking to run the show. Alright Flirties, let's take a breath, let go of the “what-ifs,” and meet Dr. Jen! Watch on YouTube! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Dr. Jen, PhD, MFA, is a licensed psychologist, and Harvard-trained neuropsychologist.  She founded a private practice with an appreciation that our mind, body, and brain are intimately intertwined and impacted by one another.   She is also a writer, speaker, mindfulness practitioner, and mental health advocate.   Her first book, Quick Calm: Easy meditations to short-circuit stress using mindfulness and neuroscience, was published in 2021.  Her next book about finding your ADHD Blueprint is forthcoming from Tarcher in 2026. She has her MFA in poetry, and has published in multiple literary journals, mostly writing what she likes to name "neuro-poetry."  Dr. Jen is in Menopause, and unabashedly neurodiverse.  You can connect with Dr. Jen on Instagram (ADHD Page/Personal Page) Buy the book, Quick Calm:  Easy Meditations About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Ingrid Clayton to the show! Dr. Clayton is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of the brand-new book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back. If you've ever found yourself people-pleasing, over-accommodating, or twisting into knots to keep the peace in dating and relationships, this episode is for you.  Fawning is known as the ‘fourth trauma response'—alongside fight, flight, and freeze—and it's one that often flies under the radar. It can look like kindness or care, but at its core, it's a survival strategy that leads to self-abandonment. In this conversation, we'll unpack what fawning really is, how it shows up in dating and relationships, the cost of constantly prioritizing others and—most importantly—how to begin the healing journey so you can show up in dating without losing yourself. Along the way, we'll also get into how fawning is different from people pleasing and masking, what happens in the body during a trauma, and strategies for reclaiming the self. This one is about understanding the roots of the most overlooked trauma response and carving a path forward for healing.  Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Dr. Ingrid Clayton! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a clinical psychologist with a Master's in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology. She is an author whose groundbreaking work explores complex trauma and the fawn response. With over two decades of clinical experience, Ingrid blends personal narrative, psychological research, and cultural insight to offer a fresh, de- shaming perspective on healing. Her work integrates trauma-informed modalities like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and other nervous system–oriented practices that support real, embodied transformation. She believes healing happens in relationship, and the heart of her practice has always been real connection and collaboration. Ingrid's work has been featured in Psychology Today, Oprah Daily, Women's Health and more. Her memoir, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, has resonated with thousands of readers for its honesty, humor, and heart.  Fawning:  Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves -- and How to Find Our Way Back Website, Instagram, YouTube About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini! In the last one we talked about multi-dating and in this one, it's how to get a date! Here's what you can expect: ➡️  Where to meet people:  online vs. in person ➡️  The dating app trick you need so your profile stands out FREE Dating App Survival Guide ➡️  Meeting people in person (what do looks have to do with it?) ➡️  How to detach from expectations (and thus seeing yourself how you want to be perceived) ➡️  How to handle potential rejection ➡️  How to actually meet people (eh hem, flirt with your life!) ➡️  Where to meet people ➡️  Conversation tips/strategies ➡️  Breaking down two common pieces of dating advice:  "It happens when you least expect it," and "everything happens for a reason" ➡️  Your Flirtini homework and what comes next  

“It's just a jump to the left…” Join Ian, Megs & Liam for our 297th episode as we put on our fishnets, grab some toast, and throw rice in the aisles for a dive into the cult classic The Rocky Horror Picture Show (1975). Kev? He makes a very late entrance—literally busting through the door in gold hotpants shouting “Don't dream it, be it!” in our 297th episode as we discuss: Is this the greatest cult film of all time—or just the weirdest date night ever committed to celluloid? Do we forgive this film for its lack of consent based on the overall themes of inclusivity… when maybe we really shouldn't? How Tim Curry turned Frank-N-Furter into one of cinema's most iconic characters—and why no one else could've pulled it off. Susan Sarandon and Barry Bostwick as “the straights”—and why they're the perfect foils for absolute chaos. We've got some thoughts on free speech and what's happening with Jimmy Kimmel—because much like Rocky Horror, controversy loves a stage. Why the soundtrack still slaps nearly 50 years later—and which numbers we still belt out. How the midnight screening culture kept this film alive—and whether fan participation is more fun than the movie itself. Which jokes land, which ones haven't aged well, and why the film still divides audiences. Is Rocky Horror satire, celebration, or just… unexplainable? And finally, whether The Rocky Horror Picture Show is the Best Film Ever—or just the best excuse to dress up and sing badly in public. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're looking at the intersection of sexuality, trust, expectations, and accountability in dating! Joining us is Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed couples and family therapist, known as the “sexpert's sexpert” for her decades of work in sex and relationships, and author of the upcoming book "A New Position on Sex." In the episode, we'll explore how to distinguish between expectations and needs in dating, how to build trust through agency and accountability, and how understanding your own desires can transform the way you show up in relationships.  We'll talk about the idea of accountability in dating and how we hold ourselves accountable first, - a big part of self -trust! — and trying to fix others or teach them how to be the partners we want them to be. This one's all about building trust, the role of accountability, managing expectations, and allowing our sexuality to take up as much space as we want. Alirght Flirties, let's do this, and meet Dr. Julianna! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  With over two decades of experience supporting people to discover their own sexual agency, Dr. Juliana Hauser leads conversations about taboo topics like sex and sexuality, menopause, intimacy, relationships, and more, with approachability and expertise. She has a PhD in Counseling Education; has a thriving virtual private practice; is a beloved media personality on screen, on stage, and in print; and is a TEDx speaker. Dr. J is also the creator of the holistic sexuality courses including Revealed, and is the author of newly-released A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure, and Authenticity—find it on all major online retailers. Learn more about "The List" Excercise "A New Position on Sex" Get the book! Instagram About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Fernie is back on the show as we celebrate the change of seasons with something a little magical — it's the autumnal equinox dating horoscope! Fernie, an astrologer, mystic, and guide to all things cosmic and flirty, is here to help us navigate this shift and together, we'll explore what dating and flirting vibes you can anticipate this fall. The equinox is all about balance — and it's the perfect time to think about how we can bring that same harmony into our dating lives. We'll talk about letting go of old patterns, why overthinking is sabotaging the vibe, and even get a flirty little mantra to carry us through this season. The knight of swords also makes a visit, we'll hear what virgo and libra have to say about things, why October 13th needs to be on your calendar, and finally Venus and Mars enter the chat! So, how can we play and flirt with all of these energies this coming season? Stay tuned (and maybe grab a pumpkin spice latte!) and let's see what the cosmos have in store for love this fall. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube! Let's get into it, Flirties, and meet Fernie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it's been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him. He's also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher's certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini! This one is all multi-dating! Here's what you can expect:   ➡️ What is multi-dating and how to do it. ➡️ How multi-dating is different from roster dating. ➡️ The two multi-dating traps (and how to avoid them). ➡️ Examples of timelines in multi-dating (how many people do you date and for how long?). ➡️ How to deal with comparing people you date (and getting stuck in overthinking!) ➡️  Pros/cons to multi-dating (and how to know if it's right for you). ➡️  Whether or not I multi-date (and why!).  

“Do you feel lucky, punk?” Join Ian, Megs & Liam for our 296th episode as we prowl the streets of San Francisco, badge in one hand and .44 Magnum in the other, for a look at Clint Eastwood's career-defining role in Dirty Harry (1971). A killer on the loose, a cop who won't play by the rules, and a city hanging in the balance—this episode asks all the right questions, even if Harry never bothers to. It's cops, criminals, and constitutional crises in our 296th episode as we ask: Yes, Dirty Harry is cool—but do women actually like this film? What's with all the nudity, and how much of it serves the story? Why does Scorpio do anything he does—and why does his logic (or lack thereof) drive us mad? How has Harry never learned what actually invalidates evidence or a confession? Law 101, Callahan! Why does the mayor keep calling him like he's on speed dial for bad PR? How deaf is the kid doing the fishing? And how long would it take for him to notice what's going on behind him? Why is Scorpio so disparate in his understanding of the value of hostages—demanding one thing one moment, then undercutting himself the next? Why doesn't the SFPD sit Harry home when he's framed on regional television? What exactly does the ending mean—resignation, rebellion, or just Eastwood being Eastwood? Which line from the film is one of the most misquoted in television history? We share some thoughts on the Charlie Kirk shooting and the public's reaction to it - are we losing our humanity? And finally: when exactly does DNA evidence become a thing—and how would it have changed the whole movie? Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE. We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Flirties, today we're diving into a concept that can truly transform the way you date: detachment. Not the kind where you shut down or stop caring, but the kind where you finally stop tying your worth to someone else or external circumstances. Joining us for this conversation is Sabrina Bendory, a dating and relationship expert, host of the You Will Be OK podcast, and author of the powerful new book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible. Inside the episode, we'll explore what detachment really means and how to practice it in dating and relationships. We'll get into the differences between self confidence, self worth, and self esteem, how to detach from the timing of things, ways to practice acceptance, the reasons so many of us over-attach in dating, and ultimately how we can become irresistible by being ourselves. So, if you've ever found yourself spiraling over “What did that text mean?” or felt like your entire worth depends on whether someone chooses you, this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties, and meet Sabrina! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! ⬇️ Work with me! ⬇️ Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Sabrina Bendory is a writer, relationship expert, and coach who specializes in helping people build unshakable self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and attract the love they deserve. Her work blends psychological insight with real-world tools, empowering readers to heal from past wounds and create healthy, fulfilling relationships. Sabrina is the author of several best-selling books and guides on dating, detachment, and emotional resilience. Her work has been featured in top publications, including Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, Newsweek, NY Post, and more.  Through her writing, courses, and private coaching, Sabrina has helped thousands of people stop chasing love and start attracting it by becoming their most grounded, magnetic selves. You can follow Sabrina Bendory on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube @sabrinabendory. Learn more and get your copy of Detached! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving into the world of polyamory with Leanne Yau!  Leanne is an award-winning polyamory educator and through her platform PolyPhilia, she creates educational and entertaining content to help people navigate non-monogamous relationships with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Inside the episode, we'll get into what polyamory is (and isn't), the biggest myths that surround it, what monogamous daters could learn from polyamorists, and how to take the first steps if you're poly-curious.  We'll explore frameworks like the relationship escalator and relationship anarchy, the different types of polyamory, and cover dating essentials like communication, boundaries, and even jealousy! But that's not all, we answer some of your top questions like when do I tell someone I'm polyamorous, what if I don't have much experience, but am dating someone who does, and how do I know if polyamory is right for me? Whether you're new to polyamory or just curious, this conversation will give you insights and tools to approach dating and relationships with more ease. Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Leanne! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Leanne Yau is a British award-winning polyamory educator, writer, speaker, certified sex and relationships educator, and trainee psychosexual therapist whose work is all about non-monogamy and sex positivity. She creates educational and entertaining multimedia content about creating healthy and sustainable non-monogamous relationships, drawing from her lived experiences as a polyamorous, bisexual, neurodivergent, kinky, and Asian agender femme who has been openly non-monogamous since 2016. Since 2020, Leanne has connected with millions across the globe through her social media posts, online and in-person talks, workshops, panels, and lectures, in the media, and her private non-monogamous peer support sessions. She also writes ‘A Polyamorous Perspective', a polyamory advice column at Gay Times. Leanne was named in ‘15 LGBTQ+ Educators Who Took Instagram Infotainment To The Next Level' (Buzzfeed, 2021), '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok' (Cosmopolitan, 2022), and ‘60 Top Influencers Who Are Actually Worth the Follow' (Men's Health, 2023). She holds a Special Recognition and Appreciation Award for her contributions to the non-monogamous community (The Panel ENM, 2021), and was nominated for Sex and Relationships Creator of the Year (BCreator, 2024). Follow Leanne on Instagram Book a Peer Support Session Join Leanne on Discord YouTube, Other Socials + Offers/Coaching About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini! This one all about expressing interest in dating and here's what you can expect:   ➡️ How to express interest in dating and why this matters! ➡️ What does expressing interest have to do with someone's emotional availability? ➡️ How showing interest will help you attract higher quality connections and dates. ➡️ What you can do when the nerves or thoughts of being “too much” take over. ➡️ How you can attain clarity on where someone stands if you're unsure if they're interested. ➡️ Why showing interest will help you make dating less about the chase and more about connection!  

“This gun says you live, this gun says you die.”  Join Ian & Liam for our 295th episode as we step into Tarantino's world of money drops, double-crosses, and smooth soul soundtracks with Jackie Brown (1997). Kev? He's running a cash pickup at the mall but got distracted by an Orange Julius. Megs? She's busy cutting a deal with Ordell Robbie that may or may not involve a new handbag. But don't worry—we're not flying solo. We're joined by BFF of the BFE: Shai Bergerfroind, who slipped us a cassette tape of Delfonics tunes and insisted this was the Tarantino film to talk about. This week we discuss: How Jackie Brown might be Tarantino's most mature film—and why it doesn't get the same love as Pulp Fiction. Pam Grier's powerhouse performance: is this one of the greatest star comebacks in cinema history? Robert De Niro as the quietest ex-con ever—and how a single scene changes everything. Samuel L. Jackson's Ordell: terrifying or hilarious, or both at once? Is this the most “realistic” Tarantino film? And does that make it better or just slower? Ian and Liam debate whether this film is about survival, romance, or just getting by. Shai drops in to explain why the soundtrack is the real star of the film (and why he's been humming Delfonics all week). Which scenes had us holding our breath—and which ones could've been trimmed. Why Max Cherry might be Tarantino's most underrated character—and how Robert Forster's quiet dignity steals the show. And finally, whether Jackie Brown is the Best Film Ever—or just the coolest hangout movie you forgot you loved. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE. We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're getting into one of the most confusing— and yet sometimes intoxicating—dating experiences out there: it's lovebombing.  You know that rush when someone comes on strong with over-the-top attention, affection, and promises? At first, it can feel magical—like you've finally found ‘the one.' But beneath the surface, lovebombing can be manipulative, destabilizing, and even harmful. To help us understand what lovebombing really is—and what it isn't— we're joined by Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and dating coach who has worked with thousands of women to build healthier dating lives. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Time, and the Today Show, and today she's here to help us get to the root of why lovebombing happens, how we respond to it, and how we can tell the difference between genuine interest and manipulation. We'll talk about the red flags to look out for, how to recognize when we're lovebombing, how the spark plays into all of this, and the tools you can use to slow things down and stay focused on the connection without wasting your time. So, if you've ever wondered what the heck is lovebombing or you're looking for clarity around how this plays out in dating, this episode is for you! Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Kelsey! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  "After facing challenges attracting the right man, self-love and maintaining a healthy relationship for years (even during my master's program!), I came to the realization that no one ever guides us in these areas. I was astonished by the lack of resources to learn how to attract and sustain a healthy relationship. Drawing upon my training as a licensed therapist, I took it upon myself to create the courses I needed for during my own dating journey. What initially started as a personal quest to overcome my own struggles has evolved into a comprehensive system that has assisted 1,000s of clients in fostering strong self-relationships and attracting the right healthy partner they desire." Follow me on Instagram, check out my website for trainings and coaching, and download the free dating app resource mentioned in the episode! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Are you ready for some (fantasy) football?  We're back with our Patrons once again and invited a returning special guest to join us to fill out the field  We've got your BFE favourites - Ian, Liam, KevDog, Georgia and Megs drafting live.  We're also joined live by some of the BFE Patreon personalities, adding to the merriment. It's a peak behind the curtain as you catch the BFE group just kicking it as we pretend we know what we're doing with Fantasy Football.  In between bites of Pizza and Chicken Nuggets we provide commentary on the picks by our absent drafters (Rev Bruce, Duane Smith, Kevin from The Podcast That Wouldn't Die, Stew from the SWO, Ryan Kuketz, Nate the Great, Juleen, Ensign Ian Davies, and Dirk - whether they're drafting remotely or letting the computer do the heavy lifting) There's pizza, banter, and a behind-the-scenes perspective that might help you know your BFE peeps a little bit better.

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Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving into a topic that makes so many of us squirm—small talk.  Maybe you dread it, maybe you wonder what the point even is, or maybe you just want to know how to turn casual conversations into real connections. To help us out, we're joined by Dr. Connie Wang, a dentist, creator of the Just a Quick Pinch podcast, and known online as the Small Talk Doc! Dr. Wang has made it her mission to show that small talk isn't awkward filler—it's a learnable skill that can transform the way we date, flirt, and connect. In this episode, we'll explore how to shift your mindset around small talk, how to practice it in real life, and how to move from surface-level chatter to meaningful connection—without the pressure.  We'll talk about small talk as a skill, how we can boost conversational confidence, and the little cues that make you instantly more engaging. We'll share ways to create engaging small talks, how to open them, close them, and strategies for asking questions that lead to connection. So if you've ever wished small talk felt easier—or even fun—this one's for you.  Let's get into it Flirties, and meet Dr. Wang! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach Dr. Connie Wang is a family dentist based out of Boston, Massachusetts! Prior to receiving her Doctorate of Dental Medicine, she received her Doctorate of Pharmacy from the University of Rhode Island. Her favorite degree of all however, is being a certified yapper. A self proclaimed personality hire & lover of all things communication, she is on a mission to make the world a little less lonely for each and every person. Her social media content on TikTok and Instagram (@drconniewang) focuses on harnessing the power of small talk to become the most connected, confident, and happiest version of you possible. When she isn't yapping about yapping, she is still yapping on her own podcast called Just A Quick Pinch - a podcast for young healthcare providers that shares both communication pearls and the weekly pop culture news for listeners to make small talk with patients and coworkers. And when she's not doing that she's probably "making returns" at TJMaxx and mysteriously ending up with another haul, to her husband and dog's surprise. Feel free to reach out on any platforms to connect, would love to chat about your communication/small talk/TJMaxx questions! Flirt Coach interview on Just a Quick Pinch About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

The Flirtinis are BACK and this one is all about "Tips for a First Date!" Here's what you can expect from this Flirtini: ➡️  First date communication (planning the date and confirming the date) ➡️  What you can wear and dating mindset ➡️  Where you can go/what you can do for a date ➡️  How you can greet each other ➡️  Conversation tips/what to talk about ➡️  Strategies for different scenarios (what if they don't ask any questions, what if they won't stop talking) ➡️  How you can explore compatibility ➡️  How you can end the date (maybe you want a second date or maybe you don't!)

“Sometimes your battles choose you.” Join Ian, Liam & Kevdog, alongside BFF of the BFE: Hermes Auslander, for our 294th episode as we head into the Rust Belt for gritty drama, family duty, and some Woody Harrelson menace with Out of the Furnace (2013). Megs? She's away this week on a last-minute trip to Sweden after answering a classified ad for ABBA's long-lost fifth member—working title: Mamma Mia 3: Megs Strikes Again. This week we discuss: It's a Hermes pick, so you know what that means—another therapy session on the pod. Find out when each of us stopped supporting Woody Harrelson (and for one of us, it's much later than you'd think). What's the difference between simply stating your opinion and actively trying to sway someone else's opinion? Someone forgets how time zones work in this one (and no, it's not just Hermes). What's the real measure of being a man: flashy success or the daily grind of quietly providing for your family? Is Zoe Saldana a much better actress than we gave her credit for—and is this her most underrated performance? Which scene impressed Ian the most with its cinematography—even though it was one of the hardest to watch. What exactly was going on with Willem Dafoe's character—and why can none of us pronounce the name correctly? What is the definition of working a double shift, and why do we all seem to have different answers? And finally, whether Out of the Furnace is the Best Film Ever—or just a quietly powerful entry in the blue-collar tragedy canon. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE. Catch so much more of Hermes Auslander on The Scuttlebutt Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scuttlebutt-podcast/id1503504933 (Apple) or https://open.spotify.com/show/2n9CNB9X6QXnmvn78HBEoJ?si=1bf26c4a13cd4234 (Spotify)   We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking values based dating with Kelsea Warren! Picture this:  you date based on timing, chemistry, or pressure—like friends settling down or feeling like you're running out of time.  While this can all be very real, what if dating wasn't about chasing a spark or checking boxes, and instead was about grounding yourself in your values? What if clarity on your values could not only help you choose a partner—but also prevent dating burnout, heartbreak, and the feeling of losing yourself in the process? To explore this, we're joined today by Kelsea Warren, back on the show! Kelsea helps individuals and businesses elevate wellbeing and prevent burnout by identifying and aligning with their core values and after this episode, I think values based dating just might be your next dating strategy. We'll talk about what dating values actually are, how they're different from surface-level preferences, and why getting clear on them can shift your entire approach to love. We'll explore how to bring values into the dating conversation without scaring someone off, and how to spot green flags that someone shares your values—even if they don't say it directly. So, whether you're new to dating, stuck in patterns that don't feel good anymore, or just craving more intentional connection, this episode will help you build relationships that align with who you are. Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Kelsea! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Kelsea Warren is a coach, consultant, and speaker who specializes in burnout prevention. She has a master's degree in social work and is approaching candidacy for a Ph.D. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology. She is an expert in employee burnout and workplace values and uses that as the lens to help thousands of high achievers create and sustain aligned careers and organizations improve their employee experience. Kelsea has 6+ years of experience consulting and has worked with hundreds of businesses and employees to operationalize their values for wellbeing. Before that, she spent 8+ years in mental health and working as a clinical therapist. Kelsea has an organic audience of 150k+ across social platforms, which has landed her collaborations and keynotes with brands like Urban Decay, Cox Communications, Association for Talent Development, and University of Arizona. Kelsea is also an Air Force spouse of 12 years and a mom to 2 daughters. A gift from Kelsea! Make sure to grab your FREE resources!  Workplace Values Assessment & Wellbeing Audit Get to know your values with the FREE character strengths assessment:  https://www.viacharacter.org/. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving into a topic that I know many of you wonder about, but don't always say out loud:  friend crushes.  You know the feeling—when someone who started out as “just a friend” suddenly makes your heart race, or when you catch yourself asking: could we be more? To explore this fascinating—and sometimes complicated—dynamic, we're joined by human connection enthusiast and host of the Socially Delightful podcast, Jewel Hohman. Together, we'll explore everything from how to tell if a friend might like you back, to the best way to ask them out without making things weird.  We'll also get into some perhaps trickier questions—what if they don't feel the same, what if people gossip, what if it stirs jealousy in your friend group, or what happens if the relationship ends? But that's not all! We'll also look at platonic friend crushes (cuz those exist, too!), the role of vulnerability, the power of connection, why we should all be flirting a little bit more, and how we can do just that. So if you've ever had a friend crush—or maybe you're in the middle of one right now—this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties, and meet Jewel! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Jewel Hohman is a connection expert with a degree in psychology and a pending master's in social work, combining Evidence-Based Self Help and the latest friendship research to help women in their 20s and 30s to build friendships that actually nourish them. In a post-pandemic world, people are more disconnected and lonelier than ever. We're ALL craving more meaningful connection, but how to make it? How to confidently build friendships that support us? Let's unpack the science behind friendships that actually nurture us. Learn more about Jewel on her website and follow @connectionwithjewel on all social media platforms! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

“The future is coming.” Join your favourite TransAtlantic podcasting trio – Ian, Liam & Megs – for our 293rd episode as we pop our claws, don our leather suits, and revisit the film that redefined the superhero genre for the new millennium: X-Men (2000). Kev and Georgia? They're cage fighting in Northern Alberta—because of course they are. This week we discuss: Ian and Liam get into a dust-up about what constitutes a gang—whose side are you on? What's with all the wavering accents in this film? How on earth did Magneto know that Rogue had her powers when Rogue, Wolverine, and even Professor X didn't? Ian delights in the blink-and-you'll-miss-it cameo by a Canadian Prime Minister (true patriot love). We reflect on Auschwitz as a tourist destination and Ian shares a story about a fashion faux pas that might have landed him on the wrong tour. Was Anna Paquin actually the biggest star attached to the film at the time of its release? You won't guess what Bryan Singer banned from the set—and no, it wasn't claws. Our favourite ghostwriter pops up once again—this time with a surprising link to X-Men. Alternate casting choices: the Wolverine that makes us laugh out loud, and a Professor X that would've been a disaster… but we still want to see it, even if the studio told him to “beat it” (not like that). How do superheroes actually get their names? That's the class we wanted to see at Xavier's. What exactly are the rules of Mystique's powers again—and why is Toad weirdly overpowered? Which character has the worst trash talk despite having the perfect set-up? (Spoiler: lightning shouldn't strike twice.) We talk about meeting up with two Friends of the Podcast this week and drinking pints no matter the occasion. One cast member opens up about a wardrobe malfunction that made mutant fashion even harder to pull off. And finally, whether X-Men (2000) is the Best Film Ever—or just the first stepping stone on the path to superhero dominance. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE. We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Coming up on this episode of Flirations, we're joined by Carly Ann, a therapist and attachment expert, here to have a conversation with us about the anxious/avoidant dynamic in dating! We'll talk about why this duo happens so often in dating, how to spot the difference between lovebombing and genuine interest, are they avoidant or not interested, and how anxiety shows up in the dating process. We'll get into what to do when insecurities, self doubt, or attachment wounds try to pull us off track and how your attachment style and nervous system are connected. We'll explore the origins of our attachment styles, why it's not only about your childhood and family dynamics, and even how our attachment styles are fluid, not fixed. Finally, how to tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility, ways to build secure attachments with others and within ourselves, and some communication strategies for early dating. So, whether you feel like you've experienced the anxious/avoidant dynamic before, are curious to learn more, or just need something to listen (hello!), this episode is for you. Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Carly Ann! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Carly Ann is an integrative therapist who helps people who worry, overthink, and find themselves stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. She supports those who feel anxious, fear abandonment, or find themselves overreacting, especially when it feels like they have already tried everything. Carly Ann's mission is to show people that they are not alone and they are not stuck. Through her work, she helps individuals stop feeling “crazy” and reconnect with the version of themselves they were always meant to be: content, secure, and confident, before life, criticism, or loneliness made them doubt who they are. Work with Carly Ann:  21 Day Anxious to Secure Course, grab the Anxious Attachment Bundle, follow on Instagram, and Subscribe on YouTube. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're answering one of the biggest questions in dating! Are we actually connecting — or just attaching? Joining us Dr. Janine O'Brien, a psychologist, educator, and trauma-informed relationship specialist, who helps people untangle their attachment patterns and build more secure, meaningful relationships. We'll unpack how to spot the difference between lovebombing and genuine interest, why we sometimes confuse intensity with intimacy, and the ways our attachment wounds show up in dating.  We'll also talk about the marathon first date, what it looks like when we rush through dating, and how to ease dating anxiety so connection comes first. Finally, we'll explore what it means to develop self-trust, why we don't need to hold everyone accountable, and how we can spot emotional availability within others and within ourselves. If you've ever found yourself anxiously replaying texts, feel like you keep making mistakes, are ready to just give up, or curious about dating again, this episode is for you.  It's for everyone, basically! Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Dr. Janine! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Dr. Janine O'Brien is a licensed clinical psychologist, practice owner, and relationship coach.  She specializes in working with millennials navigating anxiety, people-pleasing, relationship challenges, tricky family dynamics, modern dating, attachment wounds and relational trauma.  Her approach blends depth and relatability, helping clients untangle the roots of their struggles while building the clarity and confidence to create the kind of connections they actually want.  At the heart of her work is the belief that everyone deserves to feel secure and confident in their relationships, including the one they have with themselves. In addition to her therapy practice, Dr. O'Brien is currently developing a course that blends self-paced learning, group coaching, and community support designed to help insecurely attached individuals move toward secure embodiment in their dating and relationships.  She has also been featured in outlets such as Huffpost, Very Well Mind, and Bustle, and is passionate about making psychology and mental health resources accessible and holistic. You can connect with Dr. O'Brien on her website and Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

“Ditto.” Join your favourite TransAtlantic podcasting duo – Ian & Liam – for our 292nd episode as we step into the supernatural, spin the pottery wheel, and revisit one of the great romantic blockbusters of the '90s: Ghost (1990). We're trading dream layers for subway spirits and Whoopi Goldberg one-liners as we discuss: Which member of the cast desperately needed an advocate behind the scenes just to get the part. Are there times when being a bad actor or actress is actually the right call in casting? Ian stumbles upon an almost-casting he would've loved to have seen—and another rumoured choice we take great umbrage with. Is the pottery scene one of the greatest cinematic moments of all time… or do we only remember it that way? Are Molly and Sam too perfect as a couple? Or is that exactly why the film works? Who on earth came up with the name Sam Wheat for the protagonist? We've got questions. Why does the cat only show up in two scenes—and does it secretly hold the key to ghost physics? Speaking of which: we welcome back Ghost Physics 101 as a proud course in the ever-expanding BFE syllabus. The sad story (both in canon and real life) of the Subway Ghost—no $5 footlongs here, just heartbreak and haunting. And finally, whether Ghost is the Best Film Ever—or just the most romantic take on death since Shakespeare. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE. We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going into the world of codependency with Vanessa Bennett! Vanessa is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a sought-after speaker, co-host of the hit podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, and author of the new book The Motherhood Myth. Her work shines a light on how generational trauma, societal expectations, and personal experiences shape the ways we show up in relationships. We'll get into the origins of codependence and the different ways it shows up, and how we can identify patterns of control, validation-seeking, and over-functioning (hi people pleasing!),  and move toward interdependence, self-trust, and authentic connection.  In our conversation, we explore how codependency is rooted in a fear and can feel as gripping as addiction. You'll hear about the link between attachment styles and codependent behaviors, as we break down the difference between healthy attachment vs. emotional dependence, sharing tools you can use to build relationships that feel supportive - without losing yourself. So, whether you've dated from this place of feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions, or found it hard to let go of someone even though you knew they weren't good for you, this episode offers both clarity and a path toward healing. Let's get into it Flirties, and meet Vanessa! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, is licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator devoted to the lifelong work of coming home to the Self. In her words:  “My approach blends depth psychology, archetypal wisdom, and embodied healing—but it's also no-nonsense, rooted in lived experience, and grounded in truth. I believe healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you were before the world told you to be small.” Vanessa leads immersive healing retreats, workshops, and custom curriculum-based programs for nonprofits and corporations and founded the Inner Compass Academy, where she trains and supervise coaches and therapists to integrate depth and embodiment into their work. Her newest book, The Motherhood Myth, explores how patriarchy, capitalism, and generational trauma have shaped our narratives around parenting, partnership, and identity, and how we begin the process of coming home to ourselves. You can follow Vanessa on Instagram and learn more about her work on www.vanessabennet.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Dr. Lisa Wade, a sociologist, assistant professor at Tulane University, and the author of the landmark book American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus.  Her groundbreaking research draws from the intimate, real voices of college students and reveals that hookup culture isn't just about casual sex—it's a social system with its own rules, hierarchies, and pressures. We'll explore how this culture took hold and the surprising ways it shapes how we all date and connect cuz we all know hookup culture isn't limited to the college campus. We'll also look at trends, like why Gen-Z is having less sex than previous generations, how gender and power dynamics still influence intimacy, and what might be replacing the hookup script. So whether you've lived through hookup culture, opted out entirely, or are curious about how it's evolving today—this is a conversation about desire, connection, and the cultural forces that shape both. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Dr. Wade! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach Watch on YouTube About our guest:  Lisa Wade is an Associate Professor at Tulane University with appointments in Sociology and the Gender and Sexuality Studies Program. As a public-facing scholar, Lisa works to make her and others' scholarship engaging to a public audience. To this end, she is the author of American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus; an introduction to sociology titled Terrible Magnificent Sociology; a sociology of gender textbook, Gender: Ideas, Interactions, Institutions, with Myra Marx Ferree; and numerous research articles. Her newest book—a documentation of undergraduate social life during the pre-vaccine pandemic—will be published next year. You can find her online at lisa-wade.com, on Instagram at @lisawadephd, and on Bluesky at @lisawade.bsky.social. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

“You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.” - It's a solo mission this week as Ian takes the lead in our 291st episode, descending through dreamscapes, spinning tops, and subconscious heists in Christopher Nolan's mind-bending Inception (2010). Liam, Megs, Kev, and Georgia? They're all trapped in deeper dream layers, and Ian's holding Level 1 until someone figures out how to kick them back to reality. We're trading banana peels and baseball anthems for snow fortresses and Paris folding in on itself as we discuss: Why Inception still stands as one of Nolan's most ambitious films—and whether the world has caught up to its complexity. Nolan is a genius of narrative construction, but are there times where genius needs governance to ensure the story remains accessible for the masses? Why do the subsequent dream layers respect the science required to access the first dream—and why do they stack so neatly when logic suggests they shouldn't? How Inception violates the golden rule of introducing a “superpower” (in this case, a key ability) and then never using it again for the rest of the movie. The art of lucid dreaming, and how being alone this week means Ian can finally reveal what his recurring dream looks like (spoiler: it involves movie theatres). Which dream layer steals the show—and which feels like the bathroom break level. The ongoing debate: does the ending mean something definitive, or is that missing the point? Why Inception works as both a blockbuster and an intimate story about loss, guilt, and letting go. How Hans Zimmer's score became a cultural event—and why the “BRAAAM” sound is still echoing through cinema today. And finally, whether Inception is the Best Film Ever—or just a beautiful puzzle box we'll keep spinning forever. Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE. We are extremely thankful to our following Patrons for their most generous support: Juleen from It Goes Down In The PM Hermes Auslander James DeGuzman Synthia Shai Bergerfroind Ariannah Who Loves BFE The Most Andy Dickson Chris Pedersen Duane Smith (Duane Smith!) Randal Silva Nate The Great Rev Bruce Cheezy (with a fish on a bike) Richard Ryan Kuketz Dirk Diggler Stew from the Stew World Order podcast NorfolkDomus John Humphrey's Right Foot Timmy Tim Tim Aashrey Buy some BFE merch at https://my-store-b4e4d4.creator-spring.com/. Massive thanks to Lex Van Den Berghe for the use of Mistake by Luckydog. Catch more from Lex's new band, The Maids of Honor, at https://soundcloud.com/themaidsofhonor. Also, massive thanks to Moonlight Social for our age game theme song. You can catch more from them at https://www.moonlightsocialmusic.com/.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by the marvelous Lily Womble—a feminist dating coach, former top matchmaker, host of the Date Brazen podcast and author of Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love.  Lily is on a mission to help us break free from the beliefs the patriarchy has embedded in our love lives—and to ask for more.  In this conversation, we talk about what it means to date as a feminist. We explore everything from how the patriarchy shapes modern dating culture to why so many women feel like they're “too much” and “not enough” at the same time.  We'll hear about Lily's experience dating as a self described late bloomer, we'll unravel the tension between wanting to be chosen and choosing for ourselves, how you can overcome a scarcity mindset - thoughts like, “It'll never happen for me!” - by harnessing the power of desire. We also get into black cat energy, the male gaze, and flirting, of course! So, whether you've ever felt behind in dating, struggled to believe you deserve more, or found yourself following traditional gender norms and yet it's not for you - you're going to want to hear this. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Lily! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Lily Womble was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S. After setting up hundreds of first dates, she realized that with the right tools, high achieving women could match themselves better than anyone else ever could.  She started her company, Date Brazen, five years ago and has since helped thousands of women become their own expert matchmaker with her unconventional, intersectional feminist approach to dating.  She's on a mission to interrupt the patriarchal status quo found in the dating world to help women create love lives that are self-trust filled, settle-proof, and actively joyful.   She changes lives daily with her 85k+ TikTok community, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast- , and sold-out coaching programs world-wide. She lives in Brooklyn with her fiancé, Chris. You can find out more about working with Lily here, buy Thank You, More Please, follow Lily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and stream the Date Brazen podcast. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going straight to the source of transformation—the subconscious mind. Joining us for this conversation is Natalie Stavola, a certified hypnotherapist, coach, author, and speaker with a deeply personal story of healing—from addiction and self-sabotage to empowerment and purpose.  Natalie helps people rewire limiting beliefs, release emotional blocks, and rebuild the self-trust needed to experience relationships based on truth rather than pain. Inside the episode, we'll learn why your subconscious mind might be the very thing keeping you from what you want and how our earliest programming creates the beliefs we carry into adulthood. We're talking about what it means to date while stuck in survival mode, how shame and self-doubt can sabotage connection, how to identify our limiting beliefs, and finally, how to reprogram them. If you're ready to stop asking all the questions and instead start listening to yourself again… this one is for you.  Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Natalie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Natalie Stavola is a globally recognized career and dating coach who has helped over 3,000 people worldwide transform their lives. Known for her direct yet compassionate style, she specializes in helping men—especially those entering or navigating positions of power—develop emotional intelligence, shift internal power dynamics, and break free from limiting beliefs. Certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), coaching, and a degree in Psychology and Communications, Natalie empowers clients to access deeper self-worth, improve communication, and thrive in both their professional and romantic lives. Her coaching techniques have consistently produced fast, lasting results, attracting high-achieving individuals from all walks of life. She is also a #1 Amazon New Release author in the dating and relationships category. You can follow Natalie on Instagram, work with Natalie 1:1, and schedule a FREE 60 minute discovery call.  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

You know we love our wrestling here at the BFE (well… some of us do). Join Ian as he's joined by Stew from the Stew World Order as we once again break format and lace up the boots for a deep dive into SummerSlam 2025. We're asking the big questions: were we fooled by a worked injury? Has Cody Rhodes finally stopped crying? Should Johnny Gargano and Candace LaRae be in couples counselling? What do you do when what's called "literal handcuffs" aren't actually handcuffs on a card that will have actual handcuffs later in the night? Why is SmackDown's tag roster so strong compared to Raw and the same for Raw's women's division vs Smackdown? How do we feel about the John Cena heel turn, it's subsequent babyface turn and the big surprise ending to both nights?  Plus, Ian reveals a punny future feud for Big Bronson Reed. We're unpacking all that and more from WWE SummerSlam 2025—and of course, we'll tell you whether you should SEE IT or SKIP IT. Hear so much more of Stew on his website - https://swoproductions.com/ and on his podcast:  Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stew-world-order/id1559913522 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6fLcKIHFrYBwMqhFryFMM6

“Nice beaver.” / “Thanks, I just had it stuffed.  Join Ian & B-Tech Kev for our 290th episode as we suit up, slip up, and dive headfirst into the gloriously ridiculous world of The Naked Gun (1988). We're trading time-travelling dystopias for banana peels, police files, and a barrage of visual gags as we discuss: In slapstick, how silly is too silly? Is there a line—or is the whole point to obliterate it with a steamroller and a tuba? Kev shares stories from his recent trip to New York City: the sights, the sounds, and whether each of us are New York or Los Angeles people Ian talks about the return of the weight game and how this is a summer of inward reflection Ian also shares some personal stories about his father—and how certain films like The Naked Gun carry more than just laughs; they carry memories. We explore Leslie Nielsen's genius—how his straight-faced absurdity became the gold standard for parody. Can a film this silly still resonate in today's comedy landscape? Or is this brand of humour an extinct species? Do background jokes, blink-and-you'll-miss-it sight gags, and tightly wound chaos make this more than just a spoof—Does it become precision parody? Baseball anthems, the Queen in peril, exploding toilets, and a police officer with the worst undercover skills in cinematic history. And finally, whether The Naked Gun is the Best Film Ever—or just a walk down memory lane Become a Patron of this podcast and support the BFE at https://www.patreon.com/BFE.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by speaker, creative force, and bestselling author Amber Rae, author of Choose Wonder Over Worry and her new book, Loveable, One Woman's Path from Good to Free. In this memoir, Amber shares how one day, four years ago, while married, she looked into the eyes of a stranger and fell instantly in love. What ensues is a raw story about breaking up with her previous life, choosing herself, and following her intuition toward love. Inside the episode, Amber opens up about walking away from a safe but disconnected marriage, and finding the courage it takes to want more in a world where it's easier to settle. We talk about trusting your intuition, following desire, and how to recognize when you're bargaining with yourself to stay in something that no longer fits.  Amber shares what it means to ask the universe for a sign—and how we can listen? We'll hear about how she handled the judgement of leaving her marriage, what we can do with regrets, and ultimately how to know when it's time to walk awya. This conversation is an invitation to stop outsourcing your worth and start listening to your inner voice. Whether you're navigating a crossroads, healing from a breakup, or learning to trust yourself again—this episode will meet you there.  Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Amber Rae. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Amber Rae is a bestselling author and speaker best known for books Choose Wonder Over Worry and The Answers Are Within You. She's also the creator of The Feelings Journal, a tool that transforms the way you engage with your emotions. Her writing and illustrations reach 9M people per month, and her work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, New York Magazine, TODAY, SELF, Fortune, Forbes, and Entrepreneur. As a keynote speaker and teacher, Amber has worked with companies such as Kate Spade, Meta, Microsoft, and TED. Amber lives in New York with her husband and son. Preorder Loveable, then learn more about Amber Rae on her website and Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

You know what Flirties, I have a question for you. Have you ever met someone and just knew they were the one? Maybe it was instant chemistry, maybe it was a slow burn, or maybe it was heartbreak that cracked you open in a way nothing else ever had? Well today, we're diving into the soul-level stuff—those invisible forces that draw us to each other, shape our relationships, and sometimes, break us apart. Joining us for this episode of Flirtations is the luminous Danny Santos, a spiritual guide, psychic medium, and the intuitive heart behind @santoscrystalvisions on Instagram, to have a conversation with us about soulmates, twin flames, karmic connections, and timing in dating. What does it mean when we feel an undeniable connection with someone? How do we know if it's love… or a lesson? Is timing really everything?  And what if—maybe the hardest question of all—what if I feel like we already met our soulmate and it didn't work out? What if the love of my life has already come and gone… will I find love again? Flirty, of course it will. We're hopeful romantics here on Flirtations! We'll also talk about dating karma, the invisible string theory, and why some connections feel written in the stars—even if they never find a forever. We'll untangle how to recognize when you're stuck in a cycle and how to clear your energy so you can call in the kind of love that truly aligns. This one is soulful, expansive, and a little bit witchy—in the best way. Whether you're in the middle of something cosmic, letting go of something karmic, or waiting for the universe to catch up… this conversation is for you. So take a deep breath, Flirties, and settle in—because we're gonna get very real about spiritual connection and the sometimes messy, but always magical road to love. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Danny! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Danny Santos is the Astrologer, Psychic Medium, and Integrative Healer behind Santos & The Crystal Visions. With 20 years of study in the cosmos, Danny's expertise blends the magic of astrology with tarot, reiki, breathwork and psychic mediumship. His repertoire also extends to Ayahuasca shamanism and plant medicine.  Danny has a unique astrological approach. He is an Archetypal Astrologer, which means he intertwines astrology expertise with the psychoanalytic theories of Freud, Jung, and Lacan, providing astrological insights that heal, clarify, and foster a connection to our collective consciousness. Trained as a shaman under Don Enrique Lopez-Fasanando of the Shipibo lineage in Peru, Danny has mastered advanced shamanic techniques, including icaros and plant spirit communication, enriching his holistic approach to healing and spirituality. He is a trained psychic medium under Colby Rebel—his mentor who was voted Los Angeles' best psychic in 2022—and hosts the Astro Daddy Podcast, where he explores astrology, shamanism, plant medicine, and other spiritual topics with his guests. Danny has contributed his insights to outlets like The New York Post, Refinery29, Bustle, and Well+Good, as well as podcasts such as Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman (the dating coach for The Drew Barrymore Show), Broke Girl Therapy, and The Double Teamed Podcast. Most recently, he was the resident astrologer for luxury resort MUSA in Zihuantanejo, Mexico.  Danny is a fervent advocate for mental health and has been featured and works with The National Alliance on Mental Illness as well as Pineapple Support, a non-profit organization that specializes in bringing mental health support to the people of the adult entertainment industry. He is currently preparing to work with veterans, survivors of human trafficking, and people with PTSD.  In his free time, Danny writes music and sings. You can hear his first single, “Poppies For Edwin,” on Spotify. You can follow Danny on Instagram and TikTok. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Editor - Yan Miles ACE, BFE Andor editor Yan Miles partly attributes the decision not to extensively use the Stagecraft "volume" technology as the reason why his series has a distinctly different look and feel to other shows under the Star Wars banner. Instead, Andor leans into real-world environments, capturing the grit and authenticity that Yan believes enhances the narrative. Another significant factor in that differentiation is Tony Gilroy's writing, where the narrative complexity lies. Despite knowing the ultimate fate of characters like Cassian Andor, the series thrives on the uncertainty surrounding minor characters and their arcs. It's in these uncharted territories that the tension in Andor finds its heartbeat. Season 2 of Andor continues the chronicling of Cassian Andor's journey as he becomes a key figure in the burgeoning Rebel Alliance against the Galactic Empire. The season covers the four years leading up to the events of Rogue One, with each arc spanning a year.  Yan Miles ACE, BFE Yan Miles ACE, BFE is an acclaimed film and television editor whose work spans some of the most prestigious and visually dynamic series of the last decade. A member of both American Cinema Editors and British Film Editors, Yan has brought his keen sense of story and rhythm to internationally celebrated productions such as The Crown, Sherlock, and Game of Thrones. Known for his ability to blend emotional nuance with bold editorial choices, his work has helped define the tone and texture of modern prestige television.   The Credits Visit ExtremeMusic for all your production audio needs Streamline your postproduction pipeline with Shade See which model of Avid Media Composer is right for you Subscribe to The Rough Cut podcast and never miss an episode Visit The Rough Cut on YouTube