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Why are we so scared of change? The second half of your life can be happier, sexier and more fulfilled, but you may need to blow some stuff up. To find out how, we're bringing you interviews and frank, irreverent, inexpert advice on everything from career and aging to sex and body image in what used to be called "middle age." Laugh, get honest, break the rules and stop caring what other people think. Join us, and we can be hot together!

Erin Keating


    • Jun 26, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 41m AVG DURATION
    • 125 EPISODES

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    The Hotter Than Ever podcast is a game-changer for women around the world who are seeking empowerment and freedom. Hosted by Erin, this podcast is filled with amazing guests, vital topics, and a sense of fearlessness that encourages women to live their dreams unapologetically. From the moment I discovered this show, I was hooked and listened to every episode from the beginning. Erin's story and the topics she covers resonated deeply with me and many others who have felt like they were living within arbitrary rules for far too long. The podcast has given me a renewed sense of confidence, self-discovery, and the courage to embrace my true self. It feels like having a friend to talk to about all the difficult topics I am faced with at this stage in my life.

    One of the best aspects of The Hotter Than Ever podcast is Erin's ability to create a supportive space for honest and insightful interviews. She brings vulnerability, warmth, and wisdom to every conversation, allowing her guests to share their stories in an authentic way. The discussions are thought-provoking and empowering, providing listeners with valuable life lessons. The pep talks throughout each episode are also uplifting and motivating, serving as reminders that we have the power to create change in our lives.

    On the downside, some listeners may find that certain episodes or topics may not resonate with them personally. As with any podcast that covers diverse subjects and experiences, it's natural that not every episode will be relevant or appealing to everyone. However, I believe that there is something valuable to take away from each episode if you approach it with an open mind.

    In conclusion, The Hotter Than Ever podcast is a must-listen for any woman seeking inspiration, empowerment, and personal growth. Erin's authenticity shines through in every episode as she shares her own journey while inviting guests to do the same. This podcast provides a safe space for women to explore their emotions, fears, and doubts while being reminded of their own strength and resilience. The Hotter Than Ever podcast is a powerful tool for women to align themselves with living free and fearless, and I highly recommend giving it a listen.



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    Latest episodes from Hotter Than Ever

    How To Have a Truly Intimate Relationship with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2025 69:41


    “Having a fantastic relationship is a learnable skill.”So many of us crave deeper connection, more spark, and a sense of feeling not just content, but truly alive, decades into love and relationships. But what if your desire has dulled, your partnership feels stuck on autopilot, or you're no longer even sure what you want, let alone how to ask for it? Enter Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, “The Intimacy Doctor”, a physician, relationship coach, author, and podcast host, whose mission is to help women and couples create conscious, erotically vibrant partnerships in midlife and beyond.Join us for a candid and empowering conversation with Dr. Stockwell on breaking the cycle of compromise, rediscovering your desires, and bringing more pleasure into your life… and your bedroom. We dive into why:Great relationships and intimacy are built through intention and skill, not just chemistry or timeDesire alone isn't enough to sustain relationships and the importance of reflecting on how deeply you truly want somethingMany women discover deeper pleasure and connection later in lifeUncompromising intimacy, rather than compromise, is the real secret to a nourishing, fulfilling relationshipEveryday interactions shape long-term intimacy just as much as what happens in the bedroomCuriosity and asking open-ended questions can reignite emotional and sexual intimacy with your partnerVulnerably sharing how something made you feel creates more connection than placing blameOUR GUEST: Alexandra Stockwell, MD, “The Intimacy Doctor”, is a relationship and intimacy expert who helps high-achieving couples create emotionally connected, erotically vibrant partnerships. A physician-turned-coach, she's the bestselling author of Uncompromising Intimacy, host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program. Married for 28 years with four children, Dr. Alexandra teaches that the key to lasting passion isn't compromise, it's authenticity. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, Cosmopolitan, and more.Want more Dr. Stockwell? Find her online at https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/ and listen to her podcast, “The Intimate Marriage Podcast”, using the link below or wherever you get your podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intimate-marriage-podcast-with-intimacy/id1548060690 Follow her on: IG: @intimacydoctor FB: @Intimacydoctor Youtube: @intimacydoctor Tiktok: @intimacydoctor LinkedIn: alexandrastockwell Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram:

    The Surprising Thing Your Teen Actually Needs From You with Megan Saxelby

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2025 68:47


    “Adolescence isn't the end of your close relationship with your child, it's the beginning of the best one you've ever had.”For so many parents, the teenage years loom like a storm cloud, fraught with anxiety, conflict, and the fear of losing connection. But what if everything you think you know about adolescence is dead wrong? What if it's not a time to dread or simply get through, but an invitation to lifelong closeness and understanding with your kids?In this episode we sit down with Megan Saxelby, founder of Wild Feelings, veteran educator, and reformed “middle school monster” on a mission to radically reframe how we all understand and approach adolescence. Drawing from 17 years in middle school classrooms and her pioneering work in dignity-based conflict resolution, Megan shares how these pivotal years can unlock the best, most meaningful relationships we'll ever have with our kids. We discuss:Why the “doom and gloom” narrative about teens does everyone (kids and adults alike!) a massive disservice, and what actually happens when we expect more from themThe powerful science behind adolescent brain development (hint: ages 11–17 are just as crucial as birth to five—and why we need to stop checking out right when it matters most)How dignity-based conflict resolution can transform peer relationships, empower young people to speak up, and bring empathy and accountability into every hard conversationThe number one thing teens want: to truly MATTER, to belong, and to have agency—along with simple, actionable shifts you can use to support them (no matter whose kid they are)Real talk about parenting through change: whether that's divorce, growing up, or just learning how to be your child's anchor, not their peerPractical ways to help teens (and yourself) meet the chaos of growing up, especially in a world that makes belonging and inclusion feel more urgent (and more fraught) than everOUR GUEST: Megan Saxelby is on a mission to reframe adolescence as a time of growth and connection—not chaos. A veteran educator and founder of Wild Feelings, she brings 17 years of classroom experience and cutting-edge research to her work with parents. Megan has collaborated with thought leaders like Rosalind Wiseman and Dr. Donna Hicks, and helped develop core curriculum for #halfthestory, a leading digital wellness nonprofit. Through Wild Feelings, she offers practical, evidence-based tools that help parents navigate the teen years with confidence and compassion.Want more Megan? Find her online at https://www.wildfeelings.co/ and check out her parenting course here: https://www.wildfeelings.co/parents/ Follow her on Instagram at @wildfeelings.co and on Substack https://wildfeelings.substack.com/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    Matchmaking Secrets from LGBTQ Dating Guru Dr. Frankie

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2025 53:13


    Dating in today's world can feel confusing, lonely, and (thanks to the apps) a lot like a part-time job with no benefits. But what if finding a connection isn't about chasing elusive chemistry, endlessly scrolling, or pretending to be someone you're not? Enter Dr. Frankie Bashan: a clinical psychologist, longtime connector, and pioneering LGBTQIA+ matchmaker whose mission is to help every person find authentic love, no matter what boxes they check.In this conversation, Dr. Frankie joins Erin to share her personal story and lift the veil on what really works (and what doesn't) when it comes to finding partnership in midlife, especially for those outside the hetero dating mainstream. We dive into:Turning your strengths and superpowers into a careerThe power and success that come from finding your niche in business and serving underserved communitiesWhy dating apps are designed to keep you wanting, not finding, and how matchmaking flips the scriptWhy chasing the “fireworks” in dating chemistry can be a trap and not a path to a healthy, sustainable relationshipHow your “list” might be holding you back, and why letting go of overly specific criteria in favor of three core dealmakers can open you up to real connectionHow matchmaking for the LGBTQ+ community is different and what straight daters can learn from queer dating wisdomOUR GUEST: Dr. Frankie Bashan is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and founder of Little Gay Book, the leading LGBTQ+ matchmaking service in the U.S. With over 20 years of experience supporting queer individuals and couples, she combines emotional intelligence, intuition, and a personalized approach to help clients find meaningful, lasting love. Known for her emotional intelligence and trauma-informed approach, Dr. Frankie boasts an 85% matchmaking success rate to support clients around the world. She also co-hosts MTV's Are You The One and offers coaching globally via Zoom.Want more Dr. Frankie? Find her and her matchmaking services online at https://littlegaybook.com and follow her on Instagram at @littlegaybookmatchmaking Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    How To Co-Parent So You Don't F*ck Up Your Kids with Christina McGhee

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 58:19


    Divorce is often treated as the end of the story, but what happens after the separation, when the real work of navigating co-parenting begins? In this episode, we sit down with Christina McGee, renowned divorce parenting expert and author of Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids. With over 20 years of experience supporting families through change, Christina reminds us that divorce doesn't make you a bad parent, it simply means you're a parent navigating a tough chapter. Join us for an honest and deeply practical convo of what it means to redefine “family” when the old scripts of custody battles, “my time,” and visitation as a commodity, no longer serve us or our children. Erin and Christina dig into:Why terms like “custody” and “visitation” turn parenting into a transaction and how shifting to “parenting time” can center kids and reduce emotional strainHow kids come to take on the emotional burden of divorce, especially when parents get stuck on splitting time "equally"Why 50/50 custody isn't one-size-fits-all and how to build a parenting plan that actually works for your childWhat to do when your values clash with your co-parent's discipline style and how to respond with empathy instead of reactivityConcrete strategies for holding space for big feelings, validating your kid's emotions, protecting their right to love both parents, and avoiding the blame gameHow to lean into your co-parent's strengths (even if they're not your strengths) so your child feels supported from all sidesOUR GUEST: Christina McGhee is a divorce-parenting expert who believes divorce doesn't make you a bad parent—just a parent going through a tough time. For over 20 years, she's helped families and professionals keep the focus on what matters most: the kids. She's the author of Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids, creator of the Co-Parenting Specialist™ Certification Program, and Education Director for the SPLIT Outreach Project, which produced the acclaimed Split documentary films. Learn more at divorceandchildren.com or coparentingspecialist.com.Want more Christina? Find her online at www.divorceandchildren.com and www.coparentingspecialist.com. Check out her Book: “Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids” on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2MK4Mya Follow her on: IG: @divorceandchildren Facebook: @divorceandchildren Linkedin: @christinamcgheeWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Diving Deep Into Intimacy and Desire with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 51:12


    “ We don't choose what turns us on… but we get to play with it.”Too often, women move into adulthood (and even marriage) without a real roadmap for understanding their own desires, let alone the conversations that bring intimacy to life. In this episode, we're exploring how putting yourself at the center of your erotic life can transform not just your sex life, but your confidence, creativity, and sense of empowerment in every area.Our guests, Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, are co-founders of the Somatica Institute, known for their pioneering, hands-on approach to sex and relationship coaching. They don't just teach theory—they teach the real-world skills we all wish we'd learned in school, like tolerating awkwardness, negotiating desires without guilt, and sitting with the sometimes-uncomfortable tension of wanting different things to create deeply fulfilling relationships. In this candid, powerful episode, Erin, Danielle, and Celeste unpack:Why so many people enter adult relationships without the tools to express feelings, ask for what they need, support a partner, or handle emotional tensionThe importance of women learning to re-center themselves (over others!) in sex, relationships, and lifeHow to sit with discomfort and why it's essential for creating healthy, lasting relationshipsWhy most of us are taught to downplay our own pleasure and how to finally unlearn itCreating a “pleasure menu”: how getting specific about your unique turn-ons and needs can transform sex and relationshipsWhy a wide range of sexual fantasies can be a healthy part of your erotic life when explored consciously and consensuallyWhy we don't get to choose what turns us on, but we can choose how we play and interact with those feelings in the bedroom, with agency and empowermentHow building a “village” of emotional support (friends, therapists, community) can take the pressure off your romantic relationshipsOUR GUESTS: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they've transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they've trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships. Authors of three influential books—Making Love Real, Coming Together, and Confidence—Danielle and Celeste blend authenticity, humor, and bold honesty to inspire transformation. Their relatable insights into intimacy and connection make them captivating guests, offering audiences practical tools to enhance relationships and live passionately.Want more Danielle and Celeste? Find them online at https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/ and https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somatica_institute/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomaticaInstitute FB: Somatica Institute: https://www.facebook.com/somaticainstitute FB Celeste and Danielle:...

    Telling The Truth of Women's Lives with Jessica Zucker

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 50:19


    “You are not alone.”We hear this phrase often—but truly feeling less alone is something else entirely. Real connection begins when we share our stories, speak our truths, and let ourselves be seen. Few people champion this idea more powerfully than today's guest, Dr. Jessica Zucker. Jessica is a psychologist specializing in reproductive and maternal mental health, and is the author of “I Had a Miscarriage: A Memoir, a Movement”. After experiencing her own miscarriage, Jessica launched the now-viral #IHadAMiscarriage campaign—a deeply personal yet universal invitation for women to speak their truths on their own terms. Her next book, “Normalize It: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women's Lives”, is out on April 22nd.In this episode, Erin and Jessica explore the silence, shame, and societal expectations around grief, body image, motherhood and many other fundamental aspects of women's lives—and how sharing our stories can help dismantle them. We discuss:Why storytelling is an act of liberation—and how speaking openly about miscarriage and other stigmatized experiences builds healing and connectionHow silence around common women's experiences like infertility, illness, menopause, and abortion perpetuates shame and isolationThe problem with comparative suffering—and why women often minimize their pain by telling themselves “others have it worse”How girlhood teaches us to self-silence and be “good,” and the long-term impact this has on authenticity and self-expressionWhy it's essential to talk to kids early and openly about bodies, sexuality, and emotionsThe cultural cost of silence—and how creating space for women to share their whole truths can shift the narratives we've been taught to hide OUR GUEST: Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based psychologist specializing in reproductive health and the author of the award-winning book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement. Jessica is the creator of the viral #IHadaMiscarriage campaign. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, Vogue, and Harvard Business Review, among others. She's been featured on NPR, The Today Show, and Good Morning America and earned advanced degrees from New York University and Harvard University. Her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women's Lives, is out April 22nd!Want more Jessica? Find her online at https://www.drjessicazucker.com/ and check out her books “I Had A Miscarriage” and “Normalize It” at the links below:https://www.drjessicazucker.com/i-had-a-miscarriage https://www.drjessicazucker.com/normalize-it Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ihadamiscarriage/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    Joyful Dating with Feminist Dating Coach Lily Womble

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 58:54


    “ You can't say the wrong thing to the right person.”Modern dating can feel like a chaotic mess—swiping fatigue, societal pressures, and outdated patriarchal norms make it seem more like a minefield than a path to love. But what if dating could actually be joyful, empowering, and aligned with your values? Enter Lily Womble, a feminist dating coach, author, speaker, and founder of Date Brazen, which is on a mission to help women create dating lives that feel extraordinary and authentic.In this episode, Erin and Lily break down the biggest myths about dating and offer powerful, actionable strategies to help you approach love on your terms. Whether you're feeling disheartened by the process or just need a fresh perspective, this conversation will leave you ready to date with confidence. We discuss:Why dating is still stuck in the dark ages and how to reclaim your power & joy in the processDating as self-care— prioritizing boundaries, agency, and pleasure over pressure and scarcityMost people aren't your person and how to focus on the ones who actually align with youDitch the checklist, because true compatibility is about how they make you feel, not just what's on paperWords matter—how reframing your dating mindset creates new possibilitiesUsing qualifying & disqualifying questions to filter for true compatibilityDating apps are just a tool—how to attract great matches both online and IRLOUR GUEST: Lily Womble is an intersectional feminist dating coach and founder of Date Brazen. She has led thousands of badass, feminist women around the world to build dating lives that feel like self-care, that also lead to extraordinary love. Womble has been featured in InStyle, HuffPost, Bustle, ABC News, and Oprah Magazine. She lives in Brooklyn.Want more Lily? Find her and Date Brazen online at https://www.datebrazen.com/ and listen to the Date Brazen podcast https://www.datebrazen.com/blog. Check out her book Thank You, More Please.Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    Planning Ahead for Being an Empty Nester with Jodi Silverman

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 49:34


    "Our intuition does speak to us—it screams at us, if we really let it listen."For many women, motherhood is the most rewarding, purpose-driven, and all-consuming role we take on. But what happens when the kids grow up and fly the nest? How do you figure out what's next for you? Turns out, this chapter is bursting with potential for reinvention and self-discovery—but it often starts with the daunting question: "Who am I now?" Jodi Silverman, empty nest advocate and founder of the Moms Who Dare community, joins us to peel back the layers of identity beyond motherhood.In this episode, Erin and Jodi dive into the exciting (and sometimes terrifying) journey of rediscovering yourself after your kids gain independence. They explore how to approach this transition with intention, curiosity, and a daring spirit. You'll hear about:Why embracing new experiences is key to building a fulfilling life beyond motherhood.How stepping outside your comfort zone—even when things don't go as planned—helps refine what truly lights you up.The surprising power of starting with what you *don't* want to get clarity on your next steps.The magic that happens when Moms put their fulfillment first—because when you thrive, so do your kids.Why maintaining your own interests shows your children that self-care and ambition matter at every stage of life.How making decisions based on how you want to feel can be the best guide to your next adventure.The power of reframing loneliness as an opportunity—to create new routines, deepen connections, and embrace this new season with excitement.OUR GUEST: Jodi Silverman is a coach and advocate for women in the empty nest phase, helping them reclaim their identities and build fulfilling lives beyond motherhood. Through The Moms Who Dare® community and her DARE Method, she empowers midlife women to embrace change, rediscover their passions, and step into this new chapter with confidence.Want more Jodi? Find her online at https://jodisilverman.com/ and listen to her podcast Beyond the Empty Nest Follow her on social media:IG: https://www.instagram.com/jodi_silverman/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/jodibsilverman/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/inthenestwithjodisilverman LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodisilverman/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Are You Overfunctioning In Love? with Dr. Ashley Southard

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2025 57:46


    Do you ever feel like you're doing all the emotional heavy lifting in your relationship? Constantly managing your partner's feelings, smoothing over conflicts, and wondering why you're always the one trying to "fix" things? You might be over-functioning—taking on more than your fair share of responsibility and emotional labor.In this episode, Erin sits down with psychotherapist Dr. Ashley Southard to unpack the unhealthy dynamic of over-functioning in relationships and how to break free. Tune in as they discuss what a real, emotionally mature partner looks like (yes, they do exist!), why rupture and repair are essential for healthy relationships, and why it's time to stop analyzing your partner's issues and start focusing on your needs. Here's what's on the table:Why women are often conditioned to overfunction in relationships.How over-functioning leads to loneliness, frustration, and resentment—and keeps you stuck in a cycle.The impact gender roles and cultural norms have on relationship dynamics, and how they often leave women to pick up the emotional labor.Ignoring your intuition has consequences—don't wait for a crisis to force change, pay attention to the small signals before reaching a breaking point.Why shifting your focus inward and prioritizing yourself is the antidote to over-functioning.How to recognize the signs of an emotionally mature, engaged, and healthy partner.OUR GUEST: Dr. Ashley Southard is a psychotherapist in Scottsdale, AZ, specializing in helping over-functioning women in unfulfilling relationships. With 20+ years of experience treating trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues, she creates a safe space for women to realize they're not ‘crazy' or ‘broken'—they're powerful and capable of becoming their best selves. Dr. Ashley also shares life-changing insights on Instagram, guiding women to reclaim their power and heal together in community.Want more Dr. Ashley? Find her online at www.drashleysouthard.com and follow her on social media:IG: @drashleysouthardFB: @drashleysouthardWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    The Spicy Years of Perimenopause with Carin Luna-Ostaseski

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 37:08


    “Is it hot or is it just me?”It's a question many women find themselves asking as they navigate perimenopause and menopause—often without fully understanding what's happening to their bodies. Despite affecting every woman, perimenopause remains widely misunderstood, rarely discussed, and frequently misdiagnosed. That's why we're thrilled to welcome menopause advocate Carin Luna-Ostaseski, founder of Hot Or Just Me, a resource and community dedicated to helping women navigate this life stage with curated wellness solutions and tailored products that actually address perimenopause and menopause symptoms.Join Erin and Carin as they unpack the misunderstood and often-overlooked experience of perimenopause—and why, despite its challenges, this phase of life can be one of the most transformative and empowering. We discuss:Carin's journey from creative director to whiskey entrepreneur to menopause advocate—proof that reinvention is possible at any ageUnpacking perimenopause, its symptoms and why its underdiagnosed by medical professionals (Visit menopause.org to access a list of certified practitioners specializing in perimenopause and menopause)How increasing your libido can positively impact your experience of perimenopauseDefining Andropause–or menopause for men– how to navigate conversations about hormonal changes with your partnerHow menopause can be a catalyst for career shifts, self-discovery, and owning your next chapterPractical solutions and must-try products to ease perimenopause and menopause symptomsThe power of community in normalizing conversations around aging, menopause, and beyondOUR GUEST: Carin Luna-Ostaseski is the founder of Hot or Just Me?, an online resource and shop dedicated to empowering women through perimenopause and menopause with trusted products, expert advice, and a supportive community. Her personal struggle with symptoms like hot flashes, brain fog, and insomnia inspired her mission to find solutions. A serial entrepreneur, Carin made history as the first American woman and Hispanic person to create a Scotch whisky, SIA Scotch Whisky, which gained recognition through a record-breaking Kickstarter campaign. She also founded the Entrepreneurial Spirit Fund, providing over $350,000 in grants to underserved entrepreneurs.Want more of Carin and her work? Check out https://hotorjustme.com/ and get 10% off your first purchase with code HOTTERFollow #HotOrJustMe on social media:Instagram: @hotorjustme Facebook: @hotorjustme TikTok: @hotorjustme Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    People Pleasing and Overachieving with Amy Wilson

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 46:09


    "Getting things done": it's a mantra for many, but what happens when it becomes a burden? In this episode, we sit down with author, performer, and self-proclaimed overachiever Amy Wilson to untangle the messy web of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the endless pursuit of "more." Drawing from her eye-opening book, “Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser,” Amy shares her journey from being the person who could handle everything to realizing that our worth isn't defined by what we can do for others. Tune in as Erin and Amy explore why high-achievers—especially women—often take on more than their fair share and the power in stepping back and saying “enough”. We discuss:The hidden cost of being “highly capable”—why taking on too much responsibility can be a fast track to burnout.Why "people pleaser" and "perfectionist" are loaded (and gendered) labels that set us up for exhaustion and resentment.How birth order can shape self-sacrificing and accommodating tendencies (hello, eldest daughters!).The power of letting go—why some things simply can't be fixed, no matter how hard you try.The myth that quitting equals failure and why knowing when to walk away is just as important as perseverance.Why being indispensable doesn't mean being secure and how overachieving at work and in relationships can lead to being overlooked and undervalued.How to recognize life's warning signs before they escalate into painful wake-up calls.OUR GUEST: Amy Wilson is the author of the memoir When Did I Get Like This? And her latest book, Happy to Help. Since 2016 she has been the co-host of the Webby-honored podcast What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood. Amy is also an actor who appeared on Broadway and as a series regular on TV sitcoms. She lives with her family in New York City. Want more Amy? Find her online at https://www.amywilson.com/, read her book, “Happy to Help” https://www.amywilson.com/happy-to-help-book and listen to her podcast “What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood” https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/ Follow her on social media:Instagram: @amywlsn Facebook: @amywlsn TikTok: @amywilsonauthorThreads: @amywlsnBlueskey: @amywlsn Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Marriage, Monogamy, Dating + Divorce with Producer Erica

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 68:38


    “Is monogamy normal? Is it our default? Is it healthy?”Have you ever had a conversation stop you in your tracks because it hits so close to home? That's exactly what happened to Erin and producer Erica after our episode with Dr. Joli Hamilton late last year. Dr. Joli's work to help people open their marriages sparked deep reflections on monogamy, marriage, and long-term relationships—not just for us, but for many of you, too. We knew we had to dive deeper.In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Erin and Erica get personal as they unpack their own relationship journeys and explore the shifting landscape of modern love. Whether you're curious about alternative, non-monogamous relationship models or frustrated with the realities of modern dating, this episode is for you. Here's what we're diving into:Rediscovering independence after divorce and rethinking traditional relationship norms.Navigating the rising visibility and appeal of polyamory, open marriages, and ethical non-monogamy—especially for women.Decentering men from the narrative of women's lives and finding personal fulfillment on your own terms.The challenges of meeting emotional and sexual needs in long-term relationships.Examining the purpose of marriage—whether as a stabilizing force or an ever-evolving agreement.Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    Looking Back at 2024 and Hell Yes to 2025!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2025 28:50


    Your Body Image Has Something Deeper to Tell You with Deb Schachter

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 55:28


    “ Body image is an individual sport and it's healed in connection.”If you're a woman, chances are you've had a moment (or many) of negative self-talk about your body. We've all been there. But what if the issue wasn't actually our bodies at all? What if it's a deeper emotional or psychological distress showing up in how we think and talk about ourselves? Enter Deb Schachter, a therapist, author and body image expert who's helped countless women untangle the hidden layers of their body image struggles—and she's here to help us do the same.In this episode, Deb joins Erin for a fascinating deep dive into the complex world of body image. From the stories we tell ourselves to the societal and familial messages we've absorbed, they explore how we can begin to rewrite the narrative and build a healthier, more compassionate relationship with our bodies. Tune in as we discuss:Why negative body image might actually be your mind's way of flagging emotional or psychological distress—not a physical problem to fix.The impact of family messaging and conversations about body size, and how they can fuel harmful beliefs.Understanding why you want a “better body” is more important than chasing the “better body” itself.How true fulfillment comes not from achieving the ‘ideal' body, but from nurturing your relationship with yourself and tuning into your inner voice.Practical ways to shift your self-talk from body criticism to observing and reframing your negative thoughts.The role of stories, relationships, and family dynamics in shaping how we see our bodies—and how we can break free to reclaim our authentic selves.Tips for creating a safe, judgment-free space for kids to share their thoughts on body image.OUR GUEST: DEB SCHACHTER is recognized as one of Boston's leading clinicians in the areas of body image and eating disorder recovery. She has spent her 30-year career helping people unpack their body's story and all of the wisdom it has to offer. She brings authenticity, curiosity and compassion to her work and emphasizes the profound power that connection has in the healing process. She integrates humor and mindfulness into her workshops, individual and group work and is inspired by how unique the growth process is for each of us. She believes wholeheartedly that we all have great wisdom inside and has seen how her confidence in her clients translates into change. Deb also trains other therapists and health professionals on how best to approach body image with their clients and staff. Want more Deb? Find her and learn more about her practice with Whitney Otto, Body Image Inside Out, online at https://bodyimageinsideout.com/ and check out their book, “Body Image Inside Out ” https://bodyimageinsideout.com/booksFollow her on:Instagram: @bodyimageinsideout LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deb-schachter-363b206/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram:

    How to Take a Career Break and Avoid Burnout with Laura Nguyen

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2024 60:43


    Have you ever felt the urge to hit pause on your career without walking away entirely? Or maybe you're ready to quit but wondering how to plan a break that works financially while setting yourself up for what's next? This week's guest, Laura Nguyen, knows exactly how to navigate these crossroads. After stepping back from her role as a marketing executive to take a career break, Laura founded Solle Solutions, her own marketing consultancy. Now a passionate advocate for career breaks, she's on a mission to help people—especially women—redefine their relationship with work and reclaim their time.Join us for an insightful discussion as Erin and Laura as we delve into the nuances of career breaks, combating burnout, and giving yourself the green light to prioritize your own needs. We cover:Unpacking different types of career breaks: employer-sponsored sabbaticals, medical or voluntary leaves of absence, or resigning to explore new paths.Unlearning the culture of overwork and self-sacrifice to foster a healthier, more balanced relationship with your career.The why and how of syncing professional choices with your personal priorities.Practical steps to collaborate with your employer for a break or prepare financially for an independent hiatus.What millennials and Gen Z can teach us about speaking up for mental health, fair treatment, and work-life balance.Understanding the different types of burnout, their impact on life, and how to manage it, especially for those carrying the weight of domestic and emotional labor.Strategies to return after a break with joy, reflection, and a clear plan for your next chapter.OUR GUEST: LAURA NGUYEN is an experienced marketing executive and entrepreneur with an extensive background in data-driven marketing, digital marketing and communications for Fortune 500 companies. She is the founder of Solle Solutions, a marketing consultancy. Laura is also a certified executive coach, helping mid-career, high-achieving leaders go from burned out to balanced through her coaching program and online community. Laura received her Bachelor of Arts and Bachelor of Science at Truman State University, and her Master in Business Administration from Rochester Institute of Technology. She lives in Des Moines, Iowa, with her family.Want more Laura? Find her online at https://www.lauranguyen.co/ and check out her book, “Career Break Compass: Navigating Your Path to a Balanced Life Through Intentional Time Off” https://www.amazon.com/Career-Break-Compass-Navigating-Intentional/dp/1685557325Follow her on:Instagram: @lauranguyen.co LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauran546/Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    What It Takes to Open Your Marriage with Dr. Joli Hamilton

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2024 66:58


    “Release yourself from the idea that your relationship needs to fit into anybody's box.”Have you ever wondered if you and your partner are truly compatible? Or struggled to express your needs, feeling lost in a sea of unmet expectations? Whether you're exploring non-monogamy, redefining relationship norms, or simply seeking deeper connections, this episode is for you. Our guest, Dr. Joli Hamilton, is a relationship coach, sex educator, and co-host of the “Playing with Fire” podcast. She's on a mission to help people design non-monogamous partnerships that align with their authentic selves—no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding.Join Erin and Dr. Joli as they delve into what it means to truly know and communicate your needs within a relationship, whatever form it takes. This episode is a bold invitation to reimagine relationships and a reminder that it's never too late to build the life you truly want. Together, we navigate through:Why many people default to monogamy without questioning if it's truly right for them.The role of the Internet in normalizing conversations about non-monogamy.The power of intentionality in defining your relationship goals, whether monogamous, non-monogamous, or something uniquely yours.Unpacking ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, monogamish, and creative monogamy—and the need for accessible language around non-traditional relationships.Why regularly reassessing your relationships is essential to meet the evolving needs of both partners.The value of knowing your “relationship bottom lines” and non-negotiables.Individuation: breaking free from societal norms to uncover your true self and find fulfillment outside the status quo.Why honesty and willingness to do the deep work are essential for any relationship to thrive—monogamous or otherwise.OUR GUEST: Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli's been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR. Want more Dr. Joli? Learn more about her at https://www.jolihamilton.com/ and take her quiz to see if you are ready to open your relationship happily: www.JoliQuiz.com Check out her podcast Playing with Fire: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/playing-with-fire/id1540852334Follow her on:Instagram: @drjoli_hamilton Facebook: @dr.joli.hamilton LinkedIn: @joli-hamilton-phd Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram:

    Saying Yes To Inspiration with Daily Show Co-Creator Madeleine Smithberg

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2024 60:21


    “Don't let fear put you out of reach of your dreams.”As the Thanksgiving and holiday season unfolds, it's natural to focus on gratitude for the good things in life. But what happens when life's transitions leave you feeling lost, isolated, or stuck in a downward slump? This week's guest, Madeleine Smithberg, knows all about navigating those emotional valleys. As the co-creator of “The Daily Show”, an Emmy and Peabody award-winning producer, and the talent behind “Mad in the Kitchen” (among many many other shows), Madeleine has experienced the dizzying highs of professional success. Yet, she's also faced deeply personal struggles, including challenges in her personal life and a grueling battle with cancer. Through it all, Madeleine's unwavering creativity, sense of humor and resilience have guided her to new purpose and opportunities at every stage of life.In this rich conversation, Erin and Madeleine explore the realities of navigating life's highs and lows, from professional reinvention to personal resilience, and acting on inspiration to create new opportunities. Together, we dive into:Pivoting, adapting to change, and exploring new passions—whether in career, family, or personal life—especially later in life.The power of saying no and stepping back, even in the face of big opportunities, to prioritize personal goals and well-being.Breaking barriers in male-dominated industries and the impact of women stepping into leadership roles.Creating The Daily Show and the serendipitous blend of timing, talent, and collaboration that made it a success.Why “having it all” is still bullsh*t and the toll it takes on women striving to do it all at the same time.How focusing on the present moment can ground us in gratitude and possibility, even amid chaos and uncertainty.Acting on moments of inspiration and fearlessly pursuing your dreams.Getting out of your own way, taking risks, and embracing the unexpected opportunities that follow.OUR GUEST: Madeleine Smithberg is an Emmy and Peabody Award-winning producer, best known for co-creating The Daily Show with Jon Stewart. She also worked on The Jon Stewart Show, Steve Harvey's Big Time, and Late Night with David Letterman. Through her production company, Mad Cow Productions, she has developed comedy projects for networks like HISTORY, TBS, FOX, and Showtime, and created the news franchise INFOmania for Current TV. She earned an NAACP Image Award nomination for Don't Sleep! on BET. In 2018, Madeleine shifted careers to become a Teaching Chef at Blue Ribbon Cooking and launched her YouTube channel Mad in the Kitchen. She's currently working on her memoir “Almost Funny” and a new show for women over 50, “Lady Girls”.Want more Madeleine? Learn more about her work on IMDb https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0810431/ and at https://madcowmedia.weebly.com/. Check out MAD in the Kitchen at https://www.madinthekitchen.com/ Follow “MAD in the Kitchen” on:Instagram: @madinthekitch YouTube: @madinthekitchen TikTok: @madinthekitch Facebook: @madinthekitchen X/Twitter:

    Getting Unstuck with Deanna deBara

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2024 54:39


    “A period of stuckness always precedes a period of serious growth.”So many of us find ourselves grappling with the overwhelming feeling of being stuck, especially as we navigate midlife. Weighed down by societal expectations and self-imposed narratives, we can struggle to align our lives with what we truly value and desire. Enter Deanna deBara, writer and host of the “Season of Stuck” podcast, where she shares her journey of overcoming "stuckness" and offers practical tools to help others do the same.In this episode, Erin and Deanna explore how to shift from a place of stagnation to a state of thriving, and the transformative power of giving oneself permission to change and grow. We cover:Why feeling stuck, though isolating, is a universal experience—and how it can become a catalyst for transformation in midlifeHow the stories we tell ourselves shape our reality, either keeping us stuck or opening the door to changeThe role of self-compassion and authenticity in fostering growth and changeTechniques for shaking off feelings of being stuck, including movement, cold plunging, and micro ‘yeses'Strategies for rewriting internal limiting narratives about ourselves and cultivating a compassionate, supportive inner dialoguePractical advice on navigating midlife transitions, challenging societal expectations, and redefining personal successOUR GUEST: Deanna deBara is a freelance writer living in Portland, OR. When she's not busy building her business or typing away at her keyboard, she enjoys spending time hiking in the Pacific Northwest, traveling with her soon-to-be husband, or doting on her dog, Bennett. Want more Deanna? Tune into her podcast Season of Stuck and learn more about her work at https://www.seasonofstuck.com/ and follow on Instagram @seasonofstuckWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    How To Manage Career & Personal Change with Dr. Keri Ohlrich & Kelly Guenther

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 66:20


    Is entrepreneurship truly a solo journey, or would you rather start a business with a friend? For Dr. Keri Ohlrich and Kelly Guenther, co-founders of the leadership and HR consultancy the Abbracci Group and co-hosts of “The Breakout” podcast, the answer is clear: collaboration is key. Together, they're on a mission to help women and entrepreneurs navigate both professional and personal changes, big and small. Their book, “Whatever the Hell You Want”, is a guide to identifying the “boxes” that confine us, creating a roadmap to break free, and living a life of choice and freedom. Keri and Kelly's story is a powerful testament to the transformative potential of partnership and support.In this episode, Erin, Keri & Kelly dive into themes of change, growth, and the pursuit of personal fulfillment. Hear how taking bold, sometimes daunting steps can help break free from traditional paths and bring about lasting happiness. Tune in as we discuss:The challenges and rewards of entrepreneurship and why a supportive business partner can make all the difference, especially for womenReimagining community over competition in the workplace and fostering mutual support for women Identifying your core values, wants, and motivations as key to your next steps in life and careerHow growth often emerges from painful experiences, revealing what's no longer serving youWhy workplace gender bias still persists, even in progressive workplacesHow women leaders can drive change by mentoring the next generationTips for embracing the uncertainty and instability that come with entrepreneurshipOUR GUESTS: Kelly Guenther and Dr. Keri Ohlrich are the co-founders of Abbracci Group, co-hosts of The Breakout podcast, and co-authors of Whatever the Hell You Want. Together, they bring a wealth of experience in leadership, HR, and professional development, focusing on empowering individuals and creating supportive workplace cultures.Kelly Guenther applies a holistic approach to leadership and talent development, combining her experience in sales training and certification for top-level executives with a deep understanding of both team dynamics and individual strengths. She holds a Master of Education from Carroll University, a Bachelor's in English from the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh, and is certified in iPEC professional coaching and Prosci® change management, among other assessments. Dr. Keri Ohlrich brings over 20 years of HR leadership experience spanning start-ups to Fortune 500 companies, where she has been instrumental in redesigning HR processes and driving large-scale change management initiatives. With a PhD in Human Development and Organizational Systems, as well as dual master's degrees in Peace and Conflict Resolution and Global Human Resources, she is committed to transforming workplaces into thriving ecosystems. Keri also serves as a court-appointed special advocate (CASA) volunteer for children's welfare.Want more Dr. Keri & Kelly? Tune into their podcast The Breakout and learn more about their work at https://abbraccigroup.com/. Check out their books Whatever the Hell You Want and The Way of the HR Warrior.Follow their work on:Instagram:

    Nurturing Your Intimate Relationships with Vanessa & Xander Marin

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2024 48:55


    “Sex isn't really worth having without vulnerability.”Sexuality and intimacy can be sensitive topics, especially in long-term relationships. But what if these conversations could be transformed into pathways to deeper connection and more fulfilling, mutually satisfying sex? In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome our first couple(!) to Hotter Than Ever: Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience, and her husband, Xander, bring their unique perspectives together to foster honest, vulnerable discussions around sex and intimacy. Together, they've written the NYT bestselling book “Sex Talks” and are on a mission to help couples achieve true closeness.Join us for an illuminating conversation on the essential ingredients for a rewarding sex life and on dismantling long-standing misconceptions about intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that true intimacy—whether in long relationships or new ones—requires courage, open communication, and a fresh look at what we really need and desire. We discuss:Why open conversations about sex are crucial for fostering intimacy and connection between partners.Breaking down male expectations around intimacy and performance, and how these notions can block true connection and vulnerability.Prioritizing quality over quantity in sex—focusing on enhancing pleasure and satisfaction over frequency.Practical, small-scale actions to boost emotional intimacy, like expressing gratitude, embracing a 30-second hug, or sharing a 6-second kiss.Cultivating your own individual sexuality to reinforce a sense of self and desire, no matter your relationship status.Navigating sexual changes through perimenopause and menopause, with tips on staying connected to your body and sexuality.OUR GUESTS: Vanessa and Xander Marin are the dynamic duo behind the NYT bestseller “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life”. Vanessa, a certified sex therapist, and her husband Xander, who left a career at Google to join her in this mission, combine their expertise and candid, down-to-earth approach to help couples kick shame out of the bedroom and embrace deeper connection, pleasure, and joy. Together, Vanessa and Xander have been featured in top publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and Vanessa has contributed to The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.Want more Vanessa & Xander? Tune into their podcast Pillow Talks for practical relationship advice, real-life insights, and plenty of laughs as they share what truly goes on behind closed doors.Follow them on:Instagram: @vanessaandxanderTikTok: @vanessaandxander YouTube: @vanessaandxander Facebook: @vanessaandxander Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at

    Producing Your Best Life: Movies and Motherhood with Feigco's Laura Fischer

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2024 61:51


    If you've ever wondered why stories of women in midlife are so rare in movies and TV, you're not alone. In a landscape where male-centered narratives often take center stage, Laura Fischer (Co-President of director Paul Feig's feature film company Feigco) stands out as a force for change. In partnership with the iconic comedy director, Laura champions films anchored by funny women (think Kristen Wiig, Melissa McCarthy and Leslie Jones) and helps showcase the work of diverse creators while balancing the complexities of family life and career with remarkable grace and determination.Join us as we delve into issues impacting women today, from societal expectations to the untapped potential of stories about older women, all through the lens of Laura's inspiring career. Laura's journey underscores the power of authentic storytelling and the importance of defining your own priorities amid the many roles we, as women, navigate. Here's what's on the table:Embracing failure as a normal part of creative and professional growth.Practical tips for managing the ever-elusive work-life balance as a mother and professional.Why prioritizing YOU—and the pursuits that ignite your passion—helps you best show up for the people you love and support.Post-divorce insights: successful co-parenting and the liberating freedom of prioritizing yourself and your work.Breaking free from the constraints of corporate life to unlock personal and creative freedom.The ongoing fight for representation of women over 40 in media and why more female voices in decision-making roles matter.A reminder that at every stage of life, you have the power to choose your own path.OUR GUEST: Laura is Co-President of Feigco Entertainment, where she and Paul Feig oversee the company's film and TV projects, currently including A Simple Favor 2 for Amazon. She also serves as CEO of Powderkeg, a content company dedicated to uplifting female, LGBTQ+, and BIPOC creators. Through Powderkeg, she has launched programs like Fuse, a short film initiative for emerging female directors, and Break the Room, focused on diverse writing talent. Previously, Laura led original series production at Yahoo! and worked on Emmy-winning projects at Disney-ABC. She is a member of the Producers Guild and the Television Academy.Want more Laura? Find more of her work at https://x.com/Feigco and https://powderkegmedia.com/ and follow her on:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lcallen11/ IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm10895092/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook:

    Straight Talk About Libido Over 40 with Dr. Maureen Slattery

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 54:54


    Ever wondered why some women experience low libido and what can be done about it? Or what orgasms look and feel like for different women? These questions often go unanswered, but Dr. Maureen Slattery—a board-certified OBGYN specializing in sex and menopause—is here to change that. A leading advocate for women's sexual health, Dr. Slattery joins us in this episode to share her mission of empowering women through education and enhancing sexual well-being during perimenopause and menopause.Join Erin and Dr. Maureen as they dive deep into the complexities of women's sexual health, exploring how reclaiming pleasure and purpose can be a transformative experience in midlife. We discuss:Why comprehensive sexual health education is often overlooked in the medical field, and the consequences for women's health.How puritanical and patriarchal attitudes have shaped women's sexual education and self-understanding.The effects of hormonal changes on sexual pleasure, desire, and overall well-being.Understanding low libido and Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD).Tips for having open, productive conversations about sex and pleasure, especially in long-term relationships.The importance of raising sex-positive children and navigating talks about consent, relationships, and body positivity.OUR GUEST: Dr. Maureen Slattery is a board-certified OBGYN with 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual health and menopausal care. An AASECT-certified sex counselor, she has contributed to AARP and Rochester Regional Health on topics like sexual health and hormone therapy. Maureen teaches medical students and professionals about menopause and sexual health in Rochester, NY, and at the University of Michigan. Her passion lies in helping patients rediscover pleasure and educating healthcare providers about sexuality. She is a sex-positive, kink-aware, and LGBTQIA+ ally.Want more Dr. Slattery? Follow her on:Instagram: @drmaureenslattery LinkedIn: @maureen-slattery-md-csc-abs Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    How Do you Measure your Value?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2024 27:40


    "I think our value and our values get all kinds of conflated and mixed up."We often hear about self-love and its pivotal role in creating a joyful life. But defining self-love is subjective and multifaceted. It involves caring, self-respect, boundaries, and counteracting our harsh inner critic. Today, Erin delves beyond self-love to examine the societal and personal metrics we use to gauge our worth.Join Erin as she questions the conflation of material wealth, career success, physical appearance, and external approval with our intrinsic value. She asks us to reconsider what true value means in our lives and how our values may have been skewed by societal norms.In this episode, Erin discusses:The societal emphasis on material wealth and the pros and cons of caring a lot about financial successWhether career achievements and professional accolades truly correlate with self-worthThe complicated relationship women have with physical appearance and desirability as we ageThe roles of daughter, sister, wife, friend, and mother, and how we assess our value within these relationshipsThe deep-rooted cultural messages that impact our self-worthThe internal qualities and strengths that may hold true value, such as creativity, resourcefulness, kindness, and impact on othersWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    How Astrology Just Might Help You Succeed with AstroTwin Ophira Edut

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2024 52:33


    “Astrology is a tool, not a rule. And when you use it as a tool, it can expand your power, your consciousness, your awareness.”Long-time listeners of Hotter Than Ever know Erin tends to be a skeptic when it comes to anything ‘woo' (remember the episode “Woo Adjacent”?). So, it might come as a surprise that today's episode dives deep into astrology. But after hearing from astrologer Ophira Edut, even the most doubtful minds might find themselves intrigued, if not completely converted. Ophira, along with her sister Tali, form the AstroTwins, the long-standing resident astrologers for Elle magazine, authors of over 20 books, and frequent faces on TV. Together, they've created a practical, digestible approach to astrology that goes beyond the stars and into your everyday life.Join Erin and Ophira to learn more about how astrology isn't just about horoscopes, but a powerful framework to help navigate life's mysteries, challenges, and opportunities in the second half of life. We discuss:Ophira's unplanned journey into astrology, sparked by her first birth chart readingBringing the ‘woo' of astrology into a logical, business-driven worldThe difference between horoscopes and astrologyUnpacking the historical skepticism and gender discrimination that astrology has facedHow astrology can be a practical tool for women in midlife to make decisions, plan ahead, and design a life aligned with their valuesUnderstanding astrology's personal archetypes to help identify strengths and areas for growthTake the I*AM Quiz, find out if you're an Innovator, Authority or Maven: https://astrostyle.com/astrology-advantage/iam-archetype-quiz/OUR GUEST: Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are top astrologers and intuitive advisors, serving clients like Beyoncé, Dua Lipa, and Emma Roberts. As resident astrologers for ELLE Magazine and authors of over 20 books, they've guided CEOs, celebrities, and entrepreneurs worldwide. They've appeared on Bravo, MTV, Good Morning America, and the Today Show, and created the astrology-based dating show Cosmic Love (Amazon Prime Video, 2022). Their new book, The Astrology Advantage (Simon & Schuster, 2024), introduces their IAM System, which simplifies astrology into three archetypes. The AstroTwins have taught thousands through their platform and retreats.Want more Ophira? Find her online at astrostyle.com and buy her book THE ASTROLOGY ADVANTAGE: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional SuccessFollow her on:Instagram: @astrotwinsTikTok: @astrotwins_Facebook: @AstroTwinsWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    Exploring Non-Monogamy and Getting Kinky with CJ

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2024 66:16


    “How much fun can we have and what is that going to do for us as we age?”In this milestone 100th episode of Hotter Than Ever, we're celebrating not only the podcast's journey but also the incredible community it has built around redefining midlife for women. To mark this special occasion, we're thrilled to present an extraordinary conversation with CJ. CJ isn't just a kink and non-monogamy coach; she's an inspiring guide helping Gen X women embrace erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. With certifications as a sex coach, life coach, and cuddle facilitator (!), CJ's transformation from living a conventional life to embracing a kinky, non-monogamous lifestyle that meets her sexual and emotional needs is a great example of what is possible when we learn and pursue what we want.Get ready for an eye-opening and liberating discussion on sexual expression, breaking free from conventional relationship molds, and reclaiming your desires in the second half of life. Tune in as we explore:CJ's evolution from a serial monogamist to a liberated non-monogamous lifestyle.The vital role of sex and intimacy in personal well-being and relationship health.How divorce can offer the freedom to reclaim time, identity, and pleasure.Navigating kink, BDSM, fetish, and jealousy in relationships.The power of setting and respecting boundaries in both polyamorous and monogamous relationships.Rediscovering pleasure in your body and creating experiences that make you feel sexy and desired in midlife.Why midlife is the perfect time to explore new aspects of your sexuality, whether it's trying kink, exploring bisexuality, or finding new ways to experience pleasure.OUR GUEST: CJ is a kink and non-monogamy coach and mentor who is all about liberating sexual expression and cultivating new pleasure palates. She gets off on debunking the myths around female aging, desire and desirability as well as talking about the taboo. She loves welcoming Gen X women into alternative pleasures and lifestyles so that they can experience erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age. She is a Certified Sex Coach, Life Coach and Cuddle Facilitator and has lived a transformational kinky, non-monogamous life for the past 8 years. Want more CJ? Find her online at https://www.noshamewithcj.com/ and listen to her podcast ‘No Shame with CJ'Follow her on:Instagram: @noshamewithcjFacebook: No Shame with CJ YouTube: No Shame With CJ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-joseph-161a7a3a/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    What The Golden Girls Teaches Us About Aging Well with Dr. Maria Carpiac

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2024 59:16


    It's no secret that our culture often presents aging in a negative light, particularly for women, leaving many of us uncertain or even fearful about life beyond 40, 50 or (god forbid), 60. But one iconic sitcom has challenged these stereotypes with humor, heart, and authenticity: The Golden Girls. For Maria Carpiac, a professor of Gerontology at California State University, Long Beach, and an advocate for healthy aging, The Golden Girls offers a shining example of how we can view aging with optimism and a sense of humor.In this episode, Erin and Maria explore the complexities of aging, highlighting the importance of community, jou, and adaptability in leading a fulfilling life, with insights from The Golden Girls. From Blue Zones to finding purpose as we age, this conversation reveals how we can all live longer, healthier, and more meaningful lives—no matter what stage we're in. Tune in as we explore:How to embrace aging instead of fearing it—it's a journey we all share!Why "anti-aging" is a myth, and why the focus should be on aging well.The key elements of healthy aging: community, stress management, nutrition, and movement.Creative housing solutions like communal living and co-housing to foster supportive, connected communities as we age.How the media shapes our perceptions of aging and why The Golden Girls still resonates, even in today's TV landscape.Exploring the Japanese concept of "ikigai" (reason for being) and its role in aging well.Why retirement isn't just about money—it's about staying engaged and connected.The dangers of conflating normal aging with disease, and how healthcare biases affect aging women.OUR GUEST: Dr. Maria Carpiac is a Professor of Gerontology and Director of the Gerontology Program at California State University, Long Beach. She holds a BA, MSW, and PhD in Social Work from UCLA, specializing in Older Adults. A Fellow of the Academy of Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Dr. Carpiac teaches courses such as Social Policy & Aging and Women and Aging. Her research focuses on holistic health programs for assisted living and Age Friendly Universities (AFU). Under her leadership, CSULB joined the AFU Global Network, and the Gerontology Program received Program of Merit distinction in 2020.Want more Dr. Carpiac? Learn more about her Gerontology program at www.csulb.edu/gerontology Watch some of her interviews below:Optimal Aging & Gerontology, Beach TV Women and Aging: Lessons from the Golden Girls, KSROCSULB Class Uses the Golden Girls in Every Lesson, Spectrum 1 NewsWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Getting Practical About Money

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 27:19


    As “Hotter Than Ever” nears its 100th episode, we're reflecting on the impact this podcast has had since launching a year and a half ago, and the steps needed to elevate its vision to new heights.Join Erin as she candidly shares the realities of transitioning from a financially stable corporate life to the entrepreneurial hustle. This episode is about peeling back the layers of how Erin is supporting the show, the internal struggles she faces as an entrepreneur, and the financial realities that come with following your passion. We dive into:The challenges of self-funding as an entrepreneur, while navigating financial uncertainties and the practicalities of being a single Mom.Confronting and counteracting that harsh inner critic that tells us we're not enough.How to confidently present your expertise and tangible skills to pave the next steps in your journey.Honoring slow growth and the organic process of building something meaningful amidst a fast-paced, instant results culture.Practical steps to generate additional income while growing your passion project into a business.Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    Finding Success in Business and Love in Your 40s with Osea's Melissa Palmer

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2024 52:29


    If you're searching for proof that our most successful chapters can unfold in midlife, look no further than Melissa Palmer, co-founder and CEO of the skincare brand Osea. While Melissa and her mother launched Osea 28 years ago, it wasn't until year 20 that their business truly skyrocketed. And as her career soared, Melissa also found the most significant relationship of her life, showing us that midlife can truly be a time of profound rewards and joy.In this episode, we dive into Melissa's unique entrepreneurial path and the empowerment that comes with embracing change. It's a reminder that age doesn't put a limit on reinvention, personal growth, or love. Tune in as we discuss:The dynamics of building a business alongside your mother and how trusting each other's strengths creates balance.Why success is as much about persistence, patience, and luck as it is hard work.The invaluable perspective women over 40 bring to professional spaces.Trusting your intuition and standing firm in your choices—even when others disagree.Redefining “anti-aging” as focusing on feeling strong, agile, and confident as you grow older.Why midlife dating and relationships can be especially fulfilling, free from the pressures of earlier stages of life.Embracing change, reinvention, and staying open to new opportunities, even in established careers and lives.OUR GUEST: Melissa Palmer is the Co-Founder and Chief Executive Officer at OSEA. Melissa was previously CEO of Hoopnotica, the industry leader in hula-hoop fitness. Since 2016 she's been the CEO of OSEA and continues to lead the company today. Melissa was recently named EY Entrepreneur of the Year 2024 Greater Los Angeles. If you can't reach Melissa she's most likely swimming in the ocean.Want more Melissa & Osea? Check out Osea online at https://oseamalibu.com and use code “Hotter Than Ever” on oceamalibu.com to get 10% off of their amazing products. Follow her on and Osea on: Instagram: @happypalmer @oseamalibu Facebook: @oseamalibuLinkedIn: @melissa-clair-palmer Twitter/X: @happypalmer @oseaincWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear...

    Men, Divorce, Anger and Designing Our Ideal Lives with Producer Erica

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2024 59:37


    “I'm in a phase of my life where I want to f*cking shine. I do not want to shrink.”Sometimes we just need to admit we're mad. While society may not always make space for women's anger, when we reflect on the challenges we face today, it can be hard not to feel it. Why do women still carry the heaviest load of care in relationships? Why are we still criticized for our ambition and judged for maintaining our independence?In today's conversation, producer Erica joins us as we dive into these questions and more. We're not holding back, and we're definitely in our feels. Here's what we're unpacking:Why women often bear the emotional labor in relationships, managing not just their own feelings but also the well-being and self-esteem of their partners.How patriarchy's grip leaves women shouldering more at home, even in seemingly progressive partnerships.How the very traits that make women successful— independence, competence, and resilience— can be weaponized against us.Freeing ourselves to express anger to mitigate the build up of stress and resentment.Re-examining our relationships with men—not just as wives and mothers, but as individuals who deserve care and support too.Exploring financial freedom, communal living, and the pursuit of independence.The challenge of finding emotionally intelligent partners who respect boundaries.Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    How to Light Your Brain Up with Pleasure with Dr. Nan Wise

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2024 64:49


    “We need to understand that pleasure is not a luxury—it's a necessity for sending good signals back to the brain.”When Dr. Nan Wise had a panic attack at just 21 years old, it sparked her lifelong fascination with the brain. Today, as a seasoned behavioral neuroscientist and sex therapist, Dr. Nan is at the forefront of research exploring the deep connection between sex, pleasure, and brain health, particularly as we age. Her studies have uncovered the vital role that orgasms play in boosting oxygen flow to the brain, underscoring the critical role pleasure plays in our overall well-being.Join Erin and Dr. Nan for an eye-opening conversation about the transformative power of pleasure and how it can help us cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others as we grow older.Pleasure isn't a luxury—it's essential for a healthy brain and maintaining well-being.Why many women experience better sex as they ageUnpacking elements of modern life that diminish our ability to experience genuine pleasure.The importance of engaging in pleasurable activities for managing anxiety, depression, and stress.Why active sexual desire isn't necessary for a healthy sex lifeTips to maintaining and ‘rebooting' long-term relationships Cultivating an attuned relationship with your body and the things that bring you pleasureOUR GUEST: Dr. Nan Wise is a licensed psychotherapist, cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and clinical hypnotherapist with 30 years of experience. Motivated by a deep curiosity about the brain's role in shaping moods and behaviors, she earned a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience from Rutgers-Newark in 2014. Her research, particularly her fMRI study on female orgasm, has filled critical gaps in understanding the neural basis of human sexuality, attracting international recognition. Dr. Nan's journey is rooted in both personal and professional experiences, having faced anxiety from a young age and turning her challenges into a lifelong pursuit of emotional well-being.Want more Dr. Nan? Find her online and get a free consultation at https://askdoctornan.com and read her book Why Good Sex Matters. Follow her on: Instagram: @askdoctornan X/Twitter: @askdoctornanFacebook: @AskDoctorNan Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook:

    Making Room for Women's Voices in Hollywood with Melissa Silverstein

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2024 57:56


    If you've ever paid attention to female representation in Hollywood or the push for more women filmmakers in entertainment, you've likely encountered the work of Melissa Silverstein. As the founder of Women and Hollywood, one of the pioneering platforms advocating for gender diversity in the film industry, Melissa has been a driving force in this movement. She also co-founded the Athena Film Festival, a celebration of female-driven films, established the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives, and hosts the podcast In Her Voice, which offers a behind-the-scenes look at women who make films. A true trailblazer, Melissa has dedicated decades to elevating women and their stories and is now turning the page to focus on her own creative journey.Join Erin and Melissa as they delve into the importance of creating spaces that spotlight women's stories and explore the opportunities that arise from challenging the status quo—especially the patriarchy. We discuss:The ongoing struggle for women's stories and representation in the film industry.The crucial role of women behind the camera in bringing authentic, diverse narratives to the forefront of entertainment.Why it's essential to see women, especially women of color, in powerful on-screen roles to shift societal attitudes and dismantle patriarchal structures.Expanding the conversation on gender representation in media to include trans and non-binary voices.The ongoing challenges of getting women's stories made in Hollywood and the importance of women investing in and supporting each other's projects.The current disruption in the media industry and how it creates an opportunity to develop new storytelling models for women over 40.OUR GUEST: Melissa Silverstein is the founder of Women and Hollywood and the Artistic Director and Co-Founder of The Athena Film Festival at Barnard College. She is also the founder of the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives. Want more Melissa? Check out Women and Hollywood and the Athena Film Festival and listen to her podcast In Her Voice. Follow her on:Instagram: @melsil@womenandhollywoodX/Twitter: @melsil@womenahollywood Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook:

    After The Rubble: Inventing Your Next Chapter with Producer Erica

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2024 57:30


    “I want you to know what your options are at this point in your life.”In this special episode, we're breaking from our usual format to bring Hotter Than Ever producer, Erica, out from behind the scenes for a candid conversation with Erin about the podcast's journey and it's future. Inspired by thoughtful feedback from our hottie listeners and Erin's reflections during this ‘slow-roll summer,' we're diving into Erin's evolving views on midlife, personal transformation, and the unique challenges and opportunities facing women over 40 as we navigate this uncharted chapter of life.While the road ahead is filled with uncertainty, one thing remains clear: Hotter Than Ever is committed to offering our community not coaching or self-help advice, but a variety of possibilities for thriving in midlife and beyond. Join us as we discuss the themes and ideas that have shaped this podcast and will drive its next evolution, including:The myth of “having it all,” its impact on women, and why a stronger support system and equal distribution of labor are essential.The feminization of wealth and the potential for women to increasingly step into their power.Unpacking the systemic nature of the stresses and challenges women face in midlife.Embracing the unknown and discovering new ways to live, even without a clear precedent or roadmap.Reconnecting with the joie de vivre of youth, while harnessing the wisdom and experience that comes with midlife.Why being in community is vital for our emotional and social well-being.What's next for Hotter Than Ever: a book, live events, stand-up comedy, filmed episodes, partnerships, and more!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    Everything is a Love Problem and Only You Can Solve It with Sheri Salata (Re-Air)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2024 42:52


    As part of our ‘slow roll summer' on Hotter Than Ever, we're revisiting one of our favorite early conversations with Oprah dynasty legend, author, producer and transformation doula Sheri Salata.In this episode, we explore self-love and renegotiating what life looks like after you've achieved your wildest dreams (hint: it's not over!). We unpack what it means to focus on yourself beyond your work, and what happens when we choose to step out from behind the curtain and into the spotlight. Join us as we discuss:The price of amassing conventional success and achievements, and how that factors into our self worth Learning how to steward your own wellbeing and ascend beyond people pleasing Recovering from self betrayal–in the many forms it takes–and learning how to have your own back What it means to choose discomfort in order to continue evolving, releasing, healing and upleveling, until our very last breath Getting over the shame that comes with the desire to be front and center, and to have a public voice and presenceOvercoming chronic dissatisfaction and learning to appreciate the time you have left in this world (and start using it to its fullest) Knowing that you can't complain your way to the life of your dreams. Our actions are completely informed by the stories we tell ourselves, so start telling yourself an incredible story and get going! Free for Hotter Than Ever listeners! Check out Sheri's Change 10 Words Workbook using this link. OUR GUEST: Sheri Salata is an author, world class producer and transformation doula. She is the founder + CEO of The Support System, a global membership group for women dedicated to creating real-life transformation. Sheri's memoir, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation is an Amazon Editor's Choice Best Memoir and an Apple Must-Listen audio book. Sheri spent 20 years in the land of Oprah finishing that glorious run as the final Executive Producer of The Oprah Winfrey Show, President of Harpo Studios and President of OWN as captured in the cable hit series Season 25: Oprah Behind The Scenes. Learn more about “The Support System,” Sheri's global membership group for women empowerment through this link. Check out her incredible memoir, “The Beautiful No” here. Want more Sheri? Learn more about her here and on https://sherisalata.com/. Follow her on: Instagram: @sherisalata Facebook: @sherisalatacommunity Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    Inner Beauty and Aging in Hollywood with Makeup Artist Molly R. Stern

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2024 51:11


    In a world where beauty standards are constantly evolving and societal pressures can feel overwhelming, makeup artist Molly R. Stern brings a refreshing perspective to the conversation. With a career spanning over two decades and a client list that includes some of Hollywood's most iconic faces, Molly has witnessed firsthand the struggles women face with self-perception and the impact of the beauty industry on mental well-being. In this candid and insightful episode Erin and Molly dive deep into the complexities of beauty, aging, and self-love.Join us for an eye-opening discussion as Molly shares her wisdom on navigating the beauty industry while staying true to oneself. We explore:Why negative self-talk is so pervasive among women, regardless of fame, wealth, or appearance and the importance of shifting towards self-love and acceptance.The role of societal pressures and marketing in creating insecurity, and how to combat these influences.Molly's approach to her work as a makeup artist: prioritizing making her clients feel good about themselves and focusing on their individual needs and empowerment.The changing ideals of beauty over time and the importance of being inspired rather than emulating unattainable standards.The impact of the body positivity movement, and the rise of weight loss drugs on beauty standards.Practical beauty tips, including self-massage and nurturing skincare routines as acts of self-love and self-care.OUR GUEST: For over 30 years, Molly R. Stern has been a trusted artist and influencer in Hollywood with an engaged social media audience of over 60K followers. Molly has been recognized with numerous industry accolades. She was awarded Makeup Artist of the Year at the prestigious Hollywood Style Awards, and her outstanding makeup on the acclaimed HBO series Big Little Lies was nominated twice for an Emmy. A couture piece from her cult apparel line, m.r.s, was selected for the Goddess exhibition at the Costume Institute of the Metropolitan Museum of Art. The stunning makeup Molly created for the Disney blockbuster film, A Wrinkle In Time, was immortalized in a collectible signature Barbie doll line by toy manufacturer Mattel. Her #LOVEyourself mantra led to the collaboration with renowned jewelry brand Sarah Chloe. Molly resides in Los Angeles, CA with her husband, 3 children and 2 dogs.Want more Molly? Find her online at https://www.mollyrstern.com/ and shop her Sarah Cole Love Yourself Collection HERE. Follow her on:Instagram: @mollyrstern TikTok: @mollyrstern Facebook: @MollyRSternMakeup X/Twitter: @TheMollyRStern Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    Getting Good at Handling Change

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2024 19:41


    “The job of life is to get good at change, because it never stops.”Why do so many of us resist change instead of embracing it? For our host Erin, life over the past few years has become almost unrecognizable, but in the best way possible. In this episode, she takes us through her journey of navigating and thriving through these shifts. From battling COVID to a complete lifestyle overhaul, Erin explores the evolving landscape of her life and what it means to fully embrace change.Join Erin as she recounts her experiences of significant personal and professional changes, emerging stronger, more self-assured, and more connected to her desires. We discuss:Dismantling the "boxes" society places around us: work, marriage, motherhoodStaying connected to your desires and being open to new experiences, from romantic adventures to deepening friendships.Practical ways to actually ‘thrive in ambiguity' and embrace the inevitability of change.Lessons from various life phases, from parenthood to navigating modern dating.Ways to identify and let go of dynamics and situations that no longer serve you, and embrace new, enriching experiences.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    4 Ways That Covid Changed Absolutely Everything with Lori Hamilton

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2024 52:44


    “I'm striving for excellence, but I'm not pretending to be perfect anymore.”The Covid-19 pandemic was a watershed moment of change for everyone, reshaping both personal and professional lives. For our host Erin, it catalyzed her divorce and sparked a career pivot that led to the birth of “Hotter Than Ever”. But what major trends emerged post-pandemic that are now influencing how we navigate our next chapters—midlife and beyond?To explore this, we're joined by Lori Hamilton, an award-winning writer, director, performer, and insights expert. In this episode, Lori delves into her research, highlighting how the pandemic prompted a reassessment of our relationship with work, redefined our notions of success, and emphasized the value of authentic connections. Erin and Lori also discuss the joy and fulfillment that come from identifying and pursuing your unique talents and finding work that aligns with your core values, moving beyond the pursuit of perfection. Join us as we embrace authenticity and explore:Recognizing and pursuing your true gifts rather than forcing yourself into roles that don't fit.Balancing corporate work with artistic endeavors for a more fulfilling career.How sharing vulnerabilities can enhance our well-being and relationships.Post-COVID corporate dynamics and the efforts made to shift from perfectionism to authenticity and genuine care in the workplace.The importance of aligning your relationship with your employer to your personal values.Focusing on relationships and activities that bring true joy and fulfillment, and setting boundaries with those that do not.Prioritizing environments that appreciate and value your contributions.OUR GUEST: Lori Hamilton is an award-winning writer, director, performer, and creator with 69 awards for creative excellence, including 28 for short films. Her work includes Project Spudway, a take off of Project Runway with animated potatoes, to Landalor Industries, a serious corporate satire, to North Star (or what I listened to instead of my intuition), a one-woman show from the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, to 150+ short films, comedy bits, TV pilots and feature film scripts.Want more Lori? Find her online at https://thelorihamilton.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @thelorihamilton TikTok: @thelorihamilton X/Twitter: @thelorihamilton Threads: @thelorihamilton LinkedIn: Lori Hamilton Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Juggling Creative Careers and Motherhood with comedian Ophira Eisenberg

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2024 60:08


    Navigating modern life as a working mother and a creative professional is no small feat. In this episode, we dig deep into comedian and Mom Ophira Eisenberg's journey through comedy, storytelling, and podcasting. Ophira, a multi-talented comic, storyteller, and host of the podcast "Parenting is a Joke," shares her captivating story with humor, and recounts the diverse roles she has embraced to carve out a meaningful career all while juggling motherhood and beating back toxic positivity culture, one post-it note at a time.Join us for an insightful conversation as Erin and Ophira explore:How career pivots can lead to greater professional successThe challenges of balancing career ambitions with motherhoodThe need for realistic, tangible support for working mothers How societal systems often place the burden of systemic issues on individuals, especially working mothersUnpacking the cultural shift towards positivity and gratitude, and the negative impact of the commercialization of wellness practices targeted at womenThe importance of creating space for real, honest humanity and actionable support for one anotherThe ongoing journey of self-care, setting boundaries, and the liberation that comes from learning to say "no"OUR GUEST: Ophira Eisenberg is a standup comedian, writer, and host of the award-winning podcast Parenting Is A Joke. She also hosted NPR's Ask Me Another, interviewing and playing games with celebrities like Neil Patrick Harris, Rosie Perez, and Awkwafina. Ophira has appeared on CBS's The Late Late Show, Sherri!, Comedy Central, HBO, and The Moth Radio Hour. Her memoir, Screw Everyone: Sleeping My Way to Monogamy, was optioned for TV, and her comedy special, Plant-Based Jokes, is streaming on YouTube. She performs regularly at The Comedy Cellar and other New York clubs, and her solo show, Leaving A Mark: A Comedy About Scars, won the Women in the Arts & Media Award for Solo Show Scripts.Want more Ophira? Find her online at https://www.ophiraeisenberg.com/ and listen to her podcast Parenting is a Joke. Follow her on:Instagram: @ophirae TikTok: @ophiranyc Facebook: @OphiraEisenberg X/Twitter: @OphiraE Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook:

    Your Authenticity is Your Secret Weapon with Kim Rittberg

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2024 53:00


    “Every single person is special, but most of us are too afraid to show up in the world and let them see how special we are.”In a world that often values polished presentations and corporate facades, finding and maintaining authenticity in professional and personal settings can feel like a daunting task. Yet, it's precisely this authenticity and vulnerability that can create genuine connections and drive impactful change. Kim Rittberg, a former media executive who took the brave step to become her own boss, joins Erin in this episode to dive deep into the power of bringing your authentic self to every situation.Join us for an insightful and candid conversation as Kim and Erin how embracing vulnerability and being true to oneself can lead to richer, more meaningful interactions and greater professional success. We discuss:Kim's decision to leave a successful corporate corporate life to see more control over life and career.Transitioning into entrepreneurship and how to recognize and lean into your unique skills and strengths.How authenticity and being true to oneself enhances not only your professional success, but personal connections.The importance of integrating vulnerability into your professional life and how to bring (almost) your whole self to work. Why more women feel imposter syndrome and why it's important to validate your place in these spaces.Reshma Saujani's *Smith College commencement speech about imposter syndrome: Imposter Syndrome Is A Scheme: Reshma Saujani's Smith College Commencement AddressShifting your mindset to prioritize your goals and message over the fear of displeasing others.OUR GUEST: Kim Rittberg is a 6x award-winning digital marketer who teaches business owners and brands how to grow leads and revenue through video and podcasts, bringing 20 years of media experience from Netflix, PopSugar and TV News. She launched the first ever video unit for Us Weekly (which sold for $100 million). She's been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Fast Company and is a national speaker. She hosts the podcast The Exit Interview with Kim Rittberg for self-employed folks to grow their business, every Friday is a 5-minute marketing tip and Wednesday amazing founders share inspiration and actionable tips. Want more Kim? Find her online at https://www.kimrittberg.com and listen to The Exit Interview with Kim Rittberg. Follow her on:Instagram: @kimrittberg LinkedIn: @kimrittberg Twitter: @kimrittbergYouTube: @kimrittbergcontent Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram:

    How To Attract Epic Love with Lilli Bewley

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2024 54:13


    "It's in vulnerability and self-love that we find our true strength."If you've been tuning into Hotter Than Ever, you know that while our host Erin offers plenty of dating advice, especially for those re-entering the scene after a marriage, her aim isn't necessarily to find love herself. But regardless of whether you're skeptical about love or seeking it with all your heart, you'll enjoy this conversation with Lilli Bewley. Lilli is a dating coach, teacher, author and host of the Lilly Bewley podcast, with a mission to help 1 million people find true love in their lifetime. In this episode, Erin and Lili delve into the complexities of modern dating through the empowering lens of the goddess archetype, transforming how women view themselves and their relationships.Join us as we explore embodying confidence, self-love, and actionable steps every woman can take to attract epic love. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their relationships, improve their dating experiences, and gain a deeper understanding of themselves. Together, we delve into:The power of the goddess archetype in enriching women's self-improvement and dating journeysStrategies for healing perfectionism and control, opening oneself to vulnerability and honest communicationThe significance of emotional availability in partners and the role of past trauma in shaping relationship dynamicsPersonal stories of setting boundaries, fostering understanding, and creating healthy, supportive partnershipsDifferent archetypes of women—chill woman, fortress woman, goddess woman, and magnetic woman—and the path to becoming a magnetic womanThe mirror effect in relationships, reflecting our internal states externally, and the importance of inner healing workPractical insights on overcoming the fear of being "too much" and embracing self-love and confidence in dating and lifeOUR GUEST: Lilli Bewley is a Dating Coach for Finding Love with over 10 years of experience in personal development. She, herself, went from just surviving in life to thriving in love & purpose. Currently, she is helping single & successful women love dating & find true love. Lilli is on a mission to educate people on how dating can be fun again after a divorce, even in their 30s & 40s & 50s, & even if they've been single for forever. We have the ability to create magnetic energy in our dating lives even if we have to perform & be high achievers in other parts of our lives. Her signature Quiz, The Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz, will show women their blocks to love & help them find their true love match. Want more Lilli? Find her online at https://www.lillibewley.com/ and listen to the Lilli Bewley Podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @lillibewley TikTok: @lillibewley Facebook: @LilliBewleyYouTube:@lillibewleyWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram:

    Advertising for Women Over 40, Made By Women Over 40! with Katie Keating

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2024 48:33


    Despite the fact that women make 85% of household buying decisions, the majority of women over 40 report feeling largely overlooked by the advertising industry. Even more striking, 82% of women in a recent survey felt cooler, stronger, and sexier than they ever expected at this age—so why aren't advertisers targeting them? Enter Katie Keating, the founder and Co-Chief Creative Officer of Fancy LLC, a 100% women-owned advertising agency. Katie and Fancy's mission is not only to create impactful work targeting women—especially those in midlife—but also to provide a work environment where women can thrive.Join us for an enlightening and empowering conversation as Erin and Katie delve into reshaping how women are viewed and spoken to in the world of advertising, and embracing their power as consumers and entrepreneurs. We discuss:How women are often relegated to female-centric products in advertising, like beauty and women's health.Katie's founding of Fancy LLC to tackle the gender disparity in advertising and create an agency where women can balance their careers and personal lives.Why traditional advertisers often ignore women over 40, despite their significant role in household purchasing.Approaching “taboo” subjects in advertising to better connect with women over 40.How social media platforms restrict advertisements related to women's health and sexual pleasure, perpetuating taboos.How cultural resistance to discussing salaries and finances hinders women's economic empowerment.Strategies for advertising to women about aging, cannabis, and mental health.The positive impact and empowerment that occurs when women control financial resources.OUR GUEST: Katie Keating is recognized as one of Adweek's Creative 100, and a snappy, strategic, and seasoned Creative Director empowering brands to create meaningful, motivating connections with women—setting the stage for long-term brand loyalty and revenue growth. Katie co-founded Fancy in 2011 to change the way advertising works for women. Entrepreneurial in spirit and in practice and a hands-on leader who values collaboration with both clients and partner agencies, Katie's is a contributor to Adweek, Ad Age, and Campaign. She loves a spontaneous dance party.Want more Katie? Find her and Fancy LLC online at https://www.fancynyc.com. Follow her on:Instagram: @fancynyc X/Twitter: @katiekeating LinkedIn: @katiekeating Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook:

    Advice: How Do I Juggle Dating Several Guys at the Same Time?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2024 11:49


    “Are you being compulsive and chasing that dopamine hit of likes and matches like you're one of Pavlov's dogs?” Dating apps can be exhilarating, especially when exploring new connections for the first time after leaving a marriage. But what if swiping has left you with so many matches that managing them feels overwhelming? In this episode, Erin responds to a listener's dilemma of balancing multiple matches, by offering practical advice on managing dating app usage, staying honest with matches, and not worrying about losing the "good ones" as the right connections will stick.Join us as we discuss:Limiting your time on dating apps to avoid feeling overwhelmed and compulsive.Being upfront with your dates about seeing multiple people to manage expectations.Prioritizing the matches you're most excited about to maintain balance in your schedule.Taking breaks to maintain your well-being if dating becomes too stressful.How the right connections will persist; those meant for you won't be scared away by honesty or a slow pace.Staying present and enjoying the dating process without the pressure of immediate serious relationships.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    Why We Need Adult Sex Ed with Dr. Kelly Casperson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2024 54:43


    For many women who've never had an orgasm, it's easy to feel like there's something wrong or that they're broken, a sentiment shared by many of Dr. Kelly Casperson's patients. However, as urologist and star podcaster Dr. Casperson explains in our latest episode, the issue isn't with women—it's our lack of good sex education. This lack hinders women's ability to experience pleasure, which is why over 10% of women report never having had an orgasm. This issue is particularly pronounced in midlife, where menopause and societal stigmas leave many women feeling abandoned in their sexuality.Join us as Erin and Dr. Casperson guide you through your own adult sex ed class, busting myths about female sexuality, diving into hormonal balance, discussing how to express your sexual needs, and showing you how to reclaim your sexual health and well-being at any age.Debunking myths and misconceptions about female health, libido, and sexuality, which are often understudied and not discussed.How tuning into your inner voice can lead to a more passionate, truthful life.Unlocking the secrets of estrogen and testosterone for better sex and overall health.The impact of unrealistic media portrayals of sex on women's self-perception and satisfaction.How open conversations about sex can boost pleasure, connection, and intimacy.Why we need a sex education revolution to replace porn as a go-to resource, helping close the orgasm gap for mutual pleasure.How sex toys can help you discover what you really want and what gives you pleasure.Read the paper discussed in the episode The heteronormative theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men.OUR GUEST: Dr. Kelly Casperson is a certified urologist, surgeon entrepreneur, Tedx speaker, author, and top international podcaster with "You Are Not Broken." Her book, "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over Your Sex Life" is an Amazon best seller. She has a dynamic speaking presence and is proud to speak on female pelvic health, sexual wellness, and genitourinary symptoms of menopause to educate and empower individuals to take control of their bodies and health care options.Want more Dr. Kelly Casperson? Find her online at https://kellycaspersonmd.com and listen to her You Are Not Broken podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @kellycaspersonmdFacebook: @youarentbroken YouTube: @kellycaspersonmd Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Advice: Should I Give This Guy a Second Chance?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2024 18:28


    Getting your needs met is hot. What's not hot is when your emotional or physical needs (or both!) are neglected. One listener is grappling with this issue, questioning whether to give a man a second chance after a real first date fail, especially as she navigates dating after a sexless marriage.In this episode, Erin is drawing from her own experiences and shares the importance of prioritizing our own needs and self-worth in casual dating, and to avoid settling for less than you deserve. Join us as we discuss:Prioritizing emotional care and connection in addition to physical intimacyTrusting your instincts and prioritizing your well-being, particularly if an encounter leaves you feeling empty or degraded.Communicating your needs and being prepared to move on if they're not met.Recognizing your worth and refusing to accept poor treatment, even in casual relationships.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we're on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you'll never miss an episode. We'd love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

    How to Feel Less Exhaustion and More Joy with Victoria Albina

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2024 57:24


    “It's only when we come into the body that we can start to see our thoughts.”In the age of the internet and social media, we're constantly bombarded with pseudoscientific wellness trends that promise quick fixes for every aspect of our mental well-being. Beneath the noise, there exists a grounded, science-based, and holistic approach to wellness, exemplified by Victoria Albina. Victoria is a family nurse practitioner, breathwork meditation guide, life coach, and host of the "Feminist Wellness Podcast." Her mission is to empower women to become their own best healers, enabling them to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and to reclaim their joy. This is what being Hotter Than Ever is all about.Join us for a fascinating conversation as Victoria guides us through the importance of getting deeper in touch with our bodies through feminist wellness, understanding the nervous system, and utilizing somatic practices. We discuss:Intersectional feminism and the importance of considering the whole person to understand their unique experiences and needs in wellnessThe connection between the nervous system and mental wellness, and how past traumas and emotional experiences affect current well-being.How emotional outsourcing and feeling unsafe in our bodies can lead to chronic stress in women, making it difficult to unwind and relaxPractical somatic practices to calm the nervous system and how these differ from healing practicesWhy self-love is so challenging to cultivate in a world driven by external approval, and how somatic practices can help foster itHow visualization can be used as a technique for healing, allowing us to alter our neural pathwaysOUR GUEST: Victoria Albina (she/they) is a Certified Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping women realize that they are their own best healers, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York's Hudson Valley.Want more Victoria? Find her online at https://victoriaalbina.com/ and listen to her Feminist Wellness podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellnessFacebook: @VictoriaAlbinaWellness LinkedIn: @VictoriaAlbinaWellness Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

    How I Learned to Flirt

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2024 14:11


    Are you a natural flirt, or do you consider yourself clueless when it comes to flirting or recognizing when you're being flirted with? Our host Erin has experienced the entire spectrum, from being oblivious to flirting—both as a single and married woman—to embracing it as a powerful form of self-expression and connection post-divorce. In this episode, Erin shares how flirting has transformed the little moments in her life, whether she's at Trader Joe's or the DMV, making her feel more alive, seen, and engaged with the world.Join us for fun stories and advice on letting your own light shine through flirting, including:Embracing flirting as a source of joy and self-expressionProjecting playful, open energy that invites connection and new interactions with othersHow practicing flirtation actively defies the stereotype that women in their fifties are invisibleMaking small efforts to let your sparkle show, engage with others, and soak in the fun and freedom that come with itWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod We'd love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you're enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It's as simple as buying us a coffee!

    Choosing Mediation over Divorce When You Know It's Over with Paulette Rigo

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2024 55:56


    Half of marriages these days end in divorce, but did you know that 73% of divorces are initiated by women? In today's episode we're joined by Paulette Rigo, a credentialed private mediator and certified divorce coach, whose mission is to help couples avoid court and navigate their divorces more amicably. Paulette endured a grueling divorce litigation process that spanned nearly 10 years. Now, she is determined to use the insights from her experience to ensure no one else gets trapped in a similar situation.Join us as Erin and Paulette take an honest and hard look at the evolving landscape of marriage and divorce for women in midlife, offering a compassionate and comprehensive guide to navigating divorce. We discuss:Why women are initiating the majority of divorces and no longer see marriage as a prerequisite.Insights from Paulette's personal journey from marrying young to enduring an extensive legal battle during her divorce.The importance of mediation to resolve divorces more peacefully and cost-effectively, and why most divorces can be settled through alternative dispute resolution methods.The 21 reasons couples divorce and how to determine whether divorce is right for you or if the issues you're facing in your marriage are something you can work on.How to avoid involving your children in marital conflicts and maintain a stable and loving environment through divorce.The importance of understanding marriage laws in your state, as they significantly impact the divorce process.OUR GUEST: Paulette Rigo is a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, High Conflict Specialist, Trauma-Informed Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist, Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Host and Author. Her best selling release “Better Divorce Blueprint” the Book and Workbook, No Matter What card deck, Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast, All Things Divorce on Clubhouse, Best Life Ever Private Island Retreats and Better Divorce Academy are tools she created and utilizes to help her clients create an optimal divorce experience even with high-conflict personalities and build the new chapter they deserve and desire.Want more Paulette? Find her online at https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ and listen to her Better Divorce podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @paulettegloriarigo Facebook: @paulettegloriarigo Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod We'd love to...

    'The Idea of You' is Midlife Rom Com Candy

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2024 12:19


    “Thank God for representations of real sex on screen.”A 40-year-old woman and an unbelievably hot 24-year-old man get together for an unexpected, steamy romance? Sign us up! It's no wonder why everyone has been asking Erin what she thinks of the new movie “The Idea of You”, released earlier this year. In this episode, Erin breaks down the film and shares her thoughts on why this story, and the representation of romance between an older woman and a younger man, matters in today's cultural landscape.Join us as we explore the emotional truths the film reveals about love, vulnerability, and the enduring allure of a good love story. We discuss:The importance of stories featuring older women finding love and happiness in our mediaThe realness and magic the film portrays of letting your heart lead you, despite its ‘Hollywood-ized' nature.Why romcoms and romance are still important in today's culture–they remind us of what's possible in our own livesWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod We'd love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you're enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It's as simple as buying us a coffee!

    How To Have Hot Sex for Life with Susan Bratton

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2024 57:44


    It's no secret that many women don't enjoy having sex. But the problem isn't the women: it's the sex we're shown in the media and porn, which is dominated by patriarchal ideas and largely ignores women's pleasure. Amidst this dearth of sexual satisfaction for women emerges Susan Bratton, an intimacy expert and advocate for lifelong intimacy and passion. Susan has helped countless clients and readers of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion, proving that we can all embody being Hotter Than Ever.In today's episode, Susan shares her valuable insights on transforming sexual experiences, maintaining sexual health and enjoyment as we age, embracing authenticity in intimate relationships, and more. We discuss:The importance of enjoying pleasure and sexuality throughout life and normalizing the sexuality of older womenTips and techniques for transforming sex into heart-connected conscious lovemakingAddressing cultural myths that prioritize male pleasure, and encouraging men to understand and fulfill their partner's needs for a mutually satisfying experiencePractical advice on reversing sexual atrophy and maintaining sexual health and vitality into older ageHow estrogen impacts body image and the need for more diverse and realistic representations of pleasure in mediaThe benefits of unconventional relationship structures and polyamory to fulfill different needsHow women and men can support each other in fulfilling our sexual desiresOUR GUEST: Susan Bratton, known as the "trusted intimacy wellness expert to millions,” is the co-founder and CEO of two companies in the intimate wellness space. She manufactures supplements and publishes online courses on lifelong relationship health. Her expertise includes ageless sexuality, sexual biohacking, libido supplementation, and sexual regenerative therapies. A sought-after speaker, Susan has appeared on numerous podcasts, radio shows, and TV segments worldwide. Her weekly email newsletter reaches nearly half a million readers. Want more Susan? Find her and her work online at: https://susanbratton.com/ The20, LLCThe Sexual Soulmate PactRelationship Magic Follow her on:Instagram: @susanbratton LinkedIn: @susanbrattonYouTube: Susan Bratton - BetterLover Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    Vulnerability Is So Hard!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2024 13:45


    “I am willing to take on the uncomfortable feelings that it takes to be vulnerable. Are you?”When you've been raised as a fiercely independent Gen X-er and have been hurt by men in relationships (who hasn't?), everything tells you not to be vulnerable. But in reflecting on her personal journey post-divorce, Erin shares how her efforts to become more emotionally open have transformed her relationships. In this episode, Erin is renewing her commitment to break free from old patterns and embrace vulnerability, even if it means facing discomfort and potential heartbreak.Whether you've had your heart broken or have built up emotional defenses over the years, this episode is a reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength. Join us as we discuss:The importance of being emotionally open and how it can deepen friendships and relationshipsHow being raised to be independent and past romantic betrayals shaped a reluctance to be vulnerableThe ways in which fear of vulnerability manifests and how to break these patterns through practiceWhy taking risks with your heart is essential for growth and fulfillmentWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod We'd love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you're enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It's as simple as buying us a coffee!

    You're Not Too F***ing Old! with Jen Marples

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2024 51:25


    When Jen Marples found herself unable to muster the energy to get out of bed, it was a stark wake-up call. A true go-getter, she had carved out a stellar career in marketing and PR, even launching her own thriving business, all while married with three children. Yet, amidst all of the success and achievements, she realized she had neglected one crucial thing: herself.From this moment of realization, Jen embarked on a journey of transformation, emerging as a beacon of empowerment for women navigating midlife. As an entrepreneur, speaker, and host of the Jen Marples Show, she champions the notion that age is never a barrier to pursuing one's dreams.In this episode, Erin and Jen delve into the nuances of midlife reinvention. From navigating career transitions to balancing work and family, Jen shares insights on reclaiming identity and rediscovering purpose in this next chapter for women. Here's what's on the agenda:Reframing midlife as a beginning, not an ending, for new careers and personal growthWhy attaching meaning to work and prioritizing happiness are crucial for thriving in midlifeRecognizing the signs of burnout, seeking help when needed, and reprioritizing your own well-being Cultivating a culture of mutual support among women and amplifying each others' voices to create collective empowerment and growth.Midlife pivots and the importance of taking time for yourself to get clear on your next moveSetting boundaries and communicating your needs in relationships as a form of self-care in midlifeOUR GUEST: Jen is a champion of midlife women and a cheerleader for ALL women. She's an entrepreneur, keynote speaker, podcaster, and leader in the midlife women's empowerment movement. She puts midlife women first and preaches: You're Not Too F***ing Old! to Step Into the Midlife Spotlight! Jen runs the Jen Marples Agency, a full-service marketing communications with one goal: to help women Step Into the Spotlight to get seen, heard, paid, and make an impact. Jen also hosts The Jen Marples Show, a top 2% globally ranked podcast, dedicated to empowering midlife women so they can power the world! She's been helping women for decades achieve life and career success and is a frequent speaker nationwide. Want more Jen? Find her online at www.jenmarples.com and listen to The Jen Marples show HERE or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow her on:Instagram: @jenmarples | @thejenmarplesshow TikTok: @jenmarples Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

    My 52 Year Old Body

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2024 29:10


    “My health, my well being was the catalyst for all of the radical reinvention that I am talking about here on this podcast.” What is your relationship like with your body? Feeling disconnected from our bodies is a common experience, and in today's digital age, it's often exacerbated by the constant barrage of fitness fads and wellness trends flooding our feeds. But as we navigate midlife, ignoring our bodies becomes less of an option. In this episode, Erin dives deep into her own journey of body rediscovery at 52.From childhood struggles with weight to a disconnected relationship with her physical self in adulthood, Erin shares the pivotal moments that sparked her radical reinvention. Join us as we explore the tough questions about body image, self-care, and well-being, and uncover actionable steps to embrace a freer, happier, healthier life. We discuss:The ties between body image struggles and feeling detached from our physical selvesThe empowering role of sexuality and embracing physical activities in fostering a renewed connection with our bodiesThe importance of proactive health measures, from routine check-ups to medical interventions, in prioritizing our well-beingEmbracing cosmetic procedures (if it feels right for you) as a part of self-careWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40? DM us on IG @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod We'd love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you're enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It's as simple as buying us a coffee!

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