Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're defining the relationship, ya'll, with Carleigh Ferrante! Carleigh is the creator and voice of @mostlydating on Instagram and host of the Mostly Dating podcast, having built a community of over 200,000 with her honest takes on dating and relationships. Whether you're feeling things out with someone new, stuck in dating limbo, or ready to move from casual to committed, this episode offers advice on how to approach conversation around exclusivity and defining the relationship with clarity and confidence.  We'll talk about what signs to look for that someone is ready for the conversation, how to know if you're ready, what to consider before having it, and how to handle it if you're not on the same page. Carleigh shares her take on the timing of the DTR convo, whether exclusivity and defining the relationship are the same thing, and how to navigate situations where one person needs more time.  We also cover what to expect after this conversation, like how to keep things moving forward or how to walk away if it's not working. And finally, we talk a little mindset. Why do we fear scaring someone? And how can we stay grounded when we're feeling unsure about where we stand with someone?  So, whether you're about to DTR, go exclusive, all of the above, or none of above, stick around for a candid and honest conversation about dating and relationships. Alright, let's do this, Flirties, and meet Carleigh! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Carleigh Ferrante is a New York–based writer and creator behind the hit dating podcast Mostly Dating, where she delivers approachable, insightful advice for every stage of modern relationships. Her work blends humor, heart, and accessible guidance, with episodes running weekly and featuring practical tips, listener questions, and conversations that help build healthier, happier, and lasting connections. A graduate of Hunter College with a degree in Creative Writing and Psychology, Carleigh has contributed to major outlets including MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, PureWow, Forbes, Bustle, The Everygirl, The Zoe Report, and Yahoo Life. She also works directly with brands, crafting copy for email, web, social media, and more. You can connect with Carleigh on Instagram (@mostlydating), the Mostly Dating Podcast, and on her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Fernie is back on the show for our summer solstice dating horoscope! With a brand new season comes new energy for dating, romance, flirting, and cosmic possibility. Joining us today is Flirtations' in-house astrologer, fortune teller, and magic mystic, Fernie, here to read the stars and pull back the planetary curtain on what this season has in store for our love lives. What does the Queen of Swords want us to know? What is Jupiter up to and what opportunities might some celestial happenings present? Mars has also got something to say and we're kicking off cancer season! Lot's to get to, including the two big themes the stars and planets have for us, and how we can fill our own cups a little bit more. You don't need to be an astrology expert—just bring an open heart and an open mind, and we'll take care of the rest. So get ready to flirt with fortune, boldness, beauty, and maybe a little bit of magic. Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Fernie. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it's been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him. He's also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher's certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Shanté Holley to the show! Dr. Shanté is a certified life coach, writer, professor, and host of the podcast The Whole In Your Heart podcast on YouTube. Specializing in guiding individuals through the complexities of healing, wellness, and personal development, today we have a conversation for you about the art of surrender. We explore how to trust the timing of your life, the difference between surrender and submission, and how to accept what you cannot change while still believing deeply in yourself and what is possible. We'll go into how to process anger and hurt when you've been wronged, how to stop living in the past, and how the very act of trying to control outcomes is often where we lose our power.  Dr. Shanté offers insights into why force is the opposite of surrender, how to recognize the subtle ways we abandon ourselves, and why surrender is not weakness, but strength. If you've been holding on too tightly to old beliefs, are having a hard time letting go, feeling stuck, or if your strength has started to look more like struggle, this episode is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Dr. Shanté! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Shanté Holley is a certified, trauma-informed mental health coach with over 20 years of experience as a college professor. She is a respected voice in the mental wellness community, with a passionate following of more than 270K on social media, a ranked publication on Substack, and viral content that has reached millions.  Known for her accessible, and impactful approach to mental health, she has been featured on both local and national news outlets, using her platform to share practical insights and advocate for mental wellness. A sought-after speaker, Dr. Shanté delivers high-value content on a variety of topics related to emotional resilience, trauma recovery, and self-care, with engagements across the country. Her expertise has led to partnerships with major organizations such as the Immigrant Justice Corps, American Red Cross, SAMHSA, and the Ad Council, where she collaborates on campaigns aimed at promoting mental health awareness and community support. In addition to her work in mental health coaching, Dr. Shanté is a prolific podcaster with three successful shows that collectively boast hundreds of thousands of downloads. Her podcasts serve as valuable resources for individuals seeking guidance on personal growth, mindset, healing, and navigating life's challenges. Dr. Shanté also serves on the Board for Belonging Through Art, an organization dedicated to reducing loneliness and fostering positive social connections through art. Her commitment to improving mental wellness extends to her academic work, where she was a Fulbright Scholarship Finalist for her research on Blaxit: The Interconnectedness of Racial Trauma, Healing, and Black Immigration to Portugal, a groundbreaking project that explored the intersections of cultural identity, trauma, and healing. With her extensive background in mental health, education, and media Dr. Shanté Holley is a trailblazer in the field, committed to helping individuals heal, grow, and thrive. You can connect with Dr. Shanté on Substack, listen to the "Whole in Your Heart" podcast on YouTube, learn more on her website, and @drshantesays on Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going to have a cheeky good time with the fabulous Jana Hocking! You might know Jana from her spicy columns in the Daily Mail, her time behind the scenes casting and producing The Bachelor, or her wildly popular 'saucy secrets' series on Instagram, where no confession is too hot to handle. In this episode, we talk about everything from orgasm camp to the realities of modern dating—including the rise of red pill culture, the shift to wanting more in real life meet cute moments, and how we can start to decenter dating in our lives without settling for singleness. Jana shares some of her favorite dating stories, we're gonna talk some kinks and sex, and yes, even a flirting tip or two. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jana Hocking is a journalist, dating columnist, and self-proclaimed “collector of stories” the juicier, the better. She pens the popular Saucy Secrets advice column for Daily Mail, writes internationally about modern romance, and has become a go-to voice on sex, dating, and relationships. Known for her cheeky wit and raw honesty, she's not afraid to ask the questions everyone's thinking - especially when it comes to love and lust in the 21st century. Follow her adventures, columns, and overshares on Instagram @jana_hocking and catch more of her writing at dailymail.co.uk. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Erica Turner to the show, the creator of The Relationship Reset on Instagram and the Secure Dating Playbook, to have a conversation with us about communication in early dating! We open the show with how to reset the relationship we have with ourselves and reframe some common experiences we might have out there dating. Experiences like feeling like it's never going to happen, feeling like we're not enough or like we're too much, and ultimately how we can develop more secure connections within ourselves. Then we get into communication questions as we talk about frequency and pacing, how often to text, what to do when someone's communication style feels different from yours, are we following on social media, and how we can navigate perhaps difficult conversations when we need to express a need or boundary. Finally, we'll share guidance on building emotional intimacy and compatibility in early dating, how to know if someone might ghost you, and why vulnerability is the key to authentic connection. So, whether you're just starting something new or trying to move beyond surface-level small talk, this episode is your invitation to flirt with deeper connection. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Erica! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Erica Turner is a relationship therapist & dating coach supporting people to date from the worth & attract healthy love with ease. You can connect with Erica on Instagram, download the FREE Secure Dating Playbook, and enroll in the Secure Dating Method Masterclass for more! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Alli Goldberg to the show! Alli is a producer, writer, comedian, and creator of the in real life comedy show Love Isn't Blind that blends dating, laughter, and matchmaking, here to have a conversation with us about dating, flirting, and how we can have more fun making connections. Questions for Alli for relatively split between this sounds so fun, where can I see a show!, and I could never do that, this makes me nervous! We'll open with talking about fear and how that shows up in our dating and flirting lives - and what we can do about it.  We get into how to flirt with more freedom, how to have more fun, and answer questions like: Do I have to be funny to flirt? What if I hate flirting? What if this whole thing just makes me nervous? And most importantly, how do we step outside our comfort zones and create connections that actually feel good? We'll touch on authenticity, how both Alli and myself have navigated these very questions, and learn more about Alli's one-of-a-kind show, Love Isn't Blind, and how you can attend and participate! So, whether you're a seasoned flirt or someone who breaks out in flop sweat at the thought of making the first move, this episode is for you. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Alli! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Allison Goldberg is a comedian, producer, and creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Tamron Hall Show, and more. For the past 2.5 years, she's been working on her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, which is a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak. She is currently touring the country with the show. She is a graduate of Yale University, and is repped by Gersh. Apply to be on the show Find out show dates/buy tickets Nominate a Friend Instagram About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Today on Flirtations, we welcome Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the powerhouse due behind the Almost 30 podcast, with over 100M downloads around the world, and authors of the new book Almost 30:  A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond, who are here to have a conversation with us today about dating advice I wish I knew! We open with the interplay between change and fear, and how can we navigate the space of change and life's experiences without holding ourselves back? Or self sabotaging? We also explore hyperindividualism and codependency in dating and relationships, how each manifests and what we can do if we fall into these dynamics? But that's not all, we're going to talk about the duality of loneliness and healing, self-love and how to find the right balance between just enough and feeling like it's never enough, and, if you're dating the mens, but kind of can't stand them either, we'll hear how to begin reframing relationships with men. Alright Flirties, if you're read for a heartfelt and transformative episode, this one is for you! Now let's meet Krista and Lindsey! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guests:  Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams, founders and co-hosts of the popular “Almost 30” podcast, are women's empowerment leaders and best friends releasing their debut book “Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond,” on June 3, 2025. Part memoir, part manual, fans are eagerly awaiting the book as their ultimate guide to navigating life's transitions. In the “Almost 30” book, Lindsey and Krista act as cosmic big sisters, providing encouragement, wisdom, and practical tools to help readers embrace change and thrive and they move into a new chapter of life. Through candid stories of their own experiences, as well as expert insight from podcast guests like Jay Shetty, Gabby Bernstein, and Glennon Doyle, Lindsey and Krista lay out a roadmap for navigating young adulthood, from relationships to spirituality, career to body image, and more.   Packed with thought-provoking exercises, meditation and journaling prompts, and sage advice, this book is a must-have companion for anyone standing at the edge of change. Whether you're figuring out who you are or where you're going next, “Almost 30” is here to guide you through life's transitions and remind us that we're all almost… something. The “Almost 30” podcast is a top wellness, spirituality, and self-development podcast. Since the show's inception, Lindsey and Krista have amassed over 100M downloads, completed a 13-city tour, hosted in-person retreats and online workshops, and built an online membership community platform. Lindsey Simcik is a content creator, author, and co-host of the successful “Almost 30” podcast. Recently having become a first-time mother, Lindsey is a mainstay lifestyle creator for moms and anyone seeking to live a natural, holistic life. Krista Williams is a content creator, author, and co-host of the successful “Almost 30” podcast. Known for her style and vibrancy, followers flock to Krista for dating, travel and self-care inspiration. You can learn more and purchase a copy of the "Almost 30" book wherever books are sold! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're celebrating the premiere of the new season And Just Like That … with a special Sex and the City episode!  For this conversation, we welcome the multitalented and multifaceted Scott Spraags, a dancer, choreographer, producer, director, and all-around passionate creator who is a Sex and the City superfan, just like me! In this episode, we explore each of the iconic characters—Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha—and the enduring dating lessons their stories, romances, relationships, and sexcapades have bestowed us.  From Carrie's avoidant and yet anxious tendencies to Miranda's Type A personality and how that played out in dating, to Charlotte's hopeful romanticism and belief in love, to Samantha's unapologetic sexual confidence, we discuss how these characters and their narratives have shaped our understanding of love and relationships. So, whether you're a longtime fan or new to the series, please join us as we celebrate the show's impact on dating culture and its continued relevance today. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Scottie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Scott/Scottie is a working professional in entertainment and creative currently based in Los Angeles . He has worked with major artists such as Post Malone, Martin Short, and Broadway Choreographers, such as Connor Gallagher, and Patti Wilcox to name a few.  You can find him performing, acting, singing, and spreading love and joy all over the world . He has gotten the opportunity to walk the lifestyles of so many different cultures & people from getting to travel, perform and live across the globe his entire life.  The biggest lesson he has take away from this islearning to never take what you have for granted but to also never settle for less than you are. He is thrilled to be a guest on Flirtations! And seriously SO proud to be a Flrity just like you.  Keep up with Scott on Instagram @scottspraags. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking limerence, longing, and connection with our guest, Amanda McCracken, a journalist, speaker, and host of the insightful The Longing Lab podcast and author of the forthcoming book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover. Inside the episode, we breakdown limerence and the limerence cycle, and how this intense and often obsessive infatuation we may develop for someone ultimately keeps us from developing the connections and relationships we desire.  We'll also explore the neuroscience behind limerence and how our brains are wired to desire what we don't have, and why this longing can become a comforting distraction.  But that's not all, you all came through with questions and we've got answers, like how to break the limerence cycle? What if I just can't get over someone? I have a crush, how can I not go into limerence? What are some strategies for obsessive thoughts? What role does social media and the dating apps play in all of this? As we begin to wrap up the conversation, Amanda shares her decision to wait until 41 to have sex, which garnered national attention and sparked conversations about intimacy, self-worth, and the societal narratives that shape our romantic lives. Alright flirties, let's prepare to examine our desires and the stories we tell ourselves about love.  Time to meet Amanda! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist whose writing has been published in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, NPR, Elle, National Geographic, Vogue, Runner's World, Outside and elsewhere. Her TEDx talk "How longing keeps us from healthy relationships" was one of only 200 talks chosen in 2023 as a TEDx editors' pick. She is now a TEDxCU speaker coach and a writing consultant at the University of Colorado. McCracken has been interviewed about her essays on intimacy by Katie Couric, the BBC World News, USA Today, and various podcasts. After over a decade of research and interviews with 100+ people, her hybrid memoir on limerence When Longing Becomes Your Lover will be published Februrary 2026, but the greatest result of her investigative journey was meeting her husband and having their daughter.  McCracken is also an endurance athlete and triathlon coach of 25 years. Learn more about her at www.amandajmccracken.com, on Instagram @amandajmccracken,  or discover more about the science and culture of longing at her podcast The Longing Lab. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by the fabulous Maria Avgitidis— a fourth generation matchmaker, dating extraordinaire, and author of the new book Ask a Matchmaker to have a conversation with us about, well, dating! Maria brings real-world wisdom, generational insight, and just the right dose of tough love to the modern dating experience we all need. Inside the episode, we'll learn what Maria observes when two people first meet and if there are ways to observe compatibility? What early signs indicate a connection has potential? We also get into global affairs and urban planning—yes, really!,  and what these disciplines have to teach us about dating, connection, and community. Then Maria shares about the number one dating dealbreaker today, how digital and social media have impacted dating, and we'll end with some flirting tips, of course! So if you're ready for some bold insights and a few matchmaking secrets, then this episode is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Maria! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match, an award-winning matchmaking service based out of New York City, and the host of the dating and relationship podcast Ask a Matchmaker. Maria combines strong intuition with matchmaking methodology to leverage each client's unique personality, style, and history. Their love stories are a testament to how Maria has transformed matchmaking utilizing behavioral science and the unique know-how gained through her matchmaking inheritance. Matchmaker Maria and her advice for those seeking love has been featured in The New York Times, CBS Mornings, Time Magazine, The Washington Post and more. You can follow Maria on Instagram, learn more about Agape Match and matchmaking services, listen to the Ask and Matchmaker Podcast, and check out Maria's new book, Ask a Matchmaker, for more! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have the first-ever guest back on the show, it's Talia Koren! Talia is the host of the Dating Intentionally podcast and creator of the Dating Intentionally Instagram and YouTube pages, who is here to have a conversation with us about dating intentionally. Inside the episode, here's what you can expect: How to identify your personal intentions and needs in the dating, and why this matters; How to set and maintain boundaries, and why those boundaries are for you first; Effective communication strategies, including texting frequency in early dating; Transitioning from dating app conversations to real-life dates; Approaches to multi-dating and determining the right balance for you; Recognizing green and red flags, and understanding your dealbreakers; Managing first-date anxiety; and How to determine emotional availability and why it starts with you. So, whether you're new to the dating scene, getting back out there after a break or relationship, or looking to refine your approach, this conversation offers practical insights to help you date with more intention. Let's do this Flirties, time to meet Talia! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Talia Koren is a dating podcaster, content creator, and entrepreneur dedicated to helping people navigate modern dating with confidence and ease. As the founder of Dating Intentionally, she empowers singles—especially women in their 30s to 50s—to date with purpose, develop stronger connections, and have fun along the way. With over 170,000 Instagram followers and a thriving podcast with over 2M downloads, Talia has built a community of intentional daters seeking guidance, practical advice, and a refreshing perspective on love. Her insights, rooted in experience and research, challenge common dating misconceptions and provide actionable strategies for folks who are looking to get into a long term relationship.  Follow Talia on Instagram, YouTube, and check out the Dating Intentionally Podcast! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I am honored to bring you a conversation with Jillian Turecki, the host of the Jillian On Love podcast and author of the book, It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. The topics:  emotional availability and what matters in relationships. To begin, we talk about some good ‘ol healing and the transformative period known as the "dark night of the soul." Jillian shares her experience with this and how even the hardest times, there are opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery.   Then we take on the topic of emotional availability, what to look for in early dating, and what it takes to make a relationship work. From the trap of dating someone's potential to understanding the nuances of readiness versus availability versus capacity, Jillian provides invaluable insights on how we can build relationships with emotionally available partners and why that work ultimately begins with us first.  Next, we'll hear Jillian's take on situationships and touch on heartbreak. What Jillian says here, you do not want to miss. Finally, we've got to talk about flirting, of course, and is Jillian a flirt?! So, whether you're navigating the dating world, healing from past relationships, or seeking a deeper connection with yourself, this episode is for you! Alright Flirties, let's do this and meet Jillian! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship expert, teacher, author, and host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands over the last 20 years through her teachings, courses, and writing to revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their romantic relationships. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching, teaching and writing. You can connect with Jillian on her website, Instagram, the Jillian on Love podcast, and learn more about It Begins With You! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode for Flirtations, we welcome Natalie Lue, the host of the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast and the author of five books, including The Joy of Saying No, to have a conversation with us about people pleasing! Natalie is a leading voice on boundaries and people-pleasing, helping people understand how their emotional baggage interferes with their ability to live authentically. Together, we'll delve into what people-pleasing truly is and explore the five distinct styles of people pleasing Natalie identifies: gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering. We'll discuss how people-pleasing often originates from childhood experiences and how it manifests in our adult relationships, particularly in dating. Natalie will shed light on why people-pleasing can be a significant barrier to genuine intimacy and the importance of embracing conflict as a natural and sometimes necessary part of healthy relationships. We'll also examine societal norms, the ways we're socialized, and how the era of obedience have influenced our tendencies to people-please, and why understanding and respecting differences—rather than merely mirroring others—is crucial for authentic connections. Finally, we'll explore the vital role of boundaries in breaking free from people-pleasing patterns and how to recognize and change these behaviors to foster more fulfilling relationships. So, if you're ready to change your people pleasing habits and create more fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Natalie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Natalie Lue, 47, is a writer, artist, podcaster, and author of five books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and her most recent, The Joy of Saying No. She helps people pleasers, perfectionists and relationship strugglers reclaim themselves from their emotional baggage so that they can become more of who they really are and enjoy more fulfilling relationships relationships, careers, and experiences. Her key topics include boundaries, emotional unavailability, and how to foster increased emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being by breaking harmful and unhelpful patterns. Natalie's work has been featured in various media, including The New York Times, ITV's Lorraine, NPR, BBC, Washington Post, Stylist, and USA Today. You can connect with Natalie on Instagram, learn more about the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast and blog, and check out her books and work on her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about neurodivergence and dating with our guest, Mady Snyder, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in working with late-diagnosed neurodivergent individuals and couples! Whew, I am so ready! Dating is a complex journey for most, but for those with neurodivergence, it can present distinct challenges and yet many opportunities.​ Today, we'll discuss:​ What is neurodivergence and what are the strengths of the neurodivergent person? Navigating Social Cues: The complexities of interpreting social signals, understanding flirting, and the challenges posed by dating experiences like ghosting. Sensory Sensitivities: How can heightened sensory experiences impact dating? Rejection sensitivity: What are the ways this shows up and what can we do about rejection in dating? Communication:  How might differences in communication styles and expectations lead to misunderstandings, and what are some strategies that are helpful here? Why the neurodivergent person might just be a superconnector! Masking:  the function of masking, how we can unmask, and ultimately bring more vulnerability and authenticity into the dating process And honestly, much more! So, whether you're neurodivergent yourself, dating someone who is, or simply interested in understanding diverse dating experiences, this conversation is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Mady! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About your guest:  Mady Snyder, LMFT, is a neurodiversity-affirming therapist based in Pasadena, California, offering both in-person and virtual sessions. She specializes in working with late-identified autistic and ADHD adults, with a focus on identity, relationships, and the often-overlooked nuances of neurodivergent dating. Mady brings warmth, humor, and deep insight to her work, creating spaces where neurodivergent individuals feel seen, supported, and celebrated as their full selves. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/couchspace/ Website https://www.madysnyder.com/ Infographics on Autism https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autism-infographics/ ADHD Infographics https://neurodivergentinsights.com/adhd-infographics/ Self Assessments for Autism, ADHD, OCD, Others https://embrace-autism.com/autism-tests/ Live Your Values Card Deck https://lisacongdon.com/products/values-deck Camouflaging https://embrace-autism.com/autism-and-camouflaging/ ND Therapist Directory  https://ndtherapists.com/ About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Jessica Maguire, a renowned expert in nervous system regulation and repair, and author of the book The Nervous System Reset, to have a conversation with us about not only healing the nervous system - but healing the connection with ourselves in the process. First, we explore what often gets overlooked in nervous work and initial steps you can take to get off the rollercoaster of emotions in dating, and perhaps in life.  Jessica shares how we can regulate our nervous systems amidst the uncertainties of dating, even when someone pulls back or pushes your buttons. We get into the anxious and avoidant nervous systems differ, the different protective responses we have when we're anxious, how the body stores emotions, and how neuroplasticity offers hope for repairing the nervous system. You can repattern your nervous system and indeed find calm amidst the storm. Finally, we'll learn how to feel safe in our body and sit with uncomfortable feelings, even if that's challenging or impossible before.  So, whether you're navigating the dating world or seeking a deeper understanding of you and your nervous system, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Jessica! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jessica stands at the forefront of nervous system regulation as a renowned physiotherapist and groundbreaking vagus nerve researcher. Her international bestseller, "The Nervous System Reset," has established her as the definitive voice in helping individuals overcome dysregulation. Jessica's teachings represent an important paradigm shift in understanding the brain-body connection. She distills over two decades of rigorous study, groundbreaking research, and proven clinical experience into practical, actionable frameworks. that have transformed thousands of lives worldwide. Through her innovative frameworks, and protocols Jessica has empowered thousands of students across six continents to fundamentally transform their nervous systems, resulting in: Enhanced resilience to stress and environmental triggers Improved cognitive function and emotional regulation Sustainable physiological balance and improved overall wellbeing Jessica has delivered keynotes to New South Wales Police and is also a distinguished TEDx speaker. She has shared thought leadership pieces with the Sydney Morning Herald and The Age that included her personal story: the loss of her two brothers, Sam and Luke.  Learn more about Jessica's work and the Vagus Nerve Program here and follow Jessica on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Ashley Maland, Host of the "This Is Where We Heal" Podcast, to have a conversation with us about the complex journey of surviving an abusive relationship. We'll uncover how to begin healing from abusive and toxic relationships—whether it's domestic violence, sexual assault, or the emotional scars left by narcissistic abuse—and discover the initial steps you can take if you find yourself in a harmful or volatile situation.  Ashley shares her insights on trusting yourself, practicing self-forgiveness, and how we can build healthy foundations in early dating without rushing, falling into self-sabotage, or repeating old patterns. Together, we'll talk about how your most loving, authentic self is the best version of you—even if past experiences have left you feeling hardened—and how to shift from a victim mentality to that of a victor.  We'll also ask the tough questions, like are all abusers narcissists? Is there really a rock bottom moment, or is that just an illusion? Why is it so hard to break free from an abuser? If you're ready to believe in what's possible, trust your inner voice, and reclaim your power in love and life, then this episode is for you.  Alright Flirties, let's go on on healing journey with Ashley Maland. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Ashley Taylor Maland is a multi-talented social media influencer, writer, and healing from DV & SA advocate. With a dedicated following of over half a million followers, she has garnered widespread attention for her impactful content, including viral videos that have amassed over 20 million views. Ashley's platform serves as a space for discussions on healing, authenticity, toxic relationships, self-belief, and self-improvement. Ashley is a resilient single mother who balances her various roles with grace and determination. As the podcast host for “This Is Where We Heal” she utilizes her platform to amplify important conversations and share empowering stories. Using her own experiences to raise awareness and offer support to others facing similar challenges in relationships and healing. Driven by her belief in the power of authenticity, Ashley strives to inspire and encourage her audience to embrace their true selves, prioritize self-care, and break free from toxic relationships. Her unwavering commitment to personal growth and empowerment has solidified her reputation as a positive force in the online community. Her podcast “This Is Where We Heal” can be found on Apple, Spotify & YouTube. Listen to the This is Where We Heal Podcast, and follow Ashley on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about how to not settle in dating with relationship coach, doctor of integrative medicine, and host of the Brianna Approved podcast, it's Dr. Brianna Diorio!  We've got a lot to get to today and here's what you can expect! First, we'll explore what it really means to “settle” in dating and the different ways it shows up - whether that's settling for the wrong person, someone's potential, or accepting singleness when you don't wanna, We'll talk about the experience of staying too long in the wrong relationships, sometimes because we have so much invested already, or don't want to be alone.  Brianna will guide us through common scenarios like the quest for perfection, the role of fear in all of this (so many of us are worried about settling), and the difference between preferences and priorities in dating. Finally, we'll discuss why discernment and alignment are more important than time, and we'll hear strategies for trusting your intuition and knowing when to walk away if that's right for you.  If you've ever found yourself wondering how to slow down in dating and let go of the “settling” trap, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Brianna! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Brianna Diorio is a functional medicine practitioner and integrative health expert who helps individuals move from awareness to aligned action by integrating mindset, neurochemistry, and holistic health. With a PhD in Integrative Medicine and advanced training in functional diagnostics and mind-body medicine, she specializes in uncovering the root causes of emotional and physiological imbalances. Her method blends the science of behavior change, subconscious reprogramming, and integrative medicine—using a fusion of evidence-based tools, reflective prompts, and actionable strategies to drive intentional, lasting change. Drawing from integrative psychology, neurobiology, and functional medicine, Brianna empowers clients to rewrite outdated patterns, develop emotional agility, and reclaim their personal power. You can stream the Brianna Approved Podcast here and follow Dr. Diorio on Instagram and TikTok. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going on a transformative journey of embodied healing with Eliah Prichard, Founder of the Feel Good Membership and Host of the Self Expression Love Podcast! Today, we explore what it means to truly feel safe in your body. Eliah guides us through the art of self-expression through embodiment as a way to feel our feelings - and release them.  We're moving beyond traditional models of nervous system regulation and getting truly embodied today, ya'll!  We'll also learn how boundaries help us regulate our nervous system, build self-trust and allows us to embrace more joy. Even if any or all of this has been hard for you before, today, it gets easier.  Finally, we explore the truth behind your anxiety and why one of the solutions is playing more. So, if you're ready to break free from limitations, tap into your inner light, and truly live with embodied healing and self-love, this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties, and meet Eliah! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Eliah Prichard is a therapeutically-trained coach, educator and the founder of Kaleidoscope, a self-liberation company that guides you with simple tools to lifelong emotional wellness and full self-expression. Utilizing her Master's degree in Couples and Family Therapy, specialty in trauma-healing and her Breathwork Facilitator Certification, Eliah runs an online self-healing membership called FeelGood, and works 1:1 with self-motivated learners ready to unlock the codes to emotional mastery, healthy relationships and vibrant self-expression.  Links: FeelGood Membership Instagram Tiktok YouTube Self-Expression Lab Podcast   About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Connell Barrett, a men's dating coach, author, speaker, and host of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, to have a conversation with us about dating as a straight guy, masculinity, and what women are looking for, but not in a mansplainy way, absolutely not! Basically if you're straight, stick around as we break down the challenges, myths, and expectations that seem to define the dating game. Up for discussion is masculinity and is it being redefined? What does masculinity mean and what does that look like in 2025? Why do so many guys seems to aspire to be the alpha male and is that something women want? Will you stand out as the alpha male or do women want something more authentic? We're also covering practical flirting tips and strategies to overcome rejection, we'll debunk viral dating advice such as he needs to like you more than you like him or that a little stress is the secret to a chase - just be unavailable, right?.  We'll even get into whether looks and money really matter, how to bring genuine vulnerability into your interactions without coming off too mushy, and how emotionally available men and women can meet in each other. So, if you're ready to hear a conversation about flirting, dating, and masculinity between a straight man and a flirt coach, this episode is for you! Let's do this flirties, time to meet Connell! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  A seasoned interviewer dating to his journalism days (he has done Q&As with Jimmy Fallon, Larry David, and Bill Murray, among others), Connell is a dating coach, author and host of the "How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast". His bestselling book, “Dating Suck but You Don't,” was called “witty and timely” by Vanity Fair. He's been dubbed “the real-life Hitch” (N.Y. Post) and “the most innovative dating coach in America” (Psychology Today.) And he has appeared on GMA and the “Today” Show. Learn more about him at DatingTransformation.com. Questions? Don't hesitate to ask! For more information, find Connell on Instagram, Youtube, and his website!  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Lola Jean, a multifaceted sex educator, fetish wrestler, and world record holder to the show for a conversation about sexual confidence, empowerment, and freedom! We'll explore whether sexual confidence is an innate gift or a skill that can be developed (hint:  if you don't feel like or aren't sure you got it, Lola Jean is so here for you). We'll also hear about common obstacles that can keep us from feeling sexually confident and Lola Jean shares strategies for empowering our sexual selves (one of the keys may lie in self pleasure

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I'm thrilled to kickoff a transformative episode with celebrity coach Whitney Uland about how you can harness the power of celebrity energy to become the ultimate attractor in your dating life! We'll get into what celebrity energy really is, how heart-brain coherence can supercharge your authenticity, and why overcoming the fear of being perceived - of being seen for who you are - is the key to standing out in the dating world.  Whitney breaks down the three main blocks that hold us back from tapping into this energy and shares how you can tap more deeply into your own celebrity energy right now. We'll also explore how developing an abundance mindset helps you see possibilities even when they're not immediately clear, why finding fulfillment in life ensures that dating remains a part of your journey—and not your entire story, and why its ok to want more.  Plus, you'll hear a personal story of self-love and belief from the Flirt Coach himself, and how I've used celebrity energy to help get me here today. So, if you're ready to tap into your celebrity energy and become irresistible in your dating life, this episode is for you! Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Whitney Uland is a filmmaker, actor, and the creator of How to Be Famous—dubbed “Hollywood's Next Power Player” by Paper Magazine. Her work has been featured at Cannes and in Vogue, and her viral programs The Self-Made Celebrity and The Celebrity Energy Circuit have helped thousands of creatives tap into their It Factor and become magnetic to fame, fans, and opportunity. Through her signature frameworks rooted in human psychology and Hollywood secrets, Whitney is on a mission to help good-hearted, wildly talented people stop playing small and finally take up space like the stars they are. You can connect with Whitney on Instagram, and TikTok. Her free Masterclass The Fame Formula: Learn to attract the success, opportunities, money and relationships that you want as an artist or creative without hacking the algorithm, sucking up to industry gatekeepers, OR becoming a Nepo Baby https://signup.howtobefamous.org/ About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're gonna do some healing with our guest Daniel O'Shaughnessy—a mindset coach, nutritionist, and author—who is here to have a conversation with us about self-love and body dysmorphia. Inside, we explore how to break free from toxic relationship patterns and stop searching for love in all the wrong places—even when ‘wrong' feels so right. Daniel will share how he did just and explain how shadow work can help.  Cuz if we can embrace the parts of ourselves we often neglect or even don't like, well, everything just becomes a little easier. We'll also peel back the layers of body dysmorphia—what it is, how these perceptions form, and the ways it can impact our dating lives.  Through this, we'll learn how to reimagine our relationship not only with our emotional body, but also with our physical one. And, if that isn't enough, we'll journey into the realm of mental health and plant medicine. Daniel will reveal what his experiences with psychedelics have taught him about healing, transformation, and the powerful shifts that have happened. So, if you're ready to challenge your old beliefs, embrace every part of yourself, and step into a more fulfilled way of living and loving, this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Daniel O'Shaughnessy (he/him) is an award-winning nutritionist, Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner, and author of Naked Nutrition: An LGBTQ+ Guide to Diet and Lifestyle. With over a decade of clinical experience and a passion for inclusive wellness, his work is deeply rooted in his own lived experience of healing—particularly around body image, disordered eating, and the pressures faced within the gay community. Through both his clinical practice and personal journey, Daniel helps others challenge toxic norms, rebuild their relationship with food and their bodies, and prioritise health over perfection. His forthcoming book, Letting Go of Perfect: A Gay Man's Guide to Healing from Body Dysmorphia, is an honest and practical guide for anyone looking to do just that. You can connect with Daniel on Instagram or on the web. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up in this Flirtini, we're asking the question, "Are they flirting, or just being nice?" It's a tale as old as time in the flirt and today, we're gonna help you figure this out as we welcome friendship coach Jenna Anderson to the show! Fueled by a real life flirt at TJ Maxx, we'll break down how to tell if someone's flirting with you and why it's less about them and more about you. We're also talking about making new friends, regardless of whether you're an introvert, an extrovert, a social butterfly, or socially anxious. I know it can feel daunting, but after this Flirtini, I think it'll be a little bit easier. Finally, Jenna gets personal, sharing her bisexuality journey in dating, what it was like dating her first woman, and the lessons she's learned along the way.  So, whether you want to make a move or just feel more confident putting yourself out there, this episode is for you! Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jenna is a friendship coach from Los Angeles working with clients to build the confidence and skills to make friends anywhere they go. Growing up, Jenna has had to move from city to city and start over making friends everywhere she went. As an adult, she has honed this skill and loves helping other people do the same! She works with a range of clients - from those with social anxiety to anyone who just moved to a new city and is looking to make new friends. You can connect with Jenna on TikTok, Instagram, and learn more about coaching opportunities here. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Anna Goldfarb to the show, a journalist, speaker, and author of the book "Modern Friendship, How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections” to have a conversation with us about friendship - and so much more! So much to get to as we take on friendship in adulthood and the modern phenomenon many of us can relate to of where is home? What if we've moved around a lot as kids, as adults, or our families have relocated? What if we find ourselves in new places or maybe it's our friends who have moved away? How does this impact our friendships? We'll also dig into the sociology of friendship—are our societies set up for making connections? If not, how can overcome both visible and invisible barriers and create connections anyway? Then from parallel play to active vs. memorial friendships, we're breaking down different friendship dynamics, the reasons we make friends in the first place, and the qualities we look for in friends. Plus we'll touch on the loneliness epidemic, (why are so many of feeling lonely these days?) and the role of social media in our connections. Finally, what does hyper-individualism, or an "I don't owe anyone anything" mentality mean for our connections, relationships, and friendships? So, if you're curious to eavesdrop on a conversation about modern friendship between a bonafide friendship expert and a flirt coach, this episode is for you! Let's get into it!, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more. Her book, Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, explores the challenges of navigating adult friendships in a hyperfluid world. She also publishes Friendship Explained, a Substack newsletter that explains the mechanics of friendship through a pop culture lens. Find her online @AnnaGoldfarb and her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving deep into the psychology of attraction, the patterns that shape our relationships, and how we can make more conscious choices in dating - and in love. We welcome Dr. Joe Kort, a psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert, who will help us understand why we date the people we do.  We'll open talking about masculinity a bit, touching on the topics of performative masculinity, validation, and male on male flirting! Then we'll get into what red and green flags in dating really mean—and some common misconceptions about them. What red flags should you be looking for? What about green flags? And why does this matter? Next we'll explore Imago Relationship Therapy and how our childhood experiences influence our type and attraction in dating.  Why do we sometimes feel drawn to those who aren't good for us? And more importantly, how do we break free from those cycles? So if you're ready to date with a new perspective on red flags, green flags, and why we date the people we do, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Joe! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Joe Kort is a psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and clinical director of The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is the author of four books and a lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops. Throughout his 37 years of private practice, he has successfully helped hundreds of individuals and couples improve their lives and strengthen their relationships. Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed orientation marriages; male sexuality and out-of-control sexual behaviors. He is EMDR trained and offers LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy. Dr. Kort can be found on Instagram, TIkTok, Twitter,  Facebook and LinkedIn @drjoekort and his website is www.JoeKort.com  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Ilana Dunn to the show, a dating expert and host of the Seeing Other People podcast, to have a conversation with us about meeting people in real life!  You've got questions, we've got answers! We'll open with hearing about the shifts Ilana made in her dating life to meet her now husband, early relationship green flags, and what the popular advice “date the boring guy” actually means. Then we're taking on one of your biggest dating dilemmas, and that is how to meet people to flirt with and date! Yes it's possible and after this episode, you'll be doing just that!  We'll tell you where to go, what to talk about, how to get in the right mindset, and how to deal with potential rejections. Plus tips for how to signal you want to be approached and how you can do the approaching, regardless of gender! So whether you're ready to revamp your dating mindset or just need a pep talk before your forthcoming meet-cute moment, this episode is for you! Let's go, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Ilana Dunn is a Millennial and Gen Z dating expert and lifestyle content creator. Following a successful tenure running Hinge's social media, Ilana embarked on her entrepreneurial journey, founding her own thriving podcast Seeing Other People. With a genuine “We're all in this together vibe” as highlighted by The New York Times, Ilana's content empowers her audience to navigate life's complexities with empathy, authenticity, and relatability.  Connect with Ilana on Instagram and Apple Podcasts! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune Magazine, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about the mind-body-soul connection with our guest, yoga teacher and co-owner of Triad Yoga, Terry Brown! Together, we're exploring how mindfulness and self-awareness can help us transcend limiting beliefs, elevate our consciousness, and allow us to step into a deeper relationship with ourselves -  and with others. How can we be present with ourselves when the dating anxiety and old patterns take over? How can we be with ourselves, our thoughts, feelings, and emotions, when this experience is really uncomfortable and all we want to do is run? In a dating landscape that constantly pulls us in different directions, learning to trust ourselves, heal, and grow requires more than just good intentions—it's a practice. But don't worry, we got you. We'll also talk a bit about yoga and what yoga is truly about, cuz I am a yoga teacher, too! So, if you've ever felt stuck, disconnected, or unsure of how to move forward in dating or in life, this episode is here to remind you:  the answers you seek have been within you all along. Let's do this, flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Terry Brown, C-IAYT, ERYT 500, and Certified Purna Yoga Instructor at the 2000 Hour Level, began his journey in yoga in 1984. His appreciation for yoga and its ability to promote health and equanimity led him to become a physical therapist assistant in 1995. He has studied with his teachers Aadil Palkhivala and Savitri over 25 years. Co-owner of The Triad Yoga Institute in Greensboro, NC, Terry is the director of Triad Yoga's 200 and 300 Hour Teacher Certification Programs and served as the co-director of East Coast Yoga Therapy Yoga Therapist Training Program until 2025. Terry is also trained in the Melt Method, which are methods of self-treatment to release stuck stress in the connective tissue using a soft foam roller. Terry uses his years of experience to help develop programs for students and teachers to discover their own yoga practice options on the path to wellness. Connect with Terry and Triad Yoga on Facebook, Instagram, and Bluesky! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune Magazine, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're throwing out the rulebook and breaking the so-called “rules” of dating with certified dating coach Alison Wellington! From how soon is too soon to ask, “What are you looking for?” to why matching energy might actually be holding you back, we're challenging the norms and rethinking dating strategy. We're also taking on the is dating a numbers game topic and if you should be dating multiple people at once?  Plus, we get into some of the biggest conversations in straight dating like "Who should plan? Who should pay?" But that's not all, we'll also tell you why being unavailable isn't the same as playing hard to get and why you need to be saying no at least a time or two. Finally, the marathon first date is on the table — is it a recipe for connection, or just too much too soon? So, if you've ever questioned the so-called “rules” of dating, this episode is for you! Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Alison Wellington is a Certified Dating & Relationship Coach, wife, and new mom dedicated to helping successful single women find and keep the partners they deserve. With a background in education and counseling, she specializes in building self-confidence, eliminating limiting beliefs, and navigating both online and offline dating. Last year alone, Alison helped over 300+ clients walk down the aisle, get engaged, enter committed relationships—and even become first-time moms. Her sociologically sound coaching methods have made her a leading expert in the dating and relationship space. Alison holds a bachelor's degree in education, a master's in counseling, and a mental health counseling extension, equipping her with the tools to guide women toward lasting, fulfilling love. You can connect with Alison @alignwithalison across social media! My Free "The Partner You Deserve" Training Schedule a Coaching Consult Here About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, spring has sprung (more or less), and with it comes a fresh new season of flirting, romance, and dating possibilities!  On the show today is Flirtation's in-house astrologer, fortune teller, and magic mystic, Fernie, to share with us what the stars have in store for our love lives and how to align with the energy of the universe this season. No matter your experience or knowledge of astrology, you don't need to be an expert, this episode is for you as we explore themes like:  the power of saying yes to yourself and embracing new opportunities, living life from the heart rather than from the head, and how to have more patience in our dating lives.  We're also talking about why Delulu is the Solulu and finally, we tap into the energy of Venus—the planet of beauty, and love—to help you channel confidence and playfulness as we navigate romance. So get ready to flirt, trust the process, and step into spring with an open heart! Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it's been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him. He's also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher's certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up in this Flirtini, we have certified personal style Rae Raire on the show as we explore the intersection of style, self-expression, community, and validation. How might we blend all of these topics together, you may ask? Great question, but this is Flirtations and we work magic over here! We're going to be looking at how we often dress for them, ya know, people, or at least wonder what they're thinking about how I look? We might become hyper-focused on what someone thinks and even though it very human to do so, how might we change that? Stay tuned for a conversation about the power of fashion in shaping energy, perception, and self-confidence—and why what we wear can even help us make friends, find dates, and strengthen connections. If you've ever felt like you need to change yourself, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirites! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Rae is a personal stylist and content creator. As the previous owner of Wild Maven Styling, she helped hundreds of people evolve their personal style through a blend of fashion psychology, self-exploration, and style education.  Rae believes that external appearance is deeply intertwined with one's mental and emotional state. She makes content diving deeper into this connection, as well as other related topics, on YouTube.  YouTube:  @raeraire About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, it's a solo one as I'll be breaking down what luck in dating really means and answering some of your most asked dating questions. Like ... Is finding love really just a roll of the dice, or do we have more control than we think? What about right person, wrong time? How much does timing have to do with it? Are some people just get lucky in love? What about soulmates, is there such thing as the one? I'll also share plenty of mindset tips for stepping into a mindset of abundance and how we can work with luck energy to ultimately create a deeper love for ourselves and find create lasting, fulfilling relationships. So, if you've ever wondered how much of dating is effort versus timing versus sheer luck, this episode is for you.  So, let's get into it, flirty! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, it's Part 2 of our conversation with dating coach and podcast host Sadie Marie as we ask the question, is there life after love? And hell yah there is!  In this conversation, we talk about dating without a long-term relationship in mind, including how to build a roster. We also cover flirting strategies, how to meet singles in real life, and the experience of dating younger men—what works, what doesn't, and what to keep in mind. Or maybe after a LTR you're not feeling interested in anyone? We got you there, we'll go into dating breaks, and how to stay hopeful in dating even when it feels like nothing is working.  Finally, we come full circle back to the topic of emotional availability and we explore the powerful shift of decentering romantic love, so you can create a fulfilling life that doesn't revolve solely around relationships. So, whether you're getting back out there, exploring dating, or just figuring out what you want next, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, Part 2 incoming! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Sadie Marie is the dynamic host of Sadie's Divorced and Happy podcast, where she brings bold conversations, playful insights, and a fresh take on thriving after divorce. As the founder of the Happily Divorced Club, a global community of divorcees embracing their most adventurous and empowered lives, Sadie is passionate about creating spaces for connection, laughter, and reinvention. With a social media following of over 100K, Sadie has built a platform that inspires and entertains divorcees around the world. Her signature mix of humor, honesty, and out-of-the-box thinking has made her a leading voice in the divorce community—and the go-to guide for turning life after divorce into your boldest chapter yet. Learn more about the Club and Podcast, and follow Sadie on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're asking the question, “Is there life after love?” Spoiler alert:  Hell Yah! With our guest, podcast host and dating coach Sadie Marie, we explore what it means to date after a major breakup, the challenges that come with it, and how to embrace new experiences with confidence. Starting over after a divorce or long-term relationship can feel overwhelming, but it can also be an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and redefining what you truly want in love and life. We discuss the importance of having a support squad as you navigate dating again, how to know it's time to walk away, and why relationships aren't just about checking a box.  Plus, we'll talk about the loss we feel when a relationship ends and go into common dating struggles, like why we're drawn to the “bad boy” archetype, the frustration of ghosting, and how to find emotionally available partners. If you're stepping back into the dating scene after a long-term relationship or divorce, this episode is for you.  Let's talk about healing, rebuilding, and finding love—on your terms! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Sadie Marie is the dynamic host of Sadie's Divorced and Happy podcast, where she brings bold conversations, playful insights, and a fresh take on thriving after divorce. As the founder of the Happily Divorced Club, a global community of divorcees embracing their most adventurous and empowered lives, Sadie is passionate about creating spaces for connection, laughter, and reinvention. With a social media following of over 100K, Sadie has built a platform that inspires and entertains divorcees around the world. Her signature mix of humor, honesty, and out-of-the-box thinking has made her a leading voice in the divorce community—and the go-to guide for turning life after divorce into your boldest chapter yet. Learn more about the Club and Podcast, and follow Sadie on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Alexa Andre, a sexologist and host of the In Bed With Alexa podcast, to have a conversation with us about body confidence and dating non-mongamously! Today, we'll get into what it really means to date non-monogamously, how to set clear and respectful boundaries, and how to approach dating in this way with confidence—whether you're exploring casual connections or something more serious.  Alexa brings so much insight and honesty to this conversation, and I know you're going to walk away with a fresh perspective on what it means to create relationships on your own terms. We've also got questions that came through about body confidence and how to own your body in dating! So, whether you're curious about non-monogamy, would like some support with confidence, or just want to hear a refreshing take on modern dating, this episode is for you. Let's get into it! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Alexa Andre is a sexologist and content creator who is passionate about helping people lead more pleasurable lives. Alexa has built a successful career by sharing her expertise and insights on topics related to sexual health, relationships, and intimacy. Through her writing, videos, and social media presence, she has amassed a dedicated following of individuals who appreciate her frank and non-judgmental approach to sex education. Whether she's discussing the latest research on pleasure, offering tips for exploring new sensations, or answering common questions about sexual health, Alexa's goal is to empower her audience to lead more fulfilling and satisfying lives. Connect with Alexa on Instagram and Spotify. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Dating after caregiving comes with its own unique challenges and opportunities, and in this Flirtini, we're diving into what it's like to reenter the dating world as a boomer! I'm joined by voiceover artist and communications enthusiast Pam Wood, who shares her personal experience of dating as a boomer after caregiving. We talk about where to meet people, the dating apps, and dating strategy. Then, we get into the art of flirting with your voice we play with different ways to use the voice for more engaging conversations and flirts.  If you've ever felt like a late bloomer, it's never too late to flirt and date! Now let's meet Pam! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Pam Wood a.ka."Voiceover Pam" has spent many years working in communications in the non-profit arena. From writing corporate newsletters and press releases, to public speaking, to teaching ballroom dancing for 14 years, she has gained vast experience in communicating with people of all ages and backgrounds.  Now semi-retired and coming off a 10 year parental caregiver commitment, she looks forward to exploring more social opportunities in her community. Links: Website and Samples Connect with Pam on LinkedIn Follow Pam on Instagram Follow Pam on Facebook About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking to the universe y'all! With our incredible guest, psychic activator and historical medium Emily Dexter, we're connecting to our inner magic and dating intuitively.  Have you ever felt like there's a deeper wisdom inside you, just waiting to be heard? Have you ever struggled to trust yourself and connect to your intuition, your inner knowing? Today, we explore what it really means to trust yourself—beyond the noise of fear, doubt, and past experiences. Emily shares how to talk to our spirit guides and how we can talk to the universe, because indeed we're energy, the universe is energy, and we're more intimately connected than you might think. But that's not all. We'll also learn about the Clair senses, how to reconnect with the part of you that knows what's truly best for you, and how to awaken, or reawaken, your inner magic for more clarity and confidence in dating and beyond. So, if you've ever felt a spark of intuition but weren't sure how to follow it—or if you're curious about what it means to awaken to your true self—this episode is for you.  Let's get into it, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Emily Dexter is a Spiritual Translator—a psychic, psychic activator, historical channel, medium, teacher, energy reader, bestselling author, spiritual travel guide, and public speaker. In the past decade, she has worked with thousands of incredible clients and students including award-winning actors, filmmakers, CEOs, Olympic athletes and coaches, world-renowned musicians, NYT Bestselling authors, and people just like you! Links: What's Your Psychic Sense? (free): https://www.emilydexterpsychic.com/discover-your-psychic-sense Book a Soul Reading: https://www.emilydexterpsychic.com/book-a-soul-reading  Website: www.emilydexterpsychic.com   Social Sites: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/likerofwords Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@likerofwords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@likerofwords Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/likerofwords   About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about conflict, differences, and do the little things matter! With our guest, psychotherapist and marriage coach Carrie Cohen, we get going right away with the question, why do opposites attract? How can we make our differences work for us in dating and relationships? Carrie has a great breakdown of the anxious/avoidant dynamic here I think you'll find really interesting! We'll also talk about how different approaches to conflict—like when one person wants to resolve things right away, and the other needs time to process—can create tension but also offer opportunities for growth. Communication is a big theme in this episode—whether it's figuring out how to ask for more when one person is ready to move forward and the other isn't, or learning how to navigate conflict without always needing to be right.  And of course, we'll discuss whether the little things in dating actually matter and how they play a role in creating a lasting connection. From navigating the honeymoon phase to building a strong foundation for the long term, we're exploring the differences that come up in dating and how they can ultimately strengthen or challenge a connection. Alright flirties, let's meet Carrie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  As a Licensed Psychotherapist for 25 years and specializing in Marriage, Carrie Cohen helps couples go from “living like roommates to loving like soulmates” Working with clients all over the globe, Carrie has helped over 1000 women and couples heal the stress and trauma that has eroded their relationship, revitalize their love for one another and create an extraordinary marriage that lasts a lifetime.  In addition to an advanced graduate degree, Carrie spent 15+ years post-grad training specifically in couples therapy and depth psychology.  She takes a comprehensive and holistic approach to working with couples. Contacts below! Email: cc@carriecohencoaching | Website: www.carriecohencoaching.com | Instagram:  @carriecohencoaching | Tiktok:  @carriecohencoaching | LinkedIn:  @carriecohenmarriagecoach About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking connection, vulnerability, and the importance of friendship with friendship expert Danielle Bayard Jackson! Friendships are one of the most essential and beautiful parts of life, yet can sometimes feel complicated, messy, and downright hard to navigate. Don't worry, we got you! A few of the questions explored in this conversation are: Why is it so tough to make new friends as an adult?  How can we move beyond the surface and build real, meaningful connections?  And what does it actually mean to "be yourself" in friendships? Danielle guides us through these situations and so much more.  We'll talk about social anxiety and introversion, how to embrace vulnerability with a powerful reframe, and how we can go deeper in our connections.  We also break down friendship dynamics, like what to do about one-sided friendships, the “hibernation friend,” how to handle jealousy or gossip, and even friendship breakups. Finally, we end with a full circle moment coming back to the theme of connection and how we can all level up our friendship game. So, whether you're looking to strengthen your current friendships, make new ones, or simply understand yourself better in the context of connection, this episode is for you. Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Danielle Bayard Jackson is a women's relational health educator who speaks nationally about the science of women's platonic connections. She is the director of the Women's Relational Health Institute and is also the author of Fighting for Our Friendships : The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships. As a former high school teacher and academic department chair, Danielle now leverages her background in education to study the latest research on women's cooperation, communication, and conflict. Her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets. As a member of the American Sociological Association, Danielle works with both individuals and organizations to share tangible, evidence-based strategies to help women create more satisfaction in their platonic same-sex relationships. Companies like TikTok, the NBA, NFL, and Etsy have all booked Danielle as a speaker to address the topic of connection psychology. She even served as the resident friendship expert and spokesperson for the global app Bumble and its new app Bumble for Friends. Danielle shares her insight weekly on The Friend Forward Podcast, has several viral videos on Instagram and TikTok, and has written for Insider and Harvard Business Review. You can learn more about Danielle and her work by visiting www.betterfemalefriendships.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we've got authenticity and personal branding expert Justin Schuman on the show to have an unbelievable conversation with us about the art of being you. From the fear of being 'too much' to sometimes complex practice of being authentic, we'll explore what it means to be you and how owning who you are can transform your confidence and your dating life. We'll also talk about how to let yourself be seen, because that's what flirting and dating is kinda all about, isn't it? Allowing someone to witness your humanness, your quirks, your beautiful imperfections? Justin also has a grocery store flirting story for you and we'll chat about our coaching journeys, which I think you'll find interesting!   Finally, we'll touch on rejection and conclude with Justin's take on what it means to human. It's time to own your story, tell it, feel your energy, and elevate your connections. Let's go, Flirties, and meet Justin! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Justin Schuman is a Human Creative Director, content creator, and coach who helps people build magnetic, authentic brands without sacrificing their creativity or personality - and instead putting it on full display. As a Broadway performer turned entrepreneur, Justin understands the power of storytelling - and now, he teaches creators and business owners how to show up online in a way that feels authentic, effortless, sustainable, and real. Through The Human Approach, his signature framework, Justin has helped thousands of overthinkers, perfectionists, and multi-passionate creators find their voice, grow engaged followings and monetize their unique perspectives - without following cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all strategies. With over 790K+ followers and millions of views across Instagram and TikTok, Justin's content challenges conventional social media advice and proves that being fully yourself is the ultimate strategy. Expect today's conversation to be bold, brutally honest, and packed with actionable takeaways - because if there's one thing Justin does best, it's cutting through the noise and helping people finally own their magic. Connect with Justin on Instagram & TikTok: @justinschumanofficial About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about trauma and how our experiences shape the way we approach dating, relationships, and even our own self-worth.  We have two incredible guests for this conversation, Ilyse Kennedy, a psychotherapist and Lindsay Camp, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to explore trauma and how trauma influences our patterns in love and connection. We take on the dual themes of hyperindependence, where you feel like you have to handle everything on your own, and hypervigilance, the feeling of not trusting someone, always being on edge or looking for potential threats. We'll share what it means to heal from relational wounds and why rebuilding trust—both in others and in yourself—can feel so challenging, but is absolutely possible. Plus, why the phrase 'if it's hysterical, it's historical' holds so much truth and how we can develop greater self-awareness and compassion. Finally, we've got healing strategies, steps to break free from wounds of the past, and why you're healing is right on time.  So, whether you're working to heal old heartbreaks or simply want to deepen your self-awareness in relationships, this conversation is filled with insights and actionable advice to help you move forward with confidence and connection.  Let's go flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guests:  Ilyse Kennedy, LPC-S, LMFT-S, SEP is a trauma therapist and group practice owner in Austin, TX. Her practice, Moving Parts Psychotherapy, has become one of the go-to therapy practices in Austin for those recovering from complex trauma. Through her practice, she supervises associates pursuing licensure to expand her unique way of working with trauma to the world. Her book, The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma Through Internal Family Systems Therapy was released in 2022 and has become a go-to companion for those moving through healing. Lindsay G Camp, LMFT, is a Texas based therapist specializing in working with young adults. She founded Austin Teen Therapy over a decade ago and has aided in supporting hundreds of young people, their families, as well as a dozen therapists in their professional development. As the daughter of a seeker and a dabbler herself, healing, in all its many forms, has always been a special interest. She is currently creating a workbook for parents of teens to be released later this year. Together, Ilyse and Lindsay began The Hilling Journey podcast where they share their healing journeys with their friendship at the forefront. From weeding through grief to making pop culture references, the podcast focuses on the joys and sorrows of healing with some exciting guests who are healers on their own healing journeys. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, it's the Un-Valentine's Day episode! But this isn't going to be like a regular episode. Today, we're going on a quest for love and playing a game of Candyland… but with a dating twist. Picture this: you're on a colorful adventure through the world of romance, navigating everything from first dates to heartbreak, and, much like in Candyland, finding this game of love filled with unexpected detours and those rare, magical moments when everything just clicks. Will you find yourself stuck on the Licorice space? Sprinting toward the Candy Castle? Getting lost in the gumdrop woods?  Hold on to your lollipops, as we flirt with romance on go on a quest for love! Anything is possible. Let's do this flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have neuroscientist and author Nicole Vignola on the show as we talk about the neuroscience of the crush! Have you ever wondered what's really happening in your brain when you have a crush? Nicole gives us all the details and breaks down the difference between a crush, limerence, and obsession. How can you catch yourself from going too far into delulu? What differentiates a crush from infatuation from genuinely liking someone? Two questions we answer inside, but there's more. We also tackle the heartbreak side of things—what happens in your brain when you experience rejection? Or when your crush doesn't like you back? We've got some digital tips, as well, as we explore why texting is so addicting and how to resist the urge to stalk your crush online.  Finally, Nicole shares insights on the difference between feeling butterflies and overall crush energy from a genuine dating interest, how we can walk rather than fall into love, and how to not break your own heart in the process. So, whether you're crushing hard right now or just curious about the science behind those all-consuming feelings, this episode is packed with insights to help you flirt with the highs and lows of the crush.  Let's do this flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Nicole Vignola is more than a neuroscientist; she's an established keynote speaker and author. Reaching millions through her well-established platform, Nicole offers practical tools and scientifically proven methods to enhance mental well-being.  Recognised as "Instagram's favourite brain expert" by Women's Health Magazine, it's her mission to demystify neuroscience, making it accessible and impactful for everyone. Her commitment to empowering people with an understanding of how their brain works has made her a pioneering force in redefining wellness. Nicole's debut book, "Rewire," offers a transformative neuro-toolkit. With practical strategies to optimise your life, rewire your brain and break free from limiting habits and behaviours. “Rewire” is your guide toward personal growth and fulfilment. The book was pre-empted in the UK by Penguin Michael Joseph; it was also pre-empted in the US by Harper One and has sold over 20 translation deals. Nicole can be found on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok @nicolesneuroscience.  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Jonah Wheeler to explore the art of developing chemistry in the bedroom and how to create deeper, more connected experiences with your partner or partners.  We'll answer questions about verbal play, dom/sub dynamics as a kink, butt play, and how to embrace the journey of physical intimacy by detaching from outcome-based sex—because it's not always about the rush to O! We also break down communication tips for exploring pleasure and ensuring your desires and boundaries are clear and respected. Along the way, Jonah shares some of his experiences on set recording sexy videos, what makes a good scene, and even what happens when things don't go according to plan! So, whether you're curious about exploring new dynamics, looking for ways to deepen intimacy, or just intrigued by Jonah's advice, I hope you'll join us for this episode! Let's go flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jonah Wheeler is an actor and content creator who has gained recognition on social media for his insightful videos and in the adult entertainment industry for his performances in various productions. Jonah engages with a broad audience, sharing personal insights and experiences on life, love, dating, relationships, identity, and sex. Notably, he has discussed his journey of self-discovery, including his exploration of attraction to different genders as highlighted in his TikTok video titled "My Experience Coming Out as Bi and Queer." Jonah's online presence reflects his multifaceted personality, combining his professional endeavors with personal narratives. Jonah can be found on all social platforms and sites @showoffjonah.  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we've got couples therapist Johnathan Van Viegen on the show as we take on the pull back.  You know, the experience you've maybe had when you're dating someone, and then their energy shifts and they seem to pull back? Or maybe that person has been you?!  Why does this happen and how can we approach it without letting fear or anxiety take over? Jonathan offers a thoughtful perspective on approaching these situations with curiosity, understanding, and self-compassion that I think you'll be very interested to hear! We also explore how to reframe your needs as wants and desires to create open and collaborative communication with potential partners. Johnathan introduces his red flag/green flag strategy, which helps you evaluate someone's intentions while maintaining healthy boundaries so you can date with clarity and confidence. Finally, we discuss the importance of cultivating self-love and the belief that the love you seek is not only deserved, but absolutely attainable.  So, whether you're dealing with mixed signals or simply looking for ways to feel more secure in your dating life, this episode is full of insights to help you date with more focus.  Alright flirties, let's meet Jonathan!  Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jonathan Van Viegen, the Guy Who Saves Marriages (Without the Fluff), is a couples therapist and relationship coach who helps partners break out of the same exhausting fights, stop feeling like roommates, and actually enjoy being married again. His no-nonsense, solution-focused approach skips the therapy jargon and gets straight to what works—helping couples feel chosen and cherished again. Through his IG Lives, reels, and direct coaching, Jonathan delivers real, actionable strategies that actually fix what's broken—without the endless “processing” that keeps couples stuck. His work is all about fast progress, deep connection, and practical tools that make a lasting impact. You can connect with Jonathan on Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, the dynamic duo behind the Dateable podcast and the new book, “How to Be Dateable,” to have a conversation with us about, well, dating! Julie and Yue will share with us today the 7 things that matter when looking for a partner and why connection and compatibility goes way beyond some chemistry and attraction. We'll learn about the key qualities to focus on when choosing someone for a relationship, how to avoid getting stuck in surface level connections, and what it really means to be dateable. Along the way, we'll touch on emotional availability, long-term compatibility, and how to create genuine, lasting connections so you can feel more confident and empowered in dating.  So, whether you're single, dating, or just curious about what makes relationships thrive, this episode is for you! It's for everyone, basically! Stay tuned! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guests:  Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They're the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love and the co-hosts of the hit podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more.  Connect with Julie and Xue on Instagram, Take the "Dating Archetype" Quiz, and grab your copy of How to Be Dateable! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Hannah Deindorfer, the Libido Fairy!, on the show to explore with us physical intimacy, libidos, and sex in dating! Up for discussion are questions around consent, desire, and the touch barrier, and we'll play in the space of intimacy here as we talk about different ways to connect with your partner or partners on that physical level. We even go into your kissing dilemmas!  But that's not all. Hannah will also offer guidance on how to navigate mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, what to do in those moments when intimacy dips, and how to communicate your desires - without any shame. So, whether you're struggling with desire differences, looking to strengthen emotional intimacy, or simply curious about how to approach these conversations in dating, this episode is full of actionable advice that is sure to keep the spark alive! C'mon flirties, let's meet Hannah! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Hannah Deindorfer, also known as "The Libido Fairy," has helped hundreds of women who struggle with low libido feel more connected to their partners and look forward to intimacy again. With her expertise in somatic and emotional healing, she guides women through practical steps to rekindle desire. You can connect with Hannah on Instagram, YouTube, and the web! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I'm joined by certified sex Claire Perelman for an important conversation about dating after sexual assault.  Together, we explore the complexities of reclaiming your sense of self in dating and relationships while navigating boundaries, consent, and personal healing.  I also share my own story, opening up about the challenges of feeling safe while dating and the journey of learning to trust myself - and others - again. We discuss how trauma impacts the nervous system and the common experience of self-abandonment—doing whatever it takes to keep someone close. We'll offer insights on how to reconnect with your body, heal your nervous system, and approach dating in a way that feels empowering and safe. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is possible and that you deserve it all, flirty! Let's do this! Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions sexual assault and trauma so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below. We are here to help. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people's lives. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in therapy for sex and intimacy with couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com Further resources for the USA below. If you have international resources, please share those with me and I will add here to the show notes!  The National Sexual Violence Resource Center RAINN:  National Sexual Assault Hotline Planned Parenthood About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, registered psychotherapist Kaleigh Smith is back on the show for an honest conversation about depression and dating! We'll explore what depression really feels like, how it can impact our ability to connect with others, and the unique challenges it brings to forming and maintaining relationships.  I also open up about my personal journey with depression, which I've experienced pretty much my whole life, and share this part of me with you in hopes that it will be supportive and healing.  Kaleigh and I talk about ways to communicate your mental health needs with potential partners while still prioritizing your own well-being, share about how depression can affect emotional availability in dating and why self-compassion is so important. Plus ways to love yourself a little bit harder! If you've ever felt like depression has made dating feel overwhelming or isolating, we're here to remind you that you're not alone and that it's possible to find connection, even in the hardest moments.  Trigger warning: This episode includes raw discussion of mental health, so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below and we are here to help. Alright flirties, let's meet Kaleigh and do this! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Kaleigh is a Registered Psychotherapist practicing in Ontario, Canada, and the clinic owner of Yellow Serenity Counselling & Psychotherapy. She completed a Specialist Degree in Mental Health (HBSc) at the University of Toronto, a post-graduate certification in mental health interventions at Seneca College, followed by a master's degree in Counselling Psychology at Yorkville University. As an ADHDer, Kaleigh brings a lived experience perspective to her psychotherapy practice. She understands the nuances of navigating daily life with ADHD, from managing executive function challenges to embracing the unique ways of neurodivergent thinking. As a proud member of CADDRA and a Certified Clinical Services Provider for ADHD treatment, she offers specialized, affirming care for neurodivergent individuals. Her goal as a therapist is to empower neurodivergent individuals and enhance their overall well-being through personalized, neurodivergent-affirming therapy. You can connect with Kaleigh on Instagram and via the web. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have licensed marriage and family therapist and dating coach Lauren Zamora to talk about one of the hottest topics when it comes to dating and relationships — attachment theory.  We're breaking down what attachment theory is, how our attachment styles develop and the different types, and what it truly means to feel secure in love and relationships. We'll also explore the core wounds behind both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, how these wounds show up in dating, and why the anxious/avoidant dynamic plays out so often. Why does this duo seem to attract each other? Plus, we'll discuss communication, whether attachment styles follow gender roles, and perhaps most importantly—how to start healing attachment wounds and build a more secure, connected relationship with both yourself and others. If you're ready to deepen your self-awareness and create more secure, fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you. Let's go flirties, time to meet Lauren! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Lauren Zamora is a licensed therapist and dating coach passionate about helping women in their 30s heal attachment wounds, overcome dating anxiety, and find healthy, fulfilling relationships. With a direct yet empathetic approach, Lauren blends inner child healing, attachment theory, and practical strategies to guide her clients in breaking free from old patterns and embracing secure, confident love. Having personally navigated years of toxic dating cycles before meeting her husband, Lauren understands the struggles of modern dating firsthand. She now dedicates her work to empowering women to rewrite their dating stories, feel less anxious, and become attracted to partners who truly honor them. When she's not supporting clients through her virtual therapy practice, Therapy with Lo, Lauren creates engaging content on her Instagram account Dating with Lo , where she shares insights, tips, and real talk about dating, relationships, and self-worth. Her brand voice—warm, caring, fun, and a little bold—resonates with women (and all genders) who are ready to step into their most empowered selves. You can connect with Lauren on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

It's Attachment Theory Week on Flirtations! Coming up on this episode, we welcome dating coach Mimi Watt to the show to share her story of going from anxious to secure as we explore the world of anxious attachment in dating! Mimi breaks down how our attachment styles form and why understanding your attachment style can be a total game-changer in your love life. If you've ever felt clingy, overly worried about where you stand with someone, or just find yourself caught in dating patterns that leave you feeling anxious—this episode is for you.  Mimi shares powerful strategies to help you heal, grow, and move toward a more secure, centered connection with yourself and in all of your relationships. So, whether you're brand new to attachment theory or already on your healing journey, stick around because this conversation is about to bring some serious clarity and heart-healing advice your way.  Now let's meet Mimi!  Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Mimi Watt is a Dating & Relationship coach who helps people become secure within themselves and attract healthy love through healing their anxious attachment style. She does this using her signature Peacefully Attached Framework, which she has built from experience with her journey of becoming securely attached and helping dozens of clients do the same. She is passionate about helping you foster the most important relationship of all, the one you have with yourself.  You can follow Mimi on Instagram and TikTok! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we've got Mark King and Matt King as we flirt with personal style! Mark and Matt have got soooo much for you inside as we explore what having style even means and how you can feel crazy, sexy, cool, and confident in what you wear! Don't have a personal style? We got you and by the end of the episode, you will! We'll also talk about the "glow up", dressing for different body types, finding your signature color, how to build a wardrobe, what's on trend, and answer burning questions like what to wear on a first date! We'll also go into gender expression through clothing and how you can build a personal style that not only showcases who you are but also allows you to express yourself authentically. It's time to flirt with your style! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guests:  Mark King is fashion stylist and tattoo artist with a background in modeling and fashion design. They studied menswear design in university and worked as fashion designer and menswear buyer for many years. They started modeling at a young age with their twin Matthew Jordan and are now a freelance stylist and a full time tattoo artist.  You can connect with Mark on Instagram! Matt King, born in a small town in North Carolina, started modeling at 10 years old. He worked i the  fashion industry worldwide as a model and stylist, and is now a model agent. You can connect with Matt on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.