Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

Flirties, today we're diving into a concept that can truly transform the way you date: detachment. Not the kind where you shut down or stop caring, but the kind where you finally stop tying your worth to someone else or external circumstances. Joining us for this conversation is Sabrina Bendory, a dating and relationship expert, host of the You Will Be OK podcast, and author of the powerful new book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible. Inside the episode, we'll explore what detachment really means and how to practice it in dating and relationships. We'll get into the differences between self confidence, self worth, and self esteem, how to detach from the timing of things, ways to practice acceptance, the reasons so many of us over-attach in dating, and ultimately how we can become irresistible by being ourselves. So, if you've ever found yourself spiraling over “What did that text mean?” or felt like your entire worth depends on whether someone chooses you, this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties, and meet Sabrina! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! ⬇️ Work with me! ⬇️ Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Sabrina Bendory is a writer, relationship expert, and coach who specializes in helping people build unshakable self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and attract the love they deserve. Her work blends psychological insight with real-world tools, empowering readers to heal from past wounds and create healthy, fulfilling relationships. Sabrina is the author of several best-selling books and guides on dating, detachment, and emotional resilience. Her work has been featured in top publications, including Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, Newsweek, NY Post, and more.  Through her writing, courses, and private coaching, Sabrina has helped thousands of people stop chasing love and start attracting it by becoming their most grounded, magnetic selves. You can follow Sabrina Bendory on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube @sabrinabendory. Learn more and get your copy of Detached! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving into the world of polyamory with Leanne Yau!  Leanne is an award-winning polyamory educator and through her platform PolyPhilia, she creates educational and entertaining content to help people navigate non-monogamous relationships with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Inside the episode, we'll get into what polyamory is (and isn't), the biggest myths that surround it, what monogamous daters could learn from polyamorists, and how to take the first steps if you're poly-curious.  We'll explore frameworks like the relationship escalator and relationship anarchy, the different types of polyamory, and cover dating essentials like communication, boundaries, and even jealousy! But that's not all, we answer some of your top questions like when do I tell someone I'm polyamorous, what if I don't have much experience, but am dating someone who does, and how do I know if polyamory is right for me? Whether you're new to polyamory or just curious, this conversation will give you insights and tools to approach dating and relationships with more ease. Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Leanne! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Leanne Yau is a British award-winning polyamory educator, writer, speaker, certified sex and relationships educator, and trainee psychosexual therapist whose work is all about non-monogamy and sex positivity. She creates educational and entertaining multimedia content about creating healthy and sustainable non-monogamous relationships, drawing from her lived experiences as a polyamorous, bisexual, neurodivergent, kinky, and Asian agender femme who has been openly non-monogamous since 2016. Since 2020, Leanne has connected with millions across the globe through her social media posts, online and in-person talks, workshops, panels, and lectures, in the media, and her private non-monogamous peer support sessions. She also writes ‘A Polyamorous Perspective', a polyamory advice column at Gay Times. Leanne was named in ‘15 LGBTQ+ Educators Who Took Instagram Infotainment To The Next Level' (Buzzfeed, 2021), '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok' (Cosmopolitan, 2022), and ‘60 Top Influencers Who Are Actually Worth the Follow' (Men's Health, 2023). She holds a Special Recognition and Appreciation Award for her contributions to the non-monogamous community (The Panel ENM, 2021), and was nominated for Sex and Relationships Creator of the Year (BCreator, 2024). Follow Leanne on Instagram Book a Peer Support Session Join Leanne on Discord YouTube, Other Socials + Offers/Coaching About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini! This one all about expressing interest in dating and here's what you can expect:   ➡️ How to express interest in dating and why this matters! ➡️ What does expressing interest have to do with someone's emotional availability? ➡️ How showing interest will help you attract higher quality connections and dates. ➡️ What you can do when the nerves or thoughts of being “too much” take over. ➡️ How you can attain clarity on where someone stands if you're unsure if they're interested. ➡️ Why showing interest will help you make dating less about the chase and more about connection!  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're getting into one of the most confusing— and yet sometimes intoxicating—dating experiences out there: it's lovebombing.  You know that rush when someone comes on strong with over-the-top attention, affection, and promises? At first, it can feel magical—like you've finally found ‘the one.' But beneath the surface, lovebombing can be manipulative, destabilizing, and even harmful. To help us understand what lovebombing really is—and what it isn't— we're joined by Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and dating coach who has worked with thousands of women to build healthier dating lives. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Time, and the Today Show, and today she's here to help us get to the root of why lovebombing happens, how we respond to it, and how we can tell the difference between genuine interest and manipulation. We'll talk about the red flags to look out for, how to recognize when we're lovebombing, how the spark plays into all of this, and the tools you can use to slow things down and stay focused on the connection without wasting your time. So, if you've ever wondered what the heck is lovebombing or you're looking for clarity around how this plays out in dating, this episode is for you! Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Kelsey! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  "After facing challenges attracting the right man, self-love and maintaining a healthy relationship for years (even during my master's program!), I came to the realization that no one ever guides us in these areas. I was astonished by the lack of resources to learn how to attract and sustain a healthy relationship. Drawing upon my training as a licensed therapist, I took it upon myself to create the courses I needed for during my own dating journey. What initially started as a personal quest to overcome my own struggles has evolved into a comprehensive system that has assisted 1,000s of clients in fostering strong self-relationships and attracting the right healthy partner they desire." Follow me on Instagram, check out my website for trainings and coaching, and download the free dating app resource mentioned in the episode! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving into a topic that makes so many of us squirm—small talk.  Maybe you dread it, maybe you wonder what the point even is, or maybe you just want to know how to turn casual conversations into real connections. To help us out, we're joined by Dr. Connie Wang, a dentist, creator of the Just a Quick Pinch podcast, and known online as the Small Talk Doc! Dr. Wang has made it her mission to show that small talk isn't awkward filler—it's a learnable skill that can transform the way we date, flirt, and connect. In this episode, we'll explore how to shift your mindset around small talk, how to practice it in real life, and how to move from surface-level chatter to meaningful connection—without the pressure.  We'll talk about small talk as a skill, how we can boost conversational confidence, and the little cues that make you instantly more engaging. We'll share ways to create engaging small talks, how to open them, close them, and strategies for asking questions that lead to connection. So if you've ever wished small talk felt easier—or even fun—this one's for you.  Let's get into it Flirties, and meet Dr. Wang! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach Dr. Connie Wang is a family dentist based out of Boston, Massachusetts! Prior to receiving her Doctorate of Dental Medicine, she received her Doctorate of Pharmacy from the University of Rhode Island. Her favorite degree of all however, is being a certified yapper. A self proclaimed personality hire & lover of all things communication, she is on a mission to make the world a little less lonely for each and every person. Her social media content on TikTok and Instagram (@drconniewang) focuses on harnessing the power of small talk to become the most connected, confident, and happiest version of you possible. When she isn't yapping about yapping, she is still yapping on her own podcast called Just A Quick Pinch - a podcast for young healthcare providers that shares both communication pearls and the weekly pop culture news for listeners to make small talk with patients and coworkers. And when she's not doing that she's probably "making returns" at TJMaxx and mysteriously ending up with another haul, to her husband and dog's surprise. Feel free to reach out on any platforms to connect, would love to chat about your communication/small talk/TJMaxx questions! Flirt Coach interview on Just a Quick Pinch About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

The Flirtinis are BACK and this one is all about "Tips for a First Date!" Here's what you can expect from this Flirtini: ➡️  First date communication (planning the date and confirming the date) ➡️  What you can wear and dating mindset ➡️  Where you can go/what you can do for a date ➡️  How you can greet each other ➡️  Conversation tips/what to talk about ➡️  Strategies for different scenarios (what if they don't ask any questions, what if they won't stop talking) ➡️  How you can explore compatibility ➡️  How you can end the date (maybe you want a second date or maybe you don't!)

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking values based dating with Kelsea Warren! Picture this:  you date based on timing, chemistry, or pressure—like friends settling down or feeling like you're running out of time.  While this can all be very real, what if dating wasn't about chasing a spark or checking boxes, and instead was about grounding yourself in your values? What if clarity on your values could not only help you choose a partner—but also prevent dating burnout, heartbreak, and the feeling of losing yourself in the process? To explore this, we're joined today by Kelsea Warren, back on the show! Kelsea helps individuals and businesses elevate wellbeing and prevent burnout by identifying and aligning with their core values and after this episode, I think values based dating just might be your next dating strategy. We'll talk about what dating values actually are, how they're different from surface-level preferences, and why getting clear on them can shift your entire approach to love. We'll explore how to bring values into the dating conversation without scaring someone off, and how to spot green flags that someone shares your values—even if they don't say it directly. So, whether you're new to dating, stuck in patterns that don't feel good anymore, or just craving more intentional connection, this episode will help you build relationships that align with who you are. Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Kelsea! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Kelsea Warren is a coach, consultant, and speaker who specializes in burnout prevention. She has a master's degree in social work and is approaching candidacy for a Ph.D. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology. She is an expert in employee burnout and workplace values and uses that as the lens to help thousands of high achievers create and sustain aligned careers and organizations improve their employee experience. Kelsea has 6+ years of experience consulting and has worked with hundreds of businesses and employees to operationalize their values for wellbeing. Before that, she spent 8+ years in mental health and working as a clinical therapist. Kelsea has an organic audience of 150k+ across social platforms, which has landed her collaborations and keynotes with brands like Urban Decay, Cox Communications, Association for Talent Development, and University of Arizona. Kelsea is also an Air Force spouse of 12 years and a mom to 2 daughters. A gift from Kelsea! Make sure to grab your FREE resources!  Workplace Values Assessment & Wellbeing Audit Get to know your values with the FREE character strengths assessment:  https://www.viacharacter.org/. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving into a topic that I know many of you wonder about, but don't always say out loud:  friend crushes.  You know the feeling—when someone who started out as “just a friend” suddenly makes your heart race, or when you catch yourself asking: could we be more? To explore this fascinating—and sometimes complicated—dynamic, we're joined by human connection enthusiast and host of the Socially Delightful podcast, Jewel Hohman. Together, we'll explore everything from how to tell if a friend might like you back, to the best way to ask them out without making things weird.  We'll also get into some perhaps trickier questions—what if they don't feel the same, what if people gossip, what if it stirs jealousy in your friend group, or what happens if the relationship ends? But that's not all! We'll also look at platonic friend crushes (cuz those exist, too!), the role of vulnerability, the power of connection, why we should all be flirting a little bit more, and how we can do just that. So if you've ever had a friend crush—or maybe you're in the middle of one right now—this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties, and meet Jewel! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Jewel Hohman is a connection expert with a degree in psychology and a pending master's in social work, combining Evidence-Based Self Help and the latest friendship research to help women in their 20s and 30s to build friendships that actually nourish them. In a post-pandemic world, people are more disconnected and lonelier than ever. We're ALL craving more meaningful connection, but how to make it? How to confidently build friendships that support us? Let's unpack the science behind friendships that actually nurture us. Learn more about Jewel on her website and follow @connectionwithjewel on all social media platforms! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirations, we're joined by Carly Ann, a therapist and attachment expert, here to have a conversation with us about the anxious/avoidant dynamic in dating! We'll talk about why this duo happens so often in dating, how to spot the difference between lovebombing and genuine interest, are they avoidant or not interested, and how anxiety shows up in the dating process. We'll get into what to do when insecurities, self doubt, or attachment wounds try to pull us off track and how your attachment style and nervous system are connected. We'll explore the origins of our attachment styles, why it's not only about your childhood and family dynamics, and even how our attachment styles are fluid, not fixed. Finally, how to tell the difference between chemistry and compatibility, ways to build secure attachments with others and within ourselves, and some communication strategies for early dating. So, whether you feel like you've experienced the anxious/avoidant dynamic before, are curious to learn more, or just need something to listen (hello!), this episode is for you. Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Carly Ann! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Carly Ann is an integrative therapist who helps people who worry, overthink, and find themselves stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns. She supports those who feel anxious, fear abandonment, or find themselves overreacting, especially when it feels like they have already tried everything. Carly Ann's mission is to show people that they are not alone and they are not stuck. Through her work, she helps individuals stop feeling “crazy” and reconnect with the version of themselves they were always meant to be: content, secure, and confident, before life, criticism, or loneliness made them doubt who they are. Work with Carly Ann:  21 Day Anxious to Secure Course, grab the Anxious Attachment Bundle, follow on Instagram, and Subscribe on YouTube. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're answering one of the biggest questions in dating! Are we actually connecting — or just attaching? Joining us Dr. Janine O'Brien, a psychologist, educator, and trauma-informed relationship specialist, who helps people untangle their attachment patterns and build more secure, meaningful relationships. We'll unpack how to spot the difference between lovebombing and genuine interest, why we sometimes confuse intensity with intimacy, and the ways our attachment wounds show up in dating.  We'll also talk about the marathon first date, what it looks like when we rush through dating, and how to ease dating anxiety so connection comes first. Finally, we'll explore what it means to develop self-trust, why we don't need to hold everyone accountable, and how we can spot emotional availability within others and within ourselves. If you've ever found yourself anxiously replaying texts, feel like you keep making mistakes, are ready to just give up, or curious about dating again, this episode is for you.  It's for everyone, basically! Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Dr. Janine! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Dr. Janine O'Brien is a licensed clinical psychologist, practice owner, and relationship coach.  She specializes in working with millennials navigating anxiety, people-pleasing, relationship challenges, tricky family dynamics, modern dating, attachment wounds and relational trauma.  Her approach blends depth and relatability, helping clients untangle the roots of their struggles while building the clarity and confidence to create the kind of connections they actually want.  At the heart of her work is the belief that everyone deserves to feel secure and confident in their relationships, including the one they have with themselves. In addition to her therapy practice, Dr. O'Brien is currently developing a course that blends self-paced learning, group coaching, and community support designed to help insecurely attached individuals move toward secure embodiment in their dating and relationships.  She has also been featured in outlets such as Huffpost, Very Well Mind, and Bustle, and is passionate about making psychology and mental health resources accessible and holistic. You can connect with Dr. O'Brien on her website and Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going into the world of codependency with Vanessa Bennett! Vanessa is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a sought-after speaker, co-host of the hit podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, and author of the new book The Motherhood Myth. Her work shines a light on how generational trauma, societal expectations, and personal experiences shape the ways we show up in relationships. We'll get into the origins of codependence and the different ways it shows up, and how we can identify patterns of control, validation-seeking, and over-functioning (hi people pleasing!),  and move toward interdependence, self-trust, and authentic connection.  In our conversation, we explore how codependency is rooted in a fear and can feel as gripping as addiction. You'll hear about the link between attachment styles and codependent behaviors, as we break down the difference between healthy attachment vs. emotional dependence, sharing tools you can use to build relationships that feel supportive - without losing yourself. So, whether you've dated from this place of feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions, or found it hard to let go of someone even though you knew they weren't good for you, this episode offers both clarity and a path toward healing. Let's get into it Flirties, and meet Vanessa! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, is licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator devoted to the lifelong work of coming home to the Self. In her words:  “My approach blends depth psychology, archetypal wisdom, and embodied healing—but it's also no-nonsense, rooted in lived experience, and grounded in truth. I believe healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you were before the world told you to be small.” Vanessa leads immersive healing retreats, workshops, and custom curriculum-based programs for nonprofits and corporations and founded the Inner Compass Academy, where she trains and supervise coaches and therapists to integrate depth and embodiment into their work. Her newest book, The Motherhood Myth, explores how patriarchy, capitalism, and generational trauma have shaped our narratives around parenting, partnership, and identity, and how we begin the process of coming home to ourselves. You can follow Vanessa on Instagram and learn more about her work on www.vanessabennet.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Dr. Lisa Wade, a sociologist, assistant professor at Tulane University, and the author of the landmark book American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus.  Her groundbreaking research draws from the intimate, real voices of college students and reveals that hookup culture isn't just about casual sex—it's a social system with its own rules, hierarchies, and pressures. We'll explore how this culture took hold and the surprising ways it shapes how we all date and connect cuz we all know hookup culture isn't limited to the college campus. We'll also look at trends, like why Gen-Z is having less sex than previous generations, how gender and power dynamics still influence intimacy, and what might be replacing the hookup script. So whether you've lived through hookup culture, opted out entirely, or are curious about how it's evolving today—this is a conversation about desire, connection, and the cultural forces that shape both. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Dr. Wade! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach Watch on YouTube About our guest:  Lisa Wade is an Associate Professor at Tulane University with appointments in Sociology and the Gender and Sexuality Studies Program. As a public-facing scholar, Lisa works to make her and others' scholarship engaging to a public audience. To this end, she is the author of American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus; an introduction to sociology titled Terrible Magnificent Sociology; a sociology of gender textbook, Gender: Ideas, Interactions, Institutions, with Myra Marx Ferree; and numerous research articles. Her newest book—a documentation of undergraduate social life during the pre-vaccine pandemic—will be published next year. You can find her online at lisa-wade.com, on Instagram at @lisawadephd, and on Bluesky at @lisawade.bsky.social. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by the marvelous Lily Womble—a feminist dating coach, former top matchmaker, host of the Date Brazen podcast and author of Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love.  Lily is on a mission to help us break free from the beliefs the patriarchy has embedded in our love lives—and to ask for more.  In this conversation, we talk about what it means to date as a feminist. We explore everything from how the patriarchy shapes modern dating culture to why so many women feel like they're “too much” and “not enough” at the same time.  We'll hear about Lily's experience dating as a self described late bloomer, we'll unravel the tension between wanting to be chosen and choosing for ourselves, how you can overcome a scarcity mindset - thoughts like, “It'll never happen for me!” - by harnessing the power of desire. We also get into black cat energy, the male gaze, and flirting, of course! So, whether you've ever felt behind in dating, struggled to believe you deserve more, or found yourself following traditional gender norms and yet it's not for you - you're going to want to hear this. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Lily! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Work with me! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest:  Lily Womble was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S. After setting up hundreds of first dates, she realized that with the right tools, high achieving women could match themselves better than anyone else ever could.  She started her company, Date Brazen, five years ago and has since helped thousands of women become their own expert matchmaker with her unconventional, intersectional feminist approach to dating.  She's on a mission to interrupt the patriarchal status quo found in the dating world to help women create love lives that are self-trust filled, settle-proof, and actively joyful.   She changes lives daily with her 85k+ TikTok community, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast- , and sold-out coaching programs world-wide. She lives in Brooklyn with her fiancé, Chris. You can find out more about working with Lily here, buy Thank You, More Please, follow Lily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and stream the Date Brazen podcast. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going straight to the source of transformation—the subconscious mind. Joining us for this conversation is Natalie Stavola, a certified hypnotherapist, coach, author, and speaker with a deeply personal story of healing—from addiction and self-sabotage to empowerment and purpose.  Natalie helps people rewire limiting beliefs, release emotional blocks, and rebuild the self-trust needed to experience relationships based on truth rather than pain. Inside the episode, we'll learn why your subconscious mind might be the very thing keeping you from what you want and how our earliest programming creates the beliefs we carry into adulthood. We're talking about what it means to date while stuck in survival mode, how shame and self-doubt can sabotage connection, how to identify our limiting beliefs, and finally, how to reprogram them. If you're ready to stop asking all the questions and instead start listening to yourself again… this one is for you.  Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Natalie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Natalie Stavola is a globally recognized career and dating coach who has helped over 3,000 people worldwide transform their lives. Known for her direct yet compassionate style, she specializes in helping men—especially those entering or navigating positions of power—develop emotional intelligence, shift internal power dynamics, and break free from limiting beliefs. Certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), coaching, and a degree in Psychology and Communications, Natalie empowers clients to access deeper self-worth, improve communication, and thrive in both their professional and romantic lives. Her coaching techniques have consistently produced fast, lasting results, attracting high-achieving individuals from all walks of life. She is also a #1 Amazon New Release author in the dating and relationships category. You can follow Natalie on Instagram, work with Natalie 1:1, and schedule a FREE 60 minute discovery call.  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by speaker, creative force, and bestselling author Amber Rae, author of Choose Wonder Over Worry and her new book, Loveable, One Woman's Path from Good to Free. In this memoir, Amber shares how one day, four years ago, while married, she looked into the eyes of a stranger and fell instantly in love. What ensues is a raw story about breaking up with her previous life, choosing herself, and following her intuition toward love. Inside the episode, Amber opens up about walking away from a safe but disconnected marriage, and finding the courage it takes to want more in a world where it's easier to settle. We talk about trusting your intuition, following desire, and how to recognize when you're bargaining with yourself to stay in something that no longer fits.  Amber shares what it means to ask the universe for a sign—and how we can listen? We'll hear about how she handled the judgement of leaving her marriage, what we can do with regrets, and ultimately how to know when it's time to walk awya. This conversation is an invitation to stop outsourcing your worth and start listening to your inner voice. Whether you're navigating a crossroads, healing from a breakup, or learning to trust yourself again—this episode will meet you there.  Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Amber Rae. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Amber Rae is a bestselling author and speaker best known for books Choose Wonder Over Worry and The Answers Are Within You. She's also the creator of The Feelings Journal, a tool that transforms the way you engage with your emotions. Her writing and illustrations reach 9M people per month, and her work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, New York Magazine, TODAY, SELF, Fortune, Forbes, and Entrepreneur. As a keynote speaker and teacher, Amber has worked with companies such as Kate Spade, Meta, Microsoft, and TED. Amber lives in New York with her husband and son. Preorder Loveable, then learn more about Amber Rae on her website and Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

You know what Flirties, I have a question for you. Have you ever met someone and just knew they were the one? Maybe it was instant chemistry, maybe it was a slow burn, or maybe it was heartbreak that cracked you open in a way nothing else ever had? Well today, we're diving into the soul-level stuff—those invisible forces that draw us to each other, shape our relationships, and sometimes, break us apart. Joining us for this episode of Flirtations is the luminous Danny Santos, a spiritual guide, psychic medium, and the intuitive heart behind @santoscrystalvisions on Instagram, to have a conversation with us about soulmates, twin flames, karmic connections, and timing in dating. What does it mean when we feel an undeniable connection with someone? How do we know if it's love… or a lesson? Is timing really everything?  And what if—maybe the hardest question of all—what if I feel like we already met our soulmate and it didn't work out? What if the love of my life has already come and gone… will I find love again? Flirty, of course it will. We're hopeful romantics here on Flirtations! We'll also talk about dating karma, the invisible string theory, and why some connections feel written in the stars—even if they never find a forever. We'll untangle how to recognize when you're stuck in a cycle and how to clear your energy so you can call in the kind of love that truly aligns. This one is soulful, expansive, and a little bit witchy—in the best way. Whether you're in the middle of something cosmic, letting go of something karmic, or waiting for the universe to catch up… this conversation is for you. So take a deep breath, Flirties, and settle in—because we're gonna get very real about spiritual connection and the sometimes messy, but always magical road to love. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Danny! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Danny Santos is the Astrologer, Psychic Medium, and Integrative Healer behind Santos & The Crystal Visions. With 20 years of study in the cosmos, Danny's expertise blends the magic of astrology with tarot, reiki, breathwork and psychic mediumship. His repertoire also extends to Ayahuasca shamanism and plant medicine.  Danny has a unique astrological approach. He is an Archetypal Astrologer, which means he intertwines astrology expertise with the psychoanalytic theories of Freud, Jung, and Lacan, providing astrological insights that heal, clarify, and foster a connection to our collective consciousness. Trained as a shaman under Don Enrique Lopez-Fasanando of the Shipibo lineage in Peru, Danny has mastered advanced shamanic techniques, including icaros and plant spirit communication, enriching his holistic approach to healing and spirituality. He is a trained psychic medium under Colby Rebel—his mentor who was voted Los Angeles' best psychic in 2022—and hosts the Astro Daddy Podcast, where he explores astrology, shamanism, plant medicine, and other spiritual topics with his guests. Danny has contributed his insights to outlets like The New York Post, Refinery29, Bustle, and Well+Good, as well as podcasts such as Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman (the dating coach for The Drew Barrymore Show), Broke Girl Therapy, and The Double Teamed Podcast. Most recently, he was the resident astrologer for luxury resort MUSA in Zihuantanejo, Mexico.  Danny is a fervent advocate for mental health and has been featured and works with The National Alliance on Mental Illness as well as Pineapple Support, a non-profit organization that specializes in bringing mental health support to the people of the adult entertainment industry. He is currently preparing to work with veterans, survivors of human trafficking, and people with PTSD.  In his free time, Danny writes music and sings. You can hear his first single, “Poppies For Edwin,” on Spotify. You can follow Danny on Instagram and TikTok. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking practical optimism and how this grounded, science-backed approach can help guide us toward more fulfilling connections and loving relationships. Joining us for this conversation is Dr. Sue Varma, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical assistant professor at NYU, and the author of Practical Optimism: The Art, Science, and Practice of Exceptional Well-Being. Her work has helped countless people navigate trauma, stress, and uncertainty—and today, she's helping us bring more purpose and emotional resilience into our dating lives. In this conversation, we unpack what it really means to be optimistic in a world that doesn't always make it easy. We talk about why it's so hard to be alone, but how we can do just that without giving in to loneliness.  We explore how we can stop comparing ourselves to other people, how we can find purpose in small, everyday moments, and why empathy is so important to true, genuine connection. We also ask questions like, "Is happiness a choice?" "Can we train our brains to think bigger and love deeper?" And, "What does it mean to be a practical optimist?" If you're struggling to keep the hope alive out there dating or are having a hard time believing in yourself, you don't want to miss this episode! Dr. Varma's work has sincerely changed my own life in my longtime battle with depression and I hope that by the end of this episode, if you're having a hard time in your life, things will get just a bit easier. Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Dr. Sue Varma! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Sue Varma is a board-certified psychiatrist and distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, with over 20 years of experience in both private practice and as a clinical assistant professor at NYU Langone Health. A trailblazer in her field, she was the inaugural medical director of NYU's 9/11 mental health program, earning a Mayoral Proclamation for her groundbreaking contributions. Dr. Varma is a highly sought-after keynote speaker and national medical commentator, regularly featured on leading platforms like the Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Mornings, The NY Times, WSJ, Washington Post, along with documentaries and primetime specials, where her expertise has earned her 13 nominations and two Sharecare Emmy Awards. Honored as one of the world's top five leading health experts by Global Citizen for her pandemic work, and the Ivan Goldberg Award for Outstanding Service, Dr. Varma now brings her insights on mental wellness to a global audience with her acclaimed book Practical Optimism: The Art, Science, and Practice of Exceptional Wellbeing, being translated in a dozen languages and counting. To learn more about Dr. Varma and her work, please check out Instagram and www.drsuevarma.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're crossing the pond and getting into it with none other than Tom Stroud!  You may know Tom from Season 1 of Love Is Blind UK and his podcast Why Do Men…? and today, we're going beyond the pods as we talk about what it was really like dating through a wall and how vulnerability, oddly enough, came more easily without eye contact or seeing who you're talking to. Tom also shares what it was like forming friendships in the men's suite, how those behind-the-scenes bonds shaped the experience, and what it taught him about connection — not just romantically, but also about making friends with other guys. Tom opens up about his past dating patterns, how he's unlearning lovebombing and forming more secure attachments rather than avoidant ones, why “checking the boxes” was actually limiting him in his love life, and the inspiration behind his podcast Why Do Men…? and his men's group Shoulder to Shoulder. We've also got some flirting tips, of course!, for the fellas and the ladies out there dating in real life and how you can make a move with more confidence. So, if you're curious to go behind the scenes of Love is Blind and learn more about connection and vulnerability in relationships, this one is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Tom! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Tom Stroud, relationship content creator and host of Why Do Men, the podcast exploring male behaviour in dating and relationships. You can follow Tom on Instagram: www.instagram.com/stroudtom. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by breakup recovery and relationship coach Lucy Price, who is here to help us turn heartbreak into healing and a breakup into a breakthrough! If you've ever found yourself crying on Facetime with your friend, rereading old texts, stalking your ex's socials, or wondering how the hell you're supposed to move on when it wasn't supposed to end this way—stay tuned! Whether you've been ghosted, blindsided by someone going back to their ex, trying to figure out how “the one” got away or just can't stop replaying the “what ifs,” Lucy is here to help you move forward—not by pretending it didn't hurt, but by learning process a painful experience. Inside the episode, we talk about the different ways we can get stuck in a breakup, why we might keep going back to our ex, how to stop chasing closure, how to let go of the fantasy (not just the person), and how to tell the difference between real healing and a really good distraction. We'll explore how to rebuild self-trust when your picker feels broken and how to know when you're ready to date again, and how heartbreak might just be your biggest breakthrough yet. If you're tired of feeling not enough, still hung up on someone who didn't show up, or you're just craving some clarity and closure, this episode is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Lucy! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Lucy Price is a breakup recovery and relationship coach specializing in helping individuals heal from heartbreak, rebuild confidence, and create fulfilling lives—with or without a partner. Having supported over a hundred clients in the past three years, Lucy blends compassionate guidance with practical strategies to navigate breakups, foster self-love, and gain clarity for the future. Her approach empowers clients to move forward with confidence and embrace their next chapter. Learn more about Lucy and coaching opportunities on her website, listen to the Breakups and Breakthroughs Podcast, and check out more content on Instagram and TikTok. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Israa Nasir, a psychotherapist, speaker, mental health advocate, creator of the digital platform Well Guide, and author of the brilliant new book Toxic Productivity, here today to have a conversation with us about what it means to feel enough in a world that constantly tells us otherwise. Inside the episode, we're exploring how hustle culture and the need to always be doing something not only impacts our careers, but also how we love and date.  We'll talk about the sometimes invisible pressure to check every box and make things work, and we'll look at how comparison, perfectionism, and rushing intimacy can keep us stuck in dating loops that leave us anxious - and yet wanting more. Israa shares insights on how family and cultural expectations shape our relationships, and how we can honor our roots while still choosing ourselves.  We also get into vulnerability vs. oversharing, why external validation isn't the enemy, and how curiosity, not criticism, is the key to dating with more clarity and self-compassion. So if you've ever felt like dating was just another performance, like you're behind in this unspoken race to be partnered, or like your "enoughness" is waiting to be confirmed by someone else, this one is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Israa! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Israa Nasir is a psychotherapist, keynote speaker, and author of Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Energy in a World That Always Demands More. She is the founder of @well.guide, a digital mental health platform with a community of over 350,000, where she shares evidence-based insights on emotional wellbeing, burnout, and the psychology of achievement in a culture that often demands constant output. Israa has been a featured speaker at global stages including SXSW, the Mental Health America National Conference, and the Asia Society, and has led workplace wellbeing initiatives at companies such as Google, Microsoft, Meta, and Bloomberg. She has also delivered talks and workshops at Yale University and other leading academic institutions. Her work has been featured in Time, Forbes, Harvard Business Review, and Axios. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Flirties, we're joined by one of Australia's most sought-after dating coaches — it's Mark Rosenfeld. He's one of Australia's top dating and relationship experts, author of the book Make Him Yours: Beating the Odds of Modern Dating, and over the course of his career, he's coached more than 50,000 women in love, dating, and connection. We start the episode with Mark's story of going from shy guy to stripper (yes, you heard that right!), and how stepping into that unexpected world helped him overcome social anxiety and learn the art of flirting. Then we get into your dating questions as Mark shares how men and women date differently and what each gender wishes the other understood. We'll hear about why the apps aren't all that bad and how to make intentional invitations that create real-life dates — without chasing. And yes, we even talk about that one time Mark went undercover as a woman on dating apps to find out: what are the men doing? How can women actually get more of what they want? And why do women tend to date potential more than men? Mark brings a unique perspective to the dating game having coached both men and women for over a decade, and let's just say, he has seen it all. So, whether you're curious about some psychology and dating dynamics, wondering how to make stronger romantic connections, or just want to hear Mark's story of personal transformation—this episode is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Mark! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Mark Rosenfeld is one of Australia's leading dating and relationship coaches and the founder of Make Him Yours. With a background in psychology and a past life as a professional dancer (yes, really!), Mark brings a unique approach to modern dating. Through his coaching, bestselling book Make Him Yours: Beating the Odds of Modern Dating, and massively popular YouTube channel, he's helped over 50,000 women build confidence, understand men, and create meaningful relationships.  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking all things queer and gay dating with the incredible Nathan Serrato! Nathan is a trauma-informed coach and host of the Queer Conscious podcast, helping LGBTQ+ individuals and couples build thriving, intentional relationships rooted in self-worth, communication, and emotional intimacy. Inside the episode, we explore the beautifully complex, sometimes messy, and yet always real world of queer dating.  We talk about the “Queer Crossroads” and how to navigate that blurry line between friends, flings, dates, sex, and more. We get into meeting in real life vs. online, and how to flirt while staying grounded and authentic. We'll also talk about breakups within friend groups and social cirlces, monogamy and open relationships, the concept of a second adolescence, and how to handle dating when it feels more like a search for validation than a path to true connection. Nathan also shares his insights around body image in our swipe culture, what to do when dating apps feel more exhausting than exciting, and how to build the kind of queer connection that feels safe, sexy, and fun. Finally, we'll touch on mental health, the importance of friendships, how to make friends, and how we can love ourselves, perhaps, a little bit more. So, whether you're new to queer dating, have been around the block and back, or are just curious (hello, straights!), this episode has something for you. Let's do the Flirties, and meet Nathan! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Nathan Serrato, PCC (he/him) is a Queer Love Coach and founder of Queer Conscious. Through coaching, courses, and community, Nathan helps LGBTQ+ individuals and couples build thriving, intentional relationships rooted in self-worth, communication, and emotional intimacy. His somatic approach offers lasting transformation, while his expertise in communication allows him to mediate between partners and guide them toward alignment, understanding, and tangible solutions. Whether you're dating, deepening a partnership, or healing from past relationships, Nathan offers a grounded space for growth and connection. Learn more at www.queerconscious.com or Instagram: @queerconscious. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're welcoming someone whose work has helped thousands of people move from stuck to aligned, it's the brilliant Britt Frank. A licensed neuropsychotherapist, trauma specialist, speaker, and bestselling author of The Science of Stuck and her brand-new book Align Your Mind, her insights have been featured in NPR, Forbes, The New York Times, and Esquire—and today, she's here with us, Flirties! In this episode, we're getting into the nitty gritty of the mind—what it means to work with our inner world, the origin of our inner critic, and how our nervous systems play a huge role in dating, self-worth, and how we connect with others.  We'll talk about Internal Family Systems therapy, the power of parts work, and how the anxious part, avoidant part, or people-pleaser within us might be running the show more than we think, and what we can do about it. Britt helps us understand why we sometimes get stuck in patterns we know aren't good for us, she's got a reframe on self-sabotage and after this, you might start calling it traumatized intuition, we'll talk about why change is hard (but totally possible), and how our past experiences and traumas might be shaping the way we date today. Whether you're navigating indecision, struggling with attachment, or wondering why the same relationship themes keep popping up—this episode is packed with science, soul, and practical strategies to help you get unstuck and move forward with confidence. Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Britt Frank. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP is a licensed neuropsychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Science of Stuck and Align Your Mind. She received her BA from Duke University and her master's from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning instructor. Britt is a contributing writer for Psychology Today and her work has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, and New York Magazine.  You can connect with Britt on Instagram, LinkedIn, and on her website, www.brittfrank.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're getting intimate—literally—with certified sex and intimacy coach, Court Vox. Court is the founder of The Body Vox , a somatic sex educator and has been featured in Vogue, Men's Health, Allure, The New York Post, and more.  He's worked with individuals and couples all over the world, helping them build deeper awareness in their bodies, relationships, and erotic selves. In today's conversation, we're exploring what intimacy really looks like—beyond just the physical—including emotional, intellectual, and even spiritual forms of connection. Court walks us through tools to build somatic awareness and helps us understand how to build intimacy in a way that feels safe, grounded, and honest. From breathwork to intentional touch, vulnerability to building trust, we'll talk about the practices and barriers that shape our ability to truly connect. We'll also tackle some of your burning questions—like: Should you have sex on a first date? Is texting killing the vibe or helping you build connection? Where does attraction really come from? And is attachment really such a bad thing? (Spoiler: it's not. And Court's going to tell us why.) If you've ever struggled with mixed signals, perfectionism, hookup fatigue, or fear of intimacy, this one's going to reframe the way you think about dating and connection. So, whether you're craving more closeness, working through fear, or just curious how to build stronger connections in your next relationship or casual connection, this one's for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Court! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Court Vox is a Somatic Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner, and the Founder of The BodyVox. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private immersions, he helps clients overcome limitations and shame, fostering deeper intimacy and connection with their whole selves. At The BodyVox, Court Vox offers 1:1 sessions, workshops, and retreats worldwide, including specialized programs for GBTQ men. His online course and community, Invitations to Intimacy, provides a framework for erotic embodiment alongside a supportive network of like-minded individuals. He is also part of the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, where he collaborates with an elite team of sex educators to guide transformative experiences for women.  Certified through governing organizations such as the Somatic Sex Education Association (SSEA), the Association of Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB), the International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA), and Urban Tantra, he combines his certifications with ongoing studies in rope bondage, modern hypnotherapy, breathwork, and movement practices.  As a sex educator, Vox has worked with clients of all sexualities and genders. His work has been featured in The New York Times, Men's Health, Out Magazine, Vogue, AskMen, Cosmopolitan, Well & Good and more.  For more information, visit www.thebodyvox.com. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations is the iconic Rebecca More! Adult industry legend, one-half of the unforgettable Cock Destroyers, star of Slag Wars, and soon competing in an Ironman, today we're going beyond fame to talk about reinvention. In this conversation, Rebecca shares her journey of stepping away from porn and adult work, grieving the loss of her dear friend Sophie, and navigating what life looks like now.  We talk about confidence, change, and why it's never too late to choose a new path—or to discover an entirely new version of yourself.  Rebecca shares how she stays playful, how she keeps evolving, and how we can embrace change no matter what phase of life we're in. We'll also hear some flirting tips, Rebecca's thoughts on her gay icon status, and what it's like training for an Ironman! So, whether you've followed Rebecca for years (like me!) or are just getting to know her, you don't want to miss this conversation as we explore reinvention and why it's always possible to ask ourselves for more. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Rebecca More. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Rebecca More is a British adult industry legend, performance artist, cultural icon, and one-half of the unforgettable Cock Destroyers, a viral sensation that redefined internet fame and queer adoration. With her signature confidence, camp energy, and unapologetic authenticity, Rebecca has built a devoted global following and continues to inspire audiences far beyond adult entertainment. She starred in the hit queer reality competition Slag Wars and is now on a powerful journey of personal reinvention—stepping away from porn, training for an Ironman, and embracing new chapters of life with humor, heart, and honesty. A fierce advocate for confidence, self-expression, and embracing change at any stage of life, Rebecca remains a beloved icon and inspiration to many. You can follow Rebecca's personal Instagram, adult work-focused Instagram, check out the Growth Fridays podcast and lifestyle vlogs on YouTube, and follow her on Twitter.  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're getting real, raw, and radically open with the incredible Tricia Wise.  You may know Tricia as the @safe.slut across social media, Tricia is a master aesthetician, reiki practitioner, sexual health advocate, herpes stigma breaker, and meme queen—and today, she's joining us to talk about something that, depending on the type, affects over 3 billion people around the world. It's Herpes! In this episode, we're diving into Tricia's personal journey with HSV (that's herpes), the work she's doing to destigmatize sexual health, and how we can create more empowered, shame-free conversations around sex, our bodies, and dating.  From navigating disclosure and diagnosis, to reclaiming confidence, pleasure, and power, Tricia shares the truth behind the stigma—and why it's time we start normalizing the conversation around herps and STIs (sexually transmitted infections). We'll also talk about the different types of herpes, how you may contract it, treatment options, how to get tested, how and when to disclose status, how to practice safe sex, and why herpes isn't the end of world. So, whether you're navigating a diagnosis, are dating someone who is, or simply want to learn how to be a more informed and safe out there dating, this episode is for you! Let's drop the shame, turn up the self-love, and welcome the one and only Tricia Wise to the show. Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Safe Slut is a writer, sex worker, content creator, and reiki master. Safe Slut was diagnosed with genital herpes in November 2019. After noticing the stigma and shame surrounding being herpes positive, she created her Instagram account @safe.slut to help people take their power back while promoting sex positivity, helping to destigmatize STIs and slut shaming, and promoting safer sex practices. She also is smashing stigma and being a slut on OF as @safeslvt and on Patreon as Safe Slut. All links:  Instagram Shop Tiktok Twitter Patreon YouTube About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're defining the relationship, ya'll, with Carleigh Ferrante! Carleigh is the creator and voice of @mostlydating on Instagram and host of the Mostly Dating podcast, having built a community of over 200,000 with her honest takes on dating and relationships. Whether you're feeling things out with someone new, stuck in dating limbo, or ready to move from casual to committed, this episode offers advice on how to approach conversation around exclusivity and defining the relationship with clarity and confidence.  We'll talk about what signs to look for that someone is ready for the conversation, how to know if you're ready, what to consider before having it, and how to handle it if you're not on the same page. Carleigh shares her take on the timing of the DTR convo, whether exclusivity and defining the relationship are the same thing, and how to navigate situations where one person needs more time.  We also cover what to expect after this conversation, like how to keep things moving forward or how to walk away if it's not working. And finally, we talk a little mindset. Why do we fear scaring someone? And how can we stay grounded when we're feeling unsure about where we stand with someone?  So, whether you're about to DTR, go exclusive, all of the above, or none of above, stick around for a candid and honest conversation about dating and relationships. Alright, let's do this, Flirties, and meet Carleigh! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Carleigh Ferrante is a New York–based writer and creator behind the hit dating podcast Mostly Dating, where she delivers approachable, insightful advice for every stage of modern relationships. Her work blends humor, heart, and accessible guidance, with episodes running weekly and featuring practical tips, listener questions, and conversations that help build healthier, happier, and lasting connections. A graduate of Hunter College with a degree in Creative Writing and Psychology, Carleigh has contributed to major outlets including MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, PureWow, Forbes, Bustle, The Everygirl, The Zoe Report, and Yahoo Life. She also works directly with brands, crafting copy for email, web, social media, and more. You can connect with Carleigh on Instagram (@mostlydating), the Mostly Dating Podcast, and on her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Fernie is back on the show for our summer solstice dating horoscope! With a brand new season comes new energy for dating, romance, flirting, and cosmic possibility. Joining us today is Flirtations' in-house astrologer, fortune teller, and magic mystic, Fernie, here to read the stars and pull back the planetary curtain on what this season has in store for our love lives. What does the Queen of Swords want us to know? What is Jupiter up to and what opportunities might some celestial happenings present? Mars has also got something to say and we're kicking off cancer season! Lot's to get to, including the two big themes the stars and planets have for us, and how we can fill our own cups a little bit more. You don't need to be an astrology expert—just bring an open heart and an open mind, and we'll take care of the rest. So get ready to flirt with fortune, boldness, beauty, and maybe a little bit of magic. Let's do this, Flirties, and meet Fernie. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it's been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him. He's also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher's certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Shanté Holley to the show! Dr. Shanté is a certified life coach, writer, professor, and host of the podcast The Whole In Your Heart podcast on YouTube. Specializing in guiding individuals through the complexities of healing, wellness, and personal development, today we have a conversation for you about the art of surrender. We explore how to trust the timing of your life, the difference between surrender and submission, and how to accept what you cannot change while still believing deeply in yourself and what is possible. We'll go into how to process anger and hurt when you've been wronged, how to stop living in the past, and how the very act of trying to control outcomes is often where we lose our power.  Dr. Shanté offers insights into why force is the opposite of surrender, how to recognize the subtle ways we abandon ourselves, and why surrender is not weakness, but strength. If you've been holding on too tightly to old beliefs, are having a hard time letting go, feeling stuck, or if your strength has started to look more like struggle, this episode is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Dr. Shanté! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Shanté Holley is a certified, trauma-informed mental health coach with over 20 years of experience as a college professor. She is a respected voice in the mental wellness community, with a passionate following of more than 270K on social media, a ranked publication on Substack, and viral content that has reached millions.  Known for her accessible, and impactful approach to mental health, she has been featured on both local and national news outlets, using her platform to share practical insights and advocate for mental wellness. A sought-after speaker, Dr. Shanté delivers high-value content on a variety of topics related to emotional resilience, trauma recovery, and self-care, with engagements across the country. Her expertise has led to partnerships with major organizations such as the Immigrant Justice Corps, American Red Cross, SAMHSA, and the Ad Council, where she collaborates on campaigns aimed at promoting mental health awareness and community support. In addition to her work in mental health coaching, Dr. Shanté is a prolific podcaster with three successful shows that collectively boast hundreds of thousands of downloads. Her podcasts serve as valuable resources for individuals seeking guidance on personal growth, mindset, healing, and navigating life's challenges. Dr. Shanté also serves on the Board for Belonging Through Art, an organization dedicated to reducing loneliness and fostering positive social connections through art. Her commitment to improving mental wellness extends to her academic work, where she was a Fulbright Scholarship Finalist for her research on Blaxit: The Interconnectedness of Racial Trauma, Healing, and Black Immigration to Portugal, a groundbreaking project that explored the intersections of cultural identity, trauma, and healing. With her extensive background in mental health, education, and media Dr. Shanté Holley is a trailblazer in the field, committed to helping individuals heal, grow, and thrive. You can connect with Dr. Shanté on Substack, listen to the "Whole in Your Heart" podcast on YouTube, learn more on her website, and @drshantesays on Instagram. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going to have a cheeky good time with the fabulous Jana Hocking! You might know Jana from her spicy columns in the Daily Mail, her time behind the scenes casting and producing The Bachelor, or her wildly popular 'saucy secrets' series on Instagram, where no confession is too hot to handle. In this episode, we talk about everything from orgasm camp to the realities of modern dating—including the rise of red pill culture, the shift to wanting more in real life meet cute moments, and how we can start to decenter dating in our lives without settling for singleness. Jana shares some of her favorite dating stories, we're gonna talk some kinks and sex, and yes, even a flirting tip or two. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jana Hocking is a journalist, dating columnist, and self-proclaimed “collector of stories” the juicier, the better. She pens the popular Saucy Secrets advice column for Daily Mail, writes internationally about modern romance, and has become a go-to voice on sex, dating, and relationships. Known for her cheeky wit and raw honesty, she's not afraid to ask the questions everyone's thinking - especially when it comes to love and lust in the 21st century. Follow her adventures, columns, and overshares on Instagram @jana_hocking and catch more of her writing at dailymail.co.uk. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Erica Turner to the show, the creator of The Relationship Reset on Instagram and the Secure Dating Playbook, to have a conversation with us about communication in early dating! We open the show with how to reset the relationship we have with ourselves and reframe some common experiences we might have out there dating. Experiences like feeling like it's never going to happen, feeling like we're not enough or like we're too much, and ultimately how we can develop more secure connections within ourselves. Then we get into communication questions as we talk about frequency and pacing, how often to text, what to do when someone's communication style feels different from yours, are we following on social media, and how we can navigate perhaps difficult conversations when we need to express a need or boundary. Finally, we'll share guidance on building emotional intimacy and compatibility in early dating, how to know if someone might ghost you, and why vulnerability is the key to authentic connection. So, whether you're just starting something new or trying to move beyond surface-level small talk, this episode is your invitation to flirt with deeper connection. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Erica! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Erica Turner is a relationship therapist & dating coach supporting people to date from the worth & attract healthy love with ease. You can connect with Erica on Instagram, download the FREE Secure Dating Playbook, and enroll in the Secure Dating Method Masterclass for more! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Alli Goldberg to the show! Alli is a producer, writer, comedian, and creator of the in real life comedy show Love Isn't Blind that blends dating, laughter, and matchmaking, here to have a conversation with us about dating, flirting, and how we can have more fun making connections. Questions for Alli for relatively split between this sounds so fun, where can I see a show!, and I could never do that, this makes me nervous! We'll open with talking about fear and how that shows up in our dating and flirting lives - and what we can do about it.  We get into how to flirt with more freedom, how to have more fun, and answer questions like: Do I have to be funny to flirt? What if I hate flirting? What if this whole thing just makes me nervous? And most importantly, how do we step outside our comfort zones and create connections that actually feel good? We'll touch on authenticity, how both Alli and myself have navigated these very questions, and learn more about Alli's one-of-a-kind show, Love Isn't Blind, and how you can attend and participate! So, whether you're a seasoned flirt or someone who breaks out in flop sweat at the thought of making the first move, this episode is for you. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Alli! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Allison Goldberg is a comedian, producer, and creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Tamron Hall Show, and more. For the past 2.5 years, she's been working on her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, which is a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak. She is currently touring the country with the show. She is a graduate of Yale University, and is repped by Gersh. Apply to be on the show Find out show dates/buy tickets Nominate a Friend Instagram About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Today on Flirtations, we welcome Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the powerhouse due behind the Almost 30 podcast, with over 100M downloads around the world, and authors of the new book Almost 30:  A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond, who are here to have a conversation with us today about dating advice I wish I knew! We open with the interplay between change and fear, and how can we navigate the space of change and life's experiences without holding ourselves back? Or self sabotaging? We also explore hyperindividualism and codependency in dating and relationships, how each manifests and what we can do if we fall into these dynamics? But that's not all, we're going to talk about the duality of loneliness and healing, self-love and how to find the right balance between just enough and feeling like it's never enough, and, if you're dating the mens, but kind of can't stand them either, we'll hear how to begin reframing relationships with men. Alright Flirties, if you're read for a heartfelt and transformative episode, this one is for you! Now let's meet Krista and Lindsey! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guests:  Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams, founders and co-hosts of the popular “Almost 30” podcast, are women's empowerment leaders and best friends releasing their debut book “Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond,” on June 3, 2025. Part memoir, part manual, fans are eagerly awaiting the book as their ultimate guide to navigating life's transitions. In the “Almost 30” book, Lindsey and Krista act as cosmic big sisters, providing encouragement, wisdom, and practical tools to help readers embrace change and thrive and they move into a new chapter of life. Through candid stories of their own experiences, as well as expert insight from podcast guests like Jay Shetty, Gabby Bernstein, and Glennon Doyle, Lindsey and Krista lay out a roadmap for navigating young adulthood, from relationships to spirituality, career to body image, and more.   Packed with thought-provoking exercises, meditation and journaling prompts, and sage advice, this book is a must-have companion for anyone standing at the edge of change. Whether you're figuring out who you are or where you're going next, “Almost 30” is here to guide you through life's transitions and remind us that we're all almost… something. The “Almost 30” podcast is a top wellness, spirituality, and self-development podcast. Since the show's inception, Lindsey and Krista have amassed over 100M downloads, completed a 13-city tour, hosted in-person retreats and online workshops, and built an online membership community platform. Lindsey Simcik is a content creator, author, and co-host of the successful “Almost 30” podcast. Recently having become a first-time mother, Lindsey is a mainstay lifestyle creator for moms and anyone seeking to live a natural, holistic life. Krista Williams is a content creator, author, and co-host of the successful “Almost 30” podcast. Known for her style and vibrancy, followers flock to Krista for dating, travel and self-care inspiration. You can learn more and purchase a copy of the "Almost 30" book wherever books are sold! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're celebrating the premiere of the new season And Just Like That … with a special Sex and the City episode!  For this conversation, we welcome the multitalented and multifaceted Scott Spraags, a dancer, choreographer, producer, director, and all-around passionate creator who is a Sex and the City superfan, just like me! In this episode, we explore each of the iconic characters—Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha—and the enduring dating lessons their stories, romances, relationships, and sexcapades have bestowed us.  From Carrie's avoidant and yet anxious tendencies to Miranda's Type A personality and how that played out in dating, to Charlotte's hopeful romanticism and belief in love, to Samantha's unapologetic sexual confidence, we discuss how these characters and their narratives have shaped our understanding of love and relationships. So, whether you're a longtime fan or new to the series, please join us as we celebrate the show's impact on dating culture and its continued relevance today. Let's do this Flirties, and meet Scottie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Scott/Scottie is a working professional in entertainment and creative currently based in Los Angeles . He has worked with major artists such as Post Malone, Martin Short, and Broadway Choreographers, such as Connor Gallagher, and Patti Wilcox to name a few.  You can find him performing, acting, singing, and spreading love and joy all over the world . He has gotten the opportunity to walk the lifestyles of so many different cultures & people from getting to travel, perform and live across the globe his entire life.  The biggest lesson he has take away from this islearning to never take what you have for granted but to also never settle for less than you are. He is thrilled to be a guest on Flirtations! And seriously SO proud to be a Flrity just like you.  Keep up with Scott on Instagram @scottspraags. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking limerence, longing, and connection with our guest, Amanda McCracken, a journalist, speaker, and host of the insightful The Longing Lab podcast and author of the forthcoming book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover. Inside the episode, we breakdown limerence and the limerence cycle, and how this intense and often obsessive infatuation we may develop for someone ultimately keeps us from developing the connections and relationships we desire.  We'll also explore the neuroscience behind limerence and how our brains are wired to desire what we don't have, and why this longing can become a comforting distraction.  But that's not all, you all came through with questions and we've got answers, like how to break the limerence cycle? What if I just can't get over someone? I have a crush, how can I not go into limerence? What are some strategies for obsessive thoughts? What role does social media and the dating apps play in all of this? As we begin to wrap up the conversation, Amanda shares her decision to wait until 41 to have sex, which garnered national attention and sparked conversations about intimacy, self-worth, and the societal narratives that shape our romantic lives. Alright flirties, let's prepare to examine our desires and the stories we tell ourselves about love.  Time to meet Amanda! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist whose writing has been published in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, NPR, Elle, National Geographic, Vogue, Runner's World, Outside and elsewhere. Her TEDx talk "How longing keeps us from healthy relationships" was one of only 200 talks chosen in 2023 as a TEDx editors' pick. She is now a TEDxCU speaker coach and a writing consultant at the University of Colorado. McCracken has been interviewed about her essays on intimacy by Katie Couric, the BBC World News, USA Today, and various podcasts. After over a decade of research and interviews with 100+ people, her hybrid memoir on limerence When Longing Becomes Your Lover will be published Februrary 2026, but the greatest result of her investigative journey was meeting her husband and having their daughter.  McCracken is also an endurance athlete and triathlon coach of 25 years. Learn more about her at www.amandajmccracken.com, on Instagram @amandajmccracken,  or discover more about the science and culture of longing at her podcast The Longing Lab. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by the fabulous Maria Avgitidis— a fourth generation matchmaker, dating extraordinaire, and author of the new book Ask a Matchmaker to have a conversation with us about, well, dating! Maria brings real-world wisdom, generational insight, and just the right dose of tough love to the modern dating experience we all need. Inside the episode, we'll learn what Maria observes when two people first meet and if there are ways to observe compatibility? What early signs indicate a connection has potential? We also get into global affairs and urban planning—yes, really!,  and what these disciplines have to teach us about dating, connection, and community. Then Maria shares about the number one dating dealbreaker today, how digital and social media have impacted dating, and we'll end with some flirting tips, of course! So if you're ready for some bold insights and a few matchmaking secrets, then this episode is for you! Let's do the Flirties, and meet Maria! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match, an award-winning matchmaking service based out of New York City, and the host of the dating and relationship podcast Ask a Matchmaker. Maria combines strong intuition with matchmaking methodology to leverage each client's unique personality, style, and history. Their love stories are a testament to how Maria has transformed matchmaking utilizing behavioral science and the unique know-how gained through her matchmaking inheritance. Matchmaker Maria and her advice for those seeking love has been featured in The New York Times, CBS Mornings, Time Magazine, The Washington Post and more. You can follow Maria on Instagram, learn more about Agape Match and matchmaking services, listen to the Ask and Matchmaker Podcast, and check out Maria's new book, Ask a Matchmaker, for more! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have the first-ever guest back on the show, it's Talia Koren! Talia is the host of the Dating Intentionally podcast and creator of the Dating Intentionally Instagram and YouTube pages, who is here to have a conversation with us about dating intentionally. Inside the episode, here's what you can expect: How to identify your personal intentions and needs in the dating, and why this matters; How to set and maintain boundaries, and why those boundaries are for you first; Effective communication strategies, including texting frequency in early dating; Transitioning from dating app conversations to real-life dates; Approaches to multi-dating and determining the right balance for you; Recognizing green and red flags, and understanding your dealbreakers; Managing first-date anxiety; and How to determine emotional availability and why it starts with you. So, whether you're new to the dating scene, getting back out there after a break or relationship, or looking to refine your approach, this conversation offers practical insights to help you date with more intention. Let's do this Flirties, time to meet Talia! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Talia Koren is a dating podcaster, content creator, and entrepreneur dedicated to helping people navigate modern dating with confidence and ease. As the founder of Dating Intentionally, she empowers singles—especially women in their 30s to 50s—to date with purpose, develop stronger connections, and have fun along the way. With over 170,000 Instagram followers and a thriving podcast with over 2M downloads, Talia has built a community of intentional daters seeking guidance, practical advice, and a refreshing perspective on love. Her insights, rooted in experience and research, challenge common dating misconceptions and provide actionable strategies for folks who are looking to get into a long term relationship.  Follow Talia on Instagram, YouTube, and check out the Dating Intentionally Podcast! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I am honored to bring you a conversation with Jillian Turecki, the host of the Jillian On Love podcast and author of the book, It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. The topics:  emotional availability and what matters in relationships. To begin, we talk about some good ‘ol healing and the transformative period known as the "dark night of the soul." Jillian shares her experience with this and how even the hardest times, there are opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery.   Then we take on the topic of emotional availability, what to look for in early dating, and what it takes to make a relationship work. From the trap of dating someone's potential to understanding the nuances of readiness versus availability versus capacity, Jillian provides invaluable insights on how we can build relationships with emotionally available partners and why that work ultimately begins with us first.  Next, we'll hear Jillian's take on situationships and touch on heartbreak. What Jillian says here, you do not want to miss. Finally, we've got to talk about flirting, of course, and is Jillian a flirt?! So, whether you're navigating the dating world, healing from past relationships, or seeking a deeper connection with yourself, this episode is for you! Alright Flirties, let's do this and meet Jillian! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship expert, teacher, author, and host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands over the last 20 years through her teachings, courses, and writing to revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their romantic relationships. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching, teaching and writing. You can connect with Jillian on her website, Instagram, the Jillian on Love podcast, and learn more about It Begins With You! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode for Flirtations, we welcome Natalie Lue, the host of the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast and the author of five books, including The Joy of Saying No, to have a conversation with us about people pleasing! Natalie is a leading voice on boundaries and people-pleasing, helping people understand how their emotional baggage interferes with their ability to live authentically. Together, we'll delve into what people-pleasing truly is and explore the five distinct styles of people pleasing Natalie identifies: gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering. We'll discuss how people-pleasing often originates from childhood experiences and how it manifests in our adult relationships, particularly in dating. Natalie will shed light on why people-pleasing can be a significant barrier to genuine intimacy and the importance of embracing conflict as a natural and sometimes necessary part of healthy relationships. We'll also examine societal norms, the ways we're socialized, and how the era of obedience have influenced our tendencies to people-please, and why understanding and respecting differences—rather than merely mirroring others—is crucial for authentic connections. Finally, we'll explore the vital role of boundaries in breaking free from people-pleasing patterns and how to recognize and change these behaviors to foster more fulfilling relationships. So, if you're ready to change your people pleasing habits and create more fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Natalie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Natalie Lue, 47, is a writer, artist, podcaster, and author of five books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and her most recent, The Joy of Saying No. She helps people pleasers, perfectionists and relationship strugglers reclaim themselves from their emotional baggage so that they can become more of who they really are and enjoy more fulfilling relationships relationships, careers, and experiences. Her key topics include boundaries, emotional unavailability, and how to foster increased emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being by breaking harmful and unhelpful patterns. Natalie's work has been featured in various media, including The New York Times, ITV's Lorraine, NPR, BBC, Washington Post, Stylist, and USA Today. You can connect with Natalie on Instagram, learn more about the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast and blog, and check out her books and work on her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about neurodivergence and dating with our guest, Mady Snyder, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in working with late-diagnosed neurodivergent individuals and couples! Whew, I am so ready! Dating is a complex journey for most, but for those with neurodivergence, it can present distinct challenges and yet many opportunities.​ Today, we'll discuss:​ What is neurodivergence and what are the strengths of the neurodivergent person? Navigating Social Cues: The complexities of interpreting social signals, understanding flirting, and the challenges posed by dating experiences like ghosting. Sensory Sensitivities: How can heightened sensory experiences impact dating? Rejection sensitivity: What are the ways this shows up and what can we do about rejection in dating? Communication:  How might differences in communication styles and expectations lead to misunderstandings, and what are some strategies that are helpful here? Why the neurodivergent person might just be a superconnector! Masking:  the function of masking, how we can unmask, and ultimately bring more vulnerability and authenticity into the dating process And honestly, much more! So, whether you're neurodivergent yourself, dating someone who is, or simply interested in understanding diverse dating experiences, this conversation is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Mady! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About your guest:  Mady Snyder, LMFT, is a neurodiversity-affirming therapist based in Pasadena, California, offering both in-person and virtual sessions. She specializes in working with late-identified autistic and ADHD adults, with a focus on identity, relationships, and the often-overlooked nuances of neurodivergent dating. Mady brings warmth, humor, and deep insight to her work, creating spaces where neurodivergent individuals feel seen, supported, and celebrated as their full selves. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/couchspace/ Website https://www.madysnyder.com/ Infographics on Autism https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autism-infographics/ ADHD Infographics https://neurodivergentinsights.com/adhd-infographics/ Self Assessments for Autism, ADHD, OCD, Others https://embrace-autism.com/autism-tests/ Live Your Values Card Deck https://lisacongdon.com/products/values-deck Camouflaging https://embrace-autism.com/autism-and-camouflaging/ ND Therapist Directory  https://ndtherapists.com/ About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're joined by Jessica Maguire, a renowned expert in nervous system regulation and repair, and author of the book The Nervous System Reset, to have a conversation with us about not only healing the nervous system - but healing the connection with ourselves in the process. First, we explore what often gets overlooked in nervous work and initial steps you can take to get off the rollercoaster of emotions in dating, and perhaps in life.  Jessica shares how we can regulate our nervous systems amidst the uncertainties of dating, even when someone pulls back or pushes your buttons. We get into the anxious and avoidant nervous systems differ, the different protective responses we have when we're anxious, how the body stores emotions, and how neuroplasticity offers hope for repairing the nervous system. You can repattern your nervous system and indeed find calm amidst the storm. Finally, we'll learn how to feel safe in our body and sit with uncomfortable feelings, even if that's challenging or impossible before.  So, whether you're navigating the dating world or seeking a deeper understanding of you and your nervous system, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Jessica! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jessica stands at the forefront of nervous system regulation as a renowned physiotherapist and groundbreaking vagus nerve researcher. Her international bestseller, "The Nervous System Reset," has established her as the definitive voice in helping individuals overcome dysregulation. Jessica's teachings represent an important paradigm shift in understanding the brain-body connection. She distills over two decades of rigorous study, groundbreaking research, and proven clinical experience into practical, actionable frameworks. that have transformed thousands of lives worldwide. Through her innovative frameworks, and protocols Jessica has empowered thousands of students across six continents to fundamentally transform their nervous systems, resulting in: Enhanced resilience to stress and environmental triggers Improved cognitive function and emotional regulation Sustainable physiological balance and improved overall wellbeing Jessica has delivered keynotes to New South Wales Police and is also a distinguished TEDx speaker. She has shared thought leadership pieces with the Sydney Morning Herald and The Age that included her personal story: the loss of her two brothers, Sam and Luke.  Learn more about Jessica's work and the Vagus Nerve Program here and follow Jessica on Instagram! About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Ashley Maland, Host of the "This Is Where We Heal" Podcast, to have a conversation with us about the complex journey of surviving an abusive relationship. We'll uncover how to begin healing from abusive and toxic relationships—whether it's domestic violence, sexual assault, or the emotional scars left by narcissistic abuse—and discover the initial steps you can take if you find yourself in a harmful or volatile situation.  Ashley shares her insights on trusting yourself, practicing self-forgiveness, and how we can build healthy foundations in early dating without rushing, falling into self-sabotage, or repeating old patterns. Together, we'll talk about how your most loving, authentic self is the best version of you—even if past experiences have left you feeling hardened—and how to shift from a victim mentality to that of a victor.  We'll also ask the tough questions, like are all abusers narcissists? Is there really a rock bottom moment, or is that just an illusion? Why is it so hard to break free from an abuser? If you're ready to believe in what's possible, trust your inner voice, and reclaim your power in love and life, then this episode is for you.  Alright Flirties, let's go on on healing journey with Ashley Maland. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Ashley Taylor Maland is a multi-talented social media influencer, writer, and healing from DV & SA advocate. With a dedicated following of over half a million followers, she has garnered widespread attention for her impactful content, including viral videos that have amassed over 20 million views. Ashley's platform serves as a space for discussions on healing, authenticity, toxic relationships, self-belief, and self-improvement. Ashley is a resilient single mother who balances her various roles with grace and determination. As the podcast host for “This Is Where We Heal” she utilizes her platform to amplify important conversations and share empowering stories. Using her own experiences to raise awareness and offer support to others facing similar challenges in relationships and healing. Driven by her belief in the power of authenticity, Ashley strives to inspire and encourage her audience to embrace their true selves, prioritize self-care, and break free from toxic relationships. Her unwavering commitment to personal growth and empowerment has solidified her reputation as a positive force in the online community. Her podcast “This Is Where We Heal” can be found on Apple, Spotify & YouTube. Listen to the This is Where We Heal Podcast, and follow Ashley on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're talking about how to not settle in dating with relationship coach, doctor of integrative medicine, and host of the Brianna Approved podcast, it's Dr. Brianna Diorio!  We've got a lot to get to today and here's what you can expect! First, we'll explore what it really means to “settle” in dating and the different ways it shows up - whether that's settling for the wrong person, someone's potential, or accepting singleness when you don't wanna, We'll talk about the experience of staying too long in the wrong relationships, sometimes because we have so much invested already, or don't want to be alone.  Brianna will guide us through common scenarios like the quest for perfection, the role of fear in all of this (so many of us are worried about settling), and the difference between preferences and priorities in dating. Finally, we'll discuss why discernment and alignment are more important than time, and we'll hear strategies for trusting your intuition and knowing when to walk away if that's right for you.  If you've ever found yourself wondering how to slow down in dating and let go of the “settling” trap, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Brianna! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Brianna Diorio is a functional medicine practitioner and integrative health expert who helps individuals move from awareness to aligned action by integrating mindset, neurochemistry, and holistic health. With a PhD in Integrative Medicine and advanced training in functional diagnostics and mind-body medicine, she specializes in uncovering the root causes of emotional and physiological imbalances. Her method blends the science of behavior change, subconscious reprogramming, and integrative medicine—using a fusion of evidence-based tools, reflective prompts, and actionable strategies to drive intentional, lasting change. Drawing from integrative psychology, neurobiology, and functional medicine, Brianna empowers clients to rewrite outdated patterns, develop emotional agility, and reclaim their personal power. You can stream the Brianna Approved Podcast here and follow Dr. Diorio on Instagram and TikTok. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're going on a transformative journey of embodied healing with Eliah Prichard, Founder of the Feel Good Membership and Host of the Self Expression Love Podcast! Today, we explore what it means to truly feel safe in your body. Eliah guides us through the art of self-expression through embodiment as a way to feel our feelings - and release them.  We're moving beyond traditional models of nervous system regulation and getting truly embodied today, ya'll!  We'll also learn how boundaries help us regulate our nervous system, build self-trust and allows us to embrace more joy. Even if any or all of this has been hard for you before, today, it gets easier.  Finally, we explore the truth behind your anxiety and why one of the solutions is playing more. So, if you're ready to break free from limitations, tap into your inner light, and truly live with embodied healing and self-love, this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties, and meet Eliah! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Eliah Prichard is a therapeutically-trained coach, educator and the founder of Kaleidoscope, a self-liberation company that guides you with simple tools to lifelong emotional wellness and full self-expression. Utilizing her Master's degree in Couples and Family Therapy, specialty in trauma-healing and her Breathwork Facilitator Certification, Eliah runs an online self-healing membership called FeelGood, and works 1:1 with self-motivated learners ready to unlock the codes to emotional mastery, healthy relationships and vibrant self-expression.  Links: FeelGood Membership Instagram Tiktok YouTube Self-Expression Lab Podcast   About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Connell Barrett, a men's dating coach, author, speaker, and host of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, to have a conversation with us about dating as a straight guy, masculinity, and what women are looking for, but not in a mansplainy way, absolutely not! Basically if you're straight, stick around as we break down the challenges, myths, and expectations that seem to define the dating game. Up for discussion is masculinity and is it being redefined? What does masculinity mean and what does that look like in 2025? Why do so many guys seems to aspire to be the alpha male and is that something women want? Will you stand out as the alpha male or do women want something more authentic? We're also covering practical flirting tips and strategies to overcome rejection, we'll debunk viral dating advice such as he needs to like you more than you like him or that a little stress is the secret to a chase - just be unavailable, right?.  We'll even get into whether looks and money really matter, how to bring genuine vulnerability into your interactions without coming off too mushy, and how emotionally available men and women can meet in each other. So, if you're ready to hear a conversation about flirting, dating, and masculinity between a straight man and a flirt coach, this episode is for you! Let's do this flirties, time to meet Connell! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  A seasoned interviewer dating to his journalism days (he has done Q&As with Jimmy Fallon, Larry David, and Bill Murray, among others), Connell is a dating coach, author and host of the "How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast". His bestselling book, “Dating Suck but You Don't,” was called “witty and timely” by Vanity Fair. He's been dubbed “the real-life Hitch” (N.Y. Post) and “the most innovative dating coach in America” (Psychology Today.) And he has appeared on GMA and the “Today” Show. Learn more about him at DatingTransformation.com. Questions? Don't hesitate to ask! For more information, find Connell on Instagram, Youtube, and his website!  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Lola Jean, a multifaceted sex educator, fetish wrestler, and world record holder to the show for a conversation about sexual confidence, empowerment, and freedom! We'll explore whether sexual confidence is an innate gift or a skill that can be developed (hint:  if you don't feel like or aren't sure you got it, Lola Jean is so here for you). We'll also hear about common obstacles that can keep us from feeling sexually confident and Lola Jean shares strategies for empowering our sexual selves (one of the keys may lie in self pleasure

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I'm thrilled to kickoff a transformative episode with celebrity coach Whitney Uland about how you can harness the power of celebrity energy to become the ultimate attractor in your dating life! We'll get into what celebrity energy really is, how heart-brain coherence can supercharge your authenticity, and why overcoming the fear of being perceived - of being seen for who you are - is the key to standing out in the dating world.  Whitney breaks down the three main blocks that hold us back from tapping into this energy and shares how you can tap more deeply into your own celebrity energy right now. We'll also explore how developing an abundance mindset helps you see possibilities even when they're not immediately clear, why finding fulfillment in life ensures that dating remains a part of your journey—and not your entire story, and why its ok to want more.  Plus, you'll hear a personal story of self-love and belief from the Flirt Coach himself, and how I've used celebrity energy to help get me here today. So, if you're ready to tap into your celebrity energy and become irresistible in your dating life, this episode is for you! Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Whitney Uland is a filmmaker, actor, and the creator of How to Be Famous—dubbed “Hollywood's Next Power Player” by Paper Magazine. Her work has been featured at Cannes and in Vogue, and her viral programs The Self-Made Celebrity and The Celebrity Energy Circuit have helped thousands of creatives tap into their It Factor and become magnetic to fame, fans, and opportunity. Through her signature frameworks rooted in human psychology and Hollywood secrets, Whitney is on a mission to help good-hearted, wildly talented people stop playing small and finally take up space like the stars they are. You can connect with Whitney on Instagram, and TikTok. Her free Masterclass The Fame Formula: Learn to attract the success, opportunities, money and relationships that you want as an artist or creative without hacking the algorithm, sucking up to industry gatekeepers, OR becoming a Nepo Baby https://signup.howtobefamous.org/ About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're gonna do some healing with our guest Daniel O'Shaughnessy—a mindset coach, nutritionist, and author—who is here to have a conversation with us about self-love and body dysmorphia. Inside, we explore how to break free from toxic relationship patterns and stop searching for love in all the wrong places—even when ‘wrong' feels so right. Daniel will share how he did just and explain how shadow work can help.  Cuz if we can embrace the parts of ourselves we often neglect or even don't like, well, everything just becomes a little easier. We'll also peel back the layers of body dysmorphia—what it is, how these perceptions form, and the ways it can impact our dating lives.  Through this, we'll learn how to reimagine our relationship not only with our emotional body, but also with our physical one. And, if that isn't enough, we'll journey into the realm of mental health and plant medicine. Daniel will reveal what his experiences with psychedelics have taught him about healing, transformation, and the powerful shifts that have happened. So, if you're ready to challenge your old beliefs, embrace every part of yourself, and step into a more fulfilled way of living and loving, this episode is for you.  Let's do this Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Daniel O'Shaughnessy (he/him) is an award-winning nutritionist, Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner, and author of Naked Nutrition: An LGBTQ+ Guide to Diet and Lifestyle. With over a decade of clinical experience and a passion for inclusive wellness, his work is deeply rooted in his own lived experience of healing—particularly around body image, disordered eating, and the pressures faced within the gay community. Through both his clinical practice and personal journey, Daniel helps others challenge toxic norms, rebuild their relationship with food and their bodies, and prioritise health over perfection. His forthcoming book, Letting Go of Perfect: A Gay Man's Guide to Healing from Body Dysmorphia, is an honest and practical guide for anyone looking to do just that. You can connect with Daniel on Instagram or on the web. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up in this Flirtini, we're asking the question, "Are they flirting, or just being nice?" It's a tale as old as time in the flirt and today, we're gonna help you figure this out as we welcome friendship coach Jenna Anderson to the show! Fueled by a real life flirt at TJ Maxx, we'll break down how to tell if someone's flirting with you and why it's less about them and more about you. We're also talking about making new friends, regardless of whether you're an introvert, an extrovert, a social butterfly, or socially anxious. I know it can feel daunting, but after this Flirtini, I think it'll be a little bit easier. Finally, Jenna gets personal, sharing her bisexuality journey in dating, what it was like dating her first woman, and the lessons she's learned along the way.  So, whether you want to make a move or just feel more confident putting yourself out there, this episode is for you! Let's do this, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Jenna is a friendship coach from Los Angeles working with clients to build the confidence and skills to make friends anywhere they go. Growing up, Jenna has had to move from city to city and start over making friends everywhere she went. As an adult, she has honed this skill and loves helping other people do the same! She works with a range of clients - from those with social anxiety to anyone who just moved to a new city and is looking to make new friends. You can connect with Jenna on TikTok, Instagram, and learn more about coaching opportunities here. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Anna Goldfarb to the show, a journalist, speaker, and author of the book "Modern Friendship, How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections” to have a conversation with us about friendship - and so much more! So much to get to as we take on friendship in adulthood and the modern phenomenon many of us can relate to of where is home? What if we've moved around a lot as kids, as adults, or our families have relocated? What if we find ourselves in new places or maybe it's our friends who have moved away? How does this impact our friendships? We'll also dig into the sociology of friendship—are our societies set up for making connections? If not, how can overcome both visible and invisible barriers and create connections anyway? Then from parallel play to active vs. memorial friendships, we're breaking down different friendship dynamics, the reasons we make friends in the first place, and the qualities we look for in friends. Plus we'll touch on the loneliness epidemic, (why are so many of feeling lonely these days?) and the role of social media in our connections. Finally, what does hyper-individualism, or an "I don't owe anyone anything" mentality mean for our connections, relationships, and friendships? So, if you're curious to eavesdrop on a conversation about modern friendship between a bonafide friendship expert and a flirt coach, this episode is for you! Let's get into it!, Flirties! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more. Her book, Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, explores the challenges of navigating adult friendships in a hyperfluid world. She also publishes Friendship Explained, a Substack newsletter that explains the mechanics of friendship through a pop culture lens. Find her online @AnnaGoldfarb and her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.  

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're diving deep into the psychology of attraction, the patterns that shape our relationships, and how we can make more conscious choices in dating - and in love. We welcome Dr. Joe Kort, a psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert, who will help us understand why we date the people we do.  We'll open talking about masculinity a bit, touching on the topics of performative masculinity, validation, and male on male flirting! Then we'll get into what red and green flags in dating really mean—and some common misconceptions about them. What red flags should you be looking for? What about green flags? And why does this matter? Next we'll explore Imago Relationship Therapy and how our childhood experiences influence our type and attraction in dating.  Why do we sometimes feel drawn to those who aren't good for us? And more importantly, how do we break free from those cycles? So if you're ready to date with a new perspective on red flags, green flags, and why we date the people we do, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Joe! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Dr. Joe Kort is a psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and clinical director of The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is the author of four books and a lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops. Throughout his 37 years of private practice, he has successfully helped hundreds of individuals and couples improve their lives and strengthen their relationships. Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed orientation marriages; male sexuality and out-of-control sexual behaviors. He is EMDR trained and offers LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy. Dr. Kort can be found on Instagram, TIkTok, Twitter,  Facebook and LinkedIn @drjoekort and his website is www.JoeKort.com  About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.