STRONG DADS!

Merrill Hutchinson and Andy Dalton on Parenting SeasonsIntroductionThe video features Merrill Hutchinson and Andy Dalton discussing the various roles of dads during different “seasons” of parenting. The conversation is grounded in the analogy of farming seasons, where different tasks are performed at different times of the year—relating this to the developmental stages of children and the corresponding responsibilities of parents.Overview of Parenting Seasons1.Service Season (0-3 years)2.Leadership Season (3-13 years)3.Mentorship Season (13-18 years)4.Friend/Counsel Season (18 years and older)Each season corresponds to specific tasks, challenges, and expectations for both the child and the parent.1. Service Season (0-3 years)•Role of the Parent: The primary role during this season is that of a servant. Parents are tasked with meeting the basic needs of their children, which include feeding, changing diapers, and providing comfort.•Key Responsibilities:•Understanding and responding to the child's cries and needs.•Learning the various dimensions of what it means to be a caregiver, including emotional support.2. Leadership Season (3-13 years)•Role of the Parent: The parent transitions into a leadership role where the focus shifts towards teaching and guiding children rather than just serving them.•Key Responsibilities:•Instilling values and expectations related to responsibility and service to others.•Involving children in household chores and responsibilities to teach them about contributing to the family.3. Mentorship Season (13-18 years)•Role of the Parent: This season focuses on mentorship, where parents guide teenagers towards independence while allowing them to make their own choices.•Key Responsibilities:•Encouraging self-reliance and accountability while providing a safety net for mistakes.•Engaging in discussions about values and preparing them for real-world challenges.4. Friend/Counsel Season (18+ years)•Role of the Parent: The final season transitions into a friend or counsel role, where parents no longer direct but rather support their adult children.•Key Responsibilities:•Building a relationship based on mutual respect and friendship, allowing for open dialogues about life choices.•Offering counsel when asked, without overstepping boundaries, thus respecting their independence.ConclusionMerrill and Andy emphasize the importance of understanding these parenting seasons to fulfill one's roles effectively. The ability to adapt to the varying needs of children at different ages can lead to producing well-rounded, responsible individuals. The conversation encourages intentionality in parenting, underscoring that a parent's understanding of their role significantly impacts their children's development and future contributions to society.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Background - Ah, the age-old issue of nagging! It's a common portrayal in media and often the subject of jokes, but beneath the surface lies a dynamic in a marriage that can cause real frustration. From a biblical perspective, the ideal for a husband and wife is one of mutual respect, love, and effective communication. When nagging becomes a pattern, it often signals a breakdown in this ideal. Let's explore how a husband might unintentionally contribute to his wife's nagging and how he can take positive steps toward a more harmonious relationship, grounded in biblical principles.Scripture calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). This is a love characterized by sacrifice, patience, and a desire for the other's well-being. Similarly, wives are called to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33). When these foundational principles are not consistently practiced, misunderstandings and frustrations can arise, sometimes manifesting as what we call "nagging."It's easy to see nagging as solely the wife's behavior, but often, a husband's actions (or inactions) can inadvertently fuel it. Here are five ways a husband might contribute:Unmet Expectations and Follow-Through: When a husband makes promises or agrees to tasks and then doesn't follow through, it can lead to his wife feeling unheard and responsible for constantly reminding him. Lack of Proactive Initiative: If a husband consistently waits to be told what needs to be done around the house or with family responsibilities, his wife might feel like the sole manager of the household. This can lead to her constantly directing and reminding, which can feel like nagging. Poor Communication and Listening Skills: When a wife feels her concerns are not being heard or acknowledged, she may resort to repeating herself or raising her voice to get her point across. Inconsistency and Selective Hearing: Sometimes, a husband might respond to his wife's requests only after she has mentioned them multiple times. This inconsistency teaches her that persistence is the only way to get his attention or action. Taking Her for Granted: When a husband doesn't acknowledge or appreciate the efforts his wife makes, she might feel unseen and unvalued. This can lead to her feeling the need to constantly remind him of her contributions or the things that need attention. Advice -Now, how can a husband, guided by biblical principles of love and respect, help to slow or even stop the nagging without being oppressive or demeaning? Here are five ways:Practice Active Listening and Empathy: When your wife brings up a concern, truly listen to understand her perspective. Acknowledge her feelings and validate her concerns, even if you don't fully agree. Take Ownership and Follow Through: When you agree to something, make it a priority to follow through in a timely manner. Initiate and Share Responsibilities: Don't wait to be asked. Look for ways to proactively contribute to the household and family responsibilities. Establish Clear Communication Systems: Have open and honest conversations about expectations and how you will communicate about them.Express Appreciation Regularly: Acknowledge and appreciate your wife's efforts, both big and small. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Strong Dads - Merrill introduces “Strong Dads,” a program that includes a weekly workout and Bible study. This segment offers a chance for fathers to come together, exercise, and discuss personal growth and family dynamics.Weekly Workouts and ChallengesMerrill mentions the regular Saturday morning workout sessions at their office in St. Leon. Each session includes a 45-minute workout followed by a 45-minute Bible study. Merrill emphasizes the importance of community in “Strong Dads” workouts.  The discussions during the Bible study shed light on personal struggles and the different interpretations of scripture, allowing everyone to gain new insights.The Structure of WorkoutsThe hosts delve into their workout philosophies, highlighting their different athletic backgrounds—Merrill as a swimmer and Andy as a college football player. They discuss how their training methods have evolved over time, shifting from traditional strength training to more endurance-focused workouts.Andy's Workout ApproachAndy describes his current workout regimen, which includes three strength workouts and three cardio sessions per week. His training has transitioned towards endurance and hybrid athleticism, inspired by the book “The Hybrid Athlete” by Alex Viata.He incorporates various modalities like running, biking, and using specialized gym equipment to maintain versatility in his fitness routine.Merrill's Workout EvolutionMerrill reflects on his swimming background, sharing experiences from his high school days with innovative training methods, including high-intensity interval training (HIIT) long before it became mainstream. He explains how this approach focused on short bursts of intense effort, interspersed with minimal rest.Functional Movements and TrainingThe conversation shifts to the importance of functional movements in strength training. The hosts agree that workouts should emulate real-life movements to improve functional strength. Incorporating Rotation and MobilityAndy talks about the significance of rotational movements in training, which are often neglected in standard gym routines. He shares insights from a functional movement specialist about the body's natural need for rotation and how incorporating these movements can enhance overall strength and longevity.Changing Mindsets on TrainingMerrill discusses abandoning the notion that knees should never go over toes during squats, citing the work of Ben Patrick (Knees Over Toes Guy) who advocates for improved knee health through full range of motion exercises.Andy mentions moving away from maxing out on lifts due to the risks associated with it and focusing on more functional and varied strength exercises.Nutrition and SupplementsThe hosts briefly touch on nutrition, emphasizing that good dietary practices are crucial for performance and recovery. They suggest the following: 1. Protein Intake: Critical for muscle repair and growth. 2. Hydration and Electrolytes: Essential for maintaining energy levels during workouts. 3. Creatine: Recommended for enhancing recovery and performance, particularly in endurance activities.Merrill and Andy emphasize that supplements should not replace a balanced diet, and the foundation of good nutrition is essential for effective training.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Introducing Andy DaltonMerrill introduces Andy Dalton, expressing gratitude for his previous co-host Carl's contributions. He highlights Dalton's background as a coach and his experience working with young men, couples, and families, fitting the mission of “Strong Dads.” Dalton is described as passionate and insightful, with a rich history of engagement in sports and familial relationships.Early Life and Education        •        Hometown: Kokomo, Indiana, later moving to Atlanta, Georgia, and then  to the Cincinnati area.        •Education: Attended East Central High School and later graduated from Hanover College with a degree in Kinesiology and Integrated Physiology.Journey in Sports        •Dalton played football and wrestled throughout high school, forming lifelong friendships and bonds through athletic pursuits.      Coaching Career       •After college, Dalton was offered a position as a strength assistant and linebacker's coach at Hanover College, marking the beginning of his coaching career.       •He faced decisions about his professional path, ultimately choosing coaching over personal training due to his passion for mentoring young athletes.Teaching and Coaching       •In 2015, he became a middle school PE teacher and continued coaching high school football and wrestling.     Faith Journey        •        Dalton discusses his upbringing and initial exposure to faith through youth activities at Bright Christian Church, influenced by his friendship with Nick Hutchinson.        •During college, despite early faith being significant, Dalton's connection waned due to various distractions.Rediscovery of Faith        • In 2018, he rekindled his faith through serving as a youth leader alongside his wife, Katherine.        •They engaged deeply with the youth, which reignited their commitment to faith and community.Rededication and Ministry Training        •  In 2022, Dalton and his wife decided to rededicate their lives to God, indicating a new chapter in their spiritual journey.        •The couple felt called to ministry, leading to a two-year church planting residency where they focused on biblical foundations and community building.Transition to RockSolid Families        •Merrill shares how he sought out Dalton for a coaching role due to his characteristics aligning with what they needed at RockSolid Families.     Vision for the Future       • Dalton expresses a desire to foster strong relationships and community impact through his role, advocating for a strong foundation based on faith.       •His vision includes building a home church model, reflecting a shift towards more personal and community-oriented expressions of faith.Final Thoughts and Logistics        • Andy Dalton will join the show regularly and will start working at RockSolid Families as a coach.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

The episode of “Strong Dads,” hosted by Merrill Hutchinson and Carl Andry, discusses the profound and multifaceted concept of grace, particularly within the context of Christian faith. The hosts share personal experiences and insights to illustrate how the understanding of grace can transform one's relationship with God and oneself. They emphasize that grace is what separates Christianity from other belief systems, challenging the prevalent works-based mentality.The Nature of Grace•Preconceived Notions: Carl begins by discussing the preconceived ideas that hinder an authentic understanding of grace. •Works vs. Grace: The hosts note that many Christians mistakenly believe they must earn God's favor through good deeds. Personal Experiences with Grace•Transformative Moments: Carl shares a pivotal moment when he realized the depth of God's grace, describing it as one of the best months of his life. •Church Dynamics: He conducted informal surveys within his church to gauge members' understanding of grace, discovering that many, like him, had misconceptions. Biblical Foundations of Grace•Law and Sin: The introduction of the law through Moses is discussed as a means to make humanity aware of sin. •Righteousness through Faith: They emphasize that righteousness comes from faith in Christ rather than adherence to the law. Contrasting Perspectives•Comparison and Judgment: The discussion touches on the human tendency to compare oneself to others, which breeds a toxic environment in churches and personal lives. •The Prodigal Son: They reflect on the parable of the Prodigal Son, highlighting the contrast between the grace extended to the wayward son and the resentment of the elder brother. Living in Grace•Doubt and Assurance: believers may struggle with doubts and feelings of unworthiness even after understanding grace. •The Role of Works: Carl argues that while works should naturally flow from a heart transformed by grace, they are not a means to earn salvation. Instead, good works become an expression of gratitude for what has already been received.Scriptures: Sin not imputed: 2Cor. 5:19, Romans 12-21, Romans 5:13-14Saved by faith and not by Law (works): Eph. 2:8-9, Romans 4:13-15, Heb. 8:7,Romans 5:6 Gal. 5:4Dead to the Law: Romans 7:1-11, Romans 6:14, Gal. 3:23-25 (*18,19,21) Christreleased man from bondage to the Law.Law condemned: Romans 3:19-20, 4:15, 5:20, 7:8, 7:21-25, 1Cor. 15:56, Gal. 3:10-13, Heb. 7:19, 10:1No condemnation for those under Christ: Romans 6:14 and 8:1-2Law made no man righteous: Gal. 2:16, 2:21, 3:11Law was a curse: Gal. 3:10-13We are made righteous through Christ: Acts 13:39, Romans 3:21-24, 10:4, Gal. 2:16The Law never applied to Gentiles: 1Cor. 9:21, Gal. 5:18, Eph. 1:12,15, 2:15, 1Tim.1:7-10Don't leave your first Love (grace): Gal. 3:1-5, 5:1, 5:4, 5:18Galatians 3:9-12 and 5:16-17, Romans 5:8-9, Romans 11:6, Romans 8:8-13, 2Cor5:19, Romans 14:23, 1Cor 15:56, 2Cor 3:6-9, 1John 4:18, Hebrews 7:16-19 and 8:7-13 and 10:35hhtps://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Bigorexia - When is Enough, Enough? Ep 254•Bigorexia refers to a condition similar to anorexia but focused on a compulsive desire for muscle growth. The hosts clarify that the documentary they refer to is not specifically a Christian documentary, but it offers valuable insights into the psychological issues faced by bodybuilders and fitness enthusiasts.•Carl shares a personal anecdote from his youth, discussing the pressure he felt in the bodybuilding community and how a friend advised him against using steroids, seeing the potential harm it could bring.Personal Experiences•Merrill and Carl exchange their experiences with body image and performance. Merrill recounts his time as a runner, focusing on how he believed weight loss would improve his performance, leading to unhealthy goals and perceptions of body image.•Carl discusses his past experiences with performance pressure and how he struggled with perceptions of self-worth based on physical appearance and achievements.The Broader Implications of Bigorexia•The hosts emphasize that issues like bigorexia are not just confined to bodybuilding but can extend to various areas of life, such as financial success, fame, and relationships. The constant need for more — whether it be money, control, or validation — can lead to destructive behaviors.Obsessive Thoughts and Their Effects•The hosts discuss the nature of obsessive thoughts and how they manifest in different forms.•They highlight the dangers of comparing oneself to others, particularly in a social media-driven world where curated images create unrealistic expectations.Recognizing and Addressing Obsessions•Merrill shares the importance of recognizing when one's pursuit of physical or material goals becomes unhealthy. •They introduce the concept of “taking thoughts captive” as a biblical principle that can be applied to mental health, advocating for mindfulness and self-awareness.Steps to RecoveryTherapy and Medication•Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is highlighted as an effective approach to change unhealthy thought patterns and behaviors.•The potential use of SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) is discussed as a way to help stabilize mental health while working through cognitive therapy. Lifestyle Changes•They advocate for creating a supportive environment by surrounding oneself with positive influences and distancing from toxic situations.•The conversation notes the need for moderation in all aspects of life, emphasizing that balance is key to maintaining a healthy mindset.The Role of FaithSpiritual Perspectives•Throughout the episode, the importance of faith and spirituality is woven into the conversation. Merrill and Carl discuss how understanding one's identity in Christ can provide a foundation for overcoming obsessive thoughts and behaviors.•The hosts suggest that true contentment comes from recognizing one's worth apart from societal pressures and expectations. Perspective on Contentment•The episode incorporates biblical references to contentment, focusing on the idea that true fulfillment comes from recognizing and appreciating what one already has.•They reflect on the story of the Israelites receiving manna, illustrating the importance of living in the present and trusting in divine provision.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Shyness - The Quite Battle Ep 253IntroductionThe podcast is hosted by Merrill Hutchinson and Carl Andry, featuring discussions about overcoming shyness and social anxiety, particularly focusing on strategies to engage with people and "work a room." They emphasize that shyness often stems from self-centeredness and anxiety rather than humility, and provide insights on how to develop social skills.Understanding ShynessPersonal ExperiencesMerrill shares his struggle with painful shyness and anxiety, which he felt deeply affected his social interactions.Carl discusses his own experiences with shyness, highlighting that both men often have a silent internal struggle when it comes to social situations.The Mechanics of ShynessThe hosts identify shyness as not merely a personality trait but a skill that can be learned and improved upon.They explain that natural extroverts might find social interactions easier, while others need to develop techniques to manage their anxiety and communicate effectively.Strategies for Overcoming Shyness1. Desire to ChangeThe first step in overcoming shyness is the sincere desire to engage with others. Individuals must recognize the benefits of social interactions, including networking opportunities and personal connections.2. Learning to "Work a Room"Working a room is not about manipulation but about developing the skill to engage genuinely with others.The importance of learning and practicing skills such as making eye contact, shaking hands, and being present in conversations.3. The Importance of Small TalkSmall talk is vital in breaking the ice. Engaging in small talk allows individuals to gauge a person's interest and comfort level before diving into deeper discussions.4. Asking QuestionsThey encourage asking open-ended questions to invite others into a conversation. This technique reduces the pressure on the shy individual to share about themselves and allows others to express their thoughts.Carl emphasizes the art of questioning, stating that it can lead to meaningful exchanges and help shy individuals engage more comfortably.5. Active ListeningActive listening is crucial in social interactions. The hosts stress the importance of giving full attention to the person speaking, which helps to foster connections and validate others' feelings and stories.6. Practicing Public SpeakingEngaging in public speaking can significantly help shy individuals. By practicing in front of larger groups, individuals can build confidence in their speaking abilities and learn to manage their anxiety.7. Body Language and PresenceProper body language, such as standing tall, making eye contact, and offering a firm handshake, communicates confidence.The hosts note that these non-verbal cues can significantly affect how others perceive and respond to you.8. Embracing AuthenticityAuthenticity is essential. The hosts encourage individuals to be genuine in their interactions, sharing real thoughts and feelings rather than trying to conform to expectations.9. Using Humor and Self-DeprecationLearning to laugh at oneself and embracing mistakes can diffuse tension and foster a more relaxed atmosphere. The hosts share personal anecdotes about moments of awkwardness that ended up being humorous.rocksolidfamilies.org Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

You would think the death of your child would be a wound that could never heal.  It does leave a scar, but it doesn't mean it can't heal and even heal well.  Special guest, Mike Dusold, shares the life and passing of his son Brian.  Brian's passing was not and is not easy. It's been hard on multiple levels.  But, Mike's family made a choice to use Brian's life and his passing as a way to demonstrate the faith, hope, and love of Christ.  Admittedly, Mike says that it's not been easy.  Some days are harder than others, but as time passes he sees God using Brian's story to touch others.  Brian's compassion, love for others, and ability to connect and communicate with most anyone are just a few of the precious gifts that he leaves behind. Mike was vulnerable with his sharing of how they dealt with Brian in his early years of drug use. Always working out of love, but sometimes recognizing that he and his wife should of chosen to be more tough in their loving.  This is harder than people on the outside would imagine.  When it is your own child that is heading for disaster, you want to do whatever you can to ease the immediate pain.  As Mike discusses, sometimes easing the immediate pain might just be kicking the pain down the road.  Check out this show and please share to others that may be in a similar position.  We do not have to go this alone as parents and families.  God has a plan for all of our lives.  It may not be the path that we would choose, but it is a path that can lead to the greatest rewards and gifts to ourselves and others.   For more help please reach out to: https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Common Symptoms of Low TestosteroneLow testosterone, also known as hypogonadism, can manifest in a variety of ways. Here are some of the most common symptoms:Decreased libido (sex drive)Erectile dysfunction (ED)FatigueReduced muscle mass and strengthIncreased body fatDecreased bone densityMood changes, such as depression or irritability  Cognitive difficulties, such as trouble concentrating or remembering thingsHair lossDecreased testicular sizeIt's important to note that these symptoms can also be caused by other medical conditions, so it's essential to consult with your doctor for a proper diagnosis.Total Testosterone vs. Free TestosteroneTotal testosterone measures the total amount of testosterone in your blood, both bound to proteins and unbound.Free testosterone measures the amount of testosterone that is not bound to proteins and is biologically active.While both measurements are important, free testosterone is often considered a more accurate indicator of testosterone deficiency because it reflects the amount of testosterone that is available to your body's tissues.Normal Testosterone RangesNormal testosterone levels can vary slightly depending on the laboratory and the specific assay used. However, in general:Total testosterone: 300-1,100 ng/dL (nanograms per deciliter)Free testosterone: 50-210 pg/mL (picograms per milliliter)It's important to note that these are just general guidelines, and your doctor may consider other factors, such as your age and overall health, when interpreting your testosterone levels.Risks and Benefits of Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT)TRT can be an effective treatment for low testosterone, but it's essential to weigh the risks and benefits before starting therapy.Risks:Prostate enlargementIncreased risk of blood clotsSleep apneaAcneBreast enlargementTesticular shrinkageIncreased risk of heart problemsBenefits:Improved libido and sexual functionIncreased muscle mass and strengthDecreased body fatImproved bone densityImproved mood and cognitive functionIncreased energy levels  Here are some proven natural ways to potentially increase testosterone levels without replacement therapy:1. Exercise and Lift WeightsExercise is a powerful way to boost testosterone levels.  Resistance training, like weightlifting, is particularly effective.  High-intensity interval training (HIIT) can also be beneficial.  2. Eat a Balanced Diet3. Manage StressLong-term stress can elevate cortisol levels, which can negatively impact testosterone.  4. Get Enough SleepAim for 7-9 hours of sleep per night.5. Get Some Sun or Take Vitamin D SupplementsVitamin D is linked to testosterone production.  6. Maintain a Healthy Weight7. Limit Alcohol Consumption8. Consider Certain Supplements -  Do your homeworkhttps://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Strong DadsSummary of YouTube Video TranscriptIntroduction•The episode is sponsored by Fourspeed on 50 Diner in Lawrenceburg, Indiana.•Host Carl Andre is discussing money management, noting that he and co-host Merrill have been ill.Host's Background•Carl and his wife have taught Financial Peace University (FPU), a program by Dave Ramsey, for nearly 25 years.•They have experience working with many couples on financial issues.Personal Experience•Carl shares a personal story about a failed investment in the stock market that led to significant debt and unhappiness.•He emphasizes the importance of understanding one's relationship with money and how it can affect overall happiness.Financial Education•There is a lack of financial education in schools, leading to generational cycles of debt.•Current economic indicators (e.g., consumer debt levels) suggest many individuals are financially struggling.Money Management Principles1.Take Control of Finances: Understanding how money works is vital.2.Avoid Living Beyond Means: Many people overspend on trivial items, referred to as “bobles and trinkets.”3.Budgeting vs. Dream Machine: Carl dislikes the term “budget,” preferring “dream machine” to emphasize planning for desired experiences instead of restrictions.4.Emergency Fund: Start with $1,000-$2,000 as a cushion to avoid credit reliance.5.Debt Snowball: Pay off the smallest debts first for psychological wins, then roll payments into larger debts.6.Long-Term Thinking: Recognize the true cost of living and plan for future needs (e.g., home repairs, medical expenses).Lifestyle Choices•Prioritize experiences over material possessions by carefully allocating funds.•Carl shares personal choices, like driving used cars and minimizing eating out, to save money for vacations and experiences.Financial Peace University Course•Carl promotes the upcoming FPU course, encouraging listeners to sign up to learn more about financial literacy.Final Thoughts•Emphasizes the importance of financial planning for both personal satisfaction and generational wealth.•Encourages readers to change their financial literacy and habits for a better future.Sponsors Acknowledgment•Thanks to sponsors Quality Automart, 4 Speed on Fifty Diner, and Casey's Outdoor Solutions.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Summary of the YouTube Video: Strong Dads Podcast - Episode on “Egypts of Life”OverviewIn this episode of the Strong Dads Podcast, hosts Merrill Hutchinson and Carl Andre discuss the concept of “Egypt” as a metaphor for the comfort zones and familiar pains that people often return to despite the desire for change. The discussion draws parallels from the biblical story of the Israelites' exodus from Egypt, exploring themes of fear, faith, and the challenges of breaking free from detrimental situations.Key Points1.Introduction and Background:•The hosts express gratitude to their sponsors and engage in light-hearted conversation about winter chores and classic American diner culture.•They introduce the topic of the episode: exploring personal “Egypts” that individuals face in life, referring to the fear of the unknown versus the comfort of familiar pain.2.Understanding “Egypt”:•The term “Egypt” symbolizes the situations in life that individuals know are unhealthy or unsatisfactory but are too fearful to leave.•The hosts illustrate this with examples from their own lives and the lives of others, including relationships and career choices.•They emphasize that returning to familiar pain is often easier than facing the uncertainties of change.3.Biblical Context:•Drawing from the story of Exodus, they highlight how even after witnessing miracles, the Israelites expressed a desire to return to Egypt due to uncertainty and discomfort in the wilderness.•This reflects human nature: people often prefer the devil they know over the unknown, even if it means enduring suffering.4.The Role of Faith:•The conversation shifts to the importance of faith in overcoming these challenges. They argue that having faith is crucial for making significant life changes.•They discuss the struggle between wanting change and the fear that often keeps people stuck in their “Egypts.”5.Practical Insights:•The hosts offer practical advice for listeners to assess their own lives and identify their “Egypts.”•Key questions to consider include:•What areas of life are you avoiding or fearful to confront?•Are your decisions being made out of comfort rather than genuine purpose?•They encourage listeners to take small steps towards change, reinforcing that growth often comes from stepping out of comfort zones.6.Concluding Thoughts:•The discussion wraps up with a call to action, urging listeners to reflect on their lives and consider what changes they might need to make to escape their own “Egypts.”•The hosts emphasize that seeking purpose and taking risks can lead to a more fulfilling life.ConclusionThis episode of the Strong Dads Podcast challenges listeners to confront the comfort zones that may be holding them back from a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life. By recognizing their own “Egypts,” individuals can begin to take steps towards meaningful change, fostering personal growth and resilience through faith and action.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

If you keep looking for it, you will find it!  That can be good or bad, depending on what you're looking for.  Many of us have habits on how we view life.  Some of us view towards the negative.  This kind of mindset is hardwired into us as a means to help us survive.  It helps us to be more aware of what can go wrong and then hopefully prepare for it.  Some of us are wired with lean towards the positive.  Always seeing the potential good in situations and seeing the best outcomes.  This type of mindset gives us hope even in difficult times which can be as much of a survival tool as thinking towards the negative.  However, like most things in life, moderation is key.  Too far either way can be detrimental to your overall wellbeing and even to the wellbeing of others. In our show we discuss how to go about determining your definition of "winning" in life and then how to develop solid habits and strategies by practicing mindsets that work best for you.  The key is that you can learn to think better for your sake.  Whether it;s training yourself to see the good, or training yourself to be a bit more aware of the potential pitfalls in order to avoid them.  An important factor in your mindset is that you have to be intentional in catching yourself and beginning to redirect appropriately.  Become aware of what your philosophy for living your life and then begin to grab your thoughts to direct them in a way that you can live the best version of your life. For more help or information, reach out to Rock Solid Families, at 812-576-7625, or check out our website at https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Strengthening tendons and muscles in our workouts is a must. Like it or not, as we age many of us find ourselves dealling with more tendon issues.  Tennis Elbow, runner's knee, Achille strain, Patellar Femoral Tendonosis, etc…  What's going on here?  As we age our tendons are not trained like our muscles.  We don't hang from trees or run sprints like we used to.  But, we may still find ourselves going to the gym in performing traditional muscle strengthening exercises. This is not all bad, but as we see the muscles getting stronger we may have not taken the time to allow the tendons to strengthen with the muscles.  Before you know it you have a muscle that is stronger than the tendon can handle.  This could be due to strength or over use.  We have come to find out that completely laying off and stopping all exercises is actually not the way to properly heal and get stronger.  We want to continue to workout, but change our focus on what we are working out. Let's start to train the tendon before we get any stronger in the muscles. Advice -Eccentric vs Concentric motionsConcentric is what most of us think about when we are building muscles.  We “contract” the muscle to shorten it and flex the joint.  The muscle bulges and gets shorter and fatter. Eccentric is the lengthening part of the motion.  The extension of the elbow in the curl.  This means the muscle is lengthening. Here's the key, if we are getting tendon issues we are likely working the concentric phase too hard and the muscles are contracting with great tension on the tendon.  The muscle is able to handle it, but the tendon begins to break down or even tear.  So, let's move into placing a sufficient, but not too heavy of a load on the tendon and allow the tendon to be stressed in order to be stimulated for growth, but not so stressed that it tears.  The muscle will likely not work as hard but we are working the tendon at a load that it can handle. Ben Patrick, Knees over Toes Guy,  was one of the guys that I began to follow closely because he has really stressed the importance of strengthening the knees in order for the muscle to be most effective in jumping and running. Sore knees are oftentimes caused by irritated and weak tendons, typically the patellofemoral tendon or the hamstring tendons.  A key point also is to not be afraid to train the joints through their fullest range of motion.  For years coaches told their athletes to not squat with their knees going out past their foot.  Between this and sitting in chairs with our legs bent only at 90º our PFT lost its range of motion and became weak when placed in a movement beyond its trained motion.  For me, this meant sore knees all the time.  Two knee replacements later. The second part of the video is demonstrating with the Kettle Bar varieties of movements that make the body work through multiple planes.  This is key to stressing and training more muscles that tend to get left out of traditional workouts which results in a weaker and less durable body. https://kettlebarfitness.comwww.youtube.com/ @TheKneesovertoesguy  Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Changing your life is hard.  We often make references to changing parts of our life and all too often find out that we fall back into our old ways.  Change takes way more than having the thought.  It takes work! Acceleration is the change in speed or direction of an object. In order for that to happen, the object must be acted upon by an outer force. Newton's First Law - An object in motion will stay in motion and an object at rest will stay at rest unless acted upon by an outer force.  Change in our life is the same way - It takes an outer force that applies the push, pull, or pressure necessary to change the direction of our lives. Sensational Emotional Event - S.E.E - This is often a triggering event that comes with such strong emotion that it grabs our attention unlike anything else. It becomes a true point of change opportunity in a person's life. Could be a negative or positive eventFired from a jobTerrible car accidentBirth of a childDivorceLoss of a loved oneMarriageWinning the lottery - ACTS 9:1-19Saul's ConversionFatigue - I'm sick and tired of being sick and tiredChange in Lifestyle - working from home vs office, night shift vs day shift, Change in Health/CapabilityIn order for the “Change” to stick…Intentionality Building New HabitsSurrender PridePrayingSurrounding Yourself with the right people, places, thingsBoundaries - protecting yourself from the wrong people, places, thingsGratitude - Looking for where you were and where you are today Celebration - Whether celebrating years of sobriety, and anniversary, or a fresh start.  Celebrations help to provide energy to keep going. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Part 2 - Time to get practical with excellent advice to improve your lot in life. It's no secret that the American Workforce has been hindered over the past decade.  Finding good men to do good work has been difficult.  When discussing the challenges of owning and running your own business, a universal complaint heard from the business owners is, "we can't find good employees."Young men are simply not showing up to work.  They accept a job and soon they start habits like showing up late or not showing up at all.  After a little pressure, they decide this work is not for them and they are finding their way out the door. Hard physical labor is an even deeper problem.  Whether it's roofing, concrete work, or building homes, these sectors are hurting to find even a few good men. In this show, Carl and Hutch discuss some of the apparent challenges of our workforce.  However, they don't leave the conversation there.  They create a  mindset for young workers that can be an absolute game changer for the bettering their lives.  Many of the discussion points might seem like common sense to those only a generation ago, but with the lack of male leadership in the home, many of our young men never learn these basics. If you are a young man or are raising a young man, this show is a game changer.  The opportunities for success are ripe. A hardworking aggressive man can practically name his path and set his family up for success.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

It's no secret that the American Workforce has been hindered over the past decade.  Finding good men to do good work has been difficult.  When discussing the challenges of owning and running your own business, a universal complaint heard from the business owners is, "we can't find good employees."Young men are simply not showing up to work.  They accept a job and soon they start habits like showing up late or not showing up at all.  After a little pressure, they decide this work is not for them and they are finding their way out the door. Hard physical labor is an even deeper problem.  Whether it's roofing, concrete work, or building homes, these sectors are hurting to find even a few good men. In this show, Carl and Hutch discuss some of the apparent challenges of our workforce.  However, they don't leave the conversation there.  They create a  mindset for young workers that can be an absolute game changer for the bettering their lives.  Many of the discussion points might seem like common sense to those only a generation ago, but with the lack of male leadership in the home, many of our young men never learn these basics. If you are a young man or are raising a young man, this show is a game changer.  The opportunities for success are ripe. A hardworking aggressive man can practically name his path and set his family up for success.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orghttps://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Wouldn't it be interesting to see a museum in our country to memorialize the atrocities we have committed on the unborn.  We have museums to remind us of our terrible allowance and support for slavery, we have museums to remind us of the tragedy of the holocaust.  The museums are not for celebration but rather for the strong reminder that we should never forget lest we risk repeating evils that we're capable of. The Unborn Child is a Person.Psalm 139:13-16: "For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in the womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works; and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; and in Your book were all written, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them."   It is important to remember that those who have had abortions are not alone. God offers forgiveness and healing to all who turn to Him. We should extend compassion and love to those who have made difficult choices, while also upholding the sanctity of life. Let us work together to create a culture that values and protects all human life, from conception to natural death.The Desire for ConvenienceWhile the reasons for abortion are complex and multifaceted, one common factor is the desire for convenience. Some individuals may choose abortion because they believe that having a child would disrupt their plans, careers, or lifestyles.  It is important to recognize that the desire for convenience does not justify the termination of a human life. Each unborn child is a unique and precious individual, created in the image of God. To treat them as mere inconveniences is to devalue their inherent worth.   The Sacrifice of a ChildWhile the concept of abortion is often framed as a woman's right to choose, it is important to consider the profound implications for the unborn child. In essence, abortion involves the sacrifice of an innocent human life for the benefit of the adult.This sacrificial dynamic stands in stark contrast to the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Jesus willingly laid down His life for the salvation of humanity. His sacrifice was not a means of self-preservation or convenience, but rather a selfless act of love and obedience to His Father.In contrast, abortion often reflects a desire for convenience or a belief that one's own life or circumstances take precedence over the life of an unborn child. While the challenges faced by pregnant women are real and should be addressed with compassion, they do not justify the termination of an innocent life.Men are not to be let off the hook of responsibility in the abortion conversation.  Just as a woman may desire to relieve herself of the perceived burden of raising a child, the men have in many cases, completed jumped ship.  They had their fun in the bedroom but want nothing to do with the sharing of the responsibility.  Thus, leaving the woman in a sad and desperate state of needing to figure things out on her own. As a culture it is time to change the conversation of the value of life.  All life is valuable and should never be disregarded as an inconvenience.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Let's get something straight: physical needs are important and must be provided for.  But, emotional needs are equally important.  In my work I have specifically developed an exercise to get couples to begin to recognize these needs and how they can go about them to improve the provision of satisfying the emotional requirements that we all have. Here are the Emotional Needs:ControlLoveRespectTrustSecurityAffectionPurposeFaithEvery person has a need for these in their lives, but here is where things get interesting. Think about needs like you would think about food.  We all need a certain number of calories in order to survive.  We would never look at a person that needs 3000 cal/day and tell them they should just eat 1500 cal/day because that's what another person needs.  We are all different with different levels of need. The same holds true with the emotional needs. Just for the sake of having a reference point, use a scale of 1-10 and rate yourself in each of the following emotional needs. For right now, don't think too much, just give yourself a score and reason why you scored yourself that number.  (We all have slightly different definitions and territories, or “taste” in each of these areas.  Just like food!)  What happens when you don't get the amount or type of food you need?  Hungry, malnourished, etc… The same holds true with not reaching the number you wrote next to your emotional need.  You begin to starve emotionally!  Here's where provision comes in.  Within our marriage, we have the responsibility to help meet the needs of our spouse.  This includes emotional needs.  And as I said earlier, seldom do we see a couple due to a physical need not being met, food, water, shelter, but, we regularly see couples because emotional needs are not being met. rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

As a Strong Dad and husband, we are to honor our wives.  Proverbs 31 gives us a biblical description of this lady. Proverbs 31:10-31 (NIV):10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband can trust her, and she will enrich his life. 12 She brings him good and not harm all the days of her life. 13 She is a diligent and hardworking woman. 14 She rises while it is still dark and provides food for her household and tasks for her servants. 15 She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. 16 She girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong. 17 She sees that her trading is profitable; her lamp does not go out at night. 18 She puts her hands to the spindle and her fingers to the loom. 19 She generously opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hand to the needy. 20 She does not fear the snow for her household, for all her family are clothed in scarlet. 21 She makes coverings for her bed and linen garments for herself. 22 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. 23 She makes linen garments and sells them, and belts for the merchants. 24 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she laughs without fear of the future. 25 She speaks with wisdom, and her tongue gives instruction. 26 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 27 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband praises her: “Many women have done noble things, but you surpass them all.” 28 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 29 Give her the praise she deserves; let her deeds proclaim her worth. 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.A Guide to Honoring Your Wife, Based on Proverbs 31:10-31What to Do: Respect her intelligence and abilities. Acknowledge her contributions and value her opinions.Provide for her needs. Ensure she has everything she needs, both materially and emotionally.Be faithful to her. Maintain emotional and physical fidelity.Praise her publicly. Celebrate her accomplishments and virtues in front of others.Listen to her attentively. Give her your undivided attention when she speaks.Support her dreams. Encourage her aspirations and help her achieve her goals.Be gentle with her. Treat her with kindness and compassion.Be patient with her. Understand that she may have different perspectives or needs.Be a source of strength for her. Offer support and encouragement during difficult times.Love her unconditionally. Show her your love and affection every day.What Not to Do:Belittle her. Never make her feel small or insignificant.Control her. Allow her to make her own decisions.Neglect her. Spend quality time with her and show her that she is important to you.Criticize her. Focus on her strengths and avoid negative comments.Lie to her. Honesty is essential in a healthy relationship.Take her for granted. Appreciate and cherish her.Be selfish. Put her needs before youSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

It is estimated that at least 40% of all families in the United States are Blended Families.  Whether it be divorce, death of a spouse, or adoption, in some form or another, we find ourselves blending together families members that are not of the same biological descent. In fact, both Hutch and Carl are in blended family situations.  This show tackles the many different dynamics that the blended family presents.  It is not unusual for couples to go into this situation with their eyes closed to all the possible challenges they will be facing.  Differing cultures, genetics, and environments are just the start of what the blended family will be dealing with.  The goal of this show is not to scare people away from blending their family with another. Rather, to educate and inform in order to help couples prepare for what they may be experiencing down the road.  Learning to communicate the challenges and develop and understanding of how to approach them as a couple will go a long way in reducing problems to more manageable levels. One big takeaway is the importance of humbling yourself to get help prior to blending your families.  Working with a counselor to discuss and develop a plan to move forward is worth every penny you will spend.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

This is our last show in our series of Pride.  After we have recognized that the only way to halt our prideful damage is through Christ.  We now move into the daily habits and practices to replace our old ways. Our prideful ways have created many habits that seemed to make sense at the time.  Over time, these habits become natural and common place.  Once we realize that many of these habits are teaching and reinforcing the exact opposite of what Christ calls us to be, we must begin new practices. In this show, Carl and Hutch recommend several habits that can help us become more aware of the need to serve others and put them before ourselves.  We used to consider many of these things to be just "good manners", but in our current culture manners have lost their place.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

In our third of four shows on Killing Pride, this is the one that begins to move you forward.  This show boldly comes out and tells you exactly where we can all begin to grab our pride by the throat and begin to choke it out!The tactic described is not for the faint of heart.  It causes most to run and avoid the inevitable.  The inevitable of surrender!  Let's be clear, surrendering sounds like the last thing any warrior should ever do.  But let's consider who we are surrendering to and why we might surrender.  If you were in a battle and shot your last bullet only to find yourself under endless gunfire, you would have to make some choices.   Do I run, do i sit, or do I surrender?  If I run, I will likely get shot.  If I sit I will likely get shot.  If I consider the option of surrendering, I have to ask myself the questions; who am I surrendering to and what is the likely outcome?  If the likely outcome is death, then it may be best to choose the fastest path to death, since it's coming anyway.  However, if I find that my capture puts me in the hands that will promise and deliver something better and life preserving, then I need to deeply consider this option. Life is going to keep shooting endless gunfire your way.  When will you look up and recognize that Christ is not the enemy, but rather the savior.  He is waiting for your surrender so that he can carry you to a better place.  A place of peace, hope, security, promise, and ultimately, eternal life.  In this episode of Killing Pride, we unveil the biggest step you must take to killing your pride.  We recognize that it is not easy, but we also recognize that it is only made difficult because of our sinful pride.  We have taken so long to develop a false shroud of who we believe we are that we have lost sight of who God made us to be.  It's time to take off the shroud and die to self and live for Christ! https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

In our last episode, 236, we introduced our personal struggle with pride in our lives.  Mostly centering around anxiety and the fear of failure.  In this episode we blow the doors wide open on PRIDE. We explore the many different ways that all of us have seen or experienced.  The blamer, gaslighter, excuse maker, mad-man, road-rage, one-ups, competitiveness, paranoia, self-sabatoge, and the list goes on.  We don't discuss this list to make anyone feel bad, we discuss it because it is actually the first step to helping people realize the masks they have been hiding behind.  Once you call the truth for what it is, people can actually make a decision to own it and begin the process of healing and forming the best version of themselves.  That version is the one that Christ desires for us.  If you listen to the show and feel guilty, we ask that you turn that guilt into conviction.  Conviction is what it takes to harness the negative energy and turn it into a positive solution.  Staying in your guilt is exactly where Satan wants you. He wants you to beat yourself up and feel defeated.  Christ wants you to push Satan away and restore the real you. You have to tune in to our next episode as we we discuss the  "Cure" for Pride.   This show is going to be amazing.  Simple but effective changes in mindset and daily practices that will truly move the needle to making your the man you want to be. No more bondage from your pride. You will finally have the opportunity to see and experience freedom in the person God designed you to be! https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

We are called to die to ourselves. What in the heck does that even mean?  And even a better question; why?  In this episode Hutch introduces Carl Andry to the Strong Dads audience.  Carl is not only a smart man, but more so, he's a man of wisdom.  He truly enjoys looking back in his own life and the lives of others to see what he can learn to take into the future.  Power, money, sex, control, words, you name it and we will strive to show ourselves better than the next.  Just as bad, we will protect ourselves from being discovered as less than the next.  A little alcohol to help loosen our inhibitions and not worry so much about what others might think.   I would never want to be thought of as a failure.Our topic today is "Pride", but more specifically it centers around learning how to identify the function of pride in one's life, why it is dangerous if left unchecked, and then learning how to make something better out of your life as your deal with your pride.We wish we could say that this is a one and done operation of removing pride from your life.  But, the reality is that it is ongoing. Satan believes he knows what is feels like to desire to be all controlling and all powerful, even superseding the power of God.  But, as we know, God is never to be mocked.  He is a jealous God and lets us know that our ways will never be better than his ways. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

When was the last time you thanked someone that poured into you or your life's work?  You never know, if you wait too long you may miss the opportunity to let them know what they meant to you.  We all have people that have influenced our life.  Some much more than others.  We have fathers, mothers, teachers, preachers, and coaches that are among the most likely to impact our lives.  The point of this show is to simply acknowledge and give thanks to one of the people that poured into and shaped my life.  From my highschool days till now, there is still a bit of his finger print on my life.  Coach Rudy, Brent Rutemiller, was one of those guys in my life.  He was a dreamer, worker, fighter, learner, and influencer.  Status quo did not exist in his vocabulary. You're either living or dying.  No such thing as just hold ground. Rudy taught that same idea to all that he did life with.  He was hyperactive with a busy brain.  He loved to be challenged and accepted challenges as opportunities rather than burdens.  He proved that in his battle with cancer.  I'm sure he didn't want cancer and all of its complications.  But, he also didn't shy away from owning the cancer and then going to battle with it on a daily basis. This was just another example of his courage and tenacity. So many things that others pour into us and often they do not even know they are pouring into us.  It's just who they are.  They are the mentors and teachers of our lives.  When was the last time you thanked one of them?This week make it a point to reach out to that person that positively inspired you and helped to direct your sails for better waters.  Tell them Thank You! https://www.swimmingworldmagazine.comhttps://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

It's always great to have good conversation to challenge and inspire us to be better men.  That's exactly what my conversation with Chris Wilson from Strong by Design produced. Chris has been in the coaching and strength training world for over 25 years.  After working with some of the best of the best he is still humbled by his journey.  Rather than beating his chest to celebrate his accomplishments, he gives thanks for his opportunities and has tried to make the most of them.  Over his years of running his business and becoming a husband and father, it is his grounding in Christ that keeps his priorities in line.  Yes, every good man wants to do well in his daily work.  But every great man wants to do even better in his most influential role as a husband and father.  Chris and I hash out the many different aspects of dealing with our weaknesses, past wounds from our own fathers, owning our mistakes, and intentionally working and understanding the importance of humbleness.  Listen in to this show and I promise you will find great nuggets of thought and inspiration. For more information about Chris' work go to: https://youarestrongbydesign.comhttps://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Aging is often not kind to us.  We build a new house only to have begin replacing, fixing, and rehabbing in a decade or so.  We buy a new car and along with the regular maintenance, we find ourselves dropping the cash for bigger ticket items to keep it on the road.  Even our bodies seem to find ways to fall apart.  Before you know it we find ourselves replacing joints, hitting the gym to get stronger or lose weight, changing our diets to get ourselves back on track.  Let's face it, maintenance is a necessary component of life. That's why Strong Dads is doing a series for the Summer called: Summer of Rehab 2024.Today's show  starts with the catalyst that launched this series into reality.  Merrill had his knee replaced and is now facing a long Summer of trying to get back to normal strength and health.  But, besides the knee rehab, we can all agree that we have other places in our lives that may need to be rehabbed.  Maybe our marriage is not what we want it to be.  How about the job and your performance?  Are you where you want to be financially or could that use some rehabbing as well?  Since Merrill has been working with people he has kept a notepad of the various analogies, metaphors, bits of wisdom, and motivational words that he has come across to help people lift themselves up.  Throughout this series, Merrill will be discussing many of these gems and help you incorporate them into your own life. So whether it's your knee, your marriage, or your house, you are likely to have an area of your life that needs some attention.  Let's take this Summer to begin the rehab process and get back to our best lives. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

A little less than a month and we have a finished product!  Last month on Episode 232 I introduced you to my "Jackpot".  A project camper that I bought to fix up.  After a I dug into it I discovered that there were way more things that needed attention than I originally noticed.  Rotten floors, leaking sunlights, failed caulking, all of which meant lots of mold. It was time to go to work and that I did.  Ripping out all of the floor and replacing it with new underlayment and then waterproof floor planking.  Completely washing down every part of the interior with bleach solution and then painting all the wall and ceiling surfaces.  The canvas was in pretty good shape so I was able to scrub it down with a mold killing solution and let it air out. The toilet and black water tank was a job of its own.  Having not been cleaned and left unempty for longer than it should have been, I went to work with washing out the inside and cleaning to get all the waste and smell cleared.  That was fun, NOT!Then it was on to the stuff that I expected.  Replacing the awning and wheel fender and buffing out the entire camper shell gave it a new look.  A few finishing touches like recaulking seams and checking for any other potential issues and we are ready for our maiden voyage. So, what did I learn.  I will go back to the original idea that I have learned to put in my head when starting all projects.  "NOTHING'S EASY, NOTHING'S CHEAP".  This theory held up well as it nearly always does, so I was able to keep my frustration to a minimum and stay focused on getting the work done. When starting a project, here are two things that I have learned that are essential to my success.  1. Name and describe your finished project.  2. Put a hard deadline on the project.  The first one just makes sense, but the second one is annoying. It's applying pressure to yourself to help you stay focused and limit the potential distractions.  During this project I limited many other activities that I normally would do just to make sure I stayed on track.  The point is, the camper is finished and now it is time to enjoy it!https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a mess that seemed to get bigger the longer you're into it?  Around our house we call those situations, "JACK POTS". Obviously, using the term in a facetious way, there is nothing good about these jack pots.  Hutch open's his latest "JACK POT" up for all of you to see.  He recently bought a camper with the idea that the family could get back into a little camping.  He didn't want to spend too much money on the camper as they aren't sure how much they will actually be able to use it.  So, he bought a used camper, AS IS!Once he began to dig into the camper he realized he had more on his hands than he originally bargained for.   No turning back now.  Hutch walks through the important mindset changes that can help you get through difficult challenges.  How you approach the challenge can make all the difference.  Feel free to share your "jack pot" experiences as we all could stand to learn a little from your approach.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Bringing Help and Hope to Those Who are Hurting.  This is the opening  statement that greats you when you open the website for Masters of Disaster.  When Darin Kroger swapped IT work for chainsaws, power generators, and volunteers, he knew he was swapping comfort for chaos.  Today's show reflects what happens when you begin to surrender your heart and talents to the nudging of the Holy Spirit.  Darin  had what most of us would think of as a "good life".  By his own admission, it was a good life.  But, he continued to recognize an itch that wasn't being scratched.  An itch for something more. Something that he really had no clue of what it looked like, other than it kept begging his attention.  This itch was in the arena of disaster relief. Darin always enjoyed following weather, and in particular, stormy weather.  The kind of weather that can change a person's life in a matter of hours or even seconds.  Tornados, floods, fires, and hurricanes are among the more common disrupting storms. We get to watch them on our tv, but then we set back in our recliner and relieve our guilt by saying a prayer.  Not to diminesh the importance of prayer, but GOD WANTS MORE!  He wants our hearts to be filled with compassion to serve the needs of others and then our hands to carry it out.  Darin along with his volunteers began to operate  the non-profit, Masters of Disaster several years ago and now it is a full time disaster relief resource. Darin desires to serve those that are in what is likely going to be one of their greatest times of need.  The storm his and life as we know it is destroyed.  Survival resources and actions are first on the list, then comforts and even wants can begin to fill in the void.  Darin watches groups of volunteers spring into action to restore the essentials and as a resort, restore hope in broken people.  For more information about Masters of Disaster, contact them at:http://MOD-USA.orghttp://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

Have you ever stood at life's crossroads, the weight of decision pressing upon your shoulders? Join  Hutch and Kyle as they explore the transformative power of change and the courage it takes to embrace new paths. We've all faced moments where the familiar becomes comfortable yet constraining. We have felt the itch for something different but didn't know what different really looked like. Today,  we're here to share stories  about change and new paths moving forward. Specifically, Kyle shares his personal story and continued journey of his change from one fire department to another.  Sometimes Change is forced, such as being fired from your job, and sometimes it is Chosen.  This can make a big difference in terms of how you will handle the change.  Things like control and having a say in important matters takes on great value.  Being forced into a change often leaves you feeling out of control and without a vision for the future.    Change is frequently associated with anxiety.  This is due to the confusion that change can create.  Confusion is the seed of all anxiety.  Once the confusion has a little pressure behind it, such as a deadline, it moves into anxiety.  This becomes taxing on the entire body. Change also comes with untended consequences and unforeseen problems. Learning the essential mindset of flexibility gives a whole new ability to ward off undesired stresses.  In the end, change is the seed of new opportunities.  It is better to have the vision of the long term outcomes rather than the immediate.  So, with a little mind adjustment and information gathering, prepare yourself for new opportunities by embracing the change. http://rocksolidfamilies.org0:06Strong Dads Face Life's Challenges9:02Life Changes in the Fire Service11:55Firefighting Culture Shifts in Urban vs Suburban17:10Navigating Transition and Self-Reflection22:40Navigating Personal Change and Responsibilities30:01Navigating Regrets and Commitment in Change35:13Navigating Anxiety and Change Through Support#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy,  #marriagecounseling,  #parenting,  #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,Support the show

Nestled in the heart of Lawrenceburg, McCabe's Greenhouse is more than a garden center; it's a living lesson in the art of cultivation, both of plants and community bonds. My conversation with Adam Legge offers an authentic glimpse into the daily rhythms of nurturing seedlings and the resilience of pansies, paralleling the strength found in family and faith. As Adam walks us through the greenhouse's operations, from the importance of soil temperature to the craft of fudge-making, we uncover the shared roots between the growth of plants and the growth of relationships.The thread of resilience weaves through our discussion as I open up about the profound impact of my daughter Evelyn's passing on our family's faith journey. In the delicate dance of strength and vulnerability, we explore how leadership within the family unit, the tenacity of marriage, and the anchoring presence of faith sustain us through life's most tempestuous seasons. The community's nurturing role parallels the patient care of our beloved plants, offering solace and support in times of sorrow, and helping us to find parallels between the seasonal ebbs and flows of nature and our own spiritual cycles.As the episode draws to a close, we reflect on the unshakeable foundation faith provides, even when shrouded by life's storms. With heartfelt thanks to Adam and the community that stands as a lighthouse of hope, we look forward to future gatherings and the promise of unity they bring. This episode is a tribute to the legacy of loved ones, the conscious pursuit of faith, and the enduring power of community—a celebration of the ties that bind us in our shared journey of growth and discovery.http://rocksolidfamilies.orghttps://mccabesgreenhouseand floral.com#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#greenhouse,#mccabesSupport the show

Ever wonder about the road less traveled when it comes to career paths? Steve Naltner did just that, trading the hectic life as a convenience store owner for the more serene world of storage facility management. Hear his story of personal transformation through seeking better for his family.—a story that resonates with anyone yearning for a life beyond the daily grind.Steve is a man of God, a husband, a dad, and a community advocate.  He values a high quality of life for himself as well as those he does life with. He is quick to offer a hand or provide a resource to meet someone's need. When asked about his own upbringing and in particular, his "dad" story. Steve gives kudos to his parents and especially his father for leading the family well.  As a kid he learned what it means to work and contribute to something more than yourself.  He thought of his father as strict but loving.  Now he sees his father as a friend and mentor.  His father never had the misunderstanding of being a friend to his young children. His father recognized the responsibility of creating Strong men and dads to lead the next generation.  Now, Stever has a model to provide the same for the next generation. Check out Steve's story and feel free to stop in and see how he's doing.  https://steveselitestorage.comhttp://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

When the once-fading streets of a small town find a new lease on life, it's a story that deserves to be told. That's exactly what we're bringing to your ears today, as we explore the journey of Lawrenceburg's transformation from a sleepy old town to a vibrant community hub.  We're joined by Tony Schroder, the man behind Proof 124, who took a leap of faith from retirement into community investment, infusing his businesses with Christian values and a mission to serve. Listen in for an uplifting narrative of local revitalization, complete with insights on melding the past and present through architecture, and how community engagement turns main streets into centers of prosperity.Ever wondered what it looks like to integrate faith into the very fabric of your business? In our conversation with Tony, you'll discover how his deep-seated beliefs have not only shaped his approach to entrepreneurship but also created a ripple effect of mentorship and connection among his 125 employees. From celebrating life's big moments with his staff to providing housing and a familial atmosphere, Tony's practices are a testament to the power of leading with love and purpose. This episode is packed with stories that will inspire you to consider how service and faith can intersect to make a profound impact on both an individual and communal level.In our conversation we tackle the delicate juggle of balancing faith, family, and business, sharing personal experiences and the wisdom found in scripture that anchors us during life's storms. It's a real talk on the trials of striving to be 'Strong Dads,' engaged in the intricacies of family dynamics, while nurturing a business. Tony's establishments stand as a living tribute to his dedication to living an authentic life for Christ, both in the home as well as the community. http://rocksolidfamilies.orghttps://proof124.comhttps://hoosiericehouse.comhttps://thinklawrenceburg.comSupport the show

If you're a medical and science NERD like me, this is your show.  We visited with one of the first pioneers in the field of Ultrasound Guided Injections,  Dr. Randy Moore.  Randy began using Ultrasound nearly 30 years ago as a chiropractor looking for better ways to help his clients.  He quickly realized that the ultrasound was giving him more information about the tissue and joint quality than what  traditional diagnostic techniques were able to produce. Admittedly, Randy claims this was an absolute God guided journey.  He began obcessing and studying the capabilities of ultrasound as a tool for more than detecting babies in the womb.  He was able to differentiate between different types of tissues and spaces in the body. He could see what a damaged tissue looked like as opposed to healthy tissue.  From this, Randy began learning, practicing, teaching and assisting other medical professionals to use ultrasound as a way to be more proficient at their job. Randy has written two books on the use of ultrasound for guided imagery medical work.  He has traveled the world lecturing, teaching and instructing on these practices. Today he is sought after to train entire staffs of medical professionals to use this practice to its fullest potential.  All of the medical stuff sounds cool and interesting, but as Randy will tell you, the recognition of God's hand on his journey has been the most amazing   part of his journey.  Randy is not timid or shy about giving the glory to God.  He admits that he never saw or envisioned any of what he does in his line of work.  He simply recognized that God was directing a path and he was willing and excited to travel it.  Randy talks about the times when he has recognized God's intervention while he had been working with a patient.  His response, "I know that was not of me."  Randy uses his gift at Integrative Healthcare Partners, IHP. Located in Lawrenceburg, Indiana.812-537-5616IHP website - https://ihpsei.comRock Solid Families - https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

(The podcast version of this show only contains the interview with Paul Gangloff. The shop demonstration was not included due to lack of being able to see what was actually happening during the demonstrations.  To view the entire show go to our YouTube video at:  https://youtu.be/8tiW0troxMI )Are you a woodworker?  Do you like heavy equipment or building things?  This show is packed full of great stuff.  In this show, Hutch and Kyle visit business owner, Paul Gangloff.  Paul owns and continues to run his family business of Riverside Electric.  However, as Paul has been able to hand the family off to be run by very capable hands, he continues with his entrepreneurial spirit. Paul loves working with timber so he started up his own sawmill business.  Paul spends the first part of the show demonstrating his saws and how they go about cutting lumber.  He has four different models of saws that can cut from the smallest of logs to some of the biggest trees you will find in the forest.  We got the opportunity to see several of them in action. As Paul and his crew talk, (Richie and Leon), you can hear the enthusiasm in their voice with running the saws and seeing what God reveals in each cut of these beautiful timbers.  But what is more amazing is how Paul and his crew never miss a chance to give credit where credit is due.  In this case, All The Glory Goes To God!   That's right, from the beauty of the wood, to the running of his daily business,  Paul understands where all things come from.  He wasn't always like this, but through a cascade of events, God got his attention and he chose to respond in a positive light. With all his decision to name God as the CEO of everything he does, God has not be light on the blessings.  It seems that in nearly every conversation Paul is able to find a place to give God the glory. But like all of us, Paul has had his share of adversity.  And in these times, Paul believes he has to stick with his faith and continue to trust in the goodness of God.  This is a great story of how God can write your life story if you give him the chance.  He can out give you, out bless you, and out love you in all circumstances.  Maybe it's time for you and I to stop talking about how we believe in God's provision and actually live as if we believe in his provision. https://riverside-elec.comhttps://riversidelogandsaw.orghttps://rocksolidfamilies.org#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#deckbuilder,#carpenter,#godscalling,#woodworking,#cuttingtimber,#woodmiser,#hobbiesSupport the show

Have you ever ridden in a Snow Cat? Neither had we until we visited Tim Doll, Operations Manager at Perfect North Slopes.  Strong Dads had a great time visiting with Tim and seeing not just his incredible workplace, but also the type of work he does at Perfect's.  Tim finds himself helping to manage over 1500 people during ski season.  In order to do that and do that well, he learned a long time ago to make sure he brings Christ to the workplace with everyone he encounters. Tim is quick to give credit to an entire staff that also desires to be a positive witness.As we listen to Tim we quickly learn the importance to be INTENTIONAL in our work.  Intentional about reflecting the Way of Christ.  Problems and challenges are just part of the day, but how we choose to go about them is what indicates whether we are Christian in name only.  Check out this episode to not only see an amazing workplace, but also to see what happens when people choose to bring Christ to work and their daily encounters. https://perfectnorth.comhttps://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

Some people know what they want to do for a living even when they are little kids.  Others hunt for years to find out what they want to do and still seem to be on the hunt late in life.  And then there are those that are don't find their profession, but rather, their profession finds them.  John Block is that guy.  Growing up with a natural desire to build things John loved being in the woods building tree houses as a kid.  As he grew up he thought it would be important to go to college and learn his trade even more thoroughly.  Construction education and carpentry skills filled his hours of education.  After graduating from college he knew it was time for a real job.  But, to pass time and make a little spending money, John built a few decks for people in the neighborhood.   Before he knew it, the request for him to build decks began to spread by word of mouth and John never looked back. When asked why he chose to be a deck builder, he says, " I didn't, it chose me."  John believes that God gifted him with his carpentry skills and always opened doors for the next opportunity.  John just stayed obedient and followed his calling. Outside of the career that chose him, John also saw God at work in his life.  God brought he and his wife together and blessed them with two kids.  John never looked back on the wife God chose for him or the kids God blessed him with.  He always knew they were exactly the people God intended to be in his life. Are you looking for this kind of certainty in your life?  John would say that it might be best to stop trying to force your way through life and allow God to move through your life. Listen to where he may be calling you.  Having firm dreams that you never want to budge on may be the thing that is keeping your from truly living your dream life.  Let Go and Let God! For more information on John Block go to his facebook page at John Block Deck Builders.  To reach Rock Solid Families go to: https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

We have all had difficulties in our lives.  Some greater than others. The point is, what are you going to do with the difficulty?  What is the challenge that lies before you? In this episode, Kyle talks with native Kenyan, Jose'. Jose' shares his story of nearly losing his life and the journey it has taken him on to not just recover, but thrive in mind, body, and spirit. Jose' reminds us that tragedy is not selective.  It can happen to any and all.  At a very young age he had to figure out how he was going to work through his limitations and not allow them to define the quality of his life. This story is an inspiration to all of us.  If you think you have been the victim of an unfair circumstance,  then learn from Jose" to see how you can turn your victimhood into a VICTORY!http://rocksolidfamilies.org#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#tragedy,#godsprovision,#firefighters,#africa,#kenya,#menSupport the show

Kyle took advantage of incredible opportunity to partake in a mission trip in Africa.  Kyle traveled with Africa Firefighters Mission to help train his firefighter brothers for a 10 day training.  Working with men and women that have the same end goal, save lives and fight fire.  Not only did Kyle learn that the mission was similar, he also found some very interesting and similar characteristics of men in Africa as what we see in America.  This should not be surprising to any of us as we recognize that God created men to be a certain way for a certain purpose, no matter where they are.  Kyle has a great time becoming friends with these men and learning to celebrate the vast similarities between them.  As we have said at Strong Dads for many years.  We would be far better off as a human population if we spent more time celebrating similarities rather than attempting to celebrate diversities. It is the similarities that unite us and allow us to understand and respect one another.  Check out this week's show where Kyle interviews a gentleman named Benson.  Benson has been able to live a time in Africa as well as America.  His insights and experiences in the two different cultures provide us a keen sense of how common us men really are, no matter where we live. http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

It's all about "splitting hairs". This week's show features special guest, Tim Schrank, owner of Integrity Tool.  When you get to know Tim, one word quickly pops into your mind, humility.  Tim is a solid businessman with a truly humble heart. During this show we get a glimpse into the business that Tim has created.  Integrity Tool specializes in one-off productions that have to be nearly "perfect". Meaning, everything Tim works with is measured to micrometers of tolerances.  He is sought out by companies that need special parts measured to nearly exact tolerances.  The detail in this work can be mind boggling. When Tim is asked how he came into the work that he currently does, he is quick to give credit to his parents and upbringing.  He was blessed to be raised in a family that honored hard work, integrity, family, and faith.  From these early days Tim began practicing a way of life that he has recognized the  blessings from. Now, it is important that Tim takes the same values that were instilled in him as a young boy and weave them into his marriage, family, and business.When you hear Tim talk about these important areas in his life, you quickly understand that although he may be in a leadership position, he acts it out through servant-leadership. He recognizes that everyone is part of the TEAM.  Everyone brings value and not one person is more important than another when it comes to getting the job done.  The word, INTEGRITY, plays are large role in both Tim's business life as well as his personal life.  Doing right in the eyes of Christ is what he aims for as the standard.  He admits that perfection is not possible, but aiming close with small tolerances for error is a good start. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

Strong Dads Doing Real Life can't wait for you to check this message out.  Special guest, Matt Davis, is not particularly working with his hands or doing heavy lifting that we might associate with real-man work.  But, we promise you, his message today is about developing a skill that every man could benefit from.  In fact, if every man worked this skill this world would be a much better place.  Matt takes us down the road to explain to us why Relationship Building has been his motivation and key to life success.  When he asks "how are you doing?" He is going to wait and listen to your answer.  You are going to realize that he really does want to know.  Matt stresses the importance of investing into others and the payoff will be far greater than any paycheck you could ever make. Beyond building relationships, Matt discusses the need to make his family relationships of even greater priority than his relationships in his work and community.  He learned about relationship building from his father, Mike Davis.  But he also learned from his father that the relationships in the home must not be neglected.  Check out this week's show to see how you can become more aware of the great teaching of Christ.  Love your neighbor as yourself. http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

Fred Venis, owner of Quality Auto Mart, tells his story about his ultimate surrender to Christ.  He started out of high school as a very self-confident young man.  He knew what he wanted and nothing was going to stand in his way.  Like so many of us as young men, we were slow to listen and fast to talk about all the things we thought we were good at.  Fred was no different. He was mechanically gifted and had the work ethic to prove to himself and others that he was very capable.  Admittedly, Fred was not much for listening to the wisdom of the men that came before him.  He finally came to a point of having too much money and too much arrogance but not enough humility to ask for help.  After a medical situation introduced him to painkillers, he became addicted to them.  The addiction took over and before he realized it he was living each day to get his next fix.  He lied to himself about having everything under control, but it slowly came back to bite him.  He was busted for selling drugs in order to feed his own drug habit.  With that, Fred was arrested and served time in prison.  Fred had the sense to realize that this was not the kind of life he wanted to live.  He relocated his family to south east Indiana and began a new pathway.  This pathway was approached in a completely different manner than his first pathway.  This time he came under the mentorship of a God-Fearing man that owned Quality Auto Mart, Mark Roepke.  Mark saw the potential in Fred and began to pull him under his wing.  Over the years, Mark and Fred grew a trusting relationship that opened the opportunity for Mark to transfer the business into the hands of Fred.  Now a days, Fred is humbled and grateful for the paths he has walked.  He has learned to appreciate what he has and the value of building wisdom through God's teachers.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orghttps://qualityautomartandservice.comSupport the show

trong Dads Doing Real Life gets out in the field to meet Warren.  He shares his story of a wild teenager without a positive father influence. He went from being street tough with fighting, drugs, and women.  The outcome was not pretty.  Warren was at a point of just being tired of living a destructive life for himself and his family, but he didn't really know how to get out.  He shows us that it doesn't matter whether you know how to get out of the darkness.  The most important thing is that you want to get out of the darkness.  When your heart is truly ready, God provides his teachers, counselors, friends, and coaches.  They were likely already there, but Warren admits he wasn't looking for them at first. Getting clean from drugs and realizing how much damage you have caused is no easy thing to handle.  The guilt, shame, and unworthiness that he felt was enough to make him want to give up.  And give up he did.  He gave up and surrendered to a better way of life through Christ.  In order to surrender you must wrestle with your pride and come to the realization that you do not have the answers. Only He does!  If you are struggling with addiction, maritial problems, or parenting issues, please reach out for help.  Rock Solid Families and Strong Dads understand that the way to a better future for all of us is through following God's Way for a better family. http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

When you hang around a group of men it doesn't take long for you to hear conversations about money.  How much does that job pay?  What did that cost you?  How are your investments?  Men think and talk about money a lot, but what does money really mean to them.  Here's a better question; what does money mean to you?In this show Kyle and Hutch discuss the need for money, but how much is really necessary.  This answer is different for everyone, but this question if answered thoughtfully gives you a great deal of insight into a man's priorities. Among the top subjects that couples argue about is money.  One way to prevent this is to understand how you and your spouse think about money and what you are attempting to do with your money.  When we can create a common vision for the money then the arguments go decrease.  In this show the Living Wage Calculator is referenced to help you get a better understanding on your actual financial needs and your income depending on the area of the country that you live. This table is worth a quick study to begin the conversation on money between you and your spouse. For more information go to http://rocksolidfamilies.orgLiving Wage Calculator link: https://livingwage.mit.edu/Support the show

Is your job a dream job or a dead job?  A dream job is one that you enjoy doing.  It motivates you and encourages your creativity to produce your best quality of work.  On the other hand, the dead job is one that drains you on a variety of levels.  Emotionally, physically, and even spiritually.  The dead job feels like a dead end that leads us to a place we have no interest in going.  In this show Hutch and Kyle challenge our Strong Dads to assess how they are viewing their current job situation.  If you are in your dream job, what makes it your dream job?  Learn to acknowledge this and work to protect the aspects that make your job a dream.  On the other hand, if you recognize your job to be a burden to your quality of life, then follow along to see what you can do to address this problem. As a Strong Dad, we do not accept the idea of allowing ourselves to be a victim of our circumstances. We are to work towards victory by taking control of the things available to us and make the necessary changes.  In this show, we help to point out the things that we can do to find ourselves in our dream jobs! https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

How's your attitude?  How's your vision for the future?  How's your feeling for the past?  All of these things play into your mindset.  Your mindset can determine whether you are able to get excited about the next project, or get through the grueling project that you are currently working on.  Many of us fail to understand the power that our mindset can have on our life.  We often fall victim to the way things are rather than recognizing the opportunities presented to us in the ways.  During this show, Hutch and Kyle take apart some of their own thinking to demonstrate how sometimes bad thinking made for more difficult times.  And the opposite also being true, good thinking makes for better times. This discussion will prompt your own thinking and how you default to one pattern or the other.  Recognizing your default mindset is the first step to overcoming the obstacles in your life and plowing a better path forward.  It's time to move from a life of victimization to a life of victory!http://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

Strong Dads is sick in tired.  We are sick and tired of losing good men to the trap of despair that the world can so easily lead us into.  In this show we are specifically pointing out what we discuss as some of the failed areas of today's men.  Areas that are stealing our men from God's intended design and purpose.  When you watch the show don't get upset if we step on your toes.  Take the challenge to be coachable and progress to a healthier, better version of yourself. Strong Dads is going to practice what they are preaching.  We are moving into a season of DOING.  Our new format, beginning in October, will be one of  showing men DOING manhood.  The actual men that are out doing real life.  Their work, play, marriage, family, and faith all be presented in action form.  Come join us in taking back the manhood that God designed us for.  No more sitting on the couch playing video games or watching porn.  No more whining and complaining about how you were wronged in a relationship.  We are taking the bull by the horns!  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show

Are you better than your neighbor, or at least do you think you are better? Your knee-jerk Christian answer might be a quick "no", but the reality of it is that most of us fall into comparison traps on a regular basis.  You often hear comments like, "well, at least I'm not last", "at least I'm not as bad as they are", "at least I never did what that guy did".  Comments like this are indicative of the human nature to compare and then apply self-grace in order to relieve us of guilt or responsibility.  In the parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector, we see this behavior.  We see the Pharisee rationalizing his behaviors in a comparison as if he though his goodness should be determined by how he behaves compared to another person.  The problem with this common thinking is that we are setting the bar way too low.  All people fall short!  There is always someone that is going to be doing better or worse at some area of life than you.  So who should we compare ourselves to?  Jesus Christ.  When you do this you realize that no amount of rationalization or handicapping will place you on even ground with Christ. With this understanding we move to the next level of understanding about our goodness.  We can only be made "good" through Jesus Christ.  He must carry us by his grace and his pathway.  We can't begin to do it on our own.  When we submit to Christ so that we can be carried by Christ, we no longer have to live in the comparison game.  We no longer have to strive to look better and make others look worse.  We can begin to understand that all of us are accepted into God's grace. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgRocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy,  #marriagecounseling,  #parenting,  #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith,Support the show

What are you willing to pay for following Jesus?  We are not talking about buying Jesus, we are talking about what you are willing to put to the side, to reprioritize your time, attention, money, and relationships.  Where does Jesus come into your life?  Jesus makes a few heavy duty statements concerning the cost of putting him first.  Ahead of family, job, entertainment, even ourselves.  Jesus is talking about us making a decision to follow his way.  Incorporate his values and ways in our everyday living.  Serving others, forgiving others, extending grace to others, are just a few of the ways that we demonstrate our following of Jesus above anything thing or one else. Jesus makes a statement in John 14:6 that should make all of us take note.  "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me..."  This statement is not a suggestion, but rather a definitive direction of how we get to the Father.  We must put all other ways to the side and choose only the WAY OF JESUS!http://rocksolidfamilies.org Support the show

The Parable of the Prodigal Son is familiar to many of us.  But ask yourself a question; which person are you in the parable?  As we read through the parable we see three different characters that possess the human traits that all of us have the ability to possess: Selfishness, Greed, Self-righteousness,  Humility, Wisdom, Depression, Anger, Happiness and more. At the end of the parable we get a chance to grab what Jesus wants us to have.  He teaches the importance of humility and grace.  He teaches us that above all the laws of right and wrong, love is demonstrated through our willingness to show grace.  Do you want to live in a world strictly governed by truth and justice?  You better think twice about your answer.  This is why Christ came to put an end to the Law and introduce us to the deeper understanding of grace and mercy.  This is the true character of God! #Rocksolidfamilies #familytherapy  #marriagecounseling  #parenting  #faithbasedcounseling #counseling #Strongdads #coaching #lifecoach #lifecoaching #marriagecoaching #marriageandfamily #control #security #respect #affection #love #purpose #faith #prodigalson #grace #truth #justice https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show