Messy Can't Stop Her

Send JKO a Text Message In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you're a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you. Support the show If Messy Can't Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageJKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeJudgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed partsEven when we're polite, the energy of judgment can be felt Judging others harms our own wellbeingKey Scriptures: Matthew 7:1, Luke 6:41–42, Romans 12:2, Proverbs 23:7Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageJKO explores the deep impact of losing friends especially when they walk away without explanation. What is true friendship? Why does it hurt so much when people we once trusted choose to disappear? What is the mental toll of these losses? How do we heal? If you're a woman who's lost a friend and has been left confused, heartbroken, and wondering What happened? , this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeTrue friendship is beneficial to mental health.Friendships that end without closure can trigger trauma.Our unhealed wounds can unintentionally sabotage relationships.Key Scriptures: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:27, Proverbs 4:23, Philippians 4:8, Psalm 147:3ReferencesCrappy Childhood Fairy podcast episode: What Does It Mean If Losing Friends Is a Pattern?Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageIn this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, JKO shares how yelling cost her her singing voice but self-reflection helped her find peace, gentleness, and healing. She opens up about mental health stigma in faith spaces, the difference between reacting and responding, and her personal transformation through motherhood. If you're a woman navigating life's messiness and craving some peace, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Self-reflection is not self-blame. Your past does not define your worth. There is Mental health stigma in faith spaces. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom from this episode You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different. Like Africa's untapped and unprotected resources, are you overlooking your gifts? True self-worth begins when you stop looking outward and start discovering the treasure within. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageAdvance voting in Canada's federal election, this Easter weekend, reminded JKO about snap judgment: Fundamental Attribution Error. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, she explores how this thinking pattern impacts our wellbeing and what women in the trenches can do to protect themself. If you've ever been misunderstood or misjudged someone else, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeDon't confuse a moment with someone's whole story.The stories we tell ourselves about others shape how we treat them.Choosing curiosity over criticism makes room for love to grow. Key scriptures:  Matthew 7:1, 1 Samuel 16:7, Galatians 6:7 Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message JKO set out to hike her way to healing but pain, a surprising diagnosis, and an unexpected invitation into the water changed everything. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, discover how a closed door led to a new path, fresh joy, and the courage to begin again. If you're a woman who's ever felt discouraged when life didn't go as planned, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Setbacks can reveal better paths Healing can come from unexpected places God's plans often unfold one step at a time Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO reminds us that even in the middle of pain, regret, and unfair circumstances, we may be exactly where we need to be. Through the story of Joseph, we uncover how our current struggles could be positioning us for purpose. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your life's trajectory, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your current struggles are a crucial part of your destiny You can stay faithful and do good in tough times. Let go of regret and bitterness. Key Scriptures: Genesis 37, 39-45 Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageHave you ever felt like the world holds you to a different standard — especially as a mother, a woman, or someone trying to do their best in the midst of chaos? In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, Judith gets real about the crushing weight of double standards and the shame they create.If you've ever walked away from a situation thinking, “Maybe I'm just not enough,” this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeDouble standards are everywhere. Listening to your inner knowing is your weapon against shame and negative people.Finding a community of your own people can empower you. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageIn this special episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO shares a heartfelt conversation with Kathy Gleason, host of As I Live and Grieve. Together, they explore the waves of grief, the pain of losing a child and a beloved sister, and the power of healing—especially for mothers. Check out the full episode on As I Live and Grieve. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageChronic stress can silently shape our lives, impacting our health, emotions, and behaviors in ways we don't always recognize—until it's too late. In this episode, I share a personal wake-up call that revealed how stress had been taking its toll on my body for years. We'll explore the science behind stress, how it manifests in our daily lives, and most importantly, how we can fight back. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeChronic stress has can silently impact your health, emotions, and behavior.You can't control others, but you can control your response.Recognizing triggers, practice mindfulness, and make intentional choices to help your self-care.References in this episodeHow to use your childhood picture to guide your self-carePodcast website with episodesJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageMany of us live under negative labels, sometimes even believing them. Drawing inspiration from notable figures this episode challenges you to reject false labels and stand firm in the truth of who you are. If you have you ever been misunderstood, labeled unfairly, and even treated differently because of it, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodePeople's opinions do not define you.Do not waste your energy trying to change perceptions. Believe and declare what God says about you, not the negative labels of others.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageJKO encourages you to embrace your vision despite your weaknesses. Your struggles don't disqualify you—they are the very place where God's power shines the brightest. If you've ever felt unworthy, inadequate, or stuck, this episode is for you. If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your weaknesses do not disqualify you. Do not let your weakness truncate your vision There is help available. you do not have to rely on your own strength Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 12:9 (The Amplified and Message versions) Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message JKO opens up about the emotional turmoil that made her miss last week's episode. She reflects on grief, motherhood, and faithfulness in hard times. If you're going through a difficult season, this episode is for you. You are seen. You are not alone. God is with you.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Faithfulness Matters. Even in pain, showing up has value. God honors consistency. You Are Seen. No matter how hard life gets, God sees you (El Roi) and cares. Prioritize What Truly Matters. Love, faith, and protecting your children outweigh everything else. Key scriptures: Ezekiel 44, Genesis 16 Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageHow are you feeling about Valentine's Day? Excited? Apprehensive? Whether you're being showered with love or navigating a difficult relationship, this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her is for YOU. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode1.    Self-love is a Biblical principle. 2.    Celebrate yourself, no matter your relationship status. 3.    Treating yourself special sets the standard for how others treat you 4.    Valentine's Day is an opportunity for you to set the standard for how you want to be loved this year. 5.    Practical ways to celebrate yourself this Valentine's DayKey Scriptures: John 3:16, Mark 12:31 References in this episodeBuchi Emecheta's Second-Class Citizen Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageThese days, friendships dissolve at the speed of a tweet. Cancel culture is real, and betrayal is often public. But are we the kind of friends we'd want in our corner when we are in a crisis?Looking at real-life examples of friendships tested in the spotlight – Jessica Mulroney & Meghan Markle, Justin Baldoni & Blake Lively – and with guidance from the Word of God, we see what true friendship looks like and ask ourselves the question: Are we a true friend or a fair-weather friend?If you are a woman, who has ever yearned for a true friend, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeHow friendship is tested by cancel culture. What the Bible says about being a trustworthy and reliable friend. How to examine ourselves—are we the kind of friends we want to have?Key Scriptures: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:10 ReferencesDon Williams Fair Weather Friends Lyrics to Fairweather Friends Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageIn the trenches of life, we all crave deep, meaningful friendships. But sometimes we mistake acquaintances for friends? What do we do when those we trust betray us?This episode explores the deep desire for true friendship, the pain of disloyalty, and how to discern between real friends and mere acquaintances in 2025.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeNot everyone you meet is a friend. Learn to differentiate between an acquaintance and a true friend.Pray for discernment in friendships. Before opening your heart, ask God for wisdom and clarity.Jesus is the ultimate friend who never fails. When human relationships disappoint, lean on Him for comfort.References in this episode·        Trust In God by Elevation Worship (feat. Chris Brown), official lyric video ·        Check out previous episodes of Messy Can't Stop Her podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon music and other listening platforms.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageHost, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores how comparison and copying impacts us negatively, and can derail our 2025 goals. If you want to overcome feelings of inadequacy, cultivate contentment, and align with your purpose, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode·        How comparison and copying can stop you from reaching your goals in 2025.·        Why contentment and self-awareness are essential tools in your 2025 success toolkit.·        What the bible says about copying and comparing, and about you.·        Practical tools to recognize and embrace your uniqueness.Key Scriptures: Galatians 5:26 (Message Translation), Exodus 20:17References in this episode·        Downloadable Bible-based affirmations to remind yourself of your worth.·        Getting to Know Me self-love song adapted from Rogers and Hammerstein's “Getting to know you” song in The King and I.·        Previous episodes of Messy Can't Stop Her for more encouragement on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon music and other listening platforms.Step into 2025 with confidence and purpose! 2025 is your year! Subscribe, like, and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement today!Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageThis episode dives into the power of faith to overcome life's challenges and fear as you step into 2025. If you are a woman who has faced setbacks or struggled with doubt, this episode provides practical tools and spiritual encouragement to embrace a victorious year.Nuggets of wisdom in this episode·        Faith requires aligning your words and actions with God's promises.·        Speak life and declare God's Word over your situations.·        Stay grounded through challenges by holding onto God's promises.Key Scriptures: Hebrews 11:1-6, Romans 8:39, Genesis 22:17ReferencesPastor Nick Nilson at Lakewood Church (46:39 minute mark in the video)Prophesy Your Promise by Jesus Culture Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageA lesson on why you should stop waiting for perfect conditions and instead, take a leap of faith and show up as you are. Learn to use what you have now, trusting God to multiply it.If you are a woman who is stuck waiting for the right time or for things to be perfect, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeLife is happening now, and the world needs what you have to offer, even if it's not perfect.Start with what you have and trust God to bless your efforts. Honor the legacies of loved ones who have passed by showing up fully in your own life and sharing your gifts generously.Key scriptures: John 6:1-14,  2 Kings 4:1-7ReferencesDanniebelle Hall – Ordinary People (little becomes much when you place it in the master's hands)Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageKick off 2025 with hope and purpose! Learn 3 essentials to making this your best year ever—no matter the challenges. Get ready to embrace the new year with faith, courage, and actionable insights. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeLet love lead in your interactions, actions and decisions.Choose your virtual and in-person relationships with intentionality.Stand on God's Word, His promises in them and His prophecies regarding you and your situation.Learn and apply the lessons in the trenches of life.Revisit the dreams and visions you set aside because of the challenges of life.Key scriptures: Psalm 125:1, Mathew 13:3-7Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message Reflecting on God's promises of restoration,  host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, shares an uplifting message for 2025. She encourages listeners to speak life into challenges, embrace hope, and prepare for a year of thriving. If you desire practical and spiritual insights to guide you into the new year, this episode is for you. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageDo you know that regret can make us unable to reach our goals? Learn how letting go and reframing regrets can help you create the 2025 you desire. If you are being weighed down by burdens from your past, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeEven God, experienced regret.Dwelling on regret can be harmful to your future.God can use your past mistakes and negative experiences for good.To embrace the good in your future, you have to let go of the past.2025 is a clean slate, a chance to make amends and embrace new beginnings.Key Scriptures: Genesis 6:6-7, 1 Samuel 15:11, Joel 2:25, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Philippians 3:13-14 (The Passion Translation)Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageDo you have unmet goals from previous years? Learn how to approach your 2025 goals with purpose so that you achieve them successfully. If you have lost confidence in your ability to turn your goals into reality, this episode is for you.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeOur motivation to achieve the goals we set can waver, but routines give us the structure we need to persevere.Creating routines around your goals can increase your chances of achieving them.Setting achievable goals and sticking to required routines can boost your self-confidence.As faith without works is dead, so goals without action is dead.Lean on God for strength, back your goals with prayer.Key scriptures: Romans 5:4-5, James 2:26, Galatians 6:9References in this episodeThe Importance of Routines in Pursuit of Your GoalsAtomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James ClearJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageHave you ever been told that you do too much? Have you ever been made to feel like your personality is a flaw?  Discover how to embrace your unique qualities, live boldly, and break free from the mold. If you have ever faced the challenge of being yourself in a world that constantly tries to reshape you, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeThe unique traits of your personality traits are part of your divine design, embrace them.Do not squeeze yourself into other people's molds, always stay true to who you are.People's negative behavior often stems from envy, insecurity, or misunderstanding; It's not about you, it's about them.Do not internalize the mistreatment or negative opinions of others.Key Scriptures: 1 Samuel 30 and 1 Samuel chapters 18-24Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageAre you feeling the weight of missed opportunities? Inspired by a friend's compliment, JKO explores how our losses can become new beginnings. Through the story of a poor childless widow's journey to restoration, learn that it is never too late to reclaim your purpose. If you have ever regretted paths not taken, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeMissed opportunities do not define or dictate your future.Honesty about your pain is the first step toward restoration.Pursuing good for others can open doors to unexpected blessings.God can restore your lost years, opportunities, and dreams in ways you cannot imagine.Key Scriptures: Joel 2:25, The Book of Ruth, 1 Peter 5:10References in this episodeHow chaos, crisis and challenges are a training ground for your elevation Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageHave you ever felt that your life was filled with curveballs? What if those challenges are preparing you for greatness? Through science-backed insights and scriptural lessons, learn how the messiest challenges on our journey are not setbacks but setups for our elevation. If you ever wondered why this trouble, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeEvery experience, whether good or bad, is part of a greater plan—not just for you, but for you to inspire and encourage others.The brain's ability to rewire itself during tough times strengthens our ability to adapt, solve problems, and navigate similar situations in the future.Suffering and tribulations produce perseverance, character, and hope, working together for our good and preparing us for greater purposes.Embrace challenges as opportunities to grow; Instead of asking, “Why me?” shift to asking, “What am I learning?”The messiest parts of your life often hold the most powerful lessons.Key Scriptures: Romans 5:3-4, Romans 8:28, Joshua 2, Hebrews 11References in this episodeCleaning Up Your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline LeafJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageDo you often find yourself asking, “What will people think?” when facing challenges or making decisions? From social science and scripture, we explore how this fear of judgment and need for approval can limit our ambitions, silence our authenticity, and create unnecessary stress in our lives. Learn how to break free from people-pleasing and live fulfilled even in the trenches of life. If you often hesitate, restricted and held back by the fear of other people's opinions, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeThe prison of other people's opinions can sentence us to self-silence, compromised decisions, and restricted growthThe mental and emotional toll of worrying about others' opinions can make us physically and psychologically sickPeople are usually more focused on their own struggles than on our lives; we all have our own individual messesGrounding our worth in God's purpose not on human approval, will give us peace, confidence and fulfillmentKey Scriptures: Proverbs 29:25, Galatians 1:10 and Romans 8:1References in this episodeCharles Cooley- Looking glass selfSelf-Determination Theory in Psychology2 Corinthians 3:18Who You Are When No One's Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting CompromiseJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageAre you overwhelmed by loss, failures, disappointments or setbacks? Discover how small steps can lead to unexpected victories in the game of life. Learn how the divine game master turns seemingly insignificant moves into breakthrough moments. If you are feeling stuck in one of life's toughest levels, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeLife, like a cellphone game, can feel overwhelming and unwinnable at timesSeemingly insignificant or hopeless moves can set off a chain reaction that leads to unexpected victoriesGod is the ultimate Game Master, guiding our steps and orchestrating our livesDespite the challenges, continue to move forward, push through uncertainty and persevere even when you feel like giving upJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageDo you know that you can offer the pain of your struggles, disappointments, sacrifices and challenges to God as an offering? On this episode, faith and science align to show us that our pain is never wasted when we offer it to God. With scripture backed by research, we learn how that the offering of our pain can lead to profound healing and spiritual growth. If you have ever had to experience a heartache or disappointment, or sacrifice in pain, this episode is for you!Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Romans 8:28 and Romans 5:3-4Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeSurrendering pain to God deepens spiritual growth and leads to comfort and healingInsights from neuroscience and psychology on the power of prayer to change brain function and promote growth after adversity (post-traumatic growth)A guided prayer to help you give the pain of your struggles to God as an offeringReferences in this episodePrayers for courage to avoid failures of kindnessHematohidrosis – A Rare Clinical PhenomenonLuke 22:42The Mental Health Benefits of Religion & SpiritualityCognitive Reframing: How It Works, What It Helps, and MoreTransform Your Brain in Twelve MinutesHow Prayer and Meditation Changes Your BrainThe Role of Salah (Prayer) in Promoting Emotional RegulationI Give You My Heart - Hillsong WorshipJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageReflecting on a quote from Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart by George Saunders about “failures of kindness”, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) highlights how fear often holds us back from being kind. She explores the courage it takes to show compassion, both to others and ourselves.Through Scripture and prayer, JKO encourages listeners to seek boldness, trust in God's strength, and act with kindness even in difficult situations. This episode also includes a special prayer from Psalms 118:8-9 that you can repeat by yourself to help you connect directly to God for courage and strength. Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 3:5, Psalm 27:1, Philippians 4:13, Psalm 118:8-9.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeFear can prevent us from helping when witnessing unkindness We need courage to overcome the struggle to show kindness, especially when it feels risky or uncomfortableWhen we show kindness we become conduits of God's love We can overcome the fear to act, by praying for courageReferences in this episode“Failures of Kindness” delivered by George Saunders, a transcript by James ClearJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageRounding up our series on praying God's Word over us Natasha Rae, a prophetess and passionate prayer warrior, offers practical advice on how prayer can heal wounds, restore relationships, and bring hope to even the darkest of times. She encourages and reminds women who are feeling distant from God that He hears every cry, and leads a powerful prayer for listeners to experience God's love healing and restoration. If you are struggling with faith or seeking spiritual growth, this episode will reignite your connection with God and empower you to move forward.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeEven if you feel disconnected from God, He still hears you when you call.No matter the situation, even when it seems your prayers are unanswered, trust in God's plan for you.Do not stop calling on God because He is always present and willing to help you.You can follow Natasha on YouTube at Natasha Rae Ministries and read her books on Amazon.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageExploring the prayers of 3 Kings of Judah - Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat - who battled overwhelming enemies, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, focuses on how to pray when faced with challenges from people, situations, or systems that are much more powerful than us.If you've ever been helpless before a formidable hater, this episode will teach you how to ask God for help to overcome and emerge victorious.Nuggets of Wisdom in this episodeEven the most righteous and faithful can face adversity.The battles we face, whether with people or overwhelming situations, are not ours to fight alone. God is our defender.Just as God fought for Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat, He will fight for you if you trust in Him and pray.Trusting in God is more powerful than any force that comes against youWorship is a powerful weapon in times of difficulty—when we shift our focus to God, He gives us victory.References in this episode2 Kings 6:8-17Outnumbered by Lakewood Music featuring Tauren WellsIsaiah 59:19Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageContinuing the series on Praying God's Word Over Us, Sherry VanDolder, a woman of faith, certified relationship expert, and author shares her journey of writing with purpose, and how aligning prayer with scripture can shift mindsets and bring healing. She speaks powerful prayers over listeners, encouraging them to trust in God's plan and the transformative power of His Word. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to win in the spiritual battle between light and darkness.Sherry's books, including the Lucas Warbuck fantasy-adventure series and The Shadow Light which exposes the schemes and tactics of the enemy of our soul, are available on Amazon.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageAfter a period of silence due to a technological hiccup and a very recent loss, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, continues the series on praying God's word over us. JKO reflects on finding solace in God during times of overwhelming grief and uncertainty, much like the story of Job.Through prayer and scripture, she encourages listeners who may be facing their own trials and reminds them that, in God's hands, even the darkest moments work together for our good. If you are in a place where only divine intervention can bring change, tune in to join JKO as she prays over you for help, peace and God's glorious turnaround in your life.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageAs part of the ongoing series on praying scripture over our lives, Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO reveals how she clung to Habakkuk 3:17-18 as a lifeline following the devastating loss of her daughter on August 1, 2023. She shares the profound impact of Jonathan Traylor's song "You Get the Glory from This," as a source of comfort and hope as she navigated her pain. In this testimony of faith, grief, and resilience, JKO emphasizes the importance of healing from trauma, not just for ourselves but for the well-being of our children and future generations. She invites listeners to join her at the upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit, where women will explore the significance of emotional healing, aligning values with life choices, and using journaling as a tool for transformation. This free, virtual event is an opportunity to invest in your growth and resilience, no matter where you are on your journey. References in this episodeJonathan Traylor's You Get the Glory from ThisRegister for the Confident Godly Woman SummitJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa – JKO welcomes Becca Rae Eagle, fellow podcast host shares her journey with the Sacred Penning Podcast, emphasizing the importance of quiet time with God for mental and physical health. She highlights her personal experiences of receiving strength and direction through this practice. Becca also talks about her upcoming retreat, "Back to School, Back to You," aimed at helping mothers find peace and strength during stressful times. The episode concludes with a heartfelt prayer from Becca, and an invitation to join the Confident Godly Woman Summit. See the show notes for more details and links to Becca's work.References in this episodeJohn 16:33Register for the Confident Godly Woman SummitBecca's Sacred Penning website with a free download to kickstart your journalling practiceJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageInspired by the story of Hagar from Genesis 16, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO explores themes of divine recognition and acceptance, reminding us that God sees and knows each of us intimately. Through Psalms 139 verse 13-14 and the song "He Knows My Name" by the Maranatha Singers, JKO offers you comfort and encouragement no matter your circumstances. Don't miss this inspiring message and the special invitation to sign up for the free upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit. Tune in to receive hope, healing, and strength through prayer and scripture as you learn to embrace your unique identity and God's unwavering love.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Brenda Rice to share her inspiring journey with prayer.  Brenda opens up about overcoming thyroid cancer and supporting her son through addiction, highlighting the transformative power of prayer in her life. She shares meaningful prayers and uplifting scriptures for women facing life's challenges. If you need hope, favour, and peace in the trenches of life, this episode offers inspiration and strength through the healing power of prayer. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageThis episode tackles a common wound – the painful experience of rejection. With a definition from Collins Dictionary and a personal story, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, explores how rejection shows up in life: pre-birth experiences, relationships, and even church. She reminds us that true worth comes from God's love and shares powerful scriptures including Jeremiah 31:3 and Romans 8:31-39 to showcase God's unwavering love, even when we feel rejected.Feeling rejected? You're not alone! JKO invites you to join her in prayer as we ask God to heal rejection's sting and remind us of His love.References in this episodeJeremiah 1v5aI have loved you with an everlasting love - Don MoenJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageWelcome to the 100th episode of Messy Can't Stop Her! Continuing the series on the power of prayers, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Renice Edmison, a devoted women's group leader who has spent years supporting and uplifting women through faith and prayer. Renice shares her personal journey from a season of profound heartache to finding healing and strength through prayer and community. She encourages listeners to embrace the healing power of faith, whether they are believers or simply seeking comfort and guidance.If you are navigating struggles, tune in to receive Renice's heartfelt shower of powerful prayers as she speaks God's word over listeners, offering hope and encouragement for women in the trenches of life.Send your prayer requests via the text message link. References in this episodeDaniel chapter 3Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host JKO explores the concept of being in exile, a place of instability and trouble. Drawing a parallel between the Israelites exiled in Babylon and those facing challenges in their own lives, she encourages listeners to find hope in God's promises, using verses 4-7 of Jeremiah 29. These verses instruct the Israelites to build lives, plant gardens, and seek the peace and prosperity of the city they are exiled in. JKO reminds women that even in challenging circumstances, God sees our struggles and equips us to thrive and find peace. She ends this episode with a powerful prayer session for those facing difficulties, encouraging them to trust in God and take steps of obedience. Send your prayer requests through JKO's social media - Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn - messages, or the provided text message link and share this episode with anyone who needs encouragement.Next Episode Preview: Don't miss the next episode featuring a special guest as we near the 100th episode milestone of "Messy Can't Stop Her."Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageContinuing the series on praying God's Word over you, JKO and Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo discuss the power of prayer and finding your inner strength, even in the toughest times. As the founder of the Refuge Children's Home, the Bees Fellowship and The Deborah's prayer group, Mrs. Jaiye-Ojo is a beacon of spiritual strength and compassion. In this episode, she shares profound insights on how prayer can be a tool for healing and empowerment, why joy is a choice you can make no matter your circumstances, she showers listeners with powerful prayers to lift your spirit against life's challenges. Even if you're unsure about faith, this episode offers valuable insights and inspiration!References in this episode2 Kings 5Isaiah 42:16Genesis 1:3Psalm 3:5Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," JKO, embarks on a journey of prayer and reflection inspired by Isaiah 43:1-5a. This episode is the first in a series on praying God's Word over YOU. It is dedicated to those women in the trenches of life who need a reminder of God's unwavering love and support.Join us as we dive into the scriptures, pray together, and find solace in the divine words that promise hope and healing. Send your prayer requests through messages to JKO's Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn, and let's uplift each other in faith and resilience.Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text MessageAs we close Mental Health Awareness Month, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores the science behind comparison and its impact on women's mental health, and uncovers practical tips that women can use to break free from the comparison trap.References in this episodeJay T. Coza on Twitter Journal of Behavioural Addictions: Social comparisons: A potential mechanism linking problematic social media use with depressionJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO explores the role of faith in overcoming mistakes and their impact on mental health. Featuring biblical wisdom, scientific evidence, and testimonies from inspiring women like Deb, Brene Brown, and Michelle Obama. Discover how faith can be a source of hope and healing for mental trauma.References in this episodePew Research Study: Religion's Relationship to Happiness, Civic Engagement and Health Around the WorldResearchGate: The Impact of Religion/Spirituality on Mental Health with a Focus on DepressionDeb's StoryJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode JKO explores the transformative impact of self-awareness on mental health. Tune in for practical strategies to manage stress, enhance emotional regulation, build self-compassion, and live a more fulfilling life. Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

In this special Mother's Day episode, we explore the importance of prioritizing healing from trauma as a mother and its profound impact on our children. From redefining narratives to practical strategies for self-awareness and support, this episode discusses the messy yet transformative journey of a mother's healing for the well-being of her next generation. References in this episodeInsight TimerHappifyCanadian Mental Health Association (CMHA)National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Turning 53 brings a new chapter for JKO!  This week's episode explores the bittersweet transition into menopause, reflecting on periods and celebrating the freedom and confidence that comes with age.  JKO shares tips on savoring life's moments, big and small, even when they come with hormonal shifts. This episode is an empowering reminder to embrace the "messy magic" of life.References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

JKO explores the surprising link between your values and your well-being. She explains how living a life true to yourself can be the secret weapon for better health, less stress, and more happiness. At the end of this episode, you will also learn how to identify your values and make adjustments to create a life that nourishes your body and soul.References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatJoin the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Feeling lost after a friend's betrayal? Today's episode tackles the pain, forgiveness, and strength needed to rise above it. Learn how to reclaim your self-worth and find peace amidst the storm with biblical wisdom and personal empowerment. Stories, scripture, and the opportunity for self-discovery at the Tobago Retreat await! References in this episode Healing the Heart Retreat Join the Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood at https://www.facebook.com/groups/3204395256540448/If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter