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Now that the graduation ceremony is over and the party is cleaned up, what's next for you as the parent? In past shows, we have discussed the Seasons of Parenting -  Season 1 - Service, Season 2 - Leadership, Season 3- Mentor, Season 4- Friend/Counsel. This time of graduation may very well be marking the movement into a new season, so what does it look like? Ecc. 3:1 says there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. This transition isn't about letting go completely, but rather about shifting your grip. You are moving from the role of a hands-on manager to that of a trusted consultant and encourager. It's a season of empowering them to build their own lives on the foundation you've so carefully helped them lay. Here are some key principles to guide you in this new and rewarding phase of parenting:Advice - Continue to Build and Maintain the Relationship.  What kind of adult relationship do you want with your adult child?  Be clear about how you are going to interact and what you want the relationship to look like.  This is a conversation that you want to have with your adult child.  What do they want in the relationship?  Assumptions often burn people.  Try to define and clear up any possible areas of confusion. Establish Clear Expectations and Healthy Boundaries.If your graduate is living at home, open and honest communication is paramount. This is no longer a child-parent dynamic but a relationship between two adults sharing a living space. Sit down together and respectfully discuss expectations regarding finances (rent, bills), household responsibilities, and general house rules. Expect and Foster True Independence. True independence isn't just about financial self-sufficiency; it's about taking ownership of one's life – spiritually, emotionally, and practically. This may mean resisting the urge to rescue them from every challenge. Allow them the dignity of navigating difficult situations, whether it's a tough job search, a challenging roommate, or a budgeting shortfall.Champion Their Spiritual Growth from the Sidelines. If they haven't already, it is time for you to encourage them to develop their own faith and not live yours. Equip Them for the Practical Duties of Life. Adulthood comes with a host of practical responsibilities. Take the opportunity to come alongside them as a coach in areas like financial literacy (budgeting, saving, giving), career development (resume building, interview skills), and basic life skills (home and car maintenance, cooking). Cover Them in Prayer. Perhaps the most vital role you will now play is that of a dedicated prayer warrior for your child. Pray for their wisdom, for their protection, for their relationships, and most importantly, for their continued walk with the Lord. Your prayers are a powerful spiritual covering as they step into the world and face new challenges and temptations. Entrusting them to God's sovereign care will also bring you peace and strength during this transition. As Psalm 127:1 reminds us, "Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain." Surrender your anxieties to God and trust in His perfect plan for your child's life.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Should We Have Kids in a Dark World?Big Questions: Is it wise or faithful to bring children into a world filled with suffering, evil, and uncertainty?Am I making life decisions from faith or fear?“Many Christians today are wrestling with fear, disillusionment, and sorrow over the state of the world.”Common concerns: evil, school shootings, cultural decline, financial uncertainty, environmental decayAffirm that this is a valid and deeply emotional question.2. Why Are People Afraid to Have Children Today? List cultural and global concernsReflect on emotional and spiritual reasons:Fear of sufferingResponsibility for shaping a soulHopelessness about the futureScripture Reflection:Ecclesiastes 1:2, 14 – “Meaningless! Everything is meaningless... I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind.” Even in Scripture, people wrestled with despair over a broken world.3. God's View of Children in a Broken World A. Children Are a BlessingPsalm 127:3–5 – “Children are a heritage from the Lord... Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.”God calls children a gift, not a burden.B. God Brings Life in DarknessGenesis 1:28 – “Be fruitful and multiply...” (original calling)God didn't rescind this even after the Fall.Jeremiah 29:4–7 – While in exile in Babylon, God tells Israel to build homes, plant gardens, marry, and “increase in number.” Even in dark times, God calls His people to live fruitfully.C. Children as Light-BearersPhilippians 2:15 – “...that you may become blameless and pure, children of God... in a warped and crooked generation. Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky.”Our children can be raised to reflect light, not just survive the darkness.4. God Has Not Given Us a Spirit of Fear 2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”Fear is not a trustworthy counselor—faith is.God doesn't promise ease, but He promises presence.5. What About Wisdom & Discernment? It's not a sin to delay or decide against having children, if done in prayer and obedience, not fear or despair.Romans 14:23 – “...everything that does not come from faith is sin.”Decisions should be rooted in peace and trust in God's will for your life.6. Legacy & Mission in Dark Times Children are disciples in our homes.Parenting is missionary work.Malachi 2:15 – “Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.” God desires the next generation to know Him.7. Closing EncouragementQuestion for you to reflect on as we close…..How might God want to use future generations to redeem the brokenness in our world today?We don't bring children into the world because the world is good— We bring them into the world because God is good.Whether you raise spiritual children, foster, adopt, or give birth—your legacy in Christ is secure when you walk in faith.Scripture:Isaiah 60:1–2 – “Arise, shine, for your light has come... darkness covers the earth... but the Lord rises upon you.”https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Background - The role of Grandparents has changed over the years. It used to be a clear separation between their generation, their kids, and the grandkids.How did the roles get mixed up? There are many possible answers to this but here are some of the more common reasons that we see in our office. Parents are not present or available so the grandparents have no choice but to step in and raise the child.Parents need more than a little help in raising their children. Many families have both parents working and they still require child-care.  Grandparents are often a cheaper and convenient solution to this need.Parents lack confidence and understanding of their parenting role and are quick to hand it over to a trusted family member. Confusion in the roles leads to problems.  Every parent comes with a different personality and style of parenting.  Unity among the authorities can be broken.  Kids look for the easiest way to satisfy their desires. Advice - Emphasize the importance of a well-connected and healthy family structure in which all generations are present and in their proper role. Avoid placing people into roles that do not allow them to be where they are in life.  Just like we don't ask the child to be an adult, we don't ask grandparents to be regular parents. Honor all three generations in your family. Celebrate the child, the parent, and the grandparent.  Especially teach this to your children. Establish authority levels in the life of the child.  One of the tenets of a Christian life is to learn proper and appropriate submission. Modeling this in the family is their first opportunity of what it looks like to submit to God's authority. As the parents, you establish the Ways of your house.  You hope that anyone connected to your family will honor those ways, but at the end of the day, you are the one responsible for your family. Here are some key biblical themes and verses that apply to honoring grandparents:1. Honoring Parents (which extends to grandparents): The Fifth Commandment is the most direct instruction:Exodus 20:12: "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you." This commandment lays the groundwork for respecting those who raised you, and by extension, those who raised your parents.Proverbs 23:22: "Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old." This emphasizes continued respect and care as parents (and grandparents) age.2. Respect for the Elderly: The Bible consistently calls for reverence towards older individuals due to their wisdom and experience.Leviticus 19:32: "You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the Lord." This verse directly commands respect for the aged. "Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained in the way of righteousness" Challenge -  Reflect on how your family dynamics are currently operating. Discern whether or not it is healthy and what you want for your family.  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

In this episode of the Rocksolid Families podcast, hosts Linda Hutchinson and her husband discuss the importance of emotional comfort for children. They emphasize the role of parents, caregivers, and educators in providing this comfort, especially during challenging emotional moments. The hosts set the stage for a conversation about how emotional comfort can significantly impact a child's long-term emotional health.•Definition: Emotional comfort is described as the support and reassurance that parents and caregivers provide to children when they are experiencing intense emotions, such as sadness, anger, or frustration.•Importance: The hosts convey that while it is crucial to provide comfort, it is equally important not to over-coddle children. They discuss the balance of creating a safe emotional environment from which children can venture into the “choppy waters” of life.The Need for Emotional Regulation•Understanding Emotions: Children often lack the vocabulary to articulate their emotions. The hosts stress the importance of helping children identify and understand their emotions, which is a vital part of emotional regulation.•Consequences of Poor Emotional Support: Without adequate emotional comfort and regulation, children may struggle with self-soothing and coping mechanisms, leading to long-term emotional difficulties.Introducing the MATS FrameworkThe hosts introduce a simple framework—MATS—to help caregivers respond to children's emotional needs effectively.MATS Breakdown1.M - Mention:Observation: The first step is to acknowledge the child's emotional state by mentioning what you see. For example, stating, “You look really upset right now,” helps the child feel seen and understood.Body Language: Observing body language is crucial; it provides insight into how children  are feeling, especially if they are non-verbal.2.A - Ask:Curiosity: The next step involves asking questions to validate the child's feelings. Encouraging children to express themselves is essential for emotional processing.Avoiding Dismissal: The hosts emphasize that caregivers should refrain from downplaying the child's feelings and instead validate their emotions to help them feel heard.3.T - Touch:Appropriate Connection: The framework includes physical touch, such as hugs or gentle touches, which can offer comfort. However, the hosts advise being cautious with physical contact, especially if it is not a common practice in the household.Creating Comfort: Physical presence can help children feel secure, aiding in emotional regulation.4.S - Stay:Presence: Finally, staying with the child until their emotional needs are met is crucial. This involves sitting in silence if necessary and showing that you are there for them without rushing to “fix” the situation.Long-Term Impact: The hosts stress that this steady presence creates a sense of security and helps children understand that they are not alone in their struggles.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

IntroductionIn this episode Merrill and Linda Hutchinson discuss the theme of unmet expectations in life and how to process disappointment. They reflect on personal experiences, share insights from their family and work, and provide faith-based guidance on navigating life's challenges.Segment 1: Personal Reflections and Introduction to Unmet Expectations•Theme Introduction: The hosts emphasize that everyone encounters unmet expectations, whether in relationships, careers, or personal goals. They highlight that chasing happiness is often futile; instead, cultivating a spirit of joy and contentment is essential.Segment 2: The Reality of Disappointment•Merrill shares his struggles with launching a fitness product, the kettlebar, which has not yet succeeded despite positive feedback. This illustrates the frustration of unmet expectations after significant effort.•He also recounts his initial disappointment at not gaining admission to physical therapy school, framing it as a redirection that led to meaningful opportunities in education.Segment 3: Defining Disappointment•Understanding Disappointment: They explain that disappointment arises from the gap between hopes and reality, supporting this with biblical references (e.g., the story of Lazarus' death and Paul's struggles).•Faith and Perseverance: Merrill discusses the balance between persevering through challenges and recognizing when to surrender to God's will, mentioning the importance of laying burdens at God's feet.Segment 4: The Grieving Process•Grieving Unmet Expectations: The hosts outline the typical stages of grief in response to disappointment, which include denial, anger, and acceptance. They stress the importance of not getting stuck in complicated grief, which can hinder healing.•Biblical Support: They reference Romans 8:28, emphasizing that God can work through all circumstances for the good of those who love Him, even when individuals feel hopeless.Segment 5: Moving Beyond Disappointment•Expectation Reassessment: Merrill encourages listeners to evaluate whether their expectations align with God's plans and to remain open to new possibilities.•Encouraging Others: They discuss how sharing personal experiences of disappointment can help others, creating a cycle of empathy and support that strengthens community.Segment 6: Fostering Hope•Seeking Gratitude: The hosts recommend practicing gratitude as a means to combat feelings of hopelessness. They suggest keeping a gratitude journal to refocus on the positive aspects of life, no matter how small.•Redefining Expectations: They advise listeners to reassess their expectations, questioning whether they are motivated by personal desires or by a desire to honor God.Segment 7: Final Reflections and Prayer•Perspective on Life's Challenges: Merrill emphasizes that disappointment should not define one's life; individuals are more than their failures. •Encouragement through Faith: Linda shares her thoughts on the importance of maintaining joy and perspective, invoking the lyrics of a song that speaks of new mercies every morning.•Concluding Prayer: Find peace amidst disappointment and to trust in God's higher plans, encouraging them to seek guidance and find new paths forward.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Summary of Flexibility = Love•Rigidity: The tendency to adhere strictly to rules, routines, and predictability.•Spontaneity: The inclination to seek excitement and adventure without prior planning.•Flexibility: The ability to adapt and find a balance between rigidity and spontaneity.Importance of Understanding DifferencesMerrill points out that understanding one's own personality traits is crucial for improving marital dynamics. He discusses how rigidity can lead to anxiety due to a fear of losing control, while spontaneity can result in feelings of resentment when life feels too boxed in or constrained.Benefits and Drawbacks of RigidityBenefits:A structured environment can lower anxiety, especially for children, by providing clear expectations.2.Commitment: Predictability helps partners uphold commitments and builds trust.Drawbacks:1.Stifled Intimacy: Overly rigid environments can become boring and inhibit emotional closeness.2.Excessive Control: Rigid approaches can lead to legalistic attitudes that diminish personal freedom and enjoyment.Benefits and Drawbacks of SpontaneityBenefits:1.Excitement and Joy: Spontaneity can inject fun and unpredictability into life, fostering deeper emotional connections.2.Encouragement of Playfulness: It allows couples to engage in activities that uplift their spirits and reinforce bonds.Drawbacks:1.Instability: Sudden changes can create anxiety in partners who prefer predictability.2.Neglect of Responsibilities: Spontaneous decisions can sometimes lead to neglecting commitments and responsibilities, causing strain in the relationship.Balancing Rigidity and SpontaneityThe hosts emphasize that neither rigidity nor spontaneity is inherently right or wrong; rather, successful relationships require a balance of both. This balance is achieved through flexibility, the capacity to adapt to each partner's needs and circumstances.Scriptural References and Principles•Ephesians 5:21: Advocating for mutual submission and respect in relationships.•Philippians 2:3-4: Encouraging humility and valuing the needs of others over one's own.•Ecclesiastes 9:9: Reminding partners to enjoy life together amidst their daily routines.Practical Strategies for Couples1.Know Your Tendencies: Partners should identify whether they lean more towards rigidity or spontaneity.2.Set Shared Values: Agree on core values that will guide decisions and behaviors.3.Establish Common Goals: Identify long-term goals that both partners are working towards.4.Listen Actively: Encourage open communication without defensiveness or sarcasm.5.Seek Unity Over Being Right: Focus on compromise and mutual understanding instead of proving each other wrong.6.Encourage Each Other: Foster positivity by recognizing and affirming each other's efforts and traits.7.Shift Mindsets to ‘We': Cultivate a partnership mentality where both aim for collective success and happiness.Flexibility as a Key ComponentThe discussion culminates in the realization that flexibility is essential for resiliency in a relationship. It allows couples to navigate the inevitable storms of life with grace, adapting their approaches as circumstances change.http:://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Giving Your Kids to GodThe Story of Hannah (8:30 - 20:15)•Jenna shares her background on Hannah, recalling her experiences from a Bible study that highlighted Hannah's struggles with infertility and her deep prayer life.•Hannah, one of two wives of Elkanah, faced ridicule from her co-wife, Peninnah, who bore children while Hannah could not.•In her desperation, Hannah made a heartfelt promise to God: if He gave her a son, she would give him back to the Lord.•After giving birth to Samuel, she fulfilled her vow by dedicating him to God by leaving him at the temple when he was weaned, visiting him annually and bringing him new garments.Personal Reflections on Surrender (20:15 - 37:30)•Jenna and Bridgitte express difficulty in envisioning such a level of surrender, considering societal expectations of motherhood and personal fears.•Linda shares a personal story of Abraham's sacrifice of Isaac, linking it to parental anxieties about children's futures, including a vivid moment of anxiety when her son chose a military career.Understanding Surrender Today (37:30 - 54:10)•Bridgitte explains that surrender in modern parenting does not involve physical sacrifice but rather a spiritual commitment.•Emphasis on finding identity in Christ rather than in being a mother or parent, highlighting the importance of modeling peace rather than chaos for children.•The hosts discuss practical implications, such as the influence of social media and the daily choices between chaos and peace.Applying Biblical Principles to Parenting (54:10 - 1:18:30) •The conversation shifts to how parents can actively give their children to God today, focusing on prayer and scriptural guidance.•Jenna emphasizes the importance of turning to God first in difficult parenting moments, rather than succumbing to anxiety.•Bridgitte shares about teaching children to pray about decisions and reflecting on what God might want for them, rather than imposing personal desires.Building a Trusting Relationship with God (1:18:30 - 1:33:00)•Jenna recalls emotional moments of trust during challenging parenting experiences, emphasizing the need for reliance on God.•They highlight the importance of involving children in prayer and using biblical teachings to guide their moral and ethical decisions.Conclusion and Closing •Bridgitte emphasizes the need to ask God what aspects of parenting or identity need to be surrendered, urging parents to pray with His will in mind, rather than their own.•The episode concludes with a call to action for families to trust in God and the inherent plans He has for their children.Relevant Biblical References:•The story of Hannah from 1 Samuel.•The sacrifice of Isaac by Abraham from Genesis 22.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Can You and Your Spouse Have Difficult Conversations?•The discussion centers around the difficulties couples face when having hard conversations, especially those filled with tension. Importance of Safe Spaces•Creating Emotional Safety: The need for a safe emotional environment within a relationship, where both partners feel secure enough to share their feelings without fear of being attacked or dismissed.•Common Issues: Reasons why conversations might not feel safe, including past trauma, fears of anger, and emotional unavailability.•Distinction Between Peacekeepers and Peacemakers: Linda emphasizes the difference; peacekeepers avoid conflict while peacemakers address issues with an aim to enhance the relationship.Consequences of Avoiding Difficult Conversations•Building Resentment: Avoidance leads to resentment, increasing emotional distance and eroding intimacy over time.•Trust Issues: Unresolved issues can damage trust, leading partners to feel unsupported and potentially seeking emotional or physical connection outside the marriage.•General Relationship Decline: A lack of open communication can lead to a “rotting” relationship.Strategies for Addressing Difficult Conversations1. Grounding in Shared Beliefs•Common Purpose: Establish a shared belief in the importance of the marriage and family, utilizing a spiritual or religious framework as a guiding principle for conflict resolution.•Prayer and Humility: Starting discussions with prayer and a humble approach can help set a positive tone and prepare both partners to engage constructively.2. Active Listening•Listening vs. Defensiveness: The importance of active listening, which requires closing one's mouth and truly focusing on the partner's words, rather than preparing a rebuttal.•Clarifying Understanding: After listening, repeat back what has been said to ensure mutual understanding, which helps diffuse defensiveness and promotes a healthy dialogue.3. Speak the Truth in Love•Honesty with Gentleness: When expressing feelings or grievances, it's crucial to be truthful yet gentle, avoiding harsh words or accusations.•Avoiding Extremes: Steer clear of exaggerated terms like “always” or “never,” which can trigger defensiveness and hinder productive communication.4. Forgiveness and Reconciliation•Understanding Hurt: Addressing past wounds and recognizing triggers during conversations is vital for healing.•The Power of Forgiveness: Forgiveness is imperative for moving forward in a relationship, as holding onto grudges can prevent healing and reconciliation.5. Focus on Unity•Shared Goals: Instead of hyper-focusing on problems, couples should align their efforts towards common goals that foster unity in the marriage.•Prioritizing the Relationship: Emphasizing the health of the marriage and the family unit over individual grievances can help reduce conflict and build a stronger partnership.Recognizing the Need for Help•Seeking External Support: Seek counseling or mediation when conflict becomes too overwhelming or unmanageable, especially in cases of emotional instability or past trauma.•Mutual Commitment to Improvement: Both partners must be willing to engage in the process of resolving conflicts for it to be effective.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

In this episode of the Rock Solid Family Podcast, hosts Merrill and Linda Hutchinson explore parental doubt and the pressures modern parents face due to societal expectations, particularly with younger children. They aim to offer understanding, reassurance, and strategies for those often second-guessing their decisions.**The Nature of Doubt in Parenting**Parents experience emotional ups and downs, questioning their choices due to the pressure to be perfect fueled by social media. Merrill discusses how parenting styles differ between firstborn and later-born children, suggesting that firstborns often receive more cautious parenting, leading to increased confidence over time.**Influences on Parental Doubt**Social media can amplify feelings of inadequacy, particularly among young mothers, while rising parental anxiety over health issues often results in overly cautious decisions. **Over-Correction and Extreme Parenting**The podcast examines "intensive parenting," where decisions feel high-stakes, leading to anxiety. Parents' fears about real threats can result in children being overly sheltered, hindering their resilience.**The Comparison Trap**Competitive parenting culture pressures parents to compare milestones, creating unhealthy environments where children feel pressure to excel. The Hutchinsons critique modern expectations around celebrations, arguing that elaborate parties can lead to stress.**Parenting Styles and Emotional Impact**Different styles, such as helicopter and snowplow parenting, can limit a child's independence. The hosts stress the importance of parents managing their emotional states to create secure environments for their children.**Strategies for Combating Doubt**1. Reflect and Pray: Seek wisdom and avoid second-guessing decisions.2. Take Emotions Captive: Calm yourself and avoid expressing anxieties to children.3. Avoid Self-Criticism: Give yourself grace and learn from mistakes.4. Reframe Negative Thoughts: Seek support instead of comparing yourself to others.5. Embrace Imperfection: Aim for "good enough" parenting.6. Allow Children to Experience Failure: Prioritize resilience through challenges.7. Seek Wisdom: Engage with experienced parents for insights.**The Role of Faith**Lean on biblical teachings to guide parenting decisions, emphasizing trust in God to reduce anxiety.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Define gaslighting: A psychological tactic used to manipulate someone into doubting their reality, memory, or perception.Why this matters for Christians? God calls us to walk in truth, and deception is a tool of the enemyKey Scripture: John 8:32 – “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”John 8:44 reminds us about the father of lies….You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.  Questions to think about… Have you ever felt like someone made you question your reality?How did you recognize it?Biblical Examples of Gaslighting The Serpent in the Garden (Genesis 3:1-5)How Satan gaslighted Eve by twisting God's words: “Did God really say…?”Application: Recognizing when someone distorts God's truth to control or deceive. Jacob Deceives his father Isaac to trick him in giving the first born blessing to him (Genesis 27)Application: Manipulation leads to broken trust and division. Pharaoh & the Israelites (Exodus 5:6-9)   Pharaoh increases the Israelites' labor but blames them for being lazy. Application: When leaders or people in power gaslight others to maintain control.The Pharisees and Jesus (John 9:24-34)  The Pharisees try to gaslight the healed blind man into denying his healing.  Application: When religious leaders use authority to suppress truth.Advice - Question to ask in your relationships?     Have you ever been pressured to believe a lie despite knowing the truth?     How did you respond?How Gaslighting Affects Us Spiritually and Emotionally Creates confusion and doubt (James 1:6-8 – A double-minded person is unstable.)  Destroys trust in relationships (Proverbs 12:22 – “The Lord detests lying lips.”)Leads to emotional and spiritual exhaustion (Psalm 55:21 – “His speech was smooth as butter, yet war was in his heart.”)Breaks identity and self-worth (Psalm 139:14 – “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”) Reflect: Have you ever felt emotionally or spiritually drained after interactions with a certain person?How to Respond to Gaslighting Biblically  Stand firm in God's truth (John 17:17 – “Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.”)  Set boundaries against manipulation (Matthew 7:6 – “Do not give dogs what is sacred.”)  Seek wise counsel (Proverbs 11:14 – “Where there is no guidance, people fall.”)  Pray for discernment (1 John 4:1 – “Test the spirits to see whether they are from God.”)  If needed, walk away (Luke 4:28-30 – Jesus left when people rejected the truth.)Challenge -       •   Identify one situation where you need to stand firm in truth.      •   Ask God for wisdom to set healthy boundaries.God is a God of truth, not confusion (2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind.”)      •   Share this episode with someone who may need encouragement.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Rock Solid Families •  00:35•The “Rock Solid Families” podcast episode features Bridgitte Price, an adolescent specialist and coach, and Jenna Helton, the marketing and administrative assistant.•The episode focuses on the theme of “Decluttering Your Heart and Home,” exploring the relationship between emotional and physical clutter.•Bridgitte emphasizes gratitude towards the podcast sponsors: Maxwell Construction, Casey's Outdoor Solutions, and the Hooer Ice House.The Connection Between Heart and Home•Bridgitte and Jenna discuss the correlation between emotional well-being and physical environment.•They share personal experiences of feeling overwhelmed by clutter, particularly when lacking boundaries and prioritizing tasks.Key Concepts1.Physical and Emotional Clutter:•Clutter reflects personal values, fears, and reluctance to release items.•Decluttering can lead to peace and clarity, allowing individuals to feel God's guidance.2.Reasons for Holding On:•Misplaced Priorities: The tendency to chase material possessions or status, such as keeping sentimental items from past generations (e.g., beanie babies, Precious Moments).•Busyness as a Badge: The societal expectation to be busy can interfere with meaningful time spent in prayer and self-reflection.•Emotional Clutter: Grudges, regrets, and unrealistic expectations can weigh heavily, blocking peace.•Fear Factors: Fear of lack (holding onto items “just in case”), fear of change, and fear of losing identity can prevent decluttering.3.Spiritual Reflection:•The phrase “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be” (Matthew 6:19-21) highlights the importance of introspection regarding what one values and prioritizes.Practical Steps to Declutter1.Physical Clutter:•Implement the “Three Pile Rule”: separate items into keep, donate, and trash piles.•Be prepared for a messy process before achieving a clean and organized space.•Consider the time it takes to clean: if it takes over 10-15 minutes to tidy up, it may indicate excessive clutter.2.Emotional Clutter:•Identify and confront emotional baggage, such as fears or past regrets.•Engage in prayer, journaling, and fasting from distractions to focus on spiritual growth.3.Seek Contentment:•Focus on appreciating what one already possesses rather than seeking more.•Encourage listeners to be thoughtful stewards of their resources.Advice and Encouragement•Prayer and Surrender: Ask God for help in releasing burdens that do not serve one's spiritual journey.•Allocate Time for God: By reducing clutter, individuals can create more time for prayer, journaling, and being present with God.•Take Action: Encourage listeners to take small steps toward decluttering, starting with one room or area at a time.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Are You Too Busy - Ep 312Rock Solid Families • 00:31In this episode of the Rocksolid Families Podcast, host Linda Hutchinson and her husband Merrill discuss the critical role of recreation in maintaining healthy relationships, particularly within marriages. They emphasize the necessity of having fun, relaxing, and reprioritizing life amidst the busyness that often overwhelms individuals and families.The Eight Areas of LifeThe discussion originates from a previous episode where Merrill and Linda categorized life into eight essential areas. The significance of recreation quickly emerges as a focal point, highlighting how it rejuvenates and enriches relationships. Merrill asks couples when they last had fun together, suggesting that joy is essential for a healthy relationship.Importance of Fun and Enjoyment1.Seriousness in Relationships: 2.Recreation as a Metric: 3.Self-Care and Boundaries: Unplugging from Work1.High Expectations: 2.Work-life Balance: 3.Mental and Emotional Costs: Recognizing Limits and the Need for Rest1.Signs of Overwork: 2.Personal Reflection: 3.Cultural Pressures: The Role of Faith and Spirituality1.Value Beyond Productivity: 2.Scriptural Basis: 3.Mary and Martha Analogy: Practical Takeaways1.Implementing Boundaries: 2.Seasonality of Life: 3.Resting and Refueling: ConclusionIn closing, the hosts urge listeners to take practical steps to prioritize recreation and rest in their lives. They emphasize that while work is important, it should not overshadow personal relationships or spiritual commitments. Merrill and Linda express gratitude for their community and the ongoing support they receive, and they encourage everyone to strive for balance, honoring God in their pursuits.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Grateful for our Community - Ep 311Rock Solid Families • 00:28In this episode of the Rock Solid Families Podcast, hosts Linda and Merrill Hutchinson reflect on the second annual Rock Solid Families Partnership Banquet. They express gratitude towards attendees, sponsors, and the community while discussing the mission behind Rock Solid Families, which focuses on supporting and strengthening family units.Celebrating the Banquet•Event Overview: The banquet was a success with over 300 attendees, building upon the success of the previous year. The theme of the event was “Bloom Where You're Planted,” symbolizing growth and community resilience.•Community Participation: The event showcased a diverse group of individuals from various backgrounds, including business leaders, educators, and family support organizations. The mix of attendees highlighted the united effort in advocating for strong families.Key Takeaways from the Banquet1. Community Strength2. Collaborative Efforts3. The Role of Truth and Faith4. Acknowledgment of Challenges5. A Call to ActionFuture Expansion Plans•New Location: Rock Solid Families is expanding to include a new location at the Lawrenceburg Care Resource Center, slated to open in May. This facility will be a collaborative space with other non-profits, enhancing their ability to support families.•New Staff Additions: They are hiring a male coach, Andy Dalton, to help address the needs of young men and fathers in the community. This addition aims to strengthen their outreach and support services.Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

What Part of Your Life are You Losing In? Here's How to Start Winning! Ep 310Rock Solid Families  • 00:37Summary of Rock Solid Families Podcast EpisodeHosts: Merrill Hutchinson and Linda HutchinsonEpisode Focus: Identifying and Improving the Eight Essential Areas of LifeMain Theme: The episode focuses on self-assessment of key life areas, which they categorize into eight essential areas. They encourage listeners to identify weaknesses or "squeaky wheels" in their lives that may need attention.Eight Essential Areas of LifeFinancial LifeImportance of budgeting, savings, retirement, and income satisfaction.Misconception that financial stability alone leads to happiness.Need for awareness of financial stressors affecting overall well-being.Professional life Ecompasses paid and unpaid roles, including stay-at-home parenting.Feelings of dissatisfaction can arise from monotonous work or lack of fulfillment.Importance of assessing job satisfaction to improve overall happiness.Intellectual LifeFocused on personal growth through learning and curiosity.Importance of engaging in subjects of genuine interest for enrichment.Discussion on how educational experiences can influence satisfaction levels.Recreational LifeRecreation as a source of joy and relaxation, separate from responsibilities.Need for hobbies and leisure activities to recharge.Encouragement to find personal recreation that brings joy.Physical LifeAssessment of physical health, including diet, exercise, and sleep.Recognition of how physical well-being influences emotional and spiritual health.Importance of maintaining healthy habits, especially as one ages.Emotional HealthFocus on emotional stability and regulation.Need to manage emotions effectively without being driven by feelings.Importance of forgiveness and letting go of resentment for emotional health.Relational LifeQuality of relationships can significantly impact life satisfaction.Importance of having supportive connections and assessing relationship dynamics.Need for reciprocal relationships, where care and support flow both ways.Spiritual Lifeencompasses faith, purpose, and a connection to a higher power.Importance of understanding one's purpose in life and having a relationship with God.Discussion on how spiritual health can lead to peace and fulfillment in other areas.Interconnectivity of Life AreasGoal Setting for ImprovementSMART GoalsSpecific: Clearly define what you intend to achieve (e.g., instead of "I want to exercise," say "I will walk for 30 minutes three times a week").Measurable: Establish criteria to track progress (e.g., "I will reduce my sugar intake by not purchasing sugary snacks").Achievable: Set realistic goals that can be accomplished.Relevant: Ensure goals are pertinent to the areas needing improvement.Time-Based: Set a deadline to create urgency (e.g., "I will achieve this by the end of the month").ConclusionThe episode wraps up with encouragement for listeners to actively engage with their self-assessment and goal-setting processes. Matthew 6:33 Seek God first.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Latest Suicide Statistics:According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), suicide remains a significant public health issue in the United States.   In 2022, there were over 49,000 suicide deaths in the U.S.   It is also important to note that suicide is a leading cause of death for young people.Gender Disparities:Significantly Higher Rates in Males:Age Trends:Males:For males, the highest suicide rates are typically seen in older age groups, particularly those aged 75 and older.There has been an increase in male suicide rates for those in the 25-44, and 65 and older age groups.Females:For females, the highest suicide rates are often observed in middle age, particularly those aged 45-64.From 2020 to 2022, there has been an increase in female suicide rates for those 25 and older.Youth:It is important to note that even though the rates are lower, the percentage increase of suicide in the 10-14 year old female demographic, has been the largest percentage increase out of all female demographics, from 2001 to 2021.Common Reasons Why People Attempt or Commit Suicide1. Overwhelming Emotional Pain and Hopelessness:Escape from Unbearable Suffering:2. Mental Health Conditions:Depression:Major depressive disorder is strongly linked to suicide. Other Mental Disorders:Conditions like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and personality disorders also increase suicide risk.Substance Abuse:Drug and alcohol use can impair judgment, increase impulsivity, and exacerbate underlying mental health problems, contributing to suicide attempts.3. Stressful Life Circumstances:Interpersonal Problems:Financial Difficulties:Job loss, debt, and financial instability can create overwhelming stress.Trauma and Abuse:Experiences of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can have lasting psychological effects and increase suicide risk.Social Isolation:Loneliness, and a lack of feeling connected to other people, can be a large contributing factor.4. Impulsivity:Advice - Identifying the Signs:Recognizing the warning signs of suicidal thoughts is crucial. These signs may include:Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves.Looking for ways to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun.Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.Talking about being a burden to others.Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.   Withdrawing from friends, family, and activities.Sleeping too much or too little.Giving away prized possessions.Displaying extreme mood swings.Here are some best practices:Be Present and Listen: Show God's Love: Encourage Professional Help: Pray: Share Hope: Connect them to Church Community: Remember that God is in control: Even in the darkest times, God is still in control. Key Resources:The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): nami.orgYour local emergency room. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Girl Power Half Hour - Anxiety and Your Child - Ep 308Rock Solid Families • 0.0 views • 00:44Executive Summary of the Rock Solid Families Podcast EpisodeOverviewIn this episode of the Rock Solid Families Podcast titled “Girl Power Half Hour,” host Linda Hutchinson, alongside co-hosts Bridgitte Price and Jenna Helton, discusses the pressing topic of parenting children with anxiety. The conversation is rooted in a faith-based perspective, providing insights and actionable advice for parents navigating the challenges of raising anxious children.Key Points1.Understanding Anxiety in Children:•The hosts share personal anecdotes about their experiences with anxious children, emphasizing that anxiety is a natural response to various stressors such as transitions (new schools, family dynamics, etc.).•The discussion highlights how children's understanding of their emotions is still developing, particularly in young children whose brains are not fully formed.2.Parenting Strategies:•Avoiding Extremes: Parents are encouraged to avoid overreacting to their child's anxiety. This includes not allowing anxiety to dictate their child's actions, such as skipping school or canceling activities.•Healthy Relationships: The importance of modeling healthy relationships and community support is stressed. Parents should demonstrate how to manage anxiety positively and seek support from trusted individuals.3.Coping Techniques:•The hosts recommend practical coping strategies, such as prayer, affirmations, and mindfulness techniques like box breathing to help children manage anxiety.•Encouraging children to articulate their feelings and identifying their emotions beyond just anxiety can provide deeper insights into their struggles.4.The Role of Technology:•The impact of technology and social media on children's mental health is discussed, emphasizing that excessive screen time can exacerbate anxiety. Parents should be mindful of their child's technology use and promote healthy alternatives.5.Collaboration with Schools:•Parents are advised to partner with educators and school authorities to create a supportive environment for anxious children. This includes open communication with teachers to address specific concerns and finding solutions together.6.Resources for Parents:•The hosts recommend several resources, including the book The Anxious Generation, and various faith-based materials that can aid in understanding and addressing anxiety.ConclusionThe episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for parents dealing with anxious children. By fostering open communication, practicing healthy coping strategies, and collaborating with educational institutions, parents can better support their children in navigating anxiety. The importance of grounding these practices in faith and community support is emphasized as essential for building resilience in children.For more information and resources, go to https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Do You Have A Soulmate?What Does the World Say vs. What Does the Bible Say? Cultural PerspectiveMovies, books, and pop culture promote the idea of "the one."The idea that happiness is found in finding a perfect match..Biblical PerspectiveThe Bible does not explicitly mention "soulmates" in the modern romantic sense.God's plan focuses more on covenant love, commitment, and choosing to love rather than a fated "perfect match."Scripture: Genesis 2:18 – "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (God provides a partner, but not a predestined “one and only.”)God's Role in Relationships – Divine Guidance vs. Destiny God's Sovereignty in Choosing a SpouseGod gives wisdom and guidance rather than a rigid blueprint.Marriage is a Covenant, Not Just a Cosmic ConnectionMarriage is a commitment that requires work, not just a magical connection.When that covenant is broken…then what?  It's a myth that there is only ONE partner for you out there. What happens if they leave you or die? The bible is clear that you are free to marry again if your spouse dies.  If you adhere to this idea of ONE soul mate then you could never marry again or find love again? God may have other good plans for your life involving someone else. How to Approach Relationships Biblically Seek God's Wisdom and Pray for GuidanceJames 1:5 – " If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (Don't leave God out of the search)Look for Biblical Compatibility, Not Just Chemistry2 Corinthians 6:14 – "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers..." (Spiritual compatibility matters.)Commitment Over FeelingsLove is a DECISION NOT A FEELING AND is built through commitment, service, and sacrifice, not just finding a “perfect match.”1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, kind, and enduring, not based on feelings alone.Segment 4: Encouragement for Singles & Married Couples For Singles:Focus on becoming the right person, not just finding the right person.Trust God's timing and plan.Don't seek someone that you can't live without or is dependent on you. That's not healthy.Not Dependent. Not Independent. But instead Interdependent. Interdependence means sharing your feelings and needs with a partner without fearing the relationship will end. Successful relationships are built on a solid foundation of safety in which our needs for security, trust, reliability, and nurturance are metPsalm 37:4- Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.Matthew 6:33 – But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.For Married Couples:Invest in your relationship daily—love grows through intentional effort.Lean on God for strength during tough seasons.Ecclesiastes 4:12 – "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (God strengthens marriages.)https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Got Values Ep 306Rock Solid Families  • 00:34Podcast Introduction00:00 Welcome to the Rock Solid Families podcast with Linda Hutson and her husband Merl. They discuss their recent illnesses and the importance of rhythm in family life.Establishing Family Values00:54 Today's episode focuses on establishing family values. Linda and Merrill emphasize that many people assume everyone shares the same values, which is often not true. They stress the need for families to define what they stand for.Parenting Series Announcement02:12 The couple notes they are conducting a four-week parenting series at Batesville Intermediate School. This week's topic is value-centered parenting, alongside a marriage retreat discussing foundational values for families.Importance of Vision05:01 They reference Proverbs 29:18, stating that without vision, families can fall apart. Establishing a clear destination and the means to reach it is essential for family unity and success.The Impact of Division06:25 Merrill highlights that a divided household creates chaos and confusion. Children need clarity in family values to avoid anxiety and emotional turmoil that can arise from conflicting messages.The Role of Faith11:52 Linda discusses the importance of faith in their family values, emphasizing that parents should communicate this clearly to ensure children understand the principles guiding their household.Communication Among Adults12:18 The couple encourages couples to openly discuss and document their shared values. This process is essential for aligning family goals and expectations, especially when integrating new children into the family.Modeling Values for Children13:45 Linda shares an experience about instilling respect and peacemaking in their home. They stress that parents must model the values they wish to teach.Building Core Values15:39 The discussion shifts to core values like honesty and integrity. These values should be actively taught and modeled in family life to foster trust and accountability among family members.Teaching Justice and Consequences22:52 They also address the importance of understanding justice and consequences in decision-making. Parents should help children recognize the costs associated with their choices.Encouragement for Reset31:01 Linda and Merrill conclude by encouraging parents to take the time to hit the reset on their family values.  If families need help, they are available to work them through the process. Call 812-576-7625https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

FAMILIES ROCK Parenting SeriesThese four critical areas are what we know will impact your family more than anything else you are doing.  If you get them right, your family will prosper.  If you fumble through them or simply don't understand them, your family will likely suffer.  Todays's show is a glimpse into our Families Rock Parenting Series that we have been offering and teaching for years.  We have taken all of our experience and joined it with the best researched practices to give you an easy to understand and apply process.  Session 1-Navigating Emotions at Home This session uncovers how the emotions of parents and children impact the parent/child relationship. We will equip parents with effective strategies for healthy emotional regulation and support of child and parent. We will be talking about how to bring down the emotional temperature in the home by shifting from REACTING to RESPONDING as parents. Session 2-Value Based Parenting- In this session, we describe the different seasons of parenting and our role as parents in each one. We talk about the different ineffective styles of parenting we see today and unpack the healthiest and most effective style of parenting we've seen in our 35 yrs working with families. We talk about why being a united front is so important and the CORE critical developmental assets/values parents can model and emphasize at home. Session 3-Healthy Relationships-Children often model what they see at home which is why we use this session to teach the personal boundaries behind healthy relationships. We give parents a very practical word picture to take home and teach to their children. We'll be taking the plan we built in Session 2 and creating a foundation for healthy relationships and a strong and healthy home.Session 4-Parenting in a Tech Heavy World- This session helps to bring awareness about our digital world today and the hidden dangers of excessive screen time.  We give practical tools and research-supported recommendations on what parents can do to create a healthy technology balance in the home. For more information contact our office at 812-576-7625 (ROCK)https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Do Your Kids Know Your Soft Spot? Ep 321Rock Solid Families • 0.0 views • 00:36Key Takeaways from the Rock Solid Families PodcastEpisode Overview•Hosts: Jenna Halton and Bridget Price discuss parenting challenges, specifically around not giving in to children's pleas and emotional manipulation.•Focus: Sharing personal stories and offering advice on establishing boundaries with children.Main Topics Covered1. Common Parenting Struggles•Parents often face challenges when children use emotional pleas (like “puppy dog eyes”) to negotiate or push boundaries.•Personal anecdotes highlight situations where children try to extend bedtime routines or negotiate snacks.2. Importance of Boundaries•Setting clear, consistent boundaries is crucial for healthy child development.•Teaching children about consequences of their actions helps them learn responsibility.3. Four Laws of Boundaries•Law of Sowing and Reaping: Actions have consequences; children need to face the outcome of their choices.•Law of Proactivity: Set boundaries before problems arise to create a predictable environment.•Law of Activity: Follow through with established boundaries and consequences.•Law of Exposure: Communicate boundaries clearly to everyone involved in the child's upbringing.4. Actionable Steps for Parents•Communicate: Have discussions with your spouse and children about boundaries and expectations.•Apologize for Past Mistakes: If previous boundaries were unclear, acknowledge that and set new expectations.•Family Meetings: Hold discussions to involve children in the boundary-setting process and gather their input.•Stick to Your Words: Enforce the boundaries consistently, even when it's challenging.5. Research Support•Cited research indicates that children who understand boundaries are more likely to thrive academically and socially.Conclusion•The episode emphasizes the importance of maintaining consistent boundaries and how doing so can positively impact family dynamics. The hosts encourage parents to actively engage in setting and enforcing these boundaries for the well-being of their children.Sponsors•Thanks to sponsors: Maxwell Construction, Casey's Outdoor Solutions, and Hoer Ice House for supporting the podcast.Overall, the podcast serves as a relatable discussion for parents looking for guidance on effective parenting strategies and the importance of boundaries in family life.Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Outside of family, friends are likely to be your most important relationships you will ever have outside of God. We are not made to go it alone.  Lone Wolves don't last long. But, developing your wolf - pack is not something to be taken lightly. Even though the desire for friendship is innate, the manner by which we go about it is learned and practiced. Proverbs 22:24-25: "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered" Advice - Proverbs 12:26: "The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray" Value Based Friendships vs Interest Based Friendships       Hanging around the kids on the soccer team because we all play soccer       Hanging around kids that are respectful and nice       Hanging around kids on the soccer team that are respectful and niceYour child has to know their values - they will naturally know their interests.Have you been intentionally teaching the values of your home?Can your child tell you what the values of your home are?How have you been demonstrating and reinforcing the family values?  Teaching your child to discern, not judge1 Corinthians 15:33: "Bad company corrupts good character" Encourage Inclusivity-teaching them to be kind and respectful to all kinds of people.Model Healthy Relationships: Demonstrate respect, kindness, and conflict resolution in your own relationships.Teaching boundaries that honor the family values and protect the people living for the values. As the parent you can discuss the boundaries that you have placed in your own life in order to protect and live by a certain boundary.Place boundaries on your kids if they are not following the family values when it comes to choosing friends. “Sorry, but you can't play with that child because he behaves rudely.”Know your kid's friends and their families        We don't just assume that everyone's value system is like ours.  Meet the families and friends         of your child. Encourage Communication: Keep an open line of dialogue so your child feels safe sharing concerns about friends.         The teenage years take on a different look.          You will not be able to monitor every single interaction that your teenager has with another         person, and you shouldn't.You want to allow your teen to start to test their own skills and strength in building friends.  When they violate your family values, they should know that there will be consequences.  As long as they are under your roof, your values must be respected and honored.  Proverbs 13:20: "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm" For more information or help, reach out to https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Study Notes: “Do You Want to Get Well? Ep 319 - Rock Solid Families Podcast”Main Ideas•Victimhood in Society: Discussion on how victim mentality is prevalent and can be harmful to individuals and families.•Impact on Relationships: Highlighting how adopting a victim mentality can affect marriages and personal relationships.•Excuses vs. Accountability: Emphasizing that making excuses prevents healing and personal growth.Key Concepts•Victim Mentality: A mindset where individuals feel wronged or oppressed, leading to a cycle of blame and inaction.•Healing and Change: The importance of wanting to get well and actively participating in one's healing journey.•Obedience and Action: Transformation requires obedience to do the necessary work for change.Important Terms•Excuses: Justifications for inaction that often stem from a lack of ownership over one's situation.•Rock Bottom: A personal threshold when someone decides they can no longer tolerate their circumstances and seeks change.•Fruit of the Spirit: Qualities (like self-control) that believers should exhibit, which help in overcoming negative behaviors.Summary of Complex Concepts•The Pool of Bethesda: A biblical story where Jesus asks a lame man if he wants to get well. This illustrates the challenge of accepting help and taking action towards healing.•Key Question: “Do you want to get well?” – Reflects that healing starts with a desire to change.•Moving Past Excuses: It's important to recognize that conditions will never be perfect for making changes; one must take initiative despite the circumstances.Examples•Personal Confessions: The hosts discuss their struggles with food as a source of comfort and how they are working to change that behavior.•Community Influence: Surrounding oneself with supportive individuals who challenge victimhood rather than enabling it.Action Steps1.Identify Your Mat: Understand what burdens you carry that prevent your growth (e.g., unhealthy habits, toxic relationships).2.Embrace Change: Take the first step towards healing by acknowledging your issues and seeking accountability.3.Surround Yourself with Truth: Engage with people who provide honest feedback and push you toward positive action.Conclusion•The podcast encourages listeners to reflect on their lives, own their challenges, and take actionable steps towards healing and improvement. The overarching message is about empowerment and the choice to move forward rather than remain in victimhood.Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Background - Where did this topic come from. It started with conviction. God has really been laying on my heart the need to do a better job of listeningJames 1: 19 19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. I confess…I need to be better at this. You know this…I don't like the silence. I will quickly fill it with my words. Not a great quality for a pastoral counselor/life coach. I am also way too impatience when I am listening to others. It's like I want to speed up their thought and finish their sentence for them if they are struggling. Again….not a good quality for a counselor or coach. But I don't think I'm alone in this. God's been showing me how poorly we as believers are doing in truly listening to others. We're not taking the time to truly listen.So we want to help those who may be listening today how to take time to listen…to God and to others.Acknowledge the Need for a Listening Heart.Be Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak: James 1:19 emphasizes the importance of actively listening before responding. This applies both to hearing from God and engaging with others.  Pray for Discernment: Ask God to open your spiritual ears and grant wisdom in understanding His voice and the needs of those around you.Create Space to Hear His Voice: Regular quiet time allows you to tune out distractions and better hear God's gentle promptings (Psalm 46:10). Be still and Know that I am God.Sit in the Silence: Practice not saying the next words, at least for a while.  It's not about not talking at all, it's more about letting the thoughts of the other person be spoken without your immediate response.  No Need to Share Your Story: Sit in their story and resist the desire to tell your similar or related story.  Ex. they tell a story about their troubled teen and you immediately are triggered about your own troubled teen and want to share your story.  Keep the focus on their story.  Listen with Empathy and Compassion Seek to Understand: Try to see things from the other person's perspective. Ask clarifying questions and show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings.Hebrews 10:24-25- And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.Offer Support and Encouragement: Let your words and actions reflect Christ's love and compassion 1 Thess 5:11. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.Practice Active Listening: Avoid Clinical or Analytical Speak: Listen for God's Word in Scripture and Daily Life (Psalm 119:105)Regular Bible Study: Seek God in All Things: Put Your Faith into Action: True listening involves responding to what you hear from God and others.Be Obedient to God's Will: Seek to align your life with God's plan and purpose (Romans 12:1-2).Serve Others with Humility: Use your listening skills to minister to the needs of those around you (Galatians 5:13).Avoid Giving Unsolicited Advice:  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

The girls, Jenna, Bridgitte, and Linda, take on the topic of "Word of the Year".  Each of them discussed the importance of  being intentional about how you are going to look forward to the new year.  With this intentionality, describe it with are single word.  The Word of the Year has many different purposes.  It helps us to stay focused. It helps us to look forward and actively develop an optimistic mindset. Among other things, it encourages us to invite God into our lives.  We know that we will fall short of attaining these words if we set them high enough. But, that reminds us to lean on God to create a way. Listen in to hear the ladies converse to develop their word and how the plan to actually live this word in the new year. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Hopelessness is no laughing matter.  When we hear such words we know that people are in a potentially dangerous place.  They are giving up.  Such words as "suicide", "not worth it anymore", and "i'm finished", are some of the trembling phases that catch our attention.  This is why HOPE is so important.Hope is the fuel that gets us out of bed every single day.  Hope is the positive anticipation that something can be better.  But, hope does not stand alone.  Hope must be founded on something even greater, FAITH!  Faith is the foundation on which hope stands. So the question is, what is your faith based on?  When we base our faith on such feeble and fickle things such as ourselves or even our best friends, it's not long until we are disappointed.  We all fall short! Rather, when we place our faith in something that is all-knowing, all-powerful, all-loving, we can have a HOPE that surpasses all human understanding.  There is only one such thing and that is GOD!  When we put our faith in God and learn to trust His ways over ours, amazing things happen.  Peace, Contentment, Love, and Care are just the tip of the iceberg.  Is it time to rethink what you are placing your faith in ? https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Tune in as Linda and Merrill take on common questions presented by parents.  Raising kids in today's world comes with a hosts of challenges; peer pressure, homework struggles, identity crisis, and bad attitudes are just the tip of the iceberg.  While there is often no one exactly correct answer, there are many basic guidelines to help us through parenting questons.Building your house on a firm foundation of values is the beginning. Too often parents make assumptions that they are sharing the same values for their children. But, when tested, they discover that they may not actually be on the same page.  Establish your family values and make it loud and clear to everyone in the family that these values do not change based on mood or circumstances.   Establishing and maintaining the authority in the home is of next importance.   Children are not equipped to lead the home even though they may think they are. Setting clear boundaries, expectations, and consequences are essential in helping the family navigate the child rearing days.  Avoid  arguing, negotiating, or wavering on the enforcement of expectations and consequences.  Your kids may push back, but your steadfast commitment to the way forward is of utmost importance. Seek a healthy understanding and balance between raising your kids in truth and grace.  Yes, we all want our kids to know and follow the truth, but we also no that no one besides Christ has been able to do this.  So, when they fall short, bless them with the same grace that Christ extends to all of us. https://rocksolidfamilies.org Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Just like your teacher always encouraged you to ask questions because probably someone else in the class had the same question. We do the same thing at Rock Solid Families.  This episode deals with several of the many questions that people have concerning their marriage.  Check them out and see which ones hit close to home for you. Communication and Conflict***Riley: "We've been arguing about the same things for months now. We just go around in circles. What are some effective communication strategies to break this pattern?"***Noah: "I feel like I'm always the one making sacrifices, whether it's my career or my hobbies. Is it fair to expect my partner to meet me halfway?"Intimacy and Emotional Connection***Olivia: "We've been married for 10 years, and I feel like we're drifting apart emotionally. How can we deepen our emotional connection?"***Liam: "With both of us working full-time jobs and raising two kids, we're always so busy. How can we prioritize quality time for each other?"Stress and Life Changes***Charlotte: "Since I started my new job, I've been feeling overwhelmed and stressed. It's affecting our relationship. How can we better balance our work and home lives?"***Mia: "My partner's family is always interfering in our decisions, and it's driving me crazy. How can we set healthy boundaries?"Personal Growth and Individuality***Noah: "I still have feelings for an ex, and it's bothering me. How can I let go of the past and move forward?"***Ella: "My partner's constant criticism is making me feel insecure. How can I boost my self-esteem?"Send us your questions.  Go to: https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Background - We first want to say that we do not want to minimize anyone's problems or challenges.  They are real, and they can be difficult.  The other thing to keep in mind is that no matter who you are, no one escapes the challenges of life.  Rich, poor, black, white, urban, rural, Christian, atheist, it doesn't matter, we all have problems. Having problems reveals a deeper side of ourselves that many of us would like to keep hidden. Problems actually can have benefits. In the moment they may seem overwhelmingly painful, but over time we often can see good on the other side. Advice - Recognize and accept that mankind lives in a fallen world where God has allowed bad things to happen.  He allows us free will and we can and have rejected His ways.  Therefore, we have separated ourselves from him and for that we will suffer the natural consequences.  Disease, selfishness, broken relationships, greed, war, etc…Ask the right questions when you're in a bad time.  Not, “Why me?”, but rather, “What can I learn from this?”, “What is my part in this?”, “What can I do about this?”Problems can trigger us into victimhood or empowerment, we decide!1 Timothy 6:12 “Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.”Problems offer us a great opportunity to get closer to God and rest on him. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17 "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances..." “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” Problems can be handled intentionally or not.  When handled with intention we become more in tune with our resourcefulness, our need for others, our human weaknesses, our strength of faith, and our ability to persevere. Psalm 9:9 “The LORD is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O LORD, have not forsaken those who seek you.”Problems actually make us stronger - “whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger”Problems can and should help us to understand that God wants our heart!Psalm 55:22 “Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.”Undoubtedly, we can all share our stories of hardship.  But no matter the story, we are called and encouraged to seek and honor God.  The pain we suffer on this earth will be erased and replaced with pure joy in heaven.  This is the motivation to have hope and look to the future.  Without this hope, our problems are truly life ending. Challenge - Take some time this week to actively think about your blessings.  Certain people, faith, opportunities, health, wealth, home, whatever it is that you consider a blessing, take time to focus on those things and practice having gratitude in the storms. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

These days there are many things trying to tell us who we should be and how we are to act.  The truth is, most of it is not even close to what God has called us to be.  In this special episode of Girl Power Hour, Jenna, Bridgitte and Linda take on the messaging of the world as it relates to today's young moms.  Trying to raise  children, balance a career, and still be a good wife are not simple tasks. On top of all of this, we have what seems everyone on planet earth trying to armchair quarterback the best way to do these things.  At some point in time we must called it what it is, INSANITY!  Trying to do what the world tells us we should do is a sure fire way lose who you are as a person and child of God. Listen in to our conversation and hear our struggles and how we attempt to reprioritize in be the person God wants us to be. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Do you find yourself saving your kids from adversity and challenge?  Do you spend excessive amounts of time fighting your kid's battles?  If so, you may very well be a snow plowing parent.  There are a number of different parenting styles but in the last decade one that has grown in use has been called the Snow Plowing Parent, or sometimes called, Bulldozing Parent. Either way, it is expressing the idea that the parent is attempting to clear a pathway for their kids to make the route as easy as possible for the kids.  While this typically comes with the best of intentions, we have seen it backfire on us and create much bigger problems than we initially were attempting to solve. As much as we don't like it, stress and pressure are part of life and actually turn out to be a good part of life when taken in healthy doses.  Stresses make us stronger and more capable over the long haul due to teaching us how to handle and adapt to the stress loads that life will be throwing at us. Think about a tree that grows in a dense forest.  Then cut away all the trees in the forest except for the single tree.  Initially is looks so tall and beautiful standing on its own, but then the first big wind comes only to uproot it and topple it to the ground.  Why?  The tree simply did not built the strength in the root system, branches, and even wood to sustain these kinds of outer forces.  In order for a tree to handle such stresses it should grow in an area where winds push to create a response of strengthening from the tree; more roots, lower branches, more dense wood.  Check out this week's show to see how you can catch your snowplowing parenting and make adjustments to equip your kids for the best opportunities. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

We have a saying and expectation at our house.  "Our house is a house of peace".  We didn't realize this until we adopted our younger kids and we began to see the chaos that was draining all of us.  As we struggled to understand what happened to our peace, we realized just how important peace is in the house.  Peace is necessary in order for people to rest and replenish their energy stores to go out and live another day in this crazy world. The Ripple Effects of a Life Without PeaceWhen peace is absent from our lives, it creates a ripple effect, impacting every aspect of our being. Our physical health can deteriorate as stress hormones surge, leading to ailments like insomnia, headaches, and weakened immunity. Our mental clarity is clouded, making it difficult to concentrate, learn, and make sound decisions. Emotionally, we become more prone to anxiety, depression, and irritability, straining our relationships with others. Spiritually, we may feel disconnected from a higher power, leading to a sense of emptiness and a loss of purpose.The Disruptors of PeaceSeveral factors contribute to the disruption of peace in our lives. Financial worries, relationship conflicts, career pressures, and societal unrest can all create significant stress and anxiety. Fear of the unknown, unresolved past traumas, and negative self-talk further erode our sense of inner calm. However, the root cause of these disruptions often lies in a lack of connection with the true source of peace – Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace.Reclaiming Peace: 7 Practical StepsTo restore peace to our lives, we must turn to the ultimate source of tranquility. Here are seven practical steps to help us reconnect with Jesus and experience His peace:Seek Solitude: Spend time alone with God in prayer and meditation. This allows us to quiet our minds and listen to His voice.Embrace Scripture: Regularly read and meditate on God's Word. The Bible offers wisdom, comfort, and guidance that can bring peace to our hearts and minds.Practice Gratitude: Focus on the blessings in our lives, no matter how small. Gratitude shifts our perspective and fosters a sense of contentment.Forgive Freely: Let go of resentment and bitterness. Forgiveness frees us from the burdens of the past and opens the door to healing and peace.Serve Others: Helping others takes the focus off our own problems and brings joy and fulfillment.Cultivate Healthy Habits: Prioritize sleep, nutrition, and exercise. These practices contribute to overall well-being and mental clarity.Trust in God's Sovereignty: Surrender our worries and anxieties to God, trusting that He is in control. This releases us from the burden of trying to manage everything ourselves.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Anyone that has ever been a parent knows that parenting can be challenging.  Sometimes half the battle is between the parents and not the kids.  But, if we want to make it even more challenging, add a divorce or separation into the picture.  Yes, now parenting goes to a new level of challenging.  We often see what is called Parental Alienation between parents and their kids.  One parent intentionally or not, making it more difficult for the other parent to be involved in their kid's life.  This can be blatantly obvious or even more subtle.  The problem is that it causes damages to all the parties involved.  Nobody wins when this tactic is used.  Cooperation and unity are the keys to successful parenting whether divorced or not.  Having both adults in the child's life coming to common values and expectations and then enforcing them when under the care of either parent.  This alleviates the confusion and the process of raising the child is more clear on everyone's part.  Co-Parenting After Divorce: Strategies for SuccessEphesians 4:3 -  Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.Divorce can be a challenging experience for any family, but it can be especially difficult when co-parenting arrangements are involved. When two adults are not able to communicate effectively or work together amicably, the situation can become even more complex. However, there are several strategies that can help co-parents navigate these challenges and create a positive environment for their children.One of the most effective strategies for co-parenting after divorce is to prioritize the needs of the children. This means putting aside personal differences and focusing on what is best for the children's well-being. Research has shown that children of divorced parents who have a positive relationship with both parents tend to have better emotional and social outcomes (Pruett & Pruett, 2009).Another important strategy is to establish clear and consistent communication channels. This can be done through regular meetings, emails, or phone calls. It is important to maintain a respectful and professional tone, even when disagreements arise. Open and honest communication can help to minimize misunderstandings and resolve conflicts more effectively. When conflict is high, most courts recommend a safe and effective communication tool, Our Family Wizard, to communicate necessary messages.  The messages are saved and visible to the courts. This helps to keep everyone accountable with our messaging. It is also crucial to develop a parenting plan that outlines the specific details of custody, visitation, and decision-making responsibilities. This plan should be clear, concise, and legally binding. It is important to seek legal advice to ensure that the plan is fair and enforceable.In addition to these strategies, co-parents may also benefit from seeking professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and support in developing effective communication skills and resolving conflicts. They can also help to address any underlying emotional issues that may be impacting the co-parenting relationship.If you need help in this area please contact us at https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Time for the ladies to put their spin on things.  Jenna, Bridgitte, and Linda are putting together a new program that will run once a month called, Girl Power.  The show will take the view of these three ladies on the many tasks of being a woman, mom, and wife in today's world.  This show promises to be informative, fun, and honoring of the people they so diligently serve. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Contrary to what you may hear from feminist, the majority of women that we work with in our office desire a good man in their lives. When asked what women are looking for here are some general answers and themes that we see in our office as well as what we read in the research. Empathy and understandingOpen and honest communicationShared values and goalsMutual respectShared responsibilitiesEquality in decision-makingIntellectual stimulationShared interests and hobbiesReliability and DependabilityTrustworthinessCommitmentFinancial stabilityLeadership and Confidence Direction and VisionSolid Values and Morals Commitment to Leading the Family WellThe challenge is that these men are harder and harder to find.  Women often find themselves settling or simply going without a man even though they desire a good man. There are many reasons that women are having a harder time finding the man of their dreams, but a few that we see and the research supports are:Lacking Maturity - we know that now more than ever we have men that are slower to get their driver's licenses, go to college or trade school, move out of their parents' house, or embark on a career. Lacking Motivation - We know that more than ever, young men are addicted to video games that steal hours of their days as they become over-stimulated by a false world.  This results in young men that are excited or motivated by the slower paced “wins” of real life and thus lose interest and motivation to do real life. Lacking Fathers - Possibly the largest contributor to the stunted growth of our young men is the simple fact that they lacked a father that challenged and encouraged them to actually become a man.  They make statements like; “I never had anyone show me how to do that”Lacking Identity - The mixing of roles and responsibilities has driven women to do even more, while it has confused men with recognizing their gifts and what they can bring to the relationship.Lacking Moral and Spiritual Compass - God's Word is very clear on what his design is for men, but if you don't know or believe in God's Word, you have lost an opportunity to learn and receive an upbringing that gives you a clear vision of what it is to be a man. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

The topic of Love and Respect is one we have covered before.  But this time we are approaching it from two very different perspectives; husbands then wives.  Understanding what love and respect means to each other is like learning an entirely new language.  Things you thought you understood come back to only cause more confusion and conflict.  Emerson Eggerich, author or Love and Respect, explains that the two languages are not necessarily right or wrong, just different.  The  key to success in the relationship is then understanding the language differences and how to interpret better.  In part 1 we covered the topic from the man's perspective.  How he interprets the language of love and respect and how the ladies can do better to understand his language. In part 2 we covered the topic from the woman's perspective.  Her interpretation of love and respect is different than the man's but no better or worse. https://rocksolidfamilies.org Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

The topic of Love and Respect is one we have covered before.  But this time we are approaching it from two very different perspectives; husbands then wives.  Understanding what love and respect means to each other is like learning an entirely new language.  Things you thought you understood come back to only cause more confusion and conflict.  Emerson Eggerich, author or Love and Respect, explains that the two languages are not necessarily right or wrong, just different.  The  key to success in the relationship is then understanding the language differences and how to interpret better.  In part 1 we covered the topic from the man's perspective.  How he interprets the language of love and respect and how the ladies can do better to understand his language. In part 2 we covered the topic from the woman's perspective.  Her interpretation of love and respect is different than the man's but no better or worse. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

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Spiritual warfare is a reality that families, particularly those who hold strong Christian beliefs, often face. Understanding spiritual warfare and recognizing how it manifests can help families confront these attacks and fortify themselves spiritually.Ways We See Spiritual Attacks on the FamilyDivision and Conflict: One of the primary tactics in spiritual warfare is to sow seeds of discord within the family. Misunderstandings, arguments, and grudges can fracture relationships. Distraction from Spiritual Priorities: Families can be overwhelmed by hectic schedules, technology, entertainment, and material pursuits. Negative Influences: Spiritual attacks may come through media, friendships, or cultural pressures that promote values contrary to biblical teachings. Mental and Emotional Health Struggles: Spiritual warfare often manifests in the form of anxiety, depression, fear, or feelings of inadequacy. Attacks on Marriages: Marriage is a key target in spiritual warfare because it forms the foundation of the family. Problems such as infidelity, lack of communication, resentment, and selfishness can cause deep rifts in marriage. Challenges in Parenting: Raising children in a godly manner faces opposition through societal influences, peer pressure, and ideologies that contradict biblical values. Advice - Confronting and Dealing with Spiritual AttacksPrayer and Fasting: Prayer is the frontline defense against spiritual warfare. Families should develop a habit of regular, intentional prayer, both individually and as a unit. Daily Bible Reading and Study: Scripture is a powerful weapon in spiritual warfare. Ephesians 6:17 describes the Word of God as "the sword of the Spirit." Wearing the Full Armor of God: Ephesians 6:10-18 outlines the "armor of God" that believers must wear to stand firm against the enemy's schemes. This includes the belt of truth, breastplate of righteousness, shield of faith, helmet of salvation, and sword of the Spirit. Forgiveness and Reconciliation: Families must actively work on resolving conflicts and practicing forgiveness. Guarding the Mind: Proverbs 4:23 advises, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Families should be cautious of what they allow into their minds through media, relationships, and activities. Building a Supportive Christian Community: Engaging with a church community provides spiritual support and accountability. Regular Worship and Sacraments: Participating in regular worship and sacraments, such as Communion, keeps the family connected to God's grace and reminds them of His power over darkness. Encouraging Open Communication: Parents should foster an environment where children feel comfortable discussing their fears, doubts, and questions about faith. strategies to counter them, families can protect their unity and spiritual health. As Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, "Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world." In Christ, families have the power to overcome these forces and live in victory.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Matthew 12:25 But Jesus knew their thoughts, and said to them: "Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand.True wisdom is timeless.  Whether it was the time of Christ walking the earth or today, the wisdom holds true.  Short of the civil war era, our country has not experienced such divide.  Politics, religion, economics, education, and journalism just to name a few, have driven a great wedge between us.  One of the many results we are witnessing is the sheer lack of civility towards each other.  Whether we agree or disagree with each other's ideas, as Christians we are all called to treat each other with respect.  Many believe they only need to treat others with respect when they are earning respect.  This is not of the Bible.  The Bible tells us we are to respect all individuals.  Every person has equal value and worth in the eyes of God.  For us to disrespect a person places us in a position of judgement against them.   We are not called to judge the person.  On the other hand, we are not being asked to respect the actions of others. This is where we get confused.  We don't like the behavior or actions of someone and we immediately place them as something less than us as a person.  This is a dangerous thing for us to not understand.  We have all heard the phrase, 'love the sinner, hate the sin', this is what this idea is about.  Several years ago a popular slogan began its way around the country.  On its surface it seemed to be innocent and even make sense.  The reality is that it has backfired.  "Celebrate Diversity".  This slogan has not brought us together but driven us apart.  The slogan we must get back to is grounded in who we are as humans.  "Celebrate Similarity, Respect Diversity". When you hear name calling and assault on entire sectors of people, your radar should go off.  This is not the person you want to be following.  This person is simply not being civil or respectful to others.  It doesn't matter their political view, if they are disrespectful, beware! https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Parenting Styles and Their ImpactParenting styles are the approaches parents take to raise their children. These styles can significantly influence a child's development, behavior, and self-esteem. Here are six common parenting styles, with examples and a discussion of their effectiveness:1. Permissive ParentingDescription: Parents are very lenient, allowing their children to make their own decisions and setting few limits.Example: Parents let their child stay up as late as they want, eat whatever they desire, and have little to no rules.Impact: Children raised by permissive parents may struggle with self-control, decision-making, and responsibility. They may also become more prone to substance abuse and risky behaviors.2. Neglectful ParentingDescription: Parents are uninvolved and provide little emotional or practical support.Example: Parents are often absent or preoccupied, showing little interest in their child's life.Impact: Children raised by neglectful parents may experience low self-esteem, emotional problems, and behavioral issues. They may also struggle with academic performance and social relationships.3. Gentle ParentingDescription: Parents focus on creating a loving and supportive environment, emphasizing positive discipline and communication.Example: Parents use gentle discipline techniques, such as natural consequences and positive reinforcement, to guide their child's behavior.Impact: Children raised by gentle parents often develop strong self-esteem, empathy, and social skills. They are also more likely to be cooperative and well-adjusted.4. Guilty ParentingDescription: Parents feel excessive guilt and often overcompensate by being overly permissive or indulgent.Example: Parents feel guilty about working long hours and try to make up for it by buying their child expensive gifts or allowing them to have unlimited screen time.Impact: Children raised by guilty parents may struggle with boundaries and expectations. They may also develop a sense of entitlement and become less resilient to challenges.5. Authoritarian ParentingDescription: Parents are strict, demanding obedience, and using punishment as a primary form of discipline.Example: Parents set rigid rules, expect unquestioning obedience, and use harsh punishments for disobedience.Impact: Children raised by authoritarian parents may become rebellious, withdrawn, or aggressive. They may also struggle with self-esteem and social skills.6. Authoritative ParentingProverbs 13:24Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.Description: Parents set clear expectations, provide guidance, and encourage independence. They use positive reinforcement and natural consequences as discipline techniques.Example: Parents set reasonable limits, listen to their child's perspective, and provide support and encouragement.Impact: Children raised by authoritative parents are often well-adjusted, confident, and successful. They are more likely to have strong self-esteem, good social skills, and academic achievement.Support the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Recently, Merrill and Linda saw the movie, The Forge.  Without spoiling the movie for you, we would highly recommend it!  The movie brings about the topic of mentoring and why it is so important.  Seldom can we learn everything from a book or even a classroom.  We often learn best from the wisdom of those that take a special interest in us and are willing to poor into our growth.  This may be parent, but just as likely it is a coach, teacher, or family friend.  It is someone that  has seen something in you that they  value and want to help you become the best version of yourself.  Mentoring is nothing new to mankind.  In fact, it has been one of the primary ways that valuable information and skills have been passed from one generation to the next.  However, in the past decade, mentoring has fallen out of practice to some degree.  Young people have not been as active to seek mentors as now they are able to answer many questions through their internet or social media outlets.  The problem with this is that these answers are often of a secular view.  Today's show will challenge you to find someone to mentor you as well as you finding someone to mentor.  Usually this is an older person mentoring you with their life wisdom and you mentoring a younger person with your life wisdom.  It is often said that Paul had his Barnabas and his Timothy.  Barnabas poured into Paul, while Paul poured into Timothy. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Like it or not, it's here.  The world of Artificial Intelligence , A.I., is fast tracking to be one of the most powerful innovations mankind has ever experienced.  Many are excited, many are skeptical, and many many more are flat out scared! It's one thing to think about A.I. as an adult and how you will manage it, but the  concern many parents have is, "what about our kids?".  Technology has proved to be extremely helpful in our lives, but it has also proved to be extremely dangerous.  In fact, it is not the technology itself that is helpful or dangerous, it is how we choose to use it.  A.I. is no different. Recently, Merrill and Linda attended a training that discussed the use of and the pros and cons of A.I.  Today's show is a discussion of this new technology and the things we should consider as it becomes more and more prevalent.  As with most technologies, there is always the naysayer that can never see how or why anyone would ever adopt the use of this new technology. But, one big take away from our training is that we have an opportunity to pull our head out of the sand and jump in to get ahead of all that is good and bad in order to make an informed decision.  The technology of A.I. is nothing short of amazing, but in the wrong hands, it could be destructive.  As parents, you have a responsibility to be the keeper of the gate in terms of its use in your home.  Don't be ignorant and fall victim to its improper use.  Education is key to helping your regulate and use this tool in amazing ways.   https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Episode 300 is one that all of us have experienced or will soon.  There's the old saying that 'two things are certain, death and paying taxes.'  Today, we are going to turn add one more thing that is certain in life, PAIN.  None of us wants it but all of us will experience it.  Whether it's physical, emotional, or mental, all of us will have more than our desired share of pain.  This show was inspired by Merrill's long summer of recovery from knee replacement.  Off to a great start he hit week number 3 and things began to get ugly.  His incision began to swell and the knee itself became even more uncomfortable.  It soon led to a doctor's visit where the doctor said that he was allergic to the internal stitches.  His body was going full force battle against the stitches with the collateral damage being the swelling of the knee, and lots of pain and stiffness.  For more than six weeks his knee had 6-7 large pores that were seeping constantly.  Changing dressings two- three times per day and lots of rounds of meds.  As with all good pain, never let it lose an opportunity to teach us something new. Whether it be about ourselves or life in general.  Merrill's pain has led to an opportunity to learn and hopefully encourage others to get through their pain.  Pain is one of those areas that tends to drive people closer to God or farther away.  Many grasp for anything God will give them for relief and purpose in the pain.  Others can see no good reason why a loving God would let such pain exists.  The bottom line is, pain does exist and hope is the best way through to the other side.  And God is the author of hope!  https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Introducing Bridgitte Price - Assistant Executive Director!It's always exciting to add new people to your staff.   New ideas, new energy, and new talents are just the tip of the iceberg about what Bridgitte is already bringing to Rock Solid Families.  Bridgitte comes to Rock Solid Families with past experiences as a school counselor at Batesville Community Schools.  She has also worked with women and children through Safe Passage.  And, she and her husband have been involved with Young Life in their local community.  From her past work experience, it is evident that Bridgette has a heart for people and her local community.  Bridgette states that one of the biggest reasons she has made the move to Rock Solid Families is because she will get the opportunity to introduce God and all his Word to her clients.  The greatest tool in the tool box will now be at her finger tips! More specifically Bridgette will be working with children, adolescent girls, and young women and moms.  She brings a smile and great enthusiasm into the office.  She is currently seeing clients and making herself more available to those in need.  If you have questions about working with Bridgitte or for Rock Solid Families, please call us at 812-576-7625.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

If you go to the car shop your mechanic is going to diagnose your car with visual observation, measurement, and even computer diagnostic equipment.  When he is finished, he's going to have a pretty good idea of what's wrong with the car.  When you go to the doctor because your're not feeling well, they are going to begin the diagnostic process with blood work, scans, and monitoring equipment to get the best feedback possible to make their diagnosis.  Perfect? No, but much more reliable than what you're going to see in the mental health field.  This is not to blame mental health professionals. Most are doing the best they can with what tools they have.  Mental health simply lacks pure testing processes and equipment to deliver reliable diagnosis.  With that being stated, we have seen an explosion of people seeking mental health therapy in the last 20 years.  Children, men, women, couples, you name it, they're trying it.  But more recently the results have been scrutinized.  Is the therapy truly being effective?  The answer is not clear cut.  In fact, way too often there is little to no benefit, and even more harm than good.  For this reason people should take a closer look at therapy and know what to look for and what their part of the process is in order for a greater chance of success.In this show, Merrill and Linda unpack the difference between Counseling and Coaching.  They discuss the importance of getting the right therapist for the right job.  The discuss the hard work that is required of the client in order to move towards healing.  They also talk about the most powerful healer in the room, God.  They remind us that God wants better for us, but we have to want to include him on the process.  This is where our humility or coachability come in.  ARE YOU COACHABLE?https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Here we go!  The new school year is ready to get underway whether our kids like it or not.  The start of the school year can provoke a host of different reactions from different students; anxiety, excitement, dread, anticipation, uncertainty, etc.... So, as a parent, how can you help your student start the year in the best way possible? As we look ahead to the 2024-25 school year, here are a few tips to start the new year off right: Get into a consistent routine as a family. Kids desperately need and thrive in consistent routines. Whether it be nightly family meals, consistent bedtime, packing lunches and backpacks before bed…whatever the routines are. Start them now and keep them consistent to help your child manage the daily stresses of life and thrive in this new school year. Anxiety in children often comes from inconsistency, chaos, and confusion. Prioritize your marriage and family over activities. It's so easy to get swept up into the wave of busyness and distractions in our world today. Our culture has parents convinced that a full schedule=good parenting. Don't get consumed by all the extras. Partner with your child's teacher, administrators, coaches from the beginning. Trust me, no one's getting filthy rich in this profession. They would love to partner with you from the start to help your child succeed. Email their teacher. Introduce yourself to their coach. Volunteer to help at the school. This spirit of synergy will help everyone win. Set the tone for a good year. Your child is watching and listening to you. Set a positive tone for the new school year and encourage your child to do the same. Your children take their cues from YOUR words, actions, and attitude. If they hear you complaining or undermining their teacher, they too will doubt and badmouth them. If you have questions or concerns, talk to their teacher, coach, or administrator privately and address them directly. Don't air your dirty laundry out on social media. These are just a few of the things we focus on every year when our children start school and things we've found helpful with families we work with. Remember, our kids are watching us and need our help to start the new school year off right. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

The story of Possum Trot is what inspired our question this week. In the movie, Sound of Hope, the little town of Possum Trot in east Texas was absolutely moved by the Holy Spirit.  Donna Martin, wife of preacher, WC Martin, became moved by the number of children in need of a home.  She began to look into the idea of fostering and adoption.  Her husband was initially not moved at all. In fact, he resisted the whole idea.  As only the Holy Spirit can work, it didn't take long for WC to join in with the same passion as Donna. Before you know it they had their entire congregation joining in on the mission.  The town of Possum Trot had 22 families that adopted 77 children.  At one point in time, there were literally no more children that needed a home in the county. WOW!While the story is amazing the movie also does an excellent job of illuminating the whole experience of adoption.  Yes, it starts with a heartwarming idea, but the reality is that adoption can come with its share of challenges.  The movie depicts this very well.  The question presented this week ask: What is Adoption and Fostering Really Like? Many of you may know that we went through the foster to adopt process for our three youngest children.  In this show we share our story and many of the different experiences we have had.  While our experience is not the same as everyone else's, we believe there are many commonalities.  If you are interested in fostering or adoption, check out this show.  If you are thinking about the next step, contact your local Child Services department, or a local adoption agency in your area.  Enroll in a class about the process and learn as much as you can.  At the end of the day, we are all called to serve the  innocent and meet their needs.  Adoption may be the way for you to help meet this need. Feel free to contact us to ask more questions. 1-812-576-7625Support the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

I don't know about you, but sharing my faith has never been easy.  I grew up with my faith being assumed, but seldom discussed in any depth with others.  I especially didn't feel comfortable trying to persuade someone to come to faith.  You know the saying, "never discuss politics or religion."  But, is this right?  The Great Commission commands us to go out and make disciples.  It speaks of the importance of sharing the Good News and introducing others to the gift.  The question then becomes, "how do I do this?" In this show we take on a question that was presented to us. How do you share the good news with a friend? We take on the various aspects that should be considered when discussing faith with a friend, especially a non-believer.  Getting background information.  Knowing a little about their past experience with faith or religion.  Knowing about their upbringing and what if any exposure they ever had to Christ.  These are all important things that need to be considered when approaching this topic.  Above all, developing a relationship based on trust is essential to truly being heard by your friend.  Being bold with the Word, but cold with the approach may quickly lead to a dead end.  Be patient and allow the relationship to grow.  Be authentic in the relationship rather than seeing it as a way to "win another person to Christ."  Yes, we want to win another person to Christ, but we first have to develop the relationship in order for the person to actually hear our words.  Some people are gifted with the ability to evangelize.  They speak boldly and others seem to listen.  However, even if we don't seem to carry the gift, we can still carry the words and actions of Christ.  Let our actions speak and demonstrate the Good News in our lives.  Letting others see the good news is just as important as them hearing the good news. https://roccksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Linda was running a reconnaissance mission as she was at the local swimming pool.  Her mission; to find the next question for Rock Solid Families Podcast.  Well, not really, but she couldn't  resist the opportunity when it presented itself.  While at the pool she overheard a group of young teenage girls discussing whether or not their parents could look at their phones. As they were going back and forth between each other it was pretty clear that none of them felt like their parents had the right to get into their phone.  Needless to say, Linda's ears couldn't resist tuning in just to get a glimpse into their perspective.  During this show we tackle the question about whether or not a parent has the right to look into their child's phone.  The phone contains so much of our lives these days that many of us can understand how personal this tool is.  However, our kids may not realize that their phone is not quite as private as they would like it to be.  We discuss several questions and scenarios of parents accessing their child's phone.  Parents not only have the right, but now have the responsibility to access the phones.  This is all in an effort to protect and teach our kids about the safety hazards and potential risk that the phone creates. https://rocksolidfamilies.orghttps://waituntil8th.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

We often get questions about various situations and circumstances in people's' lives. It's also true that we often hear the same kinds of questions. Maybe the details change, but the main idea remains constant.  In this series we are going to tackle a series of questions that have found their way to us.  Again, some of the details may be a little different from one person to another, but there is. a good chance that the main idea will carry over to many of you. In this first show the question covered is essentially, how much should you as an adult get involved in your parents marriage?  With the idea that their parents are not getting along or have the quality of marriage they once had.  As their child, what's your role?If the roles were reversed it will still be very much the same kind of problem.  As parents, how much should you involve yourself in the relationships of your adult children?  In a nutshell, we much always realize that we are unable to "fix" people.  People have to "fix" themselves.  With that in mind you begin to find your proper place in how you can deal with these situations.  At Rock Solid Families we like to think that we can open doors for people, but they must be willing to walk in on their own.  The same hold's true in helping your parents with their marriage. Encouragement, prayer, and being their is your first and foremost important role.  Counseling or even advice giving is most likely not something you should entertain. Your emotional connection as the child to your parents makes it very difficult to say the things that may need to be said without causing more damage. Yes, you can encourage your parents to get counseling, and you even should.  But do yourself a favor and leave that job to someone that is not emotionally connected. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

Being prepared is the name of the game for first responders.  They must be prepared to walk into the most difficult of situations and do the right thing.  We would do well to treat our life journey in a similar fashion.  No matter the day, we must be prepared to walk through difficult times and do the right thing.  But, the question is, "What's the right thing?"In the parable of the 10 Virgins we learn that the right thing is being prepared to meet God on the day of judgement. Are we ready to meet the Bridegroom? Our actions of doing good deeds and having faith in Jesus Christ are something that we should practice on a regular basis, not just when we think we are being watched. Or worse yet, minutes before we see the return of Jesus.  Doing the right thing is more about creating a lifestyle that reflects the Way of Christ.  We know that Jesus will come to judge us by our fruit.  He will look at our relationships, time spent, money spent, talents used, etc... and see if we honored him with all that we had. Some of us will procrastinate or even claim ignorance.  Then, at the last moment we may find ourselves grasping for someone to give us a hand to pull us up. Jesus sees this as manipulation of the what he has desired for us.  Frankly, he sees it as cheating.  Too little too late. Other people do not have the responsibility to rescuing a person that chose to swim in a bad current.  We have choices to make and then we have consequences to face.  In this parable, Jesus is simply asking, "Are you ready?"https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the Show.#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity