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Matt Willis talks to inspiring people from all walks of life, who have hit rock bottom, and finds out how they made it through to the other side. Exploring his own drug and alcohol addiction, he digs deep into what recovery means, offering tips and tools and expert advice. With honest, frank, relatable and free flowing conversation this podcast is personable as it is informative. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt Willis


    • Feb 23, 2026 LATEST EPISODE
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    Biohacking Saved My Life: Davinia Taylor on Sobriety & Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2026 39:49


    This week's guest is Davinia Taylor, who challenges the traditional narrative of addiction and opens up about her journey from shame and self-doubt to embracing recovery on her own terms.In this episode, Davinia talks candidly about her realisation that addiction isn't always tied to trauma, and how understanding the biochemical and genetic basis of her struggle, low dopamine, ADHD, and even Viking ancestry, helped remove the shame she once carried. She reframes addiction from a moral failing to a biological reality, offering a powerful shift in perspective.Davinia also shares the truth about recovery: it's messy, it's imperfect, and it doesn't always follow the rigid rules we're told to follow. She opens up about the constant negotiation of active addiction and the exhaustion it creates, and the surprising discovery of true energy, not from alcohol, but through biohacking and ketones, which have become her source of fuel to live, not just survive.Honest, raw, and deeply human, Davinia's story is about rebuilding beyond perfection and finding peace in being imperfectly present for the people who matter most.This episode covers the following themes: addiction, shame, self-acceptance, and vulnerability.Simba mattresses

    I Turned to It for the Wrong Reasons | Sam Ryder

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2026 37:10


    This week's guest is Sam Ryder, someone who knows the struggle of chasing a dream for years, only to face the crushing reality of near-misses and setbacks. For over 15 years, Sam toured the world in tiny vans, scraping by with borrowed hope, never knowing if success would come. But when the door finally cracked open, it did so with an unexpected, life-changing shift.In this episode, Sam talks candidly about the long grind and how he found peace with failure before success even arrived. He shares the moment he made peace with the idea of never “making it,” the power of redefining what success truly means, and how, after years of struggle, he embraced gratitude as his new driving force.This is a raw, honest conversation about the non-linear journey to success, the dangers of “okay jobs,” and why comfort can kill creativity. Sam reveals his decision to get sober and the importance of protecting his voice, his gift, while rejecting the toxic hustle culture that fuels so much of the music industry.Simba mattresses

    I Got Married Three Days After Rehab

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2026 50:16


    Recovery isn't a straight line, and Matt Willis reflects openly on what that reality has meant for him.In this solo episode, Matt speaks candidly about addiction, recovery, and the long process of learning to live differently. He explores the moments that forced him to confront himself, the challenges of trying to change alone, and the ongoing work required to stay well.Rather than offering simple answers, Matt discusses the uncertainty, setbacks, and searching that shaped his recovery, alongside the role of responsibility, trust, and fatherhood in helping him find steadier ground.This is a thoughtful, honest conversation about resilience, accountability, and what it really means to commit to change, without shortcuts, and without pretending recovery is linear.Simba mattresses

    I Finally Quit Nicotine… Can I Keep It Up?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2026 34:48


    This isn't just a conversation, it's a live experiment.TJ Power challenges Matt Willis in real time to face the invisible addictions quietly draining his energy and to decide, on camera, what he's willing to let go of to feel fully alive again.From nicotine and endless scrolling to constant stimulation, Matt confronts habits he no longer enjoys but feels unable to escape. TJ also explains how these dopamine loops trap the brain, leaving us restless, flat, and disconnected from real fulfillment.The moment turns personal when Matt reflects on his children. Without planning or performance, he makes a decisive choice, throwing away his vapes and committing to quit on the spot. TJ lays out the truth: every habit is a trade, between short-term dopamine and the life you actually want to live.No polish, no easy answers, just an honest challenge to choose presence over numbness, freedom over avoidance, and courage over comfort.Simba mattresses

    Jason Fox: Living With PTSD and the Cost of Service

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2026 38:12


    When the structure that's held your life together disappears, what are you left with?In this episode, Jason Fox talks about the moment everything collapsed after leaving the military, not gradually, but instantly. Twenty years of purpose, belonging, and identity ended overnight, and the relief he expected never came. Instead, he felt more broken than ever, realising too late that the thing he thought was damaging him had actually been keeping him afloat.Jason also speaks openly about how close he came to giving up, and the uncomfortable truth he had to face: he'd been going through the motions of getting help without fully believing he needed it. He reflects on how much of the stigma he feared came from inside his own head, and how convincing yourself you're not allowed to struggle can be just as dangerous as the struggle itself.This conversation challenges the belief that strength means staying silent, and shows how vulnerability can be a source of freedom, not weakness.Simba mattresses

    What Actually Breaks Addiction: Neuroscientist Tj Power Explains

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2026 72:15


    This week's guest is Tj Power, lead neuroscientist and founder of the DOSE Lab, who helps us understand what's really happening in our brains when we feel overwhelmed, burnt out, glued to our phones, or stuck in patterns we can't quite explain.In this episode, TJ breaks down mental health in a way that feels human, not clinical. He talks about why so many of us feel constantly on edge, how modern life quietly rewires our brains, and why willpower alone is rarely enough when you're dealing with anxiety, compulsive behaviours, or emotional overload. Rather than offering quick fixes, TJ focuses on understanding, learning how your brain actually works, why certain patterns repeat, and how small, realistic changes can help you steady yourself again.This conversation is grounding and reassuring, for anyone realising that real change starts with understanding, not self-blame.Simba mattresses

    The Secret Addiction Lulu Hid for 60 Years

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2026 48:21


    This week's guest is Lulu Kennedy-Cairns, a woman who has spent a lifetime living between two selves, and learning what it costs to keep parts of yourself hidden. Known to the world as Lulu, she grew up as “Marie”, a child shaped by chaos at home, silence, and shame, long before she was told she needed to become someone brighter, cleaner, and easier for the public to love.In this episode, Lulu speaks with striking honesty about learning to hide at a young age, carrying shame that was never really hers, and the confusion of trying to live up to an identity that didn't fully fit. She also talks about alcohol, relapse, and the long road to recovery, including the relief of finally understanding addiction as an illness, not a personal failure. This is a conversation about recovery as connection, not perfection. About finding your tribe, telling the truth out loud, and discovering that vulnerability can be a strength, not a weakness.Simba mattresses

    How Tubes turned to Golf Life after alcohol addiction

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2026 55:58


    This week's guest is Peter “Tubes” Dale, someone who knows how quickly things can unravel when drinking, shame, and identity start feeding off each other. Known publicly as the funny one, the lad who could always carry it, Tubes was privately stuck in a cycle of blackouts, panic, and self-loathing, watching the distance grow between who he was and the person he became when alcohol took over.In this episode, he pulls the curtain back. Tubes talks candidly about hating the version of himself that drank to excess, the fear of not knowing what he'd done or said, and the moment he realised he was heading towards losing his family if he didn't stop. He opens up about relapse without excuses, the weight of shame he carried for years, and why choosing to speak honestly was the first step toward change.This is a grounded, human conversation about addiction, mental health, and recovery, not as a straight line, but as something messy and ongoing.Simba mattresses

    The Truth About Ruby Wax's Mental Health Crash

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2025 21:55


    Ruby Wax has spent decades making people laugh, but this conversation is about what happens when the jokes stop working.In this episode, Ruby speaks with rare honesty about living with depression, relapse, and the exhausting work of trying to hold yourself together when your mind won't cooperate. She talks about coming off antidepressants to explore psilocybin therapy and ending up in a mental health ward, the shame that can creep in when you “should” be better by now, and why mental illness doesn't care whether you're on holiday, winning awards, or doing everything “right.”Ruby also opens up about letting go of old identities, including the version of herself built for attention, validation, and success, and how terrifying it was to walk away from a huge TV career to start again. She describes fame as addictive, relapse as confusing, and recovery as anything but linear. This isn't a polished guru's guide or a neat redemption arc. It's a conversation with someone still doing the work, falling over, starting again, laughing at herself, and telling the truth about how messy it all can be. Simba mattresses

    The ADHD Misdiagnosis That Changed Everything | Jordan Stephens

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 22, 2025 23:27


    This week on On The Mend, I'm sitting down with Jordan Stephens, someone who knows exactly how quickly life can unravel when addiction, shame, identity, and survival all get mixed together. From the outside, things looked great. Behind the scenes, Jordan was stuck in cycles that were blowing up his relationships and pulling him further away from the person he actually wanted to be. In this chat, Jordan takes all the armour off. He talks honestly about the chaos drugs brought into his life, what it was like growing up mixed race and constantly shape-shifting to fit in, and the moment he realised he couldn't keep pretending he was fine. We get into ADHD, self-medication, the ego, the shame, all of it, but always with that warmth and humour that makes the hard stuff easier to hear. If you've ever struggled with identity, spiralled after a relapse, or felt like you're still looking for your real self, this conversation won't tell you how to live your life. But it will make you feel less alone while you figure it out.Simba mattresses

    Roxie Nafousi: The missing piece in your manifestation

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2025 41:33


    Roxie Nafousi joins Matt for a powerful and deeply personal conversation about addiction, healing, and the long journey toward self-worth. She speaks candidly about how her search for confidence and belonging led her into a cycle of shame, isolation, and rock-bottom moments, and how she came to believe there was no way out.What makes Roxie's story resonate is her understanding that struggle is universal. She explains that pain, addiction, and the search for meaning affect people from every background, and that recovery isn't just about overcoming substance use, it's about rebuilding your relationship with yourself.A turning point came when Roxie discovered manifestation as a tool for healing, not as a superficial trend but as a practice rooted in agency, responsibility, and self-belief. She talks about shifting out of a victim mindset, aligning her actions with her values, and letting go of what no longer served her.Roxie also highlights the role of compassion, the unconditional support of her family and partner, and the kindness she learned to extend to herself. With honesty and practical guidance, Roxie discusses gratitude, affirmations, and the importance of finding purpose through community and service.Simba mattresses

    The Christmas That Made Me Go Sober | Scott Thomas

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2025 49:24


    This week's guest is Scott Thomas, whose journey to sobriety has become a powerful example of how one person's change can transform the lives of many. By being open about his struggles and creating a safe space for honest conversations, Scott has inspired friends, family, and even strangers, to confront their own challenges and pursue a different path.In this episode, Scott talks about the battle between his public persona and his true self. Despite the parties, fame, and fast-paced lifestyle, he felt empty and disconnected, hiding behind “Scotty Special” to win approval. His story is a candid look at the pressure to fit in, the cost of losing yourself, and the deep relief that comes from reclaiming your authenticity.Scott also dives into the importance of boundaries and finding your “why,” especially when it comes to sobriety. He explains how clarity, honesty, and a strong sense of purpose helped him stay committed, even when peer pressure and old habits pulled hard in the opposite direction.A raw and uplifting conversation about self-worth, transformation, and the ripple effect of living truthfully.Simba mattresses

    How One Night at Home Changed Russell Kane's Life Forever

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2025 65:55


    This week's guest is Russell Kane, the award-winning comedian and writer whose life and work span far beyond the stereotypes people often place on him. Despite growing up with expectations about who he should be and what his background meant for his future, Russell carved his own path, challenging labels, breaking cycles, and proving that your starting point doesn't have to define your destination.In this episode, Russell talks about the power of self-love, the damage caused by negative self-talk, and how breaking free from internal and external limits is often the first step toward real change. He also highlights the impact of small, consistent actions, showing how incremental progress, not dramatic transformation, is what truly moves us forward.Through honest insights and thoughtful conversation, this episode offers a roadmap for anyone who's ever felt boxed in by circumstance. Simba mattresses

    I'm a Celeb Changed Me - Matt Willis on the Secrets He Hid For Years

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2025 42:40


    In this solo episode, Matt Willis opens up about his past and the years spent in active addiction. He talks candidly about the contrast between public success and private struggle, the exhausting effort of keeping up appearances while quietly falling apart behind the scenes.Matt revisits memories that are often blurred or painful to recall, reflecting on how addiction affected his relationships, his sense of self, and his ability to truly enjoy the moments he worked so hard for. He speaks honestly about the toll of secrecy, the regrets and missed opportunities, and the moments that finally pushed him toward change.A raw, unfiltered look at memory, addiction, and the courage it takes to face your past in order to move forward.Simba mattresses

    Rosie Jones on Feeling Unsafe in Her Own Skin

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2025 64:45


    Comedian, writer and actress, Rosie Jones, brings her trademark honesty, humour, and heart to a conversation about difference, self-acceptance, and finding strength in vulnerability. She talks openly about what it means to feel out of place, the pressure to meet others' expectations, and how she's learned to stop comparing herself to anyone else's version of success.Rosie doesn't shy away from the hard stuff, she discusses facing negativity, choosing where to focus her energy, and the power of surrounding yourself with people who lift you up rather than drag you down. She also reflects on the importance of representation, using her voice to challenge stereotypes and show that no matter your background or circumstance, you can still thrive.This is an inspiring, funny, and deeply human conversation about embracing who you are, taking small steps forward, and finding joy and purpose along the way.Check out Rosie's tour “I Can't Tell What She's Saying”. Tickets here: https://rosiejonescomedy.com/Heights

    Backstage with Busted vs McFly: Harry, Dougie & Matt Get Deep on Tour

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2025 40:30


    Recorded literally backstage, Matt Willis sits down with Harry Judd and Dougie Poynter for a candid, funny, and surprisingly heartfelt conversation about life on the road, friendship, and everything in between.Between playful banter and a spontaneous “backstage set list” game, the trio open up about the chaos of touring, the lessons fame taught them, and how they've each learned to stay grounded through recovery, fatherhood, and music. There's nostalgia, honesty, and plenty of laughter as they revisit wild early days, reflect on how their bands shaped them, and share what keeps them going now.It's more than just a reunion, it's a raw, behind-the-scenes glimpse into the lives of three friends who've grown up in the spotlight, stumbled, recovered, and learned to keep playing the music that connects them.Heights

    Calum Scott on Coming Out, Depression & Finding Peace

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2025 64:01


    Calum Scott joins Matt for a moving and honest conversation about the battles that often stay hidden behind success. From depression and body dysmorphia to self-acceptance and sexuality, Calum opens up about the moments that brought him to the edge, and the strength it took to rebuild.He also talks about the power of speaking openly, seeking support, and taking small steps toward healing, reminding us that recovery is never linear and there's no single way to get through it. Calum's story is a testament to patience, self-compassion, and the belief that even in the darkest times, hope can still grow.This is a heartfelt, powerful episode about finding light after pain, and learning to love who you are, one day at a time.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Heights

    Matt Willis: Taking Life In Recovery 1 Day at a Time

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2025 25:54


    In this solo episode, Matt Willis explores what it really means to control your own narrative. He opens up about moments in his life when others tried to define him, through fame, addiction, or public perception, and how losing control of his story left him feeling misunderstood and disconnected from who he truly was.Matt also shares personal experiences, including how winning I'm a Celebrity… Get Me Out of Here! changed how the world saw him, and how he eventually reclaimed his identity through honesty, recovery, and storytelling. He reflects on lessons from past guests about ownership, self-compassion, and the power of rewriting your story from a place of truth.A candid and empowering conversation about taking back your story, letting go of shame, and choosing how you move forward, on your own terms.Heights

    Richard Madeley: Surviving the Headlines, Grief & a Career in TV

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2025 43:40


    This week's guest is Richard Madeley, the broadcaster and writer whose career has spanned decades of conversations with people from all walks of life. Behind the fame and public recognition, Richard has faced his own personal challenges, including addiction, grief, family complexities, and the pressures of life in the spotlight.In this episode, Richard discusses the importance of authenticity and honest connection, reflecting on how setbacks and difficult experiences have shaped his outlook. From navigating public scrutiny to learning from mistakes, he also emphasises empathy, commitment, and the value of keeping perspective through life's toughest moments.Through candid stories and heartfelt insights, this episode offers a window into the human side of fame, showing how honesty, humility, and self-reflection can guide us toward meaning, happiness, and resilience in everyday life.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Heights

    How to Make Social Media Work for You

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2025 22:40


    Matt Willis goes beyond the surface of social media in this solo episode. He shares his honest experiences with the pressures, comparisons, and negativity that online life can bring, and how these challenges have affected his mental health and recovery.Rather than an anti-social media rant, Matt offers practical ways to stay mindful and intentional, setting boundaries, curating feeds, taking breaks, and pausing before reacting. He also reflects on the emotional toll of viral content, online debates, and the pressure to constantly stay informed.This episode is a candid exploration of how to engage with social media thoughtfully, protect your well-being, and maintain perspective in an ever-connected world.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Heights

    Visualisation Expert Shows Matt the Secrets Behind Goal-Setting | Maya Raichoora

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2025 57:00


    Author and mindset coach Maya Raichoora joins Matt to unpack the power of self-image, mindset, and transformation. She reveals why success often crumbles without inner change, and how becoming the person who deserves your goals is the key to making them stick.Maya also shares practical tools for growth, from tailoring goals to your unique wiring to her mantra of “train it till you trust it.” By consistently practicing your 2.0 self, you can rewire your brain for confidence, belief, and lasting achievement.An inspiring conversation about unlocking potential by shifting from self-sabotage to self-mastery.Heights

    What's Really Going On With the Busted vs McFly Tour | Matt Willis

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2025 31:27


    In this solo episode, Matt Willis takes listeners behind the scenes of life on tour in “Backstage Battle.” Beyond the excitement of performing, he opens up about the real challenges he faces, managing his mental health, maintaining recovery, and sticking to routines that keep him grounded amid the pressures of life on the road.Matt also shares how he navigates the adrenaline of nightly performances, stays connected to his family, and celebrates small victories to avoid old, destructive habits. He reflects on revisiting environments that were once difficult, like hotel rooms and touring life, with honesty and self-awareness.A candid and inspiring look at the ongoing work of recovery, the importance of self-care, and the strength it takes to face your battles when no one else is watching.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Heights

    The Side of Larry Lamb You've Never Seen: Life Beyond Gavin & Stacey

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2025 43:24


    This week's guest is Larry Lamb, the beloved actor and storyteller who brings a lifetime of wisdom to the table. Known for his warmth and humor, Larry reflects on aging, resilience, and the simple yet powerful ways to live well as the years go by.In this episode, Larry opens up about the realities of growing older, the aches, the slower pace, and the temptation to dwell on worries, while showing why it's far more rewarding to focus on gratitude, movement, and joy. From early mornings and daily exercise to his philosophy of “keeping moving forward,” Larry shares how staying active in body and mind fuels vitality and purpose.This is a candid, uplifting conversation about savouring each day, finding contentment in the present, and embracing the future with an open heart.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Heights

    Matt Willis on Why There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Parent

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2025 27:34


    In this solo episode, Matt Willis reflects on parenting through the lens of recovery in “The Parent I'm Trying To Be.” With honesty and vulnerability, he shares how fatherhood has shaped his growth, from owning up to mistakes to breaking cycles from his own upbringing.This isn't a guide to perfect parenting, but a candid reflection on presence over perfection, the value of everyday “junk time,” and allowing children to fully feel their emotions. Matt reflects on how parenting continues to shape him, teaching consistency, gratitude, and connection, while inviting listeners to share their own stories along the way.A heartfelt and relatable look at the imperfect but transformative journey of parenthood.Heights

    Sum 41's Deryck Whibley: Talking Sobriety After My Near Death Experience | EXCLUSIVE

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2025 53:21


    Deryck Whibley joins Matt for a powerful and unfiltered conversation about addiction, recovery, and the lessons hidden in life's hardest moments.The singer-songwriter opens up about why he chose to write his book entirely in his own words, valuing authenticity over polish, and reflects on the role of memory, mistakes, and vulnerability in personal growth. He also shares openly about his struggles with addiction, the courage it takes to face dependency, and the idea that even injury and adversity can be unexpected gifts. From the importance of focusing on positivity and taking responsibility for your own happiness, to embracing uncertainty and letting go of old grievances, Deryck's journey is a reminder that recovery is not just about survival, it's about renewal, connection, and the courage to face the unknown.Heights

    What If I Fail? (And Why That's OK)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2025 17:50


    What if failure was the key to success?In this solo episode, Matt Willis opens up about his own fear of failure, from the nerves of launching a new season to the deeper anxieties that have shaped his life. Drawing on Simon Sinek's ideas and his own lived experience, Matt explores why fear of failure is universal, how it can hold us back, and how it can also drive us forward.With raw honesty, he shares practical ways to reframe failure as growth and explains why embracing it is essential for creativity, resilience, and real progress.Heights

    What Happens When Success Becomes Your Addiction? Gary Stevenson's Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2025 51:41


    This week's guest is Gary Stevenson, a former top trader who knows firsthand what happens when success becomes an addiction. At the height of his career, he was winning big, but behind the scenes, his health, happiness, and humanity were breaking down.Gary pulls back the curtain on the trading world, revealing why “money = happiness” is a dangerous lie, how high-stakes trading mirrors gambling, and the hidden addiction spreading fast among young men. He shares the mental toll of life in a relentless game where even relationships become power plays, and the deep depression that can hide behind outward success.This is a raw, unfiltered look at the addictive side of ambition, and the personal cost of chasing wins at all costs.Heights

    What Love Is Blind Taught Matt Willis About Connection and the Truth About Busted

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2025 24:08


    In this raw solo episode, Matt Willis shares the untold side of his journey, from Busted fame to hitting rock bottom, and why real recovery only began when he stopped trying to do it alone.Matt opens up about the power of vulnerability, the fear of rejection, and the moment he had to admit relapse to his wife. He explores why connection is the one thing that saved him, and why healing isn't possible without it.From the fear of rejection to the power of forgiveness, this is a raw and personal reflection on why we can't do recovery alone, and how connection can change everything. Partners: Heights

    How a Phone Call on Air Changed Iain Lee's Life Forever

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2025 61:15


    After decades in the spotlight as a broadcaster, comedian, and writer, Iain Lee found himself in a moment that would change and possibly save, more than one life.In this powerful episode, Iain recounts the night a caller to his late-night radio show shared that he had taken an overdose. What followed was a raw, real-time crisis that showed the power of being present and how connection, even through a radio line, can save someone's life.Iain opens up about how that moment led him to retrain as a counsellor, his experience living with ADHD, and what it means to sit with people in their darkest moments. With vulnerability, insight, and deep empathy, this episode is a reminder that healing starts with being heard.Partners: Heights

    Why I Had to Stop Everything: Burnout, Recovery & Real Talk | Season 3 Starts Here

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 4, 2025 28:11


    We're back! In this brand new season of On The Mend, Matt Willis opens up about what he's been up to recently, alongside his struggles with overwhelm and the ongoing work of recovery. He shares what's been helping, from hobbies to gratitude and sets the tone for a season full of raw, real conversations with guests, experts, and you. Expect new segments, deeper honesty, and powerful stories about what it really means to move forward.Need Support?Samaritans: Call 116 123 or visit samaritans.orgNarcotics Anonymous: na.orgAlcoholics Anonymous: alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukMental Health Mates: mentalhealthmates.co.ukShout: https: giveusashout.orgIAPT: england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/nhs-talking-therapies/Partners

    JORDAN STEPHENS: managing ADHD, sobriety, and healthy relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2024 57:03


    This week's guest is the musician, actor, writer, and podcaster Jordan Stephens. Jordan's probably best known for Rizzle Kicks, the chart-topping duo he formed with his friend Harley Alexander-Sule, back in 2008. He's since released music as a solo artist, starred in various TV and film projects, published a children's book, and now he's written a memoir: Avoidance, Drugs, Heartbreak and Dogs. In this conversation the pair discuss education, the impact of overnight success, ADHD, medication and self-medication, as well as their shared interest in psychedelics and Jordan's journey towards healthier relationships. For more information on some of the subjects Jordan mentioned, there are links below (including more on Professor Nutt and that toad venom). And Jordan WILL return to On The Mend. These two just have too much in common. Related links: Jordan's website Rizzle Kicks on Instagram Matt's interview with Jordan on MTV Faces BRIT School bursaries Alan Watts on education Dr Gabor Maté The Anxious Generation by Joanthan Haidt Johann Hari's episode of On The Mend Professor David Nutt and drug classification A 2002 overview of the link between football hooliganism and ecstasy The effects of the inhalation of dried toad secretion containing 5-MeO-DMT The ongoing study at King's College, London The Esther Perel quote was incorrectly attributed but she's a fan of the person who said it, Terry Real: “Under patriarchy, you can be connected, or you can be powerful, but you can't be both at the same time because power is power over, not power with, it's dominance. So, if you move into power, you lose connection. If you move into accommodation, you lose your power. I want to break that binary.” Donna Lancaster & The Bridge Retreat (01:02) Jordan's childhood (05:28) BRIT School and creative education (11:48) Rizzle Kicks, Busted and dealing with overnight success (16:36) ADHD: from voice notes to diagnoses (plural) (20:34) ADHD: medication and self-medication  (27:40) Pattern recognition and relationships (29:07) Sobriety and overcoming writer's block (30:54) Managing social media use (35:52) Psychedelics (including dried toad secretion) (45:43) Pressure to achieve vs connection (47:02) Educating the next generation about relationships (54:15) Matt's conclusion

    Why I'm Taking A Break From Social Media (with live Q and A)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2024 29:24


    Matt is back with another social media special episode! Since so many of you resonated with Part 1 (episode: My Honest Thoughts On Social Media) we're bringing you a Part 2, where Matt is diving deeper into his relationship with his mobile phone. Matt spills some details on why he feels the need to take a break from social media, how he's doing it, and why others should consider it too. Plus, since so many of you had your own ideas and experiences to share, Matt sat down in the second half of this episode to answer some questions from listeners! We hope you all enjoy and would love to hear your thoughts. Do leave a comment or review! Useful links: Part 1: My Honest Thoughts On Social Media Chanel 4 documentary: Swiped: The School that Banned Smartphones (0:00) Intro (0:13) Daily gratitude (3:15) Matt is currently in a good place! (4:53) Taking a break from social media (5:12) Matt's TikTok obsession on tour (6:43) Matt's detox from his mobile phone (8:00) The importance of boredom (9:13) Song writing with Busted (10:16) Answering your questions about social media (27:15) Introducing the burner phone (29:15) Outro

    DAN MURRAY-SERTER: from anxiety, bulimia and insomnia to better mental health

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 68:06


    This week's guest is the entrepreneur and mental health advocate Dan Murray-Serter. Dan has ten years' experience of building up businesses but, also, of winding them down. He's spoken publicly about his failures, as well as his personal experience with anxiety, insomnia, depression, burnout, body dysmorphia and bulimia. And the steps Dan took towards improving his own mental and physical health, led him to a new business in nutrition and supplements. Dan and Matt get quite deep in this conversation, which covers spirituality, mental health, ayahuasca. and much more. Related links: Heights Supplements The Dao De Jing The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle The Body Keeps The Score The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Height (01:28) The benefits and joy to be found in a regular walk (04:43) A few of Dan's favourite non-fiction books (06:10) Finding fulfillment and embracing spirituality  (11:18) Dan on his upbringing and what he learned from his father (18:44) Living in the present and getting the balance right as an entrepreneur (20:26) Dan's own mental health history (including insomnia)  (24:02) Dan's life-changing visit to a dietician (33:51) Dan's experience with bulimia  (42:38) Assisted psychedelic therapy and ayahuasca  (56: 02) Finding your purpose (with a small p) (01:02:28) Managing comparison and social media (01:07:09) Matt's outro

    My Honest Thoughts On Social Media

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2024 21:15


    The secret is out… Matt Willis and his wife, Emma, are currently on a 3-week long social media break. They're doing this alongside a group of year 8 students, whose experiment will be the star of an upcoming Channel 4 documentary.But what does Matt really think of all of this? Before the experiment, we caught up with Matt to ask his honest opinion on social media. Is it a good thing? Bad thing? What's Matt's personal experience with it? And how can we start to nurture a healthier relationship with social media?Let's see how Matt's opinions change over the course of the experiment. Stay tuned as we find out more in 3 weeks!We hope you enjoy the episode, and if you'd like to share your own thoughts on social, please leave a comment or review!Useful links:Chanel 4 documentary: Swiped: The School that Banned SmartphonesAnxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt(0:00) Intro(0:44) Daily gratitude(5:14) Matt's weird relationship with social media(7:03) Do I need to know what's trending?(8:58) Insecurities and social media(9:42) Social media is not real life(11:59) Engaging with followers(12:45) Social currency (14:21) Life is precious, so how are you using your time?(16:17) Kids don't want social media(18:15) This is a real addiction we're not taking seriously (19:05) So what can we do about it?(20:48) Outro

    GABBY LOGAN: navigating grief, competitiveness and middle age

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2024 58:11


    Gabby was the first female football anchor on terrestrial television and she's perfected the art of asking great questions, while covering a wide range of international sporting events.  In this episode, Matt turns the tables on Gabby, and she speaks with great honesty, sharing moments and insights from her life and career. Sporty and very driven from an early age, Gabby competed at the Commonwealth Games when she was still a teenager. But when her gymnastics career came to an abrupt end, she had to find a new direction. And this big change was followed by the shocking loss of her brother Daniel, when he was just 15 years old. Gabby talks about the impact of grief on her family and how she found the support to deal with her own. She shares how she found confidence as a broadcaster and learned to accept the competitiveness that was forged in a sporting environment. Gabby also reflects on the challenges and the joy she's experienced raising her own family; and the wisdom and life-changing lessons she's gained through her own podcast, The Mid.Point. (01:40) Gabby's sporty childhood (04:01) Owning competitiveness (07:24) British self-deprecation vs. the mentality in the US (09:06) Honesty vs. brutal honesty (10:28) Gabby's love of order and finding compromise as a family (12:33) Gabby's gymnastics career (and finding a new direction when it was gone) (15:27) The death of Gabby's brother, Daniel, when he was just 15 (18.28) The impact on Gabby's family (and varied ways of dealing with grief) (21:30) The negative consequences of avoiding grief (26:35) Her father's self-destructive behaviour and the challenge of providing support (38:26) Gabby's mentor Ed Percival, NLP, and finding confidence at work (44:06) Meeting her husband Kenny (45:16) Wim Hoff and trying cold water therapy on Freeze The Fear (48:03) Gabby's podcast, The Mid.Point (53:14) The importance of exercise and being truly present at family time (55:34) Writing The Midpoint Plan (56:44) Matt's outro Related links: The Mid.Point: The Prostate Episode, with Kenny Logan NHS guidance on prostate cancer Gabby's new book: The Midpoint Plan Gabby's memoir: The First Half Gabby takes the plunge on BBC One's Freeze The Fear The Sports Agents podcast

    SOLO Episode: The Books I Owe My Recovery To

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2024 23:21


    This week Matt is sharing the top 3 books that have shaped his life and his journey as a recovered addict. He'll be breaking down exactly why they mean so much to him – and why you should consider checking them out too!Matt has sprinkled some bonus honourable mentions, plus some feedback from all of you lovely listeners! We recently asked Matt's Instagram followers to recommend their life-changing reads, and boy did you guys deliver. We'll be sharing some of the most popular mentions in this episode.So pop on your reading hat, prepare for a trip to your local bookstore, and get ready to soak up these must-reads!Did we miss your favourite book? Leave a comment and let us know! Related links:How To Be Your Own Therapist by Owen O'KaneAlcoholics AnonymousThe Chimp Paradox by Professor Steve PetersThe War Of Art by Stephen PressfieldChasing The Scream by Johann Hari 0:00) Intro (0:11) Gratitude list (0:39) Spending time in Ibiza (1:03) Struggling with sleep (1:38) Matt on getting to work with his wife Emma (2:09) Gratitude for the On The Mend team (3:15) Struggling to read (4:42) How To Be Your Own Therapist by Owen O'Kane (5:16) Alcoholics Anonymous (11:23) The Chimp Paradox by Professor Steve Peters (13:33) The War Of Art by Stephen Pressfield (16:35) Dr Gabor Mate (17:13) Johann Hari (18:26) What books do the On The Mend listeners recommend? (21:40) What to do if you don't like reading (22:28) Outro

    JOHANN HARI: rethinking the war on drugs

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 76:51


    This week's guest is Johann Hari, whose books and TED Talks on depression, anxiety, and addiction have reached millions of people. His 2015 talk Everything You Think You Know About Addiction Is Wrong had a huge impact on Matt, changing how he thought about his own recovery. Matt then devoured Johann's first book Chasing The Scream which looked at the war on drugs, through the story of Billie Holiday. While writing this book, Johann travelled the world to find out how different countries and cultures are dealing with addiction. Because, when it comes to treatment, prevention and enforcement, some countries have got it nailed... and some really haven't. In fact, many countries (including the UK) have got a lot to learn when it comes to our attitudes towards drugs and addiction. This conversation dives into Billie Holiday's story and the legacy of Harry J Anslinger's war on drugs; the importance of connection and compassion in addiction recovery; and what we can learn from innovations in countries like Portugal and Switzerland, and, at the community level, in Vancouver. (01:10) Johann's funeral song (a surprising choice, but perhaps not for Busted fans) (02:44) The impact of Johann's Ted Talk on Matt (04:45) Johann's motivation for researching addiction (08:43) The Rat Park experiment and the importance of connection (13:26) The U.S. vs. Billie Holiday and what this story teaches us about the war on drugs (27:36) Addiction treatment in the prison system (32:32) Shame and stigma in addiction (and the importance of looking at multiple factors) (43:40) The impact of junk values in contemporary society (51:00) Looking for, and fixating on, negative feedback (53:36) The different approach to addiction in Portugal  (59:07) Andrew Sullivan, gay marriage, and important cultural change (01:01:59) Decriminalisation vs. legalisation and the Swiss approach to addiction (01:06:22) The power of ordinary people in cultural change (01:07:54) What we can learn from Vancouver (Bud Osborn and Philip Owen) (01:14:24) Concluding thoughts from Johann and Matt Related links: Johann's books The film adaptation of Chasing The Scream: The United States vs, Billie Holiday Billie Holiday's Strange Fruit Bruce K Alexander's Rat Park experiment Joe Arpaio's Tent City Dr Vincent J Felitti Dr Gabor Maté  Professor Tim Kasser's The High Price of Materialism and his experiment with Nathan Duncan Portugal's Dr João Goulão Virtually Normal by Andrew Sullivan Former President of Switzerland Ruth Dreifuss The Vancouver Area Network of Drug Users: VANDU Former Vancouver Mayor Philip Owen NHS: Getting Help for Drug Addiction

    SOLO EPISODE: On Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2024 30:56


    This week, Matt is opening up about a topic that makes many of us uncomfortable… love!Matt and his wife, broadcaster Emma Willis, have been going strong for 20 years. They've been through high, lows and all sorts of addiction-related battles. If anything, they've come out of the other side stronger. Since Matt and Emma began hosting the UK Series of Love Is Blind, the pair have been asked the same question by countless people: what's the secret to their happy marriage?If you want the honest, raw answer, then listen up. Matt has thought long and hard about this, and today he's sharing his secret to a long-lasting, successful relationship. He's also stepping out of his comfort zone to shed truth on the long, often tricky, journey he's been on to learn to love himself.Love Is Blind UK is out now on Netflix.If you've been watching already, let Matt know if you're enjoying!(0:00) Intro(0:16) Daily gratitude (3:16) Using Journal app to document growth(4:03) Struggling with daily affirmations(5:00) Talking about love(5:43) Matt never believed in love as a kid(6:53) What's the secret to Matt and Emma's relationship?(7:54) What doesn't kill us makes us stronger(8:29) The people you love will change(9:55) Relationships are not 50:50 (11:13) You can't love while you're dealing with addiction (12:20) The route of a strong relationship is honesty (17:13) Relationships are never perfect (17:39) Learning to love yourself (19:38) Treat yourself how you treat others(20:15) How therapy has unlocked self-love(24:02) Being at peace with your past self(25:23) Reacting to triggers (25:56) Lessons from elderly people (what's important about life?)(27:08) Lessons from Johann Hari (the opposite of addiction is connection)(29:00) How does Matt feel today?(29:23) OutroRelated links:Johann Hari's Ted Talk: Everything You Know About Addiction Is WrongChasing The Scream by Johann Hari

    DR DAVID SPIEGEL: using hypnosis to take back control (with a demo)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 54:05


    Matt dives into the world of hypnosis with the psychiatrist Dr David Spiegel. In this episode, Matt finds out just how susceptible he is to hypnosis, with results that truly blow him away, and he gets some practical tips on how to reduce anxiety. Dr Spiegel is the Director of the Center on Stress and Health at Stanford University School of Medicine and a leading authority on hypnosis. He has 50 years experience in this field and he uses hypnosis as a problem-solving tool to treat physical and mental issues - including pain, addiction, anxiety and trauma. He talks to Matt about this fascinating therapeutic tool and how he's giving more people the opportunity to use self-hypnosis, to better manage their minds and bodies, through his Reveri app. Related links: The Reveri app use the code MATT20 for a 20% discount More on Dr David Spiegel Cyclic Sighing Dr Andrew Huberman Dr Gabor Maté  Dopamine Nation by Dr Anna Lembke (01:46) Dr Herbert Spiegel (David's father and a pioneer in hypnosis) (04:38) What is hypnosis and how does it work? (05:46) Dr Spiegel's first experience of using hypnosis  (09:41) Is hypnosis safe? (11:54) How cyclic sighing calms your body and improves your mood (15:56) The many conditions hypnosis can help (including migraines and phobias) (19:52) Differing levels of hypnotisability (21:44) Dr Spiegel tests Matt's hypnotisability (27:40) Hypnosis and addiction (including smoking) (30:00) Hypnosis and trauma (40:18) Relapse prevention (and the role of dopamine in addiction) (42:08) The Reveri hypnosis app (45:09) Hypnosis and anxiety (including practical tips for performers like Matt) (53:01) Matt's outro (he's both amazed and more relaxed)

    Q and A Special: Busted, Relapsing And More

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2024 38:11


    Matt is back in the hot seat for our second Q and A episode! We loved our first Q and A episode so much that we're back with a new round of questions from some of our listeners. Get ready to hear about a range of topics, as Matt opens up about being in a band as a recovering addict, how to best support an addict in your life, removing guilt from relapsing, and so much more. Missed the previous Q and A episode? Catch up here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KNbgwGGqo5GzZTCez4cNy?si=nxmDA9RXRQaLI9_9O7axUA --will tweak these timestamps when final edit comes through-- (0:00) Intro (0:59) What has Matt been up to? (3:16) Playing at Download Festival (6:59) Answering your questions about Busted (8:57) Addiction and song writing (10:43) Would Matt ever go solo? (12:58) Recovery and creativity (15:42) The power of music (17:03) How to support a binge drinker (18:57) Communication is key (20:53) Is it possible to be a ‘cured' addict? (24:23) Life sober vs as an addict (26:26) What to do if you keep failing at sobriety (30:00) How to get over the guilt of relapse? (33:19) How to stay positive (36:30) Matt's new tattoo! (38:38) Will Emma Willis join the podcast? (40:50) Who's Matt's dream guest on On The Mend? (43:33) Outro

    NIKKI LILLY: finding power and beauty in our differences

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2024 57:23


    Matt chats to the BAFTA Award-winning YouTube star, and campaigner, Nikki Lilly. At the age of six, Nikki was diagnosed with a high flow craniofacial AVM (Arteriovenous Malformation). A rare condition which causes life-threatening nose bleeds and extreme swelling. Since then, Nikki's had almost one hundred medical procedures, as well as therapy, to help process the trauma and pain. When Nikki started vlogging two years later, she was spending a lot of time at home. She often felt disconnected from the world, from her peers, and she was looking for something to do. But her YouTube channel had an unexpected impact – helping her reach millions of people, while covering a range of topics, from online bullying, to chronic illness, mental health, and make-up (a big passion). Nikki was only 19 at the time of recording this conversation but she has wisdom and strength beyond her years. And she's determined to make a positive difference by sharing her story and films. Related links: Nikki's YouTube Channel Tik Tok The Butterfly AVM Charity Nikki's award-winning BBC documentary: Born To Vlog (01:35) Nikki on her BAFTA Award (and fear of public speaking) (04:16) Posting her first YouTube video (and dealing with negative comments) (18:49) Nikki's time in hospital and disconnection from her peers (22:02) What is AVM? (Arteriovenous Malformation) (26:33) How therapy has helped Nikki (35:02) Dissociation and how Nikki grounds herself (37:37) Importance of alone time (42:45) Parental support (45:36) The power in make-up (51:36) Being an inspiration and advocate for visible difference

    The Biggest Lesson My Guests Have Taught Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2024 26:31


    We're 8 episodes into series 2 of On The Mend… and what a journey it's been so far! It's about time we looked back on some of our best moments. So today, Matt is reflecting on the lessons his recent guests have taught him. Unpicking the key messages that have stuck with him for weeks on end – and are sure to stick with you too.  We're looking back on our chats with Geordie Queen Vicky Pattison, Alcohol-Free Advocate Andy Ramage, and Mental Health Pioneer Ruby Wax. Each had their own story to tell. From the fear of passing problems on to your kids, to understanding what ‘middle lane drinking' is, to taking the stigma away from depression, there's plenty for us to dive into.  What's been your favourite moment from series 2? Leave a comment. We'd love to know! (0:00) Intro (0:59) Daily Gratitude (new ice bath!) (1:51) Spending more time with my wife (3:05) Spending more time with my son (4:40) What have I learnt from On The Mend's guests so far? (5:12) What I've learnt from Vicky Pattison  (8:30) Is addiction genetic or generational trauma? (12:45) What Andy Ramage taught me about ‘middle lane drinking' (21:05) What Ruby Wax taught me about mental health (25:36) Outro

    DR JAMES KUSTOW: how to thrive with adult ADHD

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2024 74:32


    Matt speaks to his very own psychiatrist, Dr James Kustow, about adult ADHD. James studied medicine, before training in psychiatry. He's now a consultant who specialises in ADHD and has trained further in psychotherapy and nutrition.  But being an expert is only half of the story. Because, like Matt, James was also diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. In this wide-ranging conversation, the pair talk about ADHD symptoms, diagnosis, the correlation with addiction, the use of medication, and the different targets for intervention that James explores, before taking a pharmaceutical approach. Related links: Dr James Kustow How to Thrive with Adult ADHD: 7 Pillars for Focus, Productivity and Balance Dr William Dodson on emotional regulation Dr Carol Dweck's Growth Mindset EFT (emotional freedom techniques) NHS Guide to ADHD (01:55) James' training and specialism in ADHD (05:06) What is ADHD (09:50) Matt's ADHD diagnosis (10:47) Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) (13:25) The clarity that comes with diagnosis  (15:10) More on the symptoms of ADHD (17:50) Adult onset ADHD, and other factors (environment, hyper-mobility & inflammation) (22:18) The ADHD assessment and childhood history (28:57) James' ADHD diagnosis (34:25) The challenge of achieving goals and completing tasks  (37:42) Variations in the presentation of ADHD (41:38) ADHD and addiction (45:46) Medication (55:18) Growth mindset (59:56) Sleep, routine & ADHD (1:01:33) Taking control of your time (1:05:02) Systems to avoid feeling overloaded (1:08:30) Looking at physical health  (1:11:00) Emotional regulation techniques (1:12:36) Matt's outro

    How To Deal With Criticism From Loved Ones

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 9, 2024 25:25


    This week we're getting personal! Matt is upping the vulnerability scale, as he lets the closest people in his life – colleagues, friends, and even his wife – fire a round of constructive criticism his way.Getting feedback about your flaws is extremely scary. But it's a powerful way to identify the things you need to work on. And if Matt can do it, so can all of you listening!Wherever you are in your addiction recovery journey, mental health journey, or general self development journey, this is a pitstop you'll want to take note of.  (0:00) Daily gratitude(3:15) Criticism and feedback(4:52) Becoming comfortable with criticism (learn to be vulnerable!)(9:15) Learning to follow through (11:10) Stop swearing so much!(13:47) Passion being your strength and your flaw(14:53) Criticism from my wife, Emma(17:50) Advice from Jordan Stephens (Rizzle Kicks) on changing your environment(19:30) How to work on your problems(19:58) How to live honestly (22:10) Holding your partner accountable(24:32) outro  

    RUBY WAX: taking depression seriously

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 53:37


    This week's guest is Ruby Wax. A comedian, writer, and mental health advocate, who has wisdom to spare. When she was younger, Ruby often felt lonely - like she didn't fit in - and she turned to comedy. A reinvention that gave Ruby a taste for attention and led her to drama school, and eventually her own television show in which she met the biggest celebrities of the day. After 25 years in television, Ruby reinvented herself once again. She studied mindfulness-based cognitive therapy at Oxford University. And she now works to remove the stigma around mental health. Not least in her book - I'm Not As Well As I Thought I Was - a very personal account of depression and the adventures she followed to find meaning in her life. Related links: Ruby's website Ruby's books, including I'm Not As Well As I Thought I Was and A Mindfulness Guide For Survival Ruby's tour When Ruby Wax Met (BBC series) Frazzled Cafe NHS Guide to Local Mental Health Services Mind's Guide to Crisis Services Esther Perel (one of Ruby's heroes) The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk Dr Dan Siegel Sam Harris Jon Kabat-Zinn on mindfulness Topics: (02:14) Soft toy vs green juice (04:22) Ruby's book (I'm Not As Well As I Thought I Was) (12:00) Depression, and coming off antidepressants (13:38) EMDR, ECT, and other treatments (17:19) De-stigmatising depression, while taking it seriously (20:24) Psilocybin therapy (22:41) Mindfulness and a 30-day silent retreat (28:24) Ruby's mindfulness practice (37:36) The addict label and the victim mentality (39.55) Ruby's heroes, including Esther Perel, Bessel van der Kolk, Dan Siegel and Sam Harris (42:17) Reinvention (and the addictiveness of fame) (45:15) Ruby Wax Meets (Pamela Anderson, Carrie Fisher, Donald Trump & Liza Minnelli) (48:42) Ruby's tour (and playing all the parts in her book) (51:26) Matt's outro

    Opening Up About My Recovery (Answering YOUR Questions)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2024 46:20


    Matt is putting himself in the hot seat for today's episode! We've rounded up some of your most pressing questions for an honest, judgment-free Q and A session, where Matt shares some of his own personal experiences in hopes that some of you guys will resonate. We're diving deep into the aspects of sobriety nobody talks about, how to deal with anxiety, managing family life, and much more. If you have a question that Matt didn't cover, we'd like to do more of these! Just leave a reply in the Q and A box below. (00:00) – Introduction  (00:31) – Daily gratitude  (03:54) – How am I? (struggling with sleep) (06:40) – How to manage your time better (07:56) – Quick breathing exercise for anxiety  (11:00) – Following a 12-step programme for sobriety  (16:24) – Maintaining a schedule  (18:08) – Has being in a band made addiction harder? (21:26) – Setting boundaries (23:16) – Busted tours are better sober!

    ANDY RAMAGE: motivation and the joy of living alcohol-free

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2024 60:51


    Matt meets Andy Ramage, a footballer who became a commodities broker, when injury ended his career.  While Andy's career was a success, something was missing. He felt broken. And so ten years ago, he embarked on a journey to transform his life. Andy realised that alcohol was impacting how he felt, and his ability to get things done. So, he set his sights on a 90 days booze-free challenge. And he's never looked back. If you need a bit of motivation right now, whatever challenge you want to take on, Andy's the man for the occasion. Related links: Andy's website (with free resources and coaching workshops) Andy's books: Let's Do This & The 28 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge The Alcohol-Free Advantage Podcast with Andy Ramage The Dryy App Dryy Fest NHS Alcohol Support Services Nick Littlehales' Sleep  BJ Fogg's Tiny Habits (00:00) Introduction (01:23) Andy's move from football into broking (05:40) Andy's definition of “middle-lane drinking” (08:42) Wanting to try alcohol-free (and the social pressure around drinking) (14:37) Andy's diagnosis of coronary artery calcification  (16:32) Living optimally alcohol-free - the health benefits (20:46) Matt's experience of people asking him about their own drinking (21:58) Andy's advice for starting an alcohol-free journey (moving past the excuses) (25:33) The effect that middle lane drinking has on your sleep, performance and health (31:00) What's going on in your brain (chasing that dopamine spike) (34:32) Relationships with people who aren't alcohol-free (37:57) The red wine myth (resveratrol) and “magic grannies” (40:34) Socialising, alcohol-free drinks, and Dryy Fest (46:57) Studying in later life (48:22) Willpower and motivational psychology (49:48) Andy's advice for building exercise habits (and core values) (54:40) The stages of change and accepting that you will slip up (58:14) Matt's outro

    What I Do For My Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 29:53


    Matt is braving it for a solo episode this week! He's stepping out of his comfort zone for a candid chat about a big part of any addict's recovery: mental health. It's a topic lots of our listeners have been asking Matt to open up about. So today, he's breaking down the day-to-day practices that have helped him the most – and can help you too. Some of these habits Matt developed early on in his recovery journey. Others he's only beginning to see the potential of today. From a beginner's introduction to meditation, to the power of a freezing cold shower (just hear us out!), to the number one way to start your day, we hope that everyone can take something away from this conversation.  (00:00) Introduction  (02:29) Start everyday with gratitude (07:00) What I do for my mental health (08:45) An introduction to meditation   (14:14) Relaxation with binaural beats  (16:03) Getting dopamine from cold water therapy (21:20) Get moving everyday (23:00) Changing my relationship with my past self (24:00) The power of therapy (27:47) Follow evidence over self belief 

    VICKY PATTISON: anxiety, alcohol and advocating for yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2024 61:48


    Matt Willis returns for a second series of On The Mend. His first guest is Vicky Pattison, a Jungle Queen, whose feet haven't touched the ground since she first appeared on our screens in 2011.  Geordie Shore was a baptism by fire, at a time when reality television was “a bit like the Wild West”. Vicky was only in her early 20s, she was unprepared for the spotlight, and she created a caricature of herself to hide the vulnerable person struggling inside. But since then, Vicky has put in the work. She's learned what makes her tick, the tools which help her anxiety, and how to navigate her own relationship with alcohol, and her father's alcoholism.  Vicky was determined to become the best version of herself, she seized the opportunity to change public opinion on I'm A Celebrity… And she wants to inspire the next generation of women to never dim their sparkle, and go after exactly what they want.  This interview was recorded in March 2024, a few months after Vicky had returned from an endurance mission in the Arctic Circle, raising funds for Comic Relief.  Related links: NACOA (The National Association for Children of Alcoholics) NHS Alcohol Support Services Vicky Pattison: Alcohol, Dad and Me (Channel 4) Matt Willis: Fighting Addiction (BBC) Snow Going Back: Comic Relief v the Arctic  (BBC) The Secret to Happy: How to build resilience, banish self-doubt and live the life you deserve (Vicky's book) Vicky Pattison: The Secret To (podcast)

    Lauren Mahon

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2023 50:37


    Matt Willis is joined by podcaster, charity founder and cancer activist, Lauren Mahon (and her dog, Ray). Lozza, as she likes to be called, talks to Matt about breaking the taboos around cancer, talking more openly about illnesses and death and how friends and family can really help in dark times. They discuss her own breast cancer diagnosis, which she got aged 31, her activism, her overactive brain and why sometimes you just need to go to the cinema. Lozza's podcast 'You Me And The Big C' can be found here, although she doesn't host it anymore, for reasons she discusses on the podcast. It's a very open, honest and inspirational chat, and we hope that you will find it as powerful a listen, as we did recording it. (and apologies for the swears!)If you have been effected by anything you've heard in today's episode, there are some links below for help and advice: Macmillan Cancer SupportGood Grief TrustNHS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Dr Rangan Chatterjee

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2023 63:27


    On our latest episode, Matt Willis visits Dr Rangan Chatterjee at his home for an in-depth chat about mental health and wellbeing. Rangan has practiced medicine for over 20 years and believes that good health is accessible to all of us. His goal is to change the way we look at illness and shares his learnings and expertise on his own podcast - 'Feel Better, Live More' - which Matt was a guest on previously. They discuss the feeling of shame, how powerful and negative it is, and what can be done to help people disassociate with that emotion. Dr Chatterjee also shares some simple tips for better mental health, as well as talking about the 'Four Pillars' that he lives by. Rangan's books are bestsellers, and his passion for making people feel better is so evident in the way he writes and speaks. In this episode, we cover addiction, mental health and mindfulness, and hope there are some good takeaways. If you are effected by any of the topics discussed today, here are some links which may be helpful: The SamaritansAAThe NHSMind Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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