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Unlock Deeper Connections: The 4 Levels of Relationships Explained (Matthew Hussey Framework)How to Level Up Your Frame WorkAre you trying to understand the different stages of your romantic relationships? In this insightful episode, we delve into Matthew Hussey's powerful "Four Levels of a Relationship" framework: Admiration, Mutual Attraction, Commitment, and Compatibility.Join Gordon McGee from the No Pills Podcast as he breaks down each level, highlighting the crucial difference between fleeting attraction and true commitment. Learn why open communication is key to navigating these stages and how compatibility is essential for a lasting, healthy partnership.Discover:What each of the four levels truly means.The dangers of mistaking attraction for commitment.Why open communication is vital for relationship progress.The significance of compatibility in long-term success.The importance of self-love and setting standards in dating.Whether you're single, dating, or in a committed relationship, understanding these levels can provide valuable clarity and help you build stronger, more fulfilling connections.Inspired by a Mel Robbins Podcast episode featuring New York Times bestselling author and relationship coach Matthew Hussey.➤ Support Go Stand and Preach https://www.gostandandpreach.org/donateYou Can Also Follow Me on: ➤TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gostandandpreach ➤Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gostandandpreach ➤Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gostandandpreach/ ➤Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-pillz-with-gordon-mcghee/id1707970107?i=1000662278399➤Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/1tq6QGWTkCFe2skOb7x2Yb?si=66c65281dd644537 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:12 Exploring the Four Levels of Relationships02:14 Admiration: The First Level02:34 Mutual Attraction: The Second Level02:52 Commitment: The Third Level03:32 Compatibility: The Fourth Level04:00 Gordon's Improved Framework07:33 Practical Application and Conclusionhttps://youtu.be/cf4ANNIRjdk?si=zYxuzGgKp3X77CnuContact No Pillz: Tweet us @nopillzpodcast Email: nopillzpodcast@gmail.com YouTube: @nopillzpodcast Insta: @nopillzpodcast Thanks for listening & keep podcasting!
Matthew Hussey revealed “the best relationship advice that no one ever told you” on The Mel Robbins Podcast recently in the form of the “4 Levels” framework. It sounds relatively straightforward: 1) Admiration, 2) Mutual Attraction, 3) Commitment, and 4) Compatibility. But personal experience proves that getting from one level to the next requires risk-taking and emotional vulnerability. So how do you structure these hard conversations with a partner to get to that next level? Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/ __________________________________________ Hosts: Melody Cheng, Janet Wang, Helen Wu Contributing Editor: Haemee Kang __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • OneSkin: Free travel bag ($39 value!) with your first order over $79 with code “ABG” at OneSkin.co • Orgain: Receive 20% off your order with code “ABG” at Orgain.com/ABG • Money Crimes: Catch new episodes every Thursday - just search for “Money Crimes” • Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 today! • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Join our Discord channel: https://discord.com/invite/4HxZgwFbhg • Email: hello@asianbossgirl.com __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
If you want to work with me one on one head over to www.nicobarraza.comCarly Pinchin, an entrepreneur and podcast host, shares her journey of going through a conscious decoupling and the decision-making process that led to the end of her marriage. She discusses the importance of authenticity and openly sharing the struggles of relationships on social media. Carly emphasizes the need for both partners to be willing to grow and evolve together, and the challenges of trying to change someone or expecting them to change for the relationship. She also highlights the significance of self-reflection, knowing one's values and non-negotiables, and the importance of emotional intimacy and connection in a relationship. The conversation explores the challenges and complexities of dating in the modern world, particularly for those who are monogamous. It delves into the process of healing and self-discovery after a breakup, and the importance of finding safety and security within oneself before seeking a new partner. The discussion also touches on the paradox of choice in online dating and the need for authenticity and vulnerability in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of mutual attraction, honesty, and upfrontness in the dating process, as well as the need for both men and women to embrace their emotions and be open to true intimacy. In this conversation, Carly and Nico discuss the complexities of dating as a single parent. They explore the challenges and opportunities that come with being a parent while navigating the dating world. They also touch on the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and finding a partner who is understanding and supportive of the parenting dynamic. Carly shares her experiences and insights as a single mother, while Nico provides a male perspective on dating someone with children.TakeawaysAuthenticity and openly sharing the struggles of relationships on social media can provide a sense of connection and support.Both partners need to be willing to grow and evolve together in order to maintain a healthy relationship.Trying to change someone or expecting them to change for the relationship is not sustainable.Self-reflection and knowing one's values and non-negotiables are important in making relationship decisions.Emotional intimacy and connection are crucial for a successful and fulfilling relationship. Finding safety and security within oneself is crucial before entering the dating process.Dating apps can be exhausting and it's important to take breaks and meet people naturally.Authenticity, vulnerability, and mutual attraction are key in building meaningful relationships.Both men and women need to embrace their emotions and be open to true intimacy.Society's expectations and stereotypes can hinder genuine connection and understanding in relationships. Dating as a single parent can be complex and challenging, but it also presents opportunities for growth and connection.Finding a partner who is understanding and supportive of the parenting dynamic is crucial.Open and honest communication is key in navigating the complexities of dating as a single parent.Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care is important for both the parent and the potential partner.Being a single parent can bring a unique level of maturity and perspective to a relationship. Carly's Links below!Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/carlypinchin/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlyPinchin (https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlyPinSupport the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com
Welcome back to our ongoing exploration of the Art of Being a Great Friend. In today's episode, we delve into the vital aspect of building friendships, anchored by the fundamental principle of mutual attraction. Attraction in friendship will result in two things: emotional attachment and personal commitment. Learning to build our lives on our core beliefs will help us in enjoying genuine intimate friendships. You can tune in by clicking on the link below. Have a great weekend. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thefriendfluence/message
What You'll Hear In This Episode:AI technology is revolutionizing online dating by enhancing user safety and security, detecting fraudulent profiles, and improving overall user experience.The rise of AI-generated fake profiles and content highlights the importance of AI technology in helping users identify and avoid scams online.Advancements in AI technology on dating sites, such as chatbots and voice assistants, will facilitate seamless communication and language translation, catering to diverse user needs.Data privacy concerns regarding the collection and ethical use of user data for AI algorithms need to be addressed by dating apps to ensure user trust and protection.AI features like personalized prompts and icebreakers simplify and enhance the conversation and connection process for users, reducing swipe burnout.Key quotes:"We really encourage all of our clients to do a background check on anyone they're dating, no matter how legitimate they think that person is, because you'd be surprised what you can uncover." — Lisa Shield"AI technology can also provide a more seamless and convenient user experience on dating sites, including chatbots, chat bots, voice assistance, and language translation services." — Lisa Shield"You can actually feed the AI past email responses to similar kinds of questions, and the AI will learn your tone, how you would respond, and then do in a matter of minutes what it would take you hours to do or take an assistant hours to do for you." — Lisa ShieldContinue On Your Journey:Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With LisaEmail the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com
Wild Perspectives sits down to discuss usher and Keke palmer situation, Adam22 cuckhold activities and much more !
What you are seeking is also seeking you. In order to find success you must be totally consumed by it, and continually moving toward that objective. Whatever you are looking for in life is also looking for you, and with the same degree of effort as your level of interest in finding it.
If a married man develops feelings for his friend's wife, he knows that the implications are huge. But what is the underlying problem, and what can be done to ensure that martial destruction is not the end result.
We crank up the Warp drive to transport you back to the year our music re-established our dominance of the Dance-Floor, Off the back of the Brit Jazz Funk-a-tiers revolution 81-2 Production houses unleashed full blown Dance Mixes designed to fuel an 80'S DanceFloor. This evolution was not a singularity! As sub Genre's like Hip Hop and Electro Rock would also be carried on a wave that would fracture the conformity that was the mainstream, And it is within this edition you will feel the infectious Positive vibes that translated into the very DNA of Dance with Artists replicating this new found resurgence of which was projected into the very lyrics and harmony's of the Good Groove… Record Labels, Record Stores Soul belts Farah's and so much more! This was indeed the year of Dance as Feel Good once again impacted the real social network [Going out and Meeting someone] Disco Pubs were backdrops for interaction often generating Mutual Attraction further supported by Pirate Radio transmitting when able above the Law. This year was wonderful and as you once again experience this Journey through my records, Original, Worn and lightly scored… Bare in mind this year is but a mere pre-curser to… The year that nearly wasn't...1984 Welcome back to our collective memories The Star-Date 1983. The Dance Decade Soul A:M Records Vinyl Uncut.
Recorded live on a Sunday evening in front of a small Twitch audience, an hour of jazz joints make up the latest episode of Pullin from the Stacks! Stay tuned for future episodes to be streamed live as well starting in May. No episode next week as I'll be traveling but a new Knowledge Breaks before the month is out...thanks for tuning in! Tracklist: Donald Byrd, Hampton Hawes, Jazz Traficantes, George Shearing, Frank Cunimondo, Steve Grossman, Stanley Turrentine, Michel Sardaby, Clare Fischer, Atlantis Jazz Ensemble, Mutual Attraction, Build An Ark
In episode 24 we speak with Jason Weiser of Military Miniatures magazine about why certain periods attract more players than others. We discuss our thoughts on why WW2 & Napoleonics always claim the top spots in popularity. Also, which period regularly comes in at number three in the top five periods, what other periods are in the top 5, and why do they fluctuate in and out of the top 5. Military Miniatures Magazine is conducting a charity auction to benefit the International Rescue Committee which is currently working closely with those displaced by the conflict in Ukraine. They are looking for donations items that would be of interest to wargamers (i.e., figures, rules, terrain, etc.) that they can auction off on their forum site. The auction will be held on the Military Miniature Forum (linked below) from April 1 to 30. For questions or to participate, contact Jason@militaryminiature.com. To check out their forum, head over to http://militaryminiature.com/forum.Some of the Manufacturers/Publishers mentioned in this episode:· Military Miniature Magazine: https://militaryminiature.com/· Peter Pig: www.peterpig.co.uk· Baccus 6mm: www.baccus6mm.com· Firelock Games: www.firelockgames.com· Khurasan Miniatures: https://khurasanminiatures.tripod.com/· Mortem et Gloriam: https://mortem-et-gloriam.co.uk/meg/· May ‘40 Miniatures: www.may40miniatures.com/· Gringo 40's: www.gringo40s.com/· Empress Miniatures: www.empressminiatures.com/· Too Fat Lardies: https://toofatlardies.co.uk/· Brookhurst Hobbies: https://brookhursthobbies.com/We found out about HMGS-PSW's show, Desert Wars a bit late to promote prior to the show but if anyone listening attended this show, we'd love to hear more about it for the future. HMGS-Pacific South West's website is www.hmgspsw.orgPatreon Page:· www.patreon.com/accrossthepondwargamers We welcome your comments, suggestions, or thoughtful criticisms and can be reached at gary@acrossthepondwargamers.comHosted and produced by Gary Grimes and Collin Grimes. Original theme music written and performed by Brian Stolfa Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/AcrossThePondWargamers)
Welcome my BMS Listeners.Today's show features some of my favorite old-school classics with a slant on the producers of the period. Particularly Jimmy Jam & Terry Lewis, Kashif, Nile Rodgers & Bernard Edwards, and Mauro Malavasi. BMS Episode 89 features The S.O.S. Band, Evelyn ‘Champagne' King, Change, The B.B., and Q Band and many more!Let's take this ride together and remember when music was Music!PLAYLIST1. Just Be Good To Me/S.O.S. BAND2. Keep On Lovin' Me/The Whispers3. Inside Love (So Personal)/George Benson4. I'm In Love/Evelyn 'Champagne' King5. Love's Comin' At Ya/Melba Moore6. Children Of The Night/BBQ Band7. Wait For Me/Slave8. Inside Out/Odyssey9. You Used To Hold Me So Tight/Thelma Houston10. Mutual Attraction 12" Remix/Change11. When You Look In My Eyes/Cherrelle12. Will You Cry (When You Hear This Song)/Chic13. Is It Good To You/The Whispers14. What's Missing (Extended Mix)/Alexander O'Neal15. I Love You More/Rene & Angela16. Feelin' Lucky Lately/High Fashion17. Lost In Music/Sister Sledge
¹ Sylvester James Jr., known simply as Sylvester, was an American singer-songwriter. Primarily active in the genres of disco, rhythm and blues, and soul, he was known for his flamboyant and androgynous appearance, falsetto singing voice, and hit disco singles in the late 1970s and 1980s. After releasing his self-titled debut album in 1977, he had moderate success on the Disco charts with "Over and Over," which is represented here by DJ Meme's exceptional tribute mix. Sylvester followed up in 1978 with "Step II," which generated the monumental hits "Dance (Disco Heat)" and "You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)" featuring backup singers Martha Wash and Izora Rhodes as Two Tons O' Fun. Several years later, the lady's went on to their own gay icon status with the iconic "It's Raining Men" as the Weather Girls after Barbra Streisand passed on the track for her water-themed album "Wet." It should also be noted that Patrick Cowley was invited to join this session and became instrumental in the synthesized arrangements of his biggest hits. He would later play an even more important role in Sylvester's success. The subsequent album "Stars" did moderately well and generated the fabulous "I (Who Have Nothing)" but failed to generate the excitement of the previous album. Subsequent albums faired poorly as Sylvester moved away from his disco roots after the backlash of the "disco sucks" movement. After leaving his label and taking more control over his music, he partnered with Patrick Cowley again on his small imprint Megatone Records out of San Francisco. By this time, NRG music was exploding in the gay clubs and Cowley was at the forefront of the new dance sound. The lead single "Do Ya Wanna Funk" was a massive success and considered to be one of the all-time gay anthems. It was during this tour in the UK that Sylvester got news of Cowley's death from AIDS. Sylvester would go on to release a couple of more albums with uneven success until his final album "Mutual Attraction" with Megatone that was distributed through Warner Brothers (though I thought it was Columbia) found great success on the dance charts with "Someone Like You," "Living For the City" and the title track. As his health began to deteriorate — his next album was never finished nor released. Creating this tribute set was hands down the most difficult I've ever completed. The music spans five decades including originals with remixes from the 90's to present day. Tempos ranged from 147 to 106 bpm. The decision as to what to include and what to drop was torturous and taming some of the older material into a more cohesive DJ friendly environment was a challenge. Ultimately, I believe I did the man proud or so I hope. Sylvester is an American icon and an openly gay man who not only embraced his sexuality but paved the way for the transgendered and the letter "Q" at the end of our representation (likely unintentionally because he was neither — just Sylvester). There's no doubt that his presentation of queerness was shocking to middle America but he ignited the fire that paved the way for society to become more accepting of those that just want to be themselves. There's no doubt that the world is a better place for having him in it. ¹ Wikipedia Album : Sylvester | The Diva Series Genre : Disco, NRG, House Year : 2021 Total Time : 2:31:16 1. You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real) (David Morales Def 2005 Mix) 2. Rock The Box (Power Remix) 3. Menergy (Deep House Remix) [with Patrick Cowley] 4. I (Who Have Nothing) (Special 12" Disco Mix Edit) 5. Stars (ZsLickHaRn 70's Disco Rebuild) 6. Lovin' Is Really My Game (Disco Purrfection Version) 7. Be With You (Remix) 8. Take Me To Heaven (Remix) 9. Taking Love Into My Own Hands (Remix) 10. Do Ya Wanna Funk (Italian Boy) 11. Sex (Ian Levine Remix) 12. Don't Stop (Joseph Watt Remix) 13. Can't Stop Dancing (12" Mix) 14. Dance (Disco Heat) (Hot Classics Remix) 15.
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¹ Sylvester James Jr., known simply as Sylvester, was an American singer-songwriter. Primarily active in the genres of disco, rhythm and blues, and soul, he was known for his flamboyant and androgynous appearance, falsetto singing voice, and hit disco singles in the late 1970s and 1980s. After releasing his self-titled debut album in 1977, he had moderate success on the Disco charts with "Over and Over," which is represented here by DJ Meme's exceptional tribute mix. Sylvester followed up in 1978 with "Step II," which generated the monumental hits "Dance (Disco Heat)" and "You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)" featuring backup singers Martha Wash and Izora Rhodes as Two Tons O' Fun. Several years later, the lady's went on to their own gay icon status with the iconic "It's Raining Men" as the Weather Girls after Barbra Streisand passed on the track for her water-themed album "Wet." It should also be noted that Patrick Cowley was invited to join this session and became instrumental in the synthesized arrangements of his biggest hits. He would later play an even more important role in Sylvester's success. The subsequent album "Stars" did moderately well and generated the fabulous "I (Who Have Nothing)" but failed to generate the excitement of the previous album. Subsequent albums faired poorly as Sylvester moved away from his disco roots after the backlash of the "disco sucks" movement. After leaving his label and taking more control over his music, he partnered with Patrick Cowley again on his small imprint Megatone Records out of San Francisco. By this time, NRG music was exploding in the gay clubs and Cowley was at the forefront of the new dance sound. The lead single "Do Ya Wanna Funk" was a massive success and considered to be one of the all-time gay anthems. It was during this tour in the UK that Sylvester got news of Cowley's death from AIDS. Sylvester would go on to release a couple of more albums with uneven success until his final album "Mutual Attraction" with Megatone that was distributed through Warner Brothers (though I thought it was Columbia) found great success on the dance charts with "Someone Like You," "Living For the City" and the title track. As his health began to deteriorate — his next album was never finished nor released. Creating this tribute set was hands down the most difficult I've ever completed. The music spans five decades including originals with remixes from the 90's to present day. Tempos ranged from 147 to 106 bpm. The decision as to what to include and what to drop was torturous and taming some of the older material into a more cohesive DJ friendly environment was a challenge. Ultimately, I believe I did the man proud or so I hope. Sylvester is an American icon and an openly gay man who not only embraced his sexuality but paved the way for the transgendered and the letter "Q" at the end of our representation (likely unintentionally because he was neither — just Sylvester). There's no doubt that his presentation of queerness was shocking to middle America but he ignited the fire that paved the way for society to become more accepting of those that just want to be themselves. There's no doubt that the world is a better place for having him in it. ¹ Wikipedia Album : Sylvester | The Diva Series Genre : Disco, NRG, House Year : 2021 Total Time : 2:31:16 1. You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real) (David Morales Def 2005 Mix) 2. Rock The Box (Power Remix) 3. Menergy (Deep House Remix) [with Patrick Cowley] 4. I (Who Have Nothing) (Special 12" Disco Mix Edit) 5. Stars (ZsLickHaRn 70's Disco Rebuild) 6. Lovin' Is Really My Game (Disco Purrfection Version) 7. Be With You (Remix) 8. Take Me To Heaven (Remix) 9. Taking Love Into My Own Hands (Remix) 10. Do Ya Wanna Funk (Italian Boy) 11. Sex (Ian Levine Remix) 12. Don't Stop (Joseph Watt Remix) 13. Can't Stop Dancing (12" Mix) 14. Dance (Disco Heat) (Hot Classics Remix) 15.
Did You Know That More and More Single Professionals Are Turning to Matchmakers to Find Love? In this episode, James is joined by Matchmaker April Ashby. April is a trained Matchmaker and also the new owner of two of the UK’s biggest dating agencies – Mutual Attraction and Your Matchmaker In the episode we find out what made April buy two different agencies and why she’s going full steam ahead with new business ideas. They also discuss: Why more and more 30-ish people are turning to a more traditional matchmaking service Why there are more and more single Londoners. How lockdown has affected dating Whether men and women join a matchmaking agency for the same reasons Once you've listened, don't forget to download his latest book for FREE from James' dating coaching website.
CONTEXT: We are in a series on the book of Proverbs that we are calling - Uncommon Sense. If you remember we have see so far that God upon his coronation God gave Solomon a blank check, so that he could as for anything he wanted. God told Solomon to make his request as high as Heaven or as low as Sheol. Solomon requested that God give him WISDOM to lead the people of God. God said, “because you asked for wisdom instead of riches and power - I will give you greater wisdom than all before you or after you. AND I will give you the other things as well. WISDOM - we have said is seeing life and decisions from God’s perspective. PROVERBS - is a training Manuel, if you will, that Solomon wrote for his sons - future Kings of Israel. Many believe that the book of Proverbs came to be a training Manuel for young men throughout the Nation. So far we’ve seen Wisdom, or God’s perspective as it relates to Health, Wealth, and Words… but today is different. Today is perhaps the most perplexing topic that Solomon addressed. It’s the topic of sexual discipline. It’s interesting because if there was anything Solomon did not have it was sexual discipline. We are told that Solomon had 300 wives and 700 concubines. You may wonder how that guy could teach us anything about Wisdom as it relates to Purity. BUT we are told that even in the midst of his most sinful days - his wisdom never left him. He knew God’s perspective… but you see that is the nature of this particular sin… it tends to make one temporarily insane. So that they do things that fly in the face of all reason and logic. As I preach this - names and faces are in my mind - Men, good men, wise men, gifted men… who played with something that plays for keeps. NOT ONE AFFAIR ever seemed logical. One in particular was a great guy, very successful, he had a beautiful wife and three sons… I remember when I heard of his affair I thought to myself, well she must be so amazing that my friend just couldn’t resist… I’ll never forget seeing her and thinking… really? You took that bait? It was illogical. So here is what I want to do - I want to speak to 3 groups this morning: The Innocent - Some of you haven’t been down the path that we will look at this AM. And my intent is to keep you from it. The Guilty - Some are in the clutches of an affair right now. You will be very uncomfortable during this sermon. But remember that faithful are the wounds of a friend. The Friends - You see, when men go down this road, they don’t come and get my advice. But you will be there… you will be able to see what’s happening. As I go through this passage you will remember things you seen and heard and with the help of the Holy Spirit, today you will see exactly what was taking place in your friend’s life. IN chapter 7 Solomon gives us the AUTOPSY of an AFFAIR. CONTEXT: This was written prior to Solomon’s decent into polygamy and adultery. At this point in his life his sons are young adults. Each son has the potential of one day succeeding their father as the next King over God’s people the Jews. Solomon knew the temptations and attacks that these boys would inevitably face. So he digs down into the depths of his immense wisdom and gives his sons one of the most important truth talks they will ever hear. And we get to ease drop. TEXT: Proverbs 7:1–5 (ESV) 1 My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you; 2 keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; 3 bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. 4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call insight your intimate friend, 5 to keep you from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words. Men he is saying it’s not primarily your wife’s job to keep you pure. It’s your responsibility. YOU MUST CHOOSE TO: Embrace wisdom and life or Embrace sin and death. 6 For at the window of my house I have looked out through my lattice, Notice this exalted perspective - Solomon is above the crowd, viewing the unfolding affair from God’s perspective. 7 and I have seen among the simple, I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, Note the perspective of this young man. Unlike Solomon - he sees only what’s in front of him. He’s only aware of what he sees, hears, and feels. 8 passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house The first thing we notice in this Autopsy of an Affair is… 1. Unintentional Living - This Hebrew phrase doesn’t speak of an intentional journey, but a rather casual drifting. So he didn’t get up that morning and say, I think I’ll go down and hang out with the adulterous and see what happens. Some people do that, there’s no hope for those men.... but this is not that guy. Where I grew up we called this “loafing”. He wasn’t doing anything on purpose.. he was browsing, he was hanging out... his was taking a mental vacation. He was VOID of intention. MEN - I have learned that I have to have certain goals, intentions, plans for my life. If you don’t have a goal, Satan is more than happy to provide his for you. Proverbs 7:9 (ESV) 9 in the twilight, in the evening, at the time of night and darkness. Sin like mold grows best in the dark. ILLUSTRATION: I remember when I learned to drive my father said, be home by 10PM. I couldn’t understand why that was important. He said, “Son very little good happens after 10PM”. Now I discovered I could also find bad at 8:30, but that curfew kept me out of a lot of trouble. Not only is there Unintentional Living… 2. Mutual Attraction 10 And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart. Now in this affair we see that the Woman is the Aggressor. MOST MEN ARE HIGHLY VISUAL - The woman who is given over to sexual sin, tends to dress in a very provocative and suggestive way, like a prostitute. MOST WOMEN ARE HIGHLY VERBAL - The man who is given over to sexual sin, is known by what he says and to whom he says it. Beware of the flirtatious man. Beware of the man who seems to scan the room and migrate toward the most attractive woman. Mutual Attraction Doesn’t have to be physical or verbal - but generally it will fall in one of 4 categories that can be remembered with the acronym PIES. P - Physical (Basic Physical attraction) I - Intellectual (Common interests, hobbies, etc) E - Emotional (With the advent of the internet this one happens quickly) S - Spiritual I’ve seen affairs start from a man and woman praying together. (When this occurs it tends to give a false sense of validation of the relationship) So there is Unintentional Living, Mutual Attraction 3. Confirmed Interest 11 She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home; 12 now in the street, now in the market, and at every corner she lies in wait. What is she lying in wait for? Him… she’s arranging her plan and her schedule to spend additional time with this man. 13 She seizes him and kisses him, Now for our culture it seems shocking that she grabs him and kisses him. In the Hebrew culture this was a common way to greet a stranger. The shocking thing to them was that the “seizes him”. Zero in on that statement. Because chances are no one will ever come up and just start kissing you. If they do, you should say to yourself... I think this person has impure motives. That’s not going to happen. However, beware of the lingering touch... the extended hug...The unbroken gaze... these were dangers in their culture and ours. She’s giving him signals that she is interested. 13b. and with bold face she says to him, 14 “I had to offer sacrifices, and today I have paid my vows; 15 so now I have come out to meet you, to seek you eagerly, and I have found you. Did you know that in the bible it said that if you make a sacrifice you are supposed to eat the mean before sundown? So do you see what she is saying? It makes practical sense for you to come in and eat this meal alone with me...That’s very typical of affairs... it makes practical sense for us to travel together. It makes practical sense for us to talk about our career, our families, our problems. There will always be a practical excuse to cross a line. Don’t do it. Proverbs 7:16–19 (ESV) 16 I have spread my couch with coverings, colored linens from Egyptian linen; 17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18 Come, let us take our fill of love till morning; let us delight ourselves with love. I want you to notice that she has made it very clear that she is interested in this man. When attraction is mutual and one of the two parties communicates the attraction… something occurs in the physiology of both parties. ILLUSTRATION: In 1977 a Doctor named Dorothy Tennov began to study this phenomenon. In her writings she coined the term LIMERENCE to describe the physiological state of the person in the midst of an affair. She discovered that the body produced certain chemicals at it entered this state. There was a marked increase in: Testosterone/Estrogen at the early stage which simply indicates the presence of lust. Followed by strong doses of Dopamine, Norepinephrine, and Serotonin - which gave a person the feeling of euphoria, ecstasy, made them less focused, less concerned with the consequences. ILLUSTRATION: This chemical reaction is what causes a normally straight laced man to write poetry. Solomon probably wrote SOS in this state. I wrote poems to my wife in this state. ILLUSTRATION: This is why in the Bible people were allowed to go to war for a year after they were married. Can you imagine how useless they would be on the battlefield, writing poetry as arrows were flying. ILLUSTRATION: Test were run on lab rats where the scientists figured out a way to activate these same chemicals when the rat stepped on a particular peddle. Once the rat figured out how to do it, he continued stepping on the peddle and eventually starved to death. Tennov discovered that this state of Limerence could last 6 months up to 3 years. This is typically the honeymoon stage of most marriages. This is also the typical duration of an affair before a person wakes up and realizes he or she has made a completely foolish decision that they cannot live with. Ultimately upon consummation of the relationship Oxytocin was produced creating a longer term nurturing relationship. You see when it gets to this point logic goes out the window and you forget about the consequences. It is near impossible to reason with a person at this state. Chuck Swindoll once said, “God is never more unreal than in a moment of lust” Look how she encourages him to forget the consequences - 19 For my husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey; 20 he took a bag of money with him; at full moon he will come home.” 21 With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him. 22 All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a stag is caught fast 23 till an arrow pierces its liver; as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life. Psychological and Emotional Consequences - Women who are sexually immoral are 11 times more likely to suffer depression. Regular physical intimacy before marriage increases the divorce rate by as much as 150%. SIMULTANEOUSLY - Men who marry as virgins have a 37% less chance of divorce. Women who marry as virgins have a 24 less chance of divorce. It seems that those who do the hard work of remaining pure before marriage are more likely to do the hard work in marriage as well. Your current Marriage will suffer Did you know it is impossible to ignite feelings for another person and maintain them for your spouse. Jesus said, how can a man serve two masters... he will love the one and hate the other. That’s what happens. When a man says, I don’t love my wife anymore... I have learned to always ask the question... well who have you started to love? Your kids will soon be visiting you every other weekend. Is that what you want for them? Did you know that if you loose your marriage, the chances of them loosing their marriage become significantly greater? Shame and Guilt is Agonizing Someone says, but God will forgive me. Yes but you have to understand.. Proverbs 6:33 (ESV) 33 He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away. Pro. 7 24 And now, O sons, listen to me, and be attentive to the words of my mouth. 25 Let not your heart turn aside to her ways; do not stray into her paths, 26 for many a victim has she laid low, and all her slain are a mighty throng. 27 Her house is the way to Sheol, going down to the chambers of death. WHAT DO I DO? ILLUSTRATION: Thomas Chalmers, “The Expulsive Power of a New Affection” It is seldom that any of our bad habits disappear by a mere process of natural extinction. At least, it is very seldom that this is done through reasoning…or by the force of mental determination. But what cannot be destroyed may be dispossessed. One taste may be made to give way to another. So a young man that idolize pleasure may cease from seeking it because he discovers that it drains him of his wealth. So his love for wealth drives out the idol of pleasure. Perhaps then his love of money is driven out by his worship of ideology or politics. He is willing to give up his money for his new Idol influence and superiority. This is the way the heart operates. The old IDOL must be conquered by the new one. Don’t you see - God doesn’t look at you with hatred and anger - but with love greater than any affair you can imagine. When you feel something so strong for another person you can do what for all practical appearances seems insane - WELL, what do you make of the fact that Jesus Christ looking at you from the perspective of Solomon, through the lattice, knowing what you’d do. Seeing every moment. Watching the chat room conversations, the text messages… Jesus Christ STILL loved you so much that he would come to the earth and die a bloody death to save you from the penalty of your sin… His LOVE for you… is greater than your love for her… if that doesn’t set you free, nothing will. ILLUSTRATION; Two hunters in the field noticed an unusual sight with an American eagle struggling. The men surmised what had happened was that the great bird flying overhead, looked down below, saw the weasel, wanted it for its prey, flew down and with its sharp talons, began to fly off with the wings clutching that weasel to its body. The weasel didn't want to be caught. A weasel has very sharp teeth. So it began to chew the feathers and flesh of that bird, that it lost so much blood that it plummeted to the earth and died. When I read that story, I thought, isn't that interesting, that eagle got what he wanted and when he did, it killed him.
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Laura speak to Lydia Davis - a matchmaker! Lydia works for Mutual Attraction and Laura and Lydia talk about the process of matchmaking, what creates connection and compatibility, why you should give someone a chance even if there aren't fireworks when you first meet and some general dating tips! Find Laura: http://www.laurayates.org/ Get Laura's Free Breakup Audio: http://www.laurayates.org/breakupaudio Laura's Twitter @laurayatesUK Instagram @lauramyates Snapchat: laurayatesuk Laura's email: laurayatescoaching@gmail.com Find Mutual Attraction: http://www.mutualattraction.co.uk/
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