Starve the Ego Feed the Soul

Technology and social media significantly impact how we build and maintain our relationships. This episode explores the concepts of fubbing, the implications of social media on intimacy and trust, the dynamics of online dating, and practical steps toward healthier digital interactions. • Discussion of how technology influences modern relationships • Introduction of fubbing as a relationship challenge • Exploration of social media's effect on emotional connection • Addressing the roots of phone addiction and reliance on validation • The impact of soft cheating and micro-infidelities in digital spaces • Navigating online dating: casual vs. serious intentions • Importance of setting digital boundaries in relationships • Encouragement of mindfulness with technology use • Call to action for individual sessions at www.nicoboraza.comSupport the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Want to work with me one on one? Head over to www.nicobarraza.com and book a free 15-min Zoom consultation to see if it is a good fit for you. I work with individuals and couples.Effective communication is essential for building healthy relationships, yet so many lack the tools to engage in meaningful dialogue. We explore the challenges of emotional dumping, assumptions, and the importance of reciprocal communication to promote understanding and growth. • Discussing the notion of safe spaces in conversations • Exploring the consequences of emotional dumping • The importance of addressing assumptions in relationships • Recognizing the role of self-awareness in communication • Navigating effective communication with friends and family • Mindfulness as a tool for conflict resolution • Learning to improve communication skills during singlehood • The significance of emotional intelligence in everyday interactions • Reflecting on self-responsibility for relationship dynamics • Understanding the need for vulnerability in honest dialogue Please leave a five-star written review on Apple and Spotify podcasts. It helps me out a ton!Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

What if the sky truly is the limit? Join us for an inspiring conversation with Claudia, the president of the Latino Pilots Association (LPA), and Manny, the director of finance, as we explore what it means to break into the aviation industry, particularly for people of color and women. With heartfelt stories of personal and family journeys, they unravel the unique challenges faced by Latinos and Latinas in aviation and share how the LPA is paving the way for a more inclusive future. Whether you're dreaming of a career in aviation or simply curious about what it takes to soar, this episode promises insights and encouragement to chase those dreams.In a tapestry of personal narratives, we hear about the life-altering decisions that led individuals to the aviation field, from parents escaping war and hardship to children finding their wings. The stories of resilience and cultural identity paint a vivid picture of the struggles and triumphs of immigrant families, highlighting the power of perseverance and the unexpected paths life can chart. These tales serve as a testament to the belief that it's never too late to follow one's passion, even when faced with career transitions later in life.As our conversation continues, we spotlight the vibrant community fostered by the LPA and other organizations championing diversity in aviation. We celebrate the spirit of empowerment through mentorship, scholarships, and shared experiences, underscoring the importance of representation. From the exciting prospects for older career changers to the dream aircraft choices of our guests, this episode showcases the personal aspirations and collective mission to inspire the next generation of aviators. So tune in, and let your curiosity take flight as we explore the skies and the stories of those who navigate them.Want to work with me one on one? Head over to www.nicobarraza.comInterested in hiring Sonora Studios for your marketing, social media management, graphic design and or event work? Learn more and contact them at www.sonorastudios.coSupport the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Head over to https://tangem.com/en/ and use code "feedthesoul" for a large discount on your first Crypto Cold Wallet and start investing in your financial future today.Renowned author and dog behavior expert Dr. Alexandra Horowitz joins us to unravel the mysteries behind how dogs perceive their world and the misconceptions we often hold about their emotions. Dive into the fascinating insights from her research at the Horowitz Dog Cognition Lab and discover why dogs might not be smiling when we think they are. Through personal anecdotes and scientific observations, we explore the rich emotional lives of dogs and how our relationships with them reflect our own personalities and behaviors.We promise a fresh perspective on human-animal relationships, particularly the unique bond we share with our furry friends. From the joy and playfulness that dogs bring to our lives to the complex emotions involved in the loss of a pet, this episode covers it all. We chat about the intriguing notion that people often choose dogs that mirror their own traits, and the ongoing debate on whether dogs are a subspecies of wolves or a distinct species entirely. Our discussion also touches on Dr. Horowitz's exploration of the olfactory world of dogs, as detailed in her book "Being a Dog."Listeners will be captivated by the philosophical considerations of cloning pets and the unmatched uniqueness each new animal brings into our lives. We share touching stories that highlight dogs' resilience and the deep gratitude they exhibit, especially those mixed-breed "res dogs" from the Navajo reservation. This episode will leave you with a profound appreciation for dogs and the valuable insights they provide into our own lives, encouraging a more thoughtful approach to understanding these remarkable companions.To work with me one on one or inquire more head over to www.nicobarraza.comTo learn more about Dr. Horotwiz's work head to her website and purchase her books here https://alexandrahorowitz.net/Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Use code BEHEALED on both of these websites https://signalrelief.com/ and https://meetjovi.com/And to donate to me finding a surgeon that will help me go here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-nico-barraza-soar-after-five-surgeriesThe podcast episode explores the fundamental skill of listening during emotionally charged moments and the barriers that prevent effective communication in relationships. Through personal anecdotes, I discuss the necessity of empathy, the true nature of apologies, and the importance of setting boundaries while remaining open-hearted.• Urging listeners to listen actively, even when triggered • Discussing the significance of true apologies and accountability • Highlighting emotional labor within relationships • Sharing personal stories of compassion and connection • Addressing the internal battles of mental health and societal pressures • Encouraging self-awareness and community ties • Emphasizing the power of showing up for one another in times of needSupport the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Just an update on where I am physically, mentally, and emotionally after this 5th surgery. As a warning this isn't the most positive episode so if you are expecting to be uplifted during your first day of 2025 this may not be the episode for you. If you want to hear the truth about what I've been battling then listen to the full episode. As always I appreciate you being here.Thank you,nSupport the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Use code BEHEALED here https://signalrelief.com/ and here https://meetjovi.com/If you want to donate to help me head out to Boston to see yet another surgeon on this insane healthcare journey go to the GoFundMe here https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-nico-barraza-soar-after-five-surgeriesSabrina Zohar joins us to discuss the critical role of accountability in relationships and the nuances of effective communication. We explore how self-awareness can positively transform dating experiences, stressing the importance of meaningful apologies and how to maintain healthy relationships amidst challenges.• Navigating the concept of accountability in relationships • Understanding the difference between hurtful and harmful communication • The significance of self-awareness and personal growth in partnerships • Reflecting on the nature of apologies and their importance in healing • The feasibility of remaining friends with ex-partners based on mutual respect • Confronting societal norms around communication and discomfort in relationshipsTo connect with Sabrina and her podcast go here https://www.sabrinazohar.com/Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

To support my flight school training click here: https://gofund.me/2d0a5255Donate to Mylo's charity of choice here: https://www.heartofamerica.org/our-work/indigenous-initiatives/Check out the documentary on Mylo here https://youtu.be/LRPKxRsfQEw?si=rCRVPPdVmhuygtToEmbark on a journey of discovery as I sit down with my good friend, Mylo Fowler, a remarkable photographer and artist known for his powerful storytelling within the outdoor industry. We first crossed paths at the Canyon de Chelly Ultra Marathon, and today, Mylo shares his unique perspectives on creativity, rooted deeply in his Navajo heritage. Our conversation unfolds with stories of upbringing, weaving through cultural traditions and the enduring lessons from elders that continue to shape our paths. You'll hear about my own dream of becoming a pilot, the financial hurdles that come with flight training, and my dedication to making aviation accessible to communities that have historically been left out.Together, Mylo and I reflect on the profound significance of family and community, vividly illustrated through the Navajo clan system and the teachings of our ancestors. These insights are interwoven with memories of my childhood in Arizona, marked by a self-sustaining lifestyle taught by my grandfather, emphasizing responsibility and environmental stewardship. We delve into the concept of giving, whether it's through fostering children, expanding family, or committing to humanitarian efforts. Mylo's personal philanthropic work brings solar power to remote areas of the Navajo reservation, inspired by a deep desire to give back to the community, a value passed down through generations.Through personal anecdotes and shared experiences, the conversation highlights the transformative power of kindness and empathy. Whether it's Mylo's photography assignments that bring awareness to critical issues or the simple act of helping a stranger, these stories underscore the potential of small actions to create significant change. The episode culminates in a call to view the world through a lens of understanding and connection, encouraging us all to look beyond divisions. By fostering empathy and compassion, we can contribute to a more united and supportive world.Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

https://gofund.me/4cc4ffeePlease consider contributing to my flight school fund below and share it on your social media pages! Thank you in advance for your support!Ever questioned the roles we play in our relationships? This episode tackles the intricate dance of masculinity and femininity in today's world. Through a candid exchange with a fellow pickleball player, I dissect the stereotypes that shape our society and emphasize the importance of self-awareness and accountability. It's about more than just assigning blame; it's about understanding our personal growth and mutual respect to cultivate healthier and more fulfilling relationships.Dive into the complex conversations around gender bias and the nuances that often go unnoticed. By recounting interactions that challenge conventional perspectives, I highlight the importance of respectful dialogue and personal improvement. This isn't just about gender roles; it's about recognizing the systemic inequalities that affect us all, particularly women of color. Join me in striving for a world where open communication and empowerment lead to stronger communities and the freedom for everyone to chase their dreams.Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

What happens when love is more about what we receive than what we give? In our latest episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of modern love and relationships. We start by dissecting a provocative post by mindfulness educator Case Kenny, challenging the notion of the "purest form of love" as one centered on receiving rather than giving. By examining how social media and technology influence our views, we highlight the importance of mutual love and the acceptance of imperfections, encouraging a shift in focus from external validation to internal growth.Relationships require a delicate balance between supporting a partner and fostering self-reliance. This episode tackles the challenge head-on, advocating for mutual growth and self-healing. We critique the growing trend of victim mentality in relationship advice, stressing the importance of self-responsibility and managing one's own burdens. By seeing relationships as a collaborative dance, where both partners contribute equally to mutual growth, we foster healthier, more balanced connections.Building and sustaining love takes continuous effort and commitment. We emphasize that love is not an instantaneous event but a process requiring self-awareness, accountability, and mutual support. Addressing modern misconceptions about love, we highlight the dangers of relying on quick fixes or external validation. As we wrap up, we express our gratitude for our listeners, inviting them to reflect on what truly lasts in life and to focus on building meaningful, lasting connections. Join us for a heartfelt discussion on nurturing love that stands the test of time.Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Get yourself a Paddletek Pickleball paddle for 10% off using the code NICO10 at checkout here https://www.paddletek.com/?srsltid=AfmBOooLOkNTMpOuII8wvhVoIH5VZyG8xITOlxuSxoclWRYeqd7seKYGHighly recommend buying a Slyce end cap for your pickleball paddle too using the code Feedthesoul10 here https://slycesport.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorL_tyC5b7RrsrbwISHzyanHclkMNK8FNFXqD8_0Bozc8K0el8eWhat if you could find serenity and strength in the chaos of modern life through a simple game? Meet DJ Young, a 24 year old professional pickleball player who moved from Spain to the United States, overcoming cultural and language barriers to find success and community in this rapidly growing sport. Discover how pickleball has not only transformed DJ's life but also how it offers a powerful antidote to isolation, anxiety, and the challenges of today's fast-paced world.We share DJ's compelling journey from his early days in Spain to his struggles as a teenager in Oceanside, California. Hear about the anger and isolation he faced and how finding pickleball at 18 became a turning point, channeling his energy into something positive. Through DJ's story and personal reflections, we highlight the transformative potential of sports for personal development. You'll hear how pickleball brings people together across generations, offering structure, competition, and joy, even during times of adversity and recovery.Balancing professional pursuits with personal growth, we explore DJ's experience of becoming a father and how it reshaped his outlook on life. We delve into the unique challenges of maintaining top athletic performance while navigating the responsibilities of parenthood and building a supportive community. From starting a pickleball podcast to sharing genuine conversations with notable figures in the sport, this episode is a heartfelt recommendation to pick up a paddle and experience the incredible benefits of pickleball firsthand. Tune in to understand how this sport can enrich your life and help you build meaningful connections.Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

What does it take to balance the life of a professional athlete with personal relationships and long-term happiness? Join us as we sit down with Olympian Annie Kunz, who shares her incredible journey in track and field, representing the US in the Tokyo Olympics, and the other international competitions. Listen to Annie's firsthand account of the emotional rollercoaster she faced when a season-ending injury threatened her Olympic dreams and how she found the strength to adjust her plans after years of relentless dedication. This episode promises to offer deep insights into self-accountability, personal growth, and the sacrifices required to be the best while maintaining healthy relationships.Ever wondered about the price of athletic excellence? We explore the complexities of balancing professional aspirations with personal joy and identity. Annie sheds light on the often-overlooked selfishness that comes with prioritizing sport over social life and personal connections. Reflecting on her career and shifting priorities in her 30s, Annie speaks candidly about the challenges of transitioning out of professional athletics and the importance of preparing for life beyond sports. We also discuss guiding the next generation—including our own children—to find a healthy balance between athletic ambition and personal well-being.From the pressures of youth sports to the unique relationship dynamics faced by elite athletes, this episode covers it all. Annie opens up about how social media has intensified pressures on young athletes and the evolving landscape of college sports. She also delves into the often unseen sacrifices in personal relationships, especially when dating non-athletes or dealing with recurring injuries. Through personal anecdotes, Annie illustrates the mental resilience required to overcome setbacks, emphasizing faith and gratitude as cornerstones of her strength. Whether you're an athlete or simply navigating life's challenges, this episode offers valuable lessons on perseverance, balance, and finding joy amidst adversity.Support the showWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

The conversation explores the topic of narcissism and its impact on individuals and relationships. Dr. Karyl McBride, a therapist and author, shares her expertise on narcissistic parents, the traits of narcissism, and the effects on children. She discusses the different types of narcissistic mothers and the role of the father in enabling the narcissistic dynamic. The conversation also delves into how growing up with a narcissistic parent can affect adult relationships, leading to codependency and impaired trust. Dr. McBride emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and doing the work of recovery to break the cycle of narcissism. In this conversation, Dr. Karyl McBride discusses the dynamics of narcissistic families and offers insights on how to navigate relationships with narcissistic parents. She emphasizes the importance of dropping expectations and accepting that these relationships may not be deep or emotionally intimate. Dr. McBride also explores the different roles that siblings may take on in narcissistic families and the effects on each child. She provides advice on empathic parenting and creating a safe and consistent environment for children. Additionally, she discusses the possibility of having a healthy relationship with a narcissistic partner and offers tips for setting up successful relationships.Karyl McBride, Ph.D., LMFT, is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Denver,Colorado with thirty-nine plus years of public and private practice. She specializes intreating clients with dysfunctional family issues. For the past many years, Dr.McBride has been involved in private research regarding parental narcissism and the debilitating effects of narcissism in relationships. She has treated many adult children of narcissistic parents as well as many others involved in relationships with narcissists in her private practice. Dr. McBride is considered a pioneering and leading expert in her field. Dr.McBride also has extensive clinical experience in the fields of trauma, sexual abuse,domestic violence, divorce, and stepfamily therapy, marital and family therapy,specialized trauma treatment in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR),and individual adjustment issues related to anxiety, depression, and life transitions. In hercareer, Dr. McBride has done forensic consulting and has served as an expert witness innumerous civil and criminal cases involving children and sexual abuse. She has nineyears' experience conducting sexual abuse investigations with law enforcement andhas conducted training for law enforcement in the area of sexual abuse investigations.In 1996, she was invited to present her doctoral research at the International PoliceResearch Conference in Ljubljana, Slovenia.Unlock the keys to healing from the deep wounds inflicted by narcissistic parents with insights from Dr. Carol McBride, renowned expert in narcissistic family dynamics. We promise you'll gain a deeper understanding of how narcissism manifests within family structures and the profound effects it has on children into adulthood. Through Dr. McBride's experience and groundbreaking work, including her celebrated books "Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" and "Will the Drama Ever End?", we dissect the journey from childhood trauma to finding resilience and empowerment.Connect with Dr. McBride here https://linktr.ee/drkarylmcbrideSupport the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Interested in working with me one on one? Head over to www.nicobarraza.comThis week's conversation is with Ray McKimm, a Psychotherapist based out of Ireland who I encountered via this incredible spur of the moment interview he gave to a content creator that amassed millions of views. Ray's Bio: "Ray has trained in a range of therapeutic interventions and worked in the N.H.S., the voluntary sector, and with International N.G.O'S (Non-Government Organisations)he has worked therapeutically with individuals, families, and groups.He has trained in Jungian Analysis, CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) DBT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy) SFBT(Solution Focused Brief Therapy) Trauma Focused CBT and many others which he will apply to your conversation when it could be helpful to you.He developed a model of therapy called Colour Analytical Psychology as a direct result of the influence of the psychology of Carl Jung and the work of Melisse Jolly at Colour Mirrors, he has published this theory in various forms.He established Green Therapy and Training as a center of excellence in enabling others to manage the challenges that life brings, and helping them through many of these transitions in his work as a Humanist Celebrant."We then shift gears to tackle the larger issues within the healthcare system. The importance of transparency and advocacy in medical care cannot be overstated. Through my personal experiences, including treatment in Puerto Vallarta, I underline the necessity of having open, honest conversations with healthcare professionals and the critical nature of self-advocacy. From discussing the fallibility of the medical system to the significance of seeking multiple opinions, this segment is a must-listen for anyone navigating their own healthcare journey.Finally, we explore the profound impacts of living with chronic pain and disability. From the strain on personal relationships to the power of emotional expression and asking for help, this episode offers heartfelt advice for individuals and their families. Joined by Irish counselor Ray McKimm, we delve into the transformative journey of therapy, the art of compassionate listening, and the healing power of empathy. Ray's unique insights and personal story add a valuable perspective on acceptance and resilience. Tune in for a deeply moving and inspiring conversation that underscores the art of living authentically and the importance of gratitude in the face of life's challenges.Support the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

In this episode, I sit down with Leah Elson, a brilliant scientist and author, whose passion for science communication and advocacy for women in STEM resonates deeply. Leah discusses her unique path balancing athletics with scientific pursuits, and the critical role of effective communication in bridging the gap between the scientific community and the public. Together, we explore how early exposure to science and public speaking can empower individuals, and reflect on the personal and societal impact of fostering curiosity and critical thinking in young minds.We also address the pressing need to rebuild trust in science and promote diversity within scientific communities. Leah and I share insights on how to make science more accessible and engaging, especially for marginalized groups, and discuss the broader implications of inclusivity on scientific progress. This episode is a poignant reminder that true fulfillment lies beyond wealth and fame, in the essence of our inner values and the legacy of our contributions to society. Support the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Can creating a more disciplined and appreciative environment truly shape the next generation into responsible adults? In this episode, we unpack the often-overlooked nuances of modern parenting. Reflecting on my own childhood, I draw contrasts between the sometimes overly-protective approaches of today and the more disciplined methods of the past. We critically explore the balance between positive reinforcement and allowing children to encounter and learn from their struggles.We delve into the importance of teaching appreciation and responsibility, not just through words but through actions and consequences. Personal stories illustrate how children can develop a sense of accountability and empathy by being exposed to diverse cultures and socioeconomic backgrounds. We also explore how significant consequences for actions can curb undesirable behaviors and foster discipline, even in affluent settings where privilege may otherwise lead to a sense of entitlement.Our discussion extends to the fundamental principles of effective parenting, focusing on consistency, discipline, and the value of hard work. Addressing the delicate balance between discipline and abuse, we advocate for appropriate, measured responses to misconduct while underscoring the importance of clear boundaries and early education on respect and consent. This episode aims to equip parents with insights and strategies to raise well-rounded, emotionally intelligent children who contribute positively to society. Join us as we navigate the complexities of parenting with strength, serenity, and sanity.Support the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

What does it take to transform the pains of childhood trauma into a life of resilience and personal growth? In this emotionally resonant episode, we sit down with Sophie Hilaire, whose story of endurance and courage is nothing short of inspiring. From her turbulent upbringing in rural Ohio to her remarkable journey through the US military, an MBA, and eventually homesteading in Kentucky, Sophie shares her deepest struggles and triumphs. We also touch upon my experiences with abuse in a Hispanic family, shedding light on how generational trauma shapes us and how breaking its cycle is a path to healing.Sophie recounts her decision to join the military as an escape from a tumultuous home life, a move that offered financial independence and a sense of structure amidst chaos. The episode navigates through her transition from a regimented military lifestyle to a more liberated existence, including her unique decision to live out of a van during the pandemic. This shift wasn't just about physical living conditions but also about embarking on a profound journey of self-discovery and spiritual awakening. The raw emotions and lessons drawn from these experiences offer a deep well of wisdom for anyone navigating similar paths.Finally, we explore Sophie's current life, from van living to homesteading on a 40-acre piece of land with a rich history. Her entrepreneurial ventures, particularly her skincare line, Soul and Soil, inspired by Korean and Appalachian traditions, add another layer to her story of resilience and innovation. This episode is a testament to the quest for inner peace, the beauty of self-sufficiency, and the enduring spirit of those who push through the darkest times to find their light. Join us for a powerful conversation that underscores the importance of personal growth, self-awareness, and the journey toward true fulfillment.Support the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

I share my personal experience with multiple shoulder surgeries and the complications I have faced. I highlight the lack of accountability in the medical industry and the challenges faced in finding a surgeon who could help me and actually cares about my ability to live a thriving life. I touch on the emotional and physical toll these surgeries have take on a person. I also discuss the impact of chronic pain on daily life and the toll it has taken on my physical and mental well-being. I emphasize the need for accountability in the medical profession and urge others to be cautious when choosing surgeons. Despite my struggles, I remain determined to find a solution and continue serving others through this podcast.I you would like to support the show head over to https://www.buzzsprout.com/1700476/supportIf you would like to work with me one on one head over to www.nicobarraza.comHow does one keep pushing forward after a life-altering accident? Discover the raw and unfiltered journey of perseverance and resilience in this emotionally charged episode. I recount my 2019 cycling accident that shattered not just my clavicle but also my career as a professional athlete. Listen as I share the immediate, shocking aftermath of a high-speed crash, the rushed decision for surgery, and the painful process that defined my path to recovery. This episode is a testament to the human spirit's unyielding strength in the face of severe physical and mental challenges.Ever wondered what it feels like to navigate a healthcare system that sometimes falls short? Join me as I unravel the complexities of dealing with unsuccessful surgeries, from a botched clavicle surgery to the relentless pursuit of proper medical care. I expose the systemic issues that plague our healthcare system and share my personal battles for accountability and effective treatment. From the chronic pain of a mishandled AC joint surgery to the emotional toll of persistent pain and impaired functionality, this episode sheds light on the importance of self-advocacy and the frustrations of navigating a broken system.This isn't just a story about physical recovery—it's a deep dive into the emotional and mental toll of sustained adversity. Reflect with me on the broader implications of these struggles, including impacts on mental health, professional life, and overall quality of life. Despite the immense pain and frustration, I emphasize the importance of authenticity, inner fulfillment, and the power of resilience. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to find strength and purpose in your own life, no matter the obstacles you face.Support the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

To become a monthly supporter of Starve the Ego Feed the Soul click here https://www.buzzsprout.com/1700476/supportAny monthly donation you make helps me do what I and continue to produce episodes just like this one. Your support is appreciated.The conversation covers a wide range of topics, including therapy, trauma, embodiment, and the impact of social media. It delves into the experiences of Ailey Jolie and her journey from the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist. The discussion also explores the challenges of hyper-independence and the differences in how men and women process emotions and trauma.What happens when a seasoned entertainment professional decides to pivot towards a career in therapy? Join us on "Starve the Ego Feed the Soul" as we sit down with Ailey Jolie, who shares her transformative journey from the spotlight to the therapist's chair. Ailey opens up about her personal battles with trauma and how these experiences have fueled her passion for helping others heal. Her unique perspective illuminates the therapeutic process, the embodiment of emotional experiences, and the challenging, yet rewarding, path of assisting clients through their own trauma.Ever wondered how social media shapes our mental health, or how dropping out of multiple grad programs can lead to profound self-discovery? This episode with Ailey tackles these topics head-on. We dissect the impact of living under public scrutiny, struggling with eating disorders, and the vital importance of transitioning from public personas to authentic selves. Ailey and I get real about how disconnecting from social platforms can lead to both isolation and growth, especially in the context of modern dating and relationships.Get ready for an enriching exploration of the profound differences between online self-help content and the individualized nature of therapy. Ailey introduces us to the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy model, highlighting its significance in integrating our internal parts. We also critically examine the cultural nuances in how men and women process emotions, the pitfalls of hyper-independence, and the importance of community and self-awareness in today's world. Don't miss this compelling conversation that promises to leave you with fresh insights and a deeper understanding of mental health and personal growth.Support the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

If you want to work with me one on one head over to www.nicobarraza.comCarly Pinchin, an entrepreneur and podcast host, shares her journey of going through a conscious decoupling and the decision-making process that led to the end of her marriage. She discusses the importance of authenticity and openly sharing the struggles of relationships on social media. Carly emphasizes the need for both partners to be willing to grow and evolve together, and the challenges of trying to change someone or expecting them to change for the relationship. She also highlights the significance of self-reflection, knowing one's values and non-negotiables, and the importance of emotional intimacy and connection in a relationship. The conversation explores the challenges and complexities of dating in the modern world, particularly for those who are monogamous. It delves into the process of healing and self-discovery after a breakup, and the importance of finding safety and security within oneself before seeking a new partner. The discussion also touches on the paradox of choice in online dating and the need for authenticity and vulnerability in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of mutual attraction, honesty, and upfrontness in the dating process, as well as the need for both men and women to embrace their emotions and be open to true intimacy. In this conversation, Carly and Nico discuss the complexities of dating as a single parent. They explore the challenges and opportunities that come with being a parent while navigating the dating world. They also touch on the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and finding a partner who is understanding and supportive of the parenting dynamic. Carly shares her experiences and insights as a single mother, while Nico provides a male perspective on dating someone with children.TakeawaysAuthenticity and openly sharing the struggles of relationships on social media can provide a sense of connection and support.Both partners need to be willing to grow and evolve together in order to maintain a healthy relationship.Trying to change someone or expecting them to change for the relationship is not sustainable.Self-reflection and knowing one's values and non-negotiables are important in making relationship decisions.Emotional intimacy and connection are crucial for a successful and fulfilling relationship. Finding safety and security within oneself is crucial before entering the dating process.Dating apps can be exhausting and it's important to take breaks and meet people naturally.Authenticity, vulnerability, and mutual attraction are key in building meaningful relationships.Both men and women need to embrace their emotions and be open to true intimacy.Society's expectations and stereotypes can hinder genuine connection and understanding in relationships. Dating as a single parent can be complex and challenging, but it also presents opportunities for growth and connection.Finding a partner who is understanding and supportive of the parenting dynamic is crucial.Open and honest communication is key in navigating the complexities of dating as a single parent.Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care is important for both the parent and the potential partner.Being a single parent can bring a unique level of maturity and perspective to a relationship. Carly's Links below!Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/carlypinchin/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlyPinchin (https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlyPinSupport the Show.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

If you are curious about working with me one on one, I work with individuals, athletes, and couples from all over the world. Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more.This week's guest is Anjelica Marsh. She is a school counselor who was a collegiate softball player that had a ankle injury that led her to a surgeon that would change her life forever.Unfortunately there are just as many mistakes in medicine as there are healings. Anjelica shares her personal story of how a botched surgery changed her life and left her in chronic pain. I share my own story too and together we chat about the difficulties of living in chronic pain and navigating the medical mal practice legal system, as well as being your own best advocate in a healthcare scenario. Here is a link to the article that I stumbled upon that made me want to interview Anjelica on the show http://anjelicasmoments.org/2020/04/13/to-the-doctor-who-ruined-my-life/Here are a few more writings of hers http://anjelicasmoments.org/2017/12/23/trapped/ http://anjelicasmoments.org/2021/12/31/ill-be-okay/For many people who suffer from chronic pain it can feel like you are trapped in a jail cell in your own body. Especially when the pain was caused by the same system that should be alleviating physical pain. I hope this episode gives you some sense of community and leaves you feeling connected, seen, and not alone.I hope you find the answers you need to feel better and to feel at peace.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire about working with me one on one. My guest this week is Colby Bell. I came across Colby via the YouTube channel his late wife and him started to document their travels and life with their children known as "The Lost Bells" https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs1IcVi1K2j_zGlurnDKeEQColby lost his wife Emily to metastatic breast cancer and this conversation is mostly based around how they navigated that time and their experiences living as a family and traveling full-time with their kids. Colby shares intimate parts of the struggles and triumphs they had while navigating a cancer diagnosis and then watching Emily struggle through the bad days. You can learn more about Colby & Emily and their family here https://www.thelostbells.com/ and here https://www.instagram.com/lostbells/Colby also has his own social media account @thecolbybell on Instagram.Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Please consider leaving the show a 5-star review on Apple and Spotify Podcasts! Also head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire about working with me one on one and/or to buy some Starve the Ego Feed the Soul gear to support the show!You can find this week's guest Dr. Jolie Mestre on Instagram @drjoliemestre and via her website https://www.drjoliemestre.com/Warmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Don't forget to leave the show a 5-star review on Apple and Spotify Podcasts!To pick up some Starve the Ego Feed the Soul swag and to inquire about working with me 1 on 1 head over to www.nicobarraza.comThis weeks guest is Somatic Sex Educator, teacher of embodiment and intimacy, Kiana Reeves.Kiana and I talk about so much within this episode so be sure to tune in and share it if you feel inclined. You can finder her on Instagram @Kiana.Reeves and via her website www.kianareeves.comWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Glad to be back! Please consider leaving the show a 5-star written review on Apple and Spotify Podcasts.As always if you are interested in working with me head over to www.nicobarraza.comWarmly,Nico Barraza@FeedTheSoulNBwww.nicobarraza.com

Interested in working with me one on one? Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more. I have been a life long nerd and it was about time to share a part of how I personally build community on the show. Many clients and follows on social media ask me for recommendations on how to make friends and build community in adulthood. This episode is truly just an example of the many ways you can build deep friendships and grow community in your own life.Dylan and Cam are the founders of the Play to Win YouTube channel and Play to Win podcast. They create content that is centered around Magic the Gathering, a collectible and competitive card game. The episode is focused around a particular style of Magic called competitive commander or (cEDH). Although this may seem completely out of your wheel house if you didn't grow up playing games like this, I encourage you to listen to the full episode because I do think it is relatable for most people! You can learn more about cEDH through their YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@PlaytoWinMTG and through their website https://www.playtowinmtg.com/Huge thanks to Dylan and Cam for coming on the show and sharing an hour with me to talk about the game we love and the community we play in. Warmly,NicoWarmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

Interested in working with me one on one? I work with individuals and couples all over the world via Zoom. Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more.Excerpts from this weeks guest Jillian Tuchman's website below!ARE YOU TIRED OF BEING TOLD YOUR SYMPTOMS ARE ALL “IN YOUR HEAD”?Do you feel overwhelmed and anxious about what you can and cannot eat? Do you want to feel good and normal like everyone else? Have you been dismissed so frequently that you've lost faith in finding a solution?It's time to start feeling better.It's time to use your sensitivity as your superpower.STUDIES SHOW…...that those who feel deeply and are more sensitive to every aspect of life have a greater tendency to develop food intolerances, gut and bloating issues, chronic pain and autoimmune conditions.These issues can knock other parts of us out of balance leaving us overwhelmed, in pain, tired, confused, depressed, not knowing what to address first and how to even begin.And then we're told we're too sensitive every time we seek help.I understand you, because I AM you.Nutrition and lifestyle adjustments are only one part of the equation -- we must work together in a safe, trusting container to assess the mental, physical and emotional root causes that contribute to your anxiety. So you can finally feel like the best version of yourself. And live life with more presence and calm.Through a functional medicine approach, we'll address the root causes of your symptoms, so you have less anxiety, more energy, greater focus and clarity, improved digestion. Holistic health is whole-person health and in our work together, we'll address every aspect of your wellness from the food you eat, to your daily routine, to how you navigate sleep and stress to how your thoughts affect your digestion.You will finally feel like YOU. To learn more about Jillian Tuchman head over to her website https://www.workyourgenes.com/You can also register for her new group program, FROM SHIT TO SHINING. Click the link below!https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScJVQi15wA_d3v_QdGbvz7gDGKtiNz20EKMlUEFwc6nlfFN6g/viewformWarmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

Don't forget to leave a 5-star written review on Apple and Spotify and screen shot your review then DM me to be entered in the drawing to receive a free copy of "Speech Therapy" by The Captain. If you're interested in working with me one on one head over to my website www.nicobarraza.com to set up a free 15min Zoom consultation or book sessions.Kyle "The Captain" Creek is a writer, creator, instigator, and not your dad. He has a myriad of books that you should check out! His most recent one "Speech Therapy" is being given out to 6 of you for free!Find Kyle's books and links here https://linktr.ee/thecaptain?fbclid=PAAaaqID4X7z_0Poc_QNuX5PGgkCwlWWW3850WlrzGGgRqSwgnjIONYE0Zg4wGive Kyle a follow on Instagram and engage with his content here https://www.instagram.com/sgrstk/Warmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

Join me in October of 2023 for a 6 day retreat in Costa Rica https://tinyurl.com/NicoBarrazaCostaRica2023Work with me one on one www.nicobarraza.comWarmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

To donate to Sol's GoFundMe Campaign please go here https://gofund.me/065aefcbAlso, please consider sharing her link on all your social media profiles. Sol and I thank you all deeply.In gratitude,Nico & SolWarmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

Sign up for my October 2023 Costa Rica retreat email list here! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/email/nico-barrazaInterested in working with me one on one? Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more and free 15min Zoom consultation. Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women's Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also the Relationship Tech consultant for Couply and Scratch Adventure mobile apps.Links to Dr. Tara's website and social accounts as well as her TedxTalk are below!https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/https://snipfeed.co/luvbitesWarmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

Please take a moment and take this 2 minute survey about a potential retreat with me! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/nico-barrazaIf you are interested in working with me one on one please head over to www.nicobarraza.com to learn more, book a free 15min Zoom consultation, or book a session.This week's guest is Cory Reese. Corey is a writer and author so I'll let his bio speak for itself! I am so grateful Cory has joined me on the show to talk about so much. You can connect with him on his website https://www.coryreese.com/home and purchase his books here https://www.amazon.com/Stronger-Than-Dark-Relationship-Depression/dp/1736966405/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1623181555&sr=8-1Hi. My name is Cory. I am a…well…it's complicated. I am a husband. I am a dad to three teenagers. I am the owner of a Great Dane named Little Debbie who loves nothing more than to steal pizza off the kitchen counter. Wait. There is so much more to me. I am a Kia Sorento driver. A CPAP wearer. A Utah Jazz fan. A child of a father who took his life. An ally. An ex-Mormon. A terrible handyman. A recovering Twinkie addict. A snow hater and a sun lover. A composer of piano music. A believer that good things are coming. I am afraid of needles. Obsessed with Bruce Springsteen. Fierce in my distaste for seafood. Proud of myself for memorizing every line of Planes, Trains, and Automobiles. I am an ultramarathon runner. I've run dozens of 100-mile races. Badwater. Western States. Wasatch. 100 miles around a high school track. 100 miles around the deck of a cruise ship. I've fallen in love with the sense of satisfaction that comes from seeing what I'm capable of, and realizing that it's usually more than I think. I am an author. I've written for a bunch of publications over the years, and am currently a columnist for UltraRunning Magazine. I've written a few books titled Nowhere Near First, and Into the Furnace. My new book is called Stronger Than the Dark, and explores the intimate relationship between running and depression. I want to be like David Sedaris when I grow up. I am a social worker. For two decades, my career has involved walking with people into the darkness, and talking about hard things. My occupation: aspiring beam of light. I know people all around me are fighting silent battles. I have been the one providing therapy, and the one receiving it. I am passionate about advocating for mental health. Wait. There is so much more to me. Those are the labels that define me. But I am more than a list of labels. I am enthusiasm. I am determination. I am broken. I am whole. I am light. I am adventure. I am creativity. I am love. I am enough.Warmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

Register for the Navigating Grief and Loss course by clicking this link https://www.nicobarraza.com/grieflosscourseInterested in working with me one on one? Go here https://www.nicobarraza.com/Want to support the show and buy some gear? Go here https://nico-barraza.myshopify.com/And as always please connect with me on Instagram @ThatBarrazaBoy Warmly,Nico Barraza@ThatBarrazaBoywww.nicobarraza.com

If you are interested in signing up for my Navigating Grief and Loss Course go here https://www.nicobarraza.com/grieflosscourseIf you are interested in working with me one on one go here https://www.nicobarraza.com/Looking for some gear to support the show? Go here https://nico-barraza.myshopify.com/This week's guest is Ariel Mierendorf. Ariel has been battling a rare form of cancer for over a year now and I first came across her story via a shared post on Facebook. After reading some of Ariel's writings about here journey on her page https://www.caringbridge.org/visit/arielmdorfI immediately felt inspired by her outlook and mindset around dealing with so much around her physical and emotional health. You can connect with Ariel on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/the_roaring_soul/She also teaches an online meditation class that you can sign up for here https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMuc-iqqzgtGNdvr3GSqyVJzsIvRCXxeoZX?fbclid=PAAabG9k1rB7C6vCqq6dzteOjo79h2NyX7QsAXvdsJu5DW2Bw5Y8l4Ny6Qk-w

Join us for the Navigating Grief & Loss Course on the first two Sunday's in December! Register today for $50 off and reserve your spot by clicking this link https://www.nicobarraza.com/grieflosscourseTo work with me one on one head over to www.nicobarraza.com and book a free  15min Zoom consultation today.A little bit about the course:Navigating Grief & Loss CourseNo one makes it through life without experiencing loss and grief. As soon as you are born, you are already dying. Yet, how we choose to live and embrace life and loss is closely related to our familial, societal, and cultural understanding of loss and death. How we conceptualize and process grief matters. We live in a culture that avoids talking about death and processing grief. Instead we are taught to numb, avoid, run, self-loathe, or hide in resentment instead of taking the deep dive into our grief and processing the pain. It's time to change that. This course will help you no matter where you are in your journey with grief and loss.

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As mentioned in the intro use code "FEEDTHESOUL" for 10% off your entire order with SoCal Kettlebellz! Click the link below to check out their shop and order yourself a few kettlebells! https://socalkettlebellz.com/?gclid=CjwKCAjw5P2aBhAlEiwAAdY7dLPUQxwBrOZycc8iumrqwq9eGUAz32wZQFJFKsjdvbvI0WQYxrVhtBoCC0cQAvD_BwEIf you are interested in working with me one on one please head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more. I work with individuals and couples all over the world and always offer a free 15min Zoom consultation to see if I'm a good fit for where you currently are in your life. Here is a little heart to heart before my second surgery that is happening this coming Thursday. Thank you all for being here and please consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts and Instagram to support the show and my work! You get 2 more podcast episodes a week and access to so much more when you subscribe on both Apple podcasts and Instagram.

Consider subscribing on Instagram and joining the community we are building! You'll have access to exclusive content, IG Lives with guests of the show and myself, group chats focused on creating community and getting to know other people around the world who are working on themselves. Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thatbarrazaboyIf you are interested in working with me one on one, whether you are an individual or couple or athlete, head over to my website www.nicobarraza.com to book a free 15min Zoom consultation to see if it is a good fit. I work with people all over the world on creating the Self, relationships, and life they want. Let's get to work. Today's guest is ex-professional soccer player Schuyler DeBree! Schuyler is no stranger to podcasts, having acted as a host to the Mental Matchup Podcast. Schuyler and I have a candid conversation about her own struggle with mental and emotional health and the impact being a competitive soccer player had on her health and well-being. We discuss depression, suicide and suicidal ideation, and also mood disorders. Please be aware of this if you may find it triggering. You can find Schuyler on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/schuylerdebree/?hl=enThank you for being here and stay tuned for the launch of Apple Podcast subscriptions this Friday!Warmly,Nico Barraza

Head on over to Instagram and subscribe for $5 a month to subscribers only content, reels, stories, and live Q&A sessions with guests of the show and myself. It's a cheap way you can support my work and  get more access.If you are interested in working with me one on one, I work with individuals, couples, and athletes. Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more and to book a free 15min Zoom consultation to see if we are a good fit.Thank you for tuning in!

Are you interested in working with me one on one via Zoom? I work with individuals, couples, and athletes all over the world. Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to schedule a free 15min Zoom consultation or book a session.Support the show by buying some Starve the Ego Feed the Soul gear through my website and please tag me and share photos on Instagram! Head over to the website and click shop to check out all the sweet gear.This week's guest is the founder of the EQ School, Ms. Genny Rumancik. Genny and I talk about how she got into the work she does, about why learning to manage your emotions is essential for building healthy relationships and why your emotional inheritance is something you need to understand in order to be able to be the best possible friend, partner, parent, co-worker you can be.You can find Genny via her website https://theeqschool.co/meet-genny and via Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theeqschool/Genny's bio: I'm Genny, the creator and primary facilitator of The EQ School. I've spent the last 15 years or so enthralled in personal development work, and have combined all my resources to help other people become their best and most beloved selves.I started my career as an educator and have a BS in Education, an MA in Literature, and another masters in Design Leadership. I currently sit on the board of Acknowledge Alliance, a nonprofit in Mountain View, CA that brings social workers into school systems to help children with Social Emotional learning (and they support the teachers, too!). They're a rad organization, and you should check them out!I'm passionate about increasing the importance and fluency of emotional intelligence in our society and communities. The better we know and love ourselves and develop our emotional literacy, the richer our lives become in every aspect.Some other random stuff:I live in Portland, Oregon and could totally be a character on Portlandia (where's the life coach episode?) Feminist, vegetarian, mason jars, dumpster diver, brunch enthusiast...all of the above.I also run workshops on Culture Design - helping corporate teams design healthy cultures that benefit both the individual and the organization (send a message if you're interested!)I'm really good at parallel parking. I once parallel-parked a mini-bus full of 16 year olds (first try!) into a tiny space on a crowded street in downtown Martha's Vineyard during the summer, and got a standing ovation from the TEENAGERS. It was one of my prouder moments.I've lived in England, Germany, and Stockholm, Sweden for awhile, but (shhh) Swedish culture is my favorite! Fika, anyone?I once pooped my pants while training for a marathon. Not one of my prouder moments, but hey, shit happens. I love to learn. I've attended an endless list of other educational trainings; Co-active [Coaching] Training Institute, Portland Code School, UX Night School, and EFT Training to name a few! I care a lot about social justice, my wonderful dog, the health of our planet, and I friggin' love the outdoors.I sleep with my socks on. I've been told that makes me an alien.I've also been told my strengths are my strong sense of empathy, being brave & action-oriented, and knowing how to make my sister laugh.

Come work with me one on one: head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more or book a free 15min Zoom consultation to see if we are a good fit!If you want to support the show please consider heading over to the website and purchasing some Starve the Ego Feed the Soul gear and tagging me on social media so I can share stories of you in your podcast swag!Lisa Miller, Ph.D., is the New York Times bestselling author of The Spiritual Child and a professor in the Clinical Psychology Program at Teachers College, Columbia University. She is the Founder and Director of the Spirituality Mind Body Institute, the first Ivy League graduate program and research institute in spirituality and psychology, and has held over a decade of joint appointments in the Department of Psychiatry at Columbia University Medical School. Her innovative research has been published in more than one hundred peer-reviewed articles in leading journals, including Cerebral Cortex, The American Journal of Psychiatry, and the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.It's not just a book; it's a movement.The awakened decision is the better decision.With an awakened perception, we are more creative, collaborative, ethical, and innovative.The awakened brain is the healthier brain.An engaged spiritual life enhances grit, optimism, and resilience while providing insulation against addiction, trauma, and depression. The awakened life is the inspired life.Loss, uncertainty, and even trauma are the gateways by which we are invited to move beyond merely coping with hardship to transcend into a life of renewal, healing, joy, and fulfillment.Whether it's meditation or a walk in nature, reading a sacred text or saying a prayer, there are many ways to tap into a heightened awareness of the world around you and your place in it. In The Awakened Brain, psychologist Dr. Lisa Miller shows you how.Weaving her own deeply personal journey of awakening with her groundbreaking research, Dr. Miller's book reveals that humans are universally equipped with a capacity for spirituality, and that our brains become more resilient and robust as a result of it. For leaders in business and government, truth-seekers, parents, healers, educators, and any person confronting life's biggest questions, The Awakened Brain combines cutting-edge science (from MRI studies to genetic research, epidemiology, and more) with on-the-ground application for people of all ages and from all walks of life, illuminating the surprising science of spirituality and how to engage it in our lives.Absorbing, uplifting, and ultimately enlightening, The Awakened Brain is a conversation-starting saga of scientific discovery packed with counterintuitive findings and practical advice on concrete ways to access your innate spirituality and build a life of meaning and contribution.Deepak Chopra, MD, New York Times bestselling author of Super Brain“Dr. Miller's cutting-edge research heralds a new revolution of health and well-being. The Awakened Brain is an investigation of the choice we each have in confronting challenges and limitations—and it's a testament to, and celebration of, the power within.”Martin Seligman, PhD, founder of the Positive Psychology movement and New York Times bestselling author of Learned Optimism and Authentic Happiness“Lisa Miller is the leading psychologist of her generation on the benefits of religion and spirituality. She asks ‘What makes life worth living?' and finds evidence-based answers.”

Glad you are here! If you are interested in working with me one on one head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more or book a session. I work with individuals and couples.To support the show and purchased some Starve the Ego Feed the Soul gear head here https://nico-barraza.myshopify.com/To sign up for the Navigating Grief & Loss Course during the discounted pre-sale head here https://www.nicobarraza.com/grieflosscourseSo excited to have Dr. Shannon Curry on the show this week y'all. Dr. Shannon Curry is a clinical and forensic psychologist, licensed in both California and Hawaii. She owns the Curry Psychology Group, a leading multi-specialty counseling center in Orange County, CA, and has 15 years of experience conducting research, therapy, and psychological evaluations pertaining to trauma, violence, and relationships. You may be familiar with Dr. Curry via her work as an expert witness during the Johnny Depp v Amber Heard trial that gained international attention. During this episode Dr. Curry and I focus on her own personal story and how she got into studying and working as a professional psychologist and her own experience with depression. This is such a good episode! To check out our new intro and outro music made by Vincent Antone head over to Spotify and tune into Vincent's music https://open.spotify.com/track/5dxTq3hvOiuYxtb9yU1o4B?autoplay=true

To sign up for my Navigating Grief and Loss Course for $50 off during the pre-sale go here https://www.nicobarraza.com/grieflosscourseIf you are interested in working together one one one, either as an individual or couple go here https://www.nicobarraza.com/Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, PhD, LPC, is the guest this week and we talk all things relational programing, specifically how to become aware of your emotional inheritance to not only understand your patterned behavior in relationships, but change the undesirable parts that may be causing damage and division within your dating and partnering. You can find Dr. Liz on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drelizabethfedrick/And see her work via her company https://www.evolvecounselingaz.com/BioDr. Elizabeth Fedrick a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Arizona and is trained in various therapeutic modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Child-Parent Psychotherapy, and Motivational Interviewing. She has a doctoral degree in Psychology, as well as a master's degree in Professional Counseling. Dr. Fedrick specializes in working with depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, attachment, grief and loss, life transitions, and personal improvement (including motivation & self-esteem). She provides an integrated approach to treatment and believes that counseling should be individualized to the specific needs of each client. Dr. Fedrick believes in providing her clients with the essential tools and resources needed in order to obtain the healing and change they are seeking, as well as to maintain this transformation long-term. She finds it extremely important to provide a safe, supportive, and nonjudgmental environment for all of her clients. ​Dr. Fedrick is also a professor at Grand Canyon University, where she teaches behavioral health and psychology courses. She also co-hosts a YouTube and podcast channel, Evolve Counseling, geared towards parenting and other various mental health topics. Dr. Fedrick presents mental health talks throughout her community, as well as authors mental health articles for various media outlets. 

As mentioned in the intro my Navigating Grief & Loss Course Pre-Sale just launched and it is currently $50 off https://www.nicobarraza.com/grieflosscourse I hope you join me! Whether you are experiencing a break-up, death, or any form of loss/grief this is the group course for you. Register before September 5th to get the 25% off during the pre-sale.Also if you want to work with me one on one I work with individuals and couples all over the world. Book a session or a free 15 minute Zoom consultation via heading over to www.nicobarraza.comMy good friend Jillian Turecki is back on the show for the third time on Starve the Ego Feed the Soul. Jillian has the top two most listened two episodes on the show and for good reason, she is brilliant. Jillian and I focus on singlehood during this episode and self-love. Our last two episodes focused around relationships and relating, so this time we wanted to give some love to all of the single people out there. Jillian and I ask each other some questions around being single and how that shows up in many ways in society and the pressure surrounding singlehood. We also touch on the subject of loving oneself. How many times have we heard "just love yourself" and thought "well how in the fuck do I do that!" Jillian and I discuss this and share some personal stories on how we have worked at loving ourselves.Also, just as I mentioned in the show Jillian is about to launch her podcast "Jillian On Love" and you absolutely must go follow the show on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Podcasts. I will be going on her show this week and couldn't be more excited about such an incredible human having another outlet to teach us all via the longform content of podcasting. Links to Jillian's website, podcast and social are below!https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jillian-on-love/id1640172049https://www.jillianturecki.com/

If you are interested in working with me one on one head over to www.nicobarraza.com and submit your inquiry through the book a session tab. Don't forget to leave the show a 5-star written review on Apple Podcasts and a 5-star review on Spotify Podcasts.To support the show by purchasing some Starve the Ego Feed the Soul gear please head over to the website www.nicobarraza.com and click on the store tab!

If you're interested in working with me one on one virtually head over to www.nicobarraza.com. I am currently offering 10% off if you purchase a four pack of one on one sessions. Please don't forget to leave the show a five-star written review on Apple and a 5-star review on Spotify!This week's guest is John Kim aka The Angry Therapist. John's path has led him to become a pioneer in the field of self help; humanizing the therapist by showing himself, practicing transparency, and cutting through the bullshit. John is a licensed therapist and life coach, co-founder of the TAT Lab and a Best selling author. He has a featured TEDx Talk "Resilience Means Connecting With Yourself" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K3sxHhwGRxU&t=1sJohn's  new book is co-authored with his partner Vanessa Bennett who has also been on the show! Their new book is titled "It's Not Me It's You" and you can order a copy here https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Me-You-Relationship/dp/0063206315/ref=asc_df_0063206315/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=564751416688&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4214805019512167005&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030289&hvtargid=pla-1639321323045&psc=1You can find John via social media @TheAngryTherapist And tune into his incredible podcast https://www.theangrytherapist.com/#podcasts

If you are interested in working with me one on one or inquiring more about a session, head over to www.nicobarraza.com. She still has the most listened to episode EVER on the show. Jillian Turecki is back for round two of Starve the Ego Feed the Soul and I am thrilled to be able to spend another hour with Jillian talking about the deeper  parts of loving. Jillian's Bio: Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes, Jillian is certified by the Robbins Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention, a renowned coaching program known for its innovative strategic solutions to the most difficult relationship problems. Fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others. Jillian is sought out for her compassionate, direct, and very authentic style of coaching and teaching.”Connect with Jillian via her website https://www.jillianturecki.com/ and on social media @JillianTurecki https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/

As stated in the intro of the show I'm offering 40% off throughout the month of May for a 4-pack of one on one coaching sessions. Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to learn more and book.This week's guest doesn't need an introduction but I'm going to give him one anyways, Mark Groves has built a following with his straight to the point self-help and relationship advice. Starting the Mark Groves Podcast and @CreateTheLove years ago where he has engaged with some of the brightest minds in the understanding of self, love, life, and purpose.Today, Mark is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. All. The. Things. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.As he puts it: “My brain and heart are home to a lot of relationship nerding-out. Here's the deepest truth I (currently) know: I'm not here to eff around on this planet during this lifetime. I don't want to ‘kinda' do things. I am here to rock the boat. I'm here to share my truth.”Mark's purpose? Empowering individuals to step into their power, transform the way they relate to themselves and others, and create authentic change – for a life + love they'll look back on with a resounding “f*ck yes.”Learn more and connect with Mark via his websites https://markgroves.com/  https://createthelove.com/You can tune into the Mark Groves Podcast anywhere you listen to podcasts and follow him on social media @CreateTheLove. He is also a co-founder of the Mine'd app which you can learn more about on Instagram @doyouminedI hope you enjoy this conversation with Mark. Until next week!Warmly,Nico Barraza

If you are interested in the 40% discount for a 4-pack of one on one coaching sessions head over to www.nicobarraza.com to inquire more or book your sessions. This week's guest is one of the most decorated snowboarders in the history of the sport. Jamie Anderson won the gold medal in the inaugural Women's Slopestyle Even at the 2014 Winter Olympics in Sochi, Russia and repeated winning another gold medal in the 2018 Winter Olympics in Pyeongchang, South Korea, making her the first female snowboarder to win more than one Olympic gold medal. Including her performances at the Winter X Games Jamie has won 25 total medals: eighteen gold, five silver, and two bronze. All of these accolades make Jamie Anderson a force to be reckoned with in the world of snowboarding, however what caught my eye about her is her perspective around living life in harmony with one's Soul vs one's Ego. Jamie has been featured in a host of articles and print media around her blend of spirituality, yoga, meditation, breathwork and mindfulness and how these practices have not only influenced her athletic performance, but also her life in general. Jamie has a calm and compassionate demeanor. Her warmth and smile exude an invitation to ask questions and learn more. If you weren't a snowboarding aficionado, chances are you would connect with her because of her kindness and have no clue she has won 25 medals between the Olympics and Winter X Games. This is by far the most impressive stat in Jamie's accomplishments throughout her career, is the person she has built through the work she has done and the awareness she brings to the conversation outside of her dominance in the sport she competes in.It was a breath of fresh air to talk to such an accomplished athlete who is also an ambassador for sustainability, mindful living, and treating oneself and others kindly. To learn more about Jamie please head over to her website https://www.jamieandersonsnow.com/Also, to learn more about Jamie's foundation and to donate please go here https://www.jamieandersonsnow.com/the-causeArticles featuring Jamie that are applicable to our conversation:https://www.elitedaily.com/p/olympic-snowboarder-jamie-anderson-uses-meditation-crystals-to-slay-the-slopes-exclusive-8026700https://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/olympics/gold-medal-the-jamie-anderson-way-meditation-incense-and-candles/2014/02/09/50d9ee24-91b0-11e3-84e1-27626c5ef5fb_story.htmlhttps://www.yogajournal.com/practice/yoga-for-athletes/olympic-gold-medalist-snowboarder-jamie-anderson-yoga-trains-core-gives-ninja-like-edge/

I'm offering 40% off for a 4-pack of one on one coaching sessions for the month of May. To inquire more go to www.nicobarraza.comThis week's guess is Dr. Lisa Miller. An NYT Bestselling Author.Dr. Lisa Miller is perhaps the world's foremost expert in the relative study of psychology and spirituality. Dr. Miller is Professor and Director of Clinical Psychology at Teachers College, Columbia University, where she founded and currently directs the Spirituality and Mind-Body Institute, to innovate, disseminate, and train healers in foundationally spiritual treatments. Dr. Miller solo-edited the Oxford University Handbook of Psychology and Spirituality (2012) and has published over seventy articles and chapters on spirituality in mental health and wellness. She has acted as Principle Investigator on several million dollars-worth of grants from corporate and family foundations as well as the National Institutes of Mental Health.You can purchase Dr. Miller's books (The Awakened Brain) & (The Spiritual Child)  and find out more about her research and work here https://www.lisamillerphd.com/Her TedTalk on Depression and Spirituality can be found here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7c5t6FkvUG0Connect with her on Instagram at @Dr.LisaMiller 

Don't forget to use the 10% off code to the Starve the Ego Feed the Soul Store "FEEDTHESOUL" by going to the shop and entering the code at checkout https://nico-barraza.myshopify.com/Interested in working with me one on one? I'm currently offering 10% off purchasing a 4-pack of one on one sessions as an individual or couple. Head over to www.nicobarraza.com to learn more.This week's guest is Shadow Work and Men's Coach Zack Alexander. Known for his no-nonsense approach to spirituality, plant medicine, and shadow work. Zack has an incredible personal story that he shares a bit about with all of us. You can connect with Zack on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/zackalexander___/?hl=en and find the rest of his links there.It was a great conversation and I hope you all enjoy it!