Podcasts about dear therapists

Guy Winch: Mind Over Grind Guy Winch is a psychologist and bestselling author who advocates for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives. His TED talks have attracted over 35 million views, and his books have been translated into more than 30 languages. He is co-host of the Ambie-nominated Dear Therapists podcast and the author of the book Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life (Amazon, Bookshop)*. Some of our parents got to work in the morning, put in a full day, and then by dinner time, didn't think about work or do it until the next morning. That's not reality for a lot of us today, so in this conversation, Guy and I explore what you can do to take back your evenings. Key Points Most work stress isn't experienced at work. Healthy thinking is intentional and leads us somewhere useful. Unhealthy thinking (rumination) isn't intentional and tends to repeat the same script. It feels more like unpaid work. To interrupt rumination outside of work, first label it and then associate it with disgust, disdain, and annoyance. Treat it like you would a skunk sitting next to you on the couch. Rituals help our brains make a distinction between time to work and time to recover. Rituals are most powerful when they invoke one or more of our five senses to signal a shift to our brains. Often we think of relaxation and recovery the same way our grandparents did who often did more manual work. Work today tends to be more mental and emotional, so indexing on ways to engage physically during recovery times is helpful. Rather than just assuming that doing nothing, sitting on a beach, or seeing the sights is the best vacation, consider engaging in the things you love that you normally don't get to do. Resources Mentioned Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life by Guy Winch (Amazon, Bookshop)* Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Align Your Calendar to What Matters, with Nir Eyal (episode 431) What to Do With Your Feelings, with Lori Gottlieb (episode 438) How High Achievers Begin to Find Balance, with Michael Hyatt (episode 522) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Most of us have gotten up on a Monday morning and thought: I simply cannot do this today. Our job is grinding us down in that slow, invisible way that work does when we're not managing it well. Psychotherapist, author, and podcast host Guy Winch has spent his career sitting with people who have experienced this for a passel of reasons from sabotaging coworkers to unrealistic goals. His new book Mind Over Grind is a practical, science-backed guide to surviving your job—even when it really, truly sucks. In this episode, Caitlin and Guy dig into why so many of us experience our jobs as far more stressful than they objectively need to be, what the Goldilocks zone of stress actually looks like, and how to catch yourself before you blow past it. Guy also speaks candidly about his own early burnout and the slow, identity-shifting work it took to come back from it—including why your Netflix queue might not be doing what you think it's doing when it comes to real recovery. Resources Mind Over Grind by Guy Winch Guy's podcast: Dear Therapists (with Lori Gottlieb) Caitlin's rec: How to Enjoy Your Life and Your Job by Dale Carnegie Ben's rec: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski Let us know what you thought of this episode! Find us on Instagram at @simplifypod. Subscribe to our newsletter here. You can email us (or send us a voice note!) at info@kollomedia.com This episode of Simplify was produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler, and Joao Lucas in Berlin, Germany, for Kollo Media.

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Guy Winch about when work stress impacts the relationship. Guy is a Psychologist, Speaker, and Author who's a leading advocate for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives. Hear why it's hard to leave work at work, how work stress works, how to help your clients separate work stress from home life, how much to structure your week, and what we can learn from firefighters. To learn more about Guy Winch, his latest book Mind Over Grind, and his podcast Dear Therapists, visit: GuyWinch.com Mind Over Grind Dear Therapists You can also listen to Guy Winch on Episode 202 of The Couples Therapist Couch

In this episode of Status Check with Spivey, Dr. Guy Winch returns to the podcast for a conversation about his new book, Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life. They discuss burnout (especially for those in school or their early career), how society glorifies overworking even when it doesn't lead to better outcomes (5:53), the difference between rumination and valuable self-analysis (11:02), the question Dr. Winch asks patients who are struggling with work-life balance that you can ask yourself (17:58), how to reduce the stress of the waiting process in admissions and the job search (24:36), and more.Dr. Winch is a prominent psychologist, speaker, and author whose TED Talks on emotional well-being have over 35 million combined views. He has a podcast with co-host Lori Gottlieb, Dear Therapists. Dr. Winch's new book, Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life, is out today!Our last episode with Dr. Winch, “Dr. Guy Winch on Handling Rejection (& Waiting) in Admissions,” is here.You can listen and subscribe to Status Check with Spivey on ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠. You can read a full transcript of this episode with timestamps here.

Living meaningfully with the time we've got. Join Rabbi Brous and Lori Gottlieb in a sermon-dialogue on the intersection of Jewish and therapeutic wisdom on issues of deep concern for us today: how to stay in relationship with people whose ideas break your heart, confirmation bias and how minds are changed (can they be?), how to overcome psychic numbing and stay centered and empathic, even when we're hurting, how to hold hope and grow resiliency, and more. Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold over one million copies and has been translated into over 30 languages. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The New York Times “Ask the Therapist” advice column and is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast and the advice podcast Since You Asked. A contributing writer for The Atlantic, she also wrote The Atlantic's “Dear Therapist” advice column for six years. She is a sought-after expert appearing on Oprah, The Today Show, The Daily Show, Good Morning America, CBS Mornings, CNN, and NPR's “Fresh Air” and her TED Talk was one of the Top 10 Most Watched of the Year. She is also an IKAR member, and mother of the wonderful Zachary Gottlieb, IKAR teen extraordinaire.

Therapy is in session! We have incredible therapist and author Lori Gottlieb join us for a third time to discuss sibling relationships and dynamics – competitiveness and jealousy in adult siblings (especially around milestones), growing up with totally different experiences in the home, favoritism from parents, and even estrangement. And we dive into the hot topic of not liking/not getting along with a sibling's partner and how to navigate these situations and approach tough conversations. Before Lori joins us, Rayna has a dating update only true GGE fans will understand, and Ashley had an unexpected encounter at a gay bar (plus, catch us in Denver this weekend). Enjoy!  Follow Lori on Instagram @lorigottlieb_author, check out her NYT column Ask the Therapist, and listen to her podcast Dear Therapists. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Warby Parker: Try on any pair of glasses virtually at https://warbyparker.com/gge.  Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge. iRestore: Get a huge discount on the iRestore Elite at https://irestore.com with code GGE. Cort Furniture: Build your own furniture rental package today at https://www.cort.com/podcast. Simply Pop: Go to https://cokeurl.com/simplyPOP to find out where you can try Simply Pop.

This is a Fan Fav episode. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb just brought her absolutely game-changing wisdom to Women of Impact, and trust me, this is one you don't want to miss. We dove deep into why you're not as “stuck” as you think, how your old stories are shaping your current reality, and the really wild truth about what it actually takes to change (spoiler: it's not “just knowing” better!). Lori gets radically honest about pain, envy, self-sabotage, and even how to love well. She shares her own breakthroughs as both therapist and client, and lays out tangible hacks to rewrite your life story—one real, imperfect step at a time. Get cozy, get ready—and get real with yourself—as we unpack the tools for authentic transformation, genuine connection, and the habits that will finally help you step more fully into your power. SHOWNOTES Why you must give up the hope of having had a better childhood to move forward Unreliable narrators: How your perspective can trap you in a limited life story Feeling vs. knowing: Why insight alone won't change your life Idiot compassion vs. wise compassion: How to actually support yourself and others The uncomfortable truth about change—and why losing the familiar is so hard Pain vs. suffering: How we create unnecessary suffering and what to do instead Why following your envy is the secret to unlocking your true desires Breaking free from “comparison traps” and focusing on your own growth One small step at a time: The real path to transformation and purpose How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and finally experience true connection FOLLOW LORI GOTTLIEB:Website: https://lorigottlieb.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_authorTwitter: https://twitter.com/LoriGottlieb1Listen to Lori's Podcast, “Dear Therapists”: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-dear-therapists-68511527/Read her Dear Therapist Column (The Atlantic): https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/speakers/lori_gottlieb CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a Fan Fav episode. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb just brought her absolutely game-changing wisdom to Women of Impact, and trust me, this is one you don't want to miss. We dove deep into why you're not as “stuck” as you think, how your old stories are shaping your current reality, and the really wild truth about what it actually takes to change (spoiler: it's not “just knowing” better!). Lori gets radically honest about pain, envy, self-sabotage, and even how to love well. She shares her own breakthroughs as both therapist and client, and lays out tangible hacks to rewrite your life story—one real, imperfect step at a time. Get cozy, get ready—and get real with yourself—as we unpack the tools for authentic transformation, genuine connection, and the habits that will finally help you step more fully into your power. SHOWNOTES Why you must give up the hope of having had a better childhood to move forward Unreliable narrators: How your perspective can trap you in a limited life story Feeling vs. knowing: Why insight alone won't change your life Idiot compassion vs. wise compassion: How to actually support yourself and others The uncomfortable truth about change—and why losing the familiar is so hard Pain vs. suffering: How we create unnecessary suffering and what to do instead Why following your envy is the secret to unlocking your true desires Breaking free from “comparison traps” and focusing on your own growth One small step at a time: The real path to transformation and purpose How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and finally experience true connection FOLLOW LORI GOTTLIEB:Website: https://lorigottlieb.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_authorTwitter: https://twitter.com/LoriGottlieb1Listen to Lori's Podcast, “Dear Therapists”: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-dear-therapists-68511527/Read her Dear Therapist Column (The Atlantic): https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/speakers/lori_gottlieb CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, is helping us answer burning questions from our MBB audience like: “Am I in love or just attached?" “How do you know if you're in love?” “How do I build trust in a relationship?” From relationship red flags and how to communicate better with your partner to knowing when you've found "the one," Lori uncovers why we stay in toxic relationships, the truth about vulnerability, and how to fix your relationship after betrayal. Plus, get expert advice on setting boundaries, identifying red flags & narcissistic behavior, finding the right therapist, and how to move on after a break-up. Don't miss her tips on keeping love alive and making relationships work. Plus, stay tuned for some surprising red flags from Mayim and Jonathan. This is the ultimate guide to unlocking your healthiest connections!Lori Gottlieb's Book, MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE: https://a.co/d/gDLLpsdLori's TED TALK: https://www.ted.com/talks/lori_gottlieb_change_your_story_change_your_life?language=enLori's Advice column, Ask The Therapist @ New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/column/ask-the-therapistLori's Podcast, DEAR THERAPISTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists/id1523340696 BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik

Lori Gottlieb believes we all have an inner narrator. In this episode, she explains why the story you tell yourself is key to your happiness (or lack thereof). She also discusses the stages of change, why relationships are a dance, and the steps to finding a good therapist that can help you edit the story of your life. Lori is a therapist, the bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and a co-host on the Dear Therapists podcast. She was once also an executive at NBC, overseeing shows like the hit medical drama ER. It's through these varied experiences that she's realized the power of being aware of your personal narrative and being willing to edit your story.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gentle parenting can be seen as a movement and generational push-back against the parenting styles that Gen-Xers and Millennials grew up with. We use “Gentle Parenting” as a stand-in for the entire constellation of modern parenting brands: Peaceful, Respectful, Mindful, Intentional, Conscious, Compassionate, Sturdy…While there are some small differences between each method, they all generally follow the core “gentle” tenets.Ryan Allen is a licensed child therapist and gentle parenting expert and influencer. He specializes in helping “little kids with big emotions.” He's a bit of a social media phenom, with 1M followers on TikTok.Lori Gotlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author. Her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, has sold more than a million copies. She also co-hosts the podcast “Dear Therapists” and writes The Atlantic's “Dear Therapist” advice column. The QuestionsHow should parents help kids regulate their emotions? What is the right role for punishments and consequences?And…what is the happy medium between “Because I said so!” and Lord of the Flies? MentionsLori Gottlieb's 2011 Article in the Atlantic: “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy”Dr. Becky, Founder of Good Inside and ‘Millennial Parenting Whisperer'Janet Lansbury's ‘No Bad Kids' Method What did you think about this episode? Email us at podcast@thedisagreement.com or DM us on Instagram @thedisagreementhq.

Our host Alison was on an extended medical leave following emergency brain surgery, and she had to deal with a lot of new, frustrating, and unexpected situations. She speaks with psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, author and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast and “Dear Therapist” column for The Atlantic.

Today, you'll be hearing from writer and psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb. Lori is the author of the New York Times bestseller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. She also writes the weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column for The Atlantic and is the co-host of the iHeart Radio podcast "Dear Therapists." Her TED Talk was one of the topmost watched talks of 2019. In this episode, Lori offers tips on having difficult conversations, why you should strive for ordinary, what the two kinds of anxiety are, and much more.     5x #1 Bestselling Author and Motivational Speaker Erik Qualman has performed in over 55 countries and reached over 50 million people this past decade. He was voted the 2nd Most Likable Author in the World behind Harry Potter's J.K. Rowling.   Have Erik speak at your conference: eq@equalman.com   Motivational Speaker | Erik Qualman has inspired audiences at FedEx, Chase, ADP, Huawei, Starbucks, Godiva, FBI, Google, and many more on Focus and Digital Leadership.   Learn more at https://equalman.com

With the surge in telemedicine, therapy has seen a remarkable rise in popularity. But could therapy hold the key to a happier life? And should everyone go to therapy? Sanjay speaks with psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, acclaimed author of "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone," and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast, about how therapy can actually change your brain and get you one step closer to achieving happiness. Plus, Lori sheds light on the surprising ways therapy can reshape your perspective, especially for those who are therapy-curious. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our website - www.perksofbeingabooklover.com. Instagram - @perksofbeingabookloverpod Facebook - Perks of Being a Book Lover. To send us a message go to our website and click the contact button. We will be on a much needed hiatus for the entire month of June and a smidge into July. You will get replays of some of our book recommendation episodes from last year, but toward the end of June, we may have a remix episode where we catch up with a former guest. This last episode of Season 10 is about a very important topic. Although May is almost over, it isn't too late to recognize books for Mental Health Awareness month. Carrie and I both know and appreciate that mental health is part of total health. Your brain is a really big, extremely powerful, exceedingly important part of your body. If it ain't happy, no other part of you is happy either. It's no different than your kidneys or heart not performing their best. This week we give you some book recommendations, both fiction and nonfiction, that highlight mental health or bring some exposure to mental health issues. Books Mentioned in This Episode: 1- Being Henry: The Fonz…and Beyond by Henry Winkler 2- Firekeeper's Daughter by Angeline Boulley 3- Warrior Girl Unearthed by Angeline Boulley 4- And Then, Boom! by Lisa Fipps - A 5 star read recommended by fellow book lover Cassie Sanders @allroadsleadtoausten 5- Starfish by Lisa Fipps 6- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb 7- The Professor and the Madman: a Tale of Murder, Insanity and the Making of the Oxford English Dictionary by Simon Winchester 8- The Sleeping Beauties by Suzanne O' Sullivan 9- Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson 10- Wesley Yorstad Goes Outside by Stephanie Hunter 11- All Fall Down by Jennifer Weiner 12- Homer and Langley by EL Doctorow 13- The Trauma Cleaner by Sarah Krasnostein 14- The Yellow Wallpaper by Charlotte Perkins Gilman 15- The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon 16- Sylvia Plath: A Biography by Linda Wagner-Martin 17- Anne Sexton: A Biography by Diane Wood Middlebrook 18- The Act of Disappearing by Nathan Gower 19- The Year of the Horses by Courtney Maum 20- Baggage: Confessions of a Globe-Trotting Hypochondriac by Jeremy Hance 21- The Color of Magic by Terry Pratchett 22- Jingo by Terry Pratchett 23- Wyrd Sisters by Terry Pratchett 24- Mort by Terry Pratchett 25- Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman Shows/podcasts mentioned— 1- Barry (HBO, 2018 - 2023) 2- Reservation Dogs (Hulu, 2021 - 2023) 3- Good Omens (Amazon Prime, 2019 - present) 4- Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch - podcast      

Our website - www.perksofbeingabooklover.com. Instagram - @perksofbeingabookloverpod Facebook - Perks of Being a Book Lover. To send us a message go to our website and click the contact button. We will be on a much needed hiatus for the entire month of June and a smidge into July. You will get replays of some of our book recommendation episodes from last year, but toward the end of June, we may have a remix episode where we catch up with a former guest. This last episode of Season 10 is about a very important topic. Although May is almost over, it isn't too late to recognize books for Mental Health Awareness month. Carrie and I both know and appreciate that mental health is part of total health. Your brain is a really big, extremely powerful, exceedingly important part of your body. If it ain't happy, no other part of you is happy either. It's no different than your kidneys or heart not performing their best. This week we give you some book recommendations, both fiction and nonfiction, that highlight mental health or bring some exposure to mental health issues. Books Mentioned in This Episode: 1- Being Henry: The Fonz…and Beyond by Henry Winkler 2- Firekeeper's Daughter by Angeline Boulley 3- Warrior Girl Unearthed by Angeline Boulley 4- And Then, Boom! by Lisa Fipps - A 5 star read recommended by fellow book lover Cassie Sanders @allroadsleadtoausten 5- Starfish by Lisa Fipps 6- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb 7- The Professor and the Madman: a Tale of Murder, Insanity and the Making of the Oxford English Dictionary by Simon Winchester 8- The Sleeping Beauties by Suzanne O' Sullivan 9- Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson 10- Wesley Yorstad Goes Outside by Stephanie Hunter 11- All Fall Down by Jennifer Weiner 12- Homer and Langley by EL Doctorow 13- The Trauma Cleaner by Sarah Krasnostein 14- The Yellow Wallpaper by Charlotte Perkins Gilman 15- The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon 16- Sylvia Plath: A Biography by Linda Wagner-Martin 17- Anne Sexton: A Biography by Diane Wood Middlebrook 18- The Act of Disappearing by Nathan Gower 19- The Year of the Horses by Courtney Maum 20- Baggage: Confessions of a Globe-Trotting Hypochondriac by Jeremy Hance 21- The Color of Magic by Terry Pratchett 22- Jingo by Terry Pratchett 23- Wyrd Sisters by Terry Pratchett 24- Mort by Terry Pratchett 25- Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman Shows/podcasts mentioned— 1- Barry (HBO, 2018 - 2023) 2- Reservation Dogs (Hulu, 2021 - 2023) 3- Good Omens (Amazon Prime, 2019 - present) 4- Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch - podcast

NPR's Rhaina Cohen is the  The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center,   The Other Significant Others invites us into the lives of people who have defied convention by choosing a friend as a life partner—from friends raising a child together to best friends of 50 years who live together in their retiree years. Based on years of original reporting and striking social science research, Cohen argues that we undermine romantic relationships by expecting too much of them while we diminish friendships by expecting too little of them. At a time when many Americans are spending large stretches of their lives single, widowed or divorced, or feeling the effects of the "loneliness epidemic," Cohen insists that we recognize the many forms of profound connection that can anchor our lives. A groundbreaking book, The Other Significant Others challenges us to ask what we want from our relationships—not just what we're supposed to want—and transforms how we define a fulfilling life The book looks at how friendship is woefully undervalued, and we do ourselves a societal disservice by believing that a lifelong romantic relationship is essential for having a full, meaningful adulthood. Cohen makes this case through the stories of people who've built a life with a friend—raising children together, buying homes together, and taking care of each other in old age. Amid a loneliness epidemic, declining marriage rates and changing family forms, she argues that we'd benefit from recognizing the variety of relationships that ground people's lives “Rhaina Cohen's moving, intimate portraits of people in unusually devoted friendships upend our cultural narratives about which relationships matter. A perceptive and vivid reporter, she reveals that there are far more pathways to deep connection and fulfillment than we've been made to believe. The Other Significant Others is an arresting work of compassion and insight.”  —Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of Dear Therapists podcast   “In her lovingly written The Other Significant Others, Rhaina Cohen does crucial work by questioning easy social categorization and the hierarchies of recognition and privilege that too often put romantically coupled pairs at the top. The Other Significant Others is energetic, open, considered, and beautifully reported. It thrums with a passion for the subject, and is powered by a historically rich, intellectually serious curiosity about the relationships that provide backbone and ballast to so many of our lives, but which have only recently begun to receive the consideration they are due.” —Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of All the Single Ladies and Good and Mad https://www.rhainacohen.com    

Relationships and romance aren't easy, but are you making it harder than it needs to be? Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and a bestselling author, she is also the co-host of the ‘Dear Therapists' podcast. Her New York Times bestselling books include, ‘Maybe You Should Talk to Someone' and ‘Mr Good Enough'. In this conversation Lori and Steven discuss topics such as, why men should always pay for the date, the best age according to statistics to get married, what women really want in a man, and the simple trick to show what is missing in your relationship. (00:00) Intro (02:08) How to Live the Life You Want (05:06) Lack of Human Connections Leads to Relationship Pressure (06:21) Why the Majority Aren't Satisfied with Their Relationships (08:01) The Need to Be Understood (09:47) Why Men Struggle More Opening Up in the Relationship (16:34) Setting Unreal Expectations When Looking for a Partner (19:40) We're Too Picky on Dating Apps (24:57) High Expectations, Can They Be Lowered? (28:04) Gender Differences in Dating (33:44) The Type of People That Seek Bad Partners (35:11) How to Help Those People (36:49) Financial Differences in Dating (42:53) People Are Choosing Not to Have Kids and Get Married (49:02) What Happens When a Woman Earns More in the Relationship (51:08) The Big Debate on a First Date (56:35) Red Flags in First Dates (59:51) The Age You Marry Is Linked to Divorce Risk (01:03:32) You Need to Learn to Unknow Yourself (01:05:35) The Impact of Seeking Approval (01:12:20) When Your Friends Sabotage You When You Try to Change (01:20:46) Do Women Express More Emotion Than Men? (01:22:38) Do Our Dreams Have True Meanings? (01:25:08) The Safety of Self-Compassion (01:26:55) The Opposite of Depression Isn't Happiness (01:29:46) The Grief of Heartbreak and How to Recover (01:37:53) How to Help Someone Going Through Heartbreak (01:45:02) Last Guest Question You can find the link to the graph on age and divorce risk here: https://bit.ly/49KpKrM You can pre-order Lori's book, ‘Maybe You Should Talk to Someone', here: https://amzn.to/43aSMyq Follow Lori Twitter - https://bit.ly/434PAEB Instagram - https://bit.ly/3PeOVup Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Sponsors: WHOOP: https://join.whoop.com/en-uk/CEO ZOE: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO2024 for 10% off Uber: https://p.uber.com/creditsterms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Paid subscribers get full access to my interview with Lori Gottlieb. The first half of this episode is available to all listeners. To hear the entire conversation, become a paying subscriber here. Psychotherapist and writer Lori Gottlieb visited The Unspeakable in 2021 to talk about her bestselling book Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. She returns for a Valentine's Day episode about finding love, staying in love, and what to make of all the social scientists constantly going on about how marriage and family are essential for mental, physical and even economic well-being. To that, Lori says, “well, obviously!” But she also asks “how are you supposed to find someone when our social systems are so dysfunctional?” Her own story involves becoming a mother on her own in her 30s (her son Zach is a budding Gen Z thought leader in his own right) and trying to balance her own dating life with childrearing and a busy career. In this conversation, she talks about how she tries to help clients who are struggling to find love, how honest talk about female fertility became taboo sometime in the 2000s, why dating apps are making things so much worse, and why age gaps in romantic relationships seem more prevalent than ever. She also explains why, for older daters, widowed people can make the best partners and, finally, why more singles should seriously consider hiring a matchmaker. GUEST BIO Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and the New York Times best-selling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” and “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.” She is also a TED Speaker, the co-host of the popular "Dear Therapists" podcast, and the “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Listen to the last time she was on the podcast. Check out her website. Follow her on Twitter here. Want to hear the whole conversation? Upgrade your subscription here. HOUSEKEEPING

Lori Gottlieb believes we all have an inner narrator. In this episode, she explains why the story you tell yourself is key to your happiness (or lack thereof). She also discusses the stages of change, why relationships are a dance, and the steps to finding a good therapist that can help you edit the story of your life. Lori is a therapist, the bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and a co-host on the Dear Therapists podcast. She was once also an executive at NBC, overseeing shows like the hit medical drama ER. It's through these varied experiences that she's realized the power of being aware of your personal narrative and being willing to edit your story. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

In this episode, Lori Gottlieb (advice columnist and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about postpartum depression, wedding-planning anxiety, and what to do when you think neurodivergent people are getting away with way too much. If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.  Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Lori Gottlieb (advice columnist and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about postpartum depression, wedding-planning anxiety, and what to do when you think neurodivergent people are getting away with way too much. If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.  Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Lori Gottlieb (advice columnist and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about postpartum depression, wedding-planning anxiety, and what to do when you think neurodivergent people are getting away with way too much. If you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members.  Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we're in session with Stephanie and her mother, Rona, who hasn't forgiven her daughter for something that happened twenty-five years ago. We help them acknowledge the hurt they caused each other and find a new path forward.    If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Alexis, whose parents are pressuring her to get married and have children on their timeline instead of hers. We help her to set healthy boundaries with her family.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Grace and Finn, a young married couple who struggle to keep their disagreements from turning into full-blown arguments they later regret. We help them identify what goes wrong and give them practical tools for substituting faulty assumptions and accusations with openness and vulnerability.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Vanessa, whose father insisted she take out a huge loan she could not repay and give him all the money, then disowned her when she refused. We help her to process the loss of her entire family, and start to create a trusted, compassionate family of choice who treats her the way family should.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Andrew, who met his current partner because they shared the same ex, and worries that his new relationship is therefore built on a shaky foundation. We help him remove the ghost of the ex and trust the important lessons he learned from that relationship in this new one.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Emily, whose relationship with her long-distance fiance blew up the moment they got married. We help her to see how her impatience to not “waste time” prevents her from making sound choices, and why slowing down is the key to making healthy decisions.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Elise, who wants to have a better relationship with her angry older sister. We help Elise to see her sister's perspective so she can approach her with empathy–and how to know when repair might not be possible.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Richard, who has been trying to avoid feeling the pain of losing his wife of 40 years. We teach him how to sit with his sadness, even as he moves forward into a new relationship.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Nora, whose whirlwind romance with her now-husband led to an unexpected pregnancy that was terminated when they were first dating, the fallout of which she is still dealing with. We help Nora to process her feelings of past resentment so that she can see her husband and their relationship more clearly in the present   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com  See omny.fm/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're in session with Amanda, who's wondering if she should leave her husband after finding out he repeatedly cheated on her with other women. We help her to get past her fear and prioritize her own wellbeing.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here's a sneak peek into Season 4 of Dear Therapists, which launches next week! We can't wait to bring you another full season of inspiring and transformative sessions—and as always, you can hear how our guests did with the advice we gave them. New episodes begin airing on 6/13. Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes. If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we're re-releasing a 2021 episode of Status Check with Spivey that is more relevant to our listeners than ever—our interview with Dr. Guy Winch. In what has ended up being one of our favorite episodes ever, Dr. Winch discusses his own experiences with rejection in admissions, the research behind these feelings, and specific interventions for moving forward confidently and positively. He also tells a story about the first time he applied to graduate school—he applied to 10 different programs, was denied by 9, and was "ghosted" (he literally never heard from them) by the 10th. Which makes his conversation with us not just incredibly helpful, but also relatable. We've all been rejected at something, many things—including those at the very pinnacle of their professional careers. Dr. Guy Winch is one of the world's leading psychologists and speakers. He has delivered three TED Talks with over 30 million views combined, all three of which can be seen here. He has published three books and along with best-selling author Lori Gottlieb co-hosts the podcast Dear Therapists. You can listen and subscribe to Status Check with Spivey on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, YouTube, and Google Podcasts.

Ryan speaks with Lori Gottlieb about the profound effect that stories have on our lives, why we are all unreliable narrators, how we can make real steps toward positive change by practicing self-compassion, understanding other peoples' experiences by listening to their stories, and more.Lorr Gottlieb is a physiotherapist, writer, speaker, and podcast host whose work focuses on the role that stories and storytelling take in shaping our mental landscape. She obtained an undergraduate degree at Stanford University and a Masters of Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and she is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She published the New York Times bestseller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone in 2019, which she repurposed into a journal version in 2022 titled Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: The Journal. She also writes the weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column for The Atlantic and is the co-host of the iHeart Radio podcast "Dear Therapists." Her TED Talk was one of the top most-watched talks of 2019. Her work can be found on her website lorigottlieb.com.✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail

Anyone interested in an extra dose of therapy this week? Well, you're in luck! Psychotherapist, podcast host, and New York Times bestselling author, Lori Gottlieb, is here right in time to help us actually enjoy the holiday season, no matter what stress might come along with it. We all tell stories about our lives, but it's important to remember that we're unreliable narrators who may need to do some serious editing. In this episode, Lori shares how we can rewrite our stories, offer wise compassion to ourselves and others, and make serious progress outside of therapy through her many resources. Plus, she's offering her highly sought after “Dear Therapists” advice to the Vinos who are looking to set and hold boundaries during the holiday season. Kaitlyn and Lori end the podcast with intimate confessions and give some helpful homework to the listeners right before we sit down at the Thanksgiving table. Thank you to our sponsors! Check out these deals for the Vinos: EHARMONY - Download the eharmony app and start free today. PROGRESSIVE - Quote at Progressive.com to join the over 27 million drivers who trust Progressive.

A renowned psychotherapist shares how to navigate the most difficult parts of being a business owner I wholeheartedly believe that entrepreneurship can be one of the best gifts you can give yourself. It can bring you freedom to design your life the way that you want to, all while doing something that you love.  But as you probably already know, if not managed well, the stress of being a business owner can really take a toll on you. On the daily, entrepreneurs deal with things like decision fatigue, loneliness, and burnout. In fact, I recently read an alarming statistic that 72% of entrepreneurs struggle with mental health, and I'll be honest -- that number feels far too high, and a little close to home!  It's one of my goals to bring more awareness to this issue that affects so many people in business, and that's why I invited Lori Gottlieb to be a guest on the show. Lori is a renowned psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which now has a journal to go along with it. (Listen to find out how to get a chance to win one of these!)  In addition to her clinical practice, she is co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, and writes The Atlantic's weekly Dear Therapist advice column.  In this important conversation, Lori shares how to: Find balance between vulnerability and being viewed as an expert Lean on your own intuition more when making stressful decisions  Tap into more acceptance and enjoyment when things change, versus fear  Navigate loneliness as an entrepreneur Plus much, much more!  I'll go ahead and call it right here -- this episode is going to be a fan-favorite. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Amy and Online Marketing Made Easy."

We have another free therapy session with a favorite return guest -- psychologist, author, and speaker Guy Winch! On this episode, we're breaking down complaining from all angles, including the problem with not voicing your complaints to your partner, to how much complaining is too much in a relationship. We're also discussing the most effective way to complain both in relationships and in general life situations (like with a retailer or landlord), how to deal with chronic complainers (whether they're your partner, friend, or parent), and friendships defined by complaining. Plus, we cover how to complain in a funny way and sexual complaints (separate topics lol). Before Guy joins us, we're catching up on one of Rayna's former prospects back in the mix and Ashley's body still being fucked up. Enjoy! Follow Guy on Instagram @GuyWinch, listen to his podcast Dear Therapists, and find more on his website. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first Pretty Litter order at prettylitter.com/gge. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get $15 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping at nutrafol.com/gge. Blueland: Go to blueland.com/gge to get 15% off your first order.

We hope you enjoyed Season 3 of Dear Therapists. As we get ready for Season 4, we have two special bonus episodes to share with you. Sometimes after a session, we like to think about what worked well, and also what we would do differently if we could do it again. In these two bonus episodes, we do a case consultation with our intern, Ben, a psychology graduate student who pre-interviews the guests and helps select who gets on the show.    This week/Next week we'll unpack what worked with a session we loved, “Adam's Cheating Boyfriend.” The next week, we'll talk about a session that didn't go as well–and share what we would have done differently.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are honored to be joined again by psychotherapist and bestselling author Lori Gottlieb to discuss a topic so many can relate to: The mother daughter relationship. Lori expertly and compassionately walks us through how to navigate a strained relationship with a mother (or parent) if you have resentment about your childhood/their parenting, feel like they are critical or competitive with you, are lacking boundaries or the tools to express your feelings to them, or just want a better relationship in general. We are also discussing our relationships with our moms; and before we jump into the topic, we're opening up (maybe too much) about some body stuff, unpacking a spooky situation, and recapping Selling the OC. Enjoy! Follow Lori on Instagram @lorigottlieb_author, check out her podcast Dear Therapists, and visit her website for more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge65 and use code GGE65 for 65% off plus free shipping. NextEvo: Get 25% off your first order of $40 or more at nextevo.com with promo code GGE. Babbel: Go to babbel.com/gge for up to 60% off your subscription. Osea: Get 10% off your first order with promo code GGE at oseamalibu.com.

Therapy. When do we know if we need it? Why is it so taboo? How can I get my spouse to go with me? In this episode, Landyn is sitting down with psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, Lori Gottlieb. In addition to her clinical practice, Lori is the co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast produced by Katie Couric and writes The Atlantic's weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column. Landyn has been a long time proponent of therapy, ever since she first started going when she and Steve got married over 20 years ago. Being open about her positive experience in counseling, she's received an inundation of questions about when to go, what to expect, and how to know where to start. In this episode, Landyn is answering YOUR questions and so much more. Lori and Landyn are diving into: People pleasing: where it starts and how to reduce it Creating a safe space for your children to open up about their struggles The steps that lead to ACTUAL, lasting change in your life Why we are poor narratives of our own stories Lori's incredible back story that led her to counseling in the first place (hint: the show Friends is a large part of this!)   Lori is an empathetic expert that will take you on a mini counseling session during this episode. Prepare to learn a bit about yourself while having a few laughs along the way. For full episode notes, visit: www.livingwithlandyn.com/when-to-go-to-therapy-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-mental-health-how-to-stop-people-pleasing Want to learn more about Lori? Check out her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/

In today's episode, we cover mental health with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist in Los Angeles, co-host of the podcast Dear Therapists, and the author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.Mental health is a priority now more than ever, so what are the overlooked signs that someone is struggling with mental health, how do you know if you should talk to a professional, and why is boundary setting crucial to positive mental health?What to Listen ForIntroduction – 0:00What are the overlooked signs that someone is struggling with mental health issues?What is the value in seeing a therapist versus talking to your friends and family about issues you're experiencing in life?The self-sabotaging stories we tell ourselves – 11:12 Why do we tell ourselves stories about what happens to us and how do those stories have lasting negative impacts on us and the people around us?What impact do the people around us have on our mental health and what can you do if your friends aren't healthy for you?Setting and maintaining boundaries – 24:24How do you set boundaries and maintain them with people who constantly violate them? Finding the right person – 47:05What is the number one question you should ask yourself when on a first date?Mental health is something many people struggle with, but often don't talk about. The signs that someone is struggling can be easily overlooked if you're not aware of them. It's important to be there for your loved ones and help them get the help they need if you see any of these signs. If you're experiencing mental health issues, it's valuable to seek out therapy. Friends and family are great sources of support, but sometimes talking to somebody neutral who isn't invested in our lives can be really helpful, even lifesaving. A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it's a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that's in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That's 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That's an uncomfortable position to be in. Don't want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere!Resources from this EpisodeLori Gottlieb's websiteDear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy WinchTED Talk: How changing your story can change your life | Lori GottliebOvercoming Nice Guy Syndrome | Dr. Robert GloverCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube

Dear Therapists is a show that puts the traditional advice column in podcast form. Each week, listeners will have the chance to get guidance on their problem from world renowned therapists Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch. When we read an advice column, we never get an ending, and we never find out if the advice actually worked. It's also one of the things that Lori and Guy wanted to hear about most as professionals. Each episode of Dear Therapists ends with a check-in with the listener, so we get to hear results and we finally get closure to his or her story! Listen here or on the iHeartRadio app.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Therapists is a show that puts the traditional advice column in podcast form. Each week, listeners will have the chance to get guidance on their problem from world renowned therapists Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch. When we read an advice column, we never get an ending, and we never find out if the advice actually worked. It's also one of the things that Lori and Guy wanted to hear about most as professionals. Each episode of Dear Therapists ends with a check-in with the listener, so we get to hear results and we finally get closure to his or her story! Listen here or on the iHeartRadio app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Therapists is a show that puts the traditional advice column in podcast form. Each week, listeners will have the chance to get guidance on their problem from world renowned therapists Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch. When we read an advice column, we never get an ending, and we never find out if the advice actually worked. It's also one of the things that Lori and Guy wanted to hear about most as professionals. Each episode of Dear Therapists ends with a check-in with the listener, so we get to hear results and we finally get closure to his or her story! Listen here or on the iHeartRadio app.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Season 3 of Dear Therapists! We're so excited to bring you a preview of what you'll be hearing in our all-new sessions starting May 10th! Our advice: Subscribe now so you don't miss a single episode.   If you have a dilemma you'd like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com. Follow us both online: LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lori is back for round two with Lo as the two discuss her journey to becoming a psychotherapist. She left a successful career and made the decision to go to medical school. She followed her passion and started a new chapter later in life. Even though Lori is celebrated as an expert when it comes to therapy, relationships, and understanding ourselves, she says her greatest credential is that she too is a card-carrying member of the human race. She's opening up about why her upbringing of “let's pretend we're happy” ultimately drew her to the field of therapy, and detailing how she believes we can make changes to allow the next generation to better talk about our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs – even when they may drastically differ from those of our family. In today's episode, Lori is also sharing how we can go about finding a therapist that is right for us; just because we had one poor experience doesn't mean we're not built for therapy. It turns out therapy isn't too different from dating - the number one predictor of success in a therapeutic relationship is our relationship to our therapist, so sometimes it can help to date around. Lori and Lo also discuss our relationship to the person we talk to the most in life: ourselves. Lo is all too familiar that sometimes we treat ourselves very differently than we'd treat a loved one or even a stranger, and the two explore how we can change these habits. And of course, Lori is answering Lo's round of rapid-fire questions, which wraps with some words to live by that will take you into the weekend in a place of self-compassion.  Please be sure to rate, follow, review, and send to a friend so we can keep this sh!t show on the road, kings and kweens! Follow your host Lo on Instagram @stylelvr and make sure to drink some water... we know you're thirsty. You can find Lori's books and more information on her website, watch her popular TED Talk here, find her on social media @lorigottlieb_author, and listen to her podcast Dear Therapists wherever you find podcasts.  Thank you to our sponsors for making this episode possible! Check out these deals just for you, Lo Lifers:  LET'S GET CHECKED - Visit letsgetchecked.com and enter LOLIFE at checkout to ensure you and your significant other are staying safe.MAGICMIND - Go to Magicmind.co/LOLIFE and use discount code LOLIFE to get 20% off today.BETTERHELP - This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Lo Life listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/lo! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Lori is back for round two with Lo as the two discuss her journey to becoming a psychotherapist. She left a successful career and made the decision to go to medical school. She followed her passion and started a new chapter later in life. Even though Lori is celebrated as an expert when it comes to therapy, relationships, and understanding ourselves, she says her greatest credential is that she too is a card-carrying member of the human race. She's opening up about why her upbringing of “let's pretend we're happy” ultimately drew her to the field of therapy, and detailing how she believes we can make changes to allow the next generation to better talk about our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs – even when they may drastically differ from those of our family.  In today's episode, Lori is also sharing how we can go about finding a therapist that is right for us; just because we had one poor experience doesn't mean we're not built for therapy. It turns out therapy isn't too different from dating - the number one predictor of success in a therapeutic relationship is our relationship to our therapist, so sometimes it can help to date around. Lori and Lo also discuss our relationship to the person we talk to the most in life: ourselves. Lo is all too familiar that sometimes we treat ourselves very differently than we'd treat a loved one or even a stranger, and the two explore how we can change these habits. And of course, Lori is answering Lo's round of rapid-fire questions, which wraps with some words to live by that will take you into the weekend in a place of self-compassion.   Please be sure to rate, follow, review, and send to a friend so we can keep this sh!t show on the road, kings and kweens! Follow your host Lo on Instagram @stylelvr and make sure to drink some water... we know you're thirsty. You can find Lori's books and more information on her website, watch her popular TED Talk here, find her on social media @lorigottlieb_author, and listen to her podcast Dear Therapists wherever you find podcasts.   Thank you to our sponsors for making this episode possible! Check out these deals just for you, Lo Lifers:   LET'S GET CHECKED - Visit letsgetchecked.com and enter LOLIFE at checkout to ensure you and your significant other are staying safe. MAGICMIND - Go to Magicmind.co/LOLIFE and use discount code LOLIFE to get 20% off today. BETTERHELP - This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Lo Life listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/lo! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest might have one of the world's longest waiting lists, but Lo is skipping the line and getting some on-the-mic therapy for both himself and his beloved Lo Lifers! Lori Gottlieb is an incredible psychotherapist, New York Times bestselling author, TED speaker, and co-host of the extremely popular podcast Dear Therapists. When it comes to rewriting our stories and shifting our narratives, Lori is the go-to expert to help her clients, listeners, and readers gain the mindset shift they often desperately need. In this episode, Lo and Lori are opening up and giving advice on everything from navigating differences within our families to leaning into the envy that comes with comparison culture to finding the therapist that is right for you. Even though she might seem like she's been doing this forever, Lori wasn't always in the therapy field. She actually started her career in entertainment and only shifted to therapy once she realized that real-life stories interested her far more than those on our TV screens. Since then, Lori has been helping clients, readers, and listeners rewrite the faulty narratives we so often tell ourselves when it comes to our relationships, our careers, and our overall lives. How do we not take our baggage into new relationships? How can we speak to our families about hot-button issues? What do we do with our anxious and depressed feelings? Lo is asking Lori questions that the Lo Lifers might not have even known they needed answers to. This extremely informative and eye-opening episode will have you getting excited for your next, or maybe even your first, therapy session. Please be sure to rate, follow, review, and send to a friend so we can keep this sh!t show on the road, kings and kweens! Follow your host Lo on Instagram @stylelvr and make sure to drink some water... we know you're thirsty. You can find Lori's books and more information on her website, watch her popular TED Talk here, find her on social media @lorigottlieb_author, and listen to her podcast Dear Therapists wherever you find podcasts. Thank you to our sponsors for making this episode possible! Check out these deals just for you, Lo Lifers:  HELLOFRESH - Go to HelloFresh.com/lolife16 and use code lolife16 for up to 16 free meals AND 3 free gifts!LET'S GET CHECKED - Visit letsgetchecked.com and enter LOLIFE at checkout to ensure you and your significant other are staying safe.MAGICMIND - Go to Magicmind.co/LOLIFE and use discount code LOLIFE to get 20% off today.BETTERHELP - This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Lo Life listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/lo! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.