A Stripper's Guide

HELLO FROM THE VOID!This is my first episode in over a year. I promised in spring of 2023 that I'd return in the fall. But in the fall, we collectively began to witness an unbridled holocaust in Palestine. I was frozen with grief for many months, and stopped producing all content; I was speechless, and hopeless. While I'm still filled with a profound grief and rage, a lot has changed for me since then. I've found strength and solidarity in my anti-zionist queer sex worker community, and a community of fellow anti-zionist Jews. Today's episode features a conversation with myself and queer, anti-zionist Jewish educators Ayelet Cartolina and Jessie & Elana from the Making Mensches Podcast.One last thing: in June of 2023, Meta deleted my Stripper's Guide Instagram account in a wave of overnight deletions of thousands of sex workers' accounts across the world. It is so important to me to be able to stay connected to you! If you want information and tools for navigating anti-sex worker and anti-femme stigma in the world and in your relationships, please consider subscribing to my free blog on Substack! You can still find me on Instagram, but please don't let that fickle place be our only avenue of connection.Support the showLove the show and want more of it? Click here and become a premium subscriber for $4! Your subscriptions make it possible for me to continue producing this pod, which I am so passionate about.

Season 7 has been a fiery one, and the finale is just as smokin hot! Erica & Leilah are geeking out because on this episode, they get to talk with one of their own favorite podcasters: AUBREY FUCKING GORDON!!Aubrey Gordon (also known as Your Fat Friend) is an author, podcaster, and activist focused on justice for fat folks. She stopped by A Stripper's Guide Podcast for a chat about how--and why--sometimes former fat folks and former sex workers try to distance themselves from their pasts. We talk about the dangers of stigma, the realities of social pressures, and how the fight for sex workers' rights and the fight for fat peoples' rights are actually one and the same.Aubrey's links & stuff:Maintenance Phase Podcast (available wherever you stream)Books: "You Just Need to Lose Weight" and "What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat"Social Media: Twitter, InstagramYour Fat Friend  DocumentaryA Stripper's Guide pod is taking a little breaky-break for the summer, but keep up with us on our newsletter!Connect with us! Newsletter Instagram YouTube astrippersguide.com

It's just a fact: lots of sex workers are moms, and lots of moms are sex workers. In this 2-part Mothers Day Special, we hear directly from different sex working moms who offer up some hard-won wisdom about parenting while living under society's microscope. This episode features sex workin' moms Roxy Hartless and Mina!Links:Roxy Hartless: Instagram & TikTokLeilah's music stuff:Tickets to see Leilah's band in Brooklyn, May 19 Leilah's Spotify Leilah's music InstagramLife After MLM Podcast episode featuring LeilahValley Latini on A Stripper's Guide Podcast : Two Stripper/Pop Singers Walk into a Bar  (ep. 1.2)From Stripper to Full-Time Musician  (ep. 4.13)Connect with us! Newsletter Instagram YouTube astrippersguide.com

It's just a fact: lots of sex workers are moms, and lots of moms are sex workers. In this 2-part Mothers Day Special, we hear directly from different sex working moms who offer up some hard-won wisdom about parenting while living under society's microscope. Today's featured guests: Elle Stanger - certified sex educator, parent,  host of They Talk Sex Podcast, and sex worker since 2009.  Follow them on Instagram & Twitter Kristen Thomas - certified breathwork facilitator, founder of Bad Bitches do Breath Work, mom, and sex worker of 16 years. Follow her on InstagramLeilah's links:- A Stripper's Guide Newsletter- Tickets to see Leilah's band in Brooklyn, May 19- Leilah's Spotify- Leilah's music Instagram Connect with us! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Whether or not you're familiar with the concept of a "gold star lesbian", we're here to discuss why it's time to let that term die. Come hang out with me and my high school friend, Frankie, for a conversation about how "gold star lesbianism" is anti-femme, anti-trans, and anti-sex worker. Frankie's art galleryFrankie's InstagramLeilah's InstagramA Stripper's Guide newsletterConnect with us! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Sex workers, fat folks, queer folks, and femmes are generally not encouraged to set boundaries for ourselves when it comes to sex . We're told to act according to society's script: please our partners, never ask for what we want, and never complain when we don't get it. In this tarot-infused episode from Erica Sosa, the Queen of Cups and the Queen of Wands show us how to break away from all that to focus on our own joy, pleasure, and desires.Check out Erica's blog, Revolutionary Hotness, which is all about celebrating herself as a fat femme in a world that wants her to be ashamed of it. Also, find her on Instagram here! Connect with us! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Hi! We have some special announcements today! Bad news first: due to scheduling conflicts, Ataraxxxia isn't able to continue here on this podcast, BUT you haven't seen the last of her! She remains super dedicated to uplifting and de-stigmatizing sex work in Latin America. She will always be a friend of this show, and she will likely appear as a guest again sometime in the future. We love you, Ata!! Follow her on Instagram here.Updates to the show:For now, we'll be releasing episodes every two weeks while Leilah searches for grants, sponsorship, and any other funding that may be available to this podcast. We aren't going anywhere; we're just taking a slight step back while we figure out how to take some big leaps forward.Calling queer, femme, or sex working filmmakers & podcasters!If you have experience producing podcasts or documentaries, and you're interested in helping out or possibly collaborating with A Stripper's Guide on some exciting new projects, email us at info@astrippersguide.comJOIN LEILAH'S NEWSLETTER for updates on both A Stripper's Guide and news about her music (live shows, new releases, & more)Connect with us! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Today, Leilah interviews our very own Erica Sosa! Sosa is a pole dancer, sex worker, and fat Puerto Rican femme. On her blog, her social media, and in her new fashion styling business, she helps other fat femmes release shame and learn to celebrate their hot bods. Tune in for a combo pack of femme wisdom, titillating facts about the pole industry, and a sprinkling of Sosa's signature magical pixie dust.Click here to read Erica's blog and find her on Instagram & Twitter!Connect with us!/¡Conéctate con nosotres! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

CW: violence against sex workers and femmes.From intimate partner violence to mass murder, sex workers aren't the only people who suffer the consequences of anti-sex worker bias. On March 16, 2021, a white man walked into three separate massage parlors and murdered eight people. Most of those killed, and all of those targeted, were Asian women. This episode explores the connection between anti-sex worker violence and violence against ALL femmes and women.Click here to read A Stripper's Guide Blog on SubstackRelated episodes:No Feminism Without Asian Sex Workers (featuring Dr. Connie Wun)What Does it Mean to Decriminalize Sex Work? (feat. Ariella Moscowitz of Decriminalize Sex Work)Are You a Good Girl or a Bad Girl? (a conversation about femme identity with Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin)Also mentioned in this episode: Red Canary SongConnect with us!/¡Conéctate con nosotres! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Inside a patriarchy, many femmes and women, both sex working and non, face common relationship issues. In this episode, Leilah talks about why.Hey, it's me, Leilah. I started a blog! Subscribe to my Substack (subscriptions start at FREE) for a growing collection of essays, stories, and educational content about the fight for sex workers' and femmes' rights to life, love, and freedom.Click here to read my first post, “She Was a Stripper. Her Boyfriend Didn't Like That.”For Erica Sosa's blog, click here!Thank you so much for your continued support & enthusiasm for A Stripper's Guide! Please don't be a stranger — we always wanna hear from you, whether it's in the comments on any of our other platforms, or ratings & reviews of A Stripper's Guide Podcast.With my love & gratitude,Leilah (& Team)Connect with us!/¡Conéctate con nosotres! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

When you watch a rom-com or a sitcom, who do you normally see as the romantic lead? You're probably picturing a slim, slightly curvy, probably white or racially ambiguous cis woman with everything “just right.” More than likely, your mind did not drift to someone fat, Black, Brown, or queer. So how do we combat this? By embracing everything society wants us to be ashamed of. This way, we practice revolutionary resistance to the patriarchal idea of who deserves love, softness, kindness, and respect. Check out Erica's blog, Revolutionary Hotness, which dives into removing shame from her relationship to her body and celebrating herself as a fat femme.  Also, find her on Instagram here! Connect with us!/¡Conéctate con nosotres! Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin is blazing trails in the field of Femme Theory, which aims to center and include femme narratives and experiences in all realms. From conservative communities to feminist and queer communities, why is it that so many femmes know what it's like to feel somehow both underestimated and overlooked, and at the same time behaviorally policed? Why is it that so many femmes, from sex workers and food servers to teachers and corporate professionals, know what it's like to be sexually harassed at work, at home, and out in the street? Dr. Hoskin and I ponder these questions and more.Find more of Dr. Hoskin on Instagram, Twitter, and her websiteFind Leilah on InstagramCan femme be theory? Exploring the epistemological and methodological possibilities of femme - Dr. Hoskin's article mentioned in this episodes )Queer Femme Erasure - another Stripper's Guide episode you may like Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Ataraxxxia habla con ASTRASEX, un sindicato que lucha para los derechos laborales y humanos de les trabajadores sexuales en Colombia. Acompañanos en esta conversación en donde compartimos nuestros puntos de vista y una vez más hablamos de lo que nadie habla.Encuentra a ASTRASEX en Instagram y TwitterSigue a Ataraxxxia en Instagram Instagram Youtube astrippersguide.com

Did you know that sex work is a criminal offense in most of the world, including virtually the entire United States? Attorney Elizabeth Ricks is here to explain how criminalization vastly increases violence towards sex workers, and why efforts to end human trafficking MUST be led by sex workers, not police (if we actually want to end human trafficking). Also check out our sister episode: What Does It Mean to Decriminalize Sex Work? with Ariela Moscowitz of the organization Decriminalize Sex WorkMentioned in this episode:TransLife Care program at Chicago House  SWOP (Sex Workers Outreach Project) Follow A Stripper's Guide Podcast on Instagram &Youtube Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter Visit astrippersguide.com

We open season 7 together to reflect on the metaphorical aspect of death, by discussing the question: “What needs to die so that sex workers, femmes, women, and trans and queer people can live?” (Please note: this episode contains discussions of violence against sex workers and femmes, racism, and stereotypes against sex workers)Follow the pod on InstagramAtaraxxxia's InstagramErica's InstagramLeilah's InstagramMentioned in this episode: Colombian sex worker labor rights union ASTRASEX Follow A Stripper's Guide Podcast on Instagram &Youtube Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter Visit astrippersguide.com

Les trabajadores sexuales están a tu alrededor.  Es hora de que el mundo nos abrace como los miembros valiosos e integrales de la sociedad que somos. En la temporada 7, Leilah, Ataraxxxia, y Erica Sosa te traen episodios en inglés y español. Estaramos hablando con nuestres invitades, reflexionando en preguntas como, "¿Qué necesita morir para que puedan vivir más trabajadores sexuales, femmes, mujeres, personas queer, trans y no binarias?" "¿Como personas estigmatizadas, cómo podemos encontrar relaciones donde nos sintamos vistes, amades y respetades?" "¿Cómo, como trabajadores sexuales, navegamos por nuestras vidas sexuales (o asexuales) personales con responsabilidad y amor propio?"Episodios en Español empiezan en los mediados de febrero (episodios en inglés empiezan en primero de la mes). Follow A Stripper's Guide Podcast on Instagram &Youtube Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter Visit astrippersguide.com

Sex workers are all around you. It's time for the world to embrace us as the valuable and integral members of society that we are. On this brand new season, Leilah has a new team! Cohosts Erica Sosa and Ataraxxxia are here to bring you episodes in English AND Spanish. We're joined by a host of very cool guests, who are helping us ponder questions like, "What beliefs and systems need to die so sex workers, femmes, women, and queer folks can live?" "How do we, as stigmatized people, find relationships where we feel seen, loved, and respected?" "How do sex workers navigate their own sexuality/asexuality with care and grace?"See you February 1. Follow A Stripper's Guide Podcast on Instagram &Youtube Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter Visit astrippersguide.com

When we return for season 7 in February, I'll be joined here by TWO new cohosts, who are also my colleagues and friends in the sex industry! Ataraxxxia is our new Spanish language/Latin America correspondent, and Erica Sosa is our resident body justice advocate, focused on the intersection of gender justice and the liberation of fat people.Season 7 starts February 1! Mark your calendars, tell your friends, subscribe to the pod, and follow our new bilingual Instagram page! Follow A Stripper's Guide Podcast on Instagram &Youtube Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter Visit astrippersguide.com

¡A partir de febrero, voy a unirme a dos nuevas coanfitrionas, que también son mis colegas y amigas en la industria del trabajo sexual! Ataraxxxia hará episodios mensuales en español para ampliar la visión del podcast y conocer más del trabajo sexual en latinoamérica. Erica Sosa es nuestro principal defensora de la justicia corporal, y el foco de su trabajo está centrado en la intersección de la justicia de género y la liberación de las personas gordas.¡La temporada 7 comenzará en el primero de febrero! Marca tu calendario, comparte con tus amigos, sigue al podcast, y conéctate con nosotras en Instagram! Follow A Stripper's Guide Podcast on Instagram &Youtube Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter Visit astrippersguide.com

For this season's finale, we're joined by my fellow veteran stripper and mentor to new dancers, Alexa the House Mom! Sit down with me and Alexa, your stripper fairy god aunties, while we chat about sex work, dating, and dating as a sex worker. Also in this episode: a very special announcement about my *cough* new cohost *cough* and more...Follow the podcast's NEW INSTAGRAMFollow Leilah on InstagramFollow Alexa the House Mom on InstagramXoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Connect with A Stripper's Guide on Instagram, Youtube, our newsletter, or visit astrippersguide.com

Last month, a fellow stripper in my Instagramaverse sent me some DMs. Her name is Kay Zingara, and she'd just discovered she'd been robbed. Someone helped themselves to her home stash of stripper cash, and only three people had a key to her house: two friends and her lover. Tune in to hear all about Kay's whodunnit Stripper Scandal of 2022. Also in this episode: I reflect on getting financially abused without even knowing it, and we confirm that Stacy's mom really does have it going on.Also, my coaching books are now open for January of 2023, but spots are limited! Click here to learn more & book a free consultation.Xoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Connect with A Stripper's Guide on Instagram, Youtube, our newsletter, or visit astrippersguide.com

Topics include: how my stint in a fitness cult forced me to contend with my white privilege, the similarities between cultic abuse and 1:1 abuse, and why multilevel marketing is trash. This bonus episode originally appeared on the From Huns to Humans podcast, whose host, Danielle, is a former MLM cult member and now works to help folks transition out of MLM cults.Are you a cult survivor or want to learn more about how to support cult survivors? Check out the #igotout movement.Xoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Connect with A Stripper's Guide on Instagram, Youtube, our newsletter, or visit astrippersguide.com

Ataraxxxia is my colleague in the sex industry, and my comrade in the fight for a more just world. Originally from Colombia, she lives and travels as a stripper & cam model across Latin America. She's joined A Stripper's Guide Podcast for a series in both Spanish and English, where she'll be sharing her perspective on topics like sex work, intimate relationships, personal growth, and more. Join A Stripper's Guide NewsletterInstagram: @astrippersguideastrippersguide.comAtaraxxxia Twitter: @ataraxx_xiaIntro & Outro Music: Penelope by LeilahXoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Follow us on InstagramVisit astrippersguide.com

Empezé con este podcast hace dos años, y estoy muy feliz que tengo la oportunidad de traerles episodios en español. Mi colegue en la industria adulta, y mi compañere en la lucha, Ataraxxxia, me estará acompañando por una serie bilingüe, ofreciendonos su perspectivo como trabajadore sexual que vive y viaja trabajando en Latinoamérica. Los temas que vamos a tocar incluyen: trabajo sexual, relaciones íntimas, crecimiento personal, y como estes se contextualizan en nuestra sociedad global de misoginia, racismo, imperialismo, clasismo, y otros formas de opresión sistemática.A Stripper's Guide NewsletterInstagram: @astrippersguideastrippersguide.comAtaraxxxia Twitter: @ataraxx_xiaIntro & Outro Music: Penelope by LeilahXoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Follow us on InstagramVisit astrippersguide.com

Can sex workers be faithful lovers? Is it ever okay to hide your sex work from your partner(s)? Do sex workers "deserve" to be cheated on? If you've grappled with these questions in your own relationships, this episode is for you.Click here for Love Life Coaching (discounted for sex workers throughout October of 2022)Click here to join my newsletterFor relationship & other types of support, click here for my new Resource Page for Sex WorkersXoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Follow us on InstagramVisit astrippersguide.com

When I met my current partner, they had never dated a sex worker before. In this second part of this 2-part episode, we continue our conversation about conflicts we've had in our relationship regarding my sex work, and how, ultimately, we've been able to overcome and grow stronger, not only as a couple, but as individuals.Check out my brand new resource page for sex workers (& their loved ones)Love Life Coaching is discounted for sex workers through OctoberLife Coaching packages -- sex workers save 20%Xoxo,Leilah (Founder of A Stripper's Guide)Follow us on InstagramVisit astrippersguide.com

Join me and my goyfriend (my gender-neutral word for a non-Jewish romantic partner) for a 2-part episode about our relationship conflicts and resolutions regarding my sex work, and the growth it's inspired in us both. In today's episode, we focus on a time that I was in the wrong; next week, my partner is in the hot seat.Check out my new Resource Page for Sex Workers (& those who love us)Subscribe to A Stripper's Guide newsletterFollow me on InstagramFollow my boo on Instagram

Lots of sex workers, myself included, have run into issues with romantic partners who feel uncomfortable about our jobs. This episode is about what happens when they don't confront their insecurities.Love Life Coaching is discounted for sex workers through the month of October! Click here to book your sessionClick here for my Resources for Sex Workers Click here to join the newsletter

I'm taking a little break, but I'll be back on October 5th with a brand new season full of hot n spicys. In the meantime, check out a few of my favorite episodes (these links are for Apple Podcasts, but these episodes are available wherever you stream):What Does it Mean to Decriminalize Sex Work?Whorephobia in Belly Dance & Pole DanceDate Smarter, Not HarderStay connected with A Stripper's Guide through the newsletter, Instagram, and astrippersguide.comLove the show? Leave a rating and review! It means so much

For strippers, other sex workers, and nightlife professionals, it's so important to have friends and community in the industry who support & understand us. But at the same time, it's also important to have friends in the industry who are going in the direction you want to be headed.Click here to apply to GOLD, my 3-month mentorship & mastermind for sex & nightlife workers ready to embrace their ambition, get organized, and go after their big goals. REGISTRATION CLOSES THIS FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 16!

Sex work is a huge part of a lot of people's success stories. Today's guest is MONEYWITCH, a capitalism-critical intuitive financial coach, Instagram sensation, and former stripper. In this episode, she shares her journey of pairing practical business skills with her intuition to guide herself towards her destiny, from back in her stripper days all the way til now. Registration is open for GOLD, my brand new mentorship & mastermind for strippers, sex workers, and nightlife industry professionals ready to embrace their ambition and chase their big dreams. The earlybird special ends Friday, and we begin later this month! CLICK HERE TO APPLY

Too often, when a sex worker needs help with something, they don't get the right help (if they even get help at all). Something a lot of us worry about is that we won't be understood or taken seriously by therapists, coaches, doctors, realtors, lawyers, etc.  We need support from people who really *get* us; we need service providers from within our own community.Register for Why "Time Management" Doesn't Work for Strippers (a free event for sex workers & nightlife industry professionals who can't get their shit together)Join A Stripper's Guide book club 

Valley Latini tells us all about how she used her time in the strip club industry to build her dream career as a touring musician! If you're a sex worker or nightlife industry professional with big dreams of your own, but you are a hot disorganized mess with no idea how to make it happen, I got something for you! On Monday, September 5 2022, join me for Why "Time Management" Doesn't Work for Strippers, my upcoming free event for strippers/sex workers and nightlife industry professionals who can't get their shit together. REGISTER HERE

Butterfly Mush (Andrea Acevedo) is a painter, mom, and retired stripper. These days, you can catch the her making art from her new home in a small Colombian town, where she recently moved with her whole family.  She was able to use her stripper career to transform into a full-time artist and business owner, and she left NYC to follow her dreams of rural living in her home country. If you're a sex worker with big dreams of your own, tune in and get inspired!Follow Butterfly Mush on InstagramSign up for a Stripper's Guide newsletterAll other Stripper's Guide offerings

Do you have a history of throwing yourself face-first into new careers, hobbies, and projects, only to give up after a little while? Or maybe you keep talking about starting that business, or learning that instrument, but years go by and nothing happens. In this episode, I talk about why we so often give up halfway, and why sheer willpower won't cut it if we want to stay the course and smash our goals.Click here for A Stripper's Guide newsletterClick here for all other Stripper's Guide offerings

The culture of nightlife can be intoxicating and distracting. It can be easy to lose track of what your goals were before you entered the industry. But it doesn't have to be that way. If you've ever felt like there's no way to be a stripper (or other sex worker/nightlife worker) and also achieve personal goals outside the industry, this one's for you.   Also in this episode:My newsletter, which is full of irresistible goodies just for youMy musicA Stripper's Guide book club

I share my strategies for making consistent champagne room sales (also known as VIP rooms or private rooms). These sales tips are for strippers, but really can be useful for any service provider. In this episode, I cover how to attract customers you want, maintaining control with difficult customers, and how to hold your boundaries without fear of losing the sale.Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter hereFor all other Stripper's Guide offerings, including coaching services, click here

This is a recording of one of my real Info Sessions for Baby Strippers! In these sessions, dancers who are new to the industry (or thinking about trying it) come ask me all their questions. In this episode, Emily, a brand new stripper, asks me about everything from selling champagne rooms to feeling guilty she might hurt a customer's feelings if she stops giving him attention after he runs out of money. Book your own Info Session hereFor all other Stripper's Guide offerings, click hereTune in next week for an episode about closing champagne room sales!

Musician & (semi)-retired sex worker, Kelly Gold, talks to us about her love life before, during, and after sex work.Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter hereSee all Stripper's Guide offerings hereListen to Kelly's music hereListen to Leilah's music here

We got a live one, bbs! Author, escort, and community organizer Liara Roux joins SGP for an inspiring conversation. We talk about their juicy memoire, Whore of New York, and we discuss boundaries & consent both inside and outside of sex work. We also talk about how patriarchy deliberately pits non-sex working women against sex workers. Follow Liara on IG hereJoin A Stripper's Guide newsletter hereFor all other Stripper's Guide events, social media, & offerings click hereEnjoy the show!

This week we hear from my longtime friend Blake, who began their stripper career in 2015. Back then, they identified as a queer, polyamorous woman. Over the years, they have evolved into their transmasculine identity. Blake discusses the challenges of being transmasc in an industry that insists upon femme aesthetics, and what it means to choose between income and identity in a capitalist patriarchy.Join A Stripper's Guide newsletter hereFor all other Stripper's Guide events, social media, & offerings click here

This is a recording from my new Instagram Live series where I answer people's questions about love, dating, and breakups. This series centers sex workers and femmes, but anyone is welcome to submit questions and listen to the show. For updates on when the next live episode takes place, and to submit your questions, follow me on IG and join my newsletter!For all other Stripper's Guide happenings & offerings, click hereEnjoy the show, cutie!xx,Leilah

In this crossover episode, I team up with activist & former stripper AM Davies, co-host of Yes, A Stripper podcast. AM and myself, like many sex workers, have been groped, assaulted, and harrassed by the (usually straight) women customers who frequent our establishments, often in the presence of their husbands and boyfriends. We take a critical look at misogyny from underexplored angles, including whore-on-whore misogyny.For all Stripper's Guide offerings & workshops, click hereRead my new article, Whores Aren't Sex Objects, which examines this topic further (available after 12pm  EST on 6/15)Listen to Yes, A Stripper Podcast hereEnjoy the show, I'll meet you back here next Wednesday for another episode!Xoxo,Leilah

"Feminist" movements often leave behind both sex workers and femmes of color. On top of that, even within sex worker communities, there often run deeply racist and anti-immigrant beliefs. My guest on this episode, Dr. Connie Wun, is a researcher, author, educator, and former sex worker, whose work is dedicated to ending racial and gender-based violence. She talks to us about why it's so important to deliberately carve space for Asian femmes and sex workers in the feminist fight for universal liberation.SHAMELESS, my writing & erotic dance  workshop for releasing shame, takes place on Zoom on June 21, 2022.  Today, June 8, is the last day of the earlybird sale! Register hereFor all other Stripper's Guide events & offerings, including my free newsletter, click hereConnect with Dr. Connie Wun on Instagram!Have a great week, cuties!Xo,Leilah

It's a bonus 'sode, just cuz I love ya! For people who've been traumatized, whether from abuse, assault, systemic oppression, or otherwise, pleasure is often considered unattainable, or even taboo. But Goddess Cecilia is a pleasure and sexuality educator working to change that stigma against trauma survivors. Through her workshops, online presence, and her Raw Bar Podcast, she educates about the central, and even revolutionary, role of pleasure--especially for QTBIPOC folks. Tune in for her encouraging and enlightening perspectives!For all Stripper's Guide offerings, including the book club, the June 5th online mixer, and the Shameless  workshop, click hereFollow Goddess Cecilia on IG here, apply for her June Pleasure Practice workshop here, and listen to her pod hereEnjoy the show!xo,Leilah

We're back! Season 4 opens with a juicy listener-requested topic: SITUATIONSHIPS (dun dun dunnn!). Join me and author Sesali Bowen to talk about the messiness that often comes with sexual/romantic relationships that lack labels (what are we??), as well as her incredible book, Bad Fat Black Girl: Notes from a Trap Feminist --which also happens to be our June Stripper's Guide Book Club read ;) For all Stripper's Guide offerings, including the book club, the June 5th online mixer, and the Shameless  workshop, click hereFollow Sesali on IG here, buy her book here, and listen to her pod hereEnjoy the show!xo,Leilah

Femmes, queer people, and women live in a global patriarchy that forces us to contend with misogyny in virtually every corner of our lives. This tips the scales of power out of our favor in the already-vulnerable worlds  of love, sex, and romance.  This Season 3 finale episode includes a live interview with Boston*-based rapper, Kiki Banks, as well as contributions from listeners, who share their own dating stories and remind us why the work of anti-misogyny is everyone's responsibility.Kiki's song, Headache (w/Kristie), is featured on my free breakup playlist, BLOCK THEMWatch my Archetype poetry videoFollow A Stripper's Guide on InstagramVisit astrippersguide.com (newsletter, Toolkits, & private coaching)*"Boston" is the Anglo colonizer word for Massa-adchu-es-et/Massachusett territory

According to Wikipedia, ghosting is "the practice of ending all communication and contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said person." With about 10,000 different ways to send a message these days, how is it possible that so many of us still get ghosted by the people we date?Stay connected with A Stripper's Guide!InstagramWebsiteNewsletter

I was interviewed by Cecilia Villero for her podcast, The Raw Bar. Cecilia is a Pleasure & Sexuality Educator and also a beautiful magical mermaid. Our conversation centers around why feminism must include sex workers, and how sex workers are, as they've always been, on the frontiers of radical feminism. This episode is bubbly and fun, and/but also contains descriptions of anti-femme and anti-Asian violence.Follow A Stripper's Guide on InstagramFollow Cecilia on InstagramVisit AStrippersGuide.com 

Both sex workers and fat people must contend with a mainstream culture that feels entitled to our bodies in a way that is violent, objectifying, and dehumanizing. I wanted to explore this connection because it's an important overlap that allows us to very clearly examine root causes. In the second half of this 2-part episode, me and my guest, Erica Sosa, look at just some of the real world effects of discrimination against both sex workers and fat folks. Check out my accompanying blog post, “Decolonize Sexy”, for more!Follow A Stripper's Guide on InstagramFollow Erica Sosa on InstagramA NOTE: Thank you to Erica, who, as my friend and client, has educated me directly and helped me find resources on anti-fat bias, including the Maintenance Phase Podcast and the work of fat activist Aubrey Gordon in general. Thank you also to my client Lauren Higgins, who has helped educate me as well. Thank you to my fat and formerly fat loved ones for your continued patience and grace as I learn how and where to raise my voice on behalf of fatness. LISTENERS: Your feedback is always welcome! If you ever feel the need to check my skinny, white, very privileged ass, when it comes to body justice or any other topic, you are more than invited. I will receive your feedback with grace and I promise to take accountability for any harm I caused. You can contact me about that, or with sex worker in film recommendations, on Instagram, or email me at contact.leilah@gmail.com

Both sex workers and fat people must contend with a mainstream culture that feels entitled to our bodies in a way that is violent, objectifying, and dehumanizing. I wanted to explore this connection because it's an important overlap that allows us to very clearly examine root causes. In this 2-part episode, me and my guest, Erica Sosa, look at how media representations of both sex workers and fat folks reflects and perpetuates social stigma. Check out my accompanying blog post, “Decolonize Sexy”, for more!Follow A Stripper's Guide on InstagramFollow Erica Sosa on InstagramA NOTE: Thank you to Erica, who, as my friend and client, has educated me directly and helped me find resources on anti-fat bias, including the Maintenance Phase Podcast and the work of fat activist Aubrey Gordon in general. Thank you also to my client Lauren Higgins, who has helped educate me as well. Thank you to my fat and formerly fat loved ones for your continued patience and grace as I learn how and where to raise my voice on behalf of fatness. LISTENERS: Your feedback is always welcome! If you ever feel the need to check my skinny, white, very privileged ass, when it comes to body justice or any other topic, you are more than invited. I will receive your feedback with grace and I promise to take accountability for any harm I caused. You can contact me about that, or with sex worker in film recommendations, on Instagram, or email me at contact.leilah@gmail.com