Finding Love Podcast

Are you dating the same type of person over and over, with the same disappointing results? It's not just bad luck, it's a pattern. And you can learn to break it. I had a chance to sit down with relationship coach, author, and host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast, Roy Biancalana. We explored one of the biggest traps in dating and love: repeating the same emotional patterns without even realizing it.Roy calls it “Relationship Groundhog Day”, where you attract the same kind of partner, fall into all-too-familiar drama and dysfunction, and then wonder why things never seem to change.But here's the truth: it's not about luck, or the apps, or where you live. It's about your inner shape, and what you're unconsciously attracting.Here's what we unpack in this episode:How your childhood plays a big role in your adult dating life.Why the Law of Attraction is always working, whether you want it to or not!The unconscious reasons you might be drawn to “projects” or emotionally unavailable partners.What it actually looks like to do the work (hint: it's not just journaling).How to finally break free of the old patterns and experience the love you truly want.Roy doesn't sugarcoat anything, but he does offer hope, clarity, and a path forward. If you're ready to stop blaming your luck and start shifting your shape, this is the episode to listen to.Are you a man over 40 ready to stop repeating the same dating patterns?If Roy's words hit home, and you're tired of ghosting, guesswork, and going it alone, it's time to take a smarter approach.Join me this June for Master Attraction: The Man's Guide to Dating After 40, a 3-part live coaching program designed specifically for men who are ready to build real connection with confidence.

Have you ever looked at your dating life and thought, "How how I done all this work, and still haven't found my person?”That's exactly why I couldn't wait to sit down with this week's guest, Heidi Friedman, the author of Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love.After her divorce, Heidi set out to understand what love is really all about. She conducted personal interviews and went on her own exhaustive dating journey to find out. She wasn't looking for fantasy scenarios or rom-com stories. She wanted to grasp the lasting, life-enhancing kind of love that we hope our lives are built on.After her divorce, Heidi dated, she journaled, she cried, she kept going. And eventually she found true love, and herself in the process.In this episode, we're talking about:The one thing you must get clear on before you swipe again.How to stop dating “projects” (and what to look for instead).How “taking turns picking each other up” can be the secret sauce in successful partnerships.Why laughter might matter more than anything else.If you've been wondering whether love is still out there for you, let this be your reminder: it absolutely is. And sometimes, all it takes is one more brave step.

When I decided to host a women's retreat, I wasn't sure what to expect. Sure, I knew it was going to be an incredible experience, but I didn't anticipate how truly transformative it would be for everyone—including me.I'm taking you behind the scenes of Love Camp, a retreat I hosted for women navigating love and life after 40. Set in the gorgeous wilds of Leavenworth, Washington, on the banks of a roaring river, this retreat was all about showing up, diving deep, and walking away with a new vision for love and connection.Love Camp was filled with mindset-shifting workshops, laughter, sound baths, meditation, soulful conversations, and personal breakthroughs.This episode is all about:Why getting out of your usual space (physically and mentally) can be a huge game-changer.The magic of creating space for change, without rushing the process.The power of aligning your heart's desires with actionable steps for love.How making small but intentional shifts in your mindset can open the door to magic.The most vulnerable and rewarding moments of Love Camp that made the biggest impact!If you're in a season of quiet growth, personal reflection, or just want to rewrite your story, this episode is for you. 

What if the key to lasting love and deep intimacy isn't just about finding the right person, but knowing how to truly connect, emotionally and physically, at this stage of life? In our latest episode, I sit down with Dr. Viviana Coles, renowned relationship and sex therapist (you may recognize her from Married at First Sight), to talk about how to date smarter when it comes to finding and building real intimacy, and how to nurture your sexual energy as a couple. Whether you're newly dating, coming out of a long relationship, or interested in creating some sparks with your partner, this conversation is packed with wisdom you won't want to miss.We cover why dating feels harder today, how to avoid emotional burnout, and why being intentional about the kind of love and intimacy you want is the real game changer. Dr. Viviana shares her groundbreaking framework – The 4 Intimacy Styles™ – and explains how understanding your personal style of connection and bonding can totally transform your relationships, with your partner and with yourself.Plus, we explore why “pillow talk” is more powerful than you think, how to create a love life that feels exciting again, and what it really takes to keep the sexual energy alive as life evolves.If you're ready to date smarter, connect deeper, and experience vibrant love life at any age, this episode is for you. Want to discover your own intimacy style or improve connection in your relationship? Visit Dr. Viviana's website to learn more and take her free quizzes! Pillow Talk Quiz: https://doctorviviana.com/pillowtalkquiz/4 Intimacy Styles Quiz: https://doctorviviana.com/the-4-intimacy-styles/

Your greatest strength in dating is your personal brand – the messages you put out into the world, the images you convey, your tone, style, and vibe. Every aspect about how you show up either attracts people – or not. It's time to think about your Dating Brand. Launching yourself into the dating world is like launching a business. You have to be clear about who you are, what you want, and why it matters. As a brand strategy coach for many years, Nancy helps business owners find their voice, tell their stories, and attract their audience. Now she's applying the same principles to dating in midlife. Your Dating Brand starts with your profile, but it extends to the conversations you have and the energy you bring to dating. When you start showing up with intention, everything shifts. You're no longer chasing validation or stuck in surface-level small talk. Instead, you're attracting people who align with the truth about who you are and the love you're ready to receive.Ready to build a Dating Brand you're proud of, and manifest the love you deserve? Tune in to get started! 

Take this as your invitation to pause, reflect, and ask yourself a few questions, like: “What am I really looking for in love?” “Is the way I'm dating aligned with my vision?” And most importantly – “Am I the one standing in my way?” Because it's not just the ambiguities of the dating apps, the confusing texts, or even the ghosting. It's also the emotional weight you carry. The unrealistic expectations. The habit of clinging to a “type” or trying to be what someone else wants instead of honoring what you actually need in love. Dating in midlife isn't about chasing old dating stories, or finding someone to complete you. It's about honoring the version of yourself you've worked so hard to become. In Episode 67: What Are You Really Looking For in Love?, I'm getting honest about:Why dating can feel exhausting (especially in midlife).The sneaky emotional patterns that keep you stuck.How to realign your actions with your values, and shift your dating experience for good. This episode is a loving reminder that you don't need to work harder at dating. You just need to start dating differently.✨ If you've been feeling heavy in your search for love, this one's your reset. It's time to date in a way that actually feels good, and is aligned with what you want, instead of doom swiping your way into giving up entirely. And while you're in a Finding Love flow, don't forget to grab your FREEBIE downloads. From transforming your mindset to curating your dating profile, these free guides will help you show up as your most empowered, aligned, and confident. Go grab one now! 

Join me in Leavenworth, WA for a transformational women's retreat at Love Camp! ✅ For women in midlife who want deep connections, real confidence, and a love life that actually feels good. ✅ https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/ Have you ever felt like you need to “fix” yourself before jumping back into the dating world? Do you believe you have to be fully healed to find love again? If this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.This week, Nancy sits down with Jessica Amos, writer, mindfulness teacher, and founder of Stay With Yourself, to talk about the tricky process of healing after heartbreak and how it can impact your ability to trust yourself in new relationships. Jessica shares her post-breakup journey through anger, self-doubt, and the confusing mix of wanting love again, while also resisting it. Nancy and Jessica talk about the best ways to show up as your true self – even before you're done healing – so that you can open the door to meaningful connections.After divorce, it's easy to feel jaded or angry about love. But Jessica explains how leaning into these emotions rather than running from them can help you rediscover what you really want in a partner. Tune in to learn how to: Show up authentically.Reclaim your inner light.Embrace being vulnerable without feeling weak. This episode will leave you questioning the pressure to be "perfectly healed" before dating. How about instead, you learn to embrace your imperfect, evolving self?Whether you're newly single or just trying to make sense of your emotional journey, this conversation will help you rethink what it really means to be ready for love.

Join us for a transformational women's retreat at Love Camp! ✅ For women in midlife who want deep connections, real confidence, and a love life that actually feels good. ✅ https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/  Are you ready for romance, but feel like you've missed your chance? Worried you need some secret formula for finding the love you want? You're not too late and there's no magic trick  – but before you can open your heart to someone else, you have to get real with yourself first.I'm sharing the exact steps I took, and the mindset shifts I had to make to transform the way I approached love after 40. It's not about finding the right person, or following a specific process – it's about becoming the right person for yourself. If you've ever felt like your past relationships have left you full of baggage and doubts, let's talk about how to move forward.It's time to shift your mindset from "Maybe one day I'll get lucky" to "YES, this is going to happen for me!"What you'll learn from this episode:The surprising shift that helped me stop repeating the same dating mistakes over and over again.How to stop settling for less, and start setting standards that match up with your authentic self.The power of trusting your instincts, especially in midlife.The secret to raising your emotional and personal standards for love.This podcast episode isn't just about Finding Love, it's about building the foundation for a relationship that feels right for YOU. If you've been wondering if you'll ever find your love story, let this episode be the spark that gets you moving forward. The love you're searching for is waiting, but it all starts with you. ✅ Ready to find a love that truly sees and celebrates you?

Join us for a transformational women's retreat at Love Camp! For women in midlife who want deep connections, real confidence, and a love life that actually feels good. ✅ https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/ Let's take a look at this season of White Lotus and see if we can spot all the relationship red flags! We all love a good love story, full of cinematic whirlwinds. But what if the love story you're telling yourself isn't real? What if you're falling for an idea rather than the actual person?Season 3 of White Lotus (in addition to being incredibly fun to watch) is shining a light on a pattern so many of us fall into in midlife dating: fooling ourselves into mistaking fantasy for love. When we crave romance that feels like a movie, we risk ignoring red flags, rushing into relationships, or clinging to an illusion that's never going to last. I'm unpacking a few of the biggest relationship red flags from this season, and how they can hold a mirror up to our own patterns.I'm breaking down:Why turning a blind eye to someone's true personality is a great way to build a completely inauthentic partnership (Victoria and Timothy).How getting caught up in fantasy-driven love will lead you down a dark path (Chelsea and Rick).How friendships can be a minefield of past hurts and betrayal, especially when no one does the hard work of having honest, direct conversations (Jacklyn, Laurie and Kate).A few key shifts that can help you move from fantasy and delusion to real connection and romance.If you've ever held onto a relationship because of its potential, overlooked signs and ignored your gut instinct, or found yourself chasing chemistry over compatibility, tune in.And if you're ready to tell yourself a new love story and manifest the life you truly deserve, join me for four transformational days at my women's retreat in Leavenworth, Washington, this April 23-26. Let's do the work to unlock deep, lasting love in midlife TOGETHER! ✅ Ready to find a love that truly sees and celebrates you?

When we talk about relationships, romantic love often takes center stage. The search for a soulmate. Finding “the one”. But true friendships and family bonds are deep connections too, and just as important, especially in midlife. This big truth hit me on a recent trip back to my hometown of Cleveland, where I stayed with my childhood best friend while taking care of my elderly mother. Between the bestie laughter, nostalgia, and endless conversations, I was reminded just how much our friendship bond has shaped us, grounded us, and sustained us through every stage of our lives.It's easy to get caught up in the idea that love only means romantic partnership and finding that one person you're looking for to fill so many roles in your life.  But we need to remind ourselves that the true-blue friendships we nurture and the family bonds we lean on are just as essential to our happiness, growth, and wellbeing. In midlife, these connections become more powerful than ever before, because they offer the kind of support that can't be replaced. In this episode, I'm sharing what my trip home taught me, and how we can all be more intentional about nurturing meaningful relationships in our lives.If you've been feeling disconnected in any way, this conversation is for you. And if you're ready to build those bonds in real life, Love Camp is the perfect place to do it. Join me this spring for a women's retreat designed to bring you closer to yourself. This is going to be an intimate experience of personal coaching and deep discussion about what truly matters in our lives. Only one VIP spot left — grab it here. ✅ Ready to find a love that truly sees and celebrates you?

Ever felt the need to tone yourself down to be loved? Ever been told you're intimidating, opinionated, or just “too much”?  Most strong, confident women have heard these criticisms at one time or another. Remember this: You don't need to shrink yourself down to fit someone else's idea of desirable.We've heard it all before. We've been told we are too extroverted, too independent, too confident, “too much” to be loved.But here's the truth: The right person won't be intimidated by you. They'll be inspired by you. Energized and excited by you. Overjoyed to get a chance with you. And as for those who are frightened away by their own insecurities? Bye!If you've ever worried that your big personality is a barrier to love, this episode is for you. We're unpacking the myth of being “too much” and why the right match will see your bright light as a gift, not a threat.For many women dating in midlife, the fear of being “too much” is rooted in outdated narratives that have told us to quiet down and dim our light. We've been conditioned to believe that our confidence is a turnoff, our success is intimidating, and our strong opinions makes us less desirable.This episode is your remind that you deserve a relationship where you can be fully seen, heard, and valued. A partnership in which you are authentically YOU.Because you are not too much. You just haven't met the person who can handle everything you bring to the table—and celebrate it. ✅ Ready to find a love that truly sees and celebrates you?

If you're dating in midlife, you probably have some old patterns and habits that don't really serve your best interests. Let's talk about the three big mistakes that can hold you back from finding love, and how to avoid them.Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Investing your heart in one person too early can cloud your judgment and narrow your choices. It's possible that the reason you're going “all in” so fast is because you're approaching midlife dating with a scarcity mindset.  Keep your options open by chatting with and dating multiple people for a while. Have some fun, play the field. You'll gain the experience, information, and clarity you need about what (and who) is truly right for you.Don't fall for future casting. It's great when someone plans ahead for dates, but be cautious if they're planning years in advance or talking about a whole future together before really getting to know you. The future unfolds slowly for a reason! We're meant to savor the experience of getting to know each other and ourselves. So learn to enjoy taking it slow. On the flip side, beware of people who never make plans in advance and only reach out for last-minute hookups. This is immature, frivolous behavior and you deserve better.Don't ignore your instincts. Your gut knows when something isn't right. Even if someone looks great on paper or something about them just stirs your interest, pay attention to how their words and actions make you feel. Ignoring red flags will take you down detours that waste your time…and don't forget, time is your most valuable asset!Dating after 40 is about finding meaningful connections that align with your life and values, not getting sidetracked by meaningless distractions. Tune in to learn how to stay mindful, intentional, and open to the love you deserve! ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Valentine's Day is filled with showy displays of affection, but the essence of this day isn't about flowers and chocolates – it's about the uplifting energy of love, and that starts with YOU. When you're dating in the middle of life, it's important to put some rituals in place to nurture your own spirit, and maintain the clarity and confidence you need to find the love you deserve. Ever show up on a date feeling frazzled, or walk away from the date feeling unsure about how it actually went? Like you may have missed some red flags or even overlooked the green ones? In this episode, Nancy talks about how to bring the right energy to dating so that you are fully present and grounded, and so that dating in general feels like a joy-filled adventure of possibility, not a dreary chore. Nancy shares some pre-date rituals that put you at ease and help you feel confident! Think meditating, journaling, and curating a feel-good playlist.And after the date? Your ritual can be all about reflection, so that you don't let fleeting impressions or rose-colored glasses steer you in the wrong direction.The key takeaway? You are allowed to want love. You don't have to justify it, shrink yourself, or “should” your way through it. Own what you want, say it out loud, and invest in finding it!This Valentine's Day, be your own Valentine first. Take care of yourself, love yourself, and step into midlife dating with joy.It's time to shift your dating mindset and bring the energy that attracts the love you deserve. ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

What if the biggest thing standing between you and the relationship you want isn't the dating apps, the wrong matches, or bad timing—but your own mindset?Nancy is joined by Sarah Centrella, master manifester and bestselling author, for a conversation about breaking through emotional and energetic blocks to finally call in love.The last time Sarah was on the podcast, she was convinced she'd meet her person in a classic “meet-cute.” She had a fixed idea of how love should happen, which led her to overlook red flags and miss real opportunities. But with Nancy's push, she decided to do the inner work, shift her approach, and embrace new ways of dating—including the apps she once avoided.For so many people, there's a bit of pushback when it comes to dating in midlife. The key is to energetically prepare yourself for love by opening your heart and mind.In this episode, they break down why past heartbreak can keep you stuck, how to recognize when you're unintentionally blocking love, and why the fabled spark isn't always the best indicator of a lasting relationship. Sarah also shares her favorite manifestation tool, #FutureBoards, and how visualizing your dream partner can help bring them into your life.If you've been feeling frustrated with dating, this conversation will give you fresh hope, a new perspective, and practical tools to open your heart to what's possible. ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

How often do you feel like throwing in the towel when you hit a dating setback. Mismatches, lackluster conversations, ghosting – these obstacles can feel like the end of the road. If you're at the point where looking for love in midlife seems like too much trouble, don't give up – tune in! If you're stuck in a dating rut or overwhelmed by the process, take heart. There is a different way to approach your search for connection. From using the dating apps to your advantage to moving past the self-sabotage, Nancy is here to tell you how you can show up for yourself, take control of your dating experience, and manifest the love story you want and deserve. How to keep momentum when dating feels like a chore —Nancy shares two stories of coaching clients and their struggles with dating apps, losing interest, and feeling like the whole process is a waste of time. The solution? Treat your dating journey like a project, with persistent effort over time. Small, intentional actions add up to big results!Don't let self-sabotage hold you back —Taking rejection or slow progress personally can lead to a crushing wave of self-doubt. Just remember, these dating experiences are never a reflection of your worth or lovability. Once you let go of this mindset trap, you can move forward with clarity and confidence.Why the long game matters in midlife dating —It's possible to embody a relaxed approach to dating. Nancy shares how one of her clients is taking her time, with no urgency, and embracing every step at her own pace. Finding Love doesn't need a stressful deadline, and this episode explores how to shift your mindset to prioritize self-discovery and intention.If dating in midlife feels overwhelming or unproductive, this episode is your guide to regaining focus, staying motivated, and embracing the process. ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Fellas – let me help you. For all of us in midlife, chances are dating apps feel unnatural. Maybe you've been swiping, messaging, and matching but still asking yourself, “Why isn't this working?” The secret to finding success on the apps isn't about doing more, but approaching it differently.Matching with someone can seem worlds away from meeting them at a party, but it can lead to something great — if you approach it with a little charm, effort, and strategy.Nancy shares insights from her coaching program, Find Your Spark, and the dating app experiences her female clients are having. Three Common Mistakes Men Make On Dating Apps:Starting conversations with a dry “Hi” and nothing more!Going radio silence mid-conversation for days on end, leaving potential matches feeling ghosted.Messaging endlessly without taking the leap to meet in person.Success in dating apps means showing genuine curiosity and making a consistent effort. And every conversation counts. Real connections start with meaningful interactions. How Men Can Do Better On Dating Apps:Jump in right away. Follow a greeting or a “like” with a conversation starter. Express interest by asking thoughtful questions.Dedicate some time to build a connection, and put some energy into the dialogue. Remember that conversations are a two-way street, There needs to be a give and take, online and in person. Whether you're a seasoned swiper or brand new to dating apps, this episode is all about the actionable advice to help you make the most of your digital dating experience. ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

BOLDNESS is the word for Finding Love in 2025. Whether you're diving into the deep end, or just wading into the dating pool, boldly say YES to the love you deserve.The key to achieving anything new in life, but especially when it comes to love, is by taking a bold approach. When you reach for your dreams with confidence and fearlessness, you're already halfway there. Even if you need to fake it ‘til you make it, the power of believing in yourself cannot be overstated!One podcast listener, and brand new member of our upcoming Love Camp Retreat in Montana, shared how signing up for the retreat felt like finally committing to what she's been hedging for too long. Whether you're seeking love, community, or personal transformation, make 2025 the year you stop holding back! Self-improvement is a universal desire, and we're all always looking for new ways to show up in the world. But remember—life is full of change, whether you're ready for it or not. The question is: Are you in charge of the change or a victim of it?Dating in midlife can feel unfamiliar, even scary, but there's magic in your boldness. When you step forward, life steps forward to meet you. Don't view your goals as a checklist or a chore; think about what you want to create and manifest. Courage and intentionality are the missing pieces for so many people. It's time to make 2025 your year of love and possibility. So be bold! ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Are you the kind of person who closes out the year by looking back at everything that DIDN'T go right? Stop right there, and flip that script. This holiday season, focus on celebrating wins, big and small, and ditch the negativity as you say goodbye to last year and welcome in a new one.Nancy's sharing a big end-of-year insight about time, doubt, and how to push through it to manifest what you want in life. She starts by spilling the tea about finishing an early draft of her novel and encountering some confidence-faltering feedback along the way. Spoiler: setbacks don't get the last word, YOU do.Your time is your most valuable asset. So in the coming year, decide to make time for what matters to you. If that means Finding Love, make sure that you don't let self-doubt steal away your precious days. Push that doubt out of your way so that you can spend your time building the life you want instead of letting fear or disappointment take the wheel.Get ready to design a new year where your dreams get the time and priority they deserve. Tune in to this episode as Nancy shares what she learned about how to let go of doubt and go after everything you want. Because you don't have to settle for less – and when you're in the middle of life, you have no time to waste.  ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Ever been on a date where all they could talk about was their ex? It's a huge red flag but there are ways to side-step the conversation and get it back on track.In today's episode, Nancy reads a listener's email about a first date who couldn't stop talking about his ex, and how this is a surprisingly common scenario in midlife dating.At this stage of life, it's likely that many people you meet have been married, divorced, or even widowed. While sharing life stories is naturally part of building a connection, first dates should JUST be about getting to know the person in front of you, not rehashing a painful or dicey past.Nancy shares her real-life insights on how to spot red flags on dates and her top tips for handling uncomfortable conversations about exes. It's not about being cold or uncaring about the other person, it's about maintaining healthy boundaries and avoiding trauma-dumps on the first date!Drawing inspiration from her friend and renowned relationship therapist Dr. Laura Berman, Nancy explains how to navigate these tricky conversations with compassion while still protecting your emotional energy.If you've ever felt like the “fixer” in relationships, always smoothing over awkward moments or taking care of everyone else's feelings before your own, Nancy shares her own experience with breaking that pattern. Never forget that your boundaries matter, and a healthy connection starts with mutual respect.Tune in for advice on how to stay authentic, maintain balance, and focus on the here and now when you're dating after divorce or a certain age. You deserve a relationship that moves forward, not one stuck in the past! ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

The minute you make a commitment to yourself, change begins to happen, so why wait? Welcome this holiday season and the year ahead by declaring what you want, and investing in YOU and your love story. There are so many things about you that attract people – personal gems that are like shiny magnets, drawing others in. But when you show up in the dating world with a dimmed light, full of self-doubt, you not only risk missing opportunities to attract the right people, you may also be attracting the wrong energy, which can quickly lead to feelings that there is just no one out there for you. But when you polish up your brilliance and let it shine? Magic happens.As we come to the end of 2025, it's time to reflect and plan ahead. What do you want 2025 to look and feel like? Don't let that all-too-familiar winter melancholy hold you back right now. Instead, make yourself a promise for the New Year that you are going to prioritize self-love and self-care, find your community for inspiration and support, and embrace the bold spirit of seeking love. Remember, your age shouldn't be a mental roadblock between you and being loved. It all starts with the decisions you make for yourself and the willingness to say, “YES! I get to have this!”In today's episode, Nancy shares her excitement and passion for her upcoming retreat, Love Camp—an empowering experience coming this spring, designed to connect women over 40 who are walking the same path. Love Camp is your space to be seen, heard, and supported. So if you're a woman who wants to unleash her romantic heart, discover her vibrant spirit, and get creative in her search for love — join us!  ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Dating after 40 isn't just about meeting someone new… it's about reigniting your zest for life and showing off what makes YOU shine. Nancy is here to break down Part 2 of the 5 Pillars for Finding Love: Vibrance, Romance, Creativity, Discovery, and Community. These aren't just concepts—they're tools to help you create a life filled with connection, passion, and joy.So many people in midlife face barriers to Finding Love. Some feel drained, overwhelmed, or unsure about where to start. Nancy shares the wisdom she's gained through her own decades of experiences, from transforming your personal health and fitness, to tapping into your creative muse, to discovering new levels of self-awareness. When you use these 5 Pillars as your guide, you can create a much clearer path to the love you deserve. You'll  break free from old patterns, invite new energy into your life, and build the confidence to create meaningful relationships. In one of the pillars, Nancy highlights the importance of community—because having a circle that uplifts and inspires you makes all the difference.Let's reframe how we approach dating at this stage in life. Love isn't just something we find—it's something we build within ourselves first.Start including the 5 Pillars into practice to boost your potential! ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

What does it really take to get ready for love in midlife? How do you shed what's not working and embrace what's next? Nancy introduces Part 1 of her personal framework: Five Pillars for Finding Love. This is about more than swiping apps or dreaming of "the one"—it's about getting ready to manifest true love.Pillar #1: Vibrance. Reignite your spark and be radiant, in every way you can. Nancy shares how she transformed her fitness and her zest for life after getting stuck in a rut and recovering from an injury. Feeling physically and emotionally strong and confident can be the key to attracting the right connections. Remember: Energy is everything.Pillar #2: Romance. Nurture your romantic spirit. Too often we forget to prioritize ourselves. Are you treating yourself the way you'd want a partner to treat you? Nancy talks about the power of creating a sensual environment for yourself, celebrating your feminine energy, and keeping your heart and mind open to love. Remember: Love yourself first.Pillar #3: Community. Love stories don't happen in a vacuum. Strengthening your connection to your friends and family, and meeting new people whenever you can, will not only make you feel better—it will increase your chances of meeting someone special. Remember: Everyone you love is part of your love story.Let your experience of dating in midlife be about tending to the life you want to create. The Pillars aren't just about relationships, they're about building a foundation of vibrance, romance, and connection that benefit every part of who you are.And these Three Pillars are just the beginning. In next week's episode, we'll be sharing two more! ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Nancy's husband David dips in for a candid conversation about what you need to find your person and make a relationship thrive in midlife. If you've ever wondered whether the insta-chemistry is everything, whether age gaps make a difference, or how to move beyond your relationship history—this episode is for you! David and Nancy share their dating journey, from swiping on Hinge to learning each other's communication styles and building lasting love. They get real about how they navigated everything from dating apps to commitment fears. Here's the midlife dating myths we're covering in episode 50: — “You need an immediate spark” – David shares why compatibility matters more than an instant connection, and his belief that attraction needs the time and space to grow. — “You bring your dating history into your current love life” – Nancy and David reveal how they've learned from their past without letting it define their present. — “Middle-aged men aren't looking for commitment” – David gives a man's perspective on that dating myth, making that case that midlife men want love and commitment just like women do. — “Men want younger women” – David breaks this myth down, sharing how true connections in midlife are about emotional depth and shared values—not just age. If you're ready to challenge the old stories and worn out myths that are keeping you from finding love, this episode is a must-listen. Whether you're just getting back into the dating scene or you're ready to take charge of your love life, Nancy and David's candid advice and shared experiences will inspire you to rethink what's possible.✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

 Don't underestimate the power of NO, especially when it comes to dating. If someone is the wrong fit, call it. And if someone ignores, ghosts, or just leaves you hanging, you can reclaim your power with one simple strategy.Some of the biggest concerns about dating in midlife are how to stay true to yourself, remain in control, and not settle for less than you deserve. In today's episode, Nancy talks about common dating mistakes, reminding us that they are just part of the story—not the end of the road.Dating in midlife isn't a scarcity-based game of musical chairs, so don't give in to internal pressure to make the "wrong" person "right"—that is the fastest way to self-sabotage on your search for love. Recognize when a relationship isn't a genuine fit, and remember, if you don't find anyone this round, there are more chances to come. Think of dating as your opportunity to find connection without the need to settle.For anyone who's been ghosted or ignored, Nancy shares how to reclaim your power and shift the narrative. She shares a personal story about learning that “no response” is a decline, and emphasizes that calling it out and having the last word can empower you to move forward without feeling left hanging. Her approach is about empowered self-respect—an essential asset at any stage of life.Nancy also talks about staying curious and authentic in the dating world. Experimenting with different facets of your personality is great if you stand firm in your values and don't lose yourself in the process. Flexibility is a virtue, but holding to your core identity is non-negotiable!If you're ready to invest in yourself and your midlife love story, don't miss out on Love Camp! Join us for an incredible retreat where you'll connect with like-minded women and discover tools to empower your love life. Whether you're looking for personal growth, friendship, or just a little fun, Love Camp has something for everyone. Spaces are limited—only 10 spots—so be sure to book your spot today! ✅ https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/   ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast platform. Your reviews help us reach more listeners and share the love!Nancy shares the story behind her viral Threads post that had over 17k people cheering her on!The post was a photo of Nancy on her wedding day a few years ago. At 57, she decided to wear a beautiful, fluffy, white dress. In the caption, she said, there's no age limit to feeling like a princess.The post sparked such an amazing response from women everywhere who shared photos of themselves in their dream wedding dresses—everyone cheering each other on.In today's show, Nancy talks about why celebrating your midlife love story matters. No matter your age, you should feel free, bold, and happy to express yourself in a way that feels true to YOU.Nancy gets real about what it took to “say yes to the dress” and defy all those little voices saying, “Is that age appropriate?” or “Why wear a wedding gown for your second marriage?” She shares her thoughts on breaking through stale societal expectations that tell women to downplay their celebrations or slow down as they get older. Spoiler alert: we don't have time for that!This episode is about more than just a wedding dress. It's about joyful self-expression, giving yourself permission to live boldly, and shouting YES to what makes you feel amazing—at any age. Whether it's dressing the way you want, dating the way you want, or just living with more freedom, Nancy is here to remind you: it's never too late to rewrite your story and live it on your own terms. You don't need to ask for permission. You don't need approval. Life is too short to wait for someone to give you the green light. So, what's stopping you from celebrating your journey? Tune in and get inspired to go after the life you deserve.If you're ready to invest in yourself and your midlife love story, don't miss out on Love Camp! Join us for an incredible retreat where you'll connect with like-minded women and discover the tools to empower your love life. Whether you're looking for personal growth, friendship, or just a little fun, Love Camp has something for everyone. Spaces are limited – only 10 spots – so be sure to book your spot today! ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast platform. Your reviews help us reach more listeners and share the love!Finding your community, dating app alternatives, and prioritizing YOURSELF above all else – if you're feeling lost and isolated in the dating-after-40 scene, this episode is for you. Listen in for three ways to reclaim your power as you look for love in midlife. Nancy answers questions from listeners, starting with the ONE thing she would have done differently when she was dating in her 40s and 50s: she wished she had connected with other women who were juggling careers and parenting while looking for love after divorce. Feeling alone can be tough, but if you take the time and effort to surround yourself with the right people, you can shift your dating story from daunting to empowering! The support of like-minded women can lift you up and remind you that you're not alone in this.Next question: “What if I absolutely do not want to use dating apps?” Nancy shares some great alternatives to dating apps, stressing that dating means aligning with your values and preferences. So, if you detest online dating, don't use it! Dating in midlife doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing approach. From joining social groups to investing in your personal growth, you can absolutely meet new people in a way that feels good for YOU. Final question: “How do I show up in the dating scene if I'm just not feeling my best?” Self-care is key, and Nancy knows how important it is to nurture your well-being to attract the love you deserve. Tune in to learn about her personal self-care practices and how they can help you shine in the dating world.If you're ready to invest in yourself and your midlife love story, don't miss out on Love Camp! Join us for an incredible retreat where you'll connect with like-minded women and discover the tools to empower your love life. Whether you're looking for personal growth, friendship, or just a little fun, Love Camp has something for everyone. Spaces are limited – only 10 spots – so be sure to book your spot today!✅ Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast platform. Your reviews help us reach more listeners and share the love!Has a breakup or divorce left you feeling lost, like lasting love is just not in the cards for you? In Episode 46, Nancy talks about ways to rediscover yourself after a major life change, rebuild your confidence, and open your heart again after walking through the fire of heartbreak.Nancy shares her own story of self-work, self-love, and dating after divorce. She talks how she found the strength to embrace love again. Tune in for some real talk on healing and being open to new beginnings, even when the future feels scary and uncertain.Nancy shares the tips she used for getting back into the dating scene as a newly single mom of two. She opens up about how she dealt with her fear of rejection, disappointment, and vulnerability. This episode is packed with insights on how to:- Let go of past relationship strife and worries.- Rebuild your sense of self-worth and confidence.- Embrace the adventure of finding love again in midlife, without fear holding you back.Whether you're newly single or have been out of the dating game for a while, this episode will inspire you to take that first step to opening your heart and finding love again.  It's YOUR time to reclaim your power and find a supportive community to help you step into your next chapter! Join me at Love Camp — a transformative women's-only retreat in Montana this spring. Together we'll boost your confidence and clarity, and help you attract the love you deserve.Only 10 spaces! Click here to learn more and reserve your spot: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/ ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Do you feel like there's a hidden part of you that's keeping you from finding love? Maybe you're avoiding deeper connections or struggling to show your true self. Don't worry, you're not alone! Nancy Bruce chats with the fabulous Junie Moon, a global love mentor and Certified Shadow Work® coach, about the magic of self-awareness and authenticity in relationships.Enter the world of shadows! Junie shares what it means to embrace those hidden aspects of yourself that can mess with your love life. Trust Junie — she knows that reclaiming these aspects are the best way to open the floodgates to let genuine connection and attracting the love we desire.Together, they explore the challenges of dating in midlife, and how to recognize your own triggers and foste self-compassion. Junie highlights the power of constructive conflict in relationships, revealing how navigating disagreements can strengthen bonds and build trust.Plus, Junie opens up about her personal journey with Shadow Work, sharing how she overcame fears and insecurities that once held her back from love. If you've ever wondered how to stop self-sabotaging or felt like your inner critic is ruining your dating life, this episode is for you!“The universe loves to give us what we need to learn.”  ✅ Come to LOVE CAMP! Learn about the retreat here: https://findinglove.co/love-camp-retreat/

Ever find yourself chasing the idea of love instead of focusing on how a healthy relationship should actually feel? Dr. Laura Berman joins Nancy in this episode to help you dig deep into what you really need in a partner—beyond the movie-worthy romance or the qualities you used to look for in your 20s. It's time to redefine your vision of love and find clarity on the connection that will truly light you up in midlife.Dr. Laura is the renowned sex, love, and relationship therapist who played a huge role in helping Nancy break through her own blocks to find love in her 50s.Dr. Laura teaches Nancy her "100%" concept—how both people bring their full selves to a relationship, for better or worse. And if you've been stuck in old relationship patterns that no longer serve you, this episode will help you break free and stop sabotaging your own chances at love. Whether you're looking for a romantic partner who's also your best friend, or just seeking clarity on what you truly value when it comes to love, Dr. Laura is the perfect guide.Get ready for a heart-to-heart on what real, lasting love looks like, and how to create it. Plus, find out why doing the inner work is key to attracting a partner who's ready to grow with you.“You won't be able to attract someone who's willing to grow and change unless YOU are.”Visit Dr. Laura Berman's website and explore her upcoming memberships—Love Collective and Grief Healing Collective. Nancy on social: ✅ Findinglove.co

Episode 43: Thriving in Midlife DatingWhat's the secret to thriving in the midlife dating world? In this episode, Nancy reveals her Top 3 Pieces of Dating Advice that will empower you to navigate love and dating in your Third Act with confidence and clarity.1. Patience is Key:Many people jump into the dating pool eager for a connection, but it's common to feel disappointed after a series of first dates. Nancy emphasizes the importance of patience, encouraging listeners to give each date a fair chance to blossom, rather than rushing to judgment.2. Radiate Confidence: Feeling good about yourself is crucial. The energy you radiate directly influences the type of partner you attract. By prioritizing self-care and focusing on your health, you elevate your confidence and become more appealing to potential matches.3. Expand Your Circle: Building a diverse social network enriches your life and opens doors to new experiences and connections. Nancy shares her personal journey of joining a writing group, which helped her forge meaningful friendships and discover joy at any age.Dating isn't always easy, but with a little patience, self-love, and new friends, you're on the right track to finding that special someone. Take your time, feel good about yourself, and keep your circle wide—love might be just around the corner.Tune in to Episode 43 for valuable insights and actionable tips to enhance your midlife dating experience! Nancy on social: ✅ Findinglove.co

It's the Season 1 finale of the Finding Love Podcast! We're revisiting fan favorite highlights and reflecting on the lessons we learned over the past year. So tune in and let's review the top moments from our most popular episodes.Episode 23, “How to Make Love Last” – we talked about how to nurture midlife relationships and build lasting love. What can dating look like after divorce, and how can you manage the emotional baggage that follows? We explored how to embrace the new while honoring your past experiences, and find ways for you and your partner to grow together.Episode 32, “Dial Up Your Belief” with Sarah Centrella targeted the magic of mindset when you're looking for love. From overcoming limiting beliefs to the power of the stories you tell yourself, Sarah and Nancy reminded us that manifestation is a powerful tool that can help you create the love life you want.Episode 33, "Better Sex in Midlife" – we set the stage for open communication about intimacy, and how you can build the confidence for a more fulfilling sex life, at any age. In this episode, recurring guest Deb Beroset joined Nancy to share her own wisdom on how to celebrate yourself as a sexual person, and freely express that powerful energy.  Episode 39, “New Man or Total Scam” – we decided to shine a light on dating deception, and what happens when you meet people who are not who they say they are. Nancy and Deb talked about how to recognize red flags, deal with liars, and trust yourself in your midlife dating journey. This episode was a how-to-guide for dating without fear. Finally, Episode 40, "How to Harness Your Sexual Energy" – we introduced two fabulous new guests, Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Weaver, who taught us how to tap into tantric practices for deeper intimacy and self-love. The episode underscored dialing up your life-force energy to attract the partner you want.  Season 1 is a wrap! Stay tuned for Season 2 – we're going to bring back a few of our favorite guests and welcome some exciting new ones. You'll hear more in-depth discussions, expert advice, and tried-and-true tips for dating after 50, and Finding Love in Midlife.Watch the full episode on Youtube @thefindinglovepodcast 

Afraid of rejection? Uncertain about how to start dating after divorce or romantic fumbles? Fear can be a powerful barrier in midlife, but it doesn't have to stop you in your tracks.Relationship expert and dating coach Jennifer Hurvitz joins Nancy to deliver some sage advice for finding love (and yourself) in your Third Act.How do you approach dating with a fresh perspective in the middle of life? Nancy and Jennifer agree that it boils down to brave self-reflection, clear boundary-setting, and above all, honest communication. They share how they learned to date mindfully and have fun along the way.Get ready for a lively chat as Jennifer and Nancy discuss why being aware of your own needs is the secret sauce to a great relationship. Here's one of their golden rules of dating — don't overbook and try to juggle dating several people at the same time if you know that's going to be overwhelming and stressful for you. Just because it's how some people date doesn't mean it has to be your formula.In the midlife dating game, you need to honor yourself first. So date in a way that works for YOU.And! Check out Jennifer's book, Midlife Priceless. It's full of insights and personal stories about re-learning how to do romance after divorce.32:28 – Being the right person first is the path to finding the right partner.

Stuck in a cycle of emotionally unavailable partners? Looking for someone who stirs your passion and resonates with your soul? Start by tending the fires of your own sexual energy and become a magnet for what you want.Nancy welcomes guests Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver, founders of TantraNova Institute in Chicago. They share their years of experience and expert advice on how to become an energetic divining rod and attract the love you desire. And when you do, how to nurture it so that it continues to bring you joy.  Dr. Elsbeth and Freddy talk about their own thriving relationship and how being open and receptive helped love blossom between them. It's about intentionally creating a life you want (never settling) and identifying the obstacles keeping you from the love and life you dream of.  Learn about how our early sexual experiences can shape and influence our psyches and romantic relationships well into midlife. Dr. Elsbeth shares her personal journey into tantra, and how she would never have even seen her beloved partner Freddy if she hadn't become more conscious of her sexual energy as a source of awareness and power.Remember – the energy you bring with you on your search for love is exactly the energy that will flow back to you. So be mindful of it. Learn to harness it. Let it work for you.11:23 – “Words have power. Energy has power. It's the most powerful force in the world. So the energy that we give to our own story shapes our reality, and shapes our future.”

What if the person you're dating turns out to be someone completely different from who they claimed to be? Nancy is back with Deb Beroset to talk about what to do when you're blindsided by your date.It's easy to slip into fantasyland when there's someone new in your life. You're excited, swept off your feet, and skipping toward the future. But in the process, you may be missing (or ignoring) red flags, sketchy stories, or behavior that just doesn't add up. All of a sudden, the guy you thought you knew is someone you barely recognize.Deb and Nancy are all too familiar with the disappointment of being let down, gaslit, or outright lied to by a date. But there's a silver lining: when you know that no matter what, you can trust YOURSELF to keep your own best interests front and center, you have nothing to fear. You can't control someone else's behavior, but you can always control the way you protect your boundaries.Deb and Nancy share how experiences like this can help you become stronger and wiser on your midlife dating journey. Deb reminds us that it's all about putting your feelings first when it comes to dating, and asking yourself, "how do I feel?" instead of, "how does this person feel about me?"Tune in to learn:Why putting yourself first is a dating game-changer.How not to get swept away by the fantasy early on.How to trust your instincts and stay aligned with what you want.Why the power of female friendships keeps you grounded.Remember, when you know in your heart that you can truly count on yourself, you move forward with confidence. Sure, it's a let-down when guys aren't who they say they are, but don't let that be the reason you turn away from the love you want and deserve. 

Dating blunders happen, and when they do, they can quickly throw you off track. You start second guessing yourself – Will you ever figure out how to choose the right partner? Why do you agree to things you know you don't want? How can you stay true to yourself and the vision you have for love?  Trusting your instincts sounds easy but sometimes we lose track of how to do it. Here are 5 simple ways to help you tap into your inner wisdom and clear the path to love:  1. Listen to Your GutYour instincts are powerful tools, honed for and by you. When you trust your inner voice, it protects you from making poor choices and leads you to what you really want. Why? Because your inner wisdom often knows what your mind hasn't figured out yet. Rely on and listen to those gut instincts.  2. Reflect on Past ExperiencesDon't dwell on the past, but do learn from it. Looking back on past relationships and considering what insights you gained helps you renew and refresh your approach to relationships. Every experience in life can guide you forward if you let it. 3. Mindfulness MattersDon't be intimidated by mindfulness practices. They can be simple, everyday things that help you tune into your inner voice, like walks in nature, journaling, or even just peaceful silence. Mindfulness helps you stay present and connected to who you are and what you want.  4. Honor Your Values and BoundariesKnow your core values and stick to them. Don't talk yourself into doing things you don't want to do just to please others. This is something that women in particular have to learn again and again. Trusting your instincts means aligning with what matters to YOU, alone or in a relationship.5. Surround Yourself with Supportive PeopleEveryone you love is part of your love story! Spending meaningful time with people who support and love you is a great way to invigorate your life force. You feel more confident, expansive, happy, and hopeful. Your inner voice can be reflected in those close to you.Remember, there's one person you can trust in your search for love and that person is YOU. When you have your own back, there's nothing to fear. Finding Love in midlife can be a winding journey. Take loving care of yourself along the way. 

Ready to feel sexy and confident at any age? No matter what stage of life you're in, you can give yourself the time and attention it takes to raise the bar on romance and renew your power of attraction.Picture this: you're more in tune with yourself, you feel better about your body, and you radiate self-awareness. How do you get there? It's not just about hitting the gym or getting enough sleep (that's a given). The real magic happens when you feel like you truly know and love yourself.What do you need to step into the romantic, sexy persona that you want to inhabit? The answer is to turn up the volume on as many aspects of your life as you can! Nancy shares how embracing a physical health overhaul with weightlifting and mindful meal planning transformed her self-image and boosted her confidence. She also takes sacred time for herself, whenever and however she needs it. It helps her curate the space she needs to thrive.Don't settle for thinking your best years are behind you just because you've reached a certain age. You have the power to change how you feel, inside and out. If you're not happy with where you're at, set achievable goals and work on yourself first, before you go looking for love elsewhere.If you're in the middle of life, give yourself permission to embody ageless energy. Tune into this episode to learn how to carve out time for yourself, create a vibrant home environment, and approach your life with the total enthusiasm and spirit it deserves.9:30 – "The key to feeling sexy in your 50s, 60s, and beyond is feeling strong and thriving. To connect with someone else in a sexy way, you have to feel good in your own skin first." 

As you break out the sundresses and dine al fresco, think about how you can let loose this summer and attract new people, places, and experiences into your life. There's no age limit on a summer fling, so have yours!Summer is freedom. Let's say yes to everything about it. Because why not? Embrace your youthful summertime spirit with playfulness and openness. It doesn't matter how old you are — if you're dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond – summer energy can really open up your life. And, when done right, summer flings can actually help you set better boundaries for future relationships.Summer often comes with wishing for a special someone to do things with: outdoor concerts, beaches, travel. Remember that Finding Love in midlife starts with learning how to be okay doing those things on your own. You're allowed to have fun for fun's sake. Don't discredit your own company. So travel solo, go to the beach with a book, take in a summer concert and be open to who you might meet. Being out in the world can be an invitation for people to approach you, start a conversation, maybe share an afternoon. In this episode, you'll learn a few tips on how to carve out special time for yourself this June, July, and August. Make the most of summer's sense of freedom, and attract love by living the life you want.  12:41 – “Take advantage of the sense of freedom that summer brings, and have fun with it. Because that's really what finding love, or finding anything new in the middle of life, is all about.”

Does finding love in a small town only happen in rom-coms? Have you “been there, done that” when it comes to where you live? Nancy chats with best-selling author Laura Munson, who recently found big love in a small Montana town. Small dating pools are tough at any stage of life, but when you live in a place you've known for years, it can be even harder. In today's episode, Nancy is joined by Laura Munson, NYT best-selling author and founder of the Haven Writing Retreat in Whitefish, Montana (where Nancy spent two wonderful weeks last year).  Laura talks about what it's like to be in the middle of life and dating in a small town. Spoiler alert: It starts with believing in your own love story, no matter what obstacles you may be facing. Over time, Laura learned how to cast a wide net in a small pool. She says first, she had to get crystal clear on what she wanted (and what she didn't want) to finally find the love she was looking for. Like with most things, your approach to dating changes as the years go by. It's easy to push dating to the side when you've got a busy, full life, and that's what Laura thought until she met her perfect match at just the right moment. The secret? Staying true to herself along the way. Nancy and Laura unpack why it's so important to understand the “why” behind your romantic motivation. Staying authentic and true to yourself is the best way to attract love, no matter who you are or where you live.  “You have to connect with yourself first, to know what you want to connect to. Then, inside a loving relationship, you can grow.” 

In the wake of divorce, your world may be upended. Instead of giving in to what feels like chaos, decide to use this moment to take inventory. Explore the parts of yourself to change and grow. Seize this time for real self-love. Self-care and self-love after divorce – it's not as easy as it sounds, but it's more important than you think. In the weeks and months following a divorce, you may feel overwhelmed by logistics. It's important not to abandon yourself in the process. In this episode, Nancy talks about her personal journey after divorce in her 30s, and shares tips on how to stay happy, centered, and productive, not just for yourself, but also as a dedicated parent. Doing new things for yourself – especially when you're on your own – can be scary, but it's crucial! Self-love isn't about 100% self-acceptance – it starts with an honest assessment about where you are now, and what you want your life to look like from here on in. Nancy is here to remind you – self-love is all about change. Ask yourself: What do I need to be happy? What can I do differently? How can I shake things up?Nancy remembers when she was newly divorced, she felt that she had to stay on top of her emotions and not get discouraged by the waves that threatened to crash down. Everything got better the minute she decided to take advantage of the change and ride those waves to different shores.If this time in your life is calling you forward, answer that call! Showing up for yourself in every way is the ultimate act of self-love.6:57 - “When you're in a post-divorce or midlife moment, and you want something new in your life to fill an empty space, starting with YOURSELF is the best bet.”

Is age a barrier to a great sex life? Are you avoiding dating in part because you're avoiding intimacy? We're talking to Deb Beroset about how to spark your passion and embrace your sexual power, at any age. If you've been single for a while, or in a sexless relationship, reconnecting with your desires can seem like a steep mountain to climb. You may even have convinced yourself that sex doesn't matter to you anymore, so why bother? Don't throw in the towel just yet. Nancy shares her own experience of avoiding intimacy during a dating slump in California. For a while she felt like it was more hassle than it was worth. Nancy says that if you find yourself in avoidance mode when it comes to looking for love, dating might not be the only thing you're sidestepping. You may be subconsciously shying away from intimacy. But here's the thing—your sexual energy is not a finite resource. It's as abundant as you believe it to be.Many women tend to ignore or neglect their sexual side. Deb's tip: Don't worry about how others see you. Focus on how you see yourself as a sexual person. How do you feel and express that energy? Our tastes and desires change as we get older. Your sexual power isn't just about your physical appeal — it's in the way you connect with others, the loving energy you radiate, and above all else, your confidence. Ask yourself: are you telling yourself that sex a chore or a performance? Or that it's a natural expression of desire and connection?You are never too old to have a fabulous sex life. Join us as we bust through some common myths and explore how to reconnect with your sexual energy, enhance your own well-being, and improve the strength of your relationships.Quotes:25:24 - Intimacy shows up when we let someone in on our experience.

Sarah Centrella, master life coach and author of Hustle Believe Receive, joins us to talk about the power of belief and how to create more of it in your search for love.Negative thinking can quickly spiral and before you know it you're cutting yourself off from your dreams. Sarah and Nancy talk about why it's so critical to work on becoming the best version of yourself. Trust that the person you're meant to be with is doing the same thing. And when you connect, you'll both be prepared for the love you want to create.  Nancy shares her personal journey of almost giving up on finding love, right before meeting her husband, David. Sarah shares her story of pulling herself together after a life-shattering divorce in her 30s, and how she stayed true to the vision of what she knew her life could be .Don't forget, you have the power to create the life you want. It requires taking risks, listening to your intuition, and sometimes taking a step back and refocusing your energy.Sarah emphasizes the importance of dating yourself first in your search for love. She suggests carving out “Sacred Me-Time.” Time alone is a great way to indulge your senses, process feelings, and set goals.  If you're ready to design your dream future, don't miss out on Sarah's Mastermind Group Coaching 10-week transformation bootcamp! Join the cohort starting June 11th to experience the full 9-Step Centrella Method for creating success. You can reserve your spot now at the link below!11:37 – “Love, like anything in life worth having, requires your full-hearted belief and your willingness to take risks.

Pull up a chair for some wrong guy stories. When you're dating in midlife, mismatches feel like a big setback. But take heart – the wrong guy can lead to the right one if you do a little soul-searching. Dating the wrong people was like a rite of passage in your twenties and thirties. But by the time you get to the middle of life, these mismatches hit a bit harder. It takes a little longer to get yourself back on track. Give yourself the space to examine the wrong connections, because they teach you some important things about what you DO want and what you ARE looking for. Bad dates can lead you in the right direction.Nancy shares a story of her solo trip to Italy, freshly single after her divorce in her 30s, à la Eat Pray Love. Spoiler alert: it ends with heartbreak via fax machine. Nancy tells other juicy stories of encounters with the “wrong” men and the valuable lessons she learned from each one.Nancy speaks from experience when she says don't get too caught up in romantic fantasies, because they steal your focus from the present. Optimism is important, but delusion is dangerous. A productive mindset and responsible dating practices are key.Remember, your dating past doesn't dictate your future. Every dating story serves a purpose. So embrace them, seek out the silver linings, and above all, be kind to yourself. After all, your journey is unfolding in its own unique way. You are writing your story the way it's meant to be told.Quote:14:19 “Your dating past does not dictate your dating future.”  

Making a memorable first impression in the online dating world starts with optimizing your profile. You have mere seconds to grab attention, so your photos need to pop. Photographer Kelsey Kurtis shares tips for how to stand out in an online crowd. Today's episode features a fun conversation with Nancy's favorite brand photographer, Kelsey Kurtis – the ultimate cheerleader for self-expression in business and in life. Nancy and Kelsey reveal how to stand out and embrace the authentic YOU in your dating profile photos. Kelsey breaks down color psychology, how to find the perfect light, and why bringing intentional personal branding into your dating profile will make a world of difference. She shares her favorite tips on curating the perfect photos for your dating profile. Her advice is to take the spotlight and SHINE –  even if it feels a little awkward. Kelsey opens up about her own journey in love, including her first marriage, (and the plot twist that dropped Nancy's jaw), and how she's re-branded heartbreak into her “phoenix” moment. Nancy and Kelsey discuss the challenges of navigating divorce in their 30s and the pressure to start over in the dating scene.Tune in to Episode 30 for inspiration and practical advice on how to shine bright, unleash your authentic self, and forge genuine connection through personal branding.Quote:[7:02] Having a personal brand means when someone asks, “who are you?” you have an answer that is confident and true to who you are. 

Are your midlife dating wheels spinning? If you want to get out of your romantic rut, you need to overcome what's keeping you stuck. Let's get your search for love back on track.In Episode 29, Nancy highlights the top three categories of dating “stuckness”– avoidance, burnout, and losing sight of the dream.You're in avoidance when you start pretending Finding Love doesn't matter. Your dreams don't vanish when you turn away from them. The key to overcoming avoidance is to be honest and patient with yourself, and take small steps towards your goal.Midlife dating burnout comes from being repeatedly disappointed by the negative aspects of modern dating (and there are plenty). Try optimizing your approach by dating more than one person at a time and reframing setbacks as opportunities for growth.Lastly, losing sight of your dream can sabotage your search by making love seem impossibly out of reach. To reignite your belief in love, Nancy encourages visualizing as many details as you can about your ideal partnership. Fantasy is fun!Shake yourself out of your midlife dating rut by following Mindset shifts with practical Action steps. Explore new dating sites, broaden your parameters, and take a look inward for self-discovery and awareness.If you're ready to break free of your rut, Episode 29 offers the guidance and encouragement you need. Tune in to discover how to get unstuck![5:46] The dream of Finding Love wasn't going away. I had a choice to either fulfill that dream, or leave it unfulfilled.  

When your marriage ends, it's easy to believe your chance for love ends with it. This is the moment to reclaim your love story and decide to thrive.  Guess who's back to dish on what it's like dating after divorce? It's the fabulous Deb Beroset of It's Time For Moxie! We're talking about how to jump into the post-divorce dating world with confidence and joy.How do you get back out there after a split? Deb has been divorced six times so she brings some seasoned wisdom to the conversation. Deb and Nancy talk about the major mindset shifts required to see divorce as a time of pure possibility, a beautiful chance for growth. They discuss how post-divorce healing, dating intentionally, and knowing yourself are the keys to dating after divorce and finding a meaningful relationship.Ready to break old dating and relationship habits? It starts with keeping an eye out for the characteristics in people you date, and noticing how you respond to those energies. Your reactions to people and situations reveal your own patterns. Ask yourself what you've been drawn to in the past, and how seeing yourself more clearly can help you shape your romantic future. Tune in to Episode 28 for advice and inspiration on Finding Love after Divorce.Quotes:[24:15] That's how you break a pattern – by noticing your response to it.

Getting ready for dates is sometimes the most stressful part. What to wear? How to show up? Lindsey Bernay, fashion stylist extraordinaire, joins this episode to talk about why personal style and dating go hand in hand, and how to dress for dating success. If you're looking for love in midlife, chances are you're putting energy, attention, and focus into that project. Lindsey reminds us that shifting your approach to fashion can be just as transformative as changing your approach to dating. It's about stepping out of your comfort zone while staying true to yourself.Mindset tip: If you want something new in your life, it starts with YOU. So, what are you willing to do differently to get what you want? How can you show up in your search for love as your best and most attractive self? This translates to your closet!Nancy remembers her old "dating uniforms" (baggy and black). They were familiar and easy, but made her feel invisible. She and Lindsey discuss the importance of being bold and standing out when you're looking for love. Lindsey shares her philosophy behind a “Dating Capsule Wardrobe” and how putting real effort into your style is an expression of self-care and self-love.Join Nancy and Lindsey on episode 27 as they chat about how fashion can elevate your dating journey and help you to show up for yourself in every aspect of your life.“Self-care and self-love includes your wardrobe and the way you present yourself to the world.”Mentioned: Lindsey Bernay @lindseybernaystyles  

Does dating in midlife feel like a chore? It's time to reframe dating and looking for love after 50. You can't attract happiness if you're gritting your teeth through every step of the journey. In episode 26, Nancy shares a game-changing moment from her grueling L.A. workout days, and how one thing her fitness instructor said changed her outlook on everything.So, what's the key? How can you give your search for love the right energy and focus? Start by asking yourself these three questions:1. What are your goals in love?2. How do you define success in the dating world?3. And most importantly, what are you willing to do to make it happen?Nancy shares her story about reaching a point where she felt resigned to a life without love. She believed that the chance for finding it had passed her by. Then one day, she rediscovered hope with a profound mindset shift. She invites listeners to reflect on the energy they bring to their own dating journeys, and how to reshape that energy to get what they want. Tune in to episode 26 and ask yourself, “What am I bringing to this project of finding love?” Let that question help you redefine your approach to romance in midlife. Remember – loving the process is just as important as getting the results. Treat Finding Love like a fun project AND a priority.Quotes: "There's no happy ending to an unhappy journey."  

When it comes to finding love, how much do you really trust your intuition? The more tuned in you are, the easier your path to love becomes. In Episode 25, Nancy chats with Julie Ryan – intuitive psychic and healer – to explore the all-important role intuition plays when it comes to finding love. Julie offers her favorite hack – her iconic 2-Minute rule – to nip romantic anxiety and fear in the bud, and explains why it's vital to keep clarity top of mind when you're looking for connection.Curious about soulmates? Nancy and Julie advocate for multiple soul partners throughout your life. They say that these connections and possibilities evolve and grow as we do! Even if you believe that the love of your life has come and gone, that doesn't mean there won't be more love out there waiting for you, in ways that might surprise you. Nancy and Julie also tap into the spiritual aspect of being in a midlife relationship, noting the importance of trusting your inner wisdom instead of overthinking, over-analyzing, and making everything more complicated than it needs to be. Love is about how you feel when you're with your person, and it helps when you understand how to use your internal GPS. The healing power of love is not just about finding a partner, it's about finding yourself in those moments of enlightenment that happen along the way.Quote:"Love is a creative act. In order to feel love, we have to create ways to give love." Mentioned in this episode: Julie Ryan's book Angelic Attendants. To get your FREE copy of the book, mention this episode. https://askjulieryan.com/request-ebook/Julie's May 2024 virtual training https://askjulieryan.com/aat/

The key to unlocking the transformative power of love in your 3rd Act is developing the muscle of MINDSET. Not once, but over and over again.Nancy recaps her guest segment at the International Women's Day Virtual Summit, where she talked about how finding love in midlife changes everything, and why it all starts with Mindset.  To attract the love you want, you have to put the right energy, focus, and emotional resonance out into the world. In other words, you get what you give. Nancy's signature approach – Mindset, Planning, and Action – helps love seekers shore up the strength, strategy, and confidence they need to find and keep lasting love.  Mindset is all about who you are, what you want, and why it matters to you. But shifting your Mindset isn't as simple as flipping a switch. It takes the courage to look inside yourself, and the willingness to challenge ingrained beliefs. In the middle of life, this kind of gut-level transformation needs to start from within.  Nancy shares some from her decades of searching for love (inside and out), and the realization that changed everything for her. It's time to take an exploratory deep dive into how you want to feel in love. Hold on tight, because you may surprise yourself.Quotes: [3:40] Shine the spotlight, internally. Start with the feeling.   

Once you find love, how do you keep the connection, communication, and spark alive? Nancy talks about nurturing a relationship in midlife by making daily, intentional choices.It's important to remember that love isn't a one-time decision. Being in love is something you choose every day, by actively showing up for yourself and your partner. Relationships are dynamic, living things. There's nothing passive or static about love. So, if you've found love in the middle of life, what does it look like? How does it feel? In what ways will it evolve? Tune in for some words of wisdom to help you embrace the NEW while honoring your past experiences, and growing together as a couple. One of the most important things Nancy has discovered about finding love after 50 is how important it is to bridge the gap between your communication style and your partner's. Tune in to learn a simple but effective strategy she and her husband David learned from the Love Doctor herself, Dr. Laura Berman.Love is a journey, not a destination. Whether you're in the thick of a long-term relationship, starting fresh in your 3rd Act, or somewhere in between, the key is choosing love – every day.Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Laura Berman8:30 - “You and your partner can find your own special rhythm within your shared communication styles. That's part of the fun in connection.”

Nancy and her longtime friend Jenny Banks talk about the realities of Finding Love in your 3rd Act, and why it's so important to have a purpose and a plan.  In Episode 22, Nancy chats with her friend of many years, Jenny Banks, a Chicago-based career coach and recruitment specialist. They discuss why it's important to navigate midlife dating using all the tools at your disposal – like Zoom and dating apps. They weigh the pros and cons of online dating, when and why to swipe right and left, how to avoid getting sucked into endless scrolling, and when the investment of meeting someone in person pays off (and when it doesn't). Jenny shares insights from her experience as a corporate recruiter, and why it's important to “cast a wide net” in your search for the right career AND in the dating world. Tune in to get the scoop on dating Essentials vs Deal-breakers and how to set boundaries for yourself and the people you date. Nancy and Jenny agree that a solid dating plan is an act of empowerment. If you're ready to find love in your 3rd Act, don't miss this episode. It's time to get off the bench, seize the moment, and date with intention!“Your 3rd Act isn't the time to sit on the sidelines, it's the stage where action meets magic.”Mentioned in this episode: Jenny Banks