My guest today is a running coach who made a big life change around the age of 40 when she left her marriage and then her job at NPR to become a running coach. She now has two of her own running podcasts and says she's living her dream life. Listen up to hear how Coach Christine Hetzel handled her big transition into the life she always wanted. Christine's PodcastRunning Scared With Coach Christine PodcastTime For Brunch PodcastContacts for Molly and Jellyfish Industrywww.jellyfishindustries.comwww.mollysider.comEmail For Transcription: email@example.com
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Do you see yourself as a VIP....a very important person? There is nothing that you can wear that will make you a VIP. Reading books, your education or job, doesn't create VIPs. The only way for you to become a VIP is to SEE yourself as one. It comes from within you. I went to a 3-day coaching event with my life coach, Brooke Castillo, and I absolutely loved it. (Yes, coaches need coaches) There was three different types of tickets we could buy to attend the event. 1. A virtual ticket (I don't know how much these were) 2. General Admission tickets $197 3. A VIP ticket $1997 I could've got into the same room for $197 but I chose the VIP tickets. Why? Because I wanted to be treated as a VIP. I wanted extra time with Brooke. I wanted the good food, and I wasn't disappointed But, even more than that... I wanted to surround myself with people who saw themselves as VIPs. I met some amazing women and the experience I received was priceless. They reminded me of the women inside ELEVATE and my VIP clients that have made the decision to invest in themselves. I have two questions I want you to ask yourself: What experiences have you grown from because you saw yourself as a VIP? What experiences have you passed on because you didn't see yourself as a VIP? Anytime I have the opportunity, I choose to see myself as a VIP. Fashionably, Afton
A singular event rarely transforms a person. True transformation occurs over time and usually, after a series of events that shakes one's world view. ABOUT MY GUEST:Vivek Chakrabortty is the CEO and Founder of The Kavi Group, a crisis management and business continuity consulting firm that supports some of the largest firms in the world today. He is a husband and a father to 3 young adults. You'll hear him say later that home is wherever his family is, so let me just say, today, he and his family reside in Florida. IN THIS EPISODE: How Vivek slowly but surely, discarded the rule books and constructs that he had previously lived his life by; The philosophies — or his North and South stars — that guide his work and life; How these philosophies show up in his work and his parenting style; What he views as his responsibility is to his employees; How his ambition expresses itself today (versus how it was 20 years ago). For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
¡Dilo de una vez! Sí, porque en este episodio, abordamos los beneficios de la comunicación asertiva. Rox Frontini te trae valiosos tips y nos cuenta por qué expresar lo que pensamos, sentimos o necesitamos de una forma respetuosa y amorosa, impacta positivamente en nuestra salud mental y emocional, y en nuestras relaciones interpersonales.
At 44 Brian Biedenbach has left his long career at a nonprofit to run his own podcast production company. He has a wife and three kids and somehow, he found the courage to try something new and scary and look failure in the eye. Tune in now to find out how he made this big change despite his fear! Email firstname.lastname@example.org for the show transcription www.summitcitystudios.comwww.jellyfishindustries.com@iamthisage_podcast@summitcitystudios
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I've come to regard midlife as a kind of fresh start or rather, we can choose to approach it as a fresh start.This is a time in our lives when we can pause and really review where we are and think about how we want the second half of our lives to work out, and then really refocus our energy toward that. For many of us, that means choosing to change areas of our life.Sadly, as much as the vision of our future can be exciting, many of us would rather look away from that vision because we're not willing to go through the pain of rocking our world as it exists today.In this episode, I bring you the story of Lori Saitz who did not look away and went through a major life makeover of her own making.ABOUT MY GUEST: Lori Saitz is the Founder of Zen Rabbit and host of the podcast “Fine is a 4-Letter Word.” She's an award-winning writer, speaker, and broadcaster. She guides business professionals who are finished living in a dumpster fire, to a place of unprecedented clarity, peace, and productivity. Using a collaborative approach, she teaches people to be grounded and centered, which leads to improved relationships, increased sales, and better overall health.IN THIS EPISODE: Why Lori says “fine” is a 4-letter word. The thing about commiserating with friends. Why our friends may not always like the changes we're making in our lives. The question we should really stop asking others. And how to respond when we do get asked that question! For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Welcome to Season 4 of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast – the season of the Side Hustle!With my new book, "Your Midlife Side Hustle" launching very soon, and the evening news footage painting an increasingly bleak picture economically, I am more passionate than ever to offer HOPE, by encouraging women to start a side hustle that is passion-fuelled, purposeful and of course, Profitable!When feeling the pinch financially, often our first thought is to take a second job to help make ends meet. This might be fine when you are relatively commitment free in your 20s, but when you are a midlifer, you might find that you are only increasing your problems, not solving them. If you are toying with the idea of taking a second job, and you are in your midlife season, tune in to hear 3 reasons why I don't think this is such a good idea, and what I DO recommend you do instead!Want some ideas of side hustles you could start? I've got you! Get my FREE ebook "The Ultimate Midlife Side Hustle Guide" with 30 proven online Side Hustles that you could start right away! Go to www.yourmidlifesidehustle.com to access your copy now. Enjoyed this episode of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast?I would be so grateful if you could leave a 5 star review at Apple – this way the podcast is boosted and found more easily by other midlifers looking to ROCK their lives!Cat xPS: Let's continue the conversation! Join me daily in Rocking Midlife® – the FREE group for women over 40 who want to ROCK their midlife season! https://www.facebook.com/groups/RockingMidlife
he key to layering in a way that is stylish as well as practical is to think about balance. Long with short, flowy with fitted, textured with smooth. Creating balanced elements keeps outfits flattering as well as visually interesting. Here, how to build a layered look from the ground up. Start With a Base Layer: Most layered looks include a couple of simple, streamlined pieces that form the foundation for the whole look, and gives the eye a place to rest. Whether these include the classic white button-down, a long (or short) sleeve layering tee, or a simple pair of neutral pants, these pieces serve as the springboard for a look that is practical and chic. Add A Completer: After the base layer is complete, the next piece to consider is the completer piece. Completer pieces can be casual, like denim jackets or cozy cardigans, or a bit more trendy, like a slouchy blazer or moto jacket. Add A Middle Layer: Between the base and the completer is where the true magic of layering happens, and much of this will depend on practical considerations as well as style preferences. A currently trendy and versatile middle layer is a sweater vest, which layers well over a base layer and under a jacket. But a middle layer can be a more fitted cardigan, a sweater, a button-down shirt or flannel, or a silk blouse. If your base layer was fitted, your middle layer can have a little more volume. Afton also shares 4 outfit recipes and style tips to create more interesting and luxurious outfits. Write a reivew to enter the contest for a free Color Analysis that you can keep or gift in December. Need a personal stylist? Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule your free style breakthrough.
El “síndrome del qué dirán” no es otra cosa que la idea que tienes de lo que otro pueda decir sobre ti, una idea que no es ni siquiera cierta, y que la mayoría de las veces te sabotea el camino hacia tus metas. En este episodio, Rox nos cuenta sus experiencias a la hora de lidiar con el juicio ajeno, y nos comparte sus consejos para no dejarse influir por la opinión de los demás.
Today Rebekah Ward talks all about her past relationships, how religion influenced them, and how she moved through divorce to a healthy, loving marriage with two kids in her early 40's. Rebekah is hilarious, open, and full of personal insight. My goodness do I love this episode. You will laugh and cry (maybe not cry but you will laugh) and you will absolutely learn something about what loving relationships really look like. Enjoy today's change story! www.iamthisage.com@iamthisage_podcastwww.jellyfishindustries.comwww.mollysider.com Transcript:Here's the thing. In my twenties and my thirties, I could not have been in the kind of romantic relationship I am in now. I couldn't because I hadn't yet done the work on myself that is required to be in that kind of relationship. I wanted to feel a deep connection with another human, and I wasn't going to settle for anything else, no matter how loud my biological clock ticked.But I also had no idea how to get that. I wanted to feel seen by a partner in such an intimate way that all my fears of being misunderstood by the rest of the world would fall away with the knowing that this one person whom I loved and respected and let's be honest, wanted to have sex with all the time, saw me for exactly me, and still wanted to have sex with me.It took years of learning and growing and experiencing disappointing relationships, and then years more of taking a very hard look in the mirror and recognizing and admitting the things about myself I wasn't particularly proud of, and then more years of untangling why I was doing those things.Figuring out why I really wanted this deep connection, unlearning unproductive habits, teaching myself new ways to be, and then committing to being those things. Now I get to continue learning and growing, but I get to do it in the kind of relationship I always wanted. So no, I couldn't have had this back then.I wasn't ready yet. But at 44, I am ready and I have it because I've lived those experiences and with every experience I learned more about the person I want to be, the kind of person I want to be in relationship with. And maybe most importantly, the belief that I am a worthy of the deep connection I always dreamed of.And if I learned anything from today's guess, it's that you have to believe in your worthiness enough to risk losing something great in order to gain what you most desire.Welcome back to another episode of I Am This Age a podcast proving it's never too late. You're never too old, so go do that thing you're always talking about. I'm Molly Cider, your host. And today's guest is Rebecca Ward, and we go deep into relationships, self-discovery, and what love really looks like. We talk extensively about how her experiences in and out of relationships in her twenties and thirties prepared her for getting married to her current husband just before her 39th birthday, and for having two kids in her forties.Rebecca is a blast. There's definitely some swearing in this episode. We laugh a lot and we laugh loudly, but mostly there's so much honesty and self-discovery, and I think it just might be one of my favorite episodes so far. So please enjoy Rebecca Ward.My name is Rebecca Ward. I am 44. I am a an artist. I act and direct and write. I am a wife and a mother of two children, a four year old and a one year old, and I am tired. So, and it is almost eight o'clock at night. Almost eight, which used to be when I would go out. It's just a perpetual, uh, exhaustion. But it'll pass.It'll pass. Yeah. Today we're gonna talk about love and relationships, how to get there. Yeah. Yeah. Um, so I, the long and windy road, the long and windy road, , the never ending, long and windy road. You had two big relationships as a young adult. The first was, um, at 19 years old when you were engaged to a man who was 31.Mm-hmm. . He was a member of a Christian organization that came to your high school, and that's how you met. Yes. , your community, Um, being small, religious. Mm-hmm. and in your words, undereducated. I would say so. Okay. Or underexposed under underexposed. Mm-hmm. . Okay. That's, that's a, a better, nicer way. Yeah. Um, so underexposed, um, they were very supportive of your relationship.Mm-hmm. , you were considered a rockstar couple , you were studying to be a missionary. Um, but you also had this deep urge to travel and he did not. So eventually you broke off the engagement after moving away to college, which was devastating to your relationship with your friends and your family back at home.You did eventually, um, rectify that family. Yeah. With my family and Yeah, and the friend and, and, and the friends I stayed close to, you know. Oh, good. Okay. Yeah. And your second relationship was with a teacher at your college, . Um, he was two years older than youIt's not, Look, we've all got these stories and you have to get through it in order to get to the place. Um, but yeah. This one, this one was, um, two years older than you. Yeah. You shared a love of theater. Mm-hmm. . He wasn't religious and you said he did things like drink martinis, , and listen to Led Zeppelin and vinyl, which I just love those details.Um, and for that, you found him fascinating. And the two of you got married. Mm-hmm. . And you were married for 10 years. Yes. You went through some hard life moments together. Mm-hmm. , you did some personal growth work. Mm-hmm. . And as you began to realize who each of you were as individuals, you also understood that you were no longer a fit for each other and you left that marriage.Yeah, I would say. That is the summation post leaving. I don't know that. I could have articulated it that clearly when I was leaving. I very much loved him. Uh, but we were really ill suited toward one another. Um, and we had gotten engaged so quickly after dating for five months. Had we spent more time in relationship together before we decided to spend eternity together, , then maybe we would've figured that out, um, before we, uh, you know, took vows.But we didn't, and we were young. And I think that in the end, we, we both have grown into much healthier, happier people outside of a marriage relationship with one. . And so you, you left the marriage and you were in your early thirties, correct? Yeah. It was just still a baby. Mm-hmm. . Um, and so the following , the following like six or so years, was you sort of getting to play, you got your first apartment by yourself, you dated, you traveled, you did plays, you made friends, you went to therapy,Yes. Lots of that. You had an explosion of self-discovery mm-hmm. . And, um, you, you said people were noticing that you were changing. Yes. Can you tell the story about what did the casting doctors say to you? Um, so I had been seen in this casting office in Chicago, you know, for several years while I was married.And then for, I don't know, the first several months post separation. . I had gone in for some auditions and after one of those auditions, the casting associate, not the director of the whole office, but an associate pulled me aside and said, Hey, I, I wanted to just ask you what's going on Is something different?You've changed, You're just, And I was like, Well, you know, I, I got divorced. And he was like, I wondered your name wasn't the same, you know? And I was like, Yeah. And . And I also said, I'm having a lot of sex. And he was like, Great . Yeah. Um, but he just said that I was happier and lighter. And, um, it's, it sounds to me like you had this very clear intention at that time to.Really figure out what you, what your values were. Mm. Um, and you, you said you started to do this by saying yes to everything. Yeah. And I find it, um, I find it really interesting because you came from this like tiny religious, conservative Yeah. Conservative community. Mm-hmm. with lots of rules, that are based on noLots of nos. Lots of nos. And all of a sudden you're saying lots of yeses. You know, the world was literally your oyster and you were, it was like you were going to experience everything and then just narrow it down from there. Mm-hmm. , you were having like a complete reboot. I, I, it did feel that way and in some ways, to be honest, Yes.Reboot, but also I think it was a returning to my original self. Um, I think that my whole life, even when I was a little kid, I gravitated toward. The edges of things. Um, the edges. What does that mean? The people who were on the edge, the people who were maybe not the most popular. I I, I was generally friends with most people, but I was always intrigued by people who were pushing boundaries.But that does not garner you favor in the Southern methods denomination, um, or as a pastor's wife or, you know, like it's just very conservative. Fundamentalist Christianity is built on preserving the positions of the people who are in power, and they are able to maintain their power by keeping those who are not they in fear.Uh, be it fear of eternal damnation or. Judgment or sin or whatever you wanna say. And there's a long list of shit you are not supposed to do. Even when I was little, I can recall people who smoked a cigarette or when I took ballet, people who were gay and, and they were not evil, monstrous people that, uh, my religion growing up made them out to be.And so I think that that time in my life reboot in terms of rewriting the rules in my head of how I'm allowed to live and how I want to live. But also, uh, it was, it was a journey back to like the part of me earliest on that suspected from the get-go that there weren't as many. Delineations between people, all the different people that I met that, that it was made out to be.Yeah. That were all pretty much the same. Yeah, we're a lot closer and, you know, gay or not gay, um, Catholic or not, Like being Catholic was horrible where I grew up in the church I grew up, they thought if you were, if you were Catholic, if you were part of a cult. And I was like, and then I grew up and I was like, what?Like if you practiced yoga or meditation, you were, you were getting too close to the devil. Like just some really whacked out stuff. So it was a very, it was a very tiny world that they gave you in which to operate. And I never liked that. I never, never, never, never did I have had a voracious appetite always for everything that's out there.And, and if you wanna get really like, super spiritual about it, I have. Found it to be true that the more I experience and the more people I know and the, the more things I eat and the more things I get to do well, the better. I know God anyway, cuz it's all the same. Yeah. I don't really think God and limits actually go together.Can you give us a little snippet of what that time period look like for you,Um, you're so good at storytelling story. Uh, ok, sure. Um, I've made it very clear that I grew up in a conservative culture that was heavily religious and patriarchal and that also meant any sexuality was completely stamped out and, and forbidden because, you know, it's a gateway to you doing all kinds of things that would take you away from the Lord, whatever.I did wait to have sex until I got married, and my husband at the time was the only person I'd had sex with. So when that relationship was over, I absolutely was like, Well, now I know what I'm doing, . Um, which, you know, for some people, I, I imagine there's a wide range of ways that people would choose to, uh, live out that, that like time of exploration.For me, it primarily meant like saying yes to dates and for the first time in my life, a couple, one night nightstand and . A lot of the time it, I mean, I guess what I should say is it didn't take long for me to realize, maybe it was after three or four partners that I was like, A lot of this is the same , right?Like it's not, I'm anyb blowing experiences . Um, and I that, that in itself I was like, you know, but in particular the way I was operating for a snapshot of a moment, I was staying at this extended ta stay place where they put you up when you're an out of town actor, but you know, anybody can stay there.It's also a hotel. And I had either gotten home that, I can't even remember what time of day it was, but, um, either from rehearsal in the afternoon or in the evening after a show, I don't recall. And I was at the desk and I don't know if I was getting mail or something and I saw a man in the lobby. Sort of standing there and then get into an elevator.And we made eye contact and he was extremely handsome. There was this just sort of like charge, like electric charge. And I just, you know, and he got in the elevator and that was that. Um, but I finished my business, either got a pa, I don't know what it was, package or something anyway, and I went to hit the up button on the elevator and it opened and he was still in there.So he had either come back down or, I don't know. So I, he looked at me and I looked at him and I smiled and I got in the elevator. There was no one else in the elevator and he didn't speak English and he sort of noded and said hello or something. And then he just got really close to me and then we kissed and made out in the elevator until he came Oh my God.To his floor. I know, I know. I sound like I'm trying not to slut shame myself. Um, no, this is an amazing story. He, it was only like four floors up. We got to his floor and he kind of noded and like I said, he didn't speak English, but said, Do you wanna come in? And I, and I just said, No, I don't. I was fine and I didn't wanna do anything that I didn't feel safe with.Like, I was like, I don't really know this person. But I didn't feel unsafe in that moment in the elevator with him. And he was very like, Okay. And said something like Bella or beautiful or something like that. And that was that. And I never saw that person again. Wow. That's exciting. It was a moment where I just remember thinking, I'm going to, I'm gonna say yes to this moment and this instinct.And I did. And I was also really paying attention to my feelings. Uh, I want to, I feel like I should preface this like warning label. I had been spending an a solid year and a half up to that point in therapy, meditating, taking an antidepressant, uh, really working on self care and healing because when I made the decision to leave my ex-husband, I wanted to be able to trust that decision and the place from which I made it.And so I also felt really confident post separation o of what I was exploring and what I was doing. I, I didn't feel like I was. Like rebounding or anything. It wasn't like that. It was, it was a, a very intentional journey of what makes me happy, what feels good, what doesn't feel good. I wasn't always right.Right. Like there was a , there was a one night stand or a good guy that I went on a few dates with, and he totally ghosted me and totally got caught . And we had mutual friends. Oh, yeah. And I, I remember being 100% sort of publicly rejected and walking back to my car after the show and just breathing and thinking, Okay, okay, this is so, huh.So this is what it's like as an adult. You know, you, you choose to operate at this level and share yourself at this level. And it does not equal commitment or relationship. And I knew that cerebrally, but that was the first. That I'd actually experienced it and, and one potential outcome of my choices. It wasn't devastating or anything like that.It was just a, a, what's the word? Like, I was rebuffed. I was, I had very, he very clearly was like, Yeah, I'm done now. And I was likethere. And then now I've like, ok, ok. Pick myself up. And, you know, so a lot of the lessons that I feel like many people get when they're in their early to mid twenties, I wasn't having until a decade later. Yeah. Um, and I was giving myself, for the first time ever in my life, permission to be a sexual person, to follow my instincts, to make mistakes, and to do that shame and judgment.That's amazing. Just for the record, like I feel like I was still doing that in my thirties. I definitely was through my thirties. Like I think I was Sure I was, I've had those experiences even in my early, like in my forties . Yeah. Yes. I think as long as we are trying to learn who we are, you're gonna find these things out one way or the other.Yeah. And relationships with other people are, are our fastest teachers. Yes, they are. And also, but also like, we have to be willing to, you know, really look at ourselves and the role that we play in the relationship. Sure. And, and how we're contributing to whatever the thing is that we have experienced.Even if it's the ghosting, like, oh, I could tell you how I contributed to it. Oh, you're gonna move here. You're gonna move here from Brooklyn. Oh, that's great. Right. . Right. So the girl who had been in a relationship for 10 years and one other relationship before that maybe was not so great at one night stand.Right. And the thing is, is that when we're not willing to actually look at how we're contributing to these circumstances, we never learn. And I know of plenty of people who are still dealing with this in their seventies. Yes. And it's so hard. My parents, who I love deeply have an extremely dysfunctional marriage and they've been married for 48 years and, and it is a wreck.And they've spent that much time together without, yet finding a way, um, for each of them to thrive. You know? And I don't really understand all of the things that contribute to a person's inability to move forward. I imagine that it is so specific. Um, and I know that, you know, past traumas and a mil and access to healthcare and resources, there's so many things that go into it.Our generation, Being able to go to a therapist and or be on an antidepressant without nearly the stigma that our parents had, right? Like, that's a massive leap forward. Um, so there are lots of reasons, but you won't, you won't move forward. If you can't take responsibility for your own shit, you just won't truth, you know?Not that it's easy to do. It is not easy. It's, it's not easy. It's just about the hardest thing, but it gets easier the more you do it. It really does. It's never easy, but it gets easier, I think. But it does get easier because the work becomes more familiar. It's not as, as scary a place as the first time you choose to be so vulnerable to show either someone else or just be honest with yourself about those, those parts of yourself that you, you're embarrassed of or that are dark or that are, you know, have been hurtful or harmful to someone else.But then, Like anything, the more you do it, the more you practice being authentic, the less grip that it has on you and, and you begin to trust the outcome of, of that behavior. Where before it was this big, scary unknown thing and the risk was so huge. But the more you do it, the more you know ultimately what lies on the other side.Yeah. Is where you wanna be. Yeah. And that you'll be okay. You won't die from it. And that everyone else is just as scared to do the same thing and everyone else is hiding or gripping to some similar insecurity or fear. And the more that you just face it and let it out and talk about it, the more you realize we're all pretty similar.Yes. Uh, you know, I think for me, my parents' unhappiness has been a big motivating factor in my own life to not end up in that place and that. Impetus, Right. That, that was my compass of like, well then that means I'm number one. I'm not gonna stay in a miserable marriage. Number two, I've gotta get help for the shit that that is mine.And, and number three, I, I'm gonna have to start tearing apart some of this stuff that I, I've been taught and that we've grown up in that is keeping us broken and tied down. And, and that means walking away from like, Huh. Big existential life defining, you know, not qualities, but like beliefs and, and, and be trusting that I'll be able to withstand the rejection and the disappointment, or, and there was that, you know, from my mom and dad.And then eventually they came around because they love us. They love my sister and I And was it easy at first? Oh my God, no. It was horrible. It was horrible. And I knew that they were disappointed, maybe even embarrassed of me. But in the end, they, they lovingly said, Yeah, oh, we were really wrong. Wow. But yeah, so then through all of that saying yes and exploration, and it was a, it feels like a real messy time.It was a messy, exciting, maybe I started to say reckless, so it probably was in certain moments, reckless maybe that I, because I was so intent unlike, what is this? What is this? I was not fit for up to be a partner to another person at that time. Right. Or a long term partner by any means. So that's what I mean, reckless, Um, because I was too, I was, I was too ready to just move around.And from thing to thing and thing, I didn't, I did not want any other relationship after. 10 years married and 12 years together. And it was so hard and so sad to disentangle myself from that, that I was like, Nope, , let's just play for a while. Yeah. Yeah. And you did, and then you met Kyle and then, Then I met my husband, my, now my number two husband, he always says two and not through.And I'm like, Yes, I'm through . But I would not say, I would not say till death do us part in our vows because I no longer believe in that. Not that I don't believe in death, I do, but what I'm saying is I don't believe you have to promise someone your whole fucking life, cuz nobody knows that. Yeah. So, yes.Okay. So you met, so you, so you met Kyle. Yeah. What, what did you think of Kyle when you first met him? I thought that he was a very. Labrador of a person, just so much. He was so much, and there were so many emojis and exclamation points, and he, he was really happy and I, I felt like Kyle was a lot. It was, he, he was so laser focused on me, which in some ways was amazing.Yeah. I'd never had someone who was like, You, you're it , you know? I mean, I guess, but not, not in that way. Or maybe I, What I should say is I'd never had someone who was the type of person Kyle was, say something like that. The people who had said it before. Were people who were emotionally unavailable. So when they would say, You, you're it, they, it would be like half of a piece of toast.And I'd be like, Thank you, . Kyle said, You're, it's like, Here is past of Whole Foods. He's like, You done it all. Um, I and I, it was so much, it was so much and a lot, and he was very different than any person I had ever, ever dated. And I was very skeptical. . So skeptical. There was not a dark or brooding. Shred in his entire existence.And that was what I generally was attracted to, was like these, you know, injured, hurt, addict, sexy men. Even if I didn't know that about them, if I was drawn to them nine times outta 10, that, that, that was all in the mix somewhere. Um, Kyle was none of those things. And so the Compass, one of my friends told me, Girl, your picker is broken.So my broken picker was like, Nah, , no thanks. Woo. Where were you in your journey of figuring yourself out at this point, would you say? Um, I was still, I was still dating around. Mm-hmm. . Um, I had had one like longer term relationship right after I had left my husband. Um, and I had ended that relationship. Um, Because that person had a significant drinking problem.I had had no intention of settling down really with any person. But I do think, I do think I did eventually wanna find another partner, but I didn't wanna get married again at all. Why , Why do you, why did you hang out with Kyle? Kyle is like magic. There's no other person in my life that I have ever connected with in the way that I connect to Kyle.He makes me laugh. And it is a, it is a, an, uh, it throws me off balance every time I get, It's a silly way to say it, but I get tickled, right? Like he's still to this day will. Catch, like say things and it catches me off guard. And I am delighted by him. And even though he was nerdy and, um, you know, like I mentioned before, like more, definitely more clean cut and just not, like I said, not anything like the guy that, that guys that I had normally gone for something about him when I was around him, I was relaxed.Mm. And I That's huge. Yeah. I relaxed and I had so much fun and. A, a girlfriend of mine at the time, I remember saying to her like, I don't know. Right? Like, I don't know if he's gonna be alpha enough for me. Like, God, what a conti thing to say. But that is what I said by all means. I was not like fully realized as a person that Jesus at that point in time, and we probably aren't ever, but I didn't know if our chemistry was gonna be enough or if he was gonna be, you know, exciting enough for me or whatever.I actually, this is something that I wanted to talk about because I think we get. So used to the like excitement, like the artists who are, you know, intense and brooding and dangerous and sexy and the excitement and danger of not knowing what's next. Do they love me? Are they playing games with me? Will I ever see them again?You know? Yeah. And when and how. And then you see them again and it's like you feel like you are everything in the earth. Sure. It's a horrible cycle. Yeah. Yeah. It's a cycle. And then, but then it's like that that anxiousness, that a accompanies like the volatility of those types of relationships I think is what we often mistake for chemistry.Like we think that's true. The excitement, We think it's excitement. We think it's attraction, but it's really anxiety. And so then when we meet someone's, and it's, yes, it's from a trauma childhood, a hundred percent. And then when we meet someone romantically who like doesn't. Make us feel those same ups and downs, then we are in this position where we're like, I don't know, like he's great, but I feel like something's missing.Or like, there's no chemistry. And it's like, No, what we're missing is the instability that we are so accustomed to, but we, we, we interpret his chemistry. Yep, Yep. It's, I mean, I don't even think that I really, I really understood all of that, but you just spoke about until, oh, Jesus, I don't know, maybe four or five years, maybe even.I'm not even sure I understood it when I married Kyle. I don't, I'm not sure I could have articulated it that well. Um, I don't think I understood this until, honestly, just a few months ago, , you know, Kyle was stable and safe and probably the biggest difference between him and and everyone else in my life up to that point is that Kyle put all his cards on the table right at the get go and.I think that number one, I didn't know what to do with all that. And number two, the allure of like, who is this person? Or is this, you know, like, like what we talked about with a person who is not fully invested. That was what my normal was. And that there's part of a chase, right? And, uh, you, you learn to evaluate your own self worth with whether or not you succeed in getting this person's attention.Slash commitment a thousand percent, right? Yeah. And so where's the thrill that you're used to with a person who's like, Hey, I'm here all, every bit of me. Let's do this all the time. And you're like,Um, but I had a very, that very good friend that I was talking about, she said, you know, well, , if there's anything at all that you like about him, go on another date. Just go on a date, another date until you are sure that no. Okay. I know, and I could not deny that every time we did anything, I never felt better.I never once had a bad time even, even on like, you know, like awkward dates or whatever, which are inevitable. He still , he still always managed to just, I don't know, be he's, Kyle is exactly who he is. He, there's no pretense with him and he, he is willing to be in his own life a hundred percent and be present and answer questions and.I had never had that before with a person, so it felt overwhelming. Mm-hmm. . But it was also this new land. It it was safe. It was a place to be stable. Yeah. And I could relax. I, I don't know that I ever had relaxed in a relationship before, ever. The, And it built off of that. Right. And I, I think that number one, he was tremendously patient.And, uh, number two, he gave me space when I asked for space. And I was not ready when I met him to be his girlfriend at all. And I said that, and. He wanted to , he was, I think what he said was, I, this is like two or three months after we'd gone out on our first date or something, and he was like, I wanna date you.I wanna date this shit outta you, . And I said, Do you so cute? Do you mean like exclusively? And he was like, Yes, Rebecca, yes. And I was like, No, I can't, I can't do that. I'm not, I'm not ready for that. Um, if it makes you feel any better, you're in first place. And, but I can't, He says, he said later, he was like, That's all I needed to hear.I knew, like, he was like, I could see, he was like, The guys you dated that were terrible people, , he like, knew eventually come to senses. Wow. But I did, I did have to just take my time. And I, I think about, I moved to LA during that time. I lived by myself during that time and we did, We dated other people.Right? I did. Yeah. And not very many, like one or two guys and I not for very long. And I was clear with Kyle. I told him I'm, I'm gonna date people when I go out there. I, you know, if I, if I decide to sleep with anybody else but you, I'll let you know because I feel like that is, you know, respectful practice.But I really think that I was healing as a person and that the time I was taking with myself and making my own choices and living my own life allowed me to slowly see Kyle for the gift that he really was. Um, and as I was in LA in a new place, still being drawn towards the same old type of person at the same time, I was disappointed in them, which had never happened before.Ah, that's interesting. I was like, one guy in particular, I remember. I, I, we'd been making out or something and, and I was like, Are you, I've got a question for you. You know how you are when you're dumb and dating somebody at the beginning. And I was like, Are you ever silly? Do you ever, you know, are you, would you ever call yourself a silly person?And he was like, No, no, never. Oh, bored. And I, yeah, I felt my stomach kind of sink. And what I realized was, Oh, I'm valuing different things now. Like the, the love and delight and, and just spontaneity and silliness that comes with Kyle that I really like. I like it in my life and I like it as a part of me.I don't wanna date somebody who doesn't have that, and that would never have been a quality that was important to me a couple years prior. But I, I don't think I, I would've been able to appreciate it any earlier in life than I did. You know, That's why I say, I, I said yes to Kyle when he when he said, I'll go to the movies with you.Uh, because I had made a commitment to saying yes, not because I looked at him and was like, Oh yeah, hey. Right. That was not it. I remember thinking like, Okay, and I thought he might be gay, and I was like, Maybe you'll be my new gay friend that I go to movies with. Like, I had no idea what I was getting into at all with this person, and it changed my entire life and is the very, the very best thing that has ever happened to me.So, you know, it's him and him knowing himself and giving me space to know myself. When was the point or what was the point where you understood that you were ready to commit fully to Kyle? It's, it's, it was around that same time I was talking about that guy and I, I called my sister because Kyle, we'd been dating now for a year and a half and I still wouldn't.Commit to being, I hated this, but I was like, I'm, I'm not gonna be your girlfriend. I was married for a decade, for Christ's sake. I don't wanna be somebody's girlfriend. Right? Like, that just sounds so dumb. But I kept calling him the guy I'm seeing . And he was like, Yeah, that's really not, Yeah, that's so clearly.I had some hangups. Um, but I called my sister and I was like, I don't know Laura. Like, I like this guy. And he's, you know, the chemistry is just really exciting, but I kind of also feel like we might just burn each other out and, you know, but then I asked him, Is he silly? And he was like, No. And like, being silly was some kind of like disease or something.And I, and then Kyle and she, and she said to me, and Becky is what I was called growing up, by the way. So she was like, Becky, look, , there will always be more guys. Okay, Always. But Kyle is not gonna wait on you forever. So you need to just go ahead and decide. , either you're gonna be in a relationship with him and figure out if it works or just stop.And in that moment that sounded very clear to me and made sense. And I was like, Yeah, actually I need to stop waiting to, because I'm scared to see if it will be enough and I need to figure out if it will be or not. And um, so I think it was maybe two days later that he had already, we'd already had a trip planned for him to fly to LA and I told him, Yeah, okay, I want to do this and I wanna see what that means for me.And then we've been together ever since. So, , you took a lot of risks with Kyle, meaning I did like you moved to California and dating other people, and all of the things you just described, you mentioned to me. Phone call that you felt like you had or you had to be okay with losing Kyle. Yes. In order to arrive at a place of trust in yourself.That is hundred percent true. It seems like you always had a lot of trust in yourself, like even from early on, I mean, breaking off your engagement and mm-hmm. leaving your family and your religion and Yeah. Leaving a marriage. Like how do you consistently show up for yourself and have your own back in these moments of hard decisions and moments when maybe other people you're close with think you're making mistake?Um, thank you for saying that. I am not a person who enjoys dissonance or conflict. It's necessary. I've spent a lot of time in therapy learning that you can hold two opposing things at the same time, and they can both very much be true. Um, it is an uncomfortable place for me when something feels wrong inside of me or unjust.It is almost like I cannot even swallow. I can't, My chest gets too tight. I, I don't feel like I can move forward or take another step until I am righted within myself. In the instance when I was young, really young and engaged, I didn't have any good reason to. To break off that engagement except that I didn't want to get married.Well, that right there is a good enough reason, right? But not when you've already bought a wedding dress and you have bridesmaids dresses and you've got the photographer and you've been dating for two years, and you're gonna be missionaries together for the glory of the Lord and da da da. There was a whole lot invested in this relationship and how it appeared, but something didn't feel good and enough to where I was like having panic attacks and I, I was really sick to my stomach a lot of the time, and I, I just couldn't do it.AndI think for me, at least in the two relationships before Kyle, I reached such a pro, sadly, a profoundly dark place in my life that I didn't want. I just, that's wasn't what I wanted my fucking life to be like. I. I did not want to stay in West Virginia. I love West Virginia. I love my, my parents and my friends in my home.And, but I, I have always wanted to experience everything I get my hands on. And, um, I think the deepest part of me knew that that wasn't gonna happen in that relationship. And, and, and I got, I, I, like, I could go into it further, but I got really sick. I weighed 103 pounds. I couldn't eat. I was having panic attacks.It's the first time I started seeing a therapist. And it was because I was trying to force myself into this idea of what was right and good and holy and, you know, and it wasn't for me. And then when it came to leaving my marriage, I was miserable. I was, I was just so fucked up and broken and sad from this square peg, round hole arrangement.And it took so much undoing because I grew up in a place of marriages forever. You don't get divorced. Not unless he's hitting you, right. And even then you might not. And he was a very, he was a good man, quote unquote, right? So I think it'd be nice to say that I knew some secret way to be in tune with myself, but actually I just was so god damn miserable both times that I couldn't keep doing it.And. You know, I suppose there are, there are a couple things, right? So as I'm talking this out, we talked about verbal processing and what do you learn? Mm-hmm. . Um, first one, first engagement. No, I knew I didn't wanna stay at home. That was not my plan. So that was a deep core value in me. Whether I had defined it that way or not.Second marriage was kids. Um, that's probably what did it. Uh, we both wanted kids very much, but we were a mess. My first husband and an I and I wa I was not going to do to my children. What was done to me firmly, firmly made that promise. And so for three years, every New Year's Eve, we made a promise. This is the year we'll get it together.This is the year we'll get our shit together and we'll try for a family. And, and we never could. , and I very, very clearly remember that final New Year's Eve just being out of my body, just thinking like this is done. How much more time am I gonna waste? How much more time am I gonna waste? Because I wanted kids and I wanted them, but I wanted to give them what I didn't have.So I trusted those deep, deep things in myself that were calling out to me. And I don't know if that's helpful to anybody else who's trying to figure it out or not, but that's how it helped. I mean, that's how it felt to me. Yeah. And that's what, That's why Kyle, I think I, I've said before, the way he is, the humor that.It's like he has some sort of special key to a part of me that unlocked this. Like, Oh, right. Things are not so fucking hard. They're not actually, they can be really fun and really easy. And that's not to say that there weren't times of tension, like you mentioned. Like I did have to be willing to let Kyle go.I didn't know from the get go, I knew more, Oh, I still need space here. No, I'm not ready to fucking put a ring on my finger. No. Like things like that that I had to be willing to say. And I guess you, you asked how did I know I'd come that far? At that point, I was in my late thirties and I was like, Nah, this has been working for me.Right. This listening and trusting, so I'm just gonna keep doing it. Yeah. Yeah. That's what you wanted ultimately, it sounds like. Yeah. I, I was so tired of being afraid. Yeah. Afraid that I was making the wrong choice. Afraid that I was making God mad, afraid that I was gonna ruin my life, afraid that, whatever, you know, And I just refused to be afraid anymore.And, and that meant, that actually just meant doing what I wanted to do and facing the consequences, but knowing that I'd be okay. Yeah. Okay. So you guys got married? ? We didHe wore me down. Um, you know, I, we dated for three years before we got married. Much more than five months. He is six and a half years younger than me and had never been married. Yeah. He is younger than me. I didn't, We dated for three years and he moved to LA and, you know, we had this glorious. Grand time and wonderful adventure there.And, um, I wasn't sure that I wanted to get married again because it ended, it had, it was now tied to so much sadness. The idea of it, like my parents' marriage was always fucked, but then my own marriage that I really, really wanted to work did not. And so I, I just really wanted nothing to do with it. And then he like eased me into the conversation and he goes, Well, what if we just had a small, like, private ceremony, not even legal, just in the backyard with close friends.And then he was like, Well, I kind of feel like if we're gonna have kids, we should get married. And then also, my husband's mother had cancer and, and Kyle had never been married. And I just sort, it all just sort of went away and I was like, Fuck it. He can, you know, he wants this, right? Like it's a dream of his, and I'm sure, and I know his mother wanted him to have that experience.And so I was like, whatever , I'll just, I'll just it up. But they, I also, like, I didn't change my name and um, I said, No, I'm not saying till death do you part, like that's, I don't you Kyle, you know that? I don't believe that anything. We just don't know what the future holds. Yeah. Um, and he was like, Great, great, great.I love all of it. He goes, Just let me project the bat signal when we exit after we're married. Can I do that? What? I was like, I know, I forgot that I didn't tell you this. My husband loves Batman. Oh my God, this is amazing. Go on. Is it, is it, Well, Molly, is it, I dunno. Was with a deep undying devotion and the church took down.Is it pyramids or estimates, the like stuff that hangs at the front big wall of the church and one of our friends got a Batman gobo and a big light from one of the studios and we projected the bat signal and played the Danny Elfman Batman thing when we exited the church. Yeah. So he owes me forever. So it might not be until death do you part, but he owes you till death to part was right.Like, and everybody knows this about Kyle, like here's how deep his love goes for Batman. Mm-hmm not only does he have a Batman tattoo, he's got tons of Batman everything. My husband dressed up as Batman and went to Lurie Children's Hospital of his own accord. He knew someone there and would go and talk to the kid, like just to think.He didn't tell people he was doing it. It was just a thing he. That's the man I'm married. I , I, yeah. Adore him. He's amazing. I've only met him once very, very briefly. hardly talked to him at all, but he was a wonderful human being. What a guy. What a guy. Yeah. Yeah. So I, you know, like in the end I'm always like, Okay, fine.Whatever. . Yeah, yeah. Right, Because he's, because he's great. So, and I wanna be real clear, we fight, Okay. Everybody, we fight. I have said horrible things to him. He has said horrible things to me. Every, We have two children now. We're so fucking tired. We barely have sex like that. You know, I, I wanna be really honest.Everything is not like glorious and perfect. Yeah. But I love him. I love him, and he is my partner and. We are, we are honest with each other and we are kind to each other more than we are not. And that is, I I, I didn't know that partnership could be like this. We work really hard on ourselves to bring our best selves to this partnership and now to our kids, like we're in it to win it with these babies.They are, they are our everything. So that means you don't fuck around. Right. It's their life. Yeah. It's their life and you are their safe space. So tell me what part of you, if any, feels settled. Mm-hmm. . And what part of you, if any, feels wanting for more stillsettled. I, I mean, I got my family, right? I got a partner that I love and I. We did ended up having to do ivf. It was a whole thing, but we got two kids. Um, that is settled sometimes. I can't believe that I ended up with this fairy tale of, of things being as good as they are unsettled. It's a given and take.Right? I miss traveling. I miss the freedom of. Kids mostly have hampered that, but like, let's go get a cocktail and get wasted . Right? That doesn't happen anymore. You've wrecked, you wrecked for two days now and you can't parent like that. Spirit of full disclosure, Kyle and I talked like, would we ever be in an open relationship?Is that something that we would ever consider? And I was like, Yeah, I'd consider it. And he was like, No, I would not consider it. . Which probably comes as a surprise to absolutely know one. Do you, do you dress up as Catwoman for him? ? Oh yeah. Molly, have I have? Uh, yeah, it's photo evidence nonsense. Oh my God.Thank you for answering that very hard question. Um, I'm, well I guess I'll just ask you this because we talked about it earlier. What, through this conversation, what have you learned about yourself? Um, I think. The thing that sticks out and you ask me like, how have you always trusted yourself?I, I have a lot of thought swirling around that. Um,because I feel for so long that I didn't trust myself. In fact, I was taught not to trust myself. What I was taught is that we are inherently evil and that our desires are always gonna be sinful. And that what you have to do is learn what God wants for your life and learn what, what God's path is. And that is so profoundly damaging to a human being to say, No, don't trust yourself cuz what you want is probably wrong.And I think that's why I stayed in certain situations for so long. , even though I knew I didn't like it, I didn't know how to justify my own feelings. So maybe just remembering that I am capable of more than I really, I don't ever view myself the way that you described just now. Um, I always feel a lot more scared and fragile and bruised than I guess it appears.Right. And trying to bring those two things together, right. What I'm capable of and what I've been through. And then also recognizing that sometimes I stilla am am as lost as the next person, you know, And that you'll get through that. Yeah. Cuz you have before. Sure. Sure. Yes. . Yes. And when it feels like shit, just know that this is just the time for feeling like shit. You know? I think I mentioned this to you in one of our phone calls, but it stuck with me and it stuck with me when I was going through my divorce.But, um, when a caterpillar goes into its cocoon, it actually liquefies its whole body does before it reemerges as a butterfly, it literally turns to goo its whole self before the metamorphosis. Metamorphosis. And I forget which author, you know, wrote about that, but, but that there are times in our lives when we are goo and you are gonna feel like goo, like shit, like just a, a mess, a glob of a human.And that's, I think I'm in that phase being a parent of two young children. You know, mid post pan Pandemic pandemic. Where are we at now? Who the fuck knows? Um, 44 years old in my career where the value is on 24 year olds, right? Like there's a lot of my aging parents there. There's a lot of new territory for me right now.Um, and I am, like I said, I am tired. Um, and just remembering that feeling like this is, is literally an essential, if not the most essential part of the transformation. So, Well said. Someone else said it, but I'll repeat it. , No. Whatever.I think about it a lot though. I'm like, Oh, I'm due right now. I'm, I'm, I'm a mess right now. And that is just, I always ask people to introduce themselves in the, in the beginning, however you introduce yourselves. And I'm curious, without using titles such as actor, wife, or mother or whatever, how would you define your identity?I am Rebecca Ward, A lover of people and words, and tastes and sounds and smells. I cannot wait for every new adventure. I, I always used to say that you can't have, that You can have everything. Yes, you can. You may not be able to have it all at the same time, but you can have everything. I don't like it when people tell me no.So . Okay, good. I'm glad that you said that. Sure you can. Thank you. Thank you. I needed to hear that good. Yeah. I mean, you know, it, it, there's no limitations. What is it that I think Deepak Chopra always talks about the field of limitless possibilities. We live in a field of limitless possibilities. Yes. I, I like just thinking about that and then taking a deep breath.There's something inherently hopeful that goes along with that statement, you know? Yes. I love that. I feel like that's the, the whole point and theme of this entire podcast. Yeah. Yes. Yeah, things will come out of the woodwork that you never expected. My nickname for Kyle is Left Field because that's exactly where he came from.Thank you to David Ben Perra for Sound Engineering. Dan Daven for music, David Harper for artwork. I'm Molly Cider. I am This age is produced by Jellyfish Industries. 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En este potente episodio, Rox Frontini comparte su experiencia de transformación personal, que ocurrió luego de despertar un día con la mitad de su rostro paralizado y su sistema nervioso colapsado. A su vez, el Terapeuta en Biodescodificación Alex Vales nos comparte valiosas herramientas a la hora de redireccionar nuestra vida hacia lo que en verdad queremos ser. ¡Disfruta y Comparte Tacones Sabios !
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Do you feel like your creativity has been suppressed under the weight of all the “must-dos” in your life? Then this week's interview with Faigie Kobre might just be the inspiration you need to dust off your paint brushes, your sketchbooks, your musical instrument or your pottery wheel, and reignite that creative spirit in your midlife years!Faigie lives in New York and is a mother of 6 children and grandmother to many! She works with women who love art but, don't feel creative due to earlier negative art experiences, Through her workshops, Faigie helps these women reignite their creativity by introducing them to the magical medium of alcohol inks, which are vibrant, fluid and forgiving and which make everyone who uses them feel like an artist.During our conversation, we talked about whole creativity is something that is often neglected in our lives, and how midlife can be the perfect time to reignite it, due to us having more space in our lives now that we are through the child-raising years. We also touched on how we need to change our inner conditioning that tells us that anything creative or artistic is “frivolous” and not worth doing. Faigie in passionate about seeing women reignite their creativity and shares many key thoughts including:•How you don't have to be born with a talent for drawing to become an artist.•How alcohol inks can be the perfect medium to help you reignite your creative side.•How taking the time to be creative can fuel your soul.Get in touch with Faigie here: •At her website: www.creativityreignited.com •On Facebook: www.facebook.com/creativealcoholinkingEnjoyed this episode of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast?I would be so grateful if you could leave a 5 star review at Apple – this way the podcast is boosted and found more easily!Cat xPS: Want to continue the conversation? Join me daily in Rocking Midlife® – the FREE group for women over 40 who want to ROCK their midlife season! https://www.facebook.com/groups/RockingMidlife
My guest in this episode of Midlife Schmidlife is New York Times and USA Today's best-selling author, Jane Porter. She's written over 70 romances and women's fiction novels has had 3 of her books turned into Movies of the Week, started a publishing company at forty-in to give writers more opportunities, and now at 58 works placing Tule Publishing stories with film producers. In our conversation, some highlights we spoke about: Jane shares her journey of becoming a writer, including the many times she could have given up but didn't. How menopause affected her creativity. The shift she made in her career in her 40s and why. How women should be supporting one another. Her take on being happy (hint - you have to choose it!) Jane believes you're never too old to reinvent yourself or create the life you want. I know you will love our conversation! You can learn more about Jane, her books and her publishing company at: JanePorter.com. Want your own Midlife Ta-da? Join the mailing list by clicking here. You'll receive podcast episode updates, inner circle community invites plus biweekly confidence-boosting motivation.
While I have pursued many “big” projects and taken on risks head-on, there are still many things that I hold myself back from because of fear. Sometimes, it's because I don't feel ready. The worst is when I hesitate because “who do I think I am that I could pull this thing off?”Recently, a good friend did one of these challenging public-facing projects. I had front-row seats and witnessed her move from idea to full execution and was so impressed that I asked her to chat about it when it was overI wanted to learn from her experience, not so much the technical “how did you do it”. Rather, it was more about the mental and emotional “how did you do it” aspects of it.If there's a project you're thinking of undertaking and you're somewhat paralyzed with fear or wondering if you have what it takes or why in the world you even think you can do it, this episode is for you.ABOUT MY GUEST:Yvonne Marchese is a photographer and the host of the Late Bloomer Living Podcast. Early this year, she hosted the Midlife Uprising Summit – a gathering of women committed to busting through their Midlife Funk and rocking the next chapter of life.The summit consisted of 30 speakers and was attended by over 300 participants. Today, she has transitioned that initial gathering to a community of midlife women who continue to inspire and cheer each other on, share stories and take bold action together.In this conversation, Yvonne and I deconstructed her experience – from the initial seed of an idea to the finish line. We talked about some of the challenges she faced, where and how she got support, and some of her lessons learned.For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Con este episodio 28, Inauguramos la temporada 2 de Tacones Sabios, y le damos la bienvenida a Rox Frontini, quien será la nueva presentadora de este ciclo 2022. Episodio tras episodio, Rox Frontini estará contigo conversando, compartiendo su sabiduría, sus vivencias y sus talentos, y en este episodio en particular, nos propone un mano a mano con Vero Mezzini sobre el valor de ser auténticas. ¡Te esperamos!
If I were ever granted a do-over, one thing I would do differently is to take my well-being seriously.Sadly, my well-being did not show up on my list of priorities when I was in my 20s, 30s, or even early 40s. In fact, I had previously confessed that the stupidest thing I ever said was, “I'll sleep when I'm dead.Thankfully, some level of wisdom prevailed and I no longer think that way. Somewhere along the way, I learned the importance of self-care and about putting my well-being on my list of prioritiesThat's why I'm so excited to host this conversation with Ellen Kocher and Dominique Ben Dhaou here on the podcast.Ellen and Dominique are the powerhouse duo behind Wake-Up, Shake Up, Thrive and the co-authors of the book, “Wake-Up, Shake-Up, Thrive! How to Lift Up your Life in Your 50's and Beyond”Ellen and Dominique met at a conference where Dominique was a featured speaker. They hit it off, with their mutual love of good food and fine wine, and most importantly, their passion for supporting individuals and organizations to conquer age 50+ demographic challenges.In this episode, Dominique and Ellen gave me a preview of their book and walked me through the five dimensions of well-being in midlife and beyond.ABOUT MY GUESTS:Dominique Ben Dhaou is a Swiss National who has been working in Human Resources leadership roles in international organizations for over 30 years. She has experience in 12 different industries across continents. As the Founder and Managing Director of PointNorth International, she helps professionals and executives reinvent a career that truly fits their experience, values, skills and purpose. Her passion for untapped potential goes far beyond conventional human resources practices.Dominique's co-founder for Wake Up, Shake Up, Thrive is Ellen Kocher. Ellen completed her undergraduate work in Economics and Finance and began her career as a Management Consultant. As a seasoned executive and senior manager, she faced the challenges of a busy working lifestyle, sprinting between responsibilities, deadlines, and travel. In 2003, Ellen decided to slow down her hectic job to care for her three children, giving her the opportunity to reassess her career-driven lifestyle. She lost weight and discovered her best new self through nutrition and lifestyle change. DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Why it's important to think of these dimensions as gears The five dimensions of well-being: physical, emotional, intellectual, financial and spiritual Quick actionable steps to incorporate these dimensions into our lives today Why it's literally “never too late” to start For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Are you registered yet for the Build a 7-figure Self-Worth through Image & Style free class? Join me here: https://www.styleguidesociety.com/style Follow me on Instagram: www.Instagram.com/aftonporterstyle Fashion Advisory: Fall 2022 From statement making shoes and jewelry to glittery bags and luxurious scarves, there is an accessory here for every budget and every personal style. A couple of key trends to look for: Shine, metallics, and sparkle: Metallics are the new neutral, so look for gilded shoes, bags, and belts, as well as sequined and bejeweled pieces. Big shoes: Lug soles, platforms, and combat boots add heft and visual interest to fall otufits. Unexpected shapes: From square toed ballet flats to half-moon shaped bags to double belts, there is an unexpected element to many of fall's best pieces. Here, 10 of the best accessory trends of the season. Statement Bangles Metallic Shoes & Bags OTK Boots Neck Scarves Pearls Double Belts Big Hats Platform Mary Janes Curved Bags Hiking Boots
I'm sharing three tips to help you navigate through shopping or cleaning out the closet. With these tips it will help you have fabulous style. Register for my free 5-day Build a 7-Figure Self-Worth through Image & Style class here: https://www.styleguidesociety.com/style Email me if you are ready for a color analysis at firstname.lastname@example.org If you are ready to go through a style coaching program to design your personal style for your next level of success, join ELEVATE. Learn more about ELEVATE here: https://www.styleguidesociety.com/elevate
Have you been the person that everyone has relied on for becoming the best version of themselves professionally and personally?In this episode, I have a conversation with Melissa J. Nixon. Melissa is a wildly inspiring and results-oriented mindset and transformation coach and speaker. She is known for transforming the lives of women leaders and entrepreneurs who are moving to new levels in their life and career. In her coaching and consulting practice, The Courage Company, she helps women leaders have a greater impact by becoming the best version of themselves professionally and personally. Melissa's motto is “I'm not afraid of failure, I'm afraid of regret.” Her desire is the same for other women as she works with them to become the most confident and courageous version of themselves. In this episode you'll also hear:How Melissa started her journey to live a courageous lifeBirthing a God-sized dreamHow to shift your mind from not having enough time for youConnecting the dots of your journeyAnd, health and wellnessTamika's website: www.tamikamctier.comMelissa's website: www.courageouslifeacademy.com
In "Life is in the Transitions," Bruce Feiler writes about life quakes — those times in our lives when we have a massive burst of change that lead to a period of upheaval, transition, and renewal.Following the extensive research he conducted, Feiler concluded that, on average, we go through three to five of these events in our lives. And the average length of a life quake is 5 years.What happened to Karen Randall is one of those life quakes that Feiler was talking about. A huge change event made up of a series of events that touched all areas of her life and pushed her to redefine her self-image.Karen is a transition life coach. She helps people in midlife who have experienced a significant life event that has left them wondering who they are to create and manifest a life that is full of Purpose, Meaning, Passion and Joy. She is multi-passionate and is also an Energy Psychologist, Creative Arts Facilitator, college professor, yoga teacher, and recovering CPA.In this conversation, Karen walks us through the series of events that overhauled her life. We go into the many challenges that she faced during that time.I often say that reinventions are not always “easy and smooth” the way they are portrayed in social media. One of the things I really appreciate about this conversation is that Karen talks about the “messy” parts. We talk about how she coped, what help she received, and how she got herself to the other side.For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Throughout my years as a personal trainer, I've talked to a lot of people over 40 who were trying (unsuccessfully) to lose weight. On episode 555 of the 40+ Fitness Podcast, we discuss the 7 most common weight loss mistakes that people over 40 are making. You can find the full show notes at 40plusfitnesspodcast.com/555.
As we get older, there's a tendency to recognize fewer and fewer personal milestones.As my guest, Dara Goldberg, pointed out, "It's as though once we hit midlife, all growth has stopped." But by not marking and celebrating milestones, we are, in effect, supporting the prevailing narrative out there that we disappear as we age, that it's all downhill from here, and that everything good is in our past — all these narratives that, of course, we are rebelling against.We are inadvertently helping keep those narratives alive by not marking, not celebrating, and not even talking about our milestones.We have a chance and a role to play here, so we can change that. ABOUT MY GUEST:Dara Goldberg is a proud middle-aged entrepreneur, writer, speaker, and Founder of the Lovin' Midlife Movement for Women. She's known for her passion and work to dispel the misconceptions about women's experience of midlife and beyond.She's also well known for her work with pro-age beauty brands to get the rest of the beauty industry to stop pushing the false notion that a woman's beauty declines with age and has an expiration date.In this episode, Dara explains what milestones she is specifically referring to, the difference between event milestones and developmental or growth-based milestones, and how we can support ourselves and others as we get older in celebrating our milestones.This was such an eye-opening conversation for me, and I know you will find it insightful as well.For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
I feel quite jealous whenever I hear tales of women striking out on their own and having incredible solo travel adventures. I wonder who I would be without the thoughts of not being courageous enough or hurting someone else's feelings for a desire to travel alone. Today's guest encourages other women to embark on their solo travel journeys. Yolanda DeLoach finds empowerment and peace in solo travel, camping, and hiking. Her schedule as a hospice/palliative care nurse enables her to have long stretches off to pursue travel and hiking. In the spring of 2021, she became a Thousand Miler after spending a year section hiking the nearly 1,200-mile Ice Age National Scenic Trail in Wisconsin. On long road trips, she enjoys sleeping in her truck, Fiona, and searching for free places to camp. One of her all-time favorite places is Isle Royale National Park in Lake Superior, where she has done solo backpacking. The solo travel experience is exhilarating and offers great capacity for personal growth. She encourages women who want more solo experiences to start in a comfortable place: a walk in a local park, a day trip to a neighboring town, or camping at a familiar campground. Currently, Yolanda is writing a memoir about reclaiming her spirit while section hiking the Ice Age Trail. She shares her advice to women in midlife: "Don't be afraid to try things solo. The most common response women say when they hear about my solo adventures is, "I wish I could do something like that!" You can! Take small steps." You can connect with Yolanda on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/autumnyearshiker And Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/autumnyearshiker Yolanda's Bonnie & Clyde story that is mentioned in this episode can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/autumnyearshiker/posts/pfbid03HoCzfSDpr94K9ED9eh3FWCdEKu72m7KUVhyGgeJkBy7f8MEd8kezeS3BKbqBD8dl Yolanda is one of my few guests who is not an entrepreneur. And I love her spirit and courage for wanting to be on the podcast! I'd also love to hear YOUR story and share it with the Midlife Schmidlife listeners. So head to https://www.midlifeschmidlife.com/guest, and let's get you on the show! Thanks to Goli Nutrition for asking me to be a partner! You can save 10% on your order by clicking through https://go.goli.com/lizapplegate or using promo code: LizApplegate
We've all heard about stories. Storytelling is having its heyday. Everyone is invoking the word so much so that it's beginning to lose its meaning which is what happens when everyone and their uncles use it in every conceivable way.But the way Ronna Detrick talks about our stories — those stories that have shaped our lives — is in a different category altogether.Ronna is a coach, writer, and speaker who focuses on the stories that have shaped women's lives. She helps women reimagine our stories and tell them in ways that invite beauty, wisdom, and the sovereignty that we desire and deserve.Ronna says it's not the stories per se but the way the stories have been told to us that have had a profound impact on our individual lives and in women's lives collectively.Stories like Eve, Cinderella, or Snow White. And, of course, yes, the stories that are more unique to our family of origin.In this episode, Ronna dissects these stories and decodes what about them have such profound impact, how we can begin to recognize and hear how they show up in our lives today, and what we can do to begin the process of reframing and reclaiming our stories.IN THIS EPISODE: How stories passed down from generation to generation, like Eve and Cinderella, have profoundly shaped our lives today How to “listen” to the underlying story The way the story is told versus the story itself Why reframing works How we can begin to reimagine and retell our stories For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
I've been tall all my life and it wasn't until I was older that I actually enjoyed being tall. When I was younger, I longed to be one of the cute short girls. When I rewrote being tall could be graceful and elegant instead of akward, it changed how I walked into a room. How can you rewrite your story? Ready for a private VIP Day with me? Email my team at email@example.com and we will send you the scheduling link. Want more? Join my style coaching group at https://www.styleguidesociety.com/elevate
Most of the time, we try to plan for change rationally and meticulously. We think about what we want to do, where we want to go or end up, and how we want to go there. But there's something to be said about serendipity. For opening ourselves to discovering a path we didn't even know was a possibility. For holding plans loosely and setting a different intention than simply to arrive at our original destination. My guest, Diane Diaz, did a version of this when she was laid off from her job in 2008, along with thousands of others who found themselves without a job due to the financial crisis. She already knew — before being laid off — that she wasn't happy with her career. But it was a stable job with a stable income, so she didn't rock the boat. Well, the boat was rocked for her, as it were. And when she was laid off, she took it as a “blessing in disguise”. But the interesting step she took after that was the equivalent of going to the train station and seeing what trains were available. Serendipity stepped in, and she found herself a new career, learning new skills and discovering a few things about herself she didn't know about.If you're thinking of making any kind of change in your life, this conversation will inspire you and maybe even help you find some courage to go with the unknown to find what's truly possible.For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Do you find it hard to talk to your kids about fitness, eating healthy or their body image? As a mom I find it very challenging and it was one of my biggest motivators when it came to creating a permanent lifestyle change and getting off the diet-all-or-nothing-roller coaster. I didn't want my kids too see me obsessed and afraid of foods. I DID want them to see me choosing foods that keep me healthy and make me feel good. I coach women everyday that have been restricting and dieting for 30-40 years, trying to feel better about their bodies and look skinnier since they were kids and it's just getting worse with social media, filters and plastic surgery.It's time to stop eating or not eating for weight loss and learn what our bodies need to be healthy and thrive. Thank you to our partners:Live Your Best Life CBD Productshttps://gogetem.greencompassglobal.com/ Having trouble sleeping at night? Try SLEEP BOOSTemilymurphycoaching.com/sleepboost Rachel Roach Realty with Coldwell Bankerwww.rachelroachrealty.com Epic Paddle Adventureswww.epicpaddleadventures.com After Body Mealswww.afterbodymeals.com Download my FREE resources at gogetemcoach.com
This week's episode of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast features the vibrant Lori Staiz sharing about the power of meditation and gratitude - especially at Midlife!Lori is the CEO of Zen Rabbit and host of the podcast “Fine is a 4-Letter Word.” She's an award-winning writer, speaker, and broadcaster and offers a transformational program: "F*ck Being Fine," which was inspired by the experience of leaving her own 22-year marriage. Through it, she guides business professionals who are finished living in a dumpster fire, to a place of unprecedented clarity, peace, and productivity. Using a collaborative approach, she's teaching the world to be grounded and centred, which leads to improved relationships, increased sales, and better overall health.Lori and I had a fabulous time talking all things meditation and gratitude, and covered a number of points, including:1.How a daily meditation practise can positively impact every area of your life. 2. How there is no "one size fits all" way of meditating. 3. How meditation is not the sole realm of "woo woo" people, but is a practise with scientifically proven positive results including improved focus, energy, relationships, and health.4. How gratitude can positively reframe negative experiences in your life.Tune in and enjoy the conversation. Lori is a fabulous lady and I know you'll be inspired to start meditating today!You can find Lori here: https://zenrabbit.com/Lori's group can be found here: https://zenrabbit.com/f-being-fine-group/Enjoyed this episode of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast? Please subscribe and hit that notifications bell! I'd also love have you join me and thousands of other incredible women in the Rocking Midlife® Community for women over 40 who are determined to ROCK their midlife years and beyond HERE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RockingMidlife
the best decision is to quit, stop, or leave something—whether a job, relationship, city, etc. Maybe it's a situation that just isn't worth your effort anymore and you need to cut your losses and find something better.But how can you tell when you should keep going and overcome your obstacles or when you should stop wasting time on something that won't work?We listed down 6 reasons quitting can make you a winner on our latest podcast.Support the show
This week I'm answering a question from a listener. She asks, "How to dress casual over 40 without trying to look 20" Afton shares three ways you can dress stylish over 40 that matches your sophistication now without it looking like your trying to look 20. Have a questions? Email firstname.lastname@example.org Apply to work with Afton here: https://hueandstripe.com/f/zUEwq
Ever wonder why our image matters so much for our success? Today on the podcast I'm sharing the first session of Elevate Your Style, my 3-day online event (get yourself in here), where we dove deep into our image and style and how we can start defining our style. Ready to create your personal style and an iconic life? Tune in. EPIDOSDE RESOURCES Join my FREE 3-day live event- Elevate Your Style Join the extended journey to design your personal style & image inside my style coaching group, ELEVATE . TEXT: (844) 760-0671 the word STYLE, and your style personality you resonate with.
There's no denying that things are getting a lot tougher these days, what with pandemics, supply chain issues and the cost of living. It's particularly worrying for those of us in our 40s, 50s and 60s as we wonder if we'll be able to support ourselves in our senior years. Thankfully, while there are lots of things we can't control, there is one that we can, and on today's episode, I'm going to give you 4 reasons why you should start a Midlife Side-Hustle!As a veteran of many a side-hustle – some good, some not so good – I've got plenty of first-hand experience with what it takes to start something from scratch on the side, while holding down a job or being a hands-on mother. Tune in to hear my 4 reasons - they might not be what you expect, and if you have some other reasons, let me know! Grab your FREE ebook "The Ultimate Midlife Side-Hustle Guide" featuring 30 fab side-hustles here: http://www.yourmidlifesidehustle.com/Check out my published books here: https://amzn.to/3A2XoKu
It's our one year anniversary of the Style Guide Society podcast!! We are celebrating with an Elevate Your Style free 3-day class. Go right now and register here ---> https://www.styleguidesociety.com/style This episode is all about why you would want to elevate your style even if things seem to be pretty good right now in your life, work and wardrobe.
The idea of seeking and getting help has become more acceptable in society, in general. More people today are open to talking about their experiences. And the stigma for getting professional help has greatly been diminished, if not entirely eliminated.There has been an explosion in the field of coaching over the last few years. And the result of all these newly-minted coaches is that getting coached, in all aspects of life is now relatively accessible for more people. So, the upshot is professional help is more accessible, and more people are getting help. If there's an area in your life that you are having difficulty with, chances are, you'll be able to find someone who can help you address or overcome the issues.The challenge with more options is that we now must decide what kind of help we need. Who do we see for what kind of problem? How do we select, and what can we expect from the experience?All that is the subject of today's episode and to help me understand the landscape, I've invited Nicole Lewis-Keeber who is just the perfect person to chat with about these things!Nicole is in a unique position to shed some light here because she is a licensed clinical social worker - who worked for many years as a therapist. Then, she went on to get different kinds of coach training and became a mindset coach. So today, she is both! Although she's directed her professional work toward the business landscape and her clients call her the “business therapist”.IN THIS EPISODE: How therapy differs from coaching What kind of help you can expect from a therapist vs a life coach The intersection of life coaching and business coaching, and where the lines get blurred The limits within these fields Nicole's tips for selecting the right professional help For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Change, as we all know, is the one thing that's constant in our lives. Fellow midlifers will likely agree with me that change doesn't stop when we reach midlife. If anything, it feels as if we're dealing with change all the time.Some of these changes we deliberately introduce into our lives, such as when we intentionally change our lifestyle or eating habits, for example. Many of the changes are externally driven. But often, we know about these ahead of time such that we can plan and ease into the changes over time.But sometimes, the changes are sudden. Or they happen sooner than we thought, and we are caught unprepared. What do we do then? That's what I talk about in this episode.For the full show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Have you ever started a summer when you go to put on your shorts and they were too small? Every. Single. Pair. This week I'm talking about what to do about it and how it can affect our perspective and our attitude, as well as how productive we are. Let's look fantastic this summer together. Come join me! Want help creating your personal style by design? Learn more about my style coaching group here: https://www.styleguidesociety.com/elevate
Ready to reclaim the meaning of fitness in midlife? Let me intorduce you to Cheryl Whitelaw a Move More Without Regrets coach, teacher, and CEO of Peace and Power Movement Services. She supports her clients to learn through their movement through body-based coaching, Mindful Movement classes, and hands-on work to support the functional activity. Her clients share a desire to live with vitality, keep going as they age, and often recover from life-changing conditions like MS, Fibromyalgia, or brain injuries. She found true joy in movement when she started training aikido at age 46. Currently, she is preparing for her black belt test. We have a deep and meaningful convo about fitness in midlife, war, social injustice, power and peace in this impactful episode. You can find out more about Cheryl and free monthly online workshops at https://www.kindpower.ca/awareness-through-movement-classes/ Cheryl is also offering 5 free online discovery sessions for Midlife Schmidlife listeners to help them learn how to move more efficiently with less stiffness or discomfort. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=16538138&appointmentType=29112047
Episode 84 and Wendi and Dfernando's guest interview is actress and producer Mindy Cohn. Mindy Cohn was just another student at Westlake School for Girls in Holmby Hills, California when actress Charlotte Rae discovered her while she, the legendary Norman Lear, and the producers of a new NBC sitcom THE FACTS OF LIFE were touring the school as research. Mindy was cast as Natalie Green and portrayed the character for the entire 9 Season run of the series: 1979 to 1988, as well as the few NBC TV Movie Specials.Mindy continued her acting career outside of THE FACTS OF LIFE. In 1984 she had a leading role as Stockard Channing's daughter in TABLE SETTINGS. In 1986, she appeared in THE BOY WHO COULD FLY as next-door neighbor Geneva and in 2010 as the lead character Violet in Casper Andreas' VIOLET TENDENCIES.On television, Mindy had guest appearances in other popular TV shows, including CHARLES IN CHARGE (playing Buddy's sister Bunny, a young alcoholic in the 1988 episode "Bottle Baby"), and two guest appearances in Season 2 of the cop drama 21 JUMP STREET (playing Rosa in the 1987 episode "Christmas In Saigon" and the 1988 episode "Chapel of Love"). In 2004 Mindy appeared as Maggie in the WB comedy THE HELP, and appeared on the Season 8 premiere of TLC's WHAT NOT TO WEAR. She has also appeared on HOT IN CLEVELAND, THE SECRET LIFE OF AN AMERICAN TEENAGER, THE MIDDLE, and was the voice of Velma Dinkley in the SCOOBY DOO franchise from 2002 to 2015.Mindy will be seen in the upcoming APPLE TV+ series DELACORT, opposite Kristen Wiig, Allison Janney, Laura Dern, and Ricky Martin.A strong supporter of the LGBTQ community, she has a degree in Cultural Anthropology from Loyola Marymount University, and is a founding member of the weSpark Cancer Support Center.Click here to watch Mindy's LIVE COMEDY STORYTELLING: What Happens in Vancouver, which Wendi references during the interview. Also on Episode 84, Dfernando and Wendi are back from their little extended hiatus and Dfernando shares his news that he is relocating from New York City to Long Beach, California. There is no age limit to starting a new chapter in one's life. And Wendi shares being a guest on Sandra Bernhard's SiriusXM radio show SANDYLAND, Melissa Rivers' podcast GROUP TEXT, the Season 10 finale of THE GOLDBERGS, Disneyland, and attending a Steely Dan concert and raving about their opening act Snarky PuppyOn THE RIPE REPORT, Dfernando has the new Showtime limited series THE FIRST LADY, starring Oscar winner Viola Davis as Michelle Obama, Gillian Anderson as Eleanor Roosevelt, and Michelle Pfeiffer as Betty Ford, and Wendi shares her new love of the classic Converse Chuck Taylor Platform Heel version, and the new Amazon Prime reboot of the classic late 80s/early 90s Canadian sketch comedy show THE KIDS IN THE HALL. Watch Wendi and Dfernando and their TEAM GENERATION RIPE: Greg Covey, Shelley McLendon and Ponciana Badia on Season 7 Episode 2 of CELEBRITY FAMILY FEUD - now on ABC OnDemand and Hulu and on the GENERATION RIPE website. Follow us on our Instagram:Wendi McLendon-CoveyDfernando ZarembaGENERATION RIPE... and our guest Mindy Cohn, her Twitter, and listen to her podcast MONDAYS WITH MINDY. Remember to subscribe to GENERATION RIPEAnd rate & leave us a review by clicking HERE!Visit Dfernando Zaremba's website: dfernandozaremba.com
We are at the tail end of this series of episodes where we've been looking into the topic of Un-retirement. And to close the series, I invited my friend Mary Beth Simon, whose post-retirement plans you heard about in a previous episode.I sat down with Mary Beth to chat and compare notes about life post-retirement. Since both of us did end up starting small businesses of our own, we talked a little bit about the experience of launching our businesses. But most of the time, we were talking about the kind of people we've become after we left our corporate life.ABOUT MY GUESTAfter 30+ years in corporate financial services, Mary Beth Simon now uses her strategic talents as a keynote speaker and to coach entrepreneurs and individuals on creating their contingency plans to empower their second-in-command to keep business and life flowing smoothly in an emergency.Mary Beth founded Niche Partnership Consulting because her clients' transformations inspire her. She believes that the combination of continuous learning, growth, and change is the fountain of youth and recently became a certified Les Mills BodyFlow instructor.In this episode, Mary Beth and I compared notes about how life after our corporate jobs “matched up” with our plans, the personal changes we've gone through since we've left the structured life of corporate America, and Mary Beth's plans for the future.For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Many midlifers plan on starting a business post-retirement. Starting a business of any kind is always going to be a climb. There's usually a significant learning curve involved. And when you've been an employee most of your life (and don't have any business experience) this learning curve can be even steeper.I say this not to discourage anyone but to highlight the importance of doing our homework and walking into this new adventure with eyes wide open — even if the thing we want to do are the stuff of our dreams!Converting those dreams into reality requires research and planning so that the dream doesn't turn into a nightmare.ABOUT MY GUEST:Diane Tarshis is the Founder and Principal of Startup Distillery, a global consulting firm that has been helping entrepreneurs launch successful businesses and secure funding for more than 20 years.She works with clients who want to reduce their overall risk and compress their startup timeline so they don't waste time when it comes to replacing their income. It's about getting it right from the start.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why preparing a business plan is REALLY important, regardless of business type Different kinds of business plans (it doesn't have to be a 30-page document!) The most important form of research you can do (and it's free!) Key questions that you want to be able to answer in your business planning For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com
Audrey Mayer, an ecologist with the US Fish and Wildlife Service, is on the pod today! She was a professor living in the UP of Michigan with her son, Lucas, until she recently left her job and she and Lucas moved to New Hampshire. It turns out even if you're working in the highest echelons of academia, you still might have feelings of doubt, failure, and regret from time to time. Listen now to hear Audrey's story of change, plus a short about me slinging pizza after college. (Peter, if you're out there, hi.) Enjoy!
This episode is part of the special series on Un-Retirement.Damion Lupo is a bestselling author in personal finance and money thinking, host of the Financial Underdogs podcast, owner of 30+ companies, and founder of his own martial art – Yokido®.If there was one thing I remembered about our conversation, it was that Damion explained why he hated the word retirement. As I revisit this episode now, in the context of the Un-retirement series, I see how it's even more relevant than ever and his points even more urgent for us midlifers to consider.In this episode, Damion and I talked about the problem with the traditional retirement mindset, what wealth is and isn't, and the idea of “booking it” or how not to postpone doing things until someday when we retire.For all the links and show notes, head on over to http://secondbreaks.com