Good Dads Podcast

In this episode of The Intentional Dad, hosts J. Fotsch and Jason Hynson, with Victory Mission, welcome guest Jim Robinette to explore what discipline really means in parenting. Drawing on his military background and years of fatherhood, Jim reframes discipline as more than just consequences—it's about leadership, personal responsibility and helping kids build self-awareness. The trio emphasizes that effective discipline is rooted in consistency, fairness and modeling behavior. Jim reflects on how different approaches worked for his two children, highlighting the importance of understanding each child's temperament. Discipline, they argue, should be less about punishment and more about guiding kids to make good choices, fostering agency and creating structure where children feel both safe and free. They also discuss the need for parents to discipline themselves and the power of open communication, accountability and humility in family dynamics. Episode Highlights [07:59] "You are responsible for your own actions… think about what you're doing and what's going to be the result." [09:20] "Giving the kids agency… they are going to live their lives. We as parents cannot live our kids' lives." [12:50] "You're just deciding in these circumstances you're going to check your brain… parenting has to be tailored to the kid." [14:25] "They expect their parents to be fair." [15:44] "Things are caught not taught… they're going to do what you do not what you say." [21:29] "They're responsible for what they think and what they do and what they do reflects what they think." Resources

In this heartfelt episode of Hot Topics, hosts J. Fotsch and Will Cox sit down with Zach Troutman—coach, community leader and founder of Follow the Leader—to discuss the impact of intentional fatherhood, mentorship and vulnerability. Zach opens up about growing up without his dad, losing his best friend to suicide and how these experiences shaped his mission to provide stability, openness and support for his children and others. Key points include the power of transparency in fatherhood, how grief can be channeled into advocacy and mentorship and why dads must model emotional awareness for their kids. Zach also shares how his approach to parenting—screen-free weekdays, consistent structure and honest conversations—helps build strong, emotionally resilient sons. Through his coaching and suicide prevention work, he inspires others to love deeply, lead intentionally and step in as father figures where needed. Episode Highlights [02:56] – “Being their dad has opened me up because I don't want any of the dirtiness inside of me to get on them.” [05:57] – “I wanted to keep Adam's name alive… to create safe spaces for students, adults, businesses.” [10:39] – “Sometimes people don't understand—like, I can't meet you where you're at if I don't know where you're at.” [17:58] – “God, if they make a mistake today, let it be their mistake and not because they followed someone.” [25:23] – “I don't want my kids to ever think their Blackness is a handicap. I'm like, no—it's a superpower.” [30:54] – “It is literally set up for us to be mediocre parents... but being a great father, you gotta be intentional.” Resources

In this inspiring episode of Good Dads Great Communities, Dr. Jennifer L. Baker and J. Fotsch speak with two outstanding leaders in rural Missouri: Sean Vanderbeck from the Ava chapter and Jill Garrett from the Texas County chapter. As two of the three winners of the Good Dads Great Communities of the Year Contest, these chapters are recognized for their commitment to fatherhood in small towns often overlooked by larger initiatives. Sean and Jill reflect on their challenges, share their triumphs and describe the creative ways they've engaged dads across their regions. From providing home-cooked meals to building trust through personal connections these leaders showcase how local relationships, accountability and perseverance can spark cultural change. Whether it's organizing parenting classes or rallying church support, the episode offers a heartfelt look at how Good Dads flourishes in tight-knit communities with big hearts and bigger dreams. Episode Highlights [00:28] “They're key figures in their great community. Ava, Missouri won our first place contest … and Texas County won $2,500.” [04:43] “I just noticed that it was always moms that came … and I thought, where are the dads?” [05:20] “We haven't even in our larger communities including Kansas City had that many people show up the first night.” [11:24] “ There was a time when I just wanted to be a good dad … and then the joy that comes from it is nothing compared.” [18:00] “A lot of times people just overlook those challenges … and yet you do. I mean, 29 men showing up—that's something.” [18:48] “By the time church was over, all 16 [weekend meal slots] were full. That got the community behind us.” [27:42] “Even if each home doesn't have a good dad, if you have more good dads they'll mentor those kids.” [29:27] “Every community has people that want to love on others—they're just scared to do it. Resources

In this episode of Hot Topics, hosts J. Fotsch and Will Cox welcome Dr. Shelby Smith, a family physician and father of three, to explore the essential yet often neglected topic of self-care for dads. With honesty and warmth, Dr. Smith shares how his personal and professional experiences have transformed his understanding of burnout, mindfulness and the importance of being present—mentally and emotionally—for his family. From engaging in early morning exercise and guided meditation to establishing digital boundaries and learning to say no to overcommitments, he provides practical strategies for achieving balance amid the chaos of parenting.   Key points include how situational stress affects both mind and body, why parents must protect their presence as much as their provision and how saying “no” is an essential part of family wellness. The conversation underscores that while balance may never be perfect, intentionality, vulnerability and supportive friendships can help dads shift from reactive to reflective parenting. Episode Highlights [03:08] – “We're never going to get this thing right… but we're trying to do the best we can.” [07:12] – “Tell me what happened between then and now… and inevitably there's going to be some change in a situation.” [10:54] – “You have to take care of yourself first before you can be there for everyone else.” [18:28] – “Our kids aren't going to remember the toys we got… they're going to remember this time.” [20:13] – “Each Friday I put on an auto-reply… I don't check my email on the weekend.” [27:36] – “You only say yes if it's a ‘hell yes.'” [31:59] – “If I can think about mindfulness every morning when I wake up, it'll be an okay day.” [33:18] – “It just takes more effort to cultivate friendships… but it's so important.” Resources

Infant Health with Family Connects In this episode of The Difference a Dad Makes, hosts J. Fotsch and Brian Mattson talk with Jordan Coiner from the Springfield-Greene County Health Department about the crucial role dads play in infant health. Jordan shares personal stories from his own parenting journey and introduces the Family Connects program, a home-visiting initiative offering support from registered nurses to every new family in Greene County. The conversation centers on how dads can stay curious, ask questions and get involved early in their child's life—especially when navigating sleep deprivation, changing family dynamics and emotional overwhelm. The discussion also highlights the overlooked mental health needs of new fathers. Jordan opens up about the postpartum challenges his family faced and encourages dads to prioritize self-care and emotional openness. Resources like Mental Health 417 and peer support are emphasized, as well as using reputable sources like the American Academy of Pediatrics to navigate conflicting parenting advice. The episode sends a strong message: Dads matter deeply and seeking help is a strength—not a weakness. Episode Highlights [06:32] “It's okay to not know the answer… being willing to ask the question is the biggest thing.” [07:13] “Every newborn in Greene County has access to our nurses… they'll come visit you in the home.” [14:37] “Talk to another friend of mine who is a dad as well… you realize you're not alone.” [17:10] “If I'm not taking care of myself, I can't fully take care of my family.” [18:39] “Health outcomes improve when dads are involved… for mom and baby.” [19:48] “Don't just trust what someone says on TikTok—go do your own research.” [25:17] “Hey man, you good? Let's have a conversation. Let's talk about our mental health.” Resources

In this episode of The Intentional Dad, hosts J. Fotsch and Jason Hynson sit down with guest Dyllan Dale, a New Pathways for Good Dads graduate. They unpack the challenges dads face when helping their kids navigate peer pressure and self-esteem. Through honest conversation and real-life stories, the trio explores how intentional parenting means being present, empathetic and proactive—especially when kids are influenced by their peers or struggling with their own worth. They discuss the cultural pressure on dads to provide, the emotional weight of comparison fueled by social media and the importance of saying "no" with love. Whether it's confronting unrealistic expectations, teaching kids it's okay to be different or reflecting on their own adolescence, the hosts highlight the value of listening, guiding and building trust through tough conversations. Episode Highlights [01:01] "This is some hard stuff. I've got to do this… the intentional part is the actual actions." [04:44] "I have to be intentional… say, 'I'm going to pick you up and we're just going to go hiking—nothing else.'" [07:27] "The culture nowadays pressures us dads to be such providers… if we can't give our kids everything we feel like we've failed." [9:55] "Going back to your family goals… sometimes that means the one-off outliers don't get the phone." [13:50] "That fear rises back up in me… but I have to say, 'That was a whole other lifetime ago.'" [21:41] "You're dealing with fear, anger… but you're also trying to remember what you needed at that age." [26:10] "I always tell them: it's okay to be different. You're going to grow up and be your own person." [30:49] "Maybe the goal with peer pressure is just to be available… to be a listening voice and a guide." Resources

In this heartfelt episode of Good Dads Great Communities, Dr. Jennifer L. Baker and J. Fotsch welcome longtime friend and original Good Dads board member Paul Windisch. Together, they reflect on the organization's 10-year evolution from a vision to a community-wide movement supporting fatherhood. Paul shares how being part of the early days—and watching the mission grow—shaped his perspective as a father and community member. The conversation highlights the importance of starting where you are, engaging dads from all walks of life, and seeking out “spark plugs”—people who carry the vision forward. Whether you're building a new initiative or rethinking community involvement, this episode is a guide to aligning personal identity, passion, and purpose in ways that make lasting impact. Episode Highlights [02:11] "We decided on the logo. We decided on the name. It was amazing. But I could not have envisioned ten years down the road at doing what it's doing." [05:51] "Sometimes we live inside our own little circles and don't really think about the things that affect others. That opened my eyes." [10:58] "That's kind of the vision of Good Dads—just to pause. Because our kids are always watching." [13:35] "I was talking with dads and learning how I could slow down. It was convicting, honestly." [15:20] "We need all kinds of voices—media people, finance, construction. Everyone brings a unique way to connect with dads." [25:44] "It's not about checking boxes. It's about passion. It's the heart that moves the needle."

In this episode of Hot Topics, the hosts, J Fotsch and Will Cox welcome Dr. Leonard B. Horton III, assistant professor of journalism at Missouri State University, to explore how fathers can foster healthy screen time habits in the digital age. With humor and honesty, the conversation spans early parenting decisions to teen technology use, revealing both the risks and the opportunities that screen-based media present for families. Key points include the importance of modeling healthy tech behavior, understanding the hidden algorithms behind social media and recognizing the emotional vulnerabilities children face in digital spaces. Dr. Horton emphasizes intentional parenting and consistent communication, sharing practical tools like monitored phones, weekly check-ins and family goal-setting to keep kids grounded and connected. Episode Highlights [05:03] – “You give them something to do... and what that does is it goes from 15 minutes and it turns into an hour.” [06:42] – “You can't just give a kid a device and tell them to figure it out. You've got to be hands-on with it.” [12:46] – “Algorithms influence our choices and what we see on social media.” [16:27] – “When you're not included in that group, you're really not included.” [21:16] – “I would get an alert… so I could have a conversation.” [29:53] – “Every Sunday night… no TVs, no phones… what is one goal you have for this week?” Resources

In this episode of The Difference a Dad Makes, hosts J. Fotsch and Diana Dudenhoeffer sit down with Chief Paul Williams to talk about how dads play a vital role in raising safe, responsible kids. With 45 years in law enforcement and personal parenting experience, Chief Williams highlights how an involved father figure profoundly shapes a child's choices and future. He stresses that being a good dad means more than just enforcing rules—it's about being present, playful and supportive. They also tackle modern challenges like cyber safety, helicopter parenting and building independence. Chief Williams offers practical tools including using apps like Life360 and encouraging open dialogue. His “retractable leash” analogy captures the balance of freedom and protection. Above all, the episode delivers a hopeful message: it's never too late to break the cycle and start a legacy of strong fatherhood. Episode Highlights [04:29] “The number one thing that makes a difference in a kid's life is a dad… present, engaged, involved.” [06:48] “Being a good dad is not just being the bad guy… Talk to any of my kids—they'll say their best memories are of dad being the fun dad.” [10:26] “We're seeing that generational impact… I didn't have a father figure, so I'm not a father figure.” [17:22] “Your kids are your responsibility. They need to realize that. If you don't give me access to everything, you're not going to have it.” [20:31] “Parents that take the helicopter approach… are doing their kids a disservice. Kids need to fail, screw up, get better.” [27:13] “We're exposed to more [news] now. Use that knowledge for good—but don't go overboard and lock them up ‘til they're 20.” [32:51] “Think of life as a retractable leash… You give them space but when danger's there, you can reel them back in.” Resources

In this episode of The Intentional Dad, hosts Jason Hynson and J. Fotsch talk candidly about the early days of fatherhood—from sleepless nights to adapting plans and embracing support. With stories from their own experiences raising newborns, the duo highlights the importance of flexibility, presence and being teachable as new dads. They share laughs over chaotic moments, practical tips for managing colicky babies and the reality of emotional ups and downs for both parents. The episode encourages intentional parenting by focusing on teamwork, selflessness and community support, especially during the challenges of raising a baby. Episode Highlights [01:13] "You're just so delusional. You don't know what's going on, and you're like a walking zombie." [07:35] "Tip number one… be teachable. Don't act like you already know it all." [11:07] "Sometimes my needs have to go out the window… showing up is different." [12:59] "Support could be just taking the six-year-old to the circus while mom gets a break." [22:19] "Love is always in the present. Your presence is the most loving thing you can give." [23:59] "You'll sleep eventually. It'll come. All these things pass." Resources

In this inspiring episode, Dr. Jennifer L. Baker and co-host J. Fotsch sit down with Aaron Swanson, General Sales Manager at Springfield Nissan & Kia. More than a business leader, Aaron is a husband and father who understands the power of leading by example. He shares how his workplace has embraced the Good Dads mission—not just financially but through hands-on support and community involvement.   Whether you're launching a fatherhood initiative or looking to partner with local businesses, this episode explores how meaningful partnerships begin with genuine relationships and shared values. Episode Highlights [01:12] "I have twins that are 19… and a 12-year-old. They're the reason why I do all of this." [02:34] "Being a good dad impacts who you are at work. The full circle is great—it builds better employees and stronger communities." [04:08] "Businesses want people who aren't dealing with chaos at home. Supporting fatherhood makes good business sense." [06:12] "  We use our commercials to spotlight causes like Good Dads—it shows we're part of something bigger than just selling cars." [16:01] "You only need one person to get started. Then build from there—one dad, one conversation, one step at a time."

In this episode of Hot Topics, hosts Will Cox and Dr. Jennifer L. Baker discuss the importance of allowing children to experience failure as a tool for growth. They explore how overcoming setbacks builds resilience, decision-making skills and long-term success. Will shares a personal story about his son procrastinating on a school assignment and his initial instinct to step in and "fix" the situation. Dr. Baker provides insights on why failure is a crucial learning experience and how parents can balance support with accountability. They also discuss how financial literacy, responsibility and discipline are best taught through firsthand experience. This episode is a must-listen for parents struggling with when to intervene and when to step back helping their children become strong independent individuals. Episode Highlights [00:46] "Allowing them to fail is more difficult than teaching them to succeed." [02:46] "I stopped and thought—oh my gosh, I'm allowing my child to commit plagiarism. Why am I doing this?" [05:12] "I had to pay for the repairs of my car when I was 16 years old. That changed how I saw responsibility." [11:08] "Give them the chance to fail when the price tag is small." [14:48] "My husband said, ‘Wow, they got places that can do that. You should call and figure it out.' So my son had to solve the problem himself." [16:33] "Years later, my son knew how to handle a snowstorm because he had to learn the hard way before." [22:24] "Children can adjust to different rules in different households—just like they do at school." [24:17] "Michael Jordan, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill—what motivated them? Failure." [25:40] "You're not always going to be there. Let them make mistakes now while it's safe, before they enter the real world." Resources

In this episode of The Difference a Dad Makes, hosts Brian Mattson and Dr. Jennifer L. Baker welcome Paul Baker, an experienced educator and former school principal, to discuss practical ways to build confidence in children. Paul shares insights from his career in education and his experiences as a father, offering real-life examples of how responsibility, chores and perseverance help instill confidence in kids. The conversation explores the value of allowing children to experience challenges, learn from failures and develop independence through everyday tasks. Whether you're a parent looking for strategies to encourage self-reliance or just hoping to understand how confidence is built over time, this episode provides meaningful stories, practical advice and engaging discussions on the importance of resilience in childhood. Episode Highlights [01:49] "I think you have to let them experience things. You have to require things of them. Jennifer and I were always very big on chores and it was a battle, but we stood together." [04:52] "We felt that it was good for children to sweat, to do something boring because there are a lot of things in life that are not fun but have to be done." [08:11] "We let our kids cook. There were some disasters but learning happens in those mistakes." [14:09] "The first time Jack buttoned his shirt by himself, he cried, Jessica cried and I cried. He worked hard for it and that was such a proud moment." [15:39] "There are winners and losers in competition. Not everything ends in a tie and not everybody gets a trophy. Understanding that is part of growing up." [22:07] "It's better to crash and burn in fourth grade than to wait until you're 18 and realize you're not the best at everything." Resources

In this episode of The Intentional Dad, hosts Jason Hynson and J. Fotsch sit down with Herb Cody, a dedicated father from Nixa, Missouri, to discuss how life's challenges shape empathy, resilience and intentional fatherhood. Herb shares his personal journey of navigating fatherhood through life-altering experiences, including his own near-fatal accident and his wife's traumatic brain injury. He explains how he balanced being both a father and caretaker, how his community stepped in to support his family and how he instilled resilience and compassion in his children. This episode is a powerful look at overcoming adversity, staying present as a dad and fostering emotional strength in your children. Episode Highlights [02:39] "I had to be mom and dad while taking care of my wife's recovery. I don't even remember how I did it—I just knew I had to." [05:36] "The community really stepped in. Other parents, friends, even teammates' families—it reminded me that none of us have to do this alone." [07:06] "You never know what someone else is going through. Be there for them. Stand up when you see someone struggling." [10:59] "You can't plan for life-changing moments. You just have to be there, show up, and figure it out one step at a time." [12:14] "We called it ‘Herb-achi Night'—just a fun way to bring laughter into our home when times were hard." [16:04] "I didn't know what to say or do, but I was there. And sometimes, that's enough." Resources

In this episode of Good Dads, Great Communities, Dr. Jennifer L. Baker, founder and Executive Director of Good Dads, and co-host J. Fotsch discuss how to build fatherhood initiatives and strengthen communities through engagement, collaboration, and leadership. Dr. Baker shares how Good Dads started with a simple idea and grew into a multi-chapter organization supporting thousands of fathers. She and Fotsch highlight the importance of identifying community champions, creating safe spaces for dads to connect, and fostering conversations that promote strong family involvement. If you're looking to start or grow a fatherhood initiative in your community, this episode provides practical steps, success stories, and motivation to get started. Episode Highlights [03:08] "Every child has a father, whether or not that child lives with him. But too often, fathers are invisible in community programs." [04:55] "If you look around, you'll likely find that most programs for dads exist only in faith-based communities or probation and parole—not in everyday community spaces." [06:32] "The first step is simple—get dads together in a space where they feel comfortable talking. That alone is missing in many communities." [08:00] "Many men talk about sports and work, but they rarely talk about being a dad. We wanted to change that." [14:39] "We made it okay for dads to talk about being a dad. That was the game-changer." [20:26] "Breaking the cycle matters. Just because you didn't have a dad growing up doesn't mean you can't be a great one." Resources

In this episode of The Difference a Dad Makes, hosts Brian and J Fotsch welcome Rudy Martinez, Director of the Springfield Conservation Nature Center, to explore the role of curiosity, outdoor exploration, and lifelong learning in parenting. Rudy shares how his love for the outdoors influenced his parenting style and how exposing kids to nature sparks curiosity, creativity, and problem-solving skills. The conversation highlights why hands-on experiences matter, how fathers can foster curiosity in their children, and simple ways to get outside—even for families new to outdoor activities. Whether you're an avid outdoorsman or just looking for ways to connect with your child, this episode is packed with practical tips, personal stories, and inspiration for raising curious, resilient kids. Episode Highlights [01:42] "You can see in the eyes of your child when they learn something new—from the moment they're born through their teens." [10:07] "If you just provide the opportunity to be outside, people will start noticing things around them—whether they realize it or not." [12:30] "He got curious because he got to experience. That was the thing—being experiential in nature led to his curiosity moving forward." [14:45] "Children are like sponges—they absorb everything from us. The way we react is the way they may react too." [22:15] "In today's world, everything is preprogrammed. When you go camping, you're forced to slow down and figure things out—how do we fill this time without screens?" [29:34] "We've lost critical reasoning skills in today's society. When you're outdoors, you don't have Google to lean on—you have to figure it out." Resources

In this episode of Hot Topics, hosts J Fotsch and Will Cox sit down with Dr. Kyle John, Medical Director at Arc of the Ozarks, to explore neurodiversity, inclusivity, and early intervention for autism and other developmental disorders. Dr. John explains what neurodiversity is, how early diagnosis impacts long-term outcomes, and why dads often struggle more than moms when their child receives a diagnosis. The discussion also highlights the importance of inclusive education, breaking stigmas, and advocating for neurodiverse children at home, school, and in the community. This episode is a must-listen for parents looking to better understand neurodiversity and how to support children with unique learning needs. Episode Highlights [05:00]"The earlier you diagnose, the better the outcome." [06:56]"Your brain may be structured and function differently, but that's not something to feel bad about." [08:06]"Men struggle to see their kids as flawed... They think, ‘He's just being a boy.'" [14:33]"If I learn about you, I realize we have more in common than differences." [21:51]"Instead of judging, say, ‘That kid's having a hard day. I hope they get the support they need.'" [26:32]"It's not a knowledge-based disorder, it's a performance-based disorder." [31:19]"I love you, but I don't like this behavior. Let's work on it." Resources

In this episode of The Intentional Dad, hosts Jason Hynson and J. Fotsch welcome guest David Anderson, a school counselor, father of three and 2024 Dad of the Year honoree. Together they dive into what it means to instill kindness, responsibility and teamwork in children both at home and in the community. David shares how his experience in the Peace Corps shaped his family's commitment to service, including taking each of his children on a mission trip before they graduate. The conversation highlights how leading by example, fostering gratitude and encouraging responsibility through everyday actions help shape the next generation. Join us for an insightful discussion on how small intentional steps can create a lasting impact on children, families and communities. Episode Highlights [01:50] "My wife is pretty special. She submitted an essay for me, and somehow I got selected as a 2024 Dad of the Year. She probably made me look way better than I really am." [03:41] "When you live in a third-world country for a while, you realize just how blessed you are. It gives you a sense of wanting to spread that and give back." [11:56] "I tell kids if you're only filling buckets when you're doing big grandiose things you're never going to be good at this. It's about the day-to-day small things that make an impact." [13:02] "I think one of the best ways to teach responsibility is to put your kids in sports or activities outside the home. They learn firsthand that hard work and commitment lead to results.” [14:19] "I thought I was helping my sons by making everything a competition, but looking back, I probably created more sibling rivalry than teamwork." Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! Learn more at gooddads.com Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.    

Episode 2: Getting Started - Six Essential Sectors In this episode of Good Dads Great Communities, Dr. Jennifer Baker and cohost J. Fotsch explore the six essential sectors needed to build and sustain a strong Good Dads initiative in any community. As Good Dads expands into new locations, the question arises: How do we bring Good Dads to our town? Dr. Baker shares the key components of a successful community launch and how collaboration across different sectors ensures long-term success. Listeners will learn about the importance of business, faith communities, government, justice systems, social services and education in supporting fathers and strengthening families. With real-world examples from communities already implementing Good Dads, this episode offers insights into how local leaders can take action to make fatherhood a priority. Join us for this informative discussion on creating lasting change and building stronger communities through engaged fatherhood. Episode Highlights [0:46] "We have learned over the last ten years that there are six important sectors you must involve if you want your Good Dads effort to be sustainable [03:58] "In Cass County four members of the sheriff's department are now trained to offer the fatherhood program in their facility. It's amazing to see the justice system embracing this effort." [07:48] "If you like meeting new people and want to do something different this is for you. We know that communities with engaged dads are safer, schools are stronger and the economy is more robust." [12:15] "These six sectors help you break out of silos and ensure Good Dads isn't just seen as a church thing, a school thing or a government thing—it's for everyone." [16:44] "When dads show up to their child's school and it's standing-room only that tells us something. It tells dads, 'You matter and we want you here.'"   Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! Learn more about Good Dads Great Communities! Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.  

In the first episode of Hot Topics, Dr. Jennifer Baker and cohost J. Fotsch welcome Will Cox, a father of two, coach, entrepreneur and self-proclaimed "mediocre dad trying to be good." Will shares his experiences raising two sons with distinct personalities, navigating fatherhood and balancing family life with his career as a solar company owner. This episode dives into why affection matters in fatherhood, particularly in families where open emotional expression may not come naturally. Will reflects on lessons learned from his upbringing, the challenges of showing vulnerability and the importance of building confidence and self-worth in children. Together, the hosts and Will explore how fathers can balance toughness with empathy, ensuring their children feel loved and supported. Join us for this engaging conversation about the joys and struggles of fatherhood as well as practical advice for fostering emotional connection with your children while preparing them to face the world with resilience. Episode Highlights [03:40] "Being vulnerable is a good thing. When I first heard 'Good Dad,' I thought it was some elite club. But really, it's about showing up, being there, and learning from mistakes." [06:00] "Affection matters in fatherhood, even when it doesn't come naturally. It starts with listening, asking good questions, and being present for your kids." [13:38] "You want your kids to be tough, but you don't want to brush away their feelings. Finding that balance is one of the hardest parts of being a dad." [14:11] "My sons are completely different. One responds with a quick 'love you too,' while the other writes back with paragraphs about how much he loves me. It's about meeting them where they are." [20:06] "It's amazing how many kids never hear 'I'm proud of you' or 'I love you' from their dads. Those simple words can make a world of difference." Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! Learn more at gooddads.com Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

In the premiere episode of The Difference a Dad Makes, Dr. Jennifer Baker and cohost J. Fotsch welcome Brian Mattson, lead pastor at the Downtown Church and father of two, to discuss the critical role of fathers, mentors and role models in shaping lives. This engaging conversation explores the profound impact dads have on their children not just in their presence but through their actions, stability and support. Brian shares personal experiences of fatherhood, the challenges and rewards of parenting young children and the importance of being an active and intentional father. The episode also highlights how mentors and male role models can step in to fill gaps for those without a father figure, offering guidance, accountability and a positive example. Listeners will gain insights into the unique contributions dads make to their children's emotional, social and developmental well-being as well as practical advice for fostering meaningful relationships. Whether you're a dad, mentor or simply curious about the difference a father can make, this episode sets the stage for a yearlong exploration of fatherhood's transformative power. Episode Highlights •03:54 - "Early research on dads focused on what happens when you don't have a dad. Now we're looking at what dads bring to the parenting equation that kids don't get from their moms."  •05:22 - "What's the difference a dad makes? Another parent is available to take the stress off the other parent. When moms do better, babies do better."  •08:06 - "Dads provide a unique stability, especially in the teenage years. Having a father around gives kids someone to report to, which creates accountability."  •12:30 - "I remember a mentor who valued my opinions and thoughts, treated me like a co-equal, and helped me solve problems. That always stuck with me."  •18:00 - "Most of the guys in our New Pathways program grew up without strong male role models. For many, it's the first time they've met a man who genuinely cared about them."  Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast!  Learn more about at gooddads.com  Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

In the first episode of The Intentional Dad, Dr. Jennifer Baker and cohost Jason Hynson dive into what it means to be an intentional father. Jason, a father of seven children ranging from toddlers to teenagers, shares his journey of fatherhood, balancing the chaos and joy of parenting, and his role as the leader of Victory Mission. Together, they explore the importance of showing up, being present, and embracing the imperfections of parenting. This episode sets the stage for a series focused on fostering meaningful connections, navigating challenges, and modeling intentionality as a father. Jason reflects on lessons learned, the power of apology and vulnerability, and the impact of being a mindful and engaged dad. Listeners will gain practical insights, hear relatable anecdotes, and be encouraged to grow in their role as fathers. Join us for this inspiring conversation that celebrates fatherhood and lays the foundation for the series. Episode Highlights ·       [02:53] "Celebrating kids and people where they are—finding out where they are and supporting them to be the best version of themselves. If we did more of that, we'd all win." ·       [04:22] "The intentional father is someone who's intentional about being intentional, even in the unintentional things. It's the awareness that's key." ·       [06:32] "Being present means being fully engaged—hands-free from distractions like devices. It's about mindfulness and availability." ·       [15:58] "Shared experiences, like family projects, create bonds. It's about doing things together and finding joy in those connections." ·       [27:07] "The intentional father is curious about who their kids are and who they're becoming. It's the best job, forming humans and impacting their lives."   Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! Learn more about at gooddads.com Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.  

In the inaugural episode of Good Dads Great Communities, Dr. Jennifer Baker, founder and director of Good Dads, and host J Fotsch introduce an inspiring vision for 2025, starting with the first module, “Why Good Dads Are Important to a Great Community.” This episode lays the foundation for a transformative yearlong exploration of how engaged fathers can create safer communities, stronger schools, and a robust economy. Discover how Good Dads empowers fathers to overcome challenges, foster meaningful connections with their children, and take action to drive positive change. Dr. Baker shares the powerful origins of the organization, highlights the gaps in resources available for dads, and discusses how local communities can uplift their fathers through practical initiatives and collaboration. Tune in to experience the profound impact of fatherhood on individuals, families, and communities, and find out how you can join in making a difference in 2025 and beyond. Episode Highlights ·       [05:16] "I'm going to argue that you cannot be a great community, a great place to live unless you have a high percentage of good dads—engaged fathers." ·       [10:19] "Approximately 85% of those incarcerated today grew up in a home without a dad. Our communities are safer when we have a high percentage of good dads." ·       [12:00] "There is considerable evidence to support the fact that when fathers get involved with their child's education, kids do better in school. They go to school, their attendance improves, and they're better behaved." ·       [14:32] "Good dads are very motivated to work hard for the benefit of their families.  We have a lot of programs focused on, economic development, securing jobs, employment programs. But the reason a person gets up and goes to work, even on the day they don't feel like getting up and going to work is because they're working for someone." ·       [21:10] "If you really want to do something that's going to make a real difference in the life of someone else, this is that thing. You're not just making a difference in the life of that dad, but his family as well." Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! Learn more about Good Dads Great Communities gooddads.com Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

We continue talking to Frank Tristan about parent involvement and how having humility can go a long way in any situation in life. Frank has been teaching and coaching for the last 20 years and loves the opportunity to invest in young people. He and his wife Natalie were married in 2008 and have two children, Hays and Taylor. They are regularly involved in church and love experiencing new adventures with their family. As a dad and an educator, it is easy to see how important the role of a father is in raising successful young people. When dads lead well, generations are impacted. This passion has led Frank to work with the Good Dads organization to see more families and communities impacted for good. Show Notes (5:10) I'm creating a culture of family    (5:54) I've gotta give your wife a break. You're a parent just as much as she is.    (11:04 ) Kids will really respect when they know that you care about them and they know that you're genuine.    (12:17) There was a new connection when I apologized to him. Same thing in parenting: We can all go too far sometimes.    (18:49) Whatever makes me mad on Monday had better make me mad Friday… it's a consistent line.    (20:16) The opposite of love is selfishness  Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads Blog  gooddads.com  Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

Frank Tristan, head football coach at Glendale High School, father, and husband, talks about the balance of being a coach and a parent in this Part One episode. Frank has been teaching and coaching for the last 20 years and loves the opportunity to invest in young people. He and his wife Natalie were married in 2008 and have two children, Hays and Taylor. They are regularly involved in church and love experiencing new adventures with their family. As a dad and an educator, it is easy to see how important the role of a father is in raising successful young people. When dads lead well, generations are impacted. This passion has led Frank to work with the Good Dads organization to see more families and communities impacted for good. Show Notes   (1:32) Parents are great, they are. Most of them just want their kid to be successful.   (4:26) What my kids respond to is giving them honest praise on things they can control.   (5:05) I just tell my kids that “if you want to stop playing sports now, I still love you.”   (10:05) The thing you can control is your effort and attitude, so that's how I'm gonna judge if I'm proud of you or not.    (12:47) You're not gonna bash your coach in front of me… that's not good for the team, and you're not gonna bash other teammates.    (13:07)  The best thing a parent can do is tell the coach “thank you.”   (15:30): One of the things I think is always important as a coach to parent/parent to coach is talk about it in person.   (22:25): If you're not sleeping on a regular basis, your body's out of whack, you're not gonna reach your full potential…your body's gonna wear down.   Resources Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads Blog  gooddads.com  Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

Frank Tristan, head football coach at Glendale High School, husband and father, talks about the rewarding aspects of coaching and his "ABC" technique (Ask, Balance, and Competitive).

Join us this week in the Good Dads studio as founder and director Dr. Jennifer Baker and J Fotsch jump into the third installment on the challenges and joys of parenting a 4- and 5-year-old children.  Preschool-age children do not have the capacity to regulate their emotions as grown-ups, and some children throw more tantrums than others. One of the best way to avoid the potential meltdown is for dads to give choices: It offers leeway to strong-willed children so they can feel they have some control over their situation. By negotiating and getting down on your child's level, parents can teach their children to manage their behavior. In fact, managing children is far more about teaching parents to manage their own behavior above all else. Show Notes (3:08) If you know a tantrum is likely to happen in the grocery store ... where they want something and you're not going to get that thing for them, then I would say, first of all, avoid taking them to the store. (4:26) Try to forestal those tests of the will, especially the ones that you're going to lose—because you can't make a child chew and swallow.  (7:22) So the worst case-case scenario is to give into this ... Sometimes you know, you're tired or you want them to just be quiet, so you just be like, "Ok, fine, three donuts, just get out of my face." (10:03) Usually tantrums happen around a particular setting. (11:32) You gotta understand—we've all had moments when we're not in a good space, and really, we just need a nap and a snack. (12:58) That's the thing, though. Kids know when you're exhausted. They know! ... They just sense it.   Resources  Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads Blog  gooddads.com  Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

Join us this week in the Good Dads studio as founder and director Dr. Jennifer Baker and J Fotsch talk about the challenges and joys of parenting a 4- and 5-year-old children.  This period of life is marked by inquisitiveness and unfiltered honesty. It's certainly true that they say the darndest things! These youngsters are at their peak of innocence, but they're also very in tune with potential tensions between Mom and Dad. Your kids are always watching and listening. They're absorbing what their parents say and do, so we talk about the important ways that dads can lead by example. Show Notes (1:35) By the time children are 4 and 5 years old, you can relax a little. (8:39) That's when you hear parents talking about, "Oh man, it's so hard, and I'm so tired, but it's worth it." And you're like, "Really?" And before, when I didn't have kids, I'm like, "Is it? It doesn't sound worth it." (9:09) Write down what your kids say. Write down those little moments because later on, you'll want to remember those. (11:30) Researchers were so surprised to find was that the children (starting Kindergarten) were so much more aware of what was going on in the couple's relationship than the parents thought. (13:35) Your kids' emotional health is very much tied up in how well you two (the parents) are getting along. (15:06) By four or five, your child has been observing you for four or five years. They are accustomed to the tone of your voice, the expression on your face. They have a pretty good idea of how you're going to react to certain things. They know you. (15:31) Being a girl dad, (I'm) making sure I give the example of how I treat her mom. That's how I want her to be treated when she's at the dating age ... Like when I kiss my wife in front of her and she goes, "Ew, that's gross."   Resources  Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads Blog  gooddads.com  Questions or comments? Reach out to Good Dads at info@gooddads.com.

Dr Jennifer Baker, President and founder of Good Dads, talks about the challenges of parenting a 4-5 year old child. We talk about bedtime, late night snacks, and setting limits in this podcast.

We welcome back Bre Tyger, Community Alignment Specialist from Family Connects, a program new to Springfield, MO. We cover the difference between "baby blues" and postpartum depression, and how it affects both Mom and Dad. A phenomenon of ongoing sadness in the days after your bundle of joy arrives is common and normal, but in general medical experts say the "baby blues" might begin to be classified as post-partum depression if the feelings persist beyond 2-3 weeks. Dads can get some form of post-partum depression, too, in as many as 10% of new dads.   CORRECTION:  After the recording concluded, Bre asked us to tell our listeners that post-partum depression occurs somewhere between 1 in 5 OR 1 in 3 new moms; that's between 20% and 33%.   Our Guest: Bre Tyger Bre Tyger is a Registered Nurse and serves as the Community Alignment Specialist for Springfield Greene County Health Department's Family Connects program. Family Connects is a free universal nurse home visiting program with a goal of providing support for families of newborns. Bre has worked in community and public health and the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit most of her career and loves helping set families up for success. She has been married to her husband for 15 years and together they have two wonderful children.   Show Notes  (2:21) One thing I have seen commonly (in post-partum women) is difficulty bonding with the baby and attachment. They were so excited to have their baby, so excited when they first had Baby and brought them home, but suddenly they're saying, "I don't feel connected to my baby." They're having a hard time taking care of Baby; maybe they're having a hard time getting out of bed ... or having a hard time getting any good sleep. (4:38) It can feel like your fault—or like you need to do something to make it better—but post-partum depression is really not your fault. And it's not something that women choose (9:31) It's a big load for the dad to carry. Dads can feel a pressure of providing for their family. They have the normal pressure of providing for their family but now you wife is struggling, and you have this baby that you don't know what to do with or how to care for. That can be a lot of stress for the dad to carry. Some dads tend to take care of others before themselves, so they can also become sleep deprived; they can also forget to eat meals and those basic things to do to take care of themselves. (18:14) (Post-partum depression) can occur at any time in the year after Baby is born. That may not always be recognized.   Resources Family Connects Website Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast!  The Good Dads blog  gooddads.com To be put in touch with Bre regarding the Advisory Committee with Family Connects, reach out to us at info@gooddads.com.  

This week on the podcast, we welcome to the studio Bre Tyger, a public health nurse and Community Alignment Specialist with Family Connects, an international program new to the area. Join us as Bre discusses how she helps new parents, observant youngsters, the Women, Infants and Children (WIC) nutritionist program, and encouraging new, first-time dads to be involved in the lives of their infants.    Our Guest: Bre Tyger Bre Tyger is a Registered Nurse and serves as the Community Alignment Specialist for Springfield Greene County Health Department's Family Connects program. Family Connects is a free universal nurse home visiting program with a goal of providing support for families of newborns. Bre has worked in community and public health and the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit most of her career and loves helping set families up for success. She has been married to her husband for 15 years and together they have two wonderful children.   Show Notes  (4:13) As a public health nurse with the health department, we get to see people where they are. We currently go into their homes. We can have real conversations with them ... and meet them where they're at. I think, sometimes in a hospital environment it's kind of hard to see what's going on ... or what you really need. (9:15) It's hard to connect with dads (during pre-natal and post-partum appointments, when Dad is often at work), and we do really like working with Mom and Dad because both of them are providing support for this family and this infant. Both are an important part in their lives.  (20:57) Nobody really knows how to be a parent before they're a parent. You can do all the preparation, you can take classes, you can see other people doing it. But every baby is different, and every scenario is different ... every experience is unique.   Resources Family Connects Website Sign up for the Good Dads Newsletter and never miss a podcast!  The Good Dads blog  gooddads.com To be put in touch with Bre regarding the Advisory Committee with Family Connects, reach out to us at info@gooddads.com.

Dana and Christina Ford have a full house with a teenager, elementary schoolers and preschoolers. Join us for a conversation originally recorded in 2021 with the Fords as the blended family navigates the important transitions inherent in father-son relationships as Dana entered his step-son's life when he was 8 years old. Dana and Christina give advice for step-parents and differentiate their approaches to parenting versus step-parenting. We also talk about the first-baby nerves, anticipating your partner's needs and raising un-selfish children.   Our Guests: Husband and Wife Dana and Christina Ford Christina Ford is the president and founder of Rebound Foundation, a nonprofit whose mission is to end the cycle of abuse through safe transitional ​housing for women and children, and educating youth to prevent violence. Dana Ford has been the men's head baseketball coach at Missouri State University since 2018. He transitioned from Bachelor to Husband and to Father quickly. The Fords are parents to five, and one in Heaven.   Show Notes  (8:09) I was the single parent for eight years, and I was very independent. I was Mom, and I went to school, and I worked. I was in a very independent role, and my idea of when we were going to come together was, you know, "Was I still going to be this independent force?" I was really keen into that. I was going to have my own thing, my own title ... I didn't have to ask someone else, "How should we do this?" or "What decision should be made?" It was always just me making the decision. (13:29) We do not parent all of our children the same. Just like I don't coach all my players the same. One of the most important things that you have to learn—is you have to learn your people. That means you have to learn your children individually, same way I do with my players. You have to spend time with them, communicate with them and observe them.  (14:44) If you listen, people will tell you who they are. (19:31) One of the biggest adjustments was the fact that, due to COVID, there was no support system of Mom, sister, right? I mean, I'm always used to mother-in-law and sister-in-law being there, and them doing the heavy lifting. (25:50) If you want to conquer something you have to stay united, but we (as parents) conquer by dividing sometimes. (27:42) So many (us) can get selfish, and be about "me, me, me." Hopefully because they see us and come from a larger family (our children grow to) understand that it's not always about you.   Resources Sign up for our newsletter to never miss a podcast!  The Good Dads Blog  gooddads.com The Rebound Foundation

This week we're happy to welcome Tim Lewis to the studio, a first-time dad to a four-month-old. Join us as Tim shares the scary story of when baby Ophelia got sick with RSV around the end of last year. After initially going to Mercy in Springfield, doctors later needed to airlift Ophelia to an ER in Kansas City. Tim also provides his wisdom for new parents and discusses the importance of being on the same page to work collaboratively with your partner.  Our Guest: Tim Lewis  Tim Lewis is a barber by occupation and is a new dad to Ophelia, who was born in September 2023. Tim, his wife, Chelsea, Ophelia and Boone the dog live in Rogersville, MO. For a long time, Tim and Chelsea never imagined wanting kids, but their attitudes changed in their early 40s.   Show Notes (4:28) My advice to younger people is: If you're not sure, enjoy your youth a little bit. Your freedom is minimized once you have a child. (6:10) She developed a little bit of a cough, and we just kept an eye on it. And then it was, like, 'Nah, she needs to go do the doctor.' And they basically test kids just like they do for COVID. It's a pretty quick little swab. (9:33) I wasn't afraid for her life—I really felt she would be okay—but when the flight nurses came in and basically strapped my 13-pound child to a gurney-looking thing and took her away ... Which, my wife was with her, but, you know, it was just terrifying. (17:55) She's always a pretty happy kid. She really started all that at about three months. But she's also a very impatient, cranky child ... How do you go from grinning at me, and two seconds later you're squalling?!     The Good Dads Blog 

This week, we bring you a podcast episode from the Good Dads archive. Originally recorded in 2019, our guests, Brian and Drew, discuss the challenges and rewards of new parenthood. New dads will relate to big changes in sleep habits, working collaboratively with the mother of your child and more than a few dirty diaper horror stories.    Our Guest: Drew Dilisio, LPC  Drew Dilisio is the former director of counseling services at Good Dads.  He is a graduate of Evangel University's Clinical Mental Health Counseling program, a husband and father. He is now a Behavioral Health Clinician at Jordan Valley Health Center in Springfield, MO.   Our Guest: Brian Mattson Brian Mattson is the associate pastor at the Downtown Church in Springfield. A father of two now, Brian served on the Good Dads board until 2024.    Show Notes  (4:05) we do a nighttime routine ...  we really try to get in a peaceful mood. And my wife will put on some lavender soothing lotion on her while she's singing to her, and we've just stuck to a schedule. (5:06) every book seems like it's different, with the recommendations and the best practices, so we would do one for a month with no results ... (and we'd say) "let's tweak this little thing," and then we'd do that for three weeks.  (8:08) For someone who's only drinking milk, it's incredible what comes out the other side (in her diaper). I'd say that's pretty gross.  (10:11) As you're changing the dirty diaper, she smiles at you—in the eye, she locks eyes, smiles — and proceeds to have another ... "elimination" as you're hurriedly trying to put on a clean diaper.     The Good Dads Blog 

This week on the Good Dads podcast, we welcome back Dr. Smith, a family care physician at Equality Healthcare in Springfied, MO. Dr. Smith shares his wisdom on supporting your pregnant partner, breaking the stigma on male post-partum depression, and practicing grace and understanding between Mom and Dad.  Part of the joy of treating families means Dr. Smith can treat lots of different people, including pregnant couples. In his practice, he always asks dads-to-be open-ended questions, inviting them to embrace the changes that come with a new baby.  Dr Smith's Tips for Dads-to-Be  Embrace the changes that come with a new baby  Give your partner grace and understanding  Ask what you can do to be supportive  Take time off work to bond with the new baby    Show Notes  (6:44) We started to see more studies about depression in men in the first year post-partum ... it's about 10% of men (who)will have clinical depression in that first year.     (7:18) (Patients say) "I feel like I should be happy, but I'm having these feelings." So I think saying, "You know, we have information out there, studies that show this is a real thing, so you don't need to feel guilty about this. It's a drastic change."   (9:50) Realizing that it is a stage of life. It's a phase. It's difficult, but it is a phase, and it will pass. And also it is something that is learned. I mean, the more that you spend time with the child and then get a better sense of what you're doing.   (12:13) A woman is growing a human inside of her body! ... It is a very big deal. With that goes enormous physical changes, hormonal changes.   (15:33) Support, support, support. Ask what you can do. Be gracious. Understand that your partner is growing a human being and the level and grace and understanding that should bestow."   (22:53) We are very fotunate in Springfield to have the Doula Foundation ... Doulas are community-based people—women—who help couples through pregancy ... through the whole process ... A doula is there to provide informational support, emotional support, physical support, during the pregnancy and childbirth ... I really would seek out doula services, especially for men.    Sign up for the Good Dads newsletter to never miss a podcast!  The Good Dads Blog  Gooddads.com The Doula Foundation  

Lisa McIntire, Executive Director at Pregnancy Care Center, talks about helping the "whole" family and how dads can help during the pregnancy process. Our Guest: Lisa McIntire Lisa McIntire currently serves as Executive Director of Pregnancy Care Center, where they equip about 500 expectant dads each year for the joys and rigors of fatherhood. Her passion for supporting dads is borne out of her personal experience as the child of a teenage father and then later marrying a single dad with a 7-year-old son. Show Notes "How I got interested in what I'm doing for work, kind of starts before I was born." (2:40) "When I see what education and support can do for dads, it makes me all the more passionate about it." (4:40) "Women and children are just more vulnerable when there isn't a positive dad, or man, in the home." (8:34) "We still do offer the coaching after the baby is born, typically until the child is 4 to 6 months because we do know that is a very overwhelming time." (14:43) Resources Sign up for our newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads blog gooddads.com Pregnancy Care Center

Tommy Boyce, a WIC Nutritionist, talks about what dads can do to help and support women throughout pregnancy. "WIC" stands for "Women, Infants, and Children." Our Guest: Tommy Boyce Tommy has been married to his wife Cassandra for 10 years and they have a wonderful 5-year-old boy name Sullivan. Tommy graduated from UCM with a degree in dietetics and Logan University with a Masters in Sports Nutrition. He has been a Women, Infants, and Children (WIC) Nutritionaist across the sate of Missiour and has been with the Springfield-Greene County WIC office for 8 years. Tommy enjoys excersising, anything related to Star Wars and he is a Die Hard Chiefs fan! Show Notes "...dad's aren't involved, in the name of it at least (WIC), but that's far from the truth when it comes to their partner having a preganancy and when it comes to having a child." (3:30) "When new parents come to WIC, are you one of the first people they come to meet with?" (10:12) "What are some of the best parts of your job, and what are the worst parts?" 15:38 "What can dads do? So, lets say mom is-- first of all he could be supportive of breast feeding-- but lets say it [breast feeding] goes well, what can he do? And what if it [breast feeding] does not go well? What can he do?" (18:48) "Why is it important that Dad also learns to eat well during that period [of pregnancy]?" (21:34)  "You have an important role to play, in not only for your partner, for their pregnancy, but for the outcome of the pregnancy as well." (24:32) Resources: Sign up for our newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads blog gooddads.com Springfield-Greene County WIC

Dr Sarah Baker, Assistant Professor in Early Childhood Education at Missouri State University, says she has always been interested in education and shares some thoughts about how both parents can help in all different types of care giving. 

Summary: This week we welcome husband and wife Minor and Sarah Baker, both professors at Missouri State University in the Elementary and Early Childhood Education program. They talk about having a total of four children and twins as their second and third. Their experience was a blur, but both worked together as a team in a challenging season of life.  Minor Baker (PhD): Minor is an Assistant Professor in the Elementary Education program, in the School of Teaching, Learning, and Developmental Studies in the College of Education. He has been at Missouri State since the fall of 2018. A native midwesterner who has spent time in Texas, Minnesota, and now Missouri. His research interests include school and community interactions, culturally sustaining supervision, and alternative interpretations of school leadership. Sarah Jean Baker (PhD): Sarah is an Assistant Professor in the Early Childhood Program, in the School of Teaching, Learning, and Developmental Studies in the College of Education at Missouri State University. She earned her PhD in School Improvement from Texas State University. She has experience working in public schools as an early childhood teacher- teaching kindergarten and first grade, as well as leading schools as a school leader. Her research interests include teacher preparation and teacher development for social justice and culturally sustaining pedagogy, early childhood education, and women's issues in schools. She is a proud mama to four children and often finds her greatest joys and struggles in her mama identity.    Show Notes: "The technician told us, 'Well they both look great.' Minor and I looked at each other ... What do you mean both? She said, 'Oh my gosh, you didn't know you were having twins? Look, here!'" (3:15) "Was your largest concern fincances, or ... what are you thinking about when you realize you are suddenly going to be a dad of three?" (10:25) "It feels like it must have been a blur?" "Yeah, people ask what it's like to have twins, and I go, 'oh I don't know."' (13:10) "We always had the twins on the same schedule... So I don't remember that part being stressful, but you do get sleep deprived." (18:10) "This whole podcast [episode] is to help other parents with twins or three kids, four kids, and it's like, 'we just kinda got through it and we don't even remember.'" (21:03) "High schoolers and middle schoolers at the same time... zero out of ten, I do not recommend." (24:40) Resources: Sign up for our newsletter and never miss a podcast! The Good Dads blog gooddads.com

This week we sat down with Tyler Head, a husband and an expectant dad, to talk about the final stages of pregnancy, preparations for the baby, the unknown and how to focus on Mom and their relationship. Head, Tyler | Business & Leadership Coach, Dryve Leadership Group Tyler Head and his wife, Katherine, are transplants from the beautiful states of Tennessee and North Carolina. They have come to love the Ozarks and the people in it over the years. Tyler works in Organizational Change and Leadership Development, a fancy way of saying "being with people." Katherine is a teacher at Ozark Junior High School. Tyler believes that the engagement of a father is unique in its gift to the development of a child's head, heart, and soul. How we fathers engage or do not engage with our children has a long-term ripple effect on the child, our communities, and our culture. For a myriad of reasons, engaging as a male seems to be a skill set that has fallen by the wayside over the past years. The practice of engagement is a muscle with more power than most. It's a muscle that needs to be exercised in our society by fathers. If we can continue in our efforts of cultivating space for men to practice these muscles, our children, the community, and our culture will benefit.   In this episode... Introducing the topic for 2024: "Growing Good Dads" (1:00) "My name is Tyler Head, originally from the middle Tennessee area..." (1:40) "What did you need more or less of in the first couple of weeks [after the baby arrives]?" (6:45) "Although there is a lot of sacrifice in having one or more children, it is one of the greatest rewards in life." (13:20) "How will we make time for us [wife] and continue to get to know each other?" (16:00) "In order to bond, you need to take care of the baby sometimes by yourself." (21:35)   Resources Explore more of the Good Dads' 2024 theme: Growing Good Dads at our blog. For men's mental health resources, check out our blog Men & Mental Health.  

From the Good Dads archive, we are taking a look back at our discussion with Dr. Matt Turvey, a clinical psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, from May of 2023. Dr. Matt Turvey talks about how curiosity, compassion and an eye for connection can keep an open mind when trying to solve difficult situations in relationships. Even though it can be challenging at times, being patient, doing the right thing and playing the long game is important for the well-being of a child and family as a whole. "I've learned over the years that if we can respond to our spouse, or our significant other, with curiosity, compassion and with an eye toward connection..." (03:25) "I would encourage, going into conversations, consider if your body language is right, your posture..." (15:56) "How do you encourage someone that may be in a difficult marriage?" (22:58) "Let's say that you are a dad and you think that your wife either has a mental health issue and/or has an addiction problem... What do you do?" (33:15) Resources: Rules of Estrangement by Joshua Coleman (32:48) Find more resources at gooddads.com Read the Men & Mental Health blog

From the Good Dads archive, we are revisiting a podcast originally published in May 2023.  Dr. Jennifer Baker, president and founder of Good Dads, talks with us about "a man and his relationships." This is an overview of May 2023 and how men can keep the romance alive and maintain healthy relationships.

From the Good Dads archive: We talk with Lisa Blumenstock about her role as a mediator, how this pertains to divorce, mediation vs litigation, and helping couples with negotiation.

From the Good Dads Archive: Kirk Cocanougher, from Keller Williams, and Marlon Graves, VP of "A Girl Like Me," share their experiences on how to communicate with their ex-partners and how to be a good dad through difficult situations.

Dr Jennifer Baker and J. Fotsch talk about being grateful after following addiction or a traumatic event. Hopeful habits and gratitude are some tools we can use to move forward after difficult life events.

Dr Jennifer Baker and J. Fotsch talk about hope following addiction or a tramatic event. Being hopeful and having faith are just a couple of tools we can use to move forward from difficult life events.

From the Good Dads Archive: James has made a lot of changes in his life in a very short time. His remarkable story includes the journey from convicted felon to responsible father in less than a year. It begins with Victory Mission's Restoration program and includes involvement with the Fatherhood Development Curriculum. Today James works fulltime and has benefits associated with fulltime employment. He regularly sees his sons and appreciates the opportunity to contribute to the care by paying child support.      

We take a look back at our interview with Dr. Brent Anderson, a clinical psychologist from the military from West Point New York. He talks about how to handle change, behaviorial interventions, and "FML..." Fun. Mastery. Love.

Kevin Stratton, LPC is a counselor at Victory Mission. He talks about the men he helps with family trauma backrounds and subtance use. Addiction affects the whole family. Kevin also talks about how faith can be helpful on a path to a new life.

Carl Dawson, an expert in the field of addiction, talks about how addiction and substance abuse is a disease and cannot be fought with "will power" alone. Education and knowledge is the first step to figuring out if someone in you family is struggling with addiction... it's a process, not an event.

Dr. Jennifer Baker, president and founder of Good Dads, talks about addiction and how it can affect the WHOLE family (not just the person struggling with dependency). October is Substance Abuse Prevention Month, and we'll will be talking about addiction all this month with different guests.