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Sarah Normandin is a life coach for women and a recovering perfectionist. She used to be my own most enthusiastic critic.  Nothing she did met her high expectations and she had the emotional wounds to prove it. At best, she was your typical frenemy, whose backhanded comments lingered in her mind long into the wee hours.  At worst, her own self-doubt was so debilitating that she wasn't sure she could ever escape it. Sarah isn't alone in this. Women often struggle with perfectionism and low self-esteem. When prompted, they can hardly manage to think of a neutral thing to say about themselves, let alone something positive. Self-criticism affects more than just our self worth.  Our high standards are often reflected in other areas of our lives.  This can lead to stress at work and in relationships. It is exhausting to try so hard and constantly feel disappointed in ourselves and everyone else.

There is a general perception in our culture that it's normal for couples to fight. The pervasive belief is marriage and relationships are hard work. You hear that all the time. So, it's no surprise that many people think if you're going to commit, you need to roll up your sleeves and get prepared to battle your way through a lifetime of togetherness. That sounds like no one's idea of a good idea and it sets us up to believe that unhappy, dysfunctional relationships are normal. And yet, lots of people decide to do it anyway. It's a mystery. So we couple up, and hope for happily-ever-after but prepare for the worst, because you know, it's going to be hard work. And after the new car smell wears off it starts. Maybe it's not much in the beginning, but we fight and we think that fighting is normal, if not actually healthy.  However, over time, conflict and resentment start to color how we perceive our relationships and our partners. In fact, eventually, conflict and resentment change the way we think about ourselves. The truth is a lot of fighting in a relationship, while it might be normal, is not healthy at all. The long-term prognosis for a couple that's fighting a lot isn't good, no matter how normal fighting might or might not be.  We are going to talk about 1 strategy that will help you keep your relationship out of the conflict zone and keep you relating to your partner in real-time where it's actually happening.  Read the blog post here.    

The bottom line about moods is we get to choose them and whether you believe that or not, it's true. Moods aren't random. They are the cumulative effect of our focus and that's 100% in our control.  We are going to talk about:  My favorite ways to milk a bad mood Why you shouldn't ever do that And 4 ways to turn a bad mood around on a dime.  The bottom line is you can be as happy as you want to in any given moment. You've simply got to make that choice and stick your landing in a feel better place.       

28% of U.S. students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.20% of U.S. students in grades 9–12 experienced bullyingApproximately 30% of young people admit to bullying others in surveys70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools9% of students in grades 6–12 experienced cyberbullying.Only about 20 to 30% of students who are bullied notify adults about the bullying The statistics are scary and it doesn't stop with kids. Most adults have experienced bullying, often in the workplace.  So, what do we do with it? It's a question that seems to defy many of the strategies we commonly use to deal with bullies or help our children manage when they are being bullied.  Often the approach to dealing with bullying is to try to stop the bully. However, that approach often leaves children less empowered and still at risk of being bullied again and again.  What if we took our focus off the bully and instead taught our children to be bully-proof? By empowering our children to be confident we can teach them skills that last a lifetime. Bully-proofing our children can be done. The skills are teachable. 

Are you feeling stressed on the job? You're not alone - statistics show that workplace stress is on the rise. But, what do you do about it? In this episode of Success Unlimited, Dr. Patricia Thompson shares helpful tips for (1) diagnosing the causes of your stress and (2) dealing with them head-on.

By now, we all know that we're supposed to take time for self-care and relaxation.  Still, some of us struggle to make time to do it at all, while others might not make the most of their time when they're doing it. In this brief episode, Dr. Patricia Thompson shares a recent experience that has inspired her to up her self-care game. Hopefully, it'll do the same for you!      

Lisa Cavallaro, coach, author and creator of Bully Spin sees the epidemic of bullying differently. What she has to say might be surprising to some. Lisa believes the best way to deal with the bullying crisis isn't to try to fix or change the bullies themselves. Lisa believes that bullies can't bully if we don't let them. We can choose what behaviors we accept from others. While that might seem like a tall order for a child who's getting pushed around at school and online, learning the skills and the confidence it takes to be bully-proof might be a required survival skill we can teach children and use in adulthood.  Lisa's revolutionary approach to helping children and adults navigate their way through bullying interactions empowers parents and children when nothing else seems to work.  You're not going to want to miss this, because let's face it, everyone knows a bully.

The calling to be a coach is special. We think being a coaching is one of the most special professions there is and coaches are incredible people. However, the industry itself can be tricky. Building a coaching practice so you can do good work in the world isn't as simple as some would have you think. We are going to share seven things we wish every coach knew. These are things we wish we'd known when we started out. If you're a coach, or think you might want to be one, you don't want to miss this show.   

The human experience is full of times when we are stuck.  We get in a rut or find ourselves with a problem we aren't quite sure how to solve.  Here we talk about a few ways you can clear your path and start taking small steps out of that stuck space. 

In the world of coaching words like goal setting, motivation, and accountability get tossed around a lot. A lot of clients will come to the work thinking that's what they will get. However, working with a law of attraction coach is an entirely different ballgame because a law of attraction coach has an entirely different compass point. Putting it simply an LOA coach will dial in on how it feels. They are way more likely to talk about inspiration than motivation. A law of attraction coach is likely to encourage a client to work less and not more.  Some people might think law of attraction coaches are less focused in getting results. That couldn't be further from the truth. However, in LOA coaching results are measured in how those results feel vs. what they look like on paper. A law of attraction coach knows that getting there won't matter if it doesn't feel good.  We're going to talk about the distictions and why working with an LOA coach might be the best investment a client could ever make. 

It is easy to forget who we are. Our identity gets lost in the hustle and bustle of living life catering to external expectations and standards. What does it mean to live from our authentic self?  Our wild self?  When we live wild, we live unshackled from the expectations the world places on us-- and it's better for everyone.  Let's rediscover our truest selves and live from that place.  

As you're looking ahead to the new year, do you want it to be your best ever? Do you want to experience more growth, more progress, and more success?  In this episode, Dr. Thompson issues a challenge that'll get you well on your way to accomplishing those goals.

What is the one thing that might count more than anything else in a coaching session?  The energy we curate for our sessions.  Energy management might be more important than training, skills, or even the relationship we've built with our client. Even the most experienced or LOA savvy coach can often forget that the energy they bring, the vibrations they anchor, and the energetic experience we hold space for can make all the difference for our clients and for ourselves.  We are going to talk about the four pillars of energy management and hygiene for the most effective and magical coaching sessions. 

There are a lot of good men, and good men are finding themselves in really choppy waters right about now. They are having to navigate a lot of conversations and relationships with what feels like a target on their backs that they didn’t earn just because they are male. They feel the anger welling up in women. These good men are listening to the stories. They are reading the articles. They are affected on many levels. The good ones are hearing the messages loud and clear. The challenge is, they aren’t the ones we needed to get the memo. We need the abusers and assholes to get on board, but they are not moving to the right side of this issue willingly. They are being moved through lawsuits and public humiliation. They are very busy right now victim blaming and dodging their history while the good guys are trying to find their way to man up responsibly. We're going to talk about how to find a good man when it feels like all the good ones are hiding. Read the blog post HERE. 

I'm in the spiritually based personal development business. I think a lot of people could transform their lives by taking a deeper dive into learning about spirituality. Reading the books, buying the stuff, spending time in the sphere of a teacher can be life transforming. However, the key is to find yourself in the teachings vs. trying to recreate yourself to be a knock-off of a master. When it comes to the depths of your soul, no one can be your guru but you. You are your own best guru. No one else can feel the stir of your heart. You aren't going to find your fire in the pages of a book. It's your life work to examine the DNA of your soul, then figure out who to sooth it and grow it on your unique journey to your specific brand of enlightenment. We are going to talk about how to find yourself on your spiritual path without getting lost in the shiny wisdom of other people along the way. Read the blog post HERE.

There is a difference between being nice and being likable. We've all met people who were very charismatic but not that nice under the layers of likability. However, it doesn't matter a lot how nice you are on the inside, if people don't like you, they probably won't bother to get to know you much past that first impression. There is a science to likability. A lot of it has to do with chemistry. However, there are a few basic tweaks we can all make to be more likable and engage with people more openly. Read the blog post HERE. 

When you're under the gun to perform, how do you get the most out of your team?  Should you apply tension so that they feel pressured to perform? Or, should you take a more caring and compassionate approach? In this episode, Dr. Patricia Thompson provides a brief overview of the research that addresses how to create the sort of environment in which your team can thrive.

I'm rapidly developing a theory that toxic masculinity is a mental illness that a subset of our population, specifically white males are more susceptible to. All kinds of mental diagnosis run more dominantly in certain populations. What if these men were quite literally mentally ill and we're blaming them for a mental disorder without even the consideration of treatment?? I've named it Aggressive Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Hyper Dominance Motivation. I'm not attempting to make excuses for abusers. I'm also not suggesting that every asshole needs to be rushed to a psych doc for meds. However, I am saying that as women, being lost in our own pain might be blinding us from seeing we aren't the only ones who need healing. The patriarchy is sick. A lot of men are sick. A lot of men obviously need help and that help might have to start with women. Read the blog post here. 

When a man says he’s bored with a woman, women almost always think he means sexually. That’s almost never the case, at least in the beginning. It can creep into that territory pretty quick, but it usually starts with him being bored with her in general because she has given up everything that made her interesting to clear the decks for him. I have a close friend who gave up every weekend for almost a decade waiting for a phone call that rarely came and didn’t even notice she’d disappeared from her own life. I’ve been guilty of it more times than I care to count in smaller but still corrosive ways. We're going to talk about why that's never a good idea. Read the blog post here.  For more information visit www.lisamhayes.com.

The best way to waste a first date is to make it about you. It’s not a popularity evaluation. You aren’t a test drive. Don’t let someone take you for a spin over dinner and a movie. It’s an opportunity to see if there’s a connection with another human. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to be likable and miss that chance or the signs it won’t ever really be there. The most powerful place to be when you're dating is being the decider. You don't want to be hoping to be picked. You want to know you are in a position to choose. From that empowered place, dating is a lot less anxiety inducing and a lot more fun. 

Being disliked can ultimately feel like a big ‘ol breath or fresh crisp air. Once you accept the fact that you aren’t liked, the stress of that struggle instantly subsides. You quit fighting that gut sick feeling that you might get it wrong. That feeling is exhausting. When you’ve settled into acceptance, that stress and struggle dissolve. Then and only then are you able to stop editing yourself to make yourself more appealing or to meet someone else’s expectations. You can speak your mind without fear of consequence. You can show up as you one-hundred percent of the time. You can look yourself in the mirror and recognise your own face with a crystalline clarity that can only be had when you’re standing alone.

It is so easy to put your deliberate creation practice on autopilot or even coast when you're busy. Let's face it though, we're all almost always busy. There are a lot of excuses for not doing your deliberate creation practice. However, if we put it first on the list and organized our lives around it, chances are pretty high, life would get a lot easier.  We all procrastinate. We all skimp. However, letting your deliberate creation practice sit on the back burner makes everything you do a lot more difficult than it needs to be.  

-Are you a people pleaser?  -Do you find yourself agreeing to things you would rather not do because you don't want to upset others? -Are you tired of it? In this episode of Success Unlimited, Dr. Patricia Thompson explores how to tell if you are a people pleaser, and provides actionable advice that will help you to stop your people-pleasing ways so that you can get the respect you deserve.

Everyone is looking for that one magical deliberate creation tool that will shift their lives on the dime. A lot of people are doing many practices every day hoping to get more traction creating something new. However, often too many tools and too many practices start to feel like too much work. All that work isn't necessary when imagination is a tool you can leverage at any moment or even preferably all day long. One tool can shift everything in on the dime, and you're doing it all day long anyway. If you can get your imagination working for you, instead of against you, you've mastered deliberate creation and life all in one big magical wave of the wand. Read the blog post HERE. 

Is self-doubt and a lack of confidence holding you back? In this episode, Dr. Patricia Thompson shares 6 research-based, but practical techniques that will help you to boost your confidence. Apply them, and feel better about yourself - and your life.

Are you struggling to achieve the goals you set for yourself? Do you have certain tasks that you actually want to do, but for whatever reason you just can’t get around to doing them?  -Does it seem too overwhelming to get started?  -Do you start off with the best of intentions, only to find your efforts fizzling out more quickly than you would like? If this scenario sounds all too familiar then this episode of Success Unlimited is for you! In it, Dr. Patricia Thompson will share seven research-based tips that will help you to make progress so you can achieve your goals.

Is your work meaningful to you? Do you feel a sense of purpose in what you're doing? Are you excited to go to your job on Monday mornings? If your answer to these questions is "no," then this episode is for you! Your work life doesn't have to be unfulfilling - it can truly bring you a sense of purpose. If you want to experience more joy on the job, then listen in on this episode in which Dr. Patricia Thompson shares eight practical tips you can apply to bring a greater sense of meaning to your work - starting today.

For many, work can be stressful place. And, if you don't manage the pressure properly, you might find yourself doing and saying things that detract from your effectiveness in the moment - and beyond. In this episode, Dr. Thompson covers helpful strategies that will help you to  develop a greater awareness of your emotions in the moment so that you can (1) recognize what’s going on and (2) manage them so that they don’t unintentionally hijack your behavior.

Pretty much all of us know our Sun sign. That's the one you look up in the magazines, the one that you tell people at parties. But do you know what your Sun actually reveals about you? Join Janette Dalgliesh (Sun sign, Libra!) to find out why it matters whether you approach your Sun from a place of empowerment or not - and some strategies on how to do it. 

Food is scared and so should be the process of consuming it. How does the gut determine our well-being? We talk about the new age challenge of the Leaking gut, understand why that happens, what are the symptoms and how it impacts our life. We also end the show with a few things that we can do to consume food in an Awakened State to bring maximum benefit of the act of consuming food. Visit www.everydayloamagic.com for support in life changing transformtions.  

In this episode, Dr. Patricia Thompson discusses what science says about the importance of sleep for bringing your best game to work. Listen in for some easy to apply tips that will help you to get a good night's rest so that you can perform at your peak.

Do you want to take more control and build a better habit of positive self-talk and deliberate focus on your dreams, goals and desired lifestyle?  Tune in for this quick episode on the quickest and easiest master tool that ANYONE can immediately start doing.

Do you have what it takes to be an exceptional leader? You know, the kind that inspires groups of people to do amazing things? In this episode corporate psychologist, Dr. Patricia Thompson, shares the 7 essential characteristics for consummate leadership. Then, she'll share some practical tips so that you can get started in further developing your ability to lead. This episode is based on her book, The Consummate Leader: a Holistic Guide to Inspiring Growth in Others...and in Yourself.

Uranus is famed for wanting space and independence, for kicking down fences and kicking up a storm. He represents that part of our psyche which says "gotta do it MY way, and gotta do it NOW". He doesn't easily tolerate compromise or surrender - and for those of us who practice deliberate creation, that might feel prickly and awkward to manage. For many of us - women in particular - his influence can feel scary or overwhelming, especially if we've been taught not to rock the boat. But this spirit of inner rebellion is a potent key to finding our true path, and he's better at partnering up than he is sometimes given credit for. With Uranus currently entering a dance with Venus, this is a perfect time to go down the rabbit hole and explore why he's the champion of your own personal Rebel Alliance

You can't mainfest that which you desire if you don't know what you want...or can you??? Often times getting clear on what we want is half the battle; and we can think we know when really, we don't.  Learn ways to get started despite not having all the answers right now, as well as exercises to baby step your way to getting more and more clear.

Studies have been done on this and demonstrate that if you want to have any significant influence on someone you need to keep your positive to negative observation ratio at about 7 to 1. That means you're saying seven times more positive things to someone than sharing negative observations about them. When you think about that, it makes perfect sense. However, we're going to talk about the neuroscience of why it works and how to make that equation work for you. Read the blog post here.   

Do you struggle with impatience?  Do you find yourself quickly getting frustrated when things aren’t moving at your desired rate? Do you know you should just slow down, but have a hard time doing so? In this episode corporate psychologist, Dr. Patricia Thompson, will explore how impatience can undermine your success at work, while also having a negative impact on your quality of life. She’ll finish with some actionable strategies that you can use to slow down.  If you could stand to smell the roses a little more, this show is for you.  

Ayurveda is a 5000 yr old Indian philosophy of medicine that is based on connection and alignment with the five elements of nature. The use of spices is a core tool in preventing ailments and curing diseases. In this episode, we talk about five spices that are easy to access and use every day and are used extensively in Ayurvedic cooking. You can find me on www.everydayloamagic.com

I'm not a big fan of black and white judgments about what's a lie and what isn't. Generally speaking, I'm not terribly invested in the "truth." The truth is very, very fluid. Almost every lies, at least to themselves. Hell, from moment to moment what's true can change for any one person at any time. Especially when it comes to my thoughts, I know the most accurate indicator what's true is pretty simple. Does this thought work? Does it get me the kind of results I want in my life? Does this thought hold water for the long haul? If it doesn't, I have to admit to myself that thought is a lie. Lies don't yield great results no matter how long I'm lying to myself. I've lived my life by some really bad lies. There were lies I told myself so often they became a very shaky foundation under an unstable life. I know I'm not alone. We're going to talk about 3 lies women regularly tell themselves in some form that we should all give up now.  Read the blog post here. 

Let's explore what it takes to stick to a practice long enough to make a difference. Changes can be hard and they way we think about the process and how we feel when we move through the process has its own challenges. In this episode, we uncover one simple suggestion to keep at your practice. For more support contact www.everydayloamagic.com

Do you feel like a slacker when you take breaks during the work day? Are you afraid that if you take time off your results will suffer? Do you believe that the more time and effort you put into your job the better off you’ll be?   In this episode, psychologist Dr. Patricia Thompson will challenge this perspective by covering what science says about the value of taking breaks for your productivity, profitability, happiness, and even your health. Then, she’ll provide helpful strategies so that you can start giving yourself more down time to achieve greater success.

There is no part of your life that lives in isolation from the rest of your life. So, if you want anything to change for more than a few days or few minutes, you need to focus on raising the tide of your entire life. You know, a rising tide lifts all ships. Let's face it, focusing on solving your problem is usually still focusing on your problem. That's not likely to be super useful. When you set your sights an entire life that rocks, everything, including your "problem," improves. It has to. That's the way the system works.  Read the blog post here.   

Because we can rarely see our programming, we spend all of our time playing the same game by the same rules. Doing the same thing over and over again will naturally produce the same result. If you want different results in your life, you might want to change the game and the rules. The good news is you can. It's your life. You get to do it however you'd like. When your program is hidden and very fixed sometimes the easiest way to shift it is to be extreme intentionally, and then over time you settle into a more productive mid-point. Lisa Hayes is going to talk about three ways you might turn the traditional rules upside down and start playing by a more subversive set of rules to yield better results. Read the blog post HERE.

There are layers of wellness, our system is perfectly set up to thrive and balance itself. Let's understand these layers and look at three things that we can do to start creating wellness for ourselves. For further guidance visit www.everydayloamagic.com

Find me at www.everydayloamagic.com How much water to drink is the most widely searched question. In this day and age, we seemed to have gone out of touch with certain basic information of this all-powerful element. In this episode we will discuss the impact of water, how much we need and how best to consume it. 

Find me at www.everydayloamagic.com  We are talking about four most common reason why most of us struggle with keeping fit and staying healthy. We all know a state of wellness is where we should be but still find ourselves at odds with the practices. At the end, we are going to list three things that we should do to make the journey of Wellness a guaranteed success. 

The thing about comparison, or even critical comparison is that it's a part of that reptilian programming. In a life and death situation, all animals instinctively check out each other to see who's more fit for survival. At our core we are animals. However, in our lives we are human. Sometimes those two parts of ourselves don't play nicely together. The point is this: don't be hard on yourself for noticing you are doing the comparison thing. It's an instinct. However, that instinct is an impulse and you don't have to give into it. http://www.lisamhayes.com/blog/post/4-ways-to-opt-out-of-the-critical-comparison-mind-fck-loop

About three times a year, Mercury goes Retrograde - the technical term for when a planet appears to move backwards. (It's not really going backwards - it just looks that way from Earth). Poor Mercury Retrograde gets some bad press out there in social media land, getting blamed for everything from weird technology hiccups to communication breakdowns of all kinds. But actually, Mercury Retrograde offers some fabulous positive benefits if you know what's really going on. With Mercury due to turn Retrograde in a few days, find out how to navigate this trickster energy with aplomb and ease.

Almost everyone knows what "catfishing" is. It's when you fall in love with someone via the internet you've never met how isn't who they say they are. Usually, catfishing is a scam to try to get you to part with your money run out of a boiler room in a third world country someplace. However, lots of people get sucked into virtual relationships with people who don't intend any harm but still aren't exactly who they present themselves to be.  Virtual intimacy can seem real. However, until you've met someone in person you never really know who they are or how you feel. Chemistry in person is very different than chemistry online or on the phone. Getting from the virtual world to a real date can be difficult. People will delay the real world date for a lot of reasons, most of them aren't nefarious. However, statistics show the longer you wait, the less likely the budding relationship will go anywhere. Healthy people who are ready for a relationship don't drag their feet. We're going to talk about how to avoid getting stuck in a virtual loop and on to a real date. 

Your inner Venus is a powerhouse of desire and attraction, whether you're a woman or a man. In our culture, many of Venus's most potent attributes have been misunderstood or even squashed down. Ruler of both Libra and Taurus, Venus is currently retrograde (that is, she appears to be moving backwards in the sky). Any time a planet turns retrograde, it's time for reviewing and reassessing. What a perfect time to re-examine our relationship with this most charming and powerful of goddesses, and see how she can help us boost our LOA practices.

Sometimes dating feels a lot like the lottery. It's random, the odds aren't in your favor, and playing is expensive. However, it doesn't have to be that way. Dating done with clarity and intention is fun. If you aren't having a good time, you aren't doing it right.   In order to avoid a lot of heartache, you want to know what to look for so you can avoid dating people who are way more likely to break your heart for no good reason. Playing the odds is easier when you know the rules of the game. Sure, anyone can change. However, if someone is flying two or more of these red flags, you're probably going to want to take a pass and invest your energy with someone who's more likely to be able to be in a long term relationship.