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Mr. Darcy has been on my mind this week. Not because he's the fantasy of so many women, but because I finally read Pride and Prejudice, and discovered something shocking (to me) about him. I'd always thought of Mr. Darcy as this tall, brooding, misunderstood character. The fabulously wealthy, handsome man who everyone thinks is a jerk, but secretly has a heart of gold and wants to take care of you. This is why women have been obsessed with him for hundreds of years. The strong, silent, mysterious hero. But that's not who he starts out as in the book. Reading Pride and Prejudice reveals so much more about him, and about what it takes to change and grow. In this episode, I'll share what Mr. Darcy's transformation can teach us about:how honest conversations can lead to personal transformation – for you and the person you're speaking with.why hard conversations are worth having, even when they feel risky or uncomfortable.what Stoic principles and practical communication tools can help us handle conflict gracefully.By the way – hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel, an American writer, communication coach, and practicing Stoic based in England.sarahmikutel.comNonviolent communication tips

Last week, I gave one of the lightning talks at Stoicon 2024. The topic: How to Combat Speaking Anxiety with Stoicism.Want to see the video? Head to my Substack

Why do we get angry? How can we challenge our immediate reactions? And what's the best way to articulate our feelings without passive aggression or a blow-up? In this episode, you'll learn four Stoic tips to turn potential conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and stronger relationships.Let's continue the conversation. Head on over to my blog on Substack for more content on how to thrive through better communication, Stoicism, and global exploration. That's right, blogging is cool again. Over on the Substack platform, you can chat with me in the comments and I have plenty of bonuses for paid subscribers. Or, you can read new posts for free.Live Without Borders Substack

I'm reading David Fideler's excellent book Breakfast with Seneca, where he quotes Seneca in one of his letters: “If you want to escape your troubles, you don't need to be somewhere else: you need to be someone else.” Those searching for meaning or purpose in life might think a new place will provide answers. But a new location, a new job, a new partner doesn't guarantee a better life or a fresh start. Finding purpose involves understanding your values, interests, and goals. It's internal work that can be done anywhere.sarahmikutel.comLooking to live a more Stoic life? Let's chat.

Our intentions don't always line up with our outcomes, and misunderstandings lead to anger, sadness, frustration, and conflict. In this episode, I'll talk about intent vs impact, which is more important, and how to effectively and ethically communicate your intentions. Of course, I'll be weaving in the timeless wisdom of the Stoics.Hi, I'm Sarah Mikutel, your communication and mindset coach, an Enneagram 9 expat in England, and practicing Stoic.  Introverts come to me to learn to speak confidently in front of a room, online, and in social situations without becoming a sweaty, blushing mess with a stress headache.Check out the itinerary for the Ultimate Bulgarian experience and save $200 when you book by Nov. 11. If you love exploring ancient ruins, food and wine tastings, and experiencing new countries like a local, you're our kind of person. Join us for an unforgettable experience in May.https://sarahmikutel.com/Bulgaria

Introvert Emergency Kit Click here if you're ready to become a less anxious, more charismatic public speaker.When it comes to public speaking, what exactly are you afraid of? Most people I talk to don't explore their fears at all – and this makes them worse. The thought of public speaking brings up such uncomfortable feelings that they try to ignore them or stuff them down – which is why they continue to suffer from speaking anxiety, one of the most common fears in the world. How is an amorphous ‘fear of fear' holding you back and keeping you quiet?  I'm Sarah Mikutel, your communication and mindset coach. By the end of this episode, you will know:what you're really afraid of when you say you don't like public speaking – no more amorphous clouds of discomfort,how anxiety manifests in our mind and body and why not managing it is so harmful,the beliefs underlying the four different flavors of public speaking anxiety, and Stoic practices you can do to let go of anxiety so you can more eloquently express your thoughts, feelings, and ideas.So no more holding in what you want to say and then internally screaming when someone else voices what you'd been thinking. It's time to start feeling more calm and confident when you speak. Let's dive in. sarahmikutel.com

As human beings, we're naturally inclined to take care of ourselves and our immediate family. This is the center of our circles of concern. As Stoics, of course, we believe we can extend our sense of care and belonging (oikeiosis) to also include our community, country, and the rest of the world.I believe travel is one of the best ways to practice oikeiosis.This is why I'm sharing part of an interview I did on my podcast Live Without Borders. I'm speaking with my friend Zlatina, a Bulgarian native on the expansive power of travel.Head over to the Live Without Borders podcast to listen to the whole episode – including Zlatina's best travel advice on her home country. Zlatina and I love Bulgaria so much that we're hosting a very special travel experience for you May 15-21, 2024. Join the waitlist ASAP.  We're keeping this trip very small – max 10 travelers. When you're on the waitlist, you get first priority to come and access to our early-bird rate. We'll announce the full itinerary to the waitlist in the next two weeks, so register your interest in the Bulgaria trip now so you don't miss out.Meanwhile, you can listen to my Live Without Borders interview with Zlatina to learn more about the breathtaking sites you'll see in Plovdiv and beyond. 

We often hear how negative self-comparisons can be, especially when it comes to social media. But what if we could use comparison as a force for good? A tool to help us grow and flourish at work and in our personal lives?  Great news, we can!Today you'll learn how to stop negatively comparing yourself to others and start measuring your progress in healthier and more productive ways. Plus, you'll learn the scientific theory about why you're actually more likable the less perfect you are.Hi, I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. Ready to take this work deeper and radically transform your life? Let's talk. Book your call here. sarahmikutel.com Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Have you ever wondered why the richest countries on Earth consistently rank so high in anxiety and depression? Research says this is because we're so overstimulated by instant gratification that our brains never feel satisfied and become increasingly unhappy in the quest for more. We're literally addicted to pursuing pleasures that will never satisfy us.The cure to this man-made misery? Self-control. The Stoics knew 2,300 years ago that the key to a tranquil and virtuous life lay in their ability to discipline their desires – and modern science backs this up. In this episode, I'll coach you on how to master your mind so you can start experiencing more vitality and true joy on a permanent basis. Self-mastery is self-love.On July 25, I'm hosting a workshop on How to Fall in Love with Self-Discipline. We'll dive deeper into the practices you can do to reign in the impulses that are blocking you. You'll walk away with a plan to overcome self-sabotage and transform your life. Sign up for the workshop. *Registration ends July 24 so I can customize the experience for participants*

Ever been cut off mid-sentence and feel a whirlwind of emotions – frustration, anger,  embarrassment? Why do we take interruptions so personally, and how can we use Stoicism to handle them with grace?I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel, and in this episode, I dive into effective communication and mindset strategies that will help you be seen and heard. By the end, you'll be equipped to handle interruptions confidently, communicate effectively, and enjoy life with more wisdom and less anxiety.https://sarahmikutel.com/Occasionally I offer free strategy / coaching sessions to help my community thrive. There are seven spaces available to people who haven't taken advantage of this opportunity yet.Book your coaching session.

What do courage and resilience truly mean? This Memorial Day, I reflect on the incredible bravery of the 'Greatest Generation' during World War II, drawing inspiration from my visits to historic locations such as Auschwitz and Churchill's War Rooms in London. From blackouts to rationing, the everyday experiences of European civilians during WWII serve as a testament to human resilience. In the film Saving Private Ryan, a dying Captain Miller says to Matt Damon's character: "Earn this." He was also speaking to us.We have a responsibility to earn the lives that other people died for. In this episode, I talk about how we can do this by showing up as Stoic leaders and embodying courage, wisdom, moderation, and justice in our own lives. By giving ourselves space to think and show up as our best selves, we can strive to live a life of meaning that honors the sacrifices of the Greatest Generation.https://sarahmikutel.com/

Have you ever noticed how our thoughts and reactions can create unnecessary stress, or cultivate empathy and understanding for others?On a recent flight to Florida, I was reminded of the power of perception and emotional resiliency.I share the story of passengers clapping after a smooth landing, the reactions of those around me as a father rushed to exit the plane, and how the simple words of a child turned turbulence into an exciting adventure.Inspired by the wisdom of Epictetus, we'll discuss how to be more emotionally resilient by challenging our first impressions and choosing more rational thoughts.sarahmikutel.comLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Do you have a philosophy that you live your life by?My guest today thinks you should — and so do all the Stoics who came before her.I'm speaking with Brittany Polat, author of Tranquility Parenting: A Guide to Staying Calm, Mindful, and Engaged and  Journal Like a Stoic: A 90-Day Stoicism Program to Live with Greater Acceptance, Less Judgment, and Deeper Intentionality. She's also a steering committee member of Modern Stoicism, and co-founder, along with Eve Riches, of the nonprofit Stoicare, which “aims to share Stoicism with everyone who cares about people and the planet.”We discuss the importance of having a life philosophy for yourself before you can hope to influence other people — especially kids. We also talk about how to cultivate more positive emotions in your life; how to be more mindful; how to fit reflection into your day, and more. As you're listening to this conversation, think of one thing you want to start implementing to live a more harmonious life.  https://sarahmikutel.com/Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

What would life be like if we felt more happy connections with people on a regular basis? How can we embrace the wider world and bring people closer to us, even if for a few moments at the seaside? OikeiosisStoics believe we are all citizens of the world, part of one global community. This is Stoic cosmopolitanism. The Stoic philosopher Seneca said: “Our relations with one another are like a stone arch, which would collapse if the stones did not mutually support each other, and which is upheld in this very way.” Seneca, Letter 95, Tao of SenecaJust like each stone in an arch depends on the strength of the others to maintain its stability, we human beings are part of a harmonious system meant to support one another.Stoics believe meaningful connection is important to our wellbeing, and for society as a whole. We're here on this Earth to take care of one another, and this starts with taking care of ourselves. I've talked previously about the Stoic concept of the circles of concern, which describes our relationships to everyone, including ourselves.https://sarahmikutel.com/Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Harvard researchers have been studying what makes people happy for decades. Since 1938, they've been following the same people, and then their families, to learn more about what makes a good life. This is the longest-running study of its kind involving hundreds of people across different walks of life. JFK was even involved when he was a student. So what did they discover in this happiness survey? Money, fame, and awards don't lead to long-term happiness. Here's what does — good relationships.Think about a trip you took a few years ago. A vacation or time abroad or in a new city that you really loved. What do you remember? When you first got home and a friend asked, “Oh, how was your time away?” chances are you recited the things you did. But years later, when you think of that trip, you remember your interactions with people, those you were traveling with and also complete strangers.The key to the good life is developing good relationships and being open to encounters with everyone.And there's both science and magic behind why.https://sarahmikutel.com/Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

I'm hosting a 2023 Goal-Mapping Workshop on Jan. 14. It's free and a replay will be available for a few days after if you register in advance. This isn't a lecture – it's a very interactive session. You'll:Create a vision for your year that aligns with your values and prioritiesBreak down your big goals into manageable tasks that don't overwhelm youDevelop a plan of action to stay on track and avoid procrastinationPrioritize your tasks and projects in a way that helps you stay focused and motivatedOvercome obstacles and setbacks in a way that allows you to stay true to your values and goalsYou'll leave this workshop with a clear and actionable plan for the year ahead. And you'll have the tools and strategies you need to stay focused and motivated, no matter what life throws your way.What: 2023 Goal-Mapping WorkshopWhen: 10 a.m. EST, Jan. 14How long:  60-90 minutesWhere: Online – you'll receive a link closer to the dateHow: Book your space here

Around January 1, we set goals that we intend to keep. But most of us break these vows before the month is over – why? What's the real reason people won't change? And how can we use Stoicism and modern psychology to start? To truly be free and move forward, we need to cultivate helpful thoughts and let go of unhelpful ones. This is how we become resilient and learn to flow with life instead of fighting it.  But what if you're not even aware of your unhelpful thoughts?  I've talked about different ways to uncover your blind spots on this podcast, and today you'll learn about a new one from Harvard's Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey, authors of the book Immunity to Change.  sarahmikutel.comLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

What does Auld Lang Syne mean and why is its message so important?Find out in this episode.Also, Happy New Year! What are your intentions for this year?https://sarahmikutel.com/Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

It's that time of year when we encourage each other to slow down, appreciate what we have, and be present with others. But how do we stay in the moment when our minds keep drifting to what's happening next week, or what occurred 10 years ago? That's what this episode is about.Sarahmikutel.comAre you an introvert who wants to feel less anxious when it comes to public speaking, dealing with conflict, etc? I want to hear from you! Complete my brief Introvert Leader survey by Dec 26 for a chance to win a $25 Starbucks gift card. Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Chocolate. Lots of us love it. Where does it come from? Who makes it? And how can we be ethical consumers of chocolate? I want the answer to be easy — like, just by such-and-such chocolate bar. But the answer is more complicated than that. Today I'm speaking with cocoa and chocolate scholar (and lover of chocolate) Dr. Kristy Leissle, an American who now lives in South Africa.Kristy, aka Dr. Chocolate, wrote the book Cocoa and has spent her career studying the politics, economics, and cultures of the cocoa-chocolate trade in Africa, Europe, and North America. She also co-founded the Cocoapreneurship Institute of Ghana, which supports entrepreneurs working at any stage of the cocoa value chain in West Africa.I absolutely love the stories Kristy shares in this episode about how travel and learning from and befriending people from other nations and cultures led her to becoming Dr. Chocolate. So, can we be virtuous consumers of chocolate? What does that even mean? Kristy and I get into it. P.S. If you're in an English-speaking country, it's pronounced co-co, not ca-cow. So the next time you're in a snobby artisanal shop and they start talking about ca-cow, you can correct them and say, “Actually, Dr. Chocolate says it's cocoa and she has a PhD in the matter.”Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Chances are this holiday season you'll have to talk to at least one person who drives you bananas. But what if this doesn't have to stress you out? What if you could have a good conversation? What if this could be your least angst-filled holiday yet? It can be!Here are five ancient Stoic techniques (backed up by modern psychology) to manage your anger and anxiety when talking to people you think are difficult. sarahmikutel.comLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

On a recent trip, I learned that the last so-called witch to be executed in Scotland died in 1727.Of course, there are still people being tortured, killed, and scapegoated around the world today. But we're more likely to be involved in hanging people on social media.Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

On a recent trip to Scotland, I ate well, I drank well -- didn't so much sleep well. But I enjoyed just the right amount of indulgence for me on a trip. This kind of happiness is hedonia. Hedonic pleasure is about, well, pleasure. Comfort. Satisfaction. What feels good in the moment. Pleasure coming from external things. A massage after a long day. A bite of flourless chocolate cake. Sprawling out on your beach towel and doing nothing.  These pleasures are fun and worthwhile and should be savored in the moment. Hedonic pleasures are also temporary. You may have heard of the hedonic treadmill. This is the idea that we chase hedonic pleasures, we get them, and then that becomes our new baseline. You get the promotion you want, but that's no longer enough money. You want more. You move into a ‘starter' home that you love, but one month in you're wishing you're already in your ‘forever' home, one that will be much bigger and perfect and you'll finally be satisfied then. This kind of happiness is tied to external pleasure. Moving toward pleasure and away from pain.There are two ways we can extend hedonic happiness: 1) by expressing gratitude for and savoring these moments and 2) by abstaining from these pleasures for awhile. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and reminds you to appreciate what you have. There's a second kind of happiness that's long lasting: eudaimonia. We achieve this by living as our highest selves. By being people of good character and being good to ourselves. This includes being disciplined enough to do what's best for us and those around us. Enjoy this episode on how to learn to love doing the hard thing through Stoic discipline. Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there?Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Fundraiser for Ukraine  Life feels pretty chaotic right now for many people. It's not just the war in Ukraine or Covid. The world these days seems too fast-paced and full of rage. You might feel...afraid to say anything online (or IRL)so overwhelmed by all you want to do, you don't do anythingparalyzed and frustrated by your perfectionist procrastinationThese are all totally normal thoughts and feelings. And you don't have to stay stuck here.In  the Calm the Chaos audio course I created for you, I blend Stoic wisdom with modern psychology to help you:  feel less anxious in your mind and bodybe more present for friends and family – and yourselflive with more intention and less regretstop worrying what others think All course profits made between now and May 28 will go to Nova Ukraine, an organization providing humanitarian aid to Ukrainian refugees. Go to sarahmikutel.com/calmthechaos to access the audio course via donation today. Once again, donations must be made by May 28. Thank you

What are the life skills that really matter?In this episode, you'll hear specifics on how to live a good life. A simple life. One that will give you more energy and inner peace. I'm joined by Stephen Warley, fellow Stoicism lover and host of the Life Skills That Matter podcast. This interview originally aired on my other podcast, LIVE Without Borders, a year or so ago. I think you'll get a lot out of it, so I'm sharing it with you here.Our interview was a two-parter. In part one, Stephen and I discussed the future of work and life skills that will enable you to live a more freedom-filled, location independent life. If that interests you, you can head over to LIVE Without Borders and listen to the episode: “Life Skills That Matter for Aspiring Solopreneurs.”This is part 2, where Stephen and I talk about energy, digital detoxing, designing your ideal day and more. We'll be jumping right into the conversation, where Stephen and I time travel to our younger years, and share where we started out in our careers. Enjoy!  Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

You know when you're traveling and you see families fuming in the airport or no longer speaking to each other at dinner? Chances are, one of them, or multiple people, blew something out of proportion and are still reacting to it. Why does this happen? How can we be more emotionally resilient, that is, more Stoic, and enjoy a more smoothly flowing life? Let's dive into why things don't have to upset us with an AirBnB story…Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Note: I recorded this awhile ago. With everything happening in Ukraine, this information is more important than ever.  ***Where do these emotions come from? What are emotions? How can we cultivate healthy emotions that improve our own wellbeing, and thereby our positive impact on the world? That's what I want to talk about today.  Here's a little taste...  Most people think emotions run their lives, but, in her popular Ted Talk, Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, says that, “Emotions are not what we think they are...They are not hardwired brain reactions that are uncontrollable...emotions are guesses...Your brain is predicting. It's using past experience based on similar situations to try to make meaning.”When you're confronted with a situation, your mind and body will try to make sense of it by reading your body's automatic physical response, and running through past thoughts/feelings. This happens instantly and automatically to give you an initial understanding of the situation. The Stoics called this initial impression phantasia. They believed that your emotions are a result of value judgements you're making about what's happening, and it seems that they were right. As Epictetus said, “It's not things that upset us but our judgments about things.” Visit sarahmikutel.com for full show notes.  Enjoy the episode!❤️  Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life. Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

In this episode, I am back with my friend Kai Whiting, co-author of the book Being Better: Stoicism for a World Worth Living In. Kai is a researcher and lecturer in sustainability and Stoicism currently living in Lisbon, Portugal.If you're into ancient ruins, you will love the beginning of our interview, where Kai talks about the research he conducted in Pompeii. And then we spend a lot of the conversation talking about what it means to be a  citizen of the world, a concept that was very important to the ancient Stoics.  Should we be traveling more or less? Should we adapt to local customs or stick to our guns? There aren't any rigid rules in Stoicism. It's more about living according to principles.    Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life. Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

As a listener of this podcast, you've already heard me talk about how the ancient philosophy of Stoicism offers guidance on how we can live the good life in the modern world. How to be less stressed. How to be a better listener. How to be more productive. But Stoicism is about more than improving ourselves on an individual level, it's about improving our communities and being an active member of society. “No one is an island,” says today's guest. That's actually the title of chapter five of the book he co-authored: Being Better: Stoicism for a World Worth Living In. I am speaking to Kai Whiting, an English researcher and lecturer in sustainability and Stoicism currently living in Lisbon, Portugal (Update! Kai's moved to England).Kai and I spoke for several hours — he's a new bff whom I definitely plan on visiting in real life. I loved our conversation and am splitting it up in a few parts. This week we're focussed on why Kai decided to focus  his book on Stoicism for the common good, and we get into a fascinating discussion on how contemporary cancel culture is a version of exile from ancient times, and how Stoicism offers an antidote to this.Enjoy.Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there?Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionIt's not super easy for U.S. citizens to get visas to live and work abroad (and the U.S. gov doesn't make it easy for people to come in either). But millions of Americans have figured out how to create a life overseas, and so can you.Here's my cheat sheet of the nine easiest countries to move to from the U.S.https://www.sarahmikutel.com/countryguideLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Janus is the Roman god of beginnings and endings, transitions and passageways, doorways and duality, amongst several other things. And he was one of my favorite sculptures in my town's art Triennial this year, formally known as the Creative Folkestone Triennial 2021. High up on the East Cliff, in a little park overlooking the ocean, stood this massive head of Janus, who's typically portrayed with two faces, one facing toward the future and the other face looking toward the past. That's what this artwork looked like: a gleaming white, massive head of Janus with one face looking toward the harbour and the other face looking back toward the houses on the street.The sign next to Janus said, “It looks out to sea towards Europe and inland to England, contemplating what connects us as well as what divides us. It is made of plaster and chalk and will gradually degrade and disintegrate, reflecting the gradual erosion of the coastline as well as Folkestone's history as a fort of England.”And he did melt away, helped along by vandals, by the time the Triennial ended this month. A pile of white dust and plaster on the green grass. Memento mori, as the Stoics would say. We will all end up like Janus. And most of us live with that same duality: One part of us pondering the future, another replaying the past. And we're missing this moment. The present moment.Let's change that.❤️Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there?Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionLike the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life,” Seneca says, “it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today.” Seneca, On the Shortness of Life.Most of us don't follow through on our New Year's Resolutions because we treat them like wishes and not goals. Ideally, if we want to achieve a goal, we map out a plan to achieve it and follow through. Today's episode is about setting yourself up for success by focusing on your goals.❤️  Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life. Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionReady to make 2022 the greatest year of your life?More energy. More love. More achieving-of-your-goals??Join Optimize, the scientifically-backed optimal-living program that transforms you into the best version of yourself. Join today to save 70% + bring a friend for free!! Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

How to cultivate loving kindness during the holiday season (and all year!)❤️Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there?Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionReady to make 2022 the greatest year of your life?More energy. More love. More achieving-of-your-goals??Join Optimize, the scientifically-backed optimal-living program that transforms you into the best version of yourself. Join today to save 70% + bring a friend for free!! Like the show? If so, I have a ‘good deed for the day' assignment for you

Most of our suffering comes from thoughts that we let run wild in our brains. We spend a lot of time each day rehashing different conversations and situations in our mind, and we think that we're just reviewing facts. But we're not. We're reflecting on our own points of view, assuming what others think, worrying about the future, and ruminating about the past.The ancient Stoics understood that our thoughts are nothing more than stories we tell ourselves. And modern mental health professionals agree with them that we should challenge the thoughts that pop into our heads and not automatically accept them as reality. You might be thinking, “That's impossible. I have a million thoughts running through my mind. It's not in my control. I'm anxious. I'm overwhelmed.”In today's episode, I'll coach you on how to use a thought record to manage your mind so you can live a more resilient, calm, joyful, and compassionate life. I can't overstate how essential this work is to your wellbeing. If you're feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or frustrated that the changes you're trying to make aren't sticking, listen to this twice.I've also created a thought record worksheet for you.Full show notes can be found at sarahmikutel.comHello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there?Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsession

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It does not take much to make some people angry. We live in a society where people are quick to take offense. To feel victimized. To be enraged at people with opposing views. Political leaders and certain media outlets stir the pot for their own benefit. In my episode on Stoicism and the Art of Happiness, Donald Robertson offered some techniques we can use to manage our anger toward people who hold views that we strongly disagree with.Today I want to talk to you about becoming more aware of your anger style based on your Enneagram type, and to share more practices you can use to conquer your anger and also to learn from it. And you might learn about your partner or parent’s anger style, as well. Because we don’t all experience anger in the same way. Some rage while others think they never get angry. But anger is a human emotion that we all experience, and how we experience it depends on several factors, including our Enneagram type, level of mental and emotional wellbeing, and our personal development work.You'll learn...what the anger triad iswhat makes each Enneagram type mad and how they express thisStoic techniques any Enneagram type can use to conquer their angerHello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionWant to connect on Insta? Find me here

Growing up, what were your family’s eating habits? Fruits and vegetables? Canned spaghetti and doughnuts? At our house, once in a while we’d have pizza, and maybe once a year for a crazy treat we could pick out a sugary cereal -- Booberry was my fav. But for the most part, we were a junk food-free house.Fast forward quite a few years, and now when I go home to visit, it’s like I’m entering Candy Land. Brownies, cookies, pies staring me in the face. Even though I don’t have much of a sweet tooth, I find these treats hard to resist, and I usually don’t, which is why my clothes felt a little too close for comfort after my last visit.So, I decided to try the Fresh Start: 21-Day Cleanse created by Simple Green Smoothies co-founder Jen Hansard. This was exactly the reset my body needed. I lost weight, gained a ton of energy, and my mind felt clearer. As we begin a new year, I thought you might be interested in a fresh start, as well, so I invited Jen onto the Part of Something Greater podcast to talk about how to improve your quality of life through clean eating. I also talk about what the Stoics think about eating well to improve your character, mind, body, and spirit.I liked Jen's cleanse so much that I became an affiliate partner for her. This means that if you purchase her Fresh Start plan through my link, I could get a small commission at no extra cost to you. This is a great way to support the podcast. Of course, I only recommend products and services I love.Visit sarahmikutel.com to get in touch about how we can work one-on-one together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Looking for a guide to help you discover your Enneagram personality type? Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionWant to connect on Insta? Find me here

The end of the year is a time for reflection: What went right? What went wrong? What could I have handled better? Questions that Stoics ask themselves every evening.It’s also the time of year that we see round ups of popular news stories, though 2020 often felt like we heard of nothing other than Covid-19 and the U.S. presidential election, and sometimes Brexit. Many stories slipped through the cracks, including the 75th anniversary of the end of World War 2. We throw around the word nazi so casually now -- grammar nazi, soup nazi -- but in our grandparents’ time, nazi nazis were taking over Europe in a murderous rampage. Mark Twain is often quoted as saying, “History doesn’t repeat itself but it often rhymes.” There’s no evidence he said that, but the sentiment stands: Never forget. We need to look back so we can understand the present and plan for a better future. Due to the pandemic, end-of-the-war commemorations were canceled around the world this year. I think the remembrance of what happened 75 years ago deserved a lot more coverage, and so this episode is my tribute to the men and women who fought the good fight. I recorded this episode a year and a half ago for my travel podcast, the Postcard Academy, around the anniversary of D-Day. I discuss several ways in which we can honor the sacrifices made by the Greatest Generation. At one point, I talk about the importance of traveling more. Here’s hoping that wish comes true for all of us in 2021. I wish you a happy, healthy, and safe New Year.Visit sarahmikutel.com to get in touch about how we can work one-on-one together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life.Looking for a guide to help you discover your Enneagram personality type? Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionWant to connect on Insta? Find me here

I've had a travel podcast for several years now called the Postcard Academy, where I interview women like myself who packed up everything to start a new adventure in another part of the world. One of the core values that I talk about is that we will never have this day again -- make it matter. It's my softer way of saying 'If you died tomorrow, would you be satisfied with how you lived this day?' I knew I didn't invent this way of thinking but I didn't realize that Stoics have been talking about this for thousands of years until I learned about the greatest philosopher king, Marcus Aurelius, who ruled until 180 A.D. He said, “You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” (Greg Hays translation). Marcus wrote down many words of wisdom, and I want to share his story today because he's an ideal example of how we can all live a good life, no matter what obstacles come our way.I'm joined again by Stoic expert Donald Robertson, author of How to Think Like a Roman Emperor, which explains the Stoic philosophy via Marcus' fascinating story. It's my favorite book on Stoicism! Get the audiobook for free if you're new to Audible by signing up for a trial at audibletrial.com/postcardVisit sarahmikutel.com to get in touch about how we can work one-on-one together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life. Looking for a guide to help you discover your Enneagram personality type? Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionWant to connect on Insta? Find me here

Even though I haven't lived in the U.S. for 10 years, I've been in Italy and England for most of this time, I still pay close attention to my home country.At the time of this recording, it's 2020. The U.S. just ended the most contentious and vitriolic political campaign season I've seen in my lifetime. I see the divisiveness and bitter partisanship. People are becoming more tribal. Canceling out opposing views. At the same time people seem desperate for connection and to be part of something greater than themselves. And then I look around and see what they're gravitating toward. If they're not religious, it seems social media and YouTube are sucking them into extremist groups, gangs, and conspiracy theories. I wondered what it would it look like if we could offer them a peaceful, compassionate, hopeful alternative idea to believe in. Then I realized this idea already exists in Stoicism, a 2,300-year old philosophy that essentially says: Live your values. Don’t worry about things that are beyond your control. Be a person of good character who looks out for other people.It's a practical philosophy on how to live a good life and will be one of the primary ideas I'll discuss on this show. Because like the Enneagram, Stoicism gives us the tools we need to increase our self awareness, be more present, and to respond to life in a mindful way and not out of emotion or habit.Consider this episode Stoicism 101. I couldn't think of a better person to talk to about this than Donald Robertson, a Stoic expert and a cognitive behavioral therapist. He's written my favorite books on modern Stoicism, including Stoicism and the Art of Happiness and How to Think Like a Roman Emperor. AND, he's an expat/world wanderer: a Scotsman who moved in Canada but has been appropriately hanging out in Athens for a good part of this year. Enjoy the show!Visit sarahmikutel.com to get in touch about how we can work one-on-one together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in your life. Looking for a guide to help you discover your Enneagram personality type? Book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionWant to connect on Insta? Find me here

New to the Enneagram? Welcome to your introductory class.Even if you're familiar with the Enneagram, you'll likely learn something new as I talk about the history of this personal development tool before diving into the nine personality types.At its most basic level, the Enneagram is a framework that says there are nine personality types, and each of the nine types has a different core motivation driving their behavior and beliefs. Why do you do the things you do? What motivates you? How do you see the world? How does the world see you? We all have a little of every type in us, but one of the types is our core type and it doesn’t change. You might wonder why people of the same personality type might outwardly present as very different. There’s several reasons for that, but a primary one is because they have a different subtype. I don’t want to overwhelm you, so today I’ll focus on walking you through the nine types, and we’ll save subtypes and wings and stress and security points and triads and all that other Enneagram magic for another day. Just know that there is a lot of beautiful nuance to the Enneagram and the point is not to box us into a certain type, but to free us from the negative patterns that hold back our type.Don’t stress if, after listening to this episode, you’re not sure what your type is. It can take months for people to narrow down their type because it's the first time they've given themselves this time for self reflection. If you’d like me to guide you through this discovery process, I’d be honored to do an Enneagram typing session with you.You can book your Enneagram typing session by going to sarahmikutel.com/typingsessionHave an Enneagram question? Ask me on Insta

Welcome to Part of Something Greater, a show for peacefully ambitious people seeking personal transformation so they can better themselves, their communities, and the world at large. I’m your host, Sarah Mikutel, an American in England who uses the Enneagram and Stoicism to help my coaching clients become more present, curious, and open hearted. If you’re looking to reduce anxiety and overwhelm, strengthen your relationships, and/or shift from uncomfortable stalemate to confident action, I’m your gal.Go ahead and hit subscribe if you’re a globally-minded citizen who’s ready to live a calmer, kinder, more connected life. Visit me at sarahmikutel.com or DM me on Instagram @sarahmikutel