Podcasts about Hanukkah

Support, Shepherd, and Send Out Our KidsWhat does it really mean to "train up" a child, and what does that have to do with Hanukkah, NASA shuttle launches, and kids getting their way? This week we aim to set the trajectory for our kids and give them momentum, as we introduce our first Guided Study. It's a thirteen-session dive into biblical parenting we call "Training Wheels," and we can't wait to get started! As we prepare for session one, we look at two famous parenting passages (Eph. 6:1-4 and Prov. 22:6). Watch for Daily Download videos starting next week, and if you know any parents that you think might enjoy a series like this, please spread the word!The Big Idea: Children tend to keep going in the direction that their training points them.This Week's Challenge: Say a prayer for parents trying to raise the next generation.Show NotesGuided Study: Training Wheels (WEBSITE)Finding Jesus: Eph. 6:1-4 (VERSE)Scripture du Jour: Prov. 22:6 (VERSE)"Introducing Bible Geeks Guided Studies" (VIDEO)Bible Geeks Guided Studies (WEBSITE)Support the Show

Jeden Dienstag und Donnerstag Kult: SWR3-Moderator Kristian Thees ruft seine beste Freundin Anke Engelke an und die beiden erzählen sich gegenseitig ihre kleinen Geschichtchen des Tages.

Can one use olive oil of Shemitah for Hanukkah lights

The last of our Christmas episodes this year, we're reviewing a book that defends the thesis that Jesus was indeed born on December 25th and that the ancient celebration of Hanukkah was a celebration prefiguring Christ. We talk Christian vs Pagan Christmas as well as how the regulative principle relates to the celebration of Christmas. A very interesting, thought provoking book.

Hosts Hannah brown (@hannahabrown) and Tyler Meredith (@tylermckmeredith) are back babyyyy and here to celebrate the new year by diving into the remaining episodes of the GG reboot. And things are tense, things are dramatic and the stakes are HIGH yall! There's a basketball game that no one understands, AKI IS THE ENTIRE MOMENT and GG is still out to bring JC down. The looks are served, Monet and Luna steal every scene and most importantly we are gifted the opportunity to vicariously attend a Hanukkah dinner hosted by none other than a one CYRUS ROSE AND ELEANOR WALDORF. Seeing them again was like the swaddle we all needed to get us through the end of 2021. XOXO H & T

We know so many of you may have just gotten your first machine for the holidays, so this episode is especially for you! We will run down some basic terms, talk about machines and what to expect, along with some basic tips and tricks to make your printers run well! 3D Printing can be difficult and just getting one for Christmas or Hanukkah, or other holidays/birthdays may seem daunting as soon as you get it out of the box. Have no fear, we can walk you through it! Consider this, a LIVE beginners guide. We will have a channel video out on this very subject soon, but wanted to do something a bit less planned and have more fun at it! Do you have an idea you want to get off the ground? Reach out to the Making Awesome Podcast through https://3DMusketeers.com/podcast and someone will get you set up to be a guest!

Are You Ready For the Next Hacker Wave? It's Going to Be Brutal! Right now, we're going to talk about this vulnerability, this huge vulnerability in almost the entire internet that will affect your life over the following number of years. And if you're a business, you better pay close attention. [Following is an automated transcript] [00:00:16] Well, we are looking at what is being called the single most significant, most critical vulnerability ever. [00:00:24] And if you want more information on this, have a look at last week's show, you'll find it up on my website. I talked quite a bit about it. You can email me M e@craigpeterson.com. I've put together a little cheat sheet that you can use to find out. What should I do? If you're an IT professional, this isn't something that you can do if you're a regular home user because you probably don't have any software your maintaining that has this log for J vulnerability. [00:00:59] But I do have to warn you that you probably do have a little bit of hardware that might have it in there. Many of these firewalls used in homes have it, not all of them, uh, I'm, a minority of them, but here's why this is the single most significant and most critical vulnerability ever. There is a programming lab library that is used in the job. [00:01:26] Programming language that logs events, if you're writing software and let's say their software is running a website, it could be almost anything. And do you notice a condition that's not quite right? What should you do while you should log it? And then, hopefully, the people that are running your software are monitoring the logs. [00:01:49] See the logs? No. Oh my gosh. Uh, there is something wrong here. One of the logs that I keep an eye on that just absolutely amazes me, frankly, is the SSH Daemon logs. Now SSH is a protocol. It uses encryption to get onto other machines using the command line. Now I've used a lot of protocols over the years to do this. [00:02:17] Telnet was the first, and SSH is something that I've been using for a very long time. You might remember the Heartbleed bug from a few years back. That nailed a lot of people, but I keep an eye on that SSH log because. If someone's trying to log into my system from the internet, that log will show it. [00:02:39] It's going to say that someone to try to use this username; they were coming from this IP address, and they failed to get in. And I have software that automatically monitors that log and says, well, if someone's coming from the same. Address multiple times. And they are unsuccessful at logging in add their internet address to my firewall blocking rules. [00:03:09] So what ends up happening is. Well, they just can't even get to my machine anymore. They're trying to hack me. same thing's true with the web blogs. If we have people who are trying to, for instance, kind of put us out of business doing what's called a denial of service attack, where they are sending us a lot of data. [00:03:31] Well, we can at our site or upstream from us have that IP address. Block. And that stops the attack, distributed denial of service attacks, or are a little bit more complicated. So all of this gets logged. It all gets written to a file, or it gets pushed off to a server that keeps track of the logs. And, and then there's analysis software, the looks at logs for. [00:03:57] Anomalies, all of that sort of stuff. It makes a lot of sense. Right. But this particular library that's used by Java programmers has a bug in it that allows a remote user to send just a small string, nothing fancy at all that can command. The web server that is using the logging function to go ahead and download malware. [00:04:28] Well, the easiest low-hanging fruit, when it comes to what kind of malware can we put onto a computer is quite simply crypto mining. So the bad guys they'll go ahead and they'll just send a small string, very simple. They don't have to compile a program. They don't have to do much of anything. They just send this little small. [00:04:50] And if that string gets logged, for instance, by my SSH, my remote access demon, or gets logged by the web server or something else, all of a sudden that wonderful little feature that allowed you to easily log things. Is your enemy because that feature is going to interpret that particular string that was sent to the log and try and be helpful. [00:05:18] But in fact, it could be given a command to download this remote file. Ran, then run that remote file. And that remote file initially here has primarily been crypto mining soft. So now your computer's being used by someone else. Your electricity's being used to mine. Things like Bitcoins or some of these other cryptocurrencies that are out. [00:05:45] Now the real reason, this is a huge, huge problem. Again, let me quote here. This is from Ahmad, a mate. I should say you're an over a tenable. It is by far the single biggest, most critical vulnerability ever. Why is that true? There's a couple of reasons. Ease of use is the obvious reason. It is so easy to use, not just for crypto mining, but for hacking any machine you would care to hack. [00:06:19] And then the second reason is it is in bedded everywhere. There are millions of computers that are vulnerable. We're seeing a hundred. Computers per minute, being hacked using this vulnerable. And if you are running, let's say a firewall that has this vulnerability. We have some clients that had this vulnerability and it is obviously a bit of a problem, right? [00:06:51] Well, that vulnerability now allows bad guys to get onto that firewall. And perhaps beyond that firewall, in order to do pretty much whatever they want. To do. This is huge, huge, huge, lots of software has flaws, and you need to be able to recover from the flaws. I've talked many times about how there are only two types of software. [00:07:23] There are software that has been hacked and there are software that will be hacked. So you need to make sure you know, that if someone gets into your network or gets into your computer, that you can restrict the damages, you can keep it under control. But with this log for J vulnerability, B. Everywhere in, not just that one library, but remember that one library is used all over the place. [00:07:52] It's in hundreds of thousands of pieces of software. Now, every one of these vendors has to grab the most recent version, recompile their software and send and re link it in deep pans. Right. I understand this is Java and then send it out to all of their customers to install the software. This is the second reason. [00:08:15] It is such a big. There will be sites. There will be pieces of software that have this vulnerability for years to come. And one of the biggest examples of this vulnerability is almost every Android device out there. Think of all of the phones. People have Androids being used for tablets it's in televisions, it's everywhere. [00:08:40] And with this particular vulnerability. Being everywhere. Every vendor that uses Android is going to have to release patches that you're going to have to install. Now it's one thing to have a brand new TV, and we've got a brand new Samsung TV and it's hooked up to the internet. It streams, Disney and discovery. [00:09:05] And it's just a wonderful thing. I love my TV, right then of course you probably realize I don't use smart TV features because of this particular type of person. What ends up happening? Well, how long is Samsung actually going to support updates for your television or Vizio who, by the way, one of the worst companies, when it comes to your privacy of your information on your television, how long, uh, how about your Android phones? [00:09:39] More than half of all Android smartphones out there, we'll never get another software. If you are still using Android smartphones now is the time to switch to an iPhone. I have been talking about this for years. I am not like the world's biggest apple fan. I'm not trying to make everybody an apple fan. I really don't care. [00:10:06] What I do care about is the ability of the software designers, those software implementers and the hardware manufacturers, the people that are in the supply chain on that Android device. I care that they do. Provide updates when it comes to security problems. And if you're using an iPhone, yeah. Again, two types of software right now, like phones have had vulnerabilities that can be vulnerable, but apple is supporting right now, still the iPhone six S which came out what five or six years. [00:10:46] With full security updates. They've even gone back further. Sometimes the Nat. So make the switch right now. If you are an it professional, I've got this whole list of resources that I vetted, I know are good that you can use to scan for this vulnerability in your network or on your. To where just email me M e@craigpeterson.com. [00:11:12] And if you have any questions about this or cybersecurity in general, just reach out again. me@craigpeterson.com. [00:11:21] Did you know that cyber flashing is a thing. We talked about it a couple of years ago, but it's back in the news this week and also apple air tags. They just released a new feature for our friends with Android. We'll tell you why. [00:11:38] Have you seen these air tags? Have you used them? They came from an idea that was really pioneered by company. Tile. And I guess they, I don't know what happened with the patent. I guess it didn't have one or apple wouldn't have been able to do this, but then again, you know, you've got a really big company you're up against a, it doesn't matter whether you're in the right. [00:12:02] Sometimes I'm not sure what happened there, but they have. These trackers called air tags. And I mentioned before on the show that my daughters have a total of five cats, well, actually six cats. Now I think of it. And what they've done is bought air tags and put them on. All of the cats callers. So they took them, they they've got them fastened on with this little holder. [00:12:31] You can get all kinds of holders. The air tags themselves are just little round buttons, really, and you can stick them into your wallet. For instance, in case you keep forgetting or losing your wallet, you can also put them into a holder. So they go on a key chain. I have a couple of flashlights at the house. [00:12:50] And if you're like me and you have other people around and it's dark and they know where your flashlight is, they'll take and borrow it right now. You don't get your flashlight back. It kind of bothers me. I probably shouldn't bother me as much as it does, but then when I need the flashlight, I just can't find this. [00:13:12] So, what did we put on the flashlight? We put an air tag on there. So the airtight ties into your iPhone. And if you have a newer iPhone, it's just absolutely amazing because the, the airtight will tell you where it is, but the newer iPhone, you can use it and it will walk you through. Up to the air tag, like, okay, it's a foot in front of you on the left-hand side or whatever, it'll take you there. [00:13:42] It's very cool. It's like these futuristic scifi movies. The problem with air tags that we discussed on the air here is that they have been used for evil. And what the bad guys have been doing is they'll take an air tag. They might drop it in your purse in order to follow you. Isn't that scary. They also have been taking the air tags and putting them on expensive cars so that they can follow you home. [00:14:16] Now, obviously nowadays it's extremely hard to steal one of the more expensive cars cause they've got all of this automation in them. The fancy systems do stop you from stealing it. Even my old F150 had a little chip built into the key so that it wouldn't start and less, that key that was starting. It actually had that RFID chip in it so that this technology. [00:14:45] Isn't being used so much to steal the car, but to know where you live and when you are home and when you're not home, you know, I've been warning everybody for many years, not to post on social media about vacation saying, oh, we're leaving. We're going to be gone in the Caribbean for two weeks. We're going for new year's party here, Christmas there, Hanukkah celebration, whatever it is you're doing, because the bad guys use that information to. [00:15:19] I'm break into your home and to steal things from your business. And I'm, I'm going to get into all of the details right now of how they do that. I've talked about it on the show before, and I'm sure I will talk about it again. And you'll even see some of the references on my website@craigpeterson.com. [00:15:36] If you're interested, there's some real interesting stories up there. What's happened to people. That particular problem of having an air tag and then having it put on to you to track you, or do you track your car or other devices is a huge potential problem. Now, apple built into the iPhone, a special little feature some time ago that when they, in fact, when they came out with the air. [00:16:11] So that when an airtight is following you, in other words, someone dropped it into your purse or your pocket or on your car. And that air tag is moving with you. It says, Hey guy, uh, there is an air tag following you. And at that point you can say, wait a minute, uh, what's going on here now? It's not going to warn you about your own air tags. [00:16:35] You know, the ones that you own. It's going to warn you about an, a foreign air tag one. That's not yours. In other words, someone's trying to track you so brilliant. Move on. Apple's part to get that out right away before there were any really scary, bad news stories about the same thing happened. How about Android users? [00:16:57] That's where the problem really is starting to come up. If you're an Android user, you don't have the ability to detect an air tag. Well until now. So if an air tag was following you, it wouldn't. Let you know, it couldn't let you know it didn't know. So apple is now offering what's called tracker detect. [00:17:21] It's an app on the Google play store, a free app that you can download if you using Android. And, you know, there are many, many, many, many reasons not to use Android and there's. Are almost as many to use iPhones. Okay. So if you use an Android switched to an iPhone, but if you're stuck on Android, because that's what your business gave you until you have to use it, have a look for tracker detect to end the apps description on the play store says tracker detect looks for item trackers that are separated from their owner, and that are compatible with Apple's find mine network. [00:18:02] These items, trackers include air tags and compatible devices from other companies. If you think someone is using air tag or another device to track your location, you can scan, scan to try and. So, I'm not sure that it's as good as the apple implementation, where the apple will pop up and say, even though you're not scanning for an air tag, say, Hey, somebody's tracking you. [00:18:31] It sounds like you have to actually use. Just scan for it. But Android users, according to Mac trust can scan the area to find nearby error tag trackers. If they think that there's an air tiger or other device that's being used to track their location, uh, an apple support document that you'll find online on support that apple.com. [00:18:57] Says, if you think someone is using an air tiger, other item tracking to track your location, you can scan to try and find it. If the app detects an air tag near you for at least 10 minutes, you can play a sound to help locate it. So that's the part that makes me think that it's always active. Okay. On your, on your Android device, it's free and you can get it right there in the Google play. [00:19:23] This next item is really, it applies to all of us here in the us, and it applies also to people over in the UK. And the UK is really getting kind of upset about this because apparently there are no laws against. Flashing now there are in the U S and it kind of depends on where you live, but cyber crap flashing is really a crime or should be a crime what's been happening. [00:19:58] Is people again who have iPhones have this ability to share files or websites, et cetera, with another person. It's fantastic. It's called airdrop. I just love this. And I use it all the time even to share files between my own devices. And what happens with air drop is you, you take the file and the use open up airdrop and you see, oh, okay. [00:20:26] There's my wife right there. So I click on the file. I drag it on top of it, a little Karen icon in airdrop, and now she gets a notice. Hey, there's a file from. Coming on in, and it does well, I always in my family and my business people, I always said to them, Error drop, uh, settings to only allow an airdrop from people that are in my contact list. [00:20:57] And that reason for that is this particular problem. People have been cited. Flashing. So what they do is they send obscene pictures to strangers through airdrop. And this term can also of course, apply to Bluetooth devices because you can also send these things via Bluetooth. I don't want to really talk a lot about what's really happening here. [00:21:28] Hopefully, you know what flashing is, or flasher is sending these obscene pictures, but the tone, the term was coined in August 25th. This female commuter was airdropped two pictures, obscene pictures, and they reported it to the British transport police. But we've seen, I have seen, and I've talked about cases where people are driving down the highway and all of a sudden on their phone come these obscene pictures because someone was driving past and they air dropped, or they use Bluetooth to send obscene. [00:22:09] There is an easy way to not allow that to happen. And that is the settings that I use, which is only allow airdrop from people in your contact list. You know, these are absolutely amazing features that they have, but there are some really weird people out there that think that this is the, this is a fun way, uh, to really mess with other people. [00:22:36] It's. It's just crazy. Okay. By the way, you can also turn air drop off. If you never use it, don't worry about it or a turn it on when you need it. And when someone's going to send something to you, Hey, I want you guys to take a couple of minutes here. If you go to Craig peterson.com/subscribe. You're going to find out about the bootcamps we have. [00:23:01] You're going to get my weekly trainings that I have. These are just an email. They just last a few minutes. You are going to love them. I get all kinds of compliments and this is in my free newsletter. Okay. It's not going to cost you anything. I'm not going to be hammering you on buying stuff. I want this information out. [00:23:24] That's why I am here today on. Everybody needs to understand this stuff. Craig peterson.com/subscribe, and I will be seeing you in the email world. [00:23:39] One of the things we wonder the most about is what's the future. What's the future of laptops and future of computers. We talked about some of these new chips that are out there, but this is an interesting story about what Dell is doing. Yeah. Dell. [00:23:55] I want to follow up a little bit about the 3g shutdown. We didn't quite get through the list. [00:24:02] All almost all of the Volvos from 2015 on to 2018, have this problem. There's only two automakers that told the drive.com that U S vehicles are unaffected by the end of 3g. So if you own a Ferrari or a McLaren, You're okay. Okay. Also what's interesting is what the different guys are doing. Subaru has an interesting little plan here going forward. [00:24:35] If you have what they call a connected vehicle plan. And this is according to a service bulletin filed with the national highway traffic safety administration. And then they will do a retrofit at no cost. How's that for nice. A lot of these manufacturers are upgrading to 4g. Yeah, the, uh, you know, LTE, the stuff that was really fast, you remember that I was remembering getting 50 megabits and that it was just incredible. [00:25:05] But at any rate, they're offering that and the option to purchase a subscription. To 4g. So you'll be able to get two gig of data per month at $10 a month. Now that's for some manufacturers, not all of them, have it $30 a month if you want unlimited data. So depending on how much you're driving GM started pushing a free over the air update in October to keep OnStar running. [00:25:32] After the 3g shut down though, some 2015 model year cars will need a ma a hardware worse. Tesla says it plans to charge $200 to upgrade older model S vehicles, but no additional fees are noted for it. Toyota, Toyota and Lexus are not planning to retrofit. Affected vehicles in its public FAQ Toyota sites, a clause and its disclosures that said certain connected services may change at any time without notice. [00:26:08] And when the drive ass Toyota, if it plans to offer an upgrade paid or otherwise for consumers who own effective vehicles, the answer was assumed. No. And Toyota, by the way, is one of the companies that has decided, Hey, um, we're just going to go ahead. And, uh, you, you, you know, that remote start that you got for those cold winters. [00:26:31] Yeah. W we've decided that, uh, even though you paid for, you know, what, three, four years ago, we're going to start charging you monthly to use your remote start. Uh, come on guys. So have a little. Um, try and find out, talk to your, uh, your automotive dealer or go to duck, duck, go and look up your car and type in three G uh, end of life at the same time and see what it comes up with at your model in there. [00:27:05] But I am very disappointed with Toyota. I have some friends that just loved Toyota. I bought a brand new one. Way back when, when would have been like 82, 3, something like that, a great little car Cresseta with a supra engine in it. And I drove that for quite a few years. The good, tough little car I had to keep replacing the water pump, but that was the only problem we ever had with it. [00:27:31] But I haven't owned a Toyota since then, but this is, and I've actually been thinking about it lately, but this is something that really turns me off. I don't know about. Let's get into our next, a little problem area. And that is fleet managers. If you are relying on electronic logging devices and other internet of things, devices to track your trucking fleet. [00:27:57] There's some problems. Uh, let's see here, here's a quote. This is from Czech Republic. Uh, John Nichols, executive vice president of sales for north America and mixed telematics estimated that about 80% of his customers are still using 3g devices. Now this was about a year ago. This is from a November, 2020 article. [00:28:22] So this is going to be a very. Problem for you as well. Uh, for any people who have fleet vehicles that they're trying to maintain, hopefully you know about this. Hopefully your vendors are going to take care of it for you. I'm impressed. The GM set their cars up with the hardware that can handle 3g and 4g. [00:28:44] And all you need is a software upgrade to have it switch. I think that was very smart of them. So. Kudos to GM for that particular thing. Dell led let's get into the future of computers and laptop design. Dell has been doing some interesting things. Now you probably heard me a couple of weeks ago be moan Dell because they have businesses. [00:29:06] Specialists and experts that you can call that really know almost nothing about what you really need. And it just drives me crazy because Dell has been selling my customers, hardware that doesn't meet the customer's needs because frankly, the customers don't really know what their needs are. And so that's something that I've helped them with. [00:29:28] And I, if you email me@craigpeterson.com, I written up. On what the best computers to buy are based on what it is you need, you know, what, what are the tricks that you need to follow? But what Dell is doing right now is something they're calling concept Luna, and I've seen things like this before. There was a, a cell phone that was being manufactured that allowed you to change modules. [00:29:58] They were literally just click and go and kind of like Lego. Almost and the phones weren't that popular. I don't even think they're in business anymore. I can't remember their name, but those particular clicking NGOs were clicked and gone is kind of the bottom line on it because they were kind of big. [00:30:19] They were kind of clumsy. They weren't released something people wanted to use. You know, Android comes from Google. And Google has their basic tests and says, this is what Android should look like, but every manufacturer puts their own look and feel on top of that Android operating system. And what that ends up doing for you is, you know, makes it a little more pleasant and also. [00:30:49] So that you don't really, really want to go and change your phones. Cause you're used to the way this particular phone works, but Dell is looking at doing kind of the same thing. They're looking at this electronic waste problem where you have a laptop, it gets old, you throw it away. And, but now it looks like there's more sustainability. [00:31:14] Built into things like this Luna design, they're trying to make the company's laptops more environmentally friendly and in the process are going to make them more repairable, which is kind of cool. If you look at what Apple's done in their laptops, there's basically nothing inside there. That's user replaced. [00:31:36] Okay, you can probably replace a battery. I use a company I've had their president on my show a few times. Uh, Larry, um, Connor, I think it is his last name, but OWC other world computing and they've got. Little upgrades and replacement parts and videos on how to do it and all the tools you need to, to upgrade your Mac. [00:32:00] But nowadays apple is soldering the memory on the motherboard, or even more recently using the apple chips. And by the way, this is part of the reason they're so fast. They are putting the memory right on the same silicone and. The CPU itself. So they're moving towards a one chip with everything on it. So if you buy an apple computer nowadays, I love them. [00:32:29] They are great. They've got great security built in, et cetera, et cetera, but you better buy a computer that has enough memory and enough storage on it to last you for some years. Because a lot of these computers I'm picking on apple right now, but there's a lot of other vendors the same way. They are not upgradeable, but concept Luna should work pretty well boring. [00:32:56] This idea from that's right. It was framework. That was the name of it. Anyways, stick around and visit me online. Craig peterson.com. [00:33:05] If you own a car and that car has been made, uh, all the way up to 2021 and your car is using. The internet by a 3g, which is most cars. I got a little news for you. [00:33:22] We are looking at a real big problem here that most people haven't heard of. [00:33:29] I was talking in fact, this week on the air with someone who has a car to Volvo and they have a remote little starter, which has been great for. And they were informed that they needed to do an upgrade. And that upgrade turned out to be very costly. I had another listener who has a solar panel on the roof of their house and their solar panel on that roof is designed to. [00:34:03] Be able to get updates, software updates, let you know, what's the charge like how much sun is there today? Maybe you should brush off some of the snow. All of that is communicated by the. But how, how was that working? The problem that most vendors have is, uh, how do they get the data to, and from their devices? [00:34:30] If you think about, for instance, Elon Musk, with the wonderful little Tesla cars, they want to push an update and we're seeing this more and more by. The older cars, most cars, non Tesla, as you take them into the dealer for service. And while it's there they go ahead and plug it in. They download new software firmware from the internet and install it on your car. [00:34:56] And you are often driving. Maybe you're none the wiser. Maybe you got some new features. So it's one thing for them. To have control over a basic network, uh, network that our car dealer might have where they say, okay, here's the specs you need this much. Download speed. You need that. You need the other thing simple enough. [00:35:20] But how about you and your home or you and your business? How does that time system keep track of the employees when they sign in and out? Does it upload it to the internet? Did you have to plug it into your network? Did you have to hook it up to your wifi? I can tell you from personal experience, anytime we touch your network and there is. [00:35:45] Problem later on, we own the problem, even if we had nothing to do with it. It's again, it's another Craig ism, whoever touched the computer last owns the next problem. So these vendors have decided, well, we can solve that problem. All we need to do is use cellular phone data. So they put effectively a little cell phone onto their devices. [00:36:13] Just like that Volvo we were talking about or other high-end luxury cars. So there's solar panel has a 3g modem in it. The cars have 3g modems in them to unlock the doors, to start the. In many cases, right? They also have updates that come down from the cloud, quote, unquote, over three G for your navigation system to let you know, Hey, there's heavy traffic. [00:36:45] I'm going to reroute you. We're rerouting all of that data coming from the 3g network, coming through it, or being pushed up via the 3g network. All of that data is in trouble and it's in trouble because. Every major carrier is eliminating three G next year. Yeah, it is really that bad. A T and T is shutting down 3g services in February. [00:37:16] Sprint's following in March and T-Mobile in July and Verizon. On December 31st, all of them, 2022, that is a very big deal and a very big problem. So what can you do about it? No, it depends. The roof, solar panels, we were just talking about their vendor, told them they could do the upgrade for them, and it would be $800. [00:37:47] Very very big deal. We also had other people who were talking about their cars and what had to happen with them. And the cars are look like they're tending to be more expensive. You can expect to pay between 520 $500 for an upgrade because many of them are saying, Hey, w you know, we're not going to just fix this one problem. [00:38:10] We have to replace the whole module. And that means. To replace your infotainment system in your car. Infotainment of course, being basically everything that has to do with your GPS navigation, your satellite radio, your, uh, your car play from apple or Android car or whatever it is you might be using. [00:38:33] That's why it gets so expensive. So. Keep an eye out. This is going to be a very, very big deal. We're looking at everything from owner applications, like going ahead and starting that engine to warm it up to emergency calls services to in navigation, functionality, reporting telematics, which is the data about your car back to the dealer. [00:39:02] Ultimately, so, you know, your car says, oh, uh, you need to go in and get your oil changed. And it's going to be a, you know, we can set up alarm and you want it. And you know, some of them are very, very fancy and all of that is going to go away and includes a lot of luxury cars all the way through. Some 2021 models, but many, many of them, if not most of them through 2019. [00:39:29] Okay. Is that a very, very big deal or what these 3g towers are going away? The companies, the cell phone companies are planning on reusing that bandwidth and they're going to put it into where yeah. 5g, exactly 5g. So here's a few. The cars that you might want to be concerned about Acura. They have something called link, uh, and they have, let's see the MDX ILX, RDX, uh, RLX TLX NSX, like kind of sounds like almost all of them. [00:40:06] So Acura is going to have a problem with almost all of their cars that were made between 2014 and 2017. Audi. They're going to have problems with, again, all their cars, a three, four or 5, 6, 7, 8, the RS Q3 five and seven. Yeah, pretty much all of their cars from 2012 through 2018. So I already saw this coming and decided to fix it early, so good for them. [00:40:39] So basically if your car is older than 2018 model year, you're going to have some problems, Bentley. A number of models produced prior to 2020. And if you're driving a Bentley and do you want to give it to some guy, you know, really great looking guy, you can just let me know Craig. Yeah. Yeah. [00:40:57] me@craigpeterson.com BMW number models produced before 2019 general motors. Models may between 2015 and 2021 across its fleet will be affected, but it's not breaking down with specific vehicles across it's brands of Buick Cadillac, Chevy, GMC, but they did in this case, it's the drive.com track down a technical service bulletin that indicates almost every post 2015 model is affected. [00:41:32] Okay. Yeah. Bu-bye a Honda again, pretty much everything. From 2018 to 2021 Lexus all models 2010 to 2017 Mazda. Pretty much everything. 2016 to 2019 Mitsubishi, every eclipse cross and Outlander Porsche 9 11, 18, 7 eighteens, et cetera, et cetera. All of them, 20 14, 20 19 Subaru. Pretty much everything. 2016 and on Tesla model as built before 2015 Toyota. [00:42:14] Ooh, they got some interesting problems, 2010 and on Volkswagen, much the same stick around. Visit me online. Craig peterson.com.

Ciclo com filmes de Paul Thomas Anderson até 19 de janeiro no Nimas; documentário sobre Janet Jackson chega no final do mês; Hanukkah Sessions de Dave Grohl e Greg Kurstin disponíveis em streaming

New Max reedita Phalasolo em streaming 13 anos depois do lançamento original; novo documentário sobre Janet Jackson em estreia no final do mês; Dave Grohl e Greg Kurstin lançam versões das Hanukkah Sessions no streaming

For the first time since 1888, Thanksgiving and Hanukkah occur on the same day! To capitalize on this unique alignment, Dr. Steve has written a song combining the two holidays. Here is the demo of I Had A Little Turkey. Dr. Steve hopes that it'll be a big hit the next time the two holidays collide….in 70,000 years. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 Adam is a Jewish sub who's tired of seeing Christmas all over the place.  Tate is a trans Daddy who's looking for somebody to take care of.  In our annual December tradition of reading gay Hanukkah novellas, we present His for Hanukkah by Reese Morrison! No real triggers in this book - it's very sweet.  The only thing that might be upsetting is that Adam's anxiety, which is very realistic and may be too close to home for some people, and Tate's crappy family, which may also be too close to home for some people. Happy New Year's, y'all!

This week, Eric, Emily, and Josh discuss: Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, going to church, terrible box office profits vs excellent social media support, The French Dispatch, Rituals, how time works differently when you're a kid, John Candy, Rick Moranis, Ewoks tv movies, and more! Plus, they mention the movies screening from Friday December 31 2021 - Thursday January 6 2022: Délicieux, The Novice, Spaceballs, and Deliverance!

It's the most wonderful time of the year! The world is filled with magic, people are more kind and winter feels cozy. Whether your celebration is religious , like Hanukkah or Christmas, or a more non-religious, you probably have some traditions that make the holiday season special to you.  Haven't you ever wondered what other people and other cultures across the world do to celebrate the holiday season?  I know I have! I've got a very special Christmas countdown for you as the last episode of 2021! Sit back and hold on tight, I found the most bizarre, the most wonderful and the most fun traditions from all over the world!SOURCES:https://www.momondo.com/discover/christmas-traditions-around-the-worldhttps://www.cnn.com/travel/article/san-fernando-philippines-christmas/index.htmlhttps://globalgraduates.com/articles/krampus-run-austriahttps://www.cnn.com/travel/article/kfc-christmas-tradition-japan/index.htmlhttps://nationalmenorah.org/https://www.jewishallianceri.org/hanukkah-2016/how-to-light-the-menorah/#:~:text=On%20the%20first%20night%20of,and%20replace%20the%20lit%20shamash.https://www.visitgavle.se/en/about-gavle-goathttps://www.whychristmas.com/customs/christmaspickle.shtmlMusic by Lesfm from Pixabay.comSupport the show (https://cash.app/$KCandCompanykate)

The more we study the intertestamental period, the more we understand its impact on the life and ministry of Yeshua. In this episode, we continue to talk about the book of Daniel in the light of Hanukkah and its affect on the life and ministry of Yeshua.

We both caught some live comedy shows, so we start by hearing about BNos' night at the Bert Kreischer (Brent Crystals) show in Sacramento. JD and his son ventured out to San Francisco to see Tim Dillon.  We tribute a legendary football personality and video game franchise icon. John Madden.  We touch on news updates on the Spiderman: No Way Home box office, Spotify's data driven 'Unwrapped' campaign, and HBO's new sizzle reel for new movies and shows coming in 2022.  We both watched "Don't Look Up" on Netflix with Leonardo DiCaprio and Jennifer Lawrence.  BNos also watched the new Matrix Resurrections, which should have just been called Matrix re-Do-Over. Also watched Christmas is Cancelled with Dermot Mulroney. JD caught up on Red Notice with The Rock and Ryan Reynolds.  BNos https://www.instagram.com/bnosanchuk/ https://twitter.com/BNosanchuk JD https://www.instagram.com/qwikwits/ https://twitter.com/thejdstaley SPENT https://twitter.com/spentradio Music by: Music by Wataboi from Pixabay

Welcome to The Whatever, Buddy?! Podcast It's Episode 32....Merry Christmas! Happy Hanukkah! Happy Holidays! Happy Everything from the Whatever Buddy, Podcast?! In the first annual holiday episode Ryan and Jonny talk vacation! Everyone has a little bit of justified time off so let's all chill, be kind, grab a sandwich and listen to the show. Jonny tries to explain Hanukkah to Ryan. A decent job was done. And then they wrap it up! Cheers to another year! We hope you are in good spirits and ready to Wednesday with us! Thanks for stopping by...... --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/whateverbuddy/support

What's In This Episode: Is it really the end of the year already? How'd we get here so fast? In this time of reflection, and celebration, and egg nog, Jill wraps up the year for you in some gorgeous Hanukkah paper with a big Christmas bow, adds a few Kwanzaa streamers and pairs it with Festivus-flavored egg nog because…well…'tis the season. Jill Salzman turns the mundane into inspiration and transforms the impossible into the achievable. Through defying expectations and breaking the rules, she succeeds in inspiring entrepreneurs to figure out what works for them by using meaningful action to create positive results. Jill is the author of The Best Business Book In The World* (according to my mom) and the Amazon best-seller, Found It: A Field Guide for Mom Entrepreneurs. She's shared the speaker stage with Richard Branson, Sheryl Sandberg, Daymond John, Marilu Henner, and Desmond Tutu among others, and professed her love of Eddie Vedder in her TEDx talk on 11/11/11. She hosts the top-rated entertaining business podcast, Why Are We Shouting?, a question she asks herself daily. CNNMoney calls her a “mommy mogul.” MSN Live says she's a “Cool Mom Entrepreneur We Love.” Forbes rated her a Top 100 Champion Small Business Influencer and voted The Founding Moms one of the Top 10 Websites For Entrepreneurs. When she's not speaking to audiences in patterned leggings or podcasting from her basement, she fruitlessly tries to convince her daughters that cassette tapes actually existed.

Hope everyone had/is having a wonderful holiday season. Whether it was Hanukkah, Christmas or (going right now) Kwanzaa. On this week's episode, the pod discusses the origins and history of these holidays and may hip you to some things you may not have known about them!

Cale looks at the military campaigns of Judas Maccabeus and the rededication of the temple. When was Jesus born – was it really toward the end of December?

Welcome back to ArtBeat Radio! In this episode, we talk about all the different kinds of holidays that occur around the world during the end of the year. Also, stick around for a “Jingle Bell Rock” cover. We hope you enjoy this special holiday episode!  Thank you to Renee Morneau for this album artwork!  Thanks for listening and tune in next time! For more information about our organization, please visit our website www.ableartswork.org 

Whether you're celebrating Christmas, Kwanzaa, or you've just celebrated Hanukkah, Diwali or any other festive holiday - welcome to the Normal Not Normal Holiday special! In this episode we hear all about your festive traditions. We find out how Hungarians get rid of witches at Christmas (it involves carpentry and poppy seeds), which monsters are prowling around at Chinese New Year and why you might find a fish in the bath during a Polish Christmas party! Send in your most extraordinary storytimes, questions and ‘did-you-knows' via video, voice note or old fashioned email to normalnotnormalpodcast@gmail.com We'll be back next week with a very special guest. You can also find us on YouTube! We want to say a thank you to listener Lucy Courtois for sending us her wonderful book Miracle: Endless Possibilities which is all about growing up with a visual impairment. Find it now on Amazon! Follow us on Twitter: @OliverPhelps @James_Phelps Normal Not Normal is a Stabl production Produced by Alice Homewood and Kate White Music: 'Not Normal' by Sebastian Forslund Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Merry Christmas....or Happy Hanukkah....or happy holidays, or whatever you prefer at this point! Hope you spoopy friends enjoy a ridiculously recent Hanukkah attack in NY, and a very old, very infamous bank robbery involving a Santa Claus costume, many shootouts, several stolen cars and a lynching

In this episode, we share agriculture's influence on the traditions practiced in the winter holidays Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and Christmas. For full show notes, go to www.drinkandfarm.com/184

Grab your wings, beer, and rocket fuel and meet us in the North (or South) Pole for a Christmas episode of LIVE! The Boiz are back with their holiday episode and for the third straight year forgot about Hanukkah. They are taking over as Santa and there are about to be some changes around here as a result! Matt fires all the elves. Pat replaces the reindeer with gators. Nate only checks the naughty/nice list once. Plus, would society be better or worse if we could see live rankings of everyone's chances at getting into Heaven? Is Santa Matt a power-hungry tyrant? Could Nate give up beer for a full month? All that and more and it all happens LIVE!

Part 2: the Christmas Season & the Minor Feasts…God Sent Jesus to the Earth as a Man…Teacher Jeff Adams presents a powerful message about the birth of Jesus related to the feasts of Hanukkah and Purim. The post Part 2: the Christmas Season & the Feasts of Hanukkah and Purim appeared first on Wonder & Reality.

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Guest host Meg Wolitzer presents our holiday show--two stories about being home for the holidays and how you can count on your Mom to be there for you—and possibly to complicate things.  First, memoirist Augusten Burroughs recalls a disastrous—and hilarious—childhood cooking project.  Reader Michael Cerveris relishes every bite.  And in “Live Wires” by Thomas Beller, a young man invites his girlfriend to his mother's annual Hanukkah party.  The reader is Jane Curtin. Join and give!: https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/symphonyspacenyc?code=Splashpage See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Summary: One thing's for sure, Mary didn't know that Christmas could sound so good. For this episode, Jarrett and Tre'vell are gifting your ears with some holiday bops! And they have invited friends scripted executive of “Kirk Franklin's A Gospel Christmas” Mychael Chinn, and R&B singer and songwriter Mykal Kilgore to talk about holiday songs they love and hate. This heated discussion, filled with laughter and cheer, will have you dancing while chugging eggnog and decorating your Christmas tree. Plus, for our Hanukkah listeners, we have a song for you! Episode Notes:Jarrett and Tre'vell created a FANTI Christmas playlist of all the jams that were discussed on the pod, including The Braxton's “Mary, Did You Know?,” Natalie Cole's “Jingle Bells,” Peal Jam's “Someday at Christmas,” Ariana Grande's “Wit It This Christmas,”  Kelly Price's “In Love at Christmas (feat. Mary Mary),” and more. The Apple Playlist:https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/now-thats-what-fanti-calls-sorta-christmas-2021/pl.u-zRMPsMk2EZ0The Spotify playlisthttps://open.spotify.com/playlist/0rR14IrPSLkkfaHvjxuIMa?si=-TCrIKHLSPaPomWcxTMOzgGo ahead and @ usEmail: FANTI@maximumfun.orgIG@FANTIpodcast@Jarrett Hill@rayzon (Tre'Vell)Twitter@FANTIpodcast@TreVellAnderson@JarrettHill@Swish (Senior Producer Laura Swisher)@Rainewheat (Producer Lorraine Wheat)FANTI is produced and distributed by MaximumFun.orgLaura Swisher is senior producer and Lorraine Wheat is producer. Episode Contributors: Jarrett Hill, Laura Swisher, Tre'Vell Anderson, Lorraine WheatMusic: Cor.eceGraphics: Ashley Nguyen

In this episode …Christmas Part 2 is again all about family and friends, traditions, food, music, dance, presents and so much more. as I promised this week is all about Christmas and in this episode part two of three, the final of this trio which will conclude on Christmas Eve this Friday. We're going to continue to explore some of my guests favorite Christmas or Hanukkah memories, traditions, from all over the world, and what the holiday means to them. in this first holiday episode, we have a conversation with three unique individuals; Breonna J Baker  a Podcast host with her husband called the Resilient Heart Podcast, Ashley Jackson-Thompson another Podcast host, Author and unique Event Planner, and David Black a Jewish Actor, Producer and filmmaker who has a unique memory of celebrating Christmas as well as Hannukah. So, stay tuned stick with us through the rest of this week, because I'm going to share with you me and my wife's favorite Christmas memories, and a little bit of history about Christmas origins. I hope you enjoy these conversations as much as I did! As a reminder just like you, we are going to take a small break for the holiday to spend valuable time with family so now through the first week in January 2022 I will share some of my favorite episodes over the last two years with you and I will see you in January with brand new topics, guests, inspiration motivation and education.. From myself my family and One More Thing Before You Go, we wish you a happy holiday, merry Christmas, happy Hanukkah, and a healthy happy prosperous new year! More at https://beforeyougopodcast.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

This holiday season got me to thinking about America's spirit of giving, and I don't mean this overdone business of Christmas, Hanukkah and other holiday gifts. I mean our true spirit of giving – giving of ourselves. Yes, we are a country of rugged individualists, yet there's also a deep, community-minded streak in each of us. We're a people who believe in the notion that we're all in this together, that we can make our individual lives better by contributing to the common good. The establishment media pay little attention to grassroots generosity, focusing instead on the occasional showy donation by what it calls "philanthropists" -- big tycoons who give a little piece of their billions to some university or museum in exchange for getting a building named after them. But in my mind, the real philanthropists are the millions of you ordinary folks who have precious little money to give, but consistently give of themselves, and do it without demanding that their name be engraved on a granite wall. My own Daddy, rest his soul, was a fine example of this. With half a dozen other guys in Denison, Texas, he started the Little League baseball program volunteering to build the park, sponsor and coach the teams, run the squawking P.A. system, etc. etc. Even after I graduated from Little League, Daddy stayed working at it, because his involvement was not merely for his kids . . . but for all. He felt the same way about being taxed to build a public library in town. I don't recall him ever going in that building, much less checking-out a book, but he wanted it to be there for the community and he was happy to pay his part. Not that he was a do-good liberal, for God's sake -- indeed, he called himself a conservative. My Daddy didn't even know he had a political philosophy, but he did, and it's the best I've ever heard. He would often say to me, "Everybody does better when everybody does better." If only our leaders in Washington and on Wall Street would begin practicing this true American Philosophy.

Lewis Black tackles films that portray Jewish people learning about Christmas, Auschwitz-themed Christmas ornaments and the auctioning of Adolf Hitler's hat. Originally aired December 2019. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

We suspect, Theophiloi, that it has been as much of A Year for you as it has been for your humble Sons of Thunder, so please forgive us for skipping the lengthy and intense reading we would've done for Hanukkah in favor of going right to a much easier Christmas episode to finish out the year. We're diving back into the shallow pool that is Jack Chick's hateful ouvre with three “classic” holiday themed tracts: The Missing Day, Holy Night, and Humbug! They're real bad! Topics of Discussion: The similarities between the Fifth Book of Maccabees and House (197   7, dir. Nobuhiko Obayashi), a Biscuit-based scam, the Strasbourg of the Midwest, a gift exchange, a wild reaction to chicken wings, Purebred Hoss Cat Energy, Home Alone, PCP, Boston nonsense, Bob Cratchit's NFTs, setting an old tomato. Hymnal: "Christmastime is Here" by Vince Guaraldi Trio, "Christmas (Baby Please Come Home)" by Darlene Love Offertory: As Enoch writes, "Whoever of you spends gold or silver for his brother's sake, he will receive ample treasure in the world to come." Support the show via http://ko-fi.com/apocrypals, or check out Official Apocrypals merchandise designed by Erica Henderson! https://www.teepublic.com/stores/apocrypals?ref_id=18246 Black Lives Matter. Trans Lives Matter. Heck 12. Isaiah 54:17    

Mordechai Ben Avraham born Shariff Hasan and Reena talk about transformations and the many he's had!  Mordechai found his Torah path and it's far from his Hollywood entertainment roots!  How are his talents playing into his spiritual life?  What was it like to move to Mea She'arim, one of the oldest religious communities outside the Old City Jerusalem, and covert to Judaism?  How can we find light in the darkness on the last night of Hanukkah?  How can we all get more out of life and download more? Mordechai worked for Warner Music from 2008- 2011 and watched the studio system break down.  He stumbled upon some Kabbalistic wisdom alongside Madonna, Ashton Kutcher, and wanted more!  Better Call Daddy: The Safe Space For Controversy! Connect with Mordechai  https://instagram.com/mordechai_yosef_ben_avraham?utm_medium=copy_link Connect with Reena linkedin.com/in/reenafriedmanwatts instagram.com/reenafriedmanwatts reena@bettercalldaddy.com   Me and my daddy would love to hear from you  podchaser.com/bettercalldaddy Leave us a five star review ratethispodcast.com/bettercalldaddy  

Games, seasonal science songs, and Nature's 10.01:12 "Oh powered flight"In the first of our festive songs, We pay tribute to NASA's Ingenuity craft - which took the first powered flight on another planet earlier this year. Lyrics by Noah Baker and performed by The Simon Langton School choir, directed by Emily Renshaw-Kidd.Scroll to the bottom of the page for the lyrics.Video: Flying a helicopter on Mars: NASA's IngenuityNews: Lift off! First flight on Mars launches new way to explore worlds07:40 Communicating complex science with common wordsIn this year's festive challenge, our competitors try to describe some of the biggest science stories of the year, using only the 1,000 most commonly used words in the English language. Find out how they get on…Test your skills communicating complex science with simple words with the Up-Goer Five Text Editor18:04 Alphafold oh AlphafoldOur second song brings some Hanukkah magic to Deep Mind's protein solving algorithm Alphafold. Lyrics by Kerri Smith and Noah Baker, arranged and performed by Phil Self.Scroll to the bottom of the page for the lyrics.News: ‘It will change everything': DeepMind's AI makes gigantic leap in solving protein structures21:01 Nature's 10Every year, Nature's 10 highlights some of the people who played key roles in science. We hear about a few of the people who made the 2021 list.News Feature: Nature's 10 — Ten people who helped shape science in 2021Oh Powered flightO fateful night!The stars are brightly shiningit is the night to look far beyond the Earth!Long was the way to get to the red planet,‘til he appear'd and the world felt his worth.The thrills and hope as he warmed up his motors.Delays cause stress until the glorious morn!Rise! To the skies.Above the Martian surface.Oh powered flight.Hearts are full, as history's made.Oh joy, it flies!Mars-copter, for the first time.Led by a team, adept in aeronautics,they rethought all of their theories of flight.So led by da-ta, they crafted all the rotors,to create lift though the atmosphere was light.Viscosity is what would make is happen,but Reynauld's number drove the craft's design.Rise! To the skies.Above the Martian surface.Oh powered flight.Hearts are full, as history's made.Oh joy, it flies!Mars-copter, for the first time.Truly it showed, our exploration's boundless,with caves and canyon's now all within our grasp.Ingenuity will pave the way for others,to pair with rovers, or solo payload tasks.Sweet hymns of joy in grateful chorus raise we,Let all within us praise this great success.Rise! To the skies.Above the Martian surface.Oh powered flight.Hearts are full, as history's made.Oh joy, it flies!Mars-copter, for the first time.Alphafold oh AlphafoldOh, Alphafold... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Horrorable Holiday Villains in our horror books and watches, including American Refugee, Santa's Slay, Jack Frost, A Christmas Horror Story, Rare Exports, Black Christmas, Krampus, Gremlins, Thankskilling 3, Hanukkah, New Year, New You, Holiday Hell, The Day of the Beast, Ghost Lab, plus Horror Facts with Cath trivia, Cathy's horror board games and our new Terror Talk Merchandise. Music by Mannequin Uprising Website: https://www.terrortalkpodcast.com Community Membership: https://www.patreon.com/terrortalk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terrortalkpodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TalkTerror/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/terrortalk/message

On this episode of Homemade, nine of our guests tell host Martie Duncan about their must-have holiday dishes and food traditions for Christmas, Hanukkah, and Thanksgiving. Tune in for stories and recipe how-tos from Marcus Samuelsson, Ina Garten, Simon Majumdar, Alex Guarnaschelli, Eitan Bernath, Anne Burrell, Patricia Heaton, Dorie Greenspan, and Dan Pashman. Their festive favorites include mashed potato souffle, spatchcocked turkey, Christmas pudding, thumbprint cookies, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode ....Christmas is all about family and friends, traditions, food, music, dance, presence and so much more. as I promised this week is all about Christmas and in this episode as well as some subsequent bonus episodes on Thursday and Friday, we're going to explore some of my guests favorite Christmas or Hanukkah memories, traditions, from all over the world, and what the holiday means to them. in this first holiday episode, we have a conversation with three unique individuals; Alan C Paul, a Musician, Author and Podcaster from the sunshine state of Florida who enjoys discussing culture, family and purpose. My second guest is my friend and fellow Podcaster and Kentuckian James Leo York, who shares with us his favorite memory of going back into the holler with his is dad to get Christmas dinner for the family, and Dr Dawn Menge, teacher, author, mother and grandmother whose favorite Christmas memory was turned. into a book for children. So, stay tuned stick with us through the rest of this week, because I'm going to share with you me and my wife's favorite Christmas memories, and a little bit of history about Christmas origins. I hope you enjoy these conversations as much as I did Thanks for listening to this episode in these stories I hope you enjoyed them stay tuned for more coming on Thursday and a bonus Christmas episode on Friday but the history of Christmas. Going to take a small break for the holiday and share some of my favorite episodes over the last two years with you and I will see you in January with brand new topics, guest, inspiration motivation and education.. MORE at https://beforeyougopodcastcom This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

It's the most beautiful time of the year and the boys are full of festive joy and Christmas spirit. To get into the Christmas mood, join us for this Christmas/holiday extravaganza as we ramp up celebrations to everyone's favourite time of the year. We begin with the results of the boy's digital detox, with results varying massively, but overall the boys are still down horrendously bad. We then hear of the boys' Christmas party stories, as the boys experienced parties of varying levels - fortunately there were no career limiting moves this year (except Kush came close). This week's game is the “Holiday Quiz,” as the lads are pitted head to head on their festive knowledge. Being an inclusive podcast, the questions are diverse in nature, covering topics like Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza and Christmas themed movies and songs. We end this week with “Dirty Little Santa,” which despite the deeply suggestive name has nothing to do with anything sexual. Instead in this segment we relive some of the worst Christmases in our past, which include terrible parties, even worse gifts and in Sen's case just downright bad driving. Also this week: $16 slushies, Zeus, Feliz Navidad, Hillsong and squid recipes. Segments this week: The Logue: Tired of reaching around each other (at least on the podcast), the boys have instead decided to reach around the week's news stories, events and viral trends. Holiday Quiz: The boys are tested on their knowledge of the festive season and all things Christmas. Dirty Little Santa: We recount some of the worst Christmases we endured including stories and gifts. ___________________________________________________ FULL PODCAST EPISODES

Anton and Brian check out Hallmark's attempt at a Hanukkah movie, “Love Lights Hanukkah”. Such relatable Hanukkah characters! A dreidel collector! A latke artist! A woman who feels genetically obligated to do a Hanukkah!

Intro: Amtrak, you can't afford to live anywhere, where am I trying to go?, being of service, Legacy, Fresh and FancyLet Me Run This By You: We get feedback from Dave, talk about Jeff Garlin, NO ONE IS HIDING ANYTHINGCOMPLETE TRANSCRIPT (unedited):1 (10s):And I'm Gina Pulice. We went to theater school2 (12s):Together. We survived it.1 (14s):You didn't quite understand it. 20 years later, we're digging deep talking to our guests about their experiences and trying to make sense of it all2 (21s):Survived theater school. And you will too. Are we famous yet?1 (31s):Hello survivors. It is Gina. Just wanted to let you know that today, boss and I are guest lists. We are without a guest and we instead had a conversation, just the two of us, chickens about a ton of things, including the fact that nothing is a secret. Even the things that we think are and talking about legacy. This is a topic that boss has been really interested in recently. And I guess I'm starting to get interested in it too. At some point in one's life, one starts to think, Hmm, did it matter that I was here? What did I do? What, what proof or evidence of is there? What I did, or maybe you don't think that way, maybe your legacy is just that you lived a contented and happy life and, and it doesn't matter if it is written in the stars in any way, either way.1 (1m 22s):It's fine with me. Just interesting to learn about what people's philosophies or the thoughts are about legacy. And as we come to this end of the year and we're reflecting on, wow, we're reflecting on, I guess these last two crazy years, hopefully everybody is entering this time of reflection with a lot more clarity. Maybe I think the pandemic has been clarifying among many other things. And so hopefully you're feeling, I don't know, clear, and hopefully you are enjoying this podcast.1 (2m 4s):And if you are enjoying it, you are hopefully subscribed. And if you're subscribed, hopefully you have left us a review. Honestly, I don't even care what the review says. I think just having reviews is the thing that helps us with the king algorithm. And that's important only because we want to be able to keep doing this podcast. We enjoy doing it. We, we get a lot out of it. And we've heard from people that people are getting a lot out of it in return. So it's a mutually great thing that we'll be able to continue. If you are able to put your love for our podcast, not just in your heart, but in the world, tell the public, shout it from the rooftops.1 (2m 47s):I'm not going to stop you from shouting it from the rooftops. I'll tell you that much right now. Anyway, that's all for that. Please enjoy.3 (3m 10s):I'm going to take it to all those places. Cause those are like some of my favorite places in Southern California. And I didn't know that. So I'm learning a lot. And so I took it to San Francisco to Oakland and my cousin picked me up. But what is fantastic and sad about Amtrak for people that don't know? Like nobody knows shit about Amtrak, but Amtrak is a government funded. So rail is government funded. It was supposed to be like the thing of the future. It was supposed to be just rail. We weren't like flying and, and, and, and train travel was supposed to be comparable like it was going to be, but it just like, it has a lot to do. Someone was telling me like w who I met on the Amtrak.3 (3m 51s):Cause you eat in community eating. So these two amazing women that I met told me that like something with world war two and trains, the trains all had to be used for, for like ammunition, like the war Fs. And so then it became less of a, a passenger situation. And then when flying really anyway. So, but it's gorgeous. So w and what you can do is, so I bought a coach ticket, which is literally like, you know, I don't know, 50 bucks, a hundred bucks round trip from, but then you can bid to upgrade your seat because Amtrak has no money.3 (4m 32s):So what you can do is say, okay, well, like I'm willing to pay. They give you a range I'm willing to pay. And I did the lowest $20 more to go to business class, which is like super much nicer. Right. So I bid, and then they said, of course they accepted my bid because it's not a full train. Nobody trained travels by train. And so business classes dope. And it is like, you get two seats. It, they reclined almost all the way. There's, it's just, it's quiet. Like coaches, coaches, loud as hell, where people are eating, like, you know, Funyuns and like Takis chips the whole time. And like, you know, a lot of people like down on their luck and stuff like that.3 (5m 15s):Okay. So, you know, I did business class on the way there and lovely. I mean, there's wifi. I mean, it's like dope. And the bathrooms were relative are clean. I don't in business class anyway. All right. So it literally goes up the coast. And so you, you, you're on the ocean. It's the weirdest thing you're like, this is I'm, I'm traveling right next to the ocean. It's a long time. The whole time. Almost long as hell though. Okay. So like, you know, the flight is 45 minutes from Burbank to, to, to San Francisco. And the train ride is 10 hours. Like, that's just how it is. Like, that's, if you are in a hurry, you do not take the Amtrak.3 (5m 57s):You know what I mean? So there is like, I do have some shame, like, people think I'm ridiculous a little bit. They're like, I'm like, where am I going? I, it's not like I have pressing meetings. I am not. Yeah.1 (6m 9s):And for, for the life, so many of us are living right now, which is working from home or working remotely or making your own schedule. Why shouldn't you it's much better for the environment to take the train. Yeah.3 (6m 23s):It is it, you take the airplane. Yes. So, so it was amazing. And then I had a wonderful, wonderful time in San Francisco. Like I never really liked San Francisco. I don't know what my problem was. Like, I never really got into San Francisco even though like people cause1 (6m 41s):Your mom left you a spree for, oh3 (6m 43s):My God. Yeah. If you listen to this podcast, you know that like, you know, my mom was having an affair and, and, and we went to San Francisco and she literally left my sister and I at the esprit outlet, which thank God, had a restaurant in the outlet for like what felt like forever. But it, it was a work day. It was a full work day at a spree. It was like eight hours. So I just really, in the last couple years have really grown to love the shit out of the bay area. Like I know the tech bros have taken over. I know that you can't afford to live there. Okay. All those things are true. I still, because maybe I'm not from there.3 (7m 23s):I know I'm not so butt hurt about that. Like I, you know, and my aunt and uncle this beautiful, beautiful condo in north beach and my cousin lives in the inner inner Richmond, I don't know. Anyway. So she's on Clement street and it's gorgeous. And I walked everywhere and we went hiking in Moran and we drove to Marin. So I would live there. I would live. I mean, I, you know, who can afford to live there, but here's the thing that I think a lot of us too are, are, are really looking at. Most of us in my circle are like, we, we really literally can't afford to live anywhere. Like the, the world is becoming unaffordable on a, so many ways. And so many levels that the thing of like, oh, it's so expensive in blank.3 (8m 6s):City becomes less sort of exciting or like less sensational because it's like, look around what, what are you talking about? You can't live anywhere. It's all, it's all terrible. So, so all this to say, like, it was, it was a great trip. And then on the way back, I got smart and I was like, okay, well, let me see if I can upgrade to a room. You can bid on rooms on the train, right. Cause it's 10 hours or whatever. And I was like, okay, let me, and they took my bid of, you know, $40 or something to upgrade to a room. And that has all the amazing meals included. So two meals, which lunches, if you just paid for it is 25.3 (8m 49s):Dinner is 45. So I got lunch and dinner free. And I just tipped to the, and it was delicious salmon. I mean like this, and I got my own room and I wrote, and I, I like lived, lived my best life on the train1 (9m 5s):Girl. I need to do this, but I don't live in California. I mean, maybe I'll just pick a, maybe I'll pick it east coast version of that.3 (9m 16s):It doesn't matter. Like you could, you can also take it like they have specials. Like there's apparently a really beautiful ride between DC and New York. So1 (9m 29s):Yeah, no. So I also love or have loved the idea of train travel. And I always really wanted to take, there's a, there's a train that goes somehow through the Rockies. That's the one I really want to go on. But the first time I treated myself to a train trip. Oh, that's right. The worst possible3 (9m 53s):You were pregnant. Right.1 (9m 55s):I was the worst possible route to, we went from Chicago to Texas. So there's nothing to look at. The train was disgusting. It was so dirty and I was pregnant. So my, you know, my sense of smell, which is already very heightened was even, was just off the chain. And as a result of being on that train, I developed3 (10m 24s):Vertigo. I'm like, God, I mean,1 (10m 26s):It was coincidental. I never, we never did figure out what the deal was. But I developed a kind of vertigo when I was pregnant, where I had to crawl on the floor because I couldn't, you know, cause I couldn't walk and thankfully knock on wood that has not returned to me. And it also didn't return to my next two pregnancies, but yet it soured me and us on trains. But I think it's just the route we picked. We need to pick3 (10m 57s):It's the route and yeah, definitely don't have, don't be pregnant, but that's not going to happen for you again. So you don't have to worry about that. But like I'm all done with that. And so I had a great trip and I actually had like these huge realizations while I was there about, about working about money, about the entertainment industry, it was really, it was I, and I went with the intention of really looking at what is it that I'm going for in life? I mean, that's such a huge question, but like what, where am I trying to go? And, and the idea of service, right? So I always thought being of service was about other people, but really what it is for me is being of service in the way that I want to be of service is actually for me, like I didn't realize that I feel is good for my mental, physical, and emotional health when I'm being of service in a way that feels not to pleading, but all, but like really energizing and also like a, like thinking about legacy, I've also been thinking about legacy, like what is my, what is going to be my legacy?3 (12m 12s):And it tied into like, I was really, you know, I spend because the holidays are coming up way too much. It will not wait too much, but a lot of money on my nieces and nephew for Christmas gifts, right? Like thousands of dollars, right. Dish, I love giving gifts. It's my jam. But then I realized that like, and you probably, you know, I'd be so interested to hear what you have to say, but having children, but like a lot of this stuff, I got them, they outgrow, they don't care about very soon is cheaply made and is garbagey. And it has a very, very little lasting effect on their lives. And that's just the truth and I'm not judging it.3 (12m 52s):I'm just saying that seemed, that was the data I was picking up. And I'm like, that's literally like just throwing money away after a while year after year. So there's a, let me get smart about this. So we started a trust for each kid where we put that and I said to that shutter dude, I wish someone had done that for my ass. So I said to them, you can choose, we can keep going the way we're doing with gifts for Christmas and blah, blah, blah. Or you can, we can put donate every year and you could literally get very, very, very few gifts. But your huge gift is that each year we put a certain amount of money. And then basically by the time you're 30, you'll be millionaires.3 (13m 36s):I mean, just because of the way money grows, not even because we're putting that much in. And they were like, what? And so miles really educated me and them on the power of, of the investing money in a way that is with the interest and all that shit. And so that's what we're doing. And I, I got to say like, it tied into this idea of legacy and like, I would watch rather have those kiddos like be able to use it. And it's not like one of these things where they have to use it for college because fuck it, man, not everyone goes to goddamn college right away or ever, but they can't touch it until they're a certain age or they can choose to keep it in there and roll it over to another kind of account or whatever.3 (14m 17s):So, but I'm thinking about this shit differently in terms of legacy based on like, what do I want to leave this earth? Like, do I want to, you know, have, have my legacy be that I gave my, my niece to like a fake Dior ring that turned her finger green or right, right. It's fine. But it's so that's how we started it this Christmas. Cause I was like enough, enough, enough. Yeah. Yeah. Well, what you've just given us here in this conversation is like the center of a1 (14m 51s):Bicycle wheel by the goal wheel. And we have a, there's a bunch of spokes there. There's like talking about what's your purpose in life and where are you going? And there's talking about your legacy and then there's talking about consumption. And then there's talking about instant gratification that we give to kids in the form of gifts. And there's talking about that a lot, the pressures that we put on ourselves on Christmas, I mean just suffice it to say, I have been on the sometimes what feels like the circular journey of, you know, from, I mean, you know, when, when I first had kids, when we first had kids, it was really exciting to give the gifts.1 (15m 33s):It was exciting to create a Christmas that I remember from my childhood, the excitement of coming downstairs3 (15m 40s):And magic magic1 (15m 43s):1000%. And, and that sustained me for the period of time that the kids are literally happy to get whatever the minute it turned. And it turned when the oldest one was not that old. Yeah. I'm going to say like seven. Yeah. Yeah. And he, they had a bunch of presents and they opened everything up. And then he said, is that it? Yeah. And I went, oh damn, we're doing this wrong. We're doing it completely wrong. And so we've had a few Christmases and this is one of them where we're not doing gifts, which is to say, there will be stockings, you know, and maybe one little thing, but we're not doing the multiple presents under the trees.1 (16m 31s):We didn't do multiple Eddy presents for Hanukkah because of exactly what you said, toys is five to 15 minutes of joy for a lifetime, literally a lifetime of trash that I then, then it becomes my job to get rid of organized, find a space for a blood body block. And now the kids are pretty much almost all of them at an age where they don't want any of those things anymore. They want money, they want electronics. They want, so we have the way that we save money for them is not in the, for like Christmas, but that's actually a really good idea.1 (17m 12s):And something going to bring up with my husband and says,3 (17m 15s):Yeah, I mean, for those of us, I think it's a great idea. And also it's so much easier, not easy. Well, I don't know for miles and I don't have kids, so it's not in our face all the time. And we moved away from them. It's a different story when you're in under the same roof with being with children, with beings, small beings that, you know, are you so I, I am very aware that we have like the we're the aunt and uncle to different, it's a different deal. But like we just thought, wait a minute.1 (17m 44s):Yeah. And the thing that you're really after when you give a gift or at least I think is the joy that it brings to the person and, and that's great, but like you're saying most of the time, it's a, it's a very fleeting. And also like you don't want to teach kids that this is the way to direct your joy, right? Like from getting things, right. I'm not saying that that's, that's what you're definitely doing. If you give Christmas present, I'm not saying that. But you know, we just live in this very like consumer oriented culture,3 (18m 17s):The kid's fault. It's nobody's fault. It's a system, it's a systemic situation, but it hit me last. When I really, when I really was like, okay, I want to do this differently. It was last Christmas. My youngest niece wanted and got it is not knocking anyone involved, but it was very clear to me that we, it was really stark about what was going on. She wanted a claw machine, a mini Kalama machine from an arcade that literally just had candy in it, candy bars. And you made this loudest noise you've ever heard, took 10 batteries, 10 big ass batteries.3 (19m 7s):And literally there's candy in it. That's killing us all the sugar and look, you know, whatever. That was the least of my worries. But I was like, this is wait, what?1 (19m 16s):That's interesting. That has me3 (19m 20s):Wait. And it was a, probably a really expensive machine. It's not cheap, but that's what she wanted. My sister got it. And look, I'm not knocking anyone involved, but for me, I was like, it was so, so striking about what was going on. Cause it was so loud and obnoxious.1 (19m 39s):Let me ask you this. What do you remember getting for Christmas? Okay.3 (19m 42s):My favorite thing I ever got, this is so crazy in my life when I was a kid kid was okay. Two things I can tell the first gift that I like went Gaga, Google over was something, it was a makeup kit called fresh and fancy. And it had, it had perfumes. It had, and it was probably, you know, 9 99, 99 at Kmart. But like my sister and I each got one and it, what, what it was, was super fun, super adult, super smelled. So good. And I, there is a picture of me opening it up and in, in my I'm saying fresh and fancy.3 (20m 27s):And then I take the picture.1 (20m 30s):Do you have that picture accessible?3 (20m 33s):Yeah, I think so. I can send it, send it, send1 (20m 36s):It. Yeah.3 (20m 38s):I will send that and to fresh and fancy. Okay. That was number one. And then the second gift I remember as an adult getting that was really moving to was my mother who traveled all the time and who I really sort of labeled as a selfish, kind of a human at times gave my sister and I each a ticket, a plane ticket to go anywhere in the world because she had so many miles. But like the fact that she, she thought about us and the fact that her travel, which as a child brought so much grief to me because she was gone all the time that she was then turning it around and giving my sister and I each a plane ticket to anywhere was really moving to me and also was really abundant and felt like that's awesome.3 (21m 25s):You know, is that when you went to Columbia, that's when I went to Prague by myself for a week and a half, which was insane or two weeks, it was crazy, but1 (21m 34s):Oh yeah,3 (21m 37s):It was in, when I lived in LA, it was a long time ago. So, and I, I, I, it just, so I wish I had gone with somebody else. It was the most lonely, it was beautiful and Prague is crazy and, and fun, but I went alone, but that's like really just indicative of where I was at in my LA life. So it doesn't, that's not shocking to me. What about you? Like, what do you remember being like, oh my God,1 (22m 0s):I got to speak and spell. I, I really, I really coveted speak and spell. And for those of you who don't know a speak and spell is just, would be an app now. And it wouldn't be nearly as fun. This was a self-contained. It was like a really thick version, like a three inch thick version, maybe note or two of an iPad. And it was orange and it had a handle built into the top and it would say a word in a computerized voice, like structure, and then you'd have to spell it. And if you got it right, this is the, so this tells you a lot about my psychology, the high, I got that little sound telling me I spelled something, right.1 (22m 43s):I just felt like I could, I was vanquishing Rome. It was, I felt so powerful that I got a bike one year. That was amazing. And I kind of lip gloss that smelled like root beer.3 (22m 57s):Oh, I know that those1 (22m 59s):Are the things that just like off the top of my head. I remember just falling in love with, and, and being, you know, unequivocally joyful, happy with moments. And that's the thing that you're always after, like for yourself or the people that you love, you want to impart this joy. That's what I was going to get you. Like, you want to impart this joy and then there's this tacit thing about like, you better feel joy from this. At least that's what I find myself, you know, evaluate whether or not this person is feeling joy from it, because that's what I want. I want to give them joy of this present. And then I feel sad if it doesn't work out.3 (23m 38s):Yeah. And, and, and, and, and it, it usually doesn't work out like that only because people aren't mind readers people don't, everyone's different. And Joy's so, so personal. And so, so specific to that person. And it's like, it's just such a setup, but it's also, we keep trying and I'm going to still, I still love giving presents, but I now am like, oh, okay. Can't be for me, like the mass quantity of just, yeah. Crap. Like, it really hit me too. Like I bought one year, my niece was really into Shopkins.3 (24m 19s):Remember, oh yeah. I bought like $200 worth of Shopkins for her.1 (24m 23s): lasted for that year. And then she makes, never picked up shots.3 (24m 29s):Not even the whole year, maybe a month.1 (24m 32s):That's the thing, man. They get, and they get, and I, I, I was going to say, this is especially true for girls, but I'm, I'm going to re revise that because the boys did it too. When they love that thing, it's all they care about. It's their whole world. You know, my daughter said to me all, I, the only thing I want you to get me is just tons and tons of puppets. What's a3 (24m 58s):Pocket.1 (24m 59s):A pocket is a PLA silicone flat toy that has these half hemisphere, a half a hemisphere that you put, like you, it's a satisfying sensation to push it in. And then you flip it over and push it the other way. Shit.3 (25m 24s):What's in that what's in the pocket, like a little creatures,1 (25m 28s):Zero, nothing. It's in the shape of whatever you want it to be in the shape of it's a fidget choice. Essentially. I3 (25m 36s):Understand. It's like an ASMR founding,1 (25m 39s):Totally tile. It doesn't make a sound. It's all about it being tactile. Yeah. And, and, you know, go to the stores and they're everywhere. Puppets. You'll see if you start looking for now, you'll see that they're everywhere. And so that's what she wants. And a half of me completely wants to indulge that wish. And the other half of me says, I'll be throwing these all away in six months. And then I'll feel like an asshole because I spent a bunch of money on something that I knew was a fool's errand.3 (26m 10s):Yeah, I'm right. It's like so hard because they believe they really want it.1 (26m 18s):They really, it's3 (26m 18s):Not, it's not a joke. It's not a, it's not a joke. Like that's their jam.1 (26m 24s):Yeah. So this year we're going skiing for Christmas. That's3 (26m 27s):Our part of New Hampshire.1 (26m 29s):We're going to Vermont. And I think I've told everybody on the podcast I do. That's right.3 (26m 35s):You'd like the ski lodge into, right?1 (26m 38s):Yes ma'am. So I go and I get everybody off in the morning to their little activities and it's as, you know, a huge amount of work, then the gear and the schlepping. So I help everybody get to that. And I get back to my little cozy spot and read and write and just hang out that sound. So I'm really looking forward to it. Yeah. And honestly, that's the thing that people I I'm banking on. Cause this will be the third time we've done a trip instead of presence. And, and these are trips that we still talk about. So I think it is a good investment experiences are a better investment than3 (27m 14s):I absolutely agree. And I feel like that's the trust starting for these kids. It's like, we're gifting them with the experience of maybe like a down payment on a fricking home, a car to get them from here to there a education, like a real thing, like a thing that you need to like live your life versus a fricking fake Cuban Linx chain. I didn't even know what Cuban links were. I didn't know what was happening.1 (27m 42s):I don't know what that3 (27m 42s):Is. What is Cuban links? I oh, those1 (27m 45s):Big, Easy.3 (27m 51s):And it's just ugly. And it's also $6,006,000. What did Jackie about? Oh anyway,1 (27m 59s):I, you, you just did yourself, such a favor. I mean, you did them mostly a favor, but you did yourself such a favor because also the other thing is, you know, I have experienced, I go out shopping and I'm immediately overwhelmed and I'm trying, okay, now this one, I got this,3 (28m 14s):I asked who gets one and did, is it equal? And like,1 (28m 18s):Oh my God, it's just, it's like a, it's a hell3 (28m 33s):I thought we might start out with, I got some feedback on the, okay. So my, on the podcast from, so my, my parents' best friends, Nancy and Dave, they like helped raise me and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And they've really become like second parents. And, you know, they, they hadn't heard the podcast. So they were like, send us an episode. And I said, okay. And you know, it's always tricky because they really know me. They really know my parents. They really know my life in some ways in my childhood. So I was like, well, so I sent them an episode. I sent them the does small ocean Hooga knocker episode because Dave is a therapist and he works with people with addictions.3 (29m 13s):And I thought, oh, that might be interesting. And so the feedback is so interesting. The feedback I got was I'll read it on air because it's good. It's a podcast. Podcasts was good. Felt like a reunion. Sounds like David was deep into self-destruction before he recovered a talented guy was hoping to hear more from you. But that's for selfish reasons. I like how you identified the macro themes in your Roundup at the end. And then I wrote, thank you so much. We're we Gina and I are always aware that like, like, you know, we don't want it just to be us and we don't want to just to be guests.3 (29m 54s):So we're trying to find a mix. So his feedback it's so funny. He liked, he likes to give feedback. You know, if you and Gina are willing to talk about what life experiences brought you to embrace the arts and try and make a decent living, I liked the way you have reconstructed your family life so that you don't have to be an emotional casualty. There's a lot to talk about how you both learn to think from, from psychodynamic and systems orientation. I don't even know what that means. I'm not smart enough. The best stories are the stuff of good soap operas, good screenwriting can teach people how to better understand and navigate within their interpersonal worlds.3 (30m 36s):I'd like to hear another one, if you don't mind the feedback. So Loves our inter you know, he's, he's a therapist, obviously. So he loves that. But it was interesting. I mean, I seriously don't know what half of that means, but like,1 (30m 54s):No, he just means no, he just means like the thing, I mean here, here's this big secret that we've never told anybody, this podcast is not really about theaters. Right. And so what you saying is the, the, the psychodynamic for, you know, background that we have influences and informs our conversation so that we, we think about things dynamic and that's it. And that would be interesting to a therapist. Therapist thinks about things dynamically too. And yeah, I mean, honestly, it there's so much it's, so there's always so much to talk about. There's so much to talk about. Like, and I, well, the thing I, this ties into the thing that I kind of wanted to talk to you about, which is that when we first started recording a podcast, it was not, I survived theater school.1 (31m 44s):We were calling undeniable, right.3 (31m 46s):That's right.1 (31m 47s):And we had about eight, you know, hour long conversations that were about this concept of being undeniable. So I kind of wanted to clarify for people who may not know why is our company called undeniable? Why is not the website? Because when you told the great story about it, we didn't never air that till we did. So, no, because it was, it was for,3 (32m 20s):We never found and they tried to send to you and then it got1 (32m 23s):No, no, no, no, no. I'm just saying like, we recorded those and then we changed our mind about what the3 (32m 29s):Right. Yes. Okay. Yes. That makes sense. Oh, should we tell the story? Yeah. So it's so funny because I wonder if he ever heard this, if he would even remember, you know, it's so funny, like who remembers telling people what? All right. So the story is this. So I, well, first to say that, like you and I were talking about like, what, what is the thing of life? Like, what is again, where I'm at now, which is what are we going after, right. Like, what is the quality of life that I'm going after that you're going after that we're going after as a team. Okay. So it reminded me of this story of I did a solo show and it was called why not me love cancer and Jack White and the woman who was, and it was a solo show basically about cancer and about working for Nick cage and all kinds of things.3 (33m 19s):Just like I surprised theater school is not about theater. School is not really about Jack White, my show, you know, it's whatever. So, okay. So I'm doing this show. And my, the director of my show is this woman named Alison lion. And she happens to be good friends with the comedian and storyteller and actor, Jeff Garlin who I, I didn't know from Adam, like I wasn't a curb, your enthusiasm fan. So I didn't know, but I knew he of him. And I knew he's like a famous guy. Right. So she said, you know, how would you feel about Jeff? Garlin coming to see a dress rehearsal and giving notes. And I was like, oh, sure. Literally being like, oh, a famous person wants to come see my show.3 (34m 0s):That's cool. You know, not like, what can I glean from this artist? You know, just cause that's, that's where my mind went. I would've have been the same. I mean, I just am not mature enough for whatever, so, okay. So I do the, it was, it, it was real nerve and it was an empty house, but him, he and Alison were sitting up there at stage 7 73 on Belmont in Chicago. And so I did the show and whatever, and it was an okay show. I mean, I look, I don't know, but afterwards, if such an interesting story afterwards, he was giving notes to Alison, but not me. And I thought, well, that's weird, but he was really there for her.3 (34m 42s):That was her mentor kind of, you know, her comedy mentor. But then I came out of the house into the house and met and met Jeff and he was lovely. And he said, well, do you want notes? Or somehow it came up like, do I want actor notes? And I was like, of course, which is shocking to me because I never want notes. Right. And I always say, I would love feedback. And by feedback, I mean, compliments, like, that's my . I did say of course, because that's what you say when a fancy person wants to give you notes. And he gave me some great notes, which was stopped swearing so much. And he compared me to Robin Williams, which was amazing.3 (35m 22s):He said, because I could tell he called him by his first name. I do believe he was like, when Robin would swear a lot, I would know that he was, he was, was dying on stage, was off. Yeah. And I was like, that's fascinating or pushing, like I push when I'm swearing. Okay. Great note. I've I've kept that note and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. All right. So then, then I have to tell us, because it's so interesting because I would have done the same thing. So then after he gave notes, which I kind of blacked out some of them, cause it was a lot, but then he, Alison, we're going to go out to eat at clerks on Belmont, but they didn't invite me. Right. And I was like, oh, and then I was in the bathroom and Alison called and she's like, I'm an idiot.3 (36m 5s):I didn't invite you. Do you want to come? And I was like, oh, of course. Yeah. She, and I think what happens is when you're around famous people, you forget, you1 (36m 13s):Lose your census. It's3 (36m 15s):Very weird. It's a weird thing. I think that's what happened for, so we went to Clark's on Belmont and he, we taught he's so what is he? He's he's a generous. No, he's, he's a big personality. So he takes over rooms. Right? So at clerks, he's the center of the show and it is not anything he's doing. It's just, that's how some people are like,1 (36m 42s):He's not trying to lay low. Right. He's3 (36m 45s):Not trying to lay low. And he also loves people I think, and loves human interaction. I mean, from what I know, as we got into this conversation and somehow, and he said, and he said to me, we were talking about acting and we were talking and he said, I'm going to make a movie and you're going to be in it one day. And I said, that's fantastic. I love that. That's great. That sounds great. And then we talked about other stuff and then he said, you know what you are? And I said, what? And he said, you are undeniable. And I was like, what is even happening? And I was like, okay, thanks. Great. He's like, no, no, no. You're undeniable. Like that show is undeniable.3 (37m 26s):And I was like, what does that mean? And he said, well, it just means that like eat exists in its truest form unapologetically. And I'm totally paraphrasing here, of course. But it was like, it exists in its truest form. It's just is you don't have to like it. You don't have to like, you, you don't have to like what you're saying, but there is a quality that cannot be taken away about the show. It's more than unique. It's more than that. It's undeniable. You don't have to like it. You don't have to dislike it, but it, it exists on its own. And it cannot be basically cannot be fucked with in, in, in that way, you know? And I was like, whoa, that is awesome. And that I feel like is what I'm going for in my life.1 (38m 10s):Yeah. And, and when you told the story before you also said that, that he said, you know, be undeniable continue to be undeniable because that, that is ultimately the only thing that lasts in terms of, you know, the industry or whatever. And as long as you're holding true to, you know, your own undeniable truth or whatever, you can, you know, you can't go wrong. It may not mean that you, whatever, get fame and fortune, but, but you'll be doing, you'll be on the right track.3 (38m 40s):You won't be led astray by your undeniable city. Like you, you won't be, it won't be, you won't go in the wrong direction for too long. If you use an deniability as your north star kind of a thing. And it really, and he, he later told Alison, you know, she's, you know, he kept reiterating like she's undeniable, she's undeniable. And he, and Alison had told me, and I, of course, because, you know, I just figure people say that about everybody analysis and no, he does not do that. And also he stands by his word. So you will one day be in a movie with Jeff Garlin and I was like, cool, great. That's fine. But I it's interesting looking back on the story, it's like, I wish everyone is so scared.3 (39m 24s):Like I wish that I would have used those quotes in my press, but Alison didn't want to use them because she felt she was already asking too. We're all, we always feel like we're asking too much. So she felt that she, she was asking too much just having him come to the show and having him give notes was enough and having him. And I remember at the time I had a musician as part of the show, you know, his name is Philip Michael scales. He's amazing. And he was like, we should totally use Garland's quotes to get more people to come to the show and both Alison and I, it's interesting, both Alex and I were like, oh no, no, no, no, like he's done enough.3 (40m 4s):You know, it's just so1 (40m 5s):Like, yeah. Like, and all I'll do to Alison I would've made probably the same choice, but you know, it's like, what are we so afraid of? What skin is it off of his nose? If you say that he said something that he said, you know what I mean? It's not like his reputation is living or dying on your show. It's just,3 (40m 25s):I mean, yeah. I would have done the same thing too. And I1 (40m 30s):That's the mentality that we've talked about so much on here, and it's definitely true for Hollywood entertainment, whatever, but it may also just be true for life that we kind of inherently have this idea that there's a finite pie. Sure. And you know, it's kind of like the people who think that only whatever 7,000 people are going to heaven, you know, what kind of cockamamie thing is that like you believe in heaven, you believe that all of this is God's plan and that people have been alive for millions of years and yet only 7,000 feet. Right. That to me is like a perfect evidence of the way in which we make ourselves and our, and the possibility so much smaller than they need to be.1 (41m 15s):Yes. So you think there's a finite amount of pie and you say, well, I can't take my one, one thousandths of a sliver, you know, that's Jeff Garlin because then there won't be any Jeff Garlin left. Like that's just simply not how it works. It's just simply, you know, anyway, the reason I said generous is because, I mean, you know, whatever, he has a friendship with her, but, but offering the feedback to you and then offering this truth about identifying your and deniability, which I'm guessing was one is one of the things that you carry with you. Okay.3 (41m 53s):Yeah. I mean, I do think, I do think that he's, that that was very generous of him. Like, and, and I do think that he and I do carry it with me and, and it obviously had an effect on me because I tell the story and because, you know, we, that you and I started a whole company around the idea of being undeniable, but like, and yeah, it, it really was like an affirmation, right. To just fucking pick a side already, like, like take a stand, like do something like th th th the gold boldly in one direction, because this sort of, this sort of, wishy-washy trying to please everybody, it, it, it not only does it not, it's not, it's a totally unpleasant, it actually doesn't work for the thing that you think you want.3 (42m 45s):Like, if you want notoriety power, fame, fortune, you have to pick a side at some point. Okay. But if you also want to feel good and be led, like we're saying by your north star, you could, you could use your, and deniability as a north star to eventually mean that sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly to get to a place where you really feel like you're doing right by yourself. If you follow your undeniable, whatever that means to you. So, yeah, he changed my life. Like that changed my life. I mean, the show did the sh you know, looking back on the show, I spent so much money. I would say, like, to be, if I'm completely honest, it was like a $25,000 investment I made over from 2012 to 2015 or whatever.3 (43m 31s):And, and I didn't bring in one dime, you know, I didn't make, make a dime, but it was, I would've done things differently, but I still I'm glad I did it. And, and that's one of the reasons stories. And one of the reasons I'm glad I did it was because I learned that lesson about being undeniable from Jeff Garlin. And yeah,1 (43m 55s):I don't think he went to theater school, but he needs to come on the podcast, you know, tell him that and, and, and hear more about his, his thoughts about, and deniability. So, so that you have shared that story with me, which really even moved me. I mean, it's, it's affected me. And then we linked it to this crooked, let's say path that we made, where we were pursuing this creative, creative career. And then we couldn't pursue it because we needed to make money. And we thought it would be okay to do else. And ultimately wasn't. And so the creative urge or whatever is undeniable in us.1 (44m 39s):And we're basically having to listen to it instead of, you know, pushing it away. And, and we also have a belief that many, many, many people are in that exact same position at this age in life, they were pursuing something. It wasn't financially viable. They had to do something else. And that when, what we're talking to a lot of people about these days is I think a lot of people who come on the podcast are reckoning with that question. Whether it be when we ask them to come on or while we're having the conversation or in the time after.1 (45m 21s):And we hear a variety of things from, from, you know, genuine like bridge equipment is a good example of somebody who went and did something else. And I think she found her thing. Yeah. I feel like therapy. She found the right thing for her. Yeah.3 (45m 37s):And she's now taking classes again, though. Acting classes, remember? Cause she wrote us.1 (45m 43s):Oh, that's right. Okay. Well, all right. So maybe, so maybe so maybe everybody, but what, we also talked to, a lot of people who I feel are trying to convince themselves, us, that they have moved on and you know, what, if that's true for you, I don't want to take that away from anybody, but it's hard for me to believe that's true for as many people as say it is true because if you, right, if you just, if you have, if you're born with this desire to express, and then you don't exp and you don't do it, it doesn't go away. And,3 (46m 19s):And here's the kicker too, is like the secret Willie, we can let everybody in a secret that you and I, because of our childhoods. And then on top of the childhood, the training that we received as actors, and then on top of that, the training we received as clinicians, we are able, here's the secret. We can see things in you that you may not be able to see in yourself or that you think you're hiding. Like that is just the secret.1 (46m 45s):And, and I'll say as a person who is fully does this all the time, nobody's hiding anything. I'm sorry to inform you. Nobody, you whoever's walking around. They're saying nobody knows that I, blah, blah, blah. Right? Yes, they do. I mean, they may not say it to you. They may not even have that thought in the front of their mind to everybody does truly know everything. And you're only kidding yourself, right? To, to hide behind, you know, dishonesty,3 (47m 20s):You're kidding yourself that you were hiding it and you're kidding yourself that other people can't see it. And you're kidding yourself that it's working for to hide it. But it's easier said than done to not hide it. I'm not saying coming out, coming clean about your truth is easy at all. But I just want to say like, cause people always ask like, and I, I run up against this a lot in Hollywood of like, how could you tell that? Like, so-and-so really, didn't like this script. I'm like, dude, body language. Blahbity blah, blah. And they're like, I didn't get that.3 (48m 0s):I'm like, dude, you just have to like, I have training. But also you just have to really, I always say this, but like you have to be sort of a neglected child that then decided that people pleasing was the way to freedom. Then learn that that is actually not true. But then use those skills to actually be like an emotional detective for other people. It's a whole process, but you could do it if you spent enough time, but I can tell like I can, I even at coworking, like I'm going to soundproof booth. So no one could hear me. But like I, I spent five minutes with somebody and I'm like, oh my God, they hate themselves. They hate themselves a passion they're pretending not to, but they hate themselves.3 (48m 42s):And that is unfortunate because I know they have redeeming qualities. I haven't talked to them for more than five minutes. So I don't know what that is. And I don't want to talk to them for more than five minutes because I'm not their therapist or friend, but I get it. I get it. It is a super power that I think people who really have trauma and then have chosen to work through the trauma. It's a super power that we have that we can, and it's also can be a burden, like any superpower to really see what the fuck is going on with people and call it out if need be. But we don't always call it out because it's not our job.3 (49m 23s):And you know, that is something we run into on this podcast too. It's like, there are times on the podcast where I want to be like, you know, this is just full transparency where I want to be like, you're full of shit. You're full of shit. Totally terrible. You, you, you hate blahbity blah, but you don't want to tell us you hate blabbity, blah. And I understand that because I've been in the same boat and I still am in the same boat, but just know that if you come on this podcast that it kind of behooves you to just tell the truth because what? Yeah. We all see it anyway. Right, right. We just do. We all see it anyway. Yeah. In your voice, we don't even have to look at your face.3 (50m 3s):Here's the other thing about human experience? So people think, I think because it's a podcast and it's not, we don't air the video that like, they can also hide shit. Well, your voice and the, and the PA I mean, I'm giving away all the secrets here, but there are no real secrets. Like the pauses in between watching the next person we have come on is gonna be like, okay, anyway. So I feel really bad about everything in my life. And I put the pauses, the pauses in between questions and answers. It's all part of the deal. And so I just encourage people. Like, I want you to come on this podcast and feel like you can, that you you're able to be undeniable and FYI on deniability does not mean everything is great about you.3 (50m 48s):Right? Like it doesn't mean, it just means that you're telling the truth about who you are. Good, bad, ugly, weird.1 (50m 56s):Yeah. You, you could be an undeniable asshole. There's no, it's a, it doesn't have a necessarily positive connotation, but you know, if you are an asshole and you're, well, that's not a good example. If you are, if you hate yourself, let's say that's a good example. If you hate yourself, you know, you're never going to get to a place where you don't hate yourself by pretending that you don't hate yourself. You have to start with the idea that, okay, here's what I'm up against right now. Hearn's out. I really hate myself. And you know, and I'm going to have to get real about that before I can, because how could you begin to interrogate a problem that you haven't named at all? That's like, that's like, you know, getting, I don't know that to the end of a math problem without having like what the3 (51m 43s):She's learning a new language without studying one minute of the language in your life. It doesn't, it's not possible. I mean, you might get one word. Right. But by luck. But1 (51m 55s):Yeah. And my thing, and I think this is your thing too in life is just encouraging people and the reason, and I understand why people want to lie to themselves about it because it's painful or because you don't want to be a person who hates yourself. You don't want to be a person who feels unfulfilled by career traces. I get that. But, but it's like that, that you are unfulfilled or you are that you just haven't done the work of accepting.3 (52m 23s):Right. And I, and I, I definitely feel like for me, the turning point, literally in my life had to, had to do with, when I had a physical problem with my heart, where I was like, oh, this is what is happening. I haven't taken care of my body for whatever reason. Not because I'm a bad person, but because I've always shit going on and all these issues and hereditary, but I haven't done the work to, to look at this. And so now it's coming, it's now it's, it's, it's a problem. And, and, and when you're laying in the hospitals hooked up to machines and you and people are telling you, it's a problem that are trained specifically in this problem.3 (53m 7s):And you finally are faced with, oh, either I'm going to believe this or not, and acknowledge it or not. And I just was like, okay, I acknowledge it. I need to lose weight. I need to move my body and I need to eat less shitty foods and okay. That's it. It's in my face. It's in my face. It's in my face. I'm the1 (53m 25s):Hospital. Yeah. My, my wish for it to be something other than it isn't has, it helped me to have it be something other than it isn't. But my, my courage, if, if you can summon the courage to face it, then it might actually be different. So the other thing that you were talking about before was legacy, and that is, that has been a theme in my life recently too, because, you know, I realized after my sister died, like it's all over for her. I, you know how a lot of times when people die, then people will go on their Facebook account and like, write these messages to them.1 (54m 16s):You know, I miss you, blah, blah, blah. No, nobody did that on my sister's Facebook page. Nobody and no, nobody and her kids, you know, who are too young, really to use Facebook there that's because it's an old person's thing, but they have Facebook accounts and they had each written something about their mom when she died. And periodically, I checked back in to see like, what the comments are at for first of all, I don't know, 95% of the people who were making the comments, cause I haven't been in their lives, but it really ended like a few, you know, a few days after she died, it ended.1 (54m 58s):And I just thought, wow, man, there's just no trace of this first. God, I don't like that. There's yeah. It's it's really unsettling. And so recently we came in to possession of unpublished manuscript that Aaron's grandfather wrote on which sirens grandfather, his dad's dad. Okay. Aaron's grandfather was a, you know, hardcore Chicago in, he was a tool and die maker. He worked in one of these factories where whenever there was factories in Chicago and he retired when he was 70, 70 or 75 and went back and went to college and he was the oldest graduate from Roosevelt university where I teach by the way weird.1 (55m 58s):Yeah. And he was a writer and a poet and he wrote a book. Now, dear listeners, I regret to inform you. It's not a great book. You know, he could have used an editor. I'm sure. And, but it doesn't matter. The point is we receive this cream and a half of paper that's wrapped up in like a grocery bag and bound with string and it hasn't been touched3 (56m 34s):How'd you get it? How'd you get it?1 (56m 37s):His mom had it. And she sent him a bunch of stuff in that, and that was in there. So we opened it up and, and I thought to myself, okay, this is fascinating because one of the things that I think compels people to write is a desire to leave some kind of an imprint. And I'm curious how other people think or don't think or feel, or don't feel about their legacy. I mean, I guess people do it in other ways you get really rich and you name a building after yourself or by the way, they took the Sackler name off the mat. Finally they took the Sackler name off the met. Yes. And oh God.1 (57m 18s):Yes. That's a whole other thing. Watch dope. Sick with John who can aprons really good. Yeah. Anyway, people do use philanthropy. I mean, it kind of seems like, unless you're in the arts or rich, how do you have a legacy? What's your, what is,3 (57m 33s):This is a great freaking question. Like this is the question that I really been thinking about in my brain. And I, I think I have the answer for me, but I'm not exactly sure. So, all right. So I love to teach, but I love to teach a very specific population. It's a population that is underrepresented in colleges. So I I'm trying to narrow down like what I want to do with my life basically. And I think I want, I know I want to be a writer, but I was like, okay. But my realtor says I have to make 80 to a hundred thousand dollars if I want a house in California.3 (58m 17s):Okay. And I'm tired of sitting around, waiting for Hollywood to discover me. Okay. Fine. And us. So what do I do? Okay, fine. So then I've been teaching right at Roosevelt and other places and I love it. I love the 1819 year olds. Okay. Fine. I love teaching acting. I don't know. I feel like I don't really know shit about acting, but I know I do when it's mixed with psychology. Does that make sense? Okay.1 (58m 44s):A hundred percent then the other3 (58m 45s):Day I was like, and then I was like, okay, but I don't want to teach at a fancy conservatory. Like I don't, that's just, I just don't. So I was like, all right. All right. All right. So then someone sent me a listing to teach a community college, making a $90,000 a year. Community colleges paid better than a lot of colleges. And so I'm applying to teach first year actors at a community college in Glendale. And I don't know, and I don't know, and I actually think it's going to make my writing. And I think it's going to make me hustle in a different way. I don't know if I'll get the job, but I gotta say my legacy might be, cause I thought, okay.3 (59m 30s):At first I thought my legacy was going to be, and we could track it with the podcast. Right. Like I thought my legacy was going to be famous actor even though like, I don't know if that's, that is a legacy like Brando and you know, that's a legacy. That's what I thought. I thought, oh, that'll be my legacy. I'll be fancy, famous lady. Okay, fine. That did not happen. Then I thought, okay, my legacy is going to be that I'm a very sort of famous PR prolific addictions counselor, like at a social service agency. Yeah. That's going to be my legacy, but that's what I thought, like, that's my mark. That's where I'm going to leave my mark. That did not happen. Then I thought, okay, I'm going to be again, a famous actor, but maybe a solo artist. Right.3 (1h 0m 10s):And, and then, and then a screenwriter and I'll get really famous as a television writer, which still could happen. But I was like, I'm not sure that is the flavor of legacy that we're talking. I'm talking about here in terms of service, right. Service. What I want is to teach, I could teach 18, 19 year olds tangible skills that they can use then and move on in their lives and then teach their kids. Like, like that seems more in alignment with what I'm talking about in terms of legacy than just fancy screenwriter.3 (1h 0m 50s):That makes a lot of money. So, yeah.1 (1h 0m 53s):Yeah, because actually I was just having this thought yesterday, if I was ever given an award that was related in any way to theater, the first person I would think is my junior high acting teacher and teachers truly do leave some of the biggest, like good and bad. Some of the biggest legacies. I remember every single teacher I've ever had. Yeah. And w I mean, I mostly remember the ones who were really good or really bad, but they, I can think of five people off the top of my head who should be canonized as saints, because really Mrs. McDaniels, you were a prima ballerina who ended up teaching math in junior high.1 (1h 1m 37s):And you know what she did, she knew that I had just a, I was having a really hard time in junior high. And she invited me to eat lunch in her classroom every day, because I think she was at a Mexican, she didn't eat. And so she could go over the math with me cause I was having a hard time getting it. And I was just having a hard time. Sure. In general, this is seventh grade. And she provided all under the guise of teaching me math. Of course she gave me mentorship. She gave me attention. She showed me love.1 (1h 2m 19s):Right. Like what's3 (1h 2m 20s):What more could you ask for legacy I'm looking for? I'm not, I decided like, especially during COVID times, I've really been thinking, I think a lot of us have about like, what is obviously important, but also what is lasting and what is, and I thought, yeah. Okay. So, so I don't have a desire to like go into the classroom and teach, you know, I don't wanna teach psychology. I don't want to teach, but I was like maybe. And the thing that like the community colleges in California in Southern California, like I believe Pasadena city college and Glendale community college are two of the best community colleges in the country. So I'm like, okay.3 (1h 3m 0s):And it's cheap to go there. And it's a bunch of different kinds of learners and it's not just white kids that are like, I'm fucking going to be the next, I don't know whoever it's like kids that actually want to learn. And I, I mean, look, there's going to be some real assholes in there. I know it. But like I thought, oh, okay. Like also I really, really need a house with a yard. And I don't know how, I don't want to do it by, by getting an office job that I'm gonna die at. And I, and I, and then try to write on top of that.3 (1h 3m 45s):So like, I really need more space. And we were looking at houses and this all really was, was sparked by talking to a realtor, a really great realtor who also was like a very therapeutic and his approach. And he was like, listen, do you want a house in California? Yes. Okay. Do you want a two bedroom, two bath? Yes. This is how much money you each need to bring in a year. And this is how much your down payment is going to be act accordingly. He just told me that like, it's not,1 (1h 4m 16s):It's not a mystery. It's not an unknowable path. It's just like, no, no, no.3 (1h 4m 22s):It's very clear. And he was very loving, but he was also like, you, you piecemealing the piecemealing, your salary together is not going to work for this. And I was like, and I, I needed him to say that too, to know that like, it's time for me to bring in a decent amount of money. Now, if it comes, if it, if, if, if somehow it comes from your mind getting a television show or our documentary taking off. Great. But like, in the meantime, I need to feel like I am, I am not just piecemealing my shit together.1 (1h 5m 8s):Right. Because in addition to all the other things we've mentioned, you have a lot other needs that are undeniable and it is much your responsibility to meet those needs your, your need to have, you know, your own space. You need to have address, you know, that's as important to listen to as anything else.3 (1h 5m 27s):I had no idea. Like I just thought it's interesting. I, I thought that I did not have those needs. Like I thought, who cares where you live literally. I mean, I've moved 15 times. So it's like, who cares if you live in a one bedroom with two people and a dog, I care. I care a lot now I really care. And it's really, really important to me to be out. So having an outside space,1 (1h 5m 55s):And what I hear in this for you is a shift from what does it look like to other people to, what does it feel like inside of me? And it was always more important,3 (1h 6m 8s):More important. And it's also super interesting. And I think we run up against this all the time. People think that they're like, oh, you're not going to be an actor anymore. Like you're not going to audition anymore. And I'm like, I don't think so. It's not like it's like I had the other night. I had the experience. So I get off the train right at eight o'clock the day before I got an audition from my agent for self-tape for a show in Chicago, that's a procedural show, you know, and that everyone auditions for in Chicago. And I got a self-tape quick turnaround. I had to get off and I chose to, I got off the train, dropped my stuff, picked up.3 (1h 6m 50s):My friend came to coworking and was up til midnight filming this scene. It's not a good scene. I'm not good. I'm not good in the scene because I don't, I'm, I'm not, I was having trouble memorizing because it's late at night. And then, and then I turned to my friend and I just said, you know, and, and I'm not paid, obviously we're not paid for the audition. If I book it, I have to go to Chicago on my own dime, stay in a hotel on my own, or place my own plane fare. I hate to fly to do this thing. That's going to terrorize me on set for a day to make $900.3 (1h 7m 32s):What the fuck am I doing? So I turned to my friend and I just said, who was nice enough to stay up with me till midnight, taping this in the fucking coworking space. I turned to her and I said, I don't want to do this anymore. And she said, okay. And she said, okay. I mean, she doesn't give a shit. She's a writer. She's not an actor. She doesn't, but she's like, okay. And I was like, yeah, this is no, no, no, it's not. That is not my legacy.1 (1h 8m 0s):Right.3 (1h 8m 1s):So it's very clear. So now I'm going to, I'm just, I'm not, I'm having calling my agents1 (1h 8m 8s):And you can't know until, you know, I mean, like that reality couldn't hit you until it did. I'm like, no, so yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, good for you. I mean, part of life is figuring out what it's not, and as much as it is figuring out what it is. Yeah. So4 (1h 8m 34s):If you liked what you heard today, please give us a positive five star review and subscribe and tell your friends. I survived. Theater school is an undeniable in production. Jen Bosworth, Ramirez and Gina plegia are the co-hosts. This episode was produced, edited, and sound mixed by Gina Culichi for more information about this podcast or other goings on of undeniable, Inc. Please visit our website@undeniablewriters.com. 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The Novel:Claimed by the Alien BodyguardThe Author:Tiffany RobertsThe Guest:Becky Feldman, host of Too Stupid to Live PodcastIG: @tstlpodcastTwitter: @tstlpodcastThe Synopsis:A retired alien bodyguard. A luscious human female he craves. He'll do whatever it takes to make her his by Christmas.Gabriela Romero is a single mother struggling to make ends meet. With Christmas fast approaching, she's lost work, she's late on rent, and the zeroes in her bank account are on the wrong side of the decimal point. Fortunately, she has a couple bright spots in her life—her amazing daughter, Ana, and her brief interactions with her gorgeous neighbor from across the street, Mason Lee.He's big, strong, kind, and he's great with Ana. Plus, he looks at Gabriela like he wants to devour her. How could a man like him be real? When he finally asks her out—and an unexpected job comes her way—it seems Gabriela's luck is finally turning around.Until the universe decides to give her a reality check and disaster strikes.In Gabriela's most desperate moments, Mason rushes to the rescue. But her savior isn't what he seems. He's a seven-foot-tall alien with horns and glowing violet eyes. Did she run into the arms of an otherworldly demon or will this unusual being save Christmas—and claim Gabriela's heart in the process? *Content Warnings* Fire. One of the MC's loses her house in a fire Show Notes:- The 8th Day of Boobsmas with LAST YEAR'S 8th Day of Boobsmas guest, Becky Feldman- Shoutout to a few other favorite romance podcasts - Becky rants about Jewish holiday romances (00:05:02)- Revisiting a Hanukkah romance, this time on Too Stupid to Live - Introducing today's read, Claimed by the Alien's Bodyguard (00:22:20)- The alien with human emotions- Gifts: Want vs. Need- The mystery of mashed potatoes... (00:42:07)- His magical tail (00:51:25)- A few steamy sexcerpts (00:56:30)- We've ruined the word "daddy"- Heart, Humor, Heat AND Holiday Ratings (01:02:30)- Our holiday romance writing goals for 2022- The 8th Day of Boobsmas jingle courtesy of Cooper BaldwinBooks, people, and movies mentioned in this episode:- Eight Cozy Nights (listen to our Boobsmas review)- "Love Hard" (Netflix) - featuring music from a former Boobsmas guest, Jason Berk*Use the promo code BOOBIES10 for 10% off your first Steam Box order* Follow Boobies & Noobies on Twitter, Instagram, & Facebook @boobiespodcast and check out our blog, merch, and more on our brand new Boobies & Noobies website.*Boobies & Noobies is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at Frolic.media/podcasts*

It truly is the most wonderful time of the year. Holly finds a couple Hanukkah songs favorites via friend of the show, JC Douglas. We talk "Baby, It's Cold Outside" which leads into the film Little Mermaid and Holly reveals a shocking truth. Dave talks up the Phil Spector Christmas and we bring up the Die Hard controversy. And of course, what is an 80s Christmas podcast without talk of "Do They Know It's Christmas?" How many artists can you name that participated in the song? So do like Prince and enjoy a banana daiquiri and enjoy our talk of Holiday favorites Now through December 31, get an Echo Dot for $0.99 with the purchase of a 1-month Amazon Music Unlimited paid subscription. Get three FREE months of Amazon Music courtesy of your 80s music aficionados at What Difference Does It Make getamazonmusic.com/wddimpodcast We are a proud member of the Pantheon Podcast network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quizmasters Lee and Marc welcome Jamie for a general knowledge holiday quiz on topics surrounding Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and other aspects of the holiday season! Round One CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS - The Christmas tree was first popularised in 19th-century England under which Queen? KWANZAA - How many candles are used to celebrate Kwanzaa? HOLIDAY SYMBOLS - Ilex aquifolium is the scientific name of what symbol of the holiday season? CHRISTMAS SONGS - What Christmastime song about having a carefree day in the snow was originally written in the 1930's as a poem by a young man named Richard Smith who was suffering from and ultimately succumbed to tuberculosis? NATIONAL LAMPOON'S CHRISTMAS VACATION - In what year was National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation released? NATIONAL LAMPOON'S CHRISTMAS VACATION - May Questial, who played Aunt Bethany in National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation, was the voice of which iconic cartoon character? Round Two HANUKKAH CELEBRATIONS - In which two boroughs in New York City would you find the largest Hanukkiahs in the world? CHRISTMAS TREATS - Emerging in America by way of Pennsylvania German immigrants, what holiday treat's popularity first arose in the early 1800's and was inspired by a well-known Grimm's Fairy Tale? JAPANESE CHRISTMAS - What Western fast food chain offers Japanese customers a full-fledged Christmas dinner, a massively popular culinary tradition for the last 30 years? CHRISTMAS DRINKS - What holiday drink's name originated from the Old Norse for "be in good health"? THE GRINCH - The Grinch lives in a cave on top of which mountain that overlooks Whoville and shares its name with a British type of bread? CHRISTMAS MOVIES - In the popular holiday movie A Christmas Story, what is the name of the neighbor family that owns 785 smelly hound dogs (much to the chagrin of Ralphie's father? CHRISTMAS SONGS - What popular Christmas song, released in 1952, was condemned and banned by the archdiocese of Boston and the Catholic Church at large for promoting adultery? Final Questions CHRISTMAS CAROLS - What 19th century Christmas carol's author was unknown and often misattributed to Haydn, Mozart and Beethoven until 1995 when an 1820 manuscript was discovered written in author Joseph Mohr's own handwriting? CHRISTMAS HOLIDAY - What President, the 18th, was the first person to make Christmas a federal holiday? Upcoming LIVE Know Nonsense Trivia Challenges December 22nd, 2021 - Know Nonsense Challenge - Point Ybel Brewing Co. - 7:30 pm EDT December 23rd, 2021 - Know Nonsense Trivia Challenge - Ollies Pub Records and Beer - 7:30 pm EDT You can find out more information about that and all of our live events online at KnowNonsenseTrivia.com All of the Know Nonsense events are free to play and you can win prizes after every round. Thank you Thanks to our supporters on Patreon. Thank you, Quizdaddies – Brandon, Issa, Adam V., Tommy (The Electric Mud) and Tim (Pat's Garden Service) Thank you, Team Captains – Captain Nick, Grant, Mo, Jenny, Rick G., Skyler, Dylan, Shaun, Lydia, Gil, David, Aaron, Kristen & Fletcher Thank you, Proverbial Lightkeepers – Robb, Rachael, Rikki, Jon Lewis, Moo, Tim, Nabeel, Patrick, Jon, Adam B., Ryan, Mollie, Lisa, Alex, Spencer, Kaitlynn, Manu, Matthew, Luc, Hank, Justin, Cooper, Elyse, Sarah, Karly, Kristopher, Josh, Lucas Thank you, Rumplesnailtskins – Sarah, FoxenV, Laurel, A-A-Ron, Loren, Hbomb, Alex, Doug, Kevin and Sara, Tiffany, Allison, Paige, We Do Stuff, Kenya, Jeff, Eric, Steven, Efren, Mike J., Mike C., Mike. K If you'd like to support the podcast and gain access to bonus content, please visit http://theknowno.com and click "Support." Special Guest: Jamie.

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I can't believe it is Christmas time, Merry Christmas.  I also want to say Happy Hanukkah as many just celebrated Hanukkah, and a Happy Kwanzaa that is coming up. The end of 2021 is nearly in sight, does anyone feel like you are sprinting to the finish line from this year?   I wonder if for a moment we could slow down, pause, and reflect a moment. Can we rejoice in the spirit of Christmas this week, and find joy?  I know the holidays can be super stressful, and also hard for people.  Holidays have not always been great, my Mom passed away on Halloween when I was 18 and my Dad just before Christmas 23 years ago.  I miss them.  It's interesting because I always feel a sense of missing, some melancholy, and it could be so easy to just let the holidays roll on by and believe me I have thought about it.  I do love experiencing the joy it brings, the connectedness it brings, and the wonder.  I love wonder. Today let's do some wondering, shall we? Here are the highlights from this episode: {1:38} Slowing down to reflect on the year {3:22} How my brothers and I would catch Santa when we were kids {8:04} How traditions can help us at this time of year {11:43} Living as the best version of yourself Are you a woman in business? Been thinking about taking a leap? Ready to make bold and massive moves? Love collaborating with highly committed and motivated women?  This NEW PROGRAM is 100% for you, it will be launching January 2022, so email us at Kelly@KellyJMobeck.com and get on the list to be the first to know. To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at Kelly@KellyJMobeck.com  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

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In This Episode: How to identify what your role is in a relationship How to manage a mental illness and set boundaries How boundaries are needed when you are in recovery How to set boundaries with a loved one during the holiday season. Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com.  CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors.  Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 215. Welcome back, everybody. It is the final episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit for the year 2021. I will not be putting out a podcast next week because it falls right on the holidays, and I really wanted to make sure I give you all time to be with your family instead of listening to my voice. If you are in the holiday season and you want to listen to my voice, there are so many, in fact, there are 214 episodes. You can go back and listen to. I just want to be with my family, and I want you to be with the people you love. Speaking of people you love, today we're talking about setting boundaries with loved ones or managing our relationship during the holidays. However, I did a whole episode about this last week. You can go back. It's episode 214, where we talk about holiday anxiety. We did discuss some of this there as well. So, you can go back and listen there. But for right now, I want us to talk about managing relationships, specifically during the holidays, but this episode can be applied to any old day of the week. Now, before we get started, we always do the “I did a hard thing.” This one is from Rachel. We do an “I did a hard thing” to motivate you, to remind you that there are more people out there going through what you're going through. You're not alone. Rachel shared with us today: “I have somatic OCD.” For those of you who don't know what that means, it means that you have OCD about specific sensations that show up in your body. You sometimes feel like you can't stop noticing them or you're afraid you will never stop noticing them. Sometimes you're afraid that the feeling will never go away and it can feel really disorienting. So, Rachel says: “I have somatic OCD, and I always need to distract myself not to notice them. I've been able to drive without the radio or calling anyone and it feels so good.” Rachel, this is so good. You're doing what we talk about in ERP School. ERP School is our online course that teaches how to expose ourselves to fears, specifically obsessions for people with OCD, health anxiety, and these types of OCD, like somatic OCD, on how to practice facing our fear. In this case, it was her driving, that without using safety behavior or compulsions. So, in this case, the compulsion would be to have the radio on or calling someone to distract her on her somatic obsession or her sensation. So, Rachel, amazing job, you're doing the work. You're doing the exposure and the response prevention. One thing I want to mention to everybody, if you have OCD or an anxiety disorder, is we must do both. We must face our fears and not do the safety behaviors to reduce or remove that discomfort that we feel when we face our fear. So, you've explained this perfectly. Congratulations. I am so proud of you. Love getting the “I did a hard thing's” from you guys. And so, just so thrilled to get that message from you. All right, let's go over to the episode. It's the holidays. You're anticipating the gifts and the food and the time and the travel and all the things, but what's worse than that is anticipation of the interactions that you're going to have with certain family members. Now, if you're listening to this and it's not the holidays, it's the same. You're anticipating going to work, but you're dreading the interactions. You're dreading how messy things get. You're going to school, and you're dreading how messy things get with the people you have in your life – your students, your classmates, your teacher, your friends, whoever it may be. I want you to think about your responsibilities. And I talk a lot with my patients and clients about responsibility because it's a really important part of recovery. When we think about the holidays, we think about a certain event that's coming up. I'll often explain to my patients that really all you need to do is you need to focus on your lane. So, I've talked about this before on the podcast, but I want you to imagine you're driving on the highway, you're in your car, and the only thing you're responsible for is to not run into other people in their lane and to stay in your lane and to go at a pace that's right for you and a speed that's right for you and in a car that's right for you. Now, that metaphor is exactly how you're going to get through the holidays or get through this event that you've got coming up. Your job is to take responsibility for you and your lane. Now, sometimes people in the lane next to us come on over into our lane and they want to tell us how to act, and they want to tell us what to do, and they want to impose on you their beliefs. Now, our job is to remind them and set boundaries that that's not your lane, that's their lane. And their job is to stay in their lane. And our job is to stay in our lane. Now, in addition, we have to be careful that we are not popping on over into their lane and telling them how they should be, and telling them how they should act, and trying to take responsibility for their feelings, and trying to prevent them from judging you because that's their lane. We talked about this in the last episode. Go back and listen to that. But that's not your job either. It's not your job to get their approval because that's their responsibility. How they feel is their responsibility. We can't control that. And so, first, before we even talk about setting boundaries, we have to be really clear on what's in your lane. So, an example for me is, as I go into the holidays, I am going to be really aware of what is my responsibility, how do I want to show up? And then it's my responsibility to show up in my lane doing so. But it's also important to catch when I'm-- often we do this. It's like, “Well, I'm going to do X, Y, and Z because I really want A, B and C to like me.” But that's your lane. It's not your responsibility. It's not your job to get them to approve of you because we don't have any control of that. And as we talked about last week, their judgment of us is their responsibility. It's a reflection of them. It's not a reflection of us. So, we have to be really careful of really getting clear on how we want to show up and only trying to control us, because we can't control our family members. They're going to do what they do. They're going to act out. They're going to be up in your lane. From there, we can set a boundary to protect ourselves from them coming into your lane. So, when we set boundaries, we usually set boundaries when somebody is imposing their stuff onto us. Imagine if someone came into your house and walked in with their shoes on and put dirt all over the carpet, you might say, “Excuse me, please would you take your shoes off?” There's like a boundary violation. If they come into my house and they start smoking cigarettes, no disrespect or judgment on people who do smoke cigarettes, but I'm going to say, “I'm really sorry, we actually don't smoke in this house. Can you please put your cigarette out and go out to the back?” And so, that would be me setting a boundary. Now, a lot of you brought in and you asked questions about this. Last week we addressed a lot of the questions. So, an example, somebody said, “How can I communicate with my family about my OCD and keep my boundaries?” So, what you might do is first ask yourself. If I was going to communicate about my OCD or my anxiety or my depression or my eating disorder or whatever you may have, panic, is ask yourself, are you communicating with it so that they change the way they act because that's their lane? The only reason we would need to communicate about our stuff is so that we can set a boundary. Let's say a really big one that I have had to practice is when family members comment about weight. I had a couple of family members in my childhood who every Christmas would, “Have Merry Christmas, Kimberley, your weight is blank. You're up a bit. You're down a bit. You're bigger, you're smaller, whatever.” And it was so incredibly painful and so incredibly unhealthy for me. And so, the boundary here would be to say, “I would really prefer that you don't comment on my way. And if you do, I'm going to remove myself from this interaction.” So, that's a boundary and it's respectful and it's compassionate, and I'm not doing it to harm them or discipline them or pay them back. I'm doing it because it's a boundary violation, and it's in my lane. When I'm in my lane, I want to have a really positive idea about my food and my body. If a family member is telling you how you should act, you might say to them, “Thank you so much for your thoughts. I am going to choose to do it this way. And I would really appreciate if you didn't comment.  if you're unable to hold that boundary, I'm going to have to leave,” or you can say whatever you want. You can just set the limit. Sometimes you don't even need to tell them your boundary. You might just keep it to yourself. Like, “Oh, if they're going--” if a family member says, “I'm so OCD about stuffing,” or whatever they say, “I'm so OCD about my cooking,” you might just not even need to express the boundary with them. You might gently just get yourself up and walk away. That's a boundary. Sometimes we don't have to verbally express boundaries because we can just remove ourselves from the situation and stay in our lane. Somebody said, “How to say no to things?” So, you've decided you don't want to do something. We talked about this last week in Episode 214. You've decided you don't want to do something. And so, you say to them, “I'm going to bring baked goods. I'm not going to bake them myself. I will buy them at the bakery. No, I'm not going to hand bake them.” Or you might say, “No, I'm not going to go to that Christmas party,” or “No, I am not going to buy gifts this year.” Okay? Now, that's you holding your own boundary. Then your job, and again, this is why I shared about the lanes, is your job is to let them have their feelings about it. They're allowed to have their feelings. They're even allowed to act out. If they act out and they say something unkind, you may set a boundary with them. But we can't hold everybody to our standards. Some people are going to act out. They may not have the skills you have. They may be triggered. They may have expectations of you. And that's okay. They're allowed to have expectations, but it doesn't mean you have to do it. You may choose to follow their expectations. We talked about that again last week. But that's your decision. You have to be responsible for you and saying yes to what matters to you and saying no to what doesn't matter to you. Any time you notice resent, show up, that's usually because you violated your own boundary. You did something you didn't want to do and you should have said no to. It's okay. I'm going to keep saying this to you guys. It's okay to disappoint people. We will disappoint them. It's either they get disappointed, or you do the thing they want you to do, and then you're disappointed. And you have to choose. It's your responsibility to choose. And we do this responsibility work compassionately. I speak a lot in my book, The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD, about compassionate responsibility. That's saying: “I am responsible for me,” but not in a disciplinarian, like you're responsible for yourself, you're alone, you're on your own kind of way. It's a compassionate act of, “Yes, I get to take responsibility for myself. I get to take care of myself. I get to say no, I get to say yes. I get to make those choices and I'll do them kindly.” Somebody asked a question about managing irritability. This is a great one, because our family members and our friends and our loved ones and the people at our Christmas party or our Hanukkah party, our Kwanzaa, they may irritate us. Yeah, it's okay to feel irritated by our family members. My husband and I always-- we learned this maybe five years ago. We get caught up in it. I'll be like, “Why are you acting that way?” And he'll say gently to me, “Kimberley, I'm allowed to feel this way.” And I'm like, “Oh crap, you're right. I keep forgetting that you're allowed to feel what you want to feel.” Or he'll be upset and he'll be like, “What's wrong? Why are you being this way?” And I'll be like, “I'm allowed to feel this way.” And he's like, “Oh crap, you're right.” You're allowed to be irritable. You're not allowed to be unkind. I mean, you are, but you have responsibility, There's consequences. But ideally, let yourself be irritable. Be compassionate with your irritability. Like say, “Yeah, it makes complete sense that I'm irritable. This is hard. It makes complete sense that I'm annoyed. They've said something that annoyed me.” Again, they're allowed to say annoying things. We get to remove ourselves if it doesn't feel right or we get to express ourselves.” That really hurt my feelings. That made me upset.” This is why you're allowed to share. Let's see. Someone said dealing with a toxic parent. Well, it depends. My answer to that is it depends on whether you're a minor or an adult. If you're a minor, it's hard to remove yourself from a toxic parent. They are your guardian. You're legally under their care. But you can remove yourself from them physically in terms of going to another room. You can try and share with them. “That was really painful for me to hear that. If you do that again, I'm going to leave the room.” Or you get to make your own boundaries. They may be physical boundaries where you leave. They may be emotional boundaries where you don't go to them and you don't share with them if they can't hold space for you compassionately and respectfully. If you're an adult, you can choose to set as many boundaries as hard or as strong, as light as you need. Some people set boundaries with their family members. Like, “You can't come here without announcing yourself. You must let us know first. You can't say those things about me or I'm going to leave.” Or you may, again, you don't even have to say them out loud. If they're really toxic, you may say to them, “I'm not going to see you anymore if you keep acting like this towards me and my family. I can no longer put myself through that.” You get permission. We don't get to choose our family, but you don't have to see them either if they're really unhealthy for you. You may want to get some therapy around it and have the help of a clinician to help you navigate what's a right boundary for you. Everybody's different. Someone said, “I get really bad depression during the holidays and people have expectations for me to be happy.” Well, that's their lane. You don't have to act or be any way. Be kind, be compassionate, but do the best you can. It's your lane. You got to just do the best you can with what you have. So, again, I think that's a really big part of this, is really take care of you because that's your job. One thing actually, before we finish up, let me mention, it's no one else's job to make us feel better either. I know a lot of this today is going to feel like a lot of hard truths, but I promise you, there is so much liberation that comes from this. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's still a really, really good pill. It's a good pill. It's a helpful pill. And so, it's not other people's job to make us joyful on Christmas either. That's our job. I'll tell you a story, when I was really a young adult, I think it was quite shocking to me that when you're a kid, everyone throws you a big party. And when you're an adult, it's not as big of a deal. And I used to get really offended that people didn't throw me a massive party until I was like, “Wait, it's really not their job.” And so, I started doing it for myself, and I have no shame about it. If I know I want to feel special on my birthday, I always organize something really special for myself. For the last three years, except for the year of COVID, I always rent-- you guys, probably know this. I rent an RV and I invite my three best girlfriends and I have a party for myself, and I'm not ashamed about it. I'm happy to celebrate myself. A If you are feeling like other people's job is to bring you joy on Christmas, I would say, no, bring yourself joy. Buy yourself a gift. Make your special meal you want to have. Treat yourself and shower yourself with the joy that you want to feel. That's a huge liberation, a huge freedom. Such a gift. Okay. So, that's it. That's how you set boundaries. You get to set them. It's your lane. You get to decide. But other people are allowed to have their feelings about it. And that's okay. That doesn't mean you're bad. They can even tell you you're bad, and that doesn't mean you're bad. They can say, “I don't like you,” and you don't think you're doing the right thing and they get to have their opinion, it doesn't make it a fact. This is hard work. I am not going to lie, I am still working on this. I'm still learning from this. I still have to practice it every single day. So, be gentle and remind yourself, this is a journey. This is not a destination that you're like, “Yay, I'm great with boundaries.” It will be something you'll have to keep practicing. But the holidays are the perfect time to practice them. It's so important. My loves, you probably have lots of questions about this. Do go over to social media. I'll leave links in the bio. If you want to send me questions, I do a live Q and A every second and fourth Monday of the month at 12 o'clock Pacific Standard Time. So, I'm happy to answer your questions there. Have a beautiful day. Happy 2021. I will be seeing you in 2022, holy macaroni, but I can't wait. I'm actually really pumped about Your Anxiety Toolkit next year. I'm going to put a ton more effort into it. That's where I want my attention to be next year. So, sending you love. Have a wonderful day, and I'll talk to you soon. Oh no, wait. Before we finish up, what was I thinking? 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It would be the best, best, best gift you could give me. Have a wonderful day, everybody. And now I officially say, have a wonderful day and I will see you in the New Year.

Beloved pastry chef, Caroline Schiff, talks about her statement head of hair before describing what a typical day in her life looks like. She talks about her love of running, including her favorite New York City running route, and the surprising physical demands of being a pastry chef. Caroline talks about her path to pastry via a French degree and love of fashion and how all of these interests have influenced her as a pastry chef. She describes how seasonal ingredients steer the direction of her ideas and the challenges of navigating the culinary scene in New York as a young, female chef with no formal training. Caroline talks about being a part of the reopening of the historic Gage and Tollner restaurant in Brooklyn and the story behind her iconic and labor-intensive Baked Alaska for Two. She talks about how her new cookbook, The Sweet Side of Sourdough, was a product of the pandemic hobby that swept the nation and how the need to keep a starter alive inspired her to innovate. Caroline lovingly talks about her Jewish heritage and her family's traditions during Hanukkah and Shabbat and what it was like to film Beat Bobby Flay.    Start Your Free Trial of discovery+: https://www.discoveryplus.com/foodobsessed   Connect with the podcast: https://www.foodnetwork.com/shows/food-network-obsessed-the-official-podcast-of-food-network    Follow Food Network on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foodnetwork    Follow Jaymee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaymeesire   Follow Caroline Schiff on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pastryschiff/   Learn More About Taste Of: https://www.foodnetwork.com/shows/taste-of See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is Hanukkah, Judaism's eight-day festival of lights. With its emphasis on present-giving, dreidel games and sweet treats, the holiday seems to be oriented towards kids. Even the story of Hanukkah has had its edges shaved down over time. Ostensibly, the holiday is a celebration of a victory against an oppressive Greek regime in Palestine over two thousand years ago, the miracle of oil that lit Jerusalem's holy temple for 8 days and nights, and the perseverance of the Jewish faith against all odds. According to Rabbi James Ponet, Emeritus Howard M. Holtzmann Jewish Chaplain at Yale University, the kid-friendly Hanukkah mythology has obscured the thorny historical details that offer deeper truths about what it means to be a Jew. In his 2005 Slate piece, "Hanukkah as Jewish Civil War," Ponet looked at the often-overlooked Jew-on-Jew violence that under-girds the Hanukkah story. He and Brooke discuss how this civil war lives on in Jewish views on Israel, and how the tension between assimilation and tradition came to define the Jewish people.   (this is a rebroadcast of a story we first ran in 2018)