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Een heftig onderwerp dit keer: hoe ga je in de kerk om met daders van seksueel misbruik? Is er voor hen plaats in de christelijke gemeente? En wanneer begin je over vergeving? Niet te snel, zegt Paul van Dam. Paul werd als kind slachtoffer van seksueel misbruik. Kerken beginnen te snel tegen slachtoffers over vergeving. Désirée Dijk is herstelbemiddelaar, en zit vaak met daders en slachtoffers van misbruik aan tafel. Hoe verder met daders in de kerk? De veiligheid en de behoeften van slachtoffers moeten voorop staan. ‘Daarvoor kan het nodig zijn dat een pleger voortaan naar een zusterkerk gaat.' Maar vervolgens mag ook de dader worden gehoord. Mensen die een misstap hebben begaan en een béétje zelfinzicht hebben, gaan vaak onder een zware last gebukt. Daarom moet de kerk er ook voor hen zijn. Als mens. Paul gaat voor in kerkdiensten en preekt dan geregeld over het verhaal van Davids zoon Amnon die zijn halfzuster Tamar verkracht. ‘Dan hoor ik mensen zeggen: dat verhaal lazen wij vroeger nooit thuis uit de Bijbel. Blijkt de vader van het gezin zelf ook losse handen te hebben gehad.' In de kerk zitten Tamars, maar ook Amnons, houdt Paul dan zijn gehoor voor. Én in de kerk zitten mensen die, zoals koning David, zwijgen over wat er is gebeurd. Zonder openheid is misbruik in de kerk een wond die blijft dooretteren, zeggen Désirée en Paul.In aflevering 40 praatten Dick en Daniël met theoloog en ervaringsdeskundige Marie Hansen over wat seksueel misbruik met een slachtoffer doet. #40 - Waarom praten over seks misbruik voorkomtLees ook: De kerk zit in haar maag met daders. Hoe ga je christelijk om met iemand die een misstap heeft begaan?https://www.nd.nl/geloof/geloof/1241428/de-kerk-zit-in-haar-maag-met-daders-hoe-ga-je-christelijk-om- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tamars kleine Söhne (Tamar 18)Ein Riss und eine rote SchnurUnterschätzt, übersehen, aber entscheidend – die Geschichte von Tamar – Monatsthema September 2024Nach einem Exkurs in die Lehre des Apostels Paulus gibt es jetzt einen Tapetenwechsel, zurück ins Alte Testament! Wir wollen eine der Geschichten anschauen, die nicht gerade Stoff für die Kinderstunde ist! Das ist die Geschichte von Tamar, der Schwiegertochter Jakobs. Der Sturz und Wiederaufstieg des heldenhaften Josef nimmt den größten Teil der letzten Kapitel von 1. Mose ein, ein Klassiker für Kinder- und Jugendstunden jeder Couleur. Die geistlichen und moralischen Lehren aus dieser Geschichte liegen auf der Hand. Der von seinen eigenen Brüdern schwer misshandelte Junge legt ein verblüffendes Gottvertrauen an den Tag, widersteht Versuchungen, beschäftigt sich mit den Nöten der anderen, während er selbst in großer Not ist und wird schließlich mit Ehre und Ruhm dafür gekrönt. Ein Happyend wie aus dem Bilderbuch. Mitten in diesen dramatischen Entwicklungen wird ein seltsames kleines Kapitel geworfen, das auf den ersten Blick gar nicht dazu passt – Judas Heirat mit der Tochter Schuas, das unappetitliche Treiben seiner bösen Söhne, wie auch das Schicksal seiner Schwiegertochter Tamar. Gerade diese Geschichte wollen wir als neues Monatsthema anschauen und spannende Geheimnisse entdecken, die uns fragen lassen – ob diese Geschichte, und nicht die Josefgeschichte – vielleicht der wichtigere Teil des ersten Mosebuchs ist!Jetzt abonnieren und keine Neuigkeit verpassen: Newsletter Jetzt abonnieren und keine Neuigkeit verpassen: Newsletter

Tamars Strategie geht auf (Tamar 13)Vaterschaft durch die HintertürUnterschätzt, übersehen, aber entscheidend – die Geschichte von Tamar – Monatsthema September 2024Nach einem Exkurs in die Lehre des Apostels Paulus gibt es jetzt einen Tapetenwechsel, zurück ins Alte Testament! Wir wollen eine der Geschichten anschauen, die nicht gerade Stoff für die Kinderstunde ist! Das ist die Geschichte von Tamar, der Schwiegertochter Jakobs. Der Sturz und Wiederaufstieg des heldenhaften Josef nimmt den größten Teil der letzten Kapitel von 1. Mose ein, ein Klassiker für Kinder- und Jugendstunden jeder Couleur. Die geistlichen und moralischen Lehren aus dieser Geschichte liegen auf der Hand. Der von seinen eigenen Brüdern schwer misshandelte Junge legt ein verblüffendes Gottvertrauen an den Tag, widersteht Versuchungen, beschäftigt sich mit den Nöten der anderen, während er selbst in großer Not ist und wird schließlich mit Ehre und Ruhm dafür gekrönt. Ein Happyend wie aus dem Bilderbuch. Mitten in diesen dramatischen Entwicklungen wird ein seltsames kleines Kapitel geworfen, das auf den ersten Blick gar nicht dazu passt – Judas Heirat mit der Tochter Schuas, das unappetitliche Treiben seiner bösen Söhne, wie auch das Schicksal seiner Schwiegertochter Tamar. Gerade diese Geschichte wollen wir als neues Monatsthema anschauen und spannende Geheimnisse entdecken, die uns fragen lassen – ob diese Geschichte, und nicht die Josefgeschichte – vielleicht der wichtigere Teil des ersten Mosebuchs ist!Jetzt abonnieren und keine Neuigkeit verpassen: Newsletter Jetzt abonnieren und keine Neuigkeit verpassen: Newsletter

Study with us the story of Tamar and Judah, and how it intertwines with five other “sibling swaps” in the bible, and the messianic bloodline. And then the story of Tamar and Amnon, and the lessons it has for men, … Continue reading →

Three women, one name, all connected! Maybe you know one story in the Bible about a woman named Tamar; maybe you know two stories. But three? What is YeHoVaH trying to tell us within the stories of these three different women with the same name? Jake Hilton shares some insight you've likely never heard before! Watch more on the Michael Rood TV App! https://bit.ly/2X9oN9h Join us on ANY social media platform! https://aroodawakening.tv/community/s... Your Donation keeps these videos going! Thank you! https://aroodawakening.tv/donate/ Support us by visiting our store! https://roodstore.com/ Support us with purchases on Amazon!* https://amzn.to/3pJu9cC Have Questions? Ask us Here! https://aroodawakening.tv/support/con... "PLEASE NOTE: This is an affiliate link. This means that, at zero cost to you, A Rood Awakening! International will earn an affiliate commission if you click through the link and finalize a purchase."See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Changing your life is always a difficult task, but it's nearly impossible without accepting personal responsibility. Dr. Henry Cloud gets into what you should and shouldn't take responsibility for and how this awareness can transform your life and the options you have. Written question: Lately I feel like my attention and ability to focus is being stolen away from me. There are so many distractions, from email to messaging apps, and group chats, and social media, and all of the other notifications. Are we meant to be able to manage all of this communication? Jill is setting "healthy boundaries" but doesn't want to sacrifice helping the people she cares about. Tamars seeks advice on how to look at a failed dating relationship. Betty is having trouble with some new people at her church that are questioning her integrity and spirituality. Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries   If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.  https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud  

There was an ancient prophesy given to one of Jacobs sons by the name of Judah, but I share it with you, I want to tell you something about Judah. Judah grew up under the faith of his father Jacob. No doubt that he heard the stories of how God met him and wrestled with him all night and how afterwards changed his birth name to Israel. My guess is that when Judah was a child, he may have asked: Daddy, where did you get that limp? What we know of Judah, was that the faith of his mother and father was not enough; Judah needed his own encounter with God. What you need to know about Judah was that even though he was warned by his father that God forbade His people from marrying Canaanite women because they would turn his heart away from God, Judah married a Canaanite woman anyway (Gen. 38:1-2). Judah fathered three sons with his Canaanite wife who all grew up to be evil men. The oldest of Judahs sons was Er for whom Judah found a wife for by the name of Tamar. However, before Er and Tamar could begin a family together, God killed Er because of how wicked he had become; the same thing happened to Judahs second son. Tamar was without a husband and therefore in her mind, was without any hope; in the culture and time Tamar lived, to be childless and a widow essentially was to be left vulnerable with only two options: prostitution or death (read Genesis 38 for the full story). After Judahs wife died and Tamar heard that he was going up to Timnah to shear sheep, she dressed the part of a prostitute and sat in a place Judah would see her (v. 14). Tamars plan worked out as she hoped; Judah saw her and paid her for sex (vv. 15-16). What is even more disturbing about the whole encounter Judah had with Tamar was that she was believed to be a cult prostitute which gives us some sense for Judahs religious convictions. The result was that Tamar got pregnant by her father-in-law and gave birth to twins. To be fair, there is much more to Judah and Tamars story, and Judah eventually does the right thing after he found out that it was his daughter-in-law that was pregnant with his children, but what led up to the twins that were born to Tamar was one big mess! Yet, it was to Judah that God promised the following: As for you, Judah, your brothers shall praise you; Your hand shall be on the neck of your enemies; Your fathers sons shall bow down to you. Judah is a lions cub; from the prey, my son, you have gone up. He crouches, he lies down as a lion, and as a lion, who dares to stir him up? The scepter will not depart from Judah, Nor the rulers staff from between his feet, Until Shiloh comes, And to him shall be the obedience of the peoples. (Genesis 49:810) Guess who is included in Jesus family tree? Perez, one of the twins born to Tamar. Seven generations after Perez, Boaz was born who would marry Ruth, and together they would have a son (Obed), whose grandson would be named David. If you examine Jesus family tree carefully, what you will discover are highly dysfunctional people who made a mess of their lives. If you think you made a mess of your life, you will find great company in the Bible of people who have done the same who experience a God who entered into their mess. The Type of House David Wanted to Build Of all of Israels kings mentioned in the Bible, David is the one king by whom all other kings are compared. David is the one king of whom God identified as, A man after My heart, who will do all My will (1 Sam. 13:14; Acts 13:22). Some of the highlights of Davids life include the courage to face the giant called Goliath when all of Israels army, including Saul as their king, were afraid to fight him; David fought the giant with a sling shot, five smooth stones, without any armor, and with one of the greatest lines in scriptures: You come to me with a sword, a spear, and a saber, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of armies, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the Lord will hand you over to me, and I will strike you and remove your head from you. Then I will give the dead bodies of the army of the Philistines this day to the birds of the sky and the wild animals of the earth, so that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel, and that this entire assembly may know that the Lord does not save by sword or by spear; for the battle is the Lords, and He will hand you over to us! (1 Sam. 17:45-47) David was just a teenager when he defeated Goliath; it would not be for another 10-15 years before he would officially be installed as king. As king, David made Jerusalem the capital of Israel, he brought back the ark of the covenant to Jerusalem, and through war brought peace to his nation. The one thing that David longed to do but was not permitted to do was to build the temple that his son Solomon would eventually build in his stead. In 2 Samuel 7:1-16 we are shown that although David was a good king, he was not the king Israel, or the world, needs. It is Davids desire to build a house for God that sets up what is known as the Davidic Covenant. To see the significance of how 2 Samuel 7:8-16 helps us understand the point of Advent, we need to be aware of verses 1-7, Now it came about, when the king lived in his house, and the Lord had given him rest on every side from all his enemies, that the king said to Nathan the prophet, See now, I live in a house of cedar, but the ark of God remains within the tent. Nathan said to the king, Go, do all that is in your mind, for the Lord is with you. But in the same night, the word of the Lord came to Nathan, saying, Go and say to My servant David, This is what the Lord says: Should you build Me a house for My dwelling? For I have not dwelt in a house since the day I brought up the sons of Israel from Egypt, even to this day; rather, I have been moving about in a tent, that is, in a dwelling place. Wherever I have gone with all the sons of Israel, did I speak a word with one of the tribes of Israel, whom I commanded to shepherd My people Israel, saying, Why have you not built Me a house of cedar? Do you know what David is really requesting permission to do? In these verses, David is doing what all the other kings were known for doing. The kings of the nations believed that if they built a house for their god(s) then their god(s) would bless them by establishing the kings power, reign, and successes. Gods response to David shows us that Yahweh is not like the other gods of the nations. In fact, the God of Israel is very different! Every god of every other religion demands something of its worshipers that the worshiper has no power to achieve because for every other religion, divine blessing is conditional. This is the evidence that the gods of such religions are really not gods at all. The reason why God told David that he was not permitted to build a house for Him is ultimately because with Yahweh, divine blessing can only be unconditional. In other words, the blessing is entirely dependent upon Him because we have no power to do it ourselves. Timothy Keller in a sermon on this passage, pointed out something Eugene Peterson said about Davids request that makes sense of the unconditional promise of God that follows Davids request: I think David was just about to cross over a line from being full of God to being full of himself. If any of us develops an identity in which God and Gods grace is less important to who we are than our own action and performance, our ability to represent Gods kingdom is utterly ruined.[1] So, God said no to Davids request to build a house for good reason! God doesnt need a house like the other gods because Yahweh is the one true God! So, instead of building a house for God, God would instead build a different kind of house for David, and the building would not be a literal building but a dynasty where God will pour out His grace upon Davids descendants unconditionally. Timothy Keller said it this way: He says: I promise to make your descendants a dynastic kingship, and I will so graciously and unconditionally commit myself to them, regardless of their merit, regardless of their pedigree. I will so graciously and unconditionally commit myself to them that neither death, sin, nor time will break my commitment.[2] Do know how God will do it? According to 2 Samuel 7:1-16, God will do it through two principles that Timothy Keller called the Incarnation Principle and the Grace Principle. The Incarnation Principle: God does not need a building because He intends to dwell with His people. The Grace Principle: God will do what only God is capable of doing apart from any help from any other person. Thank God that He operates on these two principles and in such an unconditional way! Everything seemed to be going great for David up to 2 Samuel 7, but just four short chapters later he will commit a sin so horrible that had Gods covenant with David been conditional, all hope for an everlasting Kingdom would be lost (see 2 Samuel 11:1-12:31). David is only a shadow of the kind of king that would come, for the One to sit on Davids throne would indeed be the One to Whom belongs the obedience of the nations (Gen. 49:8-10), and He would come to reign forever (2 Sam. 7:14-16). The Type of House God Would Build The King promised to, and through, David, would not come for at least another 1,000 years. The mess David made of his life would be overshadowed by the greater mess Solomon made of his life. Within the years between Davids life and the news of Jesus birth were centuries of idolatry, exile, and the oppression of empires. About 500 years of silence would follow the last Hebrew prophet until a certain poor couple engaged to be married. Through it all, God was unconditionally committed to His promise of a King through the line of Judah and He was moving empires, cultures, and structures in His time, through our mess, to accomplish His purposes for our good and His glory! The news would first come to a virgin and then to her fianc, both were descendants of David. Gods principle of incarnation and grace would come together in one Person in a way only the true God was capable of doing, and the news would be delivered by an angel: And behold, you will conceive in your womb and give birth to a son, and you shall name Him Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High; and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David; and He will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and His kingdom will have no end. But Mary said to the angel, How will this be, since I am a virgin? The angel answered and said to her, The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; for that reason also the holy Child will be called the Son of God. There are seven qualities about the child who Mary would miraculously give birth to: He will be the Son of David. (v. 31) He will be the Savior of sinners. (v. 31) He will be great. (v. 32) He will be divinely the Son of God. (v. 32) He will be the King of kings. (v. 32) He will reign sovereignly over the nations. (v. 33) He will reign forever. (v. 33) So, what does advent mean for you? What does advent mean for the world? How is any of this the great news the Bible says that it is? Here are seven reasons why this is good news wrapped up in the news delivered to Mary by the angel: As the Son of David, Jesus is fully human. The mess that makes up His family tree serves as reminder of the kinds of people He was born to redeem. Jesus was born to enter into your mess not to leave you there but to deliver you from your sin. As the Savior for sinners, Jesus, a qualified and able savior to remedy the problem of mankind. Because Jesus is the Son of David, He qualifies to be the kinsmen redeemer as a member of the family that is the human race. Jesus, as the fully human savior, understands you more than you can ever know. Jesus is great because He is no ordinary king. He is the One of Whom the prophets spoke about long ago! He is the One of Whom Jeremiah wrote about: Behold, the days are coming, declares the Lord, When I will raise up for David a righteous Branch; And He will reign as king and act wisely And do justice and righteousness in the land. In His days Judah will be saved, And Israel will live securely; And this is His name by which He will be called, The Lord Our Righteousness. (Jer. 23:5-6). Jesus brings to the table of your sin a grace greater than all of your offences combined. Jesus is divine because He is truly the Son of the Most High, not in the way you are a son or daughter, but because He proceeds from God the Father. Jesus is divine because before he took on flesh in Marys womb, He was for all eternity always the Son. The apostle Paul put it this way: He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation: for by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones, or dominions, or rulers, or authoritiesall things have been created through Him and for Him (Col. 1:15-16). Jesus as the fully divine Son of God is not only willing to save you from your sins, but he is able to save you from your sins. Jesus is the King of kings in that He is truly the Son of David and at the same time the Son of God. He is the King of Israel and the redeemer because He is, the first and the last (Isa. 44:6-8). Jesus as the King of kings, calls those He saves to follow Him as the King over your life. Jesus will reign sovereignly over the nations; His Kingdom will not be limited to the twelve tribes of Israel, for it was prophesied long ago: There will be no end to the increase of His government or of peace on the throne of David and over his kingdom (Isa. 9:7). Jesus, as the Sovereign One, is the only One who brings the kind of peace you were made for. Finally, Jesus kingdom will have no end in that He will reign forever and ever. As King over the nations, there will never be a moment when peace will recede, abate, or climax, for it will always increase as will the joy of His people. We are told that on that Day, the redeemed of the Lord will return and come to Zion with joyful shouting, and everlasting joy will be on their heads. They will obtain gladness and joy, and sorrow and sighing will flee away (Isa. 51:11). Jesus, who was born to redeem as far as the curse of sin is found, it the only One who can give you rest for your soul. Marys response to this news is understandable: But Mary said to the angel, How will this be, since I am a virgin (v. 34)? It is in the angels answer that we again see the principles of incarnation and grace at work: The angel answered and said to her, The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; for that reason also the holy Child will be called the Son of God (v. 35). What is the incarnational principle? It would not be a temple God would build, but instead He would tabernacle among His people through and in the person of His own Son, which was the plan all along! God would enter into the mess of sinful humanity. What is the grace principle? There was nothing Mary brought to the table that obligated God to bless her with the Child promised long ago to Whom belonged the obedience of the nations. It was all unconditional grace through the powerful work of God the Father and the Holy Spirit in the person of Jesus Christ. [1] Keller, T. J. (2013). The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive. Redeemer Presbyterian Church. [2] Ibid.

There was an ancient prophesy given to one of Jacobs sons by the name of Judah, but I share it with you, I want to tell you something about Judah. Judah grew up under the faith of his father Jacob. No doubt that he heard the stories of how God met him and wrestled with him all night and how afterwards changed his birth name to Israel. My guess is that when Judah was a child, he may have asked: Daddy, where did you get that limp? What we know of Judah, was that the faith of his mother and father was not enough; Judah needed his own encounter with God. What you need to know about Judah was that even though he was warned by his father that God forbade His people from marrying Canaanite women because they would turn his heart away from God, Judah married a Canaanite woman anyway (Gen. 38:1-2). Judah fathered three sons with his Canaanite wife who all grew up to be evil men. The oldest of Judahs sons was Er for whom Judah found a wife for by the name of Tamar. However, before Er and Tamar could begin a family together, God killed Er because of how wicked he had become; the same thing happened to Judahs second son. Tamar was without a husband and therefore in her mind, was without any hope; in the culture and time Tamar lived, to be childless and a widow essentially was to be left vulnerable with only two options: prostitution or death (read Genesis 38 for the full story). After Judahs wife died and Tamar heard that he was going up to Timnah to shear sheep, she dressed the part of a prostitute and sat in a place Judah would see her (v. 14). Tamars plan worked out as she hoped; Judah saw her and paid her for sex (vv. 15-16). What is even more disturbing about the whole encounter Judah had with Tamar was that she was believed to be a cult prostitute which gives us some sense for Judahs religious convictions. The result was that Tamar got pregnant by her father-in-law and gave birth to twins. To be fair, there is much more to Judah and Tamars story, and Judah eventually does the right thing after he found out that it was his daughter-in-law that was pregnant with his children, but what led up to the twins that were born to Tamar was one big mess! Yet, it was to Judah that God promised the following: As for you, Judah, your brothers shall praise you; Your hand shall be on the neck of your enemies; Your fathers sons shall bow down to you. Judah is a lions cub; from the prey, my son, you have gone up. He crouches, he lies down as a lion, and as a lion, who dares to stir him up? The scepter will not depart from Judah, Nor the rulers staff from between his feet, Until Shiloh comes, And to him shall be the obedience of the peoples. (Genesis 49:810) Guess who is included in Jesus family tree? Perez, one of the twins born to Tamar. Seven generations after Perez, Boaz was born who would marry Ruth, and together they would have a son (Obed), whose grandson would be named David. If you examine Jesus family tree carefully, what you will discover are highly dysfunctional people who made a mess of their lives. If you think you made a mess of your life, you will find great company in the Bible of people who have done the same who experience a God who entered into their mess. The Type of House David Wanted to Build Of all of Israels kings mentioned in the Bible, David is the one king by whom all other kings are compared. David is the one king of whom God identified as, A man after My heart, who will do all My will (1 Sam. 13:14; Acts 13:22). Some of the highlights of Davids life include the courage to face the giant called Goliath when all of Israels army, including Saul as their king, were afraid to fight him; David fought the giant with a sling shot, five smooth stones, without any armor, and with one of the greatest lines in scriptures: You come to me with a sword, a spear, and a saber, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of armies, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the Lord will hand you over to me, and I will strike you and remove your head from you. Then I will give the dead bodies of the army of the Philistines this day to the birds of the sky and the wild animals of the earth, so that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel, and that this entire assembly may know that the Lord does not save by sword or by spear; for the battle is the Lords, and He will hand you over to us! (1 Sam. 17:45-47) David was just a teenager when he defeated Goliath; it would not be for another 10-15 years before he would officially be installed as king. As king, David made Jerusalem the capital of Israel, he brought back the ark of the covenant to Jerusalem, and through war brought peace to his nation. The one thing that David longed to do but was not permitted to do was to build the temple that his son Solomon would eventually build in his stead. In 2 Samuel 7:1-16 we are shown that although David was a good king, he was not the king Israel, or the world, needs. It is Davids desire to build a house for God that sets up what is known as the Davidic Covenant. To see the significance of how 2 Samuel 7:8-16 helps us understand the point of Advent, we need to be aware of verses 1-7, Now it came about, when the king lived in his house, and the Lord had given him rest on every side from all his enemies, that the king said to Nathan the prophet, See now, I live in a house of cedar, but the ark of God remains within the tent. Nathan said to the king, Go, do all that is in your mind, for the Lord is with you. But in the same night, the word of the Lord came to Nathan, saying, Go and say to My servant David, This is what the Lord says: Should you build Me a house for My dwelling? For I have not dwelt in a house since the day I brought up the sons of Israel from Egypt, even to this day; rather, I have been moving about in a tent, that is, in a dwelling place. Wherever I have gone with all the sons of Israel, did I speak a word with one of the tribes of Israel, whom I commanded to shepherd My people Israel, saying, Why have you not built Me a house of cedar? Do you know what David is really requesting permission to do? In these verses, David is doing what all the other kings were known for doing. The kings of the nations believed that if they built a house for their god(s) then their god(s) would bless them by establishing the kings power, reign, and successes. Gods response to David shows us that Yahweh is not like the other gods of the nations. In fact, the God of Israel is very different! Every god of every other religion demands something of its worshipers that the worshiper has no power to achieve because for every other religion, divine blessing is conditional. This is the evidence that the gods of such religions are really not gods at all. The reason why God told David that he was not permitted to build a house for Him is ultimately because with Yahweh, divine blessing can only be unconditional. In other words, the blessing is entirely dependent upon Him because we have no power to do it ourselves. Timothy Keller in a sermon on this passage, pointed out something Eugene Peterson said about Davids request that makes sense of the unconditional promise of God that follows Davids request: I think David was just about to cross over a line from being full of God to being full of himself. If any of us develops an identity in which God and Gods grace is less important to who we are than our own action and performance, our ability to represent Gods kingdom is utterly ruined.[1] So, God said no to Davids request to build a house for good reason! God doesnt need a house like the other gods because Yahweh is the one true God! So, instead of building a house for God, God would instead build a different kind of house for David, and the building would not be a literal building but a dynasty where God will pour out His grace upon Davids descendants unconditionally. Timothy Keller said it this way: He says: I promise to make your descendants a dynastic kingship, and I will so graciously and unconditionally commit myself to them, regardless of their merit, regardless of their pedigree. I will so graciously and unconditionally commit myself to them that neither death, sin, nor time will break my commitment.[2] Do know how God will do it? According to 2 Samuel 7:1-16, God will do it through two principles that Timothy Keller called the Incarnation Principle and the Grace Principle. The Incarnation Principle: God does not need a building because He intends to dwell with His people. The Grace Principle: God will do what only God is capable of doing apart from any help from any other person. Thank God that He operates on these two principles and in such an unconditional way! Everything seemed to be going great for David up to 2 Samuel 7, but just four short chapters later he will commit a sin so horrible that had Gods covenant with David been conditional, all hope for an everlasting Kingdom would be lost (see 2 Samuel 11:1-12:31). David is only a shadow of the kind of king that would come, for the One to sit on Davids throne would indeed be the One to Whom belongs the obedience of the nations (Gen. 49:8-10), and He would come to reign forever (2 Sam. 7:14-16). The Type of House God Would Build The King promised to, and through, David, would not come for at least another 1,000 years. The mess David made of his life would be overshadowed by the greater mess Solomon made of his life. Within the years between Davids life and the news of Jesus birth were centuries of idolatry, exile, and the oppression of empires. About 500 years of silence would follow the last Hebrew prophet until a certain poor couple engaged to be married. Through it all, God was unconditionally committed to His promise of a King through the line of Judah and He was moving empires, cultures, and structures in His time, through our mess, to accomplish His purposes for our good and His glory! The news would first come to a virgin and then to her fianc, both were descendants of David. Gods principle of incarnation and grace would come together in one Person in a way only the true God was capable of doing, and the news would be delivered by an angel: And behold, you will conceive in your womb and give birth to a son, and you shall name Him Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High; and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David; and He will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and His kingdom will have no end. But Mary said to the angel, How will this be, since I am a virgin? The angel answered and said to her, The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; for that reason also the holy Child will be called the Son of God. There are seven qualities about the child who Mary would miraculously give birth to: He will be the Son of David. (v. 31) He will be the Savior of sinners. (v. 31) He will be great. (v. 32) He will be divinely the Son of God. (v. 32) He will be the King of kings. (v. 32) He will reign sovereignly over the nations. (v. 33) He will reign forever. (v. 33) So, what does advent mean for you? What does advent mean for the world? How is any of this the great news the Bible says that it is? Here are seven reasons why this is good news wrapped up in the news delivered to Mary by the angel: As the Son of David, Jesus is fully human. The mess that makes up His family tree serves as reminder of the kinds of people He was born to redeem. Jesus was born to enter into your mess not to leave you there but to deliver you from your sin. As the Savior for sinners, Jesus, a qualified and able savior to remedy the problem of mankind. Because Jesus is the Son of David, He qualifies to be the kinsmen redeemer as a member of the family that is the human race. Jesus, as the fully human savior, understands you more than you can ever know. Jesus is great because He is no ordinary king. He is the One of Whom the prophets spoke about long ago! He is the One of Whom Jeremiah wrote about: Behold, the days are coming, declares the Lord, When I will raise up for David a righteous Branch; And He will reign as king and act wisely And do justice and righteousness in the land. In His days Judah will be saved, And Israel will live securely; And this is His name by which He will be called, The Lord Our Righteousness. (Jer. 23:5-6). Jesus brings to the table of your sin a grace greater than all of your offences combined. Jesus is divine because He is truly the Son of the Most High, not in the way you are a son or daughter, but because He proceeds from God the Father. Jesus is divine because before he took on flesh in Marys womb, He was for all eternity always the Son. The apostle Paul put it this way: He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation: for by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones, or dominions, or rulers, or authoritiesall things have been created through Him and for Him (Col. 1:15-16). Jesus as the fully divine Son of God is not only willing to save you from your sins, but he is able to save you from your sins. Jesus is the King of kings in that He is truly the Son of David and at the same time the Son of God. He is the King of Israel and the redeemer because He is, the first and the last (Isa. 44:6-8). Jesus as the King of kings, calls those He saves to follow Him as the King over your life. Jesus will reign sovereignly over the nations; His Kingdom will not be limited to the twelve tribes of Israel, for it was prophesied long ago: There will be no end to the increase of His government or of peace on the throne of David and over his kingdom (Isa. 9:7). Jesus, as the Sovereign One, is the only One who brings the kind of peace you were made for. Finally, Jesus kingdom will have no end in that He will reign forever and ever. As King over the nations, there will never be a moment when peace will recede, abate, or climax, for it will always increase as will the joy of His people. We are told that on that Day, the redeemed of the Lord will return and come to Zion with joyful shouting, and everlasting joy will be on their heads. They will obtain gladness and joy, and sorrow and sighing will flee away (Isa. 51:11). Jesus, who was born to redeem as far as the curse of sin is found, it the only One who can give you rest for your soul. Marys response to this news is understandable: But Mary said to the angel, How will this be, since I am a virgin (v. 34)? It is in the angels answer that we again see the principles of incarnation and grace at work: The angel answered and said to her, The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; for that reason also the holy Child will be called the Son of God (v. 35). What is the incarnational principle? It would not be a temple God would build, but instead He would tabernacle among His people through and in the person of His own Son, which was the plan all along! God would enter into the mess of sinful humanity. What is the grace principle? There was nothing Mary brought to the table that obligated God to bless her with the Child promised long ago to Whom belonged the obedience of the nations. It was all unconditional grace through the powerful work of God the Father and the Holy Spirit in the person of Jesus Christ. [1] Keller, T. J. (2013). The Timothy Keller Sermon Archive. Redeemer Presbyterian Church. [2] Ibid.

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On this edition of Parallax Views, Israel/Palestine coverage continues as Israeli Twitter/X user Tamara (@tamars) joins the show for a 3 hour episode providing her perspective from within Israel on political turmoil within Israel, the West Bank settlements, Itamar Ben-Gvir, Benjamin Netanyahu, the bombing of Gaza, Hamas, the October 7th attack, repression of Israeli-Palestinians or Israeli-Arabs, the debate over the Al-Ahli Baptist Hospital explosion, the Israeli bombing of a Palestinian church, the relationship between Hamas and the Israeli government (specifically the work visa programs for Gazan), ultra-Orthodox Jews in Israel and the harassment of ultra-Orthodox left-wing Israeli Israel Frey, settler violence, and much, much, much

WARNING- EXTRA ADULT conversation in this week's episode. Noam and Sheva are joined by Sara Rosen, a New York based Sex Therapist, with a license in social work as well as a Masters of Education in human sexuality. Learn more about Sara here. And we are joined by an "Anonymous" voice from the orthodox community who share's her own experiences as the intersection between religious values towards sex and personal explorations with sexuality. In this episode we talk about many different subjects including: porn, sex positivity, kinks, communication, toys, masturbation, and the sacredness involved in intimacy. Surprisingly we don't talk about consent, so remember that's an important part of any sexual relationship. We talk some Jewish values, too, believe it or not. Specifically, Noam slightly misquotes the Torah in claiming Tamar had two sons, Er and Onan who died as a result of mastubation. The correct detail is that these were Judah's sons, not Tamars. Tamar was set to marry those two sons and give birth through them.  Here is also a link to the piece of Talmud mentioned about the important nature of sex education within Jewish education. 

Too often, people have a distorted memory of history. There is the temptation to selectively edit our personal story, to leave out the Tamars and Rahabs, to edit around the Bathsheba events in our own lives. Is it possible that God wants to use those, too?

CW: stemmingsklachten, zwangerschapsdiabetes, prikkenTerwijl we in real time alweer 38 weken in verwachting zijn, kun jij eindelijk luisteren naar de opname die we zo'n 8 weken geleden maakten! Tamar en Sophie vertellen over Tamars zwangerschapsdiabetes en de stemmingsklachten die ze kreeg door de hormonen, het weer en de onzekerheid rondom de bevalling. Ook hoor je Tamar live haar glucosewaarde prikken (het wordt ruim op tijd aangekondigd, dus als je naaldenangst hebt kun je een paar minuten vooruit spoelen).Gelukkig is er ook nog wat vrolijk nieuws te delen: zo slaagden we voor de cursus EHBO voor baby's en kinderen, en vierden we op zo'n corona's in ploegen* onze verjaardagen, de zwangerschap en ons vijfjarig huwelijk. *Dat mocht in augustus nog!

We are in a series on the life of Joseph. But actually, it’s kind of misleading to say that. It’s not less than that. But it’s definitely more than that. Yes, Genesis 37-50 is the story of Joseph but it’s also the story of Reuben and Gad and Asher and Naphtali and Rachel and Leah and Jacob and Potiphar, Potiphar’s wife, and Pharaoh. Whenever God is doing one thing, he’s doing 1,000 things. There are so many threads at work in the narrative. We know about some more than others, but God is working in all of them.Last week we looked at that salvation moment of bankruptcy in the lives of two of the characters in the narrative. We looked at the surrender of Jacob and Joseph. Now today we get to tell the story of Judah. Now if you remember back several weeks we skipped Genesis 38 which was the story of Judah and Tamar. And I said we would return to it. Today’s that day. The story is all at once disturbing, amazing, fascinating, and exhilarating!The story of Judah begins with the unloved Leah giving birth to four boys. Her last son was named Judah whose name in Hebrew means praised. Well, Judah grows up in the rabble of that love-starved home, the fourth-born, forgotten-in-the-middle, eclipsed son. That’s how Judah grows up.The next reference to Judah is when he is in his early 20s. The dreamer Joseph comes out to meet his brothers, they strip him of his coat, and plot to murder him. And you will remember, it’s Judah who speaks up when Joseph is in the pit. He says, “Guys, why are we planning on killing Joseph? If we kill him we get nothing. Here are some Ishmaelite traders. If we sell him, we still get rid of him but we can walk away with cash.”Now why he does this we don’t know. Is it compassion on Joseph? Unlikely. Is it crass materialism? Probably.So chapter 37 ends with Joseph bound and off to Egypt. Chapter 39 picks up the narrative of what happens to Joseph when he enters Egypt. But artfully sandwiched in between these two chapters is chapter 38, this flash-forward, a scene from the life of Judah.Now I’m just going to tell the story of chapter 38 as set up for where we are today. Chapter 38 takes place sometime after Joseph has been sold. Judah is now grown, married, and has sons of his own. And we are told that Judah’s oldest son Er marries a woman named Tamar. We know next to nothing about Er except that he was flagrantly wicked and as a result, dies under the hand of God’s judgment. Now that, of course, makes Tamar a widow. A widow would have been one of the most socially and economically vulnerable people in society.Why was she vulnerable? Because she wasn’t likely to be chosen for marriage, and without that, she couldn’t have a family. And without that, she couldn’t be respected. Without respect, it’s hard to get a job, to have meaningful friendships, etc.This would be like a person in our day and age who couldn’t read and write. I mean, you don’t have the basic skills necessary for inclusion in the culture. It would be something like that. Because everybody knew that widows were doomed, there was an important law to protect widows, and this was called the Levirate marriage law.Levirate comes from the Latin word levir which means brother-in-law. And here’s how the law worked. As a father, if one of your married sons died, and if you had other sons, you were to provide one of them in marriage for your widowed daughter-in-law so that she would not be disgraced in society. That was the father’s job. That was his obligation. It was the Law. So we are told that Judah does his job and gives his second son Onan to Tamar. But this dude was just as wicked if not worse. This guy is bad news and so the same thing happens. The judgment of God falls upon him and he too dies. So now poor Tamar is twice widowed.Well, the Levirate marriage law kicks in again and the responsibility falls back on Judah to provide her with another one of his sons. He’s got a younger son named Shelah but he’s too young to marry. So he tells Tamar, “Go home and live in your father’s house and wait for him to grow up and then I’ll give him to you for a husband.” He’s claiming to be her defender and provider. But he was deceiving her. He had no intention of doing this. “Go home to dad and when he’s of age, I’ll let you know. Don’t call me. I’ll call you kind of thing.” Why is he planning to deceive? Because he blames Tamar for the death of his two sons. Tamar is poisoning the soup. She’s bad luck. Something like this.Now I think Judah knows exactly why they died. They were evil in the sight of the Lord. Judah absolutely knows this. But he’s in denial. Judah is blaming her for the death of his sons. There’s something wrong with her. Judah does not want to admit what a mess they were. Judah does not want to admit their corruption and brokenness. He does not want to admit what a mess of a father he must have been. He doesn’t want to admit it.Instead, what he wants to say is, “This woman somehow is bad news. If she marries my third son, he’ll probably die too. She’s the problem. Okay, maybe she’s not poisoning them, but somehow she’s corrupting them. I just know it.”So he sends her away to her father with the hope that she is never heard from again; maybe she’ll get eaten by a wild beast along the way.Now Tamar is no dummy. She is counting down the days and she starts figuring it out. She does the math and realizes that Shelah had grown up. She’s leaving voicemails without a response. She’s getting ghosted in her texts. And the reality begins to settle on her. Judah has no intention of protecting and providing for her, so she goes into action.When she hears her father-in-law is on his way to her neck of the woods she executes this bold plan. It says, “She took off her widow’s clothes. She covered herself with a veil to disguise herself as a prostitute.” And her plan is to seduce Judah. Now this says something about the character of Judah. She’s counting on the fact that he’s going to fall for it. She knew his character. This was his settled pattern of behavior.So Judah passes by and is captured by the eyes of the woman through the veil, but doesn’t realize it’s his daughter-in-law. And he has sex with her. And of course, prostitution has a fee and in those days you pay with goods but he doesn’t have any. He promises a goat and as collateral, he leaves behind his seal, cord, and staff. In the Ancient Near East, a person’s seal, cord, and staff would be like your credit card, your driver’s license, and the keys to your car. I mean, a guy needs these things. So he knows that if he wants them back he’s going to have to go back and pay the fee. When he goes back to pay the fee she’s nowhere to be found. And he’s got to be thinking to himself, “That little punk. What in the world?” So he’s got to cancel the credit card, go to the DMV, and get new keys made. It’s a tremendous hassle but life goes on.Well, that encounter gets Tamar pregnant. And when Judah finds out that his daughter-in-law got pregnant outside of marriage he makes a big stink about it. He gets the town together and makes this big charade about how unfaithful she is, how terrible her character is, and he calls to have her executed, but not just any old execution. He called for her to be burned to death. What? If you heard that someone was sentenced to capital punishment through lethal injection, you’d say, “Okay, that’s unfortunate but that’s what we do in these situations.” But if you heard someone was burned to death, you’d say, “Really? What? Why?” It was not different then. This seems like an overreaction. Why is Judah reacting like this?Now think carefully here. The reason is that he knew that in not giving her his son, he was sentencing a woman to social death and absolute impoverishment. He knew that what he did was totally and completely unjust. So to assuage that guilty conscience, he needed to believe bad things about her in order to justify his course of action. “She’s been poisoning the soup. She’s the reason. She influenced them in some way. She coerced and harassed them into it, or she brought it on somehow.” This is his way of silencing the voices of guilt, of justifying himself, of shielding himself. He knew his sons deserved the judgment of God and that Tamar had nothing to do with it. You see, he’s been telling himself a story all these years without any evidence whatsoever and then when he finally gets the evidence, bam, we see this over-the-top reaction, take her out, and burn her.He’s probably grinning ear to ear because now finally he has the confirmation he needed all these years. “I just knew it!” he’s saying, “Burn her. She’s a whore. I knew it all along.”So here he is, about to take a girl who had no part in the death of his sons, and he is about to torture her and kill her. He’s ready to feast his eyes on the burning body of a young girl to further the false narrative he’s created in his mind.The Dramatic PauseNow just stop right now. How dark is this? Do you see how lost Judah is? Do you see what kind of place he is in? If God allows him to go through with this, think about what the rest of his life is going to look like. He is going to have to spend the rest of his life trying to strengthen a narrative that has no evidence to support it, trying to convince himself just how wicked she was, over and over and over again, just so he can stay completely convinced that burning her at the stake was the right call. His conscience is going to try to condemn him, which means he’s going to have to continually lie to himself and lie to himself and that lying to himself will twist his heart and twist his heart until he is a twisted and broken, shelled out lost person. Do you see how Judah is just teetering on the brink of disaster?But this is a story of God’s sovereign redemption. God is redeeming all through this narrative. And he is redeeming Judah. Judah at this moment is absolutely imprisoned by selfishness. He’s imprisoned in shame. He’s imprisoned in denial. He’s imprisoned in guilt. And he’s just fueling that guilt and denial by telling himself stories. Like the coils of an anaconda, with every lie he tells himself it’s just tightening around him further and further and further.Look at the unlikely way in which Judah is saved. Now the story continues. She’s drug by her hair out into the public square to be burned. But before they light the fire she yells out in dramatic fashion, “Wait, I have a package.” And she pulls it out and sends it to her father-in-law, and there’s a message that goes along with that package. “Shouldn’t the guy who did this to me burn as well?” And he opens the package and you could imagine a note attached, “The man who impregnated me who, by law, ought to burn with me - these are his. Do you recognize these?” And there in the package is Judah’s cord and seal and staff. “Do you recognize them?”And it’s brilliant literature at this point. Not just, “Do you recognize to whom these things belong?” but “Do you recognize yourself for who you are? Do you see what you’ve become? Do recognize the hypocrisy in yourself?”Do you remember last week we talked about the salvation moment of bankruptcy? Oh, Judah was so proud. He was in charge. He was a powerful man. The fact that he even had a seal meant he was a powerful leader in his community. When he ordered Tamar to be burned, he was functioning as a community patriarch, the whole community danced to his tune.But God brought him to his knees. He humbled him. He absolutely stripped him publicly naked. He’s publicly being shamed here in a way that he will never recover from. He’s being taken out by both knees with a steel pipe. And you think this a bad thing? You are wrong. This is a gift of God. This is grace. You see, Judah was blind to his self-deception. He was so blind to his hypocrisy. He couldn’t see it which is why it has so much power over him. It was strangling him to death. He really was on his way to being lost. But God humiliated him. In God’s grace, he stripped him naked.This is what we learned last week. You cannot possibly see God without a stripping down of all self-deception like this. You cannot possibly be saved without some grace intervening from the outside to strip you down to who you really are so that you cry out and say, “I am such a sinner. I am such a hypocrite. I am so judgmental. I am the one who needs to be burned. I am no better than the people I used to despise.”It is often the awful, painful things that God will use to wake you up, to see who we really are. That is why we need the initiating grace from God, often in the form of deep trials, the Tamars and Nathans of the world who point their finger at us and say, “You are the man. You are the woman.”Now I believe it was this moment that began an incredible transformation that we see unfold in the life of Judah. Chapter 38 ends with the confession of Judah.Judah saw himself and cried out for mercy. It was that cry for mercy and the receiving of mercy that began to change him. Now we don’t see that change worked out until several chapters later.Back to JosephChapter 38 closes and chapter 39 opens and Judah disappears from the narrative and we are thrust back into the Joseph story. Here is the thirty-second reminder of what happened. We see Potiphar, the jail, the dreams of the cupbearer and baker, the two full years of prison being forgotten, the interpretation of Pharaoh’s dream, the seven years of plenty, the years of famine have begun. You have the first visit of the brothers. And last week we looked at the second visit.You will remember from last week that Joseph had invited the brothers into the house to dine with them. He was overcome with emotion when he saw Benjamin. The floodgates open and he excuses himself while he lets out great sobs. He recomposes himself. He seats them all in order. He gives Benjamin 5 times the portion of anyone else. And chapter 43 ends with them eating, drinking, and happy. Now everybody goes to bed with full stomachs a sensation they certainly were not used to and they mentally prepare for the trip home. Even though they are well-fed, their thoughts turn back home to their starving families. You know that feeling when vacation is over and you have to gear up for real life. They make plans for the following day and the long journey that awaits and they head to bed. But things do not go according to plan. Look now what happens next:Joseph is conducting another test. Now why he does this we do not know for certain. It could be that something in the conversation that night made him suspicious. It could be he wanted to be doubly sure because the first test wasn’t conclusive in his mind. But I think we can do better. Obviously, he’s setting up another test and we can deduce his intentions by looking at the test itself. Every good test is designed to provoke a particular weakness. A grade school multiplication quiz might have 100 problems and every one of them has a 12 in it, you can deduce that the teacher is testing to see if the student knows his 12s.What is Joseph testing for? Let’s think about the elements in this test. Clearly, Joseph has by now discovered that Benjamin has replaced him as the favorite son. It was the envy of that favoritism that caused his brothers to so despise him, throw him in a pit, and sell him off into Egypt. That envy was at the root of their previous murderous intent. Previously the brothers said in their hearts, “We can’t be happy till Joseph is miserable.” That’s what ENVY does to a person.Have they changed? Can they now say, “When you are happy, I am happy. When you win, I win. Can they find their joy in the exaltation of another?” And so Joseph sets up the test. Clearly, Benjamin is already highly favored by their father. “What if I pour fuel on that? What if I favor Benjamin by giving him five times the amount of everyone else, and really dote and spoil him, will that create jealousy in his brothers, the kind of jealousy which would cause them to betray Benjamin if given the right opportunity?”On their first journey, their greed was tested. Now they level up. It’s a test of greed and envy combined. So here it goes.Now Judah reenters the picture. And folks, I want you to notice the change. It’s so dramatic. If you ever hear someone say, “Man, people are basically who they are. People don’t change.” If you ever hear that, they don’t know the God of the Bible. No Christian can say that. Look at what God does with Judah. Look at this man. We can’t even recognize him. It’s incredible.Now do not get too hung up on this whole idea of a cup of divination. There’s a myriad of explanations of what’s going on here. Just let common sense put you at ease. Joseph can’t be into sorcery and be a worshiper of YHWH. Something else is going on. He’s probably trying to reinforce the image they already have of Joseph. The brothers know the Egyptian religious structure. They know Joseph is viewed as a god. Joseph is playing the part. “Don’t you know I am a god and can see all things?” He’s striking fear into their hearts according to their understanding of who they believe Joseph to be. Joseph launches the accusation. Look at Judah’s response.What is Judah doing? Judah is taking the fall. Judah is taking the blame. Judah is willing to absorb the injustice of the accusation. Now Joseph really wants to put a sharp point on the test here. He’s totally setting them up. If they have any inclination to betray their brother, if they have even the slightest temptation to sell him off for 20 shekels of silver, it’s all going to be revealed here. Joseph smiles, reassures, puts on a great show of warmth and compassion.“Oh, I would never do something so unjust as to imprison all of you!” Do you see what Joseph is doing? “Oh no. You guys are all good. You can all go. And keep the money in the sacks. I like you chaps. It’s just this Benjamin rascal. I’m throwing him in prison.”You could not engineer a situation more exactly to test if envy or greed were resident motives in the heart of the brothers. It’s genius. Joseph is doing everything he can to ferret out the heart that once betrayed for a fistful of cash. What happens next is this beautiful outpouring of Judah’s love for his father and his youngest brother. You can just see it ooze out of the text.We are on the absolute cusp of the great reveal of Joseph. In one more verse, Joseph is going to break. But that’s for next week. You are going to have to come back. I just want to stop right here and marvel at what we see in Judah. Do you see the transformation that has taken place? Judah was a lying, greedy, brother-selling, prostitute-loving, widow-burning, terrible father who had zero hope of changing. But God intervened.You can watch this transformation take place if you trace the word ‘recognize’ through the narrative. What happens is that Judah recognizes the grace of God. We as readers recognize that God is doing something in Judah and we can also recognize that God is doing something way, way beyond Judah.When we first meet Judah, he’s the one who suggested that he sell Joseph into slavery and he stripped Joseph of his coat. They put the blood of a sacrificial animal on it, and they brought it to their father, Jacob, and they said, “Father, do you recognize this?” Jacob says, “Yes. I recognize it. It’s Joseph’s coat. He’s dead! He’s dead!” In presenting that false evidence, Judah would have been lost had not God helped Judah to recognize himself.Alfreid Edersheim who’s a Jewish scholar especially knowledgeable in Jewish literature references a middle-age Jewish commentary on Genesis which says, “You deceived your father with a goat? Tamar will deceive you with a goat. You said to your father, ‘Do you recognize this?’ By your life, Tamar will say to you, ‘Do you recognize this?’”It’s a beautiful play on words. It was through deception that Judah would obscure the truth about his brother. “Father, do you recognize this?” And years later it would be through deception that Judah would see the truth about himself. “Judah do you recognize this?”Judah recognized his cord, staff, and seal. But more than that. He recognized himself for who he was. He recognized his absolute hypocrisy. He recognized his arrogance and bankruptcy. And now Judah bows before Joseph with his bald spot totally recognizing his guilt of the injustice done to Tamar. He totally recognizes his guilt in selling off his brother for a handful of silver. He recognizes that he needs to pay for his sins. But he does not yet recognize Joseph. He does not recognize that the judge before whom he is bowing is the one he has sinned against. He doesn’t yet recognize that the benevolence he receives, comes from the hand he has pierced. That recognition comes next week.But you see, this is such a beautiful picture of where this is all headed. Because we now can recognize something that Judah and Joseph and Jacob could have never, namely that this illegitimate union between Judah and Tamar would produce a son named Perez whose name means breakthrough. Perez would break through all this mess.Perez would have a son named Hezron, and he would father Ram, and Ram would father Amminadab, and Amminadab would father Nahshon, and Nahshon would father Salmon, and Salmon would father Boaz by Rahab, and Boaz the father of Obed by Ruth, and Obed the father of Jesse, and Jesse the father of David the king.And David the King would have a promise made to him that out of his loins would come the Messiah and the genealogy in Matthew 1 concludes.Nobody could have recognized this. We now recognize that this was all pointing to Christ, the ultimate Joseph. Jesus too was stripped of his coat. His blood was sacrificed and his stained robe was presented to the father, God, “Father, do you recognize this?” Yes, this is the blood of my son. This the blood of my one and only precious son. I recognize in this blood the atonement of all your sins. I recognize the debt has been paid. I recognize perfect innocence sacrificed.The sacrifice is complete. The payment satisfied the debt. And like Judah who absorbed and volunteered to absorb the penalty in himself, like Judah who offered himself as a substitute, Jesus too would offer himself as a substitute for us on the cross. He took our place, bore in his body our sins, and shed his blood for us. And God the father recognizes this sacrifice for us. It counts. The debt has been paid. Folks is this not a marvelous story? Is this not just glorious? Let’s sing!Who alone can save themselves?Their own souls could heal? The answer is nobody. Our shame was deeper than the sea. That’s where Judah found himself. Totally broken. Totally at the bottom. He reached that salvation moment of bankruptcy and then the gospel: Your grace is deeper still.

We are in a series on the life of Joseph. But actually, it’s kind of misleading to say that. It’s not less than that. But it’s definitely more than that. Yes, Genesis 37-50 is the story of Joseph but it’s also the story of Reuben and Gad and Asher and Naphtali and Rachel and Leah and Jacob and Potiphar, Potiphar’s wife, and Pharaoh. Whenever God is doing one thing, he’s doing 1,000 things. There are so many threads at work in the narrative. We know about some more than others, but God is working in all of them.Last week we looked at that salvation moment of bankruptcy in the lives of two of the characters in the narrative. We looked at the surrender of Jacob and Joseph. Now today we get to tell the story of Judah. Now if you remember back several weeks we skipped Genesis 38 which was the story of Judah and Tamar. And I said we would return to it. Today’s that day. The story is all at once disturbing, amazing, fascinating, and exhilarating!The story of Judah begins with the unloved Leah giving birth to four boys. Her last son was named Judah whose name in Hebrew means praised. Well, Judah grows up in the rabble of that love-starved home, the fourth-born, forgotten-in-the-middle, eclipsed son. That’s how Judah grows up.The next reference to Judah is when he is in his early 20s. The dreamer Joseph comes out to meet his brothers, they strip him of his coat, and plot to murder him. And you will remember, it’s Judah who speaks up when Joseph is in the pit. He says, “Guys, why are we planning on killing Joseph? If we kill him we get nothing. Here are some Ishmaelite traders. If we sell him, we still get rid of him but we can walk away with cash.”Now why he does this we don’t know. Is it compassion on Joseph? Unlikely. Is it crass materialism? Probably.So chapter 37 ends with Joseph bound and off to Egypt. Chapter 39 picks up the narrative of what happens to Joseph when he enters Egypt. But artfully sandwiched in between these two chapters is chapter 38, this flash-forward, a scene from the life of Judah.Now I’m just going to tell the story of chapter 38 as set up for where we are today. Chapter 38 takes place sometime after Joseph has been sold. Judah is now grown, married, and has sons of his own. And we are told that Judah’s oldest son Er marries a woman named Tamar. We know next to nothing about Er except that he was flagrantly wicked and as a result, dies under the hand of God’s judgment. Now that, of course, makes Tamar a widow. A widow would have been one of the most socially and economically vulnerable people in society.Why was she vulnerable? Because she wasn’t likely to be chosen for marriage, and without that, she couldn’t have a family. And without that, she couldn’t be respected. Without respect, it’s hard to get a job, to have meaningful friendships, etc.This would be like a person in our day and age who couldn’t read and write. I mean, you don’t have the basic skills necessary for inclusion in the culture. It would be something like that. Because everybody knew that widows were doomed, there was an important law to protect widows, and this was called the Levirate marriage law.Levirate comes from the Latin word levir which means brother-in-law. And here’s how the law worked. As a father, if one of your married sons died, and if you had other sons, you were to provide one of them in marriage for your widowed daughter-in-law so that she would not be disgraced in society. That was the father’s job. That was his obligation. It was the Law. So we are told that Judah does his job and gives his second son Onan to Tamar. But this dude was just as wicked if not worse. This guy is bad news and so the same thing happens. The judgment of God falls upon him and he too dies. So now poor Tamar is twice widowed.Well, the Levirate marriage law kicks in again and the responsibility falls back on Judah to provide her with another one of his sons. He’s got a younger son named Shelah but he’s too young to marry. So he tells Tamar, “Go home and live in your father’s house and wait for him to grow up and then I’ll give him to you for a husband.” He’s claiming to be her defender and provider. But he was deceiving her. He had no intention of doing this. “Go home to dad and when he’s of age, I’ll let you know. Don’t call me. I’ll call you kind of thing.” Why is he planning to deceive? Because he blames Tamar for the death of his two sons. Tamar is poisoning the soup. She’s bad luck. Something like this.Now I think Judah knows exactly why they died. They were evil in the sight of the Lord. Judah absolutely knows this. But he’s in denial. Judah is blaming her for the death of his sons. There’s something wrong with her. Judah does not want to admit what a mess they were. Judah does not want to admit their corruption and brokenness. He does not want to admit what a mess of a father he must have been. He doesn’t want to admit it.Instead, what he wants to say is, “This woman somehow is bad news. If she marries my third son, he’ll probably die too. She’s the problem. Okay, maybe she’s not poisoning them, but somehow she’s corrupting them. I just know it.”So he sends her away to her father with the hope that she is never heard from again; maybe she’ll get eaten by a wild beast along the way.Now Tamar is no dummy. She is counting down the days and she starts figuring it out. She does the math and realizes that Shelah had grown up. She’s leaving voicemails without a response. She’s getting ghosted in her texts. And the reality begins to settle on her. Judah has no intention of protecting and providing for her, so she goes into action.When she hears her father-in-law is on his way to her neck of the woods she executes this bold plan. It says, “She took off her widow’s clothes. She covered herself with a veil to disguise herself as a prostitute.” And her plan is to seduce Judah. Now this says something about the character of Judah. She’s counting on the fact that he’s going to fall for it. She knew his character. This was his settled pattern of behavior.So Judah passes by and is captured by the eyes of the woman through the veil, but doesn’t realize it’s his daughter-in-law. And he has sex with her. And of course, prostitution has a fee and in those days you pay with goods but he doesn’t have any. He promises a goat and as collateral, he leaves behind his seal, cord, and staff. In the Ancient Near East, a person’s seal, cord, and staff would be like your credit card, your driver’s license, and the keys to your car. I mean, a guy needs these things. So he knows that if he wants them back he’s going to have to go back and pay the fee. When he goes back to pay the fee she’s nowhere to be found. And he’s got to be thinking to himself, “That little punk. What in the world?” So he’s got to cancel the credit card, go to the DMV, and get new keys made. It’s a tremendous hassle but life goes on.Well, that encounter gets Tamar pregnant. And when Judah finds out that his daughter-in-law got pregnant outside of marriage he makes a big stink about it. He gets the town together and makes this big charade about how unfaithful she is, how terrible her character is, and he calls to have her executed, but not just any old execution. He called for her to be burned to death. What? If you heard that someone was sentenced to capital punishment through lethal injection, you’d say, “Okay, that’s unfortunate but that’s what we do in these situations.” But if you heard someone was burned to death, you’d say, “Really? What? Why?” It was not different then. This seems like an overreaction. Why is Judah reacting like this?Now think carefully here. The reason is that he knew that in not giving her his son, he was sentencing a woman to social death and absolute impoverishment. He knew that what he did was totally and completely unjust. So to assuage that guilty conscience, he needed to believe bad things about her in order to justify his course of action. “She’s been poisoning the soup. She’s the reason. She influenced them in some way. She coerced and harassed them into it, or she brought it on somehow.” This is his way of silencing the voices of guilt, of justifying himself, of shielding himself. He knew his sons deserved the judgment of God and that Tamar had nothing to do with it. You see, he’s been telling himself a story all these years without any evidence whatsoever and then when he finally gets the evidence, bam, we see this over-the-top reaction, take her out, and burn her.He’s probably grinning ear to ear because now finally he has the confirmation he needed all these years. “I just knew it!” he’s saying, “Burn her. She’s a whore. I knew it all along.”So here he is, about to take a girl who had no part in the death of his sons, and he is about to torture her and kill her. He’s ready to feast his eyes on the burning body of a young girl to further the false narrative he’s created in his mind.The Dramatic PauseNow just stop right now. How dark is this? Do you see how lost Judah is? Do you see what kind of place he is in? If God allows him to go through with this, think about what the rest of his life is going to look like. He is going to have to spend the rest of his life trying to strengthen a narrative that has no evidence to support it, trying to convince himself just how wicked she was, over and over and over again, just so he can stay completely convinced that burning her at the stake was the right call. His conscience is going to try to condemn him, which means he’s going to have to continually lie to himself and lie to himself and that lying to himself will twist his heart and twist his heart until he is a twisted and broken, shelled out lost person. Do you see how Judah is just teetering on the brink of disaster?But this is a story of God’s sovereign redemption. God is redeeming all through this narrative. And he is redeeming Judah. Judah at this moment is absolutely imprisoned by selfishness. He’s imprisoned in shame. He’s imprisoned in denial. He’s imprisoned in guilt. And he’s just fueling that guilt and denial by telling himself stories. Like the coils of an anaconda, with every lie he tells himself it’s just tightening around him further and further and further.Look at the unlikely way in which Judah is saved. Now the story continues. She’s drug by her hair out into the public square to be burned. But before they light the fire she yells out in dramatic fashion, “Wait, I have a package.” And she pulls it out and sends it to her father-in-law, and there’s a message that goes along with that package. “Shouldn’t the guy who did this to me burn as well?” And he opens the package and you could imagine a note attached, “The man who impregnated me who, by law, ought to burn with me - these are his. Do you recognize these?” And there in the package is Judah’s cord and seal and staff. “Do you recognize them?”And it’s brilliant literature at this point. Not just, “Do you recognize to whom these things belong?” but “Do you recognize yourself for who you are? Do you see what you’ve become? Do recognize the hypocrisy in yourself?”Do you remember last week we talked about the salvation moment of bankruptcy? Oh, Judah was so proud. He was in charge. He was a powerful man. The fact that he even had a seal meant he was a powerful leader in his community. When he ordered Tamar to be burned, he was functioning as a community patriarch, the whole community danced to his tune.But God brought him to his knees. He humbled him. He absolutely stripped him publicly naked. He’s publicly being shamed here in a way that he will never recover from. He’s being taken out by both knees with a steel pipe. And you think this a bad thing? You are wrong. This is a gift of God. This is grace. You see, Judah was blind to his self-deception. He was so blind to his hypocrisy. He couldn’t see it which is why it has so much power over him. It was strangling him to death. He really was on his way to being lost. But God humiliated him. In God’s grace, he stripped him naked.This is what we learned last week. You cannot possibly see God without a stripping down of all self-deception like this. You cannot possibly be saved without some grace intervening from the outside to strip you down to who you really are so that you cry out and say, “I am such a sinner. I am such a hypocrite. I am so judgmental. I am the one who needs to be burned. I am no better than the people I used to despise.”It is often the awful, painful things that God will use to wake you up, to see who we really are. That is why we need the initiating grace from God, often in the form of deep trials, the Tamars and Nathans of the world who point their finger at us and say, “You are the man. You are the woman.”Now I believe it was this moment that began an incredible transformation that we see unfold in the life of Judah. Chapter 38 ends with the confession of Judah.Judah saw himself and cried out for mercy. It was that cry for mercy and the receiving of mercy that began to change him. Now we don’t see that change worked out until several chapters later.Back to JosephChapter 38 closes and chapter 39 opens and Judah disappears from the narrative and we are thrust back into the Joseph story. Here is the thirty-second reminder of what happened. We see Potiphar, the jail, the dreams of the cupbearer and baker, the two full years of prison being forgotten, the interpretation of Pharaoh’s dream, the seven years of plenty, the years of famine have begun. You have the first visit of the brothers. And last week we looked at the second visit.You will remember from last week that Joseph had invited the brothers into the house to dine with them. He was overcome with emotion when he saw Benjamin. The floodgates open and he excuses himself while he lets out great sobs. He recomposes himself. He seats them all in order. He gives Benjamin 5 times the portion of anyone else. And chapter 43 ends with them eating, drinking, and happy. Now everybody goes to bed with full stomachs a sensation they certainly were not used to and they mentally prepare for the trip home. Even though they are well-fed, their thoughts turn back home to their starving families. You know that feeling when vacation is over and you have to gear up for real life. They make plans for the following day and the long journey that awaits and they head to bed. But things do not go according to plan. Look now what happens next:Joseph is conducting another test. Now why he does this we do not know for certain. It could be that something in the conversation that night made him suspicious. It could be he wanted to be doubly sure because the first test wasn’t conclusive in his mind. But I think we can do better. Obviously, he’s setting up another test and we can deduce his intentions by looking at the test itself. Every good test is designed to provoke a particular weakness. A grade school multiplication quiz might have 100 problems and every one of them has a 12 in it, you can deduce that the teacher is testing to see if the student knows his 12s.What is Joseph testing for? Let’s think about the elements in this test. Clearly, Joseph has by now discovered that Benjamin has replaced him as the favorite son. It was the envy of that favoritism that caused his brothers to so despise him, throw him in a pit, and sell him off into Egypt. That envy was at the root of their previous murderous intent. Previously the brothers said in their hearts, “We can’t be happy till Joseph is miserable.” That’s what ENVY does to a person.Have they changed? Can they now say, “When you are happy, I am happy. When you win, I win. Can they find their joy in the exaltation of another?” And so Joseph sets up the test. Clearly, Benjamin is already highly favored by their father. “What if I pour fuel on that? What if I favor Benjamin by giving him five times the amount of everyone else, and really dote and spoil him, will that create jealousy in his brothers, the kind of jealousy which would cause them to betray Benjamin if given the right opportunity?”On their first journey, their greed was tested. Now they level up. It’s a test of greed and envy combined. So here it goes.Now Judah reenters the picture. And folks, I want you to notice the change. It’s so dramatic. If you ever hear someone say, “Man, people are basically who they are. People don’t change.” If you ever hear that, they don’t know the God of the Bible. No Christian can say that. Look at what God does with Judah. Look at this man. We can’t even recognize him. It’s incredible.Now do not get too hung up on this whole idea of a cup of divination. There’s a myriad of explanations of what’s going on here. Just let common sense put you at ease. Joseph can’t be into sorcery and be a worshiper of YHWH. Something else is going on. He’s probably trying to reinforce the image they already have of Joseph. The brothers know the Egyptian religious structure. They know Joseph is viewed as a god. Joseph is playing the part. “Don’t you know I am a god and can see all things?” He’s striking fear into their hearts according to their understanding of who they believe Joseph to be. Joseph launches the accusation. Look at Judah’s response.What is Judah doing? Judah is taking the fall. Judah is taking the blame. Judah is willing to absorb the injustice of the accusation. Now Joseph really wants to put a sharp point on the test here. He’s totally setting them up. If they have any inclination to betray their brother, if they have even the slightest temptation to sell him off for 20 shekels of silver, it’s all going to be revealed here. Joseph smiles, reassures, puts on a great show of warmth and compassion.“Oh, I would never do something so unjust as to imprison all of you!” Do you see what Joseph is doing? “Oh no. You guys are all good. You can all go. And keep the money in the sacks. I like you chaps. It’s just this Benjamin rascal. I’m throwing him in prison.”You could not engineer a situation more exactly to test if envy or greed were resident motives in the heart of the brothers. It’s genius. Joseph is doing everything he can to ferret out the heart that once betrayed for a fistful of cash. What happens next is this beautiful outpouring of Judah’s love for his father and his youngest brother. You can just see it ooze out of the text.We are on the absolute cusp of the great reveal of Joseph. In one more verse, Joseph is going to break. But that’s for next week. You are going to have to come back. I just want to stop right here and marvel at what we see in Judah. Do you see the transformation that has taken place? Judah was a lying, greedy, brother-selling, prostitute-loving, widow-burning, terrible father who had zero hope of changing. But God intervened.You can watch this transformation take place if you trace the word ‘recognize’ through the narrative. What happens is that Judah recognizes the grace of God. We as readers recognize that God is doing something in Judah and we can also recognize that God is doing something way, way beyond Judah.When we first meet Judah, he’s the one who suggested that he sell Joseph into slavery and he stripped Joseph of his coat. They put the blood of a sacrificial animal on it, and they brought it to their father, Jacob, and they said, “Father, do you recognize this?” Jacob says, “Yes. I recognize it. It’s Joseph’s coat. He’s dead! He’s dead!” In presenting that false evidence, Judah would have been lost had not God helped Judah to recognize himself.Alfreid Edersheim who’s a Jewish scholar especially knowledgeable in Jewish literature references a middle-age Jewish commentary on Genesis which says, “You deceived your father with a goat? Tamar will deceive you with a goat. You said to your father, ‘Do you recognize this?’ By your life, Tamar will say to you, ‘Do you recognize this?’”It’s a beautiful play on words. It was through deception that Judah would obscure the truth about his brother. “Father, do you recognize this?” And years later it would be through deception that Judah would see the truth about himself. “Judah do you recognize this?”Judah recognized his cord, staff, and seal. But more than that. He recognized himself for who he was. He recognized his absolute hypocrisy. He recognized his arrogance and bankruptcy. And now Judah bows before Joseph with his bald spot totally recognizing his guilt of the injustice done to Tamar. He totally recognizes his guilt in selling off his brother for a handful of silver. He recognizes that he needs to pay for his sins. But he does not yet recognize Joseph. He does not recognize that the judge before whom he is bowing is the one he has sinned against. He doesn’t yet recognize that the benevolence he receives, comes from the hand he has pierced. That recognition comes next week.But you see, this is such a beautiful picture of where this is all headed. Because we now can recognize something that Judah and Joseph and Jacob could have never, namely that this illegitimate union between Judah and Tamar would produce a son named Perez whose name means breakthrough. Perez would break through all this mess.Perez would have a son named Hezron, and he would father Ram, and Ram would father Amminadab, and Amminadab would father Nahshon, and Nahshon would father Salmon, and Salmon would father Boaz by Rahab, and Boaz the father of Obed by Ruth, and Obed the father of Jesse, and Jesse the father of David the king.And David the King would have a promise made to him that out of his loins would come the Messiah and the genealogy in Matthew 1 concludes.Nobody could have recognized this. We now recognize that this was all pointing to Christ, the ultimate Joseph. Jesus too was stripped of his coat. His blood was sacrificed and his stained robe was presented to the father, God, “Father, do you recognize this?” Yes, this is the blood of my son. This the blood of my one and only precious son. I recognize in this blood the atonement of all your sins. I recognize the debt has been paid. I recognize perfect innocence sacrificed.The sacrifice is complete. The payment satisfied the debt. And like Judah who absorbed and volunteered to absorb the penalty in himself, like Judah who offered himself as a substitute, Jesus too would offer himself as a substitute for us on the cross. He took our place, bore in his body our sins, and shed his blood for us. And God the father recognizes this sacrifice for us. It counts. The debt has been paid. Folks is this not a marvelous story? Is this not just glorious? Let’s sing!Who alone can save themselves?Their own souls could heal? The answer is nobody. Our shame was deeper than the sea. That’s where Judah found himself. Totally broken. Totally at the bottom. He reached that salvation moment of bankruptcy and then the gospel: Your grace is deeper still.

We gaan even terug in de tijd, want deze aflevering werd al op woensdag 12 augustus opgenomen. Tamar en Sophie vertellen over Tamars rare lijf dat steeds maar vals alarm lijkt te geven, het tweede gesprek met de doula, borsten, oppassen op een oefenbaby en het derde trimester dat eraan zit te komen.........Steun Tamar en Sophie op Patreon vanaf 1 dollar per maand: ga naar www.Patreon.com/MensjeInDeMaak. Hier vind je ook extra foto's en filmpjes die we niet op onze social media accounts delen!Heb jij een vraag voor Tamar en Sophie over hun ervaringen met ivf of zwangerschap? Vraag je je af hoe Tamar en Sophie een actuele kwestie op het gebied van ouderschap, fertiliteit, feminisme, transgender en/of handicap zouden duiden? Of wil je graag een eigen ervaring delen? Stuur dan je vraag (als tekst of als spraakbericht) op via TamarEnSophie at gmail.com of via social media.Volg Mensje in de Maak op Instagram, Twitter en Facebook of check de website: www.MensjeInDeMaak.nl.

Tens of thousands of Canadians are out of pocket after their flights were cancelled because of COVID-19. But, passenger rights advocate, Gabor Lukacs, says it is actually illegal. Air Canada, and WestJet are giving vouchers rather than refunds to passengers who bought non-refundable tickets. Libby Znaimer reached Dr. Lukacs in Halifax. AND The violations cited in this week's explosive military report on the conditions in our Long-term care homes are horrific, but not a surprise to anyone who has followed the system over the long term. How did we get here and how do we reform it? Libby talked to Dr. Tamara Daly, Professor and Director, York University Centre for Aging Research and Education.

Deze aflevering namen Tamar en Sophie op op de dag van de terugplaatsing! Ze vertellen over een bijna lege snelweg naar Gent, kerkmuziek in het ziekenhuis, hoe ongemakkelijk het is om voor je eigen arts uit de kleren te gaan, en natuurlijk over het embryo dat al uit de schil aan het kruipen was. Ook kletsen ze over Seven of Nine in de nieuwe Startrek serie Picard en Tamars eerste fanfic. Het dreigende Coronavirus wordt alvast even benoemd, maar verder dan het niet schudden van handen gingen de maatregelen op dat moment nog niet...----Steun Tamar en Sophie op Patreon vanaf 1 dollar per maand: ga naar www.Patreon.com/MensjeInDeMaak. Hier vind je ook extra foto's en filmpjes die we niet op onze social media accounts delen!Afleveringen in deze podcast komen ongeveer vier weken na opname online, zodat Tamar en Sophie de tijd hebben om gebeurtenissen te verwerken voordat de rest van de wereld zich ermee kan bemoeien. Deze aflevering werd opgenomen op 1 maart 2020.Heb jij een vraag voor Tamar en Sophie over hun ervaringen met ivf? Vraag je je af hoe Tamar en Sophie een actuele kwestie op het gebied van ouderschap, fertiliteit, feminisme, transgender en/of handicap zouden duiden? Of wil je graag een eigen ervaring delen? Stuur dan je vraag (als tekst of als voicememo) op via tamarensophie at gmail.com of via social media.Volg Mensje in de Maak op Instagram, Twitter en Facebook of check de website: www.MensjeInDeMaak.nl.

Daar zijn we weer! Na een winterstop gaan we vanaf nu weer elke 1 a 2 weken aan aflevering online zetten. We gaan weer door waar we jullie achterlieten, en dat is in dit geval dus niet vier, maar meer dan zes weken geleden: op 30 november 2019. Je treft ons dan middenin de voorbereidingen voor de terugplaatsing van het eerste ingevroren embryo uit poging drie. Zo wachten we eerst Tamars menstruatie af en gaan we iets meer dan een week daarna naar het plaatselijke ziekenhuis om te checken of haar baarmoederslijmvlies al bijna klaar is voor de eisprong. Verder kopen we een kunstkerstboom, zijn we even verdrietig omdat het wéér een kerst zonder kindje wordt, stresst Tamar over wat ze allemaal zou moeten doen voor een goed baarmoederslijmvlies en leest ze een Instagrampost voor over zwanger worden met een handicap.Besproken in deze aflevering:Die instagrampost dus Uitleg over validisme en geïnternaliseerd validisme

Deze week in De Rudi & Freddie Show: Tamar Stelling vertelt over het plasticprobleem, het neuston en oplossingen die meer problemen opleveren dan ze oplossen. En: de reactie van The Ocean Cleanup op Tamars verhaal over het gevaar van hun plasticvanger voor het zeeleven. En ja, er kan nog steeds gestemd worden in de epische Rudi vs. Freddie strijd. Dat kan via twee links: één voor Rudi (www.decorrespondent.nl/podcastrutger), en één voor Freddie (www.decorrespondent.nl/podcastjesse) We hebben ook een inbelmogelijkheid gekregen. Via deze link wa.me/31644891614 kun je een voicememo achterlaten. WhatsApp opent vanzelf, via het microfoontje rechts onderin kan je een bericht inspreken. Zeg duidelijk je voor- en achternaam en dat je reageert op De Rudi & Freddie Show. Je voicememo zal alleen worden gebruikt in volgende afleveringen van deze podcast van De Correspondent. Heb je vragen of opmerkingen, mail dan naar post@decorrespondent.nl

Deze week in De Rudi & Freddie Show: Tamar Stelling vertelt over het plasticprobleem, het neuston en oplossingen die meer problemen opleveren dan ze oplossen. En: de reactie van The Ocean Cleanup op Tamars verhaal over het gevaar van hun plasticvanger voor het zeeleven. Dit is het moment om te stemmen. Lid worden van de Correspondent, dat kan via twee links één voor Rudi (www.decorrespondent.nl/podcastrutger), en één voor Freddie (www.decorrespondent.nl/podcastjesse) We hebben ook een mogelijkheid gekregen om een gesproken berichtje bij ons achter te laten. Via deze link wa.me/31644891614 kun je een voicememo inspreken. WhatsApp opent vanzelf, via het microfoontje rechts onderin kan je een bericht inspreken. Zeg duidelijk je voor- en achternaam en dat je reageert op De Rudi & Freddie Show. Je voicememo zal alleen worden gebruikt in volgende afleveringen van deze podcast van De Correspondent. Heb je vragen of opmerkingen, mail dan naar post@decorrespondent.nl

Het is eindelijk zover: de eerste aflevering van seizoen twee! Ziek. De podcast gaat namelijk veranderen. Geen diepte-interviews en bijbehorend uitputtend montagewerk meer, maar een spetterende audio-talkshow met een nieuwe co-host: Eline Pollaert.In deze eerste aflevering van het tweede seizoen stelt nieuwe co-host Eline Pollaert zich voor. Eline en Tamar interviewen elkaar over hun handicaps, idealen voor de wereld, plannen voor de podcast en lievelingskleur.Nog even wat huishoudelijke mededelingen. Ten eerste: de microfoon waar Eline in deze aflevering in sprak bleek niet zo prettig in het gehoor te liggen: je hoort ‘m vooral vanuit je rechteroor. Volgende aflevering gebruiken we een andere microfoon. Ten tweede namen we deze aflevering afgelopen juni al op, om samen alvast uit te testen hoe het zou zijn om met z’n tweeën een podcast te maken. Bepaalde informatie die we delen (zoals over Tamars rolstoel) is daarom enigszins verouderd.Genoemd in deze podcast:De podcasts Fufu & Dadels, Dipsaus, Olave Talks, 99% Invisible, The Longest Shortest Time & In Sickness + In HealthDe boeken “Freshwater” van Akwaeke Emezi en “Homegoing” van Yaa GyasiEline en Tamar investeren niet alleen tijd en energie in deze podcast, maar ook geld. Wil je ons daar een handje bij helpen? Check dan Patreon.com/ZiekdePodcast.Bekijk het transcript van deze aflevering op www.ziekdepodcast.nl.

In deel één van deze miniserie vertelden we dat ons eerste ICSI-ziekenhuis ons voor 'groen licht' langs een maatschappelijk werker wilde sturen vanwege Sophie's trans-zijn en Tamars handicap. In deze aflevering vertellen we wat we eraan deden, en of dat wel of niet succes had.Meer informatie:De uitspraak van het College voor de Rechten van de MensStandpunt NVOG: ‘Geassisteerde voortplanting met gedoneerde gameten en gedoneerde embryo’s en draagmoederschap’. Zie pagina 58 voor het hoofdstuk over transgender wensouders.Document van de NVOG over mogelijke bezwaren bij gehandicapte en/of chronisch zieke ouders: 'Mogelijke morele contra-indicaties bij vruchtbaarheidsbehandelingen'. Zie pagina 6.Het VN-verdrag inzake de rechten van personen met een handicap (mocht iemand willen checken of er mogelijk ook op grond van handicap is gediscrimineerd)

We zijn twee weken verder, Pasen is net voorbij, maar Tamar broedt nog op haar ei. Sophie en Tamar zijn namelijk begonnen aan de cyclus waarin er een diepvries-embryo zal worden teruggeplaatst. Tamar moet elke paar dagen een echo laten maken om te kijken of haar baarmoederslijmvlies al dik genoeg is, en het ei groot genoeg. En al dat heen en weer gereis naar het ziekenhuis levert veel rolstoel- en regiotaxigedoe op. Verder praten we over hoe het is om andere kinderen geboren te zien worden en of dat wel of niet confronterend is, vertelt Tamar dat ze in acupunctuur is gaan geloven maar dat het ook gewoon een fijne copingstrategie is, en gaat Sophie vijf minuten lang op zoek naar een papier dat Tamar is kwijtgeraakt (ondertussen, vijf weken later, hebben we hem eindelijk gevonden). We vertellen hoe ze in het ziekenhuis omgaan met Sophie’s transheid en Tamars handicap. En we beantwoorden twee vragen van luisteraars over genderautonoom opvoeden.Verder:De Meemama’s Matt & Doree’s Eggcellent Adventure Genderautonome boekentips: What Makes A Baby en Sex Is A Funny Word, allebei van Cory Silverberg En de documentaire Man Made van Sunny Bergman

Tamar en Sophie introduceren zichzelf en deze podcast. Ze vertellen dat ze als trans-cis lesbisch stel mogelijk een kindje kunnen krijgen dat genetisch van hen allebei is, hoe ze besloten dat Tamars chronische ziekte hun kinderwens niet in de weg hoeft te staan, en waar in het ivf-proces ze op dit moment zitten.Over een fertiliteitsarts die tussen je benen zit terwijl de eicellen al aan het springen zijn en waarom het belangrijk is om 'het te laten hangen'.Bear with us, het duurt even voordat we vertellen waar de podcast over gaat, maar we komen er wel en dan wordt het interessant!PS Deze podcast publiceren we met vier a vijf weken vertraging, dus we liepen een beetje achter op het nieuws. Ondertussen weten we natuurlijk dat KID bij lesbische stellen wél vergoed blijft.PPS We zijn dol op post! Stuur ons een mail - tamarensophie at gmail.com - of spreek via Instagram een voice message in. Deze lezen en beluisteren we al in aflevering 2! Niet met vier of vijf weken vertraging dus, ook al zeiden we dat in de aflevering zelf wel.

In deze bonusaflevering praat ik verder met Anne. Ze vertelt over de onzichtbaarheid van haar autisme en wat daar lastig aan is, en legt uit hoe je een 'toegankelijke vriend' (Tamars woorden) kunt zijn voor iemand met autisme. We praten over de lusten en lasten van het zzp'erschap en over social media als poort naar de buitenwereld. En Anne vertelt dat mensen niet alleen ongeloof uiten als ze vertelt dat ze autistisch is en migraine heeft, maar óók nog eens niet willen geloven dat ze toch echt lesbisch is.Mededelingen:- Op zaterdagmiddag 18 mei zit Tamar in een panel over intersectioneel feminisme. Het zou leuk zijn als er zieke feministen in het publiek zitten! Let op: het is de bedoeling dat je vooraf een kaartje koopt. Meer info over het event vind je op de facebookpagina.- Sponsor ons op Patreon! www.patreon.com/ziekdepodcast- Zin om af en toe een stukje aflevering uit te typen? Meld je aan voor het typteam.

2 Samuel 13 is the catalyst for a series of events that dominate the rest of this book. Davids oldest son Amnon falls in love with his half sister Tamar and tries to force her to do the same. Tamars brother Absolom ends up killing Amnon... in the coming chapters we continue to see things unravel to the point of Absolom taking the throne from his father David. It gets crazy, it starts in chapter 13!

Amnon and Tamar are one of those stories that you may rather skip over. 2 Samuel 13 describes the event which brought immense pain and irreputable damage, into innocent Tamars life. Sin not only separates us from God but also inspires abuse towards others who have beautifully been made in Gods Image. As devastating as this is, as those who belong to Christ we must allow our pain to point us to a God who wipes our pain away. In our disappointment's we are pointed to The One who will never disappoint us. Our God is the one who restores the dignity within us which sin seeks to strip away.

Can you believe it’s 2018 already? Well let’s start this new season off with fresh, unreleased music and some exciting news for Tamars’ listeners. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tamartalks/support

It's our final episode in the Be Redeemed series, and we hope you have loved getting to know some women of the Bible as much as we have! This week, we're doing a group deep dive, where we get a chance to be more transparent and open about where we struggle, and how Rahab, Sarah and the Tamars have inspired us. It's a fun wrap-up to yet another of our favorite series! For more resources, make sure to visit www.bestillbefree.com. You can also find us at www.facebook.com/bestillbefree, www.twitter.com/bestillbefree. And if you want a close-knit community of friends to share, encourage and walk through life with, be sure to join our private Facebook group, at www.facebook.com/groups/betogethercommunity!

Today we are kicking off a new series called Be Redeemed. While diving into the lives of Sarah, Rahab and the three Tamars, we will discover just how God uses the ordinary and the sinful to do extraordinary things. These women were wives, mothers, daughters, business owners, risk takers, influencers and ultimately followers of God. But each of them carried with them the need for redemption. Listen in as Monica, Amber and Sara share why they choose these women to study and how they relate to their stories. And then prepare to hear about beautiful stories of redemption by God over the next several weeks. For more resources, make sure to visit www.bestillbefree.com. You can also find us at www.facebook.com/bestillbefree, www.twitter.com/bestillbefree. And if you want a close-knit community of friends to share, encourage and walk through life with, be sure to join our private Facebook group, at www.facebook.com/groups/betogethercommunity!