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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coaches, podcast hosts, and longtime partners Jason and Tina Marie Scott. We explore what it really takes to keep love alive beyond the honeymoon stage—and how a thriving relationship is built not on perfection, but on presence, communication, and intentional care. During this conversation, Jason and Tina Marie discuss the foundation of friendship in their 33-year marriage, how they've redefined traditional roles in their partnership, and why self-awareness is key to lasting intimacy. Along the way, they share their own story—from a bumpy first meeting to creating a life of love, laughter, and growth together. They also introduce their Manifest Method, a practical framework couples can use to strengthen communication, deepen emotional connection, and bring intention into everyday interactions. With tools like their 20 Emotional Intimacy Questions, they offer a clear path for couples to reconnect and evolve—together. This episode is packed with heart, humor, and wisdom—and a reminder that great relationships don't just happen. They're created, moment by moment, with care. Connect with Jason and Tina Marie Scott Website https://legendaryrelationship.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legendaryrelationship/ Connect with Deborah Questions and Answers Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Dominatrix and kink educator Miss. Em, who brings over 20 years of experience in the world of BDSM, fetishes, and power dynamics. Hear about how her early curiosity around taboo desires became a calling—and how she uses passion, presence, and emotional intelligence to create safe, transformative experiences. During this conversation, Miss. Em shares her insights on everything from the origins of fetish and submission to the importance of aftercare and the art of psychological play. We explore how kink isn't always about sex—and how rituals, scent, and memory can create deep arousal and connection. Along the way, we talk about what it means to be an ethical Dominant, the surprising challenges of online BDSM, and why honest communication is at the center of any powerful erotic exchange. This episode invites you to drop the shame, get curious, and expand your understanding of intimacy—through the lens of kink, consent, and deep trust. Connect with Miss Em Website - https://www.sultrymissem.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sultrymissem/ Connect with Deborah Questions and Answers Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sexologist and Educator Dr. Evelin Molina Dacker about the power of open conversations around sexual health at every stage of life. She gets real about her own journey—breaking free from societal expectations and redefining what pleasure looks like, especially through menopause. During this conversation, Dr. Eveline shares her simple but powerful STARS framework to help guide open and shame-free discussions around intimacy. We discuss how this tool can help anyone—whether single or partnered—navigate important conversations about sex with ease and confidence. Along the way, we dive into the emotional and physical changes that come with aging, the surprising joys of this new chapter, and how shifting cultural attitudes are making space for deeper, more honest conversations about desire. We chat about how embracing these changes can lead to greater intimacy and confidence rather than fear or uncertainty. This episode is a reminder that talking about sex shouldn't be awkward—it should be empowering. You'll walk away with fresh insights on how to communicate your desires, navigate changes with confidence, and embrace pleasure at any stage of life Connect with Dr Ducker Website - MakeTimeForTheTalk.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexmeddoc/ Connect with Deborah Questions and Answers Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist and intimacy expert Dr. Toni Baer. We dive into sexual identity, fantasies, and the power of secrets in relationships. Dr. Toni shares how her personal journey—from high school teacher to sexologist—was shaped by a deeply personal family tragedy that ignited her passion for helping others embrace their desires and navigate sexual identity. Along the way, we explore common sexual fantasies, why some are better left unspoken, and how privacy and consent shape intimate conversations. Dr. Toni also reveals how secrets can create stress in relationships offering guidance on how to balance openness with discretion. From cultural perspectives on sexuality to vetting within kink and polyamorous communities, this conversation sheds light on how our different backgrounds can shape different desires. Dr. Toni also teases her upcoming TV show, The Voyage of Desire, offering a global look at human passion. Listen in to discover how understanding your fantasies—and the role of secrets in your life—can lead to deeper intimacy and greater self-acceptance. Tune in wherever you listen to podcasts, and don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review! Connect with Dr Toni Website - https://www.tonibearedd.com/ Free Gift: Aphrodite's Love Secrets https://www.tonibearedd.com/opt-in Annual ReAwakening Women's Retreat in Costa Rica. https://www.tonibearedd.com/retreats Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Questions and Answers Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat
In this episode, Jason and Tina Marie welcome Deborah Kat, a seasoned expert in enhancing intimacy and connection in relationships. With over 20 years of experience, Deborah shares her insights on how to cultivate a satisfying sex life and deepen emotional connections.Key Topics Discussed:- The importance of good sex in relationships and its impact on overall happiness.- The M.A.N.I.F.E.S.T Method framework for developing meaningful relationships, - The role of personal practices in maintaining intimacy and connection.- Understanding different sexual blueprints and how they affect partners' needs and desires.- Practical tips for enhancing communication about sexual needs and preferences.Actionable Takeaways:- Start with self-awareness and personal practices to enhance intimacy.- Engage in open conversations with your partner about desires and boundaries.- Experiment with different approaches to intimacy to discover what works best for both partners.- Recognize the importance of approval and attention in enhancing sexual experiences.Resources Mentioned:- Deborah's upcoming "Relationship Mastery" class starting March 10th.- The Better Sex Podcast and the annual Better Sex Summit.-Deborah Kat Website https://www.deborahkat.com/**Connect with Us:**- Follow us on Instagram and Facebook: @LegendaryRelationship- Visit our website: legendaryrelationship.com- Subscribe and leave a review on iTunes.**Closing Thoughts:**Remember, the quality of our relationships significantly impacts the quality of our lives. Make every day count in your relationship journey!Send us a text
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with international Sex and Intimacy Educator and Relationship Coach, Ken Blackman. In this conversation, we dive deep into the nuance of jealousy and how it appears in relationships, exploring the different types of jealousy that can uniquely affect intimate connections. We also touch upon the transformative power of identifying different relationship motivations and how understanding these can shift things from transactional interactions to passionate partnerships. Along the way, Ken shares his inspiring story from being an Apple software engineer to his current mission of helping couples co-create thriving and fulfilling relationships. Ken gives us some valuable insights and practical tools to enhance sexual satisfaction through somatic pleasure and bridge the ‘orgasm gap' – the disparity in orgasm between partners. Listen to this powerful episode and learn how to identify your own jealousy patterns to foster a more relaxed, fulfilling approach to intimacy. Connect with Ken Website - https://kenblackman.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/KenBlackmanPersonal Free Gift: "JEALOUSY—Everything You Need to Know" https://tally.so/r/3jPrEY Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Certified Bondassage Trainer, Entrepreneur & Coach, Coco Williams who dives deep with us into the power of feminine energy, the art of flirting, and the journey of personal growth and healing. We talk about how subtle shifts in communication can significantly affect our interactions and relationships and the ways flirting can elevate your mood and energy while also exploring the nuances of flirting across different cultures and the cultural fears around it. Along the way, Coco opens up about her healing journey, including therapy, coaching, and self-reflection techniques all leading her to finding joy in femininity and the empowering aspects of sex work. Coco shares her unique coaching techniques and personal experiences, including stories about the powerful role of maintaining a high vibration to manifest your desires. Learn about the importance of human interaction and flirtation beyond the bedroom, and how embodying specific fantasies in marketing has brought Coco both joy and financial success. You won't want to miss Coco's powerful insights and tools to manifest your desires in this fun conversation! Connect with Coco Website - TheHeauxprenuer.com Twitter - https://x.com/theheauxprenuer Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theheauxprenuer/ Pinterest - SoWellMsBehaved Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sex Educator, Somatic Sex Therapist and Female Ejaculation Expert, Tallulah Sulis about empowering female sexuality, fostering better communication, and enhancing intimacy in relationships. As we talk, Tallulah shares a bit of her journey into somatic coaching as she learned the deep importance of nervous system regulation and discovered the concept of core erotic desires to deepen connection. Along the way, we chat about the value of slow seduction, the dynamics of initiating and responding partners, and how open, reciprocal communication can transform sexual experiences. This episode is absolutely packed with practical tools like "special attention dates" and "erotic mapping," giving you some very actionable steps to reduce pressure, explore desires, and cultivate a more fulfilling intimate life. Connect with Tallulah TherapyInBed.com Free Gift TherapyInBed.com *offering free 15 min phone consult Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise. During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being. Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also explore essential topics like overcoming sexual anxiety, fostering deeper, more authentic relationships, and navigating the challenges of our tech-driven world. Packed with wisdom and insight, this episode gives you some practical takeaways, including powerful exercises like "sensate focus" to reconnect with your body and mindfulness techniques to nurture more fulfilling, joyful connections in your life. Connect with Dr. Nan Author: Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding The Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life Website: https://askdoctornan.com Instatgram @AskDoctorNan Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration. Annie's extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to our experiences of autonomy and intimacy. Along the way, we explore her insights on dealing with societal norms like monogamy, and the importance of consent and authentic communication while healing relationships. We also discuss the pervasive impacts of shame and information overload, and how to navigate modern challenges in our relationships. Throughout the conversation, Annie offers us actionable steps to enhance connection and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Connect with Annie https://lovagesomatics.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewildingintimacy/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@wellnessgeneralist1318 Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Author & Polyamory Educator Kevin Patterson exploring the world of non-monogamy. During this conversation, we delve into the nuances of polyamory, debunking stereotypes, and discussing the importance of clear communication and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Kevin's personal experiences, from navigating long-term relationships to balancing family and social dynamics, offer valuable insights for anyone exploring life outside the bounds of monogamy. We also get into the challenges of balancing multiple relationship dynamics, maintaining personal interests, self-care and parenthood. Kevin speaks to race and representation in the polyamorous community, emphasizing that acknowledging racial differences can enrich our understanding of one another. Kevin's thoughtful approach to identity, power dynamics, and personal customization of relationships promises to be both enlightening and transformative. Whether you are polyamory-curious or poly-experienced, this conversation is rich with valuable tips and perspectives to nurture healthy polyamorous relationships and foster more inclusive communities. Connect with Kevin https://www.kevinapatterson.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels Get the Books https://www.kevinapatterson.com/books Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with BDSM educator and creator of Dom Sub Living, Alesandra Madison. We delve into the dynamic world of Dom/Sub relationships, exploring how BDSM can be both healing and beneficial for partnership. Alesandra shares a bit of her journey into BDSM as a lifestyle, giving us some invaluable insights into the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and regular check-ins in maintaining healthy relationships. We talk about different styles of BDSM partnership, safety, finding partners, kink in modern culture and how to get started with BDSM. We also discuss the challenges of balancing a BDSM lifestyle with everyday responsibilities like family and finance. Alesandra tells about the importance of self-care rituals to stay aligned with one's role and gives us a glimpse into some of her personal practices. This conversation is chock full of tips and tidbits from talking to the kids about what they might discover to finding a BDSM partner and everything in between. Plus, Alesandra gives us a ton of resources from her free library on DomsubLiving.com, and gives us a sneak hint at her upcoming four-day challenge. Don't miss this enlightening conversation filled with practical advice and heartfelt stories to help you navigate your BDSM journey. Connect with Alesandra https://www.instagram.com/domsubliving/ Free Resource Library Domsubliving.com/free Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Pamela Madsen, a true pioneer in women's sexual wellness and founder of the "Back to the Body Method." We dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence, self-love, and how women can reclaim their erotic energy for more than just sexual expression—as a vital force in all areas of life. Along the way, Pamela shares her journey, from her roots in the Bronx to creating immersive retreats in Joshua Tree that help women explore their bodies in safe, empowering environments. We talk about the holistic view of sexuality, where self-care, emotional wellness, and sexual health are all interconnected. Pamela tells us about her commitment to helping women embrace their full sexual selves. During this conversation, we explore the importance of sovereignty of all kinds and how reclaiming control over our lives begins with understanding and accepting our own sexuality. Join us for this candid conversation about how embracing erotic energy can lead to personal growth, confidence, and fulfillment. Connect with Pamela https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/ https://www.facebook.com/pamelalmadsen/ Learn about Back to the Body Retreats https://backtothebody.org/events?by=retreats Join the Newsletter https://back-to-the-body.mykajabi.com/newsletter Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborahhttps://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with acupuncturist, theta healer, and sex relationship coach Alexis Ware, for a deep dive into voicing our desires. We explore the fascinating connection between the throat and the clitoris, and how speaking our truth is vital for intimacy and connection in relationships. Along the way, Alexis shares powerful insights on the importance of feeling safe to express our needs and the role open communication plays in fulfilling sexual and emotional connections. As we chat, Alexis reveals her transformative journey through orgasmic meditation, and emphasizes the significance of reclaiming our inherent power and creative potential as women. Together, we dig into the layers of societal conditioning that hold us back, and discuss practical techniques to reclaim our voice, power, and pleasure including a special heart meditation teaching. This episode is packed with wisdom and laughter, as well as actionable steps you can take to unveil your voice and elevate your sex life. Connect with Alexis https://www.instagram.com/alexislaurenware https://www.facebook.com/alexislaurenware for Free Heart meditation sign up for newsletter https://sovereign-university.com/ Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborahhttps://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
Is there such a thing as ‘ethical porn'? In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex Therapist Dr. Tom Murray to explore this question as well as pornography trends, erotophobia and different control dynamics as they play out within relationships . Along the way, hear more of Dr. Tom's story of becoming a sex therapist including time spent with pornography distribution giving him an insider's view to the industry. Besides exploring the relationship between societal norms, expectations, fantasies and desires, we take a deep dive into control dynamics, namely over-controlling, in relationships, a topic he writes about in his book, “Making Nice with Naughty: An Intimacy Guide.” Dr. Murray gives some ways to bring more playfulness into the bedroom to deepen intimacy and of course, have better sex. Connect with Dr Tom The Book Making Nice with Naughty https://drtommurray.com/books/ apathtowellness.com Making Nice with Naughty Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC78viRgDA05daSGFVD4QoPg Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Licensed Social Worker and Sexual Freedom Advocate, Mandy Salley of the Woodhall Freedom Foundation. In this conversation, we chat about some of the limitations of sexual freedom in the United States, touching on laws against activities like cunnilingus or interracial sex and how outdated these laws have become. We delve into the Comstock Act and its lingering effects on mailing erotic materials and contraception information. Along the way, Mandy shares insights into effective laws that protect sex workers, such as the "Stop Violence in the Sex Trades Act" in New York. Her passion for social justice and sexual freedom is evident as she encourages listeners to engage in open conversations and remain hopeful for change. And of course, Mandy invites us to connect with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation for resources and support in advocating for sexual rights in your area and community Connect with Mandy https://www.woodhullfoundation.org https://www.instagram.com/woodhullfreedom/ https://www.instagram.com/_mandy.salley/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist, author, and sexual strategist Marla Renee Stewart who shares her extensive experience studying human sexuality and running workshops worldwide through her sexuality education company, Velvet Lips and as co-founder of the groundbreaking Sex Down South Conference. Marla shares her own journey, including her move from California to the South, and how it shaped her mission to create spaces for marginalized communities to explore sexual liberation and within the kink world. She also talks about what she's seen in the evolving landscape of sex and relationship from desire discrepancy to the increasing interest in non-monogamy and kink. Along the way, we get into the importance of seduction for a more satisfying sex life and Marla shares her hot tips on how to seductively spice things up while also challenging the common fantasy around spontaneous sex. Connect with Marla Sex Education https://www.instagram.com/1marlastewart https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/ Sex Down South https://www.instagram.com/sdscon/ https://www.sexdownsouth.com/ Sexcessful Business Coaching Free Gift https://velvetlips.ck.page/5solutions Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a Bedroom Breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/023cee22/appointment/1540942/calendar/302593?appointmentTypeIds[]=1540942 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Hypnotherapist, Subconscious Reprogramming Expert and Relationship Coach, Kate Shelor who takes us into the complexities behind the differences between how men and women perceive and communicate love and intimacy. Kate shares some of her personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome her personal challenges with orgasms. This led her to develop her own work bringing hypnotherapy into the realm of sex, body trauma, orgasms, and erections. Along the way we chat about the power of ‘scheduling' intimacy, the unrealistic expectations created by the media, the differences between men and women's communication style, and the power of hypnotherapy to assist with orgasm. Kate also gives us a therapeutic technique to help with resolving deep-seated emotional wounds as well as some practical advice to set up an environment for sexual play. This comprehensive conversation brings to consciousness the unconscious programming that can get in the way of a healthy sex life. Not only that, Kate brings us into this exploration through a conversation that takes the shame out of sexual communication. Connect with Kate https://www.instagram.com/kateshelor/ https://www.youtube.com/c/KateShelor https://twitter.com/coachkatykaT https://www.facebook.com/OfficialKateShelor/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Spiritual Teacher, Adam Chacksfield who takes us on a journey through spiritual healing and transformation of Erotic Shadows through his unique work combining non-duality and somatic practices. Adam discusses how shadow work can empower individuals to embrace their desires, set boundaries, and break free from shame stories, particularly with our erotic turn-ons and fantasies. Along the way, we hear about Adam's journey through inner transformation, exploration of the relationship between eroticism and spirituality, and development of his method for healing shadow. Adam's insights on embracing and exploring shadow aspects as a path to empowerment and connection make for a deep and intriguing discussion on embracing the full spectrum of human experience in sex and relationships. Connect with Adam http://www.adamchacksfield.com/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Learn Relationsh Skills in the Relationship Lab https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab FB https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Insta https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with certified Tantra educator and level two teacher trainer, Lisa Rizzoli. Lisa shares profound insights into the integration of sexual energy with life force energy, and how it can be harnessed to manifest the life we desire. We delve into her journey into Tantra, starting at a transformative retreat at Esalen, and how her experiences shaped her current practices. Lisa introduces a daily meditation practice called "loving myself awake," and discusses how it brings more sensation and awareness into the body. We also explore the spiritual and creative power of sexual energy, as well as techniques like the Yoni egg practice and the "seven-layer transformation" method. Lisa's candid narrative about trusting intuition, overcoming resistance, and transforming trauma offers listeners an enriching perspective on deepening intimacy and enhancing relationships. Connect with Lisa Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/167559486670086 complimentary audio www.letstalktantra.com Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Intimacy Expert to millions and best-selling Author Susan Bratton who brings her personal stories of receiving adoration to our discussion of expanding the definition of orgasm. During this fun and insightful conversation, we delve into the importance of knowledge, vulnerability, and meticulous scheduling to navigate different kinds of complex relationships while touching on the significance of adoration as a fundamental human desire that society often suppresses. Susan sheds light on the benefits of oxytocin, the need for more time and stimulation to achieve arousal and the essential role of foreplay. We discuss various techniques to make intercourse orgasmic for women and Susan shares some of her expanded orgasm practices to enhance intimate experiences. Along the way we discuss how to hold sexual energy, setting personal boundaries, and the significance of ongoing sexual education. Join us for this enlightening conversation that challenges traditional views and empowers listeners to prioritize their own desires and pleasure. Connect with Susan “Intimacy Expert To Millions SusanBratton.com BetterLover.com CEO of: Personal Life Media, Inc. http://personallifemedia.com The20, LLC. https://the20store.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/ https://www.youtube.com/c/betterlover https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with CEO of Firmtech, Dr. Elliot Justin. Dr. Justin brings his extensive knowledge in medical technology and personal experience to share his innovations towards improved male sexual health and performance. Beyond the technology available, we talk about the importance of non-rushed, pleasurable sexual experiences, prioritizing regular lovemaking and how planning intimate moments can help maintain the romantic connection between partners. Diving into the science of pleasure a bit, Dr. Justin shares the benefits of regular sexual activity for maintaining penile and overall health, highlighting the role it plays in hormone regulation and relationship satisfaction. Along the way, we delve into the technology behind Firmtech's products, exploring the benefits of using firm rings to enhance erections, prolong duration, and ultimately increase satisfaction with your sex life. Dr. Justin also highlights the emerging tech for women's sexual health and gives us some practical tips and cutting-edge tools for enhancing your sexual wellness and relationship vitality. Connect with Dr Justin Insta https://www.instagram.com/myfirmtech/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC46J3ibyYyQNPBr5T58DpFg Website https://myfirmtech.com/ Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah Sexual Mastery Breakthrough Session Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox Stay Connected Pillow Talk Newsletter Practice and experimentation The Relationship Lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sexual Fantasy Expert, Artemisia de Vine. Artemisia shares her personal story from her restrictive upbringing through her discovery of sexual fantasies and expanded consciousness to becoming a professional dominatrix. During this conversation, we dive into the exploration of desires rather than suppression of them in forming a healthy relationship with desire for sexual play. Atemisia brings a wealth of training and expertise in creating emotional and psychological safety during sexual play, offering listeners a unique exercise to explore sexual preferences. With insights from her upcoming book "The Spirituality of Smut: The Surprising Wisdom of Sexual Fantasies," Artemisia enlightens us on the transformative power of erotic imagination. Join us as we navigate the journey of embracing our deepest desires for a more satisfying and spiritually connected sex life through fantasy. Connect with Artemisa Free Gift myfantasyis.com Work with Artemisa artemisiadevine.com Learn the Celeb Swoon technique: Find powerful clues about your unique sexual psychology by taking a closer look at your fav swoon-worthy celebs at MyFantasyIs.com Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with DeborahSexual Mastery Breakthrough Session Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox Stay Connected Pillow Talk Newsletter Practice and experimentation The Relationship Lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sensuality and Love Coach Maya Kova. Maya's journey began as young woman fascinated by love, propelling her on a path to conquer her own relationship anxiety. Her journey and expertise offer a treasure trove of enlightenment that has the potential to revolutionize your experience with love and desire. With her partner, Maya has navigated the challenges of anxiety and attachment, crafting a grounded and secure co-creative partnership built upon self regulation of your nervous system. Now, Maya draws on these personal experiences along with her professional expertise to share how understanding and harnessing our desires can lead to empowered relationships and a fulfilling sex life. Her story is a testament to the power of self-awareness and growth. Along the way, we delve into the role of the Love Goddess archetype, the nuances of conscious loving, embodying feminine energy without passivity and the significance of polarity in deepening connections. Throughout our talk, Maya provides valuable guidance for understanding the intimate language of our sensations, leading to a more connected and conscious way of loving. Free Gift https://consciouslytransform.com/breathwork-anxious YouTube @Maya-Kova Instagram @maya.kova_lovecoach Facebook Consciously-Transform Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with DeborahSexual Mastery Breakthrough Session Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox Stay Connected Pillow Talk Newsletter Practice and experimentation The Relationship Lab
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pioneering erotic bodywork educator Joseph Kramer, PhD. Joseph shares his transformative journey from academia to becoming a leading teacher of erotic massage and sexual embodiment. In this conversation, we delve into how pornography– which is often seen as ‘bad'-- can be used as a tool to learn the art of touch in your relationship. Along the way, we chat about methods for increased body awareness during self-pleasure, how to enhance erotic experience through breath and presence, and the value of experiencing all kinds of touch… even beyond the erotic. Joseph and I also discuss the legal recognition of sexological bodywork and its significance in innovative sex education, especially in light of health crises. This conversation dives deep into the power of getting to know your own body and desire to enhance pleasure with some useful tools to facilitate this exploration. Connect with Joseph www.sexologicalbodywork.com/links EroticMassage.com OrgasmicYoga.com https://www.facebook.com/joseph.kramer.10/ Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with DeborahSexual Mastery Breakthrough Session Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox Stay Connected Pillow Talk Newsletter Practice and experimentation Better Sex Membership
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Tantric Lawyer, Kim Mukti Nirjhara. Kim blends the worlds of deep spiritual practice and the legal field, using tantric principles to navigate personal evolution through conflict resolution. Kim shares her transformative journey to discovering tantric therapy, the revitalization of her yoni, and how she came to bring together the intertwining of emotion and pleasure into working with legal disputes. During our conversation, Kim talks about her unique path of facilitating community leadership and the importance of healing sexual trauma within the body. This rich conversation touches on misconceptions of tantra, the broader uses of energetic practices in the legal environment, and her deep respect for First Nations law. Along the way, learn more about Kim's newest book, “Confessions of a Tantric Lawyer” as well as a variety of tantric techniques you can use in your own personal practice. Connect with Kim Website: thetantriclawyer.com (with links to buy her book) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thetantriclawyer/ Free FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/tantriclawyervipcommunity You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8vjko54dtOlmvRESQdtesQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetantriclawyer/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Got questions about sex and relationship? Sexual Mastery Breakthrough Session Stay Connected Pillow Talk Newsletter Better Sex Membership
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with PhD, Sex and Relationship Coach, Sexuality Educator, and Sexological Bodyworker Charlie Glickman. Charlie shares his extensive experience and wisdom from over three decades of working in the field of sexuality education. We talk about his book, "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" providing listeners with an in-depth look at the pleasures and benefits of prostate stimulation for cisgender men, as well as touching on experiences for transgender women, non-binary, and gender-neutral individuals with prostates. As Charlie shares about his own journey to sexual education, he shares about the importance of somatic education in learning about one's erotic experience. We also talk about anal play sharing methods to overcome common concerns such as fear of pain or concerns about masculinity and sexual orientation. He gives us some valuable tools for respectful language to help create pressure-free sexual environments with your partner. Charlie leaves us with encouragement to embrace sex positivity and an invitation to explore the transformative power of vulnerability in intimate relationships. Learn more at about Charlie www.makesexeasy.com Twitter charlieglickman FB https://www.facebook.com/charlie.glickman Got questions about sex and relationship? DeborahTantraKat@gmail.com Stay Connected Pillow Talk Newsletter Better Sex Membership https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon FB https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Insta https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with NeoTantra Educator and Pleasure and Intimacy Expert Caroline Carrington. Caroline shares her transformative journey from the corporate world to the rich and empowering realm of NeoTantra. During our conversation, we explore the differences between NeoTantra and traditional Tantra, discussing how dynamic meditations and mantras can act as profound tools for sexual mastery and deeper connection. Caroline provides valuable tips on reconnecting with the body and utilizing the chakras to improve sexual experiences. Along the way, we talk about how to improve communication, sexual stamina and increase overall pleasure. You'll also be introduced to the powerful effects of sound and vibration during orgasm and the importance of authentic intimacy and learn about Caroline's resources, workshops, and retreats to deepen your sexual empowerment and connection. Learn more at about Caroline www.JewelintheLotusCoaching.com www.SarasaTantra.com Insta https://www.instagram.com/caroline.carrington/ FB https://www.facebook.com/Aum.Mani.Padme.Hum Got questions about sex and relationship? DeborahTantraKat@gmail.com Stay Connected Newsletter Pillow Talk Better Sex Membership https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon FB https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Insta https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Bloom Community CEO, Noa Elan. Noa brings an innovative and refreshing approach to finding experiences and creating connections in the dating and social world bridging online access with live, in-person events. During this conversation we dive into how a digital event & community site like Bloom can allow folks to communicate more authentically to form deeper relationships. Along the way, Noa shares her story of learning about sexuality, connection, embodiment and relationship all leading to the creation of Bloom. We talk about the nuances of consent, the value of community connection and embracing vulnerability. Noa shares her perspective on the need for creating more spaces that prioritize consent, growth and fostering both platonic and romantic relationships that are founded on depth of connection. Connect with Noa Blog https://bloomcommunity.com/blog Insta https://www.instagram.com/bloomcommunityapp/ Got questions about sex and relationship? DeborahTantraKat@gmail.com https://bettersexsummit.com/ Stay Connected Pillow Talk FB https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Insta https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Family, Divorce and Relationship Coach Veronica Nabizade. Veronica brings her wide range of experience from legal mediation to deep spiritual practice, and immense work on inner growth to support women in difficult marriages. Her feeling is that “if it's worth fighting about, it's worth fixing.” which is the heart of her work as the founder of Relationship Restart. This was an extremely rich conversation exploring leverage, personal development and the importance of self-relationship as the path towards either thriving together or divorcing with dignity. We talked about codependency in relationships and how the Enneagram can help to navigate ourselves and each other. Veronica shares a bit about her journey starting with challenges with her marriage that led her on a quest of spiritual and personal growth. She talks about the value of a “sacred pause” in a relationship including how to do it and in a supportive manner and along the way provides valuable practical tips and insights for our listeners to improve their own relationships and find harmony together. Connect with Veronica https://www.facebook.com/veronicapersonalrestart PersonalRestart.com mindfulmediator.law RelationshipRestart.net Got questions about sex and relationship? DeborahTantraKat@gmail.com Better Sex Membership https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon FB https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Stay Connected Pillow Talk
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Physician Healthcare Consultant, Keynote Speaker and Best-Selling Author, Dr. Erkeda. Dr. Erkeda brings us their wisdom related to sexual health and wellness, particularly women's health issues and how to advocate for oneself with healthcare providers. We touch on the struggles women have in the healthcare system due to poor education in women's health as well as getting support around sexual disorders. We explore pelvic floor health and how physical wellness plays a major role in our sexual wellness. Dr. Erkeda speaks about her commitment to provide more community access to wellness as it relates also to food security, financial ability and social determinants of good health. This is a valuable conversation filled with tips on how to manage women's health issues and get the help you need when you need it. Connect with Dr. Erkeda Website: https://www.drerkeda.com/ Podcast: ProspectiveDoctor Podcast Pacemakers: https://pacemakerzapp.com/ INSTA: https://www.instagram.com/doctordgram Got questions about sex and relationship? DeborahTantraKat@gmail.com Better Sex Membership https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon FB https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Stay Connected Pillow Talk
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Bodyworker, Sexual Pioneer, Sound Healer, Dominatrix, and Visionary Craniosacral Practitioner, Emily Oren. Emily reflects on patterns of being absorbed into relationships and how that led to learning important insights on boundaries, self-intimacy and vulnerability. She deep dives into what boundaries are, exploring your personal boundaries and expressing them in healthy ways. During this conversation, we talk about vulnerability, self-intimacy, physical pleasure and slowing down to explore emotional intimacy. Along the way, we hear a bit about Emily's journey as a model, artist, singer, and storyteller as we chat about women's tendency to neglect themselves, especially women who are ambitious in their life. This is a rich conversation covering so many deep topics, and of course, Emily gives us some practices from her Heart Ninja toolbelt to deepen our self-intimacy.
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with accomplished Sex & Relationship Educator, Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates. We took a deep dive into relationship repair - what it is, why to do it and her best tips on how to go about it. Throughout our discussion, Hazel-Grace shared their personal journey to discover and embrace their own sexuality as well as the importance of doing the work to heal in relationships. During this fun and deep conversation, they share how to do relationship repair well (for all types of relationships) and use it as a path to more juice in your sex life. Learn more about upcoming events or how to work with Hazel-Grace here: www.drhazelgrace.com Upcoming and OnGoing Intimacy Through the Art of REPAIR Classes (Virtual and In-Person Denver events) Intimacy Through the Art of Repair - Intro Part 1 - June 28th - Virtual https://ITARintropart1.eventbrite.com Intimacy Through the Art of Repair for Couples - In-Person in Denver - July 2nd https://IntimacythroughrepairJuly2Denver.eventbrite.com Intimacy Through the Art of Repair - Intro Part 2 - July 12th - Virtual https://ITARintropart2.eventbrite.com Become part of the Better Sex Membership https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon Coaching with Debroah https://www.deborahkat.com/services-5
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with clinical hypnotherapist, executive coach, and author Michelle Walters to talk about the power of the mind in shaping our reality. Michelle shares about her journey into the world of hypnosis, how it has since become her passion leading to her recently publish book, “An Alignment of Spirit”. This was such a fun conversation as we delve into hypnosis for intimacy and relationships! Personally, I've been curious about hypnosis for some time and Michelle answered all the questions as we explored Erotic Hypnosis, how it can help erectile dysfunction, and using hypnosis to visualize better sexual relationships. Listen in and learn how hypnosis can be a part of your journey to better sex. [00:03:17] How hypnosis works. [00:08:53] Erotic Hypnosis. [00:09:55] Erotic Hypnotism. [00:16:35] Erectile dysfunction and hypnosis. [00:20:12] Erotic Hypnosis and Visualization. [00:27:32] Hypnosis and better sex. [00:31:15] Impossible sex and imagination. [00:35:14] Connecting with yourself. A voracious imagination advocate, team leader, and corporate life graduate, Michelle writes and speaks on themes associated with the power of mind, positivity, and conscious and subconscious thought. Michelle is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Executive Coach and Author. Michelle's 2022 book on manifesting, “An Alignment of Spirit: Finding Work You Love” combines science, personal stories and activities for your subconscious that will help readers center and do the inner work necessary to find work they love.'' www.michellewalters.net contact me at michelle@michellewalters.net FB: https://www.facebook.com/michelleoliverwalters/ Book https://www.amazon.com/Alignment-Spirit-Finding-Work-Love/dp/1737263726/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 Special gift for your listeners, a free mp3 recording from my Etsy store. https://www.michellewalters.net/gift Connect with Deborah Kat Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Deborah Catt interviews Beth Davis, known as the Dr. Purpose, an advisor to entrepreneurs and career professionals globally. Beth uses her intuition, extensive sales, marketing, and content creation experience, along with expertise in scientific hand analysis and human design, to help clients discover and unleash their purpose and design their life around their gifts for soul fulfillment. Beth shares her journey into entrepreneurship and the importance of being present in the now. Throughout the podcast, Deborah and Beth have an unfiltered conversation about sex and relationships, exploring the topic from a variety of angles. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Baeth Davis– often known as “Dr. Purpose”-- with over 24 years using her intuition, business experience, expertise in scientific hand analysis and human design to help global leaders clients discover and unleash their purpose for deep soul fulfillment. You might wonder what this has to do with better sex…. Well, in this lively conversation you get a taste of Baeth's passion for purpose as we how this along with human design supports better relationships (thus, better sex!) Throughout our conversation she shares how to cultivate your relationship with your body to feel empowered both in the boardroom AND the bedroom. We also get a bit of her story along the way with loads of juicy tidbits to help you fully show up in your relationships. Connect with Baeth Davis https://yourpurpose.com Join the Facebook community: https://facebook.com/groups/aligntoyourdesign Connect with Deborah https://DeborahKat.Com https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon
In this week's episode, I interview Deborah Kat. Deborah is The Host of The Better Sex Podcast and The Better Sex for Couples Summit. As a Somatic Sexuality Coach, she works with both individuals and partners to enhance their sexual lives, and create relationships on their terms. In this week's episode we covered✨How Deborah and her partner have created a relationship that's true for them that fits outside of standard gender roles✨How everyone has masculine/feminine energy and it depends on the person on how that's represented✨When dating why it's important to check in about how you feel around the person - e.g. are you grounded in the present? Are you inspired to be in your heart? Do you feel open or contracted? Is this someone you feel safe to be in your creativity?✨Why Chemistry is amateur and limiting when looking for a long term relationship✨How many people have the story ‘If I don't do it, it won't get done' and how that can impact relationships✨How to negotiate differences in standards and priorities in a relationship✨Deborah shares her work with poly couples and how they work through designing their relationship configuration✨How to cultivate fairness in a relationship without things having to be tit for tat✨Why resentment is the relationship killer✨Why love languages are helpful for creating connection and harmony in a relationship✨How to treat your relationship like a practice lab using conscious practices✨The different ways of determining success in a relationshipMore About Deborah: In addition to the Podcast she works with clients, hosts private intensives as well as leads monthly classes exploring the edges of sexuality and spirit. She combines her diverse background in Tantra, massage, and BDSM to support men and couples in clearing shame to have satisfying relationships and masterful sex. She firmly believes in the transformational power of desire and looks forward to utilizing her knowledge and experience in support of deeper surrender into bliss for all. Here is a link to The TurnedOn Membership: https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedonAnd there is a discount for In Bed with Caoi listeners!Follow Deborah Online:https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakathttps://www.facebook.com/askdeborahtantrakatConnect with Caoilfhionn: https://www.caoinicc.com/about-me-invitation-to-1to1-coaching &nb
When it comes to sex, sometimes you need some help. You may be wondering how you can move towards better sex, or even how you can make your current sex life better. It's hard to say exactly what steps you should take in your personal search for improving your sex life without some guidance. In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Louis Brantmeyer, an extraordinary business coach for heart-centered coaches, powerful creator, magical manifestor, eclectic philosopher, and devotee of growth, healing, love, and science fiction. He will talk about how can we properly use our desires and some tips to make our sex better. Tune in now and Learn how to be comfortable in the dating world! Highlights: (01:59) Getting to know Louis More (02:46) How he helped BrainJuice go national via Whole Foods & promoting the "woo that works"? (08:21) Maximizing the use of Desires (11:40) Meaning & Distinction of “Always on call, but we're not always on duty” (18:57) The Path to Fulfillment (21:41) Sexual Abundance Back to Patriarchal Rules and Regulations(Why it didn't work for Louis?) (26:23 ) Aligning Mission and Purpose ( 27:55) What Is Co-empowered Alignment & Codependence? (34:11) A Way You Could Do to Move Towards Better Sex (41:02) Man & Woman: Whose Purpose Goes First? Links: Website: https://louisbrantmeyer.com/ LinkedIn: Louis Brantmeyer - CEO / Founder Facebook: Louis Brantmeyer Instagram: Louis Brantmeyer (@louisbrantmeyer) Youtube: Louis Brantmeyer - CEO / Founder - Things Mentioned:: (Audio Course) Your Wish Is Your Command Mark W. Willis Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume The 45 Days to Awakening Challenge The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life Carl Jung
Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we're doing something a little different! I'm turning the tables (or mic) around and for the first time ever, I'll be the guest, and my dear friend, Missy Singer DuMars will interview ME! In this intimate conversation, nothing is off-limits! We'll talk about my early relationships, unique childhood experiences, and how my passion for this work began. Along the way, we'll chat about how to get your 'sexy' on, the basics of Tantra, Kink, Communication, and what I see as the Three Pillars to Better Sex all peppered with fun stories! Missy Singer DuMars, is a conscious businesswoman, a mindful farmer, a curious cook, a spiritual seeker, and the hostess of the Women in Food Podcast. Highlights: (02:30) How Deborah Entered the World Of Sex and Intimacy (09:11) The Different Possibilities of Relationship and Sex (15:39) Applying Sex and Intimacy from Personal Life to Professional Life (18:21) Where does sexual arousal start? (19:42) Ways to pleasure yourself (21:12) Ticks to make you sexy and feel sexy (21:42 ) Tantra and the Three Basic Broad Techniques (28:33) Unconscious Mistakes That Can Destroy Any Relationship (35:00) Better Sex for Couples (41:50) The Definition of Kink and The Umbrella of BDSM (48:04) Everything You Need to Know About Using Safewords (52:57) The Key Role of Communication in Relationship (01:05:48) Things Everyone Should Know About Relationships Links: https://bettersexforcouplessummit.com/ Website: https://www.womeninfood.net/ https://www.spiritbizpeople.com/ Https//crownhillfarm.com Instagram: @crownhillfarmny Facebook: Missy Singer DuMars LinkedIn: Missy Singer DuMars
IN THIS EPISODEDeborah Kat combines her diverse background in Tantra, Massage, & Kink to support men & couples in clearing shame & having better sex. Hence the name of her podcast, The Better Sex Podcast. Truly a Jill-of-all-trades, she leads monthly classes for Tantra Speed Date & next month, she's launching a free global summit for couples. With Deborah's vast background, we traveled through multiple angles of sexuality for couples. Everything from Conscious BDSM to Kinky Power dynamics at the Renaissance Fair to Reichian Theory. All that, and some very insightful tools she uses in her coaching practice. CONNECT WITH DEBORAH KATSEXPERT - Deborah Kat WebsiteSEXPERT - The Better Sex Podcast SEXPERT - The Better Sex Podcast Interview with Leah Piper SEXPERT - Deborah Kat's Better Sex for Couples Summit - New Link comingSEXPERT - Tantra Speed Date - San Fran, Oakland, Santa Cruz, Silicon ValleyOTHER EPISODE LINKS COURSE - Lynda Caesara Energetics COURSE - Source Tantra - Leah met Kat | coupon: MORELOVETRAINING - BondassageSACRED SHOPPING Awaken Arousal Oil Lubricant "I had a 3-minute orgasm and then a 5-minute orgasm. All I know is that I had transcended and felt like I was surfing in a perpetual wave pool of pleasure." - BethAwaken Arousal Oil Lubricant With a unique blend of CBD & organic botanicals, there's no other arousal oil like Awaken.Goddess Yoni Eggs Three gorgeous semiprecious Jade Eggs to awaken sexual power & increase vaginal vitality.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showSxR Hotline | SxR Website | YouTube | TikTok | Pinterest | Instagram | Dr. Willow's Website | Leah's Website
This week I sat down with sex therapist by day and busy online coach Jessa Zimmerman who is currently creating a whole new life as the founder of the Leveraged Expert Academy, a coaching program that walks other professionals through every step of creating and selling their own online course.Along with her own journey from stay-at-home mom to a successful career helping others thrive, Jessa shares the struggles and real truth around the death of intimacy, and what, as parents, we can do to cultivate healthy relationships. Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 4 Pillar Experiential Process that allows them real-world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life, guiding them to become easily intimate.She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, the creator of the Intimacy With Ease Method and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com.If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it to your Instagram Stories and tag us, @pamgodboiscoaching and @leveragedexpertLINKS:Jessa's Website: https://www.intimacywithease.comJessa's FREE Masterclass: https://www.intimacywithease.com/masterclassJessa's Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/passiveincomeforserviceprofessionalsCONNECT WITH PAM: Free Facebook Group For Moms: The Messy Truth: Moms on the Path of RediscoveryConnect with me: Instagram, Facebook, and Tiktok. If you're like “I love listening to Pam chat with guests.” Then head over and write a review! We really appreciate your support and it helps us to keep growing!! https://pamgodbois.com/ApplePodcast Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode. Be sure to tune in next week.
Dating can be stressful and intimidating at times, but it is also an excellent opportunity to connect with others, especially when you've found a good match. Whether you're a beginner to dating or looking for a refresher course in overcoming your dating fears, this episode is for you! Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Matchmaker and Dating Coach Dan Silverman, who helps those singles prepare for fun dates by teaching them proven techniques for success. He offers immersive training to teach clients how to overcome dating fears and learned habits. Tune in now and Learn how to be comfortable in the dating world! Highlights: (01:35) How Dan became a Matchmaker and Dating Coach (05:12) Why Is Dating So Hard? (09:56) How to know if two people are a good match? (15:31) Why Women don't like to date ‘Nice Guys'? (23:02) Dating and Consent (35:39) Dating Tips for Introverts (42:09) The Mastery Curve (47:21) What does vulnerability look like in dating? (50:330) How to deal with women's emotions? Links: Website: Dan Silverman Matchmaker Miami LinkedIn: Dan Silverman - Miami, Florida, United States Facebook: Dan Silverman - The Miami Matchmaker Instagram: Dan Silverman (@matchmakerdan) Twitter: Dan Silverman (@MatchmakerDan) Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we will be having conversations with Eirikah Delaunay, a writer, Witch, and sexual rebel who identifies as a white, polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender woman, Dominant-leaning Switch, and sadomasochist. She is also the mother of two amazing adult children, an executive-level academic professional, and previously a monogamous wife of 20 years. Both/and is her magic word. The founder of Desire Alchemy, she is a somatic sex+relationship coach and initiated priestess who helps people use embodiment, storytelling, and ritual to transform the energy of their own unique desire into fuel for lives of connection and passion. Her mission is to re-ignite and strengthen stale relationships (including the relationship with self) by cultivating true authenticity, practical skills, devotion, and delight. In her pursuit of deeper connection through language and embodiment, she earned an MFA in Creative Writing, and trained as a sex+relationship coach at the Somatica InstituteTM. She has had the joy of more than a decade of connection, education, and service in the Seattle sex-positive community, where she has served as a “Tasting Top” and guest educator and facilitator on topics ranging from hands-on skills, D/s dynamics, sacred sexuality, and strategies for maintaining intimacy and connection in long-distance relationships. She currently serves on the Board of the Center for Sex-Positive Culture in Seattle. Her erotic writing appeared in the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival Literary Anthology in 2018-2020 and 2022. Her chapter “Light Your Fire: Ecstatic Embodiment to Fuel Your Dreams” was featured in the Amazon #1 bestseller, Sacred Medicine: Mystical Practices for Ecstatic Living, and her chapter “Turn Yourself On: Embodiment Practices to Jump Start Your Day” was featured in the Amazon #1 bestseller, The Ultimate Guide to Self-Healing Volume 5. She provides individual, partnered, and group coaching for people curious and excited about using effective communication, magic, sexuality, kink, and/or power exchange relationships as vehicles for personal growth and bliss. Experience better sex and learn the importance of communicating your desires by tuning in to this episode! Highlights: (05:28) Erikah's Story (09:41) What does it mean to be polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender, and dominant leaning switch? (15:13) The Power of Asking Questions (18:52) The importance of putting into words what we really want (20:15) How did sex and spirit come together for Erika? (23:00) One of the most powerful ways to raise energy and fuel any intention (25:06) How do asking and desire come together? (30:58) How do we recover and be in the place of desire and connection? (32:24) The Power of NO in Expression and Reception (40:00) The importance of knowing what your partner wants Links: Website:desi(re al)chemy Instagram: Eirikah Delaunay (@eirikah) • Instagram photos and videos Linkedtree: https://linktr.ee/eirikah Facebook: Eirikah Delaunay | Facebook https://facebook.com/desire.alchemy ****Catch her at the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival this weekend**** Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
Are you having sex with your partner and not feeling like you have a clear understanding of their sexual needs? Are you unsure of how to ask questions, make requests, or navigate through conversations about sexuality? If so, it may be time to look toward honest and authentic sex. Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Shana James, who has coached more than a thousand men and women to have passionate connections and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're single and looking to date, want a long-term relationship, or your relationship isn't satisfying, Shana quickly pinpoints the cause in her new book: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Intimacy and Keep Your Relationship Alive She will talk about how she believes that it is important, to be honest with oneself and others in order to create closer connections, the importance of being able to have conversations about sex in a way that is comfortable for both parties, and shares her experience working with clients who want more foreplay or longer experiences. Tune in now and learn more about how to be honest with your partner during this vulnerable time and still remain in sync with your long-term goals! Highlights: (03:05 ) Being committed to authenticity (05:48) The Impact of Presence (07:02) Breaking Down the Meaning of Honest and Sex (16:38) What is Sex mean to Shana? (19:21) The Making of Honest Sex (24:31) How to Ask for What You Want Sexually (31:25) Steps Toward Being Honest and Open in Sexuality (34:12 ) The Importance of Self-Pleasure in a Relationship (37:11) How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex (41:48) Understanding the word ‘Intimacy' (50:46) Things That Both Males & Females Should Be Aware of if They Are Interested in Relationships (54:31) Co-creating More of What You Want Links: Website: shanajamescoaching.com LinkedIn: Shana James Facebook: Shana James Book: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Passionate Relationships Alive. Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Zahava Griss, Founder of Embody More Love, a spiritual kinky dance community for personal and cultural liberation. For over 22 years, Z has been guiding dance, embodiment, and eros as the source of healing, creativity, building community, and shifting our culture. Z's love coaching focuses on secure attachment, kink, gender, expression, polyamory, and the erotic arts. In this episode, Z will unravel how they grew up with a lot of energy and was socialized as a white girl, which gave them the opportunity to understand how white supremacy culture is conditioned in the body. Z talks about how they recovered from ballet, “being a bun head.” Z also highlights the importance of growing in relationships especially when an erotic charge is involved. Experience better sex by tuning in to this episode! Highlights: (03:27) What is the Grief Ritual Lineage? (04:10) Getting to know Z's story (11:46) What is the social locator in Z's leadership program? (12:35) Z's leadership program and how capacity is being incorporated into it (16:01) What makes the difference between someone just surviving the trauma versus someone growing from that? (18:07) Understanding conscious breathing through yoga (25:54) What happens to your presence if you feel at capacity and where does it go? (33:00) What are some of the stories that interrupt our sex life? (41:35) The idea of growing in relation (45:25) The healing power of conscious kink (47:04) Dominance as a form of leadership Links: Book a schedule here: Embody More Love Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Leah Piper. Leah Piper, Founder of More Love Works and Co-Founder of the Sex Reimagined Podcast. Leah is a Certified Tantra Master Coach & Educator with a background in Positive Psychology. For 20 years she has been the primary female facilitator at the Source School of Tantra with Charles Muir. By combining the ancient art of conscious loving with the modern science of well-being, her students have discovered that sex unlocks the keys to having a passionate, loving, and spiritually fulfilling life. Leah has facilitated thousands of couples and individuals worldwide to elevate sex to an art form through live seminars, online courses, private VIP retreats, certification courses, and mentoring professionals in the sacred sex & relationship for nearly 2 decades. Make your sex life better by tuning in to this episode! Highlights: (01:56) Getting to know Leah Piper (07:03) Understanding premature ejaculation + how you can harness your sexual energy (08:58) Can you really separate orgasm from ejaculation? (09:21) Ejaculatory Control: How to do it (12:20) How to deal with your partner's expectation (13:44) The importance of partnership to increase the sensations of desire (14:00) Erotic Blueprint Model (15:05) Why partnership really matters Links: Website: Leah Piper Twitter: Leah Alchin Piper (@leahalchinpiper) / Twitter Books mentioned: Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving by Charles Muir Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
We're glad you're here! Expectations about pleasure, and the messages you get about what it means to be a sexual being, are often deep. But I want you to know that it is possible to embrace pleasure —and that it is possible to find joy in your body and in the world around you. In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by M'kali-Hashiki. M'Kali is a Somatic Sacred Storyteller & Erotic Ritualist. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork; Sound, Voice, & Music Healing; and Tantric Sacred Intimacy. As a Somatic Sacred Storyteller, she helps you uncover the stories your body is holding onto, jettisoning the ones poisoning you, and helping you to reframe & retell the ones left. As an Erotic Ritualist, she designs journeys for you to commune with The Divine using your physical pleasure as the conduit of communication. Her Divine Purpose is helping folx heal their erotic wounds so they can have the joyous & juicy life that is their Divine Birthright and move further along in their path to individual & collective liberation. In her nomadic travels across North & Central America, she teaches at colleges & universities, conferences, and the occasional adult toy store or educational center. She offers sexuality training & employee wellness/team-building skills to organizations & companies. She is also a skilled Sensitivity Reader hired to read manuscripts to make sure they avoid explicit & implicit systemic bias. Her lived experiences as a fat, black, queer, femme, and trauma survivor inform every aspect of her work. Highlights: (03:57) How did M'Kali get here? (12:52) How M'Kali discovered the Body Electric (17:59) Breathwork as a modality of healing (24:18) The Michigan Women's Festival (29:31) What needs to be in place to have a safe, consensual experience? (35:58) Erotic breathwork and breath play (40:53) How to use breath as a vehicle to connect with the spiritual and physical (46:00) What makes your breath work different? Links: Website: M'kali-Hashiki She/Her/Hers www.FiercePassions.com "Where Presence, Pleasure, & Prayer Meet" Twitter: M'kali-Hashiki (@MkHashiki) / Twitter Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
Our whole lives are sex. Yes, you read that right. And I don't mean it literally. Sometimes sex is boring; other times, it is exciting–which is pretty much like it. Here's a truth about sex– it's not just about you getting an orgasm; forget about penetration; it's just part of it. The truth is, sex feels good and even feels best when it touches parts of us that haven't felt good in a while; it could be our fears, our traumas, our insecurities, or whatever that isn't feeling good inside of us, or it could be just pure connection. What feels good happens everywhere, not just in the bedroom. In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, Ana Del Castillo is a Rightness Expert & Certified Coach with over 20 years of experience working with men and women who have great lives but still always feel like there's something wrong. By addressing the underlying source of their suffering, Ana creates transformative experiences for her clients so they can own their inherent rightness and feel vital and alive in their skin and lives again. An energetic, warm and empathetic leader, Ana has spoken to audiences all over the country and has coached women rock stars, entrepreneurs, and homemakers on the power and freedom of authentic rightness, whose name appeared on NPR, the NY Post, People Magazine, and The Moth. Ana coaches, speaks, and leads courses on Rightness, married to the love of her life, Ken Blackman. Tune in to this episode as Ana unravels the truth about sex and how we can feel good even if it is not purely physical. Highlights: (05:06) How Ana became a rightness expert, women's rightness expert, and certified coach (10:01) How does ‘Rightness' live for Ana and her clients (12:47) How to not let others tell you your worth (14:25) Five Levels of Commitment (17:21) Understanding and looking into the sensations in your body. (31:09) Approaching our sex life in a much more holistic way. (33:58) Realizing that sex is more than just a physical act. (36:13) Why every moment is foreplay. (38:19) What to do once the honeymoon and the chemistry fades. (39:58) Ana's experience of working with her husband with other couples (45:45) Ana's upcoming event in New York (49:03) Ana's message for YOU! Links: Website: My Rightness Instagram: Ana Del Castillo (@ana_del_castillo) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn: Ana Del Castillo - CEO and Owner - My Rightness | LinkedIn TikTok: Ana_Del_Castillo (@ana_del_castillo_) TikTok | Watch Ana_Del_Castillo's Newest TikTok Videos Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rightness?fan_landing=true&view_as=public Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
You know that feeling when you're out in the world, and you feel safe? You know what I mean, right? It's that feeling that lets you breathe a little easier, and allows you to be yourself and do whatever you want—the ones that make you feel like there's no way out. And it's also that same feeling when you're in bed with your partner and do the intense moments the way you desire. We all want this kind of safety and power in our lives. But how often do we get it? How often do we ever feel truly safe? In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Andre Lazarus. Andre is a Certified Intimacy, Sex, and Relationship Guide, Trained Surrogate Partner, as well as Sacred Intimate with 8+ years of experience helping individuals and couples discover their intimate and erotic power. As a multisexual being experienced in Consensual Non-Monogamous dynamics, Andre's unique approach to sexuality, sensuality and the bond people share make him a thought leader and knowledgeable practitioner. Andre is a Certified Sex and Relationship Coach through the Somatica Institute based out of San Francisco, CA, and specializes in erotic desire, sexless relationships, sexual trauma healing, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, and more. Tune in to this episode as Andre unravels how to move forward from trauma so that you can get to your desires and that safe place as well! We'll be talking about what it takes to create a safe space for yourself during these intimate moments—and how to get them without having to sacrifice who YOU are. Highlights: (03:55) Andre's Story (10:24) How Andre developed a level of attunement in his own being (14:21) The idea of older women going after what they want (16:09) What do female clients come to Andre for? (23:20) Allowing ourselves to follow our desires (24:49) Realizing the power that we hold on intense and intimate moments (31:49) Andre's traumatic experiences + Becoming trauma-informed (37:09) How does taking people into the place where the trauma occurred and recreating it help them towards healing? (41:20) What is Andre working on these days? Links: Connect with Andre: Website: Coming Closer with Andre Lazarus Instagram: Coming Closer with Andre (@comingcloserwithandre) • Instagram photos and videos Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
The key to better sex is to understand ourselves– what makes us feel good and what doesn't. Women are often not given the chance to rule in bed or they aren't even asked if they are enjoying the moment. Communicating and understanding what we want as a woman allows us to live with more connection and pleasurable experience that suffices our desires and erotic fantasies– this is where real empowerment lies. Know that you can speak up for yourself and that maybe you can learn how to be more assertive about your desires and boundaries because we deserve a good sex life after all! In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Lana Sequoia. Lana has eight and a half years of experience as a sex worker, ranging from tantric massage to companionship. She is a massage therapist and energy worker. She has studied Tantra, she studied somatic therapy for sex, and relationship coaching. And right now she is doing another coaching program in the trauma of trauma-informed work so that she can bring even more healing and love to the planet. So her main, her main clientele is men with the occasional couple. If you want to learn about unfiltered conversations on sex and the sex industry, then this episode is for you! I really believe that a sexy world creates a happier world and a safer world. If you want to do your part in creating a sexy, safe world. Please hit subscribe, and leave a review on Apple podcasts or wherever you are listening. Highlights: (02:20) How Lana got into the world of Sex Work (05:48) Understanding Sensual Massage + How Each Session Go (18:12) Learning Boundaries: Sharing your desires and asking for the desires of others (24:24) How knowing one's desires work and how fantasy plays into it (30:37) Stereotypes and prejudices given to sex workers that are damaging and inaccurate (38:50) Lana's experience during the pandemic given that there is no access to in-person clients (46:10) On Becoming a Conscious Creator (49:07) Valuing friendship and connection in the sex industry Links: Website:LANA SEQUOIA OnlyFans: Lana Sequoia ♡ OnlyFans Email:lanasequoia@protonmail.com Instagram:Lana Sequoia ♡ (@lana.sequoia) • Instagram photos and videos Twitter:https://twitter.com/lanasequoia Slixa: https://www.slixa.com/california/san-jose/lana-sequoia Deborah's Links: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session Appointments 3 — Deborah Kat Coaching Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: Events Near Me | Facebook Twitter: Deborah Kat (@TantraKat) / Twitter
We don't think about it a lot, but our emotional and spiritual health plays a HUGE role in our sex life. This week, I've invited relationships expert and author Sequoia Stafford onto the show to unpack some of the less-obvious causes of challenges people run into in the bedroom - from erectile dysfunction to jealousy. Join Sequoia and I as we discuss: Sequoia's healing journey and experiences with shamanism how to be courageously vulnerable with someone (and why you should) the spiritual approach to stepping outside your comfort zone how feelings of scarcity can sabotage your relationships Sequioa's take on non-monogamy managing different relationships with different dynamics getting introspective in relationships ... and so much more! About Sequoia: Sequoia is an author, podcaster, educator, sex coach & master healer who weaves over 20 years of study, practice, teaching and exploration of Ontology, Psychology, Shamanism, Mysticism, Advanced Tantra Therapies, Bio-hacking, Full-Spectrum Energy Medicine, NLP, Drama Therapy, Hypnosis, Nutrition, and her own discoveries of the Science of Now, to guide seekers to be the healthiest human beings possible. Just like our fingerprints, each one of us has a unique design for what brings and keeps us healthy, healed, and in the eXtasy of life. She is on a mission to take the pain and suffering out of love and S.E.X.! This year she launched her podcast SEX4LIFE and is the Bestselling Author of two books, It's Hard! Sexual Satisfaction Secrets to Beat Erectile Dysfunction and I'm Not Jealous! The Ethical Non-Monogamist's Guide to Free Love Relationships Without Pain & Suffering. In her California temple, she teaches Applied Tantra to singles and couples in her signature programs Delicious Love and the Goddess Arts & Intimacy Academy. Sequoia's wish for her students is to find reverence for humanity in those moments of intimacy and the challenges that open doors to sacred partnership and love. Sequoia's gift to listeners of the Better Sex Podcast is a copy of both her books. To claim yours, go to www.FreeLoveModel.com See new SEX4LIFE podcast episodes at www.SEX-4-Life.com Connect with Deborah: Send your sex and relationship questions to DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com For a free Truth and Clarity Session https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3 Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat
What a fascinating journey to go on with Tonia to see how becoming an advocate for herself helped her to discover and heal her body of excruciating pain every month during her bleed. We talk about how it started and what it took to go to the doctor for another opinion, how society has taught us that 'doctors are always right' and we are taught to 'trust them'. Some favourite topics we cover are timeline clearing and what trauma is and how we can distinguish between 'Big T' and 'Little T' trauma. Some of my favourite quotes from this journey: *'So many women can resonate with a story of not having the best menstrual cycles.' *'That is just who you are and that is so disheartening.' *'I had never asked to be referred, that advocacy for myself, I didn't have it in me at that time'. *'I was scared all the time, in fear all the time, of what the next period would be like.' *'I was feeling hopeless.' *'This fall has been miraculous and I don't feel afraid all of the time.' ABOUT TONIA: Dr. Tonia Winchester has been in practice as a Naturopathic Doctor since 2007. Now, as a brain-based transformation coach, she uses contemporary neurological reprogramming techniques to help women break through burnout, stress, anxiety, and fatigue and find joy and energy again so that they can create exceptional lives for themselves, their families and communities. She guides her clients through a "Breakthrough" process where they easily and gently clear the past, and recode their unconscious minds so that they are primed to make and sustain positive changes in how they take care of themselves. The results are a strengthened connection to self - more self-love, worth, and value, ultimately allowing them to build happy, meaningful relationships and compelling futures. Tonia has been featured on CTV, the Costco Connection, The Elephant Journal, Conscious Nutrition, The Autoimmune Simplified Podcast, the Better Sex Podcast, Creative Conversations, and the New Generation Entrepreneur Podcast. She is an executive contributor at Brainz Magazine writing monthly articles. When she's not transforming lives she is getting lost (and found) in the forest, salsa dancing, and turning paper into pretty things. WHERE TO FIND HER: Website FB, Insta, LinkedIn-@coachtonia Twitter-@coachtoniaNLP ABOUT SARAH: I am a Menstrual Cycle Coach who teaches women business owners how to harness the power of their natural energy cycles to avoid overwhelm and burnout and to be more productive and create more success in their lives and businesses. Sarah's website Sarah's Instagram
For the final episode of the Better Sex Podcast, blogger Desiree Simone shares her journey on divorce and how it led to her blogging her feelings as she was going through the process. More than a decade later, through her blog that evolved into a podcast, Desiree lets us in on the most common mistakes that she gets from people regarding relationships, dating and sex and the kind of advice she gives on every challenge and mistake. With the onslaught of social media, one common mistake is still having a social media communication with your ex-partner. It is one thing when you just want to see what the other person is up to, but even just looking is a form of engagement. There is a slippery slope in this scenario, although still on a case-by-case basis, of becoming a little bit obsessed as to what they're doing and looking at it every day. There's a great danger of going down that rabbit hole of really trying to get additional information. You then would wonder why it is important to you suddenly? Are you just platonic Facebook friends? The emotional response is the one that you need to be careful of because it can get you asking whether you still have feelings for your ex? Am I really over this person? Am I ready to move on? You also must think about the effect it would have on your current partner once they find out that you still have that emotional connection that you are holding on to. Ask yourself: How would you feel if your partner was doing the same thing? If you realized you wanted to get back to your partner, you must be honest even if it will make you look bad. Another problem still related to social media is the need to make all aspects of the relationship public. It tends to create chaos because you are inviting other people to put their two cents in. Ask yourself: Why do you need to do it and to what gain? Creating an image of a perfect relationship or marriage on social media is dangerous as it feels the need to compete. Top bad decisions people make about sexual relationships The biggest mistake people make is not openly communicating to their partner the things that they like and do not like. It is important to let your partner in. We all must be better at being able to talk effectively to our partner about things that work or do not work for us. Sex is about you too and not just your partner. It is important to find ways to make the experience amazing for both parties. Fake orgasms do not serve anybody, and you will be miserable doing it. Another thing in line with this is talking about things that you might want to try. Do not repress it because you might end up being resentful in the end. You should feel comfortable enough with your partner to open up. If you are on the receiving end of this, you should welcome any conversation without judgement, even if it is something you don't have any interest in doing. Be accepting, even if you are not interested and try to find a happy medium. There should be no kink shaming. Another thing is the issue of watching porn and masturbating. Some people think that this is a form of cheating. If this is an issue, it is important to step back and really understand where your partner is coming from and why they have this thought about porn and masturbation. From there, start to peel the layers to understand but whatever you do, do not feel like it's your responsibility to change your partner's mind. Biography: Desiree Simone is a blogger and host of the “Break Bottles, Not Hearts” podcast. She's known as “The Boozy Bestie”, your go-to friend who helps with relationship issues with love and good cocktails. Originally from Georgia, Simone has a dual degree in Public Relations and Rhetoric and worked for Carnival Cruise Lines for over 10 years as a Production Singer. Her take on love, sex and dating is equal parts honest, funny, inappropriate and vulnerable. Never shy to make fun of herself and learn from her mistakes, she enjoys being a safe space for all those who venture in the world of love, hoping they are not alone. Resources and links: Podcast: Break Bottles, Not Hearts Instagram: @iamdsimone Blog: Desiree-Simone.comMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
For the final episode of the Better Sex Podcast, blogger Desiree Simone shares her journey on divorce and how it led to her blogging her feelings as she was going through the process. More than a decade later, through her blog that evolved into a podcast, Desiree lets us in on the most common mistakes that she gets from people regarding relationships, dating and sex and the kind of advice she gives on every challenge and mistake.Top bad decisions people make about relationshipsWith the onslaught of social media, one common mistake is still having a social media communication with your ex-partner. It is one thing when you just want to see what the other person is up to, but even just looking is a form of engagement. There is a slippery slope in this scenario, although still on a case-by-case basis, of becoming a little bit obsessed as to what they're doing and looking at it every day. There's a great danger of going down that rabbit hole of really trying to get additional information. You then would wonder why it is important to you suddenly? Are you just platonic Facebook friends? The emotional response is the one that you need to be careful of because it can get you asking whether you still have feelings for your ex? Am I really over this person? Am I ready to move on?You also must think about the effect it would have on your current partner once they find out that you still have that emotional connection that you are holding on to. Ask yourself: How would you feel if your partner was doing the same thing? If you realized you wanted to get back to your partner, you must be honest even if it will make you look bad.Another problem still related to social media is the need to make all aspects of the relationship public. It tends to create chaos because you are inviting other people to put their two cents in. Ask yourself: Why do you need to do it and to what gain? Creating an image of a perfect relationship or marriage on social media is dangerous as it feels the need to compete.Top bad decisions people make about sexual relationshipsThe biggest mistake people make is not openly communicating to their partner the things that they like and do not like. It is important to let your partner in. We all must be better at being able to talk effectively to our partner about things that work or do not work for us. Sex is about you too and not just your partner. It is important to find ways to make the experience amazing for both parties. Fake orgasms do not serve anybody, and you will be miserable doing it.Another thing in line with this is talking about things that you might want to try. Do not repress it because you might end up being resentful in the end. You should feel comfortable enough with your partner to open up. If you are on the receiving end of this, you should welcome any conversation without judgement, even if it is something you don't have any interest in doing. Be accepting, even if you are not interested and try to find a happy medium. There should be no kink shaming.Another thing is the issue of watching porn and masturbating. Some people think that this is a form of cheating. If this is an issue, it is important to step back and really understand where your partner is coming from and why they have this thought about porn and masturbation. From there, start to peel the layers to understand but whatever you do, do not feel like it's your responsibility to change your partner's mind.Biography:Desiree Simone is a blogger and host of the “Break Bottles, Not Hearts” podcast. She's known as “The Boozy Bestie”, your go-to friend who helps with relationship issues with love and good cocktails. Originally from Georgia, Simone has a dual degree in Public Relations and Rhetoric and worked for Carnival Cruise Lines for over 10 years as a Production Singer. Her take on love, sex and dating is equal parts honest, funny, inappropriate and vulnerable. Never shy to make fun of herself and learn from her mistakes, she enjoys being a safe space for all those who venture in the world of love, hoping they are not alone.Resources and links:Podcast: Break Bottles, Not HeartsInstagram: @iamdsimoneBlog: Desiree-Simone.comMore info:Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: How to want more sex without it feeling like a chore: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclassBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/ep225-boozy-bestie-advice-for-sex-and-relationships-desiree-simone
For the final episode of the Better Sex Podcast, blogger Desiree Simone shares her journey on divorce and how it led to her blogging her feelings as she was going through the process. More than a decade later, through her blog that evolved into a podcast, Desiree lets us in on the most common mistakes that she gets from people regarding relationships, dating and sex and the kind of advice she gives on every challenge and mistake.Top bad decisions people make about relationshipsWith the onslaught of social media, one common mistake is still having a social media communication with your ex-partner. It is one thing when you just want to see what the other person is up to, but even just looking is a form of engagement. There is a slippery slope in this scenario, although still on a case-by-case basis, of becoming a little bit obsessed as to what they're doing and looking at it every day. There's a great danger of going down that rabbit hole of really trying to get additional information. You then would wonder why it is important to you suddenly? Are you just platonic Facebook friends? The emotional response is the one that you need to be careful of because it can get you asking whether you still have feelings for your ex? Am I really over this person? Am I ready to move on?You also must think about the effect it would have on your current partner once they find out that you still have that emotional connection that you are holding on to. Ask yourself: How would you feel if your partner was doing the same thing? If you realized you wanted to get back to your partner, you must be honest even if it will make you look bad.Another problem still related to social media is the need to make all aspects of the relationship public. It tends to create chaos because you are inviting other people to put their two cents in. Ask yourself: Why do you need to do it and to what gain? Creating an image of a perfect relationship or marriage on social media is dangerous as it feels the need to compete.Top bad decisions people make about sexual relationshipsThe biggest mistake people make is not openly communicating to their partner the things that they like and do not like. It is important to let your partner in. We all must be better at being able to talk effectively to our partner about things that work or do not work for us. Sex is about you too and not just your partner. It is important to find ways to make the experience amazing for both parties. Fake orgasms do not serve anybody, and you will be miserable doing it.Another thing in line with this is talking about things that you might want to try. Do not repress it because you might end up being resentful in the end. You should feel comfortable enough with your partner to open up. If you are on the receiving end of this, you should welcome any conversation without judgement, even if it is something you don't have any interest in doing. Be accepting, even if you are not interested and try to find a happy medium. There should be no kink shaming.Another thing is the issue of watching porn and masturbating. Some people think that this is a form of cheating. If this is an issue, it is important to step back and really understand where your partner is coming from and why they have this thought about porn and masturbation. From there, start to peel the layers to understand but whatever you do, do not feel like it's your responsibility to change your partner's mind.Biography:Desiree Simone is a blogger and host of the “Break Bottles, Not Hearts” podcast. She's known as “The Boozy Bestie”, your go-to friend who helps with relationship issues with love and good cocktails. Originally from Georgia, Simone has a dual degree in Public Relations and Rhetoric and worked for Carnival Cruise Lines for over 10 years as a Production Singer. Her take on love, sex and dating is equal parts honest, funny, inappropriate and vulnerable. Never shy to make fun of herself and learn from her mistakes, she enjoys being a safe space for all those who venture in the world of love, hoping they are not alone.Resources and links:Podcast: Break Bottles, Not HeartsInstagram: @iamdsimoneBlog: Desiree-Simone.comMore info:Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: How to want more sex without it feeling like a chore: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclassBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/ep225-boozy-bestie-advice-for-sex-and-relationships-desiree-simone
If you struggle connecting with your partner on a deeper level or in a more intimate way, this episode is for you. In this episode, certified sex educator, Jessa Zimmerman and I have a conversation about how to begin improving your intimate connections with your partner. This episode is clean and tasteful, but may not be for little ears. Use headphones for this one! Get more support with Jessa here... How to want sex again so it never feels like a chore: www.intimacywithease.com/masterclass For daily conversation starters via text: text "topics" to +1(206)309-8645 or visit https://my.community.com/jessaatintimacywithease Want to create a happier relationship with your body this month? Join my popular Body Love Freedom Audio Course - 14 days to better body love: https://awomanofwellness.com/bodylovefreedom. Use code LOVE to get this audio course for 60% off for the month of February! Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed couples counselor and nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private practice in Seattle, WA. Over the course of her therapy career, she has focused almost exclusively on helping couples with their emotional and sexual intimacy. She is the author of Sex Without Stress; A Couple's Guide to Overcoming Disappointment, Avoidance & Pressure. She is the host of the Better Sex Podcast and has appeared on numerous other podcasts as an expert guest. She is the creator of the Intimacy With Ease Method and founder of The Desire Spa, an online course for women with little to no libido. She is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Marriage.com, Business Insider, and Mind Body Green.
Tonia Winchester has been in practice as a Naturopathic Doctor since 2007. Now, as a brain-based transformation coach, she uses contemporary neurological reprogramming techniques to help women break through burnout, stress, anxiety, and fatigue and find joy and energy again so that they can create exceptional lives for themselves, their families and communities. She guides her clients through a "Breakthrough" process where they easily and gently clear the past, and recode their unconscious minds so that they are primed to make and sustain positive changes in how they take care of themselves. The results are a strengthened connection to self - more self-love, worth, and value, ultimately allowing them to build happy, meaningful relationships and compelling futures. Tonia has been featured on CTV, the Costco Connection, The Elephant Journal, Conscious Nutrition, The Autoimmune Simplified Podcast, the Better Sex Podcast, Creative Conversations, and the New Generation Entrepreneur Podcast. She is an executive contributor at Brainz Magazine writing monthly articles. When she's not transforming her lives she is getting lost (and found) in the forest, salsa dancing, and turning paper into pretty things. Learn more about Tonia at toniawinchester.com Get Her FREE mini course to discover why you're stuck in the burnout cycle at toniawinchester.com/vitality Get social with her on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn: @coachtonia and on Twitter: @coachtoniaNLP Love the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast? Click here to subscribe to the podcast and receive a FREE Higher Self Meditation!
Welcome to the first episode of the Better Sex Podcast, where we feature unfiltered conversations about sex and relationships! In this episode, host Deborah Kat explains what to expect from this podcast, provides a peek into her work as a sex and relationship coach, and explores the unexpected ways some romantic narratives can wreak havoc with our sex lives. Connect with Deborah: Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: deborahtantrakat@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat
Have you ever been in a long-term relationship where the fire seemed to dwindle in the bedroom? Did you know that it's normal? Relationships will ebb and flow over time, and with communication, they can survive. Sometimes you don't know where to start the conversation, and a therapist might help. Join us this week as we learn ways to begin these sometimes difficult conversations.Patreon Link - https://www.patreon.com/macp_podcastJessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples' counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 4 pillar experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life, guiding them to become easily intimate.She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, the creator of the Intimacy With Ease Method and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com.Jessa's LinksIG @intimacywithease FB @intimacywitheaseDr Mac's Linkshttps://linktr.ee/macp_clinichttps://bookshop.org/shop/MACPerformancehttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mac-performance-podcast/id1518619232
Jessa Zimmerman is a a certified sex therapist in Seattle, the author of Sex Without Stress, host of the Better Sex Podcast, and creator of the Intimacy With Ease Method. She helps people in otherwise happy relationships create a sex life that is fun and easy for both of them so they can enjoy physical intimacy without pressure or obligation.Connect with Jessa: Free webinar: How to enjoy physical intimacy without pressure or obligationWebsite: Intimacy With EasePodcast: Better Sex PodcastInstagram: @IntimacyWithEaseFacebook: Intimacy With EaseConnect with Katie: Website: Digitally EnhancedInstagram: @Digitally.Enhanced.MarketingFree class mentioned in the episode: DigitallyEnhanced.co/class
In this episode, my guest Jessa Zimmerman will talk to us about the importance of intimacy in our relationships, how even good relationships have droughts and her method for finding it again. Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 4 pillar experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life, guiding them to become easily intimate. She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, the creator of the Intimacy With Ease Method and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com. Visit her website Intimacy with Ease to get her Free Webinar and more. Guest Social Media links Instagram – http://www.instagram.com/intimacywithease Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/intimacywithease Website – http://www.intimacywithease.com Victoria Lowell is a financial advocate, coach, international bestselling author of “Empower your Worth: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Self-Worth and Net Worth.” and the founder of Empowered Worth, a financial-education platform that empowers women to become active participants in their own financial future and well-being. In late 2018 she left Wall Street and followed her passion to help women assert themselves fiscally. Her expertise in this field has led to her hosting this podcast, conferences and webinars, motivational speaking and being a guest on many tv, radio and podcast shows. Thanks for listening! It means so much to us that you listened to our podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with us, head on over to www.empoweredworth.com . With this podcast, we are building a community of Empowered Women that we hope to inspire to a better their lives and take their place at the financial table. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Social Media links Instagram - @empoweredworth Facebook - @victorialowellew & @empoweredworth Twitter - @empoweredworth Pinterest - @empoweredworth You Tube - @empoweredworth Website – www.empoweredworth.com Join our Free Membership today and get access to all of our On-Demand Personal Finance Course, Early Access to Workshops and Seminars, Free Downloads and More. JOIN EMPOWERED WORTH REGISTRATION OPEN for your Empowered Worth Masterclass, use this link to register today. REGISTER HERE Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us a review We appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from our listeners not only help us improve, but also help others find us in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!
This episode is all about sex with sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman.If you get a little embarrassed talking about sex, you might want to skip this one. We don't shy away from anything here.In this episode you will her:How it's not your problem that you don't know how to please your partnerUnderstanding how to get your partner in the moodAsking for a blowjob is not the end of the worldfrom PornHub, masturbation, Red Rooms and more....You won't want to miss this episode!Check out Jessa on her own podcast "The Better Sex Podcast"
Jessa Zimmerman, MA is a licensed couples counsellor and nationally certified sex therapist based in Seattle, Washington. She specializes in helping couples who find that sex has become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. In her practice, she counsels and supports couples through an experiential process that allows them real-world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is also the author of the book, Sex without stress; a couple’s guide to overcoming disappointment, avoidance, and pressure, and hosts The Better Sex Podcast. On this podcast, Jessa and I discuss the all-too-common struggles encountered by couples in long-term relationships who are experiencing a disconnect in sexual desire. She debunks some of the myths about sexual desire that often leave people feeling broken and confused once the initial flame of a relationship dies down. Jessa also shares one of her most powerful exercises for couples to start reconnecting if they’ve been avoiding sex. Here’s the outline of this interview with Jessa Zimmerman: [00:00:44] Kelly Casperson; Class: You Are Not Broken. [00:01:13] Jessa's background. [00:02:46] Sex positivity. [00:04:40] The Better Sex Podcast. [00:05:17] Book: Sex Without Stress: A couple's guide to overcoming disappointment, avoidance and pressure, by Jessa Zimmerman. [00:06:29] The WEIRD perspective - Westernized, educated, industrialized, rich, democratic; Podcast: The Postmenopausal Longevity Paradox and the Evolutionary Advantage of Our Grandmothering Life History, with Kristen Hawkes, PhD. [00:07:54] Monogamy; Anthropologist Helen Fisher; The neurological effects of being in love: Fisher, Helen E., Arthur Aron, and Lucy L. Brown. "Romantic love: a mammalian brain system for mate choice." Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences 361.1476 (2006): 2173-2186. [00:09:48] Podcast: How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex and Pornography, with Megan Maas, PhD. [00:10:01] The role of pornography. [00:12:21] Defining sex. [00:13:38] Brad Stulberg; Book: The Passion Paradox; Podcast: How to Harness Productive Passion and Avoid Burnout [00:17:20] The giver/receiver exercise. [00:21:39] Spontaneous vs reactive sexual desire. [00:22:00] Rosemary Basson on the sexual response cycle; Basson, Rosemary. "The female sexual response: A different model." Journal of Sex &Marital Therapy 26.1 (2000): 51-65. [00:22:11] Emily Nagoski. [00:26:22] Only 6% of women lack both spontaneous and responsive desire; Study: Hendrickx, Lies, Luk Gijs, and Paul Enzlin. "Prevalence rates of sexual difficulties and associated distress in heterosexual men and women: Results from an Internet survey in Flanders." Journal of sex research 51.1 (2014): 1-12. [00:27:11] Growth mindset; Book: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol Dweck; Podcast: Why Most People Never Learn From Their Mistakes - But Some Do, with Simon Marshall, PhD. [00:30:11] Beverly Whipple, PhD; Book: The G Spot: And Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality. [00:33:10] Measuring sexual excitability and inhibition. Emily Nagoski’s assessment tools. [00:35:43] You are responsible for your pleasure. [00:37:34] Vulnerability vs openness. [00:38:57] Podcast: The Neurophysiology of Safety and How to Feel Safe, with Stephen Porges, PhD. [00:40:36] Books: Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, by Karyl McBride, PhD. and Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach, PhD. [00:40:51] Chimp purge exercise; Article: Lieberman, Matthew D., et al. "Putting feelings into words." Psychological science 18.5 (2007): 421-428. [00:43:05] Book: The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness, by Steve Peters. [00:43:23] The Elephant and the Rider, an analogy introduced by Psychologist Jonathan Haidt. [00:45:54] Jessa’s online course: Intimacy with Ease. [00:46:35] Webinar - How to Help Your Partner Want More Sex. [00:48:55] Facebook, Instagram.
EP52: This week my special guest is Jessa Zimmerman, a certified sex therapist and couples' counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. Some may consider sex an uncomfortable topic, but it's a fact of life when you are in a love partnership, and Jessa's aim is to educate everyone to evaluate their sex lives and have a goal of a healthy and intimate sexual connection with their partners. She also shares her story about her first marriage that ended in divorce and how that forced her back into the workforce and ultimately led her back to school to follow an unrealized passion. She got her Master's Degree and became a certified therapist and then became interested in sex therapy as a specialty. She is also the author of 'Sex Without Stress', the host of the Better Sex Podcast, and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com. If you are recognizing some patterns in your sex life that you'd like to improve, this episode may ignite hope that you can change your situation and find more passion in the bedroom, even at midlife! If you want to connect and see more of Jessa's work, you can reach her through: Website: www.intimacywithease.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/intimacywithease Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimacywithease/ Podcast: https://intimacywithease.com/podcast/ Link to her book 'Sex without Stress' https://amzn.to/34p9EFl I'm always looking for interesting guests so if you have a great midlife story of transformation to share or know of someone who does, let's connect! If you'd like to connect or reach out to ME, you can find me at: Website: https://www.notyouraveragegrandma.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieColvinWright/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/not_your_average_grandma/ Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/NotYourAverageGrandma
Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine's stress of forced togetherness is hard for many couples. But in addition to that, she talks about how the recent murder of a black man by police has provoked riots in cities across the country, a political firestorm that only adds to the stress people are feeling during the quarantine. The Rebirth of Ourselves and our Lovers Referring to the work of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Dr. Diana saw the free time with our families as an opportunity to grant our relationships a second birth. She tells us that many couples haven't had sex in a long time, and many have never been especially intimate with their partners. She recognizes both states as challenges that must be overcome to rekindle love and sex in relationships. That's the reason she gives for publishing her book and the relationship-building tools that fill its pages. Health Benefits of Sex Dr. Diana educates us about the many benefits of sex and intimacy, telling us that having sex or touching your partner is scientifically shown to reduce stress. In her practice, she tells us she often recommends massage to her clients as a method to reconnect because massage lowers cortisol and adrenaline levels when certain pressure points are stimulated on the body. She also teaches that touch, especially sex and orgasms, relieves stress by releasing oxytocin, a neurochemical which increases bonding, is a natural sedative, and increases empathy. Even masturbation reduces stress and has positive effects on health, Dr. Diana assures us. More surprisingly, Diana discusses that there are nonsexual self-touch exercises that also reduce stress and improve health. Unfortunately, she admits that unlike sex with someone else, the body does not release oxytocin during masturbation. When it comes to how sex impacts the rest of people's lives, Diana and her husband like to say, “It's fun, it's free, and it's the fountain of youth,” about sex because having sex dramatically increases the feeling of vitality regardless of biological age. Salvaging and Reigniting Broken Relationships Dr. Diana claims to have written her book primarily to enrich people whose relationships are already doing well but want to take their intimacy to the next level. However, she acknowledges that some people are quarantined with unsuitable or violent partners, while others are cohabiting with a partner that they intended to break up with before the quarantine put the brakes on that process. For couples who were planning to break up, Dr Wiley suggests they come together and have a conversation about whether their relationship is worth salvaging. For people who want to salvage or restore their relationship, she says the process of reigniting relationships begins with a conversation about what each person wants from the relationship. To help couples reconnect physically, she describes writing about lots of nonsexual touch exercises. After they become comfortable touching, Diana explains that they can set achievable goals like becoming great at kissing or having a make-out session. She says these actions and discussions can help reveal hidden desires and build the confidence needed to enter the marital bed and take time with sex. Dr Diana claims that the change in pace should increase the quality of their sex life. She reminds us that women tend to need twenty minutes of foreplay, oral sex, and penetration to reach orgasm and receive all the benefits of sex. She offers tools to accomplish this in her book. Touching with Your Clothes On In her book, Diana encourages couples to assess the intimacy of their relationship when they're not having sex. She argues that couples probably don't feel closer when they're just watching TV together, which is why she supports intentionality about touch and connecting. She knows that not all families physically demonstrate affection, but believes that touching and hugs are irreplaceable glue for relationships. In her book, she writes that a seven-second kiss or a fifteen-second hug is enough to release oxytocin and create meaningful bonding on a daily basis. The Sex Menu One of the tools in Dr. Diana's book is what she calls a sex menu. She describes the menu as a chart listing sexual activities and allowing each person to select a yes, no, or maybe reaction to indicate their desire for those acts. She says that many people get to anal sex and say no or maybe, but Dr. Diana reminds us that anal play doesn't have to involve a penis in an anus. She describes rimming, which can be accomplished by moving a clean, wet finger around the anus, which stimulates nerve endings to create a very pleasurable experience. Date Nights In the second chapter of her book, Diana instructs couples to plan their date night at home. Under normal circumstances, she told people to have a date night one time every week, but with the forced closeness of the coronavirus quarantine, she believes having a date night twice per week is helpful. She says some of her patients believe that scheduling date nights would kill spontaneity, but Dr. Wiley argues that spontaneous sex is a Hollywood myth, and people need to put sex on the calendar. By scheduling sex, Diana claims that the partner with a lower sex drive can feel relieved because they know they won't have to have sex until the marked day, which allows her to prepare herself for sex by reading romance novels, taking long baths, masturbating, or doing anything else that can increase her sexual enthusiasm. When that time comes, Dr. Diana believes that giving massages is a great way to start any sex session, because it allows both parties to be relaxed. Dr. Wiley recommends that both partners discuss what they want from the evening. She claims that being sensual, considering all of our senses, is particularly helpful. She does admit there are limits to her book and her methods when she explains that resolving mental health issues and relationship tensions are necessary before increasing touch, as sex and romance are only truly effective for people who like each other. Seven Secrets for Sensational Sex 1. Take care of yourself first. If you're uncomfortable during sex, she advises telling your partner and making the sex better by avoiding discomfort. 2. Maintain and respect boundaries. She asserts the value of boundaries, saying it's important to discuss what you do and don't like, and to avoid pressuring each other into performing undesired sex acts. 3. Communicate openly and directly. Dr. Diana reminds us that no communication is clearer than spoken words. 4. Don't take anything personally. The doctor informs us that sometimes people aren't in the mood for sex or specific sex acts. She reminds us that there are any number of reasons this could happen, and it's unwise to presume it has anything to do with you. 5. Focus on your partner's pleasure. Diana's husband expresses this as, “Worship your woman, and the goddess will reward you.” Though the phrase is gendered, Diana assures us the sentiment applies to men and women alike. 6. Don't take each other for granted. Dr. Wiley says that expressing praise for your partner and growing in gratitude every day is a great method to cultivate life satisfaction and marital bliss. 7. Let go. Diana mentions that many women are very inhibited, which limits their ability to explore new things and enjoy sex. In her practice, as marijuana is legal in her state, she often recommends the substance as a method of pushing through inhibitions and having fun. She says that alcohol can serve a similar purpose, but it's more harmful and not as useful. Background Diana Wiley, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board-certified sex therapist, and a gerontologist. With over thirty years of experience helping clients navigate problems in their sex and love lives, she currently works with clients in her office in Seattle, WA, and via online telehealth sessions. With her radio show on Progressive Radio Network, “Love, Lust, and Laughter” she's been reaching additional listeners and helping more people for a decade. She's published two studies in medical journals on aging and sexuality and was appointed as a Clinton Presidential Delegate to the 1995 White House Conference on Aging. Dr. Wiley is a skilled speaker and has given lectures and presentations on Aging and Sexuality in Amsterdam, Paris, Spain, Japan, India, and at many US conferences. Recently she became the author of a book to help people stuck in quarantine called Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine. Resources for Diana Wiley, PhD https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088TSNSPM/ https://www.deardrdiana.com/ https://drdianawiley.com/ More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Web – https://www.intimacywithease.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/129-sex-during-quarantine-dr-diana-wileyMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine’s stress of forced togetherness is hard for many couples. But in addition to that, she talks about how the recent murder of a black man by police has provoked riots in cities across the country, a political firestorm that only adds to the stress people are feeling during the quarantine.The Rebirth of Ourselves and our LoversReferring to the work of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Dr. Diana saw the free time with our families as an opportunity to grant our relationships a second birth. She tells us that many couples haven’t had sex in a long time, and many have never been especially intimate with their partners. She recognizes both states as challenges that must be overcome to rekindle love and sex in relationships. That’s the reason she gives for publishing her book and the relationship-building tools that fill its pages.Health Benefits of SexDr. Diana educates us about the many benefits of sex and intimacy, telling us that having sex or touching your partner is scientifically shown to reduce stress. In her practice, she tells us she often recommends massage to her clients as a method to reconnect because massage lowers cortisol and adrenaline levels when certain pressure points are stimulated on the body. She also teaches that touch, especially sex and orgasms, relieves stress by releasing oxytocin, a neurochemical which increases bonding, is a natural sedative, and increases empathy.Even masturbation reduces stress and has positive effects on health, Dr. Diana assures us. More surprisingly, Diana discusses that there are nonsexual self-touch exercises that also reduce stress and improve health. Unfortunately, she admits that unlike sex with someone else, the body does not release oxytocin during masturbation.When it comes to how sex impacts the rest of people’s lives, Diana and her husband like to say, “It’s fun, it’s free, and it’s the fountain of youth,” about sex because having sex dramatically increases the feeling of vitality regardless of biological age.Salvaging and Reigniting Broken RelationshipsDr. Diana claims to have written her book primarily to enrich people whose relationships are already doing well but want to take their intimacy to the next level. However, she acknowledges that some people are quarantined with unsuitable or violent partners, while others are cohabiting with a partner that they intended to break up with before the quarantine put the brakes on that process. For couples who were planning to break up, Dr Wiley suggests they come together and have a conversation about whether their relationship is worth salvaging.For people who want to salvage or restore their relationship, she says the process of reigniting relationships begins with a conversation about what each person wants from the relationship. To help couples reconnect physically, she describes writing about lots of nonsexual touch exercises. After they become comfortable touching, Diana explains that they can set achievable goals like becoming great at kissing or having a make-out session. She says these actions and discussions can help reveal hidden desires and build the confidence needed to enter the marital bed and take time with sex. Dr Diana claims that the change in pace should increase the quality of their sex life. She reminds us that women tend to need twenty minutes of foreplay, oral sex, and penetration to reach orgasm and receive all the benefits of sex. She offers tools to accomplish this in her book.Touching with Your Clothes OnIn her book, Diana encourages couples to assess the intimacy of their relationship when they’re not having sex. She argues that couples probably don’t feel closer when they’re just watching TV together, which is why she supports intentionality about touch and connecting. She knows that not all families physically demonstrate affection, but believes that touching and hugs are irreplaceable glue for relationships. In her book, she writes that a seven-second kiss or a fifteen-second hug is enough to release oxytocin and create meaningful bonding on a daily basis.The Sex MenuOne of the tools in Dr. Diana’s book is what she calls a sex menu. She describes the menu as a chart listing sexual activities and allowing each person to select a yes, no, or maybe reaction to indicate their desire for those acts. She says that many people get to anal sex and say no or maybe, but Dr. Diana reminds us that anal play doesn’t have to involve a penis in an anus. She describes rimming, which can be accomplished by moving a clean, wet finger around the anus, which stimulates nerve endings to create a very pleasurable experience.Date NightsIn the second chapter of her book, Diana instructs couples to plan their date night at home. Under normal circumstances, she told people to have a date night one time every week, but with the forced closeness of the coronavirus quarantine, she believes having a date night twice per week is helpful. She says some of her patients believe that scheduling date nights would kill spontaneity, but Dr. Wiley argues that spontaneous sex is a Hollywood myth, and people need to put sex on the calendar. By scheduling sex, Diana claims that the partner with a lower sex drive can feel relieved because they know they won’t have to have sex until the marked day, which allows her to prepare herself for sex by reading romance novels, taking long baths, masturbating, or doing anything else that can increase her sexual enthusiasm. When that time comes, Dr. Diana believes that giving massages is a great way to start any sex session, because it allows both parties to be relaxed.Dr. Wiley recommends that both partners discuss what they want from the evening. She claims that being sensual, considering all of our senses, is particularly helpful. She does admit there are limits to her book and her methods when she explains that resolving mental health issues and relationship tensions are necessary before increasing touch, as sex and romance are only truly effective for people who like each other.Seven Secrets for Sensational Sex1. Take care of yourself first. If you’re uncomfortable during sex, she advises telling your partner and making the sex better by avoiding discomfort.2. Maintain and respect boundaries. She asserts the value of boundaries, saying it’s important to discuss what you do and don’t like, and to avoid pressuring each other into performing undesired sex acts.3. Communicate openly and directly. Dr. Diana reminds us that no communication is clearer than spoken words.4. Don’t take anything personally. The doctor informs us that sometimes people aren’t in the mood for sex or specific sex acts. She reminds us that there are any number of reasons this could happen, and it’s unwise to presume it has anything to do with you.5. Focus on your partner’s pleasure. Diana’s husband expresses this as, “Worship your woman, and the goddess will reward you.” Though the phrase is gendered, Diana assures us the sentiment applies to men and women alike.6. Don’t take each other for granted. Dr. Wiley says that expressing praise for your partner and growing in gratitude every day is a great method to cultivate life satisfaction and marital bliss.7. Let go. Diana mentions that many women are very inhibited, which limits their ability to explore new things and enjoy sex. In her practice, as marijuana is legal in her state, she often recommends the substance as a method of pushing through inhibitions and having fun. She says that alcohol can serve a similar purpose, but it’s more harmful and not as useful. BackgroundDiana Wiley, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board-certified sex therapist, and a gerontologist. With over thirty years of experience helping clients navigate problems in their sex and love lives, she currently works with clients in her office in Seattle, WA, and via online telehealth sessions. With her radio show on Progressive Radio Network, “Love, Lust, and Laughter” she’s been reaching additional listeners and helping more people for a decade. She’s published two studies in medical journals on aging and sexuality and was appointed as a Clinton Presidential Delegate to the 1995 White House Conference on Aging. Dr. Wiley is a skilled speaker and has given lectures and presentations on Aging and Sexuality in Amsterdam, Paris, Spain, Japan, India, and at many US conferences. Recently she became the author of a book to help people stuck in quarantine called Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine.Resources for Diana Wiley, PhDhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B088TSNSPM/https://www.deardrdiana.com/https://drdianawiley.com/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/129-sex-during-quarantine-dr-diana-wiley
Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine’s stress of forced togetherness is hard for many couples. But in addition to that, she talks about how the recent murder of a black man by police has provoked riots in cities across the country, a political firestorm that only adds to the stress people are feeling during the quarantine.The Rebirth of Ourselves and our LoversReferring to the work of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Dr. Diana saw the free time with our families as an opportunity to grant our relationships a second birth. She tells us that many couples haven’t had sex in a long time, and many have never been especially intimate with their partners. She recognizes both states as challenges that must be overcome to rekindle love and sex in relationships. That’s the reason she gives for publishing her book and the relationship-building tools that fill its pages.Health Benefits of SexDr. Diana educates us about the many benefits of sex and intimacy, telling us that having sex or touching your partner is scientifically shown to reduce stress. In her practice, she tells us she often recommends massage to her clients as a method to reconnect because massage lowers cortisol and adrenaline levels when certain pressure points are stimulated on the body. She also teaches that touch, especially sex and orgasms, relieves stress by releasing oxytocin, a neurochemical which increases bonding, is a natural sedative, and increases empathy.Even masturbation reduces stress and has positive effects on health, Dr. Diana assures us. More surprisingly, Diana discusses that there are nonsexual self-touch exercises that also reduce stress and improve health. Unfortunately, she admits that unlike sex with someone else, the body does not release oxytocin during masturbation.When it comes to how sex impacts the rest of people’s lives, Diana and her husband like to say, “It’s fun, it’s free, and it’s the fountain of youth,” about sex because having sex dramatically increases the feeling of vitality regardless of biological age.Salvaging and Reigniting Broken RelationshipsDr. Diana claims to have written her book primarily to enrich people whose relationships are already doing well but want to take their intimacy to the next level. However, she acknowledges that some people are quarantined with unsuitable or violent partners, while others are cohabiting with a partner that they intended to break up with before the quarantine put the brakes on that process. For couples who were planning to break up, Dr Wiley suggests they come together and have a conversation about whether their relationship is worth salvaging.For people who want to salvage or restore their relationship, she says the process of reigniting relationships begins with a conversation about what each person wants from the relationship. To help couples reconnect physically, she describes writing about lots of nonsexual touch exercises. After they become comfortable touching, Diana explains that they can set achievable goals like becoming great at kissing or having a make-out session. She says these actions and discussions can help reveal hidden desires and build the confidence needed to enter the marital bed and take time with sex. Dr Diana claims that the change in pace should increase the quality of their sex life. She reminds us that women tend to need twenty minutes of foreplay, oral sex, and penetration to reach orgasm and receive all the benefits of sex. She offers tools to accomplish this in her book.Touching with Your Clothes OnIn her book, Diana encourages couples to assess the intimacy of their relationship when they’re not having sex. She argues that couples probably don’t feel closer when they’re just watching TV together, which is why she supports intentionality about touch and connecting. She knows that not all families physically demonstrate affection, but believes that touching and hugs are irreplaceable glue for relationships. In her book, she writes that a seven-second kiss or a fifteen-second hug is enough to release oxytocin and create meaningful bonding on a daily basis.The Sex MenuOne of the tools in Dr. Diana’s book is what she calls a sex menu. She describes the menu as a chart listing sexual activities and allowing each person to select a yes, no, or maybe reaction to indicate their desire for those acts. She says that many people get to anal sex and say no or maybe, but Dr. Diana reminds us that anal play doesn’t have to involve a penis in an anus. She describes rimming, which can be accomplished by moving a clean, wet finger around the anus, which stimulates nerve endings to create a very pleasurable experience.Date NightsIn the second chapter of her book, Diana instructs couples to plan their date night at home. Under normal circumstances, she told people to have a date night one time every week, but with the forced closeness of the coronavirus quarantine, she believes having a date night twice per week is helpful. She says some of her patients believe that scheduling date nights would kill spontaneity, but Dr. Wiley argues that spontaneous sex is a Hollywood myth, and people need to put sex on the calendar. By scheduling sex, Diana claims that the partner with a lower sex drive can feel relieved because they know they won’t have to have sex until the marked day, which allows her to prepare herself for sex by reading romance novels, taking long baths, masturbating, or doing anything else that can increase her sexual enthusiasm. When that time comes, Dr. Diana believes that giving massages is a great way to start any sex session, because it allows both parties to be relaxed.Dr. Wiley recommends that both partners discuss what they want from the evening. She claims that being sensual, considering all of our senses, is particularly helpful. She does admit there are limits to her book and her methods when she explains that resolving mental health issues and relationship tensions are necessary before increasing touch, as sex and romance are only truly effective for people who like each other.Seven Secrets for Sensational Sex1. Take care of yourself first. If you’re uncomfortable during sex, she advises telling your partner and making the sex better by avoiding discomfort.2. Maintain and respect boundaries. She asserts the value of boundaries, saying it’s important to discuss what you do and don’t like, and to avoid pressuring each other into performing undesired sex acts.3. Communicate openly and directly. Dr. Diana reminds us that no communication is clearer than spoken words.4. Don’t take anything personally. The doctor informs us that sometimes people aren’t in the mood for sex or specific sex acts. She reminds us that there are any number of reasons this could happen, and it’s unwise to presume it has anything to do with you.5. Focus on your partner’s pleasure. Diana’s husband expresses this as, “Worship your woman, and the goddess will reward you.” Though the phrase is gendered, Diana assures us the sentiment applies to men and women alike.6. Don’t take each other for granted. Dr. Wiley says that expressing praise for your partner and growing in gratitude every day is a great method to cultivate life satisfaction and marital bliss.7. Let go. Diana mentions that many women are very inhibited, which limits their ability to explore new things and enjoy sex. In her practice, as marijuana is legal in her state, she often recommends the substance as a method of pushing through inhibitions and having fun. She says that alcohol can serve a similar purpose, but it’s more harmful and not as useful. BackgroundDiana Wiley, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board-certified sex therapist, and a gerontologist. With over thirty years of experience helping clients navigate problems in their sex and love lives, she currently works with clients in her office in Seattle, WA, and via online telehealth sessions. With her radio show on Progressive Radio Network, “Love, Lust, and Laughter” she’s been reaching additional listeners and helping more people for a decade. She’s published two studies in medical journals on aging and sexuality and was appointed as a Clinton Presidential Delegate to the 1995 White House Conference on Aging. Dr. Wiley is a skilled speaker and has given lectures and presentations on Aging and Sexuality in Amsterdam, Paris, Spain, Japan, India, and at many US conferences. Recently she became the author of a book to help people stuck in quarantine called Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine.Resources for Diana Wiley, PhDhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B088TSNSPM/https://www.deardrdiana.com/https://drdianawiley.com/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/129-sex-during-quarantine-dr-diana-wiley
Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine’s stress of forced togetherness is hard for many couples. But in addition to that, she talks about how the recent murder of a black man by police has provoked riots in cities across the country, a political firestorm that only adds to the stress people are feeling during the quarantine.The Rebirth of Ourselves and our LoversReferring to the work of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Dr. Diana saw the free time with our families as an opportunity to grant our relationships a second birth. She tells us that many couples haven’t had sex in a long time, and many have never been especially intimate with their partners. She recognizes both states as challenges that must be overcome to rekindle love and sex in relationships. That’s the reason she gives for publishing her book and the relationship-building tools that fill its pages.Health Benefits of SexDr. Diana educates us about the many benefits of sex and intimacy, telling us that having sex or touching your partner is scientifically shown to reduce stress. In her practice, she tells us she often recommends massage to her clients as a method to reconnect because massage lowers cortisol and adrenaline levels when certain pressure points are stimulated on the body. She also teaches that touch, especially sex and orgasms, relieves stress by releasing oxytocin, a neurochemical which increases bonding, is a natural sedative, and increases empathy.Even masturbation reduces stress and has positive effects on health, Dr. Diana assures us. More surprisingly, Diana discusses that there are nonsexual self-touch exercises that also reduce stress and improve health. Unfortunately, she admits that unlike sex with someone else, the body does not release oxytocin during masturbation.When it comes to how sex impacts the rest of people’s lives, Diana and her husband like to say, “It’s fun, it’s free, and it’s the fountain of youth,” about sex because having sex dramatically increases the feeling of vitality regardless of biological age.Salvaging and Reigniting Broken RelationshipsDr. Diana claims to have written her book primarily to enrich people whose relationships are already doing well but want to take their intimacy to the next level. However, she acknowledges that some people are quarantined with unsuitable or violent partners, while others are cohabiting with a partner that they intended to break up with before the quarantine put the brakes on that process. For couples who were planning to break up, Dr Wiley suggests they come together and have a conversation about whether their relationship is worth salvaging.For people who want to salvage or restore their relationship, she says the process of reigniting relationships begins with a conversation about what each person wants from the relationship. To help couples reconnect physically, she describes writing about lots of nonsexual touch exercises. After they become comfortable touching, Diana explains that they can set achievable goals like becoming great at kissing or having a make-out session. She says these actions and discussions can help reveal hidden desires and build the confidence needed to enter the marital bed and take time with sex. Dr Diana claims that the change in pace should increase the quality of their sex life. She reminds us that women tend to need twenty minutes of foreplay, oral sex, and penetration to reach orgasm and receive all the benefits of sex. She offers tools to accomplish this in her book.Touching with Your Clothes OnIn her book, Diana encourages couples to assess the intimacy of their relationship when they’re not having sex. She argues that couples probably don’t feel closer when they’re just watching TV together, which is why she supports intentionality about touch and connecting. She knows that not all families physically demonstrate affection, but believes that touching and hugs are irreplaceable glue for relationships. In her book, she writes that a seven-second kiss or a fifteen-second hug is enough to release oxytocin and create meaningful bonding on a daily basis.The Sex MenuOne of the tools in Dr. Diana’s book is what she calls a sex menu. She describes the menu as a chart listing sexual activities and allowing each person to select a yes, no, or maybe reaction to indicate their desire for those acts. She says that many people get to anal sex and say no or maybe, but Dr. Diana reminds us that anal play doesn’t have to involve a penis in an anus. She describes rimming, which can be accomplished by moving a clean, wet finger around the anus, which stimulates nerve endings to create a very pleasurable experience.Date NightsIn the second chapter of her book, Diana instructs couples to plan their date night at home. Under normal circumstances, she told people to have a date night one time every week, but with the forced closeness of the coronavirus quarantine, she believes having a date night twice per week is helpful. She says some of her patients believe that scheduling date nights would kill spontaneity, but Dr. Wiley argues that spontaneous sex is a Hollywood myth, and people need to put sex on the calendar. By scheduling sex, Diana claims that the partner with a lower sex drive can feel relieved because they know they won’t have to have sex until the marked day, which allows her to prepare herself for sex by reading romance novels, taking long baths, masturbating, or doing anything else that can increase her sexual enthusiasm. When that time comes, Dr. Diana believes that giving massages is a great way to start any sex session, because it allows both parties to be relaxed.Dr. Wiley recommends that both partners discuss what they want from the evening. She claims that being sensual, considering all of our senses, is particularly helpful. She does admit there are limits to her book and her methods when she explains that resolving mental health issues and relationship tensions are necessary before increasing touch, as sex and romance are only truly effective for people who like each other.Seven Secrets for Sensational Sex1. Take care of yourself first. If you’re uncomfortable during sex, she advises telling your partner and making the sex better by avoiding discomfort.2. Maintain and respect boundaries. She asserts the value of boundaries, saying it’s important to discuss what you do and don’t like, and to avoid pressuring each other into performing undesired sex acts.3. Communicate openly and directly. Dr. Diana reminds us that no communication is clearer than spoken words.4. Don’t take anything personally. The doctor informs us that sometimes people aren’t in the mood for sex or specific sex acts. She reminds us that there are any number of reasons this could happen, and it’s unwise to presume it has anything to do with you.5. Focus on your partner’s pleasure. Diana’s husband expresses this as, “Worship your woman, and the goddess will reward you.” Though the phrase is gendered, Diana assures us the sentiment applies to men and women alike.6. Don’t take each other for granted. Dr. Wiley says that expressing praise for your partner and growing in gratitude every day is a great method to cultivate life satisfaction and marital bliss.7. Let go. Diana mentions that many women are very inhibited, which limits their ability to explore new things and enjoy sex. In her practice, as marijuana is legal in her state, she often recommends the substance as a method of pushing through inhibitions and having fun. She says that alcohol can serve a similar purpose, but it’s more harmful and not as useful. BackgroundDiana Wiley, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board-certified sex therapist, and a gerontologist. With over thirty years of experience helping clients navigate problems in their sex and love lives, she currently works with clients in her office in Seattle, WA, and via online telehealth sessions. With her radio show on Progressive Radio Network, “Love, Lust, and Laughter” she’s been reaching additional listeners and helping more people for a decade. She’s published two studies in medical journals on aging and sexuality and was appointed as a Clinton Presidential Delegate to the 1995 White House Conference on Aging. Dr. Wiley is a skilled speaker and has given lectures and presentations on Aging and Sexuality in Amsterdam, Paris, Spain, Japan, India, and at many US conferences. Recently she became the author of a book to help people stuck in quarantine called Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine.Resources for Diana Wiley, PhDhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B088TSNSPM/https://www.deardrdiana.com/https://drdianawiley.com/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/129-sex-during-quarantine-dr-diana-wiley
Jessa and Diana feel compelled to note that this episode of the Better Sex Podcast was recorded on June 1, 2020. Diana suggests that quarantine’s stress of forced togetherness is hard for many couples. But in addition to that, she talks about how the recent murder of a black man by police has provoked riots in cities across the country, a political firestorm that only adds to the stress people are feeling during the quarantine.The Rebirth of Ourselves and our LoversReferring to the work of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Dr. Diana saw the free time with our families as an opportunity to grant our relationships a second birth. She tells us that many couples haven’t had sex in a long time, and many have never been especially intimate with their partners. She recognizes both states as challenges that must be overcome to rekindle love and sex in relationships. That’s the reason she gives for publishing her book and the relationship-building tools that fill its pages.Health Benefits of SexDr. Diana educates us about the many benefits of sex and intimacy, telling us that having sex or touching your partner is scientifically shown to reduce stress. In her practice, she tells us she often recommends massage to her clients as a method to reconnect because massage lowers cortisol and adrenaline levels when certain pressure points are stimulated on the body. She also teaches that touch, especially sex and orgasms, relieves stress by releasing oxytocin, a neurochemical which increases bonding, is a natural sedative, and increases empathy.Even masturbation reduces stress and has positive effects on health, Dr. Diana assures us. More surprisingly, Diana discusses that there are nonsexual self-touch exercises that also reduce stress and improve health. Unfortunately, she admits that unlike sex with someone else, the body does not release oxytocin during masturbation.When it comes to how sex impacts the rest of people’s lives, Diana and her husband like to say, “It’s fun, it’s free, and it’s the fountain of youth,” about sex because having sex dramatically increases the feeling of vitality regardless of biological age.Salvaging and Reigniting Broken RelationshipsDr. Diana claims to have written her book primarily to enrich people whose relationships are already doing well but want to take their intimacy to the next level. However, she acknowledges that some people are quarantined with unsuitable or violent partners, while others are cohabiting with a partner that they intended to break up with before the quarantine put the brakes on that process. For couples who were planning to break up, Dr Wiley suggests they come together and have a conversation about whether their relationship is worth salvaging.For people who want to salvage or restore their relationship, she says the process of reigniting relationships begins with a conversation about what each person wants from the relationship. To help couples reconnect physically, she describes writing about lots of nonsexual touch exercises. After they become comfortable touching, Diana explains that they can set achievable goals like becoming great at kissing or having a make-out session. She says these actions and discussions can help reveal hidden desires and build the confidence needed to enter the marital bed and take time with sex. Dr Diana claims that the change in pace should increase the quality of their sex life. She reminds us that women tend to need twenty minutes of foreplay, oral sex, and penetration to reach orgasm and receive all the benefits of sex. She offers tools to accomplish this in her book.Touching with Your Clothes OnIn her book, Diana encourages couples to assess the intimacy of their relationship when they’re not having sex. She argues that couples probably don’t feel closer when they’re just watching TV together, which is why she supports intentionality about touch and connecting. She knows that not all families physically demonstrate affection, but believes that touching and hugs are irreplaceable glue for relationships. In her book, she writes that a seven-second kiss or a fifteen-second hug is enough to release oxytocin and create meaningful bonding on a daily basis.The Sex MenuOne of the tools in Dr. Diana’s book is what she calls a sex menu. She describes the menu as a chart listing sexual activities and allowing each person to select a yes, no, or maybe reaction to indicate their desire for those acts. She says that many people get to anal sex and say no or maybe, but Dr. Diana reminds us that anal play doesn’t have to involve a penis in an anus. She describes rimming, which can be accomplished by moving a clean, wet finger around the anus, which stimulates nerve endings to create a very pleasurable experience.Date NightsIn the second chapter of her book, Diana instructs couples to plan their date night at home. Under normal circumstances, she told people to have a date night one time every week, but with the forced closeness of the coronavirus quarantine, she believes having a date night twice per week is helpful. She says some of her patients believe that scheduling date nights would kill spontaneity, but Dr. Wiley argues that spontaneous sex is a Hollywood myth, and people need to put sex on the calendar. By scheduling sex, Diana claims that the partner with a lower sex drive can feel relieved because they know they won’t have to have sex until the marked day, which allows her to prepare herself for sex by reading romance novels, taking long baths, masturbating, or doing anything else that can increase her sexual enthusiasm. When that time comes, Dr. Diana believes that giving massages is a great way to start any sex session, because it allows both parties to be relaxed.Dr. Wiley recommends that both partners discuss what they want from the evening. She claims that being sensual, considering all of our senses, is particularly helpful. She does admit there are limits to her book and her methods when she explains that resolving mental health issues and relationship tensions are necessary before increasing touch, as sex and romance are only truly effective for people who like each other.Seven Secrets for Sensational Sex1. Take care of yourself first. If you’re uncomfortable during sex, she advises telling your partner and making the sex better by avoiding discomfort.2. Maintain and respect boundaries. She asserts the value of boundaries, saying it’s important to discuss what you do and don’t like, and to avoid pressuring each other into performing undesired sex acts.3. Communicate openly and directly. Dr. Diana reminds us that no communication is clearer than spoken words.4. Don’t take anything personally. The doctor informs us that sometimes people aren’t in the mood for sex or specific sex acts. She reminds us that there are any number of reasons this could happen, and it’s unwise to presume it has anything to do with you.5. Focus on your partner’s pleasure. Diana’s husband expresses this as, “Worship your woman, and the goddess will reward you.” Though the phrase is gendered, Diana assures us the sentiment applies to men and women alike.6. Don’t take each other for granted. Dr. Wiley says that expressing praise for your partner and growing in gratitude every day is a great method to cultivate life satisfaction and marital bliss.7. Let go. Diana mentions that many women are very inhibited, which limits their ability to explore new things and enjoy sex. In her practice, as marijuana is legal in her state, she often recommends the substance as a method of pushing through inhibitions and having fun. She says that alcohol can serve a similar purpose, but it’s more harmful and not as useful. BackgroundDiana Wiley, Ph.D., is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a board-certified sex therapist, and a gerontologist. With over thirty years of experience helping clients navigate problems in their sex and love lives, she currently works with clients in her office in Seattle, WA, and via online telehealth sessions. With her radio show on Progressive Radio Network, “Love, Lust, and Laughter” she’s been reaching additional listeners and helping more people for a decade. She’s published two studies in medical journals on aging and sexuality and was appointed as a Clinton Presidential Delegate to the 1995 White House Conference on Aging. Dr. Wiley is a skilled speaker and has given lectures and presentations on Aging and Sexuality in Amsterdam, Paris, Spain, Japan, India, and at many US conferences. Recently she became the author of a book to help people stuck in quarantine called Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine.Resources for Diana Wiley, PhDhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B088TSNSPM/https://www.deardrdiana.com/https://drdianawiley.com/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/129-sex-during-quarantine-dr-diana-wiley
Jessa Zimmerman joins me today to talk about all things relationships and SEX during this pandemic and quarantine situation. Obviously, two things are going on. There is quarantine, and we’re also in massive fear – a global pandemic, people losing their jobs, people losing income. And we’re stuck together.So, for relationship therapist’s this is kind of the PERFECT STORM. We’ve heard there may be a BABY BOOM nine months from now, but there may also be a DIVORCE BOOM.During this killer conversation, we discuss how couples can navigate their differences due to personality type and desire discrepancy. And how they can find or block time to have difficult or fun conversations.We also talk quite a lot about how couples can work on things in their sex lives. It’s going to be tough to navigate personal space versus the overwhelming amount of “TOGETHER TIME,” especially if when managing kids or working from home.Listen to this valuable episode. We give some KICK-ASS ADVICE and awesome tips. If you want, you can use this time to grow in your most intimate relationship and grow. How are you CHOOSING to come out of this?This is a real time to discover what we need and ask for what we need. If that’s, “I need a day to be by myself,” or “I need an hour to go for a walk,” or “I would love for you to kiss me or embrace me,” or whatever it is. This is such an opportunity for us to get very clear and reflect on, “What is it that I WANT? How do I want our sex life, our love life, our conversations are our relationship to be?”This is a moment to kind of sit with those things so that we can work on it. And again, on the other side of it, where, where are we going to be? You know, I keep saying, “Where do you want to be on the other side of this?”Thanks again for listening, and I wish you only the best in health and happiness. Take care.For more about Jessica and her upcoming events, visit https://jessicabutts.comFollow her on Instagram @frontseatlife for daily motivation.Sign up for the new Live Unapologetically waitlist: https://jessicabutts.com/LU/The FREE Front Seat Squad: https://jessicabutts.com/squad/Not sure what your Myers Briggs personality type is? Take a free personality assessment at https://jessicabutts.com/quiz/For more about Jessa, her book and her course, visit https://sexwithoutstress.comFor her guide, Talk to Your Partner about Intimacy Without Any Drama, visit https://sexwithoutstress.com/guideListen to her podcast, The Better Sex Podcast: https://bettersexpodcast.comFront Seat Life Podcasthttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/front-seat-life-podcast/
Jessa Zimmerman joins me today to talk about all things relationships and SEX during this pandemic and quarantine situation. Obviously, two things are going on. There is quarantine, and we’re also in massive fear – a global pandemic, people losing their jobs, people losing income. And we’re stuck together.So, for relationship therapist’s this is kind of the PERFECT STORM. We’ve heard there may be a BABY BOOM nine months from now, but there may also be a DIVORCE BOOM.During this killer conversation, we discuss how couples can navigate their differences due to personality type and desire discrepancy. And how they can find or block time to have difficult or fun conversations.We also talk quite a lot about how couples can work on things in their sex lives. It’s going to be tough to navigate personal space versus the overwhelming amount of “TOGETHER TIME,” especially if when managing kids or working from home.Listen to this valuable episode. We give some KICK-ASS ADVICE and awesome tips. If you want, you can use this time to grow in your most intimate relationship and grow. How are you CHOOSING to come out of this?This is a real time to discover what we need and ask for what we need. If that’s, “I need a day to be by myself,” or “I need an hour to go for a walk,” or “I would love for you to kiss me or embrace me,” or whatever it is. This is such an opportunity for us to get very clear and reflect on, “What is it that I WANT? How do I want our sex life, our love life, our conversations are our relationship to be?”This is a moment to kind of sit with those things so that we can work on it. And again, on the other side of it, where, where are we going to be? You know, I keep saying, “Where do you want to be on the other side of this?”Thanks again for listening, and I wish you only the best in health and happiness. Take care.For more about Jessica and her upcoming events, visit https://jessicabutts.comFollow her on Instagram @frontseatlife for daily motivation.Sign up for the new Live Unapologetically waitlist: https://jessicabutts.com/LU/The FREE Front Seat Squad: https://jessicabutts.com/squad/Not sure what your Myers Briggs personality type is? Take a free personality assessment at https://jessicabutts.com/quiz/For more about Jessa, her book and her course, visit https://sexwithoutstress.comFor her guide, Talk to Your Partner about Intimacy Without Any Drama, visit https://sexwithoutstress.com/guideListen to her podcast, The Better Sex Podcast: https://bettersexpodcast.comFront Seat Life Podcasthttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/front-seat-life-podcast/
Jessa Zimmerman joins me today to talk about all things relationships and SEX during this pandemic and quarantine situation. Obviously, two things are going on. There is quarantine, and we’re also in massive fear – a global pandemic, people losing their jobs, people losing income. And we’re stuck together.So, for relationship therapist’s this is kind of the PERFECT STORM. We’ve heard there may be a BABY BOOM nine months from now, but there may also be a DIVORCE BOOM.During this killer conversation, we discuss how couples can navigate their differences due to personality type and desire discrepancy. And how they can find or block time to have difficult or fun conversations.We also talk quite a lot about how couples can work on things in their sex lives. It’s going to be tough to navigate personal space versus the overwhelming amount of “TOGETHER TIME,” especially if when managing kids or working from home.Listen to this valuable episode. We give some KICK-ASS ADVICE and awesome tips. If you want, you can use this time to grow in your most intimate relationship and grow. How are you CHOOSING to come out of this?This is a real time to discover what we need and ask for what we need. If that’s, “I need a day to be by myself,” or “I need an hour to go for a walk,” or “I would love for you to kiss me or embrace me,” or whatever it is. This is such an opportunity for us to get very clear and reflect on, “What is it that I WANT? How do I want our sex life, our love life, our conversations are our relationship to be?”This is a moment to kind of sit with those things so that we can work on it. And again, on the other side of it, where, where are we going to be? You know, I keep saying, “Where do you want to be on the other side of this?”Thanks again for listening, and I wish you only the best in health and happiness. Take care.For more about Jessica and her upcoming events, visit https://jessicabutts.comFollow her on Instagram @frontseatlife for daily motivation.Sign up for the new Live Unapologetically waitlist: https://jessicabutts.com/LU/The FREE Front Seat Squad: https://jessicabutts.com/squad/Not sure what your Myers Briggs personality type is? Take a free personality assessment at https://jessicabutts.com/quiz/For more about Jessa, her book and her course, visit https://sexwithoutstress.comFor her guide, Talk to Your Partner about Intimacy Without Any Drama, visit https://sexwithoutstress.com/guideListen to her podcast, The Better Sex Podcast: https://bettersexpodcast.comFront Seat Life Podcasthttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/front-seat-life-podcast/
My guest is a repeat guest, which is a first for the Better Sex Podcast! His name is Matthias Rose and he is a Tantric teacher and healer. Matthias operates his practice out of Seattle and loves to connect couples through the power of Tantra. In this episode though, he explores the power of “ejaculatory choice”. This is the concept that men can be in control of their ejaculation and learn to orgasm without ejaculation. By riding what he calls orgasmic waves, men can slow down their experiences, ramp up their connection and intimacy with their partner, and overall just let go and experience sex in a healthy, care-free, powerful way. Listen in for much more on this powerful practice. The Benefits of ‘Ejaculatory Choice' Matthias says that rewording the phrase “ejaculatory control” to “ejaculatory choice” is a much more accurate and healthy representation for men. The benefits are many, and can extend to covering premature and retarded ejaculation. Ejaculatory choice is also beneficial for those with erectile dysfunction. The Difference Between Ejaculation and Orgasm Matthias says that when he is paying attention to internal experiences, arousal, and physical stimuli, the act of ejaculation doesn't necessarily coincide with orgasm. Usually, orgasm and ejaculation happen close together, but they are not the same thing. And so, as he states, you can have the orgasmic experiences without ejaculation. Because they are separate, you can practice ejaculatory choice and forego ejaculation to experience the waves and sensations of orgasm. Multiple Orgasms and Greater Intimacy Apart from being able to separate ejaculation and orgasm and thus achieve multiple orgasms with practice, ejaculatory choice also means greater intimacy with your partner. It can lead to an exploration and a ‘playing' in orgasmic waves that naturally stokes the embers of passion. And overall, being present and thoughtful and fully engaged with your ejaculation choice leads to more thoughtful, intimate sex. He says that once sex is approached from a more open-ended way, there is greater potential for felt connection and overall better sex. Ejaculation Obstacles and Techniques for Resolution Matthias says that rapid ejaculation is more common than delayed ejaculation. He says that his approach is to let go of the ‘why' when talking about ejacluation. His approach is less analytical and more practical in the sense that he introduces techniques for resolving the ejaculatory issue. He says that getting rid of the usual anxious thoughts and distractions is key. He also tries to bring conscious attention to the physical sensations. And within that consciousness comes a shifting of the body's automatic path to climaxing. The Power of Breathing Mathias says that deep, calming breaths are important for curbing the urge to ejaculate. You can self-regulate in this way if you are feeling the intensity ramp up. He also says that you look at breathing as a way of moving energy away from the penis and upwards into the body, this can give you a lot more control over your ejaculation. This practice de-escalates the need to ejaculate and makes for more pleasurable sex. It is also directly applicable to females as well. This breathing technique opens the door for more relaxation, which by extension leads to better sex. This is diametrically opposed to the tensing and clenching techniques often used to delay ejaculation, which leads to loss of energy and doesn't give the benefits of ejaculation control. As he says, most men who practice slowing down and doing the deep breathing find that after the initial climax builds and the male successfully slows down and avoids ejaculation, the brain understands that you are not wanting to ejaculate. Most men report having a few more minutes of free play until it builds back up again. In short, you build up the potential to ride orgasmic waves as you continually build up the delayed climaxes. Listen in for much more that wasn't shared here! Key Links for Matthias: His LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthias-rose-053b35a3/ Websites: http://matthias-rose.com/ || http://moksha-tantra.org/ Articles: “How to Find a Tantric Healer” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/how-to-find-a-tantric-healer-8b2dd2b29c1a “Tantric Bill of Rights” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/a-tantric-bill-of-rights-f0af021b1c1e “The Heart of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-heart-of-tantra-2fbfca187e45 “The Origins of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-origins-of-tantra-acc4334638e9 More info: Link to the guide sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talk Join my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/list Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Web – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
My guest is a repeat guest, which is a first for the Better Sex Podcast! His name is Matthias Rose and he is a Tantric teacher and healer. Matthias operates his practice out of Seattle and loves to connect couples through the power of Tantra. In this episode though, he explores the power of “ejaculatory choice”. This is the concept that men can be in control of their ejaculation and learn to orgasm without ejaculation. By riding what he calls orgasmic waves, men can slow down their experiences, ramp up their connection and intimacy with their partner, and overall just let go and experience sex in a healthy, care-free, powerful way. Listen in for much more on this powerful practice. The Benefits of ‘Ejaculatory Choice’ Matthias says that rewording the phrase “ejaculatory control” to “ejaculatory choice” is a much more accurate and healthy representation for men. The benefits are many, and can extend to covering premature and retarded ejaculation. Ejaculatory choice is also beneficial for those with erectile dysfunction. The Difference Between Ejaculation and Orgasm Matthias says that when he is paying attention to internal experiences, arousal, and physical stimuli, the act of ejaculation doesn’t necessarily coincide with orgasm. Usually, orgasm and ejaculation happen close together, but they are not the same thing. And so, as he states, you can have the orgasmic experiences without ejaculation. Because they are separate, you can practice ejaculatory choice and forego ejaculation to experience the waves and sensations of orgasm. Multiple Orgasms and Greater Intimacy Apart from being able to separate ejaculation and orgasm and thus achieve multiple orgasms with practice, ejaculatory choice also means greater intimacy with your partner. It can lead to an exploration and a ‘playing’ in orgasmic waves that naturally stokes the embers of passion. And overall, being present and thoughtful and fully engaged with your ejaculation choice leads to more thoughtful, intimate sex. He says that once sex is approached from a more open-ended way, there is greater potential for felt connection and overall better sex. Ejaculation Obstacles and Techniques for Resolution Matthias says that rapid ejaculation is more common than delayed ejaculation. He says that his approach is to let go of the ‘why’ when talking about ejacluation. His approach is less analytical and more practical in the sense that he introduces techniques for resolving the ejaculatory issue. He says that getting rid of the usual anxious thoughts and distractions is key. He also tries to bring conscious attention to the physical sensations. And within that consciousness comes a shifting of the body’s automatic path to climaxing. The Power of Breathing Mathias says that deep, calming breaths are important for curbing the urge to ejaculate. You can self-regulate in this way if you are feeling the intensity ramp up. He also says that you look at breathing as a way of moving energy away from the penis and upwards into the body, this can give you a lot more control over your ejaculation. This practice de-escalates the need to ejaculate and makes for more pleasurable sex. It is also directly applicable to females as well. This breathing technique opens the door for more relaxation, which by extension leads to better sex. This is diametrically opposed to the tensing and clenching techniques often used to delay ejaculation, which leads to loss of energy and doesn’t give the benefits of ejaculation control. As he says, most men who practice slowing down and doing the deep breathing find that after the initial climax builds and the male successfully slows down and avoids ejaculation, the brain understands that you are not wanting to ejaculate. Most men report having a few more minutes of free play until it builds back up again. In short, you build up the potential to ride orgasmic waves as you continually build up the delayed climaxes. Listen in for much more that wasn’t shared here! Key Links for Matthias: His LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthias-rose-053b35a3/ Websites: http://matthias-rose.com/ || http://moksha-tantra.org/ Articles: “How to Find a Tantric Healer” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/how-to-find-a-tantric-healer-8b2dd2b29c1a “Tantric Bill of Rights” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/a-tantric-bill-of-rights-f0af021b1c1e “The Heart of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-heart-of-tantra-2fbfca187e45 “The Origins of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-origins-of-tantra-acc4334638e9 More info:Link to the guide sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
My guest is a repeat guest, which is a first for the Better Sex Podcast! His name is Matthias Rose and he is a Tantric teacher and healer. Matthias operates his practice out of Seattle and loves to connect couples through the power of Tantra. In this episode though, he explores the power of “ejaculatory choice”. This is the concept that men can be in control of their ejaculation and learn to orgasm without ejaculation. By riding what he calls orgasmic waves, men can slow down their experiences, ramp up their connection and intimacy with their partner, and overall just let go and experience sex in a healthy, care-free, powerful way. Listen in for much more on this powerful practice. The Benefits of ‘Ejaculatory Choice’ Matthias says that rewording the phrase “ejaculatory control” to “ejaculatory choice” is a much more accurate and healthy representation for men. The benefits are many, and can extend to covering premature and retarded ejaculation. Ejaculatory choice is also beneficial for those with erectile dysfunction. The Difference Between Ejaculation and Orgasm Matthias says that when he is paying attention to internal experiences, arousal, and physical stimuli, the act of ejaculation doesn’t necessarily coincide with orgasm. Usually, orgasm and ejaculation happen close together, but they are not the same thing. And so, as he states, you can have the orgasmic experiences without ejaculation. Because they are separate, you can practice ejaculatory choice and forego ejaculation to experience the waves and sensations of orgasm. Multiple Orgasms and Greater Intimacy Apart from being able to separate ejaculation and orgasm and thus achieve multiple orgasms with practice, ejaculatory choice also means greater intimacy with your partner. It can lead to an exploration and a ‘playing’ in orgasmic waves that naturally stokes the embers of passion. And overall, being present and thoughtful and fully engaged with your ejaculation choice leads to more thoughtful, intimate sex. He says that once sex is approached from a more open-ended way, there is greater potential for felt connection and overall better sex. Ejaculation Obstacles and Techniques for Resolution Matthias says that rapid ejaculation is more common than delayed ejaculation. He says that his approach is to let go of the ‘why’ when talking about ejacluation. His approach is less analytical and more practical in the sense that he introduces techniques for resolving the ejaculatory issue. He says that getting rid of the usual anxious thoughts and distractions is key. He also tries to bring conscious attention to the physical sensations. And within that consciousness comes a shifting of the body’s automatic path to climaxing. The Power of Breathing Mathias says that deep, calming breaths are important for curbing the urge to ejaculate. You can self-regulate in this way if you are feeling the intensity ramp up. He also says that you look at breathing as a way of moving energy away from the penis and upwards into the body, this can give you a lot more control over your ejaculation. This practice de-escalates the need to ejaculate and makes for more pleasurable sex. It is also directly applicable to females as well. This breathing technique opens the door for more relaxation, which by extension leads to better sex. This is diametrically opposed to the tensing and clenching techniques often used to delay ejaculation, which leads to loss of energy and doesn’t give the benefits of ejaculation control. As he says, most men who practice slowing down and doing the deep breathing find that after the initial climax builds and the male successfully slows down and avoids ejaculation, the brain understands that you are not wanting to ejaculate. Most men report having a few more minutes of free play until it builds back up again. In short, you build up the potential to ride orgasmic waves as you continually build up the delayed climaxes. Listen in for much more that wasn’t shared here! Key Links for Matthias: His LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthias-rose-053b35a3/ Websites: http://matthias-rose.com/ || http://moksha-tantra.org/ Articles: “How to Find a Tantric Healer” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/how-to-find-a-tantric-healer-8b2dd2b29c1a “Tantric Bill of Rights” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/a-tantric-bill-of-rights-f0af021b1c1e “The Heart of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-heart-of-tantra-2fbfca187e45 “The Origins of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-origins-of-tantra-acc4334638e9 More info:Link to the guide sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
My guest is a repeat guest, which is a first for the Better Sex Podcast! His name is Matthias Rose and he is a Tantric teacher and healer. Matthias operates his practice out of Seattle and loves to connect couples through the power of Tantra. In this episode though, he explores the power of “ejaculatory choice”. This is the concept that men can be in control of their ejaculation and learn to orgasm without ejaculation. By riding what he calls orgasmic waves, men can slow down their experiences, ramp up their connection and intimacy with their partner, and overall just let go and experience sex in a healthy, care-free, powerful way. Listen in for much more on this powerful practice. The Benefits of ‘Ejaculatory Choice’ Matthias says that rewording the phrase “ejaculatory control” to “ejaculatory choice” is a much more accurate and healthy representation for men. The benefits are many, and can extend to covering premature and retarded ejaculation. Ejaculatory choice is also beneficial for those with erectile dysfunction. The Difference Between Ejaculation and Orgasm Matthias says that when he is paying attention to internal experiences, arousal, and physical stimuli, the act of ejaculation doesn’t necessarily coincide with orgasm. Usually, orgasm and ejaculation happen close together, but they are not the same thing. And so, as he states, you can have the orgasmic experiences without ejaculation. Because they are separate, you can practice ejaculatory choice and forego ejaculation to experience the waves and sensations of orgasm. Multiple Orgasms and Greater Intimacy Apart from being able to separate ejaculation and orgasm and thus achieve multiple orgasms with practice, ejaculatory choice also means greater intimacy with your partner. It can lead to an exploration and a ‘playing’ in orgasmic waves that naturally stokes the embers of passion. And overall, being present and thoughtful and fully engaged with your ejaculation choice leads to more thoughtful, intimate sex. He says that once sex is approached from a more open-ended way, there is greater potential for felt connection and overall better sex. Ejaculation Obstacles and Techniques for Resolution Matthias says that rapid ejaculation is more common than delayed ejaculation. He says that his approach is to let go of the ‘why’ when talking about ejacluation. His approach is less analytical and more practical in the sense that he introduces techniques for resolving the ejaculatory issue. He says that getting rid of the usual anxious thoughts and distractions is key. He also tries to bring conscious attention to the physical sensations. And within that consciousness comes a shifting of the body’s automatic path to climaxing. The Power of Breathing Mathias says that deep, calming breaths are important for curbing the urge to ejaculate. You can self-regulate in this way if you are feeling the intensity ramp up. He also says that you look at breathing as a way of moving energy away from the penis and upwards into the body, this can give you a lot more control over your ejaculation. This practice de-escalates the need to ejaculate and makes for more pleasurable sex. It is also directly applicable to females as well. This breathing technique opens the door for more relaxation, which by extension leads to better sex. This is diametrically opposed to the tensing and clenching techniques often used to delay ejaculation, which leads to loss of energy and doesn’t give the benefits of ejaculation control. As he says, most men who practice slowing down and doing the deep breathing find that after the initial climax builds and the male successfully slows down and avoids ejaculation, the brain understands that you are not wanting to ejaculate. Most men report having a few more minutes of free play until it builds back up again. In short, you build up the potential to ride orgasmic waves as you continually build up the delayed climaxes. Listen in for much more that wasn’t shared here! Key Links for Matthias: His LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthias-rose-053b35a3/ Websites: http://matthias-rose.com/ || http://moksha-tantra.org/ Articles: “How to Find a Tantric Healer” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/how-to-find-a-tantric-healer-8b2dd2b29c1a “Tantric Bill of Rights” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/a-tantric-bill-of-rights-f0af021b1c1e “The Heart of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-heart-of-tantra-2fbfca187e45 “The Origins of Tantra” – https://medium.com/@matthiasrose/the-origins-of-tantra-acc4334638e9 More info:Link to the guide sex: http://bettersexpodcast.com/talkJoin my email list here: http://bettersexpodcast.com/listBook and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
This week on "Upside of 40 with Sean Mooney", we go under the covers, as certified sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman joins us to talk about common struggles men over 40 have when it comes to sex and intimacy. Jessa explores efforts couples can make towards achieving better intimacy, and how to rekindle the feelings we once shared with our significant other. Jessa talks about the different types of sexual desires one might have, and how those desires could ultimately end a relationship. Plus, Jessa explores the health benefits of sex, the impact of intimacy on new relationships vs longer-term relationships, how we may not fully understand intimacy until later in life, dealing with ED, and much more!Be sure to check out Jessa Zimmerman's podcast, "The Better Sex Podcast" available at http://www.bettersexpodcast.comSupport Upside of 40 by joining us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/upsideof40 - where you'll get access to full video episodes, bonus video demonstrations, and much more!Follow Upside of 40 with Sean Mooney at @Upsideof40 on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook!Music for Upside of 40 with Sean Mooney is provided by Immune System. To hear more from Immune System, head to https://immunesystem.bandcamp.com
Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real-world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com. Today we’re chatting about: How to start the Sex Convo in any Relationship What the definition of a Sexless Relationship really is Why you need to make Sex about connection How to Make Sex Engaging again Connect with Jessa Zimmerman: Website: www.jessazimmerman.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/seattlecouplescounselor/ Twitter: @jessa_zimmerman Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform! DJ is a therapist who works in the Seattle area. He specifically works with patients who are struggling with sexual addiction, codependency, and other process addictions. He is the best-selling author of I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Sex and Love Addict, and his story is one of bravery, honesty, and hope. Listen along and learn more DJ's story! Key Moments in DJ's Life That Led to Realization As DJ shares early in the interview, it wasn't until he moved from Georgia to Seattle that he began to realize the extent of his psychological hang-ups. Before, he had moved from place to place in an attempt to run from his problems, but he soon began to grasp his compulsions with more clarity. While DJ was in Georgia, he experienced relationship problems. As he says during the talk, “when you talk about being gay in the south, you don't get a lot of support.” And on top of this, same-sex marriage was illegal at the time, so DJ and his partner decided to move to Seattle. At this point in his life, DJ was exhausted from his caregiving profession. Being a natural caregiver, DJ had always found ways to give more to others than himself. But that certainly sapped a lot of energy from DJ. He needed a break! Soon though, he realized he had been in a dysfunctional relationship with his husband from day one. Hear this part of DJ story in his own words. Listen along! Other Problems That DJ Faced at the Time He says that he struggled with poorly established boundaries in his relationship, as well as codependency that manifested itself in a ‘fix-it' mentality for DJ. He states that fixing people and things are all he's always known. And so his relationship made it hard for him to shake that compulsion. DJ also talks about how difficult it was to have a partner who stored porn on a hard drive and who viewed it regularly, sometimes sitting right next to DJ on the couch. This negatively affected DJ's self-esteem and desire to be available for sex. His insecurities got so severe that he says he was drowning his sorrows in alcohol and porn himself. All of this after his partner started regularly meeting up with a porn star for dinner. DJ discusses more about this time in his life during the interview. New Relationship, Same Scenario Shortly after moving to Seattle, DJ tells us that he and his partner split up. This was just 2 weeks after moving, so DJ didn't have a job and tried his hardest to get enough money to move out of the apartment he shared with his ex. He got a job and then found himself in a new relationship. But it soon became the same old relationship dynamic he had always known. After he got married again, that's when his sex addiction showed up. DJ's Sex Addiction Once he was married again and living in Seattle, he and his partner decided to pursue an open relationship. They both were curious about the dynamic, and from within that framework, they embraced the lifestyle. DJ said he was immediately hooked. He and his partner had originally pursed outside relationships together, but they soon branched off and did their own thing within the set of rules they had laid out. But coupled with a drinking problem and an increasingly growing sexual appetite, DJ started to realize that he was in trouble. This realization came from a shocking physical confrontation and his spiral out of control. DJ's Recovery Process Once DJ's partner agreed to go to treatment for his alcohol addiction, DJ realized his struggles and addictions. He says that when he filled out the assessment for Co-Dependents Anonymous, he checked off every single box on the sheet of paper. He also started attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings as well. In a similar manner, he found himself checking off the majority of preliminary assessment questions. He said it was absolutely heartbreaking to have the truth right in front of him in black and white. It also led DJ to discover an event in his life that had opened up everything to him. His meetings brought the necessary context for him to have the crucial breakthroughs that he needed to have. For much more on the story, including how spirituality helped him recover, his work with helping people, his amazing marriage and son, and his happy ending, listen along! Key Links for DJ DJ's website: http://www.djburr.com/ DJ's podcasts: Journey On Podcast || Making an Addict Affiliate link for DJ's book, I Just Wanted Love: https://amzn.to/2VcKLIB More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Web – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform!DJ is a therapist who works in the Seattle area. He specifically works with patients who are struggling with sexual addiction, codependency, and other process addictions. He is the best-selling author of I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Sex and Love Addict, and his story is one of bravery, honesty, and hope.Listen along and learn more DJ’s story!Key Moments in DJ’s Life That Led to RealizationAs DJ shares early in the interview, it wasn’t until he moved from Georgia to Seattle that he began to realize the extent of his psychological hang-ups. Before, he had moved from place to place in an attempt to run from his problems, but he soon began to grasp his compulsions with more clarity.While DJ was in Georgia, he experienced relationship problems. As he says during the talk, “when you talk about being gay in the south, you don’t get a lot of support.” And on top of this, same-sex marriage was illegal at the time, so DJ and his partner decided to move to Seattle.At this point in his life, DJ was exhausted from his caregiving profession. Being a natural caregiver, DJ had always found ways to give more to others than himself. But that certainly sapped a lot of energy from DJ. He needed a break! Soon though, he realized he had been in a dysfunctional relationship with his husband from day one.Hear this part of DJ story in his own words. Listen along!Other Problems That DJ Faced at the TimeHe says that he struggled with poorly established boundaries in his relationship, as well as codependency that manifested itself in a ‘fix-it’ mentality for DJ. He states that fixing people and things are all he’s always known. And so his relationship made it hard for him to shake that compulsion.DJ also talks about how difficult it was to have a partner who stored porn on a hard drive and who viewed it regularly, sometimes sitting right next to DJ on the couch. This negatively affected DJ’s self-esteem and desire to be available for sex.His insecurities got so severe that he says he was drowning his sorrows in alcohol and porn himself. All of this after his partner started regularly meeting up with a porn star for dinner.DJ discusses more about this time in his life during the interview.New Relationship, Same ScenarioShortly after moving to Seattle, DJ tells us that he and his partner split up. This was just 2 weeks after moving, so DJ didn’t have a job and tried his hardest to get enough money to move out of the apartment he shared with his ex.He got a job and then found himself in a new relationship. But it soon became the same old relationship dynamic he had always known.After he got married again, that’s when his sex addiction showed up.DJ’s Sex AddictionOnce he was married again and living in Seattle, he and his partner decided to pursue an open relationship. They both were curious about the dynamic, and from within that framework, they embraced the lifestyle.DJ said he was immediately hooked. He and his partner had originally pursed outside relationships together, but they soon branched off and did their own thing within the set of rules they had laid out.But coupled with a drinking problem and an increasingly growing sexual appetite, DJ started to realize that he was in trouble. This realization came from a shocking physical confrontation and his spiral out of control.DJ’s Recovery ProcessOnce DJ’s partner agreed to go to treatment for his alcohol addiction, DJ realized his struggles and addictions. He says that when he filled out the assessment for Co-Dependents Anonymous, he checked off every single box on the sheet of paper. He also started attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings as well. In a similar manner, he found himself checking off the majority of preliminary assessment questions.He said it was absolutely heartbreaking to have the truth right in front of him in black and white. It also led DJ to discover an event in his life that had opened up everything to him. His meetings brought the necessary context for him to have the crucial breakthroughs that he needed to have.For much more on the story, including how spirituality helped him recover, his work with helping people, his amazing marriage and son, and his happy ending, listen along!Key Links for DJDJ’s website: http://www.djburr.com/DJ’s podcasts: Journey On Podcast || Making an AddictAffiliate link for DJ’s book, I Just Wanted Love: https://amzn.to/2VcKLIBMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, it is my honor to welcome DJ as he shares his personal journey with you. Having people come in and share the details of their life is one of the best parts of this platform!DJ is a therapist who works in the Seattle area. He specifically works with patients who are struggling with sexual addiction, codependency, and other process addictions. He is the best-selling author of I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Sex and Love Addict, and his story is one of bravery, honesty, and hope.Listen along and learn more DJ’s story!Key Moments in DJ’s Life That Led to RealizationAs DJ shares early in the interview, it wasn’t until he moved from Georgia to Seattle that he began to realize the extent of his psychological hang-ups. Before, he had moved from place to place in an attempt to run from his problems, but he soon began to grasp his compulsions with more clarity.While DJ was in Georgia, he experienced relationship problems. As he says during the talk, “when you talk about being gay in the south, you don’t get a lot of support.” And on top of this, same-sex marriage was illegal at the time, so DJ and his partner decided to move to Seattle.At this point in his life, DJ was exhausted from his caregiving profession. Being a natural caregiver, DJ had always found ways to give more to others than himself. But that certainly sapped a lot of energy from DJ. He needed a break! Soon though, he realized he had been in a dysfunctional relationship with his husband from day one.Hear this part of DJ story in his own words. Listen along!Other Problems That DJ Faced at the TimeHe says that he struggled with poorly established boundaries in his relationship, as well as codependency that manifested itself in a ‘fix-it’ mentality for DJ. He states that fixing people and things are all he’s always known. And so his relationship made it hard for him to shake that compulsion.DJ also talks about how difficult it was to have a partner who stored porn on a hard drive and who viewed it regularly, sometimes sitting right next to DJ on the couch. This negatively affected DJ’s self-esteem and desire to be available for sex.His insecurities got so severe that he says he was drowning his sorrows in alcohol and porn himself. All of this after his partner started regularly meeting up with a porn star for dinner.DJ discusses more about this time in his life during the interview.New Relationship, Same ScenarioShortly after moving to Seattle, DJ tells us that he and his partner split up. This was just 2 weeks after moving, so DJ didn’t have a job and tried his hardest to get enough money to move out of the apartment he shared with his ex.He got a job and then found himself in a new relationship. But it soon became the same old relationship dynamic he had always known.After he got married again, that’s when his sex addiction showed up.DJ’s Sex AddictionOnce he was married again and living in Seattle, he and his partner decided to pursue an open relationship. They both were curious about the dynamic, and from within that framework, they embraced the lifestyle.DJ said he was immediately hooked. He and his partner had originally pursed outside relationships together, but they soon branched off and did their own thing within the set of rules they had laid out.But coupled with a drinking problem and an increasingly growing sexual appetite, DJ started to realize that he was in trouble. This realization came from a shocking physical confrontation and his spiral out of control.DJ’s Recovery ProcessOnce DJ’s partner agreed to go to treatment for his alcohol addiction, DJ realized his struggles and addictions. He says that when he filled out the assessment for Co-Dependents Anonymous, he checked off every single box on the sheet of paper. He also started attending Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meetings as well. In a similar manner, he found himself checking off the majority of preliminary assessment questions.He said it was absolutely heartbreaking to have the truth right in front of him in black and white. It also led DJ to discover an event in his life that had opened up everything to him. His meetings brought the necessary context for him to have the crucial breakthroughs that he needed to have.For much more on the story, including how spirituality helped him recover, his work with helping people, his amazing marriage and son, and his happy ending, listen along!Key Links for DJDJ’s website: http://www.djburr.com/DJ’s podcasts: Journey On Podcast || Making an AddictAffiliate link for DJ’s book, I Just Wanted Love: https://amzn.to/2VcKLIBMore info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comWeb – https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
Who is Jessa Zimmerman? Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com. Show Highlights Jessa talks about our work as humans and the clarity we have in midlife and the risks we should be taking to improve and transform our relationships Jessa talks about the need to redefine sex not just as we get older but from the very beginning Jessa talks about the myth of soul mates who are expected to complete us, consensual non-monogamy, affairs, and cheating Terri asked Jessa to share the resources she recommends for couples looking to improve their relationships and sex in midlife Terri’s Key Takeaway Your relationship and intimate life are like a garden that needs to be tended. References in the Podcast Better Sex Podcast: https://bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Without Stress: https://sexwithoutstress.com/book/ Susie Rosenstein interviews Jessa on Women in the Middle: https://suzyrosenstein.com/podcast/ep-35-midlife-mindfulness-and-sex-with-jessa-zimmerman/ The Breaking Point: https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Point-Midlife-Transforming-Hardcover/dp/B010EWAQQ6 The Real Reason Women Cheat: https://www.thelist.com/32795/real-reasons-women-cheat/ Contact Jessa can be reached through her website https://sexwithoutstress.com/ You can follow Terri on Twitter at @terrihansonmead or go to her website at www.terrihansonmead.com or on Medium: https://medium.com/@terrihansonmead. Feel free to email Terri at PilotingYourLife@gmail.com. To continue the conversation, go to Twitter at @PilotingLife and use hashtag #PilotingYourLife. Show Flow Comments and Notes
I invited Jessa to be a guest on the show because I think it’s important to talk about topics that can be hard to talk about. For women, sex seems to often fall into this category of somewhat “taboo” topics. I was curious about the courage it takes to work on issues of sexuality, and about how our sexual wellbeing may be related to our overall self-expression and happiness. Since I let my curiosity drive this show, along with the questions and insights of my clients and community, I wanted to explore sex and how it impacts our lives. We talk about: 5 KEY factors that have our sex lives fall apart The sexual avoidance cycle — how to find your way back Sex is primal — so what happens when it’s not going well? Grief, loss, and your sex life Myths about sex Difference between sex and intimacy How are we doing with sex ed these days? #Metoo and consent More about Jessa: Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed couples’ counselor and nationally certified sex therapist. Her work focuses almost exclusively on helping couples with their emotional and sexual intimacy. Zimmerman has treated hundreds of couples who have struggled to feel sexual desire and fulfillment. She specializes in helping couples who find that sex has become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. Zimmerman received her Master’s in Psychology from LIOS college of Saybrook University and Sex Therapist certification from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). She has done extensive training in couples’ therapy, with a focus on Crucible® Therapy with Dr. David Schnarch. She is the host of the Better Sex Podcast and has appeared on numerous other podcasts as an expert guest. She hosts the Sex, Intimacy & Relationships group on Facebook and broadcasts live on a regular basis. She lives in Seattle with her partner and youngest child of three. Take Jessa’s FREE “sex health quiz”: www.sexhealthquiz.com Listen to her podcast or learn more about her work: www.jessazimmerman.com www.bettersexpodcast.com Other Resources Mentioned: Emily Nagoski’s book: “Come As You Are” EP 10 How to Have a Better Marriage or Partnership
My guest today is Jessa Zimmerman, we discuss the important elements of sex in marriage and finish off with a highly insightful Q&A session from real moms and wives. If you are in anyway struggling in this area or just want to improve your sex life, then this isn't an episode you want to miss! More on Jessa; She is a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com Listen and enjoy! Don’t forget to subscribe & leave us a review! Connect with Emma – Dream Permit on Email, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Jessa – Instagram , Facebook and Resources mentioned
On this week’s podcast, we’re talking SEX! Are you looking to improve your sex life with your partner? This is what we’re diving into…. Benefits of an active sexual relationship Top reasons your sex life may be going downhill Men vs Women Lifestyle tips improving your sex life Sex Toys Porn About Jessa Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life.She is the author of Sex Without Stress, the host of the Better Sex Podcast, and is a regularly featured expert in the media, including Refinery29, Business Insider, Mind Body Green, and Marriage.com. Connect with Jessa over on her website + her podcast! Connect with Lahana over on Facebook, Instagram, and her website!
Who doesn’t want to have better sex in their relationship!? The path to better sex doesn't have to be confusing and difficult. You have the power to initiate the changes you want for better, hotter more intimate sex. Listen to today’s episode to learn the exact steps to make these changes. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to ask what you want in bed and how to tolerate sometimes not getting it Understand that it’s your job to share what’s on your mind, not your partner’s job to read your mind How to practice communicating about your sexual desires to get what you want The importance of saying no when you need to say no And much more! Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples counselor in Seattle as well as the host of the Better Sex Podcast and author of the new book Sex without Stress. She focus's on helping couples who have a good relationship but who struggle with sex. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/162 Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah
History of Adam & Eve, A Sex Toy Retailer Listen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey's Master's Degree. Being part of the hippie generation, he believed in sexual liberation. She tells us about how Phil challenged the government by publishing ads in newspapers offering condoms - intentionally contravening the law. This catalyst created financial momentum for the business. Aside from contraceptives, Adam & Eve started adding sexually-oriented items like DVDs, sex toys, and lingerie. Sex Education for Yourself and Others When Katy started working for Adam & Eve, it was a liberating experience for her. Coming from a little town in Tennessee, where talking about anything sex-related is taboo. At her work, she learned that women also enjoy sex and sex it isn't just for men. Sex toys have a significant purpose not just for fun and titillation, it should be very therapeutic for everyone. As a personal accomplishment, Katy is currently working on her Sex Education Certificate from AASECT to educate herself and others about sex, pleasure, and everything in between. Having two teenage daughters, Katy ensures that she cultivates a healthy understanding of sex in their home. Tune in to learn how she manages this. Not as Easy as You Think! Katy shares her experience as a copywriter for a retailer of sex toys, erotica, etc. After writing for a catalog and the web, Katy looks back as the experience as challenging in terms of balancing the content along with an edgy and light-hearted vein. Katy shares her unique take on sex toys, highlighting what made every item different. Join in to hear Katy recollect how her mornings started in the office. While most of us indulge in a good coffee, she used to indulge in an erotica DVD, then start writing! Not the usual life of a copywriter, indeed. Statistics Adam & Eve does their research to make sure their customers are satisfied. Join in as Katy shares the changing statistics over the years, with the number of women and couples shopping at Adam & Eve up by 30% from 10%. We hear that g-spot toys are still best sellers ( no surprises there!!) but a keen interest is growing around the new generation toys available around the act of cunnilingus today. What Makes Adam & Eve Different From Their Competitors? Katy emphasizes that Adam & Eve is the most reputable adult retailer in America since 1971. You will be pleased to know that they offer a 100% money back guarantee on their sex toys- all of which undergo a rigorous review process. Listen in to take advantage of Katy's special offer to Better Sex Podcast listeners! Head on to Adam & Eve site and enter the code Katy shares to get a 50% discount on almost any item! About Katy Zvolerin Katy Zvolerin is currently the Director of Public Relations at Adam & Eve, America's largest and most known distributor of adult toys and other sex needs. Katy's a graduate of the University of Tennessee, Knoxville with a B.S. in Journalism and Public Relations. After working for Maytag and in publishing in New York, she started working at Adam & Eve in November of 1993 as a catalog copywriter. She, then, got promoted to Adam & Eve Director of Public Relations in 1997. She has received certification in Clinical Sexology and holds an Associate in Sex Education from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is also currently working towards her Sex Education Certification from AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists). Links and How to Contact Katy Zvolerin Follow Katy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-zvolerin-18b23818/ Shop at Adam & Eve and use the code "Better50" for 50% discount: https://www.adameve.com/ Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
History of Adam & Eve, A Sex Toy RetailerListen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey’s Master’s Degree.Being part of the hippie generation, he believed in sexual liberation. She tells us about how Phil challenged the government by publishing ads in newspapers offering condoms - intentionally contravening the law. This catalyst created financial momentum for the business.Aside from contraceptives, Adam & Eve started adding sexually-oriented items like DVDs, sex toys, and lingerie.Sex Education for Yourself and OthersWhen Katy started working for Adam & Eve, it was a liberating experience for her. Coming from a little town in Tennessee, where talking about anything sex-related is taboo. At her work, she learned that women also enjoy sex and sex it isn’t just for men.Sex toys have a significant purpose not just for fun and titillation, it should be very therapeutic for everyone.As a personal accomplishment, Katy is currently working on her Sex Education Certificate from AASECT to educate herself and others about sex, pleasure, and everything in between.Having two teenage daughters, Katy ensures that she cultivates a healthy understanding of sex in their home. Tune in to learn how she manages this.Not as Easy as You Think!Katy shares her experience as a copywriter for a retailer of sex toys, erotica, etc. After writing for a catalog and the web, Katy looks back as the experience as challenging in terms of balancing the content along with an edgy and light-hearted vein.Katy shares her unique take on sex toys, highlighting what made every item different.Join in to hear Katy recollect how her mornings started in the office. While most of us indulge in a good coffee, she used to indulge in an erotica DVD, then start writing! Not the usual life of a copywriter, indeed.StatisticsAdam & Eve does their research to make sure their customers are satisfied. Join in as Katy shares the changing statistics over the years, with the number of women and couples shopping at Adam & Eve up by 30% from 10%.We hear that g-spot toys are still best sellers ( no surprises there!!) but a keen interest is growing around the new generation toys available around the act of cunnilingus today.What Makes Adam & Eve Different From Their Competitors?Katy emphasizes that Adam & Eve is the most reputable adult retailer in America since 1971. You will be pleased to know that they offer a 100% money back guarantee on their sex toys- all of which undergo a rigorous review process.Listen in to take advantage of Katy’s special offer to Better Sex Podcast listeners! Head on to Adam & Eve site and enter the code Katy shares to get a 50% discount on almost any item!About Katy ZvolerinKaty Zvolerin is currently the Director of Public Relations at Adam & Eve, America’s largest and most known distributor of adult toys and other sex needs.Katy’s a graduate of the University of Tennessee, Knoxville with a B.S. in Journalism and Public Relations. After working for Maytag and in publishing in New York, she started working at Adam & Eve in November of 1993 as a catalog copywriter. She, then, got promoted to Adam & Eve Director of Public Relations in 1997.She has received certification in Clinical Sexology and holds an Associate in Sex Education from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is also currently working towards her Sex Education Certification from AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists).Links and How to Contact Katy ZvolerinFollow Katy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-zvolerin-18b23818/Shop at Adam & Eve and use the code "Better50" for 50% discount: https://www.adameve.com/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
History of Adam & Eve, A Sex Toy RetailerListen in as Katy discusses how Adam & Eve started out. She mentions it was just a thesis requirement to complete the founder Phil Harvey’s Master’s Degree.Being part of the hippie generation, he believed in sexual liberation. She tells us about how Phil challenged the government by publishing ads in newspapers offering condoms - intentionally contravening the law. This catalyst created financial momentum for the business.Aside from contraceptives, Adam & Eve started adding sexually-oriented items like DVDs, sex toys, and lingerie.Sex Education for Yourself and OthersWhen Katy started working for Adam & Eve, it was a liberating experience for her. Coming from a little town in Tennessee, where talking about anything sex-related is taboo. At her work, she learned that women also enjoy sex and sex it isn’t just for men.Sex toys have a significant purpose not just for fun and titillation, it should be very therapeutic for everyone.As a personal accomplishment, Katy is currently working on her Sex Education Certificate from AASECT to educate herself and others about sex, pleasure, and everything in between.Having two teenage daughters, Katy ensures that she cultivates a healthy understanding of sex in their home. Tune in to learn how she manages this.Not as Easy as You Think!Katy shares her experience as a copywriter for a retailer of sex toys, erotica, etc. After writing for a catalog and the web, Katy looks back as the experience as challenging in terms of balancing the content along with an edgy and light-hearted vein.Katy shares her unique take on sex toys, highlighting what made every item different.Join in to hear Katy recollect how her mornings started in the office. While most of us indulge in a good coffee, she used to indulge in an erotica DVD, then start writing! Not the usual life of a copywriter, indeed.StatisticsAdam & Eve does their research to make sure their customers are satisfied. Join in as Katy shares the changing statistics over the years, with the number of women and couples shopping at Adam & Eve up by 30% from 10%.We hear that g-spot toys are still best sellers ( no surprises there!!) but a keen interest is growing around the new generation toys available around the act of cunnilingus today.What Makes Adam & Eve Different From Their Competitors?Katy emphasizes that Adam & Eve is the most reputable adult retailer in America since 1971. You will be pleased to know that they offer a 100% money back guarantee on their sex toys- all of which undergo a rigorous review process.Listen in to take advantage of Katy’s special offer to Better Sex Podcast listeners! Head on to Adam & Eve site and enter the code Katy shares to get a 50% discount on almost any item!About Katy ZvolerinKaty Zvolerin is currently the Director of Public Relations at Adam & Eve, America’s largest and most known distributor of adult toys and other sex needs.Katy’s a graduate of the University of Tennessee, Knoxville with a B.S. in Journalism and Public Relations. After working for Maytag and in publishing in New York, she started working at Adam & Eve in November of 1993 as a catalog copywriter. She, then, got promoted to Adam & Eve Director of Public Relations in 1997.She has received certification in Clinical Sexology and holds an Associate in Sex Education from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is also currently working towards her Sex Education Certification from AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists).Links and How to Contact Katy ZvolerinFollow Katy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-zvolerin-18b23818/Shop at Adam & Eve and use the code "Better50" for 50% discount: https://www.adameve.com/Better Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
How important is passion? The place of Love across cultures In this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how cultures have different expectations about love and passion. She dissects each journey and love cycle as people typically experience it. She shares an interesting find about successful couples having the foundation right, then letting the love emerge. The question of love from friendship comes up. Tune in to learn what Dr. Sara thinks about this and what the defining factors are for a harmonious relationship. The Sharp Orange Color We chat about the yearning people have for each other (playfully labeled as the Sharp orange color by Dr. Sara). She shares the impact of a healthy foundation once the orange color phase has passed. Her beautiful description for this is a rainbow kind of love. Join in to hear the secret of a rainbow relationship, it's ingredients and why it works. Differences in culture After discussing her thoughts on arranged marriages, Dr. Sara outlines the different competencies that rank as priorities in different social or cultural contexts. The different perceptions of relationships are brought up for western cultures as we discuss the fantasies people adopt as ‘normal.' Daily findings and advice Dr. Sara offers some advice for submergent types of relationships that want to try and build an emergent type of love. “Language is the least effective way to communicate with someone” - a belief Dr. Saras shares before she dives into analyzing what couples do when they ‘spend' time together. She has an interesting way of re-branding relationships once couples walk through her door. She touches on the questions couples bring up, the hurt and the past and shares her method around that to ensure couples still move forward. Sex across cultures You won't want to miss Dr. Sara's findings on sex and its reflection of power as well as its weight in relationships. She opens our eyes to the sexual confusion found in submergent relationships versus healthier emergent relationships. About our guest Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D. is a Social Psychologist and a thought leader in the fields of Cultural Literacy, Sexual Health, and Relationships. She is an award-winning author and a sought-after speaker and educator. As a former member of the International Federation of Journalists, Dr. Sara is the host of a BBC World Service program on sexuality and relationship issues, which received the BBC's Innovation of the Year Award in 2007. This program is still ongoing and reaches millions of Farsi-speaking audience across the globe. Dr. Nasserzadeh has been consulted as a senior cultural advisor by governments, international NGOs, professional organizations and private sector across 37 countries. In 2007, her international work in the area of human development and sexuality education received the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) runner-up award for Excellence and Innovation. In 2011, she was a winner for the Pfizer Inc. Innovation of the Year Award for designing an integrative strategic plan to make customers the priory for the enterprise. In 2014, Dr. Nasserzadeh was awarded by the People of Distinction Humanitarian Award in New York City for her humanitarian work around the globe. Dr. Nasserzadeh has been a contributor to numerous books, journals, and white papers. She is highly regarded by her peers and serves on the Board of various professional organizations including the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) and the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). Dr. Sara was named as one of the Best Love Doctors by Harpers Bazaar, and one of the Women in the Know by Daily Mirror. DatingAdvice.com named her as one of the 10 Best Sex and Dating Experts in 2015. Dr. Nasserzadeh is based in Palo Alto, California and travels widely. How to Reach Dr. Sara and Related Links Twitter: @DR_Sara_ FB: Dr.SaraNasserzadeh Instagram: Dr.SaraNasserzadeh LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dr.-sara-nasserzadeh Website: www.Sara-Nasserzadeh.com Books In English: 1) Wheel of Context for Sexuality Education: https://www.wheelofcontext.com, 2) Orgasm Answer Guide: https://jhupbooks.press.jhu.edu/content/orgasm-answer-guide For Farsi speakers (BBC Show): http://www.bbc.com/persian/tv-and-radio-40532793 ----- Better Sex Podcast - https://bettersexpodcast.com/ Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/ If you're enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcast Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/More info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How important is passion?The place of Love across culturesIn this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how cultures have different expectations about love and passion. She dissects each journey and love cycle as people typically experience it. She shares an interesting find about successful couples having the foundation right, then letting the love emerge.The question of love from friendship comes up. Tune in to learn what Dr. Sara thinks about this and what the defining factors are for a harmonious relationship.The Sharp Orange ColorWe chat about the yearning people have for each other (playfully labeled as the Sharp orange color by Dr. Sara). She shares the impact of a healthy foundation once the orange color phase has passed. Her beautiful description for this is a rainbow kind of love.Join in to hear the secret of a rainbow relationship, it’s ingredients and why it works.Differences in cultureAfter discussing her thoughts on arranged marriages, Dr. Sara outlines the different competencies that rank as priorities in different social or cultural contexts.The different perceptions of relationships are brought up for western cultures as we discuss the fantasies people adopt as ‘normal.’Daily findings and adviceDr. Sara offers some advice for submergent types of relationships that want to try and build an emergent type of love.“Language is the least effective way to communicate with someone” - a belief Dr. Saras shares before she dives into analyzing what couples do when they ‘spend’ time together.She has an interesting way of re-branding relationships once couples walk through her door. She touches on the questions couples bring up, the hurt and the past and shares her method around that to ensure couples still move forward.Sex across culturesYou won’t want to miss Dr. Sara's findings on sex and its reflection of power as well as its weight in relationships. She opens our eyes to the sexual confusion found in submergent relationships versus healthier emergent relationships.About our guestDr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D. is a Social Psychologist and a thought leader in the fields of Cultural Literacy, Sexual Health, and Relationships. She is an award-winning author and a sought-after speaker and educator. As a former member of the International Federation of Journalists, Dr. Sara is the host of a BBC World Service program on sexuality and relationship issues, which received the BBC’s Innovation of the Year Award in 2007. This program is still ongoing and reaches millions of Farsi-speaking audience across the globe. Dr. Nasserzadeh has been consulted as a senior cultural advisor by governments, international NGOs, professional organizations and private sector across 37 countries.In 2007, her international work in the area of human development and sexuality education received the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) runner-up award for Excellence and Innovation. In 2011, she was a winner for the Pfizer Inc. Innovation of the Year Award for designing an integrative strategic plan to make customers the priory for the enterprise. In 2014, Dr. Nasserzadeh was awarded by the People of Distinction Humanitarian Award in New York City for her humanitarian work around the globe. Dr. Nasserzadeh has been a contributor to numerous books, journals, and white papers. She is highly regarded by her peers and serves on the Board of various professional organizations including the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) and the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).Dr. Sara was named as one of the Best Love Doctors by Harpers Bazaar, and one of the Women in the Know by Daily Mirror. DatingAdvice.com named her as one of the 10 Best Sex and Dating Experts in 2015. Dr. Nasserzadeh is based in Palo Alto, California and travels widely.How to Reach Dr. Sara and Related LinksTwitter: @DR_Sara_FB: Dr.SaraNasserzadehInstagram: Dr.SaraNasserzadehLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dr.-sara-nasserzadehWebsite: www.Sara-Nasserzadeh.comBooks In English:1) Wheel of Context for Sexuality Education: https://www.wheelofcontext.com,2) Orgasm Answer Guide: https://jhupbooks.press.jhu.edu/content/orgasm-answer-guideFor Farsi speakers (BBC Show):http://www.bbc.com/persian/tv-and-radio-40532793-----Better Sex Podcast - https://bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
How important is passion?The place of Love across culturesIn this episode of Better Sex, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh unwraps her theory of love in two categories: submergent and emergent. She describes the difference between the two and how cultures have different expectations about love and passion. She dissects each journey and love cycle as people typically experience it. She shares an interesting find about successful couples having the foundation right, then letting the love emerge.The question of love from friendship comes up. Tune in to learn what Dr. Sara thinks about this and what the defining factors are for a harmonious relationship.The Sharp Orange ColorWe chat about the yearning people have for each other (playfully labeled as the Sharp orange color by Dr. Sara). She shares the impact of a healthy foundation once the orange color phase has passed. Her beautiful description for this is a rainbow kind of love.Join in to hear the secret of a rainbow relationship, it’s ingredients and why it works.Differences in cultureAfter discussing her thoughts on arranged marriages, Dr. Sara outlines the different competencies that rank as priorities in different social or cultural contexts.The different perceptions of relationships are brought up for western cultures as we discuss the fantasies people adopt as ‘normal.’Daily findings and adviceDr. Sara offers some advice for submergent types of relationships that want to try and build an emergent type of love.“Language is the least effective way to communicate with someone” - a belief Dr. Saras shares before she dives into analyzing what couples do when they ‘spend’ time together.She has an interesting way of re-branding relationships once couples walk through her door. She touches on the questions couples bring up, the hurt and the past and shares her method around that to ensure couples still move forward.Sex across culturesYou won’t want to miss Dr. Sara's findings on sex and its reflection of power as well as its weight in relationships. She opens our eyes to the sexual confusion found in submergent relationships versus healthier emergent relationships.About our guestDr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D. is a Social Psychologist and a thought leader in the fields of Cultural Literacy, Sexual Health, and Relationships. She is an award-winning author and a sought-after speaker and educator. As a former member of the International Federation of Journalists, Dr. Sara is the host of a BBC World Service program on sexuality and relationship issues, which received the BBC’s Innovation of the Year Award in 2007. This program is still ongoing and reaches millions of Farsi-speaking audience across the globe. Dr. Nasserzadeh has been consulted as a senior cultural advisor by governments, international NGOs, professional organizations and private sector across 37 countries.In 2007, her international work in the area of human development and sexuality education received the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) runner-up award for Excellence and Innovation. In 2011, she was a winner for the Pfizer Inc. Innovation of the Year Award for designing an integrative strategic plan to make customers the priory for the enterprise. In 2014, Dr. Nasserzadeh was awarded by the People of Distinction Humanitarian Award in New York City for her humanitarian work around the globe. Dr. Nasserzadeh has been a contributor to numerous books, journals, and white papers. She is highly regarded by her peers and serves on the Board of various professional organizations including the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) and the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).Dr. Sara was named as one of the Best Love Doctors by Harpers Bazaar, and one of the Women in the Know by Daily Mirror. DatingAdvice.com named her as one of the 10 Best Sex and Dating Experts in 2015. Dr. Nasserzadeh is based in Palo Alto, California and travels widely.How to Reach Dr. Sara and Related LinksTwitter: @DR_Sara_FB: Dr.SaraNasserzadehInstagram: Dr.SaraNasserzadehLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dr.-sara-nasserzadehWebsite: www.Sara-Nasserzadeh.comBooks In English:1) Wheel of Context for Sexuality Education: https://www.wheelofcontext.com,2) Orgasm Answer Guide: https://jhupbooks.press.jhu.edu/content/orgasm-answer-guideFor Farsi speakers (BBC Show):http://www.bbc.com/persian/tv-and-radio-40532793-----Better Sex Podcast - https://bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/
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