Podcasts about transforming love

Summary Join Monica Wallace and Luba as they navigate love, vulnerability, and personal growth. In this conversation, they reflect on a year of lessons learned—from the impact of loss on their understanding of relationships to the transformative power of self-discovery and healing. They delve into childhood dynamics, attachment styles, and the work required to nurture lasting connections, emphasizing forgiveness and the capacity for growth. With thoughtful insights on intentional connection and authentic self-love, Monica and Luba invite you to explore how our past shapes who we are and how embracing our imperfections can lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage00:53 Reflections on Love and Vulnerability03:24 The Journey of Self-Discovery05:35 Understanding Love Through Loss08:03 Forgiveness and Healing10:52 The Impact of Childhood on Relationships13:38 Navigating Mental Health and Self-Care15:58 Attachment Styles and Their Influence18:51 Confronting Patterns in Relationships28:33 Coping Mechanisms and Childhood Trauma31:07 Fear of Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics32:26 Shifting Mindsets on Love and Relationships35:17 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Regulation37:38 Intentionality in Relationships41:05 Understanding Attachment Styles43:35 Capacity for Growth in Relationships46:50 Intentional Choices in Love and Friendship50:47 Acceptance and Self-Love53:12 The Journey of Authenticity57:18 Embracing Self-Worth and Boundaries58:22 The Impact of Self-Love on Relationships59:09 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance01:00:40 Transforming Love from Fear to Security01:02:13 The Importance of Self-Compassion01:03:07 Navigating the Complexity of Emotions01:05:23 The Power of Grace and Kindness01:06:45 The Ongoing Journey of Self-Acceptance01:08:20 Breaking Generational Patterns01:10:03 Finding Strength in Vulnerability01:12:01 The Value of Self-Reflection01:14:08 Connecting Through Authenticity

Over time, we are all being shaped into something–or someone. The question is, are we becoming more loving or less? With family, friends, neighbors, and even God—how is your love growing? In this series, we're pursuing what the Bible calls the greatest virtue, the most excellent way, the fulfillment of the law, and the greatest […]

Jesus really did come as a human and God really did send Jesus to die for us and God is our true source for love. The best and in many ways, clearest way to love God is to love others. These truths are reflected in 1 John 4:1-21. The post “Transforming Love” 1 John 4:1-21 appeared first on PLEASANT HILL COMMUNITY CHURCH.

Only God's love, displayed through His people, can truly transform the darkness around us.

Ephesians 3:14-21

Click here for the DRB Daily Sign Up form! TODAY'S SCRIPTURE:Genesis 37-38;Psalm 7;Luke 15 Click HERE to give! Get Free App Here! One Year Bible Podcast: Join Hunter and Heather Barnes on 'The Daily Radio Bible' for a daily 20-minute spiritual journey. Engage with scripture readings, heartfelt devotionals, and collective prayers that draw you into the heart of God's love. Embark on this year-long voyage through the Bible, and let each day's passage uplift and inspire you. TODAY'S EPISODE: Welcome to the Daily Radio Bible, where we journey through the Scriptures together with an open heart, seeking transformation by the God who is love. In today's episode, our host Hunter leads us through Genesis chapters 37 and 38, Psalm 7, and Luke 15. We'll witness the profound tales of Joseph and his brothers' betrayal, the story of Judah and Tamar, and Jesus's parables of the lost sheep, the lost coin, and the prodigal son. As always, Hunter provides thoughtful reflections on these passages, emphasizing the boundless grace of our Heavenly Father. Join us as we dive into these timeless stories and allow God's Word to shape and inspire our lives. Let's journey together in faith and love. TODAY'S DEVOTION: The younger brother decides that it's time to come home. He's lived life on his own terms, and it hasn't worked out so well. And when he does come, he's greeted with a kiss, a ring, a coat, a party. He's not only found his father, but he's found his father's heart. The older brother needs to come home too, but we don't find him there. Well, he's kind of there. He's out working in the field, slaving as he called it, trying to achieve, I guess, but he fails to see that home has been there all along. He fails to see who his father really is. He won't come inside. The father pleads with him, but he's beside himself. All these years I've slaved for you and never once refused to do a single thing you told me to, and all this time you never gave me even one young goat for a feast with my friends. Oh, that hurts. It hurts to read it. Maybe because I can feel it. The father's response tells us everything, though. His father said to him, look, dear son. You have always stayed by me, and everything I have is yours. This home has always been yours. My heart has always been yours. The riches I have have always been yours. They're a gift. No one is treating you like a slave, so stop seeing yourself that way. You haven't had to earn or perform or do anything other than be my child. All you had to do was receive. All you had to do was know my heart. It delights in a son. It delights in you. It delights when a son who was once dead now comes to life, who was once lost but is now home. So step inside the house. Partake in the party that your good father has always had for you. Come on home. And the prayer of my heart is that you, me, we will see who we really are. We're not slaves. That we will see who the father truly is. He is good. And that we will receive all that we have in him, that we will step into the house and join in the party. That's a prayer that I have for my own soul. That's a prayer that I have for my family, for my wife and my daughters and my son. And that's a prayer that I have for you. May it be so. TODAY'S PRAYERS: Lord God Almighty and everlasting father you have brought us in safety to this new day preserve us with your Mighty power that we might not fall into sin or be overcome by adversity. And in all we do, direct us to the fulfilling of your purpose  through Jesus Christ Our Lord amen.   Oh God you have made of one blood all the peoples of the earth and sent your blessed son to preach peace to those who are far and those who are near. Grant that people everywhere may seek after you, and find you. Bring the nations into your fold, pour out your Spirit on all flesh, and hasten the coming of your kingdom through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.   And now Lord,  make me an instrument of your peace.  Where there is hatred let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon.  Where there is doubt, faith. Where there is despair, hope.  Where there is darkness, light.  And where there is sadness,  Joy.  Oh Lord grant that I might not seek to be consoled as to console. To be understood as to understand, to be loved as to love.  For it is in the giving that we receive, in the pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in the dying that we are born unto eternal life.  Amen And now as our Lord has taught us we are bold to pray... Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven, give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not unto temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the Kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. Loving God, we give you thanks for restoring us in your image. And nourishing us with spiritual food, now send us forth as forgiven people, healed and renewed, that we may proclaim your love to the world, and continue in the risen life of Christ.  Amen.  OUR WEBSITE: www.dailyradiobible.com We are reading through the New Living Translation.   Leave us a voicemail HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/dailyradiobible Subscribe to us at YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dailyradiobible/featured OTHER PODCASTS: Listen with Apple Podcast DAILY BIBLE FOR KIDS DAILY PSALMS DAILY PROVERBS DAILY LECTIONARY DAILY CHRONOLOGICAL  

Sometimes to forgive others we must rely on God's Love to forgive others.  When we are filled with the Love of God we have the capacity to love others through the lens of how our heavenly Father sees others.  With His supernatural love we can forgive others and move forward realizing that people will let you down but God never will. Loving others is so easy when you submit and accept God's forgiveness and depend on His love for yourself and how you love others! I know this message will help you in your personal relationships!  Praise the Lord!  Please give us a 5- Star rating and share this program with your friends! 

Following the incredible testimony of Kylie Nicholas, today's episode continues with Romans 5:3: “But we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope.” Kylie reflects on how her journey through unimaginable pain not only led to finding faith but also to a deeper understanding of God's purpose in her life. Together with Ash Couchman, they discuss how challenges, though deeply painful, can shape us, strengthen our faith, and lead us to a hope that is unshakable.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When Alasana Dano arrived in our hospital ward in West Africa it was with a spirit of almost tangible hostility. Pain created out of a lifetime of rejection.

Artemisia de Vine, whose name resonates with the transformative spirit of the Greek goddess Artemis, brings a profound and nuanced approach to exploring human sexuality. As a seasoned sex worker and dominatrix, she delves into the mental landscapes of sexual fantasies, emphasizing how these can serve as a bridge to understanding our ego's deepest fears and desires. Artemisia advocates for open communication and consensual exploration with partners, turning past experiences into powerful narratives of empowerment and positive transformation. By focusing on our partners' strengths and fostering empathetic connections, she challenges conventional views on sexuality, encouraging a deeper self-awareness and a respectful navigation of the paradoxes within our desires and relationships. (00:01:48) Erotic Insights: Embracing Unique Sexual Narratives (00:06:14) Enhancing Sexual Satisfaction Through Open Dialogue (00:08:04) Personal Erotic Narratives in Sexual Relationships (00:13:07) Embracing Vulnerability Through Sexual Fantasies (00:20:08) Projection of Desires in Relationships (00:29:20) Creating Intimate Space for Transformative Sex (00:40:43) Boundaries and Mental Well-being in Sex Work (00:50:03) Navigating Desire and Transforming Love

with special guest speaker, Stephen Matthew

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Click here for the DRB Daily Sign Up form! TODAY'S SCRIPTURE:Job 20; Mark 3-4 Click HERE to give! One Year Bible Podcast: Join Hunter and Heather Barnes on 'The Daily Radio Bible' for a daily 20-minute spiritual journey. Engage with scripture readings, heartfelt devotionals, and collective prayers that draw you into the heart of God's love. Embark on this year-long voyage through the Bible, and let each day's passage uplift and inspire you. TODAY'S EPISODE: Welcome to the Daily Radio Bible podcast! Today is October 28th, 2024, and I'm your host, Hunter, your brother and Bible-reading coach. Join me for the 302nd day of our journey through the Bible as we dive into the Scriptures, allowing them to point our hearts to the living Word of God, Jesus, who alone has the words of life. In today's episode, we'll be reflecting on Job 19 and diving into the Gospel of Mark, chapters 1 and 2. We'll explore themes of faith, the profound anguish of Job, and the incredible acts and teachings of Jesus that amazed and transformed those who encountered Him. We'll also engage in a time of heartfelt prayer, seeking God's guidance, mercy, and blessing for ourselves and the world around us. And finally, a quick update on our "You Are Loved" mugs – more are coming just in time for the holidays! So settle in, dear ones, and let's open our hearts to God's word together. Remember, you are loved! TODAY'S PRAYERS: Lord God Almighty and everlasting father you have brought us in safety to this new day preserve us with your Mighty power that we might not fall into sin or be overcome by adversity. And in all we do, direct us to the fulfilling of your purpose  through Jesus Christ Our Lord amen.   Oh God you have made of one blood all the peoples of the earth and sent your blessed son to preach peace to those who are far and those who are near. Grant that people everywhere may seek after you, and find you. Bring the nations into your fold, pour out your Spirit on all flesh, and hasten the coming of your kingdom through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.   And now Lord,  make me an instrument of your peace.  Where there is hatred let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon.  Where there is doubt, faith. Where there is despair, hope.  Where there is darkness, light.  And where there is sadness,  Joy.  Oh Lord grant that I might not seek to be consoled as to console. To be understood as to understand, to be loved as to love.  For it is in the giving that we receive, in the pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in the dying that we are born unto eternal life.  Amen And now as our Lord has taught us we are bold to pray... Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven, give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not unto temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the Kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. Loving God, we give you thanks for restoring us in your image. And nourishing us with spiritual food, now send us forth as forgiven people, healed and renewed, that we may proclaim your love to the world, and continue in the risen life of Christ.  Amen.  OUR WEBSITE: www.dailyradiobible.com We are reading through the New Living Translation.   Leave us a voicemail HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/dailyradiobible Subscribe to us at YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dailyradiobible/featured OTHER PODCASTS: Listen with Apple Podcast DAILY BIBLE FOR KIDS DAILY PSALMS DAILY PROVERBS DAILY LECTIONARY DAILY CHRONOLOGICAL  

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We are called to grow deeper in understanding God's love, allowing it to transform our hearts and guide us to love Him and others more fully in every aspect of our lives. Scripture: Hebrews 11:1, 6 Ephesians 3:19 John 3:16 1 John 4:7-10 Romans 5 & 8.

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Ps. Terry Appel, 26/08/2024

Can a person truly love their money without falling into the traps of greed and dishonesty? Today, we unravel the complexities of redirecting misguided loves towards more meaningful and righteous purposes. We'll explore how a deep appreciation for wealth can serve as a vessel for generosity, supporting charitable causes, and those who dedicate their lives to studying Torah. By understanding that material possessions are fleeting, we can shift our focus to investments that hold everlasting value, ensuring that our earthly riches contribute to our spiritual growth and the betterment of others.We also address the profound topic of love for women, shedding light on how a supportive wife can elevate her husband spiritually and guide him towards a life rich in holiness and ethical behavior. Through real-life anecdotes, we reveal how women often hold the key to their husband's moral and spiritual journey, steering them away from distractions and towards the ways of God. Finally, we discuss the balance of loyalty and moral integrity in family love, emphasizing the importance of honoring parents and family members without compromising on righteousness. Join us for an enriching conversation on channeling our affections in ways that harmonize with our spiritual values and goals._____________This series on Orchos Tzadikim/Ways of the Righteous is produced in partnership with Hachzek.Join the revolution of daily Mussar study at hachzek.com.We are using the Treasure of Life edition of the Orchos Tzadikkim (Published by Feldheim)Recorded in the TORCH Centre - Levin Family Studios (B) in Houston, Texas on June 6, 2024.Released as Podcast on July 9, 2024_____________DONATE to TORCH: Please consider supporting the podcasts by making a donation to help fund our Jewish outreach and educational efforts at https://www.torchweb.org/support.php. Thank you!_____________SUBSCRIBE and LISTEN to other podcasts by Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe: NEW!! Prayer Podcast: https://prayerpodcast.transistor.fm/episodesJewish Inspiration Podcast: https://inspiration.transistor.fm/episodesParsha Review Podcast: https://parsha.transistor.fm/episodesLiving Jewishly Podcast: https://jewishly.transistor.fm/episodesThinking Talmudist Podcast: https://talmud.transistor.fm/episodesUnboxing Judaism Podcast: https://unboxing.transistor.fm/episodesRabbi Aryeh Wolbe Podcast Collection: https://collection.transistor.fm/episodesFor a full listing of podcasts available by TORCH at https://www.TORCHpodcasts.com_____________EMAIL your questions, comments, and feedback: awolbe@torchweb.org_____________Please visit www.torchweb.org to see a full listing of our outreach and educational resources available in the Greater Houston area!  ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Can a person truly love their money without falling into the traps of greed and dishonesty? Today, we unravel the complexities of redirecting misguided loves towards more meaningful and righteous purposes. We'll explore how a deep appreciation for wealth can serve as a vessel for generosity, supporting charitable causes, and those who dedicate their lives to studying Torah. By understanding that material possessions are fleeting, we can shift our focus to investments that hold everlasting value, ensuring that our earthly riches contribute to our spiritual growth and the betterment of others.We also address the profound topic of love for women, shedding light on how a supportive wife can elevate her husband spiritually and guide him towards a life rich in holiness and ethical behavior. Through real-life anecdotes, we reveal how women often hold the key to their husband's moral and spiritual journey, steering them away from distractions and towards the ways of God. Finally, we discuss the balance of loyalty and moral integrity in family love, emphasizing the importance of honoring parents and family members without compromising on righteousness. Join us for an enriching conversation on channeling our affections in ways that harmonize with our spiritual values and goals._____________This series on Orchos Tzadikim/Ways of the Righteous is produced in partnership with Hachzek.Join the revolution of daily Mussar study at hachzek.com.We are using the Treasure of Life edition of the Orchos Tzadikkim (Published by Feldheim)Recorded in the TORCH Centre - Levin Family Studios (B) in Houston, Texas on June 6, 2024.Released as Podcast on July 9, 2024_____________DONATE to TORCH: Please consider supporting the podcasts by making a donation to help fund our Jewish outreach and educational efforts at https://www.torchweb.org/support.php. Thank you!_____________SUBSCRIBE and LISTEN to other podcasts by Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe: NEW!! Prayer Podcast: https://prayerpodcast.transistor.fm/episodesJewish Inspiration Podcast: https://inspiration.transistor.fm/episodesParsha Review Podcast: https://parsha.transistor.fm/episodesLiving Jewishly Podcast: https://jewishly.transistor.fm/episodesThinking Talmudist Podcast: https://talmud.transistor.fm/episodesUnboxing Judaism Podcast: https://unboxing.transistor.fm/episodesRabbi Aryeh Wolbe Podcast Collection: https://collection.transistor.fm/episodesFor a full listing of podcasts available by TORCH at https://www.TORCHpodcasts.com_____________EMAIL your questions, comments, and feedback: awolbe@torchweb.org_____________Please visit www.torchweb.org to see a full listing of our outreach and educational resources available in the Greater Houston area!  ★ Support this podcast ★

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of the Starter Girlz podcast, host Jennifer Loehding interviews Jeanell Greene, a relationship coach and marriage expert. They discuss the importance of love, healing, and overcoming generational traumas in relationships. Jeanell shares her journey from a successful corporate career to coaching, influenced by her parents' relationship. They emphasize communication, setting boundaries, and expressing needs. Jeanell offers guidance for those uncertain about staying or leaving a relationship.TakeawaysLove and healing are essential in relationships, and addressing generational traumas can help achieve true connection and love.Setting boundaries and communicating needs are crucial for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.Taking responsibility for one's own unresolved issues and working on personal growth can positively impact a relationship.Appreciation, quality time, and joy are key elements in maintaining a strong and fulfilling partnership.For a transcript of this episode, go to www.startergirlz.com.

Pastor Mike and Jonathan talk with Ashley McKee about Biblical principles and advice for dating and marriage.

Discover the transformative power of Jesus's love with Amy Boucher-Pye, acclaimed author of "Transforming Love," as she joins us to delve into the depths of His profound relationships with Mary, Martha, and Lazarus. Imagine a bond with Christ as tangible as the friendship shared by these Biblical siblings. Throughout our conversation, Amy imparts how we can cultivate this intimate connection in our own spiritual walks, highlighting the role of the Holy Spirit and daily spiritual practices. Her insights offer a path to experiencing Jesus's presence in a way that strengthens our relationship with Him.Join us as we navigate the delicate interplay between service and contemplation, inspired by Mary and Martha's distinct expressions of devotion. Learn to personalize Psalm 23 to mirror the nuances of your spiritual life, and find solace and inspiration in the prayer exercises Amy shares. This episode promises to guide you toward a more profound and personal connection with Jesus, transforming your prayer life and daily walk with Him.Amy's Book &  Favorites:Book: Transforming LoveBible: NIV Bible Speaks TodayColoring SheetsDavid Suchet Audio Bible ReadingWebsite: amyboucherpye.comSupport the Show.Check out our website for more ways to fully connect to God's Word. There you'll find: Coffee and Bible Time Prayer Journals Coffee and Bible Time Courses Coffee and Bible Time Shop Find more great content on our YouTube channel: Coffee and Bible Time Our most popular video is “How I Study My Bible + In-Depth Bible Study!” with over 2M views! Follow us on InstagramVisit our Amazon ShopLearn more about the host Ellen KrauseEmail us at podcast@coffeeandbibletime.comThanks for listening to Coffee and Bible Time, where our goal is to help people delight in God's Word and thrive in Christian living!

In this episode of the Intentional Manifestation we explore the transformative power of mindset in dating with guest Jen Youngquist. Jen, a former IT business analyst turned spiritual dating coach, shares her personal journey of overcoming two decades of dating struggles. She discusses how she utilizes her experiences to help other women find their ideal partners more efficiently. Tune in to discover how neuroscience, epigenetics, somatics, energetics, and holistic nutrition can be applied to alter perspectives and manifest a life aligned with one's dreams. New to Manifestation? Start here Want to finally release all of your limiting beliefs for good and become obsessed with your life? Save $10 per month by Clicking Here to Join the Highest Self Academy Use code HSA10 Cancel anytime + 7-day money-back guarantee Get $10 off Happy Juice here  Connect on Insta [00:01:09] Mindset in dating journey. [00:07:22] Manifesting love through action. [00:09:49] Unexpected attractions in relationships. [00:14:36] Challenging fear and manifesting goals. [00:18:06] Recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns. [00:24:15] Trying to change through love. [00:28:15] Letting go for manifestation. [00:32:54] Hypnosis for personal growth. [00:37:20] Unexpected connections in relationships. [00:39:02] Divine timing and taking action. [00:42:08] The impact of past experiences. [00:49:43] Self-love and partnerships. [00:52:38] Reinforcing positive beliefs. [00:56:34] Shifting into a new identity. [01:00:29] Asking for support and shame. [01:02:47] Relationship energy dynamics. [01:09:30] Generational views on mental health. [01:13:00] Mind-body connection. [01:16:27] Taking the first step. Manifestation: Vision, Action, and Belief In this podcast episode, the concept of manifestation is explored, emphasizing the essential elements of a clear vision, actionable steps, and a strong belief in achieving one's goals. The host and guests discuss how these components intertwine to foster a successful manifestation process. Clear Vision Effective manifestation begins with a clear vision. Guest Jen shares her journey of manifesting her ideal partner, emphasizing the importance of precise clarity in her desires for a relationship. This clarity allowed her to set a firm intention and channel her energy effectively. She explains, "First, I got really clear on what it is that I wanted." Actionable Steps Manifestation extends beyond mere wishing; it requires taking concrete steps toward realizing one's desires. Jen describes how she engaged in activities outside her comfort zone, which ultimately led her to meet her husband. The host reinforces this idea, stating, "You have to take action, right? You can't just sit on your couch and expect them to come knocking on your door." Belief in Possibility A strong belief in the possibility of achieving your goals is crucial for successful manifestation. Jen discusses the importance of pre-emptive belief and embodying the feeling of meeting her ideal partner, aligning her subconscious beliefs with her conscious desires. The host notes, "It's all about believing that you can do something." Conclusion The episode illustrates that manifestation is an active process requiring a clear vision, actionable steps, and a strong belief in success. By integrating these elements, individuals can effectively attract and achieve their desires, as demonstrated by the personal stories shared. Emotional Intelligence and Self-Awareness in Relationships Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are critical for developing healthy, fulfilling relationships. These qualities help individuals understand their emotional patterns and communicate effectively with their partners, leading to deeper connections. Understanding Personal Patterns Recognizing one's emotional responses, especially in triggering situations, is vital for personal and relational health. Guest Jen emphasizes the importance of this self-awareness, which allows individuals to preemptively address potential relationship issues by discussing how certain actions or words might affect them. This awareness aids in managing reactions and fostering understanding and support within the relationship. Emotional Intelligence in Partner Selection The podcast highlights the role of emotional intelligence in choosing compatible partners. Emotional intelligence involves understanding both one's own and others' emotions, guiding the selection of partners who are not only emotionally aware but also committed to personal growth. Jen stresses the importance of this mutual emotional understanding for the longevity and satisfaction of a relationship. Communication and Growth Clear communication, underpinned by self-awareness, is crucial for successful relationships. The podcast discusses how a deep understanding of oneself enhances communication with a partner, helping to avoid misunderstandings and strengthen the relationship. Additionally, the ability to not take things personally, recognizing that a partner's actions or moods may be influenced by their own experiences, can lead to more constructive conflict resolutions. Conclusion Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential for building and maintaining healthy relationships. They enable effective communication, empathy, and a deeper connection with partners, contributing to a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Healing from Past Traumas and Limiting Beliefs Addressing past traumas and limiting beliefs is crucial for personal growth and developing healthy relationships. The podcast episode features Jen Youngquist and Megan, who share insights and personal stories about the importance of this healing process. Understanding the Impact of Past Traumas Jen discusses how past experiences shaped her expectations and behaviors in relationships, often leading her to adopt a victim mentality. Recognizing her role in these patterns was a pivotal step in changing her approach to relationships. The Role of Limiting Beliefs Limiting beliefs, often rooted in past traumas, can obstruct the formation of healthy relationships. Jen's realization that she might be contributing to her relational issues marked a significant turning point in her personal growth. The Process of Healing and Growth Healing is a gradual process that requires self-reflection, a willingness to change, and sometimes professional help. Jen's journey included seeking insights from a psychic medium and embracing new perspectives on life and relationships. Practical Steps for Healing Self-awareness: Acknowledging one's patterns and their origins is the first step toward healing. Seeking Help: Professional guidance can accelerate personal growth and alleviate prolonged struggles. Embracing Change: Adopting new behaviors and stepping out of comfort zones are crucial for meeting new people and experiencing new opportunities. Manifestation and Belief: Believing in change and actively manifesting desires can lead to profound life transformations. Conclusion Healing from past traumas and challenging limiting beliefs is essential not only for improving romantic relationships but also for personal happiness. This process requires patience, effort, and sometimes a leap of faith into new experiences and ways of thinking, as illustrated by Jen's transformative story. Connect with Jen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenYoungquistCoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenyoungquist/ Website: https://jenyoungquist.com See Relationship Red Flags Faster By Improving Your Intuition: https://download.jenyoungquist.com/intuition 

This episode explores Clare's journey to harmonizing her creative pursuits with profound personal satisfaction. Clare shares pivotal instances of introspection in her career and life that catalyzed transformative changes. Learn about her foundational goals in becoming a Bookstagrammer, focusing on genuine interactions and a deep-seated passion for literature, which propelled her to gain a community of 11,000 followers. Get inspired by Clare's story of growth, from passionate reader to influential Bookstagrammer, and the impactful choices that led there.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How Clare turned her love for books into a vibrant Bookstagram presenceThe nuances of authentic engagement and monetization on social media.How aligning projects with passions can lead to genuine satisfaction.The significance of reevaluating life choices for achieving fulfillment.Clare provides practical, actionable steps to manifest change in your life.Episode References/Links:Clare Solly InstagramClare Solly WebsiteClare Solly on AmazonGuest Bio:Clare Solly is a modern day Renaissance woman living in New York City. She is an actress, writer, national pageant queen, and by day she is an executive assistant. She has published three books: The Time Turner, Christmas and Cleats and Save The Last Piece. Clare runs two theatre companies in NYC: The Bechdel Group and Company of Fools Theatre where she loves to foster and challenge new writers. She also is an avid bookstagrammer who grew her followers to almost 11K in 5 months time.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! Check out all our Preferred Vendors & Special Deals from Clair Sparrow, Sensate, Lyfefuel BeeKeeper's Naturals, Sauna Space, HigherDose, AG1 and ToeSox Be in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar  Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable Pilates Follow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedIn  Episode Transcript:Clare Solly 0:00  Bookstagram is gorgeous to look at, like you look at people's grids and like you just want to screenshot them because they're just gorgeous. People are like, this is my life. It's like lifestyles but with books.Lesley Logan 0:12  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 0:54  All right, Be It babe, we have one of those blast from the past, one of my besties, Clare Solly, as our guest today and I wanted to have this conversation because I like the turns it takes I also just love having on people to kind of give you a glimpse of where their life is at today. And also like hear how they got to where they are. That's our big thing at Be It Till You See It. It's like, how did someone get there? What happened there? Is it always sunshine and roses and butterflies? And it isn't, it's not, right? Things can be two things at once. And so Clare's on today to talk about, like what she's doing now, what she is excited about now, and how that changed her life. And we also get into some manifestation stuff, which I think is always a good reminder of how to like add that back into your life because sometimes it's really easy to just get off the manifestation wagon then wonder why you don't have what you have. And every time I talk about manifestation with Clare, I'm like, oh, yeah, I gotta go sit down. I'm like during that because every time I get specific, it all fucking happens. So anyways, without further ado, here is Clare Solly. Lesley Logan 1:51  All right, Be It babe, I have one of your favorite guests. So you actually heard her many times on the pod coming back. We love to have people come back on. It's been a couple of years since her actual interview. And even over a year since she helped me out and did Brad's job for a while, maybe even two years. Oh, my goodness. Clare Solly is here, one of my best friends, my slingshot friend. I wanted to have her back on because you know what so much changes in such a short period of time, but also a long period of time. And I think it's really easy for us to hear people on a podcast, be inspired, think they have it all together and their life is set. Everything is perfect. Everything is done. It's just gonna keep going that way. And Clare and even like myself are like really great examples of like, sometimes it changes and it changes for the better. So Clare, tell everyone just in case they don't know who you are. They didn't listen to your first episode. Who are you? What do you rock at? Clare Solly 2:39  Ah, hi, Lesley. I'm so glad to be back. I am, overall I'm a storyteller. I think that's like if I had to name my world in one or my life in one. I'm a storyteller. I have lived many different lives. I am an actress, singer, novelist. I'm a producer of plays. I, by day, I'm an executive assistant and most recently, I'm a Bookstagram.Lesley Logan 3:11  Okay, so I didn't even know that Bookstagram was a thing. But I just interviewed someone, his episode's probably come out, Nick Hutchison, and he's, he, he was a Bookstagramer as well. And like, and I was like, hold on. You're the second Bookstagramer I know. Like I didn't, I, like this whole thing I didn't even know existed. So how long have you been a Bookstagramer and how did that even get started?Clare Solly 3:32  Oh, it's a journey. Like it's a short journey. But actually, I have to post my post right now. So I was waiting to do that so we can get it. So if you want to see me actually post physically. I was sitting waiting for the interview to start so I could do that. Or so I could maximize my time. I've been an Instagramer for about six or a Bookstagram or I've been on Instagram forever. I've been a Bookstagramer for about six months. I kind of fell into it to be honest with you. So Bookstagram for those of you who don't know or BookTok is a corner of Bookstagram or TikTok, it's not a separate platform andLesley Logan 4:12  Oh, so BookTok is like, it's like a corner of TikTok and then Bookstagram is a corner of Instagram. Got it. Okay. Clare Solly 4:19  Yes, exactly. If you look up either of those hashtags, if you go on that platform, if you look up the hashtag Bookstagram you'll find it. Same with hashtag BookTok if you're on TikTok, and it's pretty, it's pretty easy to find. I joined because, as you know, I'm a three-time published novelist and I just published a novel in September actually, which you know, I joined in September. I already had established an Instagram for the world of books, and we'll get to that in a second. And I just hopped on, and I was like, oh, this is easy. I'll just go promote my books to people who like books because I knew the hashtag Bookstagram existed because I sort of pedestrianly followed a few people over on my personal account and I laugh because there's this woman who I follow and she has like rooms full of like smudges, which we'll, we can talk about that and I'm going to teach you that word.Clare Solly 5:25  And I was just like, oh my gosh, I want to fill my house with gorgeous books. But anyway I was on and I was like, let me just simply promote, save the last piece, I just published it, it'll be kind of a cheap way to help get my book out in the world. And then I, like Alice in Wonderland, fell down the rabbit hole. I started out I think with like 500 or 600 followers that were kind of leftover from when I decided in the pandemic that I was going to be a book coach and a money coach. And then so go back and listen to one of Lesley's first episodes. I'm sure you'll (inaudible)Lesley Logan 6:00  You were a great money coach for us.Clare Solly 6:03  And I fell down, I took that, that account and I just started following people that I liked. And in somehow promoting my own book, I was like trading with other authors to promote their books and then found companies that do this kind of thing. And somehow ended up with, I don't know where I'll be, when this this podcast actually comes out but like right now, as we're recording this, I'm about to crest 11,000 followers on Instagram.Lesley Logan 6:32  In six months. Okay, so this is insane. Because you're not a social media coach, you are a Bookstagramer and less than 2% of accounts are growing on Instagram the last time I checked out what that stat was, and you clearly are in the 1%. But also like because you niched you like found a corner and you're focusing on one thing, and also it's something you freakin love to do, you love to read, like you always have loved to read. Clare Solly 6:57  I love to read I just got back from vacation, where we were on the beach for six days. Or technically, it was seven and I read seven whole books. While I was, yeah, I mean, novelette like little, like shorter than, like 100 pages or so. Yeah, I like I wasn't reading like Game of Thrones or anything like that.Lesley Logan 7:21  Right, right. But also like, that's like three books in one anyway, so people should get credit for that. Okay, so what does a Bookstagramer do and then how does that change like what you do? Because obviously, you can't be a, I guess you could, but you're not a book coach and a money coach and a Bookstagramer like you can't of like gone all in. So like, how, yeah, let's talk about that. Clare Solly 7:44  So, Bookstagramer, I mean, I'm basically like a hype girl for books, is what it is. There are lots of different ways that people do it. But like, because I read so much and because I'm establishing, I'm doing two things. I'm reading a bunch of books that I like, and I'm also establishing an author community for myself. So again, these are two very, very niche things, but I think people you know, you can take my niche and like, run with it if you want.Lesley Logan 8:10  I think so.Clare Solly 8:13  So being a Bookstagramer, I look at books that I like, or I read books that I like, and then I create art around that book. Bookstagram is gorgeous to look at, like you look at people's grids, and like you just want to screenshot them because they're just gorgeous. People are like, this is my life. It's like lifestyles but with books. So this is my gorgeous lifestyle photo with you know, a cup of tea and my book in the middle of it and some beads and yeah, I don't know chocolate like. Lesley Logan 8:46  I picture you like either like a theme of gorgeous coffee shops and like a beautiful book or like gorgeous beaches and books and like.Clare Solly 8:54  Yeah, well, and everybody's got sort of their theme. Like there are people out there that like do colors I have like one we call each other Bookstabesties I have a Bookstabestie who like her theme is always butterflies and bright flowers. And it's just like her grid's gorgeous. So you're, you're basically as a Bookstagramer you're promoting the titles of the books, you're promoting authors, you're promoting other authors, you're promoting yourself. And there's all kinds of things on there, like, people will do things like here's a book stack with my name spelled out in the first letter of every book. So you'll have like, Clare would be like a book that starts with C like, I don't know, Catcher in the Rye and L, Light in the Forest, you know, so like, you have the stack of books and a hand. So yeah, people are doing all kinds of different things. And it's great because it's like, we're all nerding out and loving, like over books and then there's also competitive posts of like, I read 27 books in March and or I have this many books on my TBR that's my to-be-read list for those of you (inaudible).Lesley Logan 10:02  Okay, I love this and like for just a second I thought, oh my god, what like the sweetest most special part of Instagram? And then oh, here comes the competitive post like it has to get there. There is no there's no play there's no corner of the of social media that doesn't have its competitiveness. Clare Solly 10:18  Oh 100% because again, you're still, you're, you're in a box, and you can do whatever you want, and you can be whatever personality you want. I think honestly, though, on like, the nice side of that I have so many people like that AI trend that happened, what was it in like, November, December that everybody was making AI pictures of themselves the Disney Pixar, whatever. Lesley Logan 10:40  I definitely didn't, because I thought but someone was just trying to get my data. And I was like, I don't participate in those things.Clare Solly 10:47  Most likely, probably. But, but everybody like, you know, decided to do that with the Bookstagram. And like, pretty up their page. But it's funny because people like their, their real photos are coming back. And people are, some people are gorgeous like models. And some people are just like, hey, I'm a normal reader. My face is not part of my image. Lesley Logan 11:11  She, I think for anyone listening to this, who's like, oh, I don't know what to do like, a Bookstagramer sounds like I don't ever have to take a shower. I could just read them. Like, I'm just like, I never have to match. I don't have to clean up the background. I just have to have a little set for my books. So I'm loving this. I think it's wait. So I just want to say like, you set out to do this because you were like promoting your own book and then also like, nowadays, you guys, here's the sad truth about being an author. It doesn't matter how good a writer you are, you now have to have a following. And how many of those followers will buy your stuff? Because publishers never they'll never take risks anymore. So was it like something you stumbled upon that you were like, like that you got like, this feels like new and shocking, like, did you think that you're gonna have 11,000 followers? You have to promote a new book a day. Clare Solly 12:01  I mean, yes-ish. I'm like, I stumbled onto it. And then like it, yeah, I kind of raced towards it to be honest and transparent about it. And I'm like, I feel like it's working well, but it like my KDP Amazon numbers are not necessarily agreeing with me. And also like my Amazon bill from how many books I'm buying versus how many books I'm selling, it's definitely not. Lesley Logan 12:30  Okay. Okay. Yeah, yeah.Clare Solly 12:33  I'm not getting paid as a Bookstagramer. I'm getting paid in books. And I feel like I'm like 11 years old again. It's like, hey, do this job.Lesley Logan 12:42  Do you remember those, like books you would get like, okay, if you send in a self-addressed stamped envelope with five stamps, we're gonna send you these stickers. Like that's what it sounds like. Clare Solly 12:54  Yeah. So I went on a chat with somebody and was talking about the were you around for Bookit with with Pizza Hut? Was that I don't know if that was out in California. But it was like, if you read so many books, you could earn yourself a pizza.Lesley Logan 13:08  Oh, that's cool. We did not have that. But my mom read me 500 books. And so I became like a ferocious reader. But it was a competition in my junior high. Like, what reading level are you and I was so embarrassed because my friends were like, senior reading level in eighth grade. And I was like, Junior reading level in eighth grade. And I was like, there's something wrong with me. I'm not a senior, and I quickly have come to know, it's fine. Everything is fine. (Inaudible)Clare Solly 13:36  We'll never read them all. And like that's something I have to be okay with. And they're classics you'll never read and they're books that are in my physical house that I will never. Yeah, no, we're not going to talk about Kindle. Lesley Logan 13:49  Yeah. You know what, there's Audibles that I will never read. I'm using all my credits. I'm like canceling it. Because I'm forcing myself to get Libby. I'm just like, I'm doing it. I'm supporting the libraries. I'm getting Libby. I want to have you want on to share this because I do think that people go, I have said I was gonna do this thing. I have to do this thing. And they don't let them, they don't let their life evolve. And so I guess I want to know, and maybe you haven't processed it yet, verbally, but like, I guess I want to hear like, what was it like to like, kind of this has taken oh, this a lot of time. Like, it's actually a lot of time to do this. And so to let go of like you built website, I mean, you were doing the book coaching and money coaching, it was like you weren't doing those things for. So to let those things go to like, go and do this. Like, what was that process like? What were you thinking? Like, was there any like, wonder or shame? Like, was there anything like that going on your head? Or is it just kind of easy to let it go? Clare Solly 14:41  I think there was, it's funny that you say wonder and shame because those words kind of crossed my mind as you were, as you were asking the question. There was a little bit of both. I mean, I think, I think I probably hit the the crest of the wave or I was on the back of the crest of the wave of everybody starting their own business and in the pandemic and trying to get online and I, I've never been a great salesperson for, especially for myself, it's so hard. Lesley Logan 15:12  You're an amazing salesperson, because we were in retail together. But I think where you clarified it for yourself might be, that's hard for a lot of people. Clare Solly 15:22  Well, and then I mean, it's also it's hard because I, you know, I'm, like I said, at the top of this podcast, I'm a storyteller first, that's the gift I give myself in this world. And I give, I give support. And like, I'm amused to other people. And that's like, I feel like that's my karmic energy and in this life. And so it's hard to be like, yes, you want to write your book, pay me $500. And I will help push you and cheerlead you to get through writing your own book, when you're the one doing a lot of the work. I'm just here to be that person for you. When I mean, yes, I should monetize myself because it is my time. And as many people who have come on this podcast before me have said, and you've reiterated a number of times, your time is valuable, and you should charge people for it, especially if it's a commodity that you do, or that it's that you're good at, and people want it. But I was not, I was not being fulfilled by it. I was having a lot of people who were sort of interested in it. And then they decided, a lot of folks were like, well, I want to put it into practice, or I want to with the book stuff, they wanted marketing and with the money stuff, they were like, it's a little bit too intangible. And like, what are your results? And it's like, well, you kind of have to have to live it and believe in it to get there. And like, if you're not believing it right now, then, you know, I can't, I can't make you believe it. It's not like, you know, you are saved. Lesley Logan 16:53  Yeah, no, I mean, that's the thing. Like, it's also really hard for some of those things like we are working on trying to get tangible results of like money earned from the people that we coach, but also like, I don't, I'm not that kind of person who's like we've helped so and so make seven, like a million dollars (inaudible) this person because the truth is, like, some of those numbers might actually intimidate you to the point that you don't want to work with us. And also, like, some of those numbers might be more than you've ever like that that you want to make. And so like, I know that we've helped make many, many people millions of dollars, but is that what you need to hear? Or do you need to hear that, like, we can help you with like, what your particular goals are and here's how. And I think I'm with you, like a lot of people, especially with money, it's like, there's a lot, there's a lot on there. Like it's not always just like, here's who to invest in, it's also like, habits on around worthiness and belief and money story and, all that stuff. So it's complicated. Clare Solly 17:47  Yeah, yeah. And like, my, what I was, was putting out into the world had, you know, a dose or six of woowoo. So like, there's a, there's a specific niche for that. So, and I wasn't, I wasn't finding those people, I wasn't attracting those people, those people weren't finding me. So. And I also got really lucky and transitioned, I was in a job that, that I transitioned within the company. And that actually had a headhunter come out and talk to me, and I moved to a different company that I'm head over heels in love with. And I really, really love my job. And we, you know, we came out of the pandemic, and I was working more in person. And you know, still I'm lucky, I get to work a couple days at home. But the amount of time that I had to focus on my own business was not, was not there. And I also found I would rather spend time working on my theater projects and working on writing new novels and spending time with friends and just sitting on my couch, watching a movie and chilling out and I just didn't want I didn't have enough people that weren't interested. And I also didn't have the interest enough to go to keep pursuing it. Which is fine. Lesley Logan 19:03  Yeah, I think that that, like, it's also I love it, it's also okay for it to be fine. And I also like, I think it's okay for something that you tried, and you did, if it's not fulfilling. You know what I mean? Like, you can, I think it's like, it's like the idea, you're just gonna keep hammering at it. Because, you know, I mean, I think a lot of us are like, Oh, I said, I was gonna do this. I said, I'm doing this, I'm gonna just keep going. And that doesn't make it fun either. And so it kind of let you evolve into doing something new. And that actually gives you purpose, and it's fun for you. It feels like it's fun for you. Clare Solly 19:36  Well, and I did you know, I mean, it probably should be said, this is something I didn't give up lightly. It's not like I just turned a corner and was like, well, oops, that didn't work. I mean, I spent I spent 1000s of dollars on educating myself and working with my own business coaches and I mean, it wasn't, it wasn't anything that like massively put me in debt or anything like that. I, you know, put it all on credit cards and paid it back within six, eight months and, you know, luckily, I had a day job that I could do that with. But again, it was not, it was not fulfilling enough to me to keep trying at juicing it for money. So, let it go.Lesley Logan 20:15  Thank you for, I think that's a really, I think it's really good to share that. Also, it doesn't mean, that was for nothing. You know what I mean? Like, I think like, you learn so much from it around organization of your own thoughts and like, what you do, and I think we think it's easy for us to like, go like a sunk cost fallacy. Like we, like human beings are so conditioned to like, hold on to something to like, save what they have, versus they'll spend more try to save what they have and make something happen than they will to just get out. And it doesn't mean it's easy to get out. But also like, there are so many people who would just like keep hiring more coaches and keep trying to make it happen, and by ads and all these things. And so, for you to give yourself permission to just kind of explore something else with your time is really I, do you give yourself a pep talk like do you journal about that? How do you like come up? How did you come up with the idea of like giving yourself more time to explore reading and like sharing your novels?Clare Solly 21:13  I think it's sort of like Marie Kondo-esque kind of thing. Like, I just was looking at it, at the the work I was putting in and seeing what I was getting out of it and seeing whether or not the joy was worth the time, you know, whatever that mathematical equation might be. And it's, it is interesting, because I don't know that I've ever actually really sat down and processed it. I think I just was like, well, my life is changing. This isn't working. I don't need to be spending more time on it. I think the pandemic was a gift for me, because I was that person that was running, running, running. I was living in an 80-hour workweek between all the things that I do. But I could do that. Because I'm a single woman living in New York City, I had enough of an income that I could support myself in a healthy way. Pandemic made me stop and go, wait a minute, you have to sit in your house for months and figure out what is really important for you timewise. And I found like the like, I had lots of leeches and vampires that were sucking my energy away. And were not fulfilling me back. So I think it was, it's more of a conversation or a more of, and yeah, I think I'm pretty sure I journaled. I could probably, knowing me, I did. But I took a look at my life and what, what was making me smile and what was making me happy and I hated when I would set up a workshop that would be like trying to get some people that were interested in buying and have the free, learn how to write your novel in three months to try or learn how to make money. You know, here's five tips on how to make money in your world for free. Lesley Logan 23:03  I just want to interrupt you, but like, I hate doing that launch stuff. It's like not fun. We were doing launch models for years. And for some pre-pandemic, the launch model worked for us in one capacity and was actually really great. But then during the pandemic, because then everybody and their mother was launching something like literally their mother, and everybody were launching something, they need to start doing those, like, here's five ways to make this much and like people want that quick fix. And so that's it you're having to like sell. And we don't do that anymore. And it is it does make it really difficult to grow our business because I don't do before, and I've never done before and after pictures for OPC. But like the only business where we have a launch models on our business coaching, and it seems to work there. And it's just, it doesn't it's not that it feels inauthentic because I only do things that feel really good. But it is really hard to get people to do something that's going to benefit their lives during the window of time you have set aside to support them.Lesley Logan 24:05  You know, that's what those things are.Clare Solly 24:07  And it has to be I mean, I got, I got pulled and I don't want to say suckered because like it turns out like a couple of them were really great coaches, but like I, I got pulled into those calls on my own and I was like, oh my gosh, this rainbow and this pot of gold sound amazing. Sign me up. And yeah, I mean, and it works for some people and you have to have a good script and a good energy and a decent product and but it just not and it's so funny because you just said that I'm a good salesperson. I'm a great actor. And for some reason, like I was not able to get any and it was it was disheartening because I was having like 100 people sign up for the call and five show up. And it was the numbers were just gutting me. And I think after I did, I don't know, I want to say it wasn't a ton. I did like 20 of those, like workshop things between the book coaching and the money coaching. And I (inaudible).Lesley Logan 25:06  That's a lot of that's a hard like thing to not take personally, it's not personal, but it feels personal because like, I'm doing this, I said this, I can help you, and you won't show up, you won't let me help you. And like, yeah.Clare Solly 25:18  It's also a lot of time, like, it was in 90 minutes each time, and 10 to 20 times, 20 times (inaudible) I stopped thinking about how many it was because it like, it makes my stomach hurt to think how much time I gave up. And like I could have been writing or I could have been like, helping a charity or I don't know, I could have watched how many movies, you know.Lesley Logan 25:41  But I just so I love that we're talking about this because I don't think I think a lot of people see the not even Bookstagramers or other Instagramers out there like launching things or they'll sell like I say, I made this much money in a weekend and da-da-da. First thing, you don't know how much money they spent on ads to make that much money. I'm just gonna tell you right now, like they could say they had a six figure, you know, launch and they spent, like, they made $100,000, but they spent 90,000 to get there, like you don't know. And so it's really, really important. Like, yeah, they can say that they had a six figure launch, but it cost them a lot to get there. And I, and so, you know, I also like there are a lot of coaches out there who will sell you these things. Like there's a lot of business coaches out there in my industry who are like, I'm helping people make $10,000 a month, I'm like, that's great. And also some people need more than that. And also for some people, that's a lot and they live in Oklahoma, and what you want them to charge to get there is not possible. And I'm not, not to like slide on Oklahoma, it could be anywhere. But like the truth is, is like there's emotional triggers that are, will work on people to make them buy things. And you need to know if you already wanted it in the first place. And this person understand you and they should have testimonials. They also should have people that like literally did it that you have their faces and you can talk to them, and who aren't being paid to talk to you. So like there, I just say all these things, because we've had people in our, in our groups who've like had other coaches for other like offset things, sell them things, and it's like snake oil. And they're, they feel bad when they fall for it. And it's like you didn't actually fall for anything. It was designed for you to make that one decision.Clare Solly 27:18  Yeah. And, and you know, sometimes, yeah, and oh, yeah. And it just felt bad that being the snake oil salesman, not that necessarily like (inaudible).Lesley Logan 27:30  Well, you weren't, you were going to help them but you but you felt like you had to do those things is what you're saying because you were not (inaudible). Clare Solly 27:35  Yeah. And again, I was very, I was fortunate in the fact that I was kind of like, my next seat on the Ferris Wheel was open. And I could just hop on, you know, hop on that right? Um, so and I realized not everybody is that lucky. But I think I was also sort of, in a way, why no, I was manifesting, like, change. Lesley Logan 27:57  Yeah, you were, okay, I want to talk about this. Because even though you don't coach on this, like, I got to be part of like the time when you are manifesting this change to happen. And like, I think a lot of people will because of making decisions around things and spending money and time to make something happen, a project happen, an idea happens a goal happen, you, even though these things were happening, I didn't, I saw you like manifest change in another way without like, kind of not that you weren't, you know, sulking or worrying about this, but you did do that. How? Clare Solly 28:34  Oh, I was.Lesley Logan 28:35  You were. You can wake up, by the way, we can hold many, many emotions at once, guys. But, you know, when you were here recently, we talked about you can't manifest money, but you can manifest change and like, how, what are the, what are those practices?Clare Solly 28:52  I mean, it's, it's sort of simplistic, but you'd like instead of saying it's so funny, because people are like, I want to win a million dollars, but you get like, it won't happen for you. Because you need to. Going back to all the, and money stuff. Money is energy. Breath is energy. You know, a Snickers bar is energy, not a sponsor. So, you take and you release energy, a hug is energy, right? So you take and you release energy, that's what we do as beings, you know, dogs do it, you know, grass does it, etc. Your cable TV does it. So you need to manifest something well, and again, this is not like a magic wand and it's not going to happen to you overnight. But you need to get really clear on what you want, what your result is. And you need to be able to visualize it. And you and I were talking at the time and you were helping me visualize where I was going and what direction I wanted to go in. And I did a lot of work on that on my own to journaling and meditating and whatever. And you don't have to journal you don't have to meditate, you can do it in whatever way that puts it out into the world. So this is all a little two woo for you. Hi, Brad.Lesley Logan 30:16  He loves this stuff. Actually, you guys, like we light money candles all the time. But we're intentional. That impact is, in fact, represents.Clare Solly 30:25  Well, and you have to. And it's funny, because I have a lot of those candles, too. And I have regular candles that I'm still very intentional with when I start the energy for those. So you have to think about what you want. So I don't know why a boat is coming to my head right now. But if you're like, I would love to have a million dollars. Well, that's not, that's too short-sighted. I want to have a million dollars to have a boat. Well, why do you want that boat? You want to have it so you can cruise around the world? Do you want to have it so you can put it in your backyard and have something to brag about? Do you want to have it so you can have freedom? Do you and because you can go out and you can like have? Or do you want it so you can have quiet time? So you can go fish off your boat. So you have to get really clear on the ABC through XYZ of what you want the money, the energy, whatever to do for you. And for me with the job I got really clear on, I still want to serve people, I want a boss or a situation where I am treated with respect and also like delicacy when I need it. But also space to make my own way in the job. But also forgiveness when I mess up because I'm human. And I got really clear on a lot of those things. And I swear to you, my boss, I might have just drawn a picture of her because she has everything. It's funny because I swore up and down I was never going to work for a woman again. And when I started having conversations with her, it was just it like synergy and wonderful. And I you know, it's not a perfect world. I'm not a perfect employee. You know, it's not a perfect situation every single day. But it allowed me to have you know, and I also thought about things like what kind of salary do I want? And what kind of availability do I want to be able to like what days the, you know, not specific days of the week, I didn't get down to that. But you know, what's my work life balance gonna look like and things like that. And it's, you know, it's not quite, quite what I envisioned. But when I get to do like, it seems like everything I asked for is sort of in this space, what I asked for. So you get as clear as you can on what you want, like distill things down until you can't get them to go any further. And that's how you manifest and then you just start thinking about it every moment you get a chance to. Like, I have sticky notes all over my house, I'll find them every once in a while, that will say things that have specific manifestations on them.Lesley Logan 33:06  I love that. I think, so first of all, I love Post-its and I love, we actually just moved a mirror in our house and now we just like put notes on it because like, you know, with mirror markers and like, it's you know, because it's kind of, it's kind of fun, and it catches you because it's not where you would normally see words. But I, I love that you share like you've got as specific as you can. Because it's really true. Like there was, I forgot, you guys, I forget her name, it's in my Audible, I'm sure my team is gonna know what it is. But there's a book where this woman talks about the story about the more specific you are, the more things happen. And like she talked about, like someone lost a pen. And it was like a specific type of pen that was so expensive. And like she like was like, oh my gosh, I can't believe it's lost because I love this pen, it will come back to me. And sure enough, she walked into a store and there was the exact model and make of this pen. And like this is like the book was written around the 1920s, guys. So like pens were really expensive back then. I don't know. Anyways, it was her pen. And it was like not as expensive as when she like what she thought it would probably somewhat be. But there's another story of this woman who wanted to go on a trip. And she knew exactly the trip she wanted to go on. She knew exactly what it would cost. And she had no money and she called her mom thinking like her mom would loan the money. And her mom was like that trip sounds amazing you should totally go on it. And like that didn't go anywhere. Mom's like, hey, I don't, you know, I think you should go on it but and she didn't have the money and her mom was like why don't you come over here and go like you've got some boxes here you need to pick up and I've got some mail for you. So she goes to her mom's house and she's like, I just want to go on this trip with my friends like I really need to go on this. And she goes to the mail and there was a letter from her old roommates and she opens up the letter and it was a check for her deposit on an apartment that they had years ago and she's like I finally moved out and this money is yours and it was the exact amount of money she needed for the trip. She was so specific about what she needed. So like that's the thing, like you, it really does work and the house I'm sitting in it's five bedroom for a reason. It's exactly the neighborhood I wanted when people go I can't believe you live in Vegas. Do you love it? I'm like, I love it because it's exactly what you manifested. I didn't manifest the money for the house. You know, so, yeah. Clare Solly 35:10  That's okay. You can make the money. That's.Lesley Logan 35:12  Well, no, no, I mean, we got it. We got the money to buy the house. We bought it, guys, it's ours. But like, you know, like, I didn't know, the point is I didn't manifest I mean, you know, $485,000, or whatever it was. I manifested, like, what it would look like and where it was, and we pictured it, Brad, and I know exactly what it's gonna look like. And it looks like that. That's just really fun. So I really love that. Okay, Clare, what are you super excited about right now? Like, what is your like, excitement, joy, what do you?Clare Solly 35:38  I'm super excited. I got sort of inspired in January to write a new novel. So I have yet another work in progress. I've got about like five books in progress right now. And I'm really excited about that. I'm sort of giving, not sort of, I am giving myself the goal to get the thing written, because I already have 20,000 words. So the thing is, like, 1/4 of the way written, because it's a rom com, and I'm, I just am excited. Like, I need to sit down. I'm excited for time with myself, because the ideas are there. I just need to sit down and write it. Um, what else am I excited for? I'm excited for travel. I've got a couple of I'm planning a vacation. I'm so excited. I'm gonna go to Greece. Lesley Logan 36:19  You just came back from a vacation. I love you. I love that. People, you know this, you should take more vacations, you can actually plan one, right after one.Clare Solly 36:27  Well, vacation is so good for you. Because, well, especially getting out of my house is good because it allows my brain to stop and pause or it gives it kind of a different like jumpstart or like a like, I don't know, like a chiropractic crack. And then I come back and I'm so like, I've stopped looking at my same six walls. And I'm like, wait a minute, I can do all these different things. And so I'm excited when I get to vacate and then come back and get like a jumpstart. Yeah, it's so funny. Like, what am I excited about? I don't know, I've got so many things (inaudible).Lesley Logan 37:06  I do know, it's like you're not asked that question all the time. But I really love to ask that question of people because like, it's like, oh, there's this thing I actually have been working on and you might have to pull people yet. But anyways, you're going to Greece. I love that I've never been. I hear it's amazing. Clare Solly 37:18  Yeah, I'm going to, I'm going to go to London for a couple of days on the way there and then go to Greece. And hopefully by the time, hopefully, I'm gonna manifest this, hopefully it will be taking my completed manuscript with me so I can edit it while I'm flying on all the planes. Lesley Logan 37:35  Beautiful. Okay, we're gonna take a brief break and find out where people can find you, follow you, you know get book recommendations from you. Lesley Logan 37:42  All right, Miss Clare, what is your Bookstagram handle? Where can people buy your books?Clare Solly 37:47  You can buy books on Amazon. Save The Last Piece, my most recent one, is also on Barnes and Noble you can just look up Clare Solly. My Instagram handle is youwontbesolly, Y-O-U-W-O-N-T-B-E-S-O-L-L-Y.Lesley Logan 38:05  And also, are your books rom-coms always or like mystery novels? What are your books? Clare Solly 38:10  My first novel that I wrote was a time travel mystery novel called The Time Turner. My second novel that I published is called Christmas and Cleats, and it's a cozy Christmas Connecticut story where it's very, very lifetime Hallmarky woman runs a museum and her best friend slash crush from high school comes back to town after being a famous baseball player and they reconnect and madness ensues. And then my most recent novel I wrote is called Save the Last Piece and it is sort of a Devil Wears Prada of the wedding industry. I worked in the events world for almost three years and had so many stories to tell or so many stories that I heard of, I didn't really tell, I mean, yes. So it's all fiction, although, you know, it's stretched and different things happened. And it's a crazy, crazy romp through the world of events. Lesley Logan 39:09  Oh, my goodness, I love it so much. So Clare, you've been on the show before. So you've already given us some amazing advice on what's bold, executable, intrinsic and target steps. So you can repeat what you gave us, if you remember it, or you can give us something new. And also, I saw you just face you can give us something new, it's totally fine. We just need something to take action on that for the too long didn't listen all the way or for the person who's like okay, hold on. I love this. What should I do next? Clare Solly 39:35  Okay, so I have to tell you, I because I've been working on this for like three weeks since you reached out to me and asked me to do this. And because I'm a recovering people pleaser, and I'm always an A student. I don't want to let down my bestie and I also kind of want to wow Brad, because like I'm always excited to hear on the replays. Brad as well. So I'm trying to hit off all four. Lesley Logan 39:56  Oh, do you know what I'm gonna tell you right now you'll be one of very few people who have done all four. So here we go.Clare Solly 40:03  Here we go. I would say like if you're, if you're trying to like, live your best life, or if you want to get your Instagram, whatever going, Look at what you're obsessed with, what things are reaching out to you, what are, what you are loving, looking at, what you're liking or what is calling you and your life to spend your free time on that. Also use your comparisons and judgments of these things of like people's posts or of other people's lives or whatever. And instead of going, oh, gosh, they are so much better than me turn it around the other way. And use it to build yourself confidence and let it point you in the direction. Why do you think that they're better than you? Or what could you do? What is your magical snowflake-ness that's that's taking you in that direction. That and make sure it fulfills you in some way. And just you know what manifest the shit out of it.Lesley Logan 40:57  Oh, I love that. I love that so much. I think it's great. I think that's I love that because you know what? Most people would just stop at the comparison part. So you are you gave us a bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted step all in one step. That's so cool.Clare Solly 41:18  It's so funny because I kept working on it. And then I would like I was doing something like I was folding laundry and I would like run to my phone. I was like new note. Lesley Logan 41:28  Okay, so this is so funny because it's kind of like your expert bio. Brad, I have to read a bio all the time guys. I'm sure, Clare you do, too. You have to have a bio all the time. Clare Solly 41:37  You remember when we wrote them for each other? Lesley Logan 41:39  Oh I do because it nothing will bring me to tears sooner than like someone making me make my bio fit into certain character we haven't done so Brad has taken us over and he like took it over and so you're, every, it's like this, that Be It thing is like having to go oh, hold on, world renowned. That's a better word for that. Like you're running to the node to like, that's a better word for saying this thing. And then he did it in like two paragraphs under 600 words under 200 characters.Lesley Logan 42:13  So I think I've got all the bios I could need for at least this month.Clare Solly 42:19  This month is covered. Yeah.Lesley Logan 42:21  Clare I love you. It's so fun to follow along on your journey. You guys, go listen to the first episode we have and you can listen to you can also see when she did some of the recaps because Brad was out of country and 15 hours ahead and was not that was not gonna work out for us. And so (inaudible) a trip. Oh my gosh, yeah. But you're, you always have a great insight and what I love is like you're, you really do follow your passions and you're really curious about things and it's your, you get excited about things and your books are just different facets of your unique creativity. And I can't wait for this next one to come out. And also, if you're wondering what to read, her Bookstagram can be a great place. So you guys, make sure you tag youwontbeSolly, tag the Be It pod. Let us know how you're going to use these tips in your life. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 43:10  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Lesley Logan 43:38  Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. 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