Podcasts about Chuppah

Inspired by Shane Willard's teachings, Jaci unpacks the powerful image of God's covenant with His people as a marriage proposal. From Exodus to Acts, she walks us through the Hebrew wedding language - Lakah, Segullah, Mikveh, Ketubah, and Chuppah, revealing God's deep desire for relationship.This message will help you understand the power of saying yes to God and the deep love He has for you.

This morning we analyze why this week's Torah portion, BaMidbor, is always read on this Shabbat before Shavuot - in what way is it a necessary introduction to receiving the Torah at Sinai for us this year? We explore the answer given by Rabbi Moshe Feinstein, that every one of us is needed to stand under the metaphoric Chuppah with God on Shavuot to enter into the divine marriage relationship with God that we re-affirm and re-enact on Shavuot. Michael Whitman is the senior rabbi of ADATH Congregation in Hampstead, Quebec, and an adjunct professor at McGill University Faculty of Law. ADATH is a modern orthodox synagogue community in suburban Montreal, providing Judaism for the next generation. We take great pleasure in welcoming everyone with a warm smile, while sharing inspiration through prayer, study, and friendship. Rabbi Whitman shares his thoughts and inspirations through online lectures and shiurim, which are available on: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5FLcsC6xz5TmkirT1qObkA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adathmichael/ Podcast - Mining the Riches of the Parsha: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mining-the-riches-of-the-parsha/id1479615142?fbclid=IwAR1c6YygRR6pvAKFvEmMGCcs0Y6hpmK8tXzPinbum8drqw2zLIo7c9SR-jc Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3hWYhCG5GR8zygw4ZNsSmO Please contact Rabbi Whitman (rabbi@adath.ca) with any questions or feedback, or to receive a daily email, "Study with Rabbi Whitman Today," with current and past insights for that day, video, and audio, all in one short email sent directly to your inbox.

In week 2 of our series Netflix, Chill, & God's Will, Pastor Mike explores the concept of covenant in marriage, drawing parallels between God's promises to Israel in Exodus 6:2-8 and a groom's vows to his bride. It emphasizes the importance of commitment, symbolized by the Ten Commandments as a Ketubah, and the sealing of the covenant through intimacy, represented by the Chuppah. The message challenges couples to protect their relationship from distractions and trust that God has saved the best for last in their covenant with Him.To continue to support this ministry so we can reach people all around the world, visitwww.givetofocus.com

Susi Lauer ist eine der letzten Überlebenden, die vom schwedischen Diplomaten Raoul Wallenberg in Budapest 1944 vor dem Holocaust gerettet wurde. Der Familie ihres Mannes, Mark Margolin, gelang die abenteuerliche Flucht von Warschau bis Sidney. Als Mark Margolin am 10. September 2023 nach jüdischer Tradition mit seinem Absatz das Glas zertritt, scheint eine unglaubliche Geschichte ihr Happy End gefunden zu haben. Er ist an diesem Tag 66 Jahre alt, seine Frau Susi 86. Soeben haben sie in Haifa geheiratet unter der Chuppah, dem Baldachin. Eine Hochzeit nicht als Anfang, sondern als Krönung eines unglaublichen Weges. Dass dieser 10. September 2023 so stattgefunden hat, widerspricht allen Regeln der Wahrscheinlichkeit. Mark Margolins Familie entkam 1939 dem sicheren Tod in Polen durch eine abenteuerliche Flucht im Auto eines deutschen Offiziers über Litauen, Russland und Japan nach Australien, wo er 1957 zur Welt kam. Susi Lauer war 1944 als sechsjähriges Mädchen zuerst für Auschwitz und dann für den Tod in der kalten Donau bestimmt. Zweimal wurde sie im letzten Moment vom schwedischen Diplomaten Raoul Wallenberg gerettet. Ein starker Wille hielt sie jung und am Leben. Die Schrecken des 20. Jahrhunderts führten Susi Lauer und Mark Margolin um den halben Globus. Heute leben sie in Zürich. Gäste: · Susi Lauer, Zeitzeugin · Mark Margolin, Zeitzeuge · Ramunas Janulaitis, Direktor Sugihara-Museum, Kaunas Literatur: Carlberg, Ingrid: Raoul Wallenberg. Die Biografie. Aus dem Englischen von Susanne Dahmann. München, 2019. Lowe, Keith: Der Wilde Kontinent, Europa in den Jahren der Anarchie 1943-1950. Aus dem Englischen übersetzt von Stephan Gebauer und Thorsten Schmidt, Stuttgart 2016. Snyder, Timothy: Bloodlands. Europa zwischen Hitler und Stalin. Aus dem Englischen von Martin Richter. München, 6. Erweiterte Auflage, 2022. Sugihara Diplomats for Life Foundation: Casablanca of the North: Kaunas 1939-1940. The Exhibition Catalogue. Kaunas, 2018. «Zeitblende» ist ein Podcast von Radio SRF. Fragen, Kritik oder Anregungen gerne direkt an: Zeitblende@srf.ch.

Breathe in and visualize a Hanukkah candle - lit with love, glowing. Julie Potiker completes the meditation with the poem, "The Back of Our Hands", by Annette Friend."The Back of Our Hands," by Annette Friend.My nephew's afternoon wedding in upgradedJersey City - a rose covered Chuppah overlooksthe sun-speckled Hudson River, the jagged NYC skyline.My granddaughter, six, sits on my lap,in a flowered pink dress, beige patent leathershoes with tiny bows, softly touches the backof my hand, traces brown liver spots, blue veins,red splotches of skin damaged by too much sun,baby oil slathered teenage skin at the Jersey Shore.Her pure, pink skin, unblemished, smoothas rose petals, in stark contrast to my time splatteredcovering. She maps the spots up and down my armas if trying to decipher clues about my life."What happened her?" she whispers,points to a thin white scar on my thumb."Cut myself with a knife making latkes.I'll be more careful when I come to visit,and we make latkes for Hanukkah."Her pearly fingertips mark up my saggy arm,"Your skin is squishy like Jello, Granny A."I laugh, she giggles snuggling against me.Does it matter if my skin tells tales of timepassing when she's here with me in the sunshinesmiling on this happy, sparkling day?We watch the bride and groom paradeback down the aisle to applause, the groomhas finally smashed the glass after five tries.All Jewish celebrations are tinged with ancientadversity, the broken glass, some say, a reminderof the Temple we lost thousands of years agoWhen I was young these customsmade me shrug my shoulders, annoyed, we Jewscan never just kick up our heels, relax and enjoy.Now my skin proclaims me an old relic as I watchfresh young lives around me begin to bloom, I realizestories of the past show us our strength, the beautyand pain all of our history contains, the pastentwined in all the moments that we are alive,part of a tradition that teaches us how to survive.In this moment, the past, the present, the youngand the old, the sun sets, yet rises, on a new marriage,and our two hands, my granddaughters and mine,side by side woven in gold."The Back of Our Hands," by Annette Friend.Find out more about using mindfulness in everyday life through Julie's books, "SNAP: From Calm to Chaos", and "Life Falls Apart, But You Don't have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm in the Midst of Chaos". Both are available on Amazon.com.Follow Julie on YouTube and Facebook at Mindful Methods for Life.comThis podcast is available on iTunes, iHeart, Blubrry and everywhere you listen to podcasts.

Featuring Special Guest, Rabbi Zev Reichman Thank you to our generous sponsors this week, Dasi and Jeremy Schwalbe and family who are sponsoring this episode of the One Pasuk Podcast in celebration of Rabbi Daniel and Dina Goldberg's new daughter, Sarit Leora. May the Goldbergs and our community see her raised, together with her siblings Moshe, Shaya, and Esther – to Torah, Chuppah and Maasim Tovim. Thank you so much Dasi and Jeremy Schwalbe for your generous support of the One Pasuk Pasuk Podcast. וַיֵּרָא אֵלָיו ה' בְּאֵלֹנֵי מַמְרֵא וְהוּא יֹשֵׁב פֶּתַח־הָאֹהֶל כְּחֹם הַיּוֹם׃  Hashem appeared to him by the terebinths of Mamre; he was sitting at the entrance of the tent as the day grew hot.

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Brent Billings, Elle Grover Fricks, and Reed Dent explore how the Talmudic conversation might shed new light on the account of Joseph's angelic visitation in Matthew 1.BEMA 22: Under the ChuppahBEMA 85: Mark — Roman GospelBEMA 89: Written in the StarsBerakhot 56 (Talmud) — Sefaria

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Zaydie Saying the Beracha Outside the ChuppahSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/ten-minute-halacha/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This approach differs from many weddings that involve moving the bride, groom, and guests from place to place.https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/012/007/4245

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A weekly shiur by Dayan Levi Yitzchok Raskin, Rov of Anash in London, explores interesting Torah questions and halachic dilemmas. The following issues are discussed by Dayan Raskin in this week's episode: 1) [In relation to Seudas Hoda'ah]: Why is the Korban Todah to be eaten one day and night, whereas most lesser Korbanos may be eaten until the following evening? [1] 2) What are the guidelines for praying for healing on Shabbos? May one wish someone else Refua Sheleimoh on Shabbos? [2] 3) In Ukraine today, young men are being stopped in the street by police and being challenged why they are not in the military. Is there a permissible way to carry documents on Shabbos? [3] 4) At a kiddush in shul, does all the mezonos that is spread all around (e.g. crackers, pretzels, rugelach) need to be covered? [4] 5) Is a "hot plate" treated halachically the same as the standard blech-on-stove situation? [5] 6) I bought a glass to be used and broken under the Chuppah. Must it be toivelled?[6] 7) I have purchased a multi-unit building. One of the current tenants is a mosque. May I leave that tenancy in place?[7] 8) In many hotel rooms one will find a book of non-Jewish worship. Does one leave it?[8] 9) May I prune our fruit-tree?[9] 10) I am away from my family for Shabbos, in a place where Shabbos commences later. Close to Shabbos I check on my phone and discovered that the smart-socket for the cholent crock-pot wasn't switched on. May I switch it on remotely?[10] 11) May one use Maaser-money to purchase Seforim?[11] 12) Must an Oron-Kodesh have a door, or could we suffice with a curtain?[12] Join Zoom Meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/9764852268 ________________________________________ [1] שו"ת תולדות חיים (ברוין) סימן ו. [2] ראה שבת יב א ואילך; שוע"ר סי' רפז ס"א; שם סי' רפח ס"ט; 'מי שברך' בסוף סדר המילה; שער הכולל לשם. [3] ראה פסקי תשובות סי' שא אות מ. [4] ראה קצור ש"ע סי' נה ס"ה; שם עז סי"ז; שמירת שבת כהלכתה פמ"ז סכ"ה והע' קכה. [5] ראה שבת כהלכה פ"ח ס"ד; פסקי תשובות סי' רנג אות ז – דשפיר דמי, אף כי יש מחמירים לכסות בשכבה של נייר-כסף. [6] מסתבר שחייב בטבילה, כי כלי גמור הוא וראוי לשימוש פעמים רבות. וכן משמע בס' טבילת כלים פ"א ס"ז ובהע' י שם. אבל בס' פסקים ותשובות יו"ד סי' קכ אות כד כתב להטבילו בלא ברכה. אגב: צריך לשטוף הכוס לפני החופה, כדין כוס של ברכה. [7] דת הישמעאלים אינה נחשבת ע"ז (שוע"ר סי' קכח סנ"א). אין להיכנס למסגד (ראה נתיבים בשדה השליחות ח"א פט"ז). אילו השוכר היה כנסי' נוצרית, הי' בעי' להשאיר אותם – ראה שו"ע יו"ד סי' קנא ס"י. [8] ראה רמ"א ביו"ד שם. [9] ראה שו"ת חקרי לב מהדו"ת יו"ד סי' יא; שמירת הגוף והנפש סי' רנ הע' י. [10] אודות שילוח פאקס בע"ש למקום שהוא כבר שבת – ראה נתיבים בהלכה ומנהג סי' כב. [11] ראה ש"ך יו"ד סי' רמט סק"ג; סדר ברה"נ פי"ב ה"ט. ובס' צדקה ומשפט פ"ו הע' כד הביא מערוך השלחן (יו"ד שם ס"י) שחלק על היתר זה. [12] בשערי תשובה סי' קנד מובא משו"ת זרע אמת (ח"א סי' כו) שאע"פ שדלת ארוה"ק הוא יפה, מ"מ צריך פרוכת. ונ"ל שבלי דלת אינו ארון.

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"The world says have sex, the church often says hide it, but God says honour it!" Listen in as Nate dives deep into the beautiful design of the bride and the bridegroom!

"The world says have sex, the church often says hide it, but God says honour it!" Listen in as Nate implores us too bring our sexuality back underneath the covering of God to experience the intimacy we were designed for.

1)       What is the background to Chabad having large (Head-)Tefilin? [1] 2)      We cannot source white eggs locally. Do we have to check boiled brown eggs?[2] 3)       We skipped Tachanun in Shul due to the presence of a Mohel who was to perform a Bris that day. He then rushed out. Due we skip the subsequent Tachanun-related portions of davening? [3] 4)       We don't have a Friday night minyan. May we accept Shabbos early and have Kiddush then, and I will daven Maariv later on, after the meal? [4] 5)       My son had a cochlear-implant hearing-aid inserted, which is thankfully working wonders. Without it he hears nothing at all. The battery doesn't last more than 16 hours without being recharged. What can we do for Shabbos & Yomtov? [5] 6)       We're on holiday in a village in France. In the past we have lit the fire at the local bakery, thus the baguette is Pas Yisroel. Now, we discover, the baker is a Jew. Is the fact that he is open on Shabbos a concern for use of his bread during the week?[6] 7)       Non-Pas Yisroel bread or rolls that say "take & bake" "heat & serve". Does this short process help, even when – as in the case of the rolls – they are edible as they are?[7] 8)       Why does a Kalloh remove all jewellery for the duration of the Chuppah? [8] 9)       Feedback on why no meat during Nine Days: [9] 10)   Feedback on fashioning ornaments from glass broken at a Chuppah:[10] Join Zoom Meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/9764852268 Index to previous Panorama Shiurim: Panorama Index 2 - Google Docs [1] תוספות, עירובין צה ב; שוע"ר סי' לב סס"ג; תניא אגה"ק סי' י; שלחן מנחם ח"א סי' כא. [2] ראה שו"ע יו"ד סי' סו ס"ח; כף החיים שם אות מא. [3] להעיר. [4] במשנ"ב. [5] ראה שוע"ר סי' שכח סי"ט. [6] ראה שוע"ר סי' שיח ס"א שהתבשיל שנעשה במזיד בשבת אוסר גם את הכלים. אלא שזה רק לעצמו, אבל מותר למי שנעשה בשבילו. וכ"פ במשנ"ב סק"ה. אבל בשוע"ר סי' תקג סי"ב ובקו"א ב' שם אוסר גם למי שנעשה בשבילו. הכתב סופר מחמיר בבתי חרושת וכו', לאסור מעשה שבת שלהם. ומ"מ אינו אוסר את כליהם. צד נוסף לקולא: התנור נכשר תדיר. [7] ראה שו"ע יו"ד סי' קיב סי"ב; כף החיים שם אות סג. [8] מנהג ישראל תורה – נישואין ע' קנד. [9] מטה יהודה (מהר"י עייאש) סי' תקנא אות כב, הובא בכף החיים שם אות קיט. [10] קובץ באור התורה גליון קסח. 

1)       We were given funds to build a Mikvah. That is a long-term project. May we borrow some of those funds in the interim, to be used for other needs? [1] 2)      What is the source for touching the Sefer Torah with a cloth at the beginning and ending of one's Aliya?[2] 3)       Why don't we eat meat in the 9 days? During the week of Shiva RL, eating of meat is permitted. [3] 4)       Is there any objection to taking the pieces of the glass broken under a Chuppah and to make them into an ornament? [4] 5)       May one wash a Sheitel during the Nine Days? [5] 6)       Is there a way a Jewish carer could invoice for Shabbos hours? [6] 7)       Is it acceptable to have an identity sticker on the back of a Mezuza or Sefer Torah?[7] 8)       Should Chazan include Birkas Kohanim on Tisha b'Av at Shacharis? [8] 9)       Feedback on Peios: [9] 10)   Feedback on Chazan saying Aneinu when no Minyan are fasting:[10] 11) Could one use Mezonos for an Eruv Chatzeiros? [11] Join Zoom Meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/9764852268 Index to previous Panorama Shiurim: Panorama Index 2 - Google Docs [1] ראה ס' צדקה ומשפט פ"ט סט"ז. [2] שו"ע או"ח סי' קלט ס"ד. ילקוט הגרשוני לאו"ח שם. היום יום ד' אלול. שערי אפרים ש"ד ס"ג. [3] לבוש או"ח סי' תקנא סעיף ט. [4] להעיר מברכות ו ב, שהמשמח את החתן כמי שבנה אחת מחרבות ירושלים. עוד להעיר משוע"ר סו"ס תמה – להשתמש בהושענות לשריפת החמץ ובלולב לאפיית מצה. [5] במשנ"ב מהדורת 'דרשו' סי' תקנא הע' 37 הובא מחלוקת פוסקי דורנו ז"ל: ה'שבט הלוי' והרב אלישיב אוסרים, והר"פ שיינברג מתיר. גם בפסקי תשובות שם אות כ כתב להחמיר. [6] ראה. [7] ראה משנת הסת"ם ע' קד. [8] כי"ק שנתגלה בימים אלה אשתקד. [9] בס' הכתב והקבלה (קדושים יט, כז) דייק דלא כתיב 'שער' בנדו"ד, משא"כ בפרה אדומה ומצורע, ובהם שיעור חכמים "כדי לכוף ראשו לעיקרו" וכה"ג. לכן איסור הקפה והשחתה הוא אפילו לגבי שער קצר מאד, עכת"ד. אך מזה יש לדון גם לקולא, שאפילו נשאר מעט אורך, לא עבר על איסור הקפה והשחתה. אבל, מנהג חסידים מעולם היה להבליט הפיאות – ראה סיפורים חסידיים (אלפנביין) ח"ב ע' 154; ספר הזכרונות - דברי הימים (גורקאוו) ע' עה. [10] בס' המנהגים ע' 45 מתיר לומר 'עננו' בשלשה מתענים "ועכ"פ כשיש עוד ז' שאכלו פחות מכשיעור". בקובץ רז"ש (ע' 71) מביא דברי ה'לקט יושר' לומר 'עננו' בג' שהם מתענים. מסתבר שמטרתו לתת גיבוי לדברי הצ"צ. בפסקי דינים צ"צ או"ח תקסו מתיר בג', כה'אגודה' – כשהרוב חולים ר"ל. בשו"ת סי' צג מתיר בצירוף ז' שאוכלים קצת. [11] ראה ערוך השלחן סי' שסו סו"ס טו. 

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In this first episode of 613 Books Podcast, Heather Dean interviews author, marriage-minded mentor for singles and the star of the new Netflix series, "Jewish Matchmaking", Aleeza Ben Shalom! Aleeza shares her insights about effective dating, keeping the momentum going, and weighing old-fashioned vs. modern dynamics. Also, author Esther Kurtz, creator of “Emunah for Non-Rebbitzens” podcast and Mishpacha magazine columnist tells us what's on her reading table! Show Notes: Buy your copy of Aleeza Ben Shalom's book, Get Real, Get Married: Get Over your Hurdles and Under the Chuppah: https://aleezabenshalom.com/books/ Watch Aleeza's Netflix Series, Jewish Matchmaking: https://www.netflix.com/il-en/title/81423793 Visit Aleeza's website: https://aleezabenshalom.com/ Listen to Esther Kurtz's Podcast, “Emunah for Non-Rebbitzens” Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/emunah-for-non-rebbitzens/id1646521839 Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/esther-kurtz5 Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/Emunah-for-Non-Rebbitzens-Podcast/B09R11QN3Q Sticher: https://www.stitcher.com/show/emunah-for-non-rebbitzens Visit Esther's website: https://www.estherkurtz.com/ Buy your copy of Heather Dean's memoir: https://www.amazon.com/Searching-Heather-Dean-Extraordinary-Interviewer/dp/965927050X

Today we revisit one of our most popular episodes, an early interview with Sheryl Paul, author of "The Conscious Bride". Sheryl's work allows us to reflect on how the pain, grief, discomfort, and vulnerability that can arise throughout the wedding process can actually be doorways into joy if we are willing to let them in.    Music by Terry Hughes   Links: Sheryl Paul's work The Conscious Bride Shelter in Place Podcast   Also Check Out: Inviting Grief to the Wedding My Self-Marriage Story   Rate This Podcast Full Transcript   Paul: I'm always interested in what's not being talked about what people are experiencing, but are trying to stuff away, trying to sequester, trying to sweep into the corner under the rug... when all that does is create shame and all that does is create anxiety.   Sheryl Paul has a unique ability to see the invisible, to see what has been silenced. Her book "The Conscious Bride" has been helping couples prepare for marriage for 20 years - and prepare in a very specific way. Her work helps couples create room for all of the emotions that come with transition, not just the picture perfect ones. Funny thing is, that allows for even more joy. Join me for a conversation with Sheryl Paul.   This is Shame Piñata. I'm Colleen Thomas. Welcome to Shame Piñata, where we talk about creating rites of passage for real-life transitions. When I got engaged six years ago, a good friend of mine gave me a book called "The Conscious Bride". Now, I'm not a reader, as my husband will tell you, but I devoured this book. I loved it because it touched on the shadow, the stuff we don't talk about, the stuff that gets in our way when we want to feel one way but actually feel a myriad of other ways all at the same time. It named the shadow that hovers over the wedding: the attachment, the fear, the uncertainty, the hidden power-struggles and the grief that lies beneath them, and that a big part of stepping into a new life is letting go of the old one - and not just for the couple. The Conscious Bride gave me permission to feel all the ways, and it helped me create room for everyone else to feel all the ways too, so ultimately, we could all process the transition without getting into weird fights about random things. I was so happy to have a chance to speak with Sheryl Paul.    Thomas: So what led you to write this book?   Paul: So, I was in a master's program around that time. I was at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, which I don't know if you're familiar with, but it has a very strong Jungian focus. And I had always been interested in rites of passages and I had a deep sense that there was a lot that was not being talked about around the wedding. And I started to interview women and I did a lot of interviews, especially when it came time to write the book, which came from my master's thesis. So it started out as as a thesis and then evolve into a book. And I started to see that there was a big gap in the cultural conversation around around transitions in general. All transitions are bypassed and overlooked, but particularly the wedding and then in particular, how much focus there is on the joy and the perfection and everything has to be blissful and ecstatic from the moment of the proposal into the first year of the wedding, and there was just no conversation happening about the shadow, about the death experience, about what women (and men) are actually experiencing quite a bit of a time. And, you know, the more I researched and the more I looked and the more I spoke, the more it became quite clear to me that just that again, that there was a real gap in the conversation around this pivotal rite of passage, one of our few ceremonies that we still invoke in the culture. And yet it's done in such a way where we really gloss over the element of a transition, of the reality that when you are in transition, you are in a death experience, you are in a liminal zone, you are between identities, you are letting go, you are grieving. And we only expect people to feel joyful. It creates a lot of anxiety and it creates even more chaos than there naturally would be around an event like this. Because I'm feeling sad, because I have a sense of loss, because I feel like a part of me is dying, because I'm not over-the-moon ecstatic... something must be wrong with me, or with my partner, or with the decision to get married - something's wrong. And it's an incredibly deep sigh of relief to the soul to know that nothing is wrong. In fact, the more you let those difficult feelings in, the more you will open to the joy; that the pain and the grief and the discomfort and vulnerability are the doorways into the joy, into what we are expected to see all and into what we hope to feel. And what I started to say earlier was that that the wedding more than any other transition, I think, has (probably being pregnant becoming a mother comes close) carries a very strong cultural expectation of unilateral joy and it is supported in a big way by the wedding industry that sells perfection and sells joy. So it's a it's very big money behind selling us the bill of goods by selling us this message that you are supposed to be joyful and the way to do that is to create a perfect event.   Thomas: How do you work with someone if they're just starting to realize that they don't have to only feel joyful?   Paul: So, I tell them to read my book. And, you know, it's really the first part it's about re educating people to understand all of the normal and necessary feelings that accompany this transition. And once they understand that everything they're feeling is normal and necessary, they can start to let it in and and feel it, feel the grief, feel the loss, feel the vulnerability, feel the loneliness. These are all normal feelings that accompany transitions. So once we give ourselves permission to feel without that overlay of "because I'm feeling this it means there's something wrong" everything changes from there. We don't then have to misassign meaning to the feelings and to think, "Because I'm feeling sad, it means I'm making mistake." No, it has nothing to do with that. You're feeling sad because you are in a rite of passage. You're feeling sad because you are in the death experience, letting go of this identity, this primary identity as single person, as daughter, and shifting into an entirely new stage of life, a new identity. And there is no way to go through that without feeling grief.   Thomas: You spend a good portion of the book talking about how the bride is separating from the father/father figure and the mother/mother figure and the friends. Can you say more about that process?   Paul: Yes, so it can go a few different ways. If the bride is very close to her father, that's one set of emotions and experiences where there is tends to be a lot of grief, a lot of crying, really good, medicinal, necessary crying to make that separation process... and to make it more effective to make it more complete to make it more conscious. Again, in the naming, to say, I am separating from my dad, I am no longer going to be... Yes, I'm his daughter, but not in the same way, not as my primary identity. That my new partner is going to be number one and I'm transferring allegiance. So, that's one example of one way that it can go if if someone's very close to their father. If somebody doesn't have a close relationship with their father or there is no father figure in their life, that's a different kind of grief of the loss of not having had that or never having had that. The same as somebody has passed away. If somebody who's getting married and their mother's no longer alive. You know, that's, that's one way that grief can come through, as opposed to a mother who is very much alive and very much involved. And then there's a separation. There's… there's a loosening of cords that is required.    Thomas: I'm curious as you're speaking how this applies, I'm sure it's very different, but how it applies to folks who were older when they get married, or maybe a second marriage.   Paul: It can be different, it can be similar. It depends. It depends on a lot of factors. But regardless of the age, especially if it's a first marriage and you're getting married at 40, you're still letting go of a massive identity. And in some ways, it's even more of a letting go because of all of those years that you spent as a non-married person. And so there's a lot of grieving, a lot of shedding of the independence, the separateness, all of the control that you have when you are a non-married person, that every inch of your life is your own: your home, your space, how you spend your time, how you organize your weekend, it's all yours. And so that is its own massive death experience for somebody who marries later, you know, and who has had that many more years than someone who's 22 if you're 42, that's a lot of years of being the sole architect of your life.   Thomas: So you work with people around transitions, all kinds of transitions now, and I'm curious if ceremony plays a part in that with them.   Paul: I'm a big fan of ceremony. Because my work is largely over the internet. I'm not the one doing the ceremony with them. I would love to be that person, but I'm not. But I always encourage people to create ceremony and create rituals. And so, you know, if it's somebody getting married... and I've had a lot more men come my way, by the way, since I wrote The Conscious Bride. And I'm thinking of some right now who are in one of my small coaching groups. And he's getting married on Saturday, and I won't, I won't share the specifics, but it's... because it's his story. But it's really beautiful to witness men in their transitional process and the rituals that they come up with because I encourage people to find their own rituals that are meaningful to them. Ways to acknowledge the end of you know, in his sake, his bachelorhood that that time in his life is over. And so he has been sharing these incredibly potent rituals that have come to him for ways of recognizing that that time in his life is over. And what ritual does is, as you know, is it, it concretizes, it makes it and embodies what's happening, so that it brings it out of just that realm of talking about it and it sends it into a realm that we can't see with our five senses, but very much exists and yet calls on the five senses to help transmute the experience into another form. And so rituals help us cross over that sometimes very scary divide that just looks like a big, cavernous, empty space, crossing from one identity to a new identity, from one stage of life to the next. And without the rituals we are... we're pretty lost and so, you know, again, as I, as I said earlier, the wedding is one of the few ceremonies that we have, which comes with ritual. A lot of people tend to minimize or diminish the ceremonial aspect because they're so focused on the party and the reception, you know, that's where all of the energy goes. When really, it's the ceremony that has so much power to carry us over the divide between one stage and the next.   Thomas: And that's something I'm trying to encourage and put seeds out in the world for as well, that people take that the ritual, the ceremony of the marriage, the wedding and they, they feel free to do it their way so that it's powerful and is as powerful and meaningful for the couple as possible.   Paul: Yes, yes! And I think we are at this extraordinary time in our world where we have freedom to do that, where we are breaking out of the traditions that have gone stale and revitalizing them with personal meaning of what is meaningful for you. And there may be long-standing time-honored traditions that are still meaningful. And I'm by no means one to throw everything out that we've come from, because many of those rituals are gorgeous and meaningful - but only if they're meaningful for the individual, right? Only if they land in a place where something inside of you says yes, right? That helps me, that bolsters me, that comforts me. Right? So, you know, whether it's at a Jewish wedding standing under the Chuppah, you know, it's just this beautiful symbol of, of our new home and and this, you know, long standing tradition... if that's meaningful to somebody great. If it's not, then it really.. it's not going to do anything for you on a spiritual level.   I shared with Sheryl that before my wedding, I created a self-commitment ceremony for myself. And in that ceremony I presenced all of my Ancestral grandmothers with the acknowledgement of how important marriage might have been for them, how much of a survival tool. I did this because women's  standing in society has evolved so much even since my mother's generation, but yet we are still connected to our Ancestral legacy and felt like a really important thing to me.    Paul: That's incredibly beautiful that you did that and so powerful and it's probably the number one fear that comes up for women that I'm working with in their pre-wedding time in their engagement, is the fear of what does marriage mean? And does it mean that I am beholden to this person now and I lose all sense of self and I become boring and frumpy and... This is the legacy. This is what we've been handed, right? This is what it has meant for thousands and thousands of years is that for women, marriage has meant really the death of self: I exist, to take care of the man and to take care of the children and that's it. And so there's this very deep ancestral legacy that we have to consciously break with and recognize that we are so lucky and we are so blessed to be on this new threshold, that we get to redefine what marriage means for us. And we only can really know that after we've taken the leap, because on the other side, on the first side, on the engagement side, it just all looks and sounds so scary to most women. And you know, that's why I have so many exercises in The Conscious Bride, more-so I think in The Conscious Bride's Wedding Planner, on what does it mean to be a wife? What does that mean to you? What does the word wife connote? When you think of wife, what is the connotation for you? And it's very rare that someone's going to say, "Oh, I see this rad, sexy woman, you know, like, doing like, the dance on the rooftops." Like, no, that's not usually what we think of when we hear the word wife. But it could be. More and more we are redefining that. And we are seeing that. And so I tell people, but look out into the world today and find those those models of marriage where you see a woman who is doing her life fully, you know, and yes, maybe she's also a mother and she's, you know, loves being married and she's fully committed to her path and and making her offerings, and doing her work in the world. Right? Separate from wife and mother. So, yeah, I love, I love that I love what you share. I love what you did. I think that is not only powerful, but essential on that ceremonial ritual level to recognize what we've come from.   Thomas: I'm just so happy and honored to have the chance to talk to you after, after all this time of really, really, really appreciating your book and your wisdom.   Paul: Yeah, thank you, Colleen.   It means a great deal to me to have the opportunity to share Sheryl's wisdom with you. I hope that you are able to use it or pass it along to a friend. Here's one final bit of wisdom, a quote from The Conscious Bride. "A marriage is a rite of passage no matter when it occurs, and the woman must still pass through the phases of her transformation. She must die, she must sit in the unknown, and then she will be reborn."   Sheryl Paul is the author of The Conscious Bride and The Conscious Bride's Wedding Planner. Her website contains a plethora of resources for addressing life transitions. Learn more about Sheryl and her work at https://conscious-transitions.com. Our music is by Terry Hughes. If you like the show, please take a minute to review it on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at shamepinata.com. I'm Colleen Thomas. Thanks for listening.

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Episode # 98:  The Chosson and Kallah That Were Swallowed in the Ground During the Chuppah

1) An inspirational message from a Halocho re. אבר מן החי:[1] 2) As a Hidur for Pesach, I wish to roast and grind my own coffee beans. To buy the equipment and to then return it to the store after Pesach - may I do so?[2] 3) My toddler's Yarmulke was left in Shul. To bring it home on Friday night, may I wear under my yarmulke (and hat)?[3] 4) A woman finds that grape-juice doesn't agree with her, due to her being pregnant. How far should she push herself in order to drink the Four Cups of Wine at the Seder?[4] 5) Is it okay to switch Chazonim before אשרי, ובא לציון, and as a result, קדיש תתקבל is not said by the Chazan who said Chazoras haShatz?[5] 6) A man added a name to his existing name. Does he now have to update his name in his wife's Kesubah?[6] 7) Under the Chuppah, the Chosson places the ring on the Kalloh's finger. If the Chosson and/or Kalloh are left-handed, are these motions done with their left-hands?[7] 8) Names that include HaShem's name, e.g. Michoel, in writing as well as in pronoun-ciation, is there a concern? [8] 9) I am familiar that there is an issue with blocking up a window or a doorway. Does a chimney fall into the same category?[9] 10) In Chabad, on Pesach we only use fruit and vegetables than can be peeled. How about cooking unpeeled produce before Pesach? ________________________________________ [1]ראה רש"י נזיר מה ב ד"ה אבר מן החי. [2] ראה שוע"ר הלכות אונאה סעיף כח. וי"ל שיש בזה דין גניבה, שמפסיק לבעה"ב שעות פעולה מבלי שירויח מזה. אם לא כשיש אפשרות שהוא כן ישמור את המכונה. [3] ראה שוע"ר סי' שא סי"א; פסקי תשובות שם אות מו. [4] ראה שוע"ר סי' תעב סכ"א; סי' תעג סו"ס לא. [5] ביאור הלכה סימן קלב; נטעי גבריאל – אבילות ח"ב פמ"ז אות ח. [6] ספר משפט הכתובה ח"ז פרק סח. [7] ספר דיני איטר פכ"ד ס"ז. [8] ראה שו"ת תשב"ץ סי' קעז.... [9] ראה ספר שמירת הגוף והנפש סי' ריט ס"ו.

Joel Richardson teaches Session 8 of THE RETURN OF JESUS series of the MARANATHA GLOBAL BIBLE STUDY from FAI STUDIOS

Joel Richardson teaches Session 8 of THE RETURN OF JESUS series of the MARANATHA GLOBAL BIBLE STUDY from FAI STUDIOS

Listen to Rabbi David Wolpe give his sermon "Chuppah" for Parashat Yitro in Ziegler Main Santuary.

Marching down flower girls to the Chuppah – Is that a Jewish thing or is it חוקות הגוים  Standing up for the Chosson and Kallah when they walk down, is that a Jewish custom? Are you supposed to stand up during the recital of the Sheva Brochos? Walking down to the Chuppah – Should the parents walk down their child - or both fathers should walk down the Chosson, and both mothers the Kallah? What if they are divorced or one of the parents was Niftar? Are the Chosson and Kallah permitted to hold hands after the Chuppah? Should the Kallah come into the men's side during the dancing? Does the Kallah have to wear a Sheitel by the Chasunah? The minhag by various Chasidim for the woman to shave her head Mitzvah Tantz – What's the Mitzvah? Or is it actually an Aveira? If there's any conflict in Minhagim, whose Minhag is done the Chosson's or the Kallah's? with Rabbi Aharon Sorscher – Rov of Waterbury, Maggid Shiur Of Oraysa – 14:14 with Rabbi Yona Reiss – Av Beis Din Of The CRC, S'gan Av Beis Din of America  – 36:00 with Rabbi Moshe Shmiel Rottenberg – Mora D'asra Bais Moshe Shmiel (Flatbush), Dayan, Shaarei Mishpat – 48:58 with Rabbi Yitzchok Feldheim – Renowned Lecturer – 1:12:47   Eight Chanukah Riddles – 1:18:15   מראי מקומות  

In this week's Torah Podcast, we tell the story of that momentous night. The night Rachel's destiny was changed forever, when she was switched under the Chuppah for her sister Leah, forfeiting her right to marry Yaakov. Today we explore this great story, and it's ramifications that impact our lives to this very day.Music Credits: "Mama Rochel" by Abie Rotenberg, Sung by Yaakov Shwekey. A Torah Podcast based on the weekly Torah portion.One original Dvar Torah based on the Parsha of the week.Check out our other Torah Podcasts and content!SUBSCRIBE to The Motivation Congregation Podcast for daily motivational mussar.Follow us on WhatsApp to watch the Motivation Congregation Broadcast every morning!  Text "Subscribe" to (757)-679-4497 to join.Consider sponsoring a podcast or making a donation to help fund our Torah outreach and distribution. Click here to donate. Your partnership makes it possible.Question or Comments? Email me @ michaelbrooke97@gmail.com

Is same sex attraction real? Hear about it in real life  with "Sara" – A wife of someone who has SSA - 20:14 Can the mother have custody of the boys when the father has a Mitzvah to teach his children Torah? Are you allowed to say Loshon Horah when asked Shidduch information about your ex- spouse?  Are you allowed to say the divorce wasn't messy? Can you hide your assets to give less alimony? If a spouse is violating the divorce agreement and Beis Din can't enforce it, are you allowed to go to secular court? If one of the spouses goes off the Derech how should it be dealt with?  How are the ex-spouses supposed to communicate with each other? If one of the spouses remarries, how do they walk down to the Chuppah? with Rabbi Avrohom Kahan – Rav of Congregation Khal New City, Av Beis Din of the Bais Din Vaad Hadin V'horaah – 32:16 with Reb Yitzchok Gruenbaum – Concord Mediation Group – 1:14:16 Answers to last weeks riddles – 1:31:47  מראי מקומות  

Reactions to R. Elazar ben Azariah's opinion regarding "umdana," assessment of intent, specifically with regard to the ketubah. Plus, the sages on the sages, specifically on their respective halakhic expertise. Plus, the focus on different scenarios of how those views might play out - including the emotions surrounding the wedding night... Which is normally, indeed, at night, even when the chuppah itself is not necessarily. But pinpointing the moment of being required to pay the additional sum of the ketubah is not so simple.

TALMUD TORAH: Shaindy and Avraham Kelman in honor of Yechiel's engagement to Ilana Falick and in memory of our parents, Jerome and Bernice Kelman and Alexander and Friderica David, AH. Barak, Maia, Sandy Hoffman, Dora Lemus, and Avi Melamed in memory of Reuven ben Emanuel z'l. Ayal & Sara Steinberg in the zechus of a refuah shelema for Shulamis bas Susha and her continued health. Daf Yomi Shiur in the zechus of a refuah sheleimah for Yehuda ben Michal, son of our devoted shiur member and maggid shiur, Reb Kalman Akiva Kovacs. WEEK OF LEARNING Matt and Diane Marks on the birth of our grandson Yehuda Yeshaya ben Moshe Eliyahu to Moshe Elya and Tzippi Marks in Lakewood. May he grow from strength to strength and do massim Tovim and provide the mishpacha nachas for the years to come. DAF YOMI: Boruch Meir & Rena Dubin wishing a Mazel Tov to Diane and Matt Marks on the birth and Brit Milah of their new grandson, Yehudah Yashaya. May he grow to Torah, Chuppah, and Maisim Tovim! If you would like to sponsor a shiur, please contact our office at office@suburbanorthodox.org.

Marty Solomon and Brent Billings begin Jesus's final discourse in John as he prepares for his imminent arrest, considering what it means that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.BEMA 22: Under the ChuppahThe Jewish Annotated New TestamentBEMA 87: John — GraftedBEMA 137: A Dry Tree

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Juli shares one of her favorite new podcasts—the BEMA Discipleship Podcast. The OT writers weren't just telling stories, they were burying truth. They believed the most effective way to learn truth was to discover it—like a treasure hidden in a field.  Join Juli and BEMA host Marty Solomon to learn how to find the treasure you've been reading past all these years! Guest: Marty Solomon Show notes: The BEMA Discipleship Podcast Juli loved "Ep. 22. Under the Chuppah," about how a Jewish wedding ceremony symbolizes our covenant love with God. Join an online book study today! (AI Members get 25% off) Subscribe to "Java with Juli" and listen on your iPhone or Android Photo by Canva