Podcasts about Shidduch

Should a boy consult with his friends, like his roommate or chavrusa, if they think he should date a given girl? Is there a problem discussing the attractiveness of a potential Shidduch with friends? Have promising Shidduchim been ruined by what friends have said? Should parents be involved in the Shidduch process? And, what if the child does not want his/her parents involved? Host: Ari Wasserman, author of the newly published, revised and expanded book Making it Work, on workplace challenges and Halachic Q & A on the Job You can order "Halachic Q & A on the Job” at https://mosaicapress.com/product/halachic-q-a-on-the-job/ The Semichas Chaver Shavuos program with Rabbi Elyada Goldvicht https://bit.ly/SCPchallenge – with Rabbi Shimon Finkelman – Rebbi, Darchei Torah, prolific author – 21:28 with Rabbi Daniel Feldman – Rabbi of Ohr Saadya in Teaneck, Rosh Yeshiva at REITs – 35:51 with Mrs. Aleeza Ben Shalom – international shadchan, relationship coach and author – 1:00:19 with Mrs. Penina Flug, LCSW – emotionally focused couples therapist – 1:21:56 with Mrs. Adina Galbut, MSW – dating coach – 1:21:56 Conclusions and Takeaways – 1:45:07 מראי מקומות   

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The Rebbe promises to mention the writer for a good match and advises strengthening faith in Hashem's personal care to overcome fear in speaking. He assures that speech difficulty does not hinder shidduchim and encourages seeking a match through sincere, focused effort. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/015/008/5414

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The Rebbe encourages the young man to expand his efforts in both personal and communal areas, maintain connections from his army service to inspire others, and assures him this will bring added blessings—including a good shidduch. He concludes with Pesach blessings. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/015/008/5373

The Rebbe advises a young man not to delay a shidduch in order to continue Torah study. Citing the Alter Rebbe and the custom of Jerusalem, he encourages finding a match that supports learning after marriage, as many successfully do. He challenges the idea that unmarried learning is superior and urges maintaining this positive tradition. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/015/008/5369

The Rebbe agrees to proceed with the younger daughter's shidduch if the older daughter consents and forgives the precedence. He suggests a quiet engagement and slight delay in the wedding, hoping this will help the older daughter find her match as well. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/004_igros_kodesh/adar/936

This podcast is powered by LSJS. Visit lsjs.ac.uk/connect to learn about our Jewish learning journeys & find something that suits you. Suzy Goldberg is a pillar of the London community who embodies humble leadership. She's a mother, grandmother, shadchanit (Jewish matchmaker) and Torah teacher of over 30 years. She's also a graduate of the LSJS BA and MA degree programmes in Jewish Education and she works today with an organisation called Shidduch.im, the UK's branch of the fabulously-named Saw You at Sinai Jewish dating app, and she's encouraged, counselled and guided many couples to the chuppah with incredible skill. We discuss the common thread connecting Jewish education and matchmaking, what it feels like to watch a couple you connected get married, our responsibility to help people find their other halves and of course, how to know if this is the right match for you!    

The Rebbe addresses a concern about a shidduch where the bride's father is named Avraham. He cites various halachic sources and affirms the ruling of the Tzemach Tzedek that since the names are not identical, there is no concern. However, he advises ensuring the father uses his full name when called to the Torah or signing documents. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/004_igros_kodesh/shevat/901

The Rebbe advises that before committing to a shidduch, one must ensure the home will be built on Torah and mitzvot, with both partners sincerely committed to observance and Torah study. If this is assured and there is a heartfelt connection, she may proceed. He also inquires about her family background. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/004_igros_kodesh/teves/871

hhe Rebbe encourages the recipient to continue teaching, emphasizing its spiritual benefits. For health concerns, he advises consulting specialists and maintaining daily Chitas study. Regarding a potential shidduch, he suggests considering other options before deciding. He requests details on the curriculum and students' learning in Yiras Shamayim. ttps://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/004_igros_kodesh/teves/858

Hilchos Oina'a Part 2: How much about your past do you need to tell your Shidduch?? When is it Assur to go window shopping!?!

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I am concerned by your report of no progress. Our sages caution that habitual inaction can lead to complacency. May G-d grant success in your shidduch efforts, even beyond natural means.https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/014/005/5117

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In this powerful roundtable discussion with top shadchanim from the Yeshivish, Flatbush, and YU worlds—Lisa Elefant, R' Tzadok Katz, and Rebbetzin Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky—along with data expert R' Moshe Pogrow, who offers a macro perspective on the system. We'll tackle the shidduch crisis debate, evolving dating styles, dos and don'ts for singles and parents, and the latest initiatives reshaping the process. Whether you're in the parsha or supporting someone who is, this conversation is a must-listen!Guest Links:Lisa Elefant: We help singles navigate all-things-shidduchim without using the word crisis.► https://adoptashadchan.com/Rebbetzin Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky: YUConnects fosters meaningful relationships leading to marriage through global matchmaking, networking, and educational resources for every stage—from pre-dating to marriage.► https://yuconnects.com/Listen to the CandiDate podcast► https://yuconnects.com/candidate-podcast/R' Tzadok Katz► Call him to connect.R' Moshe PogrowGet Redt a Great Shidduch the Traditional Way – with Some Digital Assistance► https://zuug.app/NASI is committed to alleviating the shidduchim challenges facing our community on both the macro and micro level.► https://nasishidduch.com/✬ SPONSORS OF THE EPISODE ✬► The Happiness ChallengeThe 3-Week Happiness Challenge, run by Aish HaTorah and powered by Partners in Torah, lets you do chessed in the simplest way—learning with someone for just 30 minutes a week for three weeks. Everything is prepared for you, making it easy, meaningful, and a chance to bring unexpected bracha into your life.Join HERE→ partnersintorah.org/happinesschallenge► Twillory: Ultimate Dating Clothes for MenUse promo code: INSPIRE for $18 OFF→ https://Twillory.com/► BitBean: Industry Leading Enterprise Software for InnovativeLooking to scale your business? Bitbean's custom software solutions optimize operations, automate workflows, and cut employee overhead by 30% or more.Contact Bitbean today for a FREE CONSULTATION→ https://bitbean.link/MeEBlY► BIG Study by the OUOrthodox Union's Center for Communal Research, researched the challenges of singlehood among American Orthodox Jews. They heard from over 2000 single Orthodox men and women across the US. The report describes the experiences of daters, what they are seeking in a spouse, how they are dating, and what support they want from the community during the process.READ HERE→ https://go.ou.org/hGMZU72Z✬ IN MEMORY OF ✬This episode is in memory of:• Shimon Dovid ben Yaakov Shloima• Miriam Sarah bas Yaakov Moshe✬ IN MERIT TO FIND THEIR PARTNERS SOON ✬ • Shira Ahuva bas Bracha • Avigayil bas Bracha• Everyone who needs a shidduch in Klal Yisroel✬ Donate and Inspire Millions (Tax-Deductible) ✬Your generous donation enables us at Living Lchaim to share uplifting messages globally, enrich lives, and foster positive change worldwide! Thank you!https://www.LivingLchaim.com/donateOur free call-in-to-listen feature is here:• USA: (605) 477-2100• UK: 0333-366-0154• ISRAEL: 079-579-5088Have a specific question? email us hi@livinglchaim.comWhatsApp us feedback and get first access to episodes:914-222-5513Lchaim.

Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match! We wish it was that simple! Singles of all ages have are having a challenging time meeting their soulmate. They are all looking for "the one," but are having a tough time finding him or her. Rebbetzin Sarah Rabin from the Caulfield Shule in Melbourne, Australia, speaks about why people are having challenges in shiduchim (the Jewish system of matchmaking.) According to Rebbetzin Sarah, the top 5 challenges contributing to today's shidduch crisis are: 1. The fast pace of life--in our society, we race from one thing to the next--the next person, the next appointment, the next job, the next social event. People don't make the time to connect deeply. 2. Technology and distractions. In today's world, people have easy access to technology and dating apps. They are too busy swiping left and right, checking emails, texting, and scrolling social media to get to know someone in person. 3. People have high expectations and fear of commitment--people want their prospective wife/husband to fit all of their ideals. They have many expectations, which are not always realistic. Also, people are afraid of committing because they think that they could potential meet someone better...and better...and better...and... 4. Social circles and geography--Jews who live in smaller Jewish communities are hesitant to date "that guy they went to school with," or "their best friend's brother." It can be challenging to date when you have known the same people since nursery school. Likewise, in larger Jewish communities, it's harder to date because people are always looking around for someone potentially better. One suggestion is to branch off and visit other Jewish communities in different geographic locations. 5. Emotional readiness and past experience. Not everyone is mature and ready to enter into a committed relationship. Also, people might have had negative experiences with previous relationships, which makes them fearful of entering into another relationship. Fortunately, Rebbetzin Sarah offered possible SOLUTIONS to the shidduch crisis, including: 1. Singles need to have clarity on their values and their priorities. When a person knows what they believe in, what they value, and what they find most important in life, it makes it easier to identify those same beliefs in another person. 2. Seek guidance. Singles need to resolve past issues of trauma or bad relationships with a therapist, and they need to seek guidance for dating from a rabbi/rebbetzin, mentor, or happily married friends. Singles need guidance in order to develop a healthy perspective on relationships and the work that they entail. 3. Hishtadlus (effort) and Emunah (belief in G-d). Singles need to understand that if they are going out on a date or to a singles event, they need to put effort into getting ready for the evening. They need to look attractive and presentable, and they need to be open to meeting people. Once they have done their part, the rest is in G-d's hands. He will orchestrate two people meeting, and He will guide singles to their soulmate. 4. Fostering connection. Jewish singles really need to give people a chance when they meet them. They need to establish a connection and put in the time and effort to get to know someone in order to see if they are a compatible match. Singles, stay strong! Your soulmate is out there waiting for you. Contact: atrebbetzins@gmail.com

Shiur given by Rabbi Bezalel Rudinsky on Halacha Choshen Mishpat. Shiur recorded in Yeshivas Ohr Reuven, Monsey, NY.

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1)     I struggle with completing the whole Tehilim on the morning of Shabbos Mevorchim. Should I make a head-start Friday night, or make it up the following Shabbos?[1] 2)    Is it Chabad custom to place ash on the head of a Chosson prior to his Chupah?[2] 3)    I woke up before dawn and said the brocho הנותן לשכוי בינה. I also said the brocho שעשה לי כל צרכי, although I wasn't wearing leather shoes. Should I repeat after dawn?[3] 4)    A boy born between sunset and ‘3 stars'; which day does he become Bar-Mitzvah?[4] 5)    Am I allowed to say a brocho in the presence of a dog's excrement?[5] 6)    I noticed the good qualities of my daughter-in-law and pursued to make the Shidduch. Should my Mechutonim be paying me Shadchonus?[6] 7)    May one give an Aliya to one who keeps everything, except that his wife isn't Jewish?[7] 8)    My friends are telling me that it's very important that we make a Kiddush in honour of our newborn baby daughter. Is that so? And: does it have to be a Shabbos event?[8] 9)    A four-year-old fruit-tree was lifted with lots of earth and then replanted elsewhere; does Orlah apply for the coming three years?[9] 10)  What is the source for the custom that the shoes of a deceased person should not be used for the living?[10] 11)  Feedback on a man having to accept Shabbos shortly after he lit candles:[11] 12)  Feedback on the egg-rolls: Pizza-stores in BP with Hisachdus hechsher are instructed to use milk to make Pizza-dough, and not to rely on fruit-juice for Mezonos. 13)  Feedback on sharpening knives on equipment used for Treif knives: [1] ראה באר היטב סי' רלח סק"ב; שער הציון שם אות א; ספר המנהגים-חב"ד ע' 20. אך שמעתי שכ"ק אדמו"ר זי"ע ענה להרבנית שוסטרמן ע"ה (שיקגו) – שביום השבת היתה עסוקה למדי עם הנשים הבאות לבית הכנסת - שתקרא חלק בליל שבת. [2] ראה תשורה ממשפ' חדקוב 'עטרת זקנים' (סיון תשס"א) ע' 28, הוראות כ"ק אדמו"ר מוהריי"צ נ"ע. וע"ע שבח הנישואין ע' 39. [3] ראה שוע"ר סי' מו ס"ז ובסדור אדה"ז. אבל בס' דובר שלום [מ-מב] סבור שהישן יברך כל ברכות השחר גם לפני עלות השחר. [4] ראה משנה ברורה סי' נה סוף ס"ק מב. [5] ראה דברים כג, י ואילך; שוע"ר סי' עט ס"ח. [6] בכף [7] בספר [8] בס' ש. [9] ראה [10] בסדור. [11] ראה קונטרס 'נרות שבת כהלכה' (מהר"ג אוברלנדר נ"י) פ"ה הע' 22.

The Rebbe encourages greater trust in Hashem, advising not to overanalyze every detail of shidduch suggestions, as full knowledge is impossible. He assures that with stronger bitachon, the right match will come at the proper time. https://www.torahrecordings.com/rebbe/igroskodesh/014/003/4980

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If a young man is suggested a Shidduch with a girl who is, let's say, 21 years old, and that girl has an unmarried 23-year-old sister, would it be improper for the boy to date the girl? Should he be concerned about the possibility that the older sister will feel resentment over the fact that her younger sister is marrying before her, which could invite the "Ayin Ha'ra" (evil eye) or otherwise cast a dark shadow over the marriage? This question also arises in the reverse case, of a girl who is introduced to a young man who has an older unmarried brother. This question was addressed already by the Maharit (Rav Yosef of Trani, 1568-1639), who wrote that there is no prohibition at all against marrying somebody who has an older unmarried sibling. He notes that this concern was relevant only in ancient times when it was customary for the father to marry off his daughters when they were still children, by accepting Kiddushin on their behalf. When the father accepts Kiddushin for the betrothal of his daughters, it is improper to marry off his younger daughter before the older daughter. Nowadays, of course, young women marry on their own, when they are adults, and in such a case there is no concern whatsoever when a younger sister marries before her older sister. Similarly, the Or Ha'haim (Torah commentary by Rav Haim Ben-Attar, 1696-1743), in Parashat Vayeseh (29:26), writes that the sequence of marriage is of concern only for the girls' father, but not for the groom. Meaning, if a man wishes to marry a younger sister, he may certainly do so, and it is the sisters' father who must worry about first marrying off the older daughter. The Or Ha'haim draws proof to this theory from Yaakob Abinu, who wished to marry Rahel even though her older sister, Leah, was unmarried. Of course, Laban switched the two sisters, but regardless, Yaakob was prepared to marry Rahel even though Leah was unmarried, proving that this is not an issue with which a groom must be concerned. Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv (contemporary) indeed rules that one may date and marry a girl who has an older unmarried sister, and a girl may marry a boy with an older unmarried brother, as the older sibling's need to get married is not the responsibility of the younger sibling's suitor. And besides, as Rav Elyashiv noted, it can generally be assumed that the older sibling does not mind the younger sibling's marriage. Certainly, a younger sibling should not be forced to remain single just because he or she has an unmarried older sibling. Therefore, an older unmarried sibling should not be a factor in considering a marriage prospect. Ideally, of course, we want all our children to marry as soon as they are ready and in order, but if this does not happen, the younger siblings are free to date and marry even if there is an unmarried older sibling. Summary: It is entirely permissible for a girl to date and marry a boy who has an older unmarried brother, and for a boy to date and marry a girl who has an older unmarried sister.

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The shidduch process can be very frustrating, waiting for suggestions, waiting for responses. Sometimes, things look like they are going so well, and all of a sudden, everything falls apart. Sometimes, after waiting a long time, a prospective shidduch is finally set up. The girl begins getting excited, hoping this could be the one. Then, on the day they are supposed to meet, the boy calls in sick and somehow never follows through. Getting rejected or overlooked is considered tremendous yesurin . We don't know why people have to experience them, but for sure, they are accomplishing so much through their experience. Every moment of waiting is accomplishing different types of tikkunim that will benefit them for all eternity. As hard as it is to imagine, everything is happening exactly the way Hashem wants it to happen, for the person's benefit. If the person can stay strong in their emunah and trust that they are in Hashem's loving hands, the value of what they are experiencing will become exponentially greater. No matter how long it has been or how bleak it seems, we must always have the emunah of ישועת ה' כהרף עין -everything can change in the blink of an eye. Salvation can literally come at a moment's notice. Part of a person's responsibility as a God-fearing Jew is to always have hope that salvation could come instantly. The Jewish world was overjoyed when we found out last year that a Rosh Yeshiva in Israel had his first baby at the age of 88. The Rosh Yeshiva had lost his first wife in 2015 and then, at the age of 82, remarried a woman in 2018 who was more than 30 years younger than him. Six years later, she miraculously gave birth to a healthy baby boy. The Rebbetzin told the incredible story of how this shidduch took place at a massive gathering in Lakewood, and Rabbi Binyamin Prusansky related it in his new book, Living with Miracles . After marrying late and having a family, she found herself alone again. She was nearly 50 years old and had one dream: to marry a talmid chacham . She strengthened her emunah and prayed to Hashem to make it happen. In the meantime, she dedicated a sefer on tefilla as a zechut for herself and others, written by Rabbi Daniel Travis. She was hoping to get married within the year, but as the end of the year approached, not one shidduch had been suggested to her. One Erev Shabbat , she brought her son to the orthopedist to have his cast removed. On her way into the building, she slipped and fell down a flight of steps. She hobbled into the office and was told that she had pulled some tendons and might have a hairline fracture. When she arrived home, she sat in the kitchen and elevated her leg, resting her foot on a chair while her children prepared for Shabbat. As she sat there, she noticed her diary on the kitchen table. Skimming through it, she came to a notation she had made for Tu B'Av, which was just two weeks away. The date was circled, and written on the page were the words, Im Yirtzeh Hashem, My Wedding Day . Sitting there with her injured foot, just two weeks away from what she so fervently believed would be her wedding day, she felt dejected. She had worked so hard on her bitachon . How could this be the outcome? But then she caught herself and said, "Hashem can do anything. I need to remain hopeful—Hashem could bring me a shidduch in the blink of an eye." That Shabbat, she focused her thoughts and heart on building her confidence that Hashem could answer her tefillot כהרף עין . On Motza'eh Shabbat , a shadchan called with a suggestion—it was the Rosh Yeshiva. The shadchan said what set her resume apart from others was that Rabbi Daniel Travis, a student of the Rosh Yeshiva, was listed as one of her references. Rabbi Travis read to the Rosh Yeshiva the dedication she had written in his sefer , which expressed her profound love and support for Torah. Those words convinced the Rosh Yeshiva that he had found his zivug . Their meeting took place during the Nine Days. About thirty minutes into their conversation, the Rosh Yeshiva asked her, "What date would you like the wedding to be?" Unprepared for the question, she steered the conversation in a different direction. But then, ten minutes later, he asked again, and again she diverted the discussion. A few minutes later, he asked her if she wanted to get married, to which she replied, "Yes." "So when do you want the wedding to take place?" he asked. She said, "Tu B'Av is a beautiful day to get married." "Tu B'Av it is," the Rosh Yeshiva answered. And eleven days later, their wedding was held. It had seemed like salvation was far off. But the Rebbetzin renewed her strength in believing in ישועת ה' כהרף עין , and amazingly, she was married on Tu B'Av, just as she had hoped.

A weekly shiur by Dayan Levi Yitzchok Raskin, Rov of Anash in London, explores interesting Torah questions and halachic dilemmas. The following issues are discussed by Dayan Raskin in this week's episode: 1)     The Tzitzis on one corner of my Tallis-Koton are literally hanging on a thread. Are they still kosher? If yes: how can I reinforce the ‘bridge' that holds the Tzitzis in place?[1] 2)      Apparently, there's no concern that a scarf should need Tzitzis. Otherwise we would be rounding one of the corners. Why is there no concern?[2] 3)      Half way thru haMichya after eating some mezonos, I remembered that I had also eaten grapes, so I included Al haPeiros Al at the end of the brocho. Was I Yoitze?[3] 4)      The large Succah at the side of ‘770' is divided by the bridge connecting ‘770' to the Rebbe's library in the next house. One who said a brocho לישב בסוכה in the front Succah, and wishes to continue eating in the rear Succah, does he repeat the brocho?[4] 5)      When burying Shaimos, may we use biodegradable sacks? Actually, the local legislation forbids burying plastic! [5] 6)      What can I do with a disused Oron Kodesh?[6] 7)      What is the reason for the untying of knots for a Chosson before going to the Chupah?[7] 8)      When adding a name because of a shidduch where the son-in-law and father-in-law - or the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law - share the same name, is there a preference to do so thirty days before the Shidduch is announced?[8] 9)      As a rule, when naming a child, we don't combine Rebbe [or Rebbetzin] names with other names. What if there's a need to add a name for a shidduch (as above)? [9] Index to previous Panorama Shiurim: Panorama Index 2 - Google Docs [1] ראה שוע"ר סימן טו סעיפים י' וט"ז. [2] ראה שוע"ר סי' י סעיף כא; ביאור הלכה שם ד"ה סודר; פסקי תשובות שם אות יא. [3] בס' שגיאות מי יבין ( ) הביא בזה ב' דיעות. [4] בשוע"ר סי' תרלט סי"ד נפסק שהעובר מסוכה לסוכה צריך לברך שנית – ואפילו בענין שאין צריך לברך שנית על האוכל. אכן שם נתלה הדבר על דין הפסק בברכת הנהנין שבאו"ח סי' קעח. אך שם נפסק שברואה מקומו הראשון, אין שינוי מקום הווה הפסק. ואע"פ שכאן יש בסוכה הב' מצוה אחרת, הרי כתב הבית מאיר (או"ח) דמה לי חפץ זה או זה, חיוב מצוה אחת היא, ע"ש. ותינח אם הפסיק ביניהם, אז נפסק המשך הברכה. וכשהוריד מזוזה וקבע אחרת במקומה, י"א שלא לברך – משום סברת הבית מאיר. ואינו מוכרח, כי יש כאן היסח מהברכה בתחלת קביעת הראשון, משא"כ בסוכה לסוכה. וראה מאמרי בקובץ העו"ב הבא (א'רסא). [5] ראה שו"ע או"ח סי' קנד ס"ה; פסקי תשובות אות י. [6] ראה ביאור הלכה סי' קנד ד"ה תשמישי קדושה; פסקי תשובות שם אות ח. [7] ראה שלחן העזר (ח"ב) סימן ז ס"ד הערה ב. [8] ראה שלחן מנחם ח"ו ע' קלג ואילך. [9] ראה 'כפר חב"ד' גליון ?, מענה כ"ק אדמו"ר זי"ע לריל"ג ע"ה.

Finding a shidduch is compared to Kriyat Yam Suf. Many explanations have been offered to clarify this connection. The road leading to finding the right match can be exceedingly difficult, but when that day finally comes, the feeling is exhilarating. It seems that the Torah's depiction of the shidduch process unfolded very smoothly . Avraham sent Eliezer to find a girl for Yitzchak. Eliezer prayed to Hashem. He was answered immediately. Rivka returned with him and married Yitzchak. Yet we see from Chazal that it was not simple at all. Lavan and Betuel did not want the shidduch to happen and they were not going to allow Rivka to go. Eliezer had to make dozens of changes in describing to them the details of what actually happened when he met Rivka. Even after all of that, Betuel still objected to Rivka going, until Hashem Himself had to remove him from the picture. Avraham Avinu, the father of the chatan, was considered a prince in the eyes of the world. He was extremely wealthy. The chatan himself was the best shidduch in the entire world at that time, yet it was still so difficult to bring the shidduch to fruition. This is because getting married and establishing a family of shomrei Torah and Mitzvot is an enormous zechut, especially in this instance in which it was going to be the home that began the entire Klal Yisrael. The negative forces in Shamayim will do everything possible to stop such Kedusha from entering the world. How does one overcome these negative forces? The Shem MiShmuel shares a beautiful insight into how it happened here and how perhaps we could accomplish the same with our own Shidduchim. We know Eliezer was the one charged with the mission of finding a wife for Yitzchak. Chazal tell us Eliezer himself had a daughter of marriageable age. Eliezer was Avraham's top student who helped him bring back thousands of people to Hashem. He was hoping that Avraham would let Yitzchak marry his own daughter, but when he offered it, he was rejected. Not only that, he was then asked to be the one to go find a wife for the same person he wanted for his daughter. He could have easily given up after encountering his first obstacle, thinking to himself, maybe if this doesn't work out Avraham will reconsider. Yet he did everything in his power to bring the girl that Avraham wanted. He understood he was doing the will of Hashem and did it to the best of his ability. He even prayed for it to happen and thanked Hashem when he saw it was going to happen. This was a tremendous act of self-sacrifice He surrendered his own desires to fulfill the will of Hashem . The Gemara says that the previous generations merited miracles because of their mesirut nefesh in sacrificing their own will to do the will of Hashem. The Shem MiShmuel continued and asked why did Hashem orchestrate that Eliezer had a daughter of marriageable age exactly when he was asked to do this job? Why did Hashem present him with such a difficult test? He answered that in order to bring the shidduch to fruition, they needed to bypass all the negative forces in Shamayim trying to stop it. Only a heroic act of mesirut nefesh had the power to overcome them. The zechut of mesirut nefesh can overcome any obstacle. It was specifically Eliezer that was going to be able to get this job done because he would be doing it with mesirut nefesh. The same can be said, b'ezrat Hashem, in all marriages. If there are a lot of roadblocks along the way, it could be because the marriage is going to be so holy, and the kelipot in Shamayim are trying to stop it. An act of mesirut nefesh can overcome them. This, perhaps, is another explanation of how shidduchim are likened to Kriyat Yam Suf. When the Jewish people stood with the water up to their noses, and the midat hadin would not allow the waters to split, it was the great act of mesirut nefesh of Nachshon ben Aminadav that overcame that midat hadin and brought about the wondrous miracle of Kriyat Yam Suf. May we merit to see all those trying to establish a home of Kedusha fulfill their goal very soon.

Can miracles signal a match made in heaven, or do true love's foundations lie deeper? Join us for a heartfelt tribute to the late Rabbi Wallerstein, a visionary of the Ornava movement who infused humor and wisdom into the journey of finding a life partner. We explore his lighthearted advice, shared annually on Parshas Chayei Sara, about miraculous signs during Shidduch dates. Discover how his storytelling intertwines with timeless teachings, reminding us that good midos (character traits) are the real magic in building meaningful relationships.As we celebrate Rabbi Wallerstein's legacy, we delve into the teachings of Unkelis and the Brisker Rav, shedding light on the essence of true love beyond the spectacle of miracles. Through the lens of Rivka and Yitzchak's story, we uncover the profound impact of virtuous deeds and godly actions in the world of Shidduchim. Listen in as we reflect on how Rabbi Wallerstein's insights continue to guide us toward recognizing the true measure of a successful match, where character reigns supreme. Join us in embracing these lasting lessons for a Shabbat filled with inspiration and warmth.Support the showJoin The Motivation Congregation WhatsApp community for daily motivational Torah content!Elevate your impact by becoming a TMC Emerald Donor! Your much-needed backing is crucial for our mission of disseminating the wisdom of the Torah. Join today for just $18.00 per month. (Use your maaser money!) https://buy.stripe.com/00g8xl5IT8dFcKc5ky---------------- SUBSCRIBE to The Weekly Parsha for an insightful weekly talk on the week's Parsha. Listen on Spotify or 24six! Access all Torah talks and listen to featured episodes on our website, themotivationcongregation.org ----------------Questions or Comments? Please email me @ michaelbrooke97@gmail.com

Shidduch Checklist Part II

Rabbi Dunner delves into the timeless story of Eliezer's search for Yitzchak's wife, and Rivka's remarkable entrance into the story of the Jewish people in Parshat Chayei Sarah. Discover how this ancient tale speaks to today's “shidduch crisis” and the challenges of finding meaningful relationships. Through Torah insights, Midrash, and contemporary takeaways, Rabbi Dunner explores Rivka's kindness, courage, and decisiveness, offering inspiration for singles, families, and anyone navigating life's big decisions.

Eliezer Looks for a Shidduch for Yitzchok (Chayei Sarah 5785)

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Do you enjoy the Franciska Show? Then please consider treating me to a cup of coffee:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/franciska Email Franciska: franciskakay@gmail.com   In this episode, Franciska speaks with Rabbi Abraham Shmidman who shares insights on being a community rabbi, addressing the challenges of community growth and unity, particularly in relation to neighboring Lakewood. He delves into various topics, including halachic issues, financial dilemmas, crises such as mental health emergencies and divorces, and the Shidduch (matchmaking) process. Rabbi Shmidman also shares his experiences helping families with LGBTQ+ members and discusses the importance of supporting Israeli soldiers amidst current conflicts. Throughout, he emphasizes the importance of knowing one's limitations and working with appropriate professionals. Link to Donate: https://www.lowermerionsynagogue.org/ierf     00:00 Welcome & Personal Updates 01:09 Introducing Rabbi Abraham Schmidman 01:34 Rabbi Schmidman's Journey: From Manhattan to Balacan 03:33 Challenges of Being a Community Rabbi 04:22 Addressing the Needs of a Neighboring Community to Lakewood 07:07 Navigating Financial and Halachic Queries 14:05 Crisis Intervention and Community Support 20:09 Understanding the Role of a Rabbi in Sensitive Cases 24:06 Navigating Marital Disputes and Coercive Measures 26:03 Addressing Enablers and Community Accountability 27:11 The Rabbi's Role and Influence in Community Dynamics 32:59 Challenges in the Shidduch Process and Modern Dating 41:20 Navigating Family Dynamics with LGBTQ+ Members 45:21 Supporting Israel: Personal Stories and Community Efforts 48:54 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement for Engagement   NEW MUSIC VIDEO "Tfilat Haderech" (KOL ISHA): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-BHycQrHvNo   CITRON & ROSE TAVERN: https://www.citronrosetavern.com (BALA CYNWYD RESTAURANT)   Check out: www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.

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