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On Episode 18 of The Perfectors Podcast, Tesi sits down with Laura Packard, a health care activist and political commentator. She is the founder of Health Care Voices, a non-profit grassroots organization for adults with serious medical conditions and the Executive Director of Get America Covered, a group that promotes increased health coverage. For Laura, her work is personal. As she was fighting her own battle with cancer, she was also fighting her own U.S. Senator and President to keep her health insurance. She shares her wisdom, her knowledge, and her advocacy in a fantastic interview that will inspire listeners and give them a better understanding of medical coverage in America. For complete Show Notes, visit the Perfectors website.

“I traded in money to have fulfillment in myself.”  Laura Chung Isn’t it fascinating how some people make career decisions, especially when it comes to pursuing a lifestyle that is so radically different than the one they’re currently living? Laura Chung was living what seemed to be the high life in NYC, working her high paying private equity job.  From the outside, she had the wealth, the family, the friends, and all the things you may traditionally tie with success.  On the inside, that “predictable” lifestyle was breaking her down physically and mentally. Realizing that her fear of not doing what she loves most overpowered her fear of losing that stable life. So, she quit her job, sold all her belongings, and bought a one way ticket to Asia -- and she never looked back since. She now lives as a travel blogger, having complete freedom to manifest her creative energy into whatever she wants -- sharing her story of pursuit to inspire others. It may seem financially irresponsible on the surface, but we must ask ourselves: What are we willing to pay to be truly happy? For Laura, it’s not always about the money. Laura shares why it was worth giving up her consistent paycheck to live the life of her dreams. What we tackle in this episode: How to financially and mentally prepare to quit your 9-5 job and pursue a less traditional career that is more fulfilling  How to become a travel blogger and make a living doing it How to discover what you truly want and create a plan to pursue it __ Ready to crush your income goals?    Grab your FREE 1-Page Business Revenue Planner to help you stay on top of your income goals and track your progress throughout the year. Get your copy by visiting  https://helenngo.com/revenueplanner/

This week with Paul Downs, William Vanderbloemen, and Laura Zander, the talk leaps from one plague to another—floods, power outages, cyber crime, employee churn, supplier price hikes, and vanished shipping containers—not to mention the actual plague. For Laura, whose wholesale yarn business keeps falling further behind on its orders, these events have necessitated a series of difficult conversations with customers: “They can't get mad about the pandemic,” she tells us. “And they're not going to get mad about the fact that we're moving. And they're not going to get mad about the fact that there's a deep freeze. But at some point, they're going to get tired, whether it's consciously or subconsciously. It's exhausting.” To which she adds, “but if the locusts hit, I don't know how much more of this people can take.” Plus, a friendly discussion about whether raising your prices makes you a jerk. (Spoiler alert: It does not.)

In this episode, we have invited Stefania Indelicato and Laura McNeice, Hosts of Dash of Life Podcast. As a painter and consultant, Laura thought of starting biographical stories of influential people. Stefania is an actress, producer and an avid storyteller who studies human behavior. Finding the resonance of interest between the two and their convergence, birthed the Dash of Life Podcast. Today, Stefania and Laura dives into the historical and philosophical aspects of humanity and their podcast story.   Appeal of Historical Figures [20:37] Stefania discerns history as a window to our humanity and souls. It is fascinating for her to learn about people who have faced similar problems that you don’t get to meet in a day-to-day basis. She loves how these figures offer insights stemmed from our scary, deep and embarrassing past—even more so if it’s a woman figure who battled her way out of the patriarchal structure of society. [24:37] Laura concurs Stefania view—understanding things that you cannot fathom by going back to history and identifying the mechanisms behind. Sexism, racism, political pride and technological advances; when these are linked to humans, it makes sense how impactful it is to the people. [26:54] Laura is inspired seeing these figures’ resilience and dedication. Teamwork might be massive but individuality is a powerful thing to have. Humanity’s Progression [28:25] Stefania observed that humanity lacks compassion and empathy—people function from fear and place of lack than a place of abundance. [29:40] For Laura, it is the willingness to explore one’s own blind spots hence the lack of compassion and empathy. There is not enough diversity, for people of power, to make life more equitable for everybody. Public Figures’ Spotlight [31:09] Stefania thinks that we only learn leaders who did bad things and criticize them without having a model of a better leader to compare them to. She set Trump as an example. Trump receives flak all the time for his horrible leadership, which implies more airtime and discussion fostered. [32:18] Laura on the other hand, argued that even if “good leadership” are highlighted, there are possible blind spots. She set Winston Churchill as an example. By putting Kenya under his authority, will that signify good or bad leadership? How will good or bad appears for some people? It now becomes a matter of perspective. Perspectives [35:38] Stefania emphasizes that the podcast’s goal is to give airtime for people that made difference in a positive and progressive way. It was bad for two perspectives to agree since it becomes cultural brainwashing. Your upbringing is embedded into you as you grow older. [37:51] Listening and understanding is important for Laura. What you have not experience does not mean will not be experienced by other people, and this is one of things leaders lacked. [38:30] Stefania thinks that the moment you affected someone’s well-being; your opinion is king. Your opinion will not be king because you are not the only person in the equation. [40:37] People can have their world, but they should have the awareness at any given moment to adjust if they have started to affect other people’s worlds. Control, Purpose and Growth [43:44] Laura preached that you should work with you got. The way you utilize it makes a lot of difference. There are things that you can control and things that you cannot, now be creative on how to play those cards. [45:53] Stefania pointed out that you need to figure out your purpose. What you are putting out there might get tainted or even if it came from a damaged and fearful place, and it’s okay to not be fully functional—it takes time to heal it all.   Keep up with DOL: Website: dashoflifepodcast.com Instagram: @dashoflifepodcast   Stefania’ s Instagram: @stefaniaindelicato Laura’s Instagram: @lauramcneiceart Follow Asia on her socials: Instagram: @asia.takara Facebook: @asiaatakara Clubhouse @asiatakara

In addition to being a wife and mother, Laura Sterner found her calling is wellness. Finding her place in life has been an evolution. For Laura, it started with poor nutrition, lack of sleep, and excessive stress as a norm. This lifestyle, and a genetic predisposition, yielded a fight with blood pressure issues when she had her firstborn. Holding the new little life, as well as her own health issues, provided a wake-up call to start initiating a lifestyle change. Fast forward 3 years, Laura's middle child, and only son, was born. His arrival also came with a bundle of allergic responses, asthma, and an ALTE, and Laura, still had blood pressure issues. This was where the rubber hit the road. Laura's focus shifted to ingesting as much information as she could regarding wellness to improve her family’s quality of life. She had been on an info gathering mission ever since, but now with a much clearer sense of purpose and a desire to help others who have faced a similar journey and challenges. This new path has drastically changed the quality of life, and Laura's desire is to be able to support others to make positive changes to create a ripple effect of health. In today’s hustle, families have an ever-increased need for guidance navigating the health industry and finding their own balance. With Laura's skill set, Her hope to provide guidance to individuals and families so that they can make decisions to improve their wellness.http://laurasterner.com/Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/death-by-design. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Valeria interviews Laura B. Young the author of Remove Obstacles to Experience Unstoppable Feminine Power: How to Stop Betraying Yourself and Live a Life of Grace and Passion. Laura is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist (CCH), a Trained Counselor, and an Author of several Self-Help books. She is devoted to helping people, especially Women in becoming more of what is possible for them. She draws from over thirty years of clinical experience. She established her Private Practice; Life Resource Center, in 1992. Over time Laura has specialized in Relationships; Life Transitions, Grief Resolution, Stress Management and Women's Creativity Groups. Her most recent book, “Remove Obstacles to Experience Unstoppable Feminine Power” addresses many ways that women betray themselves without knowing. Many Obstacles that hold us back are hidden. In her book Laura shows us not only how to find the hidden that keeps us stuck but how to heal what is found. To learn more about Laura B. Young and her work please visit: https://www.laurabyoung.com — For Laura's Facebook Page, please visit: https://www.facebook.com/PassionateLivingWithLauraBYoung/ — She also offers a free 9-minute relaxation audio: https://www.laurabyoung.com/relax/   — This podcast is a quest for well-being, a quest for a meaningful life to the exploration of fundamental truths, enlightening ideas, insights on physical, mental, and spiritual health. The inspiration is Love. The aspiration is to awaken new ways of thinking that can lead us to a new way of being, being well.

For Laura, bird watching has been very much like spending her life in one wonderful awe walk.

On today's episode, I’m joined by my amazing friend and client, Laura! Laura is a marriage and family mental health clinician and one of the most badass, epic human beings I’ve ever met. Laura came to me about six months ago wanting to improve her relationship with food, feel more confident in her body and just feel better about herself. She was caught in a spiral of binging and wanted to find a way out. We started to work together and she got to a really good place mentally and physically but then something interesting happened. She started to spiral but while she was feeling she was going “downhill” physically, she felt like she was spiraling up mentally. The shift looked different than how she thought it would. It meant she really stepped back from the fear of healing, my relationship with food and embraced it. While this has led her to put some of the weight back on, Laura felt different. She was a better mental and emotional headspace. She was aware of her triggers and the binging stopped. She gave herself the permission she needed. She started to ask herself “Do I feel happy with my body?” “Do I feel healthy?” “Am I healthy?” Top Takeaways If you are going to heal your relationship with food, you have to embrace what that means for you. Whether it means weight gain, whether that means eating things that you tell yourself you're not allowed to eat because they will make you fat or you will never stop eating them or you will overdo it. Allow yourself to tell yourself that you’re going to heal and by healing, we have a little less emotional baggage. It’s about allowing your body to be where it is and take the pressure off yourself. You don’t have to eat that donut when it’s offered because you can have it anytime. Look at it as a full integration of health- spiritual, mental, emotional and the physical Be kind to yourself and be present. Especially during COVID, there’s been a weight on all of us. You might get to a place where you feel like you can’t hold yourself in that space anymore. The space where you have to be “on'' 100% of the time or you always have to be on track. Give yourself a little bit of grace, cut yourself some slack and be compassionate. Focus on what you’re great at. For Laura, when she worked out, it used to be about punishing herself but when she gave herself the space, it became about seeing what she could achieve. She was in awe of what her body is capable of. Give yourself permission to not be perfect. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

“The link that is rapidly disappearing and has largely disappeared already, is the opportunity for the human being to work with the Earth . . . not just farming, but to work with the Earth in any way that is not mere extraction.” -- Laura Riccardi Lyvers Laura Riccardi Lyvers is a biodynamic preparation maker, gardener, and grazier. She lives and works on her husband’s family’s farm, a large-scale hog and grain farm in Central Kentucky, where she grows herbs, flowers and food, and tends a small dairy herd. Since 2005 until now, Laura has run the biodynamic program at Foxhollow Farm, a 1400-acre grass-fed beef farm in Crestwood, supporting it to meet biodynamics’ Demeter certification standards. Through her small business Bio-Ag Resources, Laura also supports other gardens, vineyards and compost companies as one of the few regional makers of biodynamic preparations. Biodynamics is a holistic, ecological, and ethical approach to farming, gardening, food, and nutrition. In his 1924 lecture series, Dr. Rudolf Steiner, a philosopher and scientist, invited farmers to integrate scientific understanding with a recognition of spirit in nature. Since then, through the collaboration of many farmers and researchers, biodynamics has continued to develop and evolve in thousands of thriving gardens, vineyards, ranches and orchards throughout the world. “What attracted me to the work of biodynamic farming and Rudolf Steiner's spiritual science was this pursuit of recognizing and working with the spirit in matter … the alchemical … the working with, not just believing in, a spirit-based reality that for me is the forgotten and mostly unrecognizable element today,” Laura says.  “Like the uniting of art and science, or the observer and the observed, Steiner's work brings the human being into the flow of the spiritual world, which we are always part of but oftentimes are clueless about,” according to Laura. “Through his cosmology and esoteric science, anyone can enter onto an initiatory path.  Although I was largely drawn to Native American wisdom from an early age, that path never opened up for me.  Through my love of the natural world, and study of ecology at University, I found a great mystery that could not be fully approached until I found a spiritual path.  Now I stand before this Great Mystery with awe and reverence, from both sides of the same coin.” For Laura, her work with biodynamic preparations has been a healing path -- "a way of approaching agriculture that acknowledges and seeks to understand the spiritual, or the non-physical, that stands behind this material world that we work with. Through that seeking and that unfolding of understanding, we include the influences of the cosmos as well as the influence (and not just the physical) of the earth." Laura says that "the striving in this work, along with an inner development, is to be able to produce food that has forces in it that do not just feed our physical being, but also feed our spiritual nature.  So the ultimate purpose is to overcome materialism -- to be able to live in this world today with our evolutionary striving toward an ability to think more spiritually -- to overcome this moment of materialism that is at its max perhaps in human development." Biodynamic preparations are made from medicinal herbs, animal parts and minerals in special processes, to bring plants into a dynamic relationship with soil, water, air, warmth, and cosmos, to help them develop in a healthy and balanced way. Steiner described how to make eight “preparations” to be sprayed on the earth or plants and to be used after a process of transformation in making compost. Researchers and practitioners have been involved in the discovery process of how to make and use these preparations for almost one hundred years. These preparations bring together herbs, animal sheaths, and human consciousness in relationship to Earth forces and rhythms, in what Steiner describes as “homeopathic substances” to bring vitality, health, and even intelligence to the soil and plants. Growing up on Long Island in the 1980s and 1990s, Laura felt drawn to metaphysical concepts from a very young age. She shared, “I remember being so young I could not explain to my parents why I felt the way I did, and the questions I had could not be communicated. In my college years [1992-1997], I was drawn to studying metaphysics and Eastern spirituality and graduated with a bachelor of science in conservation biology and range ecology.” Graduating from Colorado State University with a Bachelor of Science in Conservation Biology and Range Ecology, Laura unexpectedly got into farming out of her love of nature and her desire to work with herbs in healing. Throughout the years, as she continuously discovers, wrestles with, and inquires into spiritual science from any discipline, Laura has been able to live more and more into the daily and seasonal rhythm of the earth. At this point on her journey, Laura is beginning to explore the wider picture of the role of biodynamics and preparation-making in Earth and human co-evolution. She believes that, as humans, we need to be able to live in this world today, in every moment of our lives, with our evolutionary striving towards an ability to think more spiritually, to feel and to do in this world more out of moral forces, and less out of physical, material reasons.  In a recent interview, Laura asked, “How do we want to be as humans on this Earth?”. Along with this huge cultural and economic question, Laura reminded us to remain in that receiving mode constantly, to humbly stay open to the insights that can come throughout our lives. Join us with this extra-ordinary, ordinary gardener and grazier, seeking to heal earth and cosmos.

Get Ignited! with Laura D’Asaro, a Forbes 30 Under 30 social entrepreneur, Shark Tank winner, and two-time Guinness World Record holder. For Laura, there is no distance between an idea and implementation. And, at the heart of her work are noble causes and a desire to make the world a better place. Currently, Laura is the CEO and co-founder of Chirps, a company committed to changing the food industry landscape - one cricket chip or smoothie at a time.Laura will share stories of ignition and that will keep you on the edge of your seat.

Welcome to Nothing but Tribble, where we discuss Star Trek and Star Trek related things (mostly)! In this episode we explain why we’re qualified to have an opinion, & discuss our personal introductions to Star Trek. For Laura that’s TOS’s “Turnabout Intruder.” She tries her best to explain why this out of everything would have gotten her interested in Trek and gives tips for how to make it more palatable for today’s world.

Welcome to Life After Losing Mom With Kat Bonner. In this episode, we’re joined by blogger Laura Duck. Laura lost her mom to a battle with cancer when she as 17 years old, but it wasn’t until four years later that her grief truly kicked in. Laura opens up about her struggle with guilt after her mom passed away and how she’s learned to manage those feelings and find ways to move forward in her life. What To Listen For Laura’s experience with delayed grieving that hit her four years after her mom passed away How Laura struggled with grief for years without being aware of it Laura’s belief that you can only be strong for so long and how things changed for her when her grief kicked in The things that Laura feels guilty about and what she regrets most about not doing with her mom when she was alive Her role today in holding her family members together and how her relationship with her dad has impacted her healing process How therapy brought her feelings of guilt to the surface and how she learned to move past them How grieving as an adult is different from grieving as a teenager Laura’s guilt triggers and what she does to work through them Laura’s realization that her grief process is a testament to how her mom raised her How her mom is still present, but in a different way, and how Laura has learned to find those moments How Laura processes feelings of guilt on good days vs. bad days The importance of telling others what you need to help with grieving Laura’s views on grief as a choice and how she makes a conscious choice to move forward How Laura’s obsession with positivity has impacted her experience with loss Why blogging makes an ideal outlet for Laura’s grief and guilt Laura shares her belief that everyone deserves to be happy and that grieving doesn’t need to equate to feeling guilty. She believes that everyone’s feelings are valid and explores this theme through connecting with other people, whether it’s her family or people she meets online through blogging and social media. For Laura, grief doesn’t rule every moment of her life, and she shares her experience in how she arrived at this positive place despite losing her mom and struggling with guilt. Resources From This Episode: Instagram Follow Kat: Visit The Website Subscribe to the Podcast Join The Life After Losing Mom Facebook Community Like On Facebook Follow On Instagram Transcript Laura Duck: 00:00 I'm like, well, you kind of like fake it until you make it. Like you kind of just keep like thinking right yet. No, it's going to be fine. It's going to be fine. And then one day you wake up and it is fine. Voiceover: 00:10 In 2013, Kat Bonner lost her mom in a tragic car accident. She figured out how to manage her grief and is helping other women do the same. On this podcast, you'll hear from other women who have lost their moms and discover the exact coping strategies you need to get through the day and be in the best place you've ever been. Don't miss another episode. Subscribe today. More information can be found at KatBonner.com/podcast and if you'd like to join a group of likeminded women had to Facebook and search for the Life After Losing Mom Community. Lastly, if you're looking for help managing your grief book a complimentary connection call at KatBonner.com. Laura Duck: 00:58 So I guess I'll be eight years in October. Um, so come up quite a while now. Um, to be fast. I feel like a lot of the people I meet through that, the kind of community on Instagram is all very new and role. Um, and it's hard to kind of find the middle ground, but yes. So it's nearly eight years ago. Um, and she died from a brain tumor on, it was the second time around. Um, so I think a kind of battle with cons, a lost and maybe like four years in total. Um, so quite a long time. Um, with, like I said, she got the Oakland. Um, and then I think it was unlike Hassad, um, scan off to that. We'd seen that it came back. So yeah, that's um, that's kind of the basics of it. Kat: 01:53 Gotcha. Well, yeah, thank you. Laura Duck: 01:56 Straight in with it. Kat: 01:58 Exactly. Thank you for sharing. Um, how would you say, so let me see. So it was a brain tumor and he said her battle with cancer was about four years. Um, was she in remission or was it just like a straight for your battle? Laura Duck: 02:14 No, it's about, yeah, exactly that. So what actually happened was she was diagnosed with epilepsy to begin with. Um, so she was treated with after that skull for epilepsy for maybe the first year and a bit. Um, and then we're actually just going on a family holiday in the UK so that it wasn't a broad, we're going on holiday and we got to the destination, which is about, I'd say three hours from home and she received a phone call from, uh, the hospital basically saying human error, misplaced her scan results. Um, and yeah, she needed to come in for a gym, um, operation on her brain basically. Um, yeah, so that was the first time. So it was removed the fast time and just had loads, chemotherapy and radio therapy went into remission and then, yeah, it was on the, for a checkup after. So I think she had gotten every three months, I want to say. Laura Duck: 03:09 Um, and then, yeah, I'm on the side one day, found that it returned, but the position of it where in the brain, uh, meant that they couldn't operate. Um, so she had kind of the rest of her dose of radiotherapy, um, and she couldn't have any more. So then she tried to chemo, um, in the march of 2011. Um, yes, she was told that there's nothing more they could do and she could kind of decide whether to keep having chemo and, and see what happens, but the chances are I wasn't going to help. Um, and she decided to stop taking medicine. Kat: 03:44 Interesting. I love how you mentioned Laura Duck: 03:48 yeah. Kat: 03:49 That she was diagnosed with epilepsy first because I feel like those cases are just becoming more and more common, I guess has medicine progress's almost, which is kind of funny to me because I'm like, yeah, okay, it's human error. But in my mind, you know, if medicine is, you know, only getting better, why are these that, you know, misdiagnoses happening. So how, I'm curious, what were your feelings about that? Laura Duck: 04:19 I must've been, so I'm 17 when she died, so I must have been like 14, 13, 14 at the time. Um, so everybody remember feeling anything and it was all kept quite harsh, harsh at the start. So when she received the call and we are on holiday, the rest of our family just stayed on holiday with us and she went home. It was like, it's really bizarre and it's all kind of blurry. I don't remember at the time worrying, I just thought, well, I'll go sort of thing. Kat: 04:53 Interesting. Yeah. I feel like, you know, 17 is an age where you can process the loss. Mm. Um, but Laura Duck: 05:06 yeah, Kat: 05:07 you know, 13 how old you are, you know, when your mom got sick. I feel like that's a very difficult age. The process, you know, the diagnoses. So can you walk me through like, you know, what you thought, I guess when you know your mom was diagnosed, like what, what's going on in your 13 year old brain? Laura Duck: 05:25 Yeah, I guess 13 year old me just kept low. Just like most people think their parents are invincible. You don't really realize the extent of it all. Um, even like four years and I'd say even the month before she died and she's in badge most of the time. It never ever crossed my mind that she's going to die because she got better the first time. So she's going to just get better again and it's just shit at the moment. But it's going to get better and it will be fine. I never, I never remember sitting right Speaker 4: 05:57 thinking Laura Duck: 05:59 she's going to die. Yep. Kat: 06:02 Yeah. I just so late maybe as to it. Yeah, I totally agree with you there. Every, even if like, you know, we know our mom is sick or whatever. Like what person I guess in their right mind thinks that their parents are going to die. I mean that's why I always say it doesn't matter. You know if the loss is expected or unexpected because it doesn't matter if you know the truth. Like it's just, I mean I'm miracles happen and then like tragedy strikes and that sort of thing. Like literally anything can happen. So yeah. That's interesting. So, okay. Where did you notice, like Laura Duck: 06:40 your Kat: 06:42 like real struggle, I guess dealing with, you know, the loss? Was it immediate or did it take a little while maybe as you know, we're out of high school. Laura Duck: 06:52 Yes. So I, I'd say I probably struggled from the star but I wasn't aware of it. Um, I say that my grief and started four years later. So when I, from basically the day that she dies on them before, but the day that she died I was very still, I'm like okay with it. I don't know, it was, it's really weird to say because I think my dad died. I'd be beside myself, but I've been through it with my mum and that wasn't the case. But yeah, I was just very much like next like I think it was the next day pretty much. Um, and that wasn't the next day and a week later. Sorry, cause it was hard to time. So we had a break from school and when I was going back to school, I had um, work experience. I have two weeks' work experience. And I remember going in on the Monday meeting where the stocks and everything meeting the lady who was like my manager at the time for the two weeks. Laura Duck: 07:51 And I was like, oh, by the way, um, my mom died last week. So like if I'm upset or I need to go home or if I'm just feeling a bit weird, like why? And she's like, oh, okay, um, you shouldn't be here. And I was like, yeah, yeah, no, it's great. It's fine. Loving it. And she's like, okay. So everyone didn't know how to take me because I was just so like, yeah, my mom died, you know, shit happens. Like it's just one of those things. So literally for years I was like that. Um, and then it hit like a ton of bricks. Kat: 08:24 Yeah. That's so funny. I was about to say, so if I do the math right, you're 25, Laura Duck: 08:30 25. Yes. I see. Yeah. 25 out one. Yes. When I was about 21 ish. All starts doing it. Yeah. Kat: 08:37 Okay. I was like, yeah, that wasn't too long ago. Seeing interesting that you say that because I was 18 when I lost my mom. So like those four years, like I really, you know, didn't grieve I guess as being in college. I mean, I'm sure a lot of people can attest to like a distraction and that sort of thing. Like when like my focus was just like surviving and not flunking out of school, but sometimes, you know, those distractions, I mean like they're ha they're helping you, but like you don't realize how much you're not grieving until you start to grieve and you're like, oh God. Like, you know, so when did, I guess you realize, so yeah, you're about like 21 or so when you're great fit. Um, how, like for you living close to your dad or, you know, did you kind of like figure things out on your own? How did that process go? Trying to figure everything out. Yes. So, Laura Duck: 09:36 um, when, um, I was in second, yeah, I would have said, um, we call it college, I don't know what you call it. Yeah. The same thing. Same thing. Um, so I just, I was living away at the time. Um, and I only came home as a couple of weekends, so I was used to being away from your family home. Um, so I had one more year with that. Um, just living away. So kind of just, I was away from it. I wasn't having to face every day. And then when I came home I was living with my middle sister and my Stepdad, um, who, when actual, I feel bad cause I have love for him, but we don't see Iti. Um, we're not the closest. And I say hi if I see him, it's one of those I don't really check in on him. Laura Duck: 10:28 Um, so when I came home from college and I was in heaven, I then moved in with my dad and my stepmom and my dad is my best friend, Mike. We're so, so close. Um, and yeah, so I was with him for three months and just because my mum and dad spelled when I was maybe like one, one and a half, so, so young. So my whole life, my mum and my dad had been separate and I've never lived with my dad. So things were tricky living with him and adjusting as an adult as well, and having never lived with him. Dynamics, we'll just straightened, not necessarily between me and my dad, but just in the whole kind of atmosphere of the house. Um, yeah. And then so I went to live with my auntie. Um, so it was all very like focusing on like the next thing. Laura Duck: 11:20 And other than that I think as well, one main thing is my family always thought that I was going to lose it. I'm sorry I wasn't a bad teenager, but I was, I don't know, rebels of Cringila to say, but I wasn't always by the book. And I think my Auntie in particular, so I was probably gonna go down some wrong roads, but, and I think that in the back one mind meant the, I focused even more on not doing that. I wanted to prove everybody wrong. Um, and so I think by being upset, negativity, grieving or negatively on a being, I don't want people to say, oh his, she goes, so I just kind of kept going, kept going, kept going. And you can only do it for so long. Kat: 12:07 Yeah, you're exactly right. Um, it's interesting that you point out that, you know, your parents were separated your whole life or most of your life and then you live with your mom. And I'm like, okay. Like she 100% like was not just your mom, obviously I'm just, you know, assuming based on what you're telling me. But I feel like that, that's how I was too. So it makes things like, it's like, okay, a double slap in the face. But you mentioned, you know, like you're not really being close with your Stepdad. Um, were they married when your mom passed by chance? Laura Duck: 12:43 Um, so they were together for a long time. Did they get together? Maybe when I was like to really, um, oh yeah, they never married. They want the typical like couple that's in love. I never felt love vibes from them. Um, but just to paint a picture, and I can say this, cause I know he's never going to listen to this. Um, a month or so before she died, we all knew that it was going to go that way. He decided he wanted to marry her and it was very, um, money related, should I say. Um, so it thought up tricky situations, especially within my, obviously my mom's family and him, um, me and my sisters and him, me and my little sister because my little sister is my Stepdad's child. Um, so it's been hard to kind of navigate that as well, taking into consideration of the, see how feelings. Um, so yeah, there are an altar call pool. I don't know, I felt like they had love for each other, but you know, when you look at a couple of things, it never was that I don't think, Kat: 13:56 sorry, I, as soon as I asked about like being married and then you started talking, I was like, okay, I probably should of rephrase that and I should have asked like, no, Yay. When were they together? No, I'm, Laura Duck: 14:08 I'm cool with that. It's fine. It's, it's cause it's one of those topics that like I, it's there. Um, but it's tricky to talk about because like I said with my little sister and stuff, it's one of those topical conversations that has been just brushed onto the carpet. It's the assumption that's there. Um, and it's tricky to actually address it. So it's all the politics of like brings up so much family politics. Like it's ridiculous. Kat: 14:34 Oh my God, you are so right. It's just my blind. I'm like, okay, this literally goes to show, I used to think the old adage, oh, blood makes family and then my mom died. I'm like, this is so not true. Laura Duck: 14:48 Definitely Kat: 14:49 just be kind of how people have acted. I'm Ah, yeah. Laura Duck: 14:52 And it's not even just like money, but it's just like those that say they're there for you on and it just goes down to the simplest of things. And I think when, because maybe some actually you, while I was living with my mom and then she passed away, I didn't only do this, my mom, I lost my family home. I lost sight of everything else. That kind of comes with that dynamic. Kat: 15:15 Okay. Literally lost everything. I mean, that's grew up as unit, like that's growing up, you know, that's what you knew. And then so do you feel, I mean, I guess it's different because yeah, your Dad's, your dad, your Stepdad, snatch your dad, but your stepdad was with your mom. So do you ever feel like any sense of guilt, you know, not being close to your Stepdad and being close to your dad or anything like that? Laura Duck: 15:46 Um, I guess I'm, I, I'm the bridge that holds everybody together to be honest. So I have my thoughts and my views on my Stepdad, but I'll never let that affect anything. Um, in tons of, like I said, my relationship with my notes and little sister, um, I have love for him because he's been that father, not father. Think of my dad's been amazing, but he's been like the man of the house, say my whole childhood. So I talked to him. He was a great step done, but it was just the last is of my mom's life. And then living there with him. I just saw the sides to him that just, I was like, I don't know if I agree with this. Um, so yeah, I'd say I have enough full him for the role that he paid the full. Um, but right now I, like I said, art, possum industry, I'd say hi, but I wouldn't necessarily stop. Kat: 16:45 Oh my God, that's such a good answer. You have nothing to feel bad about if you, even if you do, just based on what you're telling me, because I'm not close to certain people in my family. I'm not gonna say who didn't, who knows? They might be listening to this and, but people were like, oh, like you're not close with them. Like, why not? I'm like, first of all, it's none of your business. Second of all, like we were never close to begin with. And then, like you said, death changes people. So yeah. Um, do you by chance did, were you like your mom's caretaker Kinda, sorta? Laura Duck: 17:20 Um, well, she, I say we all were. Um, I wasn't solely, no. And because I was living away a lot, I didn't see a lot. Um, but she was canceled at home right up until she died, so she died at home as well. Um, and we were just lucky enough and I'm really grateful for it that we had the space in the house, um, to kind of facilitate like a hospital room, basic base. So like downstairs we have a low, well not downstairs, we have a local hospital, we have a local hospice. You're downstairs, um, co like a hospital beds. And we had carers that would come during the night and start. And then if mom ever needed some respite, she'd go over to the hospice and it says beautiful, kind of like Manna House, um, with beautiful gardens where people would like, um, take her around in the wheelchair she needed to or wanted to. Um, so yeah, I, um, I wouldn't, I wouldn't take the credit. No, I wouldn't say that I was, we were very much a part or I was a part of it. Um, but I've got to give that credit to kind of my sister's probably in the carers that came, um, during the day and night. Kat: 18:28 Gotcha. Okay. Yeah, I hear a lot about like does caregiver, um, p t s d staff, which means, you know, my mom wasn't sick and I wasn't here. Caregivers. I don't know about that. But did you experience like any, you know, negative feelings toward that, you know, after your mom passed? Yeah, Laura Duck: 18:51 it was a really big mixture of an I can, I've learned to accept that this is how I style, um, is a really big mixture of relief and thank that it was over. Um, and then the other half was like, well, what now? Like we're always kind of like, I'm waiting on different like milestones or different, um, results or vessel that we're always waiting on different things. And then it almost got to the point then when we were waiting for her to die, which is horrible. Um, Speaker 5: 19:24 but Laura Duck: 19:25 it was, yeah. Oh, 50, 50 old, thank God for that. And then what do I do? What do we do now? So, no, I wouldn't say it was intense, um, necessarily, but there was factors of, yeah, I guess kind of w yeah. What you do now, what's your, what's the parkers now? Like, what, what role do I play now? Kat: 19:47 Yeah. And why that you mentioned that because I mean regardless, nobody wants to see their parent die. I mean that's just fucking awful. But it's interesting that you mentioned like the relief and then you're like, eh, like, okay, I'm kind of lost and confused because you got so used to something for, you know, four years or however many years and then it's not just like your mom not being there, it's a whole like change in what you're used to regardless of like, I know your mom being sick or anything like that. Um, I am curious though, is there anything that like you wish you would've done or said to your mom or anything like you regret? It's like just in the back of your mind, you know, while she was still alive. Like why she was sick and fighting. Laura Duck: 20:38 Yeah. So I used to, this was like the main thing. So like, yes, I'm in afternoons and her, when I kind of, everything, the main thing that used to haunt me was because at 21 I've got a job, I'm earning money. I can look after myself. I'm no longer living at home. I'm on live in, I've moved away to a different city, so on, on the lot more independent. So what used to hold me, it was like wish I could've just taken her out for coffee or I wish I when she wanted to go for a walk, I would have gone with her or I wish I could've taken out to dinner or we could have gone to the cinema and all of these things. And it wasn't until actually I started getting counseling therapy, um, that she brought to my attention, my counsel brought to my attention that like all of these things that I'm feeling guilty for and on regretting one things that were possible at the time. Laura Duck: 21:35 So like from the age of 17 to 21 although it's only four years, but in terms of maturing and your life changing, that's a massive period of time. Um, so yeah, everything that I was failing was things I could do at 21 but not necessarily. I could have done at 17 and like things like say going for a walk when she wanted to or when she was able to, I was 17 I want us to be out with my friends. Like, like I said to you before, I didn't think she was going to die, so why am I gonna waste half an hour walking down to the bottom of the road and back up again? Whereas like now I see the importance of that and it's just those, those things. I just think, oh, it's only you noodle aura that that would make her so happy or it's half an hour of your time. Just go do that and then you can go see your friends asked. But I was just selfish and a typical teenager. Um, yeah, I'd say that's like the main things, but I do feel guilty for them, but I kind of don't really allow myself, I don't allow it to like swallow me up anymore because it's just a different perspective is different. I'm grieving as a 21 year old instead of 17. Kat: 22:51 Yeah, that's a very good point. And I mean, there's always things that, you know, after someone passes, you realize like you should have done differently or you know, things like that. But it's nice that you mention that, you know, you were just being a teenager, you know, I mean you, it's obviously that is a sign that like you're healing and you've healed from that because I mean you didn't mean any harm by it like you were just being 17 whatever. Um, but yeah, sometimes it just takes us a while to realize those things because there is a v like a difference in maturity like in a 17 year old versus a 21 year old or regardless of you losing your mom at 17 that doesn't mean you just grow up and figure things out right away. And I feel like a lot of people just assume that like, oh, like you, your mom when you were young, like you must've grown up really fast. And I'm like, yes. And No. Like once I grew up, I grew up, but was a matter of like growing up, it doesn't matter getting there because I was like, I was not mature for like a good two years. So can you attest to that or am I just crazy? Laura Duck: 24:04 No, I, I agree. I think I've always like, like to think I was mature, but like when you look back, you to say you had no idea. Um, so yeah, I didn't, I don't think I grew up quick at all. Um, if anything, you kind of pause in that moment and you're a bit like, Oh God, like what do I do? What happens now? So if anything now you're kind of one hope for a little while rather than kind of catalin intimate shorty. I don't know. Kat: 24:32 Oh God, yeah. I was like a baby. I had like a pit. I was like a pity parties left and right. But I mean, whatever, you have to do what you had to do to get through the day. I exact, so that was my philosophy. Um, how long would you say the struggle of like feeling guilty? Um, you know, lasted. Laura Duck: 24:54 Mm. Um, I think it like, it morphs, it changes. I feel guilty even now, but for like different reasons. So I'd say the guilt of not being or not doing what I wish I could have done, um, publicly maybe two years. Um, but having that conversation with the fire and my therapist have not, um, it did how changed my perspective, but then obviously you've got to then take time to accept that and kind of take control of that, but kind of ownership of that. Um, so let's say like two years, but I still feel guilty now, but yeah, let's, like I said, just different reasons. Um, now it's more that days will go by and [inaudible] thought about her, maybe like subconsciously, but some days will go by and I won't think about how once and not like breaks my heart to say that because it's horrible to admit that because you think, am I forgetting about horrible? Laura Duck: 25:59 Oh, I don't know. Yeah. It's hard to put into words, but I spoke to this lady, um, on my Instagram page actually, and I was having this really on his conversation with her bouts and I love that cause you just get so many different perspectives on people that have gone through similar things. And she was like, Dora, like you call, where do you think like that? Like, yeah, okay. Each day goes by, you might be kind of, um, thinking about how less there's only because she's just becoming more of what you do. So like a day might go by that I haven't thought about how, by the way, I carried myself in. The things I've done in words I've sat are a testament to how she brought me up. It's like how she's affecting, um, yeah, how I grow up and things like that. So it's not that I'm forgetting about her, it's just that she's present in a different way, if that makes sense. Kat: 26:49 No, it makes perfect sense. And as soon as I asked that question, I was like, okay, once again, my verbiage is probably terrible. I should have probably asked like, hey, how many years would you say your guilt was consuming you? Because obviously you're going to be, yeah, it's going to be times you know when you're feeling guilty because that just grief and grief has never ending. Um, but oh my God, you are my soul freaking sister. I, I'm in the exact same place. Like people, I feel awful. Like you were saying, there are days where I don't really think about my mom or at least I don't make an effort to intentionally think about her. And I honestly think that that has to do with the fact that like you are like healing and you were in a good place in your grief and that's okay. Kat: 27:41 Like, yeah, if there's like a sunset, I'm like, oh hey mom. But I mean sometimes we get, I mean it's just like, I feel like there were days, it's almost like talking to your mom every day, you know? And I look back on it and I'm like, did I actually talk to my mom everyday? I'm like, probably not. There are probably some days where I was just like, Hey, love you. Hey night, I love you. Like that sort of thing. So there were honestly probably days for me, my mom didn't talk just because that's life. That's the way that I have to picture it in my head. Laura Duck: 28:16 Yeah. Like even now, like that's so true because like say they were alive now all we like you say, are we going to be thinking about them or talking to them every single day? Like probably not like life happens and it like, I'll try and speak to my dad on the phone like every couple of days, but sometimes a week will go by and dad will be like, oh, like just checking in and I'm like, Oh God, I'm so sorry. Like I was managed to ring you on Wednesday. And then life happened. And I haven't even thought about in those days in between like, oh, I really should call my dad. It's not until he reaches out and I think, oh yeah, I did say that. Sorry. Um, so it's just the reality of it. But I think their absence makes certain failings bill that. Kat: 29:00 Yeah, and that's why we feel bad. That's why we feel guilty about it because they're not here and it's like this sounds bad, but I don't feel guilty about not talking to my dad for a week because my dad's still here and if my dad wasn't here and I didn't consciously think about him, I would be like, oh, okay, whatever. And then it's just feel like too, I feel like you feel really bad whenever you have like a bad day or a hard day or like shit hits the fan and you're like, oh God. Like I haven't thought about my mom and light amount of days and I'm just like, okay, this is really awkward. What now? Laura Duck: 29:36 Yeah, definitely. And I think like you say, it's when like normal stuff will happen that's maybe like a bad day. But then somehow, I don't know if you got the same, I'll be having a bad day just in general and mom could be alive and she could be dead, but this day is going to happen. And then at the end of it using jabber mom was here and it's so much different. Everything so much better. Cool down. I could have spoke to her about it, but I can't, she's not here and it just, yeah, it makes the day so watch us and it's just stupid cause it's just the normal bad day. Kat: 30:08 Yeah, it is. Do you, I'm curious, do you feel guiltier I guess not thinking about your mom when you're having a good day or when you're having a bad day? Speaker 6: 30:19 Yeah, Laura Duck: 30:20 that's a good question. Kat: 30:22 For me it's a bad day, but Laura Duck: 30:24 yeah, cause I feel like, yeah, if I'm having a bad time or something's upset me. I think just kind of instinct thing. Like you instinctively, um, the pastoral work or um, you feel to like, yeah, go to your, your mum. Like that's just like a thing that you would naturally think. So yeah, maybe if you're having a bad, if I'm having a bad day and I don't think about her, that'd be very unusual and I'll show guilty. But to be fair, if I have a bad day, I think about how so I've never really thought about it, but yeah. Okay. Yeah. Awesome. That's probably throw me that question because I never even really thought about. Speaker 6: 31:06 Yeah. Kat: 31:07 Yeah. It's interesting. Like I mean you are right instinctively like when you have a bad day you want your mom obviously. So that's when I feel really guilty about like, oh my God, like I can't believe I'm just now thinking about her because I'm struggling but like, and maybe it's just me being in the kind of person that I am. I mean, yeah, when I have a good day, like I want to tell my mom, but I was never that kind of person that like when I had a good day, she was never the first person that I told like it's it can happen. Like I have other people in my life. Then I would tell them to, I will tell my brother, I would tell like my best friend or that sort of thing. And that's still true to this day. But I think that's why the guilt hits me so hard is because there is nobody that can make any bad day better other than your mom. But there are people who can make a good day better that aren't your mom Laura Duck: 32:01 100%. Do you know what? That's so good to hear because I've never like, I've never thought about it that way, but it's so true. Speaker 6: 32:10 Yeah. Laura Duck: 32:10 Gotcha. Kat: 32:11 Well good. Uh, yeah. So how did you, like obviously I think you know, your therapy helped you with your guilt, but now and like, you know, your day to day life, like what helps you if you have one of those days where you're just really feeling guilty, like how you cope with that? Laura Duck: 32:29 Um, I just, I have a really good group of like people around me. Um, I've moved again. I've actually moved nine times. I can't say to the other day nine times since my mom passed away. Kat: 32:41 Holy Cow. A lot of time. Laura Duck: 32:44 Um, yeah. So I now live in and I'll just say, well, another town, um, which is about two hours away from home. Um, so yeah. Um, it's a long story, but I will, when I was traveling on that, I'm a girl who's now my best friend and she was here when I was missing hard stuff, just hanging out. Um, one of her childhood friends is now my boyfriend and my whole life has just kind of like walked around this area now. Um, but yeah. What was the question again? Kat: 33:17 Oh yeah, sorry. Um, how do you cope with like when you have those moments for feeling guilty? Oh, sorry. Laura Duck: 33:23 Cool. So, um, yeah, so I've now built like a license for me in a whole new place with amazing people and it's actually very few people in my little network that would, that at the time mum passed away. Um, so not the people I know now. I never actually met my mum, never knew my mom, um, which is bizarre. But yeah, the amazing group of people. So one of the unsealing guilty and it's kind of taken a toll. Um, I'm always surrounded by love and that really, really helps. Um, I'd say probably the main thing is my dad. Um, he, the relationship I have with him was always good. I've always been gotten to Oco. Um, so we've always been quite close, whereas now I can just speak to like a best friend. I can call them up and do like, Hey dad, be appreciate. Laura Duck: 34:19 This is how I still, and he's very good at like I'm seeing it from all sides or sharing his perspective or kind of sharing different ideas, not necessarily telling me how to fill or saying how I'm feeling is wrong. Um, but almost just bringing like another light to how I'm feeling and because of him being my dad when he says certain things I know want him. And my mom went together whilst I was growing up, but they worked together a long time before I was born. Um, they were like childhood sweethearts and kind of um, grew up together and stuff. So I show like, he knows my mom's a when he tells me things and he was like, no, what mom would think or mum would say, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, you know what, God, you're right. Like you're so right. Um, so yeah, I just say the people around me who have definitely helped, aside from like the counseling and kind of focusing head on, on the problems, I think just constantly having like soundboards around me when I need to vent or when I need to kind of just voice things. It's sung. It's really, really helped. Kat: 35:28 Oh yeah. Having a support system is crazy. It's the one that like you mentioned that like these people you know, weren't really, didn't know you when your mom passed. And I look on my, I look back on my life and I'm like, wow, this is sad. Um, literally friends with one person that was friends with before my mom passed, other than like my mom's best friend's daughter because we have to like each other. Um, but like my actual like friends, I'm like, okay, this is crazy. But it's nice to have like those people and then people who really just, I mean I've found it not saying that, you know, one group of people have been more helpful than the other, but it's really, really comforting to know that a, there are people who have stuck with you through this entire process. And then there are also people who, you know, you met after this loss happened who still love you for you despite this loss. Because I notice a lot in my life, especially when it comes to dudes, they're like, oh my God, your mom died. Like I'm scared shitless. And I'm like, yeah, like, like you're a dick, like go away. But yeah, when you find that you're like, oh my life is like so good. Definitely. And I think, Laura Duck: 36:52 cause I would say that my boyfriend who doesn't necessarily know what to say to me when I'm having a really bad like grieving day, he doesn't know what to say. I think the fact that he knows maybe not to NSA say anything like they're all in their woods, so he doesn't try to kind of sugar coat it or anything like that. He knows I just need my space. I just need a little bit of a cuddle and a kiss on my head. That's all I need. Unless good enough. Like you don't need people to kind of fill that hole, fill that silence. Like yeah, you don't, you don't need that. They, you just, they need to know. Yeah. Kat: 37:27 And it's important to tell people what you need. I know sometimes what you need, but once you know, it's like, okay, I need x, Y, and z from, you're like, this is not hard. Like if you have to put my mom's anniversary in your phone, if you have to have mother's Day in your phone, if you have to put my mom's freaking birthday on your phone, then okay, so be it. I expect you to just send me a text message and be like, Hey, I'm thinking about you today. That's the period. Like it's not rocket science. People don't seem to get that. But whatever. That's the conversation for another day. Um, but it's, yeah, and that's what mean so much as they literally know what you need. And they do that without you having to consistently tell them. And that's when, you know, you're like, oh my God, like this person is like a lucky charm. Like, Laura Duck: 38:14 okay. Kat: 38:15 And I don't know if that's just my mindset because of like the lost that, you know, you've been through. But do you agree with that? Or maybe I'm just crazy once again. No, Laura Duck: 38:24 no, I agree. I totally agree. And I think when you have such a great loss at a young age, you just value people and value small things 10 times more. Like it's like I'm saying like, I wish I could have gone on a walk with my mom when she wanted to. Now, like if it's the smaller things, if my best friend wants to do something and I'm like, really, I'll do it cause she wants to do that and then that moment it's not what she wants to do. That's what we're gonna do. Um, so I feel like there's just a new found like appreciation for like other people and their happiness and what sites are selling them and then kind of internal nut then circles you. Kat: 39:03 Yeah, that's a really good answer. Um, I guess Kinda like this is in my head now. Switching gears, how, I guess often would you say that like you, like they're like, you have those days, sorry, where your guilt is just like consuming you. I mean, I know it's hard to say it, but I guess if you think about it, do you think those days are expected Laura Duck: 39:26 or, okay. No, I think they can now send me anyway out of the blue. I, I have more good days than bad now and I think that's just because of time. Um, timeline hills, all it does. And like at the time when people say that to me, it's like, Oh yes, like, um, but yeah, no, I, they come out completely out of the blue. Um, I show like I deal with like birthdays, anniversaries, Christmases, things like that. Um, a lot better now. I kind of see them called [inaudible]. Why? Okay. Yeah. Come in, I'm going to fail. When I kind of prepare myself, I still feel that way. It just doesn't come as a shock. Um, but I think the guilt hits you harder. One is out of the blue, um, and it kind of just, yeah, knocks you off your feet and then, or you can do really is like be consumed by it. Um, but I'd say it's few and far between, like the last few weeks from the, I've been quite low in stuff, but last time, which has been really hard to do with actually burst last time is that it's not actually grief related. So I don't have an answer to one stating the wound fading right now and I could somehow relate it back. But really I'm just like clutching at stores. Like, really? That's not really why I'm feeling this or I'm just feeling slaves because I'm having a shit time. Um, Kat: 40:55 yeah, I mean that's just life. So don't be [inaudible] percent. Laura Duck: 40:59 That's, that's what I mean. Like I've always kind of been like, now I feel this way because mom died and then this happened and I've always had like justification for it. Um, yeah, so it's been weird, but that's not really guilt I want say it's guilt weighted right now. Kat: 41:15 It's funny that you mentioned that though because you're definitely the only one, like who would justify your mom's death for acting a certain way and there are mannerisms and like ways that we act that manifested from that loss that you know that are never going to change. But like I had a bad day because I had a bad day. I didn't have a bad day because my fucking mom died. Like I had a bad day and now that makes me miss my mom more. But it's like you feel like for most people their grief is worse when you've had a long day or stressful or whatever. But just like grief being unpredictable, who the heck is going to predict they're going to have a bad day? I mean it's the whole sort of thing. So it's funny that you mentioned that, oh my God, now that you were saying like, oh, it used to piss me off when people say, Oh like time heals all and oh my God, you are so right. Kat: 42:10 But, and I think it's because the way some people mean it, they might have meant it empty and not have and not as a very positive connotation. And I'm like, okay, like time heals all. But we can say that because like you and I have experienced that firsthand. They're just saying that proof. Exactly. I'm like, I feel like you're just saying that shit a spike. That's why it pisses me off. Yeah. But like for people who actually mean well, I'm like, thank you, I appreciate that. And it's also too like for some people it can be time, meaning 20 years for other people it can be time meaning like five years. And I think that's why people get so frustrated if it's been years and years after their loss and their not like better. And people say that then they're like, oh, like I don't believe you because it's been like 10 years. And I'm like, but that's this really terrible. I mean the world has a terrible perspective of time on slate. 100% Laura Duck: 43:11 so maybe an unpopular opinion. Please tell me if you disagree. But I also think there comes a time where not grief becomes a choice. That's not, that's the complete wrong words. But you get to a point where you have all of the knowledge that you need, you understand your grief to a higher extent. So now you have all the tools. It's kind of up to you now. Like you can either sit and feel sorry for yourself for the rest of your life or you can kind of accept that it's happened. Not the whole shit happens like I was when I was 17 but like just accept that like these things do happen. It's not gonna Change. It's gonna always be this way and you can just kind of flip it and try and make it or not a positive thing, but like you can try and carry on with your life. Like you, you do have that choice. Um, like I said, unpopular opinion. Some people think it happened in I'm going to feel shit for the rest of my life. Okay, that's fine. Um, but I do think, yeah, once you spent time, um, what's the word? Like spent time like looking into your grief and dealing with different things. You, yeah. You build up enough resources to kind of make a informed choice, I guess. Kat: 44:30 No, I hundred percent agree. Laura Duck: 44:32 And that's when I tell all these people, I'm like, everything in life is a choice. Like you, at the end of the day, you can choose to be happy and you can choose to wallow in your grief and let it affect you for the rest of your life. Yes. For a certain amount of time. It's completely, I hate the word normal. Um, but it's completely expected for you to not want for you to make the choice to not heal. But eventually you need to do it for yourself and you need to do it for your mom and the people in. Then you've lost. It's like they are happy and like hell do it for yourself. You fucking deserve to be happy like you and through hell and high water. And it's just like people have that tear Porsche effective. But if I could literally be anything into anybody's head, it is that it is a choice and like you healing as 100% a choice, you have to make a choice. Laura Duck: 45:25 Either I need to make the choice to get help because I can't do this on my own or I can do this on my own or I can, I think I can and I can try. And then that's honestly like what made me heal so much through my grief is like one day you just had an epiphany and I was like, okay. And like there's, there's one quote that really helped me, it's like everyday might not be good, but there's something good in every day. And I know it sounds Cliche, but like if you really try to find the good in every day, you realized that like grief is a journey and the outcome is so much better. Like it's worth any type of like pain. I mean that's just my view. And then eventually the more you keep choosing to be happy, it becomes less of a choice and you're just more, it can be to that because people were like, how are you like in a good place? And I'm like, Oh, I just tried and now I just am like a way of life. Yeah. I always say that people ask me similar questions. I'm like, where you kind of like fake it until you make it like you kind of Kat: 46:36 yes, yes. No, it's gotta be to be Laura Duck: 46:39 fun. It's going to be fine. And then one day wake up and it's fine. And you think, yeah, like you kind of positive mental attitude to get yourself in that zone where you just get, yeah, get to a point that you say where it just, it's good. Need to try to make it good or consciously make it good. It just, it, it's fine. Well, I think, um, I went through a stage actually last year, may be able to fall. No, last year, um, I got so like literally obsessed with being positive, being happy, being with Julius Person. Like I was so obsessed with it. I'm not in like a fake way. Like I just genuinely was really everything I did had to be fully like passion and purpose and constantly like so much energy. Um, and if I ever had like a bad day, I'd force myself through it. And as good as that was an is you also do have to allow yourself to have a day where you're just like, do you know what? I feel a bit shit say and that's okay. Um, I'm going to lay in bed all day because that's what I want to do. But tomorrow is a new day. And on the smash, it's modern. So it's like finding that balance between, not constantly, like brainwashing yourself into being or feeling a way that you've done, um, and allowing yourself to stay if you didn't have a bit of a cry or a bad day because you're just exhausted. Kat: 48:07 Oh my God. That's so funny. You hit the nail on the head. I literally, I have that. I also say, um, oh, on the random side note, how did you get in Laura Duck: 48:17 to blogging? I've always written like, even before mum died, before mom was l I just always kind of wrote, had a diary. Um, and then, um, before, must have been before I just used to write about probably like boys. Typical. Yeah. It's typical girly stuff. And then my mom died. I started writing, um, anonymous on, um, what is it? It's not, oh, that's a really old, like social media from like my space. I think it was my space. Oh God. Holding. Yeah. Um, like anonymously, just writing these different like, um, entries. Um, and I just was obsessed with also doing like the different, like decoding or might make you my patients in different. Um, and then, um, and then I went on to just like, yeah, other kind of writing platforms like wordpress and things, um, just as an outlet. Um, and I enjoy writing any way, like I enjoy, um, I've always been quite good with words I guess. Well, so much speaking right. And when I put times but it down on paper as much. Um, but yeah, so I just started writing and then I found that the expectation of say weekly entries or like, um, putting my URL out there or something, it meant that while I was writing was really forced. Um, and I didn't show like a week went by and I didn't show to write. I felt like I wasn't doing what I said to the world I was going to do, if that makes sense in a way. Kat: 50:03 Uh, no. Yeah. And it makes perfect sense. Laura Duck: 50:05 Yeah. And then I started my Instagram page, um, because it's just like in little snippets, little captions like you can like more or less or the pitcher can tell it all. Um, and again, that was anonymous. I didn't have any of my friends and family on that page on the until recently, um, to, cause I felt that way I could be a lot more honest. Um, with what I was saying. Um, cause I know when I used to write like Facebook state, since for example, I've got like my uncle and my Auntie and my dad and my granddad or saying, well I'm saying a lot of the time, my words type towel or a lot more honest than my words out loud. Um, so my wads typed out would sound ready dark. Um, and then they'd call me back. All right. And I'm like, yeah, I'm great. Thanks. You right. You having a good day? Not all. Like that doesn't add out. Like you're niche, you're pouring your heart out, typing but with your words or, okay. Oh, so it kind of hurt them a little bit to see the true side of me, I guess. Um, but yeah, so it's just an outlet. And, um, Instagram allows you to kind of do it in different ways and as and when there's no kind of expectations and it's just kind of bash for people to relate to to. Um, so yeah. Kat: 51:31 Oh my God, it's so funny that you say that. It's very, very important to find her outlet. And I feel like finding your outlet as almost an accident because you know what you like like in life and then you've like randomly right one day or talk one day about your grief and your like, holy hell this is like super comforting and then you should make it a thing and then boom, there you go. You have a blog. Laura Duck: 51:56 Hmm. It's funny though cause I'm just thinking now as you were speaking like it's almost just with the times because if I was me 20 years ago, how would I, or maybe longer ago how would I have chosen to express how I was feeling because it wouldn't be some social media cause that wasn't a thing. So yeah, Kat: 52:19 that's very true. I mean yeah, probably could have written but I might not have been able to write online. Laura Duck: 52:25 This is it. I'm like, that is some sort of, um, what is the word? Like smell satisfaction sounds really wrong. But in terms of like putting my words out there and then someone else, they're not, I'm just so glad you said that. That's 100% like I get you or I'm so glad you said that has made me feel so much better. That's fun. So I say satisfaction. I know it doesn't sound like there's a lot of cognitive, the right word, but there's something in that that kind of makes it more purposeful. Makes it, um, I guess Kat: 53:00 exactly. As long as I'm doing something them right in the world. Laura Duck: 53:02 Yes. 100% where it's like when you write on paper and no one else reads it, it's almost like it's there and that's all it is. It doesn't say, Kat: 53:10 yeah, I mean it serves you, but when you can ask yourself and other people, then why not 100%? Yeah, no, that's so true. So where people, where can people find your blog? And I used to try an Instagram. Laura Duck: 53:25 Yeah. So, um, that's mainly where it all is now. Um, so my Instagram is just my full name, uh, which is Laura and it's such a cool name. Um, so yeah, and it's just like, it started off as like more of like I said by when I was obsessed with positively for if you would go right down to the bottom, it's all very much like, yeah, it looks great, everything's fine. But saying like the last six months, um, maybe a little bit before Christmas and maybe lost like eight months, um, it's become a lot more of like an honest outlet. I say when I'm having a bad day, I say when I'm having a good day, I'll say when I'm having a day that has nothing to do with my mom. Like it doesn't necessarily have to be grief related, which I've learned. Um, and yeah, it's, um, Kat: 54:14 it's all be grief related, even if you don't mean for it to be. Laura Duck: 54:19 Exactly. Yeah. And people read it differently. And I've met like, there are people that I have in my dad's like, just messaging me. I had one girl messaged me the other day and she was so sweet. She's met. She's a psych. Thank you so much. Feel vulnerability for sharing. Like please never stop. And I just thought for me, I'm just posting a picture and throwing a true like a few words and it really like helps people in like this. So encouraging. Yeah. So Nice. Kat: 54:48 It's just like, okay, I feel so much better now. Thank you. I'm glad. I'm really glad I can help people. Um, is there anything else that you want to leave with the listeners? Laura Duck: 54:59 Um, I guess, um, depending on, I'd say like I was saying was time, like how long it's been, I fell and I want anyone who is like two you had done line 10 years down the line. 20 is downline. I want everybody to feel that their feelings are valid and even if like for example, me being a his own, I sometimes feel like, well I'm feeling question be fit in this way anymore. Like I should be over it. But that's not lie. And I just, yeah, whether no matter how long it's been grief is continuous, it's always going to be that whether you feel positively or negatively towards it is always going to be that. And it's just a case of kind of like London to live with it. Um, nodding about yourself, like self-awareness and you'll traits and like everything like that. But yeah, just I want everybody who's listening today to feel valid in what that feeling and I will guys. Kat: 56:00 Wow. Well thank you. Okay. I'm just going to let that nation, but he can think on it and yeah, pretty much go from there. Well thank you so much for being on the show. It was about Laura Duck: 56:11 last name Kat: 56:12 and I love learning about your story. Laura Duck: 56:15 Yeah, no, I feel like conflict in that way being recorded. Like I feel like I'm just chatting to, it's been great. Kat: 56:22 Oh, I'm glad. Kat: 56:24 Hey friend, I hope you enjoyed this episode. 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Laura Powers was born in the same part of France as one of the world’s most famous psychics: Joan of Arc. In a sense, it was her destiny to become a clairvoyant. But just like all journeys, Laura had to overcome many obstacles before finding her true path.   Having been thin all her life, at 30 years old Laura was on the edge of obesity. She had gained a ton of weight, and nothing she did was helping her lose it. She had bad skin, sleep problems, leaky gut, and PCOS. She was also unemployed and in a toxic marriage.   So how did she heal her body and transform her life to become a celebrity psychic, model, writer, actress, singer, producer and podcaster?   She tuned in, listened to her intuition, and connected with her guardian angels. There are angels everywhere, just waiting for you to reach out and ask for guidance. When she did, they answered. Knowing she wasn’t alone gave Laura the courage to make choices from a place of love and hope.   She transformed her diet, quitting diary, soy and wheat. Did you know gluten is one of the major factors in inflammation? And where there’s inflammation, there’s chronic disease. For Laura, this inflammation was so severe than after she quit wheat, she didn’t just lose weight, she dropped two shoe sizes! And then she discovered the she had parasites (Laura used Dr. Todd’s Microbe Formulas to get rid of these, and a huge tape worm!).   But healing has to be holistic to be complete - that means you have to go beyond diet and exercise to really heal. Take excess weight, for example. The body stores toxins in fat cells, as a way of protecting your organs from toxic damage. So if you’re in a toxic situation, or surrounded by toxic people, your body hangs on to that fat - no amount of dieting and working out will help. Until you do the inner work. When Laura left her marriage, she lost 30 pounds almost instantly.   Your emotions literally change the chemical structure of your cells with every single thought. If you don’t believe us, check out The Hidden Messages in Water. This groundbreaking work involved meditating over water, sending it either love or hate, and then taking photographs of the water molecules. The water that had been loved showed perfectly crystalized patterns. The water that had been hated was chaotic, misshapen and fragmented. We are made up of over 80% water. So what do you think is happening to your body when you are constantly hating it, or if you’re stuck in self-doubt, or are always criticizing yourself or someone else? Or if you’re always around negative people? Exactly. That’s why it’s so important to do the inner work, and take a step back from toxic relationships. Connecting with your intuition and psychic wisdom really helps with this.   How to access psychic wisdom: Find some quiet time and pay attention to your intuitive messages. Don’t be afraid - you’re not trapped in any situation. Ask angels for guidance - they’re all around, just waiting to help you. Practice, the Universe is always trying to communicate with you. If you pay attention, you’ll notice the signs. It’s a conversation: ask! Book a psychic reading with Laura.   On the next episode, Laura’s back to talk about ghosts, angels and manifesting! Make sure you tune in!   Being hailed as “Sex and the City for Food,” The Food Heals Podcast brings together experts in the field of nutrition, health and healing to teach you the best-kept natural secrets to being a hotter, healthier, happier YOU!   The Food Heals Podcast is hosted by Allison Melody and Suzy Hardy – two self-proclaimed natural chicks who will rock your world and change your beliefs about health! This sexy, savvy duo provides eco-friendly advice on a variety of issues including the healing power of nutrition, living authentically, turning your passion into your career, choosing the best natural health and beauty products, the benefits of a plant-based diet and so much more!

Guests: Dr. Henry Ngo & Laura Ngo Now that the second season of Star Trek: Discovery has wrapped up, it's time to look forward to the multitude of Trek shows in development. For Laura and Henry Ngo, the announcement of a brand-new Section 31 series is a dream come true. Mike sits down with this dynamic duo to discuss what they enjoyed about Section 31 in past iterations of Trek and what their hopes are for the upcoming series. Follow us on Twitter! Mike: @Miquai Henry: @AstroDino

Today's episode is an extra special Valentine's day episode; Cody and Justin throw out all common sense by letting their significant others come on and give you an unfiltered behind the scenes look at what it's like to date someone so determined to retire young. While the girls take plenty of jabs at the guys, we think you'll also get some great insight on how to make money conversations with your significant other much more productive and approachable. Running behind on a Valentine's day gift? Just fire up this episode and grab a glass of wine for the perfect date night! Oh, and don't forget to say happy birthday to Cody! Episode Summary Laura’s parents weren’t into personal finance but she did understand being frugal and buying only what you need Leslie’s mom was big on spending money on experiences and things that were important but at the same time spending smart When Leslie first met Justin she noted how he asked even on the first date was asking questions about what her spending habits are Justin also used a coupon in combo with $2 beer night on their 2nd date Laura talked about her first dates with Cody involved using these free vouchers from Cody’s dad Laura sometimes felt like she was being difficult because she knew she was recommending a restaurant or activity that Cody wouldn’t normally do Then they start tackling positives on meeting someone so frugal Leslie talks about how much more travel it has opened up a ton of travel and how it’s not so much about the total of money but more about maximizing the money so maybe you go on two trips instead of one Laura talks about how dating Cody has changed her habits in relation to finances A common theme is being more intentional with money but at the same time teaching the guys to not stress so much over the small stuff Leslie talks about the importance of us splitting things and how you don’t have to feel like one person is pulling the weight Justin and Leslie say they probably speak about money in some form almost daily Laura mentions that sometimes it can seem overwhelming to talk about finances so much but she appreciates it and it’s better to be aware Then the guy’s swap the conversation to how the ladies have changed their lives Cody mentions things like charity and international volunteering Justin talks about opening up a little on the groceries and when something seems important to Leslie to just do it since they’re already so optimized Justin and Leslie discuss how their financial discussions first started which was spurred about because of Leslie changing jobs For Laura, Cody tried initially with straight numbers which didn’t really work but then once he introduced her to travel hacking it had her hooked The approach of bland numbers was also an unsuccessful attempt by Justin but he too realized the outcome was key. They started focusing on how they wanted life to be and things were a lot clearer Laura talks how Cody talked her into going to Camp FI by spinning it into a vacation Then they talk about how important it is for the guys to also support their passions Laura dreams of working in public works in places like Cambodia Then they discuss how the ladies feel and trust the numbers that the guys are steering to and how they’d feel about not working for upwards of 60 years Leslie & Laura feel confident and also recognize how flexible they and their careers are They then discuss what people who aren’t as focused on financial independence or as experienced would like to hear from things like the podcast Laura & Leslie talk about tips to get your spouse on board with a journey to financial independence such as recognizing things that are important to the other person and not crossing that line when drawing down expenses Key Takeaways Appreciate their sacrifice: It's often easy to look at yourself and feel proud of how you might be shaping up the finances for you a...

In this episode we invite the newly crowned winners of The Wedding Industry Award Winners (in the video section of course) onto the show. For Laura, it’s her second time on the the show but third time she has appeared on a show and her husband Pete’s first time on. We discuss how they transitioned from Photography to Video so well, what Awards and Award wins means to them and how it has affected their business.   Congratulations again guys. Thoroughly well deserved.   Have a peek at their stuff! https://www.lawsonfilms.co.uk     Checkout our new website www.ourweekinvideo.com Social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ourweekinvideo/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ourweekinvideo/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ourweekinvideo Or send us an email at hello@owiv.me   We are also proudly sponsored by Mediazilla - Deliver an experience, not just a video. MediaZilla are an affiliate so you get to support the show and continue its journey by selecting ‘Our Week In Video’ at the free Trial stage of signup. Please remember to select Our Week In Video.   Thank you for listening. SUBSCRIBE on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/our-week-in-video-video-production/id955970525?mt=2   To see our work, follow these links:   Ben’s http://www.brutoncoxmedia.com http://www.theweddingcut.com https://twitter.com/brutoncox   Rich’s http://www.auroravideo.co.uk https://twitter.com/auroravideo

When Laura Perez turned 35, she felt like she was running out of time. She was in a long-term relationship, but her partner already had children from a previous marriage and indicated that he didn’t want to have any more kids. So, Laura took things into her own hands and froze her eggs. For Laura, freezing her eggs was an empowering process that gave her peace of mind, and it also changed the nature of her relationship with her boyfriend (now husband!) Today’s host is Selena Campbell, Patient Care Supervisor at Progyny. Guests include: Laura Perez from Progyny and Dr. Spencer Richlin from RMA of CT. For more information, visit Progyny's Podcast page http://www.progyny.com/podcast Have a question, comment, or want to share your story? Email us at thisisinfertility@progyny.com

I’m super excited to introduce Laura Vanderkam to the podcast. I’m a HUGE fan and I’ve wanted to get her on the show since I started out. Laura is the talented author of several time management and productivity books – I’ve read them all! She is here to guide us through life by saying, "Hey! It can be tough, but there’s so many different ways to manage our time and make things easier." I feel like I already know so much about Laura from her inspirational podcast, "The Best of Both Worlds." I’m always searching for podcasts about successful women and how they do it (aren’t we all?) and this is where I discovered Laura. The podcast is all about loving our families and our jobs as one, a concept that’s often presented as oppositional, but this one aims to prove it doesn’t have to be that way. Laura and her co-host Sarah Hart-Unger have taught me so much, not only about organizing my life for the better, but also giving me the confidence to speak up and stand my ground on the things that are important to me. Can You Have It All? Well, according to Laura – yes, you can. Not only that, she tells you how to hit it out of the park. My personal light bulb moment was coming across, "What Most Successful Women Do Before Breakfast," one of Laura’s books. To me, the content really makes sense. It’s about loving harmonizing your family and career, helping out, being flexible, and organizing your time to allow you to feel fulfilled in every part of your life. Grab Those Goalposts Use goals to manage your time. I’m a big believer that you can pretty much do whatever you want if you pick a goal and set steps to make it work. I definitely look at my time differently now thanks to Laura. Unfortunately, good things don’t just appear like magic. You need to think about how you’re realistically going to get to where you want to be. Set manageable targets within achievable timeframes and the goal setting process will start to flow. The book "I Know How She Does It" is really good for this. Prioritizing Family Time – Anytime Talking about looking at time differently, I love the concept of shaking things up. A simple change can affect your life dramatically. For example, if you feel like you’re missing out on quality time with your family, why not try making your meal time together at the beginning of the day. There’s so much pressure for family meals to be in the evening, but this can happen at any other time. How about breakfast? Breakfast food is fun and often people, especially children, are in a better mood in the morning. So it really can be a great option for busy families to have that time to sit together. Work out what works best for you and your family and shake it up. Looking At Your Time Differently Who knew the middle of the week was Thursday evening? I know, right?! This is a game changer. Laura explains that if you start from Monday morning, the midpoint of the week is really Thursday evening, even though it feels like the end of the week. For Laura, managing time is about balance. What does balance mean to you and how can you achieve it? Don’t be leisurely about your leisure time. It’s not about scheduling things you have to do – it’s about scheduling things you WANT to do! While she doesn’t suggest planning every part of your life, sometimes we do need to schedule our free time. If you want to go for a run, factor in that 20 minutes somewhere. Laura also says it’s important not to blame anyone else. You are in control. Don’t use the kids as an excuse for not being able to do things. I pick 1-3 things I want to accomplish and look at how that fits in with the family – at least then I’m in the equation. We need to think about ourselves. The Great Sleep Debate – Are We Getting Enough? I was inspired by Laura tracking her sleep over a couple of years and had every intention of tracking my sleep for 2 weeks – I ended up doing 2 nights! I’ve always said I need 6/7 hours, but the issue is I love sleeping in on the weekends. The purpose of Laura’s study was to see, in actual numbers, what the life of a professional woman looks like. It turns out, we have a lot more free time than we think. It’s how we use that time that’s key. Outsource The Things That Actually Take Up Your Time We need to ask ourselves, where are we actually spending most of our time? It’s likely to be picking up laundry or doing the daily house chores, but we definitely need to look beyond the obvious if we want to save time. Many of you know that I used to organize people professionally. I’d get constant calls from women asking me why they suddenly felt overwhelmed by the housework, despite work not changing and their kids being older. The reason was mostly because they’d gotten rid of the nanny who had been looking after the kids AND the housework. Often, they’d just need a part-time housekeeper to fill the gap and they’d be back on track. Laura points out that those little jobs we often multitask are actually taking up tons of valuable hours that we could be spending elsewhere. She says to set aside a time and, if it’s not done in that time, it’s probably not that important. We definitely underestimate the hours it takes to sort the home, but give yourself credit for doing that activity, whether you outsource it or not. Putting You In Control If something’s not done, I feel like it’s my problem. I know that I often put that on myself. I’m sure many of you can relate, but Laura says there’s always a choice and I think that is so important to remember. Sometimes you are doing this to yourself and you can take back control. Balancing family, free time, and chores can be overwhelming. What I LOVE about Laura is that not only does she have great ideas for managing your time effectively, she’s able to make me see that I can’t do it all. I’m WORKING And best of all – that’s ok! Looking Forward The next book from Laura is called "Off The Clock" and it comes out on May 29th. It’s a time study about tracking time and how people look at their lives. How do people spend their time differently? Laura found that people who felt like they had a lot of time had done something different or memorable. They felt like they had more time because they were doing something with their time that they actually remembered. The conclusion was that when you do this, your time actually expands. I LOVE it! The date is already on my calendar to get it. To find out more about Laura Vanderkam, click here. Follow me on Facebook and on Instagram – I’m currently addicted to Instagram Stories! View the complete post here: https://organize365.com/213

For this week’s Creative Lives podcast, we spoke to photographer Laura Pannack at her home in London. She tells us what a typical day looks like as a freelancer and reflects on her path into photography. Laura’s work often captures intimate and candid moments, dealing with sensitive social themes, such as self esteem in adolescents, young love or lesser-documented groups of people, like young naturists. Her photographs have been exhibited at The National Portrait Gallery, The Houses of Parliament, Royal Festival Hall and internationally; and have attracted recognition from a long list of highly sought-after awards – including the World Press Photo Awards, The Sony World Photography Awards and The Royal Photographic Society award for notable achievement in a British photographer under 35. For Laura, shooting is part of a continual process of overcoming challenges and developing, explaining that it won’t always be the most exciting projects that become the most rewarding. On top of ongoing personal work (shot almost entirely on film), commissions can range from editorial jobs for Time magazine, The Guardian and the Wall Street Journal, to commercial shoots for brands like Samsung, Dove, Barnardos and AXA. Admitting that she still gets nervous before shooting, Laura discusses why bravery and acting on curiosity have been so beneficial to her path, and imparts her advice on staying “a little bit scared” when it comes to new projects. Lecture in Progress is an online resource that inspires and informs the next generation of creatives by providing practical advice and day-to-day insight into the industry. This podcast series features creatives sharing what they do and how they got to where they are. This episode of Creative Lives was was presented by Indi Davies and the producer was Ivor Manly. Lecture in Progress is made possible by the support of a number of brand patrons – they include GF Smith, Squarespace and The Paul Smith Foundation. Check out lectureinprogress.com for more details.

Laura and Devin had only been married for three years when Laura’s youngest sister, Annie, came to live with them.  Annie has Down syndrome and was 13 years old when her mother passed away. Laura and Devin share the positive impact Annie has had on their family and their lives by living with them. Sister Turned Guardian  Growing up with a sister with a disability Laura was eight years old when her youngest sister Annie was born.  It came as a surprise to the family when they learned that Annie had Down syndrome.  Annie, a fraternal twin, was the only one with a diagnosis.  Annie had a great relationship with most of her siblings.  For Laura, their relationship was slower growing. Laura said, “I remember one night laying on my bed crying, and my mom came in and asked what was wrong.” Laura was sad that she didn’t feel connected to any of her siblings.  Her mom advised her to pick someone and spend time with them to help grow their relationship. Laura picked Annie. She said, “As I did that, Annie and I just got closer and closer.” Their relationship was something that ended up changing the course of both of their lives.  Losing two family members in one year When Laura was in her early 20’s when her mom and her younger brother were both diagnosed with cancer.  Daniel, her brother had leukemia and her mom had breast cancer. They both were in remission when Laura married Devin.  Unfortunately three months after they got married, Daniel was re-diagnosed with leukemia and passed away three weeks after he was re-diagnosed. The impact of losing Daniel was significant on the family.  Especially for Annie, Laura said, “It was devastating for our whole family..Annie took it horribly; it was her twin brother, and people say that twins had a special bond and they do.” The family then suffered another significant loss.  Laura’s mother was re-diagnosed with breast cancer and diagnosed with lung cancer, bone cancer and brain cancer.  She passed away nine months after Daniel leaving a massive hole in the family. Taking over for your parent Before their mom passed away, she was able to talk about her wants and wishes for Annie.  Laura recalls, “ She had these goals for Annie, and she would make them happen. She had envisioned this life for Annie and talked about it so much.  Almost everything has happened.”  After losing their mom, Laura and her other sister Emily became what they called it ‘a power team.’ They took over caring for the youngest two siblings who were still in school.  Emily was paired up with Julia and Laura helped with Annie. Laura had recently started her education as a special ed teacher and knew some of the IEP process. This helped Laura navigate through Annie’s schooling. Becoming your sister's legal guardian Early on in their relationship, Laura made sure that Devin was okay with Annie coming to live with them at some point.  Laura recalled, “..as things got more serious and we were engaged, before we got married I said, ‘I just want you to know that if we get married, you have to be okay with eventually down the line being willing to have Annie in our home.’ He said, ‘Yeah, of course, I’d be happy to have her.’ Devin was always great with Annie.”  Three years after Laura married Devin, Annie came to live with them. When Annie turned 18, they obtained guardianship. Annie becoming part of their family became a gradual process that has benefited both Annie and Laura and Devin. The impact of having an aunt with Down syndrome When Annie first moved into Laura and Devin’s house, they didn’t have children of their own.  Fast forward to today, they have three. Laura said, “Annie has always had an amazing relationship with our kids...we call Annie ‘the baby whisperer’ because she can put any kid to bed and helps them fall asleep so well and easily.” Somedays Annie is the aunt and more of an authoritative figure to their children.  Other days, she is a sibling. Devin said, “They’ll fight and bicker,

In the first half, Patricia interviews Laura Holmes Haddad, a recent survivor of stage IV breast cancer and author of This Is Cancer:Everything You Need to Know, From the Waiting Room to the Bedroom. Laura discusses how to parent with cancer, how to manage a marriage or relationship, how to travel during treatment, how to prepare for this transition, and how to thrive in survivorship. In the second half, Patricia interviews Erika Flint, an award-winning hypnotist, author, speaker and co-host of the popular podcast series Hypnosis, Etc. She discusses her book, Reprogram Your Weight:Stop Thinking About Food All the Time, Regain Control of Your Eating, and Lose the Weight Once and For All, unveiling how hypnosis taps into an individual's inherent power for weight loss success. She also reveals five ways hypnosis can redirect subconscious motivations for unhealthy eating.

In the first half, Patricia interviews Laura Holmes Haddad, a recent survivor of stage IV breast cancer and author of This Is Cancer:Everything You Need to Know, From the Waiting Room to the Bedroom. Laura discusses how to parent with cancer, how to manage a marriage or relationship, how to travel during treatment, how to prepare for this transition, and how to thrive in survivorship. In the second half, Patricia interviews Erika Flint, an award-winning hypnotist, author, speaker and co-host of the popular podcast series Hypnosis, Etc. She discusses her book, Reprogram Your Weight:Stop Thinking About Food All the Time, Regain Control of Your Eating, and Lose the Weight Once and For All, unveiling how hypnosis taps into an individual's inherent power for weight loss success. She also reveals five ways hypnosis can redirect subconscious motivations for unhealthy eating.

If someone told you they were starting a franchise, what would be the first thing that came to mind – Mc Donalds, Chick-Fil-A, 7 Eleven? When you start to look into the world of franchises, you’ll be surprised at what you’ll find. These days they come in all different shapes, sizes and niches.  Today the guys chat with Laura Novak, owner of Little Nest Portraits Franchise, about starting a franchise. She talks to us about how her franchisees work, why she decided to go franchise and what systems she has put in place to make them successful. Why Franchise Laura started out as a photographer when she was only 23 years old and grew her passion into a successful small business of her own. As the years went on, she wanted to spend more time with her family and was ready to build a business that was bigger than her. For most entrepreneurs, it’s hard to let go control of their business. After being approached by someone about opening another Little Nest location, Laura started to think about starting a franchise. Doing this would allow her to still be in the business, but its success wouldn’t be tied to her hours. There is a significant difference between working in the business and working in the business. It was well said by Michael E. Gerber from the book The E-Myth Revisited about The Franchise Model. “It is a proprietary way of doing business that successfully and preferentially differentiates every extraordinary business from every one of its competitors. In this light, every great business in the world is a franchise.” Laura began to see fasting growing franchises in the women’s services sector such as workout studios and blow out salons. These companies were giving women the chance to have successful careers while being in control of their schedules and lives. She wanted to help people do what they love while balancing their families and home. With Little Nest Portraits she wanted to empower others and offer them a chance to be a successful and profitable entrepreneur. She has opened three locations, and there are a few more in works. How It Works With a franchise, you are for the most part trusting your brand in other people’s hands, so it’s super important to find the right people. The Little Nest vetting process is pretty extensive. It starts with 3- hour long webinars to get to know a little more about the candidates and give them the opportunity to learn about the company. Next, Laura will spend a day together with the candidate in person to learn even more about each other’s values. During these meetings, she looks for qualifiers such as level of management experience. There is already a lot to learn about the business itself, so she needs someone who already knows how to manage people successfully. They also need a decent amount of business experience and understand the basics. Most importantly, personal values need to match. All these things help Laura determine if an individual can capitalize the business. She has found the best owners do not have much experience with photography but instead have excellent sales skills, and of course, a passion for running their own business. Laura and her team provide weekly reports to all branches to show how everyone is performing. Franchises are all about partnership. The location owners success is also her success. Laura and her team provide owners with proven systems to support the growth of the business from marketing to customer service to decor. They want to give franchisees all they need to run a Little Nest successfully. Costs Some franchises require you to have a certain amount of assets as well as liquid funds to purchase a branch. For Laura and her team, all they are concerned with is if the franchise can get the appropriate fu... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Miranda, Jeff, James and special guest host Joe discuss Heroes Reborn – Episode 8 - June 13th, Part Two   Welcome Back Joe - a founding cast member! (See the awesome timeline he made for Jeff below) HRG stepping on butterflies, or just one really big butterfly?? Shoot first, apologize (sort of) later. Joe and James question the believabilitly of the time travel in the show... James' time travel movie recommendation - Looper Notice the clock on the wall with the two HRGs! Plot devices vs Storytelling - Wonder Twins Activate Quentin is a bad guy now... results of the butterfly effect! Camera focus during news conference - on the background on purpose? Jim Carrey on In Living Color Quentin's motive - Does he have a chance for redemption or is he really a bad guy? Katana Girl's backstory is complete! Her "father" is her creator. Who's hotter - Kelly Lebrock as Lisa or Kiki Sukezane as Miko/Katana Girl Time travel "rules" - which version of time travel do you buy? That violence escalated quickly with Joanne and Luke. Mick the Ice Guy, we barely knew ya! Message of the day: Do not go to thank strangers in a hotel room with a closed door! Voicemail Break Gerry - Likes the episode where the group of characters is working toward the same goal. Craig -  MMOs necessitates the graphics be handled by a huge group of people... that's why it can't be perfect, so this fits in the weird cross section. Ren's cat mask could be a buff or be protection earned in a quest, or possibly an icon for his fans to recognize him. Talks about the birth of Heroes Reborn as originally for streaming on Xbox and asks if perhaps that is why some fans are struggling with the plot and timing of the episode. Thinks that the backstory provides an explanation for why it would be better for binge watching vs week to week. And... we're back! The evil of cliffhangers - and how it possibly changed the timing of how they wanted to progress the story - plus the combo of trying to hearken back to the original series, season 1, both together made it more difficult to watch week to week Carlos, El Vengador's, backstory with Farrah - planned plot device vs filler - Redemption so that he is a real hero with or without abilities Matt Parkman is back! But he wasn't there for long - Joe also thinks he's using his ability all wrong. Plus, he's now selling his ability to the highest bidder. Slight tangent - Originally Joe thought HRG's glasses were part of his ability Nursing notes from Joe - Priority is patients not stupid question & if you want to go to the front of the ER line, tell them you can't breathe! Exactly how heavy is Casper's suitcase full of pennies? Pennies per pound Approximately 181 per pound... how many do you think he had! Memaw Petrelli and the wonder twins had a vision that gives us the zero hour for our major event! What information is Memaw keeping from Malina? Jupiter Ascending bee reference - For Laura :) 9th Wonders comic left to Tommy/Nathan from Hiro before he goes to a Gun fight with a sword, or two swords!   Joe's Handy Dandy (keep Jeff straight) Timeline! 1999 Hiro and Angela realize that the infant Nathan/Tommy has stolen Hiro's powers. They decide to split up and raise each of Claire's children separately. 2014 At the hospital, 2015 HRG tries to kill Erica, but is stopped by 2014 HRG. 2015 HRG shoots Erica in the leg, and gets back to stepping on butterflies. Quentin saves her from bleeding out & she allows him to see Phoebe. Harris & Matt Parkman (Greg Grunberg) interrogate the 2014 HRG. Caspar wipes 2014 HRG's memory before Matt can find out where Claire’s children are - or that there are two. Matt has a heart and lets them escape. Afterwards, HRG is back at the wreckage, and we see where he met his 2015 wife. Luke & Joanne character building.

In Episode 3 of "Managers of Tomorrow," we accompany Laura to Berlin's Carnival of Cultures. For Laura from Argentina, the annual event represents what she likes best about Berlin: a big city multicultural atmosphere. After a day off, it's back to work. At the ESMT students are also assigned a coach, who analyzes their individual strengths and weaknesses.