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How do Hijackals make you second-guess yourself and question your sanity? Basic to them doing that is the two patterns in this episode of Save Your Sanity. Recognizing them in all their forms can help you in Escaping the Hijackal Trap.Hijackals are ALWAYS defending themselves, whether they need to or not. They are ALWAYS DEFENSIVE. Always on the alert for anything that could vaguely pass as shame coming their way. That makes for a volatile, tense person laying in wait to accuse of thing they did not do. Sound familiar? Emotional intimacy is too much of a threat to a Hijackal, so they use these two big strategies to keep the truth from emerging. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Two HUGE blocks to emotional intimacy5 ways Hijackals deny the truthI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #preventemotionalintimacy #whynarcissistslie #whynarcissistsdeny #lyinganddenying. #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
What is a Hijackal®? Have you ever heard of that term? Whether you have heard about it or not, you probably have experienced it. Hijackals® are “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.” Do you want to make it stop? Join me and Rhoberta Shaler tonight Aug 24, 2021, at 6:30 pm Mountain time for an incredible journey as we discuss 2 of her 16 books: Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Kaizen for Couples: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain, and Strengthen Your Relationship. The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D., provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help! Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.” Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home, and at work. Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and, Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she is the host of the popular podcast, listened to in more than seventy-five countries: Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks. Dr. Shaler's work has been featured on PsychCentral, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Your Tango, The Good Men Project, and eHarmony, among many others. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and tips for relationships and has reached over a half million views. WEBSITES AND SOCIAL MEDIA: Website and Blog: ForRelationshipHelp.com Podcast: SaveYourSanityPodcast.com Facebook: @RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: @RhobertaShaler Pinterest: @RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler Clubhouse: @DrShaler
Travel Gluten Free Podcast Episode 133 Eating gluten-free, soy-free and dairy-free with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Welcome to the Travel Gluten Free Podcast, where you can listen in on how to lead a gluten-free lifestyle with more fun and ease! Travel Gluten Free gives you valuable information from finding a safe restaurant to knowing what food is safe to eat when you travel; I'll be with you every step of the way on your gluten-free journey. Lead your gluten-free life, don't let being gluten-free lead your life. Enjoy Food, Enjoy Travel, and Enjoy Life with your show host, Elikqitie! In this episode, I'm chatting with Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, who provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She helps people on the journey from recognizing to recovering and rebuilding after toxic relationships. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity. Widely published and author of sixteen books, including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! Crazy-Making; she is the host of the internationally popular podcast: Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 470,000 views. After doing her own research into her health issues, Rhoberta found out gluten was the culprit of her poor health. A couple of years later, she found that dairy and soy were also causing her health issues, so she took those out of her diet. Next came sugar, and when she removed sugar, she lost weight and felt healthier. We talk about how she substitutes salt, sugar, and fats in her diet, the importance of eating clean and organic foods. Listen in to find out which gluten-free restaurants she recommends when traveling out to San Diego and the surrounding area and where to get the best chicken waffles. Learn how Rhoberta creates her own food with her dehydrator and how to make your own gluten-free flour blend. The Guide to Traveling Gluten Free Are you anxious about traveling with Celiacs Disease? Does the thought of getting sick on vacation worry you to no end? Unsure of what travel options are safe and how to choose a safe restaurant away from home for you and your children? The Guide to Traveling Gluten Free will walk you through the process of planning and enjoying your next gluten-free travel adventure! Take the guesswork out of how to travel, where to go, and how to eat safely when you follow the information in my guide. Whether you are celiacs or gluten intolerant, my guide will give you handy information to delight in your next vacation experience! Learn how to take a trip safely, what questions to ask when you are at a restaurant and which online tools and apps to utilize to find safe, dedicated gluten-free restaurants and food options. Find out what stores to shop at to purchase gluten-free food, determine if a restaurant is gluten-free or celiac friendly, and when you should walk out of a restaurant. Connect with Dr. Shaler Visit Rhoberta Shaler on the web Follow Gluten Free Dave on Instagram Check out Cenote Grill in San Marcos Find out more about Nectarine Grove Look for The Himalayan Kitchen Lotus Cafe in Encinitas Journey with Travel Gluten Free Grab the Guide to Traveling Gluten Free Get the BEST all-natural gluten-free travel cosmetics at Lemongrass Spa! Find cool gluten-free swag in my new shop here Visit my Travel Deals page on my website Support Travel Gluten Free on Patreon Travel Gluten Free on Social Media Twitter Facebook Youtube Pinterest Instagram On the Web Spread the love of Travel Gluten Free podcast and share this episode with a friend ***Disclaimer: All content found on the Travel Gluten Free Website, including text, images, audio, or other formats were created for informational purposes only. Material contained on Travel Gluten Free website, podcast, and social media postings are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard or delay seeking professional medical advice, Travel Gluten Free website, podcast, and guests present content solely for educational and entertainment purposes, and use of this information is at your own risk.***
How we experience relationships of all kinds has everything to do with our productivity on every single level in life. Often a toxic relationship has to do with what Dr. Shaler has coined as being with a Hijackal. Join us and learn how to recognize a relationship that is not lifting us up. Many people who are not physically abused do not realize they are drawn to people (likely from what they experienced with their parents) who are often victims, and who are also sitting on the top of the hill, as she will tell us about – and everything runs downhill from them. In turn, we need to then do things that allow us to clarify our values and much more, like the vision for our life. Come find out if you are an enabler, and how to take a hard look at yourself and the quality of your life. It is our job to be happy! Dr. Shaler will teach us some strategies. Don't miss this episode! Guest Bio Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she hosts the internationally popular podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached a half million views. Social media links Dr. Rhoberta Shaler: Website: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com Podcast: SaveYourSanityPodcast.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rhoberta Twitter: https://twitter.com/rhobertashaler LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhobertashaler/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/rhobertashaler/_created/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drshaler/ Thanks for listening to the show! It means so much to us that you listened to our podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation, please email me at allen@drallenlycka.com or visit our Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/drallenlycka. We would love to have you join us there, and welcome your messages. We check our Messenger often. As a big thank you for being a guest on our podcast, we'd like to offer you a free copy of Dr. Lycka's bestselling book the show is built on “The Secrets to Living A Fantastic Life.” Get your free copy by clicking here: https://secretsbook.now.site/home We are building a community of like-minded people in the personal development/self-help/professional development industries, and are always looking for wonderful guests for our show. If you have any recommendations, please email us! Dr. Allen Lycka's Social Media Links Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/drallenlycka Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_allen_lycka/ Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drallenlycka LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allenlycka YouTube: https://www.YouTube.com/c/drallenlycka Subscribe to the show We would be honored to have you subscribe to the show - you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave a review We appreciate your feedback, as every little bit helps us produce even better shows. We want to bring value to your day, and have you join us time and again. Ratings and reviews from our listeners not only help us improve, but also help others find us in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes or your favorite app goes a long way! Thank you!
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She helps people on the journey from recognizing to recovering and rebuilding after toxic relationships. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity.Widely published and author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she is the host of the internationally popular podcast: Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over a half million views.WEBSITES AND SOCIAL MEDIA:Website and Blog: ForRelationshipHelp.comPodcast: SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFacebook: @RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: @RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: @RhobertaShalerPinterest: @RhobertaShalerInstagram: @DrRhobertaShalerClubhouse: @DrShaler
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity.Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 305,000 views.12 Ways Your Narcissistic Mother Lied to You About Who You AreSupport Josieology by sharing it with your friends on social media or via email.Let’s hang out!Instagram: @josieologypodcastFacebook: @josieologypodcastFacebook Group: josieology podcast private group - you’ll need the password to get in (password was mentioned in the episode)Website: www.josieology.comClick here to Follow the BlogContact Josie via email josie@josieology.com⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If you’re listening on Apple Podcasts, please take a moment to give Josieology a 5 star rating or leave a review! Thank you so much!
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler is the relationship health doctor, she provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships and advise. Her mission is to provide insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences which transform relationships with themselves and other humans. To be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping partners, executives, exes, and enough children of relentlessly difficult, toxic people, she calls “hijackals” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity Author of 16 books including, “Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making.” She focuses the internationally popular podcast, “Save Your Sanity, Help on Toxic Relationships” a YouTube channel for relationships’ health has reached over 360,000 views.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts the internationally popular podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 350,000 views. In this episode we talk about: - When things go sideways in a relationship, they can range from annoying to downright crazy-making. When do I know I need help? - You make a distinction between difficult people and relentlessly difficult people. What’s the difference? - How to define a “Hijackals?” - What are the top few ways you can know if you’re with one, or related to one? - How to deal with a Hijackal in times like this when you can’t get away from them? - How to stay safe when living with a Hijackal. Get Dr. Shaler’s free EBook: “How to Spot a Hijackal” at https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/help-handling-hijackals-spot-signup/ To listen to the EXTRA portion of this show go to RealEstateInvestingForWomenExtra.com ------------------------------------------------------ Learn how to create a consistent income stream by only working 5 hours a month the Blissful Investor Way. Grab my FREE guide at http://www.BlissfulInvestor.com
In this episode, my guest is, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD. We will discuss how to identify if you are in a toxic relationship with a Hijackal. What your next steps should be so that you can start having a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Listen up, it is time to free yourselves of difficult, toxic people. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts the internationally popular podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 335,000 views. Guest Social Media links Instagram - @DrRhobertaShaler Facebook - @RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter - @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn - @RhobertaShaler Pinterest - @RobertaShaler Website – www.TransfromingRelationship.com Radio/Podcast: www.RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Speaker Site: www.RelationshipHelpDoctor.com Victoria Lowell is a financial advocate, coach, international bestselling author of “Empower your Worth: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Self-Worth and Net Worth.” and the founder of Empowered Worth, a financial-education platform that empowers women to become active participants in their own financial future and well-being. In late 2018 she left Wall Street and followed her passion to help women assert themselves fiscally. Her expertise in this field has led to her hosting this podcast, conferences and webinars, motivational speaking and being a guest on many tv, radio and podcast shows. Thanks for listening! It means so much to us that you listened to our podcast! If you would like to continue the conversation with us, head on over to www.empoweredworth.com . With this podcast, we are building a community of Empowered Women that we hope to inspire to a better their lives and take their place at the financial table. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us a review We appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value-adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from our listeners not only help us improve, but also help others find us in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!
The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work. Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and, Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she is the host of two popular podcasts listened to in more than fifty countries: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks.
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour , Sam welcomes Author and Relationship Expert, *Rhoberta Shaler, PhD*. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, *The Relationship Help Doctor* ( https://d2ag3jdu89hmr4.cloudfront.net/link_click/bDz4J1LMQN_9MeL8/e44fbd84458a0e7eb270f53284880578 ) , provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis ( https://d2ag3jdu89hmr4.cloudfront.net/link_click/bDz4J1LMQN_9MeL8/58e6739e77cf8ac2eff2172ed8f35929 ). Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls *Hijackals®* to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. *Author of sixteen books* including *Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop!* *That's Crazy-Making* , she hosts the internationally popular podcast, *Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships* ( https://d2ag3jdu89hmr4.cloudfront.net/link_click/bDz4J1LMQN_9MeL8/56ff1256d0272aa4bb7f10ab73f9540b ). Her YouTube channel, *ForRelationshipHelp* , has reached over 335,000 views. Tune in for this transformational discussion at TalkRadio.nyc ( http://www.talkradio.nyc/ ) or watch the Facebook Livestream by clicking here ( https://www.facebook.com/InspiredThoughtsWithSam/videos/663344524493179/ ). *Segment 1* The show opens with quotes from Abraham and the Universe, the human mind tends to overcomplicate things, looking for chaos in simplicity to make sense of our lives, but the Universe tells us that it's not that difficult, the most profound answers are found more than likely in the simple, straightforward messages the world gives us. Abraham, this week, urging patience, taking things slow, opportunity and possibility surrounds us in abundance and it's not going anywhere, hiding in places we don't always immediately see, and sometimes it's important to stick around to dig deeper to see if there's something more, which more than likely, there is. Sam then introduces the guest, Rhoberta Shaler. “Just because something is simple does not mean it's easy.” *Segment 2* Rhoberta reflects on her childhood, growing up in a dysfunctional household with a borderline mother and a narcissistic father, which sparked an interest in the chemistry behind these kinds of relationships. Rhoberta defines the term ‘hijackal' and how to identify if you're in a relationship with one, dissecting telltale signs and explaining how these traits are developed in one's youth, a conversation spurring about different kinds of abuse in relationships, Rhoberta describing how to speak up to your partner without outright instigating and shifting blame. *Segment 3* Rhoberta talks preparation when leaving a relationship with a hijackal examining relationships with their children, making sure you're leaving stable financially-speaking, learning the true scope of the abuse, and practicing aforementioned techniques to maneuver through confrontations. The conversation then travels to life after leaving the hijackal, repairing yourself spiritually and mentally after that relationship, different types of hijackal both overt and covert, how people get trapped in these relationships in the first place, and how to identify a hijackal before you get too deep into it. “Whip off those rose-tinted glasses because you can't see red flags.” *Segment 4* Now you're single and you're on your own, Rhoberta explains how this is the time that you take for yourself and stay out of relationships, see it as a time of peace, and urges to stay away and not communicate with the hijackal to avoid getting hooked back in. She explains how to escape falling into these kinds of relationships over and over again, recognizes patterns formed back in childhood, and suggests getting help from professionals on these matters. The show closes with Rhoberta explaining in greater detail how to deal with these situations when children are involved, outlining how to treat the children and how to portray the relationship with the estranged partner. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-conscious-consultant-hour8505/donations
Today’s guest is Dr. Roberta Shaler. As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Shaler, aka The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals! You can learn more about her at www.forrelationshiphelp.com. You can join our HIVE Community and begin Harnessing Integral Vibrational Energy for yourself by clicking HERE! Sign up for your Podcast Launch Breakthrough Call Today, and please be sure to check out our other podcasts: The PodQuest Show, Buy This - Not That! and Something to Wine About. Please, don’t forget to subscribe to Consciously Speaking so that you don't miss a single episode, and while you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! To learn more about our previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to www.MichaelNeeley.com and follow us on Facebook and Twitter.
TO READ TRANSCRIPT SCROLL TO THE BOTTOM OF THE PAGEIn episode #1 of the new Awaken The Possibilities Podcast, Host Terry Wildemann interviews Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on "Navigating the Holidays When Single". This scenario can be challenging, especially if you haven't prepared yourself. Rhoberta share wonderful insights and perspective that can assist singles, and their family members, to respect one another in ways that allow all to enjoy the holidays._____________________________________________________________________________________________________________About Dr. Shaler:Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to know why and how to transform relationship with themselves and with other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity.Widely published and author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two popular podcasts: Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 275,000 views._____________________________________________________________________________________________________________About Terry Wildemann:Terry Wildemann is the owner of Intuitive Leadership® and a Business and Resilience Accelerator, Speaker and Certified Executive Coach,Terry's specialty is working with tired, unhealthy workaholic entrepreneurs and professionals and helps them leap off the stress hamster and evolve into unstoppable stress resilient intuitive leaders. Terry’s timely message taps into how to integrate intuition, stress resilience, positive communications and leadership with grounded business systems that help her students to successfully and positively serve and influence others. Her leadership experience includes owning a manufacturing company, image consulting company, leadership and holistic education center.Terry is a best selling author of The Enchanted Boardroom: Evolve Into An Unstoppable Intuitive Leader. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________TRANSCRIPT welcome everyone to awaken the possibilities I'm your host Terry will demand and I'm really excited because this is the very first episode of the awaken the possibilities popped up podcast and I am delighted to have as my very first guest who helped me so much in creating the background in creating the set everything to do with the awaken the possibilities podcast Dr we're Burda Shaler we're Burda is a very good friend of mine and someone who I hold in very high esteem so to have her on as the very first episode as my very first gas is truly truly exciting so I like to tell you a little bit about her because she truly is a magnificent human being Dr Roberta Scheller PhD is known as the relationship help doctor and provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis our mission is to provide insights information and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationships with themselves and other humans to be honest respectable respectful and respectable I'm sure state in all ways even the United States marines have sought her help and as you know I'm a navy spouse so that means so much to me that our military who joined this much I regard as I do %HESITATION doctor Schiller focuses on helping the partner's exes an adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls hi jackals I love that word hi jackals to stop the crazy making and saving their sanity she is the author of sixteen books including escaping the Hyde Jekyll trap and stop that's crazy making she has two podcasts emotional savvy and save your sanity her YouTube channel for relationship help has reached over two hundred and ninety thousand views wow congratulations on your accomplishments for Burnett and thank you for being here %HESITATION is totally my pleasure I love talking with you and you to biz is a wonderful thing when our over three hundred and five thousand views and them that it's amazing to be able to give people some relief when they're up in the middle of the night wondering what's going on in their world and kind of tents and to have somewhere they can go to get information to feel safe to feel empowered and to feel that they can understand what's happening to them and that really is special because that can be such a clear scary place where things are going on around you and and it's completely chaotic and you know your head is just spinning you just don't know where to go what to say what to do how to behave and it can be quite frightening it absolutely is you know and if you have happened to be raised by high jackals or you're with one and your being your very best empathetic self you're going the extra mile you're reaching out you may be justifying people's poor behaviors and you think that you know that's a great way to create relationships it's so important to know when you've actually gone beyond what is reasonable and something that is healthy and when other people have invaded you too and your space in ways that are unhealthy and to be able to recognize those boundaries and sometimes those unhealthy ways our cultural are they not sure they certainly are I mean there's a distinction I teach negotiation for the university of Texas and and when I'm helping people in project management because is seeing MBA program you know we talk about the difference between a collectivist culture in an individualist culture and if you're in a collectivist cultures that means that the focus of the culture is that the family is more important than the individual and so then you could have differences between the males and female roles within that collectivist culture and it can be sometimes oppressive and it can have some patterns in it that are really unhealthy and then on the other side the individualist culture then people feel that they can do whatever and say whatever they want to each other because they have that right and then we don't know exactly what the rules are so it's really important yeah I find in most situations %HESITATION that it's truly important to listen to your intuition how you feel and a lot of us aren't given permission to be able to do that and when we do oh my god it can become even more chaotic requiring us to completely step away for Saturday's Centru well it certainly can be I mean I think you hit on a really important piece Terry is starting to believe that maybe your intuition your got your sense your first feeling your first read of something may be accurate and then because society has said so many things you might start second guessing that and you might start asking other people's opinion of what's good are right for you and you've already been told what's good are right for you but you're not listening yet so it's important to be open to listening to that so in that vein a lot of us are single during this time of year we are in the holiday season it is you know we've got Hanukkah on one side Christmas on the other side Kwan signed some of us don't even celebrate the holidays but when you're single that can be a double edged sword to some people oh my god it's wonderful he did work about a lot of family stuff but on the other hand there are those who are single who want to engage in the family stuff so I really see it as a double edged sword and one of the %HESITATION I really wanted to talk with you today about stress and being single during the holidays because as we were talking before the show you had mentioned well is there really enough time to do that because we haven't prepared well I'm sure there are a lot of singles who have been prepared themselves in mind body and spirit for being single in the holidays so input in this podcast up I think we may be able to we may be doing a service in that once you even recognize that you haven't prepared isn't that the first step well it certainly is in order to be able to say I'm in a different paradigm down maybe a whole lot of other people am I comfortable in my paradigms do I miss something terribly do I not know how to create it do I experience as you say thank one of the big things in my life that I'm so delighted with this Joe Morrow you know the joy of missing out but there are a whole lot of people who were in the formal world to the fear of missing out and so when they're not included that something they have to look at and it does it can you come from the place of I choose what I do where do you come from the place of nobody's choosing me and that's where the preparation as I get to know yourself well enough to know what your needs and wants are what your thoughts and feelings are and what you're moving toward what your beliefs are about all this and then what the cultural dictates you know is it is it he %HESITATION are you noticing a bunch of articles that are written about you know I'm so sorry if you're alone for the holidays well you know I have a wonderful relationship in my life but it doesn't include the holidays and I am like %HESITATION you know someone asked me today what he could do it I I was tomorrow because of Chris's Christmas tomorrow and I said well I plan on eating good foods not getting dressed and reading a good book what do you have a place to go no %HESITATION delightfully I don't but for some people that dislike I'm not included I haven't I don't have a place to go I don't have a tribe I feel left out and there's a whole Lotta should surround it so we have two examiners shoots that you should have a person you should be connected well what if you're not you know and let's talk for a minute to in this context about bright people super bright people they tend to be a bit of an out liar you know they don't fit in every situation nor do they want to and and they have to look at you know what are my preferences do I get my joy from deciding where I go or do I feel downtrodden when people don't invite me to go somewhere what is going on is there a lot of factors at play here the preparation is a big thing because we don't spend enough time buyers sellers you know talking about intuition well we also spend enough time listening to that but we don't spend enough time enquiring into ourselves who am I which way I want what represents me water may boundaries what are my values what's my vision for my life what are my next steps many people don't want to encounter themselves so they don't spend time in the quiet finding out who they are and what's up you know it's interesting that you say that about being in the quiet when alone is about twenty five years ago when we first moved here in Rhode Island my car radio stopped working and all of a sudden I had to learn how to sit and drive in silence and today twenty five years later when I'm driving with family in the car and then they turn the radio on I can't handle it thank the card that I had before the one that I have now didn't have a radio sports car and I never noticed when I bought it didn't come with the radio and then I thought well let me explore this and so like this I don't you know it really is once you learn how to be in quiet you can hear your thoughts you can really look at how you feel about different things you will allow things that you were masking before the bubble up to the surface and I really do believe that it's important whether you're in a relationship or not in a relationship with your single or not single whether you're with family or not family that you own that part of yourself and but you can only own it once you know it yeah and and that's the whole point of preparation and %HESITATION if you if you can spend time with yourself like so many times %HESITATION clients all over the world because I work through video conferencing I'll say which is Quincy it quietly what what how long do I have to do that for and you know start with two minutes and then we'll talk about it in you know I lead them to answer the question is your real fear of finding out who you are and you don't want to do that is it that you're you know what are you busy about what is it that you must get up and do that will distract you from knowing yourself and is a really stemming from a fear of I don't know who will find when I spend time with myself and I might not like it so I think I'll go and put in the laundry and sweep the carport you know now one thing I do now it's interesting you said that about I'll go put the laundry in suite the carport one thing I do know is there are that there are folks of which I'm married to one who loves constant momentum and while he's doing things with his hands and doing different tasks I can see him in his mind just reviewing things in reviewing things M. processing and thinking so that action of doing mindless work actually assist him to engage internally that often happens for people have it's not that that they need the distraction of that it is that they have a kinesthetic need to be doing something that allows them then to let their mind go free you know when we look at the different modalities of how people process information kinesthetic people you know they're the people in school %HESITATION always tapping their pen or their food or something driving you crazy but the thing is that if you don't have that processing stuff they'll that be annoying to you but to them to be in motion allows them to pay attention they've taken care of the body so they can free the mind then that's an important thing to know if if you think about spending time alone and sitting still and that goes %HESITATION and why don't you do that then you probably want to look into the world of walking meditation so that you can walk and get into that state where you can cut you reflect and that will be a really good thing for you to do but the thing is you know you do you want to be able to encounter yourself as well as encounter the divine when you're sitting there if that's part of your agenda but first off start out by encountering yourself and not being fearful if that so that when you begin to encounter yourself and you begin to become interested in care but that person I love that person and be curious about that person then you will be able to listen to your intuition so were burned out right now we're %HESITATION ten I discuss today's Christmas he and there is a lot of time to prepare we may be going to family tomorrow or the next day it's Christmas Eve is on a Tuesday because Christmas is a little weak you may not be seen family until the weekend like us we're going to be driving down to Pennsylvania on later on in the week that kind of thing what would you suggest to assist those who are single who have been prepared themselves for the onslaught called the holidays well I think one important thing for all of us prepared or not prepared is to be able to answer the question what what I want from this exchange of time so if I'm going to a social event what do I want from this exchange of time if I'm in a conversation what do I want from this exchange of words what is the end result that I want then when we get you skip conscious about that that may be a single person we're we're meeting somebody new we're having a conversation what I want well I just simply want to know and be known a little more a little deeper I'm not gonna make huge leaps and just want to make a little incremental stat and if I understand what I want for many exchange and anytime of any kind then we become much more aware of ourselves and that's the first step so if you don't have much time now because you're going to encounter family or you're going to encounter nothing to do very shortly ask yourself what could I have isn't it an exchange of this time what do I want what what what is the result of this exchange I am our friend at that you and I had %HESITATION recently passed and I I was given everything I wanted of her belongings and I brought home a lot of books so one of the things that are more for the exchange of time tomorrow particularly is I want to look at life from her point of view why is she reading these books what seen here that you know there are things that are definitely related to what I I like to read anyway but %HESITATION that was curious so I can get excited about that but if I had a feeling like well it's not okay on the holidays do not have anywhere to go and nobody inviting me anywhere then I would be all wrapped up in that what I don't have and if you're wrapped up in what year you don't have then you can't be open to what you do have and what you're moving toward to the quick answer to your question is what am I moving toward right now what what is it that is available to me right now that I could actually look forward to and whether that is a long time and being able to and go to bed early %HESITATION %HESITATION %HESITATION it's being with a bunch of people and getting to know somebody or being seen and known by somebody else just know what you want for this exchange of time and it's a great place to start it really is a great place to start and as you're talking %HESITATION I am I'm just curious a lot of the millennials today and when we were kids do we really want to do what our family wanted us to do absolutely not a lot of millennials today are very very clear on what they want and what they don't want and one of the things I keep hearing is I don't want to go to this family event I don't want to go to that family event I you know I don't want to answer their questions I I I don't want to you know and I do know that some millennials feel very much that they're not good enough that there you know some folks are you know college educated they may not be college educated or whatever it is so what I'm hearing you say is from a listening perspective %HESITATION where the millennials are concerned under them or encourage them to keep joining family because that can be a real catch twenty two for families well it is but you know let's I would like to just broaden the conversation to the world perspective be it be in the namaste be honoring who it is you're speaking to be accepting of the person you're speaking to be interested in that person and don't impose your values are your culture or your showed three year ought to use and then you can be in the present moment with them and isn't that what we all want I can't think of one person who wants to go home and have somebody say well I remember when you did this and it wasn't very nice we want that to be gone that's not us Tuesday so why don't we give us today the opportunity of knowing them today and be in the present moment with Sam so what do you say to the parent was hard time with that well if I'm a millennial and someone asked me a difficult question and this came up from one of my groups the other day and I don't want to go home they're gonna ask me why I don't have kids do I have a good job yet they can ask all these tough questions and I said you know just benignly say you know I'm on track with my life it and I'm going to preach I'm going to progress through it in the best way that I possibly can how are things with you give the most general I've been nine answer and then ask a question because the other person probably wants to speak about themselves more anyway so answer them because as respectful to answer them and serve them broadly and don't don't have high expectations of them changing like I just did a show with Laura Rubenstein this morning on our transforming your relationships live on Facebook then the topic that I suggested for the show and it worked well was lower your expectations not your standards really nice so go home if you're going home lower your expectations of the folks being different yeah I know what they're going to ask tough questions if they're tough question answered asters and don't expect there to be different you'll be different right still don't go with this way go with with acceptance you know talk to me about you and just you know divert the conversation back to them and yeah maybe so persistent and you may have to set a boundary and say you know something I'm working on I'll get back to you or yeah %HESITATION but we don't have to get into the tassels we don't have to get into the tough stuff and we don't have to be tough you can just accept them where they are that's what's important to them they're concerned about your future they want to make sure that you're making money and you're on a good track and Nick you know yeah they may come across as as to inquisitive and too judgmental and those kind of things may be in your mind but try and put yourself in their shoes for a little moment and just say okay they're really concerned that I'm going to be able to take care of myself in a good way and that I am going to be a successful human and this is their way of doing it right exactly exactly and you know as you were talking I kept getting this feeling of large traction if you're going to be judging them they're gonna be judging you stop with the judgment and as you say accept them for who they are no accept you for who you are the mayor they may not I mean we each work to our capacity but the only focus that each one of us could have is and who we are and how we're being and that we're living from our values and vision and beliefs and so you know sometimes people say well you know I'm going I have my mother wants me to come home and I don't like her at all what should I do my question is always who are you yeah and they say well what do you mean I said well you are the person who can have the capacity to go except your mother how she is because you want to see here or can't you live without regrets because you don't care for your mother and how she behaves in life and you don't want to make a wrong either so you just don't go right but if the question is who are you and how do you process what do you do what is representative of you living from your values not how do I how do I eight exchange things with other people this how do I be me and then I can after the into change I can say yeah that was me I I stood in my truth I stood in my integrity and my authenticity and I was kind you know what the Terry one of my favorite quotes and I've been using this now for thirty years %HESITATION it was written by a Jesuit high priest ten he said the genius of good communication is to be totally kind and totally honest at the same time when you can muster being totally kind and totally honest at the same time here could you can relax right running into and what a phenomenal place two entities interaction with you being totally kind I just love it absolutely love it we're very sheller thank you so much for being here today in a week in the possibilities M. launching our very first episode in such magnificent fashion as always I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for also being a great friend right now it's my pleasure to be with you in a moment I'm honored to be your first guest and I hope everybody understands that when you get to know yourself and you live from that you can follow my other great important formula and that is H. E. B. B. whether you're thinking of yourself where you're thinking of another human A. B. B. and that stands for always be leave behavior hello I remember to working people get in touch with you %HESITATION you can find me at transforming relationship dot com when you go there you will see that there's a place you can click on for blogs and for podcasts and that'll take you out so to my you tube channel thank you so much for birthday and to my listening audience you can find out more about what it is that we do it intuitively to ship dot com awaken the possibilities where we help entrepreneurs and leaders leap off the stress him just real of life and shift out of chaos into calm ease and flow I'm your host Terry will demand and I look forward to sharing many future episodes with you in the coming year to your success and have a fantastic holiday season See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to know why and how to transform relationship with themselves and with other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps them see clearly, stop the crazy-making, and save their sanity.Widely published and author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two popular podcasts: Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views.Get ready for things to change for the better. Connect with Dr. Shaler today:http://TransformingRelationship.comFREEBIE:How to Spot a Hijackal® Download the FREE ebook that will help you recognize the toxic people in your life an businesshttp://Hijackals.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com Other links and resources:Free Gift from Diane (Life Reset Quiz) - https://liferesetquiz.com/Bankcode - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com Other links and resources:Free Gift from Diane (Life Reset Quiz) - https://liferesetquiz.com/Bankcode - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com
Emotionally Impaired? There's no breathalyzer for that! So, how do you know some is?Every now and then, each one of us may be a little incapacitated by life events. There can be temporary emotional impairment.Where the real problems come is when a person is often emotionally impaired, or more difficult, usually emotionally impaired!You cannot have the three hallmarks I suggest every healthy relationship with the possibility of being emotionally mature and emotionally intimate must have:Equality. Reciprocity. Mutuality.It's essential to creating healthy relationships that each person examine their own behavior first. It's wise to be aware of our own issues.If you find yourself have the same interactions with your partner or parent, or the same complaints about him or her, today's episode may help you identify what is going on and what might be causing the problems. Perhaps, s/he is emotionally impaired.Good news. You can get out of the Hijackal Trap. Read my downloadable ebook, Escaping the Hijackal Trap. You can recover from any symptoms of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. It will take awhile, but you'll recover to live and love and trust again. If you're ready to do that now, let's talk: BeAClient.comListen in, and subscribe.--------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is emotional impairment?How do you recognize someone is emotionally impaired?How would I know if I am emotionally impaired?What is the impact of being with an emotionally impaired person?Why is this important to recognize? You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#emotionallyimpaired #emotionallyimmature #needtomature #relationshipskills #communicationskills#coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
The Relationship Help Doctor - with Rhoberta ShalerRhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com Other links and resources:Free Gifts from Diane Life Reset Quiz - https://LifeResetQuiz.comReset Your Power Guide - https://ResetYourPowerGift.comBANKCODE - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com
The Relationship Help Doctor - with Rhoberta ShalerRhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 270,000 views. Important TopicsThe reason why the United States Marines sought her helpHow the term "Hijackal" came aboutWhat does Hijackal meansHow to know if you are in a relationship with HijackalThe importance to work within yourselfWhat is it that makes you attractive to HijackalsSteps if you have just realized Hijackal patterns in your relationship and you want to stop the crazy-makingNot to beat yourself upFigure out who you are todayMaintaining boundariesThe importance on spending time with yourselfSpiritual understandingCoercive controlQuotes"You need to keep promises to yourself.""You need to spend enough time with yourself to clarify who you are, what your values are and your vision for your life.""Start small.""Don't set one unless it is not negotiable."BooksEastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea JudithKaizen for Couples by Rhoberta ShalerEscaping The Hijackal Trap by Rhoberta ShalerConnect with Rhoberta:Free Ebook - How to Spot a Hijackal - https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/bonus-hijackal-book/Email list - http://TransformingRelationship.com/subscribeTransforming Relationship - http://TransformingRelationship.com/Email - rs@transformingrelationship.comWork with Dr. Shaler - beaclient.comRadio/Podcasts - RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Speaker Site - RelationshipHelpDoctor.com Other links and resources:Free Gifts from Diane Life Reset Quiz - https://LifeResetQuiz.comReset Your Power Guide - https://ResetYourPowerGift.comBANKCODE - https://MyBankCode.com/VictoryDiane Halfman's website - http://www.DianeHalfman.comWant to know more about yourself?Some people ask me how to RESET their life.Some people ask me how to be more sensual.Others are wondering how to make more money. How to be more successful. How to start a business. All of these questions and more are what I answer in my programs.Come see me at http://www.DianeHalfman.com
Are you with someone who is empathy deficient? Someone who shows almost no interest in your thoughts, feelings, needs, or wants?That could be a parent, partner, ex, sibling, or co-worker. It's so hard to comprehend when someone doesn't seem to have the interest or the bandwidth to take you into account, right?Empathy deficiency!I've done a lot of reading on the topic of empathy, the lack of empathy, and its relationship to narcissistic, psychopathic, sociopathic, and borderline behavior development, as you can imagine. I'm always on a quest to help you understand how these people, relationships, and toxicity happens, and I have to fully understand first.#Hijackals are empathy deficient! I like the clear definition of empathy that is offered by Simon Baron-Cohen of the University of Cambridge in his book, The Science of Evil: On Empathy and the Origins of Cruelty:"Empathy is our ability to identify what someone else is thinking or feeling, and to respond to their thoughts and feelings with an appropriate emotion."It sounds so natural and straightforward, doesn't it? But, for those raised in difficult situations, abusive situations, or toxic homes, there is likelihood that Baren-Cohen says that have empathy allows us to mostly accurately understand and identify where other people "are at."When a person has experienced incest, child abuse, neglect, violence, or been brought up in a home with alcohol or substance abuse, they were likely raised by people who had low regard for children, and high regard for themselves. These adults in charge of that home were often dismissive, degrading, demanding, or destructive to children. Big damage can be done!When you find yourself in a relationship with a #Hijackal, you will work much harder at the relationship than the Hijackal. You know what I'm talking about, don't you? Know this: the Hijackals lack of empathy, or unwillingness to relate to or care about your thoughts, feelings, perceptions, needs, wants, or much of anything you bring up, has nothing to do with anything you did. Yes, it's currently your problem, but you didn't create it.AND, you can stand on your head and spit wooden nickels for a year, and it is HIGHLY UNLIKELY TO GET ANY BETTER for more than an occasional hot minute when the Hijackal wants something or thinks /she is losing you. Know that right down to your bones.Hijackals are empathy deficient, and you cannot fix that, help with that, or change that! Listen to this episode to understand this "empathy-free" approach to life and relationship more fully.Good news. You can get out of the Hijackal Trap. Read my downloadable ebook, Escaping the Hijackal Trap. You can recover from any symptoms of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. It will take awhile, but you'll recover to live and love and trust again. If you're ready to do that now, let's talk: BeAClient.comListen in, and subscribe.--------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is empathy?How is empathy developed?How do people become empathy deficient?Is it likely that an empathy deficient person will change?Is it my fault #Hijackals behave so thoughtlessly, and often cruelly?You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#empathy #empathydeficient #empathyfree #coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
The #Hijackal Trap usually closes slowly. At first, everything seems rosy, wonderful, and just what you've always longer for. Then, it starts to close. Narcissistic behavior is crafty! You want to believe what you fell in love with was true, so you rationalize, justify, and excuse red flag behaviors.Did you do that? Are you doing that? That will keep you trapped!In this episode, I walk you through more than eight clear signs and symptoms that you are caught in the #Hijackal Trap, and hopefully, you'll see them clearly. Once you see them, you can make better decisions for yourself...and, for your children. Until you see them, you may think everything is your fault. At least, that's what the Hijackal has been telling you, right?When someone tells you something negative about the person who has caused you to listen to this, do you instantly jump to their defense? Or, do you make it all your fault? These are signs you are in the #HijackalTrapGood news. You can get out of the Hijackal Trap. Read my downloadable ebook, Escaping the Hijackal Trap. You can recover from any symptoms of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. It will take awhile, but you'll recover to live and love and trust again. If you're ready to do that now, let's talk: BeAClient.com Listen in, and subscribe.--------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How does it feel to be caught in the #Hijackal® Trap?What are the behaviors that #Hijackals use to trap you? Why it's not your fault, no matter what a Hijackal tells you.Are you caught up in defending your abuser?What about the #gaslighting ? How wanting to be a good person can trip you up in the Hijackal Trap. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#traumabonding #gaslighting #defendingabuser #narcissisticvictimsyndrome #hijackaltrap #secondguessingmyself #coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
In this episode, Devi chats with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler about “How Relationships Impact Your Business and Your Life.” As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker, and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of the difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is the host of three podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals, and Focus on Forward: Fuel for a Fearless Future. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp.com has reached over 200,000 views. Devi and Dr Rhoberta discuss: Dr Rhoberta’s experiences as a relationship coach The definition of a “Hijackal” The characteristics of a “Hijackal” Marriage as a "union of two souls for the perfection of the both" When to stop working on yourself The benefits of shifting and working on yourself, when you are in a relationship The unbalanced relationship Three things that help to develop a positive relationship The importance of equality in a relationship Expanding the equality in a relationship Mutuality in a relationship Creating oneness in a relationship Knowing when it’s time to step away from a “Hijackal” relationship Hallmarks of “Hijackals” Seeing the patterns and cycles in a “Hijackal” relationship Getting some help in withdrawing from a “Hijackal” relationship Having a healthy exit from a relationship Sustaining strong boundaries Acknowledging that you deserve space and progress Stating what you prefer in a relationship, rather than blaming Listening to other people’s feelings and not "fixing" them Documenting everything when there is physical violence Not rationalizing and justifying bad behavior The fine line between a giver and seeing a person who doesn’t have mutuality in mind Believing that you matter and more… Learn more about Dr Rhobera: Connect with her on her website @ www.forrelationshiphelp.com Youtube: For Relationship Help Podcast: Emotional Savvy Book: “How to Spot a Hijackal”
You're been in the relationship for a while. Maybe, it's even your parent! Or, a new partner?Or, you're waking up to the fact that you simply cannot please your partner because s/he WILL NOT be pleased, no matter what you do!Your partner may be a #Hijackal®.Your partner may have narcissistic behaviors and self-centered motives.Your partner may have anti-social behaviors.Your partner may incapable of empathy, and therefore, incapable of real love.You need to know these six red flags!These constantly flying red flags--and really, they are always there when you know what to look for--and how you can look at them differently to see how destructive and damaging they really are to your sense of self. Oh, and of course, they create impossible to enjoy relationships, too!I create the term, Hijackals®, to give us a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of difficult people without the necessity of psychological diagnosis. A diagnosis won't help you deal with them, but knowing what they are up to will.Here's my definition: "Hijackals are people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--and then scavenge the daily for power, status, and control." Sound familiar? You need to know if you are with a Hijackal!--------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Six red flags you see way too often but may be missingWhy you need to learn to be strategic in the relationshipHow to get some perspective on what's really bothering you in a difficult relationshipWhy you may keep telling yourself "It's not so bad" and why you need to stopDon't worry. Other episodes will definitely help you get out of the Hijackal®Trap, and out of the relationship if that is what you want to do.You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #narcissistredflags #relationshipredflags #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #recognizenarcissism #seeingthecycles See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Are you caught in The Hijackal Trap? You really need to know, so you can make clear choices. The Hijackal® Trap is often very hard to recognize because it is often subterranean, deep in the murky areas of the relationships only showing up every now and again. Or, maybe, it's showing up increasingly frequency now, and you need to know right away.You get glimpses of it in confusing early moments in your relationship, and if you're like most people with a desire to be in love, you ignore those glimpses because you want everything to be wonderful, solvable, and moving in a great direction towards one another. Right? That's the way it's supposed to work. It doesn't work that way with #Hijackals, sadly.The Hijackal Trap is illusive. Now you see it. No, you don't. And, because you don't really want to see it, you likely ignore it or make excuses for it when it does raise its ugly head.You're listening today because you know you are tired of feeling put down, worn down, or torn down...and, usually all three!Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people with the patterns, traits, and cycles shared by those with narcissistic, passive-aggressive, sociopathic, histrionic, psychopathic, and borderline tendencies--can be very charming. For sure, they are full of immediate excuses for the their behavior. Worse, though, is that the have a tendency to make everything your fault! Familiar?You'll know if you're caught in The Hijackal Trap very soon. I think you're suspecting it's true, right?--------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Recognizing the Hijackal TrapWhy things may seem comfortably uncomfortable, or familiarWhy you may have consciously or unconsciously missed the red flagsWhat to watch forHow to know if you're caught in the Hijackal TrapDon't worry. Other episodes will definitely help you get out of the Trap, and out of the relationship if that is what you want to do. You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #recognizenarcissism #seeingthecycles See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap! That's the name of one of my books, AND the focus of today's interview with Stephani Roberts.First, you have to recognize you're in a #Hijackal trap, right? Then, you have to move on to find your best next steps. Today, Stephani Roberts shares her journey from first recognition that she was in an emotionally abusive relationship--and the red flags she originally overlooked--to the realization that for the emotional safety of herself and her girls, she needed to remove herself from the toxic relationship. Brave move! And, not without it's perils!>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page!
Escaping the Hijackal Trap! That's the name of one of my books, AND the focus of today's interview with Stephani Roberts.First, you have to recognize you're in a #Hijackal trap, right? Then, you have to move on to find your best next steps. Today, Stephani Roberts shares her journey from first recognition that she was in an emotionally abusive relationship--and the red flags she originally overlooked--to the realization that for the emotional safety of herself and her girls, she needed to remove herself from the toxic relationship. Brave move! And, not without it's perils!>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page!
*ABOUT* Relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she hosts three podcasts: Emotional Savvy, Save Your Sanity, and Focus on Forward. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 200,000 views. *SHOW NOTES* To successfully restore and re-claim your life after emotional abuse is a long-term, absolutely worthwhile undertaking. The definition of “Hijackals®” and how they can be present in your personal and professional relationships. Learn strategies on how to spot them and how to be assertive in any situation. How to use your intuition to notice the signs of being in a toxic relationship Scientific research of an increased risk of cancer for women when you have this emotional trigger To live La Dolce Vita means wanting to move towards it and being willing to do what it takes to achieve it. *QUOTES:* "Learn to be proactive and lean in to ask one or two more questions" *FOLLOW:* https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Radio/Podcasts: www.RelationshipHelpNetwork.com ( http://www.RelationshipHelpNetwork.com ) Speaker Site: www.RelationshipHelpDoctor.com ( http://www.RelationshipHelpDoctor.com ) Facebook: www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor ( http://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor ) Twitter: www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler ( http://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler ) LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler ( http://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler ) Pinterest: www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler ( http://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler ) Help for toxic relationships LIVE STREAM on YOUTUBE: ForRelationshipHelp
In this episode, I talk with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler about hijackals. Not sure what a hijackal is…listen to this show! Relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making, she hosts three podcasts: Emotional Savvy, Save Your Sanity, and Focus on Forward. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 200,000 views.
Relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®” to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts two podcasts: Emotional Savvy Show and Save Your Sanity. Social Handles.. Website and Blog: ForRelationshipHelp.com Radio/Podcasts: RelationshipHelpShow.com Speaker Site: www.RelationshipHelpDoctor.com Facebook: www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Pinterest: www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of the difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is the host of three podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals, and Focus on Forward: Fuel for a Fearless Future. Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Books: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=rhoberta+shaler Free Ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal® https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/hijackals-intro/ Podcast: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/network Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: https://Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler Instagram: https://Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler Linkedin: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Have you ever had a relationship that made you feel crazy, confused, and controlled? Maybe you felt powerless at the same time as blamed for everything? You may have been mesmerized by a hijackal. After surviving a childhood of emotional turmoil and psychological distortion from her parents, Rhoberta Shaler began a lifelong exploration to heal that led her to define the term Hijackals®. Rhoberta's intense childhood experience, and subsequent toxic relationships derived from early conditioning, fueled her passion to demystify and disempower the hijackals of her own life. She now shares her mastery from decades of spiritual and psychological training as The Relationship Help Doctor through her blog, podcasts, books, and speaking. Watch this interview with Rhoberta for keen insights that expose the patterns of Hijackals® so you can spot them in your own life, and take steps to regain your sanity. Listen to Emotionally Savvy: The Relationship Help Show Take the Relationship Checklist About Dr Rhoberta Shaler As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of the difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals, and her own channel, Emotional Savvy, on the Binge TV Network. Connect with Rhoberta: Web: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiphelpdoctor YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ForRelationshipHelp Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/rhobertashaler Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drrhobertashaler/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhobertashaler YOUR GUIDE TO SOUL NECTAR – KERRI HUMMINGBIRD SAMI I love mentoring women to rewrite the story of their lives through inner transformation, connection to essence, remembrance of purpose, and realignment to authenticity and truth. If you don't want to settle for anything less than a life of passion and purpose, book a Discovery Call and let's talk! Schedule today! http://bit.ly/2CpFHFZ FREE GIFT: The Love Mastery Game, an oracle for revealing your soul's curriculum in every day challenges. http://www.kerrihummingbird.com/play Do you lack the confidence to trust yourself and go for what you want? When you take actions towards your dreams, does self-doubt infect your certainty? Do you find yourself distracting and numbing while also feeling something is missing inside? Do you feel disrespected and like your wisdom is being dismissed? Do you have a hard time asking for what you need? You may benefit from healing the Mother Wound and reconnecting with the Divine Mother for love. Find out more at www.motherwoundbook.com You may be a member of The Second Wave, here to uplift human consciousness from the inside out by healing patterns of suffering that run through your ancestry. Find out about “The Second Wave: Transcending the Human Drama” and receive a guided meditation at www.thesecondwave.media READ an Excerpt from the Award-Winning memoir, Awakening To Me.
Aired Friday, 9 November 2018, 7:00 PM ETWhat To Do When Speaking-up Leaves You Feeling Tongue-tiedDoes speaking-up leave you feeling tongue-tied? Maybe you can't tell your doctor how you really feel? It can sometimes be hard to advocate for your concerns. This week's special guest, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler is the author of sixteen personal growth and relationship books. Her most recent ones are to help those struggling with relationships with ‘chronically difficult people.'In this episode, she will be sharing insights from her popular ‘Hijackal®' series of ebooks including: ‘Escaping the Hijackal Trap.' Dr. Shaler will share insights, strategies, and pattern-breaking skills to create blame-free, game-free, non-manipulative conversations including:• How to have deep and meaningful conversations. • Understanding the power of intention and how ‘Why do I want that?' is a compelling question for healing. • How to get in touch with your top 5 values and your vision, beliefs, goals, and challenges. • Ways to stop an addiction to drama and drop the expectations of other people. Plus so much more…Dr. Rhoberta Shaler provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis, at home and work. She awakens listeners to recognize and stop tolerating abuse from relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® and walks you through how to stop the crazy-making. Learn more about Dr. Shaler and her fantastic work at: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/And listen to this compelling chat Friday, November 9th at 7 PM ET.Get your transcript at: http://www.UnderstandingAutoimmune.com/Speak/
Does speaking-up leave you feeling tongue-tied? It can sometimes be hard to advocate for your concerns. This week's special guest, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler is the author of sixteen personal growth and relationship books. Her most recent ones are to help those struggling with relationships with 'chronically difficult people.' In this episode, she will be sharing insights from her popular 'Hijackal®' series of ebooks including: 'Escaping the Hijackal Trap.' Dr. Shaler will share insights, strategies, and pattern-breaking skills to create blame-free, game-free, non-manipulative conversations including:• How to have deep and meaningful conversations.• Understanding the power of intention and how 'Why do I want that?' is a compelling question for healing.• How to get in touch with your top 5 values and your vision, beliefs, goals, and challenges.• Ways to stop an addiction to drama and drop the expectations of other people. Plus so much more...Dr. Rhoberta Shaler provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis, at home and work. She awakens listeners to recognize and stop tolerating abuse from relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® and walks you through how to stop the crazy-making. Learn more about Dr. Shaler and her fantastic work at https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/. Get your transcript at http://www.UnderstandingAutoimmune.com/Speak/
As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Even the United States Marines have sought her help. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show and Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals!GIFT: free ebook as my gift: How to Spot a Hijackal, at http://www.Hijackals.comWebsite URL: https://ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: https://Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorLinkedin: https://LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerTwitter: https://Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerInstagram: https://Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: https://Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp_______________________________________________ABOUT TERRYYouTube Channel SubscriptionClick here to Subscribe to my Channel ➤➤ https://www.youtube.com/IntuitiveLead...Click here for my Signature Video in this series ➤➤ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhaOt...-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Terry's gift to you! ➤➤Download Terry's Quick Shift Technique to improve focus, decision making, reduces stress in the moment - http://www.QuickShiftZone.com-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with me on Social Media➤➤Are you on Facebook? ➝https://www.facebook.com/intuitivelea...Are you on Facebook? ➝https://www.facebook.com/your7thsense/Follow me on Twitter ➝https://twitter.com/terrywildemannFollow me on Twitter ➝https://twitter.com/Your7thSenseTVFollow me on YouTube ➝https://www.youtube.com/IntuitiveLead...Follow me on LinkedIn ➝https://www.linkedin.com/in/terrywild...-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Playlists and Videos➤➤Your 7th Sense Show Playlist . https://www.youtube.com/playlistlist=...Inward Journey for Intuitive Leaders Playlist ➤➤ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list...-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Website: Intuitive Leadership: http://www.intuitiveleadership.com/Website: Your 7th Sense: http://www.Your7thSense.comTerry's Speaker Sheet: http://www.intuitiveleadership.com/sp...Quick Shift Solutions:" http://www.intuitiveleadership.com/qu...Terry's Book - The Enchanted Boardroom https://www.amazon.com/TerryWildemann... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Catherine is here today with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler knows as - The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviours of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. She is also the host of three podcasts: The Relationship Help Show, Emotional Savvy, and, Save Your Sanity! Dr. Shaler asks what's going on in your relationship? Do these comments or thoughts feel familiar? “I can't put my finger on what's wrong anymore and feel like I am going crazy.” “Nothing I do is right or good enough.” “It's always my fault…even when it isn't.” “I'm so tired of the drama, the outbursts, the attacks, and the cycles.” Dr. Shaler knows it's very debilitating to feel like you never do it “right”, or well enough. That every time you become hopeful that you can find honesty and safety, you are taking a risk that seldom turns out to improve communication or resolve conflicts. She knows this because she lived through it, too. It leaves you feeling exhausted, anxious, and uncertain. Unfortunately, you might also feel guilty, like you just didn't do enough, give enough, or be enough. And, that's not true! Find Out More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Dr. Shaler's Website Connect with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on Facebook Follow Dr. Shaler on Twitter @rhobertashaler Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on Instagram @drrhobertashaler It's now time to tune into this very brave and inspirational woman – The Relationship Help Doctor. Enjoy!
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, offers urgent and ongoing care for couples and companies globally. he Sis an expert on Hijackals® – people who hijack relationships and then relentlessly scavenge them for power, status and control.Kaizen For Couples™: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship, her tenth book, is the summary of a lifetime of insights developed from working with real people confronting the real life challenges of living and loving together. It offers workable solutions to twenty-first century relationship issues and a new proven model for living the loving relationship you most want. Her latest book, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, was published in 2016 and her next book, Stop Tolerating Abuse: Speak up, Stand Strongwill be out later in 2018.Her weekly radio show on BBSRadio – The Relationship Help Show – focuses on Handling Hijackal® Havoc – in depth discussions and interviews to help you manage with relentlessly difficult people with whom you may be in relationship.Website, Podcasts & Blog: www.ForRelationshipHelp.com
Relationships are sometimes difficult. But when your partner, ex, or parent has certain traits, cycles, and patterns, they can be nearly impossible. In fact, they can be emotionally abusive. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers insights, strategies, and support to stop the crazy-making and save your sanity. As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis, at home and at work. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls "Hijackals®." She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. Find out more about Dr. Shaler and her work at forrelationshiphelp.com.
Relationships are sometimes difficult. But when your partner, ex, or parent has certain traits, cycles, and patterns, they can be nearly impossible. In fact, they can be emotionally abusive. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers insights, strategies, and support to stop the crazy-making and save your sanity. As a relationship consultant, mediator, speaker and author, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis, at home and at work. Her mission is to help people stop tolerating abuse. Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls "Hijackals®." She offers strategies for dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of toxic people. Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Stop Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game. Find out more about Dr. Shaler and her work at forrelationshiphelp.com.
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