Celebrate Kids Podcast with Dr. Kathy

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch step into one of the most common and uncomfortable parenting conversations: How do we explain where babies come from without confusing or misleading our kids? The discussion is sparked by a popular podcast moment in which a celebrity mom offers a simple explanation: "When two people love each other enough, their love gets them a baby." While well-intentioned, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why answers like this, though emotionally appealing, can quietly create confusion or misunderstanding in a child's mind. Using a memorable ice-skating analogy, the episode acknowledges how slippery these conversations can feel for parents. But avoiding them doesn't make kids safer; it just sends them elsewhere for answers. Dr. Kathy explains why parents must be the trusted authority on questions about bodies, intimacy, and life, and why clarity matters even when the details are age-appropriate and gradual. Rooted in Psalm 139, the episode reassures parents that a child's worth is never defined by how they were conceived, but by who created them. When kids eventually learn the fuller story of biology, relationships, or even painful family circumstances, honest foundations help them feel secure rather than misled. Wayne and Dr. Kathy encourage parents to speak the truth with care, to name body parts accurately, to explain intimacy appropriately, and to always frame life as something intentionally crafted by God. Kids can handle reality when it's delivered with love, wisdom, and patience. This episode equips parents to step onto the ice with confidence, helping their children grow in understanding without fear, and letting truth become a bright light that cuts through confusion later in life.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack why Celebrate Kids has joined the "Greater Than Campaign," a broad coalition led by organizations like Them Before Us, Focus on the Family, and the Colson Center, all centered on one conviction: children's needs come before adult desires. Rather than framing the conversation as political or reactionary, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explain why this issue is fundamentally about children's wellbeing, identity, and long-term flourishing. Drawing from Scripture, research, and lived experience, they clarify that supporting children does not require hostility toward others, but it does require moral clarity and courage. The episode addresses one of the hardest tensions parents and Christians face today: how to affirm the dignity of every person while still advocating for what Scripture and evidence consistently show is best for kids, being raised, whenever possible, by a committed mother and father. Dr. Kathy emphasizes that this is not about attacking anyone's identity, but about being for children in a culture that increasingly asks them to absorb adult choices and consequences. Wayne and Dr. Kathy also speak honestly about the cost of silence. When Christians withdraw from difficult conversations, children are left without advocates. Drawing on Jesus' words in Matthew 19, the episode reframes this moment as one in which believers are called not to win arguments, but to steward the vulnerable, placing kids where Jesus placed them: at the center. This conversation offers parents the language, confidence, and steadiness to navigate these discussions with neighbors, friends, and even their own children. It reminds listeners that hard teachings are still loving teachings, and that standing for kids, even when misunderstood, is one of the clearest ways to reflect Christ in a confusing world. Listeners are encouraged to explore the Greater Than campaign through the show notes and prayerfully consider how they might support efforts that put children first.

What if the words we speak over our kids aren't just communication, but are actually creation? In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy tackle a new claim from psychologist Dr. Chelsea Haug-Zavaleta that children should receive 100 compliments a day to thrive emotionally. Dr. Kathy challenges the research, explaining that it's not about the number of compliments, it's about the ratio of affirmation to correction and the meaning behind our words. She offers practical insights for balancing affirmation with healthy boundaries, showing how kids form identity through the voices they trust most. Together, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack what it means to parent fragile and resilient kids, share how correction can build character rather than shame, and connect the science of affirmation to the biblical power of blessing from Genesis 27. This episode reminds us that spoken love forms lasting truth, and that a few sincere words can build what a hundred empty praises never could.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy respond to a landmark legal case that is already reshaping conversations around gender, medicine, and parental fear. A 22-year-old woman, who identified as male as a teenager, was awarded $2 million after a jury found that medical professionals failed to follow standards of care when approving irreversible surgery while she was still a minor. The case raises sobering questions about pressure, fear, consent, and what happens when adults rush to solve a child's distress rather than fully understanding it. Rather than debating politics or policy, this conversation centers on parents, especially those who feel trapped between wanting their child to be safe, wanting them to be happy, and being told that immediate medical intervention is the only loving option. Dr. Kathy speaks candidly about how fear, particularly fear fueled by suicide narratives, can override discernment, silence conscience, create fear, and lead families to decisions they never imagined they would make. The episode explores a crucial distinction: dissatisfaction is not the same as identity. Many kids experience discomfort with their bodies, peer rejection, teasing, or confusion during puberty, but discomfort does not automatically require eradication. Dr. Kathy challenges parents to ask better questions, slow the process down, and help children understand why they feel dissatisfied before affirming irreversible conclusions. Drawing from Raising Gender-Confident Kids, the discussion reframes confidence not as denying struggle, but as building the moral and emotional "chest" that helps children hold discomfort without being swept away by fear or cultural pressure. Parents are encouraged to walk with their kids through seasons of confusion, offering presence, truth, protection, and endurance, rather than rushing to solutions that promise immediate relief but carry lifelong consequences. Rooted in Scripture, the episode reminds listeners that many temptations come dressed as compassion, offering partial truths without full disclosure of cost. Children are especially vulnerable to these narratives when adults bypass conscience in the name of urgency. True love, the hosts argue, does not panic; it shepherds. This episode offers parents courage, clarity, and hope: you are not cruel for slowing down, asking questions, or helping your child sit with discomfort. In fact, that steady presence may be the very thing that forms confidence, resilience, and lasting peace.

For years, success has been measured by degrees earned, income achieved, titles held, and recognition gained. But what happens when those markers keep shifting, leaving people exhausted and unsatisfied? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch wrestle with a growing cultural question: If we don't define success for our kids, who will, and will they like where it leads them? Drawing from a recent EdSurge reflection, the conversation explores how achievement based definitions of success often move the goalposts endlessly, leaving even high achievers feeling behind. Dr. Kathy challenges parents to recognize that children are always watching, not just what we say success is, but what we live as if it is. Our calendars, conversations, sacrifices, and celebrations quietly teach our kids what matters most. Rather than anchoring success to prestige or productivity, Dr. Kathy reframes it through a Christ centered lens: identity in Christ, lives marked by abundance rather than accumulation, and purpose expressed through service and sacrifice. Success, she argues, is not about becoming impressive, but about becoming who God created you to be and stewarding that calling with competence and faithfulness. Rooted in the biblical story of Bezalel, the craftsman called and equipped by God, this episode reminds parents that Scripture celebrates faithful skill and obedience far more than status or acclaim. When children are taught that success means living with integrity and purpose before God, they gain clarity in a world eager to define them by outcomes alone. This conversation invites parents to reclaim the definition of success, not as something to chase endlessly, but as a life of abundance and faithful stewardship.

As conversations about banning phones and curbing screen use grow louder, parents are left asking an honest question: Is technology the problem, or are we? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new legislative efforts around screen limits and use them as a springboard for a much more personal conversation about parenting and formation. Dr. Kathy reframes the issue with clarity and grace: technology itself isn't the enemy, but when it becomes the primary way kids (and adults) cope with boredom or anxiety, something essential is lost. Parents are challenged to look inward first, recognizing that kids will struggle to give up screens if adults aren't willing to do the same. The episode explores why screens often become a refuge for anxious hearts, and why removing them without replacing them leaves kids unprepared to process life well. Rather than advocating for extremes, the conversation centers on coexisting wisely with technology. Parents are encouraged to build alternative rhythms that include quiet, prayer, creativity, play, conversation, and service, so screens aren't the default solution to every uncomfortable moment. Dr. Kathy also offers a clear, realistic vision for a family tech policy: visible alternatives, no devices in bedrooms, strong boundaries, character based decisions, and parents who are confident enough to say no without guilt. Grounded in Jesus' teaching about the Sabbath in Mark 2, the episode reminds families that limits are not punishments; they are gifts. Just as rest was designed to restore humanity, wise tech boundaries protect attention and relationships. When children learn that they are valued apart from constant stimulation or connection, they gain freedom rather than restriction. This episode equips parents to lead with humility and courage, helping technology return to its rightful place as a tool, not a ruler.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack a surprising trend from a recent CDC report: many traditional adolescent risk behaviors are declining, but anxiety and fear are rising. While this may sound like good news on the surface, the conversation asks a deeper question: What happens when kids don't take the kinds of risks that help them grow? Dr. Kathy clarifies that this isn't about encouraging dangerous behavior, but about restoring appropriate, guided risk, the kind that builds confidence, competence, humility, and resilience. From trying out for a team to walking to the library alone, kids need chances to stretch, stumble, succeed, and recover. When parents remove every risk in the name of safety, children may internalize fear rather than strength. The episode also speaks directly to parents' hearts. Letting kids struggle is hard. Watching disappointment hurts. But our response in those moments, whether we frame the experience as growth or regret, shapes how children understand themselves. When kids know they are supported and not defined by outcomes, they grow into adults who believe they can handle life. Grounded in Jesus' parable of the talents in Matthew 25, this conversation reframes risk taking as stewardship rather than recklessness. Avoiding all risk doesn't preserve potential; it buries it. Parents are encouraged to know their individual child well and offer a longer leash when the stakes are manageable. In doing so, they help their kids develop the courage and resilience they'll need for the darker, harder moments that inevitably come later in life.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch respond to a heartbreaking moment from American Idol, where a song written in memory of a young girl lost to suicide brings renewed attention to bullying, social media pressure, anxiety, and teen mental health. While the story is tender and sobering, the conversation moves carefully toward clarity rather than fear. Dr. Kathy helps parents distinguish between being anxious, a normal human experience, and clinical anxiety, which often develops when kids don't have the relationships or support to process worry well. Not every anxious child is on a path toward depression, but every child needs guidance in learning how to name and work through hard emotions. Parents are encouraged to stay observant without catastrophizing and engaged without hovering. The episode also addresses the reality that much of modern culture, especially social media, is designed to intensify comparison and emotional overload. Rather than blaming kids for struggling, parents are invited to come alongside them with truth, data, compassion, and hope, reminding them that what they're feeling is understandable and that they are not alone. Rooted in Psalm 42, this conversation reframes anxiety as an invitation to connection rather than a diagnosis to fear. When kids are allowed to express worry without shame and are guided toward resilience, faith, and support, anxious moments don't have to become anxious identities. This episode offers parents reassurance and practical encouragement to be a steady, hopeful presence in an anxious age.  

What should parents do when public figures stir strong reactions, confusion, anger, fear, or frustration? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a real world case from England where a teacher faced disciplinary action after showing political footage to older teens. Rather than taking a political stance, the conversation turns to a deeper parenting question: should teenagers be introduced to people and ideas that feel troubling or controversial? Dr. Kathy explains why shielding kids from difficult figures doesn't build maturity, but guided exposure does. Together, they unpack how discernment is formed through conversation, curiosity, humility, and relationship, not avoidance. Parents are encouraged to acknowledge what their kids already see, name emotional reactions honestly, and walk with them through anxiety or confusion when it arises. The episode also highlights the importance of parents modeling learning, sharing the books and thinkers that shape their own views, and explaining how they evaluate what's worth listening to. Grounded in Daniel 1, this conversation reminds families that God often forms wisdom not by isolation, but by engagement paired with conviction. When teens are given scaffolding instead of silence, they grow confident in their ability to think critically and live faithfully in a complex world.  

Puberty can feel overwhelming for kids and parents alike. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on pubertal self efficacy and why confidence, not avoidance, is key to helping kids navigate this critical season. Drawing from findings in the Journal of Adolescence, they discuss how teens who understand what's happening in their bodies and emotions experience less anxiety and depression. Dr. Kathy explains self efficacy as the belief that "I can handle what's being asked of me," and shows parents how this confidence is built through contribution, clear instruction, patience, and ongoing conversation. Together, they unpack why puberty is such a significant identity shaping moment and why kids don't need mystery or silence, but guidance and reassurance. Grounded in Luke 2 and Jesus' own growth into maturity, this episode equips parents to replace fear with formation, helping kids experience puberty not as something to endure alone, but as a God designed process they are capable of walking through well.

As Valentine's Day approaches, emotions around friendship, belonging, and affection naturally rise, especially for kids. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch help parents use this season as a teaching moment, not just a holiday. Together, they unpack what true friendship really is and how it differs from casual relationships. They dive into why not everyone belongs in the same place in a child's heart. Dr. Kathy introduces a simple yet powerful framework for understanding friendship levels, helping kids learn healthy boundaries and trust over time. The conversation also explores why self respect is essential for meaningful relationships, why kids must know their own God-given worth before they can love others well. Rooted in Jesus' command to love our neighbor as ourselves, this episode equips parents to guide children through affection, disappointment, conflict, and connection with wisdom, clarity, and grace, shining a steady light through the emotional complexities that Valentine's season can bring.      

Are our kids actually becoming less capable thinkers, and if so, why does that matter? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore growing concerns about children's cognitive development, drawing on research from cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath. Together, they examine how increased screen use, especially in classrooms, may be reshaping how kids reason and learn. But this conversation goes deeper than test scores or IQ. Dr. Kathy reframes intellect as a muscle, one that fuels discernment, freedom, creativity, and wise decision making. They discuss why intelligence must be understood locally and relationally, not just nationally or digitally, and how parents can nurture thinking hearts by inviting kids into conversation, problem solving, boredom, and responsibility. Grounded in Solomon's prayer for a discerning heart, this episode reminds parents that raising intellectually capable kids isn't about academic pressure; it's about forming wise, free people who can love God with their minds and live faithfully in the world they're called to serve.    

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, hosts discuss the impact of weather-related school cancellations, particularly snow days, on children's education and well-being. They reflect on how traditional snow days have shifted post-COVID, with many schools opting for remote learning instead of allowing kids a break from schoolwork. Dr. Kathy encourages listeners to use these moments of disruption to consider broader questions about the educational system and to explore opportunities for character development throughout a child's schooling from preschool to grade 12. The segment aims to provide encouragement and insight into making the most of unexpected school closures. For more on the Christian boarding high school that incorporates discipleship and mentorship into a classical approach to education that Wayne mentioned in the show, visit www.gohillcrest.com

Are we helping our kids, or holding them back? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore the growing concern of overparenting and what truly drives it beneath the surface. Responding to research outlining common signs of overparenting, Dr. Kathy explains how fear and a parent's need to look successful often lead us to correct too often and trust too little. Together, they unpack the difference between guidance and control, love and fear. Using the image of Peter stepping out of the boat, this conversation reframes parenting as staying close without stepping in too soon, allowing kids to struggle, learn, and grow while knowing help is available. For parents who feel exhausted or unsure where the line is, this episode offers reassurance and a clearer vision: raising capable, resilient kids by learning when to step back rather than step in.

Why are teens and young adults suddenly drawn to reading, crocheting, sewing, walking, and other so-called "grandma hobbies"? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore why slower, quieter pastimes are resurfacing, and why they matter deeply for identity formation. Dr. Kathy explains how hobbies cultivate joy, perseverance, reflection, and self-awareness in a culture driven by speed, comparison, and constant stimulation. Together, they unpack the difference between fleeting happiness and lasting joy, why self-awareness is underdeveloped in today's noisy world, and how practices like crafting, reading, and walking help kids learn to be comfortable with their own thoughts. Grounded in Luke 2 and the ordinary rhythms of Jesus' early life, this conversation encourages parents to reintroduce quiet, purposeful activities, not as escape from life, but as a way for kids to inhabit it more fully.

Is social media always harmful for kids, or can we teach them to use it wisely? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research from Australia suggesting a "Goldilocks" window for social media use, where moderate engagement may support connection, but overuse or total avoidance can both undermine wellbeing. Together, they unpack why social media should be treated like any other powerful tool: taught, modeled, limited, and purposefully used. Dr. Kathy explains how parents can establish a healthy social media "diet," why real time relationships matter more than digital ones, and what kids lose when screens crowd out hobbies, service, and embodied belonging. Grounded in Acts 2 and identity formation, this conversation reframes social media not as a villain or a savior, but as something that must never bear the full weight of a child's belonging or identity.  

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender step carefully into a painful cultural moment following the death of Renee Nicole Good in Minnesota. Rather than debating politics, they explore how moments of public tragedy and unrest can quietly shape a child's identity, and a parent's emotional posture. This conversation unpacks how fear and uncertainty can begin to define who we think we are if we aren't grounded in something bigger. Dr. Kathy walks through the five key dimensions of identity, intellectual, emotional, social, physical, and spiritual, and explains how helping kids develop a big enough identity keeps cultural moments from swallowing them whole. The episode also offers practical guidance for parents who feel overwhelmed themselves: how to apologize when we overreact and how to teach children that sadness is a faithful response before anger. Grounded in the image of Jesus weeping with Mary and Martha, this episode reminds parents that sitting with grief is not weakness, it's formation.  

Have playgrounds become too safe for kids to actually grow? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender take a thoughtful look at the increasing restrictions on playgrounds and recess, and what those rules may be costing our children. From banning running and roughhousing to removing swings altogether, today's playgrounds often prioritize control over exploration. This conversation explores why unstructured play matters for confidence, problem solving, self regulation, and social development. Drawing on child development and Scripture, Dr. Kathy challenges parents and educators to reconsider whether constant supervision and rigid rules actually help kids, or quietly undermine courage and judgment. Grounded in Jesus' invitation to "let the little children come," this episode invites adults to trade whistle-blowing for watchful presence and to see recess not as chaos to manage, but as formation in motion.      

Is creativity something to manage, or something to nurture? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender reframe creativity as far more than art projects or imaginative play. Drawing on research, classroom stories, and Scripture, they explore how creativity fuels resilience and character formation in children. From sticks turning into swords on a hike to invented words like fantabulous, this conversation shows how imagination helps kids problem solve, regulate stress, and engage the real world more deeply, not escape it. Rooted in Genesis 1, the episode reminds parents that creativity is part of what it means to bear God's image. Nature becomes the ultimate open ended classroom, inviting wonder, curiosity, and growth. If you've ever worried that creativity leads to chaos or distraction, this episode offers reassurance and practical wisdom for guiding, celebrating, and protecting your child's God-given creativity as it shapes both character and faith.  

What if something as simple as ordering dinner could shape your child's confidence for life? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how everyday moments, like letting kids speak up, make mistakes, and try again, become powerful training grounds for resilience. Using a creative family practice as a springboard, they unpack how courage grows through support, not pressure, and why failure isn't fatal, it's formative. Drawing on child development wisdom and the biblical story of Moses' struggle with speech, this conversation reassures parents that hesitation isn't weakness and that embarrassment doesn't disqualify a child from growth. If you want to help your kids develop confidence, communication skills, and resilience without crushing their spirit, this episode offers practical guidance and deep encouragement for walking alongside them as they learn to stand back up and try again.

When children struggle with gender identity, it's rarely just about gender. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender respond to recent pauses in so-called gender-affirming care for minors and explore what real care for kids actually looks like. Drawing from counseling experience, research, Scripture, and deep compassion, they unpack why anxiety, depression, trauma, and confusion about the future often sit beneath gender distress, and why rushing to medical solutions can miss the deeper needs of the child. This conversation equips parents and loved ones with a posture rooted in compassion, hope, truth, and confidence, showing how to engage kids without rejection or oversimplification. If you love a child who is wrestling with identity questions and want to walk with them wisely and faithfully, this episode offers clarity and a path forward grounded in relationship rather than reaction.

We drill the ABCs. We practice math facts. But when it comes to kindness, we often expect it to appear fully formed, without teaching it. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the critical difference between politeness and true kindness, drawing on psychological research, parenting wisdom, and the biblical story of the Prodigal Son. They unpack why forcing apologies can create scripts instead of sincerity, how empathy is a muscle that must be taught and practiced, and why safety always precedes compassion. This conversation challenges parents to move beyond surface-level behavior management toward heart-level formation modeling mercy, curiosity, repair, and other-centeredness. If you want to raise kids who are genuinely kind, not just well-mannered, this episode will give you clarity, conviction, and practical direction.

Is creativity something we should encourage or control? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the powerful role creativity plays in children's development and why time in nature may be one of the most underutilized tools parents have. Drawing from research, real parenting questions, and a biblical vision of creativity rooted in God's design, they unpack how imagination builds resilience, flexibility, and character, not chaos. From imaginary play and boredom to stress relief and problem-solving, this conversation reframes creativity as more than art projects or talent, it's a vital part of how kids learn to engage the real world well. If you've ever wondered whether letting your kids roam, wonder, or "get creative" is helping or hurting them, this episode will bring clarity, encouragement, and practical wisdom for raising kids who are both grounded and imaginative.

As states across the country move to restrict minors' access to social media, a deeper question emerges: Why does the government feel the need to step in at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the growing wave of age-gating laws, parental consent requirements, and outright bans, and what they reveal about childhood, conscience, and cultural formation. Together, they unpack the tension between external guardrails and internal virtue, the developmental realities kids face online, and why laws may slow harm but can't form wisdom. Drawing on research, real parenting scenarios, and a biblical framework, this conversation equips parents to move beyond fear or passivity and toward intentional formation, helping kids learn discernment, self-control, and identity at home, long before a constable ever has to step in. If you're navigating screens, laws, and the pressure of modern parenting, this episode will give you clarity, courage, and practical next steps.  

Public language is getting louder, harsher, and more vulgar, and our kids are listening. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the rising use of profanity in politics and public life and ask a deeper question: What does the way we speak reveal about our character? Together, they unpack the difference between freedom and license, why breaking rules isn't the same as courage, and how words shape virtue, dignity, and trust. Drawing from Scripture, cultural thinkers, and real parenting conversations, this episode equips parents to teach kids how to express strong emotions without dehumanizing others—and how to form character in a culture that often rewards outrage over wisdom. If you've ever wondered how to help your kids speak with conviction and compassion, this conversation is for you.  

Do kids really need to be taught to focus, or do they need permission to wonder first? In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new research showing that children learn even when they're not intentionally paying attention. Together, they unpack the difference between curiosity and concentration, why wonder is not a distraction but a doorway to learning, and how parents can teach focus without extinguishing imagination. Anchored in child development, the 8 Great Smarts, and the story of Gideon, this conversation equips parents to nurture both attentiveness and awe, so kids grow confident and spiritually curious in a world that often rushes them to perform.    

Why do parents think school is going great, while many kids feel disengaged and uninspired? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack research revealing the growing gap between how parents and students experience school. Together, they explore why learning often feels passive, why awe and wonder fade as kids get older, and how families can re-ignite curiosity by connecting schoolwork to real life. From dinner-table conversations to creative family rhythms, this episode equips parents to help kids move beyond grades and tests toward meaningful, integrated learning rooted in purpose, faith, and joy.

Technology is shaping our kids, often more than we realize. In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents move beyond fear or frustration toward clarity, compassion, and leadership. Drawing on research, Scripture, and real family experience, they explore how screens quietly train attitudes like entitlement, impatience, and self-centeredness, and how families can reclaim joy, peace, and connection through intentional, gradual change. This episode equips parents to lead tech conversations wisely, create family plans kids can buy into, and choose whom their household will truly serve. Consider Dr. Kathy's book on Technology: https://celebratekids.com/screensandteens Sign-up to get email or text updates from Dr. Kathy: https://celebratekids.com/podcasts

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of flourishing in children and what drives their success in an ever-evolving world. Drawing insights from Sarah Hernholm's recent Forbes article, Dr. Kathy discusses how Gen Z is becoming the most entrepreneurial generation yet, with traditional preparation methods no longer sufficient. She highlights five essential skills that kids need to cultivate: entrepreneurial skills, AI literacy, public speaking and communication, real-world problem-solving, and financial literacy through practice. The conversation centers around how these skills can empower children to thrive in their future careers and contribute positively to society. Tune in to explore how we can better prepare the next generation for success in a rapidly changing cultural landscape.

In this episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, the daily episode Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on parenting benchmarks and trends, especially the growing movement of "cycle-breaking parenting" among Gen Z moms and dads. Together, they unpack what it means to parent with both wisdom and grace, moving beyond negative family patterns without shaming past generations. Dr. Kathy shares practical insights on being unified as parents, balancing correction with encouragement, and raising kids who know their God-given strengths. Wayne connects these themes to Ezekiel 18, showing how Scripture reminds us that every generation can step into fresh mercies and new beginnings.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the profound impact of scripture on identity and personal growth. She reflects on the tendency many have to rely on their own problem-solving abilities rather than turning to prayer or the teachings of the Bible, especially when facing challenges as parents. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of embracing the truth of scripture to foster a deeper understanding of oneself and to experience the goodness of God. She also discusses insights from the American Bible Society's study, "The Eighth Chapter," which examines the state of the Bible in the USA, highlighting the necessity of scripture in rebuilding identity for both adults and children. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that encourages listeners to seek out the light of truth in their lives.

How do we talk to kids about violence, fear, and brokenness without overwhelming them, or pretending it doesn't exist? In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents navigate hard conversations sparked by news, school lessons, and cultural realities. They explore how to give children real security (not just reassurance), how to recognize emotional "pressure points," and how to create healthy release valves for stress using the ways kids are uniquely wired. This episode equips parents to replace fear with faith, confusion with clarity, and isolation with connection—anchored in the hope and security found in Christ.  

In this Facing the Dark conversation, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender engage the growing concern around "sharenting," a term popularized by legal scholar Leah Plunkett to describe how parents and trusted adults share children's lives online. While often well-intentioned, constant posting can subtly communicate that a child's value lies in how they appear, how well they perform, or how much attention their moments generate. Dr. Kathy explains how children can internalize the belief that they exist to make parents feel proud, connected, or validated. When everyday life becomes content, kids may begin to feel responsible for maintaining a highlight reel rather than simply living their childhood. Over time, this can affect identity formation, confidence, and a child's ability to own and narrate their own story. Wayne reflects on the tension many parents feel: wanting to capture meaningful moments while also wanting to stay present in those moments. Together, they challenge families to reconsider the rhythm and ratio of posting, to create private spaces for memory-keeping, and to invite children into owning their memories rather than outsourcing them to a feed. Grounded in Scripture and child development, this episode invites parents to pause, put the phone down, and choose presence over performance, so kids can grow up known, secure, and free to become who God created them to be.

Why do Scripture-engaged people report lower loneliness, anxiety, and despair? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack new research from the American Bible Society and explore why biblical truth forms a deeper, more secure identity than modern ideologies. Together, they examine how Scripture, identity, security, and the work of the Holy Spirit bring lasting belonging, resilience, and hope—for adults and for kids

How do parents support kids who've experienced stress without letting labels become their identity? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore post-traumatic stress, attention struggles, and the growing role of AI in diagnosis, while carefully distinguishing between understanding a child's challenges and defining a child by them. Together they explain why beliefs shape behavior, why labels should only be used when they lead to real help, and how parents can speak truth, hope, and resilience over kids who are working through pain. This episode equips families to listen longer, look beneath the surface, and walk patiently with kids toward healing and confidence rooted in who God says they are.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore psychologist Mitch Prinstein's research on the two types of popularity—likability and status. Together, they discuss why likability leads to healthy belonging while status often leaves kids empty and isolated. Dr. Kathy connects these insights to her Five to Thrive model, showing how belonging shapes identity and why character qualities like compassion, faithfulness, and hospitality help kids form lasting friendships. Wayne ties it to the story of Jehoiada and young King Joash in 2 Chronicles 23, reminding parents that true belonging is found not in surface approval but in covenant faithfulness to God.

What does it really mean for a child to be "successful"? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore research on sibling success and unpack why optimism, motivation, learning, coaching, and, most importantly, wisdom and resilience shape kids for long-term flourishing. Together, they challenge achievement-based definitions of success and offer a Christ-centered vision that emphasizes character, growth, and learning how to apply truth in everyday life

Is "dry texting" just efficient, or is it quietly shaping how kids learn to relate? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack the growing habit of one-word replies and minimal conversation, exploring how communication shortcuts can weaken relational skills, respect, and identity formation. Together they explain when brief responses are appropriate, when they're harmful, and how parents can intentionally model meaningful conversation at home. This episode equips families to help kids build empathy, curiosity, and confidence through real dialogue, both on screens and face to face.

Why are so many young adults trusting social media over doctors, and what does that mean for how kids form wisdom? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy examine new global research revealing Gen Z's growing reliance on peer-driven and influencer-based information. Together, they explore the difference between knowledge and wisdom, why algorithms reward immediacy over discernment, and how parents can teach kids to seek truth deeply rather than settle for the first answer. Rooted in Scripture and practical mentoring, this conversation equips families to help kids hunger for understanding, cultivate discernment, and pursue a truly flourishing life grounded in Christ—not clicks.

Should parents teach kids to be defiant? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy respond to a growing cultural narrative that suggests children need to practice defiance in order to become confident, assertive adults. Together they unpack the difference between healthy self-advocacy and arrogant rebellion, explaining why confidence doesn't come from saying "no" loudly, but from knowing when and how to speak with wisdom. Drawing on biblical insight, the Five Core Needs, and real parenting examples, this conversation helps parents guide kids toward courage, discernment, and self-efficacy rooted in truth, not impulse.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenge of entitlement in children and offers valuable strategies for parents. She begins by sharing her frustration with entitled behavior in her own kids and emphasizes the importance of helping children learn to tolerate frustration instead of removing it. Drawing from insights by Dr. Becky, she highlights the significance of acknowledging and validating children's feelings when they face challenges. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to resist the urge to immediately solve their kids' problems, allowing them the opportunity to wrestle with difficulties and develop resilience. Tune in for practical tips on fostering a healthier mindset in your children and guiding them toward a more appreciative attitude.  

As Australia enacts sweeping social media restrictions for kids under 16, parents everywhere are asking the same question: Is limiting tech actually healthy, or just disruptive? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore what happens when screens are removed, why kids' intense reactions may signal dependence rather than harm, and how parents can lead tech fasts with wisdom, clarity, and confidence. Drawing from research, real family experience, and Scripture, this conversation reframes digital detox not as punishment, but as liberation—an opportunity to rebuild rhythms, restore relationships, and form character that lasts far beyond the screen.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses a concerning trend revealed in a recent HarperCollins survey from the UK, which shows a significant decline in the interest of parents reading aloud to their children. Less than half of parents of kids up to 13 find reading aloud fun, and only 29% of children aged 5 to 13 view reading as enjoyable rather than just a school subject. The episode highlights alarming statistics showing a decrease in literacy rates in the U.S., with nearly 28% of adults ranking at the lowest literacy levels. Dr. Kathy discusses the critical importance of reading aloud for children's development, emphasizing how it fosters a love for reading and helps children navigate challenges in life with the understanding that there is always a conclusion. Tune in to learn more about the impact of reading on children's growth and the urgent need to reinvigorate the joy of reading in homes.

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) show up far more often than parents realize, sometimes through big, obvious events, and sometimes through subtle shifts in a child's behavior, mood, or habits. In today's Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy and Wayne unpack the latest research on ACEs, explore how parents can recognize early signs of struggle under their own roof, and offer practical ways to respond with wisdom, presence, and hope. They discuss how real resiliency develops—not through trauma, but through supported challenges, and how parents can guide, advocate, and walk with their kids through difficult seasons without fear. Full of clear insight, relatable examples, and Christ-centered direction, this episode helps you navigate the more challenging moments of childhood with confidence and compassion.

Parents everywhere feel the December pressure: "What on earth do I buy my kids this year?" In today's Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy and Wayne unpack the gift-giving stress that so many families carry, whether it's the hunt for the "perfect" present, or navigating Amazon wish lists, trying to understand what a nine-year-old even likes anymore is dynamic. Together, Dr. Kathy and Wayne explore how gifts can honor a child's identity, how the 8 Great Smarts can guide meaningful choices, and why experiences often build deeper belonging than toys ever could. With stories, humor, and deeply practical wisdom, this episode reframes holiday giving as a chance to communicate connection, confidence, and love, not pressure. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or friend, this conversation helps you give with purpose, joy, and peace.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the importance of teaching children the purpose of boredom. Dr. Kathy discusses the challenges parents face when their kids experience boredom and the potential negative consequences, including the turn to substances as a coping mechanism. Dr. Kathy shares valuable insights on how fostering resilience in the face of boredom can help children navigate life's challenges. The conversation highlights recent research indicating that many teens now use vaping as a way to relax from stress, underscoring the need for healthier coping strategies. Tune in for practical advice on guiding our youth through boredom and stress, helping them build essential life skills.  

In this episode of Raising Gender-Confident Kids, Wayne and Dr. Kathy dive into Chapter 5 of Raising Gender Confident Kids and explore how truth actually takes root in a child's heart. They unpack why identity grows through discipleship, why presence matters more than performance, and why kids don't just need information—they need formation. With stories, Scripture, psychology, and practical rhythms for daily family life, this episode equips parents to build secure attachment, model truth consistently, and disciple their kids toward deep, lasting confidence in who God created them to be.

When teens and college-age kids come home for the holidays, families often feel the tension between independence and connection. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack what's really happening in the brain during "emerging adulthood," why young adults come home exhausted, and how parents can welcome them without slipping back into old patterns. You'll learn how to set healthy expectations, reframe the transition with hope, and use each child's unique strengths, including their 8 Smarts, to build meaningful connections this holiday season. This episode brings clarity, grace, and practical wisdom for anyone navigating the in-between years.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Wayne Stender discusses the vital role children play in today's society with Dr. Kathy, arguing against the notion that they are merely the church's future. He reflects on a meaningful conversation with his son about the purpose of kids in a family and within culture. This leads to deeper questions about how society perceives children—whether they are seen as participants in cultural building or simply as a legacy for the future. Dr. Kathy explores these themes further, drawing insights from philosopher Anastasia Berg's work, "What Are Children For?" This episode encourages parents and caregivers to wrestle with the significance of children's roles in the present and the challenges that accompany these perspectives. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that aims to reshape how we view and nurture the children in our lives.

Every parent knows the morning rush can swing from peaceful to chaotic in seconds. But new research suggests that what we do in those early minutes may shape much more than how fast we get out the door, it may shape our children's resilience, emotional stability, and sense of belonging. In today's Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a study highlighting nine morning habits practiced by parents who raise happy, resilient kids. They unpack why connection matters more than control, how mornings imprint identity, and why some "chaotic kids" just think differently, not worse. With humor, real family stories, practical tools, and Scripture, this episode reimagines mornings not as a battleground, but as one of parenting's most powerful windows of influence.

A groundbreaking brain study from Cambridge reveals that adolescence may last far longer than we once believed, stretching all the way into the early 30s. Today on Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack this research and explore what it means for parents raising kids in a confusing and fast-changing culture. They contrast chronological age with "character age," explain why maturity can't be rushed, and offer hope for parents who feel overwhelmed by their children's slow progress or surprising immaturity. Through Scripture, science, and practical encouragement, this episode reframes the expectations we place on our kids and helps parents parent with confidence for the long haul.