The Chelsey Holm Podcast

Send us Fan MailLast night as I record this episode, my oldest son had a football game. The opposing team wiped the floor with us in a 0 to 30 something whooping. The game is down to the final 50 seconds and a kid twice the size of my son tackles late and then pushes him hard into the ground (stepping on his arm and his thigh). A flag was thrown, but this mama wanted more. Let's talk about walking in the Spirit when there is injustice… Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWe got notice of the packing/moving company coming in 72 hours, and as you might imagine, my brain started running wild with the list of everything I still needed to do to be ready. Here's how it looks in practical action to take thoughts captive to Christ, renewing your mind. A high level wife is not one who worries about tomorrow nor does she allow overwhelm or anxiety to be her authority. We are women who are rooted and grounded in the love of Christ, anchored in Truth and still. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod blew my mind today! I wanted to invite you into the process of real-time battle for my mind and how I walked through to receive a double portion from God. You can do this too!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailThis episode is for the wife who is exhausted from trying so hard to walk with the Lord and wants to know how God leads and provides and grows us in real time, uniquely as you are.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod paid off $78k in debt when we said yes and obeyed Him in 2014. Now He's doing it again with KY. What could big, bold faith and radical obedience mean for you right now, a year from now, 10 years from now too?  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailInstagram put out a new feature called “Instants” and this is how I'm inviting you into DAILY right order as a wife with them. Doing these 3 can radically shift your heart posture, dear wife.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

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Send us Fan MailIt's been a minute since a new episode as we're in the midst of less than 30 days out until we move and all the pieces that go into the whole process of radical obedience to God and big belief He makes our steps sure. Let's dive into how God is teaching me to navigate this season as a godly wife who seeks the Lord FIRST and submits to her husband's authority while walking as his helpmeet. His ezer. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailAre you carrying your husband's emotions? Your children's disappointment? The tension in your home? Constantly reading the room, smoothing things over, rescuing, fixing, and keeping everyone okay will eventually crush you—and it can prevent the people you love from taking responsibility for their own growth. You can be tender without carrying everyone. Let's learn the difference between bearing one another's burdens and taking ownership of a load God never gave us. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhen you stop living marriage the world's way and begin walking as a surrendered disciple of Christ, not everyone will understand—and your own flesh may start asking, “Is this really worth it?” Do it anyway. We're talking surrender, obedience, giants, impossible circumstances, and the God who is able. We aren't walking toward victory hoping God pulls it off. We walk from the victory Christ has already won. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailThe hurt may be real. The offense may need repair. The pattern may genuinely need to change. But you can become so consumed with what's wrong in your marriage that you forget what your marriage is for. Let's zoom out from the weeds and recover God's bigger picture: oneness, multiplication, forward motion, and two people pulling together for His Kingdom. Deal with the weeds—but keep building. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailIf your husband isn't the enemy, who is? In this episode, we identify the real battle happening beneath so much marital conflict: the flesh, the mind, Satan, and the influence of the world. Learn how each operates, how they can work together to turn you against your husband, and what Scripture tells us to do about each one. Stop aiming your weapons at flesh and blood. Know your enemy, know your weapons, and stay submitted to the Commander. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailYou can deeply love God, genuinely love your husband, want the absolute best for him—and still unknowingly fight against him. In this episode, we expose how control can disguise itself as “helping him grow,” why you were never called to be your husband's Holy Spirit, and the difference between trying to change him and truly warring for him. It's time to put down the fleshly weapons of correction, criticism, and control and trust God to do what only He can do. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailI'm bringing you a framework of 9 actions to war on behalf of your husband. Take up these divine weapons of warfare that DESTROY strongholds over your husband so he is fully free, on fire and filled with love! This is how High Level Wives fight tenderly, tenaciously and ultimately how we take back territory the enemy has stolen! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailCulture teaches us to evaluate marriage like consumers: Am I happy? Are my needs being met? What am I getting from this? Jesus gives us an entirely different model. In this episode, we're confronting the marriage scorecard, the stalemate of waiting for our spouse to go first, and what happens when our obedience flows from what we've already received from Christ. Stop keeping score and start asking: What can God give through me? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the enemy doesn't have to destroy your marriage if he can simply keep it distracted? When husband and wife become consumed with offenses, scorekeeping, unmet expectations, and fighting each other, two people designed for Kingdom impact lose their shared direction. Let's expose the strategy of division and remember: your spouse is not your enemy. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod's first words to male and female included a command to be fruitful and multiply. What if that principle reaches far beyond simply building a family? In this episode, we're looking at marriage as a multiplier for discipleship, hospitality, generosity, testimony, service, and Kingdom impact—and asking one powerful question: Who could experience God's goodness because your marriage said yes? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailCulture has made marriage about happiness, fulfillment, and getting our needs met—but God's vision is so much bigger. In this episode, we're going back to Genesis to uncover why God created marriage, how covenant points beyond husband and wife, and what changes when we stop asking what God can do for our marriage and start asking what He wants to do through it. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHere's an episode from the past that still rings true today for creating ANY change that lasts. It's what we do CONSISTENTLY over time that creates the results you see today. So what you do today creates the results you see years from now. What are you creating? What needs to change?  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave we become so familiar with the Gospel that we've stopped marveling at it? In this episode, Chelsey shares a moment from church that sparked a deeper question: Why are we often quicker to celebrate human achievement than the miracle of salvation? Together, we'll explore what Scripture reveals about encountering the holiness of God and why true worship isn't about personality or preference- it's about a heart that is still moved by His presence. If you've ever felt like your faith has become routine, this episode is an invitation to recover the wonder of the Gospel. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod gave you emotions, but He never intended them to lead your life. Learn how to acknowledge your feelings without allowing them to determine your direction. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailMany marriage struggles aren't really marriage problems- they're worship problems. Discover why putting Christ first changes everything else. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHealing begins with honesty. In this Espresso Shot, learn why bringing hidden wounds into the light is the first step toward the transformation God desires. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailDo you know the difference between the voice of the Holy Spirit and the voice of shame? Discover how conviction leads to freedom while condemnation keeps you stuck. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if your frustration is actually revealing something deeper? In this episode, we'll uncover how unmet expectations often point to areas where God is inviting us to surrender. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailMost conflict doesn't begin with facts- it begins with assumptions. Learn how choosing curiosity over conclusions can transform your marriage and strengthen your relationships. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailAre you trying to fix behaviors while missing the heart? In this quick Espresso Shot (5 min or less!), discover why lasting transformation starts at the root, not the fruit, and how God changes us from the inside out. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat does it really mean to be a tender wife?Our culture often equates tenderness with weakness, passivity, or being easily hurt. But the Bible paints a completely different picture. A tender heart is one that remains soft before God, compassionate toward others, and responsive to the Holy Spirit—even in a hard world.In this episode, we'll explore the biblical meaning of tenderness through Scripture, from King Josiah's tender heart to God's tender mercies and the tender branch that signals new life. You'll discover why tenderness isn't the absence of strength but strength fully surrendered to Christ, and how a soft heart becomes one of the enemy's greatest defeats.Because a High Level Wife isn't weak.She is tender before God, tenacious against the enemy, and committed to taking back the territory he stole. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailRight Order. Repentance. Mission. Core values. Daily, weekly, and monthly disciplines, rhythms, and habits. This is how a high level family does it God's way and flourishes forward together!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailDon't know how to pray or what to pray? This episode dives into exactly how I use God's own written word to form and guide my prayers back to Him. It's so simple but so powerful!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod corrected us and redirected us onto a path that has and is requiring bold, audacious faith and radical obedience to Him. Come listen as I throw the curtains wide open to our household and see God work!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the goal of your marriage isn't simply a better relationship—but becoming more like Jesus?In this final episode, we bring the entire series together by looking at the heart of biblical marriage: daily surrender. Through John 3:30, Galatians 2:20, and the Gospel, you'll discover that flourishing isn't found in demanding more from your spouse but in giving more of yourself to Christ. As we decrease and He increases, our marriages become living testimonies of God's love, grace, and glory. Because the greatest gift you can give your spouse isn't a perfect version of you—it's a life fully surrendered to Jesus. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave you unknowingly asked your spouse to do what only God can do?In this episode, we uncover one of the greatest obstacles to intimacy: expecting our spouse to become our source of peace, security, identity, or worth. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but it makes a terrible god. Discover how putting Christ back on the throne frees you to delight in your spouse instead of depending on them, and why the strongest marriages are built by two people whose deepest needs are already being met by Jesus. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWho goes first in marriage?The Gospel has already answered that question. Jesus did.In this practical episode, we'll explore why waiting keeps marriages stuck, how Christ's pursuit of us frees us to pursue our spouse without keeping score, and what it looks like to love first—not because our spouse deserves it, but because Christ first loved us. Healthy marriages aren't built on reciprocity; they're built on grace. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave we reduced intimacy to something far smaller than God intended?In this episode, we dive into the biblical meaning of becoming "one flesh" by unpacking the rich Hebrew and Greek words behind God's design for marriage. You'll discover that intimacy is far more than physical—it is covenant, unity, faithfulness, and being fully known. When we understand God's design, we stop chasing intimacy and begin cultivating the covenant where intimacy naturally flourishes. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy is it so hard to fully trust and open your heart in marriage?In this episode, we explore how fear, shame, and past wounds lead us to build walls that keep intimacy out. Through Scripture, you'll discover how God's perfect love casts out fear, why self-protection and oneness cannot coexist, and how surrendering your heart to Christ gives you the freedom to love your spouse without being ruled by fear. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I lead Christian wives  to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God's design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailBefore your spouse can faithfully hold your heart, God must have it first.In this opening episode, we uncover the foundation of every thriving marriage: a heart fully surrendered to Christ. Discover why God isn't after your performance but your heart, how we've unknowingly asked our spouses to carry what only God can, and why right order changes everything. When Christ becomes your first love, marriage becomes the beautiful overflow- not the source- of intimacy. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan Mail Why God's Design Was Always Bigger Than You What if God's ultimate purpose for your marriage isn't simply your happiness—but His glory?In this final episode of the series, we discover that marriage has always been about something greater than two people. Through Ephesians 5, you'll see how God's design for husbands and wives is a living picture of Christ's love for His Church. When we stop making marriage about ourselves and start making it about revealing Jesus, everything changes. Flourishing isn't the goal—it's the fruit of lives surrendered to God's authority and committed to displaying the Gospel to the world. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the goal of your marriage isn't simply a better relationship—but becoming more like Jesus?In this final episode, we bring the entire series together by looking at the heart of biblical marriage: daily surrender. Through John 3:30, Galatians 2:20, and the Gospel, you'll discover that flourishing isn't found in demanding more from your spouse but in giving more of yourself to Christ. As we decrease and He increases, our marriages become living testimonies of God's love, grace, and glory. Because the greatest gift you can give your spouse isn't a perfect version of you—it's a life fully surrendered to Jesus. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat does biblical submission actually look like on an ordinary Tuesday?In this practical episode, we're moving beyond misconceptions to discover how submission is lived out in everyday marriage. We'll talk about respect, honor, influence instead of control, making specific requests, handling disagreement, and why your obedience is an act of worship- not a strategy to change your husband. God's design isn't about making women smaller; it's about creating marriages that flourish for His glory. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave you unknowingly asked your spouse to do what only God can do?In this episode, we uncover one of the greatest obstacles to intimacy: expecting our spouse to become our source of peace, security, identity, or worth. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but it makes a terrible god. Discover how putting Christ back on the throne frees you to delight in your spouse instead of depending on them, and why the strongest marriages are built by two people whose deepest needs are already being met by Jesus. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailSubmission has become one of the most misunderstood words in the Church. But before it was ever about marriage, it was about trusting God.In this episode, we'll explore why God is a God of order, why Ephesians 5 begins with reverence for Christ, and why obedience always comes before the outcome we're praying for. Discover why biblical submission isn't about losing your voice- it's about trusting the heart of the Designer and allowing His order to bring flourishing to your marriage Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWe're always just one generation away from forgetting God. And wives are no different.In this episode, we'll explore how God's people went from readying for war against their brothers across the Jordan to forgetting about what He had done for them in just ONE generation. Discover how this impacts marriage and also future generations.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailModern culture has discipled women to believe freedom is found in rejecting God's design. Scripture teaches the opposite.In this episode, we're asking one question: Who defines womanhood- culture or Christ? We'll explore how competing worldviews have shaped marriage, why God's design isn't oppressive but protective, and why Christian wives cannot build flourishing marriages on a foundation that contradicts God's Word. God's design has always been for our good, our freedom, and His glory. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy do we ask God to restore what we're unwilling to surrender?In this episode, we're opening the book of Judges to uncover a sobering pattern: partial obedience always leads to compromise. The Israelites entered the Promised Land but refused to fully obey God's commands, and one generation later they had forgotten the Lord and were living according to their own ways. What does this have to do with marriage? More than you think. If we're praying for God's blessing while resisting His authority, we're building on the wrong foundation. Flourishing begins with conviction, confession, repentance, and wholehearted obedience. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailFollowing Jesus isn't complicated—but it will cost you your pride, your control, and your timeline.In this final episode, we're bringing the series full circle by returning to the beauty of simple obedience. If you've been waiting for another sign, another answer, or another confirmation, perhaps God is inviting you to simply obey what He's already made clear. Because when you seek Him first, give Him your attention, and surrender your heart, everything else begins to find its proper place. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave we confused grace with passivity?The gospel doesn't call us to sit back and do nothing. It calls us to work, steward, build, and serve—but from acceptance, not for acceptance. In this episode, we'll unpack the difference between striving to earn God's favor and faithfully stewarding the life He's already given you. Discover why discipline is not the enemy of grace but one of its greatest fruits. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if worship isn't something you attend or a song you sing—but the way you live?In this episode, we're redefining worship through the lens of Scripture. From your workout to your marriage, your parenting to your work, every ordinary moment becomes holy when it's offered to the Lord. Discover how consecrating your attention transforms everyday responsibilities into acts of worship and why seeking God first changes not just your quiet time—but your entire life. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat has your attention right now?Because whatever consistently has your attention is shaping your heart.In this episode, we're exploring one of the most powerful principles in spiritual formation: attention shapes affection. We'll talk about why the enemy fights for your attention, how what you repeatedly notice changes your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with God, and why learning to intentionally direct your attention may be one of the most practical ways to seek the Kingdom first. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy does God care so much about being first?Because whatever comes first shapes everything that follows.In this episode, we're unpacking the biblical principle of first—from Genesis to Matthew 6—and discovering why seeking God first isn't another box to check but the foundation for peace, wisdom, and right order. When God has your first attention, every other decision begins to fall into its proper place. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if God isn't withholding an answer… what if He's building your foundation?So often we bring God questions about decisions, timelines, relationships, parenting, or the future, while He's inviting us into something much deeper: seeking Him first.In this episode, we'll unpack why God often focuses on the condition of our hearts before the circumstances around us, what the wilderness was really for, and why the foundation God builds in you is far more important than the decisions you're asking Him to make for you. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.