The Chelsey Holm Podcast

Send us Fan MailRide the wave of God's consistent, never-failing goodness to speak WEEK after WEEK without fail inside HLW! Come, taste and see the Lord's goodness!! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat do you actually need in marriage? This is the wrong question. Rather, the question is Who am I looking to fill me? Where am I satisfied? Do I actually need my husband or did God design something much richer within marriage WHEN we walk as one flesh IN and BY the Spirit? Let's get to it... Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhen you're growing, the navigational systems that once protected you eventually don't fit the new direction. But the brain prefers the known discomfort rather than the unknown discomfort of what is not familiar to you....yet.In this episode, Chelsey explores the pull of reverting back to old patterns of self-protection and how to steer-clear of returning to your vomit again (as Proverbs 26:11 so aptly warns us). Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRight now, your strongest thoughts are driving the direction of your life. What you're looking for, you're finding. In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how all of your thoughts are impacting you and what to do about it. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI didn't know what I didn't know. In this episode, I unpack several things I learned the hard way, things that I needed to unlearn, and things that I now share with you. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI recently had an onboarding call with a new wife to HLW (her husband was already in HLH for many months). She was very clear that her heart was checked out of her marriage. She wanted to pursue separation and eventually divorce. After listening to her story and knowing the current situation, I spoke the Truth that it would be unbiblical to leave her husband. She pushed for divorce the following week through manipulation of her husband for it to be "cheaper". This is direct disobedience to the Lord.In this episode, Chelsey shares a real life story of a wife with a heart of stone who God wants to give a heart of flesh. And the miracle that she has seen God do firsthand in her own marriage- that is waiting for this wife's surrender. Let this be a warning and a call to repentance for the wayward wife. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan Mail"Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find?" Proverbs 20:6"I'm a good wife." "I'm submissive to my husband.""I respect my husband."In this episode, Chelsey teaches you the truth behind fruit as evidence in our lives of how well we abide in the Father or not. Fruit doesn't lie. Bad fruit, limited fruit, or abundant fruit- what fruit is being produced in and through you right now? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailProblems with physical intimacy got you thinking it's the biggest issue when it's merely an indicator check engine light for lack in the other 2 areas of intimacy. Chelsey unpacks the 3 types of intimacy in this episode, what they are, how they are superficial right now, and how to increase them by focusing on practical daily disciplines. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIs God revealing areas where you need to implement daily discipline? Are there areas He is showing you that your heart posture is wrong? What about areas where He wants you to take discipline even deeper?In this episode, Chelsey dives into discipline of the body and the spiritual act of worship to discipline your body as a command of stewardship. Buckle up! This one is likely to bring that Holy Spirit fire of conviction. Good news- conviction leads to repentance which brings freedom, not condemnation and shame. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailThe divorce rate among Christians right now is 50% or more- that's out of every 2 marriages, at LEAST 1 will end in marriage. Woof. In this episode, Chelsey shares with you the ONE daily habit that drops that statistic DRASTICALLY from 1 in 2 couples ending in divorce to 1 in 1,152! It's completely free and you can start right now. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIntimacy doesn't start in the bedroom. Marriages don't end because of intimacy issues- they are simply early warning lights of deeper problems. In this episode, Chelsey gives you 4 ways to deepen intimacy (outside of the bedroom that improves intimacy INSIDE the bedroom) that ANYONE can do no matter where you are in marriage right now. These are practical, powerful, and meant to be done consistently and DAILY. One of these divorce-proofs your marriage unlike anything else! Less than 1% of divorces happen when you do just this one thing DAILY! Drop a review when with the one you're implementing first.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRight now your marriage is a liability to God's Kingdom work, a stumbling block to the good works God has predestined you to walk in, a hindrance to the preaching of His gospel.In this episode, you'll find 3 ways to turn your marriage into an asset for the Lord and not the liability it is right now. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou don't need a perfect plan—you need a daily return to alignment.In this final episode of the Identity series, Chelsey Holm brings everything together and shows you what it actually looks like to live this out in real life.Not in theory. Not in a perfect environment. But in the middle of triggers, tension, busy days, and real marriage dynamics.This episode will help you move from understanding identity… to embodying it through small, daily decisions rooted in obedience, surrender, and alignment with God.Because this isn't about getting it right once.It's about returning—again and again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMost women don't realize they've made this shift… until they feel the distance in their marriage.In this episode, Chelsey Holm confronts one of the most culturally accepted—but quietly destructive—patterns in modern families: putting kids before the marriage.It feels loving. It feels noble. But it slowly erodes connection, creates disunity, and leaves marriages running on leftovers.God's design is clear—marriage is the foundation of the home, not an afterthought.This episode will challenge you to reconsider what you've normalized and begin restoring the order that actually protects your family long-term. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou keep trying to fix your marriage… but God is trying to restore you.In this episode, Chelsey Holm exposes a hard but freeing truth: your marriage cannot be healthy if you are operating from depletion, dysregulation, and disconnection from God.Many women abandon themselves in the name of being a “good wife”—overgiving, overfunctioning, and losing their peace in the process.But God's design is clear: He works through a wife who is aligned, filled, and led by the Spirit—not one who is exhausted and reactive.This episode will challenge you to stop bypassing your own alignment and start stewarding your mind, body, and spirit so you can show up with clarity, peace, and authority in your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou say God is first… but does your life actually reflect it?In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks what it truly means to put God first—not just in belief, but in your daily reactions, decisions, and emotional responses.Many women claim God as their foundation, yet still live led by feelings, fear, and control. This misalignment creates instability, anxiety, and disconnection in marriage.When God is not first, something else always takes the lead.This episode will help you identify what's actually leading you—and how to realign your life so everything else can stabilize. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou know what God says… but are you actually living it out?In this episode, Chelsey Holm exposes the gap between knowing truth and obeying it—and why that gap is where frustration, disconnection, and control take root in marriage.Many women have knowledge of Scripture, desire to grow, and a heart for God… but are still reacting, striving, and trying to manage outcomes instead of walking in simple, Spirit-led obedience.If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like nothing is shifting—this episode will show you why.Transformation doesn't come from what you know. It comes from how you respond. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou don't need a better marriage strategy—you need a right response to a holy God.In this episode, Chelsey Holm reframes identity as a wife through the lens of God's holiness, obedience, and reverence. Walking from Genesis through the New Testament, she unpacks the difference between knowing what God says and actually living in alignment with it.Many women love God but are unknowingly striving, controlling, and reacting—trying to produce righteousness through effort instead of surrender.This episode will challenge you to stop bringing “strange fire” into your marriage and instead return to simple, Spirit-led obedience that leads to peace, alignment, and transformation. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou are not powerless in your marriage—you've just been undertrained. Ep 6In this final episode of the Spiritual Warfare Within Marriage series, Chelsey Holm brings everything together and equips you to step fully into the authority you've been given through the Holy Spirit.This is not about control, manipulation, or position. This is about alignment, prayer, and walking in Spirit-led power.You'll learn what biblical authority actually is, how to cover your marriage in prayer without striving, and how to lead from a place of surrender and strength.This episode will shift how you see your role—and activate how you show up. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat do you do when you're trying… and he's not? Ep 4When there's distance, disconnection, or you feel like you're the only one carrying the weight of your marriage?In this episode of the Spiritual Warfare Within Marriage series, Chelsey Holm walks you through how to fight for your marriage without controlling your husband—and how to step into spiritual authority even when unity isn't present.You'll learn how to shift the atmosphere of your home, break cycles, and lead from alignment, not pressure.Because you are not powerless—even if you feel alone. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailUnity in marriage doesn't just create connection—it creates power. Ep. 4In this episode of the Spiritual Warfare Within Marriage series, Chelsey Holm reveals why the enemy fights so hard to keep couples divided and what actually happens in the spiritual realm when a husband and wife come into agreement.You'll learn how the biblical concept of “one flesh” is more than a relational idea—it's a spiritual reality that multiplies authority, strengthens prayer, and disrupts the enemy's plans.If you've been feeling disconnected or fighting for unity in your marriage, this episode will show you why it matters more than you think—and how alignment unlocks a new level of impact. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailSpiritual Warfare Mini Series Ep 3Most wives are trying to fight spiritual battles with emotional reactions—and it's exhausting.In this episode, Chelsey equips you with the biblical weapons you've been given as a believer and how to actually use them inside your marriage.You'll learn how prayer, truth, fasting, praise, and obedience shift the atmosphere of your home and position you to walk in real spiritual authority.This is where you stop reacting—and start fighting the right way. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMini Series Ep 2 On Warring Over Your Marriage With Spiritual WeaponsWhy do the same arguments, frustrations, and patterns keep showing up in your marriage?Because the enemy is not random—he's strategic.In this episode, Chelsey exposes the four primary tactics used against marriages: deception, division, distraction, and distortion.When you can recognize the pattern, you stop being controlled by it.This is where awareness begins—and everything starts to shift. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailNEW Mini Series starts today: How to War Spiritually Over Your Marriage. Ep. 1If you feel like you're constantly fighting in your marriage, this episode will shift how you see everything.Because your husband is not the enemy—but if you treat him like he is, you'll keep fighting the wrong battle.In this episode, Chelsey Holm breaks down the spiritual reality behind conflict in marriage and how the enemy uses misdirected frustration, offense, and emotional reactions to create division.You'll learn how to stop reacting and start discerning—so you can protect your marriage and step back into your rightful position. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailThe real foundation of a strong marriage isn't compatibility, communication tricks, or finding the right partner.It's surrender.In this final episode of The Real Purpose of Marriage series, Chelsey explains why every healthy marriage is built on the daily practice of denying self, laying down pride, and choosing humility, forgiveness, and service.Marriage reveals the places where the flesh wants control—and invites us into the deeper work of becoming more like Christ.Because the goal of marriage isn't just happiness.It's holiness, formation, and Kingdom impact.When two people commit to daily surrender, their marriage becomes a powerful place where God refines character, restores unity, and advances His purposes through their lives together. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailThe enemy doesn't attack marriage randomly.He attacks it because of what a unified marriage can do.When a husband and wife walk in agreement under God's design, their unity pushes back darkness, strengthens the next generation, and becomes a powerful testimony of God's restoration.In this episode, Chelsey explores the spiritual reality behind marital conflict, the enemy's strategy of division, and how couples can reclaim unity and turn their marriage into a force for Kingdom impact.Marriage isn't just a relationship.It's a spiritual battleground—and a spiritual weapon. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMarriage was never meant to stop at companionship.It was designed to multiply impact.When a husband and wife align under God's authority, their marriage becomes more than a relationship—it becomes a Kingdom partnership.In this episode, Chelsey explains how marriage moves from survival to mission, why spiritual alignment multiplies influence, and how couples who understand this purpose begin impacting their families, their communities, and generations to come.Marriage isn't just about building a life together.It's about advancing God's work together. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailGod didn't accidentally pair you with your spouse.Marriage brings together two people with different gifts, strengths, and perspectives—not to compete, but to complement one another.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the biblical design of ezer kenegdo, the powerful role of a wife as a strategic counterpart, and how God uses marriage to develop and refine the spiritual gifts inside both husband and wife.When couples stop competing and start aligning, marriage becomes a powerful place of growth and strengthening. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMost people think marriage is meant to make them happy. But one of the first things marriage actually does is expose what needs to change in us.Marriage reveals pride, control, fear, insecurity, and patterns we didn't even know we carried.In this episode, Chelsey explains how God uses marriage as a tool for pruning, refinement, and spiritual growth, and why the friction many couples experience is often the very place God is doing His deepest work.Marriage isn't just companionship.It's formation. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMini Series:  The Influence of a Wife in God's Design Ep 6Many couples believe marriage is about personal happiness or simply “getting along.” But God designed marriage for something much bigger.A husband and wife aligned under God's order become a powerful force for kingdom impact. In this episode, Chelsey explains how a wife's influence doesn't stop inside the home—it multiplies outward into families, communities, and generations.Marriage isn't the mission. It's the launching point. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMini Series:  The Influence of a Wife in God's Design Ep 5Prayer is one of the most underestimated weapons a wife has.Many wives try to change their husbands through pressure, correction, or conversation—but God invites us to partner with Him through prayer.In this episode, Chelsey explains why prayer changes what pressure never can and how a praying wife influences her marriage in powerful ways. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMini Series:  The Influence of a Wife in God's Design Ep 4Homes have atmospheres—and often a wife's spirit sets the tone.Peace, tension, criticism, joy, faith… the posture you carry daily shapes the emotional and spiritual environment your family lives in.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how wives build or tear down the atmosphere of their homes and how walking closely with God transforms the entire household. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textMini Series:  The Influence of a Wife in God's Design Ep 3Why did the serpent approach Eve first in the Garden of Eden?This story reveals something powerful about the influence women carry. In this episode, Chelsey explores how a wife's spiritual posture can shape her marriage and why the enemy understands the power of a woman's influence—even when she doesn't. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textMini Series:  The Influence of a Wife in God's Design Ep 2Many wives say they want to influence their husbands—but unknowingly move into control.Influence invites growth. Control pressures it.In this episode, Chelsey explains the critical difference between godly influence and subtle manipulation, and why trying to manage your husband's growth can actually suffocate the leadership you're hoping to see. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textMini Series: The Influence of a Wife in God's Design Ep. 1Many women believe their walk with God is personal—but Scripture shows it's never private.A wife's obedience, faith, and heart posture shape the spiritual atmosphere of her home in ways she may not even realize. In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how a woman's daily choices influence her husband, her children, and the culture of her household.Your influence is real. The question is: what is it producing? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textChelsey shares the story of her Papa—the man who became her grandfather when she was five years old and who faithfully modeled the love, truth, and steadiness of God for decades.After his recent passing, Chelsey reflects on the powerful celebration of his life and the legacy he leaves behind: a life marked by faithfulness to the Lord, a family shaped by the gospel, and a testimony that continues even after death.His funeral was not just a memorial—it was a proclamation of the gospel, a reminder that a life lived for Christ echoes far beyond our years.But this moment also surfaced something deeper. In the quiet spaces of grief, Chelsey confronted a lie the enemy had whispered for years: the feeling of being an outsider who doesn't quite belong.Through a meaningful conversation with her grandmother after the funeral, God gently ministered to Chelsey's heart and reminded her of the truth—she has always belonged, and the love and faith of her Papa helped shape the woman she is today.In this episode Chelsey shares:• The legacy of a life faithfully devoted to God • Why Christian funerals are powerful opportunities to proclaim the gospel • The bittersweet reality of grieving with the hope of heaven • How the enemy uses subtle lies about belonging and identity • The healing moment that reminded her of God's steadfast loveThis episode is a reminder that a life lived for Christ never ends quietly—it continues through testimony, through family, and through the gospel that transforms generations. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textWhat does it really mean when the Bible calls wives the “weaker vessel”?For many women, that phrase has been misunderstood, misused, or rejected altogether. But in this episode, Chelsey reframes the biblical meaning in a way that restores the beauty and dignity of God's design.Being the “weaker vessel” is not about inferiority—it's about value.Like fine china, something delicate is not treated carelessly. It is handled with intention, protected, honored, and cherished. In the same way, God designed women with unique strengths, sensitivities, and capacities that bring life, beauty, and depth into marriage and the home.In this episode Chelsey unpacks:• What the Bible actually means by “the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7) • Why men and women were created with distinct roles in marriage • How culture has distorted God's design for masculinity and femininity • Why being cherished, protected, and honored is part of God's intention for wives • How understanding your role as a wife strengthens—not weakens—your marriageThis conversation is a powerful reminder that God's design for men and women in marriage is not about hierarchy or competition—it's about complementary strength, honor, and unity as one flesh.When husbands and wives embrace their God-given roles, marriage begins to flourish the way it was always meant to. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textWhere did High Level Wife come from?In this deeply personal episode, Chelsey shares the full story behind how the High Level Wife community was born—from a marriage retreat with High Level Husband founder Tommy McAllister to a moment in the back of a taxi where God used Scripture in Haggai to radically redirect her path.What began as a simple message asking Chelsey to create a program for wives quickly became something much deeper: a season of breaking, surrender, and preparation as God reshaped her calling.Chelsey shares the behind-the-scenes journey of:• How she and her husband first discovered High Level Husband • The moment Tommy McAllister prophetically saw a future partnership • Why God had to break down her own ambitions before building High Level Wife • The powerful confirmation God gave through the book of Haggai • How the Holy Spirit is transforming marriages inside the HLW community today • Why High Level Wife is not about one person—but about the body of Christ working togetherThis episode is a powerful reminder that God often prepares us in seasons of breaking before releasing the calling He has planned.Because when we stop building our own houses and start building His… He multiplies the work in ways we could never orchestrate ourselves. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textIn this raw and personal episode, Chelsey pauses the current podcast mini-series to share a behind-the-scenes look at a powerful shift happening in her own home—and the conviction the Holy Spirit brought that exposed something deeper.For years Chelsey taught biblical submission while unknowingly walking in a subtle spirit of rebellion rooted in control. It wasn't loud or obvious. It looked like leadership, conviction, and even spiritual passion.But underneath it was something damaging to her husband's faith and leadership.In this honest conversation, Chelsey shares the moment the Holy Spirit revealed how control, manipulation, and pressure can quietly replace true surrender—and how releasing that control created space for her husband to step into leadership in powerful new ways.You'll hear:• How a wife can teach submission while still resisting it in her heart • Why control is the root of rebellion and even mirrors the spirit behind witchcraft • The moment Chelsey realized she was unintentionally damaging her husband's spiritual growth • How stepping out of the Holy Spirit's way allows God to work in your husband • What happens when a husband begins leading his family spirituallyThis episode is a call to radical humility, honest self-examination, and trust in God's design for marriage.Because sometimes the breakthrough your marriage needs begins when you stop trying to control the outcome and finally create space for God to move. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textHeart Posture Mini Series, Ep 5Why does surrender to God feel difficult for so many women?Often, the issue isn't behavior—it's order.In the final episode of The Heart Posture Series, Chelsey explains how right order in your life naturally creates the right heart posture toward God, your husband, and your responsibilities.When God is not truly first, pressure, control, resentment, and frustration begin to take root. But when God is restored to His rightful place, humility, peace, and surrender begin to flow naturally.Through Scripture and practical examples, this episode reveals why many wives struggle with surrender—and how realigning your life around God changes everything.In this episode you'll learn:Why surrender feels difficult when life is out of orderThe biblical order God designed for life and marriageHow a right view of God produces humility and trustWhy wives often carry burdens that were never theirs to carryHow restoring God to first place transforms your heart posture and your marriage Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textHeart Posture Mini Series, Ep 4You can be doing all the “right things” in your marriage… and still have the wrong heart posture.In Episode 4 of The Heart Posture Series, Chelsey shares a personal story about a season in her marriage when her behavior looked obedient on the outside—but internally her heart was still trying to control the outcome.Through this honest reflection, you'll see how subtle pride, frustration, and control can hide behind spiritual language and “good behavior.”Real transformation didn't begin when the behavior changed.It began when the heart posture shifted.In this episode you'll learn:How behavior can appear righteous while the heart remains misalignedWhy trying to fix your husband creates deeper tension in marriageThe difference between surrendering to God and trying to manage the outcomeHow God uses marriage to refine and humble our heartsWhy true peace begins when you release control and trust God with the process Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textHeart Posture Mini Series, Ep 3Why do two people experience the same situation but respond completely differently?In Episode 3 of The Heart Posture Series, Chelsey walks through powerful biblical examples showing how God consistently responds to the posture of the heart rather than circumstances or outward behavior.From Judas and Peter, to the two criminals on the cross, to King Saul and King David, Scripture reveals a consistent truth: the difference between destruction and restoration often comes down to heart posture.This episode will challenge you to examine how your heart responds when life, marriage, and conflict press in.Because the situation you face isn't what determines your direction.Your heart posture does.In this episode you'll learn:Why God responds differently to people in the same situationThe difference between shame and repentanceHow pride and humility shape outcomes in ScriptureWhy pressure reveals your heart postureHow this principle directly affects your marriage and spiritual growth Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textHeart Posture Mini Series, Ep 2You can do all the right things… and still have a heart that is far from God.In Episode 2 of The Heart Posture Series, Chelsey walks through powerful biblical examples that reveal why behavior alone doesn't impress God—and why heart posture matters far more than outward actions.From the poor widow's offering to the rich young ruler, Ananias and Sapphira, and Jesus' warnings to the Pharisees, this episode exposes the difference between religious performance and true surrender.If you've ever wondered why doing “all the right things” still isn't producing peace or transformation in your marriage, this conversation will challenge you to look deeper.God is not looking for perfect behavior.He is looking for a surrendered heart.In this episode you'll learn:Why God rejects outward obedience when the heart is wrongThe difference between sacrifice and surrenderHow religious performance sneaks into marriageWhy behavior modification cannot produce true transformationThe heart posture that invites God to work in your life and marriage Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textHeart Posture Mini Series, Ep. 1You can do all the right things… and still have the wrong heart posture.In this first episode of The Heart Posture Series, Chelsey breaks down what heart posture actually means, why God cares about it so deeply, and how it affects everything from your obedience to your marriage.Through powerful biblical examples—including the Pharisee and the tax collector, King Saul's disobedience, and God's warning that He looks at the heart—you'll discover why behavior alone isn't enough.God is not impressed by outward performance.He is looking for a heart fully surrendered to Him.In this episode you'll learn:What “heart posture” actually meansWhy behavior without the right heart posture still leads to tensionHow pride, fear, and resentment quietly shape your obedienceThe difference between compliance and surrenderWhy heart posture is the starting point for transformation in marriageIf you want to experience real change in your marriage and your walk with God, it starts here. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textWhat if marriage wasn't just about companionship OR happiness… but about multiplication?In this powerful vision-setting episode, Chelsey paints a bigger picture of what marriage looks like when it's done God's way — not centered on happiness, but holiness. Not self-focused, but Spirit-led.Every believer has been given a spiritual gift. Every believer has talents. And every believer has weaknesses. But when two people come together in covenant — fully surrendered to the Holy Spirit — those gifts don't just coexist… they complement, strengthen, and multiply kingdom impact.In this episode, you'll hear:How spiritual gifts function inside marriageWhy your weakness becomes your superpower in the SpiritThe connection between prophecy and wisdom in covenantWhy marriage exposes your rough edges (on purpose)What it means to “get out of God's way” as a wifeWhy marriage is about holiness, not happinessHow unity multiplies your kingdom impactMarriage God's way isn't survival. It's sanctification. It's spiritual multiplication.When both husband and wife walk in surrender, their gifts begin to operate like a well-oiled machine — powerful, aligned, and deeply effective for the Kingdom.Blessings upon blessings isn't hype.It's the overflow of obedience. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textIn Exodus, God gives intricate instructions for the Ark of the Covenant — precise measurements, detailed materials, sacred garments, holy order.Why?Because our God is a God of order. A God of detail. A God of holiness.But tucked inside those instructions is something powerful:“I will put My testimony in it.”In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the revelation that you are now that dwelling place. You are the temple of the Holy Spirit. And God has placed a testimony inside you — not by accident, not randomly, but intentionally and strategically for His purposes.You'll hear:Why your struggles were never wastedHow Joseph's story reveals the purpose of painThe connection between your spiritual gifts and your weaknessesWhy God designs your personality to depend on HimHow your testimony aligns with works He predestined for youWhat it means to steward your calling instead of hiding from itWhat the enemy meant for evil, God is refining into testimony.You are not wandering without purpose.There is an anointing on your life. There is a testimony inside you. And there are good works prepared for you to walk in.The question is: will you get out of your own way and let Him use it? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textBefore you start mothering your husband, your nervous system gives you physical indicators of a deeper underlying need for self-protection. In this episode Chelsey teaches you how to move from stress-fueled reaction to Spirit- led response that honors your husband, expresses yourself, and creates space for vulnerability and deeper connection than you've ever experienced yet.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textHow often do you say, “I'm trying…” — and then follow it with something you've been stuck in for months… maybe years?In this fiery and convicting episode, Chelsey exposes the subtle lie behind “I'm trying” language and why it may actually be keeping you stuck in weakness instead of walking in the power of the Holy Spirit.You'll hear:Why “I'm trying” is flesh language, not faith languageHow this phrase quietly partners with passivity and excusesThe difference between walking for victory and walking from victoryWhy discipline is not punishment — it's a giftHow spiritual and physical discipline create space for the Spirit to moveWhat it means to shift from “I'm trying” to “I AM” in ChristGod never says, “I'm trying.” He says, “I AM.”If you're ready to stop squandering grace and start walking in authority, obedience, and Spirit-led discipline — this episode will wake you up in the best way. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text Are you healing… or just consuming? In the final episode of this series, Chelsey exposes one of the most dangerous traps Christian wives fall into: collecting “breakthrough moments” without stepping into obedience. You'll learn why hearing truth without doing it is spiritual deception, how self-help can become counterfeit transformation, and the difference between emotional “healing highs” and real fruit. This is your commissioning episode: stop screenshotting your healing — God is inviting you to obey.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textThis episode is a gut punch — in the best way. Chelsey exposes one of the hardest truths for wives to face: your marriage isn't the main problem… your heart posture is. In this episode, you'll learn how pride, offense, fear, and self-protection block God's work in both you and your husband — and how surrender is the key that unlocks restoration, peace, and God's bigger mission for your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.