The Chelsey Holm Podcast

Send us Fan MailHow often do you feel overwhelmed by the chaos, bad attitudes, and fights that start in your own house, family, and marriage? Learn how to shift the atmosphere and recalibrate the "tudes" like a high level wife! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailOffense is what our flesh does and when we let it take root, it becomes resentment, then bitterness, and finally unforgiveness. Learn how to be unoffendable in your marriage!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailLet's bring it all home with the core foundation of HOW we are enabled to walk in the nature and function of biblical femineity: it's the gospel applied! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou're out here walking in the masculine because it feels safer. I get it. That was me too. But learning how God uniquely designed you and how He created you to function within marriage is going to feel like a scary but exhilarating superpower to you. Let's gooooo!*this episode cuts off because our wifi went out, lame, but come back for part 2. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailLearn how to make space for and support the mission in your family. You bear your husband's authority, not to mention the power of the newness of life by the Cross. Walk in your authority and identity on SUBmission in your marriage! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat are you focusing on that is showing up as complaint in your life? Dive in with Chelsey on the topic of complaint and how it's a bigger thing than you think. Plus 2 passages that give warnings on the devastation of complaining. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat did you expect when you got married? Those unmet expectations are the seed of resentment that drains your marriage of the tender love you once had for your husband.Learn to ditch the expectations and have a right view of God, your spouse, and yourself in marriage. You'll feel so free, you won't even believe it! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYour eyes and ears are the gateway to your mind- what you fill it with is what then overflows from your heart through your words and actions. So what or who is getting your attention? Is it your husband? Or is it your phone? Let's bring awareness and shift the atmosphere to deeper connection in marriage, sister! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHappy Mother's Day! (a few days later since I recorded this earlier this week- I like to extend the fun, ya know)Update on the 5k with Emma this past weekend and sorrow over remembering a decade ago when I wanted my kids and husband just to leave me alone for Mother's Day. If you've felt this- you're not alone. But also, it's time to actually enjoy your blessings! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRemember when you saw all the good things in your man? You saw it and then you said it to him. I bet that man felt like he was 10 ft tall and could move mountains for you. Let's bring this back into the atmosphere of your marriage, sis! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailAnyone can serve your husband; only YOU can enjoy him and delight in him. Let's dive in and bring awareness so you can make some powerful shifts in your marriage today! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHLH and HLW cut out alcohol and other substances early in the program which is harder for some than others, but it's necessary. Why? Substances take the edge of discomfort off and inhibit oneness, unity, and growing up that is necessary for vulnerability within marriage.Also, if you aren't the one who has or is working on giving up substance reliance, you must put on a heart of flesh that overflows with understanding for your spouse as he/she walks through this process in submission to Holy Spirit. Let's get to it... Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWe recently had new friends over for dinner and she sent us a text after saying "Thank you so much for having us over tonight!!! We loved hanging with you guys. Your home is so full of love and so healing (which we know is Him!) but it was so beautiful to see. We can't wait to hang again!" What do people experience when they walk into your home? Wife, you have the unique authority and role to be the atmosphere setting and creator in your home! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI was co-leading a mediation session between a hurting Christian couple last week, and the Spirit kept urging me to see this husband's lonely heart, to see this wife's hurting heart, and to help them see each other for the first time as 2 broken, hurting, but redeemed people. In in this episode, Chelsey challenges you to put off division and to pray the hard prayer that aligns your heart to the Father's: " God, help me see him like You see him." This is a key to having a heart of flesh and God removing your heart of stone in your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailDid you know that 66-75% of young adults raised in the faith, walk away from the faith in their years following leaving the nest? Rather than the allure of being exposed to all new stuff they didn't previously have access to and now they do, might it be a LACK of witnessing the fruits of marriage God's way in their own parents' marriage that led to a disconnect in faith for them? That they saw more hurts, offenses, and lack of intimacy than they saw the fruits of the Spirit on display of 2 people living in the unity of one flesh....Let' dig in... because more is caught than taught. They are learning and it will be passed down to more than just your kids.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHow you obey the Father today, informs how you submit within your own marriage. You will not flourish in marriage God's way until you learn obedience from the right heart posture to God first. Chelsey dives into Israel's obedience to the Lord in the book of Numbers and how this overflowed from their fear of the Lord. This same heart posture is the key to submitting within your own marriage.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailVows say "for richer, for poorer" but when 70% of couples argue about finances... and money is consistently ranked as one of the leading sources of conflict in marriage- the reality is radically different from the original intent. Financial disagreements are a very strong predictor of divorce, and when it's "often" it's nearly 3x more!Chelsey dives deep the REAL key issue at work in marriages where finances are a point of contention and how to make this shift. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhile implementing these rules for communication won't address the root issues of your marriage, it WILL help you move faster in the SAME direction towards healing and oneness. In this episode, Chelsey shares 3 rules she and Zach implemented and still use today! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailGalatians 1:6-9 reveals the highly likely reason for where you are in marriage today: Anything that is Jesus+this or Jesus-that is a false gospel that keeps you stuck, frustrated, in conflict and not walking free. Dive into the one, true gospel and be free! You have received mercy; now walk free in it! Marriage is ground zero for this sanctification process to be magnified so you can be multiplied together pulling in the same direction, the very essence of God's mercy for the whole world to see. Not of either of you that you could boast but the power of God working in and through you both! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailA passive husband doesn't look weak; he actually looks like this...  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailListen to the recap of 7 ways God ministered to Chelsey's heart during a recent time of feeling a little downtrodden and be encouraged too! God is SO good!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHas your marriage become too serious? And that has overflowed to the bedroom? It's time to bring back the fun, laughter, excitement, and intimacy God's way! Chelsey shares some ways to keep it light and fun as you delight in one another, tasting and seeing God's goodness! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI thought this would be the shortest episode ever because I wanted to go all Truth, no love of: "If you refuse to forgive others, your Father in heaven will not forgive you." And then the Holy Spirit gently nudged me (punched me in the face) and reminded me of the love part...So let's dive into forgiveness and letting go God's way wrapped in both Truth and love. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHow often do you run back to the Lors in times of trouble, but quickly grow complacent in times of ease? That used to be me too! Our marriage breaking was what made me go running back to the Lord and to stay rooted in Him ALWAYS from that point onward. Over the years, the Lord has taught me the power of the weapons I have in Him. Weapons that ACTUALLY destroy strongholds and is DIVINE power. It's time to grab your weapons of warfare that are not of the flesh! It's the ONLY way to take back territory in your marriage and life. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailTake a peek into my morning car ride convo with my youngest, Bo, about the goodness of God, how He is the Giver of good and perfect gifts, and how we can ask Him for things.If you think God is a genie or a distant dad- you need this episode! Short, sweet and so powerful! Child-like faith, let's go! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIf you love biblical study from the perspective of God's unchanging character, specifically how we see that thread from OT to NT, you'll love this deep-dive on "minister" and "ministering". THEN we bring it all home in how this functions within covenant marriage, and specifically physical intimacy. *we're digging into original Hebrew and Greek, people! Woo!Let's go!!!!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMy dad told me for years that leadership can be really lonely when you're pouring into others. It reminds me of Moses leading the Israelites. You know me- always sharing the messy middle, showing my cards, and challenging you with an invite to learn right along with me. God didn't make us for isolation- that's where the enemy wants us.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIf you're honest, what patterns have emerged around initiation and follow through? For Chelsey, there were decades of opening the door only to close it, creating a pattern of rejection and denial. This isn't God's design for intimacy!Let's dig deeper into the importance of follow through from a right heart posture and understanding of intimacy and desire God's way. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHow we approach intimacy MUST flow from the RIGHT order! This allows us to be filled from the vertical to then overflow to the horizontal. If we approach from the WRONG order, we get stuck in low level "fixes", box checking, and wrong heart posture.Learn how to stop filtering physical intimacy through your flesh, and start learning sex within covenant marriage in the Spirit!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailFear, hurts, hang ups, and old patterns block us from the depth of intimacy in marriage God's way. Self protection is learned behavior and it hinders desire and expression of physical oneness. Listen as Chelsey dives into how we navigate the challenges of self protection, what to do about it, and how God is using it to reveal areas He wants to heal and exposing areas He wants to prune in us.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan Mail"Lord, wreck me over my husband's heart and desire for intimacy in marriage!" Chelsey prayed this prayer and God answered. Dive into intimacy, desire, and tasting God's goodness within marriage His way through physical intimacy! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMy daughter chose me to be her running buddy for her GOTR 5k coming up Mother's Day weekend. Yay! Except, even though I ran a marathon back in 2022, I haven't done much running at al since then... Panic!Just kidding, but this episode exposes the need for a reality check in marriage so you know where you're actually starting, as well as, the similarities in DAILY intentional and diligent training and execution in marriage. Let's go!! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailLest you think I'm one of those coaches, these are those client transformations, and this is one of those programs...NOPE.God is doing the work inside HLW! It's His power. His message. His design. And it's all happening inside HLW to the praise of His glory!It's perfectly timed for the 100th episode of this season to sing His praises

Send us Fan MailEverything must be by the Spirit, in submission to Christ's authority, otherwise, we will swing the opposite way walking the flesh never fully being free from the desires and passions of the flesh. Lean in and submit no longer to the heavy yoke of slavery! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRide the wave of God's consistent, never-failing goodness to speak WEEK after WEEK without fail inside HLW! Come, taste and see the Lord's goodness!! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat do you actually need in marriage? This is the wrong question. Rather, the question is Who am I looking to fill me? Where am I satisfied? Do I actually need my husband or did God design something much richer within marriage WHEN we walk as one flesh IN and BY the Spirit? Let's get to it... Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhen you're growing, the navigational systems that once protected you eventually don't fit the new direction. But the brain prefers the known discomfort rather than the unknown discomfort of what is not familiar to you....yet.In this episode, Chelsey explores the pull of reverting back to old patterns of self-protection and how to steer-clear of returning to your vomit again (as Proverbs 26:11 so aptly warns us). Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRight now, your strongest thoughts are driving the direction of your life. What you're looking for, you're finding. In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how all of your thoughts are impacting you and what to do about it. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI didn't know what I didn't know. In this episode, I unpack several things I learned the hard way, things that I needed to unlearn, and things that I now share with you. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI recently had an onboarding call with a new wife to HLW (her husband was already in HLH for many months). She was very clear that her heart was checked out of her marriage. She wanted to pursue separation and eventually divorce. After listening to her story and knowing the current situation, I spoke the Truth that it would be unbiblical to leave her husband. She pushed for divorce the following week through manipulation of her husband for it to be "cheaper". This is direct disobedience to the Lord.In this episode, Chelsey shares a real life story of a wife with a heart of stone who God wants to give a heart of flesh. And the miracle that she has seen God do firsthand in her own marriage- that is waiting for this wife's surrender. Let this be a warning and a call to repentance for the wayward wife. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan Mail"Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find?" Proverbs 20:6"I'm a good wife." "I'm submissive to my husband.""I respect my husband."In this episode, Chelsey teaches you the truth behind fruit as evidence in our lives of how well we abide in the Father or not. Fruit doesn't lie. Bad fruit, limited fruit, or abundant fruit- what fruit is being produced in and through you right now? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailProblems with physical intimacy got you thinking it's the biggest issue when it's merely an indicator check engine light for lack in the other 2 areas of intimacy. Chelsey unpacks the 3 types of intimacy in this episode, what they are, how they are superficial right now, and how to increase them by focusing on practical daily disciplines. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIs God revealing areas where you need to implement daily discipline? Are there areas He is showing you that your heart posture is wrong? What about areas where He wants you to take discipline even deeper?In this episode, Chelsey dives into discipline of the body and the spiritual act of worship to discipline your body as a command of stewardship. Buckle up! This one is likely to bring that Holy Spirit fire of conviction. Good news- conviction leads to repentance which brings freedom, not condemnation and shame. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailThe divorce rate among Christians right now is 50% or more- that's out of every 2 marriages, at LEAST 1 will end in marriage. Woof. In this episode, Chelsey shares with you the ONE daily habit that drops that statistic DRASTICALLY from 1 in 2 couples ending in divorce to 1 in 1,152! It's completely free and you can start right now. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIntimacy doesn't start in the bedroom. Marriages don't end because of intimacy issues- they are simply early warning lights of deeper problems. In this episode, Chelsey gives you 4 ways to deepen intimacy (outside of the bedroom that improves intimacy INSIDE the bedroom) that ANYONE can do no matter where you are in marriage right now. These are practical, powerful, and meant to be done consistently and DAILY. One of these divorce-proofs your marriage unlike anything else! Less than 1% of divorces happen when you do just this one thing DAILY! Drop a review when with the one you're implementing first.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRight now your marriage is a liability to God's Kingdom work, a stumbling block to the good works God has predestined you to walk in, a hindrance to the preaching of His gospel.In this episode, you'll find 3 ways to turn your marriage into an asset for the Lord and not the liability it is right now. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou don't need a perfect plan—you need a daily return to alignment.In this final episode of the Identity series, Chelsey Holm brings everything together and shows you what it actually looks like to live this out in real life.Not in theory. Not in a perfect environment. But in the middle of triggers, tension, busy days, and real marriage dynamics.This episode will help you move from understanding identity… to embodying it through small, daily decisions rooted in obedience, surrender, and alignment with God.Because this isn't about getting it right once.It's about returning—again and again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMost women don't realize they've made this shift… until they feel the distance in their marriage.In this episode, Chelsey Holm confronts one of the most culturally accepted—but quietly destructive—patterns in modern families: putting kids before the marriage.It feels loving. It feels noble. But it slowly erodes connection, creates disunity, and leaves marriages running on leftovers.God's design is clear—marriage is the foundation of the home, not an afterthought.This episode will challenge you to reconsider what you've normalized and begin restoring the order that actually protects your family long-term. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou keep trying to fix your marriage… but God is trying to restore you.In this episode, Chelsey Holm exposes a hard but freeing truth: your marriage cannot be healthy if you are operating from depletion, dysregulation, and disconnection from God.Many women abandon themselves in the name of being a “good wife”—overgiving, overfunctioning, and losing their peace in the process.But God's design is clear: He works through a wife who is aligned, filled, and led by the Spirit—not one who is exhausted and reactive.This episode will challenge you to stop bypassing your own alignment and start stewarding your mind, body, and spirit so you can show up with clarity, peace, and authority in your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou say God is first… but does your life actually reflect it?In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks what it truly means to put God first—not just in belief, but in your daily reactions, decisions, and emotional responses.Many women claim God as their foundation, yet still live led by feelings, fear, and control. This misalignment creates instability, anxiety, and disconnection in marriage.When God is not first, something else always takes the lead.This episode will help you identify what's actually leading you—and how to realign your life so everything else can stabilize. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou know what God says… but are you actually living it out?In this episode, Chelsey Holm exposes the gap between knowing truth and obeying it—and why that gap is where frustration, disconnection, and control take root in marriage.Many women have knowledge of Scripture, desire to grow, and a heart for God… but are still reacting, striving, and trying to manage outcomes instead of walking in simple, Spirit-led obedience.If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like nothing is shifting—this episode will show you why.Transformation doesn't come from what you know. It comes from how you respond. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.