The Chelsey Holm Podcast

Send us Fan MailBefore your spouse can faithfully hold your heart, God must have it first.In this opening episode, we uncover the foundation of every thriving marriage: a heart fully surrendered to Christ. Discover why God isn't after your performance but your heart, how we've unknowingly asked our spouses to carry what only God can, and why right order changes everything. When Christ becomes your first love, marriage becomes the beautiful overflow- not the source- of intimacy. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan Mail Why God's Design Was Always Bigger Than You What if God's ultimate purpose for your marriage isn't simply your happiness—but His glory?In this final episode of the series, we discover that marriage has always been about something greater than two people. Through Ephesians 5, you'll see how God's design for husbands and wives is a living picture of Christ's love for His Church. When we stop making marriage about ourselves and start making it about revealing Jesus, everything changes. Flourishing isn't the goal—it's the fruit of lives surrendered to God's authority and committed to displaying the Gospel to the world. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the goal of your marriage isn't simply a better relationship—but becoming more like Jesus?In this final episode, we bring the entire series together by looking at the heart of biblical marriage: daily surrender. Through John 3:30, Galatians 2:20, and the Gospel, you'll discover that flourishing isn't found in demanding more from your spouse but in giving more of yourself to Christ. As we decrease and He increases, our marriages become living testimonies of God's love, grace, and glory. Because the greatest gift you can give your spouse isn't a perfect version of you—it's a life fully surrendered to Jesus. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat does biblical submission actually look like on an ordinary Tuesday?In this practical episode, we're moving beyond misconceptions to discover how submission is lived out in everyday marriage. We'll talk about respect, honor, influence instead of control, making specific requests, handling disagreement, and why your obedience is an act of worship- not a strategy to change your husband. God's design isn't about making women smaller; it's about creating marriages that flourish for His glory. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave you unknowingly asked your spouse to do what only God can do?In this episode, we uncover one of the greatest obstacles to intimacy: expecting our spouse to become our source of peace, security, identity, or worth. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but it makes a terrible god. Discover how putting Christ back on the throne frees you to delight in your spouse instead of depending on them, and why the strongest marriages are built by two people whose deepest needs are already being met by Jesus. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailSubmission has become one of the most misunderstood words in the Church. But before it was ever about marriage, it was about trusting God.In this episode, we'll explore why God is a God of order, why Ephesians 5 begins with reverence for Christ, and why obedience always comes before the outcome we're praying for. Discover why biblical submission isn't about losing your voice- it's about trusting the heart of the Designer and allowing His order to bring flourishing to your marriage Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWe're always just one generation away from forgetting God. And wives are no different.In this episode, we'll explore how God's people went from readying for war against their brothers across the Jordan to forgetting about what He had done for them in just ONE generation. Discover how this impacts marriage and also future generations.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailModern culture has discipled women to believe freedom is found in rejecting God's design. Scripture teaches the opposite.In this episode, we're asking one question: Who defines womanhood- culture or Christ? We'll explore how competing worldviews have shaped marriage, why God's design isn't oppressive but protective, and why Christian wives cannot build flourishing marriages on a foundation that contradicts God's Word. God's design has always been for our good, our freedom, and His glory. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy do we ask God to restore what we're unwilling to surrender?In this episode, we're opening the book of Judges to uncover a sobering pattern: partial obedience always leads to compromise. The Israelites entered the Promised Land but refused to fully obey God's commands, and one generation later they had forgotten the Lord and were living according to their own ways. What does this have to do with marriage? More than you think. If we're praying for God's blessing while resisting His authority, we're building on the wrong foundation. Flourishing begins with conviction, confession, repentance, and wholehearted obedience. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailFollowing Jesus isn't complicated—but it will cost you your pride, your control, and your timeline.In this final episode, we're bringing the series full circle by returning to the beauty of simple obedience. If you've been waiting for another sign, another answer, or another confirmation, perhaps God is inviting you to simply obey what He's already made clear. Because when you seek Him first, give Him your attention, and surrender your heart, everything else begins to find its proper place. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave we confused grace with passivity?The gospel doesn't call us to sit back and do nothing. It calls us to work, steward, build, and serve—but from acceptance, not for acceptance. In this episode, we'll unpack the difference between striving to earn God's favor and faithfully stewarding the life He's already given you. Discover why discipline is not the enemy of grace but one of its greatest fruits. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if worship isn't something you attend or a song you sing—but the way you live?In this episode, we're redefining worship through the lens of Scripture. From your workout to your marriage, your parenting to your work, every ordinary moment becomes holy when it's offered to the Lord. Discover how consecrating your attention transforms everyday responsibilities into acts of worship and why seeking God first changes not just your quiet time—but your entire life. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat has your attention right now?Because whatever consistently has your attention is shaping your heart.In this episode, we're exploring one of the most powerful principles in spiritual formation: attention shapes affection. We'll talk about why the enemy fights for your attention, how what you repeatedly notice changes your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with God, and why learning to intentionally direct your attention may be one of the most practical ways to seek the Kingdom first. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy does God care so much about being first?Because whatever comes first shapes everything that follows.In this episode, we're unpacking the biblical principle of first—from Genesis to Matthew 6—and discovering why seeking God first isn't another box to check but the foundation for peace, wisdom, and right order. When God has your first attention, every other decision begins to fall into its proper place. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if God isn't withholding an answer… what if He's building your foundation?So often we bring God questions about decisions, timelines, relationships, parenting, or the future, while He's inviting us into something much deeper: seeking Him first.In this episode, we'll unpack why God often focuses on the condition of our hearts before the circumstances around us, what the wilderness was really for, and why the foundation God builds in you is far more important than the decisions you're asking Him to make for you. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat you reach for first every morning reveals what is leading your heart. In this short episode, we're talking about why right order isn't a religious routine- it's the foundation for daily surrender. If you've been feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or spiritually dry, this simple shift could change everything. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailSTART HERE: Learn the Biblical Feminine Methodology.Go from carrying it all to freeFrom exhausted, stressed & overwhelmed to relaxed, present and flourishingFrom disconnected & hurt to deep intimacy and healingBut this isn't your typical marriage tips: this is Holy Spirit transformation that starts with right order and full surrender. You'll learn to:Die to self!Be reborn!Multiply!Flourish in marriage as a High Level Wife who is fully surrendered, Spirit-led and set apart! Learn more about HLW! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailCommunication isn't the deepest issue in most struggling marriages.Repentance is.In the final episode of this series, we're talking about the uncomfortable but freeing truth that transformation begins when we stop asking God to change everyone else and invite Him to search our own hearts.We'll unpack why communication tools can never replace surrender, why repentance restores what pride destroys, and how God uses marriage to sanctify us into the image of Christ.If you've been praying for breakthrough, this episode is an invitation to start where revival has always begun—with your own heart. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod is a God of order, and when our lives drift out of His design, we often experience unnecessary overwhelm, frustration, resentment, and exhaustion.In this episode, we're talking about what right order actually looks like in everyday life. From putting God first to stewarding yourself well, prioritizing your marriage, and leading your home with intentionality, you'll discover that right order isn't about perfection—it's about alignment.Because when your priorities are aligned with God's design, peace becomes the overflow instead of something you're constantly chasing. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailPeace isn't something you buy. Joy isn't something you chase. Self-control isn't something you white-knuckle.They're all fruit.In this episode, we're diving into John 15 to discover what Jesus actually meant when He said, "Abide in Me." We'll explore why so many wives are trying to produce the fruit of the Spirit while feeding the flesh, how God uses pruning to produce lasting transformation, and why abiding—not striving—is the key to flourishing.If you've been exhausted trying harder, this episode is an invitation to remain connected to the Vine. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the reason you keep feeling stuck isn't because you lack peace—but because you've been chasing relief instead?In this episode, we're unpacking the difference between temporary relief and the lasting peace that only Christ produces. We'll talk about why we reach for quick fixes when life feels overwhelming, the difference between rest and escape, and why God often uses discomfort to reveal, heal, and transform us.If you've ever found yourself wanting to "take the edge off," this episode will challenge you to stop settling for relief and start pursuing the Prince of Peace. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat do you reach for when life feels overwhelming?For some wives it's scrolling. For others it's shopping, food, busyness, wine, supplements, endless productivity, or simply staying distracted.This episode isn't about condemning a product or a habit. It's about asking a deeper question:What are we asking created things to do that only Jesus can do?We'll explore the modern counterfeits of peace, why they never truly satisfy, and how abiding in Christ produces the lasting fruit we're actually longing for.If you've ever found yourself trying to “take the edge off” instead of bringing your burdens to the Lord, this episode will lovingly challenge you to choose the better portion. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailDo you love Jesus, love your family, and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, overstimulated, and like you're constantly carrying the weight of everyone else's world?In this episode, we're diving into the story of Martha and Mary in Luke 10—not to shame busy wives, but to uncover what Jesus was actually addressing. Martha wasn't rebuked for serving. She was anxious, troubled, and distracted by many things.We'll unpack what it looks like to be a “modern Martha wife,” how good responsibilities can become disordered priorities, and why right order always begins at the feet of Jesus.This episode lays the foundation for a new series on abiding, counterfeit peace, and what it means to flourish as a surrendered, Spirit-led wife. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailThis vulnerability series isn't ultimately about communication.It's about the Gospel applied.In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks God's design for intimacy through vulnerability—not just so couples can feel closer, but so they can become one, reflect Christ, and live on mission together. From Genesis to John 17 to the fragrance of Christ in everyday life, this conversation will challenge you to see your marriage as more than a relationship to manage.It's a place where the Gospel gets worked out in real time.Because healthy oneness doesn't stop with you.It multiplies into your children, your church, your witness, and the greater Body of Christ. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailYou want to be vulnerable… but what do you actually say?In this episode, Chelsey gives you the practical framework to express hurt, loneliness, rejection, overwhelm, and disconnection in a way that creates intimacy instead of conflict.If you've ever found yourself blaming, shutting down, over-explaining, or hoping your spouse can just “figure it out,” this episode will help you move from self-protection to clarity, ownership, and connection.Because vulnerability isn't about saying more.It's about revealing what's true—and offering a path forward together. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWomen often think they're being vulnerable because they're talking.Explaining.Processing.Venting.Sharing every detail.But sometimes all those words are keeping the real heart hidden.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the feminine side of vulnerability and why so many wives communicate around the wound instead of revealing it. You'll learn how self-protection can show up through over-explaining, how to identify what's actually happening underneath the words, and why emotional intimacy grows when we stop hiding behind information and start telling the truth.Because your husband doesn't need more details.He needs access to your heart. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailLearn how male vulnerability often shows up in unexpected ways—and how understanding the heart underneath your husband's behavior can help rebuild intimacy, connection, and oneness.What if your husband is more vulnerable than you think… you just don't recognize it?In this episode, Chelsey breaks down the masculine side of vulnerability and why many men reveal their hearts differently than women expect. From silence and sarcasm to frustration, joking, or withdrawal, you'll learn how self-protection often masks deeper fears, longings, and needs for connection.Because vulnerability in men doesn't always look soft.Sometimes it comes out sideways.And if you can learn to hear the heart underneath the behavior, it can change the way you respond—and the intimacy you build. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailDiscover why vulnerability feels so difficult, what you're actually protecting, and how trusting God allows you to move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and connection.If vulnerability is the pathway to intimacy, why is it so difficult?Why do we want connection but pull away? Why do we long to be known yet struggle to reveal what's really happening inside of us?In this episode, Chelsey explores the real reason vulnerability feels so hard: self-protection. Drawing from Genesis, Colossians, and everyday marriage dynamics, she unpacks how old hurts, fear, and past experiences often teach us to hide, control, defend, and protect ourselves from further pain.You'll learn why self-protection and intimacy cannot coexist, how old receipts influence present reactions, and why true vulnerability isn't ultimately about trusting your spouse perfectly—it's about trusting God completely.Because healing begins when we stop asking, “What's wrong with me?” and start asking, “What am I protecting?” Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailDiscover why vulnerability isn't sharing more information- it's revealing what's true, and why that is the foundation of intimacy, connection, and oneness.You can talk for hours and still feel disconnected.You can share your schedule, your plans, your frustrations, and everything that happened during your day… while never revealing your heart.In this episode, Chelsey  unpacks one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage: vulnerability. Learn why intimacy requires more than communication, how hiding began in the Garden, and why vulnerability is less about sharing everything and more about revealing what is true.Because information doesn't create intimacy.Revelation does. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailSome wounds didn't start in your marriage.They started years earlier.Childhood rejection, abandonment, criticism, betrayal, disappointment, neglect—and then marriage has a way of exposing what was already there.In this episode, Chelsey shares why deep wounds often create deep patterns of self-protection, how God uses marriage to reveal what He intends to heal, and why healing is less about trying harder and more about surrendering the deepest places of your heart to Christ.Because your wound may explain your reaction.But it doesn't determine your future.God is still in the business of making all things new. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailLearn the five shifts that help couples tear down walls, rebuild trust, and move from self-protection to true oneness in marriage.

Send us Fan MailHave you ever found yourself reacting more strongly than a situation seems to warrant?Maybe it's fear, frustration, anxiety, defensiveness, or discouragement. You know what God says, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same patterns.In this episode, Chelsey explores how past hurts, disappointments, and survival patterns can quietly shape the way we respond to our present circumstances. You'll learn why God often uses life's tests to reveal what still needs healing, how old experiences influence our reactions, and what it means to put off the old self, be renewed in Christ, and walk in freedom.Because God isn't interested in managing your symptoms.He wants to transform you from the inside out. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailLearn how old receipts from your past may be shaping your present reactions—and how God uses surrender, renewal, and new experiences to rewrite the story and create lasting transformation.What if you're not reacting to what's happening right now?What if you're reacting to a receipt from years ago?The husband who feels unwanted. The couple stuck in the same argument. The woman God is calling into a new season but whose body still responds with fear.Different stories. Same root.Old receipts.In this episode, Chelsey explores how past experiences shape present reactions, why God uses life's tests to reveal what still needs healing, and how surrender creates space for God to write a new story.Because the goal isn't to erase your past.The goal is to stop letting it interpret your present. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailLearn how to identify the subconscious self-protection keeping you stuck, surrender it to God, and move toward deeper intimacy, healing, and oneness in marriage.“I forgave… so why do I still react this way?”Many couples find themselves stuck in a frustrating cycle: they want connection, intimacy, trust, and oneness, yet something inside keeps pulling the brake.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the “gas and brake” phenomenon that often shows up after hurt, betrayal, disappointment, or broken trust. You'll learn why self-protective reactions are often subconscious stress responses—not intentional rejection—and how God uses marriage to reveal the places He still wants to heal.Together, we'll explore the difference between forgiveness and healing, the biblical call to put off the old self and be renewed in Christ, and how true intimacy is restored when mind, body, and spirit come into agreement under the authority of Jesus and the truth of God's Word.Because the goal isn't to shame the brake.It's to surrender what it's protecting and allow God to heal what still needs healing. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailMost couples think conflict is what destroys intimacy.It's not.Self-protection is.A husband jokes instead of admitting he feels rejected.A wife withdraws instead of admitting she feels hurt.One pursues. One avoids.Different behaviors. Same root.Self-protection.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks the hidden ways self-protection shows up in marriage, why God often uses marriage to expose the wounds and fears He wants to heal, and how our identity in Christ gives us the security to stop hiding and start moving toward one another.Because intimacy was never built on performance, control, or self-preservation.It was built on vulnerability, truth, and trust.And self-protection and intimacy cannot coexist. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailMany couples think they have a communication problem when they actually have an ownership problem.When hurt, frustration, loneliness, and disappointment go unnamed, it's easy to fall into blame, defensiveness, criticism, and distance. But emotional intimacy grows when two people learn to take ownership of what they're feeling, anchor themselves in truth, and move toward one another with a shared path forward.In this episode, I'm sharing a simple framework to help couples reignite emotional connection through honesty, responsibility, repentance, and oneness.Because emotional intimacy isn't built through winning arguments.It's built through being known, speaking truth, and choosing to move toward one another again. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailIt's not challenging for our brains to remember all the times we were hurt. Why? It's a self protection mechanism. But self protection and oneness cannot coexist. So the world says cut off what hurt you and forget about it! That's not biblical. We see time after time examples of God Himself commanding the Israelites to REMEMBER what He did, where He rescued them from, how He provided… Now it's your turn to learn how to remember by the Spirit and how this applies to biblical marriage God's way. It changes everything!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhen was the last time you had that desire for your husband as an overflow from that desire for God, your Father, your Creator, your Maker? The maker of everything? Where you heart is, there also is your treasure.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan Mail"I believe, Lord, Help my unbelief!" Learn how to move from "I know" but don't really believe deep down TO "I believe with every cell in my body and so I live like it's already done!" And that belief changes everything. Starting with YOU. But it has to start with the SOURCE. The ONLY Source. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailBuild on purpose with discipline and consistency! Break free from the "hard" of marriage and actually like each other again.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGrab the new free guide: https://chelsey.coach/hlwreset Recognize when your body is speaking and what it's saying... this is the PATTERN.And then what to do with the info as INFO, not authority. Anchor into Truth, biblical Truth. This is how we regulate and respond; disrupt patterns and walk in freedom and healing! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod created us as holistic beings: mind, body and spirit. Learn to integrate biblical Truth as anchor and recognize information we receive from our bodies. And how we submit BOTH under the authority of Christ- the FINISHED work of the Cross.Let's dive in! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailFor many wives, we're dealing with trauma, survival mode and healing God's way before we even dive into marriage work. Too often you get 2 approaches: the world says boundaries and cut triggers out; Christian world says to do what is right. The former isn't biblical and neither is the latter. God made your body. Your body is giving you information. There IS a biblical way by His design for healing and biblical anchoring. In fact- it's the only way. And it's essential to rebuilding your marriage. This is the tip of the iceberg. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if intimacy isn't gone…just buried under years of pain, fear, resentment, disappointment, betrayal, or self-protection?In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 practical ways to restore intimacy God's way—not through pressure, pretending, or rushing healing, but through surrender, safety, grief, openness, and intentionally moving toward one another again.Because God's design for intimacy was never simply physical.It was always:to be fully known…and fully loved. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan Mail“Intimacy will never be the same.”Maybe you've heard that.Maybe you've even believed it.In this episode, Chelsey confronts one of the most hopeless messages surrounding marriage after betrayal, wounds, and broken trust—and asks a different question:What if God actually restores?This episode explores intimacy through the lens of surrender, healing, softness, trust rebuilding, and God's design for delight within marriage.Because what feels impossible to us…rarely limits God. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailMany wives are carrying burdens they were never meant to carry.Trying harder. Fixing more. Worrying constantly.But what if God never asked you to carry your husband?What if He invited you to pray for him instead?In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 powerful prayers wives can pray over their husbands to move from control into intercession and create space for God to move powerfully.Because prayer changes more than circumstances.It changes us too. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailForgiveness is one of the most misunderstood concepts in marriage.Many Christians believe forgiveness means forgetting, pretending it didn't hurt, immediately restoring trust, or never struggling again.Others stay trapped waiting to forgive until the pain completely disappears.In this episode, Chelsey dives into what biblical forgiveness actually is, what it isn't, and how surrendering the healing process to God often looks very different than we expect.Because forgiveness may happen in a moment.But walking out healing, rebuilding trust, and learning to live differently may take much longer. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailYou said you wanted a fun summer.So why does it already feel chaotic?In this follow-up episode, Chelsey shares the 10 rules helping her create a summer built around peace, responsibility, freedom, and connection- not survival.From routines and screens to rhythms and responsibilities, this episode will help you intentionally build an environment where both moms and kids can thrive.Because peaceful summers rarely happen accidentally. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailYour kids were never supposed to become the center of your home.Yet summer has a funny way of making marriages revolve around:sports activities screens chauffeuring and survival mode.In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 practical rules to help you protect your marriage, stay connected, and build a family culture where your relationship remains the foundation- not an afterthought.Because one day the kids leave.Your marriage stays. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy does life suddenly feel chaotic when routines disappear?Maybe summer isn't creating the problem.Maybe it's revealing it.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how easily life drifts out of order- especially during busy seasons—and why many women unintentionally place kids, schedules, responsibilities, and work above the things that actually create peace.You'll learn how God's design for right order creates stability, why environment matters more than motivation, and how to intentionally build a home that flourishes instead of simply surviving.Because peace rarely happens accidentally. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailGod gave me this vision of a courtroom. This image should break us of self-righteousness in marriage. Are you standing next to the accuser in agreement over your husband's offenses? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.