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Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2020 50:00

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners. Email 1 My partner and I recently got engaged, but haven't announced it yet (we've only told family at this point). He would rather wait until we have the ring before we announce---which sounds reasonable to me. While we had originally wanted a big Fall 2021 wedding, we decided that wouldn't be possible with all of the Covid rescheduling. So instead we decided to do 1) a small wedding in 2021 with family, and 2) a larger event and reaffirmation of vows ceremony in Fall 2022. That's such a long way off, but with the current rescheduling climate we realized we needed to actually start booking pretty soon. My question is this: since the booking timeline is already so sped up from normal years, should we also plan to speed up other parts of our planning? So for instance, should we plan to send save-the dates even earlier than normal (further than 6-12 months in advance)? Should I get my bridal party on board ASAP? Etc. It feels so early (almost absurdly early) to be worrying about these things, but I also know that there's already high demand going into 2022. Answer: So, this is a good question and one that's been popping up a LOT lately. The best way to answer this is to speed up the parts of planning that you feel might be threatened by others speeding up their planning. For example, booking a caterer, a photographer, a venue...all of those professional services that are of a high priority to you and your partner, book those as soon as you are able, simply because those wedding professionals or services might get booked up and then you will have less to choose from. Does that make sense? That being said, some wedding professionals might not book that far in advance, but at least inquire and if they tell you, to check back in 6 months, put that on your calendar and get back in touch with them. Save the Dates? Eh..you CAN send them out now, but really, that's 2 years away and really, it's kind of overkill. I would wait a while, like maybe 18 months out? I mean, who they hell know's what they will be doing 2 years from now? Not me! LOL Voice Mail 1 - Venues and vendors Question about Venue Exclusive Wedding Planners. They already hired their own planner who helped them get started including securing the venue, timeline, etc... She wants to bring her on for the rest of planning if it's a good fit, they really like her and get along well. One of the venues they like only allows for their exclusive planner for minimum of Month-Of. Should they forget this venue all together or at least interview their planner first? They love the venue they are seeing with their current planner. Should they keep it as a back up in case their current wedding planner and venue are not a good match? Should they tell their current planner know they are looking into this other venue too? Answer: If you are going to see the venue that has the planner included, know that going into it. Only see it if you are okay with the potential of falling in love with it. Be transparent! Communication is key and should be one of the top priorities when finding a wedding planner. Chelsea responded saying she later toured the venue. She tried to reach out to the exclusive planner, but communication issues ensued. In that time, their original getting-started planner was excellent at communication and helping along! So she eventually decided it probably isn't meant to be. And trusted her gut. Voice Mail 2 - Retrospective and Lessons Learned Casey calls in and shares the many lessons learned and experiences had in the time of Covid. She's a wealth of knowledge and warmness! A Big Takeaway: Uninviting guests is something that most couples are struggling with right now. Especially with multiple reschedules and new plans. It's so hard. Email 2 Do you have any advice or tips on an after party? My wedding is at an outdoor venue and because of a noise ordinance we can't go past 10pm. What do you usually see people do for after parties? Our venue is a little far from any hotels so I'm just not sure what the best place would be for an after party? Also, how do we let our guests know about it? Will guests expect us to provide food and drinks at an after party too? Answer After Parties...so fun! The best advice I can give is to choose a bar somewhere not too far from the venue (call the bar and let them know you will be showing up if you can) and let your guests know you are planing on hanging there after the wedding and you would love to party with them there. You do NOT have to pay for drinks or food if you do it informally that way. If you want to do a round of drinks, go for it and ask the bar in advance what might be the best way of doing that (drink tickets, etc...). Other than that, we've seen people rent out banquet rooms or hotel rooms for smaller groups. Links We Referenced: unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding/ (https://www.unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding/) alpinerings.com (https://alpinerings.com) Use Code: BIGWEDDING15 flowermoxie.com/pages/the-big-wedding-podcast (https://flowermoxie.com/pages/the-big-wedding-podcast) theflashdance.com/virtual-party-the-big-wedding-planning-podcast (https://www.theflashdance.com/virtual-party-the-big-wedding-planning-podcast) cactus-collective.com/the-big-wedding-planning-podcast/ (https://www.cactus-collective.com/the-big-wedding-planning-podcast/) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/ (https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/) INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.instagram.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast/) BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! 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#217 - You Ask, We Answer - 34

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2020 64:20

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners. Question 1: An inspiring discussion about a dress from a member of our FB Community I've got some real dress drama. I got my dress Dec 2019. I fell in love with this dress-- like, this one was "the one." Best part was I LOVED the color, because it's pink! I also got it for a real steal-- $100 instead of $1200 because it was 90% off! But everyone HATED my pick, even my mom. A couple of people in my bridal party let it slip to my fiancé what I was wearing, too, because they didn't like it either. Now my original wedding date has passed and every time I look at my dress, I get sad thinking about what I lost I have another year before this wedding happens-- if it doesn't get canceled again. I'm wondering if I should go shopping for something else. I know it doesn't matter what other people think, but I don't know if I can be happy when I know my closest family and friends think I'm wearing an ugly dress (and have made it clear they think it's awful) Some of the comments and responses on FB: “umm...fuck. those. people. your day, your dress. you get to wear whatever you want and if you feel like a fucking queen in this dress, then you wear it” _“I am truly sorry people need to put you down to feel good about their choices and decisions. A new dress isn't going to change others vitriol. And because I'm 100% that bitch- your body is your body. A more white, sleeved or whatever they want dress isn't going to change that.” “I hate that the people who should be supporting you made you feel bad. it's your day and you should wear whatever you love and what makes you feel your best. It's a beautiful dress! People tend to hate things that are outside of their comfort zones. Im sure you've had to make a lot of sacrifices and changes from your original wedding plans due to COVID, so if this is the dress you see yourself marrying the love of your life in, then don't let this be another thing you have to give up” Update from Bride: "So I scheduled a bridal appointment today at a different salon I went to originally. I was having mixed feelings when I walked in. By the time I tried the first dress on, I was thinking, 'That's it, I need a new dress!' My first one just can't compare with these. I tried on around seven dresses. I only found one that I liked. As they put the veil on, I had the thought, 'This is what I want to look like on my wedding day.' But I didn't get the fluttery butterflies or happy feelings I did before. There was no emotion. It was just, 'Okay, this is what is expected of me.' Then I realized I was actually tailoring my idea of what I wanted to look like on my wedding day to what everyone ELSE had in mind for me-- some picturesque perfect Hollywood wedding that was so standard it could fit anybody, but didn't really say "me." "It was then I figured out that no matter how many dresses I tried on or how many salons I went to, it would be a waste of my time because I'd already found exactly what I wanted-- my pinky, pretty princess dress." "I think the final decision came after the stylist told me my choice of dress would be close to $5,000. $5k compared to the $100 I'd spent on my original pick? There was just no contest. I kept seeing all the things I COULD do with $5k rather than spending all of it on a dress that I was only okay with, a dress that was meant for pleasing other people instead of just myself." "And then it all came to a head just how much of a box people had been trying to stuff me in my entire life instead of just allowing myself to be... me. I thanked the stylist, gave them an awesome review on The Knot (they really were a great salon) then hiked myself home to try on my original pinky dress. It wasn't as sparkly, or expensive, or dramatic as the ones I'd just tried on, it was a bit wrinkled from being abandoned in my closet, and the gems need a bit of shine, but it's MINE. So I'm happy to say that on my wedding day, I'll be wearing pink and anyone who doesn't like it can go suck an eggplant, because I'm no longer here for that noise." Question 2: Alone Time My fiance and his family are very against the first look. I totally get it with tradition and all but have you seen any other fun ways for the bride and groom to have a moment alone on the wedding day? I have heard of the meal alone but we talked about it and we both think we would feel rushed and like we need to get to our party. I am open to ideas! Thanks! Answer 2: For a little time 'just the two of you' on the wedding day - I think it doesn't have to be much time to feel special and to give you two a bit of time to connect and take it all in a little. I have three suggestions: 10 minutes to eat and freshen up before you enter the reception. After all of the formal photos post-ceremony. Everyone else goes to cocktail hour and you can take 10ish minutes alone to chug some water, freshen up, and eat some of the passed apps. It takes a little planning - you need a place to go and someone to bring you these things, but it's a nice little breather before you join the party - cause once you do, you won't really be alone for the rest of the event! First look in the reception hall or ballroom - if your venue has separate areas for cocktail and reception, you two can sneak into the reception area while everyone else is at cocktail hour. Usually the wedding planner or catering manager brings you in for this. You get a chance to take it all in alone, and you can see all of the planning and details before everyone comes in. I love the photos of this moment because it's like a reveal and the looks on the couples faces are usually so happy! End of the night - solo dance. This is a really sweet moment that happens at the very end of the night. All of the guests clear out (maybe they're outside getting ready for your grand exit...) and you both stay back in the reception room, with the photographer and DJ. Think candlelight and a love song. You have your last dance here, just the two of you. It's even romantic if the catering staff is still clearing out in the background. Question 3: What to do with my fiancé and his groomsmen/ushers on the morning of the wedding? Our ceremony is at a church about 15 minutes away from our reception venue (a hotel). My bridesmaids and I will getting ready at the hotel in a large suite with plenty of room for us. The guys are planning on getting breakfast and then getting ready before the photographer arrives just after lunch. Can the guys just get ready in their own hotel rooms? Do we need a separate space for them to gather? Is it okay then for the photographer to get a couple shots just in someone's hotel room? There are 7 guys total including my fiancé..so that seems like a lot for one regular room. I am sure that they can take photos in the lobby (it's an old and very photogenic hotel), but should I plan to get them an extra room (like a meeting room space or suite?) Answer 3: Couple thoughts about this - in my experience, it's very helpful if the men have a set place to gather pre-wedding, just like the ladies. It's good to know everyone is where they are supposed to be, and it makes things easier in terms of planning and timing for the day. Photographers will agree with me here. The 'getting ready' shots aren't the same for the guys...but they still happen. Finishing touches, putting on jackets, maybe a toast in the room, stuff like that. They can relax and have some fun before the festivities of the day really get started. A hotel room is best for this, since you'll have one, so you can be on different floors. It can be a groomsman's room, but if you were to want more space, get a suite or an upgraded room. (I feel like guys like chairs to sit in - so a suite would have those when a regular room wouldn't - something to think about!). Having some outdoor space like a patio is nice. But the main thing is that they're all in one place -- and their stuff is in that place too. So someone needs a key, and I don't think it should be your groom's room where this happens. He'll potentially have extra crap in his room if it is and he won't want to deal with it - whether he's sleeping in that room or not. (You'd be surprised how many half empty water bottles, random pairs of pants, and stuff like that ends up in the 'getting ready' room.) The way it usually works is that the girls all get ready in the big suite and that suite is the one that the couple stays in on the wedding night. (So your girls are going to have to come back at some point and move their crap and clean up a little for you to come back to a nice, peaceful room after the wedding. Trust me, this is usually something I do for my brides!). And the guys get ready in an extra room that you book, or in a single groomsman's room. It's convenient for the guys to have a place to meet up in the morning just like you will be doing. Photos in the lobby or outside will likely still happen, but the photographer can meet them in the room first and go from there. Hope this helps! No need to schedule something for them to do or anything like that. Just have plenty of water, good music playlists, maybe some booze - and you can even stash some possible necessities in the room for them - like snacks, extra masks, deodorant, mouthwash, etc. Gifts if your fiancé is doing those... Voicemail Question: My original wedding date was in May, and so it did not go on as planned. We eloped and rescheduled the wedding for next year. How we can prevent this from just feeling like a party? How do we keep the vows and introductions from feeling theatrical? How do we recapture that magic? Answer: We get it. The second time doesn't capture the same energy or magic. But don't think of this as a re-do. You are legally married and that was its own event. But this is a different event. There is no certainty but you can start to get excited about this new event. You'll be with people you probably have not seen in a long time. Celebrating YOUR marriage. Drop the things that didn't excite you in the original planning, just do this wedding party your way. There are no rules anymore! Links We Referenced: alpinerings.com (https://alpinerings.com) Promo Code: BIGWEDDING15 unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding (https://www.unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding/) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/ (https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/) INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.instagram.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast/) BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast)

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#212 - You Ask, We Answer - 33

Superkinetics: A podcast by Workpath

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2020 56:02

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners. Question #1: Vendor and COVID Guidelines I got in an argument with a vendor i had been in talks with about using for my upcoming wedding because they posted a video on their instagram of their whole crew setting up another wedding with all of their masks under their chin. the owner refused to acknowledge there was anything wrong with that and just kept saying i was “judging her without knowing her.” luckily its not too late to pull out on this one, but do you guys have any ideas on how i can make sure my vendors are actually following the rules? i'm super frustrated and disappointed Answer: This is so hard! Good for you for holding the vendor accountable. Masks don't help if they are worn around the chin. I am surprised she argued with you, honestly. I think you need to reach out to all your vendors now (via email) so you have it all in writing, and be upfront. Tell them what your expectations are for safety standards on your wedding day and request a confirmation from them. Tell them you are concerned and exactly how careful you want to be, what you want the vendor team to do Question #2: Questions for a caterer before booking I'm going through my planning process, and I'm feeling pretty organized. I found my perfect dress last night! I'm meeting with 2 caterers, and I guess my only thing is, I don't feel like i have enough questions to ask. When you meet with caterers, are there some go-to questions you always ask? They will also be hopefully handling some of the linen rentals and various rentals so I want to make sure I know what to ask so I can choose between them. Any thoughts would be very appreciated. Answer Here are some ideas to get you started: - What is included beyond the food? - serving style, rentals for front and back of house? - Do they cook anything on-site? Or bring it all in hot boxes? - What kind of set up do they need at the venue? (Full kitchen, tent outside, fridges?) - Who takes out all of the trashes and cleans up after the event? - Staffing - ask lots of questions about this. Better to have too many than too few - COVID precautions - will staff be required to wear masks? Gloves? - Is the person you work with from the tasting on the same person who will physically be there running the show or managing the team on the wedding day? - what is their cake cutting policy/fee? - Can you bring in other outside food - like if you wanted to have a popsicle vendor or something? Or a cookie table as favors for people to take ... things like that. Some caterers are strict, others very lax - Make sure the bartenders are part of the catering team and all liquor license/insurance stuff is good to go Question #3: When to DIY and when not to DIY I have questions about DIY. Do you have any guidance on what projects to attempt a DIY? I love getting crafty and creative, but I don't want to overextend myself. I certainly love Etsy but sometimes it's not quite what I'm looking for so I'm like...maybe I could make something similar myself? I loved your episode with FlowerMoxie and that really inspired me as well. My planner is of course very hesitant on me doing any florals. Bless her for giving me a kind response when I asked. I was like "well...maybe just the bar or cocktail table flowers??" Any guidance or episodes of your podcast to listen to? I'm going to be sleeping with the Cricut more often that I will my fiancé. Answer I am actually recording an episode this weekend with a DIY couple - lots of good, specific advice there, and I can bring up your questions as well! That episode should be coming out soon after the recording. Also - episode #53 is about DIY and budget weddings...what you can DIY and what we suggest you def hire professionals for. We talk a lot about this stuff in YAWAs too - but that info can be difficult to sift through, unfortunately. You can look through YAWA show notes for questions that specifically relate to you and the answers are all written out in full. Flower Moxie is awesome and her products are bundled in a VERY DIY-friendly way. It's like DIY with help getting there. She does the work, you get the fun part. I have to admit, as a planner myself, I was very skeptical about DIY flowers and the Flower Moxie model really changed my mind. Show her site and packages to your planner, along with some photos of what you are thinking about doing, and assure your planner that this won't mean that the floral- duties are going to fall to her (that's what we're concerned about!) because you will be doing them according to a well thought out week-of-wedding timeline, and that you'll have help - to create AND to bring/distribute. (Make sure this is actually true! lol) When deciding what to DIY and what to purchase or outsource, keep in mind what you actually LIKE to do. Is the idea of creating an escort card display really exciting to you? Would it feel good to do something like that in the weeks leading up to the wedding, or would it feel obligatory and like a chore, and something that will ultimately stress you out? If it's the latter, then don't DIY it! Put a value on peace of mind and a good nights sleep when wedding planning. Don't do anything that feels really daunting - unless you want to challenge yourself and you have plenty of time! I think I'm trying to say - choose to DIY only if it 'sparks joy'. Question #4: I have some questions regarding the bridal party and expectations. I was part of a bridal party one time and it cost me a lot of money! We went to Cabo and spent $800 each on flights/stay, $150 each for the bridal shower, $200 on the dress, $200 on hair/makeup for day of and thats just the big things I can think of right now. It was never even asked if I could afford it, which I couldn't... just added to my cc. Yikes! So, my bridal party is pretty mixed in regard to income and I am the first one of this group of friends to get married. My questions are: 1.) How much should I expect everyone to spend on a bachelorette weekend? 2.) What is a normal price to pay for hair/makeup? 3.) How much is typical to spend on a bridesmaid proposal box? 4.) Thoughts on a joined bachelor/bachelorette weekend? Also, two people in my bridal party do hair and makeup and have both made multiple comments about how they are going to do everyone's hair and makeup... I don't want them to... Is that mean? How do I tell them nicely that I don't want either of them to do it? What if they say they don't want to pay for hair/makeup but the company requires doing everyones hair/makeup? Answer We totally hear you that the bridesmaid experience can be VERY expensive! You're a good friend to even be considering all of this now! Here are my thoughts: 1- this is so varied! I think the more choice you give them, the more likely they'll feel comfortable spending their money. So - choice/options in arrival time, if they share a room or get their own, how they get there, etc... don't just be like - you need to stay in a $400 hotel room at this fancy hotel I chose, thanks! Also - please be understanding that not all of your bridesmaids will be able to attend. Whoever is hosting should handle the details. 2 - Normal hair and makeup prices are typically around $75/per service per person. 3 - I'd say around 50-100 4 - a joint weekend is great and fun - IF you think you are a no-drama couple. My cousin said she was going to do this for her bachelorette and I was like....bad idea. She and her fiancé fight when they are drunk and partying and they are just drama. Like jealousy and trust issues. Not a good combo when planning a 'fun!' weekend with groups of friends that will be both separate and mixed at times! As far as the H/MU goes - I don't like the idea of you making your girls get it, unless you are going to pay for it. It's very common that only half the girls will want hair and all want makeup, or some combo like that. The stylist company might have a minimum number of services in order to book or something, but it usually all works out. I think you need to tread lightly...you can say you'd rather everyone get your hired professionals...but if they don't want to or can't afford it...then I think you need to let it go. These things have a way of sorting themselves out over time. Just try to stay relaxed and flexible and know that things are very up in the air for people right now, so it's not as easy to make time and money commitments...even when we really want to! Question #5: Voicemail Mariah's wedding was scheduled for March 21st, 2020. Her fiancé and she did a power wedding before the shelter in place went into effect. They rescheduled for June and then October. They have paid for an entire wedding. Her q's: - When should I start negotiating/talking with my vendors about possible refunds? - Our vendors have been so flexible. But when should we call it? - How long should we wait before trying to schedule for 2022? Answer We know what you are going through! It sucks. Wedding professionals are all saying “reschedule don't cancel.” But it's hard, we have no idea when COVID precautions will be gone. If you are good with what you've done, in terms of the wedding, then call it. Don't make this a stressful thing. In terms of asking for a refund, we understand why you would want a refund, know you are likely going to have to compromise with each individual wedding professional. Like you said, vendors have probably already spent the money. And you have also already spent that money. What if you pivoted, think outside the box, you have $7500 banked with that caterer, and think of a holiday, book for 2022 or something, and throw a big party? You don't even have to think of it as wedding related. The catering company would probably love to do a big party for you in the future, rather than individual dinners. 2021 is definitely still a big grey-area. But we have to believe 2022 will be better! In the end, you do have the right to ask for a refund. But they have the right to not give you one as well. Be open to compromise! Links We Referenced alpinerings.com (https://alpinerings.com) - NEW promo code: BIGWEDDING15 unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding (https://www.unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding/) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/ (https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/) INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.instagram.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast/) BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast)

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S2E6: "You Ask, We Answer": How to build a winning team for an effective OKR rollout

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2020 26:45

Welcome to the second episode of "You Ask, We Answer", the new category of the Superkinetics podcast. In this series, we gather your questions from the Workpath Community and invite experts to answer them. In this episode, we talk to Simon Bock, Head of Customer Success at Workpath and answer the following questions: 02:50: Why do we need a dedicated team driving the introduction, the scaling, and the continuous development of this new process? 08:30: How does a successful team look like when the organization sets out to establish OKRs? What kind of roles do you need and what kind of people do you cast for these roles? 14:30: What is important when starting and building a community of OKR Coaches? 20:05: How can Program Leads and OKR Coaches assess if they are on the right track with the OKR rollout? Visit https://www.workpath.com/training for more insights and further information and resources on the roles of Program Leads and OKR Coaches!

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Episode 199: What is Wholesaling

wholesaling we answer you ask

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2020 25:30

Today this episode is going to be a “You Ask, We Answer!”. Mike and David answer your questions which is What is Wholesaling! You can learn a lot from this episode! Don’t forget to check this out!

Episode 199: What is Wholesaling

wholesaling we answer you ask

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2020 23:16

Today this episode is going to be a "You Ask, We Answer!". Mike and David answer your questions which is What is Wholesaling! You can learn a lot from this episode! Don't forget to check this out!

Episode 195: How To Get Started in Real Estate

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2020 6:32

This is a “You Ask, We Answer” episode! Today, David and Mike answer one of your questions “How To Get Started inReal Estate?”. You can learn a lot from this episode! Check this out!

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Episode 195: How To Get Started in Real Estate

If You Build It, Will They Learn?

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2020 5:46

This is a "You Ask, We Answer" episode! Today, David and Mike answer one of your questions "How To Get Started inReal Estate?". You can learn a lot from this episode! Check this out!

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#29 - Q&A

Here's The Deal

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2020 27:35

You ask? We Answer?... Sorta

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Episode 11: You Asked, We Answer

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2020 32:36

On this weeks episode Scott and Daniel took some time to answer all of your questions! Grab a coffee and get to know Scott and Daniel a little more as they answer some personal career questions, address eLearning topics and talk all things podcasting. By the end of this episode you will have knowledge on how to start a career in the eLearning industry, how you can start a podcast, and be aware of some misconceptions in the eLearning industry. If you would like to be featured in our next “You Asked, We Answer” email us at podcast@halight.com or follow us on our Twitter, Instagram and Facebook page @builditlearnit. Have a great Thursday and we will see you next week for a new episode!

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S2E3: "You Ask, We Answer": How to succeed with your OKR rollout

Superkinetics: A podcast by Workpath

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2020 44:31

We're glad to introduce you to the very first episode of "You Ask, We Answer", the new category of the Superkinetics podcast. In this series, we gather your questions from the Workpath Community and invite experts to answer them. In this episode, we talk to Simon Bock, Head of Customer Success at Workpath and answer the following questions: Are there any organizations in which OKRs won’t work? If a company starts an OKR Roll-Out, how can the organization assess if they are successful? How to choose the right OKR approach for your organization? How should leaders and teams deal with stretch goals in the beginning and over the course of an OKR introduction?

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You Ask, We Answer

Walleye Talk

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2020 48:08

You Ask, We Answer by Dan Ryan and Wil Neururer

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#199 You Ask, We Answer - 30

Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2020 57:23

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners. Question 1: My partner and I got engaged in fall 2019 and planned on not having the wedding until sometime in 2021. Shelter in place has meant that we've finally had time to sit down and start wedding planning. We think we've found our venue for a September 2021 wedding but are hesitating on booking it due to concerns about how coronavirus might change weddings. Our venue manager has said that, should coronavirus still be a big concern on our wedding date, they have plans in place for seating fewer people per table, potentially having servers wear face masks and potentially even suggesting we tell guests to wear them to. Is this a trend you are seeing for post-coronavirus weddings? I was surprised to hear the venue say this and its making us rethink planning a wedding for next year or event having a big in person celebration at all. Answer 1: I think it's a good thing that your venue is already considering possible solutions and coming up with Plan B and C situations for weddings there. We are all dealing with so many unknowns and it's impossible to plan things for sure - that's just the frustrating reality. I have a couple clients who are working with venues that keep just saying "Well, we're moving ahead as planned and we'll see what happens!" This is not really a confidence-inspiring response. The decision to book or not book is yours, of course. And asking lots of questions before you book is really smart - the more info you have, the better! Review the contract carefully. The venue sounds like they are trying to protect themselves and their clients (and all guests) with ways to adjust/pivot rather than be forced to outright cancel. To answer your question - yes, lots of venues, caterers and wedding planners are outlining similar social-distancing measures just in case they will need them. Coronavirus is changing weddings. (Make sure that the cancelation/reschedule clause in the contract is solid and outlined clearly.) You and your partner probably need to talk about whether you would even want to have a wedding if everyone was required to wear a mask and stay 6' (ish) away from each other on the dancefloor. Small intimate weddings will feel a little less 'off' than big ones, in my opinion. The good news is...you are looking at 2021 not 2020! Question 2: Shortly after our engagement, my fiance and I drafted a 75-person guest list, mostly family and some friends, and agreed on a budget of $35k. [...] We decided to do a microwedding in our home state this fall with 25 guests including our immediate families, close friends, and one aunt (Aunt A) with whom I am very close and her family. We chose a microwedding because it will allow us to have the most important people present on our special day, we'll get lots of face time with them, and there will be much less planning. It is all about keeping our wedding relaxed, intimate, and enjoyable. I am really excited about our wedding; this feels right for us! I am feeling anxious, however, about the reactions from our extended families. My family is very conservative and both of my married cousins have done large, traditional, Christian weddings; my family assumes I will do the same and that they will all be invited. When they asked me about my wedding in February, it was before we realized we wanted something smaller, so they assumed they would be invited and I did not correct them - because I thought they would be! Also, though all aunts, uncles, and cousins will be invited to the celebration in their respective states, Aunt A and her family live out of state and are invited to the ceremony. I know the rest of my extended family may be hurt by this. Questions * How can I pitch our wedding plan to our extended families as inclusive rather than exclusive / graciously tell them they didn't make the cut for the wedding guest list? * Do I need to apologize for not inviting them to my wedding when I implied they would be? * What do I say when my extended family asks why Aunt A was invited and not them? * What are simple elements we could add to our celebration dinners in different states to make them feel unique and part of the wedding experience, rather than afterthoughts? * Is there any other advice you have on this topic??? Answer 2: One thing first - we have recorded an episode all about micro-weddings. It's been on the back burner as we try and get pandemic planning topics on the schedule too, but it will be released soon, so look for that! I love micro-weddings, fyi. I fully support your decision to host one and I think you're going to be very glad that you both followed your gut and heart on this. You and your fiancé agree that this is what you want and I think in order to really start to lean in and enjoy the process, and the wedding day itself, you do need to get it out there, so to speak. The sooner you let people know, the sooner this weight will be off your shoulders. I commend you for the considerate way you are approaching this! Remember, you won't be able to please everyone through this process and in sharing the decision, you and your partner - and your parents, ideally - all need to be on the same page and be firm and don't let anyone else's opinion about this derail you or make you doubt your decision. You are a caring person, so you are going to feel bad or even a little guilty if people put their feelings on you...but remember that you can only control your own decisions and feelings, no one else's. I think you can use the current situation with coronavirus and the way the wedding industry has been upended, that there are so many unknowns, priorities and 'essentials' are redefined in the face of the new reality...in a world where everything else is changing and many things are coming into focus (the good and the bad) - you two decided to change your wedding plans. You don't have to over-explain it to people, you don't owe anyone that. You do want to avoid discord down the line with family dynamics, but I think most of that will simmer away in time. Everyone is going through this now, plans are changing for us all. If you want to, I think it's appropriate to send out an email or even a video message to everyone that you want to tell - say something honest and transparent, but again, you don't need to apologize or go into too much detail. You can send this to your extended family that won't be getting invited. "So that's what we are going to do and we wanted to let everyone know. We're still getting married - we're just changing plans for how we are going to celebrate. We love you and we hope you're all well during this crazy time!" For those that are getting invited - you can talk to them each first - individually, I suggest a phone call or video chat. Tell them that you are going to have a smaller wedding now and that you want them to be a part of it. Let them know the date and location and that an invitation will be mailed in the summer. And it's ok to express personally that you know that this has the potential to be a decision that ripples through the family in different ways and you hope they can understand and be there for you. I know it's more complicated than I can answer to. Your parents are going to be key players in this, so I suggest you talk to them honestly and openly soon. I hope they support you whole heartedly. But if they have questions or express disappointment or try to convince you to change your mind, just stay the course. Time will help even things out...and no matter what, this is what you two want to do. And it's your love story. You get to tell it however you want. In terms of making people feel included...I just think you need to proceed with caution. People may not want to see a lot of photos of your wedding if they weren't invited, you know? So it may not feel as much like a full-family celebration in that way...and thats ok. I would say that it is not good etiquette to invite them to the showers/parties ahead of time - that may create some resentment. Again, everyone is cancelling things and rescheduling things and just being flexible right now. It's ok to just reach out and tell them what you two have decided to do. If you don't want to do an email or something like that, just call people individually. I think largely, your family will be understanding. And Aunt A is very special to you, she will be honored to be invited. I don't think you need to explain that choice to people, but if you do, just be honest and concise and move on to another topic of conversation. Question 3: Have any of you opted to not do hair and/or makeup for your wedding or someone's you're in? I really want to be pampered and pay to get it done but I also want to look natural and am worried about looking too done up. Answers: * Ellen: Many HMU can do natural looks. Plus if you are getting professional photos done, you want to have some layers on your face for that “glowing bride” kind of look. * Ashley: July wedding here, I am going for a natural look as well. I'm not hiring people to do mine, instead people in my circle are going to help me. My fiancé's friend is a hair stylist so she'll be doing my hair and my sister is really good at makeup so she's just going to be doing mine. Although I know there are some makeup artists that will do natural looks! * Kathryn: I got a blow out and just did natural makeup myself and was very happy with the results! It was the look I was going for - looking like myself! * Hannah: I just got my makeup/hair done for my engagement photos, and WOAH. It was great being pampered, but I left looking way to dolled up, even though I requested a natural look. So if you do get it done, do a trial first, so you feel your absolute best on your big day! * Cori: Always request a trial and be very honest about what you like and don't like. Look through the MUA's instagram and their tagged photos to see how their work looks and go with someone who tends to have a more natural style. * Christy and Michelle: Sometimes as women, we think being direct means being rude. But it's not! If you are having a trial, and you don't love what you're getting, tell them. If you choose not to hire your trial for the day of, that's okay. Pay them for their time, and move on. It is worth it to find somebody you like and that makes you feel your best. Links We Referenced: https://www.alpinerings.com/discount/bigwedding Alpine Rings has been a sponsor through the quarantine and stay-at-home order and we can't tell you how much that has meant to us! We are proud to partner with them and offer our listeners a discount on all orders. Use this link for 15% OFF site-wide! https://thrivecausemetics.com Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/ (https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/) INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.instagram.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast/) BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast)

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Rear Naked Radio - Answers Episode 2 - Season 2 Episode 4

Rear Naked Radio

Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2020 67:25

We Answer the all the Fan's Questions in the 2nd Answers Episode! Shit gets Wild and we Cannot be Held Responsible for anything we say...

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#195 You Ask, We Answer COVID19 Edition - 29

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2020 52:58

Just because we cannot gather in groups, does not mean the desire to marry one another has disappeared. Countless couples all over the world have been forced to postpone their wedding celebrations, but they are choosing to marry one another regardless because after all, that is the whole point isn't it? To be married! On this month's edition of You Ask, We Answer, we have an exciting announcement we want to share on how we're leading the way on Virtual Weddings. ANNOUNCEMENT TIME: We are teaming up and offering a Virtual Wedding Planning Package to our listeners; a more professionally planned out and elevated experience to our Full Wedding Planning Services which includes: Wedding Planner We will meet via web Conference Consultations: You show me your home and I help you figure out the best location for the ceremony. We discuss timing, number of guests, marriage license, technical set-up, lighting, decor and I put together a planning timeline for you. Live streaming is handled by us. You don't have to worry about any of the potential technical issues that could come up during your virtual wedding. With us, you have a “person” to set up the live stream, ensure it runs smoothly, troubleshoot any issues and answer questions from your guests. Not only that, but we will moderate, mute guests during the ceremony, and overall make sure things are running smoothly. We will also make sure your guests have a phone number they can call and your behind the scenes tech person will help them as needed. We design a personalized digital invitation for you to send out to your guests via email. Once we decide on a color palette, we will have fresh flowers delivered to your door so you can carry a bouquet or wear a boutonniere and have a beautiful centerpiece in the background and for your table. A box of tech: Lighting is important as are a few other items which we will ship to you with a return label to send it all back after the wedding. Rehearsal: We will have a rehearsal of your ceremony and test all of the technical aspects the day before to ensure we are all set on your wedding day. Visit for more details: http://www.allureconsulting.com/virtual (http://www.allureconsulting.com/virtual) Now onto this month's YAWA! YAWA Question #1: I'm a 10.10.20 bride and am getting a lot of “are you still having your wedding?” questions. What are the best way to respond to this? I have been telling those that we won't make a call to postpone until August and we are planning as usual. But is there something better to say? Answer #1: What you are saying is exactly right. Just letting them know you don't know yet, and giving that deadline of when you will decide is great. It's also nice for them to have something to look forward to in the fall. Airlines and hotels are being flexible. And you may want to start looking at a Plan B as well.   Question #2: Any update on whether it's possible to Zoom/FaceTime your ceremony? Answer #2: In the state of New York, a law has been passed that you can be married online. The certificate can be signed virtually! It does depend on the state and their current laws. Side note: Christy is ordained, and would love to perform ceremonies if she available.   Question #3: We're doing the “elopement” this year and then the big wedding next year... What things should we include in our ceremony this year to make it special (because this is when we are actually becoming wed) and what types of things do we save for the big wedding next year, when we can celebrate with our family? We want that to be special too. Thanks you guys! Answer #3: Keep the “elopement” ceremony a little more simple. If it is going to be virtual, have it recorded. You could play that during your ceremony next year! If there is a loved one who has passed away that you would have honored at a wedding, maybe in the background have a picture or have something that they gave you on your person during the ceremony. Maybe call your parents and let them in on the timing. And these choices you can also talk about for the later wedding.   Question #4: Do you ladies have any recommendations on how to start looking for a wedding dress during these crazy times? Answer #4: It's obviously not ideal at the moment. But! All the online department stores that carry bridal gowns will ship to your house so you can try them on and then they allow you to ship back for free. Some companies are hosting virtual tours that begin with the bride to talk about your interests, your body type, what you're looking for, etc. and they help you narrow down some choices and send them to you for try on.   Question #5: Our wedding was originally on 5/9/2020. Our venue called me in March saying we had to reschedule our wedding & gave us a list of dates to choose from. We chose the latest date they offered, which was 9/27/2020. I think the reason they didn't offer any dates in 2021 was because they still wanted to have at least SOME weddings in 2020 first. We bought Change the Dates, but now I don't know if I should send them out or wait, because of so much uncertainty of when the quarantine/pandemic will end, and if we have to change our date AGAIN. Should I still send out our Change the Dates or wait a little longer? So many people keep asking us about our wedding, and I answer them as they go, but I don't have everyone's emails to send them an update, so we figured it would be easier to mail everyone send the dates. And I can't really call 300 people to update because I'm a night shift ER nurse & am exhausted by the time it's my day off with everything going on. We've already updated our website with the new date, but not sure if we should move forward on sending out our newly bought Change the Dates yet in case things change again in the future. Thoughts? Answer #5: Yes, send them now! Hopefully the wedding website is on these Change The Dates somewhere. Or you can add an insert that says to make sure to keep an eye on the website because everything is changing quickly these days. But definitely send them!   Question #6: Is it okay to skip the paper invites and opt for email. Wedding is in July and not really feeling like wasting money if we're going to have to postpone. Answer #6: Every choice you make in planning a wedding is about making it your way. If it doesn't feel good, don't do it! If you want to send it, send it! You can still make a beautiful email if that is the way you go.   Question #7: Hey Michelle and Kristy. My name is Brandy. My fiancé and I made the difficult decision to postpone our wedding until next year. We still plan on getting married on our original date (7/3/20) and do our celebration on our 1st anniversary. So along with our postponement went our pre-wedding festivities - bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelor weekends. Although the most important part is still taking place, it sucks that we don't get to celebrate it with our family and friends. I was looking forward to honoring my bridal party by showering them with gifts to thank them for all their planning and hard work. Do you have any suggestions for something special I can do for them during this time of social distancing? Thanks keeping me up to date on all things wedding and doing it with pizzazz! Here's to one more year of planning! Answer #7: It's a great opportunity to reevaluate and make new plans. There is no reason not to have a virtual bachelorette/bachelor party. You can have things delivered to each other, food/ drinks, gift certificates for when things do open back up. You could have a post-wedding bachelorette! There are no rules. Take a weekend away with your friends after the wedding. Why not? You can mail/ship a gift to them and put a note that says “Do not open until...” your scheduled virtual party! You can still have these parties online and make them super special. Links We Referenced: Package Details: Here's our new package link: https://rentmywedding.com/Home-Wedding (https://rentmywedding.com/Home-Wedding) Here's your 20% off promo code: BIGWEDDING Promo code is valid on ANY rentals, now through 5/31/20. Enter promo code in the "Reference Box" at checkout Pay later! Reserve with just 25% down, and pay the rest later. Payment plans available. Cancel anytime! If your plans change, cancel anytime before shipping for a full refund. First 10 couples to book a virtual wedding with Michelle and Jason get 20% off! dressanomalie.com (https://www.dressanomalie.com) alpinerings.com (https://alpinerings.com) (Use promo code BIGWEDDING for 15% off sitewide) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/ (https://www.facebook.com/TBWPpodcast/) INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.instagram.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast/) BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast (https://www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast) Special Guest: Jason Mitchell Kahn.

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#184 You Ask, We Answer - 27

Money Talks Radio Show - Atlanta, GA

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2020 48:56

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners. TOPIC #1 - NOAHS VENUE CLOSING Company in deep debt, couples left with no returned deposit and no wedding venue. * What to do if this happens with your venue? * Don't despair. Keep moving forward. You can do it. It's hard and it sucks, but we * have heard the industry is coming together to help as much as they can! * Contracts * You have to read the contracts VERY carefully. Especially brick and mortar. * Hire professionals that have contracts that would pass the basic contract test. Ask * lots of questions, pass it by your planner, get clear about what it means! * Insurance * Wedding day insurance would help! But bankruptcy is bankruptcy. * Upfront costs (one couple put $17000 down for Noahs which included a bar tab and upgraded linens. They will not get that money back) * This isn't normal. Most venues do not require such a large deposit. Read the fine print! Ask lots of questions.   *Question #1: Booze or No Booze? *  I have been LOVING binging the podcast! I'm about 100 episodes in and still going (I'm a college student so time for listening is limited). I'm a young bride and my family hasn't had any recent weddings so mine is the first one in a while! Our wedding isn't until May 2021, and we are on a tight budget. My fiancé and I have been struggling with a decision regarding alcohol. My family is extremely conservative and don't like alcohol, and his family couldn't care less (they might drink some). We both think it would be nice to have a signature cocktail or something simple, but have reservations due to my family's judgement. I don't want to feel scrutinized on my wedding day for having a drink. My parents are contributing a lot to the wedding and wouldn't be too happy to have alcohol there. However, our friends/ bridal party would definitely be let down with a dry wedding. We're also a little concerned our friends may go a little crazy since we're the first wedding of the group. We don't want anyone getting really drunk at the reception, and wold like to save that type of energy for the after-party. So, how can we please all of our guests and ourselves as the couple? Our friends who like to "have fun", and my family who hates the thought of alcohol? Any guidance would be helpful, we're just torn! Thank you for all the help you've provided me thus far on the podcast! ** Answer:** Totally understand your conundrum. What are the hours of your reception? If you are having an after party and are concerned about guests getting 'too crazy' at the reception, I think you can definitely keep it short -- like only an hour of open dancing, rather than 2+. During this time, I think you can compromise with the alcohol. I think the best way to do this is to have only 1-2 options and both to be light cocktails. For example, a mimosa has less alcohol content than a vodka tonic. Having bartenders that have been instructed to only serve the cocktails mixed (no one can order a mimosa- hold-the-juice) and to not pour super-strong, and to not pour for guests that appear tipsy or rowdy. Or - if you want to have a long reception, just cut the bar after an hour or drinking post- dinner. It's there, it's free, its limited choice, and then it's just closed. Keep in mind that beer/wine receptions usually have less drunk people than a reception that serves hard alcohol. I agree with you - if I was in college or my twenties and I went to a friends wedding, it would be a bummer if it was dry. I've been to plenty of dry weddings - but they were all of friends that I knew were very religious. OR - a brunch wedding. Brunch weddings are far more chill and you can do an espresso bar or smoothie bar in place of a bar-bar. And you can plan a bomb after party at a beer garden or pub or something afterwards - and you and all your friends can celebrate more there, without you feeling like you are disrespecting your parents. Question #2 (in 4 parts): A few Loose Ends as Planning winds down Question 1: What do you do when there isn't much left to do?? I feel like I'm on high- alert everyday on what I could maybe be forgetting! I feel like I hear a lot about beginning stages and big decisions of wedding planning, but not the end stages of it. *Answer 1: * It might make you feel better to just reach out to every key vendor and check in - review details and get them to confirm. It always makes me feel more confident to get those emails back that say - "Yep! We are all good. You don't owe a balance, we'll be there at 9am!" You can also list out the items that you will be bringing - and pack them up, label the boxes, keep a key list so that no matter who transports and sets up - they'll know exactly what to do. Also - put together a little personal emergency kit for yourself. Question 2: I don't know where we should start cutting the cake; from the top tier?... from the middle? Who is supposed to cut and serve it? Can I ask a bartender to do this or would I be an asshole for asking? Answer 2: You need to ask your cake baker exactly where to cut the cake (GREAT question!) - if you have a planner - she will walk you through that part during the reception. If not, make sure cake cutting is in the timeline and the caterer, DJ and photographer are all aware of it. Then when you go to cut the cake - you just cut a small sliver-triangle - usually off the bottom or second from the bottom piece - you only cut into the one tier - you don't cut deep enough that it goes into two tiers. Then you put that piece on a plate - each take a bite - get the photos and the caterer should swoop in and take the cake 'to the back' to slice and plate it. In some cases, this is done on a big table in front of guests, but it is executed quickly and carefully by a professional. IF you don't have a caterer there to do it - you will need to have assigned someone this task ahead of time. Maybe have them watch a youtube video or something! Always feel free to ask your cake baker these questions too! Question 3: Tips on focusing brain away from the wedding? I want to avoid being a bride that cries because it is all over and currently I can barely focus on work because so close to day-of. Answer 3: It's a big thing that has been taking up a lot of space in your mind for months now and when it's over - it will feel like a relief and a fever dream and you will probably feel a little sad about it! You may not know what to do with all that time and energy. It's ok - it's normal. Focus on things like photo-album making and printing, nesting with the new gifts you have, writing thank you notes, and planning the future with your partner now that the wedding is over. Remember - a wedding is just a party. For real. The marriage is the important part and the exciting part! It takes work and attention and openness. Be present to experience all of that. Question 4: Day-of nerves and jitters: How to avoid? What to do? (P.S. It isn't the marriage, it's the wedding) *Answer 4: * As far as day-of nerves...try to design a day (like all the hours before the ceremony actually starts) that you know is enjoyable and relaxing for you. There are factors that will go into that - crating that day. Envision those hours now and put plans in place that will help you make that a reality. What do you like to do on your BEST days? The days you are most excited about. The days you forget about your diet, your computer, your obligations...and just enjoy them. It could be as simple as starting out the day with your favorite donut and a latte from your favorite 'special' place. Making sure you have the music you like in the getting-ready room. Telling your best friends and mom to not let you XYZ, or to make sure that you sit and eat, or to ensure that your cousin Jill doesn't come in and be all negative like she always does. You know the elements of what makes a day great for you...try to put things in place ahead of time and then on the day of - remember to just roll with it, take deep breaths, laugh, smile and move through it all. It goes by fast and it should be FUN! Links we referenced https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/companies/wedding-chain-noahs-event-venue- (https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2020/02/12/weddings-chain-noahs-event-venue-closes-bankruptcy/4735184002/) closes-abruptly-stranding-up-to-7500-brides-and-grooms/ar-BBZVdSr?li=BBnbfcN  zola.com/bigwedding (https://welcome.zola.com/allproducts_alldevices_50/?pkey=bigweddingpod&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=bigwedding&)use promo code: SAVE50  unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding (https://www.unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding/) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast **

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Q&A Time: We Answer, "Who Should Own my Life Insurance Policy?"

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2020

We Answer, "Who Should Own my Life Insurance Policy?"

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Q&A Time: We Answer, "Who Should Own my Life Insurance Policy?"

Money Talks Radio Show - Atlanta, GA

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2020 5:16

We Answer, "Who Should Own my Life Insurance Policy?"

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Q&A Time: We Answer, "Who Should Own my Life Insurance Policy?"

Money Talks Radio Show - Atlanta, GA

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2020

We Answer, "Who Should Own my Life Insurance Policy?"

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#180 You Ask, We Answer - 26

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2020 63:28

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners. Ask #1 - First Look - I don't wanna! We have already booked a photographer that we really like and I am sure he will be flexible, but I know he has to advocate for his needs in order to do his job well. I want to be respectful and make sure the request I am making is somewhat reasonable before I meet with him. I also want to emphasize that while we, of course, value having photographs of our wedding, the photos are not really a priority of ours. […] I have ALWAYS pictured myself not having a first look. However silly, the romantic in me wants the two of us to see each other for the first time as I walk down the aisle. […] If it is completely unavoidable, we will do a first look, but I really don't want to. So tell me, is it unreasonable to ask a photographer to take all of the photos needed after the wedding? And if it is reasonable, could we do outdoor photos of the two of us right after the wedding at a nearby location and then come back and do the rest of the portraits indoors. I want to be respectful of his craft (and most of his photos on his website are outdoors) but I also don't want to arrange my whole day around an aspect that is lower on our priority list than others. Answer #1 100% you do not have to do a first look. The photographer is going to photograph your day - he will may input and thoughts about how it runs...but they will second to your plans. He will work with the day as you want it to be, and as you make the plans for it. Lots of people don't want to do the first look! Totally fine. Create an organized, logical wedding day timeline and give it to your vendors - all of them should have some version of the same timeline. He probably prefers outside photos, but any professional wedding photographer is going to be adept at indoor photos and lighting as well. Usually it's just not what they show off on their websites. I suggest you create the timeline by first deciding when you want the ceremony to start. Then work backwards and forwards from there. Here's a basic example - including when the photos can be. 3:30 - photographer starts - he can get some 'getting ready' shots with you at this time, if you want those. Probably has time to do a few minutes with you and your partner - if you will be at the same place in different rooms at this point. 4:00 - guests arriving, photographer taking photos of venue, some with bride and groom separately (maybe with wedding party or parents), maybe some of guests as they arrive 4:30 - 5:00 Ceremony 5:00 - 5:25 Photos with you and partner, parents, and wedding party. These are 'formal' posed photos. They can be done right outside the church - wherever the photographer wants, or in the church. Either way - they need to start right after the ceremony - which means it will be helpful if all involved are aware of the plan and if there is someone else who can encourage all the other guests to go to the cocktail reception at this point. Remember to leave some buffer time between this and when you want to join the cocktail hour. Or if you want to skip the cocktail hour, you can spend more time on photos and have some alone time with your partner (recommended!) 5:15 - 6:15 - cocktail reception - you can join this whenever you want, just put a time limit on the post-ceremony photos and make it clear to your photographer. If you want him to get photos of the reception room or details, he will need to get there to do that by 5:45 in this case. 6:15 - end (9:30? 10?) - dinner and reception. Photographer will leave after his hourly contracted time. Keep in mind that you don't have to travel far to get nice outdoor photos. I've seen couples literally pose for formals next to a dumpster behind the church, or in a grassy area by a parking lot because that is where the light is good for the photographer and he can frame it so that it looks wonderful. You may not have to travel to a park or something like that - talk to your photographer about your priorities (people over 'details', no first look, some outdoor formals, you don't want to spend all day posing, getting to be there for the second half of cocktail hour maybe...) and maybe he can suggest a place (and go visit the church, ideally) right there that he would be able to do good outdoor photos. Ask #2: My fiancé and I are having a wedding near we live (Southwest Michigan), all of our guests are traveling in for the wedding. Most of my family has a 3 hr (or more drive). Most of his family is coming from New York. With that being said, 2 of my bridesmaids (and all of his family) are based in New York. When it comes to all the pre-wedding events, how should those be organized? Like bridal shower, should my grandmother (who is hosting mine in Michigan) invite the family from New York? Should I reach out to his family in New York to see if someone is going to plan a shower for me? Is that tacky (or come across as greedy)? Same with bachelorette party? Should I invite those two to come stay with me for the weekend. They don't know each other, so they wouldn't be traveling together. Should I bring the 2 bridesmaids that live in Michigan (my sister and best friend) to New York? Or just take those two out alone? Answer #2: I think that it might make sense to have a bridal shower or engagement party in NY - with so many of the VIPs being there. You don't need to inquire yourself, though. Talk to your fiancé...and are you close or on good terms and communicating with his mom or parents a lot during wedding planning? Tell them that your grandmother is hosting a bridal shower for you in Michigan and you would like to invite family from everywhere, even though you know they won't be able to come. Be transparent - tell them that you know a lot of people are in NY and you would love to have a celebration there too so that those guests can participate if they want to. I think having a bachelorette in NY is a great idea and that weekend could kind of be a weekend for you and your girlfriends, and also have a nice brunch or something thrown in so that family there can come to a shower for you. (Also - you could make it a thing that you and your fiancé do - a coed shower in NY, or an engagement dinner there, then make a fun weekend out of it.) BUT - you do need someone to host this stuff. (I know it's tricky - I literally asked a friend of mine to host a small baby shower for me when I was pregnant.). NYC is a great destination city and it's pretty easy to get to, I think you gals would have an awesome time. If no one steps up to actually 'host' a bachelorette party there, but a family member in NY does want to throw you a shower/party, you can pitch the idea of a girls weekend that get your bridesmaids out there and the shower happens as well. You can say that you want everyone to meet before the wedding! Ask #3: This has probably been brought up a million times but we are having our ceremony at a chapel that provides a coordinator, organist and a security officer to stand outside (it's a super popular place to visit and it's closed on weekends for weddings) do we tip these people? Write them thank you cards? These services are paid for in our contact, but I feel like we have to tip everyone. Answer #3: Yes! Tip them! It's a small gesture, but it's very nice and we encourage it for sure. Ask #4: I would love to put up pictures from my parents wedding and grandparents wedding (both my sisters did that for their weddings) but my fiancé's whole side of his family is divorced. Should I just put it out at my bridal shower instead? I wouldn't mind asking my fiancé's side of the family if it would be okay (they would give their honest opinion) or is it rude and inconsiderate to even ask? Answer #4: I don't think it's inconsiderate to ask. If they're remarried, just include pictures with their current spouse. If the mom and dad are single and unmarried, then it is probably a better idea to display their photos instead, it's a nice compromise. You can just put up the grandparents. Regardless, it's not rude to ask (unless they hate each other). It can be fun to look back at wedding pictures! Also, you don't have to do what your sisters did! Ask #5: I have also had three people invite themselves to my wedding. “I better be invited” or “when is it? We will try to make it”. I would love to be prepped with responses! Answer #5: You might need to have a trite, simple answer. Be kind, but don't let them invite themselves! You can always just smile and shrug. Don't put yourself in a place where you said yes and feel bad for having to change your mind or end up with a table full of people you didn't really want to be at your wedding. Ask #6: My parents are divorced and my father is remarried. I don't get along with his wife— AT ALL. His wife's presence makes my mom uncomfortable. My father isn't paying for the wedding. Is it fair to ask my father to leave his wife at home? Answer #6: We feel you! But it is not fair, unfortunately. If you are inviting your father, then he should be able to bring his wife. If you love your dad and you want your dad in your life moving forward, and you want his presence at the wedding, you need to bite your tongue and grin and bear it. It might not be easy, and either way someone is going to be uncomfortable. Don't seat her with your mom. Don't invite her to the intimate getting ready parties. But it will not soon be forgotten if you insist she does not come. Ask #7: My parents are helping to pay for the wedding, and my fiancé's aren't. This is partly because my parents can afford to more than his parents can, but also because his parents didn't really like me during the five years we were dating and now we don't feel comfortable accepting money from them. (They offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner but we don't want to deal with any strings attached). My question is, is there a way to thank my parents during the wedding reception without making his parents feel left out or hurt? We thought the traditional way would be to make a toast at the reception, but how do you only thank one set of parents when the other is sitting right there? Or do we just thank both anyways? Answer #7: You could take your parents out separately and give them a personal thank you. You could also thank your parents during the toasts and have your fiancé thank his. Also, remember if your parents are helping back for this wedding, they are technically hosts, so they are allowed to stand up during toasts and make a toast to everyone, thanking all the guests. If they are comfortable with it, they can be the first to speak. It's a nice way to honor your parents as host and no one will think it's awkward or unfair. Ask #8: I recently got engaged in December and being the OCD, Type A person that I am, I immediately started searching for wedding planning podcasts. I'm so glad I found TBWPP and I've been binging it for the past month. Thank you both so much for your advice, guidance, and funny banter. My parents will be paying for the wedding and we all agree that we need to hire a planner for a full service package, especially since my mom and I both have full time jobs. We've consulted with about 6 planners and have narrowed it down to 2. I think that both planners would do a wonderful job and both have been recommended to me by a friend in the industry. The full planning package for planner A is about $7,500 and the full planning package for planner B is about $15,000. If I had known planner B's pricing ahead of time, I may not have scheduled a consultation because the budget my parents, fiancé, and I had decided on was $10,000 maximum for a planner. After our consultation with planner B, both my fiancé and I looked at each other and knew we had that “this is it” feeling from her. We felt like we had known her for years and she made us feel really comfortable. We didn't necessarily have that feeling with planner A but I know she would do a great job, and it's hard to not consider hiring her since her package is half the price. Also, both packages include the same services and both are reputable companies. My parents don't want me to “settle” and want us to go with our gut so are willing to spend the extra money for someone we really love. Still, it's hard for me to justify spending double on planner B's package even though we loved her. I'm also scared of making the “wrong” decision and regretting it later in the process. Any advice? Answer #9: As a small business owner, it can be really vulnerable to quote a price to your client. It's great that you have a little wiggle room, and are willing to look at it deeply. At a certain point with experience, and understanding, planners can and should raise their price point. If you are feeling called towards a certain planner, and the parents are willing, we really think you should go with them. Speak to references, ask questions, do your research, and go with your gut! An additional pro of hiring a full service planner is that they are prepared to help save you money! They have good connections and relationships with vendors, etc. Links we referenced unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding (https://www.unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding/) : Discount with package! zola.com/bigwedding (https://welcome.zola.com/allproducts_alldevices_50/?pkey=bigweddingpod&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=bigwedding&) : promo code SAVE50 for 50% off save the dates Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

ThisNThat: Episode 38 (December 14, 2019)

This&That

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2019 37:34

This&That with David & Brenda - An eclectic podcast collaboration about everything that's anything! Episode 38 is our first Christmas Edition! Show segments include "Here's What I Think" discussing Spygate 2.0; "You Asked, We Answer" where we answer our listeners' questions; and, "Words of Wisdom" on the true meaning of Christmas.

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#167 You Ask, We Answer - 24

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2019 54:52

It's that time of month! Here's You Ask, We Answer for October! EMAIL - TOAST TIME! ASK: My best friend called me yesterday and asked if i could give a toast/speech during their welcome drinks next Friday night, her fiancé also has his best friend giving one the same night. What I'm finding hard is that when I sit down and write it out, everything sounds sooooo cheesy. I'm also worried that i'm focusing too much on our friendship. We do have a very special, unique friendship, and I have a ton of stories I can share. I don't want to make the toast too much about me, or just me and her. I'm worried that it will come off like I'm “showing off” how close we are. Is this a dumb thing to worry about? ANSWER: You can do this. Not as much pressure as the wedding day toasts. I think you can absolutely focus on your relationship with the bride - but just always circle back to how the qualities you are illustrating in whatever stories you share are qualities that her fiancé is going to benefit from. She's your best friend for the same reasons that he fell in love with her, in short. She's adjective, adjective and adjective. You know this because of anecdote, anecdote, anecdote. And he completes her in this way, this way and this way. And he's lucky to have her because this, this and this. Basically. You were asked by her to give a toast. The toast will honor her. Remember - this is going to be 5-6 minutes. That's it. You have hours of things to say about her...distill it to 5 minutes. When I was drafting my bf's toast, I started with a list (on my phone) of all the things I love about her. Then I fleshed out some of those things with stories and anecdotes. And then I read that shit out loud in front of a mirror. Remember - you don't have to be a stand up comedienne, or a one-woman show. A perfect toast - in my opinion (and I've seen A LOT) - is touching and funny (but not necessarily LOL funny) and comes from the heart. You are 'publicly' professing your love for your friend. That's the point. People want to hear why you specifically think she is so awesome. You don't have to tell all the funny or touching stories - but list them out and that will help you decide which ones best illustrate your point that this guy is getting one hell of a lady. And that you love her and you wish them the very best as they embark on this journey. You believe in marriage. You believe in them. And CHEERS. EMAIL - The Vegan Percentage ASK We've picked a caterer, a local upscale Mexican fusion type place. I am vegan and have been for about 9 years, and we specifically picked this place because they have really yummy vegan options. However, I always knew between my fiancé's family and my family, we'd basically have to serve some meat too. So I was fine with that and made a menu that was about 50/50 vegan/non-vegan. My dad is paying for the catering, and keeps offering to pay more and more to add on more meat dishes that we really don't need, and will cause excess food. This upsets me because his proposed new menu with his additions isn't even 1/3 vegan, and it's way too much food that neither my fiancé nor I will even try. I know he's paying, and I'm trying to be understanding and not a bridezilla, but at the same time.... it makes me sad that ANY animals have to die for my wedding. I don't want to add on MORE deaths. And, I feel like if we're going to spend more and add more... it would be nice if it was something I could actually enjoy as well. When I try to gently say this to him, he gets annoyed and is like “well I want to enjoy it too” and I'm like.... anyone can eat delicious vegan food. Meat options are the limiting ones. I just don't know if I'm being awful or what to say to him. Any advice would be so appreciated, because you ladies often have creative answers I'd never think of! ANSWER Totally get the dilemma here... Here's what I think. People that aren't vegans (like me) think that all vegan food sucks (guilty). Admittedly, I am wrong about this! I have been pleasantly surprised by vegan food and I've done a fair share of vegan weddings! I think you do need to consider your dad's opinion bc he is paying for it. BUT - put your foot down about the options and quantities...propose going half and half with the main course entrees (it's a fair proposal - he's paying, but it's YOUR wedding - so go with your idea: 50/50% on the dinner). And of the 50% non-vegan, some of that can def be non-meat. Reducing the kill quota that is understandably making you uncomfortable. If you are having apps, those can all be vegan except one - and let your dad pick whatever he likes for the one meat option. And the wedding cake or desserts can be totally vegan! He likely won't even be able to tell the difference with those anyway. Thank your dad. Tell him you love and appreciate him and you can't wait to celebrate your wedding with him. But remind him that this is just one meal for him...and for you, it's a really important celebration that should speak to the priorities and values that you and your fiancé hold dear! Your dad can stop at McDonalds on his way home if he wants to - it's not something that should be made into a big deal. Promise him that he'll get enough to eat and that the food isn't really the main point of the day anyway. You can do this! EMAIL 3 THOUGHTFUL HIRING ASK: I'm up to #153 about diversity and I had a question. I live in the heartland, conservative bible belt, and all that "fun" stuff. I grew up near the capitol of the state in a VERY good suburb area with parents that reinforced what my (our) generation of "treat others the way you want to be treated" were taught. My area isn't SUPER diverse but I was such a shy nerdy made fun of kid that I made friends with anyone who would let me :) My question is around navigating beliefs and vendors and I hadn't really thought about it before. I have decided my caterer must have washable dishes or compostable flatware available I'm not contributing that much garbage bc I'm getting married. What I hadn't considered is whether or not it matters if I hire vendors who don't believe what I do and how can I approach finding out? I don't want to support hateful awfulness that I don't agree with by hiring someone who believes that but "Do you service clients of color and LGBTQ?" isn't really on any of the interview checklists in the planners and guides out there. I want to be environmentally conscious and I want to not find out when it's too late that I've hired someone I would barely be able to associate with and not be mad all the time. ANSWER I too am an elder millennial - what a club, huh? Also, I was raised mostly in North Texas and it's super conservative for the most part there too. I love that you are thinking about these things, even though they don't really affect you - so to speak. You have an open mind and heart and I can tell that you want to make deliberate, conscientious choices...and I love that. Good for you! I think as far as the venue goes- if you got a good impression and energy from the venue owner/manager....just take it and don't question things too much. You already signed and things are already in motion. We can't know that every person that we work with or that we hire thinks about things the same as we do - or hold the same values as we do. You aren't ignoring any red flags...and that's a good thing moving forward. If she told you they don't do gay weddings there, that's another story, because she made it clear to you. For vendors you haven't hired though, I think asking them if they work with diverse clients and other vendors is fair! Sure, you don't see it on the 'questions to ask your florist' lists...but that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask. It's important to you. Worst thing they could say is, "No." And then you can move on and find someone else to hire. Just ask, Chelsea. I bet once you do, it'll be a lot easier to just keep asking. And my bet is, you'll get more "sure, we are open to serving anyone!" then you will "No, we don't believe in that". It's becoming bad business, slowly but surely, even in the heartland. I hope this helps! I really appreciate your thoughtfulness here! -C EMAIL 4 (From the FB Group) - Dessert Ticket Conundrum ASK Hey all! I am looking for some advice on a very specific question! In addition to cupcakes, we are doing an ice cream sundae bar at our wedding, this will be an extra cost of $5 per person. Instead of charge for every single person (we have vegans, people who dont like ice cream, it will be october in MN and possibly cold, etc). Our caterer/venue is willing to do a ticket system in order to save money on the people who do not want ice cream. We will have escort cards that I could put a stamp on or ticket with. What we need to figure out is how to ask people, is it tacky to put it on our invitations and have people check if they want the ice cream? Will people want ice cream and cupcakes? Is that too much dessert? Any suggestions are welcome!! Thanks in advance! ANSWER From another group member: Idea 1: Can you devise a system with the caterer where the guest hands in their escort card to get ice cream? I am assuming that there is a server in this scenario and that it's not self serve. Then you just get charged for the number of escort cards turned in. Have the DJ explain this at the cake cutting and put signage at the ice cream bar that describes it. You can make it cute, but just get the details across as many ways as you can! Idea 2: When I have ordered food for events that I think not everyone will partake in, I have guaranteed half the total number of people. Will the caterer let you do something like that? It can be any number you feel comfortable with. The only issue is that then they only bring the ice cream for the guaranteed number. When it's gone, it's gone. I find that caterers tend have a generous idea of portion size on buffet/bar style food because people sometimes go back for seconds or certain people like slightly larger portions. But it's definitely something to think about! Links We Mentioned https://UnboringOfficiant.com/BigWedding https://www.hitchswitch.com promo code: BIGWEDDING https://hellonoemie.com/bigwedding for 50$ off your first purchase with promo code BIGWEDDING https://zola.com/bigwedding for your free wedding website and 30% off invites and paper orders https://www.facebook.com/groups/TBWPP/?source_id=1020006734764802 The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

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45: Underage & Under Arrest 9:25:19 12 05 AM

The Dad Presents:

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2019 63:34

In Episode 45 of The Dad Presents... We Answer your parenting questions. And, women get all the breaks in a new board game... Plus, a six-year-old may face a jury of her peers after being arrested at school. All this and more... Listen, Rate and Subscribe.

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#154 You Ask, We Answer - 21

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Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2019 60:20

Today's episode is a You Ask, We Answer, as is our end-of-month tradition. Housekeeping Join the Patreon fun!! We need patrons to keep the podcast going, now more than ever! Quick thank you to our new patrons: Lydia, Clarissa, Jennie, Cori, Margo, Rhain, Sara, Anne Marie, Bethany, Aleah, Megan and Marty! Thank you! EMAIL - too much information?? ASK - First, thank you so much for this podcast it has been a savings grace for my sometimes over organized, love to have control everything, used to think our wedding needs to be perfect self. Don't worry since listening I've learned it's not going to be perfect, what I need to really spend the time planning, and what just needs to be tossed into the fuck it bucket. My fiancé and I have been listening over the last year. I have listened to every episode at least once, some twice, and even three times for the episodes that I needed to take even better notes on. We are pretty much paying and planning for everything ourselves so every piece of information has been EXTREMELY helpful, and don't worry we have a month of. We get married August 3rd 2019! We have been engaged for two and a half years and started planning with a 18 month countdown and boy did it go by fast! With our wedding coming up in less than 30 days we are working on all of the last minute small details. With my fiancé and I being in our... late 20s for me and his early 30s for him we have been to a ton of weddings recently. One of my biggest pet peeves when attending a wedding is lack of information: not knowing where to go next or what we should be doing etcetera. With this being said I really wanted our guests to get a ton of information so they don't ever feel lost or uncomfortable. We will still have a few signs people probably won't read, have a couple announcements that some people won't hear, and have given our wedding party a bunch of information that they are probably confused about Haha. BUT along with all of this we have decided to have an Instagram just for our wedding and our guests!(very millennial of us).My matron of honor loves IG and has agreed to post our pre-made Instagram posts throughout the lows of the day on our wedding Instagram. We have already started to add our guests now so we do not have to worry about this the day of. I have listed below some of the announcements that my fiancé and I feel would be useful not in any particular order. Do you think this is too much information and do you think it will be just as confusing for our guests? Do you see something we should add? Do you see an issue that we are not foreseeing? Ceremony starts at 415 Cocktail hr is open bar Dinner starts at 6 Dress code No phones during ceremony Signature drinks Beer and wine only during reception Send off at 11pm Games during cocktail hr Find your table save room for cake! Menu Use our snapchat filter Thank you so much for all the information that you two have already supplied us! We will continue to tell everyone we know that is getting married about your podcast. Keep up the great work. Best wishes, -S&D ANSWER Hi hi! Thank you for listening! And for writing in- sounds like you are very on top of things! The Instagram page sounds awesome- please share some pics with us afterwards with your thoughts about how that process (of sharing pics) goes. I don't know if you need to make announcements about all of this that you listed- signage can take care of some of it. Like you can do a sign at the entrance with the BASIC schedule on it- ceremony, cocktails (open bar!), dinner, cake, send off. And your planner should be able to help direct the series of micro-events, having the Dj or emcee make announcements when needed. Like a grand entrance, last call, special dances, etc. Your officiant can announce at the very top of the ceremony that you are kindly asking that guests refrain from using their cells during the ceremony. I suggest you have a sign on the bar during cocktail that says that beer and wine only will be served during the reception. Also it can have the specialty cocktail on it. Some things- like the dress code and the games don't even really need to be mentioned at all- they're obvious on the day-of. And remember- sometimes the best way to get the word out is to tell your parents and tell them to pass it on! I totally agree that it's annoying to be at a wedding as a guest and not know wtf is going on. This issue though, imo, has less to do with announcements and more to do with a general disorganization. The couple doesn't know what happens next, the dj doesn't have a timeline, no one is in charge...you get the picture. That's not what's going to happen with a good month-of planner! Good luck! Congratulations!! Christy EMAIL - Short question that is impossible to answer _ASK _ Hi there, Thinking about some of my favorite weddings I've attended, some of the best moments have been spontaneous and random things that happened- for example, everyone heading to hotel room for an after party that the bride and groom ended up joining or a bridal party photo shoot that ended up turning into walking barefoot in a stream in the woods. I want to leave space for some of this spontaneous magic in my wedding...and I also want to plan every single detail down to the minute so I know nothing goes wrong! How do you suggest balancing those two things? And is there anything structurally or set up-wise I can do to encourage people to be creative and spontaneous? Thanks for your thoughts! Love the podcast so much. ANSWER Great email, I smiled reading it because you're asking for the impossible. Just kidding! I don't have lots of advice on this one though...but I do love the sentiment. I think you just don't over-schedule. Leave buffer time in the timeline between all the micro events. Surround yourself with people you love and have fun (fun people!). Say yes to experiences, even if they aren't on the timeline. The thing I know for sure about weddings is that they are only as much fun as the couple getting married. Let people give toasts, even if it's not planned. If you have an idea on the wedding day - don't talk yourself out of it. Are you in our facebook group? You could pose this question to the group - it's pretty active and there are 100 other people there that listen to the podcast and are planning their weddings too. I think this question would resonate with them and some might have better suggestions than me! EMAIL - 3 separate questions! ASK First and foremost- your show has been the holy grail of everything wedding I didn't know I needed to know!!!! I can't thank you enough for not only your insight but also how thorough, detailed, and organized you both are with projecting your message on topics! You really double as professors in wedding planning!

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Since you asked: Four Baltimore stories inspired by your curiosity

Roughly Speaking

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2019 15:50

This week, you’re the producer, as breaking news and transportation reporter Colin Campbell shares four You Ask, We Answer stories inspired by Sun readers’ curiosity. Come underground, underwater, to the back of the restaurant, and back in time as we reveal lesser-known facts about Federal Hill Park, the Inner Harbor, carryout staple Lake Trout and two Baltimore neighborhoods.Related links:What do you wonder about the Baltimore area that you'd like us to investigate?https://www.baltimoresun.com/ask/bs-you-ask-we-answer-20190228-htmlstory.html'Secret' tunnels are hidden under Baltimore's Federal Hill. Where did they come from and what lies inside?https://www.baltimoresun.com/ask/bs-md-ci-federal-hill-tunnels-20190514-story.htmlYou asked: What's really in Baltimore's Inner Harbor? Here's what we found.https://www.baltimoresun.com/ask/bs-md-ci-what-is-in-inner-harbor-20190404-story.htmlYou asked: What is lake trout? The story behind the Baltimore delicacy with a misleading name.https://www.baltimoresun.com/ask/bs-fo-lake-trout-20190417-story.htmlYou asked: How do Baltimore neighborhoods get their names? The origin behind Pigtown, Sandtown and more.https://www.baltimoresun.com/ask/bs-md-baltimore-neighborhood-origins-20190425-story.html

#149 - You Ask, We Answer - 19

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2019 58:26

Today's episode is a You Ask, We Answer, as is our end-of-month tradition. Housekeeping Hashtag #planthatwedding so we can see your pics! Share your engagement pics with us (with photographer credit) so we can share. And BIG thank you to those of you who already have. Next month will have 2 YAWAS and one will be all QA from our awesome facebook group! Voicemail ASK My wedding is next may, in 2020. I wanna know where I should put the Horrah on the timeline, since I'm a Jewish bride. The wedding is in a historic mansion, it has a tented terrace, that's attached. The dinner will be in the tent, next to the band and the dance floor, and there's connecting doors that will be open in between. We have a seated dinner and cocktail hour before dancing. So, I was thinking maybe we could come down this curved staircase to the dance floor for the introduction, and immediately go into the Horrah. But is it weird to do that before the dinner service? Also, is there anything else we should do in advance, like choose which people hold up the chairs? Our chairs don't have arms, so should we set aside special chairs with arms? - Ashley via Voicemail ANSWER We love the Horrah! But we haven't done a ton of them. So we brought in our good friend, Katherine, to help answer. Traditionally, it happens right when the guests are seated for dinner. But sometimes, when the dancing is not near where the dinner is, that can't happen. Because you don't want to drag guests around from room to room. For your set-up, Katherine thinks you should definitely do the Horrah right after introductions. The guests are ready for it, so bring the energy in right away! It is necessary to have the right chairs for this, so find a light weight chair with arms. You need something the bride can hold onto. They can be kept tucked away, they don't even have to match the wedding decor. You have to have the arms! As far as designating people, it is a wise idea. You need about four pretty strong people per chair to be sure that it's all ready to go. This is a great way to give people a job or task during the wedding. EMAIL - We'll start light - with a lighting dilemma ASK Hi Christy and Michelle, I love your show! I have been listening for almost a year now, and I think you are both great! I look forward to your episodes every Wednesday, but I haven't had a good question to ask. Now though, I have a silly question, but it has got me stumped (I am sure it is easy for you). My question is about lighting. I am getting married next month, and after listening to your bonus episode about lighting, I decided to book uplights for our reception through our dj. He originally told me I could have two colors, one for dinner and one for dancing...but now that it is time to pick the color, he says we can only have one color. I don't know what to choose. I was going to do the amber color you suggested for dinner and then bright pink for dancing, but now I don't know which one to pick. I'm afraid having just one color won't set the right tone for the whole event. So, long story short, should I have it be the "dinner color" all the way through the night or the "dancing color"? Also, keep in mind that since its July the sun won't be setting until around 9pm and our reception is from 7-11 (cocktail hour is earlier in a different room). So maybe it won't show much during dinner anyway? Thanks for your help! A P.S. On a more serious note, this isn't related to my question but I just wanted to tell you how much your episode "The Happiest Sad Day" meant to my fiancé and I. My fiancé's mom was recently diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer and we have been dealing with the possibility that she won't be able to come to our wedding which has been really devastating for him. Listening to that episode helped us feel like we weren't the only ones going through sad stuff while we were trying to be happy. And it gave us hope that even if she can't come, it will still be a happy day worth celebrating. So thank you for featuring episodes about some of the more serious aspects of planning a wedding. ANSWER Thanks for writing - good question! First of all - why is this DJ only giving you one option now? In my experience, these lights are really easy to color-change, its all digital. Or at the very most, he has to go to each one and click a button, but that wouldn't take long, even with a whole room of them. Usually my DJs just set the colors on their main board and operate it from there. Maybe he has a different type of light or something. I suggest asking him again why you can't have two when that is what he said initially. Anyway - IF you can only have one - go with the pink! It won't be as dramatic during dinner with the lights up and the windows for sure, and it photographs really well. When the dancing starts, you'll take down the main lights and maybe have some dance lighting too and the pink will show more on the walls and pillars (if you have any). We suggest amber in our episode because that is the 'basic' glow color that people like and all DJs offer it - its ambient and subtle, but if you have decor or a venue that can take a little more fun, do it! My vote is for pink. Hope this helps! Your PS about your fiancé's mom brought tears to my eyes. That episode has received so much love from listeners - you are not alone. I am so sorry to hear about your fiancé's mom, I can't even imagine how hard it is to face cancer with such a close loved one. I have no advice, I can only thank you for the reminder to call my own mom. We have to tell the people we love that we love them. Remember - the wedding is about celebrating the choice you two are making to do life together. His mom is a part of your life now and she loves you. I'm sure she is happy that you two are getting married. My love to all of you. _EMAIL 3 Money Money Money _ ASK Hi fabulous ladies! Let me start by saying how much I adore your podcast. Not only have I learned so much, I've had a blast listening! Your warmth and honesty makes me feel like I'm amongst friends. I was inspired to write in with this question after listening to your episode on credit card "hacking" your wedding. I have $2000 in cash saved (literally in an envelope in the back of my closet) for my wedding, and I want to start a wedding savings account. I've watched all my cousins get married (I am the youngest in my big fat Greek family), as well as several friends, and I've also watched all of them go into tremendous debt because of their weddings. While me and my long-term boyfriend have agreed that we will not get married for another 3-5 years, I want to start saving now so I'm not as financially screwed as my loved ones were. What type of account would you recommend? A savings account, or a CD, or another option? Also- which banks should I look into/steer clear of? I have started doing some comparison shopping myself, but I would really appreciate your expert opinions. Additionally, I will be splitting everything with my intended, so asking my parents for a handout is not an option. Any advice on saving for a wedding is very appreciated. Much love to you in this wedding season, I'm sure it's a super hectic time. Rock on!! ⚡⚡ Take care, G ANSWER HI G! Thank you so much for listening and reaching out! We aren't really qualified to give financial advice but I can already tell that you are on the right track! Many couples blow through money they don't have because they simply don't care or think about the debt after the wedding...they are all about the wedding day and they want what they want, so they end up making financially irresponsible choices...to the tune of several thousand dollars. Like, "Oh, we'll deal with that afterwards. But for now, I want a ceiling of hanging roses and a champagne fountain and a 12 piece band." (I have a friend who made these kinds of decisions. And now it's 11 years later and she has 3 kids and a mortgage and they are still paying off credit card debt from their wedding. It's ridiculous! And you know, the thing is, it was a great wedding. But it wasn't THAT great...! I don't remember having a better time at her wedding than at any of the other weddings I've been to. When the people are great, the wedding is great. When the couple getting married is having fun, the guests are having fun. Just a little perspective there...) On to the actual advice: I definitely recommend saving and then spending accordingly, rather than spending money you don't have and then dealing with it later. Credit card hacking is great, and that episode makes a lot of good points for saving money on a honeymoon after the wedding with money you spent during the wedding - but you still have to have to money to pay those credit cards off - within the statement period! When I waited tables, I had an envelope of cash too - most of my colleagues did. I remember spending it all during a trip to Ireland! Which is exactly what I had been saving it for. It's so satisfying to save with purpose and then actually get to spend it on what you have been saving for! So good for you, you're on the right track. You have a couple years to do this, so I suggest you up your game a little, in addition to the petty cash envelope you have going. You and your partner can both start putting into a savings account - a joint one, separate from your other bank accounts. You probably have your paychecks directly deposited into your main account - so each of you can do an automatic transfer 1-2 times a month with a portion of your paycheck or salary going straight into the savings account. A couple hundred bucks a month will add up quickly! Then it's out of sight, out of mind. I don't know which banks are better than others - I use Wells Fargo and it seems fine. And I've heard great things about Ally - it's all online or the app, so you won't have a brick and mortar bank to walk into. Also - if you want to start collecting points on a credit card, listen to that ep again and pick a card that works for you. A couple years ago, my husband and I got a Chase Marriott card (now it's called Bonvoy) since we were using a credit card occasionally anyway - we got this to start collecting hotel points so that 'one day' we could take a vacation to Hawaii and have the hotel paid for. We're almost there! We've used it specifically for hotel stays because we get double points for those (we seek out Marriott properties wherever we go) and for big one-off expenses (like a new mattress) - and we try to pay it off in time and in full. That doesn't always work, sometimes life happens - so we've paid interest here and there and if we were paying more interest than we were collecting incentives/points, it wouldn't be worth it. If you started with a credit card now - purposefully - you could start collecting points before you spend big on your wedding, and you can also build good credit up. So! A combination of savings and a card is my best advice, but again, don't get the card if you're only going to rack up charges and not pay them off! When the wedding planning starts to roll around and you need to book a venue or put a deposit down on a vendor, buy your dress, etc, you can use the card and pay it off with the money you've saved. And keep in mind, weddings don't have to cost a ton of money. There are ways to budget and have a very nice, fun, unique wedding without breaking the bank. You just have to communicate with each other about priorities and what kind of wedding you really want to have...and you can't get caught up in the comparison game. People spend too much money on weddings. That's a fact. And I think a lot of that is because they're looking online and at what other people are doing and everyone is trying to meet some extreme expectation and they lose the meaning along the way. We can get more into ways to save money and things like that if you want to do some consulting with one of us - just let me know! In the meantime - Here are some eps that address this: https://www.thebigweddingplanningpodcast.com/financial-planning-and-your-wedding #82 https://www.thebigweddingplanningpodcast.com/big-ideas-little-budget 53 Hope this helps! Christy Email 4 - From an Israeli bride! ASK (She asked another question about action stations for her big fat Hebrew wedding -- “ We kind of want our wedding to be like festival themed and balagan, which is Hebrew for chaos/mess, but in this context in a good way. We basically want everyone stuffing their faces and dancing the whole time.” I love! - but I pointed her to YAWA 15 - released feb 2019 bc that episode breaks down the tips and tricks for a successful cocktail reception style wedding ) How can we make sure that our ceremony is unplugged? Israelis hate being told what to do. I was thinking of planting some friends and family and telling them to watch out for people using phones. Or would it be too intrusive to have a check-in system? ANSWER As far as the unplugged ceremony - you can only do so much and guests (particularly rude or stubborn guests...) are going to do what they want anyway. That being said - I think some signage will help - positioned at the entrance to the ceremony. Plenty of ideas on Pinterest for that. And also if your officiant can make an announcement about it at the beginning of the ceremony, that will help too. And spread the word a bit pre-wedding weekend as well. Put the 'we kindly request' announcement on your wedding website if you are having one, and ask your parents to help spread the word to the older relatives - like their siblings maybe...in hopes that it trickles down a bit. Or at least, no one is surprised when they are told to keep their phones off on the wedding day. (you can also put it in your program if you are having one and you think your guests will be reading it pre-ceremony as they sit/wait...) (Usually I don't like a ton of signage everywhere at weddings, but this is a good one because it's directive. And sometimes it takes a few times to get people to actually follow the directions - so reading it and then also hearing it from the officiant is your best bet.) *Links we mentioned: * http://www.dreamalittledreamevents.com https://www.acorns.com/ https://creditcards.chase.com/marriott/cardmember/rewards_benefits https://www.ally.com/ Zola.com/bigwedding for $50 off your registry! Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TBWPP/ INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! 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#145 You Ask, We Answer - 18

Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2019 56:52

Today's episode is a You Ask, We Answer, as is our end-of-month tradition. Housekeeping Our website has some new features! One is a mailing list. Click Here sign up for emails and news from us! Also, it has a ‘search' option. You can search for specific topics and find out what episode will answer your questions. Give it a shot! We also have a facebook group now full of great advice, and community! Also - we offer consulting and it's awesome! Email us if you want to book some hours in June or July! FB Group Question Room Flip Ask: Hey brides! My entire ballroom is being flipped during my cocktail hour (about 1.5 hours). The ceremony with 200 guests will be turned into the reception room with ~25 tables, dance floor, 2 buffets, etc. My venue manager seems nervous about this but my month-of coordinator is very confident in the flip. As a bride, is there anything I can prepare ahead of time to make sure this goes smoothly? How did you organize your decor to make it easier for the staff/wedding planner? Thanks! Answer: The main goal is to make everything as easy as possible for the staff. Big notes: Use low centerpieces and decor so that the table can be carried with the piece on top. Do not take post-ceremony photos in the reception space, get all of the guests and wedding party out of the room as quickly as possible! If the manager thinks they need to add an extra person to ensure the smoothness of the transition, I suggest paying the uncharge. If you can, repurpose parts of the ceremony for the reception (ie- altar becomes cake area, etc.) In general, just make sure everything is ready to go before the ceremony, so that the staff is able to use your cocktail hour to make the space perfect. Email: Red Flag On Vendor Contract I was reaching out because we were reading their contract and came across what we believe is a red flag. The contract had a "disparagement" clause, which I'm sure you guys may have seen when reviewing contracts? I dug a little deeper and wanted to get your opinion on some of the things I realized. I guess in the excitement and the fact they worked for Disney Weddings previously (I love Disney and used to work their too!), I didn't ask all the questions I should have. I'm going to ask these at the contract review, but I realized or assuming it seems they're actually new to the local scene. I asked during the interview process what their favorite wedding was to work on and they named a stylized shoot they did in town, which was beautiful and how I actually found them - which is how I think they're getting themselves out in the market. They must have partnered together after working with each other at Disney? I can't seem to find any reviews and I want to believe it's because they're new to the scene or it's because of the disparagement. But with a disparagement it prevents negative reviews and I can't find negative or positive reviews - they're not even on WeddingWire or the Knot. I figured even with a disparagement there would still be positive reviews, but I haven't seen any. That being said, the disparagement is still not good. I figured they picked this up from Disney because while Disney has a special place in my heart, they're still a corporation. I might be making excuses, but I really like them. Based on their stylized shoot, I was really expecting them to be out of my budget, but again because I think they're new to the area their proposal wasn't bad, fueling my assumption now. I know I should be running from this but I really thought it was meant to be until I saw the disparagement. If it's not something that can be removed or revised - J does not want to work with them, which is fair. I'm going to ask again in more detail about their experience, so maybe they'll be willing to negotiate, but besides that do you have any advice on how to go about pushing it in that direction? Answer: I don't love this clause - I do think it's a red flag. It's also an amateur mistake. Some disparagement clauses are actually illegal, depending on how it's written. A styled shoot is very different from a real wedding. I have LOTS of opinions about styled shoots. (We may make it our next bonus ep rant). They aren't even close to running a real wedding. I'm not saying that this company won't do a good job - but it won't have anything to do with their styled shoot experience, which is why it's concerning that they named that as their fave. Everyone has to start somewhere. I am a way better planner now than I was when I first started, that's only natural. But I was pretty cheap when I started, and I was transparent about my experience with every one of my couples that first year. I worked my ass off and learned a lot. This company could do a great job for you, but you absolutely should ask about their actual wedding experience and to see some of their work if possible - not photos, but timeline examples, set up lists, stuff like that. Just because they worked at a company like Disney doesn't mean that they are great wedding planners. I agree that you should ask them to totally remove the disparagement clause. Ask more questions, write some out. Vet them a little. Ask for a couple references. I provide potential clients with a few email addresses of previous clients if they ask. Email: How to THANK Parents Ask: First off, I just have to say I love listening to your podcast! I started listening randomly to different episodes a week after I got engaged and it has helped my fiancé and I so much when it comes to everything weddings. It also helps me get excited and dream about the wedding when I'm at work. Not very many people at my job really want to talk/hear about weddings so I don't really get to talk weddings during the day, but listening to you guys makes me feel like I'm talking to my girlfriends and just getting excited! So thank you!!! Anyway, I have a question for you guys that I was hoping you could answer. My parents and my fiancé's parents have helped a lot with our wedding that is coming up on October 12th of this year. My parents are paying for about 3/4 of it and have actually had a wedding fund since they knew they were having girls. They are so excited about it and also the best supporters ever. They never ever ever push their opinions on us and when we ask them for their opinions always want us to decide what my fiancé and I want. They are supportive through everything, listen to us talk about the wedding and even contact people for us. They were exceptional when it came to the guest list and only wanted us to invite who we wanted, they were so good I actually had to get stern with them to tell me who they wanted because I want them to have the people they want to be there. Anyway, I can't say enough nice things about either of our parents and feel very lucky. My fiancé and I would like to thank our parents somehow during the wedding or on the wedding weekend. I have thought about maybe paying for our moms to go the spa or something like that and I definitely want to make a very short thank you speech during the speeches of the wedding. But can't think of anything else, do you guys have any suggestions for ways to thank parents at weddings? Things that you have seen or done yourselves? We just want to show them how much we appreciate them in some way even if it's a little thing that we can do. Thank you again for any help you can give in advance, I know you are both super busy and I really appreciate the time you give to all your listeners. Answer: Hayley! Thank you so much for this email. We get SO many emails from listeners having a hard time with their parents during wedding planning - especially the paying/pushiness topic. Or people have really sad, difficult things going on with their parents and are struggling with whether to invite them or not! You are so very blessed to have the parents you do and it is clear that you don't take that for granted! I love this email. Ideas: Include them in toasts on the wedding day - making sure everyone there hears you thank them profusely for their support and love and also for hosting the wedding will be very impactful. A spa day for your moms - or arranging something similar for them to do (maybe together?) the day before Consider paying for the day-of hair and makeup of course. A written thank you card - to each parent, from both of you, will be a lasting impression and I am always pro-thank-you-note. Other fun ideas: Include the songs your parents danced to at their own weddings as a surprise - tell the DJ to announce that it's a special song and why. Display their wedding pictures at the wedding, or a current photo of them together is also a nice touch. Perhaps share why they're so special to you. Write out a thank you paragraph to your parents and put that in the ceremony program so that everyone can read it as they are sitting waiting for the ceremony to begin, and it's something your parents can keep afterwards. Lots of options! All will be very appreciated, I'm sure. Hope this helps! FB Group Question: Friend as Day of Coordinator Ask: Unfortunately, we are unable to afford a month-of-coordinator for our November wedding. We have a close family friend (who is organized) that was gracious enough to fill in for that position on our wedding day (so lucky). Does anyone have advice for what I'll need to do to prepare and help her prepare for the big day? I want to make sure this is as seamless as possible for her. Thank you in advance!! Answer: (Answers from Christy and other recent brides/grooms!) Working on a full day-of timeline with her is the biggest priority. This will include every vendor's arrival time, start time and end time, plus day-of contact info. It will include the time that the venue is yours, the time the party ends, and the time strike must end. If the venue has given you any terms/conditions/rules, make sure you pass those on to her. The other big thing is the Ceremony Layout - it's like a map/guide that she will use to help facilitate the rehearsal and then she'll have it in hand when she is lining people up and cue-ing them for the processional. This layout should include the song selections for processional and recessional, plus any reserved seating assignments in the first two rows. -C Some advice would be to have a detailed day-of timeline for them. Don't forget to include who to take pictures of in case you need to organize people for family photos. Help them know who the family members are and introduce them to key vendors. Also, if they have authority to make decisions for you, let the vendors know. Oh, and make sure family and friends know to contact them and not you if you want that separation. Be prepared to enforce that if necessary. And lastly, appreciate and recognize them for their hard work. - Christopher (we consulted with him!) One of the most useful things I've seen is putting decor in boxes by area and setting them in that area first thing- so people know exactly how many string lights you want on the patio for cocktails and how many in the fabric reception backdrop, for example. Also sending a photo folder to your DOC of how you want things set up. It saves bunches of time and questions! - Mandy, listener Links we referenced Our sponsors for this episode! https://www.zola.com/bigwedding Join Our Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/TBWPP/ Join our Mailing List! (https://thebigweddingplanningpodcast.us20.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=73b281d3b49edeed803564358&id=8d8072f453) Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

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#139 You Ask, We Answer - 17

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2019 57:23

Welcome to Spring! Today's episode is a You Ask, We Answer, as is our end-of-month tradition. Housekeeping - our website has some new features! One is a mailing list. Click Here (https://thebigweddingplanningpodcast.us20.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=73b281d3b49edeed803564358&id=8d8072f453) sign up for emails and news from us! Also, it has a ‘search' option. You can search for specific topics and find out what episode will answer your questions. Give it a shot! Also - we offer consulting and it's awesome! Email us if you want to book some hours in May or June! Big Takeaways 1 Call - “Indian Wedding ideas?” Ask: A traditional Indian wedding takes 3 days and involves hundreds of guests. This dear listener is planning one and she wants to know if we have any best practices for her. Answer: The main answer is that we hear you and we want to do an episode with a true PRO at Indian weddings. So we are working on that, and stay tuned. “You're both Indian and your families are Indian - so it sounds like most people there will know whats up - they will be familiar with the traditions and the flow of the event. If there will be guests there that aren't it's worth thinking about ways to make them feel welcomed and a part of things as well.” 2 Email - “Indian bride and opinionated mom” Ask: I wrote to you both earlier when my fiance and I had just gotten engaged about how to incorporate both of our cultures into our wedding weekend and I'm writing to let you know that we took your advice and are planning to have a few Indian elements in a generally western-styled wedding. We are having a sangeet the night before the wedding which will function like a welcome party where we will have Indian food and music. We are also getting married under a mandap and are planning to incorporate a few Hindu rituals into our ceremony, such as the septapadi (circles around the fire) and jai mala (garland exchange). While we are so excited for our wedding day and love all of the ways we are planning to join our cultures, we are having a hard time finding common ground with my mom. It started small at first, but I feel as though my day is being more and more taken over by my mother. Examples are, I wanted to walk down the aisle by myself (I'm hoping for a very feminist wedding), but my mom convinced me to have not only my dad but also her walk me down the aisle. I wanted to have a small bridal party so that the morning of the wedding would be relaxing and fun, and my mom is now inviting all of her sisters/cousins to join the getting ready/photoshoot portion of the day before the ceremony. We even bought pajamas for all of her sisters. Most recently, our guest list has completely blown up, mostly with distant relatives (or relatives of relatives) and family friends because my mom claims that her hands are completely tied and she just HAS to invite all of my aunt's in laws and their family (whom I barely know and haven't spoken to in over 12 years). My parents are paying for the wedding, so I'm conflicted on how to handle this. And even if I were to make a big deal out of it, my mother does not concede easily, so I think it would just be exhausting trying to explain that my fiance and I were hoping for an intimate wedding with close friends and family and what we're getting is a giant party with 200+ people, most of whom we don't know or care about (sorry, that's the truth). Do you have any advice on how to handle this situation? And/or how to make our large wedding feel like an intimate affair? One thing my fiance and I have discussed is writing our own vows, but I feel very awkward sharing such an emotional and intimate part of our relationship with a bunch of strangers. Answer: I suggest trying to look at the sangeet day and the wedding day as two different events and hopefully, you can keep the wedding day as the less chaotic of the two. (Can 'getting ready' on the wedding day be with a limited amount of people and more what you had in mind? Tell your mom what you want and that's the compromise - Friday night is more 'her' and Saturday needs to be more 'you'.) You're going to have to start putting your foot down on things that really matter to you. You've already conceded a lot - with the guest list blowing up and having both your parents walk you down the aisle...I don't think you can really do much about decisions that have already been made and agreed upon, without causing too much drama. But the future decisions, or the pending ones...these are the ones that you may need to draw a line for. Always mention how much you love and appreciate her, but that you have a DAY in mind and you feel like it's becoming something totally different and that makes you sad. You do want it to be about you and your fiancé. You want to celebrate and acknowledge your parents, and you are grateful, but it is your wedding! Other tips: - I love self-written vows. BUT - don't share this part of yourself and your love if it makes you uncomfortable. I suggest doing a 'First Look' and really taking the time during the wedding day to make this special and private. Block out 40 minutes or so after you get ready. Your photographer and videographer should be there if you have hired those vendors. You can see each other for the first time without 200 people staring at you. It's intimate and personal and it may be the only time all day that you two are essentially alone and have time to sort of take it all in. After the actual reveal, you'll have time to read your vows to each other then, and to take photos just the two of you, in a calm atmosphere. - Do make getting ready and celebrating (a pre-party...) your wedding day with your best friends something that you don't budge on. This is a really special time and it makes the day feel more YOURS. Even if you have to start early - before all the crazy starts - tell your gals that you want to relax with them and maybe get pampered together. Make a playlist, have mimosas and breakfast brought in...make it what you want it to be. Your friends will help you! - At the reception, don't worry about doing a receiving line or a table visit to every single table. Make a plan ahead of time - after you eat, you want to hit up tables 3, 4, and 5 because these are the tables with family members you really care about that you haven't seen in a long time, or that you want to make sure to hug and talk to before the night is over. You don't need to do that with every single guest - it takes too much time and it can feel obligatory and not fun. Your mom may invite a bunch of people you barely know, but you don't have to experience the wedding day with them in a big way - you can still spend time with the people that are most important to you two without feeling pulled in a million directions. This just takes some planning ahead of time! - Give a toast on Friday and thank your parents profusely and in front of all of the guests! This will maybe help your mom ease up and relax on the wedding day....she can entertain 'her guests' and you can focus on the parts of the wedding day that are important to you and that you have been looking forward to! 3 Email “Fur babies at the wedding” Ask: I don't want to bombard your social media outlets with questions, but have you two thought about doing a Quick Focus! or an episode on ways to incorporate your fur baby into the wedding (aka pet)? Our wedding is at a hotel so we cannot bring our sweet little pup but are thinking about naming our specialty drink after him. But I am sure there are some cool ideas/examples out there of how pets were incorporated into weddings. Answer: Yes we will do a QF on this topic!! Specifically with some best practices for including your fur baby on the wedding day (like PJ and Noah did with their two beloved dogs - as discussed in ep #119. If your pup isn't going to be there - you can involve them in photos (displayed engagement photos, your photo album that guests will sign, just a framed pic of the dog honoring him??) We've seen cats or dogs included on custom cake toppers, menu names - like your idea of naming a specialty drink after him. And signage - cute custom graphics - we love the ones by Miss Design Berry (ep 91). Save the dates, welcome signage, poster for guests to sign...all with a drawing of you two and your dear pets. 4 Email “My family is a little bit racist” Ask: I have a potential dilemma that you two seem perfectly suited to help with given your sensitivity to LGBTQ couples (although my fiance and I are in a heterosexual relationship) and cultural groups, so I'm hoping you can help me out. Some of the members of my family are very conservative and half of my family was explicitly raised to be racist. My fiance is black and I'm white, so there are definitely some members of my family who will not approve of our marriage (or at best might consider him "one of the good ones"). The problem is that I'm not sure which family members are the ones who would be that way. It doesn't really come up at family get togethers, but I'm aware of it because of my mother's upbringing (my mom is great, accepting of all people, and supportive). I know that some members of the family have rejected this like she did, but I don't know for sure everyone's stances. I made sure that our save the dates included a picture of us so that people could hopefully weed themselves out in responding to the wedding invitations when they go out, but I'm not sure if there is something more I should do. Giving people a warning that they'd better behave themselves or explicitly telling them that racist views will not be tolerated at my wedding seems rude (even though that is true), especially to those who do not feel that way. Also, one of my bridesmaids and one of my fiance's groomspeople are a married lesbian couple. They will be walking down the aisle together in the processional and I want to make sure that they are accepted for the wonderful people that they are. I won't allow anyone at my wedding to be mistreated because of their race, sexual orientation, or anything else, but is there something I can do in advance to prevent the possibility that won't be rude of me to those who don't deserve it? My wedding is taking place hundreds of miles from where the potential problem people live and they are generally lower income, so they might not be able or willing to make the trip (which is by design), but can I somehow communicate that a "yes" on the RSVP means that they will be expected to be supportive of all the people involved, regardless of their race or sexual orientation? What do I do if they don't get the message and treat the people we love poorly? My inclination is to simply kick them out despite the travel because I really don't feel that bigotry should be tolerated under any circumstances, but is there a way to prevent the issue or a good way to politely tell people that their presence is no longer welcome? Answer: I am so glad you wrote in and I think you are wonderful for being so concerned about these issues specifically. I know exactly what you are saying and dealing with - it sounds like we have similar families. When my white lesbian cousin married a black woman, several family members declined to go and they were able to say it was because of finances, when we are all pretty sure it was because of the offensive double-whammy in their minds. Better not to have them there! Also best to let them make their own decisions. Here are some thoughts: You did due diligence in several ways to trouble-shoot this all before the wedding even happens. Good job sending out a pic with the STD, and good job hosting the wedding far away from where problem people live. You are correct that this will weed some relatives out. I don't think there is a way to make sure people that say they are coming know what they are going to get themselves into, so to speak. Or a way to make them promise to behave. I have to believe that for most people - if they say yes to a wedding, then they will behave once there. I DO suggest you talk to your mom and the other matriarchs/patriarchs of the family about your concerns, if there are some that you trust. Not in a mean way, but in a firm way - that you are worried that if Uncle Bill sees two women kissing on the dance floor that is he going to make a big scene and be a jerk, for example. Word tends to get around in a family and if word doesn't get to Bill - it may get to you that others share your concern and in that case, you can not invite him, or you can bite the bullet and actually talk to him to make sure that he knows he has to keep it together on the wedding day, or you would prefer he not be there. You don't want him to be uncomfortable...but you really don't want anyone else made uncomfortable bc of his bs. I also suggest that you talk to your fiancé about this and to the gay couples that are going to be there. Tell them you don't think anything negative will happen, but that IF something did happen, or if someone was rude or awful to them, that you would want them to come up to you (or the planner) so it can be dealt with immediately. I think you should let the photographer in on it as well - nothing that is going to make him think there is a KKK rally at your wedding, but that you know you have some relatives that aren't 'progressive' enough and that you want to know if he sees or hears anyone being inappropriate. Photographers tend to see and hear more than we do at weddings and some would consider to intrusive or a bad decision to actually tell the bride about any guest troubles. You strike me as the kind of bride that would want to know so you can nip it in the bud. So, your photographer needs to know that. You can do it! I want you to enjoy your wedding day, not be on high alert to play bodyguard and a live wire waiting for someone to say something that you can pounce on. Enlist the help of the pros you have hired, and your VIPs that will be close to you all day long on the wedding day. And hey! Maybe this problem will solve itself and they'll all politely decline the invitation, citing distance and work and money. Fingers crossed! Links we referenced Our sponsors for this episode! https://www.zola.com/bigwedding www.sagebridalexperience.com www.gilbertsvillefarmhouse.com Join our Mailing List (https://thebigweddingplanningpodcast.us20.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=73b281d3b49edeed803564358&id=8d8072f453)! Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

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#135 You Ask, We Answer - 16

Good Food Pittsburgh Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2019 57:35

1 voicemail and 3 emails will get you through this month's YAWA! You ask, We answer. Also, we both suck at Irish accents, but at least Michelle gave it a whirl! Hey - we see you instagram followers! Thank you for following us there and for leaving reviews on itunes and for becoming PATRONS! We love you. Thank you for listening to our podcast and embracing our crazy. Big Takeaways Question #1, is a Voicemail - “Guest Count due early! And is it too small of a wedding?" Ask: The guest count is due a month out at the venue, but the RSVPs are barely due back by then. We may have a procrastinator bride on our hands! (Admittedly.) How to navigate? And is this listener's wedding going to be awkwardly small? Answer: We agree with each other on this one: a month out is early for a guest count deadline! We think you can call the venue on the deadline and let them know that you are working on it, if need be. We also think that you need to call some guests that you haven't heard from and just ask if they think they can make it or not. No shame in that game! If they say no consider promptly inviting someone else (B list?). There are pros to having a small wedding! Don't worry too much - it's quality over quantity! Question #2, Email - “Dress Regret” Ask: My fiance and I went and got wedding dresses a while back (yes, together). It was great, and we both ended up getting dresses right on that day (without going to other stores). I actually got the first dress I tried on, and I absolutely love it. Her dress is beautiful as well. In store, she loved it. We get home, and she's very upset. She's nervous it is way too sexy. It has a low cut, and she is worried about what people will think. She has a bigger chest than the women who model the dress, and so yes... Her boobs are on display. We went to our lady to get our first fitting done last night, and our tailor showed her that the dress didn't fit exactly how it should. When she pinned it how it should be, it wasn't AS sexy. Her cleavage is still there... But not as much as it was previously. But she's still big time on the fence about it. She loves the dress, just not sure about the boob part. We tried a few different things to make it less revealing... But she didn't like any of it (neither did we). She wants to go look at other dresses so we can exchange if something different catches her eye. Is there any way to make her feel more comfortable if she chooses to stick with the "sexy" dress? I'm not really sure what I should do here. Answer: The back and forth sucks! We think she should go return the dress and take her time to find a dress that she loves and feels confident in. I personally know that confidence counts for A LOT on your wedding day. You want to feel beautiful and comfortable and be so confident in what you are wearing that you don't even think about it. No matter what she does with this first dress, she doesn't love it and she isn't going to be able to stop worrying about it and thinking about it on the wedding day - which is not what you want her mind to be on and it's not the best case scenario for really enjoying the wedding day for her. I suggest you support her and listen to her and even though you are complimenting her telling her that she looks beautiful and you love her in the dress, she is feeling pressured. The important thing to tell her is that you truly want her to be happy and you support whatever she decides. Ask her if she wants to go look at other dresses without you - or if she prefers you to go along. And reiterate that you will happily do whatever she wants to help make this process easy and enjoyable for her. Question #3, Email - “Parents helping pay and making decisions...” Ask: My parents are wonderful but live about 4 hours away and as the oldest daughter/granddaughter on both sides of my family, mine and my fiance's wedding is something that they are very much looking forward to. Since we've started the planning process, I feel like I have been struggling to figure out exactly what it is I want since my parents have very big opinions and have no reservations about voicing them. (One example was when they saw how many of our friends were on the guest list my mother's response was "friends don't bring the big envelopes for gifts"). My fiance and I are very simple people and want a traditional wedding with our own personal style reflected (and we are still trying to figure that out). That being said, my parents are contributing to the wedding and so I feel like if there is something we don't have as strong of an opinion on, I kind of defer to them since they seem to care so much. Meanwhile, my fiance wants me to stand up for what I want (and I want to do that too!) but it's hard to do when we don't really know what it is that we want. Answer: As far as figuring out how you want your wedding to go...I suggest you and your partner think about and talk about how you want the day to be...how you want to feel during the day, what you want to be able to look at in your photo album years later and fondly reminisce. Think about other weddings you've been to that were really fun and memorable. It's usually not about the gorgeous flowers or the killer band. It's about the personal touches that made everyone there feel like they were part of a special day - a special event. It's a big thing you are doing together - you're starting the part of life where you journey together, it's a deliberate decision you are making. You are inviting all your loved ones to be a part of that decision for you - to witness it and to support you on your wedding day and in your marriage. So don't stress out about the dozens of decisions you have to make...always come back to you TWO. Thinking about songs - just make sure all your favorites are there, don't over-think it. Create a day that you can truly enjoy. That being said, it's not just a day for you two it is also a big day for your parents. Since they are footing some of the bill, I appreciate your impulse to just let them make some decisions that you don't really prioritize. Only do this though if you can truly LET GO when you give them the power to make decisions. Choose not to micro-manage because you'll drive yourself crazy. Put your foot down about stuff you really care about (or that your partner really cares about) and let go of the other stuff. I think the main way that parents 'get the way' when they are paying is with the guestlist. I don't think you should nix anyone from YOUR list, but they will get to invite who they want to because they are paying. Also I think it's nice to give some accommodations for the ceremony part - maybe with who is involved in the processional, has reserved seating, does a reading...things like that are really important to parents because they want to be seen on the wedding day too. Question #4, Email - “Cash registry wording” Ask: My fiancé and I have lived together for over a year and we have everything we need at home already, and quite frankly, neither of us want to deal with the clutter of storing more stuff. We have decided it would be a lot more meaningful for us to take a long, extended honeymoon traveling Europe for a few weeks and would like to only have a cash registry to help fund that trip. Personally I feel like being upfront and transparent with our guests about the intention for the fund is best, but my fiancé feels that it may seem greedy to have a registry for something “unnecessary” like an extended honeymoon to Europe. He would rather have a cash registry titled something along the lines of “life together” fund and be a bit more vague. What are your thoughts on this? Any suggestions or past experiences you could offer? We're using Zola, which as you know, is incredible and so easy to navigate. Answer: I agree with your fiancé on this one that it would be best to be more general about what you want the money for. With Zola, register for just a few things that you know you can use for the honeymoon - luggage? Airline gifts or miles? And then do the rest as a cash fund on Zola. On your wedding website - if you are doing one - you can go into more detail for the guests that are curious about it. You can say - "We decided to have a cash fund registry so that we can save money for our honeymoon and start our life together as a married couple" You don't have to name the fund anywhere. Guests will understand once they see it if they go to the Zola site to see your registry - and if they've gotten that far, then they WANT to buy you a gift and a cash fund through Zola is just as easy and appropriate as purchasing a gift of the site. You're not being sneaky, it's still transparent, but it doesn't explicitly commit to spending the money on a honeymoon over other newlywed necessities. Links we referenced https://www.zola.com/bigwedding Quotes “Michelle tells me I'm good at things so that I'll do them. It's true! I need verbal affirmations and she gives them to me.” - Christy, on the nature of the relationship “Just imagine that for every hour of the podcast that you hear, there has been no fewer than 100 texts between us. Not necessarily about the show.” - Christy, on communicating with Michelle. It's a lot, y'all! “It's all about you! It's all about you listeners. The You Ask, We Answer episodes are ALL ABOUT YOU, BABY.” - Michelle, with the mission statement for YAWA eps “We read the reviews. We read them when we need to...when we're having a bad day. You guys are fantastic for taking the time and if you haven't done one and you're able to, please do. It helps to lift our spirits and makes us love you even more and it also helps us get the word out to others and to grow our audience and we need that!” - Michelle, on iTunes reviews “A wedding is only as much fun as the two people getting married so be prepared to have a fucking great time and all your guests will too.” - Christy, advice that covers everything! “How lovely that your fiance is looking out for you and how lovely that your dad wants to spend time with you and you are just wrapped up in all this love and sometimes it can cause conflict.” - Michelle on conflict resolution gratitude Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

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35: Why Are So Many Restaurants Closing in Pittsburgh?

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2019 48:04

In this episode, Emily and Madeline break down the Pittsburgh semifinalist nominees for the James Beard Awards, and discuss the latest wave of Pittsburgh restaurant closings. Are more restaurants closing now than before, or does it just seem that way? We also do a rapid-fire You Ask, We Answer session, and share the best things we ate this week.

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Episode 7: You Ask, We Tell!

Odd One's Out with SJ BEAT & MIZ. PROPER

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2018 45:48

Welcome to Our "You Ask, We Answer" segment! Now we're dishing out our answers to all of the questions you "Odd Ones" have asked us to discuss ! Tune in now to listen to hear it all ! It just got REAL!

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Episode 125 - Ask Us Anything

The Reformed Gamers

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2018 69:13

You Ask, We Answer! We answer some of your spiciest questions in Episode 125! Everything from what games would we abolish to how we came to know Christ, it's time for the ultimate Party Chat! Reco's! "The Art of Rest" by Adam Mabry Get some rest Connect Patreon Twitter YouTube Reddit Twitch

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Episode 037 - Don't Look Back

Frat vs Nerd

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2018 35:40

This week, the nerd breaks a mirror and the frat wants to be part of a tribe as we discuss the following topics to find common ground: 1. We Answer an email from a fan and get into a heated debate 2. Should you burn bridges? 3. Is it healthy to be emotionally invested into sports? Remember to rate us on iTunes Follow us on Instagram and Twitter @FratvsNerd and send us your questions or a strongly worded email to fratvsnerd@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/frat-vs-nerd/support

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#79 You Ask, We Answer - 4

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2018 48:56

This month's questions run the gamut! We're talking about parents, rings, and welcome bags. We delve into the pros, cons, and what-ifs and we dish out some compassionate advice regarding potentially emotional decisions. We think we're doing right by our dear listeners and we so appreciate the follow up emails that these brides sent us after we answered them. Happy that we are able to share their experiences with you all! What We're Doing We have decided that we're going to do a ‘You Ask, We Answer' every month. Last Wednesday of the month - tune in and we'll be answering your questions. In detail! With chutzpah! So, keep sending us your questions, your problems and your issues related to wedding planning. We read everything, we answer every email, and we might read your email on the air (don't worry, we'll ask permission!) so that your questions, and our answers, can help countless other people in the midst of wedding planning. It's a win win, y'all! #1 Email “A Ring Dilema” Ask: It's obviously been four months since we decided to get married and I don't have a ring yet. I have thought about the ring for a long time. And I have an idea of what I would like to have but I'm troubled. His mom offered us his grandmother's ring. I like it, But it's definitely not what I had pictured for myself. Answer: Head to a jeweler and see about a custom ring combining elements from Grandma's ring into a new custom ring that will make you happy and still feel sentimental! #2 Email “My Father is a Maybe” Ask: He sent me a message saying he would be there come hell or high water. It was nice, and I want to believe him, but it is obviously difficult. My question is: Do I walk myself down the aisle? Answer: We think you should do what makes YOU feel confident and beautiful and happy. Don't make the decision because of how you think your dad feels or doesn't feel about your wedding. Make the decision that feels right to YOU. #3 Email “WTH Welcome Bags!?” Ask: Our carefully curated, beautifully assembled welcome bags...would you deliver to all of the guests by somehow capturing their lodging in advance? Would you limit them to only those who are booking and staying in our block? We're expecting roughly 150, which translates to about 80 gift bags. Answer: This is tricky since your guests are staying all over the place! We think the hardest part will be the organizing, not the actual delivery. If you want to go above and beyond, every guest traveling in to your wedding should get a Welcome Bag. So start that spreadsheet, honey! And get your parents to help gather addresses. Then get your wedding party and friends to help you deliver them the day before the wedding. Good luck! Links we referenced www.ponyeducation.com - Michelle will be at this hair styling event in Oakland, CA https://www.zola.com/bigwedding - Our Sponsor! When you sign up, use the /bigwedding and get a $50 credit just for being a TBWPP listener https://www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast - Help us Make Podcasts Great Again! *Quotes * “I do think you need to LOVE your engagement ring. In my experience, it's the only piece of jewelry that will see the light of day for the rest of your life!” - Christy, who loves her rose gold wedding ring! “Unfortunately....Although Welcome bags are fun and guests love them, they are a hassle, no way around it.” - Michelle, first the bad news “The more people we reach, the more we give. And if we have some financial help to do that, we can do more, for more.” - Christy, encouraging YOU to become patrons on our Patreon account “Also welcome grooms if you're listening! We welcome you. You do not have ovaries or a uterus.” - Christy, obvious, but noted Get In Touch EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and you might hear your voice on the show! PATREON: www.patreon.com/thebigweddingplanningpodcast

#75 You Ask, We Answer # 3

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2018 51:13

We have decided that we're going to do a ‘You Ask, We Answer' every month. Last Wednesday of the month - tune in and we'll be answering your questions. In detail! With chutzpah! So, keep sending us your questions, your problems and your issues related to wedding planning. We read everything, we answer every email, and we might read your email on the air (don't worry, we'll ask permission!) so that your questions, and our answers, can help countless other people in the midst of wedding planning. It's a win win, y'all! Big Takeaways Quick reminder - don't forget to hashtag #planthatwedding when you post about our podcast or your wedding planning. We're tagging everything with #planthatwedding - across all social media. And if you send a little video of you listening to the podcast (love our opening song? Thanks!) - you will MAKE OUR DAY. 1 Email - “Unkind Mother of the Bride” Ask: This listener, Cheyenne, wrote in about her mom. “She's always been an unhappy person, but it wasn't until I was an adult that I realized how narcissistic and downright mean she is.” This heartbreaking email outlines the bride's tense relationship with her mom, and how it's affecting her wedding planning. This bride has distanced herself during the planning process, but is very worried that her mom's involvement and presence will ruin the wedding day, and taint her experience of what is supposed to be a joyful day. She wants to know if she should cut her mom out of the wedding completely. Answer: Note that we are not therapists. But we do have some experience with all of this. Repeat this; “I can no longer wish my mother to be who I want her to be.” Release your expectations of your mother - she will never meet them. Take her for who she is, or don't. Don't put any weight on your mom's reactions any more. Our advice is to invite her to your wedding. And for the rest of the planning process, and on the actual wedding day, shut her down immediately anytime she begins a sentence that starts to go negative. (Don't ask for her advice. She'll likely give it anyway, but don't ask.) Something like this, “Ok, mom. Love you.” And then you hang up. Or walk away. Or close the door. Try not to let her get to you. It's your wedding day and it sounds like it's going to be beautiful - enjoy it. You can't change your mom. You CAN have the wedding of your dreams. We believe in you, Cheyenne! 2 Email - “Newbie Wedding Planner or Experienced-and -Maybe-Over-priced-Planner” Ask: This bride wants to know if she should hire a planner that is new to the industry and offering a great deal for full planning, or an experienced planner with fairly high prices. Answer: There are pros and cons, of course. In our long answer, we emphasize the importance of “month of” planning, as we have often on the podcast. Things to think about: - With the established planner, make sure that you know -in writing - exactly who will be there managing the wedding day. (It could be an associate, and you should know if this is a possibility.) - With the ‘newbie' - get references of previous brides she has worked with, even if it's only 2. - Also with the newbie - check out her day-of templates. Make sure her contract is long and legit. A good vibe between you and your wedding planner is VERY important. You have to go with your gut a little. If you feel like the newbie will: - have your back - aim to please - be very responsive - stand her ground (advocate for you, be a strong liaison between you and vendors, make quick, SMART decisions day of, be assertive...) ....then we think you should hire her. There's no guarantee the experienced planner will be better just because she's done more weddings. We were all newbies at some point! Links we referenced www.livingaf.com and @amandafailla - super awesome fan that sent a video to us! https://www.zola.com/bigwedding - Our Sponsor! When you sign up, use the /bigwedding and get a $50 credit just for being a TBWPP listener *Quotes * “I lost more sleep and I was more anxious for this PTA event than I have been for any wedding ever.” - Christy, event planning runs the gamut “We want to know who you are!” - Christy and Michelle “Yes, we do believe in you. And we are here for you!” - Michelle, to our dear listeners “My question is: Should I just cut my mom off to avoid the eminent drama and hurtfulness that has no place at our wedding? I just feel like that will be the end of our relationship and something that I regret for the rest of my life. It feels me with anxiety wondering what horrible thing she will say or do during my wedding.” - Listener Cheyenne “Believe me, the next time she says something awful, stay silent. Silence makes this type of person very uncomfortable.” - Michelle, with advice for avoiding conflict “Make sure her timeline is super detailed. Make sure her contract is long and legit. And make sure she has templates for the ceremony layout...look at some paperwork.” - Christy, words of advice when hiring a wedding planner - you have to know what they are actually going to DO for you Get In Touch Let us know if you have any questions you need answered on the show or if you want to share your own wedding planning experiences! EMAIL: thebigweddingplanningpodcast@gmail.com FACEBOOK: @TBWPpodcast INSTAGRAM: @thebigweddingplanningpodcast BE SURE TO USE THE HASHTAG: #planthatwedding TWITTER: @TBWPpodcast PHONE: (415) 723-1625 Leave us a message and it might be on the show!

Episode 130: We Answer 5 Confusing Questions From Another Website

Humble Bazooka

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2018 65:38

This week Blanco and I answer 5 confusing and oddly worded questions from this cracked.com article. I guess the first one isn’t confusing but they get progressively weirder, which just snow balls as Blanco and I try to make heads or tails of it all. Listen in. The post Episode 130: We Answer 5 Confusing Questions From Another Website appeared first on Humble Bazooka.

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TVP Q&A #1: You Ask, We Answer

The Vonu Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2017 58:40

On this special episode of The Vonu Podcast, Jason Boothe and I do our first question & answer episode! Questions include: How did you each individually learn of vonu? Would it be possible to covertly produce mushrooms and other such forms of secret agriculture? How do you think Rayo would… The post TVP Q&A #1: You Ask, We Answer appeared first on The Vonu Podcast.

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Friends

Vortex Church | Sermon Audio

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2017 30:29

As we continue in YOU ASKED. WE ANSWER., Associate Pastor Jimmy Eudy helps us understand that God designed us to live in community and shows us that God’s plan for friendships gives life to our relationship with Himself!

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Over The Heel - Ep 2 (Cashing In) Explicit Language

OTH Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2017 72:03

In Episode two of OTH Podcast we bring back the HEELlight reel and discuss the recent Money in the bank PPV, Triple H on Sky sports and his news on the MITB Women’s match, Women’s wrestling, the UK wrestling scene and Brock Lesnar. Also ‘5 Time’ and this week it is Top five MITB Cash in’s along with our ‘Hot Topic’ – Kenny Omega. We Answer questions from listeners, talk RAW and GREAT BALLS OF FIRE PPV predictions!

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Draft Tips, News, Mailbag, and The Fantasy Doctor - NFL Fantasy Football

Eat. Sleep. Fantasy. - NFL Fantasy Football Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2016 53:50

We've got news about players like Jamaal Charles, Teddy Bridgewater, Carlos Hyde, and Thomas Rawls. We Answer listener email and voicemail questions, and we talk about Ten Tips for your fantasy draft. We also talk to the Fantasy Doctor about some very important injuries. Eat. Sleep. Fantasy. is a new, year-round Fantasy Football Podcast, aimed at helping you win (or miserably lose) your fantasy football league, but doing it in a way that is entertaining and may cause eargasms. Eat. Sleep. Fantasy. is not responsible for public and potentially embarrassing displays of such eargasms. #fantasyfootballVisit the guys at: www.EatSleepFantasy.com Or follow us on twitter @EatSleepFF

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Living Hope

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2016 30:47

January 31, 2016. Sermon Series - How do We Answer the Culture. Lord of Life Lutheran Church. Westfield, IN Sermon audio. Message by Pastor Tim Krupski. Join us for the weekly message and church news at www.lollutheran.org.Support the show (https://tithe.ly/give_new/www/#/tithely/give)

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Son of God

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2016 26:50

January 24, 2016. Sermon Series - How do We Answer the Culture. Lord of Life Lutheran Church. Westfield, IN Sermon audio. Message by Pastor Tim Krupski. Join us for the weekly message and church news at www.lollutheran.org.Support the show (https://tithe.ly/give_new/www/#/tithely/give)

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Living Water

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2016 33:35

January 17, 2016. Sermon Series - How do We Answer the Culture. Lord of Life Lutheran Church. Westfield, IN Sermon audio. Message by Pastor Tim Krupski. Join us for the weekly message and church news at www.lollutheran.org.Support the show (https://tithe.ly/give_new/www/#/tithely/give)

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Is Jesus the Way, the Truth and the Life?

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2016 26:53

January 10, 2016. Sermon Series - How do We Answer the Culture. Lord of Life Lutheran Church. Westfield, IN Sermon audio. Message by Pastor Tim Krupski. Join us for the weekly message and church news at www.lollutheran.org.Support the show (https://tithe.ly/give_new/www/#/tithely/give)

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Who Do They Say I Am?