Breaking the Silence

In the season 2 finale of "Breaking the Silence," we navigate the intricate web of emotions and challenges that come with overcoming pornography use while answering a question submitted by a listener. Crishelle Simons, alongside Rachel Denton, embarks on a journey to unravel the layers of guilt, shame, and recovery that many face in silence. Through personal reflections and expert insights, this episode illuminates the path toward self-compassion and healing, underscoring the critical role of understanding our deepest struggles. Dive into a discussion that not only confronts the realities of pornography's impact but also celebrates the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity. Discover how embracing our vulnerabilities can lead to profound transformation and a renewed sense of self.Important Links:Connect with Rachel Denton here.Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silenceRelive the inspiration from Chandler's story here.Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here.Check out the previous episode with Rachel about change here.Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgDonate here: https://reach10.org/donate/

Join us in a moving episode of "Breaking the Silence," where we welcome Kodi Maki to share his inspiring journey through addiction recovery. Kodi opens up about the challenges he faced with pornography addiction and how the Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) became a beacon of hope in his life. His story is not just about battling addiction; it's about the power of faith, the strength found in vulnerability, and the transformative role of support systems. Kodi's experiences, from personal lows to spiritual highs, provide valuable insights into the journey of recovery and the relentless pursuit of personal growth and healing.In this episode: Turning Point: Kodi shares how a personal tragedy leads him to confront his addiction and seek help. The 12 Step Program (ARP): Kodi discusses his initial reluctance and eventual involvement in ARP, highlighting its impact. The Role of Support: Emphasis on the importance of having a supportive network, especially the pivotal role of Kodi's wife and best friend in his journey. Challenges and Relapses: Kodi reflects on the challenges of staying consistent with recovery efforts and the consequences of stepping away. Spiritual Insights: Kodi shares profound spiritual experiences and moments of clarity that reinforced his commitment to recovery. Motivation for Change: Insights into Kodi's personal motivations for recovery, including the well-being of his family and living the principles he once taught. Tools and Resources: Discussion on various tools and support systems that have aided Kodi's recovery process. Advice for Others: Kodi offers advice to others struggling with addiction, emphasizing the importance of reaching out for help and staying engaged in recovery. This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative journey of recovery. Join us as Kodi Maki shares his heartfelt story, offering hope and guidance to those on a similar path.Important Links: Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence Relive the inspiration from Chandler's story here. Find a 12 Step Program here. Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here. Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact me at crishelle@reach10.org or hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of human sexuality and its intersection with divine grace. We explore the complexities of chastity, marriage, and the continuous journey towards understanding our bodies and spirits with our guest Bonnie Young, therapist and author.Join us as we peel back the layers of anxiety and expectation that often shroud discussions of sexuality. From the laughter and learning curves of adolescence to the sacred partnership of marriage, we grapple with the pulsating question: How can we reconcile our natural human experiences with the teachings of Jesus Christ and His infinite atonement?We unpack the cultural dialogue that sometimes overshadows the gospel's core messages of love, trust, and mercy. With candid vulnerability, we share personal narratives that highlight the often rocky path to aligning our actions with our innate knowledge of right and wrong, emphasizing that Christ's reach and grace know no bounds.As we address the turmoil and triumphs of sexual connection, we propose a shift in conversation—seeing sex not as a need but as a celebration of the soulful ties that bind us. In doing so, we shed the shackles of obligation and chore, instead stepping into a space of mutual joy and enrichment.This episode is an invitation to a more compassionate understanding of our sexuality, a call to nurture the next generation with a narrative of hope, devoid of shame, and rich in joy. We aim to inspire an approach to sexuality education that is imbued with the spirit of Jesus, drenched in grace, and leads to a deep, authentic connection—both with our partners and the divine.So tune in, and let's journey together towards a world where every step in our sexual journeys is met with compassion, understanding, and a celebration of the beautiful, complex beings we are created to be.Important Links Connect with Bonnie here: www.bonnieyoungcounseling.com Find a therapist through Azure Counseling: www.azurecounseling.com  Get Bonnie's book Sex Educated. Start your free trial on Relay here: https://bit.ly/breakingthesilence-relay Relive the inspiration from Chandler's story here. Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here. Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact me at crishelle@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

In this episode, we delve deep into the heart of faith, exploring the transformative power of Christ's love and the journey to find worthiness. Hear personal stories of redemption, struggles with self-worth, and the life-changing moments where grace shines its brightest. Join us as we discover the infinite love that Christ offers, and how it shapes our identity, purpose, and relationships. Alan Larsen joins to share his insights gained through years of serving with youth and young single adults as a bishop. Hear firsthand accounts of divine interventions that changed lives forever, serving as testaments to the miracles that Christ's unyielding love can bring. Whether you're a lifelong believer or just beginning your spiritual journey, this episode seeks to inspire a deeper understanding and appreciation of the boundless grace available to all.In this Episode: Nourishing seeds vs. weeds Pornography as a “weed” Christ's grace and mercy Anxiety vs. faithful action  The power of nourishing Contrast between worldly and Spiritual view of sexuality  Creation  Facing temptation and finding strength  Grace and worthiness The role of church leadership Important Links Start your free trial on Relay here:  bit.ly/breakingthesilence-relay Relive the inspiration from Chandler's story here. Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here. Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact me at crishelle@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Are you caught in a cycle, repeating the same mistakes that are affecting your personal growth and the quality of your relationships? In this enlightening episode, Rachel and Crishelle unveil the curtain to a transformative journey of breaking free from these unyielding patterns.Rachel, with her rich background in social work and pornography issues, teams up with Crishelle to bring you a blend of real-life experiences, professional insights, and research-backed strategies aimed at empowering you to foster change. They are armed not just with tools but the compassion and encouragement to reassure you that change, though a journey, is indeed within your grasp.In a world that often labels and confines, this episode is a breath of fresh air, offering not just hope but practical steps to rewrite your story, to step out of the vicious cycle, and to build relationships that are rooted in understanding, respect, and love.You're not alone on this journey. Unearth the possibilities of a life where you're not defined by your past or current struggles. Dive into Rachel's profound insights, the efficacy of the tools shared, and resonate with real stories of change and transformation.Remember, every step towards change is a step towards freedom and flourishing relationships. Join Rachel and Crishelle in this empowering episode – because you are worth the journey, and so are your relationships.Important Links: Connect with Rachel Denton here. Start your free trial on Relay here:  bit.ly/breakingthesilence-relay Relive the inspiration from Chandler's story here. Reach out to us with your questions or share your journey here. Stay updated! Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Tammy Hill, LMFT & ASSECT Member joins Crishelle to discuss principles to build, maintain, and rebuild trust with yourself, your spouse, and God. Without trust intimacy is shallow and unfulfilling. Listen to learn principles that will strengthen your relationships and deepen your intimacy. Tammy Hill is passionate about strengthening marriage relationships. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an active member of the American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). Tammy has enjoyed being an adjunct faculty member at Brigham Young University in the School of Family Life where she taught hundreds of students each semester in Marriage Preparation, Marriage Enhancement and Healthy Sexuality in Marriage courses. Tammy owns a private counseling practice where she largely works with couples. She has free resources available on her website (http://www.tammyhill.com) where she also offers numerous Making Love Retreats, Honeymoon Workshops, and Dating Bootcamps each year. Published in 2021, Tammy's first book, “God Made Girls and Boys” is a beautiful children's book addressing agency, gender, accountability, and hope in our Heavenly Parent's eternal plan. Her second book, “Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage”, was published In January 2023. Most importantly Tammy is forever grateful to be a wife, mother, and grandmother.Show Notes: Join Relay with a free trial: bit.ly/breakingthesilence-relay Listen to Chandler's story on Episode 2.2 here. Tammy's website: https://www.tammyhill.com/  Listen to Live Your Why - Tammy's Podcast  Follow Tammy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tammy_hill_lmft/   Learn more about Tammy's upcoming events: https://www.tammyhill.com/events-2/  Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Listen to learn what your role and what the bishop's role is in helping you heal and change. Learn how to draw nearer to the Savior by meeting with your bishop and in all your interactions in your church community.  Doug Kleven is a husband, father of 5 ranging from 22 to 10. Co-owner of Blue Valley Insurance. He likes watching baseball and boxing - specifically getting punched in the head. He is almost addicted to reading.  Show Notes:Email Doug at douglas@bluevalleyinsureance.netJoin the Relay App here.Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series, Ecclesiastical Leader series, or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

If you are dating someone that is currently struggling with pornography but is taking the steps to recover, is there hope? Should I stay in the relationship? Should I run? If we were to get married, is this something that can be overcome or will I have to deal with this in the future forever? Listen to learn some principles to navigate these tough questions. Only you can know what is best for you. This episode will help you know how to move forward whether you are the person struggling with pornography or the person in a relationship with someone struggling with pornography. Rachel grew up in Portland and came to Utah for school. She graduated from the University of Utah with her masters in social work. Rachel worked with different agencies that specialize in pornography and addiction issues, including Fight the New Drug, until she had her adorable baby girl and decided to focus on her private practice. She is also on the board for Reach 10, the non-profit that makes this podcast possible. In this episode: Hope and opportunity for growth. Honesty and trustworthiness. Trusting yourself.  Creating and maintaining equal partnership. Will this be a forever problem? How to do “the work”. Is my partner who they say they are? Show Notes: Find Rachel Denton here. Join the Relay App here. Listen to Chandler's story on Episode 2.2 here. Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Listen to learn how to create a marriage worth having through greater intimacy and fantastic sex. You and your spouse deserve it and can have it. Dan shares his story and principles that will help you and your spouse (or future spouse) create the best marriage possible. Dan and his wife Emily Purcell are the founders of Get Your Marriage On! They are on a mission to strengthen marriages by making love-making incredible and deepening couples' connection through physical and emotional intimacy. They are the creator of the popular Intimately Us app that has been downloaded over 300,000 times. They host romantic retreat getaways for couples, host the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast, and coach couples on how to have a great sex life and deeper intimacy. Dan and Emily have been married for over 19 years and have 6 kids. Dan loves cracking dad jokes, running marathons, planning the next creative date night with his sweetheart, and enjoys the magnificent outdoors around their St George home.Show Notes: Join Relay with a free trial: bit.ly/breakingthesilence-relay Listen to Chandler's story on Episode 2.2 here. Dan's website: https://getyourmarriageon.com/  Listen to Get Your Marriage On  Follow Dan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/getyourmarriageon/  The apps - Anatomy of Marriage, Intimately Us, Just Between Us, Life After Pornography: https://getyourmarriageon.com/our-apps/ Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Shame can be demoralizing and keep someone stuck thinking they will never be lovable or worthy ever again. Madi shares her story in how she overcame the shame of being a young woman struggling with porn with courage and support. She has since started sharing her story to help other people know they aren't alone and they are worth the fight. She runs a podcast called Sisters On The Front Lines, where she has young women share their stories about their struggles with pornography, and interviews experts on their insights. She is also a presidency member of the Unalone Club at BYU, a club dedicated to providing a space where those struggling with pornography/those supporting one who is struggling can come to share their burdens and feel "Unalone.” Show Notes:Listen to Sisters on the Front Lines PodcastFollow Madi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sistersonthefrontlines/Join Relay with a free trial: bit.ly/breakingthesilence-relaySubmit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Allowing someone to see all the parts of you can be the scariest thing someone ever does. It is often human tendency to want to prove they are worthy or require someone to show evidence to feel safe enough in a relationship. Rachel Denton, our expert therapist, answers this question submitted by a listener and gives real life examples for how honesty brings greater intimacy, trust, and connection in a relationship. Rachel grew up in Portland and came to Utah for school. She graduated from the University of Utah with her masters in social work. Rachel worked with different agencies that specialize in pornography and addiction issues, including Fight the New Drug, until she had her adorable baby girl and decided to focus on her private practice. She is also on the board for Reach 10, the non-profit that makes this podcast possible. In this episode: Showing progress through action. Honesty leads to true freedom and choice. You always have the choice to be seen and to stay. Honesty and accountability build a solid foundation.  Show Notes:Find Rachel Denton here.Join the Relay App here.Listen to Chandler's story on Episode 2.2 here.Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

When someone needs help, who do they turn to? Listen to find out how a bishop can help in your healing journey. Maybe it is obvious help is needed or you are coasting wondering what the next step of your healing is - either way listen to find out how a bishop can help you find peace. Doug Kleven is a husband, father of 5 ranging from 22 to 10. Co-owner of Blue Valley Insurance. He likes watching baseball and boxing - specifically getting punched in the head. He is almost addicted to reading.  In this episode: Why is it important to meet with a bishop? Finding the courage to honestly share. Change does not happen without honesty. You can find help when you seek it. Show Notes:Email Doug at douglas@bluevalleyinsureance.netJoin the Relay App here.Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series, Ecclesiastical Leader series, or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

We brought Carlie, the Christian Sex Educator, back this season to break down the gaps that keep our faith, values, and sexuality from living together in harmony. Whether someone has suppressed their sexuality or has unwanted sexual behaviors that are congruent with what they believe this episode is for them. Come laugh, cry, and learn with us as we discuss how to find healing, hope, and peace with our God-given sexuality. Carlie Palmer-Webb is a sexuality researcher, entrepreneur, enthusiastic Jesus lover, hugger, and The Christian Sex Educator. She earned her master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. Carlie grew up in a wonderful and loving Christian home, but one where sex was never talked about or mentioned. She has made it her life mission to become the sex educator that she desperately needed. In this episode: Putting down the fight of faith and sexuality. Suppression vs unwanted sexual behaviors. Finding sexual wholeness. Never far too gone - His grace is sufficient.  Show Notes:Find Carlie, The Christian Sex Educator here.Follow her on Instagram here.Join the Relay App here.Listen to Chandler's story on Episode 2.2 here.Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Listen to learn how boundaries can bring greater connection, peace, and belonging in your relationships. Rachel Denton, our expert therapist, answers this question submitted by a listener and gives real life examples for what someone can do when wanting to set boundaries that create safety and healing in their relationships. Rachel grew up in Portland and came to Utah for school. She graduated from the University of Utah with her masters in social work. Rachel worked with different agencies that specialize in pornography and addiction issues, including Fight the New Drug, until she had her adorable baby girl and decided to focus on her private practice. She is also on the board for Reach 10, the non-profit that makes this podcast possible. In this episode: What is a boundary? Establishing common core values and agreements in a relationship. Communicating boundaries with compassion and vulnerability. Self-reflection, respect, and accountability. The mark of a healthy relationship is healthy boundaries and mutual respect.  Show Notes:Find Rachel Denton here.Join the Relay App here.Listen to Chandler's story on Episode 2.2 here.Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Do you feel isolated and alone in your struggle and hurt? Chandler shares his story about breaking free of the isolation that his struggle with pornography created and how he found the courage to break free. Then he shares all about Relay an app he created to help you connect daily with a support team that is in the trenches with you as you work towards your goals and on your recovery. Chandler Rogers is the founder and CEO of Relay — a digital program to find healing from pornography alongside a group of peers with the same goal. After many years of feeling stuck and isolated, Chandler gained conviction for the importance of connection and having a strong support system. He and his wife Jade are both graduates of BYU and have been married 4 years. Join Relay: bit.ly/breakingthesilence-chandler-relayEmail Chandler: chandler@joinrelay.appSubmit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.orgLove the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Breaking the Silence is back! Join Crishelle Simons as she gives an overview of new changes in Breaking the Silence and shares how this podcast is going to help you break free of the shame, silence, and fear that are keeping you stuck. Follow us on Instagram @breakingthesilence_reach10 or visit our website reach10.org Use this link to submit a question for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story https://forms.gle/71hhX2jiPKX8mRQD9Love the podcast and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/Join the conversation and change the culture with us by breaking the silence. 

How can you join the cause of turning a weapon of destruction into a tool for transformation? This is our last episode of Breaking the Silence, but just the beginning for you to contribute to a new culture of courage, compassion, and connection. In this send-off from founder Vauna Davis, you'll hear what she learned from young adults and what she hopes you will do to keep reaching out. Thank you so much for listening, we love you! We can't wait to see what you will do.In this episode: Young adults who were ambushed by pornography in the past are becoming champions for healthy sexuality today. Human connection is the greatest casualty of pornography -  but it is also the greatest remedy. Where much is required, much is given. Links: Reach 10 Resource Page  Email us: hello@reach10.org

Listen along as the hosts, Creed and Crishelle, and our social media specialist, Bentlee, remember their favorite episodes of Breaking the Silence. They also share some of the lessons they learned while working on the podcast with Reach 10. In this episode:  We're grateful for all those who have shared their stories with us over the years. Learn to talk about pornography so you can teach the next generation. There's always opportunity for change and growth. Show Notes:  Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

While most tackle porn recovery with behavioral solutions, both scripture and science show that true recovery must address the underlying issues of the heart. Our guest, Sathiya Sam teaches that these can be reached through emotional fitness, recovery from wounds of the past, and learning to accept yourself. He has coached many people to recovery from pornography addiction using his methods rooted in faith. Listen in as Creed and Crishelle talk with Sathiya about his encouraging message.In this episode:  You only know how emotionally fit you are amidst trial. A mistake made once is a mistake. A mistake made twice is a choice. Take ownership for what you can control. God honors those acts. Links: The Ultimate Recovery Guide The New Man Podcast Follow Sathiya Sam on Instagram Show Notes:  Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!Contact us at hello@reach10.org.Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10.Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

You're going to love this discussion of healthy sexuality and the harm of pornography with Carlie Palmer-Webb, the Christian Sex Educator. Listen in to learn about the pillars of healthy sexuality and how you can begin to practice them even before being in a sexual relationship. Creed and Crishelle also talk with Carlie about the effects of pornography on how we think about others and how that can affect relationships later on. In this episode:  Love, consideration, and consent are important pillars of healthy sexuality  We can practice the pillars even when we are single  Questions about sex we can ask someone we are seriously dating Lust is taking advantage of others for our own gratification Link:Carlie's Instagram - The Christian Sex Educator @carliepalmerwebbDisclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

Whether dealing with a desire to view pornography, or other urges like eating or scrolling social media, Sara Brewer offers a mindful approach to managing them. Sara is a  certified life coach who works with people who want to quit pornography. She suggests that we stop, drop, and breathe, a process that allows us to become better at managing our feelings without acting out on them. We don't have to be afraid of feeling strong urges when we know what to do with them.In this episode:  Learn to redirect your brain from what you want in the moment to what you want overall The goal is to get really good at feeling urges and discomfort and recognizing where they come from Breathe into the uncomfortable sensation and let yourself feel it to let it pass Sara's links: Sara's website Sara Brewer Coaching Sara's podcast Overcome Pornography for Good Sara's Instagram @sarahbrewercoaching Show Notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast

Because of the stigma behind women and their sexuality, talking about pornography issues can be even more difficult. We feel like we'll die if we tell anyone we have a problem with pornography. Mackenzie Preza has struggled and learned that when women open up about their experiences, it becomes easier to find help and dispel shame. She also wants women to embrace their sexuality and be more open about it! In this episode:  The more you share your experiences, the easier it gets.  Sex is a gift from God that sometimes gets twisted in our culture to be “bad” Sharing our experiences helps others beat the shame surrounding pornography Show notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

This time we're switching roles! You'll hear from Creed and Crishelle, our young adults hosts, talk about their own stories of breaking the silence around shame, pornography, family struggles, and other sensitive issues. They share how others can develop the courage and permission to speak up about their own questions, struggles, and concerns. We're sharing a podcast episode originally published by one of our favorite therapists, Geoff Steurer, on his insightful From Crisis to Connection Podcast (episode 84). You definitely want to follow his podcast too!Links:From Crisis to Connection PodcastShow Notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

When someone with a religious background is working through recovery from pornography, they may also be working through the repentance process. Hayden and Savannah Paul have seen the power of repentance in their own lives and love to tell others about it! You'll hear some new ways of thinking about repentance, becoming a better person, and the role of a bishop in the process. In this episode:  Repentance is the process of learning to become like Jesus Christ.  Honesty is easier in a relationship of trust. Repentance is not punishment. It is the escape from punishment.  Church leaders can be another source of help, along with other powerful resources for recovery. Links: I Stand At the Door Podcast Show Notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

When we're in the thick of recovery, it's hard to see past the difficulties and imagine a bright future. It does get easier! Taylor Chambers says deciding what we want to do with our freedom is one way to find hope in the journey. We can start envisioning where we want to be so we have the motivation to keep working on recovery. In this episode:  There might be seasons where you go back to the basics or need a game plan to get through challenging times 3 ways people express life purpose: Personal growth, connection, and contribution How to know when you're ready to move on to the next level Links: taylor.chambers.j@gmail.comShow Notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don't make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Smith Alley became addicted to pornography even before he was a teenager. Then his world turned upside down one day and he chose to begin a journey to recovery from pornography. As he turned from porn and toward loving and serving others, he connected with other teens who needed help, too. He created the Live Life Bigger Foundation to share his message, and has already spoken to 100,000+ people. Learn how serving others, redefining what love and happiness mean, and creating a schedule can help you become the person you want to be. In this episode:  We’re our own biggest bully  Habits and a schedule help fill the void  Be proud of ourselves for the little things  Links:  smithalley@livelifebigger.org www.livelifebigger.org Instagram: @live.life.bigger Show Notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10.

Being a student is hard, especially when feeling alienated because of a struggle with pornography. Or maybe feeling confused about how to help a friend entrenched in this problem. Emi Bass wanted to find a way to help, so she founded the Un-Alone Club at BYU. Students are invited to meet over Zoom, anonymously or not, to find insight, community and relief from issues like pornography use, betrayal trauma, supporting friends struggling, and more. You’ll be inspired by her story and how one person can start something that really matters.In this episode:  The opportunity to share stories anonymously allows members to find connection.  Finding the right resource can change the recovery journey. Shame doesn’t have to rule your life. If you can let it go, you can connect.  Links: Follow the Un-Alone Club on InstagramShow Notes:   Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

You’ve probably heard about betrayal trauma in marriage, but this time we’re talking about how it shows up in dating relationships and what to do about it.

If we’re wondering whether we need to go to a therapist, it’s probably the time to make the jump!

Find out how Rhyll and Steven Croshaw use a check-in ritual to communicate every night about how they are doing in emotional, mental, and physical health and their progress in their recovery.

A sponsor is someone who can share their own experience of recovery through the 12 Steps and can offer hope, encouragement, accountability, and feedback.

Shame often follows pornography even if you aren’t the user, especially in relationships. What are people thinking?

It’s not only users, but parents, spouses, and friends who hide from confronting the issue of pornography.

Kids hire pornography for a variety of jobs to help them grow up, and the surprising thing is it makes sense.

It’s easy to get sucked into your phone, tv shows, or video games and forget who you are and what you really want out of life.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) is a fascinating and effective therapy treatment that shifts stored memories and helps people not be so triggered by past trauma.

Zach and Darcy Spafford discuss how to pause and step back to connect when pornography comes in between them.

Watching a spouse work through recovery can be tough. Darcy Spafford shares how she separated herself from his actions and learned to have compassion for him and for herself.

Coach Zachary Spafford says taking responsibility for your decisions can lead to a whole new perspective that helps in recovery.

"Ignorance is bliss" does NOT apply to sex education. Bliss in healthy sexuality comes from being educated.

Pornography involves a lot of inward thinking and selfishness. One way to get out of that is to serve others and focus on creating rather than consuming.

A struggle with pornography is difficult enough, and facing it alone isn’t helpful. It takes extreme vulnerability to open up with the truth about your life, but it's so worth it when you find a community to support you. Spencer and Weston talk about the value of friendship, fighting the battle together, and how to find your people. Connect with someone that is going through the same thing so that you can push each other to new heights. In this episode Weston and Spencer’s friendship is a two-way street. Find someone who loves you no matter what - and lets you make your own choices. To find a community, you need to seek for it. When you realize you’re not alone, pornography’s grip is cut in half. Sometimes recovery is a group effort. Links The Eternal Warrior Podcast Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

We flipped roles and put Creed and Crishelle in the guest seats! Hear what they think is the best part of doing the podcast - and what's the hardest part. What do they want every young adult to know? Join us and learn more about our awesome podcasts hosts and why they are willing to talk about topics that no one wants to bring up. Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Hear the rest of the story! This is part 2 of Stephen and Bentlee Edgington’s interview in episode 54. Bentlee shares how she had the courage to ask the question about pornography and what she was afraid of. Stephen shares that both partners can feel like victims when this challenging issue comes up, but it works better to have compassion for how hard it is for both people to talk about it. In this episode: The importance of honesty when talking about pornography. How will pornography affect our future relationship? Worrying about what other people might think. Show notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10.

After a couple has their first discussion about pornography - now what? In Part 1 of this conversation, Creed and Crishelle hear Stephen and Bentlee’s story about first talking this issue in their relationship, and how they learned to talk more openly about it in spite of their fears. In this episode: It takes courage on both sides to talk honestly about this. What Stephen learned from other relationships. Keep in mind what your end goal for the relationship is. Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10.

Slip-ups happen when someone views pornography even though they are trying to quit. That comes with a lot of different emotions, from shame to discouragement. Geoff Steurer, a marriage and family therapist, talks with Creed and Crishelle on how people can learn from relapse and use it to become stronger. Relapse is a part of recovery, and even part of everyone’s life. In this episode: Talk about shame so that you can learn from relapses. Ease up on the judgement on yourself. Stand up to the bully in your head. Talk with someone you trust who can help you see the facts. Be compassionate about the pain your partner is going through. Have a support system outside of your partner. Geoff’s Links: Website Illuminate Podcast Instagram @geoffsteurer Facebook Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

As a certified sex coach, Amanda Louder teaches clients all day about how to have better sexual health, and as a mom she has experience teaching her children about topics surrounding sex. Creed and Crishelle talk with her about how to start important conversations about sex with your partner, children, or other loved ones. They also discuss steps both married and single adults can take to prepare for and improve sexual relationships. In this episode: Intimacy is about knowing your partner and opening up completely. Our bodies are inherently good. There is nothing about our bodies that is shameful. The six principles of sexual health Sexual agreements to make ahead of marriage Take care of yourself first and make sure you are in integrity with yourself. Be open with your partner about what is working or not working for you. Sex is a lot more than intercourse. Amanda’s Links: Podcast: Live From Love Website: AmandaLouder.com Get the Sexual Health and Agreements worksheet Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Being in a relationship with someone who is struggling with pornography is not easy. That’s why when Bree Swaner found herself in that situation, she worked to create a support system for herself so that she could support her husband. This week, Creed and Crishelle talk with Bree about how working through your feelings is the first step to being able to be at peace with your partner’s struggles, and how you can start having the tough conversations in your home. In this episode: Don’t be afraid to ask your partner the hard questions about their struggle so you can fully understand the situation. Take time for yourself so you can work through the emotions. Don’t take responsibility for your partner’s actions. Look for support groups with members who are going through similar struggles with betrayal trauma. Links: Bree's Facebook Group - Wives of Porn Addicts, A Support Group for the Supportive Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

The stigma that comes with a struggle with pornography often prevents people from sharing their story. The problem is, this often leads to someone feeling alone in their situation. Creed and Crishelle chat with Stephen Edgington about how sharing his story taught him how important connection is, whether you struggle with pornography or know someone who is struggling. In this episode: Practice opening up to people you trust to learn how to share your story. If someone doesn’t react well, you don’t have to continue to share with them. Set boundaries with the use of technology. Self-doubt prevents you from sharing your story. Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Seeking therapy can be kind of scary! Worry about the cost, concern about what others may think, or being afraid to talk about our personal problems could keep someone from reaching out for professional help. Cassandra Hulse joins Creed and Crishelle to discuss the ins and outs of therapy for beginners. Hear about how therapy can help someone find the healing they’re searching for. In this episode: Keep trying until you find the right therapist for you. Online therapy can be a great resource to those with limited time or during the pandemic. You are worthy of taking care of yourself through therapy. Normalize therapy as a gym for the mind. Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Finding the right program is essential when recovering from pornography use. Knowing what is available can help you suggest resources to help friends and family. Josh Otani has been working with the Men of Moroni and seen a huge, positive difference in his progress. This week, Creed and Crishelle talk with Josh about how this program has helped him establish safeguards, routines, and connection to help him along in his recovery. Learn what this resource has to offer. In this episode: Honesty is an important principle for recovery. Find a routine to substitute the desire to view pornography with something healthier. Accountability with a trusted friend can help relinquish the relapses in recovery. Each routine should be personalized to accommodate one’s triggers. Links: Email Josh: joshuaotani@gmail.com Josh's blog The Eternal Warrior Podcast He Restoreth My Soul book Life Changing Services - Men of Moroni Program LDS Addiction Recovery meetings Flagpole ideas Show Notes: Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more! Contact us at hello@reach10.org. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.