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Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist targets a Christian? You've likely been hurt, manipulated, and maybe even discarded, and now you're left wondering, "Are they just going to get away with it?That's why in this episode, I'm going to walk you through the 3 phases that every narcissist goes through when they have the audacity to attack one of God's children....What God is going to do to intervene AND what you can do to ensure that His justice is served in a timely manner.I assure you, they will not be able to handle what comes next....❤️ Watch this episode next to find out What God Will Do After a Narcissistic Relationship.

When a narcissist loses control over you, they don't walk away—they escalate. Their goal has never been love, it's always been control. Here are 3 common tactics they use and how to protect yourself:1️⃣ They Play the Victim They twist the story to make you feel guilty, using emotional manipulation and even extreme claims to pull you back in. (Proverbs 26:24–26) Protect yourself: Hold your boundaries. Don't fall for guilt trips or over-explain.2️⃣ They Smear Your Name Through lies and twisted stories, they try to isolate you by turning others against you. Protect yourself: Let silence and your actions speak louder than gossip.3️⃣ They Try to Provoke You They push your buttons to trigger a reaction they can then weaponize. (Proverbs 26:4) Protect yourself: Don't engage. Stay calm and emotionally grounded.These tactics are only part of the narcissist's playbook. The best defense? Stand firm in your truth and boundaries.

You set boundaries hoping for peace… but instead, it got messy

Is God Removing Toxic People from Your Life? 5 Signs to Watch ForAre you questioning whether God is removing someone toxic from your life? This episode breaks down the spiritual and emotional signs to watch for and offers biblical encouragement for moving forward.In this episode, you'll learn:

This One Behavior Makes You Impossible to ManipulateImagine walking through a pitch-black room, filled with hidden traps. You're stumbling, unsure of your next step. But then—someone flips on the light. Suddenly, you see everything clearly. The confusion ends. The danger loses its grip.Manipulators thrive in darkness—confusion, doubt, and emotional chaos are their playground. But when you develop discernment, it's like flipping on that light. You begin to see people's true motives, not just with your eyes, but with spiritual clarity.What Is Discernment?Discernment isn't just a gut feeling—it's clarity. It's the ability to see beyond appearances and recognize what's really going on beneath the surface. Biblically, it's a gift from God (Hebrews 5:14) that helps you separate truth from lies, care from control.Discernment allows you to:Recognize manipulation, even when it's subtle.Trust what God reveals over what someone says.Understand motives, not just messages.Think of it as a spiritual lie detector—one that exposes deception before it takes hold.Why Manipulators Lose Power When You Have DiscernmentThey Can't Confuse You Anymore You stop second-guessing yourself and clearly see through:GaslightingGuilt tripsHalf-truthsThey Lose Control Over Your Emotions Discernment helps you respond with wisdom, not reactivity. Without access to your emotions, manipulators lose their grip.They Get Exposed Manipulators hide in confusion—but clarity shines a light they can't escape.The Catch: Discernment Requires Emotional StabilityDiscernment is powerful, but without emotional stability, it won't protect you. Emotional instability makes you vulnerable—even when you see the truth. For example:Craving love can blind you to toxic patterns.Loyalty to “family at all costs” can keep you in dysfunction.Fear of conflict can make you over-apologize and backtrack.Build Emotional Resilience in 3 StepsDetach from the Need for Approval Let go of needing to be liked—it's your greatest defense.Stop Explaining Yourself Manipulators don't need more info—they want control. Silence disarms them.Master the Power of the Pause Don't react. Pause. Breathe. Respond in strength, not fear.When you combine discernment with emotional stability, manipulation loses its power. In the next episode, we'll explore what to do when manipulators escalate—even after you've reclaimed your clarity and peace.

A Demonic Attitude is Not Just a Bad MoodNot all bad attitudes are just personality flaws—some are deeply rooted in deception, control, and manipulation. In this episode, we uncover four demonic traits often seen in narcissistic behavior:1️⃣ Deception & Manipulation (John 8:44) – Twisting reality to control and confuse.2️⃣ Control & Domination (2 Corinthians 11:14-15) – Using emotional blackmail and fear to gain power.3️⃣ Blame-Shifting & Accusation (Revelation 12:10) – Never taking responsibility and making you feel guilty.4️⃣ Hypocrisy & False Righteousness (Matthew 23:27-28) – Hiding behind a facade of goodness while living in contradiction.These behaviors are designed to weaken and control, but God exposes deception so we can step into truth. Once you see the truth, you can never unsee it.

Have you been pleading with God to change that toxic person in your life, only to feel more frustrated and stuck? What if the real transformation God is working on is within you? In this episode, we'll dive into:Why relationships are the enemy's favorite battlefieldWhat God may be refining in you through the struggleThe power of forgiveness, patience, humility, and trustHow Joseph's story offers a blueprint for breakthroughThis isn't punishment — it's preparation. If you're ready to stop feeling powerless and start walking in God's purpose, this could change everything.

Do you ever feel like you're constantly trying to keep others happy, even at your own expense? People-pleasing may seem like kindness, but when it comes from a place of fear or obligation, it can become a tool for manipulation — especially for narcissists. They sense when they can control you by making you feel responsible for their happiness.In this episode, we're breaking down the signs of people-pleasing and how to reclaim your power:You feel overwhelming guilt when saying no.You change your opinions to avoid conflict.You take on problems that aren't yours to fix.You apologize even when it's not your fault.You fear disappointing others, even at your own expense.If any of these resonate with you, know that you're not alone — and you don't have to stay stuck in this pattern. It's possible to be a kind, caring person without being controlled. We'll cover three powerful shifts to help you break free:Shift your mindset: Stop seeing people-pleasing as a virtue.Stop apologizing for things that aren't your fault.Set boundaries and stand firm.Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, and guilt may creep in. But remember — guilt is not from God. You have the right to protect your peace.

Why does breaking a trauma bond feel so painful? You'd think that freedom would feel… free. That you'd walk away from the narcissist and instantly feel lighter, happier, and at peace. But instead, you're feeling lost, confused, maybe even grieving a relationship that you know was toxic.The truth? This pain doesn't mean you're failing—it means God is working. He's not just setting you free; He's breaking the chains that kept you bound in the first place.In today's podcast, we're uncovering 3 undeniable signs that God is breaking the trauma bond—even if it doesn't feel like it yet. We'll also talk about what true freedom from a narcissist actually looks like, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and getting sucked back into a never ending toxic cycle.FREE Narcissist Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/narcissist-surv...

8 Demonic Ways Narcissists Mess with Your MindEver feel like something is off in your relationship—like a hidden danger lurking beneath the surface? Narcissists use subtle yet devastating tactics to manipulate and control, leaving you disoriented and trapped.

If the Devil Can't Get to You, He'll Send a Narcissist—6 Tactics He Uses to Destroy YouWhy This Battle Feels DifferentYou've locked every door, secured every window, and set every alarm—but what do you do when Judas is already inside the house?This isn't just a difficult relationship; it's a spiritual attack.The enemy knows your weak points, and when he can't reach you directly, he'll send someone who already has the keys—a narcissist.The tactics they use aren't just harmful; they're designed to steal, kill, and destroy.6 Demonic Tactics the Enemy Uses Through the Narcissist

The "Nice" Narcissist: How They Fool YouWhy They're So Hard to SpotThey appear charming, polite, and agreeable—making them seem like the last person who could be toxic.Their public persona is drastically different from who they are behind closed doors.They make you feel safe, lighthearted, and cared for—until they don't.The truth? Nice doesn't mean good—it doesn't mean they're godly, loyal, or trustworthy.The Deceptive Traits of the “Nice” NarcissistSelective HelpfulnessTheir help seems genuine at first but later feels conditional—designed to keep you dependent.Instead of empowering you, their “help” leaves you feeling emotionally drained and indebted.They use kindness strategically—to be seen as the “good one” while keeping you reliant on them.Performative EmpathyThey know how to act empathetic—using the right words and body language to seem caring.Their empathy is a performance, not genuine. They mimic emotions like an actor memorizing lines.This creates a trauma bond—you keep waiting for the “real” them to show up, but they never do.Strategic SupportThey encourage you only when it serves their agenda.Once your growth threatens their control, their support fades—or turns into subtle sabotage.They make passive-aggressive comments like:“Don't forget who helped you get here.”“Must be nice to have time for that while I'm doing everything else.”Their support was never about you—it was about maintaining power and control.Shallow ConnectionThey make you feel seen and understood at first, but their connection is always transactional.They mirror your emotions and interests to create an illusion of intimacy.But when you try to deepen the connection, they withdraw, deflect, or change the subject.This keeps you chasing a connection they're incapable of giving.Why It's So Hard to Walk AwayThe “nice” narcissist genuinely believes they are a loving, caring person.Their charm disarms you, their kindness hooks you, and their support keeps you reliant.They manipulate not with overt cruelty, but with subtle control.How to Break Free✅ Trust your discernment—If their kindness leaves you feeling confused or trapped, it's a red flag.✅ Set boundaries—Protect your emotional and mental space.✅ Seek godly counsel—Turn to Scripture and trusted advisors for wisdom.✅ Invest in transformational relationships—Choose people who show up consistently and genuinely.Want to Go Deeper?

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FREE Narcissist Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist targets a Christian? You've likely been hurt, manipulated, and maybe even discarded, and now you're left wondering, "Are they just going to get away with it?" My friend, stick with me, because in this post, I'm going to walk you through the three phases that every narcissist goes through when they have the audacity to attack one of God's children. We'll cover what God is going to do to intervene and what YOU can do to ensure His justice is served in a timely manner. I assure you, they will not be able to handle what comes next….There are three phases you can count on every time when dealing with a narcissist. These phases aren't just predictable—they're inevitable. But just as sure as the narcissist's destruction comes, so does God's intervention, and ultimately, His justice.Narcissists are master manipulators and deceivers, agents of chaos who thrive on sowing confusion and destruction. It's no surprise that their main targets are often Christians. Why? Because the loving, compassionate, and forgiving nature of a Christian makes it easy for a narcissist to exploit. But it goes deeper than that—they are being used by Satan to distract, derail, and discourage you from stepping into the fullness of what God has for your life.So, stop being surprised that you're a target. But don't be afraid, because your weapons are far greater than theirs—if you know how to use them. We'll get to that soon.Phase 1: Narcissistic DestructionFirst, understand that the narcissist's plan always follows the same pattern. Phase one? They zero in on their target. Whether their goal is your destruction or simply their personal gain, the strategy is identical—they present themselves as everything you've ever wanted. The ideal parent, the perfect partner—the answer to your prayers.This is all designed to weaken your defenses, and it works. You let your guard down, you let them in. Sure, you see red flags, but you convince yourself it's just a mistake or something you can work through together. And they'll certainly give you that impression.But soon enough, the mask begins to slip. They can't keep up the façade and inconsistencies start to show. You start questioning their behaviors, their motives, and that's when things shift. Suddenly, you're either hit with an overwhelming dose of love-bombing, or they play the victim. Both tactics are meant to cloud your vision—to distract you from the real issues.And isn't that exactly how Satan operates? Everything is a carefully crafted illusion—beautiful at first, but dark and destructive beneath the surface. By the time you see the truth, you're entangled in the web of confusion, manipulation, gaslighting, and invalidation.Here is where you begin questioning your own sanity, doubting your worth. You start feeling guilty for how you reacted to their emotional abuse, ashamed of behaviors you're not proud of, and left wondering if you're the problem.It's like being caught in a tornado—everything seems calm at first, but once you're in the center of the storm, the destruction becomes clear. Narcissists twist your mind, emotions, and sense of self-worth, leaving a path of destruction that is both internal and external.But remember, the narcissist cannot maintain their illusion forever. Eventually, the storm takes its toll. Their love-bombing fades, the manipulation intensifies, and the gaslighting becomes unbearable. You're left feeling trapped, confused, and powerless. They don't just want to break your heart—they want to break your spirit.Phase 2: God's InterventionBut don't fret, my friend. This is w

FREE Narcissist Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Conquering Codependency Biblically Online Coursehttps://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/Have you ever caught yourself wondering, "I think they're toxic... but maybe not?" You know you don't always like how you feel around them. Maybe some of their actions have been downright hurtful, but you're still unsure if they truly qualify as “toxic.”These days, the word toxic gets thrown around almost as much as narcissist. It's tempting to slap a label on someone whose behavior feels off, but before you jump to conclusions, let's dig a little deeper.In this post, we'll uncover the unmistakable signs of a truly toxic person, explore whether their behaviors stem from toxicity or struggles, and examine traits that mimic toxicity but come from entirely different roots.Let's Start with an Analogy: Relationships Are Like ShoesThink of relationships like shoes.Some shoes are a perfect fit—they support and comfort you, allowing you to walk confidently no matter where life takes you. Then, there are shoes that just don't fit—no matter how much you try to break them in. They pinch, rub, and leave blisters.It's easy to label these shoes as “bad,” but are they really? Or are they just the wrong fit for your foot—or maybe even the wrong shoe for the occasion?Some shoes are your go-to favorites—you reach for them instinctively because they always deliver. Others sit in the back of your closet, gathering dust. You like them in theory, but every time you try them on, you're reminded why you never wear them. And then, there are the shoes so painful, you wouldn't wish them on anyone.Relationships are much the same. Some people “fit” your life perfectly. Others might be a mismatch—okay in certain contexts but not for the long haul. And then, there are the truly toxic relationships that cause harm no matter how you look at them.So, how do we know the difference?Universally Toxic Traits We Can All Agree OnThere are just some traits everyone can agree are toxic—like a pair of shoes that might look pretty but leave you limping after a short time.If someone exhibits the following behaviors, it's not subjective; they're harmful to everyone:Verbal abuseManipulationChronic lyingSecrecySelfishnessChronic negativityDismissivenessVindictivenessDisrespectExplosive angerExploitative behaviorsEven the Bible, in 1 Timothy 3, tells us to avoid people with such traits. These behaviors infect relationships, creating destruction and pain.Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships?If these traits are so clearly harmful, why do so many of us stay? Why don't we run?The answer might be more complicated than it seems.Sometimes, we see something else within these individuals that makes us question our perception. Or, we might mistake certain behaviors as toxic when they're actually coming from unresolved pain or struggles rather than an inherently toxic nature.What's Really Going On Beneath the Surface?Before we label someone as toxic, we have to ask: What's going on beneath the surface? Theirs—and yours.Everyone comes into relationships with “defaults”—cultural norms, personality traits, past experiences, and wounds. For example, assertiveness might feel like confidence to one person but aggression to someone who's been bullied. Sarcasm might feel playful to some but cutting to others.Your own “surface”—the way you react, interpret, and label others—can r

FREE Narcissist Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Have you ever found yourself crying out to God, asking, “Why are You letting this person get away with everything they've done to me?” If so, you're not alone. It's one of the hardest questions to wrestle with, especially when the pain feels so overwhelming.But here's the good news: God sees everything, and He is a God of justice. In this post, we're diving into practical and powerful ways to pray both for and against the narcissist in your life. Yes, that's biblical—and we'll explore why. By the end, you'll feel equipped to approach God with prayers that align with His will, releasing the weight of your hurt and trusting Him to move on your behalf.Life with a Narcissist Feels Like ChaosWhether the narcissist in your life is a spouse, parent, friend, or colleague, one thing is certain: life with them is an unstable, emotional rollercoaster. Their lies, manipulation, and betrayal can leave you furious, broken, and unsure how to pray.But take heart—God's Word provides both clarity and direction. Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.'” This promise reminds us that God will handle justice in His perfect way and timing.Praying for Justice: Trusting God's ReckoningImagine standing by the ocean, looking out over calm waters. On the surface, everything seems peaceful, but beneath, a strong current tugs at you. That's what dealing with a narcissist feels like—their manipulation pulls you into confusion and frustration. But here's the truth: you don't have to fight this current alone.One powerful prayer is to ask for God's reckoning. This means asking Him to expose lies, reveal hidden motives, and bring consequences in His way. It's not about revenge but about trusting God to bring light into the darkness.Psalm 28:3-4 says:“Do not drag me off with the wicked, with the workers of evil, who speak peace with their neighbors while evil is in their hearts. Give to them according to their work and according to the evil of their deeds.”This scripture reminds us that God sees deception and will repay accordingly. Similarly, Galatians 6:7-8 tells us, “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” The narcissist may appear to “get away with it” for now, but no one escapes God's justice.Praying for Reproof: Exposing DarknessImagine someone who walks unchecked, leaving chaos everywhere they go. Their harmful behavior seems to have no consequences. How do you respond? By praying for God's reproof—a holy unveiling of their actions. This type of prayer asks God to shine a light so bright that their behavior can no longer stay hidden.In 1 Corinthians 5:5, Paul commands the Corinthian church to hand a man over to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, “so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord.” This severe action wasn't out of hatred but out of love—a way to bring the man to repentance. Similarly, when we pray for reproof, we're asking God to expose harmful behaviors with the ultimate goal of restoration.Praying for Recompense: Trusting God to RestoreHave you ever felt like the narcissist stole everything from you—your peace, confidence, time, or future? It's easy to wonder if you'll ever get back what's been lost. But the Bible speaks of recompense, a divine repayment not just for what was taken but often in double measure.Hebrews 10:30 says, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” says the Lord. And Joel 2:25 promises, “I will restore to you the years that the swarmin

Download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide for more scriptures and support in handling the narcissist in your life. https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Is There a Darker Side Behind Narcissistic Behavior?Have you ever wondered if there's more to a narcissist's behavior than just personality flaws? What if the manipulation, emotional chaos, and control tactics aren't just psychological but something much darker? In this article, we're going to explore four signs that a narcissist may actually be under the influence of demonic forces. By the end, you'll have a clearer understanding of what might be driving their behavior—and more importantly, you'll learn how to protect yourself.Before we dive in, be sure to grab your free copy of the Narcissist Survival Guide. It's my free gift to you, filled with powerful scriptures and effective responses for dealing with the narcissist in your life.If you've spent any time around a narcissist, you're probably all too familiar with the emotional, psychological, and even spiritual damage they can cause. Narcissists bring chaos wherever they go—yet somehow always make you feel like you're to blame. And while you're left picking up the pieces, they continue their pattern of self-centered destruction. But here's the truth: treating narcissistic behavior without addressing the spiritual root is like trying to cut weeds without pulling out their roots—they always grow back stronger.In many cases, the narcissistic behaviors you see on the surface are just symptoms, but there's a hidden root system underground, where spiritual forces are at work. When you address only the visible signs, you're left wondering why the toxic behavior keeps coming back. Let's go deeper and uncover four clear signs that the narcissist's behavior may be influenced by something beyond psychology. 1. Manipulation and DeceptionImagine sitting across from the narcissist, trying to have a simple conversation. At first, everything seems calm, but soon, the story begins to twist. They subtly twist your words, make you question your own memory, and before you know it, you're apologizing for something they did. It feels like stepping into a maze—just when you think you've found a way out, they move the walls again with gaslighting, denial, or victim-playing.This level of manipulation goes beyond basic dishonesty. It's an elaborate smokescreen meant to keep you confused, disoriented, and trapped. Isaiah 14:12-15 describes Lucifer's fall due to his pride and desire for control—qualities that narcissists exhibit as well. Their manipulation serves to draw you away from reality, just as Satan seeks to deceive and divide.Consider also John 8:44, which describes Satan as the “father of lies.” Narcissists, too, are experts at manipulating truth, and this doesn't come from mere personality; it may be a demonic strategy. Once a person gives in to constant manipulation, they may unknowingly open a door for spiritual influence. This is where deception takes root, leaving both the narcissist and those around them in a web of lies.1 Timothy 4:1 warns us, "The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons." If you notice a pattern of gaslighting, twisting the truth, or rewriting history, there may be something darker at work behind the scenes. 2. Spiritual Blindness and a Hardened HeartHave you ever looked into the eyes of a narcissist during an argument and felt like you were talking to a wall? You explain, you present the facts, but there's no understanding—just a blank stare or even cold indifference. It's as if they're blocked from seeing the truth.When a person opens the door to demonic influence, one of the first things to go is their ability to see&

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Be sure to grab a copy of your FREE Narcissist Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/If you've been in or just left a relationship with a narcissist, you know how distressing and destabilizing it can be. Constantly questioning yourself, struggling to defend against their vicious, victim-like lies—it's enough to make anyone furious. The temptation to seek justice on your own terms is real. You want to call them out, tell them off, and dismantle every lie they've told. Anything to get revenge for the harm they've caused.But HOLD ON. What if I told you that there's a way to achieve far greater justice than you ever could on your own—and that it would actually bring you peace? Stay with me. In this post, we're going to talk about why taking revenge isn't the answer—and what God wants you to do instead. Trust me, their downfall is coming, and you'll have a front-row seat to witness God's justice.I recently went through a narcissistic attack from someone who was spiteful, vindictive, and deceitful. The lies, manipulation, and malice were worse than ever before. And for the first time, I was the direct target of their abuse.I'll admit, my flesh rose up. I wanted to tell them off, expose their lies, and undo the damage they caused. But something in my spirit told me to hold on—to ask, What would God want me to do? As I cried out to God for strength, I heard Him speak clearly to my heart: Put your armor on. Therein lies your strength. It stopped me in my tracks. In that moment, I pictured Jesus standing in front of me, shielding me from the enemy's attacks. I saw this powerful shield protecting me from every dart the enemy threw, while the Lord held back the forces of darkness. It brought me to tears. Then I was reminded of Ephesians 6:12: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”The Real Enemy Behind Narcissistic AbuseNarcissists are often used as agents of the enemy, though they likely don't even realize it. They're sent to trigger and trip us up, causing us to react in the flesh. Now, I'm not excusing their behavior—they are still responsible for their actions. But their willingness to hurt others makes them a tool for evil. So, what do we do? Should we just give up, roll over, and let them walk all over us? Absolutely not. We prepare for battle. This is spiritual warfare. Spiritual warfare is the fight to believe God's truth over the enemy's lies.  When dealing with a narcissist, you're battling deception. The enemy attacks through lies, and one of his favorite portals is toxic people—those who come in like sheep but are really wolves. They deceive you about who they are, implanting lies that become strongholds in your mind.The Armor of God: Your Protection Against Narcissistic ManipulationThe Bible tells us to put on the full armor of God so we can stand firm against the enemy's schemes (Ephesians 6:10-13). Each piece of armor was designed to protect us in battles like this.The Belt of Truth – This exposes the lies of the narcissist. It grounds us in God's truth, helping us see through their manipulations.The Body Armor of Righteousness – This protects our hearts. When we live in righteousness, we guard ourselves from reacting out of hurt or manipulation.The

Grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide  https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Have you ever wondered why toxic people always seem to find their way into your life, no matter how hard you try to avoid them? You set boundaries, keep your distance, and yet, somehow, you still attract narcissists and manipulators. Maybe you've even started questioning if it's something about you that's pulling these people in.You're not alone. The truth is, there are certain traits that narcissists find irresistible—and chances are, you don't even realize you have them.In this episode, I'm going to break down what those traits are, why you specifically have been targeted by toxic people, and most importantly, what you can do to stop attracting them and start repelling them. Finding yourself repeatedly in relationships with narcissists can feel like being stuck in an emotional maze. Just when you think you've found a way out, you somehow end up right back where you started. It's exhausting, and it can leave you wondering, “Why does this keep happening to me?” There are several reasons this pattern might repeat, and they often involve a mix of personal history, emotional dynamics, and the traits that narcissists find irresistible. Let's break down the first trait:1. Past Trauma or Unresolved Childhood IssuesIf you grew up in an environment where emotional manipulation, neglect, or narcissistic behavior was common—whether from a parent, caregiver, or family member—you might unknowingly seek out similar dynamics in adulthood. These patterns can feel “normal” or even comfortable because they are what you've always known, even if they're harmful. When your early experiences involve emotionally unavailable or manipulative caregivers, it conditions you to tolerate these behaviors, creating a blind spot for red flags. Narcissists can sense this tolerance and are naturally drawn to it because they know it makes it easier for them to enter your life and exert control. It's like subconsciously choosing the same story over and over, thinking this time it might end differently, but the narrative stays the same. So, if childhood trauma can condition you to overlook toxic behaviors, what about those traits that are inherently good? 2. Empathy and CompassionImagine this: You're the person everyone comes to with their problems because you have a big heart and always know the right thing to say. You're like the lifeboat in a storm, always ready to rescue others from their emotional struggles. But what happens when the person in the storm doesn't want to be saved—they just want to keep pulling you under?That's exactly what happens with narcissists. They see your empathy as a resource they can drain. They cling to you when they're going under, again and again.It's like you're a well, always willing to give, but they never stop to think about whether the well might run dry.Your empathy might be a double-edged sword. Imagine you're a sponge—able to absorb the feelings and needs of those around you. While this makes you a nurturing, caring person, it also makes you a perfect match for a narcissist, who is like a leaky faucet.  They drip constant emotional needs and manipulation, and instead of addressing the root of their dysfunction, they expect you to soak it all up, leaving you drained. But what happens when something even more desperate enters the mix? 3. Low Self-Esteem or CodependencyImagine you're trying to hold onto something fragile, like a glass vase. You know it's delicate, so you grip it tightly, afraid that if you let go even a little, it might shatter. 

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Grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Ever wonder where God is when you're up against a narcissist's nasty, toxic behavior?Whether your battle has been going on for 10 weeks or 10 years, narcissists always wreak havoc in the lives of their victims. What's worse is that they seem to get away with everything:No punishmentsNo consequencesNo justiceNot even so much as a slap on the wristThis can leave you wondering if they will ever be held accountable for their actions.Five Things God Always Does to a NarcissistThat's why in today's episode, we're going to dive into the five things God ALWAYS does to a narcissist. Once these five truths are revealed, you will never again doubt God's righteous justice.So before you start thinking they might get away with what they've done to you, stick with me. Not only will I show you how God ensures justice is served, but I'll also provide you with one practical step to restore your faith and see that justice is done in a timely manner.Before we dive in, be sure to grab a copy of your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide. This is my free gift to you. https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/So, let's dive into the 5 things God ALWAYS does to a narcissist.  This can best be demonstrated through gardening. Gardening is a process that, when done right, yields beautiful results. However, the process may not always make sense, especially to the inexperienced. But whether you have prize-winning begonias or can't tell a weed from a flower, this breakdown will cultivate your trust and certainty in God's righteous justice.In gardening, there's a process to go from an overgrown, ugly garden to a beautiful, flourishing one. Sometimes that process doesn't seem to make sense, especially if you're like me and don't know the first thing about gardening.Step 1: He Leaves the Narcissist to ThemselvesThe first step may seem to happen all on its own, but remember, nothing falls outside of God's purview. In the case of the garden, it's overgrown, and the weeds seem to have gotten out of control. An outsider looking in might wonder, "How could someone let this happen?" But God, in His infinite wisdom, will leave a narcissist to themselves. In other words, He's going to allow those weeds to grow.This is where it feels the most frustrating, the most unjust, like God doesn't care about you and He's just like some spaced-out parent letting this little brat get away with murder. But the truth is, this is the most crucial phase. Without this phase, it makes the steps to come less just. He will let them wreck relationships, burn bridges, and do whatever it takes to bring them to rock bottom.Romans 1:24 reminds us of what God did to those who didn't want to follow Him and instead followed after their own sinful, selfish desires: "Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another." This may seem like God has forgotten what they've done to you, but hang with me because He actually has a plan. This is also the phase where you have to recognize whether your actions towards them are truly loving or entirely enabling.Romans 1:24 said, God handed them over... in other words, He didn't try to change them, He didn't stop them, He didn't just ‘love' on them. He let them be to themselves. That's why it isn't always the most loving thing to tolerate their toxic behavior.Step 2: Provides an Opportunity for RepentanceBecause that can actually prevent the next step—and they REALLY need the next step. In fact, it reminds me of when I was younger and saw one of our neighb

Grab your free Narcissist Survival Guide here.https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/Have you ever wondered why narcissists never seem to face the consequences for their actions?It seems like they just skate through life using, abusing, and manipulating people without so much as a slap on the wrist. What if I told you that God actually has a plan for dealing with narcissists—even your narcissist? And it doesn't involve you getting stuck in the mud with them.That's why today, I want to share with you the biblical proof that God has a strategy to handle these problematic people. By the end of our time together, you'll clearly see how His plan will bring you the peace you desire and the justice they deserve.Before we dive into the scripture that will forever change how you see God's justice, I want you to come with me while I get my laundry done. No, I'm not multitasking on you. I'm actually here to share that God's justice works a lot like this washing machine.You see, if you're like me, your laundry is a mixture of dirty, not-so-dirty, and downright disgusting clothes. We throw them all together in one big bin, turn it on, and then check on it every three minutes...Of course not. We walk away and let it do its thing. That is my hope today, that you will just let God do His thing. In other words, let God be God.So, while we're waiting, we can go back, grab a cup of tea, and chat.The Scripture That Will Forever Change How You See God's JusticeIt's found in the book of Psalms, chapter 37. Shall we start in verse 1?Psalm 37:1-2"Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away."We could park there for half a day, but let's keep going.They will soon fade—proof that the Lord is sovereign and knows what He's doing. Proof that the Lord will not allow this to go on forever, even when it doesn't look like it. You may be asking, "Lord, where are you? Do you not see what this person is doing to me? Do you not see how they hurt me?"It's easy to fret and be envious—not envious as in wanting what they have—but struggling because they don't seem to struggle the way you do. You want it to stop. You want a healthy, loving relationship. But my friend, that ship has sailed. So now the focus is justice (and if you're being honest, vengeance). Maybe you don't need to see harm come to this person, but you are tired of there seeming to be no consequences in their life.Every little move they make becomes your focus: every sin against you, every lie they tell, every self-centered, manipulative move. You keep adding it to the bank of bitterness. Before you know it, you've taken the enemy's bait, and he has you right where he wants you.I know, I've been there. You pray for two minutes for this person, then go on for two hours about what they've done. The thoughts rail in your mind for hours and days until it's all you can think about. That's why you think the solution is to just get away from this person. But I'm telling you there is another solution.The Solution to Seeing Justice Served and Regaining Your PeaceIt doesn't involve selling your soul and forfeiting your peace to do it. So what are you supposed to do? Is it possible that God just wants us to sit back and do nothing?Psalm 37:3 "Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Should You Endure Abuse?You might be asking, "Kris, are you saying that I should stay and endure abuse?"  “Is that what it means to ‘do good'? NO. But if it's uncomfortable, if there seems to be no way out, if there seems to be no change, no justice, no

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FREE Toxic People Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideHave you ever felt like someone in your life is constantly dragging you down, leaving you mentally and emotionally drained? You can't quite put your finger on it, but you hate feeling this way about them. Yet, you can't deny that this person just isn't good for you. If you're battling these conflicting feelings, you're not alone – and you might be dealing with it right now.So you might be wondering… if these demonic individuals can appear so ‘normal' while causing so much chaos, how can you possibly identify them?Look, we all know to walk away from toxic people and party animals, but what about those who deceive you into thinking they're positive? The real issue with these individuals is that their positivity only shines when it comes to negative things. They only encourage you and seem happy with you when you partake in their destructive behaviors. Misery loves company, after all.The Story of Troy:But first, it's crucial to understand HOW these demonic forces infiltrate your life.Let's take a lesson from the legendary city of Troy. Renowned for its impenetrable walls, Troy fell victim to a cunning Greek plan after a long siege. The Greeks constructed a massive wooden horse, hid a select group of warriors inside, and pretended to abandon the siege, leaving the horse as a deceptive gift. The Trojans, believing they had won, brought the horse into their fortified city.When night fell, the hidden Greek soldiers emerged, opened the gates for the rest of their troops, and completely conquered Troy from within.THIS is EXACTLY how Satan operates. His mission is to kill, steal, and destroy. Before you think, “Oh, I don't give in to Satan,” be careful; you might be giving in to one of his ‘gifts.' If the devil can't get to you directly, he'll send a narcissist.That's why so many Christians are being fooled by these wolves in sheep's clothing, applying a Pollyanna mentality and getting slaughtered. And this isn't a five-minute mistake; the repercussions can last years – even a lifetime.So you may be wondering, if these demonic people look ‘normal' and can wreak that much havoc, how can you identify them?Here are the signs to spot and walk away from toxic people!Sign #1: Encourages You to SinWe all sin and fall short of the glory of God, but godly people will call you out to bring you to repentance and restoration.People sent by the devil, however, will actually encourage you in bad behaviors. And it's subtle. We know to avoid negative people, but what about those who fool you into believing they're positive? The problem is, they're only positive about the negative. They only encourage and are happy with you when you join them in their destructive behaviors.That's because sinners love company. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.'”These devil-sent ambassadors only celebrate when you do something wrong, with encouragement like “Good for you, I'm proud of you!” after you just drank too much or told off your boss.They might say, “It's normal… it's only natural… wouldn't God want you to be happy? YOLO.”If you resist, they'll attack you with sayings like, “You're such a self-righteous stick in the mud… always a buzzkill.”These people often appear as charismatic, fun-loving individuals, seeming like everything you've been praying for, but in reality, they're on a mission to drag you down with them.Sign #2: Manipulation and ControlThis sign is likely one you've endured on countless occasions, and not only ignored but blamed yourself for. It's because their twisted motives are cunning and hard to spot.If you've ever been told your feelings aren't reality, had you

FREE Toxic People Survival Guide. https://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideConquering Codependency Biblically Online Coursehttps://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/Have you ever been so fed up with a narcissist's behavior that you just wanted to call them out, tell them off, and expose their lies? Hold on! Before you take that leap, you need to know something crucial. What if I told you that calling out a narcissist will backfire in ways you never imagined? In this blog, we're diving deep into why confronting them is a bad idea, what they're likely to do in response, and the surprising alternative God has for you. But first, I want to share a story about Brenda. Brenda came to me years ago, overwhelmed by the realization that not only was her mother manipulative, but her 32-year-old daughter exhibited severe narcissistic traits. For years, Brenda believed her mother's lies, thinking she was damaged and disrespectful. She took on the responsibility of trying to make her daughter more respectful and appreciative, never realizing the true nature of their behaviors.When Brenda finally understood what was really happening, she was ready to confront both her mother and her daughter. With her daughter, she wanted to share what she had learned about narcissism, hoping to open her eyes and stop the abuse. But with her mother, Brenda was done. She was fed up with the lies and the blame that she had suffered her entire life. She saw through her mother's manipulative, gaslighting tactics and was determined to let her know she was onto her.“She'll have no choice but to stop once she knows I'm onto her,” Brenda told me confidently. “Brenda, are you sure about that?” I asked. “Yes, why wouldn't I be? Now I know, and she needs to know that I know,” she insisted.Despite my advice to proceed cautiously, Brenda confronted both her mother and her daughter. She was loving but firm, ready to set the boundaries she had rehearsed in her mind for a week. But then, something unexpected happened. Both discussions spiraled into a toxic quagmire, leaving Brenda drained, confused, and feeling out of control.“What went wrong?” she asked me, bewildered. “I was loving with my daughter and firm with my mother. What happened? It's like it backfired on me.”I kept my mouth shut with the thought "I tried to warn you" lingering in my mind. Brenda's situation is, unfortunately, all too common.Whether your narcissist is a conniving coworker, a manipulative mother, an entitled child, or a childish spouse...You've likely reached a point where you finally have a name for what you've been experiencing. You finally understand that their behavior is just as destructive as you sensed it was. You're done beating yourself up and you're ready to call it out. You're ready to call out the lies, the inconsistencies, the exaggerations, the half-truths, the manipulations... You're done holding it in. If there's any hope for them to change, if there's any hope to keep your sanity, you feel you have to say something.Maybe you simply want to point out the contradictions in their stories so you can both finally get on the same page. Maybe they consistently say one thing one day and the complete opposite the next. Maybe your husband blames you for him having to work so hard, despite how many times you've begged him to retire because “he loves what he does.” So you ask, which is it… you love what you do, or you're doing this because I'm making you? The truth is, the answer is whatever suits that moment, whatever makes them look like the hero and the victim. Neither is true and both are true. But since they can't take responsibility for themselves an

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Be sure to grab a copy of your FREE Toxic People Survival Guide to learn how to identity and deal with all the difficult people in your life.  Grab your guide here.  https://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideDo you feel like the magical connection you once had with the narcissist now feels more like a death grip?  You, my friend, have likely fallen prey to the narcissist's deceptive new-age belief that is making Christians everywhere vulnerable to manipulative people— that there is a pre-destined soulmate out there who will complete you. I want to share with you why this new-age belief that you once thought was romantic and biblical is actuallyleading you down a path you may never recover from.  I also want to share with you the shocking reasons why the narcissist NEEDS you to believe this, plus how to recover if you've already fallen into this trap.   To do that, I want to tell you about Eli.  Eli was a talented potter who lived in a quaint village nestled at the edge of a lush forest. Eli was known all over the world for his exquisite pottery, each piece more beautiful than the last. However, Eli had a secret: he claimed a mystical clay from the forest was the source of his pottery's beauty.   He spoke of a legend, a tale of "The Perfect Clay," a material so pure and adaptable that only the most deserving artisans, destined by the stars, could find and use it.  Intrigued by the promise of creating pottery as beautiful as Eli's, many villagers ventured into the forest, hoping to be the chosen ones to find "The Perfect Clay." Eli encouraged them, saying that only those with a true potter's soul, bound by destiny to the craft, would succeed. Yet, the forest was vast and the search endless. Many villagers became so obsessed with finding the mythical clay that they neglected their own craft, waiting for a destiny that never materialized.  Meanwhile, back in the village, Eli continued to produce his pottery, not from mystical clay, but from the same earth as everyone else.   His true talent lay in his skill and dedication, honed over years of practice—NOT in a magical ingredient. The villagers, lost in the pursuit of an illusory perfection, failed to realize that the beauty of pottery—and indeed, life—lies in the passion and effort, not some magical formula.  Your narcissist is likely just like Eli, but instead of the perfect pottery, they're in search of the perfect partner.  In fact, this new-age belief that there is a perfect, predestined partner is likely what wooed you in the beginning but is now leaving you feeling inadequate and constantly striving for their approval.  Yes, narcissists believe in soulmates.And I'm going to share why.But I also want to share why you shouldn't.   Soulmates are based on thebelief that you are 'complete' once you find that ONE perfect person created just for you.  Believing that there's that one ideal individual that was created to complete you may sound romantic in movies, but it flies in the face of Colossians 2:10 that says, “You are complete in Christ.” So, my friend, if there is no cosmic connection in the universe that is pulling you toward another person and if the work of the cross is already finished for you, why do narcissists need to believe in soulmates?   Let's break down three primary reasons.  Reason #1: It guarantees lasting admiration Narcissists are addicted to admiration, much like a plant basking in the sun's rays. It's a need.  This insatiable hunger for external validation fuels their s

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Sometimes people-pleasing can keep you in the toxic relationships longer than you'd like. To find out what type of people pleaser you are, be sure to take the FREE quiz below. Am I a People Pleaser Quiz?  Discover Your Typehttps://krisreece.com/am-i-a-people-pleaser/Have you ever read the NTV Bible? No I'm not referring to the KJV, NIV, or my all time favorite--the ESV. I'm talking about the NTV--the narcissist twisted version. The one where they take God's truth and distort it beyond recognition to suit their narrative. The one that leaves you feeling dazed and confused.  In any version of the bible, you will find the inerrant truth of God's word. But what happens if you're being fed a distorted version? If you've been living with a narcissist who loves to quote scripture to you, you've like been fed the NTV--the narcissist version of the truth. So which one do you believe? My hope is to help you stop the manipulation. That's why I'm going to breakdown the four scriptures narcissists just can't resist twisting, their main motivator when using these scriptures, and the foolproof benchmark to ensure you are never manipulated again by misused scripture. The narcissist's misuse of scripture is like a chef twisting a classic pasta recipe into some distorted version for their own gain. Maybe instead of the regular ingredients, he decides to add a few extra that he's got lying around, a few that are about to expire, and maybe even an idea that he'd like to try—at your expense. And I'm not talking about complementary ingredients. I'm talking about ingredients that don't belong and completely distort the dish. Like peanut butter in lasagna.The foundational elements are there but the finished dish is distorted beyond recognition. It's no longer appetizing. It's food, but it's not what it was intended to be. In fact, it's repulsive. The same is true for the narcissist's use of scripture. They don't use scripture for it's intended purpose but rather to serve their own selfish agenda, leaving those who are feeding off of their mess, confused and malnourished. So why do narcissists twist scripture?   The truth is, they can't resist. Scripture is a weapon for them to use against you. Satan did it to Jesus in the wilderness when he twisted three scriptures to try and get him to back off from his ultimate mission—the cross.While the Word of God is a powerful weapon, much like that recipe, the narcissist turns that weapon into a weapon of manipulative destruction. In fact there are four driving forces behind the narcissists craving for scripture:1.     Get you to do something for them2.     Get you to stop doing something to them3.     Get you to believe their lies4.     Get you to assume the blame It really is that simple. Their motive has always been and likely will always be self-focus—self-protection and self-preservation. They actually don't care if you're following biblical principles. They don't care if you're honoring God in who you are and what you do. They only care how your actions impact them.Scripture is only used to their benefit NOT yours. In other words, trusting a narcissist to use scripture properly is likely hiring a wolf to guard the sheep. So what are the scriptures that they LOVE to manipulate you with? Twisted scripture #1I know you've heard this one before. You've likely had it thrown in your face every time you raise an issue. It's tossed about every single time they don't want to face the consequences for their actions.&n

If you want to learn how to identify and deal with all the difficult people in your life, be sure to grab a copy of my Toxic People Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideDoes it seem like the narcissist in your life just skates by and gets away with their manipulative, destructive behavior, almost like they're somehow immune to justice?Today, I want to give you the clarity you're craving about why God's justice might seem a little slow, and EXACTLY how God deals with issues of pride, manipulation, and deceit. My friend, stick with me, because by the end of our time today, your wavering faith WILL be strengthened. There's a character in the bible that always reminds me of God's justice. Perhaps you know her from the books of 1 and 2 Kings. She was a Phoenician princess who was the wife of Ahab, king of Israel. And her name was Jezebel. Jezebel was a spiteful, wicked, manipulative, malicious woman who presented as charming and attractive, and who at times played victim. Sound like anyone you know? Narcissists are notorious for putting on the performance of being everything you need. But beneath the surface, they are self-centered, immature, entitled brats who will stop at nothing to get what they want.   Jezebel was infamously known for promoting the worship of Baal, a Canaanite deity, in Israel, directly opposing the worship of God. She was also famous for her role in the persecution of the prophets of God, including the murder of Naboth, simply because her husband wanted his vineyard. In our lives, she's the mother who seems to get away with her constant abuse. She's the woman at the office who has the boss fooled into thinking she's a team player.  But SHE doesn't need to be a SHE.  This Jezebel behavior is no respecter of genders. In fact, there are some predictable patterns that I want you to start looking out for--patterns you might otherwise miss if you're focused on the fear and frustration.   For starters: God will not tolerate idolatry and falsehood. Jezebel's promotion of Baal worship and her attempts to suppress the worship of God represent the pinnacle of how the narcissist operates.  Like Jezebel, narcissists create false images and exalt themselves at the expense of others  God hates idol worship. Let's go back to Exodus 20. It says, 'You shall have no other gods before me.'  The narcissist's carved image is their mirror, because narcissists worship themselves. They exalt themselves and anything they desire above God.   Don't be fooled my friend, they're not content with just worshipping themselves. They need YOU to worship them too. Do you ever wonder why things always go south when you raise an issue or express a concern or a dislike about them? Their ego is as fragile as that mirror.   And just like God warned the people of Israel in Deuteronomy 6 not to follow other gods, just like He also sent warnings to Jezebel, He will also send warnings to the narcissist.   You can always expect God to be merciful and give us chance after chance. In His next phase, God will send warnings. Jezebel's fate didn't have to end the way it did.  Narcissists (and all of us for that matter) are given chance after chance, warning after warning to turn from our ways.     How many times did God have to tug on your heart before you answered the call?  If we heed those warnings, it can lead to repentance and restoration.If we ignore them, we head for destruction, full steam ahead.And that's exactly what He did for Jezebel. Elijah and other prophets were sent to stand up to her

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Am I a People Pleaser Quiz?  Discover Your Type.https://krisreece.com/am-i-a-people-pleaser/Want to learn how to identify and deal with all the difficult people in your life?  Be sure to grab your FREE Toxic People Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideBeing in a marriage with a narcissist can leave you feeling like you've got only two choices: resign yourself to a life of misery or pack your bags and leave. Before you make a decision that will change your life forever, I want to talk to you about three categories to consider when contemplating a divorce from a narcissistic spouse. With a multitude of twisted scriptures, it can be difficult to determine the most biblical action for your situation. So by the end of our time together, my hope is that you will have greater peace in understanding God's will for your situation, and that you will have an answer the question that I get asked more than any other question--will God let me leave my narcissistic spouse? To do that we need to address three categories: the justified, the baseless, and the plausible.   The first category is going to be the most important to dive into but be careful not to automatically assume that you fall into this category, as most don't.Category #1: the Justified  These are the people who have a justifiable reason to leave the marriage.The first justification is found in Matthew 19:9 where it states that we shouldn't divorce except in cases of infidelity. So, the first justified reason is when there is betrayal in the marriage. Infidelity is a justification for divorce.  You're not in the wrong.  You're not sinning against God.  You're free to leave.  You don't have to, but you're free to.    Within the church, that's where you'll find that justification stops—no infidelity, no recourse. But infidelity isn't the only time where God allows for divorce.   The next is abandonment.1 Corinthians 7:15 states, But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[b] to peace. Yet another reason is neglect or abuse. Narcissistic relationships are defined by the selfishness of one partner at the expense of the other. So instead of using scriptures like "God hates divorce" as a weapon, perhaps we should acknowledge how much God hates abuse. In fact, that scripture "God hates divorce" was written because the men were abusing their roles and discarding their wives at will.   So let's talk about this justification of abuse.  Abuse can be defined as extreme danger or harm; physically, mentally or emotionally.  To tell a victim of abuse that he/she needs to stay and suffer further abuse is further victimizing the innocent.  Some may say that "no divorce" is a hard and fast rule in scripture. And I agree that it should not be abused, but we also find in scripture where there are many cases where the 'rules' are broken:  ·      Jesus talking to the woman at the well·      Healing on the sabbath·      David eating the showbread·      Instructing Ezekiel to eat unclean food We even see Abigail going behind her husband Nebal's back because of his destructive behavior, all to save life.   And we have scriptures that appear to contradict themselves like, turn the other che

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Want to learn how to identify and deal with all the difficult people in your life?  Be sure to grab your FREE Toxic People Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideAre you tired of falling victim to the emotional and psychological manipulation of a narcissist? Do you worry that long-term exposure to this devil-sent individual will negatively impact your faith? Narcissists are self-centered, egotistical, fragile individuals who only care about meeting their own need—often at your expense.  They are excellent at playing mind games to gain the upper hand and get what they want in relationships. They don't see you as an individual with feelings. They see you as a pawn for their purpose and they don't care how their behavior impacts you. In fact, it doesn't even occur to them.  They are demonically inspired and often dangerous.    1 Peter 5:8 reminds us that the devil prowls around like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour. I would argue that if we need to be alert to the devil, we also need to be alert to the people he's using. Let's take a look at the demonic mind games they'll use to manipulate you.  Demonic mind game #1: The blame gameIt's easy to forget, but narcissists are very fragile individuals.  You may have fallen for their false facade but behind that phony exterior is an empty shallow parasite who needs to feed off of you for validation. When that validation dries up and you try to have a healthy relationship with healthy confrontation, you will see a wounded soul. And this is where it goes from broken to bad. Narcissists can skillfully play the victim to garner sympathy and shift blame. They may exaggerate or entirely fabricate situations where they appear to be the innocent party, diverting attention from their own harmful actions. Whether referring to past “failures” or current problems, narcissists will rarely accept responsibility for their actions. They'll blame all the relationship issues on you. They never feel like anything is their fault. They'll even make things up, so that you'll be the one to fix their mess, all while they play the victim.This behavior dates back to the beginning of time when God called out Adam for eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. What did he say? “The woman YOU gave made me do it.” Now, I'm not saying that Adam was a narcissist, but you see how cunning the devil was right from the start. Demonic mind game #2: The trigger gameDo you ever wonder how the narcissist seems to know ALL of your pain points?  That's because they studied you like a book.   Not with the intent to truly get to know you, but for the sheer purpose of gathering information for the future. That's why they work so hard with love bombing to win you over, break down your guard, and get you vulnerable.   This can really throw you for a loop, especially if you've been in a relationship with a narcissist who doesn't seem to care or listen, but suddenly when you're arguing or they're trying to get their way, they seem to have amazing recall. Every mistake you've made, every little thing you've said can and will be used against you.   Demonic mind game #3: The coercion gameIf narcissists don't get what they want from you, they will use various forms of manipulation, guilt, shame, and triangulation all to get you to feel bad about yourself, second guess your boundaries, and ultimately give them what they want. If you think the narcissist only uses coercion with big ticket items, think again. This tactic is their go-to with EVERYTHING, which is why narcissists can be so exhausting to be in relationship with.

If you struggle with only being OK when others are OK with you, please check out my online course called Conquering Codependency Biblically. https://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/ Want to learn how to identify and deal with all the difficult people in your life?  Be sure to grab your FREE Toxic People Survival Guidehttps://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideHave you ever wondered WHY that person isn't respecting your boundaries?   Perhaps you think you need to find a better way to communicate or maybe you believe there are just some people who are boundary-proof.  That's why today, I want to dive into the ONE mistake that will cause your boundaries to fail every time AND what you can do to fix it. This particular mistake reminds me of the time my friend Meredith asked me to come with her to the car dealer to negotiate a price on a car. You see, this was the car she'd always wanted. She dreamed about it for years and she was finally able to afford it. Sort of. It was still a little out of her price range but she was so close that she couldn't take wait any longer. She knew how much I've saved on car purchases over the years, so she asked if I would join her. Happy to help her avoid over-paying, I said yes. Then I told her I have a few questions and there are a few rules. The biggest question was, are you flexible on colors and options? And the rules were this: Let me do all the talking.Don't get excited about the car.Follow my lead, even if you disagree.DEAL!  She was so excited to drive off the lot with her shiny new sports car. We headed into the dealer. Gabe greeted us on the lot. And from the moment Meredith sat in that driver's seat, I knew we were going to have an issue. She was so giddy that the salesperson looked like a kid who just scored the biggest lollipop. He knew he already had her, and I know I had my work cut out for me. When we finally sat down at Gabe's desk, the issue went from bad to worse.   Gabe laid out the price and I pushed back. Out of the corner of my eye I could see Meredith was getting squirmy. Each time Gabe went to speak to his manager to get approval for what I was asking, Meredith needed to be talked off the ledge.   “Let's not push so hard,” she'd say. “What if he changes his mind?” “Changes his mind about what? Selling you a car? I don't think so.” But Meredith was terrified her dream car could slip right through her fingers.So when Gabe came back with his final offer--which I found to be completely unacceptable, especially given that sales were down and there were four of the exact same model on the lot--I knew it was time to say “Thank you Gabe, but no thank you.” Just as I was about to open my mouth, Meredith jumped out of her seat and said, “I'll take it.” I pushed myself away from Gabe's desk and knew my time here was done. There was nothing more I could do to help Meredith get the best price possible on her dream car. Truth be told, Gabe could have charged her double and I think she would have found a way to pay.   You might be wondering, Kris, what does this have to do with boundaries? Everything. In fact, the one mistake that's keeping you stuck with people who don't respect your boundaries is the SAME mistake Meredith made—the inability to walk away.  Now, I'm not saying that you have to walk away from a relationship to get what you want (that's just manipulative). But I am saying that if you can't go without whatever they're offering you, your boundaries won't stick. Before you go thinking that this is just some game of “get m

Grab your FREE Toxic People Survival Guide right here https://krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guideWhy is it that some Christians are able to move on from toxic relationships while others stay stuck in their hurt feelings? Maybe you've suffered so long, you don't even know what happiness feels like anymore. Before you go thinking that God's forgotten you (or worse, getting angry at Him), I want to break down for you three very powerful reasons why this hurt may be lingering more than you'd like,AND the prayer that could change EVERYTHING. To do that I need to remind you what happens when you touch a hot iron. You may cringe at the thought because you know how much it hurts. But how do you know it hurts? Well if you're as stubborn and stupid as me, it's likely because you HAVE touched one of these at some point in your life. (Despite how many times your mamma told you not to.) And once you did, the pain was excruciating. Maybe you even needed to go to the hospital. And I'm going to take a wild guess and you never did that again. The same is true for toxic relationships. We enter into them, ignoring the red flags, and then we slide right into the sizzle. For what godly reason would this happen? There are actually three of them.  Reason #1: God wants to make sure you learn  What do you think would happen if God just took those feelings away, erased them from your memory, wiped them from your emotional hard drive? You'd enter into a toxic relationship again, because you'd have no memory of how painful it was.  So yes, God will allow these feelings to linger to teach you. I'm not saying that what that person did to you was OK, or even excusable. But ignoring this valuable insight is like being offered a ride in a luxury SUV but choosing a piggyback ride instead. Reason #2: You're trying to stay in the driver's seatEven with these valuable lessons learned, missing what I'm about to share could cause you—as it would most Christians—to backslide during a difficult time.  If you're like me, you use your GPS for everything, even when you know exactly where to go and how to get there.  And again, if you're anything like me, if your GPS tells you to go a way that differs from where YOU think you should go, you ignore it. (I told you I wasn't smart.) And what happens? More often then not you're stopped by a traffic jam or worse. That's because the GPS knows the roadblocks and delays you can run into. Your hurt feelings are the roadblocks and God is your GPS. God doesn't always remove the roadblocks because they actually serve His purpose. Just like his purpose for the Israelites in the Red Sea and the wilderness wasn't to harm them but rather draw them closer to HIM.  Could it be that God wants to be your guiding light on this journey of healing? My friend, don't miss an amazing relationship opportunity because you're upset that he's not teleporting you to your next destination. Reason #3: God wants you for His purposeYou may be saying, “Kris, that's great. I've learned my lesson and I've made my way back to God. But what's the point in keeping me in pain for so long?” That question can best be answered by Sam's example. Sam was a trainer I hired when I had my old personal training business.  Sam was highly educated. She graduated at the top of her class in biomechanics and she could tell you about anything that had to do with anatomy, from the function of the hip flexors in relation to the knee upon deceleration to the distal insertion point of the femur. There was only one problem: Sam had zero life experience. She couldn't relate to our clients who came to us wantin